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Louganis on board Greg Louganis mentored the diving team at the 2012 Olympic Games; (inset) Louganis in a gold medal winning dive. (Courtesy HBO Sports)

New documentary reveals a life of challenges Morgan M. Hurley | Editor New age space cadets


Olympic great Greg Louganis grew up in San Diego’s East County and before he set the stillunbeaten record of winning two gold medals for diving — one for the 10m Platform and one for the 3m Springboard — in back-to-back Olympic

Games (’84 and ’88) he was a shy, introverted little boy. He was adopted. And he was also gay. On Aug. 4, HBO Sports debuted “Back on Board: Greg Louganis,” a new feature-length documentary film that chronicles the native San Diegan’s life, and all of its exhilarating highs and disturbingly dark lows. Where Louganis excelled was when he was connecting with that diving board and the water; and his laser-sharp focus, beginning at the age

of 9, is highly responsible — along with his two great coaches and his own determination — for him now being referred to as the greatest diver of all time. When Louganis represented the U.S. in the 10m platform dive at the 1976 Summer Olympic Games in Montreal, Canada, at age 16 — the same Olympic Games that Bruce, now Caitlyn, Jenner became synonymous with the decathlon — he came within a few points of beating the 29-year-old reigning gold medalist to win a silver. But his ticker-tape-worthy return to his El Cajon high school, was as challenging as it was welcoming; and things didn’t get much better from there, as the documentary testifies. For so many reasons the road to gold was not easy for Louganis, and viewers will also find out his journey after each gold wasn’t so peachy, either. As arguably the first gay professional athlete, Louganis faced a myriad of challenges and though he wasn’t open about his sexuality until long after he left the sport, his teammates and sponsors always knew, making travel always difficult and income opportunities scant. When Louganis learned he was HIV-positive just weeks before boarding a plane to Seoul for the 1988 Summer Olympic Games, the odds couldn’t have been stacked higher against him; then he hit the diving board with his head. The mishap— during a preliminary dive the day before his gold medal trial — caused him a concussion and required stitches, and the odds got even higher. His accomplishments under those conditions should have been celebrated and the sponsorships and laurels should have propelled him forward for decades to come. But that didn’t happen.

Rocking the boat

The Hole in the Wall up and running

Exhibit highlights lesbians who helped push women’s liberation forward A slice of the homeland


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Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Under the loud screech of jet planes taking off from Lindbergh Field and tucked away in a modest space in Barracks 16 at Liberty Station in Point Loma, visitors will find the Women’s Museum of California. Started in 1983 with Mary Maschal’s own collections inside her Golden Hill home and relocated in 1997 to the Art Union building nearby, the Women’s Museum of California moved to its current, expanded location in 2012. It is one of only five women’s history museums in the entire country. With a mission to “educate and inspire present and future generations about the experiences and contributions of women by collecting, preserving and interpreting the evidence of that experience,” organizers present new, interactive exhibits approximately every six weeks. The current exhibit, “Art Rocks the Boat,” is really the second phase of an exhibit that started a year ago. “Last summer’s exhibit was a little like ‘women’s lib 101,’ and we realized it was a huge topic and we couldn’t tell it all in one exhibit,” said Ashley Gardner, executive director of the museum. They decided instead to first tell an overview of the movement, then deconstruct the era and focus on specifics. The current exhibit tells the story of women “who use art to push boundaries forward,” Gardner said — whether that be through conscious efforts or just by doing what they were doing at the time. “We talk about suffrage a lot here and that was a big deal for our founder, but this more recent history — referred to as the “second wave” of feminism — to our young women, ’60s and ’70s is old history, and suffrage, well they can’t relate to that at all. “I think the ’60s and ’70s were indicative of what can happen when different groups of people come together with that same mission,” Gardner continued. “Then in the ’80s with Ronald Reagan, it all came to a screeching halt.” Balancing history with art and women’s issues that are both historical and contemporary is important to the women who work hard behind the scenes at the museum.

see Louganis, pg 16

Owner disputes accusations of selling By Frank Sabatini Jr.

Women’s Museum’s current exhibit plays heavy on the lesbian. (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley)

Duane McGregor is one of those women. McGregor started volunteering with the museum shortly after it moved to its current space from Golden Hill. “I am the visuals and exhibits designer, so I do the graphics,” she said. “I’m not the curator, it is very collaborative over here and generally we have dozens of people involved. We’ve got kind of a core group of writers that we lean on heavily but we do a ton of research, get it all combined and then distill through numerous processes.” As a result of all the extensive research, McGregor is also an ad hoc historical expert on each exhibit. Should you catch her on site, bend her ear! The placard panels that are designed and constructed by McGregor — and make up a large part of each exhibit — come in various sizes and shapes. Made of CVC plastic, they are durable and pack nicely, making them travel very easily, Gardner said. “We take them to City Hall, the County Administration Building, different libraries and schools,” she said. “It’s a way to get our work out there; to educate the community and gain visibility for the museum. As much as

see Art, pg 7

Shortly after property owners Karen Sherman and her husband, Roger Hull, took over The Hole from its previous operator on July 6, they had completed upgrades to the iconic LGBT bar and extended its operating schedule to seven days a week. On July 16, the couple reopened the subterranean space at 2820 Lytton St. as The Hole in the Wall. It was also soon after that a sales listing for that address began circulating online through Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage Point Loma. But according to Sherman, who has repeatedly stated she has no intention of selling the property, the initial listing was misleading and has since been clarified. “We are interested in selling off the empty building next door to The Hole in the Wall, at 2830 Lytton, which we also own,” she said. “But because both parcels are not technically split, the city considers them to be one lot.” The current ad on homefinder. com now shows the intended address as being up for sale, along with several photographs of the

see Hole, pg 9



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CityFest goes ‘pop’ Ken Williams | Contributing Editor

After a little refurbishing in the summer of 1984, Hillcrest residents and business owners got together to celebrate the relighting of the beloved Hillcrest sign at University and Fifth avenues. They called it CityFest. Who knew CityFest would turn into a huge celebration of the Hillcrest community, now attracting an estimated 150,000 people from all across the West Coast to enjoy food, beer, music, arts and crafts? Sponsored by the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA), CityFest returns this year on Sunday, Aug. 9, running from noon to 11 p.m. in the heart of Hillcrest. The decades-old festival added “CityFest at Night,” a few years ago, a block-party-style event that brings the neighborhood's top DJs to the stage at the corner of University and Fifth avenues starting at 6 p.m. So what’s new this year? “We are calling this year ‘CityFest goes pop,’ referring to everyone’s favorite summertime treat … the popsicle,” said Megan Gamwell, HBA’s marketing and communications program manager. “We are teaming up with Viva Pops to do 300 Popsicle giveaways around the neighborhood leading up to CityFest to help get everyone excited.” Viva Pops is a local boutique Popsicle business that gets their fruits and herbs for their specialty pops from local growers and farmers markets. They sell their gourmet, organic pops in retailers

around San Diego and from a storefront located at 3330 Adams Ave. in Normal Heights. Gamwell said the HBA will be identifying their Viva Pop giveaway locations on the CityFest Facebook page, at Facebook. com/CityFest. Gamwell is relatively new to the CityFest team, but she is helping usher in new ideas. “This marks my third CityFest with the HBA,” she said. “Over the past few years I have seen the event grow to include more of the arts. Last year, and again this year, we are incorporating multiple artist alleys where local artists will be painting, sculpting, designing and sketching live throughout the event.” The annual street festival is increasingly popular and its new artist alley has almost doubled in size compared to last year, Gamwell said, and they already have over 50 artists signed up. “I think CityFest has become such a ‘big deal’ … because it embodies the true meaning of community, fun with family and friends, and summertime!” she said, adding that there is something for everyone with carnival rides, live music, a beer garden, street fair foods and arts and crafts vendors. Many of CityFest’s daytime events tend to cater to children

CityFest has something for everyone. (Photos courtesy Hillcrest Business Association)

and their families, with things like a water slide, a kid’s zone, a Furry Fosters petting zoo; but when the sun goes down the attention turns to the adults with dance music from some of the best DJs in town at the impromptu stage built just for the festival in the shadow of the Hillcrest sign. This year, Hillcrest’s own live music venue, The Merrow, has gotten in on the good vibrations, assembling a live music lineup of indie/neo, blues/rock, reggae/ ska, electro cumbia, indie/pop, and EDM, with each band taking the stage for 45 minutes throughout the day. The daytime lineup includes: The Verigolds (noon), Viva Apollo

(1 p.m.), Cumbia Machin (2:10 p.m.), Social Club (3:15 p.m.), Perro Bravo (4:20 p.m.), Saint Diego (5:25 p.m.), and We Are Sirens (6:25 p.m.). At 7p.m., the DJs take over for the rest of the evening with one hour sets each: DJ John Joseph (7 p.m.), DJ Taj (8 p.m.), DJ K-Swift (9 p.m.), Nikno (10 p.m.). Learn more about DJ John Joseph on page 3. Proceeds from CityFest go toward the upkeep of the Hillcrest sign and beautification projects in Hillcrest. For more information, visit CityFest,, or call 619-299-3330. —Ken Williams is editor of Uptown News and Mission Valley News and can be reached at ken@sdcnn. com or at 619-961-1952. —Editor Morgan M. Hurley contributed to this report.t

NEWS Native San Diegan and popular music man “DJ John Joseph” will be performing at "CityFest goes Pop." He took a few moments out of his busy schedule to answer some questions. What made you want to be a DJ? Happened by accident really, I grew up around music and just started to spin as a hobby. Eventually it became my life.

