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Volume 9 Issue 16 August 3 – August 16, 2018

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Beloved pastor, pioneer, and peaceful advocate


Celebration of life planned for MCC Rev. David Farrell

A home away from home, for your dogs


Brushing up for ArtWalk Liberty Station




Artists Gene Allen and Rex Nockengust (Courtesy of the artists)

Couple creates captivating sea glass art

By Kit-Bacon Gressitt

A blast in the past in an old-fashioned malt shop



Sea glass has captured the human imagination for millennia, with its naturally frosted deep pastels, and it continues to inspire artists today. Mission Valley is home to two such

artists, jewelry makers Gene Allen and his husband Rex Nockengust. Together, they design and create sea glass and silver jewelry reminiscent of ancient Egypt, yet designed with a contemporary flair. San Diegans captivated by the glass

will be able to meet the artists, view their jewelry, and even take a piece or two home at the upcoming ArtWalk @ Liberty Station during the weekend of Aug. 11 and 12.

see ArtWalk, pg 2


Men’s chorus takes on ABBA … and nails it Alfie’s secret stalls his sister’s marriage

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Albert H. Fulcher | Editor Not many singers can pull off a night completely dedicated to the undeniable iconic music of ABBA, merely due to its perfection of harmonic symmetry. But leave it to a chorus, whose basic principles of music are based

see ABBA, pg 15

The San Diego Men’s Chorus encored with ABBA’s “Dancing Queen” at the Balboa Theatre on July 28. (Courtesy of Gary Payne Photography)

Rev. David Farrell, who pastored the Metropolitan Community Church for 20 years, passed away July 20 at the age of 80. (Courtesy Metropolitan Community Church)

By Neal Putman “Beloved” is the word Rev. David Farrell often used when addressing the congregation of the Metropolitan Community Church in San Diego and that same word describes him, say MCC members after word of his death at the age of 80 came July 20. The celebration of his life will be held Saturday, Sept. 15 at 11 a.m. at MCC, 2633 Denver St., in San Diego, which is the church he pastored for 20 years from 1975 to 1995. “He would address the congregation as beloved. He was dynamic,” said Mick Donahue, an MCC member. “Excellent speaker. He could hold the audience's attention. I just loved him.”

see Farrell, pg 9



GAY SAN DIEGO August 3 – August 16, 2018


ARTWALK Now in its 13th year at Liberty Station, the arts festival is intended to welcome a broad and diverse audience, whether art-savvy or not — just as a lovely piece of sea glass can attract anyone’s eye. “We believe that everyone, regardless of income status or knowledge of art, should have the opportunity of owning original fine art,” said Sandi Cottrell, the festival’s director. “It’s so much more rewarding to collect something crafted by an artist and get to know the artist’s story. [ArtWalk] makes the possibility of owning fine art available to everyone. … There are pieces at the event that are over $10,000 and pieces that sell for $50, so there’s quite a variety there.” ArtWalk began as a showcase for unrepresented artists, who installed their work in empty warehouses and office buildings. Now blossomed into three festivals around the county, it has become an accessible, family-friendly venue for music and interactive art-making activities, and for locally and internationally renowned artists. The artists work in a spectrum of media including, painting, sculpture, photography, ceramics — and jewelry. Allen and Nockengust are among 25 jewelry artists who will be displaying their work at ArtWalk, although their styles and materials vary widely.

And, again, sea glass has a particular appeal for many people. “I think it’s all about a trip to the beach, those positive ions,” Allen said. “Also that Zen activity of looking for something, of trash that nature smoothed out — it's a metaphor for life. We are always traveling the world and collecting beach glass.” Allen and Nockengust began their jewelry business in Honolulu, Hawaii, in 2000. They had found a quiet beach near an old dump that proved a rich sea glass source. Having settled in Mission Valley about a year ago, their sources are now scattered, from friends in Puerto Rico to a 70-year-old in Nova Scotia, who picks through the flotsam and jetsam along the island’s coast. Allen has a cheerful approach to the business of making art, and it is reflected in the company’s name, Beach Glass Bingo. The origin? According to Allen, Nockengust is a bingo fanatic — and then there’s the 1965 Annette Funicello and Frankie Avalon film, “Beach Blanket Bingo.” When they are not scouring beaches for sea glass or traveling to arts festivals across the country, Allen and Nockengust are in their Clairemont Mesa studio. There they use a technique called cold connection to join the metal parts of each piece without soldering. It’s a process as natural as that of finding the glass. “It’s simple,” Allen said, “but it works!” What also works is the draw

An interactive activity at ArtWalk (Courtesy of ArtWalk) of ArtWalk @ Liberty Station. Cottrell said this particular fes-tival is estimated to bring over half a million in art sales into the local economy. Not only does the festival bring revenue to the city, while providing a fun and engaging venue for artists and their audience, ArtWalk also partners with nonprofit ArtReach to bring arts into local schools. ArtReach provides free visual arts workshops at schools that have little or no resources for art classes. “ArtReach is always an important element of everything we do,” Cottrell explained.

Ring by Allen and Nockengust (Courtesy of the artists)

The importance of the arts to San Diego is reflected in ous the city’s numerarts organizations, venues, performances and festivals. ArtWalk is one that welcomes everyone to enjoy the arts and meet their creators. The festival will be in Ingram Plaza in the Arts District at Liberty Station, located at 2751 Dewey Road, San Diego, CA 92106

Saturday hours are 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Sunday hours are 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. throughParking is free through out Liberty Center. For more information about the festival, visit and click on ArtWalk @ Liberty Station. For more information about ArtReach, visit —Kit-Bacon Gressitt formerly wrote for the North County Times. She now writes for her site and she is the publisher and an editor of She also hosts Fallbrook Library’s monthly Writers Read author series and open mic. Reach her at

Necklace by Allen and Nockengust (Courtesy of the artists)


