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Volume 7 Issue 17 Aug. 19 - Sept. 1, 2016

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40 years of Orchids and Onions


Annual juried event shakes up the neighborhoods Our torchbearer comes to town


By Dave Fidlin

Rabbi Laurie Coskey (center), the new CEO of United Way, marches proudly in the recent San Diego Pride Parade. It was United Way’s first ever contingent. (Photo by Ryan Morris Miller Photography)


United she stands

the Park West neighborhood — part of an interfaith outreach program. She is also chair of the Trustee Advisory Council for the San Diego Community College District. In mid-July, Coskey took over as president and CEO “I lost my last name in the of United Way of San Diego early 2000s,” the North Park County, a nonprofit based in resident said with a smile, “beClairemont Mesa with a mulcause I was a message vessel timillion-dollar budget. She for poverty issues in San Diego.” believes she was chosen for Coskey is known far and wide the job because of her reputafor her activism and advocacy for tion, as she put it, as a “bridge social justice, LGBT rights, and builder” and “trusted broker.” improving public education for One of her first acts with children. She holds the title of United Way involved building rabbi in residence at St. Paul’s bridges. Episcopal Cathedral — a very see Coskey, pg 13 LGBT-friendly church located in

‘Bridge builder’ making a difference, from LGBT community to United Way Ken Williams | Contributing Editor Just call her “Rabbi Laurie.” Everybody else does. Whether speaking as a chaplain at the Orlando Pulse memorial ceremony at the San Diego LGBT Community Center in Hillcrest or hosting Comic-Con as chair of the San Diego Convention Center Corporation, Rabbi Laurie Coskey is affectionately greeted as simply, “Rabbi Laurie.”

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Other than starting with the letter “o,” orchids and onions, of course, are plants that are polar opposites. Adorned by their sweet fragrance, orchids boast widespread, flowering plants. Onions, by contrast, are plain in appearance and offer a pungent taste and smell. This juxtaposition has been the focal point of the San Diego Architectural Foundation’s (SDAF) Orchids and Onions juried awards program since its inception in 1976. Architecture, landscape architecture, historic preservation and interior design work considered as “orchids,” are praised for eye-catching considerations, while “onion” designees are oftentimes skewered as missed opportunities.

see Orchids, pg 16

Two men and a bistro Giving SDHDF some props

Gay-owned San Diego Desserts widens its niche


By Frank Sabatini Jr.

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What began as a modest wholesaler of pastries and cakes in a storefront situated on the cusp of El Cerrito and Rolando has come to include a stylish bistro, where “sexy steak” burgers and chicken Diane are served to live entertainment held on most nights of the week. San Diego Desserts was launched in 1999 by Mark Leisman, a graduate of Scottsdale Culinary Institute, and Arturo Juarez, who worked with the homeless for San Diego County. They met nearly 20 years ago at Numbers in Hillcrest.

Now married, the couple has since expanded their reach with Bistro Sixty, which occupies a chunk of space they previously used for storage. The restaurant, which employs a mostly gay staff, features an enclosed patio and a bar that serves a small selection of craft beers and about 100 different wines, most of which are available by the glass. The wholesale end of their business, however, is particularly robust. Leisman said sales of San Diego Desserts’ confections to hotels, catering companies and restaurants amount to nearly $750,000 a year. In addition, he sells about 35 to 40 cakes per month to individual retail customers. As head baker and executive chef, Leisman catered his own wedding, which was celebrated over two consecutive days.

(l to r) Arturuo Juarez and Mark Leisman, partners in both life and business, assemble chicken pot pies at Bistro Sixty (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) “We didn’t have cake, but I made mini dessert bites for about 100 family members and close friends who came to our ceremony at a friend’s house,” he said. “Then the following

day, we closed down the bistro and I cooked and baked for about 250 devoted customers for that reception.”

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This is H.E.R. Etheridge to give San Diego a piece of her heart Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Melissa Etheridge hasn’t performed in San Diego for a while, but fans of her music — and that of renowned 1980s artist Pat Benatar — are about to get reacquainted when she appears at San Diego State’s Cal Coast Credit Union Open Air Theatre, Tuesday, Aug. 23, at 7:30 p.m. The rock star, who married her girlfriend Linda Wallen in 2014 shortly after marriage equality passed, has carried the torch of the LGBT community for decades, ever since her very public coming out at President Bill Clinton’s inauguration after-party in 1992. Six years later, when Matthew Shepard was murdered, Etheridge wrote the hauntingly powerful “Scarecrow,” which to this day remains as important as the day she picked up her guitar and pen to write it. This past June, she picked up guitar and pen again, writing “Pulse,” after a lone gunman entered an LGBT

nightclub of the same name in Orlando, Florida, killing 49 people and severely injuring many more. Gay San Diego asked her what that writing process is like. She admitted that as a songwriter — and even as a writer in general — she tends to look at society and “interpret” it, becoming the “voice and the mirror for our community, or a nation, or a world, or humanity in general.” However, she said situations like Matthew Shepard’s death or what happened in Orlando are felt on a different level because of her connection to them. Etheridge got her start in the music

“I am human … I am love … and my heart beats with my blood … love will always win … underneath the skin, everybody’s got a pulse.” —“Pulse” by Melissa Etheridge business playing in numerous LGBT clubs and had her fi rst break when a music producer caught her act at Que Sera, the Long Beach lesbian bar she paid homage to in “Cherry Avenue” on her 1999 “Breakdown” album. “When something hits so directly into my heart, when I could close my eyes and know exactly what was going on in that bar — because I’ve been

in a million of them — and to know that our bars are our community gathering spaces; they are not like other bars, they’re places where we can be ourselves,” she said. “We can meet people, we can gather and we can have joy. And to have everything cut down in such a horrific way, knowing instantly the only reason someone brings a machine gun in and can do that is that they themselves hate their own homosexuality so much. “That we kill ourselves is just … it boggles the mind,” she continued. “And that’s where I found myself on that day June 12 when I was trying to comprehend all of this and put it down in music.” As a result, her lyrics in “Pulse” try to unite rather than demonize. “Everybody’s got a pain inside … imaginary wounds they fight to hide … how can I hate them … when everybody’s got a pulse.” Those wishing to download “Pulse” can do so from Soundcloud, iTunes, Spotify or any other outlet and she said all proceeds go to Equality Florida. Since releasing “Melissa Etheridge” in 1989, the Leavenworth, Kansas, native has released 13 studio albums, two compilations, been nominated for 13 Grammys, won two (1993’s “Ain’t it Heavy” and 1994’s “Come to my Window) and won an Academy Award (“I Need to Wake Up” from the documentary, “An Inconvenient Truth”). She’s been busy. She’s also a cancer survivor.

Melissa Etheridge returns to San Diego Aug. 23. (Photo by John Tsiavis) During her iconic rendition of Janis Joplin’s “Piece of my Heart” at the 2005 Grammys, she appeared bald, bold and beautiful. Today, Etheridge attributes her recovery since to the changes she’s made in her life. “I think the best thing I can do for cancer is to show people the healthy life that I’m living,” she said. “I am 12 years going on 13 years cancer free and this is really exciting for me. And when you ask ‘gee how did that happen?,’ it’s because I chose to understand that my health is my responsibility and that cancer comes from within and the cure is within each of us. “It’s within the food we eat, it’s in the thoughts we think, it’s in the stress we take on and it’s in the sleep we get or not,” she added. Going on tour with Pat Benatar may seem odd to


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some, but Etheridge said the shows have been an enjoyable combination for the singer-songwriter. “[Benatar] was the first video I saw on MTV,” she said, laughing. “I totally remember that and I don’t think I’ve told her, but I’m not sure how that might make her feel. “I’m always looking to widen my fan base,” she continued. “I think some people have a generalized idea of what my concerts are and I think they cut themselves off from that, so I like to reach other music fans and I think that fans who enjoy Pat Benatar might enjoy rocking out to Melissa Etheridge and they might know more songs than they think they know.” She has a couple other unique ways her fans can see in the upcoming months. The first will be right after her San Diego performance at the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) International Business and Leadership Conference, Aug. 23 – 26 (nglcc. org/nglcc16) in Palm Springs, where Etheridge will be the keynote speaker. “I love speaking to groups of our community because it is a real understanding,” she said. “There is a certain ease that one has when everyone knows that everyone in the room is either gay or almost gay.” In October, fans can join her on her very own cruise of the Caribbean where she said the emphasis will be on “the music … wellness and health and bringing a message of joy and how important that is in our life.” Until then, she hopes fans come see her at SDSU’s Open Air Theatre next week where she’ll be promoting her latest album, “This is M.E.,” but has other plans, too. “You can expect to hear the hits, you can expect to leave feeling better than when you came,” Etheridge said. “We’re gonna celebrate, we’re gonna sing ‘Pulse’ at the top of our lungs and we’re gonna feel renewed and it’s just everything that a rock show should do to you.” Pat Benatar & Neil Girardo and Melissa Etheridge perform Tuesday, Aug. 23 at SDSU’s Cal Coast Credit Union Open Air Theatre, located at 5500 Campanile Drive. Tickets start at $25. For tickets, visit tinyurl. com/zer6a5r. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at▼


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Obituary Taylor, Ross W., born March 19, 1932, died July 27, 2016, in Lakeside, California. Master Chief Ross W. Taylor, USN, Retired, is survived by his daughter Jennie Wilson, son-in-law Jim Wilson, and two grandsons, James Ross Wilson and Joshua Ray Wilson. In addition, other family includes Meleen Young, Debbie Dykstra, Hal Severns, David and Rodney Ross, and Bob and Lienani Severns. He was predeceased by his sister, Dixie Chism, of Maui, Hawaii. Taylor is also survived by his longtime companion and soul mate, Alice M.

