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By Robin Tyler Editor’s Note: This book review previously ran in The Advocate. It is being reprinted with permission.

Kurtew exhibition

8THEATER San Diego BOLTS flag football team won their third GayBowl championship in 2014, and are hoping to win a fifth this year at home. (Photo by Russ Edra)

Letting our 'freak flags' fly San Diego hosts 15th annual Gay Bowl The best 'La Cage'


Heavenly desserts


Andrew Bergee | Special to Gay San Diego Eric Reissner, team captain of the San Diego Bolts — a flag football team that has represented San Diego for the last several years during the annual Gay Bowl — is looking to clinch his fourth national championship. This year, however, he hopes to do it on his home turf as San Diego is playing host to the national championship series for the first time in 10 years. Hundreds of flag football athletes from around the country will descend upon San Diego to participate in the tournament, which takes place Oct. 9 – 12, from 9 a.m. – 5 p.m., daily, at the Del Mar Polo grounds.

Gay Bowl is the largest national LGBT flag football tournament, put on every Columbus Day weekend by the National Gay Flag Football League (NGFFL) and the host city’s Gay Bowl Planning Committee. Every year, a different city hosts the tournament, which typically includes approximately 30 men and women teams from around the country. The first Gay Bowl dates back to 2002 in Los Angeles with only three competing teams. Flashback to Gay Bowl XIV: It’s a cloudy afternoon in Philadelphia on Oct. 12, 2014. The championship game is down to the final play of overtime with only a few seconds on the clock. The San

Taking pride at San Diego REP By David Dixon For numerous years, San Diego Repertory Theatre has featured events and live discussions that appeal to all kinds of audiences. Before the Oct. 2 performance of “My Manana Comes,” the second installment of the new Gay San

Diego-sponsored LGBTQ series, “REP Your Pride,” will be open to the public. According to Kristen Schweizer, who is in charge of Surround Events at the space, the REP decided to reach out to members of the local LGBT community, as well as their families. After doing

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How do I even begin to describe “The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle” — what I and everyone else who has read and reviewed think is the most well written, researched, and epic historical book about our movement? First of all, I want to confess. I am in this book. So is my wife. But had we not been in this book, I would still regard it as the greatest literary achievement chronicling our struggle for equal rights, human rights, liberation, and finally, civil rights.

(l to r) San Diego REP’s Literary Manager Danielle Ward moderates the “Meet the LGBT Editors” installment with Gay San Diego Editor Morgan M. Hurley and San Diego Uptown News Editor Ken Williams, Sept. 4. (Photo by Trish Hatch)

see Gay Bowl, pg 18 some research, Schweizer noticed that many theaters in the country featured social mixers as an allembracing “out night.” “While we do want to build a sense of community in the REP, we also want to offer some kind of programing,” she said. “REP Your Pride is a night where we can take the LGBT community and different issues within it and create programming that ties the show to [them].” During the series, viewers will be introduced to different groups and consortiums in San Diego. Last month, prior to a showing of “Violet,” Morgan Hurley and Ken Williams — two newspaper editors from San Diego Community News Network, the parent company of Gay San Diego — spoke at the first installment, called “Meet the LGBT Editors.” For the second installment, individuals from the nonprofit organization The ManKind Project will speak an hour before “My Manana

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OK. Most of us know (and if you don’t, you should, so Google her) who Lillian Faderman is. She is a Lambda Literary and Stonewall Book Award-winning author, scholar, and retired college professor. She is also married to Phyllis Irwin, and they are mothers and grandmothers. In “The Gay Revolution: The Story of the Struggle,” Faderman covers everything from the early witch-hunts of homosexuals and the first attempts to fight back, to Stonewall to Anita Bryant to “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,” and to the marriage equality movement. But what makes Faderman’s book so compelling is that she did over 150 interviews, not just of

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Former San Diegan Connie Kurtew (top) surrounded by her photography. (Graphic designed by Eugene Huffman)

Art from her heart Local visual artist pursues her dreams in LA Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Visual artist and fervent photographer Cornelia “Connie” Kurtew lived in San Diego for nearly two decades before packing up and moving north to pursue the opportunities that Los Angeles might offer her. Now, just two years later, Kurtew is about to put her works on display at a major exhibition during LA Fashion Week, called “Art Hearts Fashion,” Oct. 5 – 8. Founded by philanthropist Erik Rosete — who is also a designer and the creative director for the Mister Triple X fashion label — “Art Hearts Fashion” is being produced by Parker Whitaker Productions along with the AIDS Health Care Foundation, its benefactor. Inspired by the music of Bob Dylan from the age of 10, Kurtew emigrated from the East German town of Leipzig to Southern California in 1998, hoping one day to meet her favorite musician. Kurtew touched down in San Diego at a time when she could barely speak English, and her drive landed her concurrent jobs at Landmark Cinemas and the Livingroom, both in Hillcrest. After taking the initiative to seek out online computer courses, she later branched out and eventually found

herself in the IT department at UC San Diego. Photography was never far from her mind, however, and she kept busy shooting weddings, portraits, taking photography classes and wandering the streets of San Diego, photographing and sharing all the things that caught her eye. As she got more involved in the local LGBT community, she began photographing LGBT events in San Diego, Palm Springs and LA, many filled with celebrities, and soon became a highly sought after staple

at red carpet events. Since the move to LA in August 2013, Kurtew has expanded her artistic reach even further and is now collaborating with other artists. With two smaller shows under her belt earlier this year, she is looking forward to “Art Hearts Fashion.” “I am excited because it is the first big event for me displaying my art since I moved to LA,” she said. “I am also very excited to support such a great event, which benefits the AIDS Health Care Foundation. It is very important to me as I have several friends who have been directly affected.” Eugene Huffman, another LA-based artist, has been involved with “Art Hearts Fashion” for several years as one of its resident HIV-positive artists. The abstract expressionist — who goes by “liebeKunst” professionally — helped bring Kurtew on board. “Connie is not only a talented photographer — she is also an esteemed colleague, a cherished friend, and near and dear to my heart,” Huffman said. “We met at the Stigma Project launch party a couple years ago and hit it off instantly. She is now my ‘partner in creative crime,’ as I like to call it.” With the focus of the event generally on the fashion design side, Huffman decided to take his graphic arts background and do additional promotion of each of the participating artists this year. You can find more info about the event and the bios he created at tinyurl. com/phujvjs. Though Kurtew’s well-rounded portfolio continues to expand, she said the exhibition will display her most recent work and interests. “I am very involved and passionate about portraiture,” she said. “I get to show people how I see them

GAY SAN DIEGO Oct. 2 – 15, 2015 and the world around them.” Friends in San Diego know Kurtew not only for her unique artistic talents, but also for her larger-than-life personality, smile and boisterous laughter. When she moved to LA to chase her artistic dreams, she left a great many friends behind. One of those friends, Kathleen Stone, recently agreed to be a portraiture model for the photographer. “She has an amazing eye and a knack for ideas,” Stone said. “She makes you feel comfortable immediately in front of the camera — even if being photographed is not your thing. She is creative, easy to work with, open to suggestions, and she is also a dear personal friend.” While Kurtew will be featured in a galler y show in Long Beach next month, neither she nor Huffman will share too many details


about what the future may hold for them. For now, their sights are set on Fashion Week. “We have plans to combine our visual and artistic talents and creative vision, so there are upcoming projects and collaborations we have in the works,” Huffman said. “So watch out Los Angeles ... this German duo has things in store for you!” “Art Hearts Fashion” launches Oct. 4 with a red carpet and opening party at the W Hotel, Hollywood. The art exhibition and fashion show takes place Oct. 5 – 8, at the Taglyan Cultural Complex, located at 1201 Vine St. in Los Angeles. For more information visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at


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REVOLUTION the famous activists, but everyday LGBT people who were harmed by the hatred against us. She depicts the rise and fall of the early gay rights groups, compelling stories that have not been told very much, but deserved to be. She gets it right about Frank Kameny and Barbara Gittings who deserve being credited with what they called each other, “The mother and father of the gay rights movement.” This book is a “page-turner” and ver y difficult to put down. But I am just one activist saying that this is a brilliant must read book. Why believe just me? Well, here are some other quotes:

COMMUNITY VOICES “‘The Gay Revolution’ is the definite history of the gay rights movement in America. This book will play with your emotions as Lillian Faderman takes the reader on a rollercoaster ride of the victories and sacrifices made by the LGBT community and its allies to arrive at this point in time. This is the story of civil rights for the 21st century!” —Reverend Troy D. Perry, founder of the LGBT Metropolitan Community Churches “‘The Gay Revolution’ will be the standard by which all subsequent histories are measured. The fact that it is written in clear English is in itself a cause for celebration.” —Rita Mae Brown, author and lesbian activist

“‘The Gay Revolution’ documents the momentous effort to decriminalize homosexuality and humanize homosexuals.” —Col. (Ret.) Margarethe Cammermeyer, highest-ranking officer to challenge the military’s anti-gay policy.

