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Volume 8 Issue 14 July 7 – 20, 2017

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The power of music


Pulse survivor to perform at San Diego Pride By Jess Winans

Gay-owned Negociant beckons (l to r) Local LGBT activists Ben Cartwright and Rick Cervantes were the inspiration for "Together Strong." (Photo by Rikki Bahena)


Together strong Local photographer inadvertently starts a movement

Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Ricardo “Rikke” Bahena, known to many in the community as the manager of the popular local watering hole #1 Fifth Ave., is also a photographer. While he was never professionally schooled in the art of photography, he has what

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the business calls “an eye” for the craft. This quality, coupled with Bahena’s passion for how he “sees the beauty in all things” has resulted in a body of work that has adorned the covers and pages of various local magazines, newspapers, books and record albums over the years.

“As an artist there is nothing better than to see your work all over the place making an impact and creating something powerful,” he said. “But what I care the most is the message I have as a human being, where we all matter and deserve respect,

see Stronger pg 10


A marriage of beer and liquor HBC updates their offerings and releases a new Pride beer Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

Not for the faint of ‘heart’

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Since opening up just in advance of Pride weekend five years ago, Hillcrest Brewing Company — touted as the only LGBT-owned brewery in the world — has become a welcome addition to the gayborhood. Their popular pizzas, tangy wings and array of house-made craft beers and guest craft brew taps draw people from all over to their humble, industrial-style space. Each year they brew up a special “one-off” craft beer for

see Pride Beer, pg 13

(l to r) Shaver, assistant beermaster; Joey Arruda, general manager; and Austin Copeland, head brewmaster (Photo by Morgan M. Hurley)

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What was supposed to be another fun Saturday night spinning records at a popular Orlando gay club turned into a nightmare for Ray Rivera. In the early hours of June 12, 2016, Rivera — whose stage name is DJ Infinite — was playing hits and preparing to wind down the large crowd on the dance floor at Pulse Nightclub’s outdoor patio. He loved watching them dance to the beats he created, beaming with pride and knowing that it was there, at that club, they could truly be themselves. Suddenly, Rivera’s beats were interrupted by gunshots that fateful night, where 49 members of the LGBTQ community and allies were killed during one of the most horrific mass shootings in American history. Rivera, who was one of two DJs working that night, acted quickly. According to news reports, he helped two other people survive by providing refuge behind his DJ booth.

see Pulse DJ, pg 17


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Grapes, suds and coffee Negociant Urban Winery brings a diverse spirit to North Park

From barrels to bottles: a sample of wines produced onsite

Co-owner Zane Mumford at the tasting bar inside Negociant Urban Winery in North Park. (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) By Frank Sabatini Jr. The most commonly asked question by first-time visitors to Negociant Urban Winery is, “Do you make the wines here?” According to co-owner John Rinaldi, their jaws often drop when he answers “Yes,” despite stacks of wooden barrels forming the backdrop to a modest-size tasting room and wine-making facility that formerly housed a tanning salon. And for those trying to make sense of the winery’s name, the definition of “negociant” hangs on a wall near the entrance. In short, it’s the French word for a wine merchant who purchases grapes from outside growers. Camouflaged in the shadows of San Diego County’s multiplying craft breweries are more

For members only Becoming a “royal” member of Negociant Urban Winery has its perks. For $65 a month, they’re afforded two bottles of select wine every 30 days, plus eight full-pour glasses of wine in the tasting room. Members also enjoy a 25 percent discount on unlimited bottle purchases.

than a dozen urban wineries like Negociant. They represent a nationwide movement that brings enology from rural vineyards into the commercial hearts of big cities. Rinaldi and his business partner, Zane Mumford, are members of the LGBT community as well as San Diego Urban Wineries, an organization that promotes a growing coalition of artisan winemakers in the region. They opened their 3,000-square-foot facility in 2015 and have since produced a portfolio of 16 wines using grapes sourced from Santa Barbara, Paso Robles, Sonoma and Washington state. “Being an urban winery, you learn to do a lot more with a lot less space,” said Rinaldi, who combines his passion for the craft with a career in investment real estate. Mumford, a former project manager for Sony Games, oversees most of the winemaking. With the goal of creating a winery that can be enjoyed from morning until evening, they annexed the tasting room with Grinds & Vine Coffee Bar, which is loosely separated by sliding barn doors — that Rinaldi and Mumford build themselves — and has a kitchen and a dog-friendly patio. Customers can potentially preclude their workdays with a chai latte and breakfast sandwich, and return after clocking out for a glass of reserve

In addition, on their sign-up anniversaries, each member receives a hosted tasting party at the winery for up to 20 people (including the member). For a smaller monthly fee of $40, the “nobility” level includes one select bottle and four tastings per month plus 20 percent off all bottle purchases. To sign up, call 619-535-1747 or visit

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Zinfandel at the wine bar while savoring a smoked pork sandwich with Syrah barbecue sauce. Beer lovers are in luck, too. The bar carries several craft brews on tap that always include at least one from the gay-owned Hillcrest Brewing Company. In turn, the brewery carries some of Negociant’s wines. The vino collection features everything from crisp Viognier that hits the palate with waves of lemon and apricot to the lusty-red Concupiscent, which daringly blends Sangiovese with Nebbiolo. “In Italy it’s a no-no to see those two grapes blended together. For us it was a creative, deliberate decision that made for a really interesting well-balanced wine,” Rinaldi said. There’s also a smooth rosé boasting discernible flavors of summer berries. “Everyone’s snapping it up right now,” Rinaldi added. “When paired with our cheese board, people end up drinking multiple glasses of it.” In celebration of San Diego LGBT Pride, the winery will spotlight its 2015 Symphony, a standout white made with a hybrid varietal of Muscat and Grenache Gris. The grape was created in 1948 at UC Davis. Sweet up front and boasting tart pineapple on the finish, Rinaldi aptly describes it as “a wine to drink while sitting on the porch in the hot sun.” Mumford said the winery will offer the Symphony for $5 a glass — straight up or mixed into a mimosa — before, during and after the Pride Parade on July 15 to “customers who come in and express their pride.” Nearly all of the wines on the list are available by the glass at prices ranging from $9 to $16. Bottles start at $19.99 and don’t exceed $50. Growlers are also available, and club members are afforded various freebies and discounts (see sidebar). Negociant’s tasting room — appointed with chandeliers crafted from wood fruit boxes and a white screen used for videos and slideshows — doubles as an event space for private parties and corporate events.

It can accommodate up to 200 people and has also become a popular venue for fundraisers benefiting LGBT causes, cancer research, animal rescues and more. As a way of giving back to the community, Rinaldi and Mumford implemented a “Sunday charity” program whereby nonprofit groups come in with their staff members and stakeholders to drink and eat. For all beer and wines sold by the glass, 35 percent of the sales are donated to the organization in addition to 20 percent of bottle sales and 10 percent of food purchases. At least 10 LGBT fundraisers have been held at Negociant, including those for the San Diego LGBT Community Center and the San Diego HIV Funding Collaborative organized by the Red Dress Party. In addition, Negociant sponsors a team in the San Diego

American Flag Football League, and displays its A-Division Champions trophy inside the tasting room. “We’re the Noah’s Ark of wineries,” said Rinaldi, who didn’t rule out opening additional tasting rooms in other parts of San Diego. “Our customers are everything from bikers and seniors to gay and straight, novices and connoisseurs, and even beer drinkers. We continue to grow and have been well-received by the community.” Negociant Urban Winery is located at 2419 El Cajon Blvd. in North Park. For more information, call 619-535-1747 or visit —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at▼

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Tracing San Diego’s queer history A millennial warmly embraces the events and pioneers that came before Out of the Archives Archives Staff On a bright December day in 1970, 60 or so San Diegans gathered in Presidio Park with balloons, face paint, and guitars to take part in a monumental picnic. Despite homophobia and hostility toward gays prevailing as a mainstream position of society at that time, these folks came together to publicly express and celebrate their sexuality. The crowd danced, sang, played games, and displayed posters asserting their right to be out and proud. In the spirit of civil rights activism, the event was declared a “Gay-In.” As a San Diego queer, I was stunned to learn about the inaugural gay pride event of my hometown. Why didn’t I know that the parade I began attending in the late ’90s held roots reaching back 40 years? I was

further awed when I learned that the “Gay-Ins,” which lasted a few years, were organized by the Gay Liberation Front of San Diego, a radical activist group formed at my alma mater (and now employer), San Diego State. The weekend I associated with opulent floats and excessive partying was birthed from something far more political. For the past year, I’ve been tracing the history of San Diego’s Pride and LGBTQ+ movements for a collaborative project of San Diego State University Library and the Lambda Archives of San Diego, sponsored by California Humanities. In my research process, I’ve read hundreds of newspapers, combed through countless boxes of archival records, and listened to dozens of oral histories housed at Lambda Archives. In one audio interview, Stephen Bell, former president of the Gay Liberation Front of San

Diego, described the first GayIn as a “brilliant and bold afternoon.” Listening to Bell describe that day in fond, descriptive detail, built a warmth inside me that abated the harshness of Lambda Archives’ frigid reading room. I’ve experienced many emotional days working in the Archives on Park Boulevard, because uncovering your community’s painful and powerful history is an emotional experience. There have been moments where I’ve found myself gasping, and even crying, at the discovery of a significant document or event. With time, I’ve realized that this project has affected me so profoundly because my hometown’s queer history is so much richer than I could have ever imagined. I know that my former ignorance of San Diego’s gay history is, in part, connected to my youthful age. Before this project, I was essentially isolated from the older LGBTQ+

A small group in 1960s style fashion relaxes on the grass at one of the Gay-Ins.


Walking single file on the sidewalk, unidentified protesters hold various signs during the Gay Liberation Front picket at the San Diego Police Department (SDPD). Some of the signs read “Don’t hate — our feelings may be mutual,” “Gay is just as good as straight,” “Stop police interference — our bed, our choice,” and “Drag queens are people too!” folk who actually lived this story. Plus, public schools barely touch this subject, if at all. Yes, I was broadly aware of the Stonewall Riots, of the AIDS crisis, and that social and political conditions for the LGBTQ+ community have improved immensely since the mid-20th century; but I didn’t know the details of this history in my locality. I had no knowledge of the names or achievements of local pioneers, or the physical spaces I’ve moved through that hold historical significance. And I don’t think my experience is singular, or even uncommon. This is why documenting history in an accessible way matters. The cumulative efforts of this project will result in an interactive website detailing the history of San Diego Pride from its origins to present day, and the significant events that occurred along the way. Bringing the story to life are


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digitized collections of buttons, T-shirts, posters, photographs, and audio and visual recordings. I hope that this resource will serve as a tool to connect queer generations in San Diego both now and in the future. Through this work, I’ve come to regard the rally on Pride weekend — now called the Spirit of Stonewall Rally — with reverence. The rally has been the site, source, or reflection of the most significant points of San Diego’s LGBTQ+ history. Yet, I can’t recall with certainty if I have ever actually attended this feature of San Diego Pride. Attendance at the rally has been an issue that San Diego Pride has dealt with since the early 1980s. But it appears to me that in times of particular hardship, the community has flocked to the rally in search of release or fervor. One such time was in the midst of the AIDS crisis, at the rally of June 1987. Following the parade, participants and onlookers gathered at Marston Point, where they met 239 Styrofoam crosses, draped in black ribbons and lavender orchids; a cross for every AIDSrelated death in San Diego. Speakers that day included activists Gloria Johnson and Nicole Murray-Ramirez, who delivered impassioned speeches on the AIDS epidemic to a crowd

