Volume 8 Issue 13 June 23 – July 6, 2017
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Marching with Pride
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l too r) Former San Diego resident and LGBT activist Ben Chapman-Gomez; Sheldon Ramirez (owner of The Caliph); San Diego City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez; Bob Lehman (executive director of the San Diego Men's Chorus); and Josh Chapman-Gomez gather with other activists near the White House before the National Equality March in Washington D.C. June 11. (Photo by Big Mike)
San Diegans represent local community in D.C. Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Even though President Donald J. Trump refused to recognize June as National Pride Month — on his first opportunity to do so — members of the LGBT community from around the nation marched in unity on July 11, perhaps in spite of his lack of action. President Barack Obama had recognized National Pride Month for the last eight years. While nearly 5,000 San Diegans marched locally, many others made the trek to Washington,
D.C. to participate in the National Equality March, the sixth March on Washington of the LGBT community since 1979. City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez, who has been involved in every one of those marches, was one of the dozens named to the 2017 executive planning committee. What many don’t realize is that there were two parades that weekend in Washington. Saturday saw the 42nd Capitol Pride Parade, of
see Equality March pg 2
More with Michael Kimmel GSD columnist discusses contents of his first book Ken Williams | Contributing Editor
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(Editor’s note: This is the second of a two-part series.)
In the first of a two-part series, Gay San Diego “Life Beyond Therapy” columnist Michael Kimmel talked about how the legalization of samesex marriage in 2015 has impacted married gay couples. Rowman & Littlefield released Kimmel’s first book, “The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage,” on June 8. Kimmel will have a book signing from 2-5 p.m. Saturday, June 24, in the lobby of Diversionary Theatre, located at 4545 Park Blvd. in University Heights. Classical guitarist Horacio Jones will perform, and a full bar with snacks will be available. RSVP to email@example.com. In Part 2 of our interview, Kimmel discusses other aspects of his book.
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Gay San Diego (GSD): Obviously, as a therapist, you meet couples who are having issues. What are the most common problems you see? What are the points of no return in open gay marriages? What should couples do when their marriages don’t work anymore? Michael Kimmel (MK): After counseling gay couples
— married or not, monogamous or open — for about 20 years, I honestly don’t think there is a point of no return. I have worked with couples — many who’ve had so many valid reasons to split up that you’d think there’s no hope — to find a way to address their problems, work them through and come up with stronger marriages. I’m not a Pollyanna, this is what I see in my work: I’ve helped couples who have successfully worked through just about every problem you could ever imagine. Some of the most common problems are: infidelity, boredom, lies, anger,
keeping secrets, unexpressed resentment, poor communications, and an unsatisfying emotional/sexual life. To me, the most important factors in determining a troubled relationship’s success are: (1) Do both people want to make this work? (2) Are both people willing to look at the tough stuff? (3) Are both people willing to change? If so, the marriage almost always improves, no matter how tough the challenges. If a couple feels that their marriage doesn’t work anymore, I’d encourage them to take a look at those three crucial questions. Almost any problem can be worked through if both people are motivated and committed to doing the work to bring about the changes they both want. GSD: Why did you devote several pages of your book to issues on age and sex? Is the gay community turning gray? MK: If we’re lucky, we are! For those generations not decimated by AIDS, we, as gay men, are fortunate to grow older. Admittedly, not everyone is excited about getting older. Sadly, consumer culture and advertising make aging look like a total drag: If you look your age, there’s something
see Kimmel, pg 11
“The Lavender Scare” — a powerful documentary about a largely forgotten chapter of American history when President Eisenhower unleashed a witch-hunt in the 1950s to rid the U.S. government agencies of homosexuals as “security risks” — has been honored with the Freedom Award at FilmOut’s 19th annual San Diego LGBT Film Festival. The relentless persecution of homosexuals ruined tens of thousands of lives and lasted for many years until astronomer Frank Kameny, one of those fired government employees, fought back. Kameny’s dogged pursuit for justice would go on to inspire the modern-day gay rights movement. The film’s director, Josh Howard, attended the festival, held June 9-11 at the Observatory North Park, and participated in a spirited Q&A session with the audience. The Freedom Award is one of three special awards chosen by Festival Director Kaleb Nicola and longtime Program Director Michael McQuiggan. The other two special awards were given to Eli Mak and “Devil Wears A Suit” for Outstanding Artistic Achievement; and McGhee Monteith and “He Could’ve Gone Pro,” for Outstanding Emerging Talent. “Devil Wears A Suit” celebrated its world premiere at FilmOut and Mak, a young filmmaker from Australia, traveled from Melbourne to attend the festival. His 20-minute short film is a high-concept drama/sci-fi about a religious Jewish teen who must decide whether to “cure” his homosexuality with an injection or suffer eternal ostracism by his religious community and family. “He Could’ve Gone Pro,” a 13-minute short film, had its West Coast premiere on Opening Night before the feature film, “A Very Sordid Wedding.” Monteith, an actress making her debut as a director, impressed with a drama in which she stars as a grown daughter who comes home for Christmas and forces her mother to confront the ugly truth about a family tragedy. FilmOut also presents Festival Awards and
see FilmOut, pg 10
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EQUALITY MARCH which Ramirez was one of four grand marshals. He shared the honors with national LGBT and African-American activist Mandy Carter, and marriage equality icons Jim Obergefell and Edith Windsor. Obergefell was the sole plaintiff whose landmark case led to a 5-4 Supreme Court decision in 2015, giving samesex couples the fundamental right to marry across the nation. Obergefell was seeking to add his name as surviving spouse on his husband’s death certificate. The couple had legally married in Maryland but their marriage was not
San Diegan Terry Cunningham was also in D.C. for the march. (Photo by Big Mike)
recognized in their home state of Ohio. Windsor, the plaintiff in another landmark case that reached the Supreme Court that same session, struck down the Defense of Marriage Act.