I have left out glowing remarks by Evan Wolfson (the pioneer marriage activist and founder of Freedom to Marry) and other fantastic reviews. What is so astounding about all of the reviews is — and I will let you in on a well-known secret — many of these activists (dare I say MOST) have fought with each other over the decades. So, what finally brought so many of us to agree on one thing? It was Lillian Faderman’s book “The Gay Revolution, The Story of the Struggle.” This book should be taught in every civil rights class in every high school and on every campus. And everyone, all of you, should buy it and read it. I won’t ask you to do it for us, the old ones who gave so much for so many decades — although I want to ask, but I don’t need to guilt you — but I will ask you to do it because this is the most honest, compelling history of our movement, and if you participated, you will love remembering, and if you did not, it will inspire you to passionately rise up and get involved. And P.S. There are lots and lots of pictures! The picture of my — “our” —wedding is opposite page 429. Just saying …

“Lillian Faderman has delivered the comprehensive account of one of the most extraordinary social movements in modern history. As gay people approach equality under the law, Faderman char ts the course that brought such remarkable changes so swiftly. It is a dynamic book that matches the power of the movement it descries. —Cleve Jones, founder of the NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt

—Robin Tyler is a comedian, a major event producer and a civil rights activist. She and her wife Diane Olson were the original plaintiffs in the lawsuit that resulted in same-sex marriage in California in 2008, and as a result, the first same-sex couple to be married in Los Angeles. Five months later, Prop. 8 took the right to marriage away. Tyler and Olson live in Los Angeles with their two beloved pugs, Mushu Pork and Won Ton.t

“Faderman has crafted an epic yet remarkably intimate work that belongs among the most definitive civil rights titles, LGBT specific or otherwise. This book is destined to be one of the lasting contributions to the literature of the gay rights movement.” —Chris Keech, August issue, “Booklist” “‘The Gay Revolution’ fills a yawning gap in historical literature, providing readers for the first time with a history of the entire LGBT civil rights movement, from its inception in 1950 up through the current day. Anyone who reads Faderman’s passionate narrative will recognize it as a story that ennobles the human spirit and upholds the democratic ideals at the heart of this country’s founding documents.” —David Carter, author of “Stonewall: The Riots that Sparked the Gay Revolution”

Documentary review: ‘The Same Difference’ Out on the Page Katrina Young Audre Lorde said, “It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.” A new documentar y from director Nneka Onuorah, “The Same Difference,” examines the differences that divide lesbians — particularly in the intersection of black lesbians — against each other. For instance, the film depicts that conflicts within the lesbian community are largely fueled by heteronormative limits. You can be a woman-loving woman but tr y to present as “normal” as possible. You have to pick a side or a role and fit firmly within the lines of that role. For example, you can be either feminine or masculine centered. If you are a masculinecentered woman (aka stud), there are specific rules governing your clothing, your hair, your mannerisms, your interests, and ever y other aspect of your life. If you break one of these rules (e.g. a stud dating another stud, or you become a pregnant stud), your stud membership card is revoked and you have disgraced your community. Another common rule addressed in “The Same Difference” is that you can only either be lesbian or straight. There is no room for bisexuals or any other sexuality. If you are not a 100 percent certified lesbian, you either cannot be trusted, or you are confused about what you want. As laughable as these rules are, they really do cause a lot of division, and I have

seen the destruction firsthand — fear of emotional and psychical attacks, depression, lies, and betrayal — that is why I was so thrilled when I first learned of this documentar y. These issues are so important but they have never been spoken about through such a wide-reaching medium, prior to this. The rules are obviously no secret within lesbian communities but for some reason we do not discuss the harm that may come as a result of these rules. Maybe we do not want to admit any internalized homophobia, self-hate, or shame. Perhaps we do not want to air our dirty laundr y in front of outsiders who are already judging us. Whatever the reason, how can we ex expect others to accept us if we have such intolerance amongst ourselves? How can we expect safe spaces wherever we go if we are not making spaces safe for each other? We can’t. We have to do better. Onuorah hopes that this film will help us do better. Her goals for the film are two fold; one is that people other (LGBTQ or otherwise) will be less judgmental and more open-minded; second, that people will have the strength and confidence to be their complete authentic self, even if that is outside the lines of the norm. The Multicultural LGBT Literar y Foundation is planning to host a screening of “The Same Difference” in early 2016. Even though I have already seen it, I am excited to experience it again. The cast was amazing and I appreciate them sharing their stories. The messages were so profound. It is hard enough being black, and it is hard enough being lesbian, so let’s not make it harder. We are women who love women; whether femme, stud, lesbian, or bisexual. We are just people wanting to live and love. Ultimately, it’s all the same difference. —Katrina Young is the Treasurer of the Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation and a lover of LGBT literature. Follow her on Twitter @sapphicreader.t


Practical ways to lower your stress (and be more relaxed) Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Well, summer is over and those lazy vacation days are probably a thing of the past. So, how can you have a nice, peaceful, mellow autumn? Over the years, I’ve been compiling a list of ways to lower stress. These are personal observations, great ideas from other people and tips I’ve gained from colleagues at professional conferences. My list is pretty long: it has over 70 items! So I’ve narrowed it down to my personal favorites: Physical stuff: • Reduce your xanthene intake. Consumption of xanthene (found in coffee, soda and tea) is strongly correlated with physiological changes like higher blood pressure, heart rate and oxygen demand on your heart. • Get massaged. Massage reduces tension in the involuntary and voluntary muscles in your blood vessels, heart and gastrointestinal tract. It also satisfies the very human need that I call “skin hunger”— the need to be touched. • Avoid vitamin depletion. Low levels of vitamins C, B1, B2, niacin, B3, B6 and choline reduce your ability to cope with stress. If you don’t eat perfectly (and who does?), find other ways to make sure you get enough of these. • Try progressive muscle relaxation. Find a quiet place to sit, close your eyes and systematically relax your muscles from toes to face, breathing in and out slowly. By doing this, you’ll become aware of how both stress (boo) and relaxation (yay) feel in your body. Eventually, you’ll be able to help your body to relax at will, a really useful skill. • Watch your salt intake, especially if you eat a lot of processed/ canned/microwavable foods. High salt levels lead to central nervous system irritability and high blood pressure. Fresh stuff has less salt, go there more often. Work stuff: • Delegate work. Okay, all you control freaks, listen up: Successful people do well because they take responsibility for getting things done. As you move up the ladder of success, you cannot do it all yourself. Learn to identify what the people around you are good at and let them help you.

• Choose realistic options. When you’re young, everything seems possible. It’s hard to accept limitations. Wisdom (and the 12-step Serenity Prayer) reminds us that our options are not infinite. Making choices that are realistic can be humbling, but it’s also a great reality check. This is very effective in controlling perfectionism; we do what we can, and then we let go and see what happens. • Build in relaxation time. We all need time-outs, just like little kids. But adult time-outs are rewards, not punishment; a few minutes to do something relaxing and peaceful. It can be playing video games on your phone or taking a walk at lunch, it doesn’t matter. Just be sure to somehow build it into your workday. • Find healthy ways to release anger. Everyone has to work with difficult people, be they clients, bosses or co-workers. You can let it get to you, or you can find constructive ways to release it. • One thing I like to do is towel twisting. Take a few paper towels from the bathroom (five or six should do it) and stack them to make one “thick” paper towel. Put our hands together (like a vise) and twist the towels. Try to rip them in two. As you twist them, imagine the person you dislike. You could say to yourself, “I’d like to wring your neck.” Try jutting out your lower jaw; it helps activate a kind of primitive body response. Remember to breathe. Social Stuff: • Reduce noise and people pollution. Find quietude, and get away from noisy, demanding people. Find a safe haven — with your favorite people/plants/animals or completely on your own — where you feel totally safe and relaxed. • Don’t gossip. Gossiping creates enemies and distrust. Friends reduce stress; enemies increase it. • Practice visualizations. When you are worried about something bad happening, visualize how someone you know and admire would handle it, and then see yourself doing the same thing. It’s like rehearsing for a play or performance, the more you practice (in the form of the visualization), the better prepared you’ll be if this bad thing actually happens. • Choose your friends carefully. It isn’t stress that kills — it’s people. Choose the best people to play with and make love to. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

Oceanside now ranked second highest with HRC North County Update Max Disposti Every year, the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) releases the Municipality Equality Index (MEI) scorecard, a nationwide evaluation of municipal law, rating 353 cities on the basis of their inclusivity of LGBT people that live and work there. Last year in North San Diego County, only two cities made the 2014 sur vey: Escondido and Oceanside. The city of Oceanside was ranked among the lowest in the state with a score of 57 (out of 100) and Escondido had a 60. After the scores were made public, we went to investigate the reasons why the city of Oceanside had scored so low in spite of the visibility efforts of our local LGBT community (we reported this last year in our column [see “North County Update: the impact of Inclusivity,” Vol. 5, Issue 24]. http:// Apparently, the outcome of the score was given in grand part because the MEI survey was never filled out and returned to HRC. However, that bad score was also an opportunity for us to follow up with the city and to make some changes in the process. The result is astonishing! This year the city of Oceanside has

ranked a full 97 percent! How has this happened? HR policies were made more inclusive, LGBT liaisons for the city were established, as well as for the police and fire department. Health insurances were selected with trans-related inclusive benefits, and the city dedicated some of their Community Development Block Grants (CDBG) funding to support our new Center’s space. Also city proclamations were made in support of our local LGBT community, including the one coming up in October for Oceanside Diversity Awareness Month. However, what is more striking were the efficiency and determination of many city staff and elected officials to implement these changes. From the HR office, our City Manager, the Director of Neighborhood Services Margery Pierce and Councilmember Esther Sanchez, all have contributed to this success. Oceanside is becoming a beacon of hope and inclusiveness for LGBT visibility within the San Diego North County area, but Vista, San Marcos, Escondido, Fallbrook, Encinitas and Carlsbad are in our hearts as well and we hope to implement similar changes as we move along with visibility and growth. On a side note Pride by the Beach is soon approaching on Saturday, Oct. 10 from 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. This family-friendly event has

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drawn more people each year and the collaboration of the City of Oceanside and the local business community has made Oceanside a safe space for our North County LGBT families and individuals. San Diegans, get on the Coaster and enjoy a day with your cousins from the North! Explore our local town, local breweries, good food and music and the many activities that Pride has to offer. Our Speaker of the House Toni Atkins will be there in support as well. —Max Disposti is a human rights activist, a community organizer and the founder and executive director of the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. He is currently also serving on the boards of the Oceanside City Library and Main Street Oceanside and previously served on the city’s Community Relations Commission. He can be reached

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Praise for Shaw What a guy. Very generous and willing to give to the community. He has hosted all of the Hillcrest Clean T.E.A.M (Together Everyone Achieves More) post-Pride Clean Ups for the “Talking Trash” happy hours and we all appreciate it more than words can say. Thank you and love you Chris. —Luke Terpstra, Chair, Hillcrest Town Council, via In the 20-plus years that I have been fundraising in this

