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Volume 7 Issue 14


July 8 - 21, 2016


Change agents

(l to r) Police Officer Christine Garcia and Sgt. Daniel Meyer are the two-person team who perform as San Diego Police Department’s LGBT Community Liaisons. (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley)

SDPD’s LGBT liaisons talk keeping us safe and being out and proud Morgan M. Hurley | Editor



By SDCNN Staff


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Local LGBT Heroes honored

Some events under the radar


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HBC collaborates for Pride 2016



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As we draw closer to San Diego LGBT Pride weekend amid growing concerns of both safety in the wake of Orlando and discomfort with what is expected to be a much greater uptick in police presence during the annual festivities, our local LGBT community has two “family members” exactly where they need them: on the San Diego Police Department (SDPD). Sgt. Daniel Meyer and Police Officer Chris Garcia are the two-person team that makes up the department’s LGBT Community Liaison office,

which is really nothing more than their personal cell phones and two stacks of business cards that anyone can find at the front desk of the San Diego LGBT Community Center. Meyer, whose day job is with the Operational Support division, has been a LGBT Liaison officer for more than five years; Garcia, who pulls graveyard shifts with the department’s accident investigation unit, joined him earlier this year. Despite the weight of their full-time duties, their liaison roles are an official collateral duty and something they enjoy but take ver y seriously. The first LGBT liaison officer for SDPD was put into place in the 1990s, at a time when there was a national shift toward “community-oriented policing,” something

see LGBT Liaison, pg 16

Union Bank and KPBS have recognized more than 200 local residents through their collaboration with the Local Heroes Project since 1998. This year’s recipients for the 2016 LGBT Pride Month Local Heroes are Jonathan Bailey and Matteus Stephens. Organizers said the two men “demonstrate a shared commitment to providing their communities with the tools to thrive in today’s changing world.” “These honorees have worked tirelessly to enhance the local LGBT community and our community at large,” said Tom Karlo, KPBS general manager in a press release. “We are proud to join with Union Bank to honor their exemplar y ser vice during LGBT Pride Month.” The following previously ran on

Longtime Mama’s Kitchen volunteer

Local Hero Jonathan Bailey is embarrassed. He was recognized as LGBT Pride Month’s Local Hero for his volunteer work at Mama’s Kitchen, a San Diego organization that’s been giving warm meals to those in need for 25 years (and in March delivered its 8 millionth meal). “There’s so many people who have given more than I have, and

see Heroes, pg 10

Local improv troupe to celebrate ‘Pride Night’ Two blocks of LGBT fun, with one focusing on life of local activist Benny Cartwright By Margie M. Palmer

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San Diego’s “most colorful week will get even more joyful” on July 9, when Finest City Improv (FCI) presents its first-ever Pride Night. The show will take place at FCI’s intimate North Park theater, located at 4250 Louisiana St., in the Lafayette Hotel building. Finest City Improv boasts “the largest variety of improvised comedy in San Diego” on their website. Established in 2011, FCI is a mixture of improvisational comedy acts performed in their cabaret theater, multi-level improv classes taught by professional instructors, and corporate teambuilding workshops. Pride Night organizer Jesse Suphan said the improv group started thinking about putting this night on a few months ago. “We marched in the [San Diego LGBT Pride] parade last year but we realized that this year, we wanted to do more,” he said. “We wanted to do something to give back to the community.”

see Improv Pride, pg 17

Finest City Improv’s regular Big Gay Sketch Show is part of a special Pride Night fundraiser. (Courtesy AFI)


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Events not to be missed There are a number of San Diego LGBT Pride related events happening this year that are new or returning but might be off the radar because of their location. We have compiled that information here.


SheFest is a woman-centered event that celebrates and supports the talents and contributions of women, while fostering meaningful connections within the LGBT and greater San Diego community. It takes place Saturday, July 9, from 11 – 5 p.m. at the North Park Community Park, located at 4044 Idaho St., in North Park. This one-day festival is free to al and will include music, workshops, games, and more in a safe space where women can experience support, encouragement and empowerment. Two workshop areas will have special relevant topics all day. Following is a schedule of the workshops:

Workshop Area 1 11 – 11:45 a.m. | “Parenting & Donor Insemination,” with Suzann Gage of Lesbian Health Clinic & Progressive Health Ser vices 12 – 12:45 p.m. | “Live Your Life Well,” with Mental Health America 1 – 1:45 p.m. | “Awesome Boundaries,” with Sex Positive San Diego 2 – 2:45 p.m. | “How to Ask: Seven Motivations for Success,” with Janet F. Williams 3 – 4 p.m. | “Embracing your Sacred Cycle: Reusable Menstrual Cups & Herbal Remedies,” with Vubino and Empowered Planting Workshop Area 2 11 – 11:45 a.m. | “Nutrition 101: Don’t cheat on what your dogs and cats eat,” with South Bark 12 – 12:45 p.m. | “Oil Therapy: Essentials 101,” with SD Family Wellness Center 1 – 1:45 p.m. | “Recycle Your Groove: How to Make Music Anywhere with Anyone,” with Yes to Music 2 – 2:45 p.m. | “Create the Life You Crave: Develop healthy relationships with food and exercise,” with Maxwell 3 – 4 p.m. | “Find Your Empowered Voice,” with Rooted Living Wellness There will also be a stage with musical entertainment. Bring your blankets and chairs to hang out on the grass.

see Pride Events, pg 23

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All we need is beer

HBC has collaborated with Karl Strauss on Pride 2016, a hoppy Red Session Ale, to help Orlando victims. (Photos courtesy HBC) By SDCNN Staff Every year since first opening in 2012, Hillcrest Brewing Company (HBC) and MO’s Universe have brewed a special, limited edition beer for Pride season. Each special Pride brew has had a specific theme and is always a different style of beer. Two years ago, Pride 2014 was brewed to honor marriage equality and proceeds were given to select local organizations that promoted the forward movement of equality. Pride 2014 was identified as a “session ale.” This year, HBC’s special brew is actually a collaboration between HBC and Karl Strauss Brewery, the oldest craft brewery in San Diego. Beginning Friday, July 15, in conjunction with San Diego Pride Weekend, “Pride 2016: All You Need is Love” — described by the brewing team as a “hoppy Red Session Ale” — will become available at Hillcrest Brewing Company and all Karl Strauss Brewpubs. The beer will also be made available to other craft beer establishments across San Diego. Proceeds from the beer are earmarked for the families of the victims of Orlando’s Pulse Nightclub tragedy and the more than 50 others who are still recovering from their injuries. Funds will also be distributed to a few select

organizations that “champion peace, equality and tolerance.” Calling the collaboration a “movement,” Paul Segura, Karl Strauss’ research and development brewmaster, reached out to other local breweries and encouraged them to jump on board and create their own version of “All You Need Is Love.” “We would like to encourage the SD brewing community to participate in this movement, and unify in their support by brewing interpretations of All You Need Is Love,” Segura said in a statement to the San Diego brewing community. “The beer can be any style, and your contribution of proceeds can be made however you wish. Details outlining recommended charities and funds are still being identified, and we will publish a list of organizations in the coming days.” HBC and Karl Strauss have joined forces with the San Diego Brewers Guild to organize participants and coordinate PR for the ongoing project and requested those interested make contact and share what they plan to brew. Segura hopes the project will catch on with other brewers in the local community and spawn more collaborations under the same guise of “All You Need Is Love,” and make a difference for those in need in Orlando. So far, the following local breweries have

signed on: Second Chance Beer Co., Belching Beaver Brewery, Wavelength Brewing Co, Border X Brewing, Intergalactic Brewing Company, ChuckAlek Independent Brewers, and Indian Joe Brewing. “This project is so incredibly heartwarming to all of us at MO’s Universe,” said Marketing Director Lukas Volk in a press release. “While many might think this tragedy would divide communities, we’re finding quite the opposite. We have been collaborating with Karl Strauss’ brewing team and marketing department over the last three days to launch a project showing that the LGBTQ community has strong allies who are here to help in a time of need.” While the annual Pride beers are generally geared as a limited edition product of the local “out and proud LGBT brewery,” Pride 2016 may take on a life of its own, especially if others in the local brewing community merge their resources to continue their own contributions to the project.

Purchase your first Pride 2016 “All You Need Is Love” hoppy red session ale at Hillcrest Brewing Company or Karl Strauss Brewpubs on Pride Friday and throughout the weekend. The more you buy the more money will go toward the victims and their families. Hillcrest Brewing Company is located at 1458 University Ave., next to the Hillcrest Pride Flag. For more information, visit tinyurl. com/hotd7vq.t


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Corrections Special apology In our last issue we paid tribute to the founder of Special Delivery, which just celebrated its 25th year. [See “Special Delivery turns 25,” Vol. 7, Issue 13, or online at tinyurl. com/zmjadbm.] Unfortunately, we spelled her name “Hendricks” throughout and her correct name is Ruth Henricks (no “d”). We deeply regret this, as her name was mentioned dozens of times, incorrectly, in the article. In addition, we stated that Ruth’s grandson, Rocky, was recently hired as the only other paid position along with Ruth’s executive director position. This is incorrect. From Ruth, herself: “To offer a bit of clarity to one of the statements made in the article — it sounds like I was a paid person and then Rocky joined the ranks along with me. But I have never been paid — all my contributions were just that — contributions.” The online article has been updated to reflect these issues.

Well Strung date correction

Also in our last issue, we featured as our cover story a talented, openly gay and internationally known string quartet who are performing in San Diego County this month. [See “Well Strung in Vista,” Vol. 7, Issue 13, or online at] In the article we identified the date they perform both correctly and incorrectly. To be clear, Well Strung will perform at 8 p.m., Saturday, July 9, at the Moonlight Amphitheater in Vista. We regret the error.t

Guest Editorial

Let’s not have another tragedy pass by without action By Rep. Susan A. Davis Pride Month is a time to celebrate our progress and to recommit toward total equality today. With the shooting deaths of 49 people at a popular gay nightclub in Orlando, this year’s Pride activities will take a somber tone. This deadliest mass shooting in the histor y of our countr y brought senseless sorrow and loss to the victims and their loved ones. The world expressed its grief and support for the LGBT community and the community of Orlando. In a familiar refrain: We are all Orlando. The shootings join a list of attacks on the LGBT community throughout our histor y – Stonewall, the arson of the Upstairs Lounge in New Orleans that killed 32, the assassination of Har vey Milk, and the murder of Matthew Shepard. Orlando underscores the climate the LGBT community still faces on a daily basis. According to the FBI, 20 percent of hate crimes are LGBT motivated. This is second only to hate crimes based on race. These incidents of violence are attempts to instill fear, intimidate and weaken the resolve in the quest for equality. But in the end, they always have the opposite effect.

