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(l to r) Edmund Bagnell, Trevor Wadleigh, Christopher Marchant and Daniel Shevlin of Well Strung are coming to Vista, July 8. (Courtesy Moonlight Cultural Foundation)

All-gay string quartet blends vocals and strings with classical and pop By Margie M. Palmer The men of Well Strung are more than just another set of pretty faces. The group is comprised of 1st violin Edmund Bagnell, 2nd violin Chris Marchant, cellist Daniel Shevlin and Trevor Wadleigh on viola. Not only are the New York City-based performers talented, they’re helping to break down some of the walls that are all

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too often felt by gay performers. Well Strung just celebrated their fourth anniversary and while some have referred to the quartet as “just another boy band,” don’t let their boyish good looks fool you. Bagnell, Marchant, Shevlin and Wadleigh are among the most talented performers within the classical-pop crossover circuit. “[We] think it’s fun to be referred to as a boy band,” the group told Gay San Diego. “It’s funny because we can fit in to a few different genres — classical string quartet, boy band, or even a Pentatonix-style singing

group — but being referred to as a boy band always makes us smile.” The New Yorkers added that the media’s quick note of the fact that they’re an all-male, all-gay group has never seemed to pose any sort of challenge. In fact, if it has hurt them at all, they said, it’s probably in ways they’ll never know. “Truthfully, it hasn’t seemed to be a negative,” they said. “We’re proud of who we are and we’ve never shied away from that. We feel lucky to perform in all types of venues for all

see Well Strung, pg 11

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The tragic recent events in Orlando during Pride month have rocked LGBT communities across the country, with vigils, fundraisers and expressions of solidarity popping up in every city. San Diego responded accordingly. The Sunday immediately following the attack, June 19, an impromptu vigil was held at the Pride flag in Hillcrest, which Mayor Kevin Faulconer even attended and shared a few words. The next day, city and LGBT community leaders met at City Hall to discuss how to make the community safer, especially in the weeks leading up to and during San Diego Pride, which takes place July 16 and 17.

That evening a pre-planned program at the San Diego LGBT Community Center included a number of speakers: the mayor, Assembly Speaker Emeritus Toni Atkins, Councilmember Todd Gloria, Dr. Dolores Jacobs, Nicole Ramirez Murray, and various local church and mosque leaders. And the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus sang “Over the Rainbow.” With a capacity crowd inside The Center, thousands more attended the event, spilling out on the street for blocks along Centre and Harvey Milk streets. After the program, the crowd walked over to the Pride flag for music by the San Diego Women’s Chorus and many placed candles at the base of the Pride flag before marching to Rich’s.

(l to r) Illustrator Clarione and author Tyler Curry at their book launch last November. (Courtesy Clarione)

see Orlando, pg 12

With ‘a plan in her head and a desire in her heart’ Morgan M. Hurley | Editor As the daily hustle and bustle of The Huddle restaurant in Mission Hills began to slow one recent afternoon, owner Ruth Hendricks sat down to share memories about the nonprofit she founded 25 years ago in the back of the restaurant’s kitchen. Special Delivery has been serving three meals per day, Monday through Friday, to people living with AIDS since 1991. In 1996 they expanded their mission and coffers to also include three meals per day to those with other life-threatening illnesses (including end stage renal failure), diabetics, people with cancer and even two people who have MS, which causes them a throat obstruction. “Within our budget we try and tailor meals that will work for everyone,” she said, adding that sometimes that means up to 20 special diets per day. And it was 12 years ago that Special Delivery further expanded, to include a pantry for those “materially poor and needed a boost.” Today, there are 140 people total on the delivery list and another 450 families are fed through Special Delivery’s pantry. And even though we’ve seen considerable advances in the management and prevention of HIV, Hendricks said she still has between 55 - 60 percent of her deliveries going to people with AIDS. “What breaks my heart is when we get an intake form and somebody will have full blown AIDS and they are only 23 years old,” she said. Though the diner was now closed, which it does daily at 3 p.m., the activity hadn’t slowed at the storefront next

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“Kiss Me, Kill Me” top award-winner at FilmOut festival terrorist attack at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida, A film noir murder mystery on early Sunday morning June set in West Hollywood, a dark 12, 2016, the unsolved arson and brooding thriller from in New Orleans was notoriAustralia, and a heart-wrenchous for being the largest gay ing documentary about a 1973 mass murder in U.S. history. mass murder in New Orleans “Upstairs Inferno” won Festival dominated FilmOut’s 18th and Audience awards for Best annual San Diego LGBT Film Documentary and the prestiFestival awards this year. gious Freedom Award. “Kiss Me, Kill Me,” the Michael McQuiggan, the Opening Night movie directed longtime program director for by Casper Andreas, won a total FilmOut, explained the differof six awards. Although the plot ence between Festival Awards (l to r) Van Hansis (Audience Award winner for Best Actor) and Gale Harold in a scene from “Kiss Me, Kill Me,” was set in contemporary WeHo, and Audience Awards. which won a total of six awards (Courtesy FilmOut) the mood harkened back to “The Festival Awards are the film noir era of Hollywood chosen by the programmers/ • Actor in a Feature Film: in the 1940s and 1950s. “Kiss these films a small boost in recscreening committee and the the audiences this year,” he TIE — Geoffrey Couët and Me, Kill Me” won five Audience Audience Awards are detersaid. “There were films from all ognition to the film industry,” François Nambot, “Paris 05:59 – Awards and one Festival Award. mined by the audience,” he said. genres represented. There were he said. Theo & Hugo” “Downriver,” directed by IMDb calls itself the world’s “A lot of the Festival Awards some clear frontrunners, but • Actress in a Feature Australian Grant Scicluna, tells most popular and authoritative will be noted by programmers some of the more obscure films the story of a young convict who source for movie, TV and celeb- Film: Kerry Norton, “ToY” from other film festivals that were really supported by our patrons — and the results were rity content. The website offers • Actor in Supporting Role: served his time in connection may or may not have been on quite surprising and rewardAaron Abrams, “Closet Monster” with the suspected drowning a searchable database of more the fence to select these films ing to the filmmakers/talent • Actress in Supporting of a young boy and who goes than 185 million data items for their upcoming festivals. It involved. The Festival Awards searching for the grim truth. including more than 3.5 million Role: Kerry Fox, “Downriver” was a highly competitive year • International Feature: “Downriver” collected four awards, for the Audience Awards, which seemed to gear more toward movies, TV and entertainment the intense, dark, controverOlivier Ducastel and Jacques including three Festival Awards programs and 7 million cast were 6 inches thick.” sial films, while the Audience Martineau, “Paris 05:59, Theo and a Programming Award. and crew members. Audience Award ballots Awards went for the more & Hugo” “Upstairs Inferno,” a docuThe full list of award winwere available throughout the mainstream-themed films.” • Overall Short Film: mentary directed by Robert ners follows: festival, which ran June 3 – 5 McQuiggan noted that Arkasha Stevenson, “Vessels” L. Camina, examines the real at the Observatory North Park FilmOut — which has previous- 2016 FilmOut Festival • Short Film Male: Gabriel story of what happened on theater. Attendance exceeded ly been named one of the top 10 “Best” Awards Dorado, “De Vuelta” the night of June 24, 1973, in 5,000 this year, McQuiggan • Narrative Feature: Grant LGBT film festivals in the U.S. • Short Film Female: Kai the French Quarter in New estimated. Scicluna, “Downriver” — now has official recognition Stanicke, “B.” Orleans when an arsonist Almost half of the movies • First Narrative Feature: in the movie industry. • International Short Film: torched the Upstairs Lounge shown at the festival won some Stephen Dunn, “Closet “Since FilmOut San Diego Nils Åsén, “The Memory of You” and 32 people died when they sort of award, and McQuiggan Monster” is accredited with IMDb and • Cinematography: Rainer were trapped on the second had a theory for that. • Screenplay: Ray Yeung, our festival winners are listed Lipski, “Kiss Me, Kill Me” floor. Until 49 people were mur“That the broad selection of “Front Cover” in its awards section, it gives • Documentary: Robert L. dered in the hate crime and films seemed to resonate with Camina, “Upstairs Inferno” • Direction: Grant Scicluna, “Downriver” • Soundtrack: Jonathan Dinerstein, “Kiss Me, Kill Me” Ken Williams | Contributing Editor

2016 Audience “Best” Awards

• Narrative Feature: Casper Andreas, “Kiss Me, Kill Me” • Screenplay: David Michael Barrett, “Kiss Me Kill Me” • Overall Short Film: Sam Greisman, “Dinner with Jeffrey” • Actor in a Feature Film: Van Hansis, “Kiss Me, Kill Me” • Actress in a Feature Film: Briana Evigan, “ToY” • Supporting Actor: Robby Stahl, “Flatbush Luck” • Supporting Actress: Briana Marin, “Flatbush Luck” • International Feature: Marco Kreuzpaintner, “Coming In” • Documentary: Robert L. Camina, “Upstairs Inferno” • Comedy: Rob Williams, “Shared Rooms” • Ensemble: Cast of “Kiss Me, Kill Me”

2016 Programming Awards

The Festival and Programming Directors are responsible for these awards: • Freedom Award: Robert L. Camina, “Upstairs Inferno” • Outstanding Emerging Talent: TIE — Connor Jessup, “Closet Monster” and Reef Ireland, “Downriver” • Outstanding Artistic Achievement: Laurent Boileau, “Lady of the Night” —Ken Williams is a contributing editor of Gay San Diego and can be reached at ken@sdcnn.com or at 619-961-1952. He is a volunteer board member of FilmOut San Diego, serving as Film & Media Relations Director. ▼