GAY SAN DIEGO August 3 – August 16, 2018

A passion for furry friends


Love of dogs expands local business nationally

Albert H. Fulcher | Editor Dogs don’t sit idle here. The social atmosphere at this Mission Hills doggy day care allows the mutts to play with others to release their energy and feel a sense of belonging. And the employees who stay in the room — free of cages and full of dog beds — do not “work” overnight. Instead they relax, watch TV, work on a laptop, and settle down for the evening, just like their owners would do at home, in an effort to reduce separation anxiety. The furry guests are “people dogs.” This is Camp Run-A-Mutt (CRAM), designed by three friends with an undying passion for dogs. Founders Dennis Quaglia, Mikel Ross and Severn Crow used their friendship and dream of this “Disneyland” of doggy day care to create an unstoppable business venture at the beginning of the recession. Now, 10 years later, CRAM has seven San Diego locations, and others in Los Angeles; Phoenix, Arizona; Las Vegas and Henderson, Nevada; Houston, Texas; Atlanta, Georgia and Charlotte, North Carolina. This trio of dog lovers — who are opening the 20th location soon — never thought they would have more than one. CRAM nearly doubled in size in the past year. Among an abundancy of

local and national awards, Inc Magazine selected CRAM on its list of the top 5,000 fastest growing business in 2017. “It started out as just a doggy day care, but with research we found that there was nothing available for what we had in mind,” Quaglia said. “We started to work on a doggy day care that was different, not putting a dog in a cage, not walking in as a customer and the place smelling of urine, and dogs barking. It had to be transparent and a place where the dog wants to be. Basically, it had to be a place where we would take our own dogs.” To manage to volume of dogs staying at the boarding facilities, Ross said that they (and employees) become the alpha, known as pack boarding. “One dog lays down, then the rest will follow,” Ross said. “It’s the natural way that dogs work. We try to be the alphas, we take the responsibility off the dogs, and they get to go play and just be a dog. And the other dogs teach the younger dogs.” Ross said that they launched their company in the beginning of the recession, which never hit this business model. “We grew continuously from the time we opened the door,” Ross said. “After the first year and a half, we were up to full capacity. We stopped taking new customers and we had a

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(l to r) Camp Run-A-Mutt Founders and dog lovers Severn Crow, Dennis Quaglia and Mikel Ross (Courtesy of Camp Run-A- Mutt) as he did while working for USA Today, then joined the team on a full-time basis. As far as the recession, Crow said they knew it was a risk, but they were confident because they weren’t just pulling from one economic group. “We had doctors and lawyers. Waitresses and busboys would pay for the service using their tips. People will do without themselves to do something good for their dogs,” Crow said. Quaglia agreed, adding that it takes just as much personal attention and passion for dogs in order to care for them in a professional setting. “Every decision we make across the board, it all comes down to the same thing. What’s best for the dog?” Ross said. “That makes it really easy. It allows you to take your emotions out of the decision-making process.”

Ross said that they have turned down many applicants who were only in it for the money. CRAM a trust-based business. “You have to keep and maintain your customers and gain their trust and keep it,” Ross said. “When we evaluate a business [for franchise], it’s not can you write a check for a franchise fee or can they run a business, but they need to win the customer’s trust and we need the right kind of people that can do that. You have to have the passion for dogs. You can fool people for a short period of time, but you can’t fool the dogs.” Ross said that they are constantly working on updating the technology side of the business, while also maintaining a certain level of hands-on attention and direct communication

see Run-A-Mutt, pg 4

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The marvels of midlife


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Furry guests are people dogs quickly as well as they know their dog. We are going to see that dog every day and will notice any differences in health or behavior and we will report this to the parents.” Ross said all of this aligns with their vision in treating all of the dogs as if they were their own. Often, with extended stays and the parent’s

Camp Run-A-Mutt comes complete with a doggy splash pool and waterfall. (Photos courtesy of Camp Run-A-Mutt)

permission, Ross will take a dog on extended boarding to his own home at night. Many times they become part of the family — it all comes from the love of dogs. Quaglia said that every location is like that. “It sounds hard, but you have a hundred dogs out there, you get to know all of their names. It’s actually not difficult, that’s where the passion comes in. Every dog is unique, you see a dog and its personality. It’s really very easy,” he said. Camp Run-A-Mutt offers cage-free daycare and boarding, grooming services, and obedience classes. For more information about locations, services and franchise opportunities, visit —Albert Fulcher can be reached at

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Creative community arts Downtown painter gears up for ArtWalk By B. J. Coleman Rebecca Noelle is a plein air painter, an artist who paints scenes on-site outdoors. Noelle is slated to be one of the artists displaying their creative original artwork during ArtWalk @ Liberty Station Aug. 11-12. The theme for this year’s 13th annual staging of the event at the former Naval Training Center is “Connecting Creative Communities.” Noelle spent two weeks in late July connecting with creative community arts fans in Normal Heights, as she painted a utility box near the corner of Adams Avenue and Felton Street. She chose to depict scenes in acrylics of nearby landmark buildings and houses, including The Ould Sod Irish pub across the avenue and the Methodist Church farther east. Noelle was one of 16 artists tapped to decorate electrical boxes around the area, through proposal submission to the Normal Heights Urban Art Association, with support from the Adams Avenue Business District. “I have never felt so appreciated as an artist,” Noelle said. She mentioned people who stopped by her work site daily, including children who enjoyed watching progress on the utility box artwork, especially the small animals Noelle included among the scenes. “This is a gift, my gift to the community,” Noelle said. Noelle and her family lived in Downtown’s Little Italy from 2010 through 2015. She taught art classes at Washington Elementary School and at the San Diego Rescue Mission. Noelle painted outside at Balboa Park locations for two years, and several of those paintings are currently on display at Hotel Solamar in the Downtown Gaslamp District. “I think I could paint at Balboa Park for the rest of my life,” Noelle said. “I feel like I’ve barely touched the surface of what can be painted there.” Art was not Noelle’s first career path, although she began oil painting when she was 15. She took up professional ballroom dancing at 16, touring around the country from her Idyllwild home base.


Significant life changes and the need for a fresh start brought Noelle to San Diego, and Noelle’s painter mother suggested, “Pick up your paints. This will be good for your soul.” Noelle recounted that she experienced some nervousness over beginning to paint outdoors in public. “I feel safe now,” she said. “And I want to branch out from my comfort zone. “I love plein air painting,” Noelle said. “I love being outside in nature amid beautiful things. I love creating something beautiful. That makes people happy. I want to continue to challenge myself, to find balance in life, and to create better art all the time.” Noelle is joining more than 200 local, regional and

Artist Rebecca Noelle painting utility box in Normal Heights. (Photo by B. J. Coleman)

international professional artists whose artwork will be shown and available for purchase during ArtWalk @ Liberty Station. The free two-day fine arts festival runs from 10 a.m.-6 p.m. on Saturday, Aug. 11, and from 10 a.m.-5 p.m. on Sunday,

Aug. 12. Art on display is set to include not only oil paintings like Noelle’s work but also sculpture, glass, photography, wood work, metal work, fine jewelry and multimedia art. KidsWalk will feature interactive art activities for families.