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I am inspired by the ability of LGBT Americans to rise up in the face of these horrific events and continue the fight for equality, inclusiveness and opportunity. We owe it to the victims of Orlando and the victims of past acts of violence to work toward an even better world for future generations. The outrage I feel, as a member of Congress, when these mass shootings occur is that nothing ever changes. Republican leadership in Congress simply refuses to let us have a debate on the issue of gun violence, let alone pass significant laws that will protect the American people. People are demanding action and Congress should respond. Here’s what I’d like to see enacted: We know that the Orlando shooter was on the terror watch list. Democrats are reviving past legislative efforts to keep those on the terror watch list from buying guns. If you can’t fly then you shouldn’t be able to buy. The AR-15 semiautomatic assault rifle is becoming the weapon of choice for mass murderers. It was used in Orlando, Newtown and San Bernardino. Why do we continue to allow easy access to these assault weapons where the sole purpose is to kill as many people as possible?

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Listen to the audio of the amount of shots fired at the nightclub. If that doesn’t convince anyone we need to reinstate the assault weapons ban, then I don’t know what will. Glaring loopholes in our nation’s system of background checks need to be closed. There is bipartisan legislation in the House that would extend background checks requirements to gun shows and purchases over the internet. Our nation’s laws still don’t adequately protect the rights of LGBT Americans. The Equality Act would add sexual orientation to the list of protections under our nation’s civil rights laws. This will give LGBT Americans greater protection under the law and provide critical legal recourse to fight discrimination. The Student Non-Discrimination Act will confront discrimination in our schools and will instill the notion of equality at an early age. It ensures all students, regardless of sexual orientation, have equal access to all school activities. It declares that harassment is discrimination. How we respond to these moments defines who we are as a nation. Let’s renew our commitment to diversity and equality. Let’s come together to create a future where ever yone can live, love, and never have to live in fear for who they are.

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But to find out that we won three awards, including the top children's book award, is beyond incredible!” The book’s message, which Clarione said is not only about the importance of loving and accepting yourself, “but really to accept other people’s differences as well,” teaches everyone of every age, that it is OK to be different. “Thank you to Tyler for putting us on this road,” Clarione said. “Thank you especially to everyone who has supported our project and continues to carry Peter's message! We are truly #PeacockProud!” To see the full list of honorees, visit To learn more about this colorful LGBTthemed book, visit

The award-winning "A Peacock Among Pidgeons" (Courtesy Clarione)


The LGBT-themed children’s book, “A Peacock Among Pidgeons,” written by Austin-based HIV activist Tyler Curry and illustrated by local artist and San Diego native Clarione Gutierrez — known professionally simply as Clarione — has won several honors in the recent International Book Awards presented by Literary Classics. The mission of Literary Classics is to “honor excellence in children’s and young adult literature, thereby encouraging a passion for reading while promoting education, imagination and character in the minds of young readers.” “A Peacock Among Pidgeons” took top honors with The Enchanged Page International Children’s Book Award. Only one distinguished picture book is honored each year for this award. Published by Mascot Books, “A Peacock Among Pigeons” is labeled a “children’s book,” but it also resonates with adults, especially those in the LGBT community. The book also won two “Preschool and Early Reader Awards,” one in the Cultural Issues category and one identified as Inspirational/ Visionary. Curry’s playful but meaningful storyline takes the reader through the struggles and triumphs of Peter (the peacock). Clarione’s colorful and relevant, eye-popping illustrations are attractive to young readers as well as old. The honors offer Curry and Gutierrez both credibility and recognition, as well as myriad opportunities to promote the book and themselves as author and illustrator, through Literary Classic Books. “We are both still so completely floored by this,” Clarione said in a posting on his Facebook page. “We were so honored to be a finalist and hoped we’d win one of the categories, because you know, it would be cool to put a seal on our book.

Secretary of the Army Eric Fanning (Courtesy San Diego Pride)


It was recently announced that the honorable Secretary of the U.S. Army, Eric Fanning, will be joining in on several official San Diego LGBT Pride events this year. The first and highest ranking member of the Department of Defense who is openly gay, Fanning was historically confirmed to his secretary post earlier this year after a lengthy process. Fanning will first act as Keynote speaker at the Spirit of Stonewall Rally, Friday, July 15. On Saturday, Fanning will serve as an Honorary Grand Marshal of the San Diego Pride Parade, and will lead off the military contingent at the front of the parade, just after the bikers. In 2011, San Diego Pride made both history and headlines, when over 200 active duty service members from every branch of the service marched in the Parade just months prior to the active repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell.” “From José Sarria, to Harvey Milk, to Eric Fanning, LGBT service members and Department of Defense civilians have been a crucial part of the fabric of our movement and this nation,” said Fernando Lopez, director of operations at San Diego Pride. “San Diego has such a vibrant LGBT service member and veteran community, we know his presence is going to

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mean the world to so many. It is an incredible honor to host Secretary Fanning at San Diego Pride.” The Spirit of Stonewall Rally will take place Friday, July 15, at 6 p.m., at the Music Festival’s main stage at Marston Point in Balboa Park. The Pride Parade will start at 11 a.m., Saturday, July 16 in Hillcrest, at the corner of Normal Street and University Avenue. "I am humbled to be the keynote speaker and an honorary Grand Marshal. As our community moves forward, we strive for full inclusion of all Americans who can do the job, and just want an opportunity to serve the Nation they love," Fanning said.


As the neighborhood that hosts the majority of the San Diego LGBT Pride festivities, Hillcrest needs a bit of polishing each year following the celebration. The Hillcrest Town Council (HTC) will host its annual Post-Pride Clean Up on Monday, July 18, at 8 a.m., and invites all interested community members to participate. HTC is an official community partner of San Diego Pride and receives a grant based on the number of volunteer hours completed at the clean up. Volunteers will help sweep and clean the most heavily trafficked parts of the neighborhood to bring some shine back to San Diego’s most fabulous neighborhood after its biggest weekend of the year. All supplies will be provided, and volunteers will be provided with an orange Hillcrest Clean TEAM (together we achieve more) T-shirt. Volunteers will gather at the corner of Park Boulevard and University Avenue at 8 a.m., to check-

Hillcrest residents Ben Cartwright and Sarah Merk-Benitez participate in a recent HTC cleanup (Courtesy HTC) in, gather supplies and be assigned clean-up locations. Sunscreen, hats, comfortable shoes, and lots of water are recommended. Following the clean up, the “Trash Talk” social will be held

at Urban MO’s, located at 308 University Ave. All volunteers will be treated to appetizers and drinks, courtesy of MO’s Universe. For more information or to sign-up, contact David Coben at

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10 am, texas St. and howard ave. Community HousingWorks and The Center invite you to join us in celebrating the groundbreaking to build 76 new affordable apartments in North Park. Open to all seniors, this community will provide an affirming and supportive environment for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender seniors. Find out more at chworks. org/real-estate-development/current-projects/ north-park-seniors.

Join Families @ The Center for the Children’s Picnic at Pride, located outside the San Diego Pride Festival. Bring your lunch and let’s celebrate Pride together with fun activities, sno cones, popcorn, and snacks! Saturday, July 16, 12pm-3pm: Rad Hatter, face painting and a balloon artist. Sunday, July 17, 11am-2pm: face painting and a balloon artist. For more information, contact us at 619.692.2077 x212 or

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Don’t be late for this very important date! Join Hillcrest Youth Center and other LGBTQ youth and allies ages 14-18 to enjoy an evening of music, dancing, food, friends and fun. This year’s theme is Alice in Wonderland - dress as your favorite character, in your fanciest attire or in whatever makes you most comfortable. This is a FREE event, but all youth will need to register at Rainbow Prom (or you can skip the line and pre-register at the Hillcrest Youth Center starting July 1). Questions? e-mail or call 619.497.2920. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077 Twitter: @LGBTCenter


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Announcing SB Pride’s featured LGBTQ artist breathe that moment of victory surrounding marriage equality, many of us recognize that it was one battle in the long ongoing culture clash that will hopefully end with deconstruction of our We celebrated the one year current heteronormativity and anniversary of marriage equality heterosexism. recently in stark contrast to the This year’s Pride season feelings we have experienced is even more poignant due to surrounding the Orlando Pulse those many reminders that our tragedy and the ongoing increasstruggles have not ended. My es of both hate speech as well as heart goes out to the victims, hate crimes such as the murders their families and loved ones of our trans* siblings. who have been impacted by the As much as we wanted to Orlando shootings. Many are feeling that fear again that we so wanted to leave behind. Yet, with courage and resolution, we are stepping out to claim our human right to exist, be respected and feel safe as we live authentic lives. This is the purpose of Pride, recognizing all of our diversity and embracing each of them as an essential and vibrant part of our community. As Audre Lorde spoke so eloquently 30 years ago, “It is not our differences that divide us. It Cabrera's most recent work, "Rainbow Pulse." Prints are is our inability to

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available for purchase. (Courtesy Sergio Cabrera)

recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.” With that in mind, South Bay Pride is starting a tradition of selecting an artist who represents and affirms our diverse LGBTQ community. We are proud to announce our featured LGBTQ artist for this year’s celebration is Sergio Cabrera. Sergio is producing our custom South Bay Pride poster art. The original artwork will be raffled on the day of South Bay Pride and Sergio will be there to sign your posters as well as display his other artwork. He has been painting and creating since he was 6 years old, initially drawing Disney characters and other cartoons over the years. He then began to do more portrait art, adding his unique touch by putting a glitter background or adding Swarovski cr ystals to it. “I’m influenced by Frida [Kahlo] a lot,” Sergio said. “She expressed everything in her art and I hope to can do the same with my art.” Is that not the very essence of what we hope all of us in some way can feel able to do? I also want to thank our ver y own Joe Burke, as well as the many others that made our recent partnering with San Ysidro Health Center for outreach and free HIV testing in the South Bay during HIV Testing Week such a success. It is wonderful to see expanded access to testing throughout our community and to be a part of making it happen. South Bay Alliance continues to expand their partnerships in the South Bay, working collaborating with the goal of making our community stronger, safer and healthier. Our “Show Your Colors” program continues to provide our palm tree logo stickers to all South Bay organizations and businesses requesting one, so that they can display it and let the LGBTQ community know that they are welcome. If you haven’t received your sticker yet, come by our booth at the San Diego Pride Festival, July 16 and 17, at Marston Point in Balboa Park to grab one. Happy Pride San Diego! — Dae Elliott is a founding executive committee member and the current executive director of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit and organizer of the annual South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival. Contact her at