Correction In the last issue we inaccurately reported that Urban MO’s opened in 1992 [see “Shaw’s expanding universe of philanthropy,” Vol. 6, Issue 19]. What is more accurate to say is that Chris Shaw’s property at 308 University Ave. started as Tin Pan Alley in the early 1990s, morphed into Hamburger Mar y’s in 1992, and in 2002, changed names to Urban MO’s. —Ed

town, never once has Chris said no to a request. Whether it’s food, a check, sometimes both. He is a class act. We need more people like Chris Shaw on Earth. —Kurt Cunningham, via Chris and his staff have never thought twice or blinked an eye when the Hillcrest Histor y Guild or the Hillcrest Town Council have asked for donations to pass along to volunteers. Each of the Mo’s Universe establishments have hosted Hillcrest Clean T.E.A.M. (Together Everyone Achieves More) volunteer appreciation get togethers after neighborhood cleanups. We can’t thank Chris, his partners and staff for everything they have done for Hillcrest and beyond! —Nancy Moors, via I believe the name change from Hamburger Mary’s to Urban Mo’s occurred in 2006, not 1992 as stated in the article. It was a pretty big deal. —Jake Romero, via Editor’s Note: See correction on this page. Thank you to Chris Shaw

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and team for your continued support of our community! I can’t even count the times his generosity has benefited the numerous charities I have been involved with for nearly 20 years. Also, I love the new rewards program! I was introduced to it on Saturday at Gossip Grill and am proud loyalty cardholder now! —Ben Car twright, via He and his partner are the best thing to ever hit America’s Finest City! Love those guys! —Paul Anderson, via gay-sd. com

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A letter about dying, to my lesbian communities multiple operations, radiation and chemo. This February, I had chemoThis letter is meant as a notificatherapy. Among a host of side effects, tion and thank you to the thousands it’s given me “chemo brain,” which of members of the national lesbian amounts, basically, to “getting stupid.” community whose activism, lives, and Just saying. This month’s so-called loves have touched my own. Espeside effect is peripheral neuropathy. cially those dykes who have become That’s from chemo, they say, and it family and siblings of choice over the makes your feet, fingers and hands last 40 years. feel tingling and Yes, the rumors are numb like when you true, I have metastafall asleep on your sized to-the-brain canleg or hands. Only, Death should be a part cer. I am dying from it it doesn’t go away. I of life — not hidden, in my cerebellum. can’t stand up withI have had cancer out holding onto a not a secret, something wall or background since 2008. Colon cancer. For the first four support. I can’t feel we never said out loud. where my feet are. years I brushed it off, as I’ve done many times Yeek! I freak myself with physical illness or out talkin’ about it! difficulties. I continued How about you? my activism with the Lesbian ExploratoA guru once told me, “We die in ry project and I finished my third book, increments, one piece at a time.” She “When We Were Outlaws.” The cancer meant one part of our body suddenly came back in 2013. Metastasized first ceases to work, an elbow or a tongue, to my lungs and then to my cerebellum. seemingly for no reason, like a worn Yes, my head. out knee. This came as a surprise. I With brain and back-of-thethought we get old or die ... suddenly, neck cancer, it has been a downhill see Editorial, pg 9 experience the last three years, with

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that surpasses A dedicated company delivers and delights Theater Review Charlene Baldridge San Diego Musical Theatre continues to outdo itself with each show it mounts at the historic Downtown Spreckels Theatre. Readers must see the current offering through Oct. 11. It’s “La Cage aux Folles,” Jerry Herman and Harvey Fierstein’s 1983 Tony Award-winning stage musical based on Jean Poiret’s 1973 French play of the same name. One may have seen big-name stars in the juicy plum roles hither and yon (most recently George Hamilton in the 2011 tour), but no one will ever see and hear anyone that surpasses Robert J. Townsend (most recently of Broadway’s “Mama Mia”) as Georges, owner of a transvestite St. Tropez nightclub and David Engel (the original company of “La Cage”) as his star, Albin, whose stage name is Zaza. The feeling of intimacy and camaraderie Townsend and Engel create is entirely convincing and fills the theatregoer with warmth and the assurance that no matter who each may be, it’s okay that “I Am What I Am.” Lovingly, over the course of more than 20 years, with an assist from a madcap, longtime “maid” named Jacob (San Diego director/actor/ filmmaker James Vasquez), the lov-



Comes” on Oct. 2. Elizabeth Ir win’s script delves into four busboys’ lives and “their requirement to provide,” working at an Upper East Side restaurant in Manhattan. Members of the Mankind Project were asked to make an appearance before the show at the Lyceum Theatre, because the narrative of the play asks, “What does it mean to be a man?” “There are [similar answers, but] does that really apply to the definition of a man, especially if the answers apply for two men or two women,” Schweizer said. “[The ManKind Project is expected to] bring up how much your gender actually ties into your responsibility and roles.” Before the Nov. 13 preview of Sarah Ruhl’s latest drama, “The Oldest Boy,” speakers from the support group PFLAG San Diego (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) are planning to chat as a preshow for the third installment of the “REP Your Pride” series.

ers have raised Georges’ son, JeanMichel (Bren Thor Johnson), who returns home to visit and announces he is to be wed to Anne (Ashley Ruth Jones), daughter of a very narrowminded, censorious politician. “What did we do wrong?” screams Albin. Townsend, who’s been seen in numerous San Diego Musical Theatre productions, including their 2014 “Next to Normal,” and was recently a fine Sweeney Todd at Moonlight Stage Productions, possesses a virile baritone, a facile body and matinee idol good looks. He is a most persuasive actor. Engel, who was in the original Broadway companies of “Forever Plaid” and “La Cage aux Folles,” also possesses a fine baritone voice and impeccable acting skills. The two of them together are capable of breaking one’s heart. Between Georges, Jacob and Jean-Michel, the wounded Albin is persuaded to absent himself from the pre-nuptial parents’ weekend so that Jean-Michel’s birth mother can be there to present a more “normal” family group. Of course she fails to show, so a gentler version of Zaza is her stand-in as a heterosexual woman. Anne’s parents are played by Debra Wanger, who rockets off some fabulous, operatic high notes, and David Mitchum Brown, the perfect stuffed shirt. Hilarity ensues when Jacob has a kitchen accident, dinner is burned, and all repair to the fabled Chez Jacqueline for dinner. Christine Hewitt portrays the famed restaurateur. Along the road, we are royally Ruhl’s plot features an American mother who finds out that her son is the reincarnation of a high Buddhist Lama. “[They will be] going into detail about how sometimes our kids do not turn out as we expect them to be, which is not necessarily a positive or negative fact,” Schweizer said. PFLAG’s panel will be moderated and include parents of lesbian and gay children. They were chosen because Schweizer said they wanted to introduce “all the amazing resources” that San Diego has to offer its families. Matthew E. Graber, director of marketing and communications for the theater, looks forward to seeing the program grow for the REP during the next few months. “I feel it’ll become a place where smart people in the community will be able to go and voice their issues and have an intelligent discussion,” he said. “Also, we do plan to have a cabaret night and fun things from time to time. We’ll be sure to mix it up.” Graber believes that people who come for the panel series should stay for the theatrical events. “‘REP Your Pride’ is great and the

Ben Thor Johnson (top), David Engel, and Robert J. Townsend in “La Cage” (Photo by Ken Jacques)

“La Cage aux Folles” Spreckels Theatre

121 Broadway, Downtown San Diego 7:30 p.m. Thursdays 8 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays 2 p.m. Sundays through Oct. 11 $35-$65, discount for seniors, students and children 16 or 858-560-5740 Ticketmaster 800-745-3000 entertained by Georges’ can-can girls, Les Cagelles, Phaedra, Bitelle, Chantal, Hanna, Mercedes and Angelique, portrayed by a bevvy of lovelies, Scott Frausto, Alex Sanchez, Luke H. Jacobs, Donnie Gersonde, Ala Tiatia, and Taylor Shubert. In addition to the title song, the score includes the lovely ballads “With You on My Arm,” “The Best of Times,” and “Look Over There.” The choreographer is Karl Warren, and the director is Larry Raben. Their work is tops. Bret Young and David Medina are scenic designers, Janet Pitcher, the costume designer, Michael Von Hoffman, lighting designer, and Kevin Anthenill, sound designer. Most important, Musical Director Don Le Master leads a wonderful eight-person onstage band. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at or reach her at cherry on top is that you get to see a terrific show,” he said. Schweizer hopes that the “REP Your Pride” series helps fulfill the theater’s mission. “One of the greatest ideas of [the mission statement] is to represent the multiple voices of San Diego,” she said. “We felt it was imperative to talk about the LGBTQ community in America’s Finest City. While we’re not always going to do plays that tie into that community, we still want to showcase their presence and hear them.” “REP Your Pride: The ManKind Project” will be held tonight at 7, with the play, “My Manana Comes” immediately following at 8 p.m. “My Manana Comes” will be performed at the L yceum Theatre Space, located at 79 Horton Plaza, Downtown, through Oct. 25. For tickets or more information, visit or call 619-544-1000. —A fan of film and theatre from a very young age, David Dixon has written reviews and features for various print and online publications. You can reach him at


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LGBT Seniors: ‘Know Your Rights’ about Social Security By Joselyn Harris

(left) Cordova on the cover of her book; (right) Cordova today FROM PAGE 6

EDITORIAL and all at once. Not so! Many of us have gotten cancer and died. I write publically to the women who have defined my life because I want to share this last journey, as I have shared so much of my activist life with you. You gave me a life’s cause. It is wonderful to have had a life’s cause: freedom and dignity for lesbians. I believe that’s what lesbian feminism is really about, sharing. We built a movement by telling each other our lives and thoughts about the way life should be. We cut against the grain and re-thought almost everything. With just enough left undone for our daughters to re-invent themselves. Death should be a part of life — not hidden, not a secret, something we never said out loud. Being an organizer and journalist in the lesbian, gay, feminist, and women of color communities — and loving it — has been the focal point, of my life. It has been a wild joyous ride. I feel more than adequately thanked by the many awards I have received from all the queer communities, and through all the descriptions and quotes in history books that have documented my role as an organizer, publisher, speaker, and author. Thanks to all of you who have given me a place in our history. From the age of 18 to 21, I painfully looked everywhere for Lesbian Nation. On Oct. 3, 1970, a day I celebrate as my political birthday, I found “Her” in a small DOB (Daughters of Bilitis) meeting. That’s when my life’s work became clear. Shortly thereafter I became a core organizer for two national lesbian conferences, one of which re-directed my path to create “The Lesbian Tide” newsmagazine, a national paper of record, as the historians say, for the lesbian feminist generation. And on it went for multiple decades of marches and later online organizing — this time intersectionally — to include all of me, and my Latina identity. Somewhere in the middle of all that, and somewhat accidentally, I invented the “Gay & Lesbian Community Yellow Pages,” a first for our by-then national tribe. This Los Angeles 400-page guide that helped us still-half-hidden people to connect — politically I thought initially — with businesses and professionals that spoke to us within our own identities.