Street food trucks will offer meal options for attendees. Proceeds from a wine and beer pavilion will go to benefit ArtReach, which provides free art classes to over 20,000 students throughout San Diego County. Festival organizers staged the original ArtWalk in Little Italy 34 years ago, and then expanded by incorporating the late summer show at Point Loma’s Liberty Station 13 years ago. Arts District of Liberty Station, Ingram Plaza, 2751 Dewey Road. A North County fine art and chalk festival with ArtWalk Carlsbad in scheduled for September. Visit — B.J. Coleman is a local freelance journalist and editor/ staff reporter with 22nd District Legionnaire. B.J. can be reached at

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Creep of the week: Star Parker By D'Anne Witkowski We may be well into July, but the anti-gay panic that comes to a boil in June as a result of gays having done stole the whole month to celebrate our heathen desires is still simmering. Case in point: Star Parker’s recent column titled, “Do Christians Have a Future in LGBTQ America?” “Gay Pride Month has become a time for LGBTQ storm troopers to pursue political enemies,” Parker writes. “Not much different from the infamous Kristallnacht in Nazi Germany, when Nazi brown shirts took to the streets to smash windows of shops owned by Jews.” Not much different, huh? I’m thinking back to the Pride event I attended last month. I didn’t see any window smashing or violent oppression by LGBTQ people against Jews or anybody else. I did see lots of same-sex couples holding EDITOR Albert H. Fulcher (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Sara Butler, x118 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS B. J. Coleman Michael Kimmel Jean Lowerison Ian Morton Nicole Murray Ramirez Frank Sabatini Jr. D'Anne Witkowski WEB AND SOCIAL MEDIA Sara Butler, x118 Jess Winan, x102

hands, people of indeterminate gender going about their business of being human, a drag queen with makeup melting in the heat, and a lot of cute dogs in rainbow bandanas. I personally spent a lot of my time looking for one of those “Hate Has No Home Here” yard signs, which I finally located at a local PFLAG chapter’s booth. But to Parker, we were all engaged in an act of oppression against her because she, as a Christian, doesn’t want to acknowledge us as humans and thus finds our mere existence in public, celebrating no less, to basically be an anti-Christian hate crime. Never mind the fact that LGBTQ Christians exist. Since Parker would like nothing less than the elimination of LGBTQ people (through so-called “conversion therapy” or at least the disappearance from public life), this is a difference on which there can be no compromise. There is no middle ground to give when

what’s in question is my very right to be treated as a human being deserving of equality. It’s also interesting to note Parker’s comparison of LGBTQ people to Nazis at a time when we have a president who claims that white supremacists are “very fine people” and a racist attorney general. The Trump administration has been the most openly hostile to LGBTQ people in forever. So Parker can miss me with the Nazi comparisons. Something Parker is really struggling with is the LGBTQ acronym itself, specifically the “B.” As most people know, the “B” stands for “bisexual.” But, according to Parker, it really stands for “bestiality." “They keep pushing out this idea, LGBTQ,” she says in a radio interview with right-wing host Jerry Newcombe. “We did the ‘L’ and the ‘G,’ they legalized marriage for themselves. We’re doing the ‘T’ now, the trans, and this is a big, big

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challenge in our society right now. They did the ‘Q’ where they’re changing all the textbooks, even as low as kindergarten, to reflect that you don’t know what you are, you’re questioning. But notice they skipped over the ‘B,’ and there are some that say this ‘B’ is going to bombard us with real vileness in our society if they get what they want because it’s not about bisexuality, it’s about bestiality.” Newcombe asks her to explain. “We do know that there is an agenda and we do know that there have been discussions about bestiality in their closed doors,” she says. “I’m just saying don’t be surprised if we find out that that ‘B’ is not what they said publicly — that we just love each other — that it may, in law, show up as something else.” Apparently, Parker thinks that LGBTQ is a to-do list, not an acronym. And she has a pretty warped view of strides toward equality (i.e. “They legalized marriage for themselves”). It is very interesting that she claims we “skipped

over the ‘B,’” since that is a legit complaint by many bisexual people who feel invisible. But that’s not what she’s addressing, of course. She is equating LGBTQ people with the most depraved acts she can think of. To her we aren’t humans, we’re dog f--kers. Remember, that’s the only way the right’s “religious freedom” bullshit can be justified. If LGBTQ people are just so degraded and vile that no decent person would want to be associated with them. That even Jesus himself would be like, “Eww. No.” So when Parker complains that the rainbow flag makes her feel unwelcome, let’s be clear that LGBTQ people do not owe people who won’t acknowledge our humanity any open arms. —D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.t

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About your ‘chosen’ gay family Conversations with Nicole Nicole Murray Ramirez FX Network’s television series “Pose” just finished its first season and will be back for a second one, as this highly acclaimed drama has made a splash with its high ratings. “Pose” begins where the movie “Is Paris Burning?” left off, with the New York Night scene ... posing the New York Drag Ball with mostly black and brown transgender and drag queen contestants. The director and cast of “Pose” are mostly trans and their acting is Emmy award-winning worthy. The New York night life of hus-

of the most important aspects in our lives. For many of us, our gay chosen family has been our rock and our strength in difficult or sad times. These are more than just friends. They are indeed family. They care, watch over you and are there for you always! I have been blessed to have a gay family, and in time I became a mother/father or grandmother/grandfather figure for many LGBT people. Many of them were completely rejected by their blood families because they are homosexual. And yes, many of them call me “mother,” “granny,” with some even calling me “Mommie Dearest.” I love my gay family and you know who you are! I am lucky and so grateful that they are a

loved by many and made our world a better place. Rev. David Farrell was one of our most respected community leaders in the 1970s, a pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church, and a major leader during the early dark years of the AIDS Crisis. He was also a great orator and was a champion for the civil rights of all people. Dr. Keith Vrhel, a doctor who treated countless HIVAIDS patients, was a compassionate and caring leader of our community. He was was a fighter and champion for all people living with HIV and AIDS. I knew both men and highly respected them and will always remember them and their love they chose to freely give to our community.

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I urge your support of the San Diego Equality Business Association’s (SDEBA) campaign “Buy LGBTQ San Diego!” Yes, our community’s chamber of commerce (formerly the Greater San Diego Business Association) urges everyone to support our LGBTQ business owners and allies. But I urge you to go a step further and ask them what they do to give back to our community’s social service organizations. Let’s support those who support us.

tling and hooking are in full view and let me tell you — this portrayal of nightlife was going on in almost every major city. But what nearly every LGBT person can identify with is what I’ve always said and felt all my life ... we homosexuals have been blessed with two families in our lives: the one we were born into and the one we have chosen. For many gays like me who were totally rejected and shunned by almost all of their blood families, our gay chosen family has become one

part of my life. FX’s “Pose” is about way more than street life, the balls and hustling. It’s about our LGBT chosen families, and that’s what I love about this series. And yes, it does bring back memories of my life in Hollywood in the 1960s.