Happy POP! (PostOrlando Pride) Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel In this confusing time, after Orlando and a week before San Diego Pride, what do we stand for? As an LGBT community, what do we want to tell the world? Four things come to mind: 1. We will not go back, we will move for ward into equality in all aspects of our lives. 2. We will not live in fear, but in a growing security in ourselves and our community (in this predominantly heterosexual world). 3. We will not live in hate, but in love. As Aretha Franklin once sang: “Ain’t nobody gonna turn me around.” 4. We are proud of who we are and we will continue to be proud of who we grow to become. Unfortunately, there has always been anti-LGBT violence. Way before Stonewall, we were being threatened and harmed. As someone who was born in 1953, I remember people throwing stones at me and calling me “fag” and “sissy” during the early 1960s. I remember people throwing me shade when I died my hair in middle school to look like David Bowie. I remember the copy of “Playgirl” that mysteriously disappeared from under my bed with not a word from my Mom (the likely thief). Silence is a form of violence, too. On the other hand, we’ve had a year of legal same-sex marriage.; Mmy upcoming book on gay marriage will soon be complete and sent to my publisher; and here are a few other recent events that gladden my heart: • The VFW elected its first openly gay Commander • The Department of Defense lifted the ban on transgender troops in the U.S. military • The NBA and WNBA marched in the New York City Pride parade • Two women made history as the first trans candidates to win congressional primaries • London commuters slammed a homophobe abusing a gay couple on the Tube However, there are still lots of challenges. Here are a few I’m aware of: • LGBT Americans are still

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earning less than straight people and are not saving enough for retirement. The long-held illusion of the wealthy LGBT community is finally biting the dust. Come on, brothers and sisters, let’s take better care of ourselves. There are plenty of qualified LGBT financial folks out there that can help us prepare for our Golden Girl/Guy years. Let’s not blow all our money now and have nothing to live on later. • LGBT couples are spending more on weddings. Hmmm, I wonder: Is this really the direction to go? According to a recent sur vey, the average LGBT wedding cost: men, $33,822 (up from $18,242 in 2015); women, $25,334 (up from $16,218 in 2015). I’m all for enjoying your marriage, but if we make less than straight people and aren’t saving enough for retirement, is spending more money on our weddings really the best way to take care of ourselves? Just asking … • Racism, ageism and misogyny are still all-too-present in our community. We remain a divided community, in so many ways. We are still afraid of people who don’t look like us, dress like us or act like us. • Many of us depend on alcohol and recreational drugs to feel good. What is it that we don’t want to feel: sad, angry, lonely, numb? These emotions are telling us that we have something to face and work through. Instead, we try to avoid them by repeatedly using substances that temporarily take away our pain. That pain comes back again-and-again, waiting for us to address it. When will we? Every year, after Pride, I hear way too many people tell me stuff like: “Oh man, I had way too much booze/K/Tina/coke/X/sex” or “I got so wasted that I don’t remember how I got home.” Is this something we’re proud of? Wouldn’t it be great to do Pride differently this year? Frank Ocean is an artist whom I really admire. This is from his recent Tumblr post: “Many don’t see anything wrong with passing down the same old values that send thousands of kids into suicidal depression each year. So we say Pride and we express love for who and what we are. Because who else will in earnest? I daydream on the idea that maybe all this barbarism and all these transgressions against ourselves is an equal and opposite reaction to something better happening in this world, some great swelling wave of openness and wakefulness out here.” Amen, brother. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals. Reach him at 619-955-3311 or visit


It’s always someone’s first time Back Out with Benny Ben Cartwright This year marks 20 years since I first became aware of San Diego Pride. It was 1996 and I was 16 years old. I remember picking up the Sunday morning San Diego UnionTribune and seeing a story about the San Diego Gay & Lesbian Pride Parade on the front page of the local section. Having just recently realized that I was gay but still in the closet, I grabbed the section out of the paper and told my family who were assembled around the breakfast table that I was done eating (I had barely touched my plate) and going to go read the newspaper on the living room couch. I read and re-read the article — which was a fairly basic account of the parade that happened in Hillcrest the day before — and was fascinated to see that Wilson Cruz (then of “My So Called Life”) was the Grand Marshal. I was a big fan of his from watching the TV show, which also helped me come to the realization that I was gay. It was amazing to me that so many LGBT people came together in one place and I took note that the annual “San Diego Lesbian & Gay Pride” celebration took place on the last weekend in July (it has since been changed to the third weekend); I certainly wasn’t going to miss it in 1997. A year later, when the last weekend of July rolled around, I made my way down to Hillcrest for the parade’s noon start time (it has since been changed to 11 a.m.). I was too nervous to park anywhere near Hillcrest in case my car was “seen” so I parked in North Park — which wasn’t a very hip or safe place at the time — near 30th Street and walked many blocks to the corner of University Avenue and Normal Street. I stood behind the pole that holds up 7-Eleven’s gas prices sign, and by myself, I quietly watched the parade contingents go by. I was in awe at the excitement and pride I witnessed that day and never would have imagined that later I’d be actively involved in the production of the parade, working at the San Diego LGBT Community Center, or even writing for an LGBT newspaper. A few weeks earlier, I had met a guy — on what now seems an ancient version of a hookup app — who wanted to meet at the Festival, Saturday afternoon at 3 p.m., after the Parade. That also seemed very exciting, but again, I was just too nervous. After circling around in my car for several hours, walking up to the gate and then turning around at least a dozen times, I finally entered the Pride Festival at 7 p.m. Of course, the guy I was supposed to meet was already four hours into the festival with his friends and they were near ready to leave, but I didn’t care. Just being in that space was magical. It was an entirely new world to me and one that I couldn’t wait to be more a part of; and boy did I become a part of it in the following years! Now, 19 San Diego Pride Parades and Festivals later, it certainly is different. While I still can’t wait for Pride each and every year, sometimes I

find myself getting stressed about how much work those of us who are involved put into it each year, especially around this time, as we lead up to the big weekend. All of the preparations can be quite overwhelming, but I continue to do it because each year I remember the tale I just told you of my first Pride. Every year is someone’s first Pride and every year someone is just as nervous as I was in 1997, or just as excited sitting at home somewhere seeing the news and learning that there is a huge prideful world out there waiting for them.

I dedicate Pride every year to those people, who are learning, exploring and experiencing this amazing weekend for the first time; a weekend which for decades, LGBT folks have created to make sure that we can all celebrate who we are and not feel alone. Get Out With Benny With Pride approaching, there is so much going on. Most of the official San Diego Pride events will be listed in Gay San Diego’s Pride Guide insert, and many more “unofficial” events will be on their calendar (pages 21 and 22). Today, Friday, July 8, the Hillcrest Town Council will host a Summer Social, in lieu of a Community Meeting this month. Everyone knows that Babycakes is my Friday afternoon spot, so come join us from 5 – 7 p.m. for happy-hour priced

drinks and bites, fun with Hillcrest friends and neighbors, and a chance to meet HTC’s newest board member, Daniel Merk-Benitez. A special memorial is being organized by members of San Diego’s Latina/Latino/Latinx community to honor victims of the Orlando tragedy. A huge coalition of community leaders, elected officials and organizations invite the community to St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral on Saturday, July 9 from 6 – 8 p.m. For more info, visit On Monday, July 11, Rick Cervantes and I invite you to our third annual Cheers! Benny & Rick’s Pride Kick-Off Happy Hour, from 6 – 9 p.m. at #1 Fifth Avenue. Find more details in the calendar on page 21. My favorite part of the annual Parade is the end! Not because I’m

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glad it’s over, but because of San Diego Pride’s tradition of pulling out the large rainbow flag and inviting the entire community to grab hold and help carry it to the Music Festival in Balboa Park. I’ve had the honor of helping lead this contingent for many years and invite you to join in. This year will be extra special because this portion of the parade will be dedicated to the victims of Orlando. So as the parade winds down on Saturday and you see the big flag coming down University Avenue, join on! —Benny Cartwright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619-692-2077 ext. 106 or outreach@thecentersd. org. Note: byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography.t

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his mom would find “strays” who were eating alone and bring them to their table, so “food is love” is something of a mantra for Bailey, and it’s a core principal at Mama’s Kitchen, too. Bailey’s final remark in his Local Hero interview was: “It’s not over. Mama’s Kitchen still needs support. That’s why I continue to give what I can.” First transgender Local Hero Mattheus Stephens is a founding partner of the Progressive Law Group — a firm based in San Diego, built with the goal of claiming the “progressive” political label in the legal world. But despite his full time work there, Stephens puts a lot of energy into teaching. He’s lectured at UC San Diego for about a decade. He loves teaching and part of what he loves most is learning from students. “We as educators tend not to give students as much credit as they deserve for how creative and intelligent they are,” Stephens said. He said that by far, the most important course he teaches is “Race and Law,” which reviews the legal history of slavery through its constitutional end, and the impact that history has on housing, voting and employment today. Not surprisingly, Stephens’ “Law and Sex” course is also quite popular. “When they learn it’s not a how-to course, they get a different feel for it,” Stephens said. Aside from his academic and

Mattheus Stephens (Photo by Ron Stein) professional endeavors, Stephens is also passionate for public service. He’s been on the San Diego Civil Service Commission since 2008. “It’s awesome,” he said. “The reason I love it is because I really am passionate about the city of San Diego. I think it’s a phenomenal place to live and work and raise a family. It doesn’t get any better than this.” Outside the classroom and City Hall, Stephens is also a standout in the LGBT community — a leader just by being who he is, in the roles he’s earned. He’s the first transgender person to receive KPBS’ Local Hero award, and the highest-ranking transgender person serving the City of San Diego, to his knowledge. “Frankly, not enough of us survive to achieve the community recognition I have had the privilege to attain,” Stephens said. “We are quite literally just trying to survive.” Suicide and poverty rates are well above average in the transgender community. Stephens noted that for these reasons, it’s unusual for transgender people to have the resources to help improve local communities as he’s had the opportunity to do. To that end, Stephens aims to elevate the LGBT community through the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund, a national organization that helps elect LGBT politicians to office, particularly in areas with low LGBT representation (unlike San Diego). When more openly LGBT candidates get elected to office, the areas they govern are more likely to support equality, and people get treated the same, according to the local hero. Stephens said he learned of his nomination by voicemail, left by KPBS general manager Tom Karlo. “I was alone in my office, and when I listened I literally blushed,” he said. “I turned beat red. I’m beyond thrilled and grateful for the acknowledgment.” Honorees are recognized during Black History Month (February); Women’s History Month (March); Jewish American Heritage Month (May) and Asian Pacific American Heritage Month (May) and LGBT Pride Month (June). Honorees will also be celebrated during Hispanic Heritage Month (September), Disability Awareness Month (October), and American Indian Heritage Month (November). The annual awards are hosted in part to signify both organization’s commitment to diversity. The year-long celebration culminates in the Local Heroes Award ceremony at the end of the year, where each of the honorees will be formally recognized. Details about this year’s event have not yet been released. To learn more about the Local Heroes Program, visit j9arelf.t

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(clockwise from far left) Founders Imperial Stout; Kalbi beef skewers; garlic noodles with shrimp; cheese balls; and beerbattered fish and chips (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. Color us surprised when hubby and I entered a boxy structure in aesthetically joyless Kearny Mesa to find scads of craft beer and eclectic fare in a hip environment resembling a converted warehouse that could easily belong to North Park or Downtown.

