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Volume 8 Issue 20 Sept. 29 – Oct. 12, 2017

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Stonewall Rebellion: It wasn’t Judy!


Perry Brass | LGBT History Project

Stewart and an LGBT track


The LGBT Center turns 45

9 THEATER (clockwise from top left) Latrice Royale; Violet; Alyssa; Shangela; Detox; and Kim Chi will be in San Diego for Werq the World. (All photos courtesy, except Latrice Royale – photo by Erika Wagner Artistry)

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RuPaul’s queens to descend upon San Diego as part of world tour By Margie Palmer

Plant life on steroids


After a sold-out 16-city tour through Europe, the queens of “RuPaul’s Drag Race” will soon unleash their own brand of hilarity and hijinks upon San Diego, on Thursday, Oct. 12.


The U.S. extension of their Werq the World Tour will be hosted by Shangela Laquifa Wadley of “RuPaul’s Drag Race” seasons two and three, and feature performances by some of the series’ most unforgettable queens, including Alyssa Edwards, Detox, Kim Chi, Latrice Royale, and

Violet Chachki, along with season nine favorites Peppermint and Valentina. “Our European audiences raved over Werq the World, and we’re thrilled to bring the exciting experience to our die-hard

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Wine time in a garden


Hillcrest is home to San Diego’s oldest wine bar By Frank Sabatini Jr.

A bounty of eat-in/take-out delights

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Back in 2000, when the notion of opening a bar that serves only wine was considered financially risky, longtime gay couple and world travelers Reuel Olin and Bob Grinchuk decided to take the gamble after returning from a trip to Paris. They were impressed by the city’s “unique civilization” of wine bars and the myriad varietals and artisan cheeses they served.

Months later, they purchased Waterloo Station, a dingy gay bar at 3968 Fifth Ave. in Hillcrest that had run it course. They renovated the space and turned it into The Wine Lover, adding a curvy marble-top bar, pinewood shelving and cherry wood cabinets to house an inventory of mostly California wines that were alien to cocktail bars. They soon added an adjoining patio to accommodate

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A quaint gay-friendly place for wine on Fifth Avenue (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Many things have been said and written about “Stonewall,” the historic confrontation in June 1969 after a police raid at the Stonewall Inn, a Mafia-run gay bar on Christopher Street in New York City’s Greenwich Village that ignited the Gay Revolution — and an incredible change in attitudes and feelings about queer people throughout the world.

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Editor’s Note: The LGBT History Project is an annual series sponsored by the Philadelphia Gay News, in keeping with October’s LGBT History Month. For 12 years, PGN has partnered with other LGBT media around the country to write and share “deeper dive,” factual articles about the history of the LGBT community. “Our mission is to present in-depth features on LGBT history that are based in fact, and will be a starting point for serious historians in the future,” says Mark Segal, publisher of Philadelphia Gay News. “This project, in many ways, has already changed the way academics look at our history, and in three cases has literally changed history. And this year, our groundbreaking work was used in the new Museum of the American Revolution. Together, as journalists and researchers, we are helping to change the perception of our community and giving it historical context.” Gay San Diego is pleased to share a selection of these articles with our readers through October.

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‘Directly in the shoes’ of others SD Int'l Film Fest represents unique film tracks, including LGBT Morgan M. Hurley | Editor The San Diego International Film Festival (SDIFF), held Oct. 4–8 and presented annually by the San Diego Film Foundation, is considered by many to be one of California’s premier events on the film festival circuit and is certainly something not to be missed by lovers of movies. Each year, in addition to bringing top quality mainstream and independent films to the San Diego region from up to 68 countries around the world, the five-day festival continues to expand its offering of LGBT-themed films. As in years past, the festival will have two “festival villages,” one in Downtown San Diego and the other in La Jolla. There will also be two screening locations, Regal Cinema UA Horton Plaza Downtown and ArcLight La Jolla UTC, and the new Pendry Hotel in the Gaslamp Quarter will act as the festival’s headquarters, where various panels and other special events will take place. In addition to the LGBT track, other unique film tracks this year include American Indian, environmental, equestrian, foreign, local, comedy, military and films of a social impact. “One of the most powerful aspects of film as a medium is its ability to place you directly

into the shoes of someone — and experience a new perspective,” said executive and artistic director Tonya Mantooth, who first curated the LGBT track when she took over in 2012. “This is vital in our community in creating empathy, understanding and recognition of the worlds we each navigate. I’m thrilled with the diverse offerings of LGBTQ films this year — sharing powerful stories and experiences from the LGBTQ community.” This year, the festival will be honoring Patrick Stewart, a longtime champion of the LGBT community, with the Gregory Peck Award for Excellence in Cinema. Past honorees include Annette Bening and Alan Arkin. Other honorees this year include actors Heather Graham, Blake Jenner and Kumail Nanjiani; as well as actor and filmmaker Taran Killam, of “Killing Gunter,” a film Killam wrote, directed and starred in, which also stars Arnold Schwarzenegger. Below is a list of the films included in SDiFF’s LGBT track. Fervent festivalgoers will recognize one from FilmOut San Diego’s recent festival, which took place in June.

“Thelma” (Norway) 116 min. ●● Friday, Oct. 6, 4:30 p.m. ●● Regal Theatre Horton


Norweigan film, “Thelma” In this supernatural horror-thriller film, a young college student begins to experience extreme seizures. As she falls in love, she soon discovers that these violent episodes are a symptom of her fantastic but often dangerous, powers and abilities. “Thelma” won “Best Foreign Language Film” at the recent 90th annual Academy Awards.

this engaging psychological thriller. Winner of the Muse Award for “Best Fiction Film” at the 2017 LA Film Festival.

“And Then There Was Eve” (USA) 98 min.

“The Lavender Scare” (USA) 78 min.


Horton Plaza With the Cold War and communism panic gripping the nation in the 1950s, President Dwight D. Eisenhower decided that homosexuals were “security risks” and vowed to rid the federal government of all employees discovered to be gay or lesbian. Tens of thouTodrick Hall in a scene from his sands lost their jobs and documentary (Courtesy SDiFF) some even lost their lives. But the mass firings had to write songs about growing an unintended effect: They stir up gay and black in small-town outrage in the gay community Texas, his difficult relationship and thrust an unlikely hero with his mom, and the harsh into the forefront of the LGBT realities of trying to make it in rights movement. show business. With the odds against him and limited time and budget, the former “American Idol” contestant’s passion and his team of talented performers overcome all obstacles to bring his powerfully inclusive and transformational message to the world. Editor’s note: To see a recent interview Frank Kameny marches for LGBT workers’ rights with Todrick Hall in Gay San Diego, Six-time award winner for visit “Best Documentary,” including at FilmOut. SDiFF takes place Oct. 4–8. Access to special events, VIP “Behind the Curtain: five-day festival passes ($600), Todrick Hall” five-day festival passes ($350), ●● Sunday, Oct. 8, 3:30 p.m. VIP weekend passes ($450), ●● Regal Theatre Horton weekend passes ($250), day Plaza passes ($75) and tickets for This documentary follows individual films ($16) are all Todrick Hall as he launches available at his full-scale original musical, “Straight Outta Oz.” Through a —Morgan M. Hurley can series of 16 videos shot over two be reached at morgan@sdcnn. weeks, we watch Hall struggle com.t

●● Saturday, Oct. 7, 3:30 p.m. ●● Regal Theatre Horton ●● Sunday, Oct. 8, 2:30 p.m. ●● ArcLight Theatre UTC

Waking one morning to find her apartment ransacked and her husband mysteriously missing, Alyssa, a successful photographer, is left without even a photograph to offer the police. She soon turns to Eve, her husband’s flirtatious and charming colleague. A talented jazz pianist, Eve helps Alyssa confront her husband’s longtime struggle with depression, and over time, accept his absence. Despite the unusual circumstances, Alyssa soon finds herself falling in love again in

A scene from “And Then There Was Eve,” winner of “Best Fiction Film” at LA Film Festival (Images courtesy SDiFF)