Windsor and Thea Spyer, who had been together for decades, had legally wed in Canada in 2007. Their marriage was recognized by their home state of New York in 2008, but the federal government still did not recognize same-sex marriages. Windsor sued the United States over a denial of her claim to the federal estate tax exemption when Spyer died in 2009. “Mandy and I fell out of our wombs as activists, but Jim and Edie are true heroes, and it proves that one person can make a difference,” Ramirez said. “They never set out to be activists but they are the perfect role models for those who wish to make a difference or take a stand. I call them ‘citizen gay’ — they were just average citizens and were confronted with
gay-sd.com Gomez said while watching something and instead of going the national coverage of the quietly in the night, they said, Women’s March on Jan. 21 of ‘We are going to fight.’” this year, he could “feel it in my Ramirez noted the hate bones” that there would be an that Obergefell and Windsor LGBT march later in the year. have been subjected to over the “Sure enough, within a week, years since their court cases it was announced on Facebook became public. that a march was in the works,” “Did they back off, did they Gomez said. “I told my husband retreat? No,” Ramirez said. that I had to be present at the “Just like the lesbian in high march in our nation’s capital. I felt school who wants to be prom I still had a voice to support and king; or the person who stands defend my rights as a gay man up to their church. The Edies and Jims come in all ages, sizes and for others in the LGBT comand colors and they are the ones munity, and that there was no choice in the matter; we had to go.” who are changing America.” Lehman, executive director “What I loved was that everyof the San Diego Gay Men’s body at the D.C. parade got unbelievable attention and cheers, Chorus and a 2014 inductee to all of them,” Michael “Big Mike” the Wall of Honor, said he was “honored to represent LGBT Phillips said. “So many people wanted to get their picture tak- veterans and service members” in the nation’s capital. en with Edie, and she is such a “The Equality March brought gentle little soul. back a flood of memories of past “I walked alongside Nicole’s battles to openly serve in the car and the crowd just went crazy over Nicole,” he added. “It military and the right to marriage equality,” Lehman said. was great to see that.” On Sunday was the National “Sometimes we forget what we accomplished and how hard we Equality March and Rally, where Ramirez was again front had to fight. While we still have miles to go, it’s pretty amazing and center. He not only led the how far we’ve come. So, marchmarch, holding the Equality ing with the crowds in D.C., I March banner with others, he
Nicole Murray Ramirez waits for the Capitol Pride Parade to start. (Photo by Big Mike) kicked off the nearly 25 speakers at the rally. Ramirez said that although only the 1987 march to date had recognized LGBT veterans, the executive committee of the 2017 march — despite all the advancements of the Obama administration — had also voted against it, as well as any expression of U.S. patriotism during the rally. So Ramirez did what he felt needed to be done; he wore a flag-themed shirt, handed out American flags to attendees, and worked patriotism and a personal acknowledgement of veterans into his speech. He referenced the fight over the military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (DADT) policy; brought up the Navy ship that will be named after Harvey Milk; listed off high ranking LGBT officers and the first openly gay Army secretary; and introduced LGBT veterans in attendance, who represented four of the five branches service, including two names known to San Diego — Navy veteran Ben Gomez and Marine Corps veteran Bob Lehman. Gomez, a long time San Diego resident and DADT activist who is a 2013 inductee of the Benjamin F. Dillingham and Bridget Wilson Veterans Wall of Honor at the San Diego LGBT Community Center, now lives in New Mexico with his husband Josh Chapman.
was proud of the rights we’ve won and more determined than ever that one day we’ll have full equality.” While Ramirez said the march, as they all do, was re-energizing and brought out lots of new activists of all ages, he wants to see our community do more “coalition building” and “extend their hand” to other progressive movements, such as Planned Parenthood and environmentalists, and to work on voter oppression issues, especially for people of color. He also said he experienced a lot of infighting on the executive committee during the planning of the march, which troubled him. “If our community ever needed to be united, it is now,” he said. “The enemy is on the outside.” Overall, it was an exhilarating experience for those in attendance. “I left Washington, D.C. a reinvigorated man,” Gomez said. “Despite the current climate of our national government, I firmly believe in hope and progress. If there is no hope, what do we have worth fighting for?” “We are not going to stop marching,” Ramirez said. “We are going to continue to march until we get our equality. Period.” —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.▼
The ultimate tease artist 'Queen of burlesque' talks her past, her present and her upcoming San Diego show By Margie Palmer Burlesque icon Dita Von Teese will be kicking off the West Coast leg of her critically acclaimed “The Art of the Teese” tour on July 5 in San Diego. Gay San Diego recently caught up with Von Teese to learn more about her past, her style and what show-goers can expect from her upcoming NSFW performance. Von Teese never imagined she’d grow up to be the international “Queen of Burlesque.” In her childhood years, Von Teese, who was born a natural blond, grew up as the shy and humble Heather Sweet; her father was a machinist and her mother a manicurist. She grew up in small-town Michigan before her family moved to Irvine, California, when she was 12, but it wasn’t until she turned 18 that she began to embrace what some refer to as her alter-ego. “I grew up as a little girl who was dreaming about being a 1940s pin-up or a classic Hollywood movie star,” Von Teese said. “I don’t sing, but I had fantasies about being like Betty Grable. A lot of people ask about my alter ego, but the thing is, I realized who I was a
long time ago. Today I just go out there — people see me and my childhood interwoven. It’s rooted in true obsession.” At 15, Von Teese began working at a lingerie store, and that, she said, is when she developed an obsession with the artistry of corsets. “I was interested in attaining exotic things,” she said. “I started asking around and at some point, in the early 1990s, someone gave me a slip of paper with an address on it. When I went to that address, it was a full-blown fetish store. Everything was black and red and I asked if I could have [a corset] done in pink. That was my first and it’s how I became involved in corsetry.” That same store, she said, is where she also discovered fully-fashioned seam stockings. The rest, as they say, is history. “I discovered all these erotic and exotic things,” Von Teese said. “I saw pictures of Betty Page and decided I wanted to become a modern-day Betty Page. That’s what sparked an entire career as a fetish pin-up model.”