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—Nicole Murray Ramirez has been writing a column since 1973. He has been a Latino/gay activist for almost half a century and has advised and served the last seven mayors of San Diego. Named the “Honorary Mayor of Hillcrest” by a city proclamation, he has received many media awards including from the prestigious San Diego Press Club. Reach Nicole at Hillcrestqueen5@ Editor’s Note: The opinions written in this column are the author’s own and by no means reflect or represent the opinions of the staff and/ or publisher of Gay San Diego and/or its parent company, San Diego Community News Network (SDCNN). The newspaper and its staff should be held harmless of liability or damages.t

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(CA) So this movie: Was the title “The Spy Who Dumped On Me” ever considered? (JT) (Laughs) It’s the James Bond they never made! Idris Elba, Daniel Craig, why “wouldn’t” you do that movie?

The spy you wouldn’t mind being dumped by By Chris Azzopardi No straight man has ever offered to make me a crop top, but Justin Theroux is no ordinary straight man. If you’ve seen him in all his shirtless, ripped, oiled glory in 2003’s “Charlie’s Angels: Full Throttle” or bore witness to all that was bouncing around in his grey sweatpants in HBO’s “The Leftovers” (I know you saw that; you haven’t “stopped” seeing that), you have likely wished him gay. The versatile 46-year-old actor is, at least, the closest a straight man can get to being gay, palling around with the new “Queer Eye” posse and portraying a deep well of gay characters during his two-decade career, from Marshall in 2000’s “The Broken Hearts Club” to an assortment of gay Englishmen in numerous New York theater productions. Significant gay cred aside, his acting instincts have resulted in an impressive mix of unpredictable career choices rooted in pathos and humor. Theroux — imagine if he dumped you; what an honor — is not wearing sweatpants. But my mock disappointment isn’t sweatpants-related; it’s knowing that he made “Queer Eye”

guy Jonathan Van Ness a crop top but didn’t bring me one. And do I let Justin Theroux wreck the shirt on my back? I do, right? “I would so do it,” he politely insists. “If you have a T-shirt and a pair of scissors, I’m happy to quickly fashion you one.” (Chris Azzopardi) Let’s talk about how you invented sweatpants. (Justin Theroux) (Laughs) I invented the grey sweatpants! I brought them back, I know! You know, I was the one who made a shirt for Jonathan. We were going to gay Pride and he was like, “Fuck, I gotta go out,” and so I made him a shirt. I was like, “I wanna make one of those crop top T-shirts with the tassels,” and he ended up wearing that. (CA) Do you regularly make crop tops for your gay friends? (JT) No, that was the first one I’ve done. It was just like, “It’s a perfect moment in time. I’m with Jonathan and I have a T-shirt and we have scissors and I think I could pull it off.” We’ve become a good little clutch. Tan, Antoni and Jonathan have come over a bunch of times and we’ve gone back and forth, and I’ve disappeared into the bathroom with Jonathan and we’ve talked products. (CA) Can a straight guy have a queer eye? (JT) Keeping my fingers crossed. Season three! Maybe we should do a whole thing where it’s like, “Straight Eye for the Gay Guy.” Find some gay guy who’s not got his shit together and I can go and help him out. I don’t know if I’d be that helpful.

Justin Theroux has never let the thought of playing a gay character interfere with his love of the story. (Courtesy of Lionsgate)

(CA) Recently, Jonathan was obsessing over your shirtlessness in “Charlie’s Angels.” Is that the role most gay men fangirl over when they meet you? (JT) I mean, the first one was actually “The Broken Hearts Club,” which was a movie I did years and years ago. I remember being at gay

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(CA) You’re long overdue for a gay role. (JT) What’s the last one I’ve done? Maybe (my character) Kevin Garvey from “The Leftovers” is, who knows. Don’t tell anybody. No, I’m joking. (Laughs) You could argue he was really put-upon and maybe that was the reason why, ’cause he was in a hetero marriage.

Straight man Justin Theroux portrays a versatile portfolio of gay characters in his career in series and movies. (Courtesy of Lionsgate) Pride and people being like, “Oh my god, this is the guy from ‘Broken Hearts Club!’” [Playing gay] was kind of my bread and butter in New York onstage. I would do Joe Orton plays, or “Shopping and Fucking.” I’d do all these gay Englishmen. That was my thing, that was my calling card. (CA) Why go for the gay roles? (JT) It was something that just happened. It wasn’t like I was seeking them out. It was just something that presented itself. At the time, there was that kind of question when you’d go into the audition: “Are you comfortable kissing a guy?” “Yeah, of course.” (CA) In 2000, some actors were being told not to play gay characters for the sake of preserving their careers. Was there any pressure on you not to play that role? (JT) No. My agent at the time was gay, so it was never a discussion. It always boils down to, is the part good or is the play good? If the material is good, I’m happy to do it. If it’s bad, then I don’t wanna do it. But I wouldn’t want do it for a straight part either. (CA) Did it feel like an important movie at the time for the LGBTQ community? (JT) It didn’t, because it’s not necessarily my community. But it was one of those I was happy [about]. It was the first (LGBTQ) movie that showed – at least that I had been a part

of, or had seen – just a normal relationship. No one’s dying of a disease, no one’s fighting with their parents. There weren’t big red arrows pointing at each character going, “Oh, and by the way, they’re gay!” They were functioning, normal people in their lives, which is reality. In a weird way, its normalcy was the thing that made it special and that felt like a good reason to do it. (CA) You strike me as the kind of guy who’s surrounded by gay men for various reasons. (JT) Yeah, of course. I went to a very progressive high school that had gay boys in it. In college, it becomes quickly normalized. But you can’t live in New York and not be friends with every kind of person, whether they’re gay, trans, straight, whatever. When this sort of cultural shift started to happen, started to spread into the middle of the country in a way that became in the public consciousness… (CA) You were ahead of the game? (JT) Well, I think most people in the city or in pockets of the country were kind of ahead of the game. It felt like, “Wait, this conversation is still happening? Oh yeah, I guess it still is. I guess we ‘do’ need to keep having this discussion.” [I] marvel at people who are still made uncomfortable by it. Like, how on earth? It’s like being made uncomfortable by a sofa; you’re like, “It’s a sofa.” It couldn’t be more normal.