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A flyer for the first (official and permitted) Gay Pride march in San Diego, 1975.


house every day, until it merged to become the San Diego UnionTribune, and being the local politics geek I’ve always been, my favorite section was always the “Local” section. I’ll never forget that day in Back Out July 1996, when I was 16 years with Benny old, and I opened up the Sunday Ben Cartwright morning paper while eating breakfast and pulled out the We are just a week away Local section, and handed the from the annual San Diego Comics, Sports, TV guide and LGBT Pride festivities, which other sections to my brothers kick off on Friday, July 14, with and mom. That particular cover the annual Spirit of Stonewall of the Local section immediately Rally and Pride of Hillcrest Block caught my eye, as I saw a photo Party in Hillcrest. of actor Wilson Cruz riding on We’re lucky in San Diego bea car in a parade. Wilson was a cause many years ago, organizhuge inspiration to me because ers decided to move our annual of his role as a gay teenager in celebration to mid-July, so that the then hit show “My So Called when all of the Pride celebrations Life” was a lifeline for so many of in most major cities around the us who had no other access to the world end in June (which is the LGBT community. “official” Pride month), we still I was so excited to see he was have our world-class celebration in town, and then after reading to look forward to. Also, many the headline and story, I learned are upset that Facebook turned that he was the grand marshall of off the “Pride reaction” option that year’s “Lesbian & Gay Pride effective July 1, so we won’t be Parade” which had happened the able to utilize that feature when day prior. This was eye-opening our celebration hits. for me. I had no idea there was While the story I tell today is such a thing, and I immediately similar to my pre-Pride column told myself that no matter what, last year, I enjoy recounting I would be at that parade the versions of this story each year, next year. because I think the message is That following year I spent important to remember. many hours cruising around This year’s San Diego Pride Hillcrest in my car, just looking, is particularly momentous for observing and hoping that one me as it marks my 20th year day I’d be a part of this comparticipating in the celebration. munity. July 1997 finally rolled Growing up as a San Diego kid, around and after seeing some I dreamed of being a part of the posters and ads in the gay pacity’s vibrant LGBT community pers, I figured out the date of the as soon as I became of aware of it parade. I woke up that morning and my own sexuality. scared to death but so excited. My family always had the San I drove down to Hillcrest, but Diego Tribune delivered to our ended up parking a few blocks

Twenty years of Pride

into North Park (not knowing that parking is so tight anyway, that’s probably where I would have had to find a spot). I wanted to park one neighborhood over because I didn’t want anyone I knew to see my car near the parade, and *gasp* think that I might be attending it. Ironically, where I parked my car that day was right in front of what was then the Mustang Spa bathhouse — what would people think!? After parking, I trekked up University Avenue, under the Georgia Street bridge and into Hillcrest, and then stood quietly behind the pole that holds up 7-11’s gas prices sign on the corner of University Avenue and Normal Street, right at the parade’s kick-off point. What a beautiful sight I saw before my eyes! I only stuck around for about 30 minutes before walking back to my car — it was all too overwhelming — but that showed me for the fi rst time what a large, vibrant community we have here in San Diego and I haven’t looked back. I’ve volunteered with San Diego Pride in some capacity every year since and I couldn’t imagine my life without the experience of “my first time” at San Diego Pride. In fact, while I celebrate Pride now very differently than I used to (Pride here is a lot of work for me now!) and that magic of the “first time” isn’t there anymore, I absolutely love the celebration — and mostly because I remember that it is always someone’s first time. So many of us who have been around awhile get so caught up on worrying about what our “Pride body” is going to look like, or how

Summer body shame? You’re not alone Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel My queer clients have it; my straight male clients have it; my older (and you’d hope wiser) clients have it. Even I have it. A good friend wants to start yoga, but told me, “I went to the class and everyone was so skinny. I felt enormous [she’s not], like my body was screaming to the world: ‘I eat unhealthy food and don’t work out.’ I can’t go back until I lose some weight.” Summer body shame: Here we are. I used to think it was just Pride season that brought this up big time. I’ve long had gay clients who say, “I want to work out this year so I can take my shirt off at Pride and look hot.” And, for months before Pride, they would work out like mad men so they could look “hot” for a few hours on a summer weekend. It’s tempting to judge, but, let’s not. Instead, let’s ask a question: Is this really how you want to spend your time? If it’s worth it to you to spend all those hours to get the hoped-for admiration of others, go for it. If not, what are the options? How do we find “the middle path” regarding our appearance when, regardless of age, race, gender, sexuality or

economic background, it’s difficult to have a genuine conversation about body shame. Even after years of self-reflection and my work as a therapist, I’ve achieved only a tentative satisfaction with my own body. Most of the time I’m OK with it, but recently I caught myself at a rather unflattering angle that made my tummy look enormous (at least, to me). Sigh. And shouldn’t I, a 64-year-old gay elder, be “above” this kind of superficial stuff? I wish. Years ago, at a silent meditation retreat, a facilitator was talking about states of existence far beyond the human state, and as he talked about bliss and non-existence and all that highfalutin stuff, he said, “And, no matter how evolved you are, one of the last things to dissolve is your tendency to compare yourself to other people.” I wanted to laugh, and then, cry. If even heightened states of existence come complete with comparison with others, what hope is there for me, down here on Earth, with this aging body and growing tummy? And is this insecurity heightened for us as LGBTQers? As queer men and women, we are constantly bombarded with images of young, hot men and women — the Buff Boys and Gorgeous Girls of Summer — and expected to somehow emulate these amazing young

people who, genetics aside, are probably spending thousands of dollars on gym memberships, protein powders (or worse) and eating so healthily that their amazing abs (and butts) look Photoshopped. Most of us don’t want to — and can’t afford — to work that hard for that long to get that kind of body. We don’t have that luxury. I once had a client who was on the cover of a men’s fitness magazine. He looked — of course — amazing. He confided to me that for three months before the photo shoot, he worked out “hard” for three hours a day and ate an ultra-restricted diet of approximately 21 things in order to look that way. And, yes, they still Photoshopped him: to even out his skin tone and take away his facial wrinkles, he said. Writer Anne Lamott (one of my favorite authors) once advised her readers to pick the part of their body they were the most unhappy with and spend a week being extra-kind to it. Reverse psychology: Instead of being mad at my expanding tummy, she suggested I be extra nice to it. I tried it, and yes, it helped. It didn’t make my tummy smaller, but it did make my unhappiness with my tummy smaller, and ultimately, that’s what counts.

see Shame, pg 10

we’re going to fit in all of the parties we’ve been invited to, or who we will “lay” that weekend. But there is so much more to Pride, especially for the first-timers. We’ve fought a lot as a community this year. Now I’m the last one to say, “We should all just come together and unify over Pride weekend,” because life doesn’t work that way. We are a very large and diverse community and far from perfect. We can’t forget all the things our community struggles with internally, like racism, transphobia and more, even for a weekend. While we celebrate, Pride is a great time for reflection of our community’s struggles and to recommit to working on being better to each other, so we can be there for those young people who are just finding our community. As I said, every year there is someone who is standing behind a pole or a tree, trying not to stand out, but taking in this new world that they may have never imagined being a part of. We need to keep celebrating for them — and working to acknowledge and fix our community’s ills — so that they too, can grow into active, vibrant members of our community and know they aren’t alone. That’s what Pride is about to me! Getting Out With Benny So it’s just about to be San Diego Pride week and there are more events than I could even begin to list (check out Gay San Diego’s Pride Guide for a comprehensive listing). But here’s a few special Pride week events that I’m looking forward to and hope to see many of you at: Each year, Rick Cervantes and I host our annual “Cheers!

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Benny & Rick’s Pride Kick-Off Happy Hour” at #1 Fifth Avenue. We started this four years ago because we recognized that so many of our friends either work in the bar and service industry or are community volunteers who spend the busy Pride weekend serving our hundreds of thousands of guests who descend upon the community. So many of us locals don’t get to celebrate Pride together because we’re so busy — so on Monday, July 10 from 6-9 p.m. — before the crazyness begins — we invite everyone to a casual, low-key happy hour event. No program, no fundraising, no work. More info here: To my friends who are SDSU alumni, and LGBTQ or an ally, you’re invited to the first-ever SDSU LGBTQ Alumni PrePride Mixer on Wednesday, July 12 from 5-7 p.m. at Babycakes in Hillcrest. This will be a chance for alumni and friends to learn more about the university’s great efforts in recent years to make the campus a more LGBTQfriendly space and how you can get involved in supporting that work. For more info or to RSVP, contact Corey Polant at cpolant@ Of course, there are hundreds more events to choose from so I hope to see you out and about as our city goes rainbow! Happy Pride, San Diego! —Benny Cartwright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619692-2077 ext. 106 or outreach@ Note: Byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography.▼



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Letters Response to ‘Pride, Inc.’

[Ref: “Guest editorial: Pride, Incorporated,” Vol. 8, Issue 13, or online at]

Guest Editorial

Celebrate our corporate allies By D. Osborn I’d like to respond to the Guest Editorial “Pride Incorporated” by Rick Braatz in the June 23 edition of Gay San Diego. I understand and appreciate Rick’s concern with the over-commercialization of Pride parades and events and share some of his dislike at the monetizing of our weekend celebration. I also want to make sure we don’t forget our history, or the important role many of our corporate allies have played in the advancement of LGBTQ rights and acceptance. I’m part of the generation that remembers the fear and exclusion many in the LGBTQ community felt in the larger society — before the landmark U.S. Supreme Court decision on marriage equality, before the White House was lit up in the colors of the gay rainbow flag, before national leaders “evolved” in their opinions of LGBTQ issues, before local politicians lined up to be in our parade and pop stars were grand marshal, when some states still considered gay sex a crime and you could be fired just for being gay [editor’s note: this is still the case in some states], even before Will EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Blake Beckcom Gwen Beckcom Michelle Burkart Ben Cartwright Dave Fidlin Michael Kimmel Jean Lowerison Jess Winans Lambda Archives Staff Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x120 EDITORIAL INTERN Jess Winans

and Grace brought a gay persona into American homes. Before these advances, when LGBTQ people were still marginalized, it was many from corporate America that marched in our parades and stood up for our equality and made policies to ensure our rights — before the courts, politicians and laws caught up. I remember tears coming to my eyes when the large global management consulting firm I was working for announced ground-breaking new non-discrimination policies that included gays and lesbians; this at a time when many in the country would rather we stay hidden deep in our closets. It was America’s corporations that offered same-sex partner benefits years before the courts and laws caught up. Later, as an employee of a large biotech company, I was placed on the diversity committee primarily because I was gay; management wanted to ensure that gays and lesbians were recruited, welcomed and valued as important, contributing members of the company. Corporate America realized the benefits of a diverse workforce, including LGBT, years before our government did. COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Michele Camarda, x116 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 INTERNS Alex Ehrie Czarina Greaney Madhu Chandnani Eric Guerrero Angel Rodriguez SENIOR INTERN Jennifer Gottschalk

Before these advances, when LGBTQ people were still marginalized, it was many from corporate America that marched in our parades and stood up for our equality and made policies to ensure our rights — before the courts, politicians and laws caught up. And when companies, like Wells Fargo, started to march in our Pride parades, it may have been in part marketing strategy, but given the sentiments in society at large at the time, I think it was more an act of corporate courage to do the right thing and support and value our community. Even today, when places like Indiana and North Carolina enact laws that ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza

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discriminate against the LGBTQ community, it’s in large measure, pressure from our corporate and business allies that leads to the reversal of those laws. Now we find ourselves as a community going from having had a seat at the table in the White House, to having a president with conspicuous silence during Pride Month and a vice president and an attorney general who see people in one of two big buckets: good people and bad people — sadly, the LGBTQ community as a whole is in the bad people bucket for these leaders. We again need our corporate allies to stand with us and to stand against attempts to claw back our rights. So when we see our corporate sponsors and allies in our Pride parade and at our festival, when straight allies give up their Saturday morning to march —rather than disdain and disrespect — we should all stand and cheer their willingness to stand with us. We will likely need their help and support again over the next four years. —D. Osborn lives in North Park and responded via email.▼

This “editorial” is misleading and ignores that many of these corporations are involved through their LGBT Employee Resource Groups who are bringing together their LGBT employees and their families through the Pride event like Sony and Qualcomm. Do they not get to celebrate Pride because of where they work? Can only LGBT people who work for nonprofits participate? Moreover, some of the “corporations” are LGBT-serving entities like UC Heath Systems, which has one of the longest-serving HIV clinics in San Diego and earns a perfect 100 score on the HRC index. Do the LGBT doctors, nurses and staff of Sharp Healthcare get to come to the parade? Who gets to decide who celebrates Pride? —Sarafina Scapicchio, via Facebook This was a terrific editorial. Thank you. I wasn’t aware of the facts/statistics of the commercialization of Pride until you shared them here. I started going to Pride events in the 1980s, and as you said, the vibe and the atmosphere have certainly changed a lot in the past 35 years. The way you wrote about sponsorship by corporations like Wells Fargo and Walmart encourages me to question the ethics of corporate Pride sponsorship in a whole new way. You’ve given me a lot to think about, and as I go to San Diego Pride this year, I will certainly do so. —Michael Kimmel via Wow, I have to admit that I do see the addition of corporate America to the sponsorship of Pride as a good thing. It has kept the cost reasonable, it’s what — $15 to see all sorts of great musical acts in San Diego? Kind of like the Del Mar Fair in its appeal. We have been striving for years to be accepted by the world at large and to be recognized as an integral part of America and now that we are, you complain.

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Health care is a critical issue for LGBTQ community By Toni G. Atkins As our community prepares to celebrate LGBTQ Pride in San Diego, we reflect on equality and justice — both in terms of the civil-rights victories we have won and the battles we’re still fighting. Marriage equality becoming the law of the land two years ago was a watershed moment that we’ll celebrate long into the future, and we’re currently rallying around issues affecting transgender rights. For example, my bill Senate Bill 179, the Gender Recognition Act, will create a new, non-binary gender marker on state-issued identification documents for people who identify as neither male nor female and will also make it easier for transgender, non-binary and intersex people to obtain IDs that accurately reflect their gender. But we must also be watchful of how the largest issues facing our country affect our LGBTQ community, such as access to healthcare. The Affordable Care Act (ACA) has reduced the number of uninsured Americans by more than 20 million, either through the health care exchanges created by the ACA or through the Medicaid expansion that was made possible by the ACA. In California, roughly 5 million more people have insurance, thanks to the ACA. In San Diego County, that number is approximately 350,000. In our state, the ACA is a success story. The U.S. House of Representatives has passed a bill that would repeal the ACA and replace it with a plan, the American Health Care Act (AHCA), that the Congressional Budget Office (CBO) concluded would result in 23 million people losing


LETTERS Whether [or not] Wells Fargo chooses to support to the Pride Festival and Parade and the DAPL, [these] are actually business decisions. They also are showing support for their LGBTQ employees and potential employees. Of course they are marketing to us, they are making it clear that they value our business, they are accepting that we are part of the world and acknowledging that we are important, it is so crazy to belittle this progress. —Gina Roberts, via As a San Diegan who has helped create non-corporate alternatives to Pride Inc.

coverage by 2026. The U.S. Senate is considering a bill, the Better Care Reconciliation Act (BCRA), that the CBO says would cause 22 million people to lose access to care during the same timeframe. Clearly, the stakes are high for tens of millions of Americans, and that includes members of the LGBTQ community who stand to lose access to quality health care. According to the Center for American Progress, LGBT people are more likely than non-LGBT people to be living in poverty and to be uninsured. A recent study by The Fenway Institute concluded that the rate of uninsured LGBT people dropped from 22 percent to 11 percent between 2013 and 2015. These trends are due in large part to the expansion of Medicaid under the ACA. Under the U.S. Senate bill, Medicaid would be cut by $772 billion by 2026, a 26 percent decrease. Prior to Medicaid expansion, many people with HIV didn’t qualify for coverage until they were disabled — meaning until their condition reached AIDS. In states that expanded the program under the ACA, that barrier was removed, allowing people to receive treatment for HIV. Cutting Medicaid would undermine that progress for the LGBTQ community. So would dropping the provisions of the ACA that require insurers to cover “essential health benefits,” as is proposed in the Senate bill, and cover people with preexisting conditions. Specifically, transgender Americans have much to lose. Before the ACA, for example, being transgender was considered a preexisting condition and many health

plans refused to cover transition-related care and services. Essentially, the pre-Obama system allowed insurers to discriminate against the transgender community. The ACA changed that — one provision of the law barred discrimination on the basis of sex, which has been interpreted to include gender identity. Repealing and replacing the ACA will also greatly affect the women in our LGBTQ community. In May, the Kaiser Family Foundation published an exhaustive rundown of how women would be affected, including the impacts of cuts to Medicaid (and repeal of the requirement to provide preventative services under Medicaid, like breast- and cervical-cancer screenings and osteoporosis screenings), defunding Planned Parenthood and allowing states to waive the requirement to cover essential health benefits. Essential benefits include those that are specific to women, such as maternity and new-born care, and those that are more frequently accessed by women, like prescription drugs and mental-health services. Meanwhile, the stalled progress of national HIV/ AIDS policy in America recently caused five members of the Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS (PACHA) to resign — they realized that they could be more effective by pushing from the outside than by working within the system, which is incredibly disheartening. With access to care in such peril at the national level, I am fighting for universal healthcare in California. We will not go back. The theme of San Diego Pride this year is “Allied in Action, United in Justice.” For our community, rolling back access to healthcare is unjust, and we are committed to action. —Toni G. Atkins (D-San Diego) represents the 39th District in the California Senate and was the first lesbian and the first San Diegan elected as Speaker of the state Assembly. Follow her on Twitter @SenToniAtkins.▼

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Let’s work it Do business with Pride and get certified #LGBTB2B Michelle Burkart In my article last month (online at, you were introduced to the opportunities that have grown in the area of LGBT business enterprise (LGBTBE) certification for supplier diversity contracting. You also met some of the players like the NGLCC, CPUC, and the SBDC that are working both nationally, statewide, and locally to help LGBT business owners decide, 1) if they want to become certified; 2) how to get certified, and 3) how to be successful ongoing. The process of becoming certified can be a confusing one especially for the sole proprietor, or smaller business owner. However, the rewards can provide new avenues of revenue producing opportunities for business growth. Supplier diversity is a term that is used in the procurement field, whereby companies or government agencies have a mandated spending target within their budgets to procure vendor services from minority and/or disadvantaged small businesses. It is a way to level the playing field so that procurement contracts do not just go to the larger company suppliers. Some of the designations of minority or disadvantaged businesses are (ownership must be 51 percent) women owned, veteran owned, service-disabled veteran owned, minority owned (Hispanic, African-American, or Asian), and now LGBT owned. And LGBT is also a part of all those other minority designations as well. There are rigorous requirements for certification so that the companies or government agencies involved in the procurement process can be assured that they are working with credible and reliable vendors who can support the contract’s execution. The most common responses I hear from LGBT business owners is that “I’m too small to compete for government contracts,” or ” I’m a one-person show, so I don’t have time to do the certification process.” I usually remind them that any new target market takes effort to get the selling process started, and this is just another avenue of opportunity, as well as an actual credential that will help promote your business. I also let them know that the LGBTBE program is geared

COMMUNITY VOICES more toward corporate supplier diversity contracting, which is more accessible than government agencies. So how to begin? First you need to decide and commit that you want to explore the opportunities of the supplier diversity contracting world that are now available for LGBTBE businesses. If you do, it is approached just like any new additional revenue-generating market direction that you move your business into. In this case, follow these steps. 1. Get your business LGBTBE certified The first step is to get certified as an LGBT business enterprise, which has the following criteria: ● Majority (at least 51 percent) owned, operated, managed and controlled by an LGBT person or persons who are either U.S. citizens or lawful permanent residents. ● Exercises independence from any non-LGBT business enterprise. ● Has its principal place of business (headquarters) in the United States. ● Has been formed as a legal entity in the U.S. Then you need to decide if you want to get certified on a national level, which is exclusively done through the National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) and has about 150 corporate supplier diversity partners Note: Our local GSDBA is an NGLCC affiliate. In California, we have another option through the California Public Utilities Commission (CPUC). This avenue is restricted to the contracts of the CPUC and its 60 affiliates, which can be found here The NGLCC certification is recognized by the CPUC, but you still need to register on the CPUC clearinghouse portal. While the CPUC is not recognized nationally, you may decide your business is more local-oriented and to start on a smaller scale at first. 2. Develop a capability statement to market your services. After you get certified, the next step is to develop a onepage (no more than two) capability statement, which tells your supplier diversity contracting target three things: who you are; why a buyer should contract with your company; and what you have done. In the world of contracting, the capability statement is a buyer’s first introduction to your company. It should be concise, visually appealing to your targeted audience, and give them the facts ma’am, just the facts. Before putting this together, you will need to have a DUNS number (visit, which is a unique, nine-digit number used to identify your business in

the global marketplace. This is free for those using it for government contracting. You will also need a NAICS code, which is a number assigned to the type of product or services you provide. You can find this on the Small Business Association’s website 3. Attend the free training offered Lots of free, local training classes and support are available to help in the areas of certification, marketing/solicitation, contract accounting and customer relationship management. The local SBDC Regional Network provides training to help you execute your new certification ( and has a dedicated program for LGBTBE certification. The next class at the Small Business Development Center is called, “Let’s Work It!” on July 27, which will introduce you to the different certification models. Visit 4. Attend networking and matchmaking events and join local business alliance groups The last step towards success is to network in the world of supplier diversity procurement or government contracting. Just as you networked with other businesses when you started your own business, it is important that you also attend supplier diversity and business matchmaking events and join local business organizations so you can present your marketable services to a broader audience. The Council on Supplier Diversity and the Supplier

Diversity Development Council are learning about the new LGBTBE certification mandates and are open to working with our community. There is also an LGBT Diversity Supplier Alliance Group on Facebook for networking with other LGBT certified businesses. I recently spoke with an LGBT colleague at the SBA office in Washington, D.C. to ask if our LGBTBE program was still viable on the national level with the new administration. He assured me that the new SBA Administrator is very supportive of our LGBTBE community and she celebrated their annual LGBT employees Pride day last month. The opportunities for us as LGBTBE certified businesses are here to stay. Our local SBA district office and San Diego and Imperial County Regional SBDC Network is providing a Pride booth again at the festival this year, and have committed funding to help with the LGBTBE certification program and trainings. So now it is up to us. We need to take the LGBTBE mantle and do biz with Pride … get certified. —Michelle Burkart is the SDIV SBDC network program coordinator for the LGBTBE certification program, and co-founder of the Diversity Supplier Alliance. She can be reached at mburkart@swccd. org. For more information on the SDIV LGBTBE programs, visit▼