That it did, but this directory and lucky timing in life-long real estate, also enabled me to fulfill an early personal vow to give back half of my estate to our movement. I do this with Astraea Lesbian Foundation for Justice (out of New York City) and other organizations. I believe it so critical to our transforming movements to leave our estates to our LBGTQ charities, not some errant heterosexual relation we hardly know! I believe that cancer or any terminal disease is the luck of the draw. As my mother used to say of my Aunt who was also a nun of 90 years, “At that age, you got to die of something.” I have read the obituaries in Lesbian Connection these last years as they chronicle the passage of my second wave generation. The one message that rings out clearly is that so many in these pages were activists who articulated social justice in their local or regional spaces. Many dykes making change. So many of you or loved ones have gone through death rituals these last years. It makes me feel like one-of-the gang ... again! I really don’t know when or if I can write again, mental competency and all that. The choice appears to be living with chemo forever off and on, or dying. I will make that choice soon enough. In the meantime, please write or speak your own truth in living with dying to your lesbian newspaper or my blog []. I want to say THANK YOU to all of you who have loved another woman-identified-woman, who have loved me, or have loved Lesbian Nation. I wish I could still write about this kind of love more eloquently. Lesbians do have a special love for one another. I have felt it many times when women are with each other. I am happy and content to have participated in it for most of my very full and happy life. Least you be too sad, know that I have this kind of love not only with my family of choice, but with a straight arrow spouse with whom I have journeyed these last 26 years. —Jeanne Córdova is the author of “When We Were Outlaws” (2011, Spinster Ink Books), and has contributed to many anthologies, newspapers and magazines over the years. She is currently in the process of writing her fourth book, “Living With Dying,” which she said is due out “maybe someday.” She and her life partner Lynn Harris Ballen live in Los Angeles. To learn more about Córdova, visit

This year marks two very important anniversaries: Social Security’s 80th birthday and five years since the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” As a transgender female senior citizen in a same gender marriage, I never would have dreamed 40 years, 30 years, 20 years or even 10 years ago I would have a partnership sanctioned by the U.S. Government or that the U.S. Supreme court would finally make same-sex marriages legal in all 50 states. I actually did not even think I would be alive at 68 years old — but here I am. So what’s next? Know Your Rights Initiative/California held two town hall meetings in San Diego on Wednesday, Sept. 30, at the Ohr Shalom Synagogue in Bankers Hill to educate and motivate LGBT seniors to file for Social Security benefits. We had several attendees overall for both town hall meetings and the support from the audience, panelists and volunteers was overwhelming. While most in the LGBT community understand the historic impact of the court’s ruling of DADT, many LGBT seniors and military veterans aren’t fully aware of all of the benefits now available to them. We’ve fought for these rights for so long and now that they have come to frui-

tion, it’s important to know them to ensure that you and your family are making informed decisions.

As we all know, one of the best ways to avoid discrimination is to know your rights at the federal, state and local levels.

For instance, did you know: • Individuals who are or were members of same-sex married couples may now be entitled to spousal or survivor benefits. • In 2014, the average increase in spousal benefits for same-sex couples in California was $600 to $700 a month. • The Affordable Care Act requires insurance companies offer the same individual or group health plans to legally married gay and lesbian couples as those offered to married heterosexual couples. • Gay and lesbian workers in all states can now add their spouses to their employer-provided health insurance plans. The U.S. Department of Defense is also now required to treat same sex marriages the same as heterosexual marriages. For LGBT military this means you and your spouse are entitled to: • spouse identification card • command-sponsored visa • ability to receive joint duty assignments • ability to move off base in

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GAY SAN DIEGO Oct. 2 – 15, 2015

(above) Various meringue “crusts” waiting to be filled; (right) the dry ice effect (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. I should have known better. The last time I crammed a bunch of sweets down my gullet as the first “meal” of the day was many years ago at a matinee movie. It was a dangerous combo of chocolate malt balls, Red Vines and soda, which left me with jittery limbs and chatty chops. My stomach was also empty when visiting iDesserts by JeanPhilippe, the new confection café in Little Italy that can potentially tempt diners into skipping dessert at the nearby restaurants in lieu of

customizing one on an iPad within these whimsical, colorful confines. If you don’t like meringue, cream and gelato, then the beauty of iDesserts is lost because they are the mandatory components to building your masterpiece. You can instead customize milkshakes and sundaes on the iPads. But in terms of novelty, they don’t provide the thrill of cracking into a stuffed meringue dome resembling a halved Faberge egg. The concept of filling these flavored, hollow spheres with fun stuff was established by iDesserts’ owner, Jean-Philippe Maury, an accomplished pastry chef and frequent guest on national cooking shows

who operates two patisseries in Las Vegas. One of them is at the Bellagio Hotel, where his eye-popping chocolate fountain set a Guinness record as the world’s largest. Six iPads greet customers on the right side of the café. The process of creating a dessert is simpler than checking in for a flight at an airport kiosk and considerably more enjoyable. You begin by entering your first name and then proceed by choosing a flavored meringue shell (the crust), a gelato, a cream, a cake, a sauce, a fruit, and a “crunch,” which includes things like choco-

late chips, M&Ms and Butter Finger candy bar pieces. As you go along, nominal charges are added, which can climb to $9 or more in the end, especially if opting for the “Vegas bowl,” which is an outer serving dish “Vegas bowl” – a filled raspberry meringue dome filled with dry ice. with berry sauce in a dry-ice (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) The system allows you to pay by cash or credit card, although for iDesserts by Jean-Philippe the technically challenged, orders can be placed with a human at 1608 India St. (Little Italy) the front counter. In either case, 619-544-1033 the staff has your invention ready within a matter of minutes. Prices: Customized desserts Visiting midday with a sweet start at $4.95; chef desserts tooth whose insulin level was stable range from $8.45 to $9.95 because he had eaten a substantial breakfast, we finger-tapped our way through a whole lot of indecision banana cake, caramel sauce and that resulted in three different meButter Finger pieces. ringue creations. We also customWhat was I thinking? The outized a milkshake of chocolate and come was so tongue-curling sweet peanut butter that would ultimately that I couldn’t finish it; despite the send me running down the street fact these pretty domes are smaller afterwards to Pan Bon for some in circumference than a tennis ball. much-needed protein — a slice of If you want to play it safe, there salami and cheese pizza. are several established “chef favorThe ordering process presents ites” available, ranging from fruity a somewhat educational culinary and exotic to cozy and intense, adventure since every ingredias they’re titled on the menu. My ent comprising these seven-layer companion chose the latter, which meringue domes are available in came with an Oreo meringue crust multiple flavors. The results can filled with chocolate gelato, chocobe crazy good, horribly bad, or late cake and brownie pieces, plus somewhere in between. Here is where we scored excep- coffee cream and vanilla sauce. It was sweet and chocolate-intense, tionally well in matching some of but not shockingly so. the components: Raspberry crust The gelatos and meringue filled with vanilla gelato, vanilla cream, lemon cake, blueberry com- crusts are made in-house, with most of their flavor extracts impote, and dark-chocolate chips. ported from Italy. And we’re told As for the sauce, we chose berthat no sugar goes into the flavored ry, which was served in a bubblecreams, which act as barriers beheaded squeeze dispenser poking tween the outer crust and interior into the top of the dome. You can gelato, thus preventing the gelato inject the sauce directly into the from turning the shell soggy. center, or pull it out to drape the Maury has the basics all exterior while perhaps tapping into worked out. The rest is a gamble in your inner child. deciding what suits your personal In all, the flavors of berries and taste and just how much sweet citrus, combined with the mellowyour body can take. ness of vanilla and the depth of chocolate, amounted to a ravishing —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the flavor profile that I’d like to think author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW a skilled, French pastry chef like Press), and began his local writing Maury would approve. career more than two decades ago In another customized attempt as a staffer for the former San Diego starting with a chocolate-flavored Tribune. You can reach him at meringue crust, I opted for a filling of mocha gelato, coffee cream,


Bankers Hill Bar + Restaurant is holding “Sunday school” with a focus on wine and beer. Beginning Oct. 4, and running one Sunday a month through Feb. 7, various vintners and brewers will head up classes that include tastings and food pairings. The first session in the series explores California wines, followed by “beer vs. wine” on Nov. 8, and “bubbly diversity” on Dec. 13. The classes are held from 2 – 4:30 p.m. and cost $45 each. Advance tickets are required. For a complete schedule, contact the restaurant. 2202 Fourth Ave., 619-231-0222.

Chef Rich Sweeney has re-emerged at Waypoint Public. (Courtesy H2 Public Relations) “There’s a new bear in the den at Waypoint Public,” noted Rich Sweeney of his recent appointment as executive chef at the popular beer-focused restaurant in North Park. A former contestant on Bravo’s “Top Chef” series (season five), Sweeney rooted himself in the San Diego dining scene with R Gang Eatery in Hillcrest, where he incorporated into his comforting bill of fare playful takes on Tater Tots during the restaurant’s five-year run. He also recently helped launch Florent Restaurant & Lounge in the Gaslamp Quarter. “I’ve been hiding back in my office at Waypoint to get my wits about me while revamping the menu and putting together a new system,” he said, referring also to the planning of a Waypoint offshoot in 2016, in a location that hasn’t yet been disclosed. In recent months, Sweeney said he has enjoyed traveling and spending quality time with his husband, Steve Farrow. He hopes to roll out the new menu in time for San Diego Beer Week (Nov. 6 – 15), adding that baconbeer linguine with clams will be on it. As for his famous Tater Tots: “I’m sure we’ll run them as specials here and there.” Waypoint is operated by ELE Collective, which also owns Hotel Vyvant in Little Italy, and more recently, it opened Park & Rec in University Heights. 3794 30th St., 619-255-8778.