(CA) What would you look for in a gay role now? (JT) I don’t know. It’s really always the story. I want the story to be good and compelling. I want the character to be good and compelling, and that could be anything. Ala “Broken Hearts Club,” you do sort of hope that eventually these all become just the background to the characters, because it’s way more interesting just playing the relationship and playing the story than it is playing the orientation. (CA) If you were to date any of the guys you have played in your career, which ones might you go for? Personally, I’d shack up with Joe from “Six Feet Under.” (JT) Joe in “Six Feet Under” was a sweetheart. But if I dated Joe, he was straight, and so I think that would problematic. (CA) He’s only straight till he drinks four beers. (JT) Until he drinks four beers, then all bets are off! The bondage gear comes out. Like, we all know Joe liked being tied to the bed. (Laughs) I don’t know if there’s anyone I’d really wanna date. And it’s weird to think about dating yourself. Just visually awkward. Actually, Matt McGrath’s “Broken Hearts” character was an adorable character. But I don’t know, I played some pretty fucked up guys, so they all seem like they’re not great relationship material. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter, @chrisazzopardi.t

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FARRELL “Rev. David's dynamic and hope-filled sermons helped me find my home spiritually, as a ‘beloved’ child of God,” said Teresa Biery, another longtime member. “His strength through the AIDS crisis lifted us all. I am eternally grateful for Rev. David and his ministry.” “He gave this church the spirit it has,” said senior pastor Dan Koeshall as he announced his passing at services July 22. “Pastor David went to heaven Friday night. God bless Rev. David.” Farrell is survived by Gil Caldwell, his husband of 43 years. He died of congestive heart failure and had been receiving hospice care at his home he shared with Caldwell in Cathedral City, said Al Smithson, the longtime MCC board vice moderator. “David was one of the pioneers of our movement. There are just so many stories,” said Rev. Troy Perry, who founded the denomination in 1968. Perry said he and his husband “already miss him.” He said Farrell was a personal friend and he urged members to “keep Gil in your thoughts and prayers.” World AIDS Day, now an annual event every Dec. 1, got its start by Farrell in 1985 after he called for 48 hours of prayer to remember people with AIDS, said Rev. Houston Burnside, who worked with Farrell at the time. The church was open for people to come and pray and invitations were sent out to all San Diego County churches to share in the prayer vigil. “He was beloved to a lot of people. He would start and finish with beloved or dear saints,” said Burnside. “It was Rev. David's bold leadership that led MCC San Diego to be the first gay organization in San Diego to own property when it purchased its own church at Fern and Ash,” said Smithson of the Golden Hill site that MCC occupied from 1975 to 1982. “When we outgrew that building, Rev. David led to purchase the much larger building near 30th and El Cajon in North Park,” said Smithson. In the 1980s and 1990s, AIDS took the lives of one third of the congregation. The membership had grown to more than 400 by 1980, but in 1996, the membership stood at 215, according to MCC records. “Rev. David held us together during the AIDS crisis,” said Smithson. At this same time, fundamentalists from the Bible Missionary Fellowship in Santee began picketing outside the church in North Park with offensive, hateful signs about gay people and AIDS. The Santee group often missed their own services in order to picket MCC services on Sunday. Farrell decided to place electric speakers


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Rev. David Farrel with his husband Gil Caldwell. outside MCC to broadcast its service to the picketers on the sidewalk. This same group also started picketing San Diego City Hall by protesting Ben Dillingham who became the chief of staff for Mayor Maureen O'Connor in 1985. Dillingham was a long-time MCC member who died in 2017 and left $600,000 to the church, which helped the church pay off its mortgage in 2018 after it moved to a new building near Mission Bay in 2009. The Santee church also picketed the LGBT Pride parade every year, but the protests abruptly stopped in 1987 when seven members and its pastor, Rev. Dorman Owens, were arrested for conspiracy to place a bomb in an abortion clinic. A man from the Bible Missionary Fellowship disguised himself as a woman in a dress and placed a gasoline bomb at 3 a.m. outside the family planning group on July 27, 1987. The flame on the wick went out and police arrested the man, who was the same one who piloted a plane over the LGBT parade with an offensive banner about AIDS. Owens pleaded guilty to tampering with a witness and received a 21-month federal prison term. One of Owens' parole restrictions after he was released was a ban on protesting against gay people. “As I've said many times to Rev. David, I am forever grateful for the pioneer work he did in MCC and the San Diego LGBT community,” said Koeshall. “There are many of us who stand on Rev. David's shoulders as we continue the work of spiritual transformation, inclusion, social action, and community,” said Koeshall. “He will be missed.” In 1978, Farrell spoke out against Prop. 6, the Briggs Initiative, which sought California voter approval to fire gay and lesbian teachers and also straight teachers who “promoted” homosexuality. Farrell was tapped to be the opposition speaker against the measure at various debates including some that were televised.

This was a time in which a lot of gay people were still in the closet. The trailblazer that he was, Farrell did not mind being a key person to participate in electoral debates on Prop. 6 and other issues. The measure went down to a 58-41 percent defeat on Nov. 7, 1978, after former presidents Ronald Reagan, Gerald Ford, and Jimmy Carter campaigned against it. Farrell had a keen memory, often recalling the names of visitors and others to the church, said Lyn Malone, the minister of congregational care. Farrell began attending MCC in 1970 where it was meeting on Sunday nights at the Chollas View Methodist Church. He became a deacon in 1971 and began feeling a call to preach in 1974. He first became a full-time workshop coordinator, and in the summer of 1975, Farrell was licensed as a clergy person in the MCC denomination. MCC had outgrown its arrangement with the Chollas View Methodist Church and escrow closed on June 1, 1975, for the Fern Street location, which served as the first building purchased by a gay organization in San Diego. “I joined our church in September of 1970 and my life was forever changed,” wrote Farrell upon the church's silver anniversary in 1995. “How well I remember rediscovering the joy and strength of Christian fellowship in the midst of this unlikely worshipping community.” Farrell had his first heart attack in 1978 and his first heart bypass surgery in 1980. He took a leave of absence in June 1988, after acknowledging the strain he had over the deaths of so many members from AIDS and increased workload. There were a lot of funerals he conducted. Rev. Donna Eubanks took over for Farrell, and he returned to the pulpit on Oct. 8, 1988. Bravo Magazine honored him as “Man of the Year” in 1989. —Neal Putnam is a local freelance writer. Reach him at


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The Interfaith Shelter Network (ISN) has been an effective program for the homeless throughout San Diego County, so far helping 8,000 homeless individuals gain access to resources and services to get their lives back on track. San Diego Mayor Kevin Faulconer joined the (ISN) in asking LGBT-friendly congregations to join the network and open their doors to homeless individuals at the ISN Summit on March 5 at St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral. “We know there are a number of LGBTQ individuals experiencing homelessness and they need our help. That’s why we are asking LGBTQ-friendly congregations, who understand their needs, to join our care network and provide a temporary place for them to begin turning their lives around,” said Faulconer in a press release.

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The ISN Summit discussion addressing the summit. “This panel consisted of The Very is a network that works and Rev. Penny Bridges, dean, with your help and participaSt. Paul’s Cathedral; Trisha tion, I think you will see the Brereton, ISN executive dibenefits in so many ways. That rector; Fernando Lopez, San is why I am optimistic about Diego LGBT Pride executive our opportunities to begin makdirector; Gary Owen, ISN voling a real difference.” unteer; and Jonathan Herrera, Faulconer said that combatsenior advisor on homelessne ss ting homelessness is about crecoordination for the city of San ating that safe space for those Diego. in need, regardless of someone’s “You all represent the fabrace, color, religion, gender, sexric of our city for wanting to ual orientation, national origin, do the right thing and helpage or disabilities. ing people get back on their feet,” Faulconer said when see ISN,

● Opening statement “The county has $2 billion in reserve tax dollars just floating in a cloud of unknown use by county supervisors,” Malbrough said.