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work in Vegas ... was so much fun and we are now friends so it makes me happy.

(Photo by Bradford Rogne)

ph DJ John Jose

What type of music do you spin today? I play big room EDM [Electronic Dance Music].

Several years ago you were only using digital, has that changed or do you never go back? I’m still using digital ... Serato to be exact, but digital is the way to go, clear sound and my options are pretty limitless. Is there any music you won’t play, or do you cater to your crowd? I’m fun when it comes to that, I try to stick to my trade and what I do well, but I have been known to play random events where the music isn’t my norm and I do my best and have fun doing it. Does anything ever get old or do the crowds always make music new and different? With all the traveling I do, the crowds are always changing and it never gets old. Even when I’m back home, since the music is always progressing so is the crowd.  What is your most memorable moment as a DJ? Opening for one of my favorite DJs … Clock-

You now travel the nation to perform, which cities are your favorites to play in? I still always have a blast in Vegas, the energy there is unlike anyplace, I think because everyone is there to have a great time!

There are so many DJs today — so much competition — what do you feel you bring to the table that others may not? I don’t believe in competition, yes there are a lot of us out there today but it’s really the energy you bring that separates you from the rest. I’m always giving it my all, each and ever y show! What do you do outside of work for fun and relaxation? I’m always in the gym, hiking or anything outdoors ... it keeps me grounded. Plus seeing my family and friends help too.    Any surprises for your fans attending CityFest this year? I have a bunch of new music to play and personal mash-ups ... and if I finish it in time, my new song “Till the End” that I wrote and produced with two beautiful, sexy, talented DJs ... but I can’t give out all the details just yet!  Where can people find you spinning outside of special events like CityFest? I go on tour mid-September and I’ll be in 60 cities until March, so you’re bound to see me somewhere, but I’ll always fly back to San Diego when I can — never going to leave this place! t

Adams (left) with his marketing crew at the San Diego Pride Parade. (Courtesy PRIDE Wireless)

‘My true passion’ San Diegan links interests in equality, electronics By Dave Fidlin With a planned launch just months away, San Diegan Patrick Adams has aspirations of tapping into his entrepreneurial skills and bringing a new LGBT-focused wireless product to consumers across the country. Adams’ creation, borne out of what he describes as a desire to continue advancing LGBT rights, is the aptly named PRIDE Wireless. In addition to offering what he envisions as a top-notch, lowpriced wireless service, a portion of PRIDE’s proceeds will also go toward a variety of LGBT causes. “I think it’s important to take some of the company’s profits and give them back to the community,”

said Adams, an openly gay man who has taken the title of CEO for PRIDE Wireless. While specifics are still being formulated, Adams said he anticipates donating some of the company’s proceeds toward such causes as LGBT healthcare, suicide prevention, anti-bullying campaign efforts, addiction, homelessness and employment-related issues. From a technology standpoint, Adams brings to the table a varied background, spanning more than a decade in the wireless industry. He cut his teeth at Jitterbug, the wireless carrier targeted toward senior citizens, and later moved on to provide his expertise at a mobile hotspot service provider known as Truconnect. PRIDE’s business plan has been in the works for nearly a year,

see Wireless, pg 11



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More excitement at the Archives Out of the Archives Walter G. Meyer Things never seem to slow down at Lambda Archives. We’re an organization that collects the past and we keep making news in the present. In June, the marriage equality decision from the U.S. Supreme Court caused us to break out some of the thousands of photos of the many marriage equality rallies and celebrations that have occurred in San Diego since 2008 when the California Supreme ruled that “all love is equal.” In July, following its exhibition at the first-ever Pride celebration on a U.S. military base, the Archives was happy to display “Proud to Serve,” a collection of photos honoring military veterans who were forced to serve in silence before and during “don’t ask, don’t tell.” Lisa Kove of DOD Fed Globe arranged for the Archives to house the works before they will be returned to Washington, D.C. later in August. The Channel 5 News came out to cover the exhibit and interview Archives board President Maureen Steiner, whose spouse, coincidentally, is featured in the exhibit. Our “Meet the Archivists” event in July drew about 50 people to say “Hi” to Jen LaBarbera and Ken Selnick and meet our new board members. Voted onto our board last month were Jackie Jackson, Meghan Wharton, David Ramos, Michael

Vierela, and Cindy Uybungco. All of the new board members are eager to help the Archives grow. We welcome them and their enthusiasm. Vierela, Uybungco and Ramos have already donated dozens of hours in volunteer time to our efforts.

Archives on display (Courtesy Lambda Archives)

For the Pride Parade, Lambda Archives staff, board members and volunteers joined the contingent of the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation, our landlords and a major benefactor. With amazing foresight, SDHDF had rented an amphibious SEAL vehicle! As hard as it was raining, we began to wonder if we’d need the boat and its outboard motor to make it to Balboa Park. We all got wet but had a great time. The weather kept the crowds small at the


festival, but quite a few people did stop in our booth to say hi, learn a bit of LGBT history, pick up a newsletter, and take a selfie for our Instagram page. Check out the photos on Instagram @LambdaArchives. We had our latest newsletter published in time to distribute at Pride. If you’d like a free copy, stop by the Archives or join as a member and have one mailed to you. Members also get invited to all of the exciting happenings at the Archives. On Aug. 6, we hosted lunch for some of the seniors who are active at The LGBT Community Center. Senior Services Coordinator LaRue Fields helped set up the event, which gave some of the pioneers of our LGBT community the chance to check out the Archives. Up next for the Archives is another Out at the Archives event; this one will be held at The Center on Wednesday, Aug. 12 and will focus on the history of the many LGBT sports organizations in San Diego. There will be a brief history of the contributions these groups have made to our community, followed by a panel discussion with current and past athletes and organizers. A reception with light refreshments will follow to give everyone a chance to say hello to old friends and meet new ones. The event is free and open

to the public. Watch our Facebook page for more details. We at the Archives are also proud and pleased to have received grants from both the city of San Diego’s Commission for Arts and Culture (COAC) and from the County of San Diego. Dana Springs, executive director of the COAC, was nice enough to pay us a visit to take our tour and learn more about our operation. We are grateful to our local governments for their support and trust that we will preserve the LGBT piece of San Diego’s rich history. We know this funding will help us increase our ability to preserve, protect and teach our history. The California Audiovisual Preservation Project also announced that it will help digitize some of the hundreds of VHS tapes we have. There are many opportunities to get involved at the Archives as a donor, volunteer, member or visitor. Drop us an email at or give us a call at 619-2601522 to learn more. —Walter G. Meyer is the author of the critically-acclaimed gay novel “Rounding Third,” a regular contributor to Gay San Diego, and the manager of Lambda Archives. Reach him at manager.lambda.archives@

Vinavanti, a new urban winery that plans to move into the old V-Outlet in Hillcrest on University Avenue near the Pride Flag, has launched a Kickstarter campaign to get the local community involved in its effort to bring a “craft beer style” winery to the neighborhood. Identified as the “only certified organic winery in San Diego County,” Vinavanti launched in San Marcos in 2007 and opened their current Sorrento Valley location in 2012. For the Hillcrest property, they plan to have an in-house winery, a patio and a kitchen, and will continue to focus on producing wines with grapes harvested from local vineyards, with growers in Warner Springs, Temecula, Ramona and Pauma Valley. No additives such as sulfites or other chemicals are involved in the making of their wines and they are also naturally vegan. The Kickstarter campaign offers “returns” to pledges in values ranging from $25 to $2,500, and starting with having your name added to their website’s Wall of Fame, to having the opportunity to name a wine that Vinavanti produces in the future. Photos on the Kickstarter page show what the inside of the V-Outlet looked like before, as well as what an artist says the winery space will look like after the design build. The Kickstarter campaign ends Aug. 14. To read

see Briefs, pg 7


Let us hear from you! North County Update Max Disposti After almost four years of continuous activities, the North County LGBTQ Resource Center is now providing an incredible number of ser vices. From free mental health to youth-related activities, school training and advocacy, there are over 25 organized recurring activities that occur at the Center each month. While the Center has become the place to go in North County for LGBTQ related ser vices, we

know that we still have a long way to go before we can become a visible voice not only in Oceanside, but also in the rest of the region. Our mission is to continue to create more awareness and visibility in North County but also to advocate for equality and inclusiveness ever ywhere. However, we always aim to do better and we would like to hear from you! If you have participated in the NC Center activities or if you have come just once, or you have benefited from our presence in any way, please let us hear from you. In the first feedback we have received, some folks have stated