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ARCHIVES of 8,000. Thousands of people then marched from Balboa Park to Downtown and placed the crosses on the steps of City Hall. A list of demands calling for funding and anti-discrimination ordinances was slipped under the door. Facing a threat dismissed by the government, the community came together to mourn those lost and demand action toward a solution. The rally continues to be a politically charged space asserting calls to action and mobilizing around the most vulnerable in our community. We look forward to seeing you at the Spirit of Stonewall rally this year when it returns to the Pride Flag in Hillcrest. Lambda Archives and San Diego State University are excited to showcase materials from our collaborative project at the Lambda Archives booth at the Pride festival on July 15 and 16. This article was authored by Angela M. Risi, an archival processing assistant and researcher at San Diego State. —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at▼



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STRONGER equality and to be treated with dignity, justice, and offered the same opportunities.” The Mexico City native recently unveiled just how good of an artist he really is — after putting into play his vision for a print ad series meant to promote upcoming Pride-related events at the bar he manages. His concept for the shoot was simple but extremely relevant. “Since Pride was coming and the theme of Pride is ‘Allied in Action: United for Justice,’ my first thought was having my bar staff holding hands and paint their hands with different colors, to recreate the colors of the rainbow,” Bahena said. “Imagining as we were marching together, holding hands, creating a shield, making us stronger, indivisible.” While sticking with his original artistic vision, Bahena decided instead of using his staff, he’d feature his friends Ben Cartwright and Rick Cervantes as the models for the ad. He said he chose the two local LGBT activists because aside from being well known throughout the local community, the two men also host a Pride kick-off happy hour event for “Pride-related industry folks” on #1’s back patio each year and Bahena wanted to help promote that event as well. They met up on the back patio, and he painted their hands in a layered rainbow prior to the photo shoot. “When Rikke first discussed the concept with us, I was excited because it was the first time we really were going to do a big promotion for our annual event,” Cervantes said. “I have been always appreciative of arts, but the most important thing is what is involved to create what we call an art piece — which could be a dance, a paint, a song, a picture — it has been always something that amazes me the most; the process of creation. The feelings involved, the perspective of the artist, the way they perceive beauty, the way they want you to perceive what they see, through their eyes, through their heart.” After the shoot, when Bahena began editing his photos, he said he recognized the powerful message his images conveyed, but he remained focused at the task at hand: Producing the best photo he could for his fullpage print ad. He forwarded

After the response, Bahena took more Together Strong photos (top) Jorge Montero; (middle, l to r) Fete, Kevin, Steve and Larry; (bottom, l to r) Paco, Fariba, Alejandra and Mar (Photos by Ricardo Bahena) a few of the finished products to Cartwright and Cervantes, and they both immediately posted the images on social media. “Once I actually saw the photo, I knew it was something special,” Cervantes said. “It was really awesome that so many people were excited about our photo and wanted to


around town at the upcoming Pride pool parties … and that’s awfully small indeed!

I encourage you to give Ms. Lamott’s idea a try and see if you don’t feel better about your body. Summer body shame needn’t be a big deal: instead, let it be as small as those bikinis or speedos that you see on those perfect, young gods and goddesses

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take one of their own. It really wakes you up to the idea that the beauty of art can really move people and help create a movement.” “It got amazing response,” Bahena said. People were floored by the temperance of the black-andwhite image of his subjects contrasted with the vivid rainbow-colored hands squarely in the middle of the frame. Requests for similar photos by others began to flood in, which Cartwright and Cervantes forwarded to Bahena. “The ball kept growing, now we keep adding new days for all the people that want their hand painted and their pictures taken,” Bahena said. “People are getting very involved, no matter what age, gender, sexual orientation or any other labels; it is for everyone and people are actually traveling from different parts of the country to participate

in Pride and also want to get the momentum its popularity their picture taken. The rehas seen in recent weeks, for sponse has been overwhelmmonths and even years to come. ing and it makes me very “I love how our community is grateful and humble.” so full of such creative, innovaThe response became so tive people,” Cartwright said. great that Bahena decided “So many exciting LGBTQ to create a Facebook page to movements and projects come manage the interest. While from this local community he initially began to make that we are lucky to be part of. one-on-one appointments, While we love going out and scheduling quickly became a supporting our local bars, it’s challenge. So, following the so great when a project like lead of the “NOH8 Campaign,” this is born out of a bar that Bahena decided to bring his can make a real impact and equipment, paint and photo give back to the community. subjects all to one place at I’m grateful to Rikke for inone time. cluding us in this project and Pre-Pride photo shoots are so happy he’s opened it up to now scheduled for Saturday, anyone who wants to particiJuly 7, and Sunday, July 8, pate in it.” from noon–5 p.m. at the San Join the movement by likDiego LGBT Community ing his Facebook page at bit. Center. Photos cost $40 per ly/2unjtim and details for person and half of the money upcoming photo shoots can be goes to The Center. found on this page. He has named his new project “Together Strong” and —Morgan M. Hurley can be hopes to continue to build on reached at▼


‘I walk’ Fitness Together Blake and Gwen Beckcom Often when conversing with someone, the small talk generally leads to “What do you do for a living?” I always find that to be an interesting topic due to the myriad and variety of occupations and careers that abound in our society and I am generally all ears. When it comes time for me to end questioning and begin clarifying what we do as fitness professionals, invariably one of the questions that comes up is, “Are you exercising?” Nine out of 10 times the answer is, “Well, I walk.” Now let’s think this through. As a form of exercise, walking is better than doing nothing, but how long have you known how to walk? That’s right. You learned that skill back when you were a wee lad or lassie at the ripe old age of about 2. Walking feels

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and who will follow. Hence at the end of our dog walks, we are sweaty and a tad out of breath; a much higher benefit to the “I walk” scenario. I feel the need … for speed. Look at it like this. Let’s say you are heading to a meeting at work and let’s say 300 people will be there. Let’s also say if you are late to the meeting, you have to stand up at the podium and sing for the group, as penance for being late. How fast would you walk to avoid that? Some of you may be able to sing and that’s no big deal, but for the rest of us, we would flat out run to avoid this. The key is your walk pace. Walk as if you are late to a meeting and when you open the door to the meeting all eyes will divert to your entranced to that meeting … LATE! Now you are walking with pace, purpose and intention, and you will have far better results health-wise, than you will just “walking.” It has been said that those that work out to their own tune — that is, ear buds and personal music choice — have greater workout intensity and greater focus. I can say that from my

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effortless and is thoughtless in that you look to where you want to walk and off you walk with ease. Perhaps not at 2 years of age, but as you perfected the movement, you mastered it and no longer require conscious thought to execute steps. So when folks say to fitness pros: “I walk,” we have to then dig in to the “how.” If you are on a leisurely pace, talk-ably filling in a walking partner or getting filled in on the latest gossip, your walking pace is too slow to give you any real aerobic benefit. But, still better than sitting on the couch. If you can talk, you are not moving fast enough. If you are walking solo with your dog(s) and they tend to smell everything and cannot stay on task, chances are you are walking too slowly to have an aerobic impact, but still this is better than doing nothing. We have four little Chihuahuas that are a handful, but amazingly their little legs, courageous spirits, and bossy and demanding personalities have them out front towing the line as to who will lead our pack

personal experience, this is hands-down the truth. Pop in your ear buds and jam to your favorites, picking up your walk pace to make the time you are investing more meaningful. Choose different routes: go up hill, downhill, walk a piece of it backwards, skip, bring the dog, leave the dog, and always be “late to a meeting” in thought. Make your walking varietal so it won’t get boring and or your body unable to adapt to it. You have to keep your body guessing to make it adapt to improvement. “I walk” generally won’t get it … but again, “I walk” is better than doing nothing. —Fitness Together Mission Hills offers personal training with qualified professionals by regular appointment in private suites. Exercise and nutritional programs are custom designed to fit your needs and abilities. Call 619-794-0014 for more information or to schedule a free fitness diagnostic and private training session. See what others are saying about us on Yelp.▼

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and exploring this industry in whatever capacity — any form of art, really — there’s an openness and it’s a really wonderful and incredibly rewarding industry to work in. (CA) Plus, you’re British. (SC) [Laughs] It does really upset me that people aren’t open-minded. People are still hung up on such a traditional old-world life and people should be allowed to love who they want and be who they want and speak what they want and believe in what they want. I think it’s a shame that people are so narrow-minded that they believe their way is the only way. It’s sickening, in all honesty.

(Chris Azzopardi | CA)I love seeing a woman in power, but, man, you really get jerked around in “My Cousin Rachel.” (Sam Claflin | SC) [Laughs] Haven’t we all been there? Haven’t we all been in love and kind of swept off, though usually warned by friends? But of course, Philip is a bit of a loner and left to his own devices, really. Love is blind, and it makes you do crazy things. [Laughs] (CA) Growing up, what was your introduction to the gay community? (SC) I got involved in musical theater at a young age, so that was an immediate part of my life. I mean, the second you kind of step onto the stage and embrace the arts, it becomes a part of you. And the second you open yourself up to becoming an actor and performing

(CA) I don’t believe you have played a gay role and I’m gonna let you give me one good reason why that hasn’t happened. (SC) [Laughs] I actually got offered the role of a gay man in a TV series! But I didn’t think it was well enough written. I have auditioned for gay parts and not got them and

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desperately wanted them. It’s nothing I’m shying away from. It’s something I fully embrace. And, actually, I have done it in plays during drama school, but it just hasn’t worked yet for me. But I’d jump at the chance. I’d be happy to do anything that was sort of good enough for me to kind of get my feet stuck in, like a meaty role, or an opportunity to work with a great director no matter what the story and no matter what the character. (CA) How aware are you of your LGBT fanbase? (SC) In all honesty, I kind of don’t know [laughs]. What I mean is, any fans, really, I’m just — it’s always a surprise that someone from whatever country or walk of life [is a fan] and it just sort of amazes me that people travel so far and spend so much time waiting. It’s very humbling. It’s something that you can never really get used to. I think you’d be not a nice person if you got used to it. It’s a consistent shock and one that I try to embrace as best I can. I’m always so grateful that people are interested and do go out of their way to watch my movies and follow my social media. I feel very grateful and lucky and thankful. (CA) Recently, you acknowledged being body-shamed on movie sets, and I’m glad you spoke out against the issue as it relates to male actors in Hollywood. There are many men in the LGBT community who deal with body-related issues. (SC) You know, I’m like any human being on this planet; I have my insecurities. And it fascinates me that bringing it up in an interview resonated with so many people, only because people seem surprised by the fact that happened. I’m like, are you kidding me? It’s been happening for decades and decades and decades. It’s just not talked about as much. It’s amazing that it has resonated and hit home for so many people. That is, unfortunately, the harsh reality of the world that we live in. We sort of live our lives through Instagram and Twitter and these filters, and we give people an insight into our lives, but we’re so, so picky about what it is that we share. It’s so kind of manipulative and it’s warped our reality. In actuality, how many people are Hollywood-ready 24/7? I think for me as a father and as a friend and as a son and as a husband, I wanna be around my loved ones — I don’t wanna

be spending every day under the sun working out. (CA) Actress Niecy Nash recently told The Cut, “Hollywood is a business that will often require you to be something else. But at some point you have to say, ‘I’m going to be 100 percent who I am and be OK with that.’” Does that resonate with you? When was the point in your career you decided to be your authentic self? (SC) Don’t get me wrong:

(CA) Till then, we’ll always have you giving Josh Hutcherson CPR in “The Hunger Games: Catching Fire.” In fact, you had a real bromance there for a while and you even said during an interview, “My mouth touching his was a beautiful moment.” When can we expect you to rekindle that fire? (SC) You know, Josh is honestly one of my favorite people in the world. In all honesty, every time I go to Los Angeles — and I’ve only been there once since we finished “Hunger Games,” if you can believe it — I always hope that I can actually hang with him and I’m sure if he’s in London he knows he could give me a call. But yeah, hopefully something can be rekindled — that’s the hope. He’s one of my favorites. (CA) “Hunger Games” fans have some of the wildest imaginations — and some pretty fantastic gay ideas for you, Josh and Liam Hemsworth. What