Located in a busy strip plaza, Common Theory Public House is an astonishing misfit to the scads of car dealerships and fast-food restaurants flanking it. Not far up the street are numerous Asian kitchens and markets, which have been the sole reason for my trips into the area until now. Visitors are greeted with a large bar and two tiers of varied seating options that include communal tables and a couple of parlor-like sections, one of them marked by an upright piano.

Interior brick walls add solidness to the spacious layout, which also includes retractable garage-door windows opening to a sizable patio — not the insular design from when the space previously housed Dreamgirls strip club. Common Theory was launched by longtime friends Joon Lee, a South Korean native, and Christian Liang, who grew up in Tijuana with Chinese-immigrant parents. As craft beer aficionados, they offer 32 rotating taps, and about 75 bottled brews, with dozens falling into the tart and fruity sour category. Their bill of fare is equally ambitious, a global compendium of dishes that includes adobada tacos, ahi poke, fish and chips, chimichurri hanger steak, and mussels available four differ-

ent ways (white wine gremolta, Thai curr y, “hellfire” or with bacon and mushrooms). We kicked off our worldly beer dinner with Italian-inspired cheese balls, which our efficient waiter insisted would melt in our mouths. They did. Scantily breaded and gently fried, their delicate exteriors gave way to a warm, frothy blend of mozzarella, Parmesan and cream cheeses. If you’re a fan of breaded cheese sticks, these are 10 times better in texture and flavor, and they washed down charmingly with a glass of highoctane Founders Imperial Stout. An appetizer of Kalbi skewers sent us to Korea with pieces of Angus beef cloaked in a zesty mixture of soy sauce, honey and spices. They’re served appropriately with spicy kimchi that is as reliable as any you’ll find in Korean restaurants within a mile radius of here.

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Five different styles of flatbreads include poblano pulled pork, vegetarian and seafood po’boy. We chose the “daygo” topped with almond-basil pesto, tomatoes and mozzarella. Named after the slang term for “San Diego,” we gave it a Portuguese slant with the addition of linguica sausage. The crust was buttery, though slightly bready, and the combined toppings were bold and rich, a perfect complement to the mildly hoppy witbier brewed specially for Common Theory’s current two-year anniversary by 32 North Brewing Company. An entrée of garlic fettuccine noodles with bacon, shrimp, scallions and an egg yolk on top was luxurious, despite the absence of a heavy cream sauce we expected. The shrimp were sweet and the bacon and garlic flavors were meek in what I’d classify as a balanced, modern-American pasta dish. I ordered beer-battered fish and chips using moist Alaskan white fish. The batter, however, was thickly applied, but I didn’t mind because the ale used in the recipe was deliciously apparent. The tartar sauce accented with parsley and dill was above board. And the fries were thin and abundant. My only complaint was that the plate should have made room for a third piece of fish, given the two I had weren’t so dramatic in size. Common Theory is a magnet for large groups and employees of nearby businesses accustomed to good beer and varied cuisine. It exudes a welcoming vibe that feels no different than eating and drinking establishments indigenous to hipster neighborhoods — and it offers a socially charged happy hour as well, from 3 – 7 p.m. Monday through Friday. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at


Salmon (left) and blackened swordfish plates at the new Two Paddles Fish & Grill (Photo by Amy Chavez.) Taking the place of Tapas Picasso Spanish Restaurant in Hillcrest is Two Paddles Fish & Grill, which opened in late June with a concept similar to Blue Water Seafood Market & Grill in Mission Hills. Customers choose from seven types of fish served in either tacos, salads, sandwiches or meal plates. Six marinades are also available, and the fish is grilled but can be requested fried. The menu also features oysters, wings, burgers and steaks. Owners Bryan Chavez and his father, Jose, previously operated Santa Fe Café in Encinitas for 10 years. They’re open for lunch and dinner, and offer happy hour from 2 to 7 p.m. daily featuring $2 off all beer and wines by the glass, and $3 off appetizers. 3923 Fourth Ave., 619-431-5202.

Curds galore in a new cheese outlet at Ralph’s grocery in Hillcrest (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Bastille Day will be celebrated with seafoodrich bouillabaisse and other French dishes

Rack of lamb and classic bouillabaisse are among the menu options for a three-course Bastille Day dinner on July 14 at Bleu Boheme in Kensington, which also celebrates its ninth anniversary next month. The meal costs $60 per person and includes a choice of appetizer, entrée and dessert. In addition, celebratory French cocktails will be available for $12 each. Reservations are recommended. 4090 Adams Ave., 619-255-4167,


Ralph’s Grocer y & Pharmacy at the HUB in Hillcrest is nearing completion of a major remodel that has already included an extensive olive bar and a section devoted to hundreds of different cheeses from Murray’s, a company established in Greenwich Village more than 75 years ago that recently partnered with Ralph’s. Store manager Tom Coleman said additional changes are coming soon, likely by the “re-grand opening” on July 22, when purveyors will be doling out samples to the public. “We’ll soon start cooking pizzas in our service deli and offering dry-aged beef in our meat department,” he said, adding that the store will also begin carrying 2,600 new items to its inventory, many of them organic and GMO-free. 1030 University Ave., 619298-2931,

Acclaimed chef Giselle Wellman returns home to open a restaurant in a familiar building on Pacific Coast Highway (Courtesy H2 Public Relations) Giselle Wellman, a Bravo “Top Chef” contestant from season 13, is due to open Pacific Standard Coastal Kitchen by mid-July in the Art Deco structure on Pacific Coast Highway that was formerly home to Fat City Steakhouse. Wellman, a San Diego native, spent the last eight years working in Los Angeles and New York City alongside renowned chefs such as Thomas Keller, Jean George and Mario Batali. The menu at Pacific, she said, will reflect Little Italy’s storied past as a fishing community. It will be complemented by a “playful” selection of craft cocktails, punch bowls and local craft beers. 2137 Pacific Coast Highway, —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at




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After a 10-year run, The Tractor Room in Hillcrest is closing with a final brunch from 7:30 a.m. – 3 p.m., July 10. Co-owner Johnny Rivera put the business up for sale several months ago with the hopes of finding a buyer “that would enhance the neighborhood.” But that didn’t pan out, he said. So he and business partner Andy Beardslee decided to close the cocktail-centric restaurant rather than wait any longer. “We had a good run and the property is still up for grabs,” Rivera said. “We were the first wave on the local craft cocktail scene, although it’s not as unique now as it was back then, so it’s time to move on.” Rivera also operates Hash House a Go Go (with Beardslee) and Great Maple. 3687 Fifth Ave.

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The spoils of Theater Review Charlene Baldridge Opened June 25 at the Old Globe’s outdoor Lowell Davies Festival Theatre, Brian Kulick’s production of Shakespeare’s “Macbeth” is set in a World War I psychiatric hospital for PTSD wounded. Kulick is longtime artistic director of New York’s Classic Stage Company. Somewhere in Scotland, the pristine, white ward contains eight beds in which patients sleep, suffering both physical wounds and what was then, I believe, termed battle fatigue. Perhaps they sleep, perhaps they dream their war experiences as well as the entire tragedy that Kulick unfolds. It’s a clever concept and a challenge for him to sustain over the evening, and for this audience member to fully embrace. Nonetheless, the play’s the thing, the language is excellent and well spoken and the familiar speeches are gripping and poetic Among the wounded are the three combatants (Makha Mthembe, Amy Blackman, and Suzelle Palacios) who deliver the initial prophecy to the heroic Macbeth (Jonathan Cake) and Banquo (Timothy D. Stickney); to wit, that Macbeth, Thane of Glamis, shall become Thane of Cawdor and King of Scotland and that Banquo will never be king, but will be the sire of kings. The three ladies disappear


from their wheelchairs as if by by Macbeth. magic, one of Kulick’s magic tricks Banquo’s son Fleance achieved through distraction. (Ajinkya Desai) has Made aware of the prophecy, eluded Macbeth’s murthe power hungry Lady Macbeth derers and eventually (Marsha Stephanie Blake) awaits becomes King, but only her slightly wounded, much after opposition gathers, bewildered husband and spurs him to action in order to help speed prophetic things along. Under her direction, Macbeth slays their houseguest, King Duncan (the imposing James Preston Bates) and then proceeds to destroy others who may suspect Macbeth and/ or stand in his way to complete, totalitarian rule. These include friends, kinsman and comrades. Both Macbeths become unhinged, and madness ensues. The pragmatic mind rebels. Apparently we are still in the asylum, which turns red (Arnulfo Maldonado, scenic designer; Jason Lyons, lighting) even as the initial murders are done, with Lady Macbeth Jonathan Cake as the title role of William drawing an enormous red cur- Shakespeare's “Macbeth” (Photo by Jim Cox) tain over the formerly white walls of the asylum (even the floor turns red at the interval). Dunsinane forest advances on the Patients morph into courtiers castle, or asylum, and Macbeth for the famous banquet scene, reis defeated in battle by Macduff plete with an enormous, stage-wide (Clifton Duncan), a man who was table whose revolving allows for “not of woman born.” the presence and disappearance of A prolonged duel with pistols the dead Banquo, who is seen only instead of swords doesn’t work, but


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(top) Cake as Macbeth with Marsha Stephanie Blake, who stars as Lady Macbeth; (bottom) Cake as Macbeth in another scene with Clifton Duncan as Macduff (Photos by Jim Cox) no matter, the later witchy prophecy is fulfilled and the play is finito. I do miss the view of Balboa Park, but that’s just fussy old me. The improved sound system works fine (designers Sten Severson and David Thomas).