Parenting yourself Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Almost everyone I know complains about their parents — clients, friends and relatives alike. Our parents never get it right, do they? They always screw up in tons of creative, hurtful ways. But what can we do about it? We can learn to parent ourselves. Many of us go through life looking for what our parents couldn’t give us. We look to friends, partners, children and our pets for those missing pieces of ourselves that we never got. I see it a lot as a psychotherapist: There’s all this stuff we didn’t get from our parents that we still want. And we want it NOW. Fair enough, but how can we get it? Don’t expect it from your partner. You can look to your partner for the love you didn’t get, and maybe, most of the time they can give it to you. But then comes that awful day when you want them to love you in a certain way (that you didn’t get from your parents) and they can’t give it to you. And the shit hits the fan! OMG! How could they let you down like this? Don’t they know how important this is to you? In a word: no. They don’t know. They can’t know. They weren’t there when your parents messed up. They didn’t see your 5-year-old face when mom said that awful thing or dad left or both of them divorced and left you feeling terrified inside. This is why parenting yourself is really the only thing that works. It works because only YOU can parent yourself. No one else can do it. Even the best friend or wife/husband can’t possibly be there for you 24/7, like you are for yourself. Parenting yourself means becoming the parent you always wanted, but never had. You learn to give yourself the validation, praise and security you’ve been desperately seeking from other people. You talk to the scared little kid part of you that panics when she feels abandoned or needs comfort when he didn’t get the job/man/condo he wanted. Here is a specific example: Let’s say that, when you were little, your mother worked all the time and your dad drank too much,

so neither of them were available to comfort you and make you feel safe and loved. So, now you look for this from everyone you know. And, sometimes, you get it. But today, you don’t. You call everyone but no one answers and you feel so alone, unloved and scared. What do you do? You parenting yourself: Instead of calling yet another friend, sit quietly and breathe deeply. Imagine that your childhood self is standing right in front of you. See this scared little kid. This is you, as you were back then. Now imagine that the adult you takes scared little you into their big, strong, capable adult arms. Speak words of comfort to this child: “I love you. You’re safe. I’m here for you.” And then praise them; tell this child a dozen things that you love about them. Let this child tell you their fears. Don’t problem-solve. Let them talk. When they’re done, address their fears as you wish your mother or father would have done. You are — in essence — becoming the wonderful parent that you never had. It’s never too late. When our adult selves get scared or panicky, it’s our scared little kid who’s running the show. We feel like we’re 5 or 10 or 15 years old again … and act like it. Parenting yourself, like the above exercise demonstrates, lets you give yourself the safety and encouragement you’ve always wanted, but, up until now, never got. Why bother with all this stuff? Because when you parent yourself well, you need less from other people. This will be a big relief for your partner, friends, coworkers and biological parents. You will be more self-content and much more fun to be around. People will stop describing you as “needy.” And, most importantly, your life will be so much better. You won’t need to cling to anyone to feel safe; you won’t need to demand things from friends and lovers; you will be taking good care of yourself. And isn’t that what a good parent really does? —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit

that they need more social and interactive activities. Particularly in North County, people feel isolated because there are not many venues where they can go and gather in public. We agree! Another group voiced their need to see us more visible in other North County cities. We agree to this as well! As matter of fact, as you fill out the sur vey let us know if you are willing to offer your expertise to facilitate a social gathering anywhere in North County, we will be ver y happy to support and accommodate other events as well. In the meantime, more activities have been added each year and we are getting ready to move sometime in November to a bigger facility that should accommodate more of you as well.

If you do not find something that fits you, it is not because we are not interested or do not care, establishing new activities and programs takes time, dedication and even money, so please be patient with us. Overall, through our sur vey we are looking to see if what we have started is going in the right direction, but we are thankful to all of you for the incredible support already received. Having 10,000 visitors through our doors in the past year is certainly a sign that our Center was a needed reality in North County. Here is our five-minute survey: You can also find it online at —Max Disposti is a human rights

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activist, a community organizer and the founder and executive director of the Nor th County LGBTQ Resource Center. He is currently also serving on the boards of the Oceanside City Library and Main Street Oceanside and previously served on the city’s Community Relations Commission. He can be reached at maxrome@ t

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Letters A powerful fair ytale I really liked David Warmoth’s letter [see “Opinion: A fairy tale for our time … and city,” Vol. 6, Issue 15]. It was powerful, funny and uncomfortably accurate. It made it laugh (it was so witty) and yet presented some powerful truths in a way that really hit home. Please keep on writing and doing what you do. You put into words what many of us have been thinking. I’m so glad to see a piece like that in GSD. Bravo! Peace and fire, —Michael Kimmel, via and email

Raves for a review Thank you Frank, for reviewing a restaurant in East County [see “Pumped with peppers,” Vol. 6, Issue 15]. I and other friends in the county get so bored with most reviews concentrating on anywhere coastal or Little Italy, Downtown, Hillcrest, etc. I for one often look first at the address and if I can imagine parking to be an issue well, I’ll pass. Thank you, sincerely. —Ron Edwords, via

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Changing hearts and lives Editor’s Note: This letter was originally sent to Tom Felkner, the author of a piece on the San Diego Men’s Chorus we ran in our July 24 issue, but shared with us afterward. We thought its contents were so important that we reached out to Heather Robert, president of the San Diego Women’s Chorus and author of the letter, for permission to run it. Hi Tom, I just read the article you wrote for Gay SD about “Imagine.” It was great ... I actually got choked up reading it [see “Imagining 30 years,” Vol. 6, Issue 16]. It’s been nice to get to know you and Bob [Lehman, president of SDGMC]. I don’t know if you know this, but SDGMC has a special place in my heart. After Prop 8 passed, I was baffled and disgusted by the hatred and ignorance that enabled that to happen. I decided I needed to do something as a straight ally to become more involved in the fight for equality. We live up in Rancho Penasquitos, a quiet, relatively conservative suburb ... there were a LOT of ‘Yes on 8’ signs around. This prompted many discussions with my then 6-year-old daughter about “love is love”; however, there were no gay people (at least out gay people) in


our family or our close circle of friends and I worried that without walking the talk, my lessons about respecting differences and celebrating diversity wouldn’t sink in. So, a month after the election, I took my first-grader to see the Gay Men’s holiday concert. It was my first time seeing them, too. It was fun and touching and ... in the concert program I saw an ad for the San Diego Women’s Chorus. I joined them the following month, in January 2009, and the rest is history. SDWC has become my village, my tribe, and those women have played a major role in helping me raise my daughter into a confident and compassionate young woman. So, thank you, gay men of SDGMC, for coming into this straight woman’s life at just the right time. You introduced me to a community that I didn’t even know existed that would truly become my sisterhood. Being able to combine my love of music with my passion for social justice has been one of the most amazing gifts of my life. I’m so looking for ward to combining the power of our two groups to touch even more hearts and minds with our shared belief that music can change the world.

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Dear Morgan Hurley [see “The many faces of Hal Sparks,” Vol. 6, Issue 15]; It’s become commonplace to use “infamous” for “famous.” I have no idea why, since the two words mean exactly the opposite of each other. When you report Ellen DeGeneres’s “infamous” coming out story line, you’re saying that the episode was, according to standard dictionaries, wicked or abominable. I don’t think you meant that. I think you meant to say “famous” and that’s what the storyline was in the annals of gay liberation history. I make two assumptions here. First, as an editor of a widely read newspaper, you want to be as exact with the language as possible. Second, I assume that you want to reach an intelligent and educated readership that will respect what you write. I hope you won’t mind my butting in, but I too am an editor and a former English teacher. I can’t help myself. And by the way, I’m sure that the networks did indeed see Ellen’s disclosure as “infamous.”  —Rober t Heylmun, San Diego, via email Rober t — Error acknowledged and it even made it through the edits of two other people! Though I did mean to have the word in “quotes” so it would take on a more sinister meaning, I went ahead and swapped it for “famous” online. Thanks for reading GSD and for keeping me on my toes! — Edt

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founder Judy Dulgacz is the current CEO of Olivia Travel) has a large focus in the exhibit. Lesbian musicians Meg Christian, Chris Williamson, Holly Near and various others on the label who pushed women’s music forward are profiled, as well as Joan Baez, Suzy Quattro, Joan Jett, Laura Nero and many others. As you make your way through the exhibits, a musical soundtrack from the era, including plenty from Olivia Records, can be

we’d like the community to all come here, it just isn’t going to happen.” Art Rocks the Boat is laid out in chronological order within each of five different aspects of the movement: fine art; theater and film; dance; music; and literature. Highlights of the first half of the exhibit include looped clips from the Mary Tyler Moore Show; Moore’s predecessor Marlo Thomas in “That Girl” as the independent woman of the ’60s; Diahann Carroll, the first African American woman to have her own television show; Jane Fonda’s The women's music movement has a large display (Photo by twists on feminism Morgan M. Hurley) from Barbarella to Klute and beyond; performance artist Yoko Ono; and heard wafting through the museum, the work of a lithographer who often allowing an immersive experience. used her rejection letter from the Local historical side note: Dozens Tamarind Institute — the premier of artists from Olivia Records were lithography school at the time — as always in stock at the now defunct a centerpiece of both angst and irony Paradigm Women’s Book Store, in her art. which held court in the early 1990s in The evolution of women’s music, the space that is now home to Lestat’s hardcore feminist newsletters, and Coffee House on Adams Avenue. literature and poetry, that was conThe Women’s Museum of Califorsidered too risqué because of its raw nia is located at 2730 Historic Decatur content regarding the love and sexualRoad #103 at Liberty Station. The ity between women, is also on display, museum relies on volunteers, donaalong with a special display case of tions and purchases in their museum items from the personal collection of store. For more information, visit Kathy Najimy — a native San Diegan and sign up who launched her career here. for the newsletter. Olivia Records, a music collective formed in 1973 that helped launch —Morgan M. Hurley can be the women’s music movement (coreached at


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Gulliver and Christine Parascandolo, two local filmmakers, will be screening “Cosplay Dreams 3D,” their new film that explores what goes on behind the scenes and the elaborate costumes ever y year at Comic-Con and other related events. The film, which recently won Best Documentar y at the seventh annual 3D film festival, will be presented by Platt College at the Gaslamp Reading Cinema, located at 701 Fifth Ave., Aug. 21 at 7:30 p.m. Starting at 6 p.m. the night will kick off with a red carpet event and pop culture show, with a Q&A with the filmmakers immediately following the film. Cosplay hobbyists and their unique stories will be profiled, and what it is like to transition between their costumed fantasy lives and their ever yday lives. Cosplay celebrities and other world famous Cosplay artists will also be highlighted. “As filmmakers, we were immediately captivated by the idea of Cosplay even though we had no idea how popular it was when we started,” executive producer and San Carlos resident Christine Parascandolo said in a press release. “Each Cosplayer in the film is like a

GAY SAN DIEGO August 7 – 20, 2015 living, walking sculpture. This combined with the amazing environments that these events took place in, it was a clear choice to us that there was no better medium than 3D to allow the audience to be fully immersed in the world of Cosplay. When you see this amazing artform, on the big screen — in 3D — you can’t imagine seeing it any other way.” For more information follow them on Facebook “CosplayDreams3D” and watch the trailer here: bit. ly/1Fo04vj.