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I wholly agree with what she said. But at the same time, also, one of the reasons I got into acting was because of my insecurities, I suppose. I enjoy hiding behind different characters. My social media feed doesn’t really reflect exactly what I’m doing. I am active on social media, but it’s not quite my life. That, to me, is private. And when I work I love exploring and having those other characters be another side of me and sharing them with the world. In truth, I partly enjoy physically transforming myself for roles. Someone whose career I admire is Christian Bale; he mentally and emotionally goes to a different place every time and he physically transforms himself and that’s always quite admirable. At the same time, to stand out from the crowd, and in order to put your stamp on your work, to have that confidence in yourself somewhat, you have to believe in yourself that you can do it. I still feel like I’m finding my own feet and every day I’m learning something new. There will definitely come a time when I’m 100 percent confident in myself, I hope. But I’m not quite there yet. As an actor, you kind of constantly panic about what people think and we strive

are your thoughts on the gay fan fiction that’s been written about you three? (SC) Fan fiction is one of those things I wish I knew more about. Someone was telling me that “Fifty Shades of Grey” was based on “Twilight” fan fiction. I didn’t realize there was an underworld with these kind of amazingly imaginative ideas. I had no idea! But I love Liam as much as I love — in fact, I love Chris Hemsworth. I love the entire Hemsworth family. I say we get all of us involved and we do a “Fifty Shades of Grey.” We can make it reality. (CA) In “Me Before You,” there’s a recurrent joke regarding French gay porn. Please tell me that was based on an anecdote from your own life. (SC) [Laughs] I can’t say I’ve watched — any — French porn, actually. No,French porn is not something that I’ve seen before. However, now I’m intrigued! —Chris Azzopardi is editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter, @chrisazzopardi.▼

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PRIDE BEER Pride week, and there is another change this year, one that may take some by surprise: Hillcrest Brewing Company now has a liquor license. Yes, you read that right. This isn’t the rice wine “vodka” they had before, this is the real thing and their new “craft cocktail menu” includes various libations made with tequila, vodka and bourbon. Why add alcohol to a brewery? you might ask. The first reason given by Joey Arruda, general manager and part owner of HBC, was fate. “There was a lottery going around and we decided to throw our hat into the lottery,” he said. “They donಬt come around very often; the last one was five years ago. There were 25 licenses available from the county and you never know, so we threw our name in the hat and we ended up winning.” The license will also help with the new business that hasnಬt gotten much press as of yet, but which will be opening in the bottom floor of the new development being built a block away, at the corner of Centre Street and University Avenue. But the most important reason Arruda gave for adding liquor to his brewery, was basically, that it’s good for business. “There were a lot of people requesting it and a lot of other people said, ಫI donಬt go there because I donಬt drink beer,ಬರKHH[ SODLQHG“[Beer drinkers] would tell me their friends ‘wonಬt come in with usಬor ಫtheyಬll only come in once in a while,ಬand Iಬd say, ಫTell them that our pizza and wings are awesome.’” While Arruda — who has been with MO’s Universe for 13 years — decided the time had come to make such a change, he made sure a lot of thought went into just how they would go about it; because he wanted to stay with the overall theme of the brewery. ಯWe donಬt want to lose who we are. Thatಬs why we donಬt have a lot of liquor here and you donಬt see name brands,ರ he said. “We will have craft cocktails, in keeping with the theme. Consider it an added bonus. We do need to be able to compete in the neighborhood with the things that are coming up around us and stay alive.ರ In order to accommodate the liquor license, they were forced to separate the brewing area and any future tasting room from the restaurant and stop selling “on premise.” Their distribution will remain up and running, but no more growlers or bottles, at least for the time being.

ಯOnce we figure out the logistics, we can do something like, say, during Farmers Market, you can come fill up your growler,ರhe said. Also in keeping with theme, the new liquor is also out of small-batch distilleries, with two of them out of San Diego, Cutwater and Malahat. The new cocktail menu, which was released June 23, has some interesting combinations, the result of many hours of taste tests, Arruda said, and some cocktails were influenced by HBC guests. ಯSince the time I started at Baja Bettyಬs and then came over here, the whole game of being a bartender has really changed,ರhe said. “Now everything is going to craft and we fit into that niche. People like to come and hang out on our patio and people watch. Itಬs such a big open patio and you get more of a neighborhood feel. So far, the feedback has been positive, he said, and they are looking forward to Pride weekend.

Capt. Joel Roos, commanding officer, Naval Medical Center San Diego (NMCSD), gives his remarks during a Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual and Transgender (LGBT) Pride Month celebration on June 28. NMCSD held the ceremony in observance of the DoD LGBT Pride Month. (U.S. Navy photo by MS3 Class Cameron Pinske)

HBC’s 2017 Pride Beer

The Pride beer for 2017 is going to be a lime kolsch. “We used to have a kolsch on tap, our Beer Head Blonde,” said Austin Copeland, head brewmaster at HBC. “It is nice and light, a perfect summer beer with a hybrid lager ale strain of yeast. We havenಬt had the Kolsch on tap for a while so we wanted to bring it back for Pride.” The lime kolsch is what they call a “temporary one-off,” but Copeland said it should be available at all MO’s Universe properties through July. “Depending how popular it is and how fast it sells,” he said. “I was kinda stoked when we were able to come up with it,” said Shaver, HBC’s assistant brewmaster. “I was thinking what would pair well with a tequila, as a chaser, or to go from a margarita to beer.” “The blood orange went over well last year so we decided to do something fruity again this year,” Copeland added. “It will make it nice when people are sitting out in the sun, watching the parade, something nice and light for the summer, very refreshing.” Management expects that this year’s Pride beer to be released just in time for you to enjoy as you get fired up for the Spirit of Stonewall Rally and the Pride of Hillcrest Block Party, both taking place just steps from their door, on Friday, July 15. Check out more at



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What is TRUVADA for PrEP? TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) is a prescription medicine that is used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.

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Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ‹ You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 WPNGUU[QWCTGEQPƒTOGFVQDG*+8PGICVKXG ‹ Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: ‹ You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. ‹ You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. ‹ To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: • Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. • Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. ‹ If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ‹ Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not

approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV and stop taking TRUVADA, your HBV may suddenly get worse. Do not stop taking TRUVADA YKVJQWVĆ’TUVVCNMKPIVQ[QWTJGCNVJECTGRTQXKFGTCUVJG[YKNNPGGFVQ monitor your health.

|Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP? Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: ‹ Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. ‹ Also take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.

|What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: ‹ Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA. ‹ Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. ‹ Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored� urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. ‹ Bone problems, including bone pain, softening, or thinning, which may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomacharea (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.

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if you have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. ‹ If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA. ‹ If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ‹ All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. ‹ If you take certain other medicinesǥYKVJ6478#&#[QWTJGCNVJECTG provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include certain medicines to treat hepatitis C (HCV) infection. You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit, or call 1-800-FDA-1088.

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TRUVADA for PrEP™ ? The once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when used with safer sex practices. • TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. • You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.




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IMPORTANT FACTS This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEPTM (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.



Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP:

• Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP” section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. • Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. • Bone problems.

• You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How To Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months.

TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including:

Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.

BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. If you become HIV-positive, HIV can pass to the baby in breast milk. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take:

ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. • To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.

HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • Use TRUVADA for PrEP together with condoms and safer sex practices. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months. You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP.

• Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.

HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV status and the HIV status of your partners. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior, such as having fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.

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PULSE DJ Although he eventually made it to safety and was not injured, Rivera suffered tremendous loss as a result of the shooting. He lost friends — whose images from earlier that night remained on his cell phone — and he developed post traumatic stress disorder, causing him to seek therapy for months afterward. In addition, his DJ equipment was damaged during the aftermath and investigation, and Pulse was shut down, leaving him without his livelihood. The Orlando father wondered how he would feed his family. “It was shocking that it happened there,� he recalled. “The next day it was a realization like, ‘Wow, this just happened here where I’m working.’� Born in the Bronx, Rivera later lived in Staten Island but has resided in Orlando for the last 36 years. He began DJing as a hobby in 1989 after being inspired by a DJ Jazzy Jeff and Fresh Prince concert. “Watching them made me want to do more,� Rivera said. “It started off as a hobby for about eight or nine years, then I got my fi rst break at Club Firestone [in Orlando].� Spinning records eventually became Rivera’s full-time profession, and prior to the horrific attack, he had been DJing at Pulse Nightclub on and off for about four years, typically playing music on

their popular patio. He said the nightclub had a “great atmosphere� and crowd, and he generally played them a little bit of everything. “When I first came [to Pulse], the music that I spin was a change for that scene,� said Rivera, who is a straight ally of the LGBTQ community. “They were used to high energy music but all the feedback I got was that everyone was so happy because we switched it up.� A few days after the tragedy, Rivera met Jody Taylor, a publicist who owns San Diego-based Sixty 5 Media — a public relations and tenant management company with a client list that includes Danielle Lo Presti, Alicia Champion and DJ Artform. After attending a vigil for the Pulse victims in Hillcrest the Monday after the shooting, Taylor was inspired to help. After the vigil, DJ Art Form asked Taylor if she had heard anything about the DJ playing at Pulse the night of the massacre. Searching on Facebook, Taylor found Rivera, and sent him images and articles from the Hillcrest vigil honoring victims. She assured Rivera that the LGBTQ community and allies in San Diego were standing by him and said she would be willing to represent him for free. “Here was this poor guy who was broken but trying to put up this typical [tough] guy front,� Taylor said. “He was so soft-spoken but didn’t know how he was going to move forward.� While Rivera told her he didn’t want to profit off of

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Ray Rivera "DJ Infinite" shown here playing at Gay Days in Orlando, will perform at San Diego Pride July 15. (Courtesy Ray Rivera) tragedy, he accepted her offer to represent him free of charge. He and several other Pulse DJs were struggling and having that extra help made a difference. “I thought this was the very least thing I could do is help this one person get through this,� Taylor said. Taylor was also successful in getting others to help Rivera in the wake of the tragedy, by donating services like photography and equipment. Rivera has since performed at several Pulse-anniversary events as well as a Pride event

in Orlando and will perform at San Diego Pride next weekend. Taylor and Rivera are now also working on viewing future events to advocate against gun violence. “He’s taught me a lot about humility,â€? Taylor said. “[Representing him] has been a really rewarding and sad and hopeful mix of emotions ‌ if someone like Ray can continue to play music even though he almost lost his life doing it, this is the absolute least I can do. He’s a straight ally, married with kids, but he’s been so phenomenal in standing

up and dealing with what he dealt with personally and being there for gay and lesbian people.â€? Since the attack, Rivera said he’s made a point to spend more time with loved ones. “The biggest thing I’ve changed about myself is I don’t take anything for granted,â€? he said. “Before I was so swept up with work and DJing and now I make time for myself and my family. You’re not promised tomorrow.â€? Rivera, known as “DJ Infinite,â€? will play his first San Diego Pride event on Saturday, July 15, at 7 p.m. on The Movement Hip-Hop Stage inside the San Diego Pride Music Festival, held at Marston Point in Balboa Park. Check Gay San Diego’s special Pride Guide supplement, or visit for more details. “The power of music is a way for anyone who is LGBT to voice what they are going through, it’s a powerful thing,â€? Taylor said. “Ray wanted to honor the 49 angels killed that night by going as many places as he could for Pride celebrations specifically, to honor them and continue to get the 49 angels dancing.â€? For more information about DJ Infinite, you can follow up on social media @ DJInfinite407 or check out his San Diego Pride bio at tinyurl. com/ycuyzldw. —Jess Winans is an intern at San Diego Community News Network. You can reach her atâ–ź


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Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. Their goal was to take the mystery out of meat by showing consumers how regionally sourced free-range livestock is broken down for consumption, with few parts excluded. After generating revenues through crowdsourcing, Trey Nichols and James Holtslag opened their dream business, an educational butchery named The Heart & Trotter in North Park. They also sell sandwiches, which is an underplayed perk for visitors perusing deli cases fi lled with everything from lamb spare ribs and coveted cuts of beef coulotte, to strip steaks, bone-in rib eye, poultry, pork and more. Some of the beef is 100 percent grass-fed. Otherwise it’s grass-fed and grain-fi nished. That meat, along with all others they carry, is free of hormones and antibiotics. There are also house-made sausages and cold cuts, the latter of which get stuffed into hoagie rolls for a memorable Italian sandwich using salami, pepperoni and pistachio-speckled mortadella. Lacking the junky fi llers and preservatives of commercial cold cuts, these offer the flavors of pure meat and various spices that we detected right off the bat.