One of high points of the play – the revelation to Macduff that his entire household, wife, children and even servants, have been brutally murdered – is handled exceptionally well. Duncan (Globe production of “The Scottsboro Boys”), who plays Macduff, is a fine actor, as are many others in the huge company. In the real world of entertainment, the Macbeths, for instance, are stars of television and film. Cake has classical creds, too, having trained at Bristol Old Vic Theatre School and played many Shakespeare roles in his native England and on the East Coast. He is handsome, speaks the words beautifully (including the slowest “Tomorrow and Tomorrow” ever heard, and looks great in costume designer Oana Botez’s WWI uniform, mostly sans shirt). The diminutive Blake, who received her master’s of fine arts from UC San Diego, is less impressive as Lady Macbeth, lacking the evil gravitas and command we have come to expect from the role. Despite its shortcomings, “Macbeth” is still Shakespeare’s tragedy played under the stars. It merits our attention. —Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. Follow her blog at or reach her at

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‘True Blood’ alum on coaching gay sex scenes, his outsider perspective, and Tarzan vs. Farrah Fawcett By Chris Azzopardi Alexander Skarsgård sure knows how to offset the uproar over his missing loincloth in “The Legend of Tarzan.” “I’m actually wearing it right now,” Skarsgård teases, joking about the brouhaha regarding this Tarzan’s more civilized article of clothing as he portrays the jungle warrior in Warner Bros.’ new take on a classic tale. “I do all my phoners in a loincloth.” “Phoners or … ?” I ask, hinting at the obvious rhyme. The 39-year-old “True Blood” alum beams, cracking up. “Exactly! I do all my ‘boners’ in loincloths.” And that’s just the beginning of our revealing conversation, which leads to all sorts of places: being poisoned by Lady Gaga, how other straight men should approach a gay sex scene (“dive in”), and why — after giving us his best Farrah Fawcett impersonation last year — shooting “The Legend of Tarzan” “was nothing compared to that night in drag.” (Chris Azzopardi | CA) So, I don’t know if you know this, but gay men love you. (Alexander Skarsgård | AS) Oh, really? (CA) They do. Is that surprising to hear? (AS) Well, I don’t know. I’ve always been … I don’t know how to answer that question, but thank you. That’s very flattering to hear. It’s always been the most natural thing to me because my uncle and godfather is a gay man and so growing up, even as a little toddler, it was just as natural as being straight. My aunt would show up with her husband and my uncle would show up with his husband. He was, by far, out of my father’s four siblings [Alexander’s father is actor Stellan Skarsgård], the most fashionable and the most trendy, cool guy. So, when I was a kid, he was the one I looked up to. I thought he was really badass: fit and awesome and cool, and obviously not because he was gay. When I became a teenager and the kids made fun of other teenagers who were gay, I never really understood that. It just baffled me because my idol, my godfather, was gay, and he was the coolest guy I knew. I just couldn’t understand how that could be an insult. (CA) That kind of personal relationship can change everything for somebody. (AS) I agree. And I think a lot of the xenophobia and fear comes from that, from not having a personal connection. People that know someone close that they love who is homosexual or bisexual are more likely to sympathize with people in the LGBT community.

Former “True Blood” alum Alexander Skarsgård plays the lead in “The Legend of Tarzan,” released into theaters July 1. Margot Robbie (far right) plays “Jane.” (Courtesy Warner Bros.)

(CA) “The Legend of Tarzan” is, in part, about making your own family. How might that resonate with the LGBT community? (AS) In a way, he’s lost between two worlds, he doesn’t fit in. He’s adopted by these apes, and even though emo-

tionally he’s an equal and he’s loved, he can feel that he’s different. Then he goes to London and it’s kind of the same. He looks like people around him, but he also doesn’t fit in there either. That sense of being an outsider

and trying to fit in or finding your home and your place in the world — it’s interesting to explore that. He’s a character who, on the surface, has it all — this gorgeous, wonderful wife; incredible wealth; beautiful mansion — but people don’t understand him, really, and his heart is still in the jungle. (CA) Have you ever felt like an outsider? (AS) I can relate to the feeling of being somewhere between

two worlds. I was born and raised in Stockholm, but I’ve lived in the States for 12 years. In a way, I feel at home when I go to Stockholm, but it hasn’t been my permanent home for 12 years. So, there are a lot of things that make me feel like an outsider: cultural references, the music scene, the arts scene, theater, what’s going on back home in movies; other references make me feel out of touch, too.

see Alexander, pg 20

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LGBT LIAISON Meyer said that today’s Police Chief Shelly Zimmerman is ver y passionate about. As a result, SDPD is one of the leading agencies in the nation in this regard. “Ever y single one of our police officers is trained in community-oriented policing and they are out there ever y day — not just ticketing and stopping or tr ying to arrest people and responding to emergencies ever y day — we’re out there talking to the community. We’re getting involved, we’re meeting with business owners, we’re meeting with the community members and doing whatever we can to better this city.” As the community’s liaison officers, Meyer and Garcia also sit on the Police Chief’s Advisor y Board and are available 24/7 to members of the community for a multitude of reasons and circumstances. They are the first to be called if a hate crime is reported; they get involved if someone reports harassment by an officer of the SDPD; they will file reports for victims of sexual assault or domestic batter y who don’t feel comfortable talking to just anyone; and they have an open door policy and will answer questions. “The whole goal of the position is positive change within the department, providing a safe environment for victims and as much reporting and investigation of true crimes as possible,” Meyer said. The LGBT Liaison team is also there to mitigate internal issues with regard to LGBT

When not on the clock, single police Sgt. Daniel Meyer's favorite pastime is playing flag football with his local SDAFFL team. (Courtesy Daniel Meyer) officers or address potential instances of harassment or discrimination, in a department where there is zero tolerance and accusations will be investigated immediately and handled appropriately. To that end, both officers said reports of harassment have all but ended completely, due to a shift in training practices in recent years. “If we aren’t there, or a person who is a victim of a crime or has contact with the police and doesn’t know about us and goes the normal reporting route, I have absolute confidence in ever y single one of our officers,” Meyer said. “They’ve been trained ver y well. They are ver y


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professional and I have no doubt that they are going to show up and handle it exactly as they should. We are all human beings and that is all an officer needs to care about.” Meyer and Garcia always had a lot in common, but exactly just how much would be revealed later. Both raised in Santee in self-described loving and supportive homes, the two followed their parents and siblings into public ser vice. Meyer, whose father is a retired TSA officer, shares his police force career with his mother, a detective with SDPD’s domestic abuse division. Meyer’s brother works for the city as well. Garcia’s father is a retired po-

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At Urban MO's during her "new name party," Christopher officially became Christine. (Courtesy Christine Garcia)

lice officer who currently works as a community college police officer and both siblings are also in public ser vice. Soon the two officers were taking Air Support Unit (helicopter) training together and their friendship continued to blossom. Where the two seemingly differed was that Meyer had been openly gay since his second year on the force and Garcia had a wife and two small children at home. But Garcia was carr ying a secret. A year ago, after coming to terms with her journey, Garcia reached out to Meyer, who at that time was the only LGBT Liaison officer within the SDPD, and came out to him as trans.

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“I had no idea,” Meyer said. “It kind of blew me away.” She was looking for guidance regarding what steps to take to ser ve openly and how to share the news with the department, but until that point, there had never been an openly trans police officer in the SDPD. “When Christine came to me, I knew that we needed to set the standard because really, we didn’t have one,” Meyer said. “Christine realized that there was the need to be ahead of things; ahead of people knowing and figure out the best way to approach it.” Meyer noted that unlike being a closeted gay male in the lineup each day where if nothing is said, no one would notice, a male transitioning to female while on duty would obviously involve changes that couldn’t be denied. They had to come up with a plan. Garcia said she had been struggling with her gender dysphoria since she was a child. “I’d go to sleep in girl clothes thinking that I would wake up as a girl because they had mysterious powers,” she said. Years later she met her now-wife and while they were developing their friendship before dating, Garcia told her of his fondness for women’s clothing. She was always supportive and remains so to this day. “On my days off, we would go out into Hillcrest to the bars and I’d go dressed up [as a woman] and that was really the only way I was able to live my life,” Garcia said. “At work I lived my life as a man and at home I lived as a woman sometimes.” Garcia recalls the panic she often felt while out on the town in Hillcrest, after seeing a patrol car drive by, fearing the officer might recognize her and put an end to her career. “I didn’t know any transgender officers, I didn’t think they existed, so I thought to myself, ‘You can’t be trans and be a cop,’” she said, adding that when she finally made the decision to live her authentic life, she planned to leave the police force since the two worlds didn’t seem to mix. It was Garcia’s wife who eventually pushed her to seek counseling and deal with her gender identity issues. She also began seeking refuge online and came across T-Cops International, a transgender community of police officers and Sheriff’s deputies. It

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IMPROV PRIDE The tragic events last month at a gay nightclub in Orlando, Florida, made it even more important for FCI to do this night. “Finest City’s mission has always been to become a welcoming, supportive environment where people feel free to express themselves,” Suphan states on the FCI website. “This stands especially true during Pride Week, particularly for a community that could use a little extra laughter right now.” The upcoming special evening of improv includes two blocks of one-night-only shows that Finest City’s team crafted specifically for Pride Night. “The Big Gay Improv Show,” starts off the evening, from 6:30 – 9 p.m. This first block of shows begins with “GAYJAM,” an LGBTthemed improv jam open to all experience levels. Next up is the “Short-Short Short-Form Show,” styled after “Whose Line is it Anyway?” but adorned with “Daisy Dukes.” “Everyone who participates has to wear short-shorts,” Suphan said, laughing. “That’s the only requirement. If I can make more shows where people have to wear short shorts, that would make me happy.” “The Big Gay Improv Show,” the highlight of this block of shows, is a montage of hilarious scenes — improvised on the spot — will be based on the real-life stories of Benny Cartwright, director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. For those who are not familiar, “The Big Gay Improv Show” is a quarterly FCI event. The premise is simple — FCI interviews local LGBT celebrities and the group then does an improv show based on their life and experiences. Cartwright said while he’s excited to participate in the improv show, he admitted that initially, he had some reservations. “I thought [the premise of ‘The Big Gay Improv Show’] was cool and I’ve heard of it before, but at first I didn’t understand what they wanted me to do,” he said. “I thought they wanted me to do improv and I just wasn’t interested in doing that at all, so I told them I needed to take a day to think about it. “When I re-read the email, I realized they wanted to do improv based on me,” he mused. “I was honored that they thought my life was interesting enough to feature and that my name might bring in some audience members.” Cartwright said he still has no clue what they’re going to ask him and no idea what stories will come out, but he’s sure there will

Pride Night organizer Jesse Suphan (left) (Courtesy FCI)