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GAY NEWS BRIEFS POPULAR WINE, CHEESE AND CHOCOLATE FEST REBRANDED

The Women’s Museum of California, located in Liberty Station, is about to hold its ninth — and only — annual fundraiser, but the popular event has a new name and location. Known in the past as the Wine, Cheese and Chocolate Festival, the new shortened name but expanded scope is the Wine and Music Festival. Formerly held for many years in Balboa Park’s Spanish Village, the festival first moved to Liberty Station in 2013 along with the museum, and was held in the museum’s courtyard. This year the festival, presented by The Patio Group, has moved to the North Promenade Lawn a much larger space, allowing it to accommodate the changes to the revamped event. While the annual festival has always included music, this year the line up has expanded and will include: San Diego Women’s Chorus who will open the show with an original performance; La Mesa resident and local celebrity Marissa Grace, a 13-year-old singer, songwriter and YouTube sensation; Los Angeles-based band Ruby Clouds; local rock band KodaSounds; and Marcela Mendez, lead singer of local pop-rock cover band HoneyRock. Other musicians will also perform throughout the grounds. Wine is still a prominent fixture at the festival, and attendees will enjoy wine tastings from local wineries, craft beers from Ballast Point, bites from Solare Lounge and Banyan Kitchen, as well as sweets from Chi Chocolate and Addison Candies. The Women’s Museum of California’s Wine and Music Festival will take place Saturday, June 25, from 6 10 p.m. at the North Promenade Lawn, located along Historic Decatur Road in Liberty Station. General admission tickets are $35 and include a seat in the concert area and six tastings from local wineries. VIP Tickets are $75, include a seat at a VIP table near the stage, two bottles of wine per table and an invitation to the VIP happy hour hosted by Councilmembers Lorie Zapf and Barbara Bry at 5 p.m. For more information visit tinyurl.com/zx5c4yr

ARCHIVES HOST UPCOMING LGBT HISTORY TOURS

“Do you know where San Diego’s early gay bars were? Have you read the hate crimes plaque? Have you looked at the base of the flagpole? Have you peeked into the secret garden? How much do you really know about Hillcrest?” These are the questions that Lambda Archives is posing in a press release announcing their LGBT History Walking Tours of Hillcrest. The tours, which cover local art, architecture and personalities, also explain how Hillcrest became the “gayborhood.” It will take about two hours and cover nearly two and a half miles of walking area, so participants are encouraged to wear comfortable shoes. Walter Meyer, manager at The Archives, is conducting the tours after a great deal of research,

interviews with members of the community, practice tours and a visit to USC’s One Archive. Meyer had a couple of practice runs and then went live in April. The May tour was sold out before they could even advertise it. “This very important tour highlights the history, stories, places, sites, tragedies and triumphs of this modern civil rights struggle,” said Bruce Coons, executive director of Save Our Heritage Organisation, a local preservation organization. “A national and international struggle, in which San Diego was at the forefront. A struggle where there has been tremendous progress and like all struggles for human rights, a struggle that requires constant vigilance and continues today. Visitors will find this tour enlightening, entertaining, at times disheartening and ultimately inspiring.” Upcoming tours will take place this Saturday, June 25 at 9:30 a.m., and in celebration of Pride week, they are offering one July 13 and July 14, each at 6:15 p.m. Tickets are $20 for Archive members and $25 for non-members. Proceeds will keep the Archives in business doing the work to collect, preserve, and educate people about the LGBT history of our region. For more information, call 619-260-1522 or email info@ lambdaarchives.org. To purchase tickets, visit tinyurl.com/hsw4fnc.

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The program, “Transcending Stereotypes: What it means to be transgender in America today,” will be presented Thursday, July 7 at Urban MO’s in Hillcrest. After coming out as a transgender woman, Beck has been a suicide-prevention advocate and recently ran for Congress in Maryland’s 5th District but lost to longtime Rep. Steny Hoyer. Other panelists are: • Vicki Estrada, award-winning urban planner, trans-rights activist • Connor Maddocks, transrights activist and director of San Diego LGBT Community Center’s Project Trans • Sam Moehlig, a transgender youth who was featured in The San Diego Union-Tribune in a landmark feature story about Sam’s life as a transgender boy and his transition to realize his true gender identity • Terrance K. Miller, a transrights activist and Black Lives Matter youth leader • Ariel Vegosen, a gender liberation activist, performer and founder of education and advocacy organization Gender Illumination. The panel moderator is Thom Senzee, a board member of the San Diego Press Club, and a former editor of LGBT Weekly. Members of the media and the public will join local activists in the series, titled “LGBTs in the News.” The July 7 event begins with networking from 7 – 7:30 p.m., followed by the program from 7:30 – 9 p.m. A private party will follow on Urban MO’s Upper Deck. A donation of $10 is suggested in support of the San Diego Press Club’s scholarship program. RSVP and learn more at lgtsinthenews. com or sdpressclub.org (RSVPs not required, but are appreciated.)

A date has been set for the groundbreaking of San Diego’s first LGBT senior-affirming affordable housing, which will be located at the northwest and northeast corners of Texas Street and Howard Avenue in North Park. A collaborative effort between FINEST CITY IMPROV’S Community HousingWorks PRIDE NIGHT BENEFIT (CHW) and the San Diego LGBT Finest City Improv will present Community Center (The Center), its first Pride Night, a benefit for the $27 million North Park the San Diego LGBT Community Senior Apartments will offer a supportive environment for LGBT Center, on July 9. The improv company’s theater seniors and allow them to stay in is located at 4250 Louisiana St., their homes as they age. The 76 on the property of the historic units will be open to all seniors Lafayette Hotel. who meet the age and income “As soon as you walk into Finest requirements, but are focused on City Improv’s theater, you know the specific needs and concerns you’re in a welcoming, supportive of the area’s LGBT seniors, based environment with the freedom to on an assessment done in 2011. express yourself,” said Jesse Suphan, The Center’s Senior Services will provide assistance to all residents, Finest City’s Pride Night organizer. “Right now, the LGBT community regardless if they are LGBT. could use a little extra support, freeThe complex, located at 4200 dom and love. If we can foster abunTexas St., will offer seven studio dant memories and hearty laughs, apartments, three two-bedrooms then we’ve done our job.” and 65 one-bedroom dwellings The evening will consist of two and is expected to be complete in sections of one-night only shows late 2017. that Finest City’s team crafted Though the goal of the rental specifically for Pride Night. community is to be “LGBTThe first section begins with friendly and LGBT-affirming,” “GAYJAM,” an improv jam open CHW will not offer a priority or to all experience levels and “Short preference to anyone and cannot Short Short-Form,” a “Whose Line ask questions about sexual orienis it Anyway?” style show adorned tation, although proof of age and with Daisy Dukes. The section conincome will be required. cludes with “The Big Gay Improv The official groundbreaking Show” — a montage of hilarious event will take place Wednesday, scenes based on the real-life stories July 13 from 10 a.m. – noon. of Benny Cartwright, director of RSVPs are due Friday, July 8, to community outreach at The Center. events@chworks.org. Include your Section two features guest star name, organization and title. For Paul Vaillancourt, co-founder of more information, visit tinyurl. the renowned improv theater, iO com/hnmubza. West, and Destiny’s Stepchild, a trio PRESS PANEL ON of musical improv performers. An TRANSGENDER ISSUES elimination-style show titled “Over Former Navy SEAL Kristin the Rainbow” will conclude the Beck, featured in the award-winshow with 12 players competing to ning 2014 CNN film, “Lady Valor: become the Pride Night champion. The Kristin Beck Story,” will Tickets are $20 per section. To headline a San Diego Press Club purchase tickets, visit finestcityevent next month. improv.com/upcoming-shows. ▼

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COMMUNITY VOICES

Making a clean start at 8 West This has been a rough few weeks, my friends. The Orlando massacre at Pulse nightclub; the individual apprehended en route to LA Pride; the LGBTQ shootings in Veracruz, Mexico; the responses from homophobes; and the silence of many of our family members and friends has left some heavy hearts. I, personally, turn to music and the line “I might only have one match, but I can make an explosion,” from Rachel Patten’s “Fight Song” has been anchored in my brain. And I believe it. Those who persevere in lighting the fire of positivity in this world will outshine the ugliness and that’s the reason I celebrate them in this column. This month I am excited to achieve one of my goals for this column: revisiting an organization at a major shift in their level of advocacy.

Beneath anger, there is sadness Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel

Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton

A resident of 8West focuses on a task (Courtesy 8 West) In March 2012, I profiled “Street Angels,” a homeless youth outreach program through Missiongathering Church in North Park, which focuses on getting basic supplies to facilitate better health and wellness for youth on the streets of San Diego. In addition to food, toiletries, socks, blankets and donated clothing, the weekly outings also included EMTs and vets who would provide basic medical care to the youth and their pets.

In the past year, Missiongathering has created a drop-in space for these youth at the church, and as of March 2016, a dream of lead pastor Eric Lovett has come true. “8 West” opened, providing both housing and life skills training for highrisk homeless transitional age youth (TAY), who are 18 to 25 years of age.

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In 1995, when I was a middle school counselor in San Francisco, I was asked to facilitate an anger management group for the most outof-control boys in the school. Most of the boys in this group were in trouble with the law; they stole cars, belonged to gangs, carried guns … you know, they were just the kind of people I usually hung out with. One of the main things I learned from facilitating this group (and I use the word loosely) was that underneath anger, there is always sadness and hurt. Always. No exceptions. When I was in middle school in 1966, it wasn’t safe to be gay in my small Ohio town. I felt so trapped and helpless there. I begged my dad to move our family to a bigger town, where I might fit in and I thought, desperately, that there might be more people “like me.” He refused, telling me, “You’ll just have to wait until you go away to college.”