Being Alive, one of the longest running HIV/AIDS support and services organizations in San Diego, recently moved from its longtime home on Centre Street to 3940 Fourth Ave., in the heart of Hillcrest. The move was necessary for financial purposes, the organization said in a recent press release, in large part due to dwindling government funding for HIV/AIDS programs over the last decade. The move allowed the organization to slash their overhead and replace all their antiquated computer systems, but executive director Shannon Wagner states that since moving, the organization has seen an increase in HIV positive San Diegans seeking the services of Being Alive, for a variety of reasons. Being Alive’s programs include: Daniel’s Market, the monthly pantry-style grocery program that serves 2,714 households free of charge; holistic therapies, including massage, acupuncture and chiropractic services; recreation services, offering various free tickets to sporting events, movies, arts and culture


events, musical and stage theater, and more; 365 support groups per year, for those newly diagnosed or those who’ve been living with the disease long-term; HIV/AIDS 101 classes; peer advocacy; housing assistance and much more. Being Alive depends upon the generosity of others and is in the midst of a summer fundraising campaign. Help them meet their goals by calling 619-291-1400 or visiting


The annual U.S. Sand Sculpting Challenge & Dimensional Art Exposition returns to the B Street Pier for four full days over Labor Day weekend. The Pier, located at 1140 N. Harbor Drive, has been in the midst of construction on either side of it for the past couple of years and this may be the first year the streets will be clear for the event. Eleven World Master sand sculptors from all over the globe and nine Cool California Carvers will descend upon SAND iego (the organizers’ new name for the event) to compete and manipulate 300 tons of sand into dozens of beautifully sculpted masterpieces. In addition to the sandsculpting challenges, there will be dozens of three-dimensional artisan booths, live entertainment, a dozen gourmet food trucks, Festival of Sail happening concurrently with the best view on the bay, sandboxes and rides for kids and much more. A portion of the proceeds will go toward children’s arts education programs. For a full list of entertainment, participating sand sculptors, food trucks and activities, visit



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'Return' to New Village Arts Theater Review Charlene Baldridge Shakespeare’s “Tempest,” in which an exiled magician named Prospero relinquishes his power and gives his teenage daughter, Miranda, over to “a brave new world,” is exceptionally fertile fodder for parody. Prospero shows up in operatic mash-ups such as Thomas Ades’s recent “The Enchanted Island,” and in the recent San Diego International Fringe Festival’s “The True Historie of Prince Prospero,” a play by Tim West. As for locale, “The Tempest” is set anywhere the imagination takes one. Now, as seen this month at New Village Arts (NVA) in Carlsbad Village, it’s a musical that takes place on a forbidden planet in a galaxy far away. Using imagery and rock ‘n’ roll music from the 1950-60s, “Return to the Forbidden Planet” author Bob Carlton weaves a tale loosely resembling the space genre as seen in cinema and on television years ago, particularly in a flick titled “Forbidden Planet.” Carlton’s musical was billed as “Shakespeare’s forgotten rock masterpiece” and knocked about in the United Kingdom for some years, then played the West End in 1989, winning an Olivier Award for Best New Musical. It played off-Broadway in 1991, and a 25th anniversary U.K. tour is currently in progress. Meanwhile, NVA decided the musical would be perfect summer fare, and it is particularly apt, considering

The cast in various outlandish and funny scenes of "Return to Forbidden Planet" now playing at New Village Arts Theatre (Photos by Daren Scott) the 15-year-old company’s one-time practice of presenting Shakespeare in the summertime. The powers that be entrusted the whole kit and caboodle to director Jon Lorenz, one of the creators of “Mixtape,” who makes it look easy along with a powerhouse company that delivers joy, musicality and sincerity in performing the giddy piece. Justin Gray is music director and Colleen Kollar Smith is

the choreographer. Prospero (Manny Fernandes) and his daughter, Miranda (Kelly Derouin) have been stranded interplanetarily for around 15 – 16 years, when Intergalactic Space Flight 9, on a routine flight, with the comically self-centered Captain Tempest (David S. Humphrey) in charge. At the first sign of trouble, the Science Officer (Marlene Montes) steals the only possible means of escape and

escapes, leaving the others to cope with being in the gravitational grip of a strange planet, which turns out to be Prospero’s. Other crewmembers are the Bosun (Brian Butler), Navigation Officer (Morgan Carberry), Cookie the cook (Charlie Gange) and an absolutely charming robot named Ariel (Kevane L’Marr Coleman). Miranda falls promptly in love with Capt. Tempest, who is such

a grownup space cadet he does not return her affection. So she sings (why must I be a) “Teenager in Love.” Cookie, who later sings “Only the Lonely,” unrequitedly falls in love with Miranda. But that’s not all. Once forcibly landed on Prospero’s planet, all are threatened by a monster with long tentacles. Other rock ‘n’ roll songs include “Great Balls of Fire,” “Don’t Let Me Be Misunderstood,” “Born to Be Wild,” and “Hey, Mr. Spaceman.” The soundtrack is seamlessly integrated (Garrett Wysocki) with the action and all goes smoothly, with lots of spaceship screen work, just like old times on TV (projection designer Blake McCarty). Among the production’s assets are young Gange’s live guitar and vocals and the entire cast’s exceptionally listenable vocalism, including the talents of Humphrey, Coleman and Fernandez. Derouin is quite a find. It’s a goofy blast, a show with great appeal for the entire family, even though it tends to go on a bit in the second act. Nonetheless, those my age take a nostalgia trip (scenic designer Natalie Khuen), and the youngsters will be entertained by the special effects (lighting designer Chris Renda and properties designer Alyssa Schindler) and the marvelous detail of the roller-skating Ariel’s get-up (costume designer, Danita Lee). Those previously thought of mainly as actors sing exceptionally well, and the singers are excellent. With subtle tinges of Elvis, Humphrey is funnier, sexier and more talented than ever. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at or reach her at

“Return to the Forbidden Planet” through Sept. 6 Thurs – Sat, 8 p.m. Saturdays, 3 p.m. Sundays, 2 p.m. New Village Arts 2787 State St. (Carlsbad Village) Tickets



structure, which Sherman rented previously to a medical marijuana dispensary before using it as storage space. The details contained in the revised listing, however, reflect the entire lot at an asking price of $2.8 million for a combined 13,499 square feet. According to estate broker Anthony Theodore, who is handling the account, “Only 2830 is for sale. We have to tell prospective buyers that the actual cost and square footage will be less than half of what is listed because the property isn’t split, which takes a process.” But the bar’s predecessor, Steve Rock, remains convinced that Sherman has all along planned on selling both parcels to developers. He closed The

The Hole in the Wall is open seven days a week. (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley) Hole after running it with his wife for 17 years, claiming that Sherman refused to pay him a fair price for the bar and that she failed as a landlord to invest in repairs and renovations along the way. “Why else would she list [the property] like that?” Rock owns the right to “The Hole” as a registered name and plans on using it in the coming year to open a new version of the bar. “We’ve looked really strongly at The Flame, but there’s no outdoor space for a patio, so I don’t know.” Sherman maintains that “our heart and soul are into The Hole in Wall,” citing she spent $200,000 refurbishing the bar and acquiring a new liquor license. The upgrades have included freshly tiled restrooms, roof repairs, partial repainting and replacements of lighting fixtures, drains, sinks and toilets. Through the transition, The Hole’s entire staff has remained on board as well as “Flacco the burger guy,” an independent contractor customers have come to know from the ongoing Sunday-afternoon beer busts. Though now, with “wet and wild Mondays” reinstated, he’s taken on an extra shift at the grill and also appears on occasional Thursdays, when the newly introduced Thai food truck doesn’t come around. “Word is still getting out that we’re open seven days a week,” said Sherman. “Patrons have really appreciated what the place looks like and what we’re doing. And if I were selling the place, I would have done it a long time ago.” —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at

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Mizerany’s ‘Man Clan’ Local choreographer creates through the eyes of others By David Dixon The artistic director for Compulsion Dance & Theatre, Michael Mizerany, has choreographed many different shows for Diversionary Theatre, including productions of the musicals “A New Brain,” “Thrill Me,” and the boy band comedy, “Altar Boyz.” In addition to the performances in University Heights, Mizerany has also been involved with contemporary dance events including the popular “Hot Guys Dancing” and “Dancer Briefs.” This weekend, Mizerany and Compulsion Dance & Theatre will be premiering two new pieces as well as revivals of the acclaimed “Via Dolorosa” and “Bump in the Road.” The four segments comprise a one-hour evening of physical movement. Titled “Man Clan,” the story was inspired by an evening Mizerany spent with his friends. “I was with a group of people and we were watching extreme sports where guys beat the crap out of each other,” he said. “There were gay and straight men and women in the room, and they watched the game in a different way. I’m sort of doing a satire on the different reactions everyone has while also being affectionate. In my tale, the fighting between the main characters gets more erotic during their brawl.”