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Von Teese will be performing her burlesque revue, The Art
of the Teese, at the San Diego House of Blues on Wednesday, July 5, and Thursday, July 6. While she said she hasn’t been in San Diego for “at least seven years,” as an Orange County girl who spent a lot of time in southern Orange County and the San Diego area in the past, it means a lot to be able to come back and perform. San Diegans must feel the same way, since Von Teese’s July 5 show sold out quickly, causing a second show to recently be added on July 6. She will then perform at the Anaheim House of Blues, near her childhood home, on July 8. “This is the biggest burlesque show in the whole world with the best performers from Chicago, New York, Australia, really all over,” she said. “I’m very proud of the cast I’m bringing on tour. I don’t want to show the one-sided view of my signature burlesque style. The cast is important because they show the other side.” Von Teese will also be performing a new version of her martini glass act — where she strips inside a giant version of the glass — which will debut in San Diego. “I try to think of ways to maintain the ideals of the show but to find new things to show people,” she added. “I’ll also be bringing back the rhinestone cowgirl act, which is a fan favorite.” Despite her worldwide fame, Von Teese remains humbled
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Dita Von Teese is a fetish pin-up model whose shows wow their audiences. (Photo by Frank Guthrie)
that she’s been able to make a career out of something she has always enjoyed. “I never expected this,” she said. “It wasn’t until I was on the cover of Playboy that I realized this could be a real job. I never expected to be famous for my hobby. I never imagined this would take me where it has. I’m still very level-headed and am always believing that this is still my 15 minutes of fame. I enjoy it and do my best at it.” The Art of the Teese will debut Wednesday, July 5 at 7:30 p.m., at the San Diego House of Blues, located at
1055 10th Ave., in Downtown San Diego, with a second show scheduled to take place at the same time on Thursday, July 6. Tickets start at $99. Attendees must be at least 18 to enter. For more information, to read celebrity reviews of her show, or buy tickets, visit artoftheteese.com. —Margie M. Palmer is a San Diego-based freelance writer who has been racking up bylines in a myriad of news publications for the past 10 years. You can write to her at margiep@alumni. pitt.edu.▼
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Let's #BeTheGeneration To end both HIV stigma and infection Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton Since its discovery in the 1980s, HIV/AIDS has both disproportionately impacted and been the “burden” of the LGBTQ community. When the infection seemed to spread like wildfire through the gay community, our lesbian siblings were our allies — even when shown that HIV had no boundaries — much of the heterosexual population actively avoided engaging in a dialogue around the disease. To this end, LGBT centers throughout the nation have historically served as the nexus of conversations and strategies around how to fight the spread of HIV. Denise Williams, an HIV test counselor and case manager at The Center The San Diego LGBT (Photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography) Community Center (The Center) is no different, for years serving as a central To discuss the implemenintersectional approach to comhost to HIV testing services, tation of this programming, I batting the disease. education classes and town caught up with Aaron Heier, “At The Center, our prohall meetings. As prevention long known for his role as The grams do not work in silos strategies — both through safCenter’s front desk coordinator — we are client-centered, user-sex options and bio-medical and one of the first faces that ing an integrated approach interventions — have evolved, has traditionally greeted folks to service delivery,” Heier so has The Center’s role as a as they enter its doors. explained. “From senior and provider of services; they now Heier’s current title is youth services, to Latin@, also serve as a launching point “Director of HIV Services and trans and behavioral health for discussions and dialogue Front Desk Operations,” a role services, the intersectionality regarding a reduction in both that allows him to also emof communities, cultures and the stigma surrounding HIV ploy his certifications as HIV peoples we assist, regardless and new infections. test counselor and Certified of what they come to us for, These expanding serPhlebotomy Technician (CPT). allows us the ability to disvices support the popular Recognizing that the first cuss and destigmatize HIV, #BeTheGeneration campaign, step in preventing HIV transwhat it is and what it means a successful marketing and mission is to know one’s status, to be fully aware of our sexuengagement initiative that The Center invested in getting al health.” challenges San Diego County to many of their staff members Also joining the team is HIV work toward the end of new HIV certified as testing counselors, test counselor/case manager infections by the year 2024. facilitating an integrative and and certified phlebotomist (and avid cyclist), Denice Williams. I had the opportunity to work with Williams this year on the 2017 Recovery Ride committee and was thrilled to learn of her work at The Center. Her experience working as both a case manager for the Hillcrest Youth Center and an HIV benefits counselor gives her insights into the shortfalls in education for our
Aaron Heier, The Center’s director of HIV services and front desk operations (Photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography)
young people and how to best formulate “circles of care” for those who become infected. As we see attacks on comprehensive sexual health education and an upswing in new infections among women of color, it becomes increasingly important to have a diverse team of counselors in The Center’s HIV/HCV test services. Williams told me that she is often reminded why she does the work she does, and she shared one instance in particular; it involved an AfricanAmerican (AA) woman who had found The Center listed as an HIV testing resource on the internet. “She came in for testing because she believed her partner was having sex outside of their relationship,” Williams said. “It was the first time she’d taken an HIV test. Her results were negative, which was great, but it also opened up a door for me to educate her on HIV and transmission, as well as the preventative medication, PrEP.” The woman was “woefully uneducated about HIV as well as other STDs,” Williams
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explained, but was open to learning. “She thanked me for educating her on HIV and the AA community, the need for more testing and the need for more familiar looking faces,” Williams said. “She said she was going to share all that we’d discussed with her girlfriends and let them know that they could come to The Center for testing and to ask for me.” Once the #BeTheGeneration campaign engages folks, through a diverse and intersectional social media and marketing awareness campaign, folks like Heier and Williams make sure that the next concrete steps toward better health outcomes are available. We are fortunate to live in a time when HIV can be treated and effectively prevented, and does not need to be a barrier to any of us. The resources are right through the door, and we all can indeed “Be The Generation” to end HIV. “Come in, get involved and give back,” Heier said. “The easiest way to do that is to volunteer, in any capacity. Aside from that, don’t be afraid to have conversations about HIV — and sexual health in general — with friends, family, acquaintances, whomever. HIV is a virus. Stigma isn’t … and stigma already has a cure.” For more information on HIV services at The Center, visit bit.ly/2sxQyaW. To learn more about #BeTheGeneration or get involved, follow them on Facebook (bethegeneration) or visit bit.ly/1Bgp6Qx. —Ian D. Morton is the director of operations at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and produces the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ youth conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to firstname.lastname@example.org.▼
Hold onto your dreams Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel When I was a child, living on a farm, the nearest daily newspaper was The ChronicleTelegram, in Elyria, Ohio. I loved reading it every day and I had a dream that someday I would be published in that august periodical. When I was about 12, the newspaper started a humor column: you could send in items that were funny, and if they liked yours, they’d publish it. I was so excited! The problem was, life on the farm wasn’t exactly a laugh fest. Still, I began looking for material. Weeks later, I was going outside and my mom yelled, “Put on sunscreen!” I dutifully grabbed the can of foamy sunscreen and put it all over my arms and legs. It smelled weird, but I thought, “oh well.” Later on, when I came home, my mom said to me, “You know that ‘sunscreen’? Do you know what it really was?” I hate rhetorical questions, so I admitted that I didn’t know. “Bathroom cleaning foam!” she chirped. Eureka! At last, I had something funny to write about. I wrote it and they published it. I was a writer! (Thanks to bathroom cleaning foam). In high school, I was the editor of the school newspaper. I had a dream: to change that school for the better. I wrote an editorial protesting some poorly executed school policy and suggested an alternative. The power of the written word rules! Not. I was called into the principal’s office and told, “You can’t say that, it’s too upsetting. We’re taking it out. Write something less controversial.” End of conversation. I protested to no avail. About 15 years ago, while working as a psychotherapist, I started offering workshops, some specifically for gay, bisexual, and transgender men. Typically, after those workshops ended, there were always a few guys who came up and said — in whispered tones — “You’ve got to put this stuff in a book.” My response was some version of “You’re very kind. Thank you so much.” And then I immediately forgot the idea. I was writing a column for the Gay and Lesbian Times and that was enough “writing” for me. But, the idea of writing a book took root. I dreamed about it, but had no idea how to make it happen. A few years later, a writer friend of mine in Los Angeles saw some of my columns and recommended me to his publisher as a “potential” author. The publisher asked me to submit an idea for a book. I did. They liked it. Wow! Could this really happen?