I was sad, hurt and subsequently, very angry. What did I do with my anger? It wasn’t safe to openly show it, so I started scratching my arms … until they bled. I wasn’t exactly a “cutter,” I was a “scratcher,” but all the same; and it did feel better. I had an external way to express my internal pain. I also started driving very fast and recklessly. I would borrow my mom’s car and go 120 mph on country roads. Sometimes I was going too fast to stop at stop signs. The anger didn’t stop when I got to college, I was afraid to come out there, too. It was 1971 and as an undergraduate at the University of Cincinnati, I began — clandestinely — to sleep with other boys. I also bought a used Pontiac GTO (with a 396, V-8 engine) and I drove so wild and so fast that no one was willing to ride with me. Fast-forward about 25 years: I was facilitating a meeting of the anger management group for those middle school boys and they wanted to talk about cars. Sure, I said, go ahead. So they went around the circle and these tough, macho little guys talked about the cars they knew, loved and dreamed about. It was pretty typical stuff until one of the guys, the same young man who had been arrested the week before for stealing a car, said, “Yeah, I remember my uncle’s Cadillac. It was pretty fine. Then one day, I saw someone shoot him dead in it.” The group went silent. This boy didn’t cry. He just looked down at the floor. No one knew what to say. Finally, the sadness and hurt came out. Slowly, one by one, all of the boys started to talk about people they knew who had been shot, hurt, or killed. A few months later, I was driving home from the supermarket when I found myself becoming more and more angry at each stop sign. I started to curse other drivers, for no reason. I yelled inside my car (I’m glad the windows were up). After driving a few more blocks, I pulled the car over and looked at myself in the rearview mirror. I asked myself, “What is going on with you?” as my therapist had encouraged me to do. To my surprise, I began to cry. And cry. And cry. Sobbing in my car, I said, out loud: “I hate my job. My boyfriend doesn’t really love me. I don’t love him either. I don’t like living in San Francisco. It’s too crowded and gray here. And I feel so lonely I could die.” My sadness and hurt had finally broken through my anger. The boys had taught me well. We can’t take away other people’s anger, but we sure can address our own. When you feel angry, I encourage you to dig a little deeper and find the hurt beneath it. Tend to your hurt and sadness, and I’ll bet your anger and rage goes away too. This is how we can take care of ourselves and, by extension, take care of each other. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals. Reach him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.▼


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The history of LGBT tragedy Out of the Archives Archives Staff The philosopher George Santayana is often paraphrased to the effect that “those who do not remember history are doomed to repeat it.” The tragedy in Orlando was unprecedented, but not without roots. As an LGBTQ institution, we would be remiss if we did not comment on the tragedy at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida. We at Lambda Archives grieve along with the rest of the LGBTQ+ community and our allies throughout the country and the world. The LGBTQ community has been attacked many times over the years. By now, we all know about the bashings and beatings; the Stonewall Riots, the horrific attack on Mathew Shepard, and more. Until this month, the single most deadly incident was the 1973 arson fire at a gay bar in New Orleans, which resulted in the death of 32 people.

having evening tours on July 13 and 14. Watch our Facebook page to get your tickets. Archives staff, board members and volunteers were Out at the Fair to share information with the public attending the San Diego County Fair. It was great to see so many people and share the day with our colleagues with FOG, PFLAG and other LGBTcentric organizations. If you would like to meet new people and have some fun, get involved in our next outreach efforts. We’re looking for volunteers for Pride and for the upcoming Trolley Barn Park concert series. Archivist Jen LaBarbera recently presented to an international conference as well as to a local high school on the link between archives and activism. Ask her more about it if you are interested in how you can contribute to the community. We were recently honored by GSDBA as a nominee for “Nonprofit of the Year.” Congratulations to the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus, who took top honors, and fellow nominee, the San Diego chapter of HRC. We

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Good times with Nick Jonas Pop’s dreamboat on standing up for LGBT rights, his ‘very welcoming’ gay club experience and his man bod (NJ) Well, it’s an honor, you know, first of all. I feel very honored! [Laughs] I think the tips would be, make sure the jeans are fairly tight — not too tight, but tight enough. And I do a lot of face touching, I’ve noticed, so maybe incorporate that into the act and it’ll all work. (CA) When do you touch your face the most? (NJ) When I’m singing, when I’m talking. It’s kind of a strange thing I do.

By Chris Azzopardi Boys do Nick Jonas sometimes, but it’s mostly girls. They dress up as the pop star, emulating his rousing onstage persona and donning denim that looks practically painted on. Yes, if we needed further proof about why the 23-year-old former Jonas Brother is a celebrated beacon in the LGBT community, for his abs and for his advocacy — for standing up against the North Carolina “bathroom bill” by canceling two upcoming gigs there — look to the drag kings. Those kings are sure to find even more fodder for their glitzy acts on “Last Year Was Complicated,” Jonas’ second solo album. In our new interview, Jonas talked candidly about last year — his year of “growth.” And although he was congested — yes, even the perfection that is Nick Jonas deals with allergies that are “terrible” this time of year — he was more than happy to dish on LGBT rights, the night he and

brother Joe ended up at a West Hollywood gay bar, and touching his … face. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) I’ve never asked a guy this question — I’m always asking female artists who are being impersonated by men — but there are Nick Jonas drag kings, so we must talk about this. (Nick Jonas | NJ) [Laughs] (CA) I know, right? What’s it like to know that lesbians are dressing up in Nick Jonas drag? Also, what tips do you have for a Nick drag king who wants to perfect their Nick Jonas drag act?

(CA) I spoke to your brother Joe recently and he mentioned getting down at the gay clubs with you. What’s a night with you and Joe like at the gay club? (NJ) It was very fun! We were out at The Abbey in LA. (CA) Good place, good drinks. (NJ) Good drinks! And it was just a good environment overall. People were very welcoming and we had a good time and we hung out and had a couple of drinks. And they played our music too, which is always nice when you’re at a club. The DJ was being friendly. [Laughs]

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events ATTHECENTER The John Wear Memorial Plaque, located on University Avenue near Flicks (Photo by Walter Meyer)

What happened at Pulse was a part of these events, not apart from them. We are rededicated to making sure that our history — the happy and the sad — is preserved so that future generations do not forget these struggles and will use knowledge of the past to inform their actions. Bruce Coons, executive director of Save Our Heritage Organisation, recently went on a Lambda Archives Hillcrest LGBT History Walking Tour. “This very important tour highlights the history, stories, places, sites, tragedies and triumphs of this modern civil rights struggle,” he said. “A national and international struggle in which San Diego was at the forefront. Visitors will find this tour enlightening, entertaining, at times disheartening and ultimately inspiring.” Sadly, during our walking tour of Hillcrest, we talk about the several attacks made against our Pride parades and festivals — and how the community rose above them. We point out the hate crimes plaque that commemorates the last fatal gay bashing in San Diego — not ancient history — that attack was in 1991. The next walking tour of the LGBT history of Hillcrest will be Saturday morning, June 25, at 9:30 a.m. Visit our Facebook page to get tickets and join us. During Pride week, we will be

are proud and humbled to be in such good company. We also thank the city of San Diego Historic Resources Board for the recent recognition for our preservation efforts. We are pleased to continue to help with the San Diego LGBTQ Historic Context Survey and grateful to the many members of our community who have come forward to help us fill in the gaps. If you have any information you haven’t yet shared, please get in touch. Your stories are important to us as well as to the survey effort. We’d like to bid thanks and farewell to Ame Stanko of Pixel Lava who has been handling our web page. We wish her well in her future endeavors. If you are a web and app master (or know one) looking for a small gig, please get in touch! We are now in the search for a new person to take over the contract. Thanks! We wish you the very best at Pride. It will be a safe and sobering event this year and we look forward to seeing you there. Stop in and say “hello.” —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at lambdaarchives.org.▼

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Tuesday, July 5

Senior Food Bank

Community Food Bank

1 pm, The Center

9 am, The Center

The Senior Food Bank Program provides food and nutrition education to eligible lowincome seniors 60 years or older on the 4th Tuesday of the month. Eligible applicants can enroll in the program by applying in person at our site on the day of the event or call the Jacobs & Cushman San Diego Food Bank at 866.350.3663. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at www. sandiegofoodbank.org or contact LaRue Fields at seniors@thecentersd.org or 619.692.2077 x205.

The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month, 9-10:30am, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at www.sandiegofoodbank.org.

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Pride World Forum 5:30 pm, The Center Join San Diego Pride, the San Diego Diplomacy Council, and The Center for a forum of LGBT civil rights leaders from around the globe. The forum will include a panel discussion, with the opportunity to ask them about their work and human rights issues around the globe. Doors open at 5:30pm, panel presentation at 6pm, and a mixer at 7pm. For more information contact the San Diego Diplomacy Council at 619.291.8105 or find it on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ events/1163190047045755

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Guys, Games & Grub 6 pm, The Center Guys, Games & Grub, presented by Men @ The Center and Hillcrest Social, is a fun, free monthly social event designed for men – where everyone is welcome. Dozens of men gather for free pizza, beer, wine, soft drinks, games, prizes, and more. Check out the popular Live Trivia game (starting at 6:30 pm), hosted each month by community favorite John Lockhart. A donation of $5 is suggested at the door to support men’s programming at The Center. Bring friends or come alone and meet new friends! For more information, contact Aaron Heier at aheier@thecentersd.org or 619.692.2077 x211.


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Letters John Ealy love

Ref: “Team mom,” Vol. 7, Issue 11, or online at gay-sd.com/team-mom. Thank you for sharing this great story about John Ealy! He’s a wonderful businessman, philanthropist and friend — and tons of fun to hang out with, too! I’m so glad that Harley Gray is doing so well — it’s a fantastic restaurant and bar! —Ben Cartwright, via gay-sd.com

Disgruntled reader

Ref: “Minding the gap,” Vol. 7, Issue 11, or online at tinyurl.com/grrqats. No mention of the $20K that the HBA and some of their board members, like Cecelia Moreno of the Crest Cafe and Charles Kauffman of Bread & CIE, personally raised to pay Republican lobbying firm California Strategies to sway Todd Gloria’s vote on the SANDAG committee to defeat the vastly superior and community based design by Jim Frost known as Transforming Hillcrest? This artist’s rendering is abysmal compared to Frost’s and the community’s vision for making Hillcrest a tree-lined pedestrian and bikesafe oriented community where shops would thrive. Instead you focus on eternal complaint by the greedy businesses … loss of parking. This reads more like a press release for the opponents of any change, rather than informing the reader of all facets of the issues, people and money at play. —John Thurston, via gay-sd.com