He said he pledges to “seek community input” on how these reserve tax dollars can best be utilized and would like to see them invested in “chronically neglected or underfunded areas,” such as housing and public safety in underserved communities. “My priority is reducing our homelessness epidemic and addressing this issue region-wide,” he said. “Providing access to health and human services is the primary and more affordable method to avoid the pathway to homelessness and incarceration.”

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Burgers, malts and a big side of nice Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. Never underestimate the power of genuine friendliness and all-around efficiency uniting under one roof. Add to the formula consistency in food quality, and you’ve struck gold. A supreme case in point can be found at the 25-yearold Classics Malt Shop, which was ranked nationally by Yelp as one of the “top 100 places to eat” in 2016 and 2017. The honors are based each year on solid averages of five-star user reviews. Also notable is that the diner was the sole survivor from a group of eight eateries in the Point Loma Plaza food court when the economy nosedived in 2012-2013. It soon moved into larger digs within the same shopping center, where it continues sizzling in pure retro-American style. Owner Jeff Attiq and his cousin, Faris Yacoub, are the unmistakable front-line guys who treat their customers as if each is a longtime friend. Cordial and inherently people-oriented, they’ve procured a diverse patronage from neighboring health and exercise establishments (the closet consumers of cheeseburgers, hot dogs and fries) plus families, out of towners and members of

the LGBT community. In fact, it was a married gay couple from my inner circle who initially recommended the place to me years ago. They quickly became esteemed customers, so I ended up bringing one of them along on this visit. We were greeted with open arms. The menu isn’t too lengthy, but it’s loaded with high points. The shakes, floats, freezes and sundaes, for instance, are made with Thrifty’s Ice Cream, which is famous for its depth of flavor ever since it was introduced in 1940. (Request malt in your milkshake, and you end up with a richer, slightly sweeter result.) If you come knocking for hot dogs—classic, chili-cheese or Chicago-style—expect an allbeef Hebrew National frank nestled in a poppy seed roll, exactly what you’d encounter in the Windy City. Kudos to the cheesesteaks. They’re served appropriately in 8-inch Amoroso rolls imported from Philadelphia. Think smooth, firm crusts with feathery innards. They’re stuffed with thin and exceptionally tender sirloin “minute steak” that’s properly chipped on the grill as it quickly cooks. I ordered the spicy version strewn with jalapenos and requisite grilled onions. Pepper jack cheese imparted the all-important goo in what turned out to be a beautiful cure for a wine hangover from the previous night. Mozzarella

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A retro eatery for 21st-century consumers (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) is the other cheese option, although sticklers won’t blink twice over the unavailability of traditional Cheez Whiz and white American once they discover that the primary virtues of the iconic sandwich are successfully captured here. The standard beef burgers are formed onsite into thirdpound patties comprising an 81/19 meat-to-fat ratio. My friend opted for the leaner buffalo bison burger, which rings in at only 13 grams of fat opposed to 29 grams in the

regular patty. The meat and veggie garnishments were fresh. Ditto for the brioche bun, which added to an all-around tasty construct comparable to today’s trendiest burgers. Attiq uses canola oil for deep-frying, which might explain the clean flavors of the fresh-cut french fries and the beer-battered onion rings. The O-rings stayed remarkably intact after biting into them, thanks to the welcome absence of oily batter and wormy onions.

Lovable marble rye bread is used for the Reuben sandwiches. Like everything else on our table, it was substantial yet tidy—not the bulging monsters you see spilling their guts in New York delis. Hence the attractively low prices. Attiq, whose father founded the eatery and is now retired, hasn’t raised prices “in a while,” adding that when he does, “it won’t be significant.” As it stands, almost everything on the menu is under $10, with the exceptions of the bison burger ($11.99) and the 1-pound “hungryman burger ($13.99). Couple either of those with a small-size shake or a 24-ounce root beer float, each for $4.99, and you’ve come away with a full stomach and an undamaged wallet, not to mention an upbeat customer service experience. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at

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The fifth annual No Borders Ceviche Showdown on Aug. 12 at 57 Degrees brings together restaurants from San Diego and areas south of the border as they compete for the people’s choice award as well as top honors from a panel of judges. Participants from San Diego include the Old Town Tequila Factory, Old Town Mexican Cafe, Tidal Restaurant and Indigo Grill. They’ll be joined by Villa Saverios and El Baj Americano, both of Tijuana, and 240 Grill and Koipai Cocina, each from Ensenada. The event, to be held from 1 to 4 p.m. is an opportunity for competitors to dole out samples of their latest and greatest ceviche. Tickets are $29 in advance and $39 at the door. They include the ceviche tastings and a voting ballot. 1735 Hancock St., 619-234-5760,

Get your ceviche fix at an international competition scheduled at 57 Degrees. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

A homegrown pizza shop with gourmet flair is returning to Hillcrest. (Courtesy of Project Pie)

The second coming of Project Pie in Hillcrest is due to arrive in early September. Returning to the strip plaza at Fourth and University avenues, the space has left many consumers confused over its relationship to Pieology, which it briefly operated under before suddenly closing a couple years ago. Brian Mills was a past franchisee of Project Pie when Pieology took over the shop. “Something happened and they ended up walking away from it,”

he recalls. He eventually purchased Project Pie’s name and concept, and now runs three other locations throughout San Diego County — in Chula Vista, Carlsbad and La Costa. The fast-casual menu, which specializes in fire-baked artisan pizzas, will remain the same except for an expanded salad line and the addition of empanadas sourced from Empanada Kitchen Downtown. 3888 Fourth Ave.,

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“Heart-gripping and cathartic, FUN HOME occupies the place where we all grew up and will never be able to leave. WE’RE HOME.” THE NEW YORK TIMES

Kensington gets a sushi restaurant. (Yelp) The fabled Japanese figure combining a raccoon and a dog is the namesake mascot for a new sushi joint that opened in Kensington. Known as Tanuki, the small eatery recently obtained its beer and wine license to complement a menu of simple starters such as miso-marinated

A new Mission Valley eatery offers a treasure chest of “superfoods.” (Courtesy of Bay Bird Inc.)

cream cheese, salmon sashimi and macaroni salad. Options progress to assorted sushi rolls comprising wagyu beef, sea urchin, real crab and other proteins. Also in the offing are house-made eclairs with detailed embellishments and siphon coffee. 4191 Adams. Ave., 619-624-0592. Everbowl made its metro San Diego debut in Mission Valley recently with an array of “super “superfoods” used in smoothies and buildyour-own bowls. The Carlsbadbased eatery, which promotes healthy eating, offers a choice of acai, acerola, graviola and pitaya as foundations for the customized bowls. Patrons then choose a liq liquid such as almond milk, coconut water, apple juice and others before selecting from a long list of unlim unlimited toppings. The final step allows customers to choose from a list of “superstuff” that includes bee pollen, vitamin C, agave, flax and more. 5624 Mission Center Road (in the Ralph’s shopping plaza), 619487-0443,


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T he heart of a poet


Rule number one, no poufters!