Spicy basil fried rice with chicken at Ka Prao (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

A new fast-casual Thai eatery has opened in Mission Valley’s Rio Vista Shopping Center, where O’s American Kitchen, Sombrero, Jersey Mike’s and Kasi reside. Since coming into the fold last month, Ka Prao has been cooking up made-to-order stir fries, pad Thai noodles, spicy basil fried rice and a range of curries. In addition to pork, chicken and shrimp, the menu includes tofu and mock duck as alternative proteins. Lunch specials are available daily, from 10:30 a.m. – 3:30 p.m., with plates starting at $7, which include a choice of two sides. 8590 Rio San Diego Drive, #105, 619-326-8083. In preparation for a November opening, Liberty Public Market has announced additional vendors coming to the 22,000-square-

Spaghetti-eating and grape-stomping contests are among the activities planned at the 21st annual Little Italy FESTA!, which runs from 10 a.m. – 6 p.m., Oct. 11, along India Street between Ash and Grape streets. From nearly 30 restaurants taking part, some of the foods available for sale will include ravioli from Buon Appetito; oysters from Ironside Fish & Oyster; meatballs and sausages from Petrini’s; calamari and cannoli from Café Zucchero; and pizzas from Filippi’s Pizza Grotto, Napizza, and Isola Pizza Bar. “This is our first year since merging with The Sicilian Festival, which was held every May. So now that we’re one, we will have a lot more cultural elements,” said FESTA! events director Sandy Cottrell, referring in part to a procession of costumed dancers and performers taking place at noon along India Street. In keeping with tradition, more than 60 chalk artists will create their masterpieces on sidewalks along Beech Street. Because of limited parking, Contrell recfoot culinary venture in Liberty Station. Among them is a third outpost of Bottlecraft, which has existing locations in North Park and Little Italy. Also on board: the Grape Smuggler wine bar, and Mess Hall, a “market-to-menu” restaurant by Chef Kolanko of Stake Chophouse & Bar, and Leroy’s Kitchen + Lounge in Coronado. The latter will double as an event space for culinary classes and pop-up dinners. The growing list, expected to total 30 vendors, also includes new artisan signups such as The Produce Section, Bread & Butter, Mama Made Thai and Crafted Baked Goods. 2816 Historic Decatur Road, San Diego’s mother of all culinary competitions is coming to the Port Pavilion at Broadway Pier on Oct. 29, as 10 local toques, divided into two teams, battle it out at the 11th annual Center for Community Solutions’ Chef

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(above) Chalk art (Photo by Paul Nestor) including Napizza slices (below) will take to the sidewalks at Little Italy Festa! (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) ommends visitors take the green trolley line to the County Center/Little Italy station. The event is free. Showdown. The event each year benefits a number of programs at The Center that support victims of domestic and sexual violence. Among the chefs taking part are Hanis Cavin of Carnitas Snack Shack; Lori Sauer of George’s at the Cove; Robert Ruiz of The Land & Water Co.; Rose Payron of High Dive; James Montejano of La Valencia; and others tasked with creating dishes based on secret ingredients unveiled at the start of the competition. They will be judged by a panel of celebrity chefs, including Bernard Guillas of The Marine Room. Emceeing the event is esteemed television personality, Sam the Cooking Guy. General admission is $250, which includes tastings from food and dessert stations. For more information, call 858-272-5777, ext. 151, or visit 1000 N. Harbor Island Drive. —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at


GAY SAN DIEGO Oct. 2 – 15, 2015


‘Women of Color: Writing as if Their Lives Depended On It’: A program by the Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation featuring authors Emma Perez, Nina Revoyr and Carla Trujillo. The event will “celebrate the writing, resilience and brilliance of women of color writers.” $10 suggested donation at door. 7 – 8:30 p.m. Central Library, 330 Park Blvd., Downtown. Visit ‘Notorious’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this Alfred Hitchcock film starring Cary Grant and Ingrid Bergman. Additional screening on Saturday, Oct. 3. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit or call 619-295-4221.


Bodhi Massage and Wellness Center 10th anniversary event: This celebration will include free massages and mini treatments, prizes, workshops, refreshments and more. 10 a.m. – 2 p.m. Bodhi Massage, 3678 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Varsity Gay League – San Diego Fall Kickball League: A co-ed league for players of all levels launches today with an after party (at Urban MO’s.) The season will last eight weeks. 3 – 5 p.m. North Park Recreation Center/Ted Williams Field, 4044 Idaho St., North Park. Visit sandiego. San Diego Woman’s Drum Circle celebrates 17 years: This event starts with a potluck and time to socialize and potluck from 4:30 – 6 p.m. with the drum circle from 6 – 9 p.m., behind Paradise Point Resort on Mission Bay. Visit on.fb. me/1LYpwKZ. South Bark Dog Wash turns 15: The popular dog wash invites the community to help celebrate its 15th anniversary, including photo opportunities with Chopper the Biker Dog at 5 p.m., and drinks and cake served at 6 p.m. VIP shopping sales, specials, giveaways are also on tap. Washings will be extended to 9 p.m. with a 15 percent discount all day. Join the Fall Walkabout

in South Park, too. 2037 30th St., South Park. Call 619-232-7387 or visit

food and drinks will follow. 6:30 – 8 p.m. 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit


Date Night at Croce’s: Every Wednesday get a shared appetizer, two entrees, a bottle of wine, Croce’s ambiance and live music for just $49. Tonight’s live music is Stacy Antonel and a guitarist. 6 – 9:30 p.m. 2760 Fifth Ave. #100, Bankers Hill. Visit crocesparkwest. com.

THURSDAY, OCT. 8 Red Dress Party San Diego 2015: San Diego finally gets its own version of this popular fundraising party. Put on a red dress and help raise awareness and funds that ser ve the local HIV/AIDS community. $45. 8 p.m. San Diego Museum of Man, 1350 El Prado, Balboa Park. Visit


Third annual ‘Same Love, Same Rights’ San Diego LGBT wedding expo: An afternoon filled with LGBT friendly wedding professionals, planning tips, free samples, giveaways and more. Free tickets are available online. 12:30 – 3:30 p.m. Declan Suites, 701 A St., Downtown. Visit Krave and Kulture men’s fashion show: A party to preview what the new year will bring for Krave and Kulture Men’s Apparel. Festivities will include a runway fashion show, drink specials and more. 2 – 8 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


The Broadway Boys in ‘A New Broadway’: Starring some of the hottest male voices starring on Broadway. This group combines elements of pop, funk, gospel, jazz and folk with show tunes and class pop songs. Doors open at 6 p.m., show at 8 p.m. $20 – $40 reserved seating with $15 food/drink minimum. Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


YPC First Tuesday Series: The Young Professional Council (a program of The LGBT Community Center) will host this edition of its First Tuesday Series at Lambda Archives of San Diego. Included is a brief tour of the facility followed by a short presentation with historical tidbits, info about the Archives and more. A reception with light

PrideFIT hike club: Meets every Thursday, hosted by Carlos Salazar. 7 p.m. Parking lot at Golfcrest Avenue and Navajo Road, in San Carlos. Visit prideFITsandiego. ‘Charade’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this comedy thriller starring Cary Grant and Audrey Hepburn. Additional screenings on Friday, Oct. 9 and Saturday, Oct. 10. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info visit or call 619295-4221.


Top of the Bay: Weekly LGBT happy hour featuring cocktail specials, shuttle service from The Loft and The Caliph, and more. 5 p.m. Glass Door, 1835 Columbia St., Little Italy. Visit TopOfTheBaySanDiego. ‘A Sinner in Mecca’: Gay filmmaker Parvez Sharma (“A Jihad for Love”) embarks on his Hajj — an important pilgrimage within Islam — despite the risks of filming in a country that forbids it (Saudia Arabia) and the fact that homosexuality is punishable by death. Additional screenings through Thursday, Oct. 15. Digital Gym, 2921 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit

and much more). Free and open to the public. 10 a.m. – 4 p.m. Private residence of Dondi Dahlin, 3747 Eagle St., Mission Hills. Visit on.fb. me/1KKVt8p. Seventh annual La Jolla Art and Wine Festival: Two-day celebration and fundraiser featuring a juried art show, gourmet food court, late night brew fest, beer and wine garden and more. Over 40 wineries from California, Baja and beyond will be on hand. All profits raised benefit art, music, science, physical education, technology, and on-site medical care programs at local public elementary and middle schools. Free. Open 10 a.m. – 7 p.m. (plus the late night BraveCort Brew Fest 8 – 11 p.m.) and Sunday, Oct. 11 from 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. Visit Pride by the Beach: North County LGBTQ Resource Center hosts this free Pride celebration with live music, vendors, a food court and more. All ages welcome — there is a kids zone and a youth lounge. 11 a.m. – 6 p.m. Oceanside Civic Center, 300 North Coast Highway, Oceanside. Visit


Lady O’s Mac AIDS Fund Drag Show: Details to come on this event featuring DJ Rick Betta benefitting Mac AIDS Fund. $7 cover. Doors at 8 p.m. Numb3rs, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Visit

National Coming Out Day: An annual civil awareness day internationally observed to recognize members of the LGBTQ+ community. Visit and


Nightly dinner cruise: Flagship hosts a three-course dinner cruise each night. Includes: boarding Champagne, entertainment, free WiFi, dancing and 25 miles of San Diego view. Boarding at 7 p.m.;


Free legal consultations: A free legal clinic held the second Tuesday of each month by Access to Law Initiative. Attorneys will be available for 30-minute consultations to help evaluate legal issues. 9 a.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For appointment or info, contact Joshua Bruser at 858-342-0551 or


‘Vertigo’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this Alfred Hitchcock psychological thriller starring James Stewart and Kim Novak. Additional screenings on Friday, Oct. 16 and Saturday, Oct. 17. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit or call 619-295-4221. —Compiled by Jen Van Tieghem. Email calendar items to morgan@

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PrideFIT run club: Meets every Monday, hosted by Miguel Larios. 6:30 p.m. Corner of Sixth Avenue and Upas Street. Visit

FilmOut ‘The Grande Dame Guignol Halloween Double Feature’: Back-to-back screenings of thrillers starring classic leading ladies: “Dead Ringer” starring Bette Davis at 7 p.m. and “Strait-Jacket” starring Joan Crawford at 9:15 p.m. $15. Landmark Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. #200, Hillcrest. Visit