●● Sunday, Oct. 8, 1 p.m. ●● Regal Theatre



(l to r) Latrice will join the newest queens, both from season nine of “RuPaul’s Drag Race,” Peppermint and Valentina (Courtesy out and choreographed and I, for one, appreciate being part of something that’s so well thought out and not just slapped together,” Latrice said. fans in the USA,” Shangela “This isn’t one of those shows said. where everyone does their two Latrice Royale, who comnumbers and then come out for peted in 2012 along with a meet and greet at the end.” Chad Michaels on season four Latrice said the production of “RuPaul’s Drag Race,” was value of this tour alone, with crowned Miss Congeniality in its extensive choreography from that season’s finale. She and start to finish, separates it Michaels went on to both comfrom previous tours. pete against each other again “Any time you need to go to a in the first season of “RuPaul’s rehearsal for your tour, you’re doDrag Race: All Stars” later ing something right,” she added. that year. After San Diego, the Werq Since then, Latrice has been the World Tour will move up seen on a number of “Drag Race” the West Coast, hitting Los seasons and has performed nuAngeles, San Francisco and merous times here in San Diego, Portland, before heading east at both Urban MO’s and Rich’s through several Texas dates in support of local drag queens. and on to the East Coast. The Compton, California, The San Diego performance native told Gay San Diego will take place Thursday, Oct. 12, that she is excited to kick off from 8–11 p.m., at the Spreckels the U.S. extension of the tour, Theatre, located at 121 Broadway, adding that the diversity of the Downtown. Tickets start at $39. lineup is among her most favorFor more information or to ite aspects of the show. purchase tickets, visit werqthe“This is the ‘show of shows’ or call 888-885-8677. honey, and let me tell you, this You can also check out the event’s is one of the most diverse tours Facebook page at I’ve ever been on, because it’s not the skinny little white girl tour,” —Editor Morgan M. Hurley Latrice said, adding that there contributed to this report. is a lot more to this year’s tour, including talent and the perfor—Margie M. Palmer is a mances, than previous tours. San Diego-based freelance “Not only does it celebrate writer who has been racking different cultures, it brings up bylines in a myriad of news everyone together and reminds publications for the past 10 us that we’re all in this for the years. You can write to her at same cause,” she continued. “It’s a great group of girls and the show is jampacked with productions and dancers and hot sexiness. When you see it, you’re not even going to know what happened because you’re going to be so mind blown. I’m happy to be a part of it.” A second key component of the show, Latrice said, is that audience members will get to see Peppermint and Valentina, who are new to the tour and will be performing alongside wellknown queens who have been wowing audiences for years. “What’s great about this is that they can see the seasoned vets and they know they’re performing with some of the best of the best,” she said. “We’ve been doing this a lot longer than these up-and-coming girls and they can see why we’ve been in the game for so long. “We’ve stepped up our game and these girls want to impress their fans and they want to impress us too.” In addition to having a little bit of something for everyone, she added, the show’s production value is “through the roof,” which is among the top reasons fans should save the date. “This is a very well-produced show that’s well thought



Among them, it happened on the night of a full moon, so a lot of the craziness on the streets can be blamed on that — not true. Another rumor is that it was all sparked by the death and funeral — at Frank E. Campbell’s mortuary, uptown on Madison Avenue and 83rd, around the corner from the Metropolitan Museum — of gay icon Judy Garland. The “girls” were just so discombobulated by grief that they let go of all restraint and started breaking windows, uprooting parking meters (remember them?), throwing 40-pound garbage cans through the windows and even biting cops on the legs. Again, no! The “Judy Garland myth,” I’ve always felt, was the most pernicious of them all: Basically, it said that it took Garland’s death to make LGBT people angry enough to fight back. That was not true: We had been fighting back all along; there were numerous instances of us doing so against huge odds. Just a few were the melee at Cooper Donuts in L.A. in 1959; a 1965 action by San Francisco’s groundbreaking gay-friendly Council on Religion and the Homosexual when the cops tried to close down a drag ball the council sponsored to raise funds; also in 1965, the racially mixed “sit-in” at Dewey’s, an all-night coffee shop in Philadelphia’s Rittenhouse Square, after its management refused service to “masculine women and feminine men”; the famous and really brutal Compton’s Cafeteria riots in San Francisco in 1966; and the “Sip-in” at Julius’, an ostensibly straight bar in Greenwich Village, that same year. People who were at Stonewall (and I was around

the corner at another bar both nights, but came out for it on the second night) have all emphatically denied any Garland connection — including Thomas Lanigan-Schmidt, a reliable witness; the late Jerry Hoose, who was later in the Gay Liberation Front; and David Carter in his well-researched book “Stonewall: the Riots that Sparked the Gay Revolution.”

The beloved Judy Garland (Stock photo)

I can certainly say that, in my own youth, in that period, Garland was as far away from my mind as Uranus. Like most kids on their own in New York (I was 21 then), we were mostly centered on trying to survive in what was a much more contentious city. I describe New York in that period as a place of endless “class, race and ethnic resentment,” as well as knife-to-the-throat homophobia (police entrapment; regular violence and harassment on the streets; and at work, intimidation and even blackmail) that was only slightly moderated by having enough money — i.e. those often-talked-about “rich queens” — that you could float along in some bubble above street level. Power did not come from the streets then, as we later felt, when gay groups joined other identity groups and seriously organized. What the “Judy myth” did was make many older, “bourgeois” gay men, lesbians and their allies feel comfortable. If what happened at Stonewall was outside their comfort zone

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— and for many it was — they could feel all gooey and happy knowing that the “girls” were driven to this by some of the feelings they had: sadness over the death of Mickey Rooney’s girlfriend in those sweet 1930s musicals from their youth. As Mark Segal, publisher of PGN, said in a recent column about the Judy Myth: “It trivializes the riot and our actions, especially those of the street kids and trans people.” Trivializing us was a constant in that period: If queers did it, it had to be stupid, worthless or shallow. It could not come from any deeper feelings, and it certainly could not be born out of rage, anger, passion or honesty. It was certain we had none of these: We were the “decorative” elements of society that could be wiped away when mainstream power decided our presence was no longer worth it. So blaming a truly violent event of people standing up to the brute might of the New York City Police Department — with all its riot gear, tear gas, horses, squad cars, night sticks and guns — on the death, of all people, Judy Garland … well, you could certainly gloat about that around cocktails on the Upper East Side. You could do a great, superior “Tsk, tsk” about it. But it was a lie. Judy in her casket at Frank E. Campbell’s had nothing to do with Stonewall. We did. —Perry Brass’s 19 books include fiction, nonfiction, poetry, short stories and bestsellers like “The Manly Art of Seduction” and “King of Angels, A Novel About Childhood’s End and Sexual Awakening in Kennedy Era Savannah, Georgia.” His work often deals with the heartfelt feelings that came from his roots in New York’s Gay Liberation Front directly after the Stonewall uprising. He is a founding coordinator of the Rainbow Book Fair. More info at


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The San Diego LGBT Community Center: The founding Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton Editor’s note: This is the first in a three-part series. Imagine (or remember) a world before personal computers, cell phones, the internet, and social media. It was 1971, and the LGBT community was still reeling from Stonewall (1969) and the inclusion of homosexuality as a mental disorder in the 1968 Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). Same-sex sexual acts were considered criminal in all but the state of Illinois, in the United States.

It was into this environment, against a maelstrom of mainstream hate, that the San Diego LGBT Community Center (The Center) was born. At a time when “the love that dare not speak its name” truly could not be given a voice, it all started with a hotline and an answering machine, created and maintained by Jess Jessop in 1971. Realizing the need for expanded resources, Jessop pulled together a group of other courageous San Diegans to begin conceptualizing a space for the LGBT community. A planning committee was formed in 1972, and the “Center for Social Services,” the first chapter of “The Center” as we know it today, was incorporated as a 501(c)(3) in 1973.

The very first gay and lesbian social services resource center, incorporated in 1973, opened in this former halfway house in Golden Hill.

I recently had the honor of sitting down with some of the founding members, staff and volunteers who kept the doors open in those fledgling years, to share in their stories and be inspired by their courage and motivation. Joining me in one of The Center’s community conference rooms were founding committee members, Patricia Byers, Jerry Peterson and Cynthia Wallace; military legal counselor, Bridget Wilson; and The Center’s former executive director, Jeri Dilno, who served in that role from 1975 to 1978. We opened with a discussion about the steps it took to make the conceptual leap from an answering machine-based hotline, to a functioning resource center. “The first priority for the planning committee was just to find a place, and to get the doors open,” Byers recalled. “The location we found [2250 B St.], was being used as a halfway house for folks transitioning from prison, so the neighborhood was not that unhappy when we took over the space. From there came training from professionals who were willing to mentor us, so we could deal with the folks who came through those doors.” Today, “intersectionality” is a watchword in LGBTQ rights advocacy movements, but this aspect has always been a part of the community. It is important to remember that the “Gay Liberation” movement, which