Well, not really. What happened next was straight out of David Sedaris: The publisher assigned me to an editor, who was very encouraging and wanted me to send him new stuff almost every day. So I worked like a fiend, writing, rewriting, re-rewriting (is that a word?) for weeks until, finally, it seemed like we were getting close to something. As if. One day I got a strange email from the editor, telling me he had resigned from the publisher and suggested that I contact a writer’s agent he knew. I was in shock. It gets worse. Do you know why Mr. Editor dumped me? So he could quit the publishing business and go into a Zen Ashram. My book was sacrificed for his peace of mind? How unfair. So I pouted. For about two years (I’m good at pouting). Then I woke up and realized: I can still write the book. And I did. I have always enjoyed writing, mostly because I love reading. Writers are my heroes; Ariel Levy, Charles M. Blow and Frank Bruni are just a few of my favorite LGBT writers. I used to compare myself with them and decided that I wasn’t talented enough to write a book, until the universe kept nudging me to do it. Don’t get me wrong, it was a lot of work — over many years — but finally, on June 8, my dream came true. So, at the risk of being sappy, I want to encourage YOU to hold onto YOUR dreams, whatever they are. If there is something you love to do but no one’s encouraging you; do it anyway. Don’t do it for the fame or money; do it because you love it and it makes you happy. That’s why I write. And that’s why my dream came true. Editor’s note: This Saturday, June 24, from 2–5 p.m., Michael will be reading from and signing copies of his book, “A Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage,” in the lobby of Diversionary Theatre, located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more about Michael’s process for writing the book, see the interview with him elsewhere in this issue. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.▼
Caring for our LGBT seniors Senior Matters William E. Kelly At the close of each “Senior Matters” column, readers are invited to join the “Caring for Our LGBT Seniors in San Diego” Facebook group page. Access to the closed group is free to all seniors, their advocates, families, friends and caregivers. While the bulk of the membership lives in San Diego County, several members are from other counties, states and even countries. The information and announcements posted on the page is primarily intended to be of use to seniors, their loved ones and those working with or responsible for their care. Of course not everyone uses Facebook but those who do pass information along to those who don’t. First established by Tony Freeman in 2011, who served as the group’s first volunteer administrator, yours truly volunteered to take his place in 2013 and membership has since grown from 90 members to more than 800. The soul objective of the group is to give readers free access to — and a place where they can both share and learn about — information, activities, programs and services that better enable them and their loved ones to age with dignity in safe, welcoming and supportive environments. It is the administrator’s responsibility to do their best to keep this Facebook group as a valuable source of information dissemination. It is your administrator who approves or disapproves member requests and posts to the best of their ability. The reason for this governance is to protect members from any potential form of fraud, profiteering or predator activities. However, use of this site, and any information or advice offered in its postings, should be utilized by the members and those with whom they share it with, at their own risks; with due diligence and caution. In short, your administrator’s best judgment should never supersede your own or that of your caregivers, family, friends and personal trusted professional advisors. As a volunteer senior advocate in San Diego for more than a decade, my work and involvement is well known by local and county officials and nonprofits serving seniors. Several years caring for my own parents, research and experience with the ravages of what has become known as the aging crisis, and the review of countless studies at local, state and national levels, has all uniquely prepared me for the self-appointed role of senior advocate at large. It is not a role of providing actual services and programs, but rather one of spreading the word about what exists and facilitating collaboration and cooperation between seniors, senior service providers and caregivers,
to mitigate the challenges with feasible solutions. This said, the aging challenges and issues are identical for all seniors without exception. The differences lie in the details. The reality is that the probability, severity or priority of each area of challenge for any individual senior or caregiver, is dictated by geographic location, health, social, economic, cultural, family and other variables specific to the many segments of a diverse population. Accordingly, there are no onesize-fits-all strategies or solutions. On a personal level, successful plans and actions to meet the challenges facing present and future seniors are not universally identical or even possible. The one constant that remains true is that earnest bi-partisan collaboration and cooperation between qualified diverse citizen representatives, their government, the nonprofits that serve them, and the for-profit organizations that depend on them to stay in business, is essential for addressing the aging crisis in its entirety. Nothing less is capable of producing feasible cost effective and efficient solutions to address both unique diversity-driven and universal age-driven issues alike. The oft-quoted idea that those who are not part of the solution are part of the problem is particularly accurate when addressing the needs and challenges of an ever-expanding population of seniors, in proportion to those who will one day find themselves seniors. The aging crisis is serious, it is upon us, and it is a
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crisis that impacts all of us without regard to our current age or gender expression. With that perspective and in an increased environment of tolerance and understanding for those different from ourselves, I asked “Caring for Our LGBT Seniors in San Diego” members a few years ago if they agreed that the group should be open to not just our LGBT seniors but all seniors and their advocates, caregivers, families and friends. Finding no opposition, I requested a name change from Facebook to reflect the change. However, I learned that once membership of any group surpasses 250 members, Facebook does not permit a name change. Instead, I posted the history at the front of the group page that fully explained the shift to greater inclusion. Now I ask for your help in encouraging others to take a look at the group page and consider joining, learning from, contributing to, and sharing the pool of information and activities covered by the membership. Simply type “Caring for Our LGBT Seniors in San Diego” into the Facebook search box and click on the word “Join” near the top right-hand side of the opening page. —Bill Kelly is a longtime local activist who currently focuses on LGBT senior issues and moderates the Caring for our LGBT Seniors in San Diego Facebook page. Access to the group is free to all seniors, their advocates, families, friends and caregivers. Reach Bill at email@example.com.▼
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Letters Local art appreciation
[Ref: “ArtZine: Art around town,” Vol. 8, Issue 12, or online at bit.ly/2tOZ98F.] June has been a wonderful month for LGBTQIA artists and their artwork. Thank you Gay San Diego and Morgan Hurley for keeping all of us informed. Hope to see all of our community come by to see PROUD and PROUD at Pride at The Studio Door and San Diego Pride offices before the end of the month. Keep living art. —Patric Stillman, via gay-sd.com
On Elizabeth’s return
[Ref: “Where in the world is Elizabeth Hannon?,” Vol. 8, Issue 12, or online at bit. ly/2sBCVaH.]