PrideFIT walk club: Meets every Saturday, hosted by Maribel. 10 a.m. Corner of Sixth Avenue and Upas Street. Visit prideFITsandiego. Art Glass Guild Glass Show and Sale: This event will feature over 30 juried glass artists and all forms of art glass: blown, fused, torch-worked, stained glass, cast, etched, mosaic and more. Continues, Sunday, Oct. 11. 10 a.m. – 5 p.m. Spanish Village Art Center, 1770 Village Place, Studio 25, Balboa Park. Visit San Diego Costume Guild annual sale: A great chance to get ready for Halloween, this sale will feature vintage clothing, accessories and a wide variety of costumes (steam punk, Victorian, Flamenco

cruising 7:30 – 10 p.m. 990 North Harbor Drive. Visit

DOWN 49-Across 40 And so on, for short 41 Cole Porter title city 42 Disney pictures 43 Pirate, for one 45 Short-legged dog 47 Caesar’s girlfriend told them “Bite me!” 48 Homer’s boy 49 Homophobe Kim 52 Homophobe Mike 56 Like some twins 57 Dean Cain’s role with Lois 59 Georgia spread on the screen 60 Tutti-frutti holder 61 Japanese poem 62 Vows now legal for the LGBT community 63 Got a little behind 64 Gawks at 65 It’s for Colette

1 Where a cobbler puts the tongue 2 Express ride 3 Opening amount 4 What a cowboy shoots off 5 007 portrayer Timothy 6 Brigham Young man, for one 7 Disney’s Mickey and Minnie, e.g. 8 Tavern order 9 Swine cooler? 10 Reproduced nonheterosexually 11 Jackie’s designer 12 Pasolini’s well 13 Wild male 21 Murphy Brown’s TV show 22 Something to talk about 24 Shaft from way back 25 Petty of “A League of Their Own” 26 Has the big O 27 Let up 28 Spanish castle city 29 Gay rodeo target

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Scaring San Diegans for 23 years By Alex Owens It’s Halloween season and there’s more than a ghost of a chance you can get spooked in San Diego if that’s your desire. For the 23rd season, the Haunted Hotel is open for business on Market Street, offering guests more than their fill of zombies, ghosts or vampires. Its sister attraction, Balboa Park’s Haunted Trail, has been open since 2000. Both haunts are the creation of Greg DeFatta and Robert Bruce, who got into the haunt attraction business after DeFatta decided to get out of a job career that was even scarier: being a Hollywood agent. “I was working in Los Angeles at the William Morris Agency and I wanted out of the business,” DeFatta said. “I started doing spook attractions in Louisville, Kentucky,

before adding more around the country, before deciding to just focus on the ones in San Diego.” As scary as it sounds, DeFatta said running a haunted house is very satisfying. “The enjoyment comes when you hear the screaming, the laughing — every kind of emotion — and people having a good time,” he said. Besides the Haunted Hotel and Haunted Trail, DeFatta and Bruce also run the Scream Zone at the Del Mar Fairgrounds. The season for all haunts runs until Nov. 1. All told, DeFatta says 300 people will be working at the three haunted attractions, including those doing the scaring and behind the scenes. It takes a special kind of person to be a professional scarer. “When we audition a person, we give them a character,” DeFatta said. “The key is, are they able to be creative and can they drop their persona in front of a stranger?” But working as a spook can have its own scary moments since no one can predict how a person might react when scared. “We’ve had people hit our employees,” De-

The Haunted Hotel Downtown, the Haunted Trail in Balboa Park and Scream Zone in Del Mar will keep you in stitches through Nov. 1. (Photos courtesy Haunted Hotel)

Fatta said. “When that happens, we remove those people.” Although some professional haunted houses are located in allegedly haunted places, DeFatta doesn’t believe either the Haunted Hotel or Haunted Trail have any real spooks scaring people for free. “I haven’t seen any at the Haunted Hotel, even though the building is 140 years old,” DeFatta said. “We used to run a different attraction called FrightMare down the street and I got creeped out there. I’d hear strange noises all the time.” On the other hand, DeFatta said the Haunted Trail is naturally spooky because of its location outdoors. “The trees and surroundings help people get immersed in the whole environment,” he

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said. “Honestly, the area where the Trail is used to be a little sketchy. I think things have improved since we’ve been there — even during the other 11 months of the year.” Haunted attractions play on primal fears, but DeFatta said the attractions do change with the times. “We do pull from what’s popular,” he admitted. “Zombies have been popular for a while, but even they have changed. Twenty years ago, zombies were slow. Now they’re fast. Vampires have changed too. Thanks to a show called ‘The Strain,’ they’re now more vicious.” DeFatta expects big crowds this year because Halloween falls on a Saturday. “The two weekends before Halloween are always the most crowded, but the fact that Halloween is on a Saturday means people will be talking about the holiday,” he said. Although haunted hotels can be subjective, DeFatta said there is one way to know if his customers were really scared. “You know you’ve done a good job when you can tell they’ve peed their pants,” he said, laughing. Admission for the Haunted Hotel is $18, $28 for a Fast Pass that allows you to go directly to the front of the line. The Haunted Trail costs $19, while a walk through the Experiment Maze is $25, $10 more for the Fast Past option. Both the Haunted Hotel, located at 424 Market St., Downtown, and the Haunted Trail, in Balboa Park’s Marston Point near the corner of Juniper Street and Sixth Avenue (where San Diego Pride is every year), are now open, and operate every day but Monday and Tuesday through Nov. 1. Hours for the Haunted Hotel are Sunday – Thursday, 7 – 11 p.m., and Friday and Saturday 6 p.m. – 1 a.m. The Haunted Trail operates Sunday – Thursday, 7 – 11 p.m., and Friday and Saturday 6:30 – 11:30 p.m. For more information, visit and —Alex Owens is a San Diego-based freelance writer. He can be reached at



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THE NAME IS QUINTO … ZACHARY QUINTO Actor calls upon other LGBT actors to ‘be who they are,’ talks marriage, James Franco and lack of gay action stars By Chris Azzopardi

cross. A major studio-produced action movie featuring … an out gay actor? You better believe it. As he swings open the door on a traditionally gay-less genre by breaking down Hollywood stereotypes, Quinto spoke to us about recognizing his unique place as

[Zachar y Quinto | ZQ] If I could just travel anywhere at any time and somehow my genetic modification allowed me to transport somewhere, I imagine that would be a pretty useful genetic modification that I would get a lot of pleasure out of. No jet lag! [CA] “Heroes,” “American Horror Story,” “Hitman”: You like being bad, don’t you? [ZQ] Well, it’s just sort of the way it falls out sometimes. It was never something I set out to accomplish specifically, but I think “Heroes” set a certain tone, and that was the first time that people on a wider platform became aware of my work. Because of that association, other opportunities in that vein have presented for me, it’s a lot about connecting to that and connecting to the people that I’m playing and that’s a different process depending on what the style and the tone of the piece is. This one was so driven by physicality and by actual conflict and combat, and that kind of drove the character a little bit. I didn’t really have to dive back into my uncomfortable moments of childhood to connect with that necessarily. [CA] How strategic have you been with the projects you’ve chosen in order to avoid the typecasting some LGBT actors have said they’ve experienced? [ZQ] I played gay characters, but I was never part of a gaythemed story until I did “I Am Michael” last year with James Franco. That was a specific deci-

“Oh, Jesus.” Zachary Quinto is aptly responding to the fact that, yes, despite establishing himself as an Emmy-nominated actor with versatility, out-of-this-world talent and some of the best eyebrows in the biz, he once starred on an episode of “Touched by an Angel.” He isn’t reacting to being on the show, per se — he just can’t believe it’s been nearly 15 years. Since then, Quinto has made major shifts beyond his transformation to leading man. After matter-of-factly coming out to the masses in 2011, he became an outspoken advocate for the LGBT community and has notably taken on subjects such as PrEP and gay teen suicide. The 38-year-old’s sexuality is a non-issue when it comes to his meandering career on TV, in film and on Broadway, as his varied typecast-defying roles demonstrate: Sylar Zachary Quinto, who thinks there is a lack of gay action stars, plays one in his new film. (Photo by Reiner Bajo) on NBC’s “Heroes,” Quinto’s sion; I felt really drawn to the story breakout role; the infamous the go-to gay when it comes to acthemselves. (of an ex-gay) and the nature of “American Horror Story” killer tion flicks and how he “definitely” I’m playing an antagonist the story. My whole take on the Bloody Face; James Franco’s lover thinks the world is ready for a gay again in this film. I think, for me, potential perceived limitations is in “I Am Michael”; and, of course, James Bond. Plus, why he believes, I really consider it a really nice just to not engage them and not Spock, the “Star Trek” icon he despite the recent Supreme Court bookend actually, because I’m allow them to exist — to me that is brought back to the big screen, ruling on marriage, our fight for very interested in cultivating other a choice. I know what I am capable ears and all. (He’s currently shootequality is far from over. experiences for myself creatively, of and I know what my range is, ing “Star Trek Beyond,” the reboot so I feel maybe like I can actively and I know that’s not limited by or franchise’s third installment.) [Chris Azzopardi | CA] “Hithang up the villain hat for a little even affected by my sexual orientaQuinto’s latest big-screen enman” centers on an assassin who’s while and do some other stuff. I tion. So, for me, it was just a matter deavor is the video game-inspired genetically engineered as the perreally am open to things as they of doing what I do and opening “Hitman: Agent 47,” wherein he fect killing machine. If you could present themselves. It’s a balance, myself up to the roles that present dials up the badassery as a CIA be engineered to do anything you you know? Making decisions every themselves, whether they’re gay agent you definitely do not want to wanted, what would that be? time an opportunity arises — I’m or straight, with a kind of creative grateful and fortunate to be in a integrity. That’s all I really feel is position to be able to do that. in my control and that’s the place I work from in terms of both pursu[CA] You were bullied as a kid, ing work and engaging work. so I find it interesting that you take on all these villain roles. Do you [CA] Do you think today — in draw upon those experiences when 2015, post marriage equality acting as the bad guy? — typecasting on the basis of an [ZQ] I’ve never drawn on those actor’s sexuality even exists? experiences creatively in that way. [ZQ] I don’t know. I mean, I It’s a lot about imagination. When don’t think it has anything to do you’re in a world like this, which with marriage equality — that vicis stylized and heightened and has tory has been won and has been a a sleekness to it, then it becomes really profound advancement to the about filling that world with the LGBT community. I think our real character that you’re playing and, fights for equality aren’t legal; it’s for me, that’s all about rooting it in the imaginary circumstances — one about humanity and compassion definition of acting is truthful behav- and inclusion. ior in imaginary circumstances. So, Even in the wake of marriage