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Hubby and I grabbed the only two counter stools inside the gleaming, white shop, to also sink our fangs into a grassfed burger and a cheesesteak sandwich using grain-fi nished rib eye. In the absence of butchery classes taking place during our visit (their monthly schedules are posted on their website), the scent of raw and cured meats hung heavy nonetheless. We didn’t mind, although should the fleshy smell become an appetite killer, the patio seats about 10 customers. The noticeable gaminess of grass-fed burgers was camouflaged to my liking in this one due to its airy brioche bun and luscious condiments: bacon

jam and garlic aioli. Bedded on a layer of fresh arugula and capped d white with melted cheddar, it fell to the squarely into category of musthave burgers. The other burger offering is a “classic� garnished with lettuce, tomatoes, onions, pickles and American cheese. A focaccia roll was used for the cheesesteak, which misses the mark only if you’re expecting it to taste Phillystyle. The freshness of the




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chipped meat is what alters the fl avor as it dominates the customary grilled onions and Provolone cheese also tucked inside. It’s seriously beefy compared to any cheesesteaks I’ve had locally or back East. We ordered a couple of house-made pickle spears to accompany our sandwich feast. Bravo! They were exceptionally sweet, tangy and spicy at the same time. And they’re the only sidekick available in lieu of potato, macaroni or green salads.

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Chef Frankie Terzoli is opening a seafood restaurant in a wine bar near Downtown. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Restaurateur Frankie Terzoli, a former contestant of Bravo’s “Top Chef” (season two) who once ran the long-shuttered Big Easy in Hillcrest, will open a seafood-centric restaurant within 57 Degrees wine and craftbeer bar by mid-fall. Tentatively named Fish Mongers Market, the venture will occupy a front section and back patio of the sprawling structure and serve lunch and dinner. Terzoli also plans on utilizing an existing deli area inside the bar for selling grab-and-go chowders and vacuumed-packed meals. According to 57 Degrees owner, Russ Kindom, the leased venture could potentially softopen in late August with the introduction of seafood cocktails and raw-bar items. In the meantime, Kindom is using the opportunity to refresh 57’s main space. He’ll start repurposing some of his vast retail area by holding a sale of more than 500 bottles of wine on July 14, from 6 to 8 p.m. The sale coincides with a tasting of four select wines originating from France, Spain, Italy and Napa Valley. The cost for the tasting is $25 and $15 for wine locker holders. 1735 Hancock St., 619-2345757,

Fools and Kings opens in Mission Hills (Facebook) Chef Christian Gomez of Wetstone Wine Bar & Café in Bankers Hill opened Fools and Kings in Mission Hills on July 7 with a globally inspired menu of tapas and share plates. Based on his travels over the years to South America, Asia, Europe and the Middle East, some of the items include sumac-braised lamb shoulder, filet mignon skewers, ahi tuna carpaccio and more. The menu is complemented by fine wines, house-made sangria and craft beer. The international theme is reflected also in the restaurant’s design, which shows off three murals painted by local artist Josh Hunter, plus intricate metal doors, Old World chandeliers and tropical greenery. 4015 Goldfinch St., 619-578-2542, Looking for brunch with a solid French twist? The ultra-cozy La Bonne Table in Hillcrest, lauded over the past few years for its rustic suppers, has introduced brunch from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. on Sundays. The menu features $6 bloody marys as well as sweet or savory crepes, steak burgers with Morbier cheese, omelets with goat cheese, and a classic croque Madame sandwich. In celebration of San Diego LGBT Pride, the restaurant will also offer brunch service on Saturday, July 15. 3696 Fifth Ave., 619-260-8039.

The new Hundred Proof in Hillcrest serves unique libations and hearty bar food. (Courtesy Hundred Proof) Slushy cocktails, boozy milkshakes garnished with housebaked doughnuts, and liquor shots paired to beer (boilermakers) rule the day at Hundred Proof, a new establishment in University Heights that recently opened in the building that housed S&M Sausage and Meat. The project was launched by team members of nearby Trust Restaurant. They include bar manager Juan Sanchez and executive chef Brad Wise, who is overseeing a menu of “uncomplicated bar food we all like to eat on our days off.” Among his initial dishes are duck confit poutine, crispy chicken oysters, baked crab dip, pork meatballs, pizzas and more. With indoor-outdoor seating, the spacious layout features pub tables and plush booths amid a mix of raw woods and rabbit-print wallpaper. 4130 Park Blvd., 619-501-6404, —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at▼


a gathering of gay and lesbian theatre lovers.

An evening for gay and lesbian theatre lovers and the whole LGBT community. This event includes three drinks from the wine and martini bar, delicious appetizers, and a pre-show mixer. Everyone is welcome. Just $24 per person in addition to your theatre ticket. Call to RSVP at (619) 23-GLOBE or purchase at

Sponsored by Pardon My French Bar & Kitchen and Urban Solace.

La Bonne Table’s new brunch features $6 bloody marys. (Photo by Morgan Hurley)

Thursday, July 20 at 6:30 p.m. Show Starts at 8:00 p.m. In the Craig Noel Garden, just steps away from your theatre seats!

Matcha finds its way into soft serve (Photo by Stacy Keck)

“Hunky Dory” toast with goat cheese, zucchini and turkey at Moniker General in Liberty Station (Courtesy Moniker General)

Just in time for the summer heat, Holy Matcha in North Park has introduced matcha horchata soft-serve ice cream as well as plain vanilla. The dairyfree soft serve is made with organic coconut milk and takes on a dose of caffeine with mixed with the trendy green tea (matcha). Owner Geraldine Ridaura plans on rolling out other flavors in the coming months. 3118 University Ave.,

Moniker General in Liberty Station — a retail shop, coffee bar and furniture showroom — has carved out space for an intimate cocktail hangout called The Bar, which is due to open in late July. It will capture the era of the 1950s through glassware and various décor while offering everything from slushy rose wine and beers by the bottle to sparkling wines, assorted varietals and mocktails, all of which can be enjoyed also on Moniker’s new outdoor patio. In addition, the store recently introduced an all-day toast menu featuring thick slices of multi-grain bread topped with sweet or savory ingredients from local purveyors and vendors of the Liberty Public Farmers Market. 2860 Sims Road, 619-255-8772,

A Musical Fable of Broadway Based on a Story and Characters of Damon Runyon Music and Lyrics by Frank Loesser Book by Jo Swerling and Abe Burrows Directed and Choreographed by Josh Rhodes In Association with Asolo Repertory Theatre

Now Playing! Limited engagement through August 13 (619) 23-GLOBE (234-5623) eO dG obe o Top: Photos by Bob Ross. Above: The cast of Guys and Dolls. Photo by Cliff Roles, courtesy of Asolo Repertory Theatre.


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Friday, July 7 SDSU annual Pride flag raising

Join San Diego State’s Pride Center for its 10th annual rainbow flag raising ceremony, to help them raise visibility on campus and celebrate their Pride. 12–1 p.m. Conrad Prebys Aztec Student Union courtyard, San Diego State, 5141 Campanile Drive, San Diego. Visit bit. ly/2tNgXFh.

Impride — LGBT improv comedy festival

Finest City Improv, in partnership with San Diego Pride, presents the inaugural LGBT Pride Improv Festival, which benefits Pride’s LGBT youth arts program. Two full days (continues Saturday, July 8) of LGBTrelated improv comedy teams, featured shows, workshops and an all-star lip sync battle. Finest City Improv offers a welcoming and safe environment for the LGBT community. Improv teams from all over the nation will be on hand. Tickets for each block are $20 ($15 goes directly to San Diego Pride Charity LGBT youth programs). 7–11:30 p.m. Finest City Improv, 4250 Louisiana St., North Park. For the full schedule, visit bit. ly/2smU7zO.

Saturday, July 8 SheFest

SheFest is a woman-centered event that celebrates and supports the talents and contributions of women while fostering meaningful connections within the LGBT and larger San Diego community, using our diversity to create strength. Make it a picnic, bring a yoga mat, bring a blanket, bring the family and your furry friends, and stay all day. Playground onsite, youth zone for older kids. Opportunity drawings, including an Olivia vacation. Live entertainment from the SheFest stage all afternoon, including

performances by Ingenue, an indie-rock band; Anita D., a spoken word artist; Avalon Young; by Workshops from noon–3:45 p.m., with topics on wellness and self-care; body alignment and movement; bike repair; yoga; therapeutic massage and stretching exercises; laws affecting LGBT community; and healthy and inclusive activism. Other activities include Humane Society mobile adoption services, various lawn games, giant Jenga, corn hole, Hula Hoop, Frisbee and more. Wheelchair and ASL interpreter accessible. 11 a.m.–5 p.m. North Park Community Park, 4044 Idaho St. Visit bit. ly/2tmgNEm.

Art Reception: ‘Person, Place or Thing’ Visual artist Patric Stillman’s first solo show in years features new works that are a “visual exploration of gay identity using the visual iconography of film noir.” 6–9 p.m. The Studio Door, 3750 30th St., North Park. For more details and Stillman’s complete artist statement on the exhibition, visit

Monday, July 10 Benny and Rick’s fourth annual Pride kickoff happy hour

Join Ben Cartwright and Rick Cervantes for an industry-style happy hour celebration to kick off San Diego Pride. For the fourth year in a row, Rick and Ben want the members of all those community organizations and the Pride volunteers and staff that “work extra hard” to make all the Pride celebrations happen for the rest of us, to have a night of their own. They describe it as just a “casual time for all of us to get together and celebrate with each other before things get too busy.” 6–9 p.m. #1 Fifth Ave., back patio, 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2ujAwkH.

Thursday, July 13 #PrideBiz Pride Business Mixer

LGBT people of faith and affirming communities, as well as the origins of San Diego Pride in 1974. Those to be honored at the event: The Rev. Troy Perry, founder of Metropolitan Community Church (MCC); Father Don Greene of Dignity; and Nicole Murray Ramirez, Queen Mother of the Imperial Court de San Diego and a local LGBT activist. 7–8 p.m. St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral, 2728 Sixth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

Tuesday, July 11 Cause and effect: burritos for Pride

Make eating a selfless act by joining Chipotle for a fundraiser to support San Diego LGBT Pride. Visit any San Diego Chipotle on Tuesday, July 11, from 10:30 a.m. to close. Just show the Facebook event below on your smart phone or tell the cashier you are supporting the cause, and 50 percent of the proceeds of your purchase will be donated to San Diego LGBT Pride. Then, post a picture of your purchase and support of Pride on Facebook or Instagram that same day, with the hashtag #burritosforpride and you’ll be entered to win two VIP tickets to the music festival. The winner will be contacted on July 12. Visit for more info and to fi nd the Chipotle nearest you.