The damage of religious abuse By the Rev. Mark Martinhauk (Editor’s note: This ran in one of St. Paul’s newsletters in advance of the conversion therapy conference held June 15 in San Diego. We felt the reverend’s words were important for our community to hear.) I last wrote for Integrity USA [the movement within the Episcopal Church working for full inclusion of LGBT parishioners] nearly a decade ago when I was on the board. We were coming out of a church-wide conversation about how we were going to treat LGBT people, and those of us in Integrity were both excited and curious — excited about the Church growing more fully into the love of Christ as and curious what the future of Integrity would be. Ten years later, as a priest at St. Paul’s Cathedral in San Diego (a proud Parish partner EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 firstname.lastname@example.org CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS William E. Kelly Michael Kimmel Ian Morton Margie M. Palmer Frank Sabatini Jr. Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x120 EDITORIAL INTERN Jess Winans
of Integrity), my experience is that we still question what direction Integrity is going. Here in San Diego, we often ask whether we still need Integrity, given the rapid change and acceptance of LGBTQ people in the life of the Church. Recently, though, I have been reminded how shortsighted we are being when we ask if Integrity still has a role. [On June 15], a Christian church in San Diego will host a national conference on conversion or reparative therapy. The “Restored Hope Network” will bring people from all over the country to offer “hope for those struggling with sexual and relational brokenness.” They claim to offer a “cure” for homosexuality. I must admit I was shocked when I learned that this conference was happening. For one, I thought reparative therapy died a few years ago with the dissolution of Exodus International, which closed in 2013 after its president apologized, acknowledged that conversion therapy does not work, and that changing sexual orientation is not possible. My understanding is that his ex-wife and a few other remnants of Exodus formed the “Restored Hope Network.” I was even more surprised that such a conference would be held here in San Diego, because in California and seven other states, so-called “conversion” therapy is illegal for minors, an acknowledgement of its dangers COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 email@example.com ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Michele Camarda, x116 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 INTERNS Alex Ehrie Czarina Greaney Madhu Chandnani Eric Guerrero Angel Rodriguez SENIOR INTERN Jennifer Gottschalk
be to God! Still, it is easy to and lack of efficacy. become complacent once we I have never been a victim have gotten for ourselves what of conversion therapy, but afwe have sought, even when we ter seminary I spent several know there are parts of the years working in a mental Church where those canons health inpatient hospital as have yet to be fully realized. a chaplain. I heard firsthand Still, for me, Integrity has the awful stories of people who never been about only you and had their identities stripped me. It has always been about away from them at the most all of us; everybody; the whole tender moments of their lives. I human family. So I can tell you met too many people who had this: Integrity San Diego will be attempted suicide because they had become deeply convinced by present to protest the Restored Hope Network national conferreligious authorities that they were flawed and had no hope for ence, and if you are in Southern California, I hope you will join a meaningful future. us. Because no child of God When I was on the board of deserves to hear that they are Integrity, I toured churches as anything less than fully loved a representative of Integrity. by their Creator, that their gifts Again, I heard stories of rejecare a treasure to be cherished, tion and pain caused by conand that they are themselves a version therapy. I listened to part of this wondrous creation. stories of struggle with self-acWe will follow that up a ceptance and acceptance by month later with a fabulous God after religious abuse. The damage caused by reliPride celebration, where the gious abuse, which includes con- Cathedral is an official stop for version or reparative therapy, Pride week festivities when we is real, is tragic, and pains the will host an interfaith prayer heart of God. Conversion therservice featuring Metropolitan apy simply does not work, and Community Church foundin fact, causes damage. LGBTQ er, Troy Perry. We will also young people who experience take the lead on an interfaith rejection because of their iden“Pride with Prayer, Pride with tity are more than eight times Purpose” sub-theme in the offias likely to attempt suicide as cial parade delegation. those who are accepted. We will participate because What is the future of Integrity, the Church, and all of Integrity? I do not know what it us need to remind the whole world will be, given that the Church that LGBTQ gifts are meant to now has canons on the books to shine, and shine brightly! welcome and affirm our unique We, all of us, are a part of and God-given gifts — thanks this multi-colored rainbow ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 firstname.lastname@example.org WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza espinozawebworks.com email@example.com
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Congratulations to Elizabeth and Ty, two of the smartest, most sensitive and creative women I know. Whatever their hearts and minds touch will be successful and inspiring in ways unimaginable. —David Harrington Campbell, via gay-sd.com
[Ref: “Back Out With Benny: Racial injustice is an LGBTQ issue,” Vol. 7, Issue 20, or online at bit. ly/2sUNI2G.] Excellent article! I totally agree. —Jeff, via gay-sd.com▼
body, straight and gay and gender queer and trans. All of us, with our different functions and gifts and skills, are necessary to make this Body of Christ work together in harmony for love. Wherever you are this Pride season, I pray that you will live it fabulously in the unceasing love of God, and mindful of the justice that seems to be more and more needful every day. —The Rev. Jeff Martinhauk is a native Texan who joined St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral in January 2016, where he is the director of congregational life. St. Paul’s is located at 2728 Sixth Ave. in Bankers Hill.▼