Guest Editorial all married same-sex couples — more than 1,000 legal protections and benefits previously The legacy of marriage denied. It gave our relationships respect and dignity. It was one equality eight years in more step toward equality. Just a few months later, howBy Bob Lehman ever, that right was taken away from us as quickly as it was given. I remember that morning eight For many people, marriage years ago, clearly, like it was yesterday. equality literally boiled down to life We had to get up before dawn or death situations. When I was and be in place at the San Diego an active-duty Marine, had I been County Building by 6 a.m. Yes, killed in action, Tom would not this was our wedding day and we have been notified. Had I been inwere to receive a police escort to jured and in the hospital, he would get our marriage license at 7 a.m. not have the right to visit me. as the first two men to legally Today, that has all changed, marry in California history. both because of marriage equality It wasn’t your typical dream and the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t wedding, but it was ours; standing tell” in 2011, allowing gay and on the building’s lawn with my lesbian service members to serve then-partner of 15 years, Tom openly in the military. Felkner, surrounded by our family, When the U.S. Supreme Court friends and camera crews. ruled in favor of nationwide marIn the crowd I saw Brian riage equality on June 26, 2013, a Brown of the anti-gay National euphoria swept across our LGBT Organization for Marriage community. Just 10 years earlier, (NOM) smirking as he took phofew LGBT leaders would even tos. A man straddling his Harley consider the “marriage fight” as repeatedly yelled “Don’t do it!” worth pursuing. And now it was But none of that mattered as I law, setting us on a path toward looked down at our feet to see a slab of two seismic shifts within our nagranite in the shady grass. Etched in tion’s views of the LGBT commuit were the words “Love conquers all.” nity; one very positive, the other We didn’t need a piece of paalarming. per to validate our love, but marFirst, there is no doubt that riage equality gave us — and American society is increasingly

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Lehman and his husband, Tom Felkner, share a kiss at their 2008 wedding (Courtesy Bob Lehman)

supportive of the LGBT community. The divisive gay marriage wedge issues of past presidential campaigns are non-existent in the 2016 race. Corporate America has become a major ally, pushing back against anti-gay state laws and featuring our families in ads from Campbell’s Soup to Cheerios. And public opinion, bolstered by new generations of young people, is increasingly in favor of LGBT equality. However, as we gain acceptance and visibility, people who are opposed to LGBT rights are becoming even more radicalized, according to the Southern Poverty Law Center which tracks hate groups. This explains why, according to the FBI, LGBT people are now the most likely targets ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 accounting@sdcnn.com

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of hate crimes, eclipsing the Jewish community and equaling the Muslim and black communities combined. The massacre in Orlando darkly illustrates these FBI statistics. Stoking the escalating violence toward LGBT citizens are the efforts by elected officials to dehumanize our community. The rhetoric around North Carolina’s so-called “Bathroom Bill” specifically attacks our transgender community. “Religious Liberty” bills have sprouted up across the country to codify anti-gay marriage discrimination. And just a few weeks ago, Rep. Rick Allen (R-Georgia) read a series of anti-gay Bible verses to the House Republican Conference implying that gays are “worthy of death.”

A few days ago I was speaking with someone whose younger boyfriend is just starting his journey of coming out. He told me that as they recently passed a storefront with a rainbow flag in the window, his boyfriend became annoyed and asked why that was necessary. Why do we need to be so visible? Well, here’s why. For as far as we’ve come, despite victories with marriage equality and military service, the LGBT community still has miles to go before it rests, including passage of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act and the ongoing fight for transgender rights. The stains of hate, bigotry and discrimination run deep and dark. That’s exactly why the LGBT community must be visible. That’s why we need the Hillcrest Pride Flag fluttering in the breeze. That’s why we need a San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus singing proudly. That’s why we need The Center serving as our community’s heart and soul. And we will win, someday. We will reach full equality. Because love does conquer all. —Bob Lehman is executive director of the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus. He can be reached at boblehman25@gmail.com.▼

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Understanding Orlando By Walter G. Meyer Editor’s Note: A version of this ran previously in the Pittsburgh Post Gazette. Gay bars are special; special in ways that many in the straight community may not understand. In the African American community, churches often held a special place of refuge, support and organizing. It is no coincidence that Martin Luther King, Jr., Ralph Abernathy and so many of the black civil rights leaders were ministers. Churches played a key role for that community. When a gunman opened fire in the Emanuel AME Church in Charleston, South Carolina, he didn’t just take the lives of the nine members of that congregation, he attacked the safe haven — not the just literal safe haven, but the figurative safe haven — of every member the African-American community. Atheist or Jew, every black person had a stake in what happened at that church and lost part of themselves. For too many in the LGBT community, the churches in which we were raised became our enemies and the bars became our refuge. Not the refuge of a bottle of alcohol, but a safe place where we could be ourselves. Before there were LGBT centers or gay prides, there were gay bars. Gay Pride was born out of a gay bar — the Stonewall Inn in New York — 47 years ago this month. It is the desire of most of the LGBT people I know to make a pilgrimage to that Greenwich Village site at least once in their lives. Many of the leaders of the LGBT community are bartenders, owners of gay bars, and drag performers. Even those LGBT individuals who have never set foot in a gay bar have a stake in what happened at Pulse. We all lost part of ourselves. In the safe environment of a gay bar, you could hold hands or kiss or dance without fear of the repercussions that might befall you on any street in America — some streets much more risky than others. For many, myself included, entering a gay bar was the first time we were welcomed into a club to which we wanted to belong and that wanted us as members. I cry as I write this, I read Facebook with a lump in my throat as friends posted that they have friends still unaccounted for. Before the day was done, I had learned that a friend had lost his best friend. With the two to three degrees of separation in the LGBT community, it is a virtual certainty that we will all either know someone or know someone who knows someone who was there. As a community we will grieve for them and with them. I got out my “San Diego Remembers” T-shirt that I had kept from a previous hate crime march. Sadly, I have

been to so many of these, that I can’t remember which of the many tragedies this shirt was printed for. Ironic that I am wearing a “remembers” shirt and can’t remember. We have mourned too many in the gay community, but never such sudden mass violence on this scale. I wore the shirt to the candlelight vigil the Sunday evening following the attack and shot photos — as I have at too many such events in the past — so we can remember even as these tragedies become too many to remember. And that Monday night I wore it again to the memorial that started at The Center and ended, appropriately enough, at the gay nightclub down the street. I could express sympathy and solidarity with the African-American community after the Charleston shooting, but I could not truly feel their pain. The deep down soul-crushing pain. It was not my personal safe space or my world that had been violated. Today, I am very violated. It was gratifying to see hundreds — gay, straight and of all races — queuing up to give blood in Orlando. It was touching to hear voices from the White House down to people on pulpits expressing outrage and solidarity. As I write this, Equality Florida’s GoFundMe page to support the victims had reached over $1 million in less than 24 hours — and I am sure a lot of that money is from our straight allies. But it is not enough. It is not enough to express sympathy and give blood and money. We need to speak up to shut down the hateful rhetoric from any quarter, be it religious, political or random

Wife of Publisher David Mannis stands in front of impromptu memorial for Orlando victims at The Stonewall Inn, New York City (Photo by David Mannis) bigotry that tells people it is okay to kill in a church or a gay bar. Pittsburgh’s own Fred Rogers was famous for a quote that was spread across Facebook by myself and others in the wake of the tragedy in Orlando. “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always fi nd people who are helping.’ To this day, especially in times of disaster, I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.” We all need to become helpers and more caring people. We need to end the hate. For years I have said that I don’t mind being known as an author who is gay, but don’t want to be known as just a “gay author.” I didn’t want that adjective to define me.

Today I do. I am a gay writer, and activist; and today I will serve my community with my pen and camera.

—Walter G. Meyer is originally from Bethel Park, a community outside of Pittsburgh. He now lives in San Diego.▼

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A taste of Indonesia Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. The widely rooted concept of a “gastropubâ€? has arrived to Mission Valley, in a tuckedaway segment of Camino del Rio South that dead-ends at TGI Fridays. Situated at the base of a low-rise office building, the Mission Valley Gastropub is the re-branded version of Bali Thai CafĂŠ under the same ownership. So for customers who grew fond of the cafÊ’s Asian-fusion cuisine and small craft beer selection, most of it still remains. Also, in terms of atmosphere, little has changed. The inviting front patio offers more seating compared to inside, where the cozy central bar adds sparkle to a sleek, colorless design. In its previous incarnation, the menu featured more Thai dishes. Gone are the colored curries and drunken noodles. They’ve been replaced by a couple trendy versions of avocado toast and a variety of ramen, the latter of which holds zero appeal to me in the summer months. My companion, however, considered ordering the “Caliâ€? ramen stocked with lemongrass carne asada and fried avocado as our waitress insisted on this muggy evening that consuming the steamy-hot broth triggers the body into cooling itself down. We agreed that theory has never worked for us, and proceeded to order spicy mushroom-avocado toast and a few Indonesian dishes y that caught our eye. The toast involved a

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sandal-shaped slice of bread sourced from Bread & Cie that was grilled and layered with avocado, mushroom ragout and spicy aioli. It was as rich and delicious as a steak sandwich. Breaded wok-fried chicken wings that our waitress said were Indonesian-style tasted more like how a roadside diner in Oklahoma would serve them â&#x20AC;&#x201D; wonderfully crispy but terribly plain despite a generous sprinkling of shallots and scallions over them. The tamarind and aromatic spices I expected in the recipe were absent. But the Indonesian chicken satay delivered a memorable flavor rush from sweet soy sauce, lime leaves and bits of high-fat candlenuts strewn throughout the accompanying peanut dressing. Compared to its Thai version, which we also ordered, the chicken seemed as though it was marinated longer, and it came with the added bonus of a savory, caramelized coating that forms when the flames hit the viscous soy sauce. For the Thai satay, the poultry is kissed instead with coconut milk and various spices. Softer in flavor, it became livelier when dipped into the sweet vinegar dressing served alongside. From the specialties list, we shared the bihun goreng, a classic Indonesian stir fry of vermicelli noodles, cabbage, bean sprouts, green onions and various proteins, all topped with a fried egg thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s usually well-done as it was here. Strewn throughout the semi-sweet and slightly smoky noodles were under-seasoned shrimp, chicken and toasted tofu. The ingredients are meant to be tasted in their unadulterated form, withou without

Mission Valley Gastropub 407 Camino del Rio South (Mission Valley) 619-297-0800, missionvalleygastropub.com Prices: $3.50 to $8; ramen, $9 to $12; entrees, $13.50 to $19

h support off chili hili peppers the or zesty sauces used in other Asian fry-ups. My companion, whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s generally fearful of spicy dishes, plowed through the dish with gusto as I doused every bite with chili sauce while longing for bigger flavors. Next time Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll spring for the beef rendang, a slow-cooked Malaysian dish not commonly found in San Diego that brings into the scheme ginger, shallots and coconut milk. Or if I visit with a nagging sweet tooth, the orange-glazed chicken topped with fresh mangos seems like a winning bet. In addition to seven beer taps, the bar offers wine and soju cocktails. Combined with a comfortable, unfussy atmosphere and a menu that combines Asian fare with a few American dishes, the establishment fits the modern, general definition of a gastropub, regardless of what the Brits who give makeovers to ailing pubs in England might argue. â&#x20AC;&#x201D;Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of â&#x20AC;&#x153;Secret San Diegoâ&#x20AC;? (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.rr.com.â&#x2013;ź


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The owner of Tabletop Commons in Hillcrest has confirmed through a series of posts on Reddit that he sold the game-centric bar and café to “a highly motivated couple” who will take over the Googie-style structure on July 20 for a restaurant concept yet to be announced. The postings further state that “the business isn’t making enough money to sustain itself,” but that he will continue operating it through San Diego LGBT Pride weekend on July 1517. He added that there are no current plans to reopen in another location. 1263 University Ave., 619-487-1382, tabletopcommons.com.