Jess Jessop mans the first hotline available to San Diego gays and lesbians, which he launched in 1971. (Photos courtesy Lambda Archives of San Diego) first took place in 1970, coexisted with the civil rights movements for African-Americans and Women’s Liberation. “For me, I was dealing with civil rights as an AfricanAmerican, women’s rights as a woman, and gay rights as well,” Wallace explained. “Even though they all seem to come from the center of rights and wanting to live as a full citizen within your own country, it still presented itself in many different layers.” For many, just having a room populated by other LGBT individuals was a phenomenon many community members had never experienced. “There was such a sense of relief to just be in a room full of gay people, to be able to talk about what they had experienced and what they were feeling,” Peterson said. “We were able to provide an alternative from the bar scene, at which so many gay men and women were too intimidated to engage. That was the space we created.” “For so many, we were the first individuals that a gay person would talk to, who would tell them that they were alright and that there was nothing wrong with them,” Wilson added. “We began to normalize people’s lives for them.” When Dilno took the helm as executive director in 1975, The Center was in its “toddler stages,” as the interviewees defined that period, but the bones of the organization were solid, if perhaps shrouded in a bit of subterfuge. Supported in part by funds from the United Way, the organization could not even acknowledge that they were an LGBT-focused resource center. Nonetheless, in a time before “easy communication,” folks in need found their way there. “The first week that I was there, I found a young man hiding under the stairwell,” Dilno remembered. “I walked over to talk with him and learned that he was an 18-year old Marine, who had ‘escaped’ from Camp Pendleton, after being beat up. Because of the work of the founders, there was a structure in place and I was able to connect him to the ACLU, who took over the situation, but on that day, I realized that this was not a normal 9-to-5 job. You just never knew what

would come through the door, or what that day’s adventure might be.” The “Center for Social Services” continued to evolve throughout the 1970s, addressing needs and building connections, including the initial outreach of the LGBT community to the San Diego police force and the facilitation of resources for the heavy LGBT military population, many who were returning from Vietnam. We closed our conversation with a reflection of the founders, describing what it felt like to be sitting in a room at the 2017 version of The Center, knowing that this started with the seed they planted and nourished. “I would say that the years I put into The Center are the years I’m most proud of,” Byers said. “It was inspiring, hard, and a difficult thing to do, but I love the people that I met, and I’m proud of what we were able to accomplish, especially at such a young age.” “This is what we dreamed about; this was the fantasy,” Wilson continued. “In the beginning, it was just us ‘kids’ doing everything, from counseling folks to fixing the toilets, for a decade. Now, seeing the comprehensive and specialized services at today’s Center, I have lived to see how our dedication has paid off.” “Every time I walk in this building, I wish that Jess was here to see what his vision has become,” Peterson added. “It’s unbelievable to see how far we’ve come.” The Center is celebrating its 45th anniversary this year, with their “Sapphire Gala” to be held Oct. 21 at the Hotel del Coronado. Tickets are available at This is the first in a threepart series celebrating the evolution of the San Diego LGBT Community Center through those 45 years. Stay tuned next month, as we dive into the 1980-90s. —Ian D. Morton is the director of operations at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and produces the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ youth conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to ian@


The Tao of travel Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel For seven years I read the book, “365 Tao,” and did the daily meditations. Taoism — an ancient Eastern philosophy — emphasizes compassion, spontaneity and harmony with nature. It says “go with the flow” and don’t be attached to things happening in a certain way. Easy to say, not so easy to do. One thing that might surprise you, however: Taoism believes that one of the best ways to know yourself is to travel. I agree. I just returned from two weeks in Idaho and Montana, with a bit of Oregon and Washington thrown in, too. So, what did I learn about myself and what can travel teach us? We get to see who we are without our friends, jobs and usual hangouts. While traveling, we may meet people who stretch our consciousness. Whenever I travel, I try to meet people unlike myself and my circle of friends. I have conversations with Trump-lovers and truck-drivers alike. I try not to judge and aim to listen with an open mind. During my recent travels, I ate in small-town diners and stayed in mom-and-pop hotels. I talked to the people who worked there and other visitors who stayed there. I learned new things about this “bigger” world

around me and discovered who I am when I’m out of my comfort zone. I like to travel alone: I meet so many people that way. I like traveling with friends and lovers, too, but in traveling with others I find myself in a cocoon where it’s all too easy to talk with the people I came with and not meet strangers. If you rarely travel alone, you are missing quite an adventure; you get to see what it’s like to enjoy your own company, follow your intuition, and not have to compromise with other people’s needs. When I am in a romantic relationship, I like to travel both with my partner and on my own. I make sure I get to do both and I encourage my partner to do the same. It’s so great to miss someone, isn’t it? There is an old Bette Midler joke: “How can I miss you if you never go away?” Exactly. Some people think it’s scary to travel alone … and, they’re right. When you have only yourself (and the kindness of strangers) to rely on, it’s different from living surrounded by familiar friends and places. I have experienced many kindnesses from total strangers when traveling alone. Like the guy I met at a (straight) sports bar in Twin Falls, Idaho, who told me what kind of sandwich to order at the bar, the most scenic route to take to my next destination (he was a truck driver), and where to stop for dinner. I spoke with a great librarian in Missoula, Montana, who told me all about books I’ve never heard of.

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The manager of a hotel in Ontario, Oregon, told me the funniest stories about hotel guests doing weird stuff, and then she invited me to join her and her staff for a drink at a local bar. I went, of course. And I learned more difficult things, like how judgmental I am when people don’t see things my way. I sometimes cursed the drivers in various states when they pulled out in front of me with almost no warning (or space). I got frustrated when there was no cell phone service and I couldn’t ask Siri for directions, and I was discouraged when I couldn’t find fresh vegetables anywhere in the rural towns I happened to be in. But, overall, it was good. I saw my flaws oh-so-clearly and was encouraged to work on them. I am also repeatedly reminded when traveling, that by meeting people with different beliefs and views of the world, I grow wiser and more compassionate. Traveling also reminds me that experiences are much more valuable than “things” (psychological studies back this up). I encourage you to put it to the test and find your own Tao of travel. On Saturday, Sept. 30, I will be reading from my book, “The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage,” at the Barnes & Noble Bookstore at Grossmont Center in La Mesa from 1–3 p.m. Consider yourself invited! —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

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Letters Be smart about hepatitis A

The County of San Diego is experiencing a hepatitis A outbreak, which has significant ramifications for the gay male community in San Diego. This outbreak is not food borne. The outbreak is currently centered in the homeless and injection and other drug-using communities through close person-to-person contact. However, the outbreak is already jumping to other populations and there are over 440 cases with 16 deaths. The gay male population is a community at high risk for this disease. It is imperative that we get the word out to gay men, especially those who have multiple partners and/or use injection and other drugs. We know from the HIV epidemic that there are a significant number of gay men who engage in both behaviors. Fortunately there is a vaccine for hepatitis A. The vaccine is available at the County STD Clinic, located at 3851 Rosecrans St. in the Sports Arena area, at most community health centers, and from your health care provider. Until you get vaccinated, wash your hands before you eat; yes, it can be that simple. Do not eat sample foods provided in group settings — farmers markets, fairs,

retail food stores, etc., as a precautionary measure — do not directly touch handles on restroom doors. Once this virus jumps to the gay male community it will spread rapidly unless basic precautions are taken. Don’t be dumb about your health. Hepatitis is nothing to fool with. Get vaccinated!! —Terry Cunningham, health care consultant, via email

A ‘more respectful’ place for memorial needed

[Ref: “Design stage for AIDS Memorial,” Vol. 8, Issue 18, or online at bit. ly/2yocoiU.] Editor’s note: This letter was received here at Gay San Diego, but was addressed to the mayor, all city councilmembers and the AIDS Memorial Task Force. The Bankers Hill Community Group (BHCG) has serious concern regarding the chosen site for the San Diego AIDS Memorial in Olive Street Park. Not only does the AIDS memorial warrant a more respectful and visible location within the San Diego region, but the lack of transparency and public process over the site selection, the shortage of funds available to build a memorial, and the insufficient integration between the park and memorial designs are

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Guest Editorial

The anniversary of my aortic dissection By Eric Carroll It was a hot summer in 2011, by San Diego standards. A few years into any relationship, things tend to slow down and a few pounds come on. But I was noticing that I would eat, go for a short walk and break into a sweat. I wasn’t an athlete, but I certainly wasn’t a couch potato. I was very active. Something felt wrong. Later that month, I went to a regularly scheduled yearly checkup and left with flying colors. All good. I could lose some pounds and eat more vegetables. Who couldn’t? However, by the beginning of that September, I was in a class literally sweating like I was in a sauna. I excused myself, but dismissed it as hormonal. I thought it was man-o-pause. About a week later, I found myself on my sofa, eating a bowl of ramen (this was before ramen was cool). My partner was away on a business trip. I just wanted a quiet night on the sofa. As cliché as it sounds, out of nowhere my heart began to pound. Incredible, unfamiliar pain, along with shortness of breath; I was dizzy and began sweating profusely. Sharp, throbbing pains in my — (Oh crap, am I having a heart attack?) To be honest, I really didn’t know what a heart attack would feel like, and all EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Perry Brass Eric Carroll Kit-Bacon Gressitt Michael Kimmel Jean Lowerison Ian Morton Margie M. Palmer Frank Sabatini Jr. WEB AND SOCIAL MEDIA Sara Butler, x120