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Pride Incorporated By Rick Braatz It’s Pride season and I have mixed emotions. I feel pride for my sexual identity and the successes the community has achieved, but I also feel a deep disgust, if not alienation, by the many ways Pride, or rather Pride Inc., has become commodified or co-opted by the market. There is something incredibly distressing about the commercialization of our Pride events, festival, parades etc. It is sort of a conflict — this want to celebrate who I am and the community at large versus the repulsion I feel by the ways the celebration has been sold off to corporate sponsorship and marketing. This conflict is not only within me; it’s in many LGBT people, it’s in the research on pride festivals, and in the various anti-corporate Pride protests that occur each year — most recently at this year’s D.C. Pride Parade. It wasn’t always so commercialized. The earliest incarnations of Pride celebrations began with the demonstrations that sought to recognize the anniversary of Stonewall, the riots against police brutality and to resist the stigma of being queer. Quickly other cities followed suit in the form of marches and much later with festivals. To pay for events’ cost, individuals would solicit donations from bars and small gay establishments and host fundraisers all year long. But beginning in the 1980s and even more so in the 1990s, the funding source began to change, which scholars Alexandra Chasin and Lauren Joseph have touched on. As they see it, corporations started to see Pride events (and the community more generally) as opportunities to market themselves and sell their products. And as more corporations became involved in funding the events, corporate parade floats and festival booths started appearing more and more. Today, corporations are part and parcel of Pride events. But it appears to be getting worse. To look at just how bad it’s getting, I decided to focus on one aspect of Pride corporatization, the annual Pride parade, and because I am based in San Diego, I decided to look at last year’s San Diego LGBT Pride Parade. I reviewed the list of the 205 contingents — the individual participants of the parade in the form of floats, marching groups, etc. — posted on San Diego Pride’s website for last year’s Pride parade (with repeat names deleted) and categorized them based on whether they were explicitly LGBT and non-LGBT. Among those that weren’t LGBT, I found they were nonprofits or corporations (and businesses) or government departments. Based on this categorization, I found only 26 percent of the 2016 San Diego LGBT Pride Parade consisted of LGBT-identified contingents. The rest of the contingents were corporations (36 percent), non-LGBT nonprofits (29 percent) or government entities (8 percent).
That is, nearly three-fourths of the 151 participating contingents in the Pride parade were not explicitly LGBT and the majority were corporations or nonLGBT businesses (74 in total). With this sort of representation, one could easily conclude that the Pride parade has essentially become a traveling marketing expo — dressed in rainbow flags and Pride symbols — than anything remotely having to do with LGBT Pride. Some, however, may see this as a positive sign of the community’s success in achieving market recognition and legitimacy. Others may point out how it shows the LGBT community’s integration into mainstream institutions, like the economy, marriage or the military. Still others may point out the good things that come out of Pride celebrations, such as the annual grants that Pride organizations provide to various community agencies. But for me, that corporations and businesses see the LGBT community as a gold mine or cash tree is not liberation but simply exploitation; and assimilating into mainstream institutions ignores the harm these institutions do to all kinds of people, such as the military with their perpetual wars against the people of color of the world. In addition, the fact that some of the corporate sponsorship money goes to local community agencies doesn’t hold water when we look at the behavior of the corporations the money comes from. Take Wells Fargo for example, one of the many corporations in the Pride parade. The bank has been fraught with racism over the past decade, including charging higher costs to AfricanAmerican and Latino borrowers, and neglecting the maintenance and marketing of foreclosed homes in black and brown
neighborhoods. It is also one of the top investors of the Dakota Access Pipeline, which threatens the life and resources of the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe. When a Pride organization takes money from Wells Fargo, are they not implicated in the stealing of funds from AfricanAmerican and Latino borrowers and the further pillaging of Native Americans? And when San Diego Pride takes money from Walmart, who we all know is a huge exploiter of labor, are they not playing a part in the ongoing robbery of America’s working poor? Some call this “pink-washing,” or the ways that corporations market themselves as pro-LGBT as a means to distract people from their nefarious actions. Besides being complicit in corporate malfeasance, I believe — like some of the Pride attendees in Steven Kates and Russell Belk’s research on Pride celebrations — the focus on commercialism and corporatization has led to something lost, something inhuman, something inauthentic. The increased commercialism has turned away the celebration from authenticity and liberation and reduced it to a “commercial spectacle” with a focus on consumer behavior. What was once an event that was very genuine and grassroots oriented is now a consumer product. But Pride Inc. isn’t just dehumanizing, it’s also exclusionary. With its focus on corporations and businesses, Pride Inc. implicitly communicates the message that all LGBTs are better now and can afford what it has to offer. That’s a delusion, or what Amber Hollibaugh calls the “myth of gay affluence.” The reality is quite different. For example, the Williams Institute reports that nearly one-third of bisexual women (29 percent) and nearly one in four lesbians (23 percent) are poor and transgender people are four times more likely to be living in extreme poverty compared to cisgender people, and the list goes on.