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Coming early next year to Bankers Hill is the first restaurant on American soil by Drew Deckman, an acclaimed chef and Baja restaurateur who is joining forces with local design whiz Paul Basile. The pair will develop a 2,800-square-foot space inside the Structure Lofts for a culinary concept yet to be revealed, although their motif will pay respect to the building’s Mid-Century élan. Deckman spent part of his career cooking with renowned toques in France and Switzerland. In addition, he was awarded a Michelin star for his work at Restaurant Vitus in Reinstorf, Germany, before founding Deckman’s en el Mogor at a winery in Mexico’s Valle de Guadalupe. 440 Upas St.

(Courtesy Hom Korean Kitchen)

Korean cuisine free of preservatives, dairy and MSG rules the day at the new Hom Korean Kitchen in Hillcrest, which soft-opened this month in the space previously occupied by Which Wich. Owner Konan Pi said his recipes for items such as firecracker pork, BBQ chicken, beef bone soup and kimchi originate from family members. This is Pi’s second location since opening one in San Jose last year. “I really like the community down here and thought it would be a good fit since everything is made in-house from scratch,” he said. The menu also features gluten-free and vegan options. 3825 Fifth Ave., 619-956-9099, homkoreankitchen.com. The cherished and oversized Il Postino in North Park will likely diminish in size by late summer as owner Antonio Mastellone has begun working with an architect to cut the restaurant in half and convert one side of it into a wine bar. The spacious dining room, he said, fills to capacity only on weekends. Mastellone owns a string of other local Italian restaurants that include Ristorante Arrivederci, Pizzeria Arrivederci and Salunto Restaurant & Bakery. 3959 30th St., 619325-0809, ilpostino-sandiego.com. Shawn’s on Congress, a wine and beer bar in Old Town, recently introduced “dog day Sundays” starting at 11 a.m. the third Sunday of every month on its dog-friendly patio. The event features grilled hot dogs and bratwurst in addition to flatbreads and other noshes from its regular bistro menu. Owner Shawn Magurno opened the business in November in the space formerly occupied by Christopher’s on Congress. He offers craft beers from small, local breweries such as Duckfoot and Helm’s Brewery, plus 40 different wines by the glass, including strawberry Riesling and pinot noir that he produces at his San Carlos residence. He has also introduced “pint nights” spotlighting local brewers on certain Tuesdays and Thursdays each month, and plans on bringing in winemakers for special tastings. 2539 Congress St., 619-450-4154, shawnsoncongress.com.

Russell Rummer has landed the job of executive chef at True Food Kitchen in Fashion Valley Mall after working in the same capacity for two years at Croce’s Park West before it closed earlier this year. More recently, he was the general manger at Indigo Grill. “I wanted to get back into the kitchen,” the Cleveland native said of his new gig, which will allow him creative latitude for developing menus for seasonal wine dinners while maintaining the company’s established meals using locally and regionally sourced ingredients. Rummer will work alongside Chef Nathan Coulon, who opened the Mission Valley location and was promoted recently to “chef of culinary standards” for True Food’s California region. 7007 Friars Road, 619810-2929, truefoodkitchen.com.

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In an effort to keep consumer dollars circulating within San Diego County’s food chain, The Red Door has launched a community-supported membership program that provides fans of the Mission Hills restaurant opportunities to interact with local farmers, food purveyors and winemakers through exclusive dinners, garden tours, cooking classes and wine tastings. Other perks include Red Door gift certificates and wine discounts. The cost is $500 for a one-year membership and $1,000 for a threeyear membership. The program’s lineup of events begins Aug. 1. 741 W. Washington St., 619-295-6000, thereddoorsd.com.

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The business was actually up for sale recently, with the goal of selling it to a buyer within the LGBT community. “But there were no takers from the community, so we took it off the market out of principle,” said Sherman, adding that the bar will continue holding its famous beer busts on Sunday afternoons and karaoke nights Thursday through Saturday. In addition, the bar will present a carnival replete with games, a dunk tank and two grill stations on July 17 in celebration of San Diego LGBT Pride weekend. 2820 Lytton St., 619-996-9000, theholesandiego.com.

Food samples from more than 30 North County restaurants are in the offing at the third annual North Eats Festival, to be held from 4 – 7 p.m. June 26, at Cape Rey Carlsbad (1 Ponto Road). Taking center stage will be a live cooking competition featuring DJs Steve Woods and Chris Cantore from 94.9 FM Radio. Participating restaurants include Wrench & Rodent Seabasstropub, Blue Ribbon Pizza, Panca Peruvian Rotisserie, and more. Tickets are $65 and can be purchased at Baker & Olive, located at 165 S. El Camino Real Blvd., Encinitas. For more information, call 760-944-7840.

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community outreach which helps us connect with our LGBT community, the military community and underserved children.” The Foundation raised approximately $1 million in 2015, through ticket sales and private donations. “We provide groups tickets to the two concerts we present each year,” she said. “It’s wonderful to provide these groups, including the Vista Boys and Girls Club, an opportunity to come see performers that they otherwise most likely wouldn’t see.” Watson said she encourages all music lovers to check out their list of upcoming performers. “The Moonlight Amphitheatre is such a remarkable place,” she said. “It’s family friendly, it’s a great place to watch a show while picnicking on the grass and sitting under the stars. It’s truly unique.” Tickets for Well Strung’s July 8 performance run from $20 for general admission lawn seats, to $150 for VIP, which includes pre-show dinner, postshow backstage meet and greet, an orchestra seat, VIP parking pass, Champagne and desserts. Tickets are available at the Moonlight Amphitheatre box office and online at tinyurl. com/zryh8q2. Find Well Strung online at well-strung.com, follow them on Facebook and Twitter, or visit their YouTube page to hear their unique blend of music at tinyurl.com/jq4a74t. For more information about the Moonlight Amphitheatre, upcoming shows and/or the MCF, visit moonlightstage.com.

types of crowds. Although we are gay, we don’t think of ourselves as a ‘gay act,’ but as four guys performing music we love.” Their music is a mixture of classical and pop, and the band hopes to “bridge the divide” between the two. “The fun thing is that there are no rules, so if we want to mash up Lady Gaga with Vivaldi, who’s to say no?” they said. The four musicians — who all live together in one big apartment in NYC — said the number one thing they’d like concertgoers to know, is they should expect the unexpected. Many audience members have told the band members that they’ve walked into a venue not knowing what to anticipate regarding their style of music — but by the time they leave, they knew they’d experienced “something awesome.” “We love [hearing] that,” the group said. Well Strung is scheduled to perform July 9 at 8 p.m. at the Moonlight Amphitheater, located at 1200 Vale Terrace Drive, in Vista. Proceeds from the concert will benefit the Moonlight Cultural Foundation (MCF), a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that is the fundraising arm, as well as the producing partner for Moonlight Stage Productions, a cultural arts program owned and operated by the city of Vista. The organization is dedicated to supporting and enhancing the theatrical experience in North San Diego County, said MCF’s CEO Toria Watson. —Margie M. Palmer is a “A main endeavor of San Diego-based freelance Moonlight Stage Productions writer who has been racking is to run a youth-based muup bylines in a myriad of sical theatre program that news publications for the past takes place over the sum10 years. You can write to her mer,” Watson said. “We also at margiep@alumni.pitt.edu. focus a lot of our efforts into

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On Friday, June 17, Robert quired to pay the standard enPublished by Mascot Books, Rodriguez and his fiancĂŠ, trance fee, but Clarione knows â&#x20AC;&#x153;A Peacock Among Pigeonsâ&#x20AC;? is Scott Parman, held a special this is the right time and place labeled a â&#x20AC;&#x153;childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s book,â&#x20AC;? but event at Richâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s to raise money to hold his fundraiser. it also resonates with adults, for the victims, survivors and â&#x20AC;&#x153;I felt it was the appropriespecially those in the LGBT their families. More than 200 ate audience,â&#x20AC;? he said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;The community. people attended the event, performers, they are major â&#x20AC;&#x153;The purpose of this book which Rodriguez only had peacocks, they all are, and the is to carry out a message; the days to plan. people that attend DIVAS apmessage of not only loving â&#x20AC;&#x153;I reached out to our local preciate them for that.â&#x20AC;? yourself and accepting yourdrag queens, drag kings, burThough he may do more self, but really to accept other lesque and aerialist entertainfundraisers or book signings at peopleâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s differences as well,â&#x20AC;? ers to be part of this fundraisfamily-friendly venues in the Clarione said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I believe that er,â&#x20AC;? Rodriguez said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;There are future, he hopes there will be a so many groups and shows here kids and our youth are taught good response at this event. the hate that they know, bein San Diego that I thought if â&#x20AC;&#x153;Tyler and I both wanted to cause you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t start out knowwe all came together for one do it at a gay bar or a nightclub night and help our brothers and ing these differences or dislikwhere we could show solidarity sisters in Orlando, we can show ing somebody for them.â&#x20AC;? and to be at a place where we Not long ago, Clarione was our community that we are one, shouldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be afraid to go out to simply a follower of Curry, a and together we stand strong anymore. We go to these places nationally known HIV blogger and proud.â&#x20AC;? as a safe space, not only where Thanks to 100 percent of en- and activist. At one point Curry you can be yourself, but your trance fees, liquor sales, raffles had put out a call for an artist gay Latino self.â&#x20AC;? and Clarione heeded the call. and tips from the bartenders, Rodriguez agreed. â&#x20AC;&#x153;We have a great partnership bar backs and entertainers, â&#x20AC;&#x153;This could of been us, we and we get along very well,â&#x20AC;? Rodriguez said they raised could of been those victims,â&#x20AC;? he Clarione said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;We are very $8,000. said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;So it hit hard, our hearts much alike and understand Local artist and published are wounded, but not broken each otherâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s creative behavior.â&#x20AC;? â&#x20AC;Ś We need to keep pushing book illustrator Clarione through. We need to stand toThe book grew out of an arGutierrez â&#x20AC;&#x201D; who goes by simgether, stand strong, proud, and ticle Curry had posted online ply Clarione professionally loud. We need our voices heard.â&#x20AC;? that he had hoped to turn into â&#x20AC;&#x201D; noted that much of the $5 For more information about million raised on GoFundMe so a short story. the booksigning, visit tinyurl.com/ â&#x20AC;&#x153;Then he proposed the idea far had not been released to the zfwjwb4 or contact him directly at of turning it into a childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s families so he decided to find a clarionegutierrez@gmail.com. book,â&#x20AC;? Clarione said. â&#x20AC;&#x153;It was way to help those families and survivors immediately, however his dream, and it was my â&#x20AC;&#x201D;Morgan M. Hurley can be dream to do one, so we just he could. One way would be to reached at morgan@sdcnn.com.â&#x2013;ź did it.â&#x20AC;? donate the proceeds from the