Theater Review Jean Lowerison Bus conductor Alfie Byrne (Barron Henzel) has a quiet life in Dublin with his spinster sister Lily (Jennie Gray Connard). He works with a handsome bloke named Robbie (Vander Turner). In Ireland, there’s art in everything, and Alfie has the heart of a poet. He often treats passengers to a few lines from his favorite Oscar Wilde work, to the disgust of bus supervisor Mr. Carson (Thomas Fitzpatrick), who doesn’t

appreciate the fact that Alfie’s recitations often make his buses late. But Alfie’s main creative outlet is directing a small band of dedicated (if less than firstrate) actors who use a room in the local church (St. Imelda’s) as a theater. Coronado Playhouse, continuing a string of fine musical productions, presents “A Man of No Importance” (based on the 1994 film starring Albert Finney) through Aug. 26. Playwright Terrence McNally wrote the book, the music is by Stephen Flaherty, and Lynn Ehrens wrote the lyrics. Manny Bejarano directs. Lily has a boyfriend, butcher Mr. Carney (Ralph Johnson),

(l to r) Barron Henzel (Alfie) and Vander Turner (Robbie) (Photos by Ken Jacques)

The cast of “A Man of No Importance” now playing at the Coronado Playhouse through Aug. 26 but she’s keeping him at arm’s length because she feels it her responsibility to see to it that her little brother is happily married first. But there’s a void in Alfie’s life that he’s keeping secret, even from Lily. A 2018 audience would pick this up immediately from his extraordinary fondness for Wilde, his lack of a girlfriend and the fact that says he feels as if he’s in prison. But this show ran off-Broadway in 2002, so it’s spelled out: it’s 1964, and being gay can get you beaten by local thugs who don’t like “poufters.” So Alfie buries himself in theater. He wants to do Wilde’s “Salome,” but hasn’t found his star – until one day Adele Rice (Kylie Young) gets on his bus. Like so much in life, this will solve one problem but create others. The show is unusual in that respect – full of characters wanting one thing, who may not get what they want, but will end up with insight and self-discovery instead. Most of the music is in the pop style, and all the major characters get a signature song. Since I’m a librarian by trade, “Books” has to be one of my favorites, in which Lily and Mr. Carney discuss the relative value of reading and marriage for Alfie: The man needs a wife. To ruin his life! Not books!

Sue Boland (Miss Crowe)

“Art” is another surprising and funny song. Here the various cast members (who also serve as designers) offer preliminary ideas on costumes, props, lighting and choreography – all hilariously inappropriate. But the major songs are “Man in the Mirror” (in which Alfie talks to himself) and “Love Who You Love” (sung separately by Alfie and Adele, and self-explanatory). Coronado gets kudos for the willingness to attempt the difficult. I don’t know the film, but though the musical has its charms, it comes off as uneven in the quality of both writing and performance. For example, how likely is it that anyone, even a committed Wilde fan like Alfie, wouldn’t know that doing “Salome” (with that sexy dance) in a church would be problematic? So, though some of the actors question the choice, there’s no real suspense here. Some of the cast on opening night were either miscast or didn’t seem quite ready for prime time. Henzel has acquired a convincing Irish accent and his characterization is fine, but his Alfie needs to speak more clearly if he is to be understood. Young’s Salome is pretty and a good actress. Her voice has plenty of power, though I found the quality a bit piercing. Connard is solid as Alfie’s

A Man of No Importance’ Plays through Aug. 26 Coronado Playhouse 1835 Strand Way Coronado Thursday through Saturday at 8 p.m. Sunday at 2 p.m. Tickets: 619-435-4856 exasperated sister Lily. Turner’s Robbie is fine as well. Always-reliable local favorite Ralph Johnson is double-cast: he’s fine as the butcher Mr. Carney, less convincing as the phantom of Oscar Wilde, returned to cheer Alfie on. Michael Van Allen is fine as company member Baldy, stage manager for the theater company. He’s especially effective in his poignant signature song, “The Cuddles Mary Gave,” a paean to his late wife. “A Man of No Importance” comes off as a bit dated but offers humor in the troupe’s characters and emotion in the show’s basic be-yourself premise. —Jean Lowerison is a long-standing member of the San Diego Theatre Critics Circle and can be reached at


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Friday, August 3

DIVAS- Rodman & Kickxy Kick Productions & Rich’s presents DIVAS featuring Kennedy Davenport, Keex Rose, Lolita Von Tease, Vanity Jones and Vancie Vega. Doors open at 7 p.m., show starts at 8 p.m. Rich’s San Diego, 1051 University Ave.

Saturday, August 4

The Disappearing L- As the kickoff to a LGBTQ+ centric lecture series, UC Berkeley history and women’s studies lecturer Dr. Bonnie Morris will be holding a lecture titled “The Disappearing L: Preserving Lesbian Culture + Visibility.” The lecture series is hosted by The San Diego History Center in conjunction with Lambda Archives. Tickets are $5 for museum members and $10 for nonmembers. The San Diego History Center, 1649 El Prado Suite. 3.

Center) will be having a Grief & Loss discussion group, as it does every first, second and third Monday of the month. 5:30–7 p.m. South Chula Vista Library, 389 Orange Ave.

Sunday, August 5

“La Cage Aux Folles” – For two nights only, Aug. 6–7, Cygnet’s 2018 Summer Benefit promises to be anything but a drag. Reception includes light appetizers, silent auction items and opportunities to sponsor Cygnet artists. Reception at 6 p.m., performance starts at 7:30 p.m. Tickets $50, VIP tickets $75. 4040 Twiggs St.

Sinful Sunday- Join DJ Joey Jimenez for a Sinful Brunch with bottomless bubbles, and mimosa flights at Gossip Grill. $13.95 for bottomless champagne mimosas; other food and drink prices vary. Brunch starts at 10 a.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave.