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GAY SAN DIEGO June 23 – July 6, 2017 But there is some hope in all of this. While San Diego Pride and other Pride organizations have turned our Pride festivals and parades into essentially corporate infomercials for the well off — more and more LGBT people are resisting and saying, “Enough.” Over the past several decades, alternatives to corporate Pride events have emerged, including events organized by Gay Shame in San Francisco, QueerBomb in Austin and more internationally with Queeruption. These events (and/or groups) critique Pride Inc. events for being overly commercialized and commodified and focus on the cultural expression and the issues and concerns of the LGBT disenfranchised; those the mainstream parades and festivals tend to ignore or forget, such as people of color, poor queers, the homeless and gender non-conforming people — you know, those typically without the big bucks. It is these events our community should be supporting more of. But unfortunately, they are
still on the margins and Pride Inc. is the dominant model of LGBT Pride, the one most LGBT people attend. So as we enter yet another Pride season, take a few moments and think about the degree to which your Pride parade and festival is corporatized. Is it a cause for celebration or concern? Should the behaviors of companies have any bearing on who should and should not sponsor or participate in the parade and festival? Is there something lost or inhuman by all the focus on corporations and consumption? Do you in any way feel excluded or alienated by the corporatization? Finally, amidst the intense corporate/business parades and festivals, how will you celebrate Pride? —Rick Braatz is a sociologist, social worker and a journalist who lives in San Diego. He can be reached at rickbraatz@gmail. com.▼
Richard M. “Dick” Greene Dick Greene, 84, died May 9 at Mercy Hospital in San Diego, of a lung disorder, despite his lifelong measures for wellbeing. Dick was an architect, an artist, a mentor, an activist and a tireless volunteer for HIV-related services. He was a family man whose extended family included many friends in the LGBT community. He is survived by his partner Jeff Wynne; his children Mark and Jill Greene of Gig Harbor, Washington; Lisa and Tim Torbinson of Costa Mesa; and grandchildren, Kyrsten, Blake (and Vi) and Paige (Matthew). He is also survived by his sister Nell of El Paso, Texas, and niece Ladell Greene of Seattle. Dick also had many friends, including Willie, Dan James, Gary, Myrna, and Firgill, among others. Family and friends will honor him at a celebration of life / open house at 3673 Curlew Street, San Diego, on July 8, from 3–5 p.m.
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Little Miss Brewing expands (Photo by Jade Malkin)
Little Miss Brewing recently opened a tasting room in Normal Heights with 16 handles carrying signature beers produced in its Miramar facility. Among them are two new rollouts: Patton Porter made with coconut and Norma Jean Blonde Ale made with cranberries. All pints are $5. Owners Jade Malkin and her husband, Greg, launched the company last year in Miramar with a World War II theme that extends to the new outpost. Their brewmaster is Joe Lisica, former senior brewer for Green Flash. Still in its soft opening, the tasting room opens daily at noon (see website for closing hours) and features a painting of a Union Jack flag stretched across the ceiling. “It’s a nod to our British allies during the war,” said Malkin, while also noting that the bar top is made from old brass bullet casings. Bagged chips are available and food trucks roll in Thursday through Saturday. Malkin said a grand opening for July or August will soon be announced on the company’s Facebook page (Little Miss Brewing NH). In the meantime, they’ve secured a space for an additional tasting room in Ocean Beach (4861 Newport Ave.), which also will open in a month or two when licensing is approved. 3514 Adams Ave., 619-880-2752, littlemissbrewing.com.
Chinatown will open in City Heights later this year. (Photo by Bill Lutzius)
Bill Lutzius, who owns the whiskey-centric Aero Club Bar in Middletown is preparing to open a bar called Chinatown in City Heights. “I’m kind of modeling it off of Rocky’s in Pacific Beach,” he told Gay San Diego, referring to a menu he’s devising that will focus primarily on burgers. The venture will be housed within a refurbished structure built in the early 1900s. Lutzius added a second floor for patio seating and said the finishing touches to the property will be complete in three to four months. He’ll open initially with beer and wine, but eventually plans on obtaining a full liquor license for developing a large selection of tequila. 4727 University Ave.
Hidden off Fifth Avenue in Hillcrest is the new Cigar Cave, which was home to two different hookah lounges. Boston transplants Emmy Leanca, and her husband Raul Comanescu, recently took over the space and changed the motif from a Moroccan den to an American Prohibition-era speakeasy beckoning to the late 1920s. Spanning two rooms, one designated for cigar and cigarette smoking and the other A smoking-friendly bar lounge opens for hookah puffing, the estabin Hillcrest. (Courtesy Cigar Cave) lishment also features a bar stocked with a global variety of wines and Champagnes in addition to low-alcohol vodka and six craft beer taps. The growing cigar inventory includes brands from Honduras, the Dominican Republic and Connecticut. “The space looks very different than what it used to be,” said Leanca, adding that she’s planning on offering small plates and cheese boards at some point in the future. 3858 Fifth Ave., 619-260-8099, cigarcave.com.
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Chef Phil Esteban (Photo by Kim Marcelo) San Diego County native Sean McCart has been appointed chef de cuisine at Mister A’s, the fine-dining penthouse restaurant lauded for its urban views and ever-changing seasonal menus. McCart is a 15-year veteran of the restaurant industry and previously served as sous chef at Juniper & Ivy. He will work in collaboration with Mister A’s longtime executive chef, Stephane Voitzwinkler. 2550 Fifth Ave., 12th floor, 619239-1377, asrestsaurant.com.
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GAY SAN DIEGO June 23 – July 6, 2017
Endangered species Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. We were seven strong, a modern family of two same-sex couples, two high-achieving college girls we collectively and proudly call our daughters, and their grandmother visiting from Missouri. If this were 1971, when Bully’s East — which now has “Prime Bistro Sports Bar” tagging the name — we’d be paying only 15 cents for bottomless coffee and $4.50 for prime rib with side dishes. We would have also been brunching in an insufferably discriminating climate, no matter where. (I’ll take today’s prices any day with the bonuses of freedom and acceptance.) Given its fossilized environment — red booths, heavy carpeting and drab, wood paneling — Bully’s offers a welcoming atmosphere staffed with young energy. Though loaded with sports memorabilia and flat screens, it’s one of the last classic steakhouses in San Diego stamped with the same level of nostalgia as The Red Fox Room in North Park, The Butcher Shop in Kearny Mesa, and not long ago, Albie’s Beef Inn in Hotel Circle before it vanished. A couple of old menus are showcased just past the heavywood entrance doors, which feature a horse jockey carved into them. The insignia reflects the restaurant’s roots when it first debuted 50 years ago in La Jolla by a racing agent and a thoroughbred trainer. That spot has since closed. But Bully’s in Del Mar and Mission Valley, born shortly after, still survive amid scores of local restaurants housing expensive, contemporary designs and fame-seeking chefs. Steaks of various cuts are the stars at Bully’s, which also happens to offer brunch from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. on Saturdays and Sundays. This wasn’t my first time stepping into the time capsule for a plate of eggs and a morning cocktail — preceded always by an urn of French onion soup au gratin. Nor will it be my last, given the satisfying food and efficient wait service our party encountered. The “game day” breakfast is a top seller, if
Biscuits and gravy with ham and tomatoes
only for its painless price of $7.50. It fuels you with two eggs any style, savory country potatoes, French toast or pancakes, and either smoky bacon, a sausage patty or ham steak. (The latter gives you maximum bang for the buck.) On this visit, our waitress touted the corned beef hash listed as a special, saying that customers were commenting favorably about the dish all morning. Indeed, the lightly brined meat, pulled from an actual roast, was divinely tender. Nary a speck of unruly fat was to be found. And the mingling peppers, onions and potatoes were soft to the bite. Crowned with two eggs over-medium as requested, I couldn’t have asked for better.