Henry-Taylor; her three children: Stephen Henry, Christine Hoffmann, Tyson Henry and daughter-in law Lauri Henry, and granddaughters, Chandler Hoffmann, Morgan Henry and Lindsey Henry. A native of Colorado, Taylor joined the Navy at age 17 and served as a submariner in the Korean and Vietnam wars. Retiring to San Diego in 1976, he graduated from National University with an MBA. Memorial donations are welcome in his name at Stepping Stone ( ross), where he served as


dynamics of her family, participate in a Q&A, and sign copies of her book Sunday, Aug. 21 from 11 a.m. – 1 p.m., at Foothills United Methodist Church’s King Hall, located at 4031 Avocado Blvd. in La Mesa. The event is sponsored by the Foothills UMC Reconciling Fellowship, and a complimentary brunch will be provided.


Hillary Whittington, author of “Raising Ryland: Our Story of Parenting a Transgender Child With No Strings Attached,” will discuss the

Ross Taylor (Courtesy Alice Taylor) chairman of the board and was a longtime volunteer. Ross Taylor’s life will be celebrated Sept. 10, at 10 a.m., at Stepping Stone, located at 3767 Central Ave., in City Heights. ▼ “The Foothills UMC Reconciling Fellowship believes our church family is made up of people of differing sexual orientations and gender identities. We are socially, politically and theologically diverse, yet we are one in the body of Christ,” the group stated in a press release.

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Secretary of the Navy Ray Mabus recently announced that a United States Navy Military Sealift Command ship would be named in honor of slain LGBT civil rights leader Harvey Milk. The official “naming ceremony” for the ship took place this week in San Francisco, Milk’s home for many years and the place of his death. Elected to the San Francisco Board of Supervisors in 1977, Milk was California’s first openly gay elected official. He was gunned down less than a year later by a fellow supervisor. A large contingent from San Diego attended the naming ceremony, including Assembly Speaker Emeritus Toni G. Atkins; Mayor Kevin Faulconer; City Councilmember Todd Gloria; City Commissioner Nicole Murray-Ramirez; San Diego Airport Authority board member Robert Gleason; San Diego Foreign Affairs Commissioner Bruce Abrams; Bob Lehman, former president of American Veterans for Equality; and Ben Dillingham III, namesake of the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s LGBT Veteran’s Wall of Honor and a member of the San Diego County Veterans Advisory Council. Other esteemed guests in attendance were U.S. House Democratic Leader Nancy Pelosi; San Francisco Mayor Edwin M. Lee; Nancy Brinker, former U.S. Ambassador to Hungary and board member of the Harvey Milk Foundation’s leadership and advisory board; and Stuart Milk, nephew of Harvey Milk and founder of the Harvey Milk Foundation. The USNS Harvey Milk will be an oiler, assigned hull number T-AO-206, and will be built in San Diego by General Dynamics NASSCO. The expected completion date is 2018-19. “It is appropriate that the ship that bears Harvey Milk’s name will be built in San Diego,

l to r) San Diego Mayor Kevin Faulconer, City Commissioner Nicole MurrayRamirez, Bob Lehman, and Harvey Milk’s nephew Stuart Milk, at the naming ceremony in San Francisco. (Courtesy City of San Diego) the city where he served his country,” said Mayor Faulconer in a press release after the ceremony. “Our nation was established on the ideals of equality and freedom, and the naming of this ship goes to show how much progress our country continues to make toward making those ideals a reality. “We know Harvey Milk’s story as a civil rights pioneer, but his service in the Navy is something many haven’t heard about,” Faulconer continued. “Like Harvey, members of the LGBTQ community serve our neighborhoods in countless ways. It’s a great example of how it doesn’t matter whether you’re gay or straight — to be a leader, it’s your character that matters most.” The USNS Harvey Milk will be the second of the John Lewis class of oilers, which is named after U.S. Rep. John Lewis, who was a longtime civil rights leader before joining Congress. Remaining ships in the Lewis class will be named after other champions of civil rights, including USNS Sojourner Truth, USNS Robert F. Kennedy, USNS Lucy Stone and the USNS Earl Warren. “Harvey Milk was a political force, who rallied people to take pride in their identity, empower themselves to have a voice in our democracy, and fight for freedom and equality for all in

our society,” said Councilmember Gloria in a press release shortly after the ceremony. “Beyond his service to his country as an elected official and as a veteran, Harvey inspired those in the gay community and beyond to demand their rights and participate in politics in order to prove that America’s diversity can be its greatest asset. “Today’s naming ceremony for the USNS Harvey Milk is a significant honor to the memory of a great figure in American history and a strong affirmation that all those who serve our country are worthy of our highest respect and praise,” Gloria said. After a successful bid to get Harvey Milk’s likeness on a U.S. Postage stamp, Ramirez also helped drive the campaign for the naming of a Naval ship in his honor. San Diego is also the first city to have a street named after the civil rights icon, and Ramirez was instrumental in that cause as well. As a result of Harvey Milk’s Naval service in San Diego and his legendary LGBT civil rights history, Milk was inducted onto the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor in 2012. This year’s induction ceremony will be held Nov. 10. For more information about the upcoming induction ceremony, visit ▼


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Burned out at work? Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel I see a lot of clients who have problems with their jobs. They tell me they feel burned out at work. I define this kind of burnout as job-related mental and physical exhaustion that has a negative effect on your personal life. Here are some signs you may be approaching (or experiencing) burnout: ● You’re emotionally, mentally or physically fatigued: you’re too tired to do much at work or after. You spend you a lot of your free time “recovering” from work. ● You’re experiencing anhedonia: this is a fancy psychological term for loss of interest in things you normally enjoy. Your friends say you’re no fun anymore and you find yourself turning down invitations to social events.

● Your job is boring: you’ve been doing the same thing for too long or you were overqualified from the get-go. ● Your boss is a jerk and no matter what you try, the two of you just don’t get along. ● You have a bad attitude: You used to be pretty upbeat, but now, it’s just the opposite. ● Your performance ratings keep going down: When you hate what you do, you can only fake it for so long. ● You can’t stop talking about how much work sucks: it’s taking over your life. ● You’re having all kinds of health problems: Your body is trying to tell you something! What can you do about this awful stuff? ● Create a plan to get out: Even if it will take you four years to get a college degree, come up with a way out; you’ll feel so much better knowing your situation is only temporary. ● Find some ways to relax: it doesn’t matter what you do,

meditate, kick-box, hike, play with your cats (I like this myself) … any way to ditch some of that stress. ● Do something outside of work that’s worth your time and energy; fi nd a meet-up group, volunteer at The Center, do something meaningful. Since your job isn’t that interesting, fi nd something that is. You need stimulation! ● Sleep about eight hours a night, and make it good, restful sleep. You may need to cut back on the booze, or the late night Grindr or Snapchat sessions. Everyone has their own way of getting enough rest, you may need to experiment to fi nd something that works for you. ● Get help. Ask for it. You perfectionists will hate this, but, you can’t do it alone. Ask your friends or family for emotional support. If you’re struggling with depression or anxiety that won’t go away, get professional help. What if you want/need to stay at the job? Many of us

need the money and can’t just quit. Some of us see that things could get better (e.g., your boss-from-hell may be transferred) if only we could hang in there. In that case, consider these ideas: ● Try something new: ask for new work or a shift in responsibilities. ● Try taking on a project that scares you (that’s a good boredom killer!) ● Make an effort to connect with your coworkers: don’t make it all about you! Consciously set out to listen to and encourage them (it’s bound to come back to you). ● If you can’t change your job, change how you relate to the people there. ● If you can, have a heartto-heart with your boss: Some bosses are beyond approach, but 95 percent of them are not. Ask your boss how you can help each other. You may be surprised at what you hear. ● Find something good at work and pump it up. No job is totally awful, there are always some good people/activities/ challenges. Focus on those.

● Get involved with projects that encourage you to interact with new people, e.g., in other departments. Focus on what’s good. ● If your job pays for you to further your education, take that money and use it to make yourself more marketable. ● Clean up your office: Is your desk/cubicle a disaster? Decluttering always feels better. It gives you something tangible and physical to focus on. Once, I had a temp job that was so awful that I spent a lot of time cleaning the desk and everything on it. I couldn’t change my awful boss or the boring work, but I could make a nice, clean, tidy workspace for myself. It helped. Job burnout is something you can avoid if you are willing to wake up and make some changes. Don’t wait until it’s too late and you end up telling the boss exactly what you think of her/him (and get fired on the spot). Take action now. —Michael Kimmel can be reached at 619-955-3311 or visit▼

Welcome to my home… Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton So, I get to work in an amazing place and it’s about time that I talk a little about my “home away from home,” the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation (SDHDF). Established by a group of concerned LGBT San Diegans, this grassroots foundation’s mission has always been to stimulate and promote responsible philanthropy both to and by San Diego’s LGBT community. Beginning in 1996 with a $29,000 endowment from the family of San Diego architect and community leader Lincoln Aston, SDHDF continues to seek out ways to enrich our community in the present, while being mindful of our future. As we see certain victories for equality being won by our community, it is wonderful to lean into the jubilation, but it behooves us to avoid a shortsighted view of the landscape of equality. I discussed why there is still a need for an LGBT-specific foundation with John Brown, SDHDF’s executive director. “We simply cannot predict the future, or know what the next needs for any group under the LGBT umbrella will be,”

Brown said. “What we can be sure of, is that our community will need to be equipped, with both numbers and funds, to address these needs. While our allies are extremely valuable, like any social justice movement the impacted community must be prepared, in all ways, to bring those needs to light.” It’s fair to ask exactly what a foundation like SDHDF does and the simplest answer is that we seek creative and flexible ways to support the LGBT and HIV communities in a responsive manner. How this goal evinces itself is a bit more complex. Sometimes it simply means mentoring a newer nonprofit endeavor in how to successfully create a board of directors or compose a grant. It can also mean serving as the fiscal agent for projects that do not have their own nonprofit status, but are important to the San Diego community — such as the AIDS Memorial Task Force — to help them become eligible for grants and tax-exempt donations. Of course there are also the grants and sponsorships that we bestow ourselves, which can cover such things as helping a college set up an LGBT center, to funding direct HIV/AIDS services, to sponsoring events — large and small — by the many agencies and programs that serve our community.