Wednesday, July 12 Light up the Cathedral for Pride

Join elected officials, interfaith leaders and the local LGBT community at this official San Diego Pride 2017 event to kick off Pride Week and witness the Cathedral’s annual ceremonial rainbow lighting of its exterior. St. Paul’s, San Diego Pride and San Diego’s interfaith religious leaders will celebrate the historical connection between

FilmOut for Pride, ‘The Women’ (1939)

Co-sponsored by San Diego Pride, FilmOut San Diego’s Pride week screening is George Cukor’s all-female cast in a “wonderfully sharp dialogue tale of the catty battling and bonding,” which puts the excesses of “pampered Park Avenue princesses” on display (from the play by Claire Boothe). Don’t miss Joan Crawford, Rosalind Russell, Joan Fontaine, Mary Boland, Norma Shearer and Paulette Goddard as some of the film’s dutiful husband snatchers, snitches and lovelorn ladies with their claws out. All the “glamming and slamming” comes with a shimmery bauble: a fashion-show sequence in eye-popping Technicolor. Running time: 133 minutes, unrated. 7 p.m. Hillcrest Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. #200, Hillcrest. Tickets $10. Visit

Girl’s Night Out presents Pride Comedy Show

Start Pride off with a musical guest and plenty of laughs from these three top lesbian comics who have a full set each: Bridget McManus, Jennie McNulty and Shelagh Ratner. Then join together for an improv game based on audience suggestions. Live musical performance by Ingenue, who recently opened for Nancy Wilson. 5:30-6:30 p.m. first show (which is sold out) follows band, second show starts at 9 p.m. Torque Moto Cafe, 3604 30th St., North Park. For more details on the entire night, visit bitly/2tlXBZP. Note: for limited tickets for second show, visit bit. ly/2sSOI6A.

San Diego Women’s Chorus’ edgy #SorryNotSorry

A musical celebration from the ladies of the SDWC, filled with singing boldly and living unapologetically. This is an uncensored show, more appropriate for adults and mature teens, and it will feature full chorus numbers, small ensembles and spoken word performances, with songs by Kelly Clarkson, P!nk, CeeLo Green, Beyoncé, Gloria Gaynor, Taylor Swift and more. Tickets $20, VIP tickets $30. 7–9 p.m. Irenic, 3090 Polk Ave., North Park. Visit

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ACROSS 1 Head-turner 5 Hightail it 9 Mortify with porn, perhaps 14 Palindromic fellow 15 Architecture, to Philip Johnson 16 Keep moist in the kitchen 17 Cordial, as a welcome 18 “The ___-splitter” (Lincoln nickname) 19 Where to find your first mate 20 Nursery rhyme in a gay horror film? 23 He made boxers more visible 24 Fleur for Foucault 25 Joan of Lesbian Herstory 26 Show a really good time 28 Poem of Sappho 30 Rock guitarist Barrett 31 “Come, come!” 32 Mychal Judge, e.g. 35 Horror film with a gay title character 38 Dictator of Nureyev’s land 39 Limp body part, allegedly

A fun business mixer to help kick off Pride Week. Mix and mingle with San Diego’s LGBTQ and allied business leaders. Avoid the rush and reserve your ticket ahead of time. Hosted by Bair Financial Planning and co-sponsored by the San Diego LGBT Visitors Center, Ellevate and the LGBT Diversity Supplier Facebook Group. $20 per person and includes one drink and appetizers. 5–7:30 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. For more info, visit or to buy tickets visit

42 ICU amounts 45 Point between “gay” and “com” 46 Granola lesbian’s concern 47 Pinball Wizard’s game venue 50 The Batmobile, e.g. 51 One-night-stand partner, crudely 52 School where actors study to be in a gay horror film? 56 Day of many Hudson flicks 57 Cucumber wasted on the kitchen? 58 Gently sloped hill 60 Not potent 61 Off-Broadway prize 62 Cole Porter's “___ Love Again” 63 Francis Bacon work 64 Come across as 65 “___ in the Clowns”

1 Blow in a comic book 2 Stallion sheds 3 Like a beard 4 What Lara Croft raids 5 Ken’s fag hag? 6 Face-to-face tests 7 Carrie in “Star Wars” 8 It might go right to the bottom 9 Take down a peg 10 Sites for three men in a tub 11 Nice buns, e.g.? 12 Rock’s ___ Dan 13 In a mound 21 Cockeyed 22 Hit in the family jewels 23 Dadaist Jean 27 Sounds of “Baby, that was good!” 28 Circle of Uranus 29 “Gorillas in the Mist” author Fossey 32 Lorca’s stick 33 They scatter their seed afar

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Thronies unite Openly gay actor explores Westeros through song “He sits in the balcony and tells you what’s going on in the George RR Martin fans can’t narrative,” Parker said. complain about a lack of fanWhile the plot focuses on the tasy experiences in July. Not first 10 episodes, Parker promonly is season seven of HBO’s ises that there are plenty of “Game of Thrones” starting references to later adventures. July 16, but a panel on the “We are constantly revising show will be taking place at it based on what’s happening Comic-Con International on on television,” he said. “There July 21. are going to be rewrites after As the annual comic festival the season premiere with at gets underway in Downtown least several new jokes.” San Diego, the comedy, “Game Prior to this latest spoof, of Thrones: The Musical,” will Parker and his producing partbe playing at the Tenth Avenue ner, Steven Brandon, worked Arts Center. on the parody, “Lost: The As in the television series, Musical.” The cast of “Game of Thrones: The Musical,” set to hit the 10th Avenue Arts stage in during Comic-Con weekend. the story is about the different Sometime after that run, families who want to rule the the producing duo also realfictional continent, Westeros. ized that they wanted to create According to Parker, the Many of the major TV chara musical adaptation of the most difficult part to cast was acters play important roles “Thrones” TV series, based on Tyrion, given his short height. in the staging. These include the first novel in Martin’s “A After Bordeau’s audition, he rethe heroic Eddard Stark, the Song of Ice and Fire” saga, also alized that the comedic thespian would do justice to the role. “Mother of Dragons” Daenerys called, “A Game of Thrones”. Bordeau is a part of the House Targaryen and everyone’s faTheir collaboration led to them Lannister cast. vorite cunningly intelligent working with Erin Stegeman On another, quite random dwarf, Tyrion Lannister, perand Ace Marrero. Stegeman note, Parker was featured in a formed by openly gay actor is the music writer, while pilot, “Testing Bob,” with the Drew Bordeau during certain Marrero is the music producer. Emmy-winning star who plays performances. Stegeman is the music writTyrion on the small screen, Non-viewers of the HBO seer, while Marrero is the music Peter Dinklage. ries are welcome. producer. Something that Bordeau “A lot of people who don’t In addition, they are the originally wanted to avoid watch ‘Game of Thrones’ can’t music directors, and are both as Tyrion was a Dinklage get past learning about so featured in select performancimpersonation. many different plots and relaes. Two groups of performers, “There is a lot of freedom tionships,” said Stephen Parker, the House Targaryen cast in the way I can portray him,” the popular TV show’s co-pro(which is their group) and the he said. “I’m able to break ducer, co-writer and director. House Lannister cast, rotate the fourth wall a lot, which “This is a very fun and comedic throughout the four major fesStephen Parker, writer, co-producer and director (Photo by Todd Leykamp) fits Tyrion’s rule-breaking way to learn about the world of tival days. personality.” Westeros.” Stegeman gets to be the conOne of Bordeau’s favorite muHelping theatergoers follow niving Cersei Lannister and sical numbers is Tyrion’s song, events is a fictitious version of Marrero portrays the complex Limited Run. BUY TODAY. Martin himself. Dothraki chieftain, Khal Drogo. “You Can’t Kill Me,” which pokes fun at how Tyrion’s popularity will continue to keep him on the air, even though plenty of other heroes and villains are notoriously eliminated. As an openly gay performer in 2017, Bordeau has plenty of positive advice for LGBT artA new play about the common bond ists who want to make it in the world of entertainment. “Keep on trucking,” he said. “The world is a friendlier place with each show that I do.” Since starting his career, Bordeau feels that more artists that connects uncommon people. now are judged on quality, not sexual orientation. “Nobody cares if you are gay, straight, or bisexual, as long as you are good,” he said. “You will make it in this industry if you remain talented and pugnacious.” Tongue-in-cheek humor and irreverent melodies are key to From top: Marcel Spe Spears, ars, H Heiidi Arrmbr mbr b uste sterr and an Brenna Coates; photo by Mia a Fiorel ella. a what will be a highly enjoyable summer journey. Since the run is getting more publicity, let’s hope that cast members — such as Dinklage — show up for potentially hilarious visits to the Seven Kingdoms. “Game of Thrones: The Musical” will be performed at the Tenth Avenue Arts Center, located at 930 10th Ave., Downtown, July 20-23. BY For tickets or more information, visit or call 818-314-0947. By David Dixon

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Drew Bordeau as Tyrion Lannister “Game of Thrones: The Musical” (Photo by Todd Leykamp)

—David Dixon has written reviews and features for various print and online publications. You can reach him at▼


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‘This is really just the beginning’ Local organization offering resources at a time when transgender awareness is on the rise By Dave Fidlin As she looks in the virtual rear-view mirror today, Kathie Moehlig says there has been significant progress in the supporting and understanding the transgender community in a relatively short period of time. “But we still have such a long way to go,” said Moehlig, who just two years ago founded San Diego-based TransFamily Support Services. “This is really just the beginning of trans visibility and awareness.” In the organization’s brief life, Moehlig said TransFamily, which also has a six-member executive board, has offered support services to about 250 families so far, and the list continues to climb with each passing day. For Moehlig, championing transgender persons’ rights has become a cause that hits very close to home. Her 16-year-old adopted son, Sam, was born biologically as a girl and has taken steps toward gender reassignment surgery. As he hit puberty at age 9, Moehlig said her son felt trapped and had contemplated suicide. Moehlig said that she and her husband, Ron Moehlig, began to seriously consider gender reassignment surgery for Sam, in the last five years, but the couple faced headwinds as they sought out resources.

(l to r) The Moehlig family; Jacqueline, Sam, Kathie and Ron (Courtesy Kathie Moehlig) Undaunted, the Moehligs pressed on and sought out any available avenues they could, to help their son live a comfortable and happy life. Their search eventually led them to Children’s Hospital Los Angeles (CHLA). Three years ago, Sam, now 16, began taking testosterone injections and had his breasts surgically removed. Without realizing it at the time, Moehlig said the trials and triumphs her family faced in finding adequate care for Sam planted the seeds for the future. “Word got out and people started saying, ‘Go talk to Kathie,’” Moehlig said. “I started doing [what the nonprofit now offers] at a very unofficial level.”