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ADVOCACY With some of the seed money for this project coming from private donations, 8 West was awarded a San Diego County Health and Human Services Agency contract through Behavioral Health Services, which set the wheels in motion. This contract funds services for TAY youth who are homeless (including “couch-surfing”) and those diagnosed with a severe mental illness (SMI). Included with this contract was funding for a director of housing and social services, Ms. Lindsay Ward, with whom I had a chance to speak. Lindsay was actually an outreach volunteer for Street Angels, and as Eric predicted, “would work with him one day.” In March 2016, she received the call from Lovett that it was “go time,” and she has served as administrator, prospective resident interviewer, case manager and house mother for the two properties — one male and one female — ever since. A primary factor that sets 8 West apart from so many other shelters is their intentional willingness to meet young people where they are, regardless of self-identity, LGBTQ or otherwise, which can often be a barrier to trust for homeless youth. In the opening interviews, Ward makes this a priority in the conversation. “When I personally screen all of our clients, I make them aware that we are open to everybody,” she said. “We do not discriminate based on religion. We do not discriminate based on identifying as LGBTQ in our house. If a person has a problem with this, if they cannot live with a gay or transgender person, they are not the right fit for this program.” In addition to being one of the few fully inclusive safe housing spaces, 8 West employs a robust 18-month program to set these young people up for sustained success. Once a resident is settled into their room and the general rhythm of the daily routine, programs such as resume writing, budgeting, and school enrollment are made available. As of our meeting, Ward was preparing to announce to residents that a partnership had been developed with National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to provide an eight-week computer training program and a free laptop to residents.

A soap-making workshop for 8-West residents was a success. (Courtesy 8 West) While the program is still in its infancy, Ward is cognizant of her duty to “keep one eye on the future” for her residents, who must be prepared to successfully transition out at the end of 18 months. We discussed some of the progress she’s already seen in her March and April-enrolled residents.

“Just getting through the readjustment from living on the street to having a room, food in the refrigerator, hot water and a laundry room can be very overwhelming,” she explained. “Structure and security can be very disorienting, coming off of the streets. Once we relieve some of those

daily insecurities, such as whether food, or a place to sleep, will be available from one day to the next, we can develop long-term goals and plans to get there. “Our residents are coming to understand that they can go to school, or they can get a job,” she continued. “Having an address

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and a way to be clean can make all the difference in the world.” I also got to check in with Lovett to discuss his vision for the future. As someone who took individuals into his own home, he couldn’t be more excited as to the continuing development. “Working with homeless youth on the street, I’ve seen that we need to move beyond the ‘handout’ that meets the immediate need and the job training and skills assistance that accompanies our housing is a natural progression,” he said. “We currently have 14 beds which should increase to 28 by the year’s end, and our fiveyear goal is to employ and house over 100 TAY youth.” There are many ways to support the programming and youth at 8 West. Their residents work to create artisan soaps which can be purchased online (as well as a list of retailers who carry the products), you can donate gift cards for groceries and household items, and perhaps most importantly, consider giving your time. Spending some quality time doing social activities or helping mentor these young people can make a world of difference. To find out more about 8 West, visit 8west.org and to explore ways that you can be a part of transforming lives, email Lindsay Ward at lindsay@8west.org. —Ian D. Morton is the senior program analyst at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and produces the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ youth conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to ian@sdhdf.org.▼

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JONAS (CA) Was this a promo obligation? (NJ) No, it’s just where we ended up. It wasn’t promo at all. (CA) Who gets hit on more: you or Joe? (NJ) We were kind of isolated, in our own sections off to the side, so we weren’t able to interact that much, but I’m not sure. He was also with his girlfriend at the time, so maybe he was getting less attention. (CA) What would you say to straight guys who might not feel as comfortable going to a gay club as you are? (NJ) In the same way I feel like there’s no difference with my fans, gay or straight, the same thing applies to the club. And you can have a good time anywhere you go if you just choose to have a good time. I think it’s a unique environment to be in — and it’s a fun place and they play great music, [laughs] and as long as you’re willing to go in and have fun, I think it’s all good. (CA) Some straight guys worry they might be the object of some man’s affection. (NJ) Insecurity drives a lot of really poor decision-making. I think as long as you can be confident and comfortable in your own skin and who you are then you don’t really have to be worried about that. (CA) When did you become comfortable in your own skin? (NJ) It’s a continual thing, continual growth. Just like everybody else, there are some days when I don’t feel great in my skin. I do my best to grow. But I think when I came into my body, you know, and started building muscle and realizing that in a lot of ways physically I had become a man, that’s when I became comfortable and confident. Getting into fitness was helpful. (CA) When did being accepting and loving to the LGBT community really become important to you? Was there a person or a moment that really drove you to become the advocate that you are? (NJ) It was my early Broadway days and being kind of immersed in the community at an early age and really seeing that there was no difference. The key was accepting and loving people from all different walks of life. It was just a priority at an early age and also because my parents were really open and loving and laid it out for us that there was no difference. I think that was a healthy environment to be in at an early age. (CA) What do you make of speculation that you are gay? (NJ) I think people are gonna make their assumptions regardless, you know? And I’m a heterosexual male who’s playing two gay characters on TV shows and really doing my best to be the most accepting and loving person I can be because I think that’s the way we all should be.

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So, if people have opinions or thoughts on my sexuality, that’s on them. I know who I am and I’m comfortable with who I am. (CA) You stepped in for Iggy Azalea last year and headlined Pittsburgh Pride when she canceled her headlining performance after LGBT groups pulled out in protest of her past homophobic tweets. What was it like playing your first Pride event? (NJ) It was a lot of fun! I think there was a real warmth because of the fact that I kind of jumped in last minute and covered, so I think people were really pumped about that. The show itself was great. It was a lot of LGBT community people and it was good. They were a great crowd. And I’ll tell you what, I think it was one of my favorite shows of last year. There’s something to be said about surprising people! (CA) Last year seemed to be pretty darn good for you, but your new album, “Last Year Was Complicated,” begs to differ. What was the biggest hurdle you had to overcome last year? (NJ) It was a real year of growth, going from being in a group with my brothers for years to traveling alone, being alone all the time — it was intense at first. Then, on top of that, the breakup I had last year was, well, complicated [laughs], it was tricky. It required me to really dig in deep and lay out all my thoughts and feelings in my music, which, for me, is the best outlet possible. (CA) Beyoncé is obviously experiencing this with her new surprise album “Lemonade,” but I wonder, for you, how do you feel when you release a body of work and the public dissects it and relates it back to your personal life? (NJ) I can’t comment for Beyoncé or speak for her, but as an artist I think it’s so important to lay your heart and feelings out in your music, and if you want to be an open book in that way, it’s a great outlet to be able to do it. For me, I’m just thrilled to have that outlet to pour my heart into because it’s a good way to process my feelings and emotions. (CA) Do you keep the gay community in mind when you make music? (NJ) I think you have to create and have it be authentically you and kind of worry about what people are going to think afterwards, or who might be listening. That’s what I’ve tried to do: tell the stories the best way I can first, [so they] are the most honest. If I have to go back and edit afterwards, I will, but for the most part what I write in that room that day is what ends up on the record. (CA) Outside of “Scream Queen” and “Kingdom,” do you see more gay roles in your future? (NJ) I think it’s about the material. If something comes up and has a great script and a great creative team, I would definitely do it. It’s all about the script though. That, for me, is the focus.

Jonas said being apart from his brothers and finding his own way was “intense” at first. (Photo by Yu Tsai) (CA) When I talked to Joe he said he was working on music with you. He also alluded to the possibility of there being a Jonas Brothers reunion down the line, saying, “It could easily happen.” What’s the status on the new music? And how do you feel about a Jonas reunion? (NJ) Well, he and I live together now. We just moved in together actually. So yeah, we have a music room in the house and we’re always writing, whether it’s for us, for [his band] DNCE, for my stuff, or just writing for other people. I’m definitely trying to always create. But I’m not sure about a Jonas Brothers reunion. I think that we’re all very happy doing our own thing. And our oldest brother, Kevin, is expecting another baby with his wife, so it’s exciting times for everybody.