I had for reference was the old man on TV clutching his chest and dropping dead. I called my partner and explained my symptoms. He said, “Call 911!” but like any completely sane 42-year-old man, I decided it was important to consult Google before I make a premature assessment of the situation. Let’s see, type-type-type “heart pounding, shortness of breath, dizziness, chest pains,” hit enter. In big red bold underlined letters that stared back at me, it said: DIAL 911 NOW. YOU MAY BE HAVING A HEART ATTACK. Thanks Google! But first I should tidy up the kitchen. If I drop dead I don’t want my mother to know what a slob I was. Oh god, all I have in the fridge is chocolate syrup and baking soda. I dialed 911 and spoke with someone who had a calming, yet stern voice. Not sure what I said, but I did have just enough wherewithal to unlock my front door, gather some comfy clothes (changed my underwear, of course) and my cell phone (remember your charger!) and throw them in a bag. Somewhere in this blur, I think my partner, who no longer could reach me on my cell, made a call to my good friends — one of whom, is a registered nurse. We’ll call him Nurse Pepper to protect his anonymity. I probably asked Nurse Pepper if COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Annie Burchard, x 105 Michele Camarda, x116 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 Brenda Vergara, x114 INTERNS Alex Ehrie Czarina Greaney Erik Guerrero SENIOR INTERN Jennifer Gottschalk

Local community member Eric Carroll shares a very personal experience (Courtesy the author) he thought I might be having a heart attack. It gets fuzzy. Then I went out front, sat on the stoop, waited for the EMT and pondered for a minute what a bummer it would be if I just died here. Like who, for no good reason, is sitting on the sofa and drops dead? Bam. It’s funny, in those moments I came to accept the possibility of dying. Not a bright white light kind of acceptance. Just poof. A dead poof. Moments later, the fire department was at the gate. It was very “Chicago Fire” from how I selectively remember it. The ambulance arrives. (Pump me full of more drugs, please. How much will this cost? I bet this will cost me $2,500! ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza

DISTRIBUTION Gay San Diego is distributed free every other Friday of the month. © 2017. All rights reserved. PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951 Thank Obama I have insurance.) Pass out. Oxygen. Wake up. Emergency Room. Lots of questions. Note: Don’t make snarky comments about your denomination when they ask. They are quite serious. (Why on earth has no one written down what I am allergic to?) Tests, lots of wires, monitors. Questions. Beeping things. My friend the nurse and his husband showed up. I came to learn later that no one could find out which hospital I was at, so my partner thought I might be dead. Poor thing. I said to them, “They think I’m having a panic attack. Why would I be having a panic attack?” Reminder, I was sitting on the sofa, and just had a full physical. Back to the ER. 2 a.m.? 4 a.m.? Test for enzymes or something. Another EKG. Those little round things attached to wires that rip out your chest hair and leave sticky glue on you for weeks. My friends were still hanging out with me, so we were chatting about random things. At some point, it seems like they turn the lights down in the ER to keep things calm and give you a sense of time. Nice doctor-type person comes to my side. “Well, we can’t find anything that suggests you had a heart attack. We’re going to release you in the morning.” (What? Oh no, no, no … This isn’t normal.) Sure, I’m delirious from Demerol and deprived of oxygen. (What do I know? Maybe I did have a panic attack?) And here’s where the story takes its turn. Spoiler alert! You see, since I’m writing this, I am not dead. Nurse friend, being in “the biz” and all, asks another medical-type person if they should maybe perhaps run another test … just to be sure. They agreed and brought me to one of those big MRIs or CAT scanners. Some acronym. Later, nice doctor-type comes back in and says something like, “Mr. Carroll, blah blah blah, we’re going to schedule surgery for you in the morning. We have a team coming in. We’ve discovered you have an acute dissection of the ascending aorta.” (What the hell is an aorta?) “Also, you have a congenital defect of one of your heart valves and we’re going to need to replace it.” (Huh?) He drew what looked like a bunch of circles and tubes and arrows on some piece of paper. I had the option of replacing a valve with a pig valve or a mechanical valve. Hmmm, let’s see … I’m against medical

experimentation on animals, so I’ll take the mechanical heart valve behind door No. 3. Nurse Pepper helped me make that decision. (Really, I have no idea what a heart valve is, so go for it.) I would end up having open-heart surgery. Thank goodness I wore my clean underwear! Now, I want to be 100 percent clear about something. Despite all the tests, the hospital had previously come to the conclusion that I was not having a heart attack. It is not standard protocol, if the symptoms aren’t there, to perform a detailed scan of your heart. According to the National Institute of Health, most aneurysms are actually found during tests done for other reasons. Advocate! I have the utmost respect of everyone in the health field. Lots of people did an amazing job keeping me alive. My partner and friends were treated with respect and consideration. I was blown away by the professionalism of everyone. However, the problem was undetected because no one was looking for it. This is important. Aneurysms are asymptomatic, so 95 percent of the time people don’t even know if they’ve had one. This story about television actor Alan Thicke, who recently died from a ruptured aorta, explains Mind you, as a gay guy, having survived the first years of the AIDS pandemic, several car wrecks, and numerous times stumbling home through bad neighborhoods at 2 a.m., the last thing I thought about was having an actual real health problem. I’ve lost dozens and dozens of friends to AIDS and watched numerous people die of other long-term illnesses. Women in the community have known this for a while. Yup, if you don’t die, you get older and human stuff happens to you, too. This was the first time I had something truly scary happening to me. Did I see this coming? I want to jog your memory, as you may or may not have heard about the untimely and sudden deaths of “Three’s Company” star, John Ritter in 2003 and fellow TV star Thicke last year. Thicke was playing hockey, felt chest pains, collapsed, was taken to the ER and was dead in three hours. The assumption was he had a heart attack — later it was revealed in the autopsy report that he had a ruptured aorta. According to the CDC, aortic aneurysms were the primary

see Dissection, pg 15

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LETTERS not the ingredients that will create a worthy park plan or result in a beloved neighborhood park. Furthermore, the park priorities that emerged from a public workshop put on by the BHCG in July 2016 did not support an AIDS memorial at this location. The San Diego AIDS Memorial warrants a respectful and visible location within the region. The right location would include restrooms, vehicular and bike parking, and an adequate gathering space for special ceremonies such as the memorial’s dedication. Olive Street Park is tucked into the Bankers Hill neighborhood at a dead end street and is not intended to have restrooms or parking included on the site, nor is neighborhood parking readily available. Additionally, the memorial is proposed to share the programming of this compact park site with a children’s playground. The lack of transparency and public process in choosing the Olive Street Park location for the memorial is also of significant issue. San Diego is home to one of the first AIDS hospices within the country (Dr. Brad Truax House), because our city has been so highly impacted by this disease and, as a result of this impact, the decisions about this memorial are of large public interest. The AIDS Task Force should be subject to the Brown Act and hold open public meetings that are noticed on the city’s website, and the task force should be instructed to involve the public in their decision-making process, such as site selection and memorial design. Further, as the Port Authority has previously agreed to house the memorial prominently along the waterfront, and other more respectful available locations have also been dismissed, it is important for the AIDS Task Force to make public the reasons why they believe Olive Street Park to be the right location for the San Diego AIDS Memorial. With approximately $40,000, the AIDS Task Force has not raised enough funds to design and build a San Diego AIDS Memorial. Due to the shortage of funding, this does not appear to be compatible with the Olive Street Park design and construction schedule, which is funded. Although there are news reports stating that funds for the memorial would come from the sale of the Dr. Brad Truax House, the BHCG understands these proceeds will have to revert to the gas tax fund and cannot be transferred to pay for the memorial. Further, this gas tax fund is taxpayer money, and therefore, not eligible to pay for a private AIDS memorial. Eliminating this confusion and connecting these dots to explain how this memorial will be financed would give the public confidence in this process and resolve some of the larger transparency issues that are haunting this task force. Finally, the design for the San Diego AIDS Memorial

is currently unknown and so cannot be integrated into the plan or design for Olive Street Park, which will have a third and final public meeting in October. The San Diego AIDS Memorial deserves to have a park or space specifically designed for this use. If located in Olive Street Park, the program and design of the park will be completed before the memorial is designed. These may or may not be compatible with each other. And since the compact nature and programming of this park is not going to support a sizable memorial, a contextual memorial at this site is likely one that is substantially subdued and/or smaller in scale, but this would not pay nearly enough respect to the many we have lost to AIDS. Additionally, at the July 2016 meeting of the BHCG, a public workshop was held to specifically discuss priorities for Olive Street Park and a letter was submitted to Councilmember Gloria explaining those who will likely use the park most do not support locating a regional AIDS memorial here. With approximately 50 people in attendance, including members of the family who donated this land long ago, the priorities that emerged were to pay tribute to the family and house that was once located here, provide access to Maple Canyon, and to develop a landscape that is for passive park uses, which would not include a children’s playground. The BHCG strongly encourages the mayor, council members, and task force members to visit the Olive Street Park site to better understand and support these concerns about this location for a San Diego regional AIDS memorial. The BHCG fully supports an AIDS memorial in San Diego that follows a transparent and open public process, but for the abundant reasons listed, we know Olive Street Park is not an appropriate location. Further, we request the AIDS Task Force make public their reasons for choosing the Olive Street Park site over the multiple other more respectful and available locations within San Diego. —Amie Hayes, president, Bankers Hill Community Group

Support for RISE

[Ref: “When we RISE,” Vol. 8, Issue 19, or online at bit. ly/2fnbRpQ.] So glad to see coverage of RISE in Gay San Diego! It’s such an important organization, and I’ve learned so many attending many of their breakfast discussions over the last couple years. Looking forward to the luncheon on Oct. 9!