As the account progresses, Mizerany wants the audience to think about how the mood of the action changes throughout the battle. “You are watching a violent situation that is suddenly different just because they take off a shirt due to the skin and the sweat,” he said. “I want people to watch and see how their interpretation may change because shirts or pants come off.” Mizerany’s other original tale, “Uncoupling,” deals with subject matter that is just as thought provoking. Specifically, the focus is on a couple who are not in the healthiest of relationships.

Michael Mizerany (Photo by Cara Vacek Hanhurst)

“They are physically affectionate, but emotionally distant,” he said. “This is a universal theme. Whether gay or straight, that is how people tend to be sometimes. Someone knows a couple like this that are passionate and physical but are not connected internally.” While finishing touches to the choreography are handled during rehearsal, Mizerany has an idea of what he wants onstage in advance.

“Via Dolorosa” is danced by Chad Ortiz. (Photo by Sue Brenner) “I will bring in stuff with me and I will also build stuff on the dancers,” he said. “Sometimes I will let a dancer keep a move that they improvised, but I am not a person that tells them to make something up and I’m going to shape it. Instead, I build on them or I come in with planned movement.” When it comes to dancing, Mizerany doesn’t want the plot to get lost. “I’m not a person who just wants people to move around, be pretty, and do the movement right,” he said. “You need to have something behind it. There has to be a story going on in your head or a narrative of the piece.” Though “Man Clan” will be playing for a limited run, Mizerany is fortunate to have a lot of upcoming projects. He will be directing and choreographing a new version of “Altar Boyz” at the Palm Canyon Theatre in Palm Springs and then he will be leaving California to be a part of “The Pearl Fishers,” which he cochoreographed with John Malashock in 2004.

“We’ve reset it like 13 times [with] 11 other companies,” he said. “Seattle Opera just picked it up, so I will be traveling up there to reset the dances.” Mizerany really wants audiences to see “Man Clan.” “It will be visually stunning and visually potent,” he said. “That’s part of my mission statement. I think the message that is conveyed about how we look at certain things and how we look back at ourselves is pretty timeless.” The West Coast premiere of “Man Clan” is currently being performed at the Diversionary Theatre space, located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights through Aug. 9. For tickets or more information, visit —A fan of film and theatre from a very young age, David Dixon has written reviews and features for various print and online publications. You can reach him at




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Failure is an option You Should Be Doing It Brian White Nobody wants to fail, really. But if you are challenging yourself, getting out of your comfort zone or postponing immediate gratification for longterm gain, then it is bound to happen. What’s important about failure is to learn from it, recover quickly and get back on track armed with new information. When it comes to exercise, weight loss and nutrition you are going to fail from time to time in your quest. Whether motivation is incredibly high (my wedding is coming up) or you have a trainer (me!) or you are following the latest diet fad, you are going to fail. Sometimes it’s just a little hiccup (you missed a workout) or sometimes it could be huge (you went on a vacation and paid zero adherence to your diet) but the goal is to recover as quickly as you can. Too many of us use negative self-talk, or feel entitled or hopeless the second a tiny failure happens. You need to recognize that failure is going to happen — not if, but when — and you need to have plan in place for when it happens so you can recover and regain any momentum you had going with your fitness goals. All of my clients who have lost 50 pounds or more have failed many times before they were able to succeed. They failed before they met me, some failed while with me, but we eventually found success, wild success. Failure is extremely important with many of the clients I see and

necessary. But only because we recognize it, regroup, devise a new plan and head in a better direction. Failure happens. Accept it and adjust accordingly. If you have created a plan to follow, there will be mistakes to correct. It’s like the analogy of an airplane in flight: The plane you are flying in is rarely “on target,” it is usually a little off — but, the pilot constantly adjusts and the plane ends up at its destination. What does this look like in real life? Small failure: You went to have just one chip and you finished half the bag. In this case, you can just give up and use thoughts like, “I am never going to lose weight, I have no discipline, this day has gone to hell, I might as well go out to eat and get dessert.” Or, you can learn from it and realize that when you are under stress you crave salty chips or poor nutrition decisions. Then you can create a failure plan so that next time you are under stress you recognize what is happening and avoid the poor eating and go for a brisk walk instead. Small failure: You miss two morning workouts in a row because you can’t get out of bed. In this case, you could pull the blanket over your eyes and proclaim, “I just need more sleep than most people and with my hectic schedule I just don’t have time to exercise anymore,” and be resigned to getting no activity the rest of your life. Or you can reevaluate whether mornings are really the best time for you to exercise — and maybe you try lunchtime. If that fails, may-

Campaign. “I really wanted to change the laws,” he said. “I wanted to be • bring your own Adams said. On the somepart of some GSM unlocked heels of the Supreme thing big.” ice dev ble compati Court’s same-sex marToday Ad(or buy one online) riage equality ruling ams is back in June 26, Adams and San Diego and • no activation fees other organizers began plans to base • pre-paid 30 day trumpeting the immiWirePRIDE Wire nent launch. plans (talk and text) less in the city. While the recent fedSatellite offices • auto-refill discount eral ruling was cause for in other areas (or pay-as-you-go) celebration, Adams said of the country he believes more work also are in needs to be accomplished the works. to ensure members of Company the LGBT community are ambassadors privy to the same rights are attending as other Americans. different LGBT With a background in events and informing people about two disparate disciplines — politics the new service. and technology — Adams argues About a dozen local volunteers there are a number of discriminatory worked with Adams and braved laws against LGBT persons, despite the unruly, stormy weather July the recent Supreme Court ruling. 16 by handing out information on He pointed to the reality that PRIDE Wireless during the 41st employers in 30 states across annual San Diego LGBT Pride America can still legally fire someParade and Festival. one because of their sexual orienta“We were there, in Hillcrest, in tion. The same goes for housing the monsoon,” Adams said, with a approvals or denials. laugh. “I would say the response was Having lived in San Diego most really good. We received some excelof his life, Adams has long desired lent feedback. I heard several people to abolish such discriminatory say, ‘Wow! We have our own cell acts. His zeal is partially based on phone company.’ No one told me, personal experience. Though he directly, that this was a dumb idea.” climbed the corporate ladder, he The response was so positive, believes he was eventually fired Adams said, that some of the from an executive-level position attendees at the parade wanted to because of his sexuality. sign up on the spot. That logistiThe chilling experience cal point is still a few months in eventually led him to relocate to the making. Sacramento and fight for LGBT If all goes as planned, Adrights through the Human Rights ams said he and other company



be you switch back to mornings and try a different workout routine that will get you out of bed, and put your alarm across the room so you have to get out of bed. Small failure: You had a great week of workouts and nutrition and you feel entitled to have a few gin and tonics on Friday and Saturday night even though you are nowhere near your formidable goal. This is the sneakiest failure of all because it is so difficult to recognize it. The failure here is feeling entitled to a treat. Who are you? Pavlov’s dog? Just because you got a few workouts in and made some healthy decisions during the week doesn’t mean you get to celebrate your triumphs all weekend. If you are trying to achieve a significant body transformation then you have to be able to recognize when you are feeling entitled. If you ever catch yourself saying (either out loud or in your head) that you deserve something — rest assured you don’t. We are all adults here; we are not 4-year-olds that cleaned our rooms for the first time so we get ice cream. Plan for these thoughts and recognize them for what they are — you trying to find the easy way out. To close up shop here, realize failure only happens because you choose it. You will fail, many times over, but it is only true failure if you don’t adjust accordingly, brush yourself off and get back at it. Embrace failure, learn from it, forget it and move on and you will succeed. —Brian White owns Brian White Fitness (BWF), located in Hillcrest. He also runs boot camps in Balboa Park and trains clients at Diverge Gym. Read his blog at, or take his seven-day video challenge to get back into healthy habits. Contact Brian at staffers plan to officially launch PRIDE Wireless on Oct. 10, during Atlanta’s Pride events. The ser vice is expected to be available in other parts of the countr y, including San Diego, on or around that date as well. In the lead-up to the launch, PRIDE Wireless is in the midst of an aggressive crowdfunding campaign through Indiegogo to raise capital. A $50,000 fundraising goal has been set in the lead-up to the launch. Regardless of whether the financial goal is reached, Adams said PRIDE Wireless will proceed; but the more capital in the company’s piggybank, the greater the opportunity there will be to donate toward an assortment of LGBTrelated causes. While some of the finer points are still coming into focus in the months ahead, Adams said he is enthusiastic and excited to conjoin two of his passions: equality and electronics. “I don’t have any hesitations about doing something like this,” he said. “I think I’ve found my true passion in life.” To donate to PRIDE Wireless’ crowdfunding campaign and learn more about the company’s plans, visit or follow them on Facebook under “Pride Wireless.” —Dave Fidlin has been a professional journalist for more than a dozen years and has contributed to a variety of newspapers, magazines and websites across the nation. He has a special affinity for San Diego and its people. Contact him at dave.