An old, stately bar operating in modern times (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Other protein options for hash are salmon, brisket and prime rib, the latter of which impressed me a while back with its payload of supple meat. My fork was in reaching distance to a tablemate’s chilaquiles set in a shallow pond of tangy tomatillo sauce. A vegetarian, she substituted refried pinto beans in lieu of carnitas or chicken breast. The tortilla chips were just wet enough to
strike that precious balance between soft and crunchy. The standout ingredients, which added depth of flavor, were roasted poblano chilies and a little crème fraiche. At the far end of the table, “Nana” from Missouri opted for biscuits and gravy, requesting a ham steak and sliced tomato on the side. She was happy with the accompaniments, but the rest didn’t pass her Midwestern standards. She said the biscuits were too doughy and the rosemary-spiked gravy was oddly sweet, lacking the crumbled sausage and tomato bits she uses in her recipe. Another in our party ordered the breakfast burrito, a colossal thing stuffed with three scrambled eggs, ham, bacon, cheddar cheese and salsa fresca. Draped in enchilada sauce, she gave it two thumbs up and took half of it home. Other brunch options include country-fried steak and eggs; prime rib and eggs; chorizo con huevos; lemon-ricotta pancakes; and bananas foster French toast. Though not listed on the morning menu, certain items such as the French onion soup or burgers are also available upon request. In addition to standard mimosas and bloody marys, the bar offers a full slate of cocktails, both classic and trendy, should you require something stronger — like a Haley’s Comet martini or a tequila-loaded spicy Paloma — to wash down your hotcakes and hang out longer in a red pleather booth to watch a televised sports game. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san. rr.com..▼
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Among the Festival Awards, the significant “best picture” winners were “Pushing Dead,” directed by Tom E. Brown, for Best Narrative Feature; “A Audience Awards. McQuiggan Million Happy Nows,” directed explained the difference beby Albert Alarr, for Best First tween the two. Narrative Feature; “CAS,” di“The Festival Awards are rected by Joris van den Berg chosen by the programmers/ of the Netherlands, for Best screening committee and the International Feature; and Audience Awards are deter“Sisak,” directed by Faraz mined by the audience,” he said. Ansari of India, for Best This year, there was no runOverall Short Film. away winner, as has been the Festival Awards for acting case in past years. included some well-known “The Festival Awards were talent, including James Roday pretty much across the board and Danny Glover in “Pushing different,” McQuiggan said. “A Dead,” and Bonnie Bedelia in lot of fi lms were represented. “A Very Sordid Wedding.” The programming committee The big winner of the did have a rather daunting se- Audience Awards was writer/ lection process this year. director Del Shores’ “A Very “Attendance this year was Sordid Wedding,” which significantly higher than the collected four awards: Best past few years, so those awards Comedy; Best Screenplay were up to the audience and (Shores); Best Ensemble (cast); the voting this year was the and Best Supporting Actress highest ever — there were a (Dale Dickey). few similarities, but they were Also, Irish director John mostly completely different Butler’s “Handsome Devil” than the Festival Awards,” he was named Best Narrative said. Feature and its lead, Fionn
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"The Lavender Scare," Josh Howard's documentary about the ban on LGBT Department of Defense employees, which started in the 1950s with the Eisenhower administration, won the festival's "Freedom Award." (Courtesy FilmOut San Diego)
O’Shea, won for Best Actor in a Feature Film. Director Jennifer M. Kroot’s film, “The Untold Tales of Armistead Maupin,” won for Best Documentary. FilmOut remains ranked as one of the 10 best LGBT film festivals in the U.S., and its awards are listed online at IMDb. “We have been accredited through IMDb for several years now,” McQuiggan said. “The awards allow fi lmmakers and talent to showcase their work with some potential award recognition and they are extremely appreciative. “It also allows the filmmakers and talent to be aware that we are accredited and perhaps it leads other people looking to book these films to recognize that a fi lm is award-worthy.” For the past few years, the film festival has run for three days, but with next year marking its 20th annual installment, that may change. “Not much has been planned as of yet for the 20th anniversary,” McQuiggan said. “But we are thinking of expanding by a day or two to celebrate our significant anniversary in a big way.”
2017 FilmOut Awards Festival Awards (chosen by programmer/screening committee)
Audience Awards (chosen by those in attendance)
• Best Narrative Feature — Tom E. Brown, “Pushing Dead”
• Best Narrative Feature — John Butler, “Handsome Devil”
• Best First Narrative Feature — Albert Alarr, “A Million Happy Nows”
• Best First Narrative Feature — David Berry, “Something Like Summer”
• Best Documentary — Josh Howard, “The Lavender Scare”
• Best International Feature — Laurent Micheli, “Even Lovers Get The Blues”
• Best Direction — Jennifer Reeder, “Signature Move”
• Best Documentary — Jennifer Kroot, “The Untold Tales of Armistead Maupin”
• Best International Feature — Joris van den Berg, “CAS”
• Best Comedy — Del Shores, “A Very Sordid Wedding”
• Best Overall Short Film — Faraz Ansari, “Sisak”
• Best Overall Short Film — Eli Mak, “Devil Wears A Suit”
• Best Male Short Film — Eli Mak, “Devil Wears A Suit”
• Best Male Short — Nish Gera, “Scar Tissue”
• Best Female Short Film — Graham Cantwell, “Lily” • Best International Short Film — Jake Graf, “Dusk” • Best Actor in a Feature Film — James Roday, “Pushing Dead” • Best Actress in a Feature Film — (TIE) Bonnie Bedelia, “A Very Sordid Wedding,” and Crystal Chappell, “A Million Happy Nows” • Best Actor in Supporting Role — Danny Glover, “Pushing Dead” • Best Actress in Supporting Role — Jessica Leccia, “A Million Happy Nows” • Best