Monogamous or open marriage

[Ref: “Gay marriage: Monogamous or open? Part 1,” Vol. 8, Issue 12, or online bit. ly/2tKpzIv and “More with Kimmel, Part 2, ” Vol. 8, Issue 13, or online at] I’ve been looking everywhere for literature for gay

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married couples. Great insights – I can’t wait to give the book a read and share this with my clients! —Jan Alfred Valdes, via

Hillcrest’s ‘Clean & Safe’

[Ref: “Hillcrest gets aggressive,” Vol. 8, Issue 19, or online at bit. ly/2fMRCTm.] Thanks for this update. I am looking forward to these walkabouts! —Sue, via I can’t believe that anyone has to go walking about to see what everyone has been complaining about for weeks/ months now. Systems should already be in place to keep these areas clean. It doesn’t take a “rocket scientist” to figure out what needs to be done in Hillcrest’s usual places. If you have to go walking about, maybe you don’t spend any time in Hillcrest, or do not live here. If you have to go walking about, then maybe the HBA is not doing their job in keeping Hillcrest “Clean & Safe” … especially for the money these business owners might be paying. Real leadership would just take care of what needs taking care of instead of making it a big dog and pony show. Just shut up and get it done. —Gregory May, via gay-sd. com Washington Street around the hospitals and medical offices down, seems to be neglected almost forgotten. Trash from the Jack in the Box litters Front Street. Third Avenue and Washington Street around the CVS is scary and fi lthy. —John Williamson, via You state in your article the HBA’s goal is to keep Hillcrest “Clean and Safe.” Have you not walked the sidewalks of Hillcrest in the past few months? I have never lived in a city where the sidewalks are covered with filth … grease from restaurants and other contaminants. Why doesn’t he HBA contract to have the sidewalks power washed at least once a month? Filth invites more filth. If they were really serious about making Hillcrest great again they would do the simple things rather than just being an organization that collects money from the businesses with little to show for it. Get going and start power washing the sidewalks. —Frank Kary, via gay-sd. com Thank you to the HBA for continuing to work hard to improve the neighborhood with creative solutions to difficult problems, many of which we have little control over. I’m also looking forward to attending some of the upcoming Walkabouts! —Benny, vice chair, Hillcrest Town Council —Letters to the editor can be sent to Comments can also be made on our website or Facebook page.t


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WINE LOVER cigarette smokers disgruntled over California’s ban on smoking inside of bars and restaurants. In no time, The Wine Lover became a novel departure for consumers seeking quieter and more sophisticated drinking establishments, ranking as San Diego’s second wine bar at the time and the first in Uptown. (Predating it was The Grape, which opened Downtown in the late ’90s and shuttered several years ago.) Now under different ownership, The Wine Lover reigns as our city’s oldest wine bar. It has also outlived others that came and went throughout Hillcrest,

such as Wine Steals, The Wine Encounter, Jake’s on 6th, and Crush. Helming the operation is sommelier Serge Chable, his brother Nick, and their mother Gini. The trio purchased the business in 2011 after Olin and Grinchuk moved to Palm Springs. Serge initially spent about nine months working for the couple as a wine tender while pursuing his level-2 sommelier certification through the Court of Master Sommeliers. Along the way, he helped them expand their inventory and organize onsite wine tastings. “I started reaching out to more wine reps and bringing in a bigger selection of better wines,” he said, adding that his wine knowledge originally took root from working in various

front-of-the-house positions for Roy’s restaurant, Donovan’s Steak and Chop House, George’s at the Cove and the former Cavaillon. Nick had also worked in the fine-dining industry and learned the ins and outs of selling wine to customers. “After my first day of helping to open Eddie V’s as a server, Serge called to tell me there was an offer to buy The Wine Lover that we couldn’t refuse,” Nick said. “So I took the leap of faith and ended up working only one day at Eddie V’s.” The two brothers and their mom began making cosmetic changes to the business, focusing mostly on the patio. “I used to have to beg people to sit out there,” Serge said. “There were no tablecloths and most of the plants were fake.”

The flora-filled patio is set back from the street at this Fifth Avenue wine bar in Hillcrest.

attheCenter events att tuesday, Oct. 3

Wednesday, Oct. 4

Community Food Bank

Guys, Games & Grub

9-10:30 am, the Center

6-8:30 pm, the Center

The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at

Everyone is welcome to The Center on the first Wednesday of each month for GGG! The popular game and social night, presented by Men @ The Center, includes pizza, snacks, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hundreds of board games to choose from. Come alone and meet new friends, or come with a group for a fun evening out! Team Trivia, hosted by John Lockhart, begins at 6:30 pm and everyone is welcome to drop in. Suggested donation of $5 is requested for admission. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at outreach@ or 619.692.2077 x106.

tuesday, Oct. 3 Families at The Center presents:

Conversations & Connections 6 pm, the Center Are you a parent or guardian of an LGBTQ+ youth? We would love to have you join us for Conversations & Connections. This meetup is designed to provide support to parents/guardians of LGBTQ+ youth. Conversations & Connections is a safe space to find community and a place to discuss how to support your LGBTQ+ youth. Light refreshments will be served. This group will meet every 1st Tuesday of the month. Questions? Contact em Jackson at or 619.692.2077 x212. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077 Twitter: @LGBTCenter

Saturday, Oct. 14

(l to r) Brothers Nick and Serge Chable of Wine Lover (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) So in came black linens and a host of live flora growing from plant beds that run along three sides of the cozy patio, which is fronted by an equally quaint sidewalk patio. At night, colored uplights illuminate some the greenery, as the brothers send out low-volume tunes from playlists that don’t exclude jazz and classic rock. During the Christmas season, their mom takes the honors for elegantly decorating the patio and interior, the latter of which shows off artfully placed driftwood and handmade signs highlighting the wine selection. Under its previous ownership, The Wine Lover had a reputation for being pricey, whereby a bottle of chardonnay or zinfandel with a cheese plate might cost $50 or more. Visit now during late-night happy hour, which starts at 9 p.m., or any time after 5 p.m. on Fridays, and you can score a bottle of wine selected by the house plus a two-item cheese board with fruit, nuts, olives and bread for $35. The Wine Lover stocks nearly 200 labels from global regions by the bottle and offers about 35 choices by the glass. The selections change frequently. Bottles consumed on the premises or purchased to go generally cost between $25 and $40, but can climb as high as $200 for “trophy bottles” from esteemed Napa Valley producers, such as Perry Moore and Beckstoffer/Dr. Crane Vineyards. “I look for the best wines I can get that are value-driven and buy straight from the wine makers — even for the European wines, which are half my inventory,” Serge said.

“You learn something new every day about wine,” Nick added. “My favorites since running The Wine Lover are Rhone blends, syrahs and grenaches. And I love crisp, clean European whites, too.” The brothers admit that operating a wine bar is a labor of love. “The margins for wine are very short,” Nick continued. “You’re not going to buy Porsches and Ferraris from doing this. But me and Serge love to teach people about a wine they might want to drink for the next million days of their lives.” In addition to meat and cheese boards, the food menu extends to bruschetta, a spinach-cranberry salad with goat cheese, and a chicken panini made with smoked poultry from Brazen BBQ Smokehouse a couple doors down. Other specials and events throughout the week include: buy one bottle and get a second of equal or less value for 50 percent off on Tuesdays; sample “back shelf” wines on Wednesdays, when four-pour flights of the bar’s higher-end inventory cost $17; and “hang with somm” on Thursdays as customers get to pick the brains of Serge and the winemakers and purveyors he sometimes hosts. The Wine Lover is located at 3968 Fifth Ave. For more information, call 619-294-9200 or visit —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at

hillcrest Wind ensemble: a Change of Pace 7 pm, First Unitarian Universalist Church The Hillcrest Wind Ensemble presents its Fall concert at the beautiful First Unitarian Universalist Church (4190 Front St). Pieces with a Spanish influence will be cleverly interspersed with music of the great American composer and arranger, Sammy Nestico. In addition to a night of fabulous music, a bake sale will be featured during intermission. Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at the door. Buy yours at The Windsmith (3875 Granada Ave) or at For more information, visit

Old and New World wines fill the cubbies in Wine Lover's comfortable interior.


GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 29 – Oct. 12, 2017


Run to see ‘Little Shop of Horrors’ Theater Review Jean Lowerison Owning a flower shop on Skid Row is probably not high on anyone’s list of getrich-quick schemes, and Mr. Mushnik, after enough years of near-starvation, is announcing the closure of his Skid Row Florists. But Mushnik’s two employees have another idea. Nerdy clerk Seymour and pretty salesgirl Audrey suggest that putting a new, interesting plant in the front window might bring in potential customers. And it so happens that amateur botanist Seymour picked up a most intriguing variation of a Venus flytrap during a solar eclipse. He’s named it Audrey II. Sure enough, Audrey II does the trick, customers flock in, and soon the media want Seymour for interviews. The camp horror favorite “Little Shop of Horrors” is back, in a fine — and fun — production through Oct. 15 at Coronado Playhouse, wonderfully directed and choreographed by Shirley Johnston. Seymour is sweet on Audrey, but she is hanging out with a “semi-sadist” dentist named Orin who gives her nothing but verbal abuse and black eyes. Mushnik is demanding that Seymour nurse their new star — the anemic-looking Audrey II — back to health. Seymour tries everything, but when he sings “What do you want from me, blood?” Audrey II smiles (if that’s quite the word).

‘Little Shop of Horrors’ Thursdays through Sundays Through Oct. 15 Coronado Playhouse 1835 Strand Way 619-435-4856

Yep, Audrey II craves blood. Human blood. A few drops from Seymour after pricking his finger on a rose thorn perks her right up and sets up the rest of the plot — and the play’s most famous line: “Feed me!” With music by Alan Menken, book and lyrics by Howard Ashman, this show is a total hoot. This production gives it all the camp it deserves, including a groovy doo-wop trio of Brooke Henderson, Myranda Young and Stephanie Nesbitt that does both stand-alone and backup numbers. Steven Jensen, Connor Boyd and Dani Leandra head the cast as Mushnik, Seymour and Audrey, and a better trio is difficult to imagine. Boyd is charming and funny as the skinny, bespectacled Seymour, trying to figure out how to get out of his unwanted job as procurer for the insatiable plant that just keeps growing and getting hungrier. And kudos to puppeteer Joe Fitzpatrick, who taught the actors how to be Audrey II. Jensen is an ideal foil for Seymour as Mushnik, who can’t believe this clumsy kid solved his financial problems so easily. Dani Leandra — perfect as Audrey, the girl with the big chest and tiny self-esteem — will break your heart with her settling-down ballad “Somewhere That’s Green.” But the character you won’t forget is Edgar DiazGutierrez’s spectacularly sadistic dentist (l to r) Steven Jensen as Mushnik, owner of Skid and all-around awful Row Florists, and Connor Boyd as Seymour, the person Orin. He also horticulturist who helps turn the business around has a horrifyingly (Photo by Ken Jacques) wondrous laugh that

(l to r) Seymour, played by Connor Boyd, longs for his coworker Audrey, played by Dani Leandra (Photo by Ken Jacques)

inspires both giggles and shivers.Kudos also to conductor/ pianist Kirk Valles and the mighty trio that complete the band. I suppose there are lessons to be learned here — about fame, greed and the desire for recognition — but they’re couched in a score with such crazy-but-fascinating characters that you may not even notice them. Give yourself a break and visit Mushnik’s soon. —Jean Lowerison is a long-standing member of the San Diego Theatre Critics Circle and can be reached at

Audrey II, an increasingly hungry Venus Flytrap, with Connor Boyd, who plays horticulturist Seymour, in “Little Shop of Horrors” (Photo by Ken Jacques)



GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 29 – Oct. 12, 2017

MOUTHFULS OF FOOD AT LAZY ACRES MARKET Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. I never cared much for soda drinks, cookies and chicken cordon bleu. But that all changed when grazing through the prepared foods section of Lazy Acres Natural Market, the upscale organic-conscious grocery store that recently opened in Mission Hills. Hang left after entering and you’ll see the area’s first food station, where smoothies are made to order and fresh orange juice, kombucha and “natural” house sodas are available from self-serve taps. If you’re struck by indecision, ask for a sample. The same applies when proceeding to the bakery, the sushi/ ceviche counter, the soup/salad bar, the deli, etc. In their grand-opening fever, staffers are eager to captivate you with the store’s bounty of eat-in and takeout delights. Just

A double-sided salad bar features dozens of fresh ingredients

be careful your eyes and taste buds don’t jump ahead of your wallet because this isn’t the cheapest of places to buy fresh meals and groceries. Sipping from a small sample cup of kefir soda containing apple, ginger and lemongrass resulted in a 16-ounce purchase for $5.99. So invigorating and non-cloying, I would have paid even more for the stuff. In another visit I bought an icy “strawberry strut” smoothie for a buck less, a decent deal given that tangy yogurt, a banana, and apple and orange juices also go into it. In addition to cake pops, macarons, fruit pies and other pretty desserts, Lazy Acres’ signature bakery item is “the cookie.” Priced at $2.99, it’s a big, beastly thing combining Belgian chocolate, walnuts and sea salt. Mine still had a trace of gooey warmth in the center, and yours probably will, too, because they’re baked regularly throughout the day. Chocolate cookies always taste the same to me, but not this one.

Multi-layered turkey lasagna stacked high

“A must-see!” East County Gazette

Abundant heirloom tomatoes in the produce aisle A glistening array of raw and cooked seafood marks the counter where you order poke bowls, ceviche and sushi rolls. I haven’t purchased any of them yet, but I did ask for a sample of the spicy salmon poke, which was dynamically seasoned without obliterating the clean essence of the fish. Dozens of colorful, freshly chopped veggies, cheeses and proteins comprise the two-sided salad bar, headed up at one end with abundant lettuces. The bar was exceptionally clean and tidy in both visits. The possibilities are infinite when you’re staring at everything from peas and jicama and yellow bell peppers to roasted carrots and cauliflower, crumbled Gorgonzola and salad dressings like miso-ginger and vegan ranch. A nearby island of hot foods features meats and garnishments for making tacos. I skipped the tortillas and other fixings and tossed into my supposedly biodegradable carton some cubed lemon-chicken and shredded carnitas. Both were under-flavored and a little dry,

An ample dining area fronts the new Lazy Acres Natural Market. (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

and the pork was chewier than I expected. But a few chafing dishes down, past chicken enchiladas and salmon Italiano, is where I found a winner — chicken cordon bleu. None of the stuffed breasts showed scrapes, breaks or leaks in their sturdy breading. I bought one ($8.99) and savored its crispy exterior and judicious filling of Swiss cheese and smoky ham. Unlike versions I’ve had in restaurants and from other markets, this wasn’t messy or overly salty or fraught with gristle. My favorite purchase so far has been the ground turkey lasagna, found in a deli case of prepared cold foods that include pasta and potato salads, grilled lemon-herb tofu, meatballs and a bunch of other items fit for a gourmet picnic basket. The lasagna is the tallest-standing I’ve seen anywhere. It visually upstages everything

Book by Kirsten Guenther Music by Nolan Gasser Lyrics by Mindi Dickstein Based on the Metro-Goldwyn-Mayer motion picture written by Barry Berman and Leslie McNeil Directed by Jack Cummings III

Now Playing! Limited engagement through October 22. Bryce Pinkham. Photo by Jim Cox.

“Leaves you beaming with joy!” The New York Times

A seafood station for sushi, poke and ceviche

Written and performed by

James Lecesne Directed by

Tony Speciale Original music by

Duncan Sheik Starts Saturday! Limited engagement through October 29

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The upcoming Bankers Hill Fall Festival will bring together many of the neighborhood’s core restaurants as they offer ticketed guests samples of their signature dishes. They’ll be joined by dozens of other businesses such as boutiques, fitness studios and art galleries that will provide information and demos about their products. The walk-around event will be held from 1 to 5 p.m.,

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San Diego’s growing brigade of chefs splashing onto reality cooking shows has most recently come to include Brien O’Brien, a Pacific Beach resident selected to compete within a posse of 20 contestants for season eight of Fox’s “MasterChef” series. O’Brien, a self-taught chef, was eliminated from the competition after several episodes and came away with

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Chef Frank Terzoli is bringing seafood to a wine bar. (Courtesy Alternative Strategies)

Fishmonger’s Market is due to open Oct. 3 inside 57 Degrees, an expansive wine and beer bar with a retail component in Middletown. The venture, headed by celebrity chef Frank Terzoli, doubles as a restaurant and market specializing in seafood dishes such as lobster salad, Florida grouper sandwiches, maple-glazed Alaskan halibut and more. Terzoli is a past winner of Food Network’s “Cutthroat Kitchen” and “Cutthroat Kitchen Masters.” He was also a contestant on Bravo’s “Top Chef,” from which he earned the nickname, “Frankie the Bull.” 1535 Hancock St.,