(CA) When might we hear some of the music you’ve been making with Joe? (NJ) It’s gotta be right first, so if we get something done and it ends up on a project, that’d be great. But I’m not sure about anything coming out very soon — it’s gonna be a little while. (CA) Following in the footsteps of some defiant tour cancellations in North Carolina to protest the state’s “bathroom bill,” you and your tour-mate Demi Lovato also took a stand, nixing both of your dates in the state. Why did you decide to cancel your shows there instead of, say, going the route that Cyndi Lauper did, which was to keep the show but donate the proceeds to LGBT causes? (NJ) It’s an incredibly tough situation overall and

one that we thought really hard about. Speaking with Demi and the whole team, the thought was, we needed to do our best to take a strong stand, and although it’s difficult and it’s gonna be a disappointment to our fans who were looking forward to the shows, we feel that it’s the right thing to do. Sometimes you gotta go with your gut feeling and do your best to help a situation. Hopefully our fans understand and stand with us. We’re trying to do our humble part. A change would be good. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).▼


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DELIVERY door — the nonprofit’s headquarters — as the steady flow of volunteer drivers rushed in and back out with their bounty, en route to deliver the day’s meals to their personal share of the day’s clients. “A lot of times, our driver is the only social interaction that the clients have all day,” she said. Hendricks, most of her 200 volunteers and many of her clients celebrated the 25 years together on June 17, at The Huddle. There was no gala, no entrance fee, no fundraising; just a celebration that included an open house, free food and lots of fun, memories and laughter. “I stood beneath the anniversary banner with four of our volunteers and we realized that accumulated, we had 130 years of volunteering,” Hendricks said. “Because so many of those people have been volunteering for so many years. And that does my heart so good. I know they believe in what we are doing and how we do it.” Tom Abbas, chair of the five-person board of Special Delivery, was one of those volunteers. “I was inspired to volunteer when a friend asked me to perform with him in a fundraiser he organized for Special Delivery in 1993,” Abbas said. “It was at a time when the AIDS crisis was in full force and there was a huge need for volunteers with many organizations. After meeting Ruth and learning they were committed to all volunteers with no paid staff, I knew my donated time and skills would be more valuable to them than anywhere else.” Over the course of the last 30 years, Hendricks has experienced lots of what she calls “little miracles” — serendipitous moments when the stars aligned or she met the right person at the right time — and each miracle brought her closer to where she is today. In 1986 Hendricks bought The Huddle from her sister-inlaw after waitressing there for many years. Taking her time to learn the business and keep payroll down, she put in long days for several years and got to know each of her regulars; she knew what time they’d arrive, how long they’d stay and what they preferred to eat. Sometime in 1990, one customer stood out. Scott came daily at 11 a.m., just as lunch started. “He had AIDS, but at that time I was so naïve, I had no idea what AIDS was, although I could tell by looking at him that it was pretty serious,” she said. Despite his voracious appetite, Hendricks noticed Scott never gained weight and wasn’t getting better. Soon he began coming in with a cane. She said they often chit-chatted during his visits, but never passed more personal information between them, like where he might live or even what his last name was. When Scott

Founder and Executive Director Ruth Hendricks and Ron Aldous, a 23-year volunteer with the nonprofit, pose at its recent 25th anniversary party. (Courtesy Special Delivery)

began coming in with a walker, he shared that he was no longer able to shop for himself or put food away. “There were days that he was so weak he couldn’t even open a can of soup with a hand can opener,” Hendricks explained. “So he started taking a sack lunch home and so he could eat in the evening or save it for the morning.” One day Scott told Hendricks how much he appreciated the food and the warmth and care he received at The Huddle from its entire staff. “Then he said, ‘You know Miss Ruth, if I’m not here, it means I’m not eating.’ Why he told me that, I don’t know,” she said. “He never gave me any added information.” Soon the inevitable happened and she began asking those who sat round him for answers. No one knew him outside of The Huddle. Hendricks was frustrated because she knew what he liked to eat and could take him a hot meal. During her discussions with other customers, she found that many of them lived near or knew someone who had AIDS. It became apparent that there were many who could benefit from a nutritious hot meal delivered to their doorstep daily. Some of her regulars even told her they often couldn’t get out of bed to make it to the restaurant. “There was enough interest, so I decided we should get together and meet,” Hendricks said. “We started putting Special Delivery together and it was all because of Scott, but I never found him.” Another angel came along back when she was running a coffee shop at the YMCA in the 1980s, a young Navy man

named Rob, but they lost touch after he left the Navy. Several years later, around 1993, he showed up on her intake form. Since the address listed was just a few blocks from The Huddle, she delivered his meal herself. He had AIDS. “His family had disowned him,” she said. “When we started feeding him, we became his family.” When Rob died later that year, he left a $25,000 life insurance policy in Hendricks’ name, specifically to keep Special Delivery alive. At that same time, one of her volunteers had negotiated a threeyear lease of the storefront next door and the unexpected windfall paid for a year’s worth of rent and more. One day Hendricks got a call from the Salvation Army, telling her about a woman with third stage cervical cancer who had three children and asking if she could help. Her hands were tied, since all of the grants and donations thus far were to feed people who had AIDS. Told by the board she could expand if she could identify another funding source, she turned to Nigel Mayer and Big Mike Phillips, two best friends who were also popular bartenders in town. “Nigel had come up with a great idea, to get all our fellow bartenders in all the gay bars to donate half or more of their tips for one night to give back to Special Delivery who really needed help at the time,” Big Mike said, adding that eventually they included restaurants, too. “Ruth is truly one of our community’s heroes; a straight ally that saw people she loved dying of this horrible disease and created a way to take a

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hot meal to those who couldn’t weekly classes and a mobile or wouldn’t have otherwise repantry stocked with diabetceived any food at all.” ic-safe foods. The relationship lasted five Hendricks was recently years and its event, which honored by Lambda Archives closely resembled today’s as one of their 2016 Pioneers, Dining Out For Life, was aptly Trailblazers and Heroes, for named, Ordinary Miracles. being one of the nine women Hendricks said the event regrevered as “first responders” ularly brought in $10,000 and back during the AIDS crisis. it allowed her to expand her Some say “it was about time” mission of getting hot meals to that Hendricks and others those in need. got such notable recognition “I remember in the early from the community, but the years volunteering to deliver Chula Vista resident said meals on Thanksgiving Day,” she’s never done it for the Abbas said. “It was hard to com- awards; yet she was moved prehend so many individuals by the event and enjoyed seeso sick and alone on a day that ing old friends. most spend with their family “A lot of the women I knew and friends. There was and still were there and we had so is a huge need for people like much in common,” she said. Ruth and agencies like Special “It’s hard to express the feelDelivery.” ings that we all had.” The pantry — which unWhile she’s ready to tacklike the delivery service does le another 25 years of doing not get referrals from social what she does best, looking workers, case managers or back, Hendricks can’t help but physicians — grew rapidremember some of the unexly through word of mouth. pected challenges she faced as Hendricks remembered that well. She lost a lot of business a few years ago, the pantry in those early days, back when regularly had a line that there was little known about meandered all the way down AIDS except fear. the street, past Brooklyn “The thing is, the clients Girl. One Friday she had a weren’t coming here, we were visit from a representative of delivering to them,” she said. the Mission Hills Business “They thought they could catch Improvement District. it off the floor or from a door“By Monday you need to figknob. Little did they know ure this out or we are going to there were people who did have close you down and turn you AIDS that had sat among them in,” Hendricks said the womand they never knew.” an told her. As a result, her And it wasn’t just petrified pantry staff put their heads diners that challenged this together and came up with an selfless woman who has given appointment system, which was much of herself for decades, a huge improvement for all. there are other wounds that all It was around the same the awards and passing annitime Hendricks realized nearversary parties may never heal. ly 20 percent of her clients “It hasn’t always been easy were diabetic. Though it was for me being accepted in the a hard sell, even to diabetics gay community because I themselves, she wanted to am not gay,” Hendricks said. establish a healthy eating pro- “There was a lot of criticism gram for them. Yet with a dein the beginning and yet the livery service, a pantry and an people that we were helping at emergency food assistance pro- that time were not the higher gram to manage, Hendricks echelon in the gay communididn’t have any bandwidth ty, but they were the people left. So, for the fi rst time ever, next door who were suffering. Special Delivery’s board of Many of them, when they got directors voted to pay an emback on their feet again, came ployee other than its executive in here to volunteer. director. They hired Rocky, “I persevered not because it her grandson, all because wasn’t easy, but because there Hendricks, admittedly, has “so was a need to be met. I have a much ambition.” God-given talent to cook and I had After a lot of local research people that were starving to death and a trip to Corpus Christie and it was a no brainer,” she said. to shadow a diabetic food bank Despite her success, with her husband Bob, who Hendricks has also suffered was one of her first drivers, great loss over the years, inHendricks was introduced to cluding thousands of clients a small family-run foundation and many volunteers she was called Domanica. close to, who she said “disinteThey came for a 30-mingrated” right before her eyes. ute visit; but once they took a “Her humanity is an examtour and interviewed her, they ple of the love and compassion stayed for three hours, learning that has benefited so many about the diabetic program lives, because of her ideas, that Hendricks was passionate message and campaign to feed about launching. and get our community involved,” Big Mike said. “I have a plan in my head “We do the best job we can, and a desire in my heart,” she offer the best care, the best said she told them. meals, the best way we know Though the foundation’s how … we gave them love annual grants were generand dignity until the end,” ally $3,000, they were so Hendricks said. “That’s helped impressed with Hendricks and Special Delivery they beeach one of us.” queathed her $15,000, enough To volunteer, donate or learn to cover her start-up fees that more about Special Delivery, fi rst year, and they have supvisit specialdeliverysd.org or ported her since. visit them at 4021 Goldfinch Now Rocky, Hendricks St., Mission Hills. and many volunteers run the “Domanica Diabetic Program,” —Morgan M. 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FRIDAY, JUNE 24

San Diego International Fringe Festival: Now through Sunday, July 3, a variety of performances at various venues around town. Visit sdfringe.org. ‘Rebel Without A Cause’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this classic drama starring James Dean, Natalie Wood and Sal Mineo. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit topspresents. com or call 619-295-4221. ‘Sordid Lives’: This cult movie classic by Del Shores comes to the stage and follows a colorful family as they prepare for the funeral of the family matriarch following her accidental death during a clandestine meeting in a seedy motel. Runs through Sunday, June 26. 8 p.m. Coronado Playhouse, 1835 Strand Way, Coronado. Visit coronadoplayhouse.com.