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R e o h m t a f n o s h g u o D Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. The wildly colorful display of sheet pizzas at Napizza’s newest location in the HUB Hillcrest Market (formerly known as the Uptown Shopping District) is a reality bender. Each pie is cut into sizable squares with their assorted toppings raised up by chubby crusts that normally punch us in the gut if we overindulge. It all looks so heavy. But eat a slice, and you won’t think twice about going further. What isn’t visible until sinking your teeth into these crispy-bottomed squares are the air pockets residing within. The density you expect doesn’t materialize, and you soon acknowledge the pizza is different, if not superior, compared to most others. Christopher Antinutti is a native of Rome and co-owns the business with his wife, Julia Colmignoli. They operate additional locations in Little Italy and 4S Ranch as well. The menus at all three restaurants are the same — lots of fresh salads with build-your-own options, a few paninis, and copious varieties of Roman-style pizza distinguished by unusually moist dough that rises for 72 hours before it’s gently stretched. Antinutti imports the flour from Rome, a seemingly less-glutinous wheat blend hiding small measures of soy for extra flavor. It’s mixed with significantly more water than standard dough recipes, and it’s never tossed or aggressively kneaded. “This is exactly how everyone makes the dough back home,” Antinutti says.

After baking several minutes at 620 degrees, the result is something resembling light focaccia. When topped with fresh mozzarella, bright tomato sauce, farmsourced produce and hormone-free meats, it becomes damn good pizza — the kind that could leave you forgetting about ubiquitous thin-crust and deep-dish varieties for a very long time. A friend and I shared six different squares, stopping short of completely finishing them in order to make room for a couple of hefty salads. Though given the high volume of pizza we did consume, it felt as though we had eaten a spa lunch. It was difficult choosing a favorite. The basic cheese, pepperoni and tomato sauce slice was greaseless, yet loaded with flavor from the toasted coins of meat embedded into the soft, milky cheese and low-acidic sauce. For good reason, the “truffle porcini” is a top seller. The porcinis, indigenous to Italy and imported from there, exuded their earthy flavor from a mantle of meatless truffle pate, mozzarella and fresh parsley. The mushroom essence was pure and bewitching, untainted by sauce or garlic that other pizzerias tend to add in. On another slice — the wettest in our lineup — meaty Bolognese and béchamel sauces joined forces with judicious plops of mozzarella

(clockwise from bottom left) House-made cannoli; self-customized salad with steak; truffle porcini (bottom) and spicy sausage slices; whole and partial slices go home in a “doggie box” (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) and grated Parme Parmesan. Think lasagna without the pasta bloat. The sauceless “bapo” is common throughout Rome, though minus the bacon Antinutti adds to its layer of yellow potatoes, mozzarella and fresh rosemary. The meat better captures the palates of American pizza lovers, he said. “Without it, they’re not so interested.” We indeed welcomed the cured pork adding a little fat to the slice, though I was also happy it didn’t dominate the creamy goodness of the spuds. The spiciest pizza in the house is appropriately named, “Spice me up.” But it wasn’t five-alarm, despite some rather thick rings of fresh jalapenos peeking through the mozzarella. The heat was contrasted by sweet, delicious Italian sausage spiked with fennel, which along with the peppers ended in a fair truce on the taste buds. Using an order sheet with numerous check boxes to customize a salad, my companion devised a medley of romaine hearts, marinated shallots, sesame seeds and cherry tomatoes tossed in house-made tahini dressing. From more than a dozen protein options, he chose blue cheese and grilled beef medallions sporting the supple texture of filet. The outcome was magnificent. Rather than tumbling into a state of sheer indecision, I opted for the house-

invented “superfood me” salad, which probably gave me a week’s worth of fiber, amino acids and antioxidants. Amid the kale, spring lettuces, green beans, quinoa, walnuts and avocado were thick, cool slices of green apple contributing spurts of comforting sweetness in this jungle of leafy greens and nutty grains. I would order it again in a heartbeat. With so many other salad possibilities in the offing, as well as exceptional house-made cannoli and tiramisu originating from the recipe box of Antinutti’s grandmother, Napizza exceeds the standards of your everyday pizzeria. It’s more stylish and happens to be Green Certified. And what comes out of the ovens, in particular, tells you a much-needed niche has been filled. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at

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A fourth San Diego location of Tender Greens is coming to Westfield Mission Valley Mall in the next couple of months. The company, which specializes in “slow food done fast,” launched originally in Culver City before branching into Liberty Station, and then Downtown and La Jolla. Its newest location will stick to the core menu of salads, sandwiches and meal plates using fresh ingredients supplied by regional farmers and ranchers. The yet-to-be-named chef for this outlet, however, will be free to create daily specials based on seasonal bounties. 1640 Camino del Rio Nor th, The Canadian-founded Pita Pit is opening a Linda Vista outpost in early fall, close to the University of San Diego. With locations in 11 countries, the chain is known for its fast-casual pita sandwiches stuffed with grilled meats, fresh veggies and various legumes. This is the second time around for Pita Pit in San Diego after operating a shop in the College Area for nine years before suddenly closing in the winter. 5175 Linda Vista Road;

True North is taking biscuits to a new level. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

After nailing down a secret solution that prevents drop biscuits from crumbling under the stress of hearty ingredients layered between them, the chef team at True North Tavern has introduced to the menu “bomb ass” sandwiches and sliders. Ser ved with tater tots, their fillings include fried chicken with Serrano peppers; prime beef patties with bacon and bleu cheese; and grilled portobellos with goat cheese. The trio of chefs involved in perfecting the butter y beauties included Andrew James Reyes, who was a finalist on Food Network’s “Guy’s Grocer y Games” (Season 5). 3815 30th St., 619-291-3815.

Ceviche enters the spotlight at an upcoming showdown. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

A fried chicken challenge is on the books at Local Habit. (Courtesy PlainClarity Communications) America’s favorite comfort food takes center stage at the upcoming Fried Chicken Challenge, to be held at 6 p.m., Aug. 18 at Local Habit in Hillcrest. The inaugural event is being presented by the Facebook network group, Eating and Drinking in San Diego, which has enlisted a total of six competitors such as Rich Sweeney of Florent Restaurant & Lounge (and of the former R Gang Eater y); Nate Soroko of Toronado; Jason McLeod from Ironside Fish & Oyster; and others. A panel of judges will evaluate the chicken based on juiciness, crunchiness and overall flavor. Tickets are $45 per person, which includes samples from each chef, along with beer pairings and various side dishes. Seating is limited, and advanced reser vations are required. 3827 Fifth Ave., 619-795-4770.

Just when you thought ever yone in the world parted with their old VHS movies, Blind Lady Ale House in Normal Heights recently dusted off their collection and has begun playing two of them ever y Sunday night. Showtime starts around 6 p.m., and naturally, most of the movies predate the last turn of the centur y. Customers are also stoked that for the first time in Blind Lady’s six-year histor y, she’s open on Monday nights. 3416 Adams Ave., 619255-2491. It was good and gooey while it lasted, but San Diego’s first-ever restaurant devoted exclusively to mac and cheese has closed. Bazinga Eater y would have turned a year old this summer. 3382 30th St. —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at fsabatini@

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Chefs from nearly a dozen San Diego restaurants will take part in the second annual Ceviche Showdown, from 2 to 5 p.m., Aug. 23, at 57 Degrees in Middletown. Recipes ranging from citrusy to sweet will enter the ring as visitors get to taste the entries and vote on their favorites. Among the establishments taking part are Puesto; Bernini’s Bistro of La Jolla; Sirena Gourmet Latin Seafood Restaurant; George’s at the Cove; and more. Tickets are $24 in advance, and $35 at the door. 1735 Hancock St., 619-234-5757,


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Clothing sale: Frock You Vintage Clothing is hosting a weekend-long sale with Burning Man in mind. There will also be guest vendors, a lesson on costuming and more. Sale starts 11 a.m.; ends Sunday Aug. 9 at 6 p.m. Visit Film screening – ‘Inocente’: This screening will be part of this month’s “Friday Night Liberty” at NTC at Liberty Station. The Academy Award-winning documentary for Best Documentary Short Subject, “Inocente” will be introduced by artist Inocente who will also do a Q & A after the film. $5 suggested donation to benefit ArtReach San Diego. 7 p.m. Barracks 17 Liberty Station, 2710 Historic Decatur Road. Visit New Faces of LGBT Literature Part II: The Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation presents this event with Lambda Award-winning author Rahul Mehta. Learn about the young writer’s work including his debut collection of short stories, “Quarantine.” $10 suggested donation. 7 – 8:30 p.m. Malcom X Library, 5148 Market St. Visit ‘Harold and Maude’: Cinema Under the Stars presents the 1971 cult classic, a stor y about a 20-year-old young man obsessed with death and the 80-year-old woman who shows him the joys of being alive. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch st., Mission Hills. Visit or call 619-295-4221. Live music – Rhythm and the Method presents the music of Woodstock ‘1969 Revisited’: Local indie-blues-rock band Rhythm and The Method pay homage to the artists of Woodstock with this special performance. $10 advance; $13 at door; plus $10 food/drink minimum. 8 – 11 p.m. 98 Bottles, 2400 Kettner Blvd., Suite 110, Little Italy. Visit

is donating 20 percent of their sales between 11 a.m. — 3 p.m. to Pride by the Beach. 2519 Palomar Airport Road. Visit facebook. com/events/1628541984056062.

SATURDAY, Aug. 15 ‘Reunion on the Bay’: Hal Sparks (“Queer as Folk,” “Talk Soup”) will appear at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation’s fourth annual Reunion Party. 6 – 9 p.m. Sheraton San Diego Hotel and Marina, 1380 Harbor Island Drive. Visit Miss Balboa Park Drag Beauty Pageant: The San Diego Art Institute presents the first ever Miss Balboa Park Drag Beauty Pageant with some of your favorite queens competing for the title. Special guest performances and specialty cocktails. $10. 7 – 11 p.m. San Diego Art Institute, 1439 El Prado, Balboa Park. Visit ‘Dial M For Murder’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this Alfred Hitchcock classic starring Ray Milland, Grace Kelly and Robert Cummings. Additional screening on Sunday, Aug. 9. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info visit or call 619295-4221.