The mother of all steakhouses is Born & Raised (Photo by Heartwork Hill) Fine dining has returned in all its glory with the recent opening of Born & Raised, a $6.2 million recreation of a classic American steakhouse in Little Italy by CH Projects, which includes in its portfolio Soda & Swine, Underbelly, Craft & Commerce, Neighborhood and other urban hotspots. The 10,000-square-foot restaurant is situated in a remodeled warehouse and spans two levels. Designed by Basile Studio, it features curved leather booths, terrazzo flooring, Art Deco-style pillars and

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Bestselling author and journalist Steven Gaines is prolific. With 13 published books, nine of them in the realm of biography, Gaines has made an art of getting into other people’s heads — and letting them into his. He has written or co-written insightful portrayals of such luminaries as The Beatles, Alice Cooper, The Beach Boys, and fashion designers Halston and Calvin Klein. But a year ago, Gaines took a literary leap into a new realm; memoir, and he landed well. “One of These Things First” was re-released this month in paperback by Delphinium, and Gaines will be appearing at the Barnes & Noble, in the Grossmont Center, at noon on Oct. 6, to discuss the book. In “One of These Things First,” Gaines turned his literary talents to himself, revealing his youthful suicide attempt, obsessive compensations for sexual urges he didn’t understand, struggles against Freudian analysis, and his delight in co-existing with the glitterati who nurtured and nagged him in a hoity-toity Manhattan psychiatric hospital. “I spent my whole life writing about other people,” Gaines said, “and this was really the story I wanted to tell in the first place. People said to me ‘You were so brave.’ I don’t feel I was so brave at all. There’s an important lesson to be told.” As Gaines described it, “This is about a gay boy who tries to kill himself.” It’s a painfully true and common lesson. Indeed, the book begins with the 15-year-old Gaines’ studied suicide attempt in the back of his grandparents’ Brooklyn bra and girdle shop, in 1962. But it’s a juxtaposition dusted with dark humor that persists through Gaines’ harrowing and happier moments. Indeed, “One of These Things First” propels the reader from one Coney Island coaster high to a gut roiling plunge and up again. Gaines effectively captured the characters of his childhood, and his subsequent six months in the psychiatric hospital, which was funded by his charming, philandering grandfather, with an astute eye and a sharp wit. Gaines’ people are wonderfully, horribly human. There’s Fat Anna, who “regularly wore the black raiment of an Italian widow, although her husband, a plumber named Angelo, was alive and well. She hugged me with her hammy arms when she saw me, and gave the top of my head a kiss.” And Arnie, “balding” and “doughy,” who joined Gaines’ “Culver Luncheonette antagonist, Irv,” to serve up chocolate milk and taunts to the boy, for being a “fairy.”

His teacher father, who battled anti-Semitism by changing the family name, from Goldberg to Gaines — the latter snagged from the Flatbush Avenue Oldsmobile dealership, when they couldn’t come up with anything better. Gaines’ fellow patient, Richard Halliday, husband of actress Mary Martin and “a tall, elegant, middle-aged man wearing pleated tan slacks and an ivory silk shirt buttoned to his neck, like a Mandarin.” He entertained Gaines while disdaining him and his Brooklyn table manners. The “lawnmower boy” who was “a deity in whom I invested all my yearnings.” And, Dr. Wayne Myers, the psychiatric hospital resident, who told Gaines, “Homosexuality can be cured, like many other disorders. The key thing is, it’s a tough row to hoe, and you have to really want to change.” Under the doctor’s aegis, Gaines continued to challenge his homosexuality, but eventually began to understand the futility of that. Acceptance, however, was a process. “I didn’t want to be a professional homosexual,” he said. “I didn’t want everything to be involved with my being gay. Back then, it was really about dancing all night, taking a lot of drugs, having sex anywhere and everywhere, but it didn’t make me feel good in the end. One of the things I was afraid of is that I’d be ghettoized and I didn’t want that. “Now, everyone knows that I am gay, I’ve been out so long — since ’72 or ’73 — just three years after Stonewall. Today, it’s much more sophisticated and there are goals other than going to the gym and having big pecs. It’s much more serious now. It’s become a very important social movement and cultural movement.” In Gaines’ next book, he plans to continue his story through the subsequent years of trying to be something he wasn’t. “I realized I had to be gay,” he said. “So I’m going to talk about those next 10 years, another memoir. At my age, I don’t want to live with someone else in my head.” To meet Gaines and hear him discuss “One of These Things First,” visit Barnes & Noble, located at 5500 Grossmont Center Drive, in La Mesa’s Grossmont Center, Oct. 6 at noon, where he will also be signing copies of the book. To learn more about Gaines and his books, visit stevengaines. com. —Kit-Bacon Gressitt formerly wrote for the North County Times. She currently writes commentary and essays on her blog and is a founding editor of WritersResist. com. She also hosts Fallbrook’s monthly Writers Read authors series and open mic. Reach her at

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Friday, Sept. 29 Wine and Canvas: Come out for some artsy fun at Fabrison's French Creperie Cafe. You don’t have to be an artist to have fun. Admission $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by-20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas. Wine and food not included. Tonight’s art selection is “France Poppies.” 6–9 p.m. at Fabrison's French Creperie Café, 1425 India St. in Little Italy. Visit

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AIDS Walk and Run: Local individuals, teams, social clubs, businesses, schools, universities and faith organizations will come together for the AIDS Walk and Run. The walk will remember the many who were lost to AIDS and will raise vital funds to support all of the San Diegans living today with the HIV disease. Register at 6–10 a.m. in Hillcrest. Visit

Saturday, Sept. 30 and Sunday, Oct. 1

Adams Avenue Street Fair: The 36th annual street fair features 80 musical acts on six stages. The free two-day music festival also features beer gardens, beer tastings, giant carnival rides, festival foods, 300 arts and crafts booths, and miscellaneous vendors. 10 a.m.–10 p.m. on Saturday, Sept. 30; 10 a.m.–6 p.m. on Sunday, Oct. 1. Visit

Sunday, Oct. 1

Dragalicious Gospel Brunch at Lips: Join Sister Nun-of-the-Above (Tootie) and the Sisters of Sequin for a church session that is done correctly. For just $19.95 you get an entrée, sides, unlimited mimosas, Champagne, bloodys and a dragalicious drag show. First seating between 11–11:30 a.m., second seating at 1:30 p.m. $5 cover. Reservations required. 3036 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit bit. ly/2xsplvl or

Monday, Oct. 2

Transgender Coming Out Group: This weekly group supports transgender people in all stages of exploring gender identity. Open to transgender women and men, genderqueer/gender non-conforming people, people who are intersex and those questioning their gender identity. Significant others, friends, family and allies are welcome to attend with their transgender loved ones. 7–8:30 p.m. at The Center, 3909 Centre St. Email trans@thecentersd. org, call 619-692-2077 x109 or visit Mazing Mondays at the Caliph: Come sing along to the songs of your past with Carol Curtis from 5–8 p.m. and enjoy karaoke with Danny from 8:30 p.m.–12:30 a.m. at this easy-going cocktail bar and lounge that has been in our community since 1960. Happy hour 4:30 p.m.–1 a.m. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

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Live entertainment – Ann Hampton Callaway: Singer Ann Hampton Callaway has crafted an exciting night of music centered on the tunes of women songwriters who have inspired her, including Billie Holiday, Carole King and Dorothy Field. See her perform these female classics as well as her original songs at Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave. in Hillcrest. $70 plus $15 per person food or drink minimum. Doors 6 p.m., show 8 p.m. Visit

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Hotel Rooftop, 1835 Columbia St. Visit or Live theater – ‘The Absolute Brightness of Leonard Pelkey’: This Trevor Project fundraiser will be a one-man show at The Old Globe. James Lecesne, co-founder of The Trevor Project, is the playwright and solo performer of the play. Tickets start at $100 and include play admission, a donation to The Trevor Project, and a post-show reception with refreshments, where you can meet Lecesne. 8–11 p.m. at the Old Globe, 1363 Old Globe Way in Balboa Park. Visit or bit. ly/2xsZiUQ.

GGG Game and Trivia Night: Everyone is welcome to kick off the fall season with Men @ The Center for an evening of Live Team Trivia, board games, food, drinks and socializing. San Diego’s legendary John Lockhart will host. Pizza, beverages, snacks and hundreds of board games will be provided. Suggested $5 donation. 6 p.m. at The Center, 3909 Centre St. Contact Benny Cartwright at 619-692-2077 x106 or visit bit. ly/2xu0DL8.