Ben Cartwright will be the focus of Pride Night’s Big Gay Sketch Show. (Photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography)

be a few about “the crazy and fun people who have been in his life,” as well as his professional experiences and personal anecdotes — including the time he ran across University Avenue sans pants. “I thought it was cool that they wanted to use — and possibly abuse — me,” he said, laughing. “A lot of my friends enjoy my stories and I love that this is going to benefit The Center. I encourage everyone to come out, including those who enjoy supporting The Center. I’m looking forward to everyone showing up.” The second block of Pride Night is called “Over Destiny’s Rainbow,” from 9 – 11 p.m. This series will include an improvised musical, performed by FCI’s “sassy sisters,” Destiny’s Stepchild. That show will be followed by “Man V.S. Movie,” a performance by celebrity improvisationalist Paul Vaillancourt, co-founder of famed iO West improv theatre in Hollywood. The final series of this block will be an elimination-style open competition called “Over the Rainbow,” where 12 players go for the gold. Bring your best improv and see if you can win the ruby slippers. Although proceeds from the quarterly “The Big Gay Improv Show” show have historically benefited Diversionary Theatre, proceeds raised during the Pride Night festivities will benefit The Center. In addition, Suphan said FCI’s fundraising efforts for The Center will run through San Diego LGBT Pride Weekend, July 18. “We’ll be selling T-shirts and will be doing other things to try to raise funds all week. If people can’t attend the show on July 9, they’ll still be able to donate all week,” he said, adding the group hopes to raise $1,500. Tickets for Pride Night are available for $20 per block and can be purchased online at hbhnhwu. FCI’s ongoing series of improv comedy shows can be found Thursday through Sunday evenings, with food and drink available at your seat. For more information visit

—Editor Morgan M. Hurley contributed to this report. —Margie M. Palmer is a San Diego-based freelance writer who has been racking up bylines in a myriad of news publications for the past 10 years. You can write to her at margiep@

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solidified her decision. After coming out to Meyer in June 2015, Garcia began hormone replacement therapy July 1. “Estrogen has been very good to me,” Garcia said, noting the softening of her features over time. “I look at photos from before and I don’t even recognize myself.” She and Meyer’s plan first involved telling the department’s leadership and administration of her desire to transition on the job. Then Garcia began reaching out to her former patrol partners and little by little, others in the department. Often for a trans person, choosing a completely new name is an important part of the journey to a new life. However, Garcia decided that going with Christine — after being known her whole life as Chris and Christopher — would be the easiest all around; for her family, her colleagues, her official paper work, and for herself. Though Garcia had shared her news verbally with many of her fellow officers, she admitted she had no idea what would happen as the changes began to take place. Still, by last November, she was confident enough to begin presenting as a woman at work. One day, she said she just put on all of her make up and walked into the lineup. No one said a word. “I was ver y well respected during the process,” she said. “I originally thought maybe I’d lose 50 percent of respect from other officers, maybe I won’t; but I’ve had 100 percent acceptance across the board.” She said many of the people she met through T-Cops International took a leave of absence or requested a remote desk position in order to transition outside of the public eye. “I wanted to transition in uniform; I actually pushed myself to do it for several reasons,” Garcia said. “First, I like being in uniform. Putting it on ever y day for eight years and what it stood for, for me, and just going to work is something that I loved to do. I also wanted to show the other officers, the people that I worked with for 40 hours a week, what it was like to transition. They got to see the process and see what I went through.” And if anyone felt the need to inquire, she was quick to oblige. “That’s one thing that I love about Christine, since she has come out in the department, she’s really been a change agent and a proponent for her own community,” Meyer said. “She’s made it ver y clear that if anybody has any questions or misunderstandings or needs clarification with regard to anything transgender, she is completely open to taking those questions. She’s all about it and I think that’s great.” “If they are asking me questions it is because they want to understand it, so I don’t want to just shut them down,” Garcia said. Another duty of the LGBT Liaison team is to teach a familiarity course in the police academy about the LGBT community. Meyer, who taught the academy classes for years, said he never came out to them right away. “You go through the entire training and build a rapport with them, get on their level and then

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at the end, you hit them with it,” he said. “It tends to be a shock.” Garcia now also teaches at the academy. “I share my whole stor y,” she said. “How I struggled with gender identity, how I came out … I do that to help them better understand where we as transgender people come from. How this is something that we’re absolutely born with, this is not a choice of ours. The only choice we’re making is to be happy, because to live a lie is the worst thing you can do. I kind of put them in my shoes. When they can do that, they can better understand the trans community as a whole.” With the recent events in Orlando and its potential impact in San Diego, Meyer shared SDPD’s response to the tragedy. “We came together as a law enforcement community, wanting to show support for the Hillcrest community, making sure that it’s safe for people to go out and let them know they don’t need to adjust their lives because of this incident,” he said. “That is what terrorism is about. They’re doing whatever they can to influence as many people’s lives as possible in a negative way. So if we can give into that and don’t go out because we are scared, they win.” On the Monday after the tragedy, Mayor Falconer met with his LGBT Advisor y Council, SDPD, San Diego Pride, other leaders from the local LGBT community and members of Hillcrest’s bar industr y. SDPD offered guidance to the bar owners regarding general safety practices, and they’ve provided training to bar staff in how to react in certain situations. As a result, some establishments have imposed stricter entrance rules, which many in the community are not happy about. “It’s like TSA; ever ybody wants to be safe, but no one wants to be inconvenienced,” Meyer said. While Meyer said they couldn’t discuss tactics, he agreed the increase in police presence around the weekend’s Pride events would indeed be noticeable; not only throughout Hillcrest, but along the parade route and at the festival as well. In addition, San Diego Pride has decided to install metal detectors at the festival entrance. “We do not have any credible threats to the city of San Diego right now,” Meyer said. “And while we plan ever y year for a safe Pride, we also plan for ever y contingency possible and we do that for ever y event. “I anticipate a ver y large Pride this year in overall support of the LGBT community,” Meyer continued, adding that the law enforcement contingent he’s helped coordinate each year will see its biggest turnout yet. “We have many, many more people coming out, outside of the LGBT community, that are in law enforcement coming to support us. So I’m excited.” Garcia, who will be part of the law enforcement contingent for the first time, said she will be out and proud and feeling quite safe Pride weekend. “I’m going to be marching and flying my colors,” she said. “I am not going to let somebody place fear in our hearts or in our eyes to silence us. It’s not going to happen.” —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at



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ALEXANDER The States have been my home for the last 12 years, but I also don’t have any deep emotional connection to the place because I wasn’t here as a kid. So walking around the streets of Stockholm, every single street corner will mean something because it had a profound impact on my formative years. I’ll be like, “Oh, that street corner is where that girl broke up with me when I was 13,” or, “That’s where I had that fight with my best friend.” I live in New York now and all my memories in New York are from the past 10, 15 years. Obviously, in “Tarzan” the two worlds are a bit more extreme! (CA) There are no apes on the loose in New York that I am

aware of. (AS) [Laughs] Yes, it’s slightly more dramatic. But that is my job as an actor — to find something, even if it’s on a more microscopic level, that allows me to tap into and understand the character on a larger scale. (CA) What do you think starring alongside Lady Gaga in her “Paparazzi” video did for your gay following? (AS) I have no idea — I wasn’t famous at all. I wore a wig in the first season of “True Blood,” so no one ever recognized me. But my friend Jonas Åkerlund is a tremendous music video director and called me and said, “Hey, I’m directing this video for an artist. Her name is Lady Gaga.” I’d heard her name but didn’t know much about her. He just basically pitched me the idea: “You throw her off the balcony and then she

comes back and she poisons you.” [Laughs] It sounded like a fun love story, so of course I said yes. I had a super fun day. (CA) How did portraying someone who is pansexual on “True Blood,” a show rife with queer characters and storylines, influence the way you view sexuality? (AS) It was just one of the most profound experiences ever. Just liberating. Even though there’s shit loads of nudity on the show, it never felt gratuitous. I think that’s when, as an actor, you feel uncomfortable, if you’re standing there with your clothes off and you’re not quite sure why. (CA) Like if you’d been wearing that loincloth in “Tarzan.” (AS) That’s why I wear nothing in all the flashbacks ... because that would make sense! If it makes

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(Courtesy Warner Bros.) lot of her friends live there and she has a lot of that lifestyle as normal as any friends in the gay community. other lifestyle. In this instance, So, Cousin Wonderlette and a lot of people who didn’t have Lady Bear were gonna host the anyone close to them in the LGBT premiere and do a number from community suddenly had someone “Rocky Horror Picture Show” in their living room every Sunday and then throw the afterparty at a night that they loved. gay club. Everyone was planning their outfits and talking about (CA) What tips do you have for these crazy drag outfits they were other straight men who are doing gonna come in with. I was sitting gay sex scenes? there with my grey suit and I just (AS) You just have to embrace felt like, “Fucking hell, this is so it. I had two gay sex scenes on the boring; can I play as well?” I said, show. They’re incredible scenes. I “I wanna look like Farrah Fawcett.” I showed them that iconic loved this scene and I remember image from the early ’80s in that talking to Theo [Alexander], who golden dress with the blonde hair, played the Greek lover of Russell so that’s what we went for. I can’t Edgington [portrayed by Denis quite say that we nailed it. I mean, O’Hare], and that was the first gay they did an incredible job, but I sex scene I had on “True Blood.” think it’s tough with a dude who’s He’s also a straight guy and he 6-foot-4 and 210 pounds. [Laughs] was nervous; he had never kissed And with those heels, I was like 7 a guy before. I just said, “Look at feet tall. the scene. It’s this nemesis and he As physically demanding as comes in and then it gets seductive shooting “Legend of Tarzan” was, and you think they’re gonna make it was nothing compared to that love and it gets into that and then night in drag. Oh my god; walking suddenly my character stabs him around in those heels, in that super in the back and he explodes. In itchy, hot wig and the fake nails, two minutes, look at this emotional I felt like Edward Scissorhands. I rollercoaster we’re taking the audicouldn’t even grab a drink. ence on. If we commit to this, it’s Once we got to the afterparty at going to be an amazing scene and the gay club, I just kicked my heels we’re going to be very happy with off and walked around barefoot it forever. If we hold back, that’s because I was just dying. So, I have when it gets awkward.” tremendous respect for all the drag Same thing shooting the other queens out there. I got a little taste of scene with Ryan [Kwanten] — we what it takes to look that fabulous. knew that it was coming because we shot a scene the previous year (CA) “True Blood” was where I hypnotize him and say, groundbreaking for pushing many like, “When you dream, dream envelopes when it came to LGBT issweet dreams of me.” Because sues and sexuality. How does it feel we did it in a very seductive knowing that you were a part of a way, when they said “wrap” and show that some deemed “too gay”? I turned around and I saw the (AS) Well, that’s ridiculous. writers, I could just see in their What was so interesting about eyes that they were like, “We’re the show was that it wasn’t on definitely gonna see this dream the nose. It’s obviously a cultural later on in the show.” We knew it reference and a metaphor. A lot was coming. 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This special version of our calendar includes as many Pride 2016-weekend events that are being held outside of official San Diego Pride festivities as we could find. Have a happy and safe Pride.