SDHDF supports many HIV-services groups around the county every year; John Brown (SDHDF executive director) and Ian Morton (author, member of SDHDF staff) are seen far left, second row, respectively (Courtesy SDHDF) SDHDF also engages with San Diego’s LGBT philanthropists to help facilitate responsible giving. We understand that donors want to make sure their philanthropic funds are being leveraged toward maximum impact and it is important to us that this is actualized. We have resources to help ensure that the agencies or projects in which a donor may want to invest are run prudently, the funds are primarily impacting the under-served community, and that there are not questions or concerns surrounding the legitimacy of the entity’s nonprofit status. In addition, SDHDF holds several “donor advised funds,” which are grant-making funds established by donors and managed by the foundation, through which these donors do their giving, secure in the knowledge that their giving choices have been thoroughly vetted. We understand that not everyone is quite ready to open a fund, so we also engage in fundraising events, which provide an enjoyable way for San Diegans to support their LGBT community foundation while enjoying a fun night. In 2016, we have been thrilled to feature a trio of groundbreaking women as our celebrity entertainers. For the San Diego Women’s Chorus concert fundraiser in

May, which supports both the chorus and our Lesbian Health Initiative, we had Grammyaward winning lesbian singer/ songwriter, Janis Ian. At our most recent event, The Reunion Party, which raises funds for LGBT senior services programs, groundbreaking comedian and “Love Goddess” Ms. Judy Tenuta was there to provide the laughs. Coming up in December, we are so excited to have Lea DeLaria (Big Boo) from “Orange is the New Black” bringing the comedy and jazz tunes to our Aston-Brooks Gala stage. And for those who love a craft beer or cocktail, keep an eye out for Bar AIDS, a fundraiser for the San Diego HIV Funding Collaborative, on World AIDS Day (Dec. 1). The lead on many of these fundraising events is development director, Janelle Hickey. Having been with SDHDF for five years, Hickey has been privy to the changes and growth, and looks forward to the next steps in our evolution. “Whether we are raising funds to support our LGBT senior friends; hearing the incredibly brave stories of those living in countries where it is still illegal to live as who you truly are; seeing works of art brought to life through dance, stage, song and written word; or witnessing our friends living with HIV/AIDS meet our

elected officials to advocate for the life-saving services needed in San Diego; each day brings a new experience, a new chance to help uplift the voices that need to be heard,” Hickey said. “I look forward to seeing the many new things we as a team will accomplish together — increased services and opportunities for our transgender friends, new platforms for LGBTQIA youth to succeed, and more services for women in San Diego and increased support for our friends who live in North County, East County and the South Bay,” Hickey said. In 2015, we were able to support local organizations to the tune of nearly $550,000; act as fiscal agents for eight grassroots efforts; and manage 23 donor-advised funds. SDHDF will continue to grow and evolve in response to our community’s needs, and we look forward to increasing the involvement of our San Diego family. To find out more about the ways we contribute and how you can get involved, go to —Ian D. Morton is the senior program analyst at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and produces the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ youth conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to▼


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Whittington and her husband Jeff became internationally known when a home video they created about their deaf, 6-year-old transgender son Ryland went viral, receiving more than 3 million views on the internet in 2014. The video has since received nearly 8 million views. San Diego residents, the Whittingtons have been active participants in the local LGBT community after being introduced at the Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast in May 2014. Hillary has been doing speaking events to open people’s minds since the release of her book earlier this year. For more information about her talk, call the church at 619670-4009. To watch the couple’s original video about their transgender son, visit tinyurl. com/nexlxny.







From event management and filmmaking to learning how to manufacture guitars, San Diego City, Mesa and Miramar colleges, along with San Diego Continuing Education, are offering an array of new degrees, certificates and programs for students when the San Diego Community College District’s (SDCCD) 2016-17 academic year begins Aug. 22. Many of the programs were developed in collaboration with local industry and are aimed at meeting employer demands. “A key component of the [SDCCD] mission is in workforce development, as we play a major role in growing the regional economy,� said Chancellor Constance M. Carroll. Here is a list of new programs in the district: � City College: Advanced Arts Entrepreneurship (Certificate of Performance); Arts Entrepreneurship (Certificate of Performance); Sports Management (Certificate of Performance); VITA Tax Preparation Training (Certificate of Performance); Conflict Resolution and Mediation (Certificate of Achievement); Nail Technician (Certificate of Performance); Broadcast News (Certificate of Achievement); Documentary Film (Associate of Science); and Media Management and Marketing (Certificate of Achievement).

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Letters Archives correction

[Ref: “Out of the Archives: Pride, presentations and outreach,” Vol. 7, Issue 16, or online at] I need to correct a mistake I made in this column. Neither Marcia P. Johnson nor Sylvia Rivera were ever trans or transitioned. Both were male persons of color, drag queens and activists. They were trans-supportive and worked for transsexual (the word in use at the time) rights, especially to protect youth. Thanks to City Commissioner Nicole Murray-Ramirez for the correction and education. —Maureen Steiner, President, Lambda Archives, via

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Millennials can save this nation By Will Rodriguez-Kennedy In “Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince,” Albus Dumbledore gives an ominous speech about Lord Voldemort and his allies. “As I stand looking out upon you all tonight, I’m reminded of a sobering fact: Every day, every hour, this very minute, perhaps, dark forces attempt to penetrate this castle’s walls,” Dumbledore said. “But in the end, their greatest weapon ... is you.” That’s a bit dramatic and I wish it wasn’t applicable to our current political state, but it is. Our “castle,” our republic, our very way of life is on the line; from the ability of our generation to make ends meet to the civil rights we enjoy and those we are still fighting for. Every moment, Donald Trump and his compatriots are stirring up the worst in our country — the hatred, the fear, the bigotry and the misogyny and they are turning it into a political force. We cannot ignore that reality and we cannot take for granted that he will lose. It would be easy to look at the polls and think, “Hillary is going to win, so my vote doesn’t matter,” or “This country will never elect Donald Trump,” or “I’ll vote third party.” EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Charlene Baldridge Dave Fidlin Michael Kimmel Frank Sabatini Jr. Ian Morton Lee Lynch Will Rodriguez-Kennedy

But ask yourself this: Did we think Donald Trump would run for president two years ago? Did we think he could have been the nominee last year? Will we be thinking a President Trump couldn’t deport millions of people, start disastrous trade wars or attack a nation with nuclear weapons next year? Donald Trump and the Republican Party oppose raising the minimum wage, which would lift millions out of poverty, in fact he thinks it should be lower. We know better. Donald Trump and the Republican Party oppose the efforts of the LGBTQ+ community to be free and equal citizens, able to marry who we love and not be discriminated for being our true selves. They think mentioning us once at a convention will satisfy our needs. We know better. Donald Trump and the Republican Party oppose making college education affordable. In fact, many in the Republican Party are antagonistic to public education and prefer that profit be a part of the education system. We know better. Donald Trump and the Republican Party believe that women should be punished for seeking abortions, oppose equal pay for equal work and believe that Muslims should carry special IDs and be heavily profiled. We know better. Donald Trump and the Republican Party think that they know better than the experts on climate change, foreign policy and the economy. In fact, their policies are not only incoherent; they are dangerous to the environment, the economic and diplomatic stability of our country and our planet. We know better. In contrast, the Democratic Party embraces full equality for the WEB & SOCIAL MEDIA Jen Van Tieghem, x118 COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich

LGBTQ+ community, equal pay for equal work, expanding health care and Social Security, raising the minimum wage, combating climate change, making college tuition affordable, ending mass incarceration and much, much more. In Philadelphia, our party passed the most progressive major party platform in American history, while having the most diverse delegation in American history. On the ground and across the country, the Democratic Party is registering voters, reaching out to diverse communities and building on a movement of renewed hope and a plan for the future. So, to my fellow millennials who dread this year’s election or think their voice doesn’t matter, I say to you this: We may be living in tough times but in our generation, there is hope. We can provide the margin of victory. Secretary Clinton may not be the perfect candidate but she has proposed a solidly progressive platform. Together we can raise our country out of poverty, we can combat climate change, we can usher in a freer and more just society or we can allow Donald Trump and the Republican Party to bring our country to ruin. The choice is ours and the choice is clear. Vote, vote for Hillary Clinton and vote for Democrats down the ballot and let us take control of our democracy. —Will Rodriguez-Kennedy is the president of the San Diego Democrats for Equality, one of the oldest active LGBT organizations in the U.S. He can be reached at wrodriguez787@gmail. com. To learn more, visit ▼

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[Ref: “U.S. Navy to name ship after Harvey Milk,” Vol. 7, Issue 16, or online at jv6le8g] Thank you for everything you have done for Harvey and for our LGBT community. I remember when Harvey was put to rest and how our gay student union at Los Angeles Community College wanted to also do a tribute in honor of Harvey, we collected funds to start up the Harvey Milk Scholarship back then when I was in school. Your determination will be another tribute that I will always treasure especially now that our son is in the Navy and he is a great example that gay parents could raise a positive-minded son. —Jose de Jesus Ortiz-Barreto, Los Angeles LGBT Center, via I am so happy and proud of all the people who worked hard to have a naval vessel named after LGBT civil rights leader Harvey Milk. I was a bit apprehensive when I first learned of the plan- mainly over wanting a war ship in his honor. But as I learned more of the movement and the John Lewis class of ships, I realized that this achievement would just add another mark of honor that our country has made in his name. As the LGBT community nationwide, we scored big with this news. As a city, we also have much to be proud of, knowing that the ship will be built right here in San Diego. A big thank you to Nicole Murray-Ramirez, the International Court System, Stuart Milk and the Harvey Milk Foundation, and all who were involved and wrote letters of support. History in the making once again! —Eddie Rey, San Diego LGBT Visitors Center, via