$3 “u-call-its” from 3 – 7 p.m. 1236 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


Film in the Garden – ‘I’m No Angel’: This 1933 classic stars Mae West as a burlesque dancer and lion tamer alongside Cary Grant. The film will screen outside the San Diego Museum of Art in the May S. Marcy Sculpture Garden with food and drink service available at Panama 66 (no outside alcohol allowed). Free for members and children 17 and under; $5 for nonmembers. Film begins at sundown. Visit



One Love 2015 Charity Yoga Event: Featuring several yoga instructors and live DJs for a unique yoga experience with proceeds benefitting underserved youth locally and globally. $35+ 10 a.m. – 1 p.m. County of San Diego Waterfront Park, 1600 Pacific Highway, Downtown. Visit one-love-2015. Pride by the Beach fundraiser: CYO Pizza in Carlsbad

Kiehl’s LifeRide for amfAR: The fifth annual, two-week charity motorcycle ride to raise funds and awareness for AIDS research, which kicked off in Denver Aug. 4, ends today at Kiehl’s Fashion Valley store. A celebration will consist of meet and greets with celebrity riders, complimentary skin care treatments, food from Soda & Swine, drinks by Juice Saves and a check presentation ceremony. Those who make purchases today at Kiehl’s will receive a 15 percent discount and a percentage of proceeds will also go to amfAR. Noon – 1 p.m., Kiehl’s, 7007 Friars Rd., Mission Valley. Visit

CityFest: A free community street fair featuring over 250 vendors, live music, DJs, a beer garden and much more. Noon – 11 p.m. Under the Hillcrest sign. Visit Uptown Tavern’s three-year anniversary party: This luauthemed anniversary party will feature a live DJ, go go dancers and

Free legal consultations: A free legal clinic held the second Tuesday of each month by Access to Law Initiative. Attorneys will be available for 30-minute consultations to help evaluate legal issues. 9 a.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For appointment or info, contact Joshua Bruser at 858-342-0551 or josh@


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Revelers at the Pre-Pride weekend Lez Dance Party (Photo by SuSu Jones)

SATURDAY, Aug. 15 Girls Night Out San Diego: That’s the new name of a new monthly dance for the local women’s community, consisting of a night filled with dance music, celebrations, flash mob dances and more. Local “music master” SuSu Jones will be spinning with media entrepreneur Sally Hall behind the wheel. The event’s Friday night Pre-Pride weekend debut saw 550 women in attendance. Organizers say if they bring 500 people in this time, they will donate $850 to South Bay Pride. $10. 6 p.m. Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit LezDanceSanDiego.

Lambda Archives of San Diego will explore LGBT sports in San Diego with history on local organizations, a panel discussion with past and current league leaders, Q & A and a reception with light refreshments. Free (donations welcome). 6:30 – 8 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit LambdaArchives.

4355 or visit Exhibit: ‘Art Rocks the Boat: Part Two of Women’s Liberation Movement ’60s and ’70s’: Free admission to see this exhibit with wine and snacks served. 5 p.m. Runs through August. Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Rd., Barracks 16, Liberty Station. Visit



Unprotected Comedy #3: A comedy showcase featuring local talents from the LGBT community. 8 – 11 p.m. #1 Fifth Avenue, 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Find the event on Facebook. ‘Blow Out’: Cinema Under the Stars presents Brian DePalma’s thriller starring John Travolta, John Lithgow and Nancy Allen. Additional screening on Friday, Aug. 14. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info visit topspresents. com or call 619-295-4221.


Live Music – Sue Palmer: Enjoy a fun Friday with the queen of boogie woogie starting at 7 p.m. Expatriate Room at Croce’s Park West, 2760 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Call 619-233-

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TOP-SY TURVY 1 Sitcom with a cross-dressing corporal 5 Wonder Woman weapon 10 Moved one’s ass 14 Food on the floor, maybe 15 Waters of the sound? 16 Where pirates moor 17 Web info source 18 Friend of Ricky Martin 19 Fleecy females 20 Where do you find a gay man who is an ___ ... 23 Wilde country 24 Go-getter 25 Philip Johnson contemporary 27 Doubtfire’s title 30 Do-___ (desperate) 33 Chicken hawk and falcon 34 Old nuclear power org. 35 Alpine Austrian region 36 “The Name of the Rose” writer 37 “___ Ghost” (Mailer novel)

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‘MasterChef ’ open casting call: Attendees must bring a prepared dish to plate and serve to the judges at this open casting call for season seven of MasterChef. San Diego Westin, 400 W. Broadway, Downtown. Visit open-call. ‘Take the Cakes’ pancake breakfast: A fundraiser for Just Call Us Volunteers, featuring pancakes, bacon, coffee, and juice for $5 in advance ($10 at door). Additional donations welcome. 8 a.m. – 1 p.m. Catalina Offshore Products, 5202 Lovelock St., Morena District. Visit ArtWalk NTC @ Liberty Station: This two-day festival

DOWN 40 It changes a señor’s gender 41 Kaplan of Kotter fame 43 “Candle in the Wind” subject 44 David Bowie genre 45 ... who wants to seduce desperate ___? 48 Yokohama yes 49 Mail order abbr. 50 Answer to the riddle 59 Fashion designer Jacobs 60 “In your dreams!” 61 Shared coin 62 On an Olivia cruise 63 Like Baldwin in Paris 64 Amsterdam transport 65 Two-master 66 Penetrate 67 It may get pussy

1 Rita’s second name 2 ___ mater 3 Alien’s anal insert? 4 Bound, at a gay rodeo 5 Hit the road 6 Melissa Etheridge’s “Don’t Look ___” 7 Place for your first mate 8 Nintendo rival 9 Mild oath 10 Thespians may chew it 11 Penetrating tool 12 Green beginner? 13 ___ Moines, Iowa 21 Like Emma Donoghue 22 Traffic noise 25 Self-description from one’s knees? 26 Book after Jonah 27 Racer Andretti 28 Hang loose 29 Triangular treat 31 Vowels of Sappho 32 Jack of old oaters

38 That’s Rich! 39 John Q. Public 42 Morally upright 44 Inspector’s gizmos in a Rupert Everett flick 46 Copland capability 47 AP rival 50 Noncommittal words 51 Gemini org. 52 Barrymore of “Boys on the Side” 53 Shakespeare’s “anon” updated 54 Boob, to a Brit 55 Way to have one’s meat 56 “Kiss of the Spider Woman’s” William 57 Carhop’s carrier 58 “___ Like it Hot”


CALENDAR starts today with art, food, live entertainment and more for all ages. Over 200 artists will display artwork using a range of mediums. Free. 10 a.m. – 6 p.m. Saturday and Sunday. 2645 Historic Decatur Road. Visit ‘Some Like It Hot’: Cinema Under the Stars presents the gender-bending classic starring Tony Curtis, Jack Lemmon and Marilyn Monroe. Additional screening on Sunday, Aug. 16. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit topspresents. com or call 619-295-4221.


LGBT Wedding and Honeymoon Expo: Featuring LGBTfriendly vendors, a fashion show, live music, prizes, cash bar and more. $5 in advance; $10 at the door. 11:30 a.m. – 4 p.m. Marriott Marquis San Diego Marina, 333 West Harbor Drive. Visit Art Rocks Film screening of ‘Radical Harmonies’: Screening of a documentary by Dee Mosbacher on three decades of folk music aimed at lesbian audiences. $5 admission includes museum admission and refreshments. 4 p.m. Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Rd., Barracks 16, Liberty Station. Visit


Feeling Fit Club: New 50 or Better class for older adults and suitable for all levels on Mondays and Wednesdays. Improve balance, strength, flexibility, etc. Exercises can be done sitting or standing. 1 – 2 p.m. For more info contact La Rue Fields at The Center, 3903 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit


Live music – American Idol Live!: The top five idols from season 14 will perform with a live band. $62+ 7:30 p.m. Humphreys Concerts by the Bay, 2241 Shelter Island Drive. Visit


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San Diego Area Chapter of NOW meeting: On the agenda for this meeting: equal pay, trans community work and advocacy, sexual assault on college campuses and reproductive justice. All are welcome. 6:30 p.m. Unite HERE, 2436 Market St. Visit FilmOut Screening: “Those People” — a young gay painter (Jonathan Gordon) is torn between his manipulative best friend (Jason Ralph) and a new romance with an older man (Haaz Sleiman). 7 p.m., Landmark Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. #200, Hillcrest. $12. Visit


Kickers Countr y Line Dancing: Every Thursday and Saturday night come check out the cowboys and cowgirls as they spin across the floor, join in or even take free lessons (7 – 8:30 p.m.). All skill levels encouraged. Drink specials. 7 p.m. – close. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit —Email calendar items to morgan@sdcnn.comt

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LOUGANIS The filmmakers do a great job of telling Louganis’ more current story in real time and melding it with that of his entire life through chronological flashbacks interspersed throughout the film. As viewers, we see and feel his trials and triumphs through Louganis’ eyes. Halfway through, we begin weighing and balancing the challenges of his Olympic days with the financial and emotional setbacks he has faced in the last five years and we’re not really sure which direction things will go for him. We sense the impending doom but in the end feel hopeful, despite all the pressures he faces.