After realizing the vitality and importance of such a service, Moehlig established TransFamily Support Services in 2015, and TransFamily has been growing at a rapid clip in the years since its inception. The organization, funded largely through donations and grants, offers a range of services to families, including family coaching, assistance with health care and insurance issues, and navigating through legal complexities. “Navigation through the journey,” its website says as it welcomes visitors. Also on the website is the organization’s mission statement, which reads, “Connecting transgender youth

events ATTHECENTER Thursdays, July 13 & 27

19 Wednesday, July 19

Young Women’s Circle

Lunch & Learn: Memory Loss 101

7-8:30 pm, The Center Join other young women ages 18-30 to discuss academics, careers, relationships, politics, social media, pop culture, community building, activism and ways to be more involved in the LGBT community. Meet like-minded people and share your experiences as a member of the LGBT community. Gatherings are held on 2nd and 4th Thursdays in The Center’s library, and on the 1st and 3rd Thursdays off-site. For more information, or to reach out to the moderators, contact us at

Center 12 noon, The Center

Tuesdays, July 18 & August 1

memory loss loss or or isis itit something something else? else? Is it normal memory and symptoms symptoms of of Alzheimer’s Alzheimer’s Learn the signs and other types types of of dementia, dementia, and and the the disease and other between normal normal age-related age-related changes changes difference between more serious. serious. This This presentation presentation will will and something more common misconceptions misconceptions about about Alzheimer’s Alzheimer’s debunk common disease, and answer answer your your questions questions about about evaluation, diagnosis, diagnosis, and and treatment. treatment. Learn Learn about about the various supports supports and and services services available available to to those affected by by memory memory loss. loss. This This information information will be presented presented by by Amy Amy Abrams, Abrams, MSW/MPH, MSW/MPH, Education & Outreach Outreach Manager, Manager, Alzheimer’s Alzheimer’s San Diego. For more more information information and and to to RSVP, RSVP, contact LaRue LaRue Fields Fields at at 619.692.2077 619.692.2077 x205 x205 or

YA+ Discussion Group

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6 pm, The Center

Bi Coming Out Group

YA+ meets the 1st & 3rd Tuesdays of each month. It is a bilingual discussion and support group for young people who are HIV+. For more information, contact Ricardo Gallego at or 619.692.2077 x116.

7-8:30 pm, The Center Center The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077 Twitter: @LGBTCenter

Join The Center’s Center’s discussion discussion group on bisexuality bisexuality on on the the third third Wednesday of every every month. month. It’s It’s aa welcoming space space to to share share your your experiences, experiences, ask ask questions, discuss discuss community community issues issues and and meet meet likelikeminded people. This This group group isis open open to to all all persons persons who who are sexually and/or and/or emotionally emotionally attracted attracted to to more more than one gender. gender. For For more more information, information, contact contact Aaron Heier at at and their families to a strong and educated support system will do more than improve our community — it will save lives.” On a broader scale, TransFamily also works to raise awareness about the transgender community to society. According to their website, there are nearly 1.5 million people in the U.S. who identify as transgender. “I believe folks behave and do things that could be considered unkind … because they’re not educated,” Moehlig said. “There’s a lack of understanding. We want to open the doors and break down those barriers.” Caitlyn Jenner has put a celebrity face on the transgender community, but Moehlig said she believes more work lies ahead, particularly since such issues as restroom usage continue to be debated. Despite all the recent progress, Moehlig points to a series of statistics related to transgender youth that serve as a foundation for TransFamily and its existence. When it comes to bullying, for instance, 82 percent of transgender youth have reported feeling unsafe at school, Moehlig said. Nearly half — 48 percent — of transgender persons lack adequate medical care. There’s also the sobering statistic of suicide. Large numbers of transgender youth battle anxiety and depression — just as Sam did, Moehlig said — and 47 percent make an attempt to end their lives. Johanna Olson-Kennedy, a doctor specializing in adolescent and young adult medicine at CHLA, worked with Sam during his gender reassignment surgery. Olson-Kennedy said the suicide rate alone gives her pause. “There’s an astounding rate of suicide attempts among transgender youth,” OlsonKennedy said in a statement. “This is a serious public health implication.” When TransFamily was first established as an organization, Moehlig said she anticipated devoting about 20 hours per week. In reality, however, she said she puts in about 50 hours each week because of the magnitude of the needs crossing her desk. One of TransFamily’s more recent areas of focus has been insurance coverage for transgender youth and other members within the community. “Insurance coverage laws are different by state,” Moehlig said. “We’re very fortunate in California, but that’s not the case across the country.” Although TransFamily started as a largely San Diegocentric organization, Moehlig said its focus has broadened as families in different areas of the U.S. have reached out. “We work all around the country because, quite frankly, the needs are there,” she said. “There’s so much that still has to be done.” For more details on TransFamily Support Services, including testimonials, resources, donor information and a video on Sam’s personal journey, visit —Dave Fidlin is a freelance journalist with a special affinity for San Diego and its people. Contact him at dave.fidlin@▼

Moehlig: a true ‘friend’ of the community In recent years, Kathie Moehlig has poured her heart into providing resources to families of transgender youth across the U.S. The efforts, she said, equate to hard work and a sizable time commitment.

Kathie Moehlig is the founder of Trans Family Support Services. (Courtesy Kathie Moehlig)

But Moehlig’s desire to serve has been fueled to even greater heights, following the recent announcement she was one of the 10 recipients of this year’s Spirit of Stonewall awards. Moehlig, like other award recipients, was named to this year’s list based on a community nomination process laid out by San Diego Pride. She will receive the Friend of Pride award during the Spirit of Stonewall rally July 14. “This shows that the community supports this,” Moehlig said of the award, which is inspired by the LGBT leadership and activism marked by the Stonewall Riots of 1969. “It empowers me even more.” Moehlig, who received the recognition based on the advocacy work she has done through her nonprofit organization TransFamily Support Services, learned of the award around the same time other San Diegans received the news. “It’s an unexpected honor that I’m very appreciative of,” she said. “I pretty much do my work behindthe-scenes, so this is a big deal to me.” TransFamily Support Services has played a role in shining a light on the transgender community and Moehlig said she sees even greater possibilities on the horizon due to the additional exposure they will receive through the Spirit of Stonewall recognition. “I’m looking forward to seeing what new doors might open as a result of this,” she said.

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r#JH'JTIs BOEUBMMUBMFT Theater Review Jean Lowerison I can identify with Edward Bloom. When he sings “We were born to wake each morn/ Someplace we’ve never been,” that wanderlust gets to me too. The difference is that I’m single and unencumbered. Edward is married, and son Will wishes his traveling salesman dad were around more, like for his soccer games.

(Jack French), a traveling carnival run by Amos Calloway (John Rosen) and best of all, Anise Ritchie’s wondrous fine Witch. Lamb’s Players Theatre presents “Big Fish” the musical, based on the 2003 Tim Burton film and the Daniel Wallace book of the same title. John August wrote the book (and also the screenplay for the film). Music and lyrics are by Andrew Lippa (who also wrote the music for “The Farnsworth Invention”). There are several versions of this musical, with some song

Caitie Grady as Josephine and Brandon Joel Maier as Edward Bloom Instead, when dad is around, he’s spinning crazy fish stories, like being swallowed by one — and surviving. Or claiming to know how to make fish leap out of the water onto the riverbank so you can have that fish dinner. “Big Fish” jumps back and forth in time, as Edward is reminded of yet another story he just has to tell. But now Will is grown up and about to marry fiancée Josephine, and all he wants from his dad is a promise to refrain from monopolizing the reception with more fish stories or endless (embarrassing) toasts. But people don’t change that easily, so get ready to hear about Edward’s rich fantasy life. There’s a mermaid (Mary Joe Duggan), a giant named Karl

‘Big Fish’ Tuesdays through Sundays Through July 30 Lamb’s Players Theatre 1142 Orange Ave. (Coronado) 619-437-6000

and cast changes. Moonlight Stage Productions did the big, splashy Broadway version a few seasons back. Lamb’s has opted for the smaller version that calls for just 12 actors. There’s something to be said for the intimacy of a smaller production, but this show about big stories seems to lose a little in translation when so confined. Still, Lamb’s has a fine cast. It’s good to see Brandon Joel Maier back on the local stage as Edward, who loves his son Will but expresses it in ways the boy

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CALENDAR Friday, July 14 San Diego Trans Pride

This free event will be wheelchair and ASL interpretation accessible. Resource tables for businesses or organizations that serve the trans community, as well as businesses that are owned by trans folk, will be available for browsing. There will be no potluck this year, due to food safety and event permitting issues, but feel free to pack a lunch or a picnic basket. There will be food trucks nearby as well. 1–6 p.m. Balboa Park, Sixth Avenue at El Prado. Visit

Saturday, July 15 Victory Fund Brunch

Kick off your Pride Parade morning by attending the annual Women’s Pride Brunch, sponsored by the Victory Fund. This event always sells out, so don’t miss your chance to support the Victory Fund, which recruits, trains and helps elect openly-LGBTQ candidates in communities around the country to give our community a powerful voice in government. Sponsorships for the event still available, visit For questions, email emily. hammell@victoryfund. org. 9–11 a.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. For tickets, visit

Second annual Glitterboxx

The late night San Diego LGBTQ Pride event for girls is hosted by Glitterboxx, Nicolle and DJ dirtyKURTY. In addition to Kurty, dance the night away to DJ Miss Dust, with Hoop dancer, midnight show dance crew, go-go dancers, glitter hair station by #thehuegoddess, glow goodies and blacklights, visuals and light show. 21+, limited tickets and table seats available. No online tickets day of event. 9 p.m.–2 a.m. Lafayette Hotel, Swim

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Pride on Pier

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Sunday, July 16 Flawles Pool Party

The annual Flawles Pride Pool Party is turning 10 and the ladies want you to help them celebrate at their all-day event. The #flawlespoolparty, at the top of one of San Diego’s best rooftop experiences, offers nonstop entertainment and provides a great backdrop for you and your friends to experience an

unforgettable San Diego Pride. DJs, poolside and board games, photo booth, top shelf drinks at great prices, complimentary massages, menu specials, swag and more. Noon–8 p.m. Andaz Hotel rooftop pool, 600 F St., Downtown. Visit

Zoo Party 2017

Bill Hardt Presents brings the annual Zoo Party to San Diego Pride every year and it usually sells out. DJ Grind, DJ Wayne G. 4–11 p.m. San Diego Zoo, 2920 Zoo Drive, Balboa Park. Visit Editor’s Note: This list is not all-inclusive, as there are dozens of events going on Pride Weekend in San Diego. Some events did not yet have enough information available to post, others didn’t have visibility yet online (but we know they exist) and still others were mostly drinking events and we want to promote activities in addition to drinking, since there is drinking at most events listed, anyway. To be added to our calendar in the future, email info@



THEATER will not understand until much later. Gavin Reid August is charming as the young Will. Michael Cusimano’s adult Will shares a wonderfully poignant song with his father called “The River Between Us,” which begins this way: This river between us grows wider each day He talks, but he mostly has little to say. I beg him to separate truth

from the tale, But the river invites him. In the end, Will understands that his father has not been trying to impress, but rather to inspire his son via the power of storytelling, and wants the boy to “be the hero of your story.” All of the other actors are equally fine, and backed up by an excellent production team. Mike Buckley’s set is simple but versatile. Michael McKeon and Patrick Duffy’s projections are particularly effective, as are Jeanne Reith’s clever costumes. Nathan Peirson’s

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lighting and Patrick Duffy’s sound design set the tone effectively. Conductor Andy Ingersol and his six fine musicians play from the top of this very high set. “Big Fish” offers an often charming lesson in growing up. Stories are good, but the Witch has the best advice of all: “The ones who face their fears lead the most interesting lives.” —Jean Lowerison is a long-standing member of the San Diego Theatre Critics Circle and can be reached at

Brandon Joel Maier, playing the role of Edward Bloom in "Big Fish," steps up to bat as the cast cheers him on. (Photos courtesy of Lamb's Players Theatre)

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