‘Members Only’: This phallusthemed art show looks to be a contrast to the exploitation of the female body by mass media and the art world. The show will also address homophobia and homophobic behavior that leads to violence. 6 – 10 p.m. Mesheeka Art Gallery, 2113 Logan Ave., #4, Barrio Logan. Visit

Pride Night at Finest City Improv: Nationally known improvisers and community leaders will step onto Finest City Improv’s North Park stage to infuse more laughter into Pride’s weeklong celebration of acceptance and unity. The evening includes two blocks of one-night only shows specifically created for Pride Night. Highlights will include special guest monologist Benny Cartwright; IO West’s Paul Vallencourt presenting Man Vs. Movie; the Over The Rainbow improv competition and much more! Proceeds from Pride Night will benefit the LGBT Center of San Diego. The goal is to raise at least $1,500. 6:30 – 11 p.m. 4250 Louisiana St., North Park. Visit


Pride Block Party Pre-Party at The Brew Project: #BeTheGeneration is teaming up with Fabulous Hillcrest for a Pride Block Party Pre-Party at The Brew Project. This fun day out will include information about how you can #BeTheGeneration to end HIV; live music by DJ Kurty; Pride gear by Cloaked in Pride; a Hillcrest Brewing Company tap takeover; specialty Boochcraft cocktails; an interactive photo booth; giveaways and much more. Tickets to the Pride Block Party will be available for purchase at the event or you can find them online at Noon – 3

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South Beach to meet Val and his father and “mother...” and what ensues is comic chaos. 7 – 9 p.m. Hillcrest Landmark Theatre, 3965 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit tinyurl. com/zdz8gcu.


Benny and Rick’s 3rd Annual Pride Kick-Of f: For many of us, we know that San Diego Pride’s arrival simply means a lot of work. Those in the bar/ service industry, community organizations, and Pride volunteers and staff all work extra hard in the weeks and days leading up to Pride to make this the best celebration in town for the hundreds of thousands of people who descend upon the neighborhood for the festivities. What this means is that many of us, who work together and enjoy each other’s company year-round, don’t get a chance to see or celebrate with each other during Pride because we’re just so busy. Continuing their annual tradition, Benny and Rick would like to invite friends, colleagues and other community members to their third annual Pride Kick-Off Happy Hour — a casual time for everyone to get together and celebrate with each other before things get too busy. Expect drinks, good conversation, music and fun! 6 – 9 p.m. #1 Fifth Avenue, 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit tinyurl. com/jn3rrwg


Big Gay Improv Show: A team of San Diego’s finest improvisers will present a montage of hilarious scenes totally made up on the spot and inspired by the real life stories of two guest monologists from the LGBT community. Guest monologists for this show are: ThatsSoGayLIVE founder Sally Hall and Queen Bee Howard Finnecy. The team of improvisers includes: Peggy Walkush, Jesse Suphan, Keith James, Jill Tsai, Martha Barnette, Eric Durbin and Skyler Sullivan. Sally Hall is a longtime LGBT activist, founder of the online gay TV channel ThatsSoGayLIVE and sponsor of the monthly lesbian dance at the Brass Rail. Born in Louisiana, growing up in Texas, Sally was almost 19 when she finally realized she was “a big lesbian trying to bust out of my perceived image of myself as a straight Republican.” Her college days were spent “exploring my new found joy of lesbianism” at Texas A&M University (she’s an Aggie). Sally moved to Colorado in the early 1990s and became an activist fighting the anti-gay Amendment 2. In 2003, she moved


her investment business to San Diego and in 2010, she created, an online channel streaming gay content serving the LGBT community. Howard Finnecy is a Queen Bee volunteer for Diversionary Theatre and a retired teacher and college administrator. He was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in 1937 and has three adult sons from a previous marriage and six grandchildren. When asked at a PFLAG meeting why he married a woman when he knew he was gay, Howard replied “it was 1957 and it was Pittsburgh!” Howard is a self-proclaimed gay, parent of a gay, friend of many gays – everything but a lesbian, but he hasn’t given up hope. He had a 38-year relationship with John Thomas until John’s death in 2013. Proceeds benefit Diversionary Theatre. Tickets are just $10 in advance or $12 at the door. The event will be held from 7 – 10 p.m. with an intermission. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit

FilmOut’s Pride week movie: FilmOut San Diego will be screening director Mike Nichols’ hilarious “La Cage Aux Folles” remake, “Birdcage,” in honor of its 20th anniversary. In the film, Armand Goldman (Robin Williams) owns a popular drag nightclub in South Miami Beach. His long-time lover Albert (Nathan Lane) stars there as Starina. “Their” son Val (actually Armand’s by his one heterosexual fling, 20 years before) comes home to announce his engagement to Barbara Keely (Calista Flockhart), daughter of Kevin Keely (Gene Hackman), U.S. Senator, and vice president of the Committee for Moral Order. The Senator and family (including Dianne Wiest) descend upon

Pride Kickof f Fundraiser for Dems for Equality: Equality doesn’t just happen. It is achieved by the persistent efforts of dedicated individuals and organizations. Since 1975, the San Diego Democrats for Equality has been in the forefront of local social justice political activism by promoting issues and candidates that best represent our values. You can support their efforts by buying a ticket to their 2016 Pride Fundraiser and renewing your club membership. Renew your Democrats for Equality club membership at the Silver Stonewaller or Golden Stonewaller level, and you will receive one complimentary ticket. If you renew at the President’s Circle level, you will receive two complimentary tickets. VIP Ticket - $80 (drink ticket included, early admittance); non-club members - $50; club members - $40. Club membership: Silver Stonewaller $125; Golden Stonewaller - $250; President’s Circle - $500. This fundraiser will be held from 6:30 – 8 p.m. Vinavanti Urban Winery, 1477 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit jskuoxq. Corday’s B–Day Bash and Pride Kickof f at Gossip Grill: Help Corday celebrate her 50th B-Day and rock out with her all-girl band! SD Pride kickoff and dancing after the show. 7 – 9 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit zoxsgwt.

‘Guided by the Heart’ concert by San Diego Women’s Chorus: Kick off Pride weekend with a fun, inspiring love-filled evening of music with the women of the San Diego Women’s Chorus

(SDWC). This is your chance to see SDWC’s full GALA set, additional songs performed by SDWC during the GALA Festival events, and small ensembles, solos and duets. Featuring music by OneRepublic, R.E.M., Shawn Colvin, Rachel Platten, John Legend, and Jason Robert Brown. Tickets are just $10 if purchased in advance; $15 at the door. 7:30 – 9 p.m. University Christian Church, 3900 Cleveland Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


San Diego Trans Pride: The third annual Trans Pride is free and open to all. BBQ food from 1:30 – 5:30 p.m.; open mic from 5:30 – 6 p.m. Balboa Park, Sixth and Quince avenues. Visit tinyurl. com/j32a3ex to sign up for volunteering, potluck, entertainment/ workshop, tabling and more. Splash Pre-Pride Pool Party: Back for a fourth year in a row, Splash makes its comeback to The Lafayette to kick off San Diego Pride. Splash will feature full production sound and lighting, local DJs, full bars, cocktail servers, food and more. Tickets start at $20. Noon – 5 p.m. 2223 El Cajon Blvd, North Park. Visit Rob Benzon Foundation Pride Launch Party: Start San Diego Pride off with a party with a purpose. 100 percent of the ticket sales go back into supporting our community. This year’s Launch Party will again be held on the beautiful grounds of the historic Burnham House adjacent to Balboa Park. There will be food from the local restaurants (Big Front Door, Andrea’s Truffles) and fully hosted bars. 5:30 p.m. Historic Burnham House, 3565 Seventh Ave., Balboa Park. Visit tinyurl. com/j7p9qn6. Girls Night Out Pride Dance: DJ Susu will be spinning Pride beats at this special Girls Night Out dance event. Doors open at 6 p.m.; lip sync battle at 6:30 p.m. and non-stop dancing begins at 7 p.m. Prepay is $10. You can PayPal or Facebook ThatsSoGayLIVE@ with names of guests. $15 at the door. 6 – 10 p.m. Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit DILF Out & Proud: DILF San Diego Pride Edition is kicking off the weekend with an underwear jock party. This is a private event by MAN UPP and Joe Whitaker with music by DJ Corey Craig of New York and DJ Matt Effect of San Diego. You must RSVP to get into the

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42 Barber manuscript, e.g. 44 Hacienda room 45 Not straight 48 Loser’s catchword 50 Bryant once of hoops 52 Carnaval resort 53, for one 54 “Vox populi, vox ___” 56 “Let’s get one thing straight: I’m not.” e.g. 58 TV show with bisexual Dr. Callie Torres 62 Ares of “Xena” and others 63 Innocent ones 64 Put the top on the cake 68 “___ of Seventeen” 69 “Seascape” author 70 Village People’s “In the ___” 71 “Caught in the headlights” animal 72 Gaily colored flowers, commonly 73 TV show with bisexual cheerleader Brittany Pierce

1 Peter Cottontail’s move 2 Thurman of “Kill Bill” 3 No to Rimbaud 4 Teens in black makeup, e.g. 5 I, Derek? 6 Jane Spahr and Mychal Judge 7 Comic strip dog 8 Fat lady songs at the opera 9 Cluster “fornications” 10 Sundance’s Place 11 Ben Hur, and competitors 12 Guy often found in handcuffs 13 Where to be, re the closet 21 Brit. word ref 22 Need lubricating, maybe 23 Hesitation sounds 24 “Breakfast on Pluto” actor Stephen 25 Recognize gay rights, e.g. 30 Uno + dos 31 He’s a wheel man 33 Manger, to Mary’s boy 35 Foam at South Beach 37 Composer Edouard

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CALENDAR event. Tickets include a beer bust from 6 – 9 p.m. or three well drink tickets. A clothes check will be provided all night long so you can be out and proud and show off your Pride jock. A charitable event with a portion of the event going to San Diego LGBT Center. 6 p.m. – 2 a.m. Brick Bar, 1475 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit SubWOOFer: San Diego Pride at The Merrow: Kick off San Diego Pride this year with a bang, as DJ Barry Harris (Toronto) serves it up at SubWOOFer. Legendary producer, remixer and DJ Barry Harris of Thunderpuss will be throwing down on the expanded dance floor with more lighting, lasers, and beefed-up sound than ever before. Plus, The Merrow will feature a huge outdoor parking lot lounge and bars filled with sexy bartenders. Drink and shot specials all night. Get front-of-the-line entry, and save when you purchase presale tickets online ($15). 8 p.m. – 2 a.m. 1271 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Bearracuda San Diego fourth annual Pride party: Kick off Pride with Bearracuda and hundreds of guys. Only $6 before 10 p.m.; $8 after. DJs Ryan Jones and

Remo will perform. 9 p.m. – 2 a.m. Park and Rec, 4612 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit tinyurl. com/jfasgxr.