equality you’re seeing all these county clerks who are refusing to issue marriage licenses, which is despicable and illegal. Just a few blocks from my house, these two guys — the first gay couple to be married out of West Point — were harassed in the bodega (in SoHo). It’s not behind us. The movement toward equality is bigger than just one legal issue, and that’s amazing that the highest law of the land has supported our struggle for civil rights, but civil rights is only one aspect of being a minority of any kind. It’s much more about human connection and respect in the long run and in a very broader sense, and I think that’s the fight that continues. [CA] Seeing as though “I Am Michael” is your first gay-themed film, would you have taken on that movie earlier in your career

before you became such an established actor? [ZQ] It was a different time. I don’t know if that movie would’ve been made. It’s hard to say. I mean, it came to me at the right time and it was the right thing for me to choose in that moment, but I don’t know the answer to that question. [CA] What was the process of developing your onscreen chemistry with James Franco for “I Am Michael”? [ZQ] For me it was just about relating to the guy. Franco has so much attention and he’s sort of this ubiquitous figure. A lot of people have opinions of him and a perspective on who he might be. For me it was just about cutting through all of that and getting to know him. I really enjoyed our time together and I respect what he was doing by putting that movie together and wanting to tell that story, so I was happy to be a part of it. I’m sure that kind of set the connection that we had in our work together. [CA] There is definitely a sense of intrigue regarding Franco’s persona. [ZQ] Yeah, and that seems like that’s his public persona, that’s his relationship with the public. There’s no clarity, really, as an actor, as a writer, as a director, as an artist; I think he’s just trying to do as much as he can and put as much out there as he can, and I respect that. He’s a really hard working, ambitious guy and I thought that his energy behind this movie was interesting and part of what compelled me to do it. [CA] With the exception of yourself, there are not any big-name out gay actors getting lead roles in action movies. Not Matt Bomer, not Andrew Rannells, not Neil Patrick Harris.

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RIGHTS order to live with your spouse • military family leave • housing allowance • access to legal assistance • access to all military facilities including recreation centers, bases, exchanges, and commissaries. Making sure that San Diego’s LGBT seniors understand what is available to them was so important to the U.S. government that on Wednesday, Sept. 30, Carolyn Colvin, acting commissioner of

informed decision-making and protection of rights. As seniors age, the cost of living goes up, not down; therefore, it is important for San Diego seniors not to leave money on the table, and get the benefits they are due through the Social Security program. Homelessness among seniors (55 years and older) was 60 percent in 2008 — the most recent data from U.S. Census. Senior homelessness is directly tied to financial insecurity. LGBT seniors –– and all seniors — need to fight for the independence and dignity of which we have worked a lifetime to gain. That’s why I support the Know

False claims sentencing delayed By Neal Putnam Todd Bosnich’s federal sentencing for false accusations he made against Carl DeMaio, his former boss, has been delayed until Nov. 3. Bosnich, 29, of Del Mar, pleaded guilty June 12 to obstruction of justice and admitted his claim of receiving threatening emails from DeMaio during his 2014 campaign for Congress was false. DeMaio had fired Bosnich earlier that year. After the ex-campaign staffer’s accusations surfaced, both the FBI and San Diego Police launched an investigation that, according to the U.S. Attor-

GAY NEWS BRIEFS CHEERS TO OSCAR AND GARY (L to r) William Kelly and Timothy Caudill at the morning event, which focused on LGBT Veterans. (Photo by F&L Media) the Social Security Administration, came to San Diego to lead two town hall meetings organized by Know Your Rights/California to inform all of us active older adults about our benefits and why it’s important (and how easy it is!) to apply for Social Security. When the Social Security program was first created by President Franklin D. Roosevelt, it was designed with a more rural population in mind — when families stayed together and Social Security benefits were meant to care for elders in adjunct to the family’s income. The landscape has changed and many programs still need to be overhauled. I’m not saying it’s perfect, but education comes first and is key to advocacy,

Your Rights/California initiative. File for Social Security, obtain the benefits that will help put bread on your table, pay bills and enhance your health and wellbeing. If you missed the town hall meetings, visit KnowYourRightsSD. com to access a taped webinar of the evening event, which will be available for several months. Share this information with your networks and friends as we want to continue the positive momentum of the initiative and make sure that all LGBT seniors get what they rightfully deserve. —Joselyn Harris is the vice president of the board of directors for the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and is an active community volunteer.t

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A year ago Gay San Diego told you the story of Oscar de la Salas and Gary Jackson — two Phoenix residents who had come to Coronado to say their wedding vows only to have a man throw slurs from a nearby balcony during the entire ceremony and ruin their special day [see “Love and Support from Coronado,” Vol. 5, Issue 20 or visit]. Once the news hit the airwaves, a group of women — all Coronado residents — came to their rescue and rallied the community to put on a wedding that the men would remember fondly. It was attended by large numbers of Coronado residents and local vendors kicked in everything possible to make the day special. The women began calling themselves “the Lady Islander Club,” and money was raised to pay for things not donated. Once the day had come and gone, they had to decide what to do with the funds that were leftover and decided to

ney’s office, was exhaustive and required extensive manpower and time. As a result of the lengthy inquisition, Bosnich admitted he had sent himself the threatening emails in question from a dummy Yahoo account that he had created. He had originally claimed the emails were from DeMaio, a Republican, during a vigorous campaign against Rep. Scott Peters (D-San Diego) for the 53rd congressional seat. Peters was re-elected in 2014. DeMaio, who also unsuccessfully ran for mayor in 2012 against Bob Filner, is a former councilmember who previously represented San Diego City use put it to more good use. On June 8, three of the women, Alisa Kerr, Kate Blumenthal and Rita Alipour, presented a “tolerance scholarship” to a student at Coronado High School. The student was chosen by teachers as the one who best exemplified kindness and tolerance. “As you know, this scholarship was the result of your donations to the gofundme account for Oscar De Las Salasand Gary Jackson ‘s wedding last year on Coronado,” Kerr said on the group’s Facebook page. “Your involvement and generosity continue to make a difference and promote acceptance.” The women now want to do this every year and to keep that going, they’ve launched their first official fundraiser. “Beer by the Bay” will take place one year to the day from Oscar and Gary’s “do over” wedding, Oct. 10, from noon to 5 p.m. at the Coronado Ferry Landing, located at 1201 First St., not far from where Oscar and Gary’s first wedding was interrupted. Beer tastings, local fare, a souvenir cup, local bands, swag bags for the first 100 people, a photo booth and more. Tickets are just $50 presale and $75 at the door. For more information, visit tinyurl. com/of663sn.t

Council District 5 for one term. The plea agreement with the U.S. Attorney’s office says Bosnich faces a maximum term of 20 years in federal prison. While it is likely he won’t receive the maximum penalty, it is possible he could get several years. He could also be sentenced to a halfway house or home detention. Bosnich was to be sentenced Oct. 5, but the hearing has been moved to the November date, without opposition by the prosecutor. He remains free on $10,000 bond.t

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ety, and I think there’s a lot of celebration in that. I think there’s a lot to be grateful for. The more that people from diverse backgrounds can stand up with integrity and integrate who they are in an authentic way into their creative process then everybody benefits and we all move forward together as a result. So I see myself as one of many, many people who have had their own journey that has defined them and contributed to the larger goals of advancement and equality, and that’s something that I’m proud of. But we can’t stop, and so I do invite any gay actor to be who they are and to stand up and fight for their capacity to play different roles and to do different things. The more people can do that and stand by it, the more we’ll see it continue as we already have.

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Zachary Quinto in a scene from his latest film. both of your hands the number of openly gay actors in any form, television or film. It was a totally different issue 15 years ago, and that’s not a very long amount of time to have made such progress. So, I do not disagree with you; I do feel like I occupy — not in any self-aggrandizing way — a space where I have looked to my peers and looked around me and said, “Well, who else can I look to?” And there isn’t anybody else. That to me is significant and personally gratifying as I consider my own journey to self-acceptance, but again, I just think, “Don’t let it slow me down.” And I don’t. I don’t create an issue where there isn’t one, and I think the more that we’re all able to do that then the more diversity will present itself. [CA] What do you think of the LGBT community’s evolution since your coming out in 2011? [ZQ] Look at the transgender movement: of course Laverne (Cox), and before Laverne, Candis Cayne, who was amazing on “Dirty Sexy Money.” And now with the emergence of Caitlyn Jenner, everything is changing. We’re rapidly evolving as a soci-

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[CA] In 2010, before you came out, you told the New York Times, “Let’s talk about something that matters.” Do you think celebrities do enough to speak out about and act on issues that can make positive change? [ZQ] Yeah — think about Leonardo DiCaprio’s commitment to the environment. Think about Amy Poehler’s commitment to the Worldwide Orphans Foundation. Think about Angelina Jolie’s work that she did in Cambodia to completely transform the landscape of that country. I do think there are socially responsible and conscientious members of the Hollywood community who stand up and fight for things they believe in. I think it’s important if you’re in a position to have a public platform that you at least, in some way, utilize it for the betterment of other people and the benefit of those who are less fortunate. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter (@ chrisazzopardi).t




Deep Inside Hollywood By Romeo San Vicente

Cynthia Nixon meets “James White” Josh Mond. You don’t know that name. It’s OK. He co-produced the acclaimed “Martha Marcy May Marlene,” and has just completed his debut feature, “James White,” which premieres at the Toronto International Film Festival in the Discovery Programme, and has already received the 2015 Sundance “Best of Next” Award. You do know Cynthia Nixon, however, and she’s one of that film’s cast members, alongside up-and-comer Christopher Abbott (“Girls”), Ron Livingston, musician Scott “Kid Cudi” Mescudi and Mackenzie Leigh (“Gotham”). The story revolves around a selfdestructive young man’s coming of age, and it’s earning the kind of buzz first-time filmmakers dream of getting. After its bow in Toronto, look for a November release for the serious-minded drama, just in time for those brooding winter months.