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[Ref: “Ten-hut,” Vol. 7, Issue 16, or online at] It was my pleasure to volunteer with Stand Down and collaborate with VVSD at the Free Rainbow Community Resources area at San Diego Pride with Sobriety Village. Community and fellowship of “like-minded” peers is integral to initiating a “sober life” and staying alive with an addictive mind. The fellowship at the 33-year old nonprofit, the Live and Let Live Alano Club, combines recovery with these connections. Thankfully the GLBT veterans are now out and eager to help each other in their newly chosen sober freedom. —Robert Tice, via ▼

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Game of Throne By Lee Lynch Game of Throne is what my sweetheart calls the nightly battle between our cat and me over Big Blue. Bolo is our gray, 14-year old, lesbian-required cat. Sadly, we’re down to just one kitty and no dogs. We can’t add either to our household because Bolo has diabetes. Her symptoms are triggered by, among other factors, stress. An addition to the family could kill her. The Throne is Big Blue, a recliner we bought for my rotator cuff and bicep surgery. In recovery, it’s too painful to lie flat and I only had use of one arm for two months, so we needed a power recliner. I added the stipulation that it fit both Bolo and me. Once my shoulder healed enough, I was able to return to my sweetheart’s side and the cat — a heavy sleeper and loud snorer — to her place on us, between us, or as a lump on our feet. When my sweetheart first mentioned Game of Thrones, I thought she was talking about the current presidential race. Neither of us follow the HBO series. Without that frame of reference, it made sense to me that she would be talking about Clinton vs. Trump, a nightmare that should not be happening. No

one in the U.S. has ever worked harder to prepare for the presidency than Hillary Clinton. Never mind what a complete (insert bad word here) Trump is, Clinton has been in government for so long, the (new bad word) opposition uses her suitability against her. I pictured he-who-would-beking attempting to de-throne she-who-qualifies-for-coronation. There was our blonde equivalent of Kim Jong Un in all his immaturity, surrounded by the likes of supporters Chris Christie, Rudy Giuliani, Mike Tyson and Sarah Palin, headed for the throne as if entitled. And there was Secretary Clinton, followed by a train of millions of women — suffragist foremothers to expectant little girls to underemployed lesbians — carefully navigating the broken glass of a ceiling never before penetrated. That this should be a contest at all is beyond my comprehension. People say they don’t trust Clinton. And they trust Trump? People believe the muck that’s flung at Clinton. And they don’t see that their god of business is covered in slime? People say they want the country run like a business. Well, finally, after decades of big business corrupting our government, capitalism may trump democracy. To call a powerful woman names and to otherwise disparage her — come on, America, we’re better than this old-fashioned misogyny. Oh, America, where has your soul gone? It used to be said that our streets were lined with gold. Now they are, but not the narrow streets filled with people of

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Bolo and the author on “Big Blue� (Courtesy Lee Lynch) color and immigrants, not the dirt roads into rural poverty, not the intersections crowded with protesters, not the crosswalks which the old and/ or disabled enter with trepidation as drivers speed through, oblivious. Hillary Clinton has always shown that she cared for all Americans. From her first universal healthcare attempt to advocating for women employees on Wall Street, she has proven her bonafides, while her challenger has left service workers in the dust, business people unpaid for their labor, and financial failures of colossal size. But that wasn’t what my sweetheart meant at all. Not the Game, not politics, but our delight in Bolo and Big Blue. It doesn’t take much to make this marriage gay. We laugh when Bolo’s all snuggled in beside me and I dare to absent myself for some necessity or other. Say, heating up my green tea, refilling my sweetheart’s Diet Coke, giving Bolo her insulin shot, or, goddess forbid, visiting the restroom.

When I carefully lower the footrest, our little one glares at me sidelong, perturbed, and moves not a squinch to let me up. I wriggle out slowly, slowly, making myself as small as humanly possible to avoid further disturbing Her Highness. As soon as my back is turned, my sweetheart tells me with a laugh, Bolo takes over the entire built-for-two seat to soak up whatever warmth I’ve left. We live with an energy-efficient cat. On my return, the true tussle begins. Logically, I should be able to retake my fraction of the Throne. As any cat person knows, cat bodies are subject to thermal expansion. The body heat I leave causes Bolo’s furry 14 pound self to gain mass and spill from her original boundaries. There is probably a mathematical formula for this. In a gentle voice, I suggest that Bolo make room for me. My sweetheart laughs more as this method is guaranteed to fail. I begin slowly, slowly, to sit, while extending my hand and arm to reverse the kitty’s diffusion. Again I get the annoyed

glare, her eyes mere slits. I wriggle all the way onto Big Blue, petting the kitty, scratching her favorite spots. Finally, I raise the footrest. This is not nearly as hard as walking the tightrope of public opinion in sexist America; or as dangerous as being point woman in the gender war. Miffed, Bolo gets up, and to underscore her disgust, licks her fur where I’ve touched it. With deliberate dignity, Bolo daintily steps over me and leaves to flaunt her magnificent silver grayness on my sweetheart’s couch. I have, to my bitter disappointment, won our Game of Throne. I beg Bolo to return, I offer kibble, I debase myself by crawling after her. To no avail. I know how President Obama must feel facing our obstructive Congress. I know the stakes are high for gays in this election. I re-reheat my tea, re-return to the Throne, try to remember what I was working on, focus, and suddenly Bolo is back; demanding to be petted in apology. By the time she finishes rearranging herself I remember what I was doing: sending a donation to Hillary Clinton, the next president of the United States of America. —Lee Lynch is the award-winning author of “The Swashbuckler,â€? “An American Queer,â€? “The Raid,â€? and has written many other gay and lesbian-themed novels over the course of her 30-year career. This piece is from her syndicated column, “The Amazon Trail.â€? To learn more about Lynch, visitâ–ź

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A new 24/7 diner is born Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. “Welcome to 1955,” said our waiter when serving us a milkshake with a chunk of apple pie protruding from the rim of the glass. The shake, named Bye Bye Miss American Pie, is among nearly 20 flavors available around the clock at the long-awaited Buddy’s Diner in Pacific Beach. Like a tamer version of the Corvette Diner, and designed with pristine detail, it took Buddy’s a couple years to ater materialize due to a series of ureaucratic oobstacles owner bureaucratic Vito Tutino encountered encounte from the city of San Diego. Though Thoug now with a monthlong soft opening

Reuben sandwich with potato salad (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

behind him, Tutino’s retro-themed diner officially joins a shortlist of restaurants in the city serving breakfast, lunch and dinner fare 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Black-and-white checkered flooring sets the foundation for retro-style vinyl booths as well as tables and chairs common to American middle-class kitchens during the mid-century era. Wainscoting runs along a large wall featuring tidy photo displays of popular movie stars and singers from yesteryear. On the right side of om is a soda bar the room ed with two equipped ished refurbished hake milkshake nes. machines. There’ss

The American pie|milkshake (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

also a well-stocked dessert case and a glass-enclosed Elvis outfit used by Jay Leno for an impersonation performance. The colorful Rock-Ola jukebox next to it is free for the playing. Surprisingly, the overall design feels genuine rather than cheesy. As our trio spooned into the tall milkshake while competing for the buttery, housemade crust of the apple pie garnishing it, our food arrived all at once. This included an appetizer of loaded potato skins, which was forgivable in a restaurant still gaining its footing — but a frustrating fau faux pas in so many others that are more established, espe especially when specifically askin asking for the “starter” fi rst. The cheddar-bacon-filled skins were standard in texture and flavor, although the house ranch dressin ing served alongside st stole the show with its infusion of what we suspected was fresh dill. My two companions chose breakfast dishes, one of them called “the Nordy.” It featured a split, house-made biscuit, each side topped with a sagekissed sausage patty and a fried egg. The sausage A list of gravy covering them was p pecialty specialty pleasantly seasoned and milkshakes k kshakes not overly countrified, presented e ented by meaning it wasn’t too s statue sy an artsy pasty or oily. (Photo|by o Frank o|by There are seven difSabatini b batini Jr.) ferent omelets available, which include a Western, Greek, no-yolk, and Philly cheesesteak. Those were passed over in lieu of the Denver, a classic fold-over of baked eggs capturing diced onions, bell peppers and ham. 1564 Garnet Ave. Here, the cubed meat had a (Pacific Beach) dominating, smoky flavor. I liked it, but the tablemate who 858-263-7599 ordered it would have preferred a hammier, uncured variety. While lusting over the Prices: Breakfast dishes, lunch-dinner menu on this $3.25 to $16.95; soups, early Sunday morning, and attempting to decide between salads, appetizers, slopp ppy pp items like a pretzel-bun sloppy sandwiches and entrees, melt Joe, a patty melt $6.95 to $16.95; or Monte milkshakes, $4.95 to $8 Cristo,

Denver omelet with hash browns (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Buddy’s Diner

oour gracious, young waiter u urged me to order the Reuben sa sandwich. He insisted it’s the best h has found since relocating he fr from Nebraska, a claim I’ll tr trust from anyone who grew up east of Arizona because ki kitchens west of it generally fa to understand the beauty fail of stacking the sandwich with shaved corned beef versus thickly sliced. And sneaking mustard into the construct is yet another common infraction. His advice was solid. The meat was extra-thin, almost fluffy; the sauerkraut was mildly brined; and Thousand Island dressing oozed from the edges of the grilled rye bread — a perfect score in my book. The sandwich came with a generous side of potato salad, which drew unanimous approval at the table despite the lack of eggs in the recipe. But the spuds were soft in texture and strewn with bits of crunchy celery, chopped pickles and fresh herbs. Made obviously in-house, it tasted even better the following day when digging into my leftovers. Buddy’s is just what Pacific Beach needed to shake up the monochromatic palette of tacos and Bud Light beer served amid surfboards and flatscreens. Actually, alcohol isn’t even served here. But you’ll cop a gratifying rush from the assorted milkshakes while dining on hearty dishes rooted fi rmly in American roadside culture. The upbeat tunes by James Brown, Frankie Avalon and The Supremes emitting from the jukebox are icing on the cake. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at▼


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Without explanation, Lil B’s Urban Eatery in North Park abruptly closed earlier this month. The restaurant was launched in 2012 by Brian Stout, who had previously co-owned the former Brian’s American Eatery on Washington Street. That too had suddenly closed before Great Maple moved in. A posting on Facebook under the name “Lil B’s Restaurant,� dated Aug. 14, simply states: “I’m sure I speak for everyone that worked at Lil B’s that we appreciate the loyalty of all of our customers. We will miss u all.� 2611 El Cajon Blvd.