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San Diego International Film Festival: The San Diego International Film Festival is back. The annual event features film screenings — including an LGBT track, panels, celebrity guests and special events. Buy passes and tickets at bit. ly/2eU3l1q. Various times and locations. Visit

Thursday, Oct. 5

First Thursday Bonfire on the Beach: San Diego LGBT Young Women’s Circle will host a community beach bonfire. 7–8:30 p.m. at Ocean Beach. More details to come; check their Facebook event page for updates. Visit Official ‘Will & Grace’ viewing party: Every Thursday night through Nov. 16, come watch the next chapter of everyone’s favorite series, “Will & Grace.” Pick your best gal pal and grab your gaggle of gays – the upper deck will be turned into a “Will & Grace”-stylized living room with plenty of sass and drink specials. 8:30 p.m. Enjoy the show on all screens and a big screen on the patio. First come, first served. Urban MO’s Bar and Grill, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Saturday, Oct. 7

South Park Walkabout: Enjoy the quarterly evening festival that showcases all the unique and independent businesses in South Park. Enjoy complimentary treats, live entertainment and special offers. Free trolley arrives every 15 minutes at four stops. 6–10 p.m. at Grape Street Square. Visit bit. ly/2xspIGf. South Bark Dog Wash anniversary: During the South Park Walkabout, stop by South Bark Dog Wash to celebrate their 17 years in business. Food and drink will be served. Diana DeAugustine will paint live pet portraits and Charmaine Gray Photography will showcase her pet photography. Visit bit. ly/2xs72GL. Successful Aging Expo: The San Diego Union-Tribune’s one-day expo features more than 160 vendors and all-day entertainment. Expert speakers will present the latest on health issues, financial planning, travel and more. Free admission, parking $13. 9 a.m.–4 p.m. at Del Mar Fairgrounds. Visit or

Friday, Oct. 6

SDPix presents Top of the Bay: Enjoy amazing views and first-rate entertainment at The Porto Vista! Top of the Bay is the original LGBT happy hour and it embodies the San Diego spirit. Social hour at 6 p.m. Rotating DJ performances 7–10 p.m. Free roundtrip shuttle between Porto Vista and Rich’s, with free entry into Rich’s until midnight. Porto Vista

Sunday, Oct. 8

Beware of the Bear Brunch: Uptown Tavern presents their first Bear Brunch. Special food and drink options will be offered. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. at Uptown Tavern, 1236 University Ave. Visit

Monday, Oct. 9

RISE third anniversary and diversity and inclusion awards: Join RISE San Diego’s honorary event

Tuesday, Oct. 10

Taste of Mission Hills: Experience the sixth annual event of palate-pleasing “tastes” in Mission Hills. The event will feature 24 participating venues. Advance tickets are $25 and day-of tickets are $30. Only 600 tickets are available. Ticket price includes free Old Town Trolley shuttle transportation. 5–9 p.m. For tickets, a list of participating restaurants and more information, visit

Wednesday, Oct. 11

National Coming Out Day: The County of San Diego LGBT and Allies Association will host a National Coming Out Day Resource Fair. Receive information, get resources and listen to speakers. Presentations include: “The Importance of Being Out at Work,” “Being a Good Ally,” “Supporting LGBTQ Youth” and “Advocating for Trans People.” Refreshments will be provided by Rubio’s Coastal Grill while supplies last. 11:30 a.m.–1 p.m. at 5540 Overland Ave. Visit bit. ly/2xspWgp.

Wednesday, Oct. 11 and Thursday, Oct. 12

Live entertainment – Miss Richfield in ‘2020 Vision’: Known for her unique take on audience participation and comedic songs/ videos, Miss Richfield will bring her message of hope and survival to San Diego. She will perform “2020 Vision: A Survival Guide For The New World!” at Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave. in Hillcrest. $30–$40 plus $15 per person food or drink minimum. Doors 6 p.m., show 8 p.m. Visit bit. ly/2xs57lo.

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1 Family docs 4 ISP invested in PlanetOut Partners 7 Story about a man scattering his seed, e.g. 14 Virginia Woolf novel 16 “My own private” state resident? 17 Go to the bottom 18 With 19-Across, act overturned in the Supreme Court by Edie & Thea’s suit 19 See 18-Across 21 Ariz. clock setting 22 Coin in Nureyev’s pocket 23 Robert De ___ 25 Crude material 27 Poet who inspired “Cats,” initially 28 “You just gotta have ___ or you’re out of luck” (“Funny Girl”) 31 Moan, like Albert to Armand 33 Crowd at the gay rodeo? 35 Bert, to Ernie 36 Takei of “Star Trek”

committee to recognize local champions of diversity and inclusion. The special event will also celebrate RISE’s first three years of successfully fostering urban leadership and civic engagement in San Diego. 11:30 a.m.–1 p.m. at Jacobs Center for Neighborhood Innovation, 404 Euclid Ave. Contact 619531-7473 or Visit Tickets $75–$125 at bit. ly/2fOITjg.

37 With 59-Across, “Edie & Thea: ___” (2017 film) 40 Homo’s tail? 43 Former Pakistan president 44 Vast area in Asia 48 Popular variety of nuts 49 Jewelle Gomez’s “___ Stories” 51 ___ Tin Tin 52 Very hairy swinger 53 One side of Ed Wood 55 Areas between hills 57 Charlotte of “Facts of Life” 59 See 37-Across 62 Thea Spyer’s wife Edie 64 Relevant to Greer? 65 Cockamamie 66 Willa Cather character 67 “Naked” David 68 Lawyer’s thing 69 Like McCullers’ cafe

1 Come out, perhaps 2 Like Liberace’s sequins 3 Enjoy the bedroom 4 Mitchell of NBC News 5 River of Ulrichs’ country 6 Petty of “Orange Is the New Black” 7 Like an irregular tongue 8 “Do” in “The Sound of Music” 9 WWII fighter pilots of Eng. 10 Deep throat sound 11 Yves’ evening utterance 12 Avoiding premature ejaculation 13 Uey from WSW 15 Like a thermometer that tastes funny 20 Process for Niles or Frasier 24 Wilson of “Zoolander” 26 Writer Harper 29 Kind of sheet 30 Elton John’s “Act of ___” 32 Boss of “The Dukes of Hazzard” 34 What a computer may spit out

36 Stick it in the slow ones 38 Rhames of “Holiday Heart” 39 Like Abner, before Viagra? 40 Emissions-watching org. 41 Return to a theme, to Bernstein 42 Swimmer where sailors cruise 45 What Joan of Arc was maid of 46 Years that go both ways? 47 Word of preference 49 Gay mag and others? 50 Heads off 54 Téa of “Spanglish” 56 BB’s, e.g. 58 Barry Humphries' Dame 60 Tutti-frutti ingredient 61 Trait carrier 62 “Till There ___ You” 63 Title for Ian McKellen


DISSECTION or contributing cause of about 25,000 deaths in the U.S. The John Ritter Foundation says that aortic dissections can mimic a heart attack and if not detected and treated, nearly 40 percent of all incidents of aortic dissection can lead to death. Aortic dissections. Aneurysms. Ruptured aortas. Aortas are the large arteries that leave the heart and bring blood to your brain and other parts of the body. In layperson’s terms, it’s kind of like

when there’s a leak in a dam … you can fix the hole, or eventually the dam bursts. Aortas can split open, burst like a balloon and you bleed out. The mortality threat increases 1 percent for every hour it goes untreated. An aortic dissection refers to the tearing of the aorta, which if not repaired, can lead to an aneurysm … a balloon-like bulge in an artery that can burst, and cause immediate death. An aneurysm in a blood vessel that bleeds into the brain can lead to stroke or death. A patient with an aneurysm may not experience any symptoms until the aneurysm begins

to expand or “leak” blood into nearby tissue. The symptoms come on suddenly, and if not detected, mortality is high. So it wasn’t a heart attack. I don’t know why that gives me a greater sense of comfort, but ironically, people tend to think it is something you were doing wrong that causes a heart attack. Go figure. Contributing risk factors for me, however, were likely the pre-existing condition — a malformed valve, and the fact I had two chest wall contusions (when a steering wheel hit the heart area). So in my totally non-professional opinion, here is some food for thought:

GAY SAN DIEGO Sept. 29 – Oct. 12, 2017 1) Always dial 911 if you think you’re having a heart attack. 2) If you’re not feeling right, tell your doctor. If they’re not available, go to urgent care. Don’t hesitate to tell them everything. Speak in real words. Sometimes I think we put physicians on such a high pedestal that we don’t think we are worth their time. You are ultimately responsible for your health. You know your body better than anyone else. 3) As far as I understand, you have one human body. It isn’t replaceable. Many people don’t have the luxury to have $500,000 worth of health care. It’s a shame, and sadly for many, a far-off possibility


I just celebrated my six-year anniversary. I’m not dead and life goes on but it’s pretty real. Now I know what an aorta and heart valve are and I wanted you to know, too. Find out more about the warning signs by reading the Ritter Rules at the John Ritter Foundation website, —Eric Carroll is the membership and marketing coordinator for the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA), the local LGBT Chamber of Commerce. You can follow him on Facebook, ericcarrollsd.t


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