Monday, August 6

Grief & Loss Discussion Group- The San Diego LGBT Community Center (The

Acting Class Series with Jerry Phalen – Joint the eightweek acting class series at the San Diego LGBT Community

Center, limited to 12 students. Actor and director Phalen has been teaching for more than 12 years and has appeared in more than 70 productions. He works with beginners, advanced and working actors. Class consist of scene-study and monologues. $125 for entire series. 3909 Centre St. For information and registration, contact Phalen at 619-220-8854 or

Tuesday, August 7

Steppin Out- Tony Award winning Broadway star Ben Vereen is coming to Martinis Above Fourth. Vereen is known for his performances in “Pippin,” “Jesus Christ Superstar,” “Fosse,” “Chicago” and “Wicked.” “Steppin’ Out with Ben Vereen” is sure to be a night of song, dance, humor and personal insight. $35–$40 for reserved seating with a $20 food/drink minimum per person. 3940 Fourth Ave.

Thursday, August 9

MIDNIGHT ALLEYThe creator of “Hot Guys Dancing,” “Man Clan,” and “In the Va Va Voom Room,” Michael Mizerany premieres “MIDNIGHT ALLEY: A Noir Dance Production” August 9–12. The show features sensual dancing, provocative plot twists, murderers, con men, femme fatales and a game-changing ending. Tickets from $25–$30. Show times vary by date. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd. #101.

Friday, August 10

Extended Happy Hour Fridays - Swing by Urban MO’s in Hillcrest for $5 well drinks, $5 svedka flavors, $5 house margaritas and $5 happy hour appetizers. 2–7 p.m. at 308 University Ave.

Saturday, August 11

Tour of Scotland – Tour Scotland at Vom Fass Hillcrest brings the tastes of different regions to be considered and compared by attendees. Sample and discuss rare and small batch Scotches in a convivial atmosphere. There


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38 “Corydon” author Gide 42 Dust Bowl refugee 43 Supposed gay percentage of the population 44 Greeted the milkmaid 45 “I Got Rhythm” writer Gershwin 46 Overhand stroke, for Amelie Mauresmo 49 More of the quote 50 Small, wet bodies 52 Arizona tribe 54 She and she or he and he 56 More of the quote 59 End of the quote 63 Working hard 64 Member of a Dumas threesome 66 Some falcon feathers 67 Russian duo that sings “All Things Said” 68 Utah Starzz and Houston Comets 69 Toronto gas brand 70 From A to B, to Debussy 71 Seed spilled by some farmers 72 “Weed 'em and ___” (gardener's motto?)

Sunday, August 12

Cabaret Brunch – Monthly brunch event that features entertainment for drag queen to burlesque, live singers and performers. Two shows: 10 a.m. and 12 p.m. All cabaret packages are $27 including bottomless mimosas/house wine and one brunch entree. Reservations can be made. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave.

Thursday, August 16

Boylesque – Diamond Dogs presents Boylesque at The Merrow. Doors open at 8 p.m., show at 9 p.m. $5. 1271 University Ave.


Center for AIDS Walk & Run – Registration has begun for the 29th annual AIDS walk and run presented by the San Diego LGBT Community Center. Individual registration is $25 for youth and seniors, and $35 for adults. Each year, proceeds from the event go toward programs and services that help the over 18,000 individuals in San Diego County living with HIV/AIDS. Registration ends Sept. 28. New exhibition explores city’s LGBTQ history – A first of its kind exhibit has opened at the San Diego History Center in Balboa Park, titled “LGBTQ+ SD: Stories of Struggles and Triumphs.” Organized by a team led by esteemed author Lillian Faderman, and in partnership with the Lambda Archives, the program seeks to showcase the story of the city’s LGBTQ community. Exhibit runs through Jan. 20, 2020. Catholic Mass – Dignity San Diego presents an LGBTQfriendly Catholic Mass every Sunday at the Mission Hills United Methodist Church from 6–7 p.m. 404 Lark St. dignitysd.orgt



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on the equilibrium of harmony in its artistic arrangements of the classics, to pull it off without a hitch. ABBA’s music has touched the LGBT community since its beginning, and the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus achieved the same goal at the Balboa Theatre on July 28. With many of the chorus’s concerts consisting of a variety of songs that range in style, mood and meaning, Artistic Direct RC Haus said there was only one way to approach performing the music of ABBA: Have fun with it. And that they did, bringing the sold-out concert attendees an evening of enjoyable, reminiscent excitement. With no holds barred versions of ABBA brilliance, they left everyone feeling stranded, because all we wanted was more. Nothing short of masterpieces, these songs are as popular today as they were in the 70s, spanning generations. Haus’ arrangements took them to grander scales, truly delivering on his promise. Most of all, and probably most importantly, it was clearly evident that the members of the chorus had as much fun as the crowd. There is nothing more satisfying than seeing vocalists that are completely in their element. Add in some sexy choreography, some moving solos, dancers and some dancing queens, and what more can be said? ABBA is about as gay as it gets, and the chorus fed on the music — stampeding the show into an ABBA frenzy for all. There were some comedic moments, first in the rendition of “When I Kissed the Teacher.” Like going to a play, the ensemble in front of the singers gave this song a different take, both funny and rememberable with the cast milking it to the max. It was the same with “Does your Mother Know.” In both cases, this brilliant move enhanced the chorus’s performance. Within all the fun though, there were also some tender

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moments. “The Way Old Friends Do” was handsomely arranged. The trio of singers (Lew Atkinson, Shaun Ferreira and James Flaherty) led the chorus in a beautiful tribute to Steve Karo, a longtime supporter of the chorus and saved the Balboa Theatre, that left the audience silent. This was a magical moment of unison that could not be denied. It was simply stunning. Whispers in the crowd, including from the person sitting next to me, revealed many attendees were waiting for “Fernando.” With the edition of Reka Gyulai and Isaiah Bindel from the California Ballet Company, who danced superbly to the wonderful arrangement, the lyrics of this song took on distinctive meaning in a story-telling moment. Bravissimo! Kevin Hannahoe, Andy Smith, Nick Stone and Steve Uhrman introduced another element to “I Have a Dream,” quartet magnificos, a number that would otherwise just be another favorite ABBA song. Throughout the night, the best part of all was watching the faces of chorus members as they sang and danced through a night of great music. There is nothing better in a concert than seeing performers loving what they are doing and being in the moment. The night was filled with light-heartedness and it spread quickly through the audience. By the time they encored, finally performing “Dancing Queen” (you had a lot of people concerned there RC), the house was up on their feet dancing away. This was the perfect close to a fabulous night of entertainment. The crowd was very fidgety during most of the performance, mostly because everyone wanted to sing and dance along with all of their favorites. (There should have been a mosh pit.) The only disappointment in the evening is that it ended. We could have stayed for a few more encore performances, especially for ABBA. Thank you for the music. —Albert Fulcher can be reached at albert@sdcnn.t

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Isaiah Bindel and Reka Gyulai of the California Ballet Company join the San Diego Men’s Chorus in a moving rendition of “Fernando.” (Photo courtesy of Gary Payne Photography)


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