SATURDAY, JUNE 25

Gay for Good cleanup: All volunteer Gay for Good is partnering with the Surfrider Foundation for a cleanup near Crystal Pier. Bags and gloves will be provided; bring supplies if possible. 8:45 a.m – 11 a.m. 4500 Ocean Blvd., Pacific Beach. Visit bit.ly/28JFMIo. National HIV Testing Day: This event will feature music, food, raffles and information of health and local businesses. 9 a.m. – 1 p.m. Northgate Market, 5403 University Ave., near Rolando and City Heights. Visit bit. ly/28JADfv. Hillcrest LGBT History Tour: Lambda Archives of San Diego will lead this fun and informative walking tour through Hillcrest and its history. $20 for Archives members; $25 for non-members. 9:30 – 11:30 a.m. Visit bit.ly/28JzN2n. Lesbians Considering Parenting: A workshop that explores parenting issues and options including donor insemination, foster parenting, co-parenting, adoption, birthing options and the realities of parenting. All welcome. $5$10 donation, no one turned away for lack of funds. 6:30 p.m. Lesbian Health Clinic & Progressive Health Services, 2141 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. For more info call 619-260-0810.

gay-sd.com Bear Social Hour: A casual social hour to hang out and get to know folks in the bear community. 7 p.m. Pecs Bar, 2046 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/28JAwQV.

SUNDAY, JUNE 26

22nd annual Taste of Gaslamp: This yearly culinary and cultural tour starts at 1 p.m. and over 40 restaurants are featured. New this year is a VIP option, which includes special art receptions at four galleries, plus museum and historic hotel tours and premier access to everything the Gaslamp has to offer. Self-guided tasting tour general admission tickets are $30 in advance and $40 on the day of. VIP is $75 in advance and $85 the day of. Guests will check in at Pocket Park, 410 Island Ave., near the Gaslamp Quarter Museum. Visit gaslamp.org/ events. Think Red wine and paint event: The Think Red Project and Red Dress Party San Diego are co-presenting this event. Professional artist Nathan Mohle will guide the afternoon of painting – and you can purchase tastes and glasses of wine to inspire creativity. $40 admission includes two hours of instruction, supplies and an 11”x14” canvas for you to take home. 1:30 – 4 p.m. Negociant Winery, 2419 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit redwineandpaint2. eventbrite.com. Lambda Legal fundraiser: Celebrate one year since the landmark marriage equality victory in the Supreme Court. The event’s proceeds will benefit Lambda Legal’s efforts to fight for LGBT rights in the courts. $5 donation at the door; $2 Jell-O shots. 5 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/28JB3Tb. One-year anniversary of marriage equality: Uptown Tavern will be hosting this event with both reserved and shotgun weddings from 2 – 7 p.m. Wedding packages are available. There will be special guests, go-go dancers, DJs and drink specials. 1236 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/28JBn4e.

MONDAY, JUNE 27

Broke Ass Mondays: Happy hour cocktails and food $4 all night. 2 p.m. to close, every Monday. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit urbanmos.com.

THURSDAY, JUNE 30

TUESDAY, JUNE 28

Wine and Canvas: Stepby-step instruction and materials are included in this event to create 16”×20” gallery wrapped canvas painting to take home. Tonight — “Starry Waves.” No outside food or drinks. $35 per person. 6 – 9 p.m. Mimi’s Café, 9812 Mission Gorge Road, Santee. Visit wineandcanvas.com.

WEDNESDAY, JUNE 29

Pride World Forum: This forum will bring together LGBT movement leaders from around the world. Six members will participate in a panel discussion where community members can ask questions about their work and human rights issues. Doors open at 5:30 p.m., panel at 6 p.m., and mix and mingle at 7 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/28JC6SU. NGLCC Roadshow: The National Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce, in partnership with GSDBA, is hosting a large scale networking event for local businesses that are at least 51 percent LGBT owned. Learn how to work with utility and insurance companies, connect with other LGBT-owned businesses and Fortune 500 companies. 2:30 – 4:30 p.m. Council of Supplier Diversity, 10679 Westview Parkway (Second Floor), Scripps Ranch. For more information contact Brent Stewart, 202-2349181. To RSVP visit bit.ly/ SanDiegoRoadshow. Second annual UCSD Health Pride lighting ceremony: UC San Diego Health is celebrating Pride month and their commitment to the LGBT community. There will be entertainment by the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus, food and beverages and more. 7:30 – 9 p.m., San Diego Medical Center, 200 W. Arbor Drive, Hillcrest. Visit health.ucsd. edu/pridelighting.

‘Casablanca’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this classic film starring Humphrey Bogart and Ingrid Bergman. 8 p.m. $15. Additional screenings on Friday, July 1; Saturday, July 2; and Sunday, July 3. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit topspresents. com or call 619-295-4221.

FRIDAY, JULY 1

Lafayette Hotel anniversary party: The historic hotel will celebrate 70 years with a free event featuring a cocktail lounge, soda jerk, live entertainment and more. 6 – 10 p.m. 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit bit.ly/28JrqYs. Wuff vs. Twisted Bear Fourth of July weekend: MAN-UPP and Paul Coals are presenting this event with DJ Corey Craig and DJ Paul Coals. 7 p.m. Urban MO’s 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/28JsknX. Yankees vs. Padres: The San Diego Padres will kick off Fourth of July weekend with a game against the New York Yankees. The series between the teams will continue on Saturday, July 2 and Sunday, July 3. 7:40 p.m. Visit bit.ly/ YankeesVsPadresJul1.

SATURDAY, JULY 2

Splash Rooftop Tea Dance: An event by MANUPP and Joe Whitaker to kick off Independence Day weekend. Noon – 6 p.m. Tickets start at $15. DoubleTree Hilton Hotel, 1646 Front St., Downtown. Visit bit.ly/28Julk1.

SUNDAY, JULY 3

‘Heat Pool Party’: This monthly pool party features two DJs, games, and more. Event is 18 and up. Presale tickets are $20; general admission at the door is $25. This special edition will feature DJ John Joseph and DJ Nikno. Noon – 5 p.m. Lafayette Hotel, 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit bit.ly/28JGjpS. Mr. Ms. Miss Gay Pride 2016 contest: A contest to become Mr., Ms. or Miss Gay Pride and be a part of the San Diego LGBT Pride parade. There will also be a raffle and auction with proceeds benefitting the Nicole Murray

MONDAY, JULY 4 – FOURTH OF JULY

Splash Burst rooftop pool party: A Fourth of July event by MAN-UPP and Joe Whitaker featuring DJ Ron Hamelin and DJ Paul Coals. The venue will also give you a perfect view of all the fireworks on the bay. 11 a.m. – 9 p.m. Tickets start at $15. DoubleTree Hilton Hotel, 1646 Front St., Downtown. Visit bit. ly/28JwRqw.

TUESDAY, JULY 5

Trivia Tuesday: Every Tuesday come alone or with a group of friends for a chance to win valuable HBC gift cards. 7:30 – 10 p.m. Hillcrest Brewing Company, 1458 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit hillcrestbrewingcompany. com or call 619-269-4323.

WEDNESDAY, JULY 6

Guys, Games and Grub: The name says it all. This popular monthly event features time to socialize for men ages 21 and older. A $5 suggested donation for attending will go towards men’s programming at The Center. 6 p.m. San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit thecentersd.org.

THURSDAY, JULY 7

‘Making Porn’: Opening night for the long-running comedy about the gay pornography industry. Runs through July 31. 8 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., #101, University Heights. Visit diversionary.org. ‘Strangers on a Train’: Cinema Under the Stars presents Alfred Hitchcock’s thriller. 8 p.m. $15. Additional screening on Friday, July 8. 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit topspresents.com or call 619-295-4221.

—Compiled by Jen Van Tieghem. Email calendar items to morgan@sdcnn.com or jen@ sdcnn.com.▼

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MERAKI's protagonist, Psi (Courtesy M. K. Palmer) By Desirae Holland| Michelle Palmer, also known as M.K. Palmer, exemplifies the commonly stated notion that it’s never too late to follow your dreams. After being laid off from her position as a clinical molecular biologist, the Carlsbad resident embraced the opportunity in disguise to pursue her childhood passion and create a comic book called “MERAKI: Descent to the Underworld.” Growing up, Palmer said she constantly read comic books, with Marvel’s “X-Men” characters being at the top of her list. “‘X-Men’ are my favorite because they struggle fitting into society due to them being mutants, and since I am gay, I am able to relate,” Palmer said. Once Palmer was laid off, she immediately jumped headfirst into developing a comic book, thinking the project would only take three months to complete. She quickly learned there was an art to storytelling and her new adventure would be a journey and not a sprint race. “Whenever you first start off, you have no idea what it will take and it’s been a rollercoaster,” she said. “You have your ups, where its like ‘oh my gosh, this is amazing, I’m going to take over the world.’ Then other days it’s like, ‘what did I get myself into?’” While Palmer admitted that at times it felt as though she may have bitten off more than she could chew, she acknowledged that with patience and perseverance, anything is possible and those things are how she got to where she is now. Palmer’s desire to create a character she herself could relate to, led her on a two-year journey developing MERAKI, a comic book adventure that tells the story of Greek Gods, genetic-hybrids and gay heroes, including her lesbian protagonist, “Psi,”

who “battles her way through the realm of the dead.” MERAKI’s colorful and sophisticated artwork was created by Minh Hang, with lettering by Taylor Exposito, a DC Comics alum. The comic book is intended to provide role models for the gay community with its diverse cast of characters. On June 4, Palmer launched a month-long $5,000 Kickstarter campaign to garner support in the production of tangible comic books and to be able to extend the MERAKI story into a 12-book series. Palmer describes the comic as “The Odyssey meets Star Wars … LGBT style.” Less than two weeks into the fundraiser, Palmer is almost 80 percent towards her goal with 87 supporters contributing to an amount of $4,074. Palmer said the support she is receiving thus far is exceptional. “It’s exciting to see people I don’t even know pledging, supporting and wishing us well,” Palmer said. “I was definitely hoping that people loved the project since I spent two years on it, but I did not expect this support.” Charting new territory is always a learning experience and for Palmer, going from a scientific background to a storytelling/ comic book creator, she said she is most grateful for her family, her team and her partner, Lisa Korhonen, for helping her along the way. On her website, which you can find by visiting tinyurl.com/ jekcfpq, Palmer provides a sixpage preview of the MERAKI adventure. For more information or to contribute to her Kickstarter campaign, visit tinyurl.com/j3fb23e. To reach Palmer about her comic, email merakicomic@gmail.com. —Desirae Holland can be reached at d7holland@hotmail.com.▼

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