Vegan chocolate chip roll from the new Cinnaholic in Mission Valley (Courtesy Cinnaholic)

Famous for its vegan cinnamon rolls, Cinnaholic made its San Diego debut Aug. 12 in Westfield Mission Valley mall via a kiosk in front of Macy’s. The rolls, which are available with flavored icings and various toppings of choice, are free of dairy and eggs. The company launched several years ago in Berkeley, and has since branched into Las Vegas, Atlanta and Southlake, Texas. Plans are in the works for two other local outlets in the Gaslamp Quarter and Pacific Beach. 1640 Camino Del Rio North, 619-546-9991,

Lestat’s Hillcrest soft opened Aug. 9, marking the coffee house’s third location since establishing its original spot in 1997 on Adams Avenue in Normal Heights. The Hillcrest outlet occupies a double-storefront space left behind by Lava Sushi. Manager Joseph Wellman said Lestat’s Hillcrest will begin operating 24 hours “in the next four or five weeks� and that it will eventually take advantage of the property’s full kitchen for expanding the food menu. At present, the offerings are the same as those at the company’s Park Boulevard location in University Heights — salads, paninis, house-made soups and sandwiches. 1045 University Ave., 619-564-6616,

Love at First Sight Has Never Been This Much Fun! Numerous variations of ceviche are in the pipeline at an at upcoming showdown at 57 Degrees (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Nearly a dozen local restaurants will take part in the Third Annual Ceviche Showdown from 2 – 5 p.m., Aug. 28, at 57 Degrees in Middletown. The event allows guests to sample the creative and traditional recipes from each competitor before casting their vote for the people’s choice award. A panel of judges will also rate the entries for the “best of San Diegoâ€? award. Participating restaurants include Old Town Tequila Factory, CafĂŠ Gratitude, Hope 46, Dobson’s, Puesto and more. Tickets can be purchased through the web site. The cost is $24 in advance (by Aug. 27) and $35 at the door. 1735 Hancock St., 619-234-5757,

Two of life’s guilty pleasures, bacon and booze, will take center stage at the fourth annual San Diego Bacon Festival, from 1 – 5:30 p.m., Sept. 3, at Liberty Station’s Preble Field. In past events, participating chefs and restaurants have incorporated the pork strips into everything from sandwiches and seafood items to lettuce wraps and desserts. Nearly 20 food vendors are taking part this year, including S&M Sausage and Meat, Sabuku Sushi, The Cork & Craft and The Smok’d Hog. They’ll be joined dozens of local and national breweries doling out samples of their latest and greatest releases. Several distilleries will be on hand as well. Guests must be 21 years or older. General admission is $60, which includes unlimited samples of food and drink. 2600 Cushing Road,

One of Shelter Island’s oldest seafood restaurants, Red Sails Inn, has been purchased by The Brigantine Family of Restaurants and will permanently close Aug. 31. The new ownership will remodel the space for a contemporary seafood concept called The Katch, which is due to open early next year. Red Sails Inn was originally established in the late 1920s at the foot of G Street in Downtown San Diego before moving in 1957 to its current location. 2614 Shelter Island Drive, 619-223-3030, —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at fsabatini@san. ▟

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BISTRO Leisman describes his baking style as “more European than American” in that he relies on chocolates and fruits to add sweetness to his creations, which include everything from chocolate bombes and triple-layer mousses to lemon cakes and banana-chocolate teardrops. Juarez mainly works the front of the house for Bistro Sixty, though jumps into the kitchen at times to assist with salad prepping or to cook his popular rolled chicken tacos that are available on the dinner menu. “I’m actually not a dessert person at all,” he said, while

helping his husband assemble dozens of chicken pot pies, which have been a mainstay since the couple first tested a short list of savories some nine years ago. “When I do eat anything sweet, it’s either crème brulee and bread pudding,” Juarez added. Leisman attributes “neighborhood demand” as the reason for eventually expanding the food menu and then ultimately giving the space brand identity. The name Bistro Sixty corresponds to its corner perch at 60th Street and El Cajon Boulevard. Bartender (and nearby resident) Mark Ekhaml said the bistro attracts a good number of gay and lesbian patrons, and that on Monday nights, singer Ria Carey (a favorite with the LGBT crowd) belts

Leisman applies the finishing touches on a Black Forest birthday cake (Photo|by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

out performances on the patio between her weekly gigs at the Caliph and Martinis Above Fourth. “We’re kind of like ‘Hillcrest east’ over here,” Ekhaml noted while recalling the fi rst time he dropped into the restaurant with his future husband, Jae, and falling in love with the peanut butter bombe. Returning regularly, he soon befriended the owners. And with an advanced certification by Wine Spirits Education Trust under his belt, they hired him earlier this year. The bistro offers lunch and dinner service, as well as Saturday breakfast and Sunday brunch, yet patrons countywide remain steadfastly drawn to the company’s customized cakes. “I’ve made everything from bear-shaped cakes dressed in chaps for the San Diego Bears to a 250-pound chocolate decadence wedding cake for 1,000 people,” Leisman said. “For that I had to stand on the table to finish decorating the top tier. “If you have a theme or idea, we’ll create it.” San Diego Desserts and Bistro Sixty are located at 5987 El Cajon Blvd. For more information, call 619-287-8186 or visit, —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press) and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at ▼

Devil’s food cake forms the base of salted caramel towers in the making (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

A display of top sellers at San Diego Desserts (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

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Saturday, Aug. 27

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3 pm, The Center Join us for free wine, soda, water, non-alcoholic sparkling cider, cheese, crackers, and fruit as well as opportunity drawings for a chance to win a beautiful painting by The Center’s own Ageless Artists! This is a 21+ event. For more information, contact LaRue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205.

Tuesday, Aug. 23

Young Men’s Discussion Group 7:30 pm, The Center Connect to The Center and the community. Join other 18-35 year olds to talk about relationships, sexual health, activism, community building and more. For more information, contact Aaron Heier at 619.692.2077 x211, or The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

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Don’t miss the 2nd annual Center Casino Night, a fun-filled evening of mock gaming with food, drink (including the oh-so-popular bourbon bar), music and truly fabulous prizes! If you were there last year, you know this is a do-not-miss event. If you missed it – time to find out what all the fun was about! Tickets are $125 and event costs are underwritten, so the entire ticket price will go to support The Center’s amazing community programs. Tickets and sponsor levels are available online at

Tuesday, Sept. 6

Community Food Bank 9-10:30 am, The Center The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at


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Cleverness, comedy and do-overs

(l to r) Alexandra Henrikson (Laura), Josh Stamberg (Gerald), Greg Germann (Norm) and Jenna Fischer (Corky) in the world premiere of|Steve Martin’s|“Meteor Shower,” an adult comedy, currently playing at The Old Globe. (Photo by Jim Cox) communicate more directly. Overtly more glamorous and sophisticated, Gerald and Laura are engaged in creative pursuits. They are turned out impeccably, even for a casual evening. Gerald introduces Laura as formerly obese (she’s not pleased about this). She wears a sleek, magenta dress. The sexually voracious Gerald looks as if he just stepped off a movie set. In various, re-done, re-set scenarios they seem bent on seduction. That is comedian Steve Martin’s shtick throughout the two-act play. He allows multiple new beginnings with slightly different details. Depending on one’s attitude, the results are hilarious. The best part of director Gordon Edelstein’s staging is exploring the several abilities of his four actors in the play to make

it simultaneously sincere and sincerely absurd. The results are devastatingly funny right up to and through the appearance of a recalcitrant meteor. In Act II, Martin allows himself a complete do-over (how many have there been so far?). We, wise to aberrant events by now, can’t wait to see what happens during this take. Martin’s cleverness never (well, hardly ever) crosses over into unbearable self-indulgence (after all, he is Steve Martin), and it seems as if, through the use of these flexible farceurs, he’s creating, or at least refining, a new form of comedy. Let the games begin. As Corky, Jenna Fischer has just the right mix of naiveté and insouciance. Alexandra Henrikson’s predatory Laura

Henrikson and Germann flirt playfully (Photo by Jim Cox)

by Steve Martin A co-production with Long Wharf Theatre Directed by Gordon Edelstein Through Sept. 18 Tuesday – Wednesdays, 7 p.m.; Thursdays – Saturdays, 8 p.m.; Saturdays & Sundays, 2 p.m.; Sundays, 7 p.m. Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre 1363 Old Globe Way, Balboa Park Tickets start at $49 ($55 for extension dates) or 619-23-GLOBE

a respectable run on Broadway, should be pleased with his treatment here. Many happy returns, beginning with Globe Artistic Director Barry Edelstein’s (no relation to Gordon Edelstein) February 2017 production of Martin’s early comedy, “Picasso at the Lapin Agile.” — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at or reach her at▼


Eggplants and wine — those are the hostess gifts for a night of wine, hors d’oeuvres, and a meteor shower in Ojai, an exurban community north of Los Angeles known for its bucolic lifestyle, its artsy inhabitants, and also for its clear skies. Ojai is the setting of Steve Martin’s world premiere play, “Meteor Shower,” continuing in double extension in the Old Globe’s Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre, part of the Conrad Prebys Theatre Center in Balboa Park, through Sept. 18. Ojai residents Corky and Norm have invited Gerald, Norm’s casual friend from their club, and his wife, Laura, over for cocktails. The purpose of the evening is to allow the Los Angeles dwellers a clear and spectacular view of the impending meteor shower. The attractive Laura apparently has an interest in the cosmos. Martin introduces the Ojai couple prior to the arrival of their guests. If they are to be believed — if anything in this absurdist play is to be believed — Corky and Norm have been married quite some time and have raised two children, no longer living at home. Apparently they’ve had marital difficulties and engaged in some kind of couple’s therapy that allows them to

is an absolute hoot and Josh Stamberg’s Gerald is the perfect, glittering man-about-Hollywood. My favorite naïf, though, is Greg Germann’s Norm, an excellent physical comedian who brings a new depth of sincerity to the style. He is utterly likable and beguiling. (Note: Fischer is best known as Pam on “The Office,” and Germann for his role as Richard Fish in David E. Kelley’s 1990 television comedy, “Ally McBeal.”) As always, the Globe production values are outstanding. Michael Yeargan creates a perfect, well-appointed indoor/outdoor playing area with the most amazing chaise lounge ever seen. Jess Goldstein’s costumes are characterful indeed, and Donald Holder’s strategically timed lighting, with its thousand meteors, is impeccable. John Gromada creates the sound and a song worth missing the interval to hear. Martin, whose other Globe premiere, the endearing musical “Bright Star” (co-written with Edie Brickell) recently enjoyed

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COSKEY “For the first time this year, United Way walked in the San Diego Pride Parade,” Coskey said. “With 100,000 people on the street, we had a chance to hand out reading reminders to thousands of parents and children. We … happily joined our sister organization 2-1-1 as we marched together. “A highlight for me was watching a team member’s 3-year-old son walking the entire parade route and waving the Queen’s wave to the crowd,” she said. “We had a great time together and have already started thinking about how we can connect with families next year. United Way had signed up to walk with Pride before I was hired. I couldn’t have been prouder than to walk with my new employer in our first Pride Parade.”

Serving the LGBT community

Since she arrived in San Diego in 1985, Coskey has immersed herself in the local LGBT community. Like many other activists and volunteers, she threw herself into action during the AIDS crisis in the 1980s. “I learned the facts and made a commitment with various coalitions to disseminate facts not dangerous myths,” Coskey said. “I worked to teach others in my community about AIDS to combat the scare tactics that were being used to divide communities and people. I spoke about it from the pulpit as well. That was very controversial, even though the content was not controversial.” Coskey served as a chaplain at Sharp Memorial Hospital for several years in the late 1980s, where she ministered to Jewish patients on a weekly basis. “I had personal friends and colleagues who were stricken with AIDS and I sadly officiated at the funerals,” she recalled. Reflecting on her life, Coskey is aware of the impact she has had in both the Jewish and LGBT communities, and how those paths sometimes crossed. As a self-identified “trailblazer,” Coskey has taken on dozens of roles that have helped move equality forward, both within and outside of the Jewish faith community. It was in the mid-1980s that Coskey first spoke publicly (to approximately 4,000 people) about the need to not marginalize or fear people with AIDS, but to embrace them; she was the first rabbi in LA county to officiate at ‘commitment ceremonies’ for same-sex couples and continued her activism through San Diego’s marriage-equality movement; she was on the founding committee for the Harvey Milk Breakfast; was appointed by the mayor to the AIDS Memorial Task Force; and in June, Rabbi Laurie took the stage at The Center following the tragic massacre in Orlando, and introduced members of the local Muslim community to the crowd. “I have been present, oncall, and shown up for the milestones of the San Diego LGBT community for 31 years because — like being Jewish, a

woman, a mother — I identified in my own family and personally with the LGBT community.” Gay San Diego asked Coskey what she likes about our LGBT community. “I love The Center and Pride for all the work they do to provide a home for the entire LGBT community,” she said. “Though I am not a person who has history of going to bars, I believe that our bar owners are like the clergy of our community and have created safe spaces for the LGBT community to convene. “I love, admire and respect my LGBT-identified clergy colleagues and our allies,” Coskey continued. “I am a longtime resident of San Diego, I know so very many members of our LGBT community and admire how much service they provide to our region, like the Imperial Court. Every year I hope that I can learn how to make Easter baskets to be donated to hundreds of children in San Diego.” Coskey sees many positive things happening in San Diego. “I love how we are evolving and forcing the greater communities to evolve with us, particularly around the issues of trans individuals and gender-bending children,” she said. “For all the pain that exists still in the community and for as far as we have yet to go, I know that the LGBT community is committed to being leaders in the fight for equity, respect and integrity for all people to live authentically. As you may deduct, I am very integrated into the aims of our LGBT community because they are the aims for equality, acceptance and respect for all!” Coskey is somewhat reluctant to talk about her private life. She has two grown sons and talks about them with pride. “I’ve had a diverse and gratifying personal life that I have learned to keep personal,” she said. “I can say that my own family is a blended family, ethnically/racially, religiously, and in terms of sexual identity — and has been for 30 years. “Perhaps because of this I remember telling my toddler sons in the early ’90s that some boys love girls, and some boys love boys, and some girls love girls. That was what they saw mirrored as reality when they were children. They witnessed this in our own family and with our friends so it made sense to them,” Coskey said. Her connection to LGBT issues dates to her childhood, growing up in Los Angeles in the 1970s. “My mother and father were among the leaders in the Jewish community that advocated to admit an openly identified gay synagogue into our denomination in the mid-70s,” she said. “The synagogue was Beyt Chayim Chadashim and it was founded in 1972 and claims to be the world’s first lesbian and gay synagogue. We didn’t belong to this synagogue but my parents advocated for admission to our denomination and they won. So even in my childhood, LGBT issues were framed as justice and civil rights issues by my own parents.” That lesson learned would continue later in her life.

“Once I was ordained as a rabbi, I knew that, as a call to justice, [justice, justice, shall you pursue], I had to treat all people equally through my position as clergy, which included all life cycle events and ceremonies,” she said. “At the time, my personal commitments were out ahead of the congregation that I served and probably ahead of the denomination that had welcomed LGBT congregations but were less sure about what to do about the LGBT families and those who wanted to become families in those congregations. This was particularly salient around marriage/commitment ceremonies and funerals. At the time, there were almost no LGBT families with children formally affiliated with the community [late ’80s and early ’90s]. Once I left the synagogue in 1993, I was able to be more active in officiating at ceremonies and becoming an advocate in the developing and evolving LGBT communities in San Diego.” One incident left a lasting impression. “I officiated at High Holy Days with an open and inclusive Jewish community for 23 years where, from the beginning, all had an equal voice. I distinctly remember in the mid’90s a family walking out when two women who were ‘married’ gave a talk about how they would be unable to assign endof-life powers to one another or be buried together in a Jewish cemetery because they were lesbians and one of them was not Jewish,” Coskey said. “Other progressive synagogues subsequently became more open and affirming and supportive of the growing community of LGBT families with children.”

Eager to lead local United Way

Advocating for children has been a major part of Coskey’s activism for four decades, and it was one of the motivating factors for her applying for the job at United Way of San Diego County. “I was not actively looking for a job,” Coskey said. “For the past 15 years, I have been doing the most transformative work … focusing on sustainability of working families. The capstone was working to pass the minimum wage increase in San Diego [which voters approved on June 7 in the California Primary]. This will improve the lives of 170,000 working people in San Diego. They will also get five sick days per year.” Coskey teared up as she talked about how much working families will benefit from the simple act of raising the minimum wage. She pointed out that many mothers work two or three jobs to make ends meet. “They only want one thing: to give their children a better life,” she said, dabbing at the corners of her eyes. “When someone put the bug in my ear about the opening at United Way, I knew it was on the cutting edge of working to help kids. They do real work on the ground, for real children. I know these children and their mothers [from her previous work]. I knew I could flip the coin: helping children. It will be yin and yang for me. It will be complete synergy

GAY SAN DIEGO Aug. 19 - Sept. 1, 2016 for my work here in San Diego. I will be firing on all pistons. We have to make a difference for all children.” The local United Way’s motto is: “We change the odds for every child through quality education.” The website lists three key areas of focus: education, family stability and chronic homelessness. Jacqueline Parks, chair of the board of directors of United Way of San Diego County, explained in a statement why Coskey was hired. “We had some outstanding candidates for the position, and our search committee conducted an extensive nationwide search to find the best candidate to serve the community,” Parks said. “Laurie wrote her doctoral dissertation on United Way, and had a firm understanding of our role in the community and strategic vision,” Parks continued. “She brings with her strong long-term relationships in the San Diego community and a reputation as a key collaborator, working across party lines. We are confident that she