Stephen Fry is “Coming” The “Favorite Homosexual Award” doesn’t exist, but if it did, we’d want to give it to Stephen Fry

(“Wilde”) every day of his life. The British comic actor and writer is hilarious, wickedly clever, confidently old and paunchy, and, best of all, possessed of a steadfast refusal to suffer right-wing fools. So it’s always nice to hear about him working in something worthy of his talent. That would be the new comedy from James Oakley, “The Brits are Coming,” co-starring Fry alongside Tim Roth, Uma Thurman, Parker Posey,

Maggie Q and Alice Eve. Roth and Thurman play an eccentric con-artist couple in debt to gangster boss Maggie Q. After being sold out by former associate Fry, the pair have to stage a jewel heist to dissuade Q from, you know, murdering them. The movie is currently shooting in New York and due sometime in 2016.

Netflix’s trans teen show Acclaimed indie filmmakers Zal Batmanglij and Brit Marling (“Sound of My Voice”) are moving to Netflix. This makes perfect sense, of course, as the pair represents a kind of Hollywood refusal. Their movies have stubbornly resisted fitting into big studio marketing plans, and that’s exactly the kind of filmmaker Netflix programming has championed,

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resulting in the network’s critical and commercial success. Their upcoming series is called “The OA,” and the details are fairly secret, but we do know that it stars writer-actor Marling. We’ve also learned that a casting call is out for a teenage, Asian, transgender male, a person who will be carrying the weight of a major role in the project. Hollywood casting offices are not exactly clamoring to see young trans actors, so the role will most likely be filled by an unknown. But if you want more happy evidence that Time magazine’s “Trans Tipping Point” headline is becoming reality, here it is. And look for the show on Netflix in mid-2016. —Romeo San Vicente pretty much invented the practice of “Netflix and chill.” He can be reached care of this publication or at

Cynthia Nixon has a new gig. (Photo by Joe Seer)




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GAYBOWL Diego Bolts are up 51-50 against the Phoenix Hellraisers and they need to stop Phoenix from scoring on this play to win the game. Reissner watches anxiously from the sidelines as his defensive team prepares for the final ball snap. The whistle sounds, the ball is snapped and the play is in motion. The Bolts send three rushers to the Phoenix quarterback, which causes him to quickly throw the ball into the back corner of the end zone. Everyone holds their breath watching the ball sail into the air as two San Diego defensive-backs guard Phoenix’s wide receiver. But with the pressure from the triple rush, the quarterback’s ball lands out of bounds, ending the play as the final whistle blows. San Diego has won its third Gay Bowl in a row. While Reisser hopes to see his fourth win here in San Diego, there is more competition than ever before. This year — Gay Bowl XV — will be the largest ever, with 36 teams participating in three divisions: “Open A,” “Open B” and a Women’s division. San Diego alone has six teams competing in the tournament. Men’s teams include the defending Gay Bowl champion Bolts, the Toros, the Sharks, and the Vipers. The two

The local Babycakes flag football team shows their enthusiasm for the game. (Photo by Scott Donald)

A San Diego Bolts team member runs a play during GayBowl XIV. (Photo by Russ Edra) women’s teams adding to the mix are the Breakers, making their third appearance at Gay Bowl, and the Shredders, the newest women’s tournament team, making their first appearance.

San Diego’s success at Gay Bowl comes from a strong local league, the San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL). Going into its 13th season in 2016, the SDAFFL is one of the country’s

largest LGBT flag football leagues of its kind. Founded in 2004 with only a few teams, it has grown to its current membership of 300 players on 16-18 teams. The league is open to anyone over the age of 18 and currently boasts its most diverse population to date, with 75 percent of the league identifying as LGBT, including approximately 35 women, and 25 percent identifying as straight allies to the community. Steve Farrow is a nine-year SDAFFL veteran and the outgoing league commissioner. His last games will be played at this Gay Bowl before he retires from the league but he is leaving after a legacy of wins and a lifetime of friendships. “With the way the league is set up, it’s a great way for participants to meet new people and make new friends,” Farrow said. “Everything

we do is on a league level. I love watching new faces come into the league and by the end of the season it’s great to see them become part of the family. I don’t think there is any other league that is as successful at doing that than ours.” Many SDAFFL participants both past and present have expressed how most teams become a family as individual players grow close to each other over the course of a season on the fields, at practices, post-game socials and team bonding activities. As the competing San Diego teams enter Gay Bowl XV, they know the stakes are high, and the pressure is on. “These visiting teams are gunning to beat us on our home turf, so a win this year is more important than ever,” Reissner said. “No team has ever won four Gay Bowl Championships, let alone four in a row. Winning Gay Bowl XV would show everyone just how hard my teammates and I have worked throughout the years … [and will] put the San Diego Bolts, and the SDAFFL, in a league of their own.” But there’s something even more important than winning that Eric Reissner considers as the tournament approaches: how the league has impacted him personally. “I have been more passionate about very few things in my life than this flag football league,” he said. “The SDAFFL is what introduced me to life as a gay man and as a gay athlete. I have met the most amazing people because of this league, and formed ever-lasting relationships that I will cherish for the rest of my life. “This flag football league is literally the foundation of my ‘real’ life,” he continued. “It has allowed me to live my life as an openly gay athlete.” With the passion behind his drive and confidence in his team, Reissner enters his seventh Gay Bowl with a positive outlook for another win. Family, friends and fans of the SDAFFL will be watching the national tournament play out at the polo fields of the San Diego Polo Club, located 3855 Via de la Valle in Del Mar. Those fans will be watching and many hoping the San Diego Bolts will make histor y as the first team to win four Gay Bowls. For more information about Gay Bowl XV, visit Anyone interested in playing in the 2016 season of the San Diego American Flag Football League should register at beginning in January. Player clinics will be held late January/early February and the season will run from March to June. —Andrew Bergee sits on the board as the director of public relations for the San Diego American Flag Football League and has been an active member of the league for three years. He can be reached at


Columbus Day athletics Dugout Chatter Jeff Praught The Columbus Day holiday weekend promises to be an exciting and action-filled one in San Diego, as our city prepares to host a pair of huge sports tournaments. Autumn Classic America’s Finest Softball League (AFCSL) is hosting its 32nd annual Autumn Classic softball tournament, traditionally the third-largest LGBT softball tournament in the country behind the World Series and the Las Vegas Sin City Shootout. The B division is nearing an alltime record with 14 teams registered to play in the tournament’s highest level of competition. San Diego’s three B teams, the Spikes, Strike Force, and the Loft, are all entered. The Seattle Ball Hawk Brigayde boasts the honor of traveling the farthest distance in the B division for this event. B division games will be held beginning Saturday morning at the Poway SportsPlex USA. In the intermediate C division, a whopping 32 teams will participate. From San Diego, we have Firestorm, Lawmen, the Loft, Scorpions, Shameless, and Wicked fielding teams. The Boston X-Factors will be making the cross-country trip to battle for the C championship. C games will begin Saturday morning spread out at multiple venues: Santee Sportsplex USA and Mt. San Miguel in Chula Vista. In the D division, 29 teams will battle it out, including squads from

Vancouver and Philadelphia. Those games will begin Saturday morning at either Kit Carson Park in Escondido or at the Poway Sportsplex. The structure of the Autumn Classic is set up in two tiers. First, teams will play a pair of pool play games Saturday morning in order to determine a seeding. That seeding is then used to create the field for the tournament’s double-elimination bracket. Those games begin as early as 2 p.m. on Saturday afternoon. The basic idea in double elimination play is to win as many games in a row as possible on Saturday, advancing your way through the winner’s bracket. Once you suffer a loss, your team drops to the loser’s bracket and has to play a significant number of games just to reach the finals. Championship games in each division should be done around sunset on Sunday. The tournament will kick off the weekend in style on Oct. 9 with a registration party at Rich’s nightclub in Hillcrest. Following the event, the party moves next door to Flicks for an underwear contest among competing athletes. All told, 75 teams will compete in the Autumn Classic. Tournament schedules can be found online at Beginning this year, the Autumn Classic was split over two weekends, with the women hosting their part of the tournament early, over the final weekend of September and only saw nine teams compete. Traditionally, dozens of women’s teams take part in the Classic, but this year’s women’s World Series is being held in Orlando in October, making it difficult to

The Bolts QB receives the ball during GayBowl XIV. (Photo by Russ Edra) justify travel expenses for two tournaments. San Diego women’s teams claimed titles in all three divisions, with What Had Happened Was (B), Hot and Ready (C), and Looking 2 Score (D) bringing home trophies in their respective divisions. Gay Bowl XV The San Diego American Flag Football League (SDAFFL) will also

GAY SAN DIEGO Oct. 2 – 15, 2015 host Gay Bowl XV, the national title tournament for LGBT flag football. Thirty-four teams will compete in the open division, while nine teams will participate in the women’s division. Both are tournament records. San Diego will be hosting for the first time in a decade. This exciting event kicks off on Wednesday, Oct. 7 with a Kick-Off Party at Uptown Tavern in Hillcrest at 6 p.m. for those who choose to come to San Diego a little early. The main registration party takes place Thursday Oct. 8 at the Hilton in Mission Valley at 3 p.m., with a pool party and seeding pod lottery to create the game schedules. The party then moves to Flicks at 7 p.m., where Thursday Night Football will be on the TVs before the video bar’s weekly Flicker (complete with a DJ and go-go dancers). On Friday, Oct. 9, the women will


host a meet and greet at Gossip Grill at 6 p.m., while the men will be at Urban MO’s. Then, the flag football and softball worlds will collide with the aforementioned Cleats & Briefs underwear contest at Flicks, which begins at 9 p.m. There are actually games to be played, not just parties to be had, and those games will be played at the San Diego Polo Club in Rancho Santa Fe. Football will honor its champions with a closing party Sunday evening at Rich’s. Get more tournament information online at —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, having participated in softball, basketball, football and pool as a player, and serving on several boards in recent years. He can be reached at dugoutchatter@


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