Louganis with his medals (Courtesy HBO Sports)

After all, he has always prevailed. “Greg Louganis is one of the most decorated and celebrated Olympians of any generation, and we are delighted to share his stor y — both personal and athletic — with the acquisition of this documentar y,” said Ken Hershman, president of HBO Sports. “Greg allowed the filmmakers unrestricted access to his life stor y and viewers will benefit from his deeply personal portrait and gain a terrific perspective on his complicated and rewarding life.” “I always wondered what happened to Greg Louganis,” director Cheryl Furjanic said. “When we first approached him, we had no idea that we would find him facing such difficulties. During the three years we spent making this film, one thing that became clear is Greg’s resilience. HBO is the perfect platform to reach both audiences who cheered Greg on during the Olympics and a younger generation who has never heard of him.” “Back on Board: Greg Louganis” was directed by Cher yl Furjanic; produced by Will Sweeney and Cher yl Furjanic; written by Cher yl Furjanic, Karen K.H. Sim and Will Sweeney; edited by Karen K.H. Sim and Jessica Thompson; executive produced by David Kaplan & Joan Kaplan, Grey Sample and Diana Holtzberg. “Back on Board” will run exclusively on HBO (Aug. 7, 9, 12, 13, 15 and 21) and HBO2 (Aug. 10, 16, 19, 25 and 29) and will be available on multiple platforms: HBO NOW, HBO On Demand, and HBO GO. Watch a trailer of the film online at —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

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Louganis answers our questions

Dugout Chatter Jeff Praught

Gay San Diego editor Morgan M. Hurley interviewed Louganis after watching a special preview of HBO’s “Back on Board: Greg Louganis.” [Morgan M. Hurley (MMH)] What schools did you attend in El Cajon? [Greg Louganis (GL)] Chase Avenue Elementary, Fuerte Elementary, Emerald Junior High and Valhalla High School. Then one semester at Santa Ana High to prepare for the 1976 Olympics. [MMH] In the movie, you clearly felt isolated from an early age, even though you excelled at diving. I was moved by the fact you said, “Diving was the only thing I had to offer.” Do you think your sexual identity caused some of your shyness and withdrawal or a combination of that and the bullying you experienced or was it something else? [GL] Who knows? I am shy by nature. I stuttered as a child, was dyslexic. As a high school freshman I was asked to coach the diving teams, both men’s and women’s. Also the gals on the gymnastics team recruited me to help coach them as well, since I knew how to hand spot. That group of young ladies kept me alive! They gave me purpose.  [MMH] You had ver y strong relationships with both of your coaches, ver y fatherson like. Did they fill the void you experienced with your own father? [GL] Dr. [Sammy] Lee taught me the value of hard work, perseverance, and overcoming prejudices against all odds. Ron O’Brien “got me” and who I was and was able to tap into my full potential with love and respect. My dad did his best with the tools he had to work with. His parents died when he was young, he didn’t have a role model to pull from experience, so he did the best he knew how to do. [MMH] Giving Ron your medal was a very poignant part of the film. He was clearly very important to your success but what made you give him the medal then? [GL] Like I said [in the film], “I have wanted to do this for a long time.” I didn’t always know where to find my medals, so it all came together then and it happened to be my wedding day. It all seemed fitting.  [MMH] You medaled at the same Olympics (1976 in Montreal) that Caitlyn Jenner — then Bruce — got the gold for the Decathlon, so both of you became known to the world at the same time. Did you know Bruce Jenner then? [GL] We walked in the Opening Ceremonies with the team and I was able to meet him briefly. He asked how old I

For many, the month of August is a fairly uneventful month. It marks the halfway point of summer, but with few exciting moments planned on the calendar (unless you count CityFest, our community’s “second Pride”). Not so in the sports world, which is why I love August.

Louganis on the 3m board (Courtesy HBO Sports)

was and when I said 16, he said I had many more Olympics to look forward to. Very encouraging! Though I doubt Caitlyn would remember, that made such a positive impression on me at that time. [MMH] Had you become acquainted with Bruce in the years since because of your Olympic connection? [GL] We were on the “Tour of Champions” for Medco [Health Solutions Inc.] along with Mark Spitz, Jackie Joyner Kersey, Peggy Fleming, and Bob Beamon [in 2007]. I was usually with Bruce and Mark. [MMH] What do you think about her very public decision to transition? [GL] It is her journey, just as every human being has their journey, no matter race, religion, sexual identity, gender identification … it is a part of the human condition and everyone’s is different and should be honored.  [MMH] Caitlyn recently came to San Diego to show support to the mother of a trans teen who recently committed suicide. You said in the movie that you came close to suicide, too. Have you done any outreach before? [GL] Lots. I just do a lot of my work quietly. I hosted Mental Health and Suicide Prevention and The Trevor Project, along with a few more.  [MMH] The San Diego LGBT Community Center has a new initiative that they call #BeTheGeneration. It promotes a safe but avid sex life as well as PrEP, and has a goal of ending HIV/AIDS in that generation’s lifetime. Would you ever consider making an appearance at The Center in your old hometown as an HIV activist? [GL] You just never know. I still quietly visit my family down there occasionally. [MMH] What was the most important part (for you) about making this film and why do you want people to see it? [GL] Hope, and the fact people aren’t as alone as they may believe they are.  [MMH] What’s up next for Greg Louganis? [GL] Stay tuned. To learn more about Louganis and his activist work, visit

Major League Baseball (MLB) Games during this month are usually referred to as the “Dog days of summer,” implying that the games become less and less meaningful and tend to drag on. Baseball’s 162-game season is the longest in all of sports, and everyone from the players to the employees, and even the fans, feel the drag of the summer slate. But that “dog days” moniker really only applies to the teams that are out of the playoff hunt and with the advent of the second wild card a few years ago, only a handful of teams are really out of the hunt. Consider this: at the MLB nonwaiver trade deadline on July 31, only four teams (Colorado, Miami, Milwaukee, and Philadelphia) were truly considered to be “out of it.” What resulted was the busiest inventory of trade activity in the majors since 1997, as teams made acquisitions hoping to catch lightning in a bottle by grabbing a wild card spot in October. Wild card teams face a steep hill to climb in the playoffs — they play a one-game playoff game for the right to advance to a Division Series against a division winner — but the Giants proved in 2014 that as long as you have a seat at the table, you can win it all. For fans, that’s exciting. For teams, that’s a lot of potential revenue out there for the taking during an extended playoff run. Every home playoff game nets teams an estimated $1 million. With so many teams still in the hunt, August really is the month where pretenders are weeded out and contenders emerge. By the end of August, instead of 26 teams chasing a playoff spot, we will likely be talking about maybe half that many who are still in realistic contention. If your favorite team is still within five games of a playoff spot come Sept. 1, do not count them out. National Football League (NFL) America’s most popular sport (measured in dollars, not history) is professional football, and millions of people are going to watch an exhibition game on Sunday, Aug. 9. Think about that. A game that not only does not count in the standings, but will likely only feature one or two series with players anyone has heard of. But America will watch, because football is king here. Training camps opened in late July and fans attend the open practices in droves. But when exhibition games begin in August, that’s when our collective pulse starts to race. The Chargers open their exhibition season with a home game on Thursday, Aug. 13. People will complain that ticket and concessions prices are the same for exhibition games as they are for the regular season, but they will still watch and many will still attend; in fairness, those games are not sold out.

Fantasy Football Part of what makes professional football so exciting, even for the novice fan, is that so many of us participate in fantasy football. The regular season begins on Sept. 10, so leagues will be rushing to get their drafts done before that. Because Labor Day Weekend is a tough holiday on which to coordinate drafts, the majority of leagues do their drafts in late August. My fantasy football league is no exception and I look forward to draft date every year. The one I run has been together since 1993. Many of the original members still participate in my 16-team league, giving us a great way to stay in touch despite people moving, getting married, having kids, or otherwise living busy lives. Football is a constant in our friendship. Sometimes we agree to meet up in vacation destinations such as Las Vegas or Lake Tahoe and other times we meet locally, with a few people drafting online. Regardless, August is the month during which we research teams’ third-string wide receivers. We realize what players retired without us noticing, or which non-Pro Bowl players switched teams. By draft date, we think we are prepared to pull the wool over everyone else’s eyes and grab the “steal of the draft.” In the end, we don’t draft as good a team as we thought we did, but at least we drank a lot of beer and had a good time during our draft. AFCSL and the World Series For only the second time since 2009, I am not preparing at least one team from America’s Finest City Softball League to attend the World Series. This event is by far the most exciting sporting event I have ever participated in and August is the month when everything ramps up. Teams throw fundraisers to raise money for travel and hotel costs, all while trying to coordinate practices and scrimmage games to prepare for the tournament. AFCSL’s Open Division has six teams attending this year’s World

Series in Columbus, Ohio, and I am jealous of every one of them. Columbus hosted this event back in 2010, and it was a terrific experience because the city boasts the country’s largest softball complex, large enough to have the entire tournament held in one location. Most World Series require teams to play as far as one hour apart from other divisions, but not true in Columbus. So when you’re done with your games, you can walk over and cheer on your friends from other San Diego teams, as well as friends from other teams across the continent. The five-day tournament begins on Aug. 18 and runs through Championship Day on Aug. 22. The women, who normally play in their own World Series in August, will be competing in Orlando this year Oct. 18-24. —Jeff Praught is actively involved in the LGBT sports community, having participated in softball, basketball, football and pool as a player, and serving on several boards in recent years. He can be reached at dugoutchatter@

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