(l to r) Rabbi Laurie with Speaker Emeritus Toni G. Atkins during San Diego Pride (Facebook) will be the leader we need as we unite the community, helping every child to thrive.” Coskey started her new job on July 14, and has spent her first month learning more about how the 96-year-old nonprofit organization works internally. She talks of expanding United Way’s collaborative efforts in the community and growing new partners. For example, she said, “I have already spoken to my friend and colleague Dr. Delores Jacobs [CEO of The Center] about how we can work more closely together as our work for youth aligns.” With her plate more than full, Coskey recently resigned from two boards: Interfaith Center for Worker Justice, a national alliance of worker justice organizations; and Southern Border Communities Coalition, an alliance of immigrant and border advocacy organizations. Coskey stressed that United Way did not require her to step down from those groups. Coskey said she will remain involved with the boards of both the community college district and the convention center. “They relate well to the work that United Way is doing,” she said. She candidly stated that she hasn’t yet drawn up any goals for United Way, but she has aspirational goals. “That is, to get to know our incredible staff and see how the


organization works; to meet the board and find out their mission; to meet the funders who make our job possible; and to show appreciation for all that they have done,” she said. “I want to strengthen our partnerships in the community … and we will celebrate our 100th anniversary in a few years. United Way has evolved from its beginnings as Community Chest to one of the most respected community organizations in San Diego — and nationwide.” According to the nonprofit’s website, United Way had a total revenue of $15.7 million and a total expenses of $17.5 million in fiscal year 2014-15. Whether dealing with major events like Comic-Con at the convention center, or advocating for children and working families, or ministering to the local LGBT community, Coskey is one busy activist. She traces her desire to make the world a better place to her family. “I grew up in LA with a large, loving Jewish family,” Coskey said. “I did not come from a life of adversity.” However, adversity found the Coskey family. On Dec. 14, 1963, the Baldwin Hills Dam disaster occurred when the reservoir suffered a catastrophic failure and 250 million gallons of water rushed into neighboring communities. Five people were killed and 277 houses were destroyed — including the Coskey’s home. “I’ve never shared this story with a journalist before,” she said. Coskey and her sisters were 6, 3 and 1 at the time. And in an era before cellphones, her dad was on the golf course when he got the news about the disaster and he had no way of immediately reaching his wife to find out the family’s fate. “We barely had time to get out,” Coskey recalled. “We barely had time to rescue the baby from the house.” The Coskeys lost everything: their home and furnishings, their family pictures, their toys and clothes. “In two minutes, our life changed forever,” Coskey said. It would be a defining moment for such a young child. “I was struck by the kindness of friends and strangers,” she said. “But it wasn’t until I was an adult that I realized how deeply it affected us. Things we care about are just items, like pictures. My Social Security card is still gone. I realized that it is family that is important.” Five years later, at age 10, Coskey notified her family that she wanted to be a rabbi. They didn’t have the heart to tell her that in those days, a woman couldn’t be a rabbi. Yet, Coskey would become one of the first female rabbis in the U.S. after being ordained in 1985 from Hebrew Union College in Cincinnati, Ohio. The graduate of Stanford would later earn her doctorate from the University of San Diego after writing her thesis on United Way. “And 22 years later, I am [working] for United Way.” To learn more about United Way, visit —Ken Williams is a contributing editor with Gay San Diego and can be reached at▼


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Free family movie night: The Center will host a screening of “Alvin and The Chipmunks: The Road Chip.” These free family movie nights will be held on the third Friday of each month starting with this event. 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2bzbbPu. music. This month features special guest DJ El Vee. 7 p.m. Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit San Diego King’s Club presents “The Brothers for the Sisters”: Tonight’s performance by the San Diego Kings Club will benefit the San Diego Sister of Perpetual Indulgence in honor of their 10th anniversary. 7 – 8:30 p.m. Numbers San Diego, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Visit


Florence Elementary campus cleanup: Volunteers are needed to join HRC San Diego, Mayor Kevin Faulconer’s LGBT Advisory Board and the Imperial Court de San Diego for this cleanup of the historic school site. Projects will include graffiti removal, landscape, gardening, weed removal, library organization, painting and more. 9 a.m. – 4 p.m. 3914 First Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2bzaVQT. Hillcrest LGBT History Tour: Lambda Archives of San Diego will lead this fun and informative walking tour through Hillcrest and its history. $20 for Archives members; $25 for non-members. Meet at University and Third avenues. 9:30 – 11:45 a.m. Visit Young Professionals Council August social: Join the YPC for an outing to The Center’s Ageless Artists Art Show followed by a casual mixer at Baja Betty’s. For more information contact Co-Chairs Jeremy Bloom ( or Prabha Singh (prabha711@ for more information. 3 – 6 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Baja Betty’s, 1421 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit facebook. com/YPCSD. Ageless Artists Art Show: An exhibition of works by The Center’s 50 and Better Together art group. There will be wine and light snacks served. Must be 21 and up. Admission is free. 3 – 5 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit ‘Girls Night Out’ dance: Monthly dance for the local women’s community, consisting of a night filled with dance


‘10 Years of Love’ party in the park: San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence are celebrating 10 years as a “fully professed house of the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence.” There will be a picnic served along with prizes and other surprises. Noon – 3 p.m. Balboa Park Botanical Gardens, 1549 El Prado. Visit Trans Family Support Services: Offered on the third Sunday of the month, this support group will offer a safe environment and guided discussion for transgender and gender-nonconforming children, teens and young adults.1 – 2:30 p.m. North County LGBTQ Resource Center, 3220 Mission Ave., Suite 2, Oceanside. RSVP and contact


Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece. Tonight – “Hamsa Hand.” 6 – 9 p.m. 21+. $45, all supplies included, registration is required. Barn Brewery, 2850 El Cajon Blvd. #3. For more info, visit


Trivia Tuesday: Every Tuesday, come alone or with a group of friends for a chance to win valuable HBC gift cards. 7:30 – 10 p.m. Hillcrest Brewing Company, 1458 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit hillcrestbrewingcompany. com or call 619-269-4323.


Donation based yoga: A new weekly yoga class for donations (limited space). 8 – 9 a.m. North County LGBTQ Resource Center, 3220 Mission Ave., Suite 2, Oceanside. RSVP to info@ Women’s Museum Suffrage Rally and Parade: A chance to celebrate Women’s Equality Day (in period costume) with a rally at Balboa Park’s organ pavilion followed by a parade through the Prado and pavilion areas. There will be light refreshments served afterwards with a performance by the Moxie San Diego Girls Band from 6:30 – 7:30 p.m. Visit bit. ly/2aZ3Apx. Redwing Bar and Grill 10-year anniversary: The bar will be celebrating with complimentary drinks and food from 6 – 7:30 p.m. followed by a performance by local talents at 8 p.m. Redwing Bar and Grill, 4012 30th St., North Park. Visit LGBTQ 101 Forum: South Bay Pride and The Industry have partnered to offer this forum. The interactive two-hour training will be followed by a Q-and-A session covering “the basics of LGBTQ identities, terminology, and concepts while exploring issues relevant to the oppression and discrimination that LGBTQ people experience.” Attendees will learn how to be a better supporter and ally of the community. Free but signup is required. Donations accepted. 7 p.m. The Industry, 871 Harold Place, Suite 112, Chula Vista. Visit bit. ly/2bzsa4h.


‘America’s Finest Corporate Dash’: Corporate wellness, team building and happy hour come together with this unique event. Local companies will build teams to walk, jog or run in the Corporate Dash 5k race. Following the race there will be an after-party with a craft beer garden, food and live music. The event

will raise funds for the PEERS network — a San Diego-based nonprofit. Event check-in starts at 5 p.m. with the beer garden opening at 6 p.m., first wave of the race at 7 p.m. and post-race celebration from 8 – 10:30 p.m. Qualcomm Stadium, 9449 Friars Road, Mission Valley. Visit

‘Gypsy’: Two chances to see “the mother of all musicals” (based on the story of Gypsy Rose Lee) about an indomitable stage mother who chases vicarious success and stardom as she pushes her daughters through the vaudeville circuit. Runs through Sept. 4. 2 p.m. and 7 p.m. Cygnet Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St., Old Town. Visit


Opening night party for ‘Exitos del Cine Latino’ fi lm festival: This festival kicks off with a party and movie premiere of Mexico’s new comedy “El Tamaño Si Importa.” The party will include live music, appetizers, drinks and mingling with the fi lm’s star and director. Tickets for the movie only are $11.50, party-only tickets are $18, and $25 tickets include both. 5:30 p.m. AMC Plaza Bonita, 3030 Plaza Bonita Road, National City. Visit


Dwell Well Realty’s 4th annual ‘Green Day’: A beach clean up event (coordinated by San Diego Coastkeepers) preceded by a BBQ lunch. Lunch at noon, cleanup at 1 p.m. A $100 Visa gift card will be given to the team that collects the most pounds of waste. De Anza Cove Park, 3000 North Mission Bay Drive. Visit bit. ly/2aZ2eep. Bingo: A bingo fundraiser for the What Had Happened Was softball team who is raising money to go to Kansas City for the World Series next month. Bingo cards will be $5 each (trade-ins available for $1 each). 50/50 raffle tickets will also be sold. 3 – 5 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2bzuXKQ. Casino Night: The San Diego LGBT Community Center’s second annual night of mock gaming with food, drinks, music and prizes. Entirety of $125 ticket benefits The Center’s programs. 7 – 11 p.m. Private residence (address given with ticket confirmation). Visit


San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus info night and auditions: A chance to learn more about the chorus and audition for their holiday show, “Jingle.” 7 – 10 p.m. 2961 First Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit


Bears San Diego BBQ: Bears San Diego will be heading to Fiesta Island for a BBQ with hot dogs and burgers provided. Attendees are asked to bring side dishes, appetizers and dessert. Free for members, $5 for non-members. 7 p.m. Visit


Donut and beer pairing: Donut Bar and Mission Brewery are teaming up for this pairing event. Four beers from Mission will be matched with four donuts from Donut Bar. $5 from each ticket will be given to The Seany Foundation — a nonprofit that sends kids and siblings affected by cancer to camp. Tickets are $25. 7 – 9 p.m. Mission Brewery, 1441 L St., Downtown. Visit bit. ly/2aZ1ztz.


‘Roman Holiday’: Cinema Under the Stars presents the classic romance starring Audrey Hepburn and Gregory Peck. 8 p.m. $15. Additional screenings on Friday, Sept. 2, Saturday, Sept. 3 and Sunday, Sept. 4. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit topspresents. com or call 619-295-4221. —Compiled by Jen Van Tieghem. Email calendar items to or jen@


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ACROSS 1 Activist Milk of this puzzle’s quote 7 Street in San Francisco where Milk was “mayor” 13 Like the naked eye 15 Tip of a thick tool? 16 Coming 17 Lincoln’s side of the penny 18 Big top performer 19 The Batmobile, e.g. 21 Market corrections 22 Area of tongue usage 27 Talk and talk 30 With 47- and 59-Across, what a gay activist said about the shot that would kill him 31 IRS info 34 Crack fighter pilot 35 Suffix with bear 36 JFK debater in ’60 37 The, to the Greeks 38 Statue’s modesty protector 40 Phrase before “forgiven” 42 Open your mouth to let it out


43 Bert’s roommate 45 Head lines? 46 “After Delores” author Schulman 47 See 30-Across 50 Italian well 51 Long pants, for short 52 Lorca’s grocery 55 Activity of a siren 59 See 30-Across 63 Split 64 Eagle appendage 65 Drag queen’s leg scraper 66 They’re performing, in Fame 67 Garbo, for one 68 Tasty tubers

1 The rainbow flag has six 2 Hathaway of “The Devil Wears Prada” 3 Uncommon, to Caligula 4 Early fiddles 5 College web address suffix 6 To date 7 Where a trucker parks his bottom 8 Off-rd. ride 9 You can stick your tools in these 10 Polo of “The Fosters” 11 Sound grate? 12 Lines from Lesbos 14 Bruce Jenner at the Olympics 15 Straight to the point 20 Offspring of a queen 23 Giant quarterback Manning 24 Hill with a flat top 25 Some bitches put it in their mouths 26 Cigarette pkg. 27 Larry Kramer’s alma mater 28 Like sourballs 29 Reeves of “My Own Private Idaho” 31 Dinah of a golf classic

32 Whale finder 33 Close at hand, to the Bard 39 European nuts 41 “___ Miz” 42 Night alright for fighting, to Elton John 44 Whitman work 46 Like Edna Turnblad 48 Makes into law 49 Dahl of Hollywood 52 Martin’s “Ed Wood” role 53 Bucatinsky’s “All ___ the Guy” 54 Good with the hands 56 “I” of Socrates 57 “Cheers” barfly 58 Mardi ___ 60 Perry Mason’s field 61 Grand ___ Opry 62 Gay guy, to Brits


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Strength for the Journey is a five-day retreat, providing a safe, caring and healing community that fosters spiritual and emotional growth. This year’s retreat will take place Sept. 12 – 16 at Camp Cedar Glen near Julian, California. In addition to providing the physical needs of a retreat, the program also offers various group workshops on health and wellness, medication adherence, nutrition, diet and exercise. Founded by the Rev. Burt All, a United Methodist minister who was himself living with AIDS, Strength for the Journey provides the circumstances in which people can inspire and encourage one another to develop new attitudes about living with HIV. Burt had a vision of a place far away from the city and the pressures of day-to-day life, where others living with HIV/ AIDS could rest, relax, share, connect, play and heal. His vision was realized in 1988, when the first Strength for the Journey retreats took place in Los Angeles and San Diego. San Diego Strength for the Journey 2016 is made possible with the support of the United Methodist Church and San Diego AIDS Walk.

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Stefan Talian in his studio at The Studio Door (Photo by Monica Mahdion) Stefan Talian recently became an American citizen and has set up shop at The Studio Door gallery in North Park. Talian has worked as both an executive chef and a yoga instructor, for nearly six years. However it was the struggles he has endured and his passion for expression that pushed him in 2013 to pursue his dream to live as an artist, despite having no formal art education. His work has been seen in various juried art shows and on display at the San Diego Art Institute and now he is working alongside San Diego’s artist mentor of the year, Patric Stillman, owner of The Studio Door. Though he’s been in San Diego for about six years, when Talian first arrived in America, he’d packed everything he owned in two pieces of luggage. Unfortunately the luggage never showed up, forcing him to start from scratch on the East Coast. “From the fi rst moment I arrived, I felt very welcomed and I knew I wanted to stay. I fell in love with this country,” Talian stated in a press release about his quest for citizenship. “For me becoming an American citizen meant making it permanent so nobody can get between us, like a marriage, it’s forever in good and bad.” Those interested in Talian’s work can stop by The Studio Door, located at 3730 30th St., North Park, and watch him in action. The Studio Door will also be hosting an Open Studios San Diego reception Oct. 8, from 6 – 9 p.m, where numerous local artists, including Talian, will have their work on display. For more information about Talian, visit or visit▼

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ORCHIDS Fast-forward four decades and, as the saying goes, the rest is history. “It has evolved over time,” said Perriann Hodges, SDAF director and a staffer with Studio E Architects. “It’s been a great platform for public awareness and participation. This is a way for the public to have a say beyond community planning meetings.”

Much like a hearty perennial that comes back year after year, the Orchids and Onions program has gotten better with age, said Lauren Kim, who has co-chaired a committee tasked with organizing the logistics of the event. In a typical year, SDAF receives around 100 nominees. This year, more than 130 submissions have funneled into the organization. “[Orchids and Onions] has provided for some interesting conversations about planning and architecture over the

The Hub, the newly redesigned shopping area in the center of Hillcrest, is up for both an Orchid and an Onion. (Courtesy SDAF) While the San Diego chapter of the American Institute of Architects kicked off Orchids and Onions 40 years ago, they dropped out of sight after the 2002 competition. After a period of dormancy from 2003 – 2005, the SDAF revived the program a decade ago.

years,” Kim said. “This is the kind of platform that gives people the complete freedom to say whatever they want.” While free speech is welcome, organizers have long put parameters around what makes for acceptable commentary. Off-handed, one-liner statements on why a particular

project is worthy of an Orchid or Onion award will be weeded out — no pun intended — while well-crafted responses with valid arguments tend to wind up in the hands of the jury. Nominations for this year’s awards program closed recently, but the public can weigh in on submissions during the upcoming people’s choice awards, which will allow votes to be cast online from Sept. 1 – 15. After public commentary is aired, nominees will go before the jurors for further deliberation and consideration in advance of the Oct. 13 awards ceremony that includes a reception at Horton Plaza Park and the ceremony at the Spreckels Theatre. From the onset, the jurors designating orchids and onions have come from diverse backgrounds — from creative-minded persons in the art space to nuts-and-bolts engineers and architects. Kim said the cross-section of viewpoints have yielded some interesting and surprising awards over the years. In a twist this year, SDAF is bringing onboard a student juror who will add a youth-filled perspective to the mix of decision-makers. Nolan Delgado joined the panel through SDAF’s participation in the Architecture, Construction and Engineering (ACE) Mentors program. “This is a new opportunity for us and Nolan’s opinion will matter just as much as anyone else’s,” Kim said. “He will be considered a peer.” The other nine jurors this year include Darren Bradley of

The old North Park Post Office became part of a residential development that is up for both awards, too. (Courtesy SDAF) Darren Bradley Photography; Kristi Byers, AIA, of Kristi Byers Architect APC; Ben Dalton, AIA, of Miller Hull; Nathan Elliott, ASLA, of the Office of James Burnett; and Marvin Malecha, FAIA, of NewSchool of Architecture + Design. Rounding out this year’s juror panel are participants David Marshall of Heritage Architecture; Susanna Samaniego of 4 Corners International Design Concepts; Carmen Vann of Turner Construction Company; and Laura Warner of City Works. When asked about some of the notable Orchid and Onion awardees over the years, Hodges and Kim were flooded with some of the orchids, including the remaking of Gaslamp Quarter and Horton Plaza’s development. In unison, Hodges and Kim pinpointed a standout onion. In 2010, the proposed Charger

stadium Downtown received the people’s choice award for that category as criticisms emerged in a hot debate that continues to this day. “There was a statement made at that time that people didn’t want tax money used for a new Charger stadium,” Hodges said. The Charger nomination is no longer eligible as rules have been tweaked within the past few years. Nominations for unbuilt projects are no longer accepted. Although Orchids and Onions awards have been handed out for architecture, landscapes and interior designs across San Diego County, projects in the Hillcrest and North Park areas have been well represented over the years. Some of the projects receiving an Orchid have included: ● Whole Foods Market (1998) — interior design. ● North Park Elementary School (1998) — fine arts. ● Stephen and Mary Birch North Park Theatre (2008) — historic preservation. Onions also have made their way into the neighborhood: ● Hillcrest LED Sign (2011) — historic preservation. ● North Park “Clones” (duplicate condo projects) (2006) — architecture. And while the Village Hillcrest residential complex got an Onion in 1992 for architecture, just two years later, the developer had made enough changes to garner a Blooming Orchid Award in 1994. Nominees for 2016 are all available for review on the website. Readers are encouraged to peruse the list of nominees in preparation for the upcoming People’s Choice selections and it’s even fun to read the comments. As we go to press, the nominee with the “most views” is Qualcomm Building AZ Pacific Center Campus and the “most buzz” (comments) is the County of San Diego Alpine Library. There are a number of North Park developments up for orchids this year and even a few onions; and the HUB in Hillcrest is in the running for both an orchid and an onion. For more details and to review all the nominees for this year’s Orchids and Onions program, visit —Editor Morgan M. Hurley contributed to this report. —Dave Fidlin is a freelance journalist with a special affinity for San Diego and its people. Contact him at dave.fidlin@▼

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