Victory Fund SD Women’s Pride Brunch: Victory Fund SD’s annual Women’s Pride Brunch. Don’t miss your chance to support Victory in recruiting, training and electing openly LGBT candidates in communities around the country. Reserve a table and you could win an Olivia Cruise. Individual tickets also available. 9 – 11 a.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Pride on the Pier: This event will feature lights and lasers, a massive 4D LED wall, hot dancers and more, all while being in the water. Music will be provided by DJs Phil Romano, Dani Toro and Tracy Young, plus a warm up set by DJ Taj. VIP admission includes express entry, VIP lounge with VIP bar, fresh fruit and other perks. Presale tickets are $89 for general admission and $109 for VIP. Noon – 8 p.m. Broadway Pier, 1000 North Harbor Drive, Downtown. Visit

Splash SD Pride Edition: Kick Saturday off with stunning views of Downtown San Diego and

music by the world renowned Perry Twins and DJ Dom De Sousa. A portion of this event’s proceeds will go to Sunburst Youth Housing of San Diego. Noon – 6 p.m. Roof top pool, Doubletree Hotel, 1646 Front St., Little Italy. Visit tinyurl. com/jcu5qg7. Flaunt Pride event: All walks of life are welcome to attend this unique event as attendees converge to live, dance and vibe to the beat of the drum. Summer gear is encouraged, so come ready to show some skin and flaunt what you got. A one-of-a-kind party with colorful art installations, fierce drag guests and performers, and non-stop sensory experiences designed to create a continuously entertaining and sexy daytime vibe. Music by Tom Staar, Mad Waves, Noir D Costas, Dawna Montell and singer-songwriter Janellie. 1-7 p.m. Quartyard, 1102 Market St., East Village. Visit j7p9qn6. Bears annual Pride pool party and fundraiser: Bears San Diego annual event will be graciously hosted by Bears San Diego founder Wayne D. A $10 suggested donation will help cover the group’s Pride costs. The event is a potluck and it is asked that everyone bring a dish enough for four-five bears. 7 p.m. 5263 Countryside Drive, College Area. Visit tinyurl. com/gp7cr6m. Glitterbox for Girls: Girls, ladies, women, queers, lesbians and LGBTQA friends are invited to this glittery party. DJs dirtyKurty and Goodboy will bring the beats. VIP and bottle service available. The party will include two rooms and two outdoor patios. Tickets start at $15. 8 p.m – 2 a.m. Brick Bar, 1475 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit 6th annual Furrageous: Join hundreds of Woofy Men for this incredible night with two dance floors, two DJs and the infamous Red Bull Outdoor Parking Lot Lounge. BearNight Resident DJ Jon Williams will be pumpin’ the beats in the Main Room and the ever-sexy DJ Mateo Segade will be in the Side Show Bar to make you sweat! Plus sexy go-go Bears, drink and shot specials, and grilled-toorder food all night. Tickets start at $20. 9 p.m. – 2 a.m. Numbers, 3811

Park Blvd, Hillcrest. Visit tinyurl. com/jg4ytb3.


Bill Hardt Presents the Zoo Party: This two–day party event starts with “Circuit Daze” at the Hall of Champions (2131 Pan American Plaza, Balboa Park) from 10 p.m. to 4 a.m. on Saturday; followed by “The Zoo Party” from 4 – 11 p.m. at the San Diego Zoo (2920 Zoo Drive, Balboa Park) on Sunday; and finally the “Fete Accompli” at House of Blues (1055 Fifth Ave., Downtown) from 10 p.m. – 4 a.m. on Sunday. Tickets for individual events and weekend passes available. Visit


Man Upp Thrive Tea Dance: Pride tea dance with Glovibes of Los Angeles and DJ dirtyKurty serving up Sunday beats. Tickets start at $25. 11 a.m. – 5 p.m. Rooftop pool, Doubletree Hotel, 1646 Little Italy. Visit

Heat Pride Pool Party: Closing out Pride weekend with a bang, this full production event will feature a live performance by Sabrina Petrini. The pool will be ready with pool floats, a cell phone charging station, three bars, cocktail servers, local DJs and more. This Free Life is partnering with event and will be on site with swag, a photo booth and more. Tickets start at $15. 11 a.m. – 6


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Flawles Pool Party: This all-day event, hosted by FlawLes Media, offers non-stop entertainment by DJ Amara, DJ Whitney Day, a performance by Aqualilies and more to be announced. There will be poolside games including beer pong, Cards Against Humanity and more. There will also be drink specials with VIP happy hour from noon – 3 p.m. Tickets start at $40. Noon – 8 p.m. RoofTop600 at Andaz, 600 F St., Downtown. Visit h93c87r.

WE Party: Metropolis | SD Pride closing party: Masterbeat and WE Party will take over San Diego’s Fluxx Nightclub, with their signature production, visuals, dancers, lights and lasers. Music will be provided by DJs Brett Henrichsen and Danny Verde. Admission to WE Party Metropolis also includes free admission to Chaos Afterhours at Spin Nightclub. 9 p.m. – 2 a.m. (after-party goes until 8 a.m.) Fluxx Nightclub 500 Fourth Ave., Downtown. Visit


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HTC Post-Pride Cleanup: Join in to help put some shine back in the neighborhood on the Monday following the annual San Diego Pride festivities at Hillcrest Town Council’s Post-Pride Cleanup. Volunteers are needed to meet at 8 a.m. at the corner of Park Boulevard and University Avenue in Hillcrest. The morning will begin with a quick orientation, followed by volunteers going out in teams to clean up various blocks of the neighborhood. Following the cleanup, the “Trash Talk” social will be held at Urban MO’s Bar & Grill (308 University Ave., Hillcrest) with complimentary appetizers and drinks for all volunteers. Supplies and T-shirts will be provided. Sunscreen, hats, comfortable shoes, and lots of water is recommended. For more information and to sign up, contact David Coben at The cleanup event will be held from 8 a.m. – noon. Visit


PRIDE EVENTS Main Stage (all times are p.m.) 12:05 – Mauru Music 12:55 – Kana Frost 1:50 – The Geode Project 2:30 – Miss Lady D 3:20 – GIRLBOY 4:00 – Dog Fashion Show 4:20 – WASI SHEFest Accessibility SHEFest will be interpreted in American Sign Language (ASL). We will have ASL interpreters volunteering throughout the day. If there’s a specific workshop or activity you’d like to have an interpreter for, just go to the SheFest table and make your request. This event will also be as wheelchair-accessible as possible and there will be wheelchairaccessible portable restrooms. For any other disability related accommodations, please email

and other snacks. Each day will also have a different set of fun activities for your kids, so bring a lunch and celebrate Pride with your children. Some of the events planned include a Rad Hatter, face painting and balloon artists. To find out more about the Pride Family Picnic, search for the Facebook event page or contact organizers at 619-692-2077x x202 or email To learn more about Families at The Center, follow them on Facebook or visit

San Diego Pride has added a space for those who don’t want to purchase a ticket but still want to connect with important resources Pride weekend. It is called the Rainbow Zone, and access is free. The Rainbow Zone is located in the grass area between Laurel and Juniper streets and is completely outside of the official Festival grounds and free to access. Inside you will find booths and tents including LGBT local artists with Art of Pride; Lambda Archives San Diego with a presentation of our LGBT histor y; a Senior Cool Zone; a Youth Zone by the Trevor Project; Pride Family Picnic by Family Ser vices at The Center; the LGBT Black Coalition; South Bay Pride; ShePower – a queer women’s health area by the Lesbian Wellness Project; ongoing sobriety support by Live & Let Live Alano Club; 211 San Diego and other County resources; HIV testing; music all day and more. Visit for more information.


There are many new events being held at San Diego Pride’s Music Festival this year, especially in the new Free Rainbow Zone, which will be the large area of grass located between Laurel and Juniper streets. One of these new events is the Pride Family Picnic. The Pride Family Picnic will be presented Saturday, July 16 from Noon to 3 p.m., and Sunday, July 17, from 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. Presented by “Families at The Center,” a program of the San Diego LGBT Community Center, the family-friendly picnics will be hosted on both days of the festival, with snow cones, popcorn

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Each year at the Pride Festival, the Live and Let Live Alano Club (LLLAC), the local nonprofit dedicated to the sobriety of its LGBTQA membership, creates a safe and welcoming space for those in recovery who attend the festival. This year Sobriety Village will be located in the Free Rainbow Zone, outside of the gated Festival grounds on Saturday, July 16. Access is free to the public. Sobriety Village will disseminate information to those with questions about all addictive behaviors, offer recovery-related activities, workshops, hourly meetings, and more. Healthy habit workshops offered on Saturday will include yoga, meditation, smoking cessation, Tai Chi (Standing Meditation), living skills for people with HIV/AIDS, boot camp fitness, and an introduction to essential oils. Hourly meetings to be held include Alcoholics Anonymous, Crystal Meth Anonymous, Nicotine Anonymous, and Adult Children of Alcoholics. “Often I see people led by their significant other to the coffee cart at Pride because they are a mess and need some help and they attend a meeting,” said a lesbian LALLAC member with 33 years of sobriety. “Unfortunately, a newcomer won’t keep coming back because they feel like their life is OVER if they stop their addiction. The purpose of the Sobriety Village and LLLAC is to dispel these rumors and introduce healthy habits to replace past destructive behaviors.” Individuals who would like to support the cause of healthy habits through leading a workshop or class are encouraged to contact LLLAC. The Live & Let Live Alano Club is located at 1730 Monroe Ave., in University Heights. The club holds 44 weekly recover y meetings to address all types of addictive behavior and nearly 8,000 participants have been ser ved during the club’s 33 years of ser vice. For more information, call 619-298-8008, Monday – Friday, 11 a.m. – 9:30 p.m., Saturday 9:30 a.m. – 9:30 p.m., and Sunday, 8:30 a.m. – 9:30 p.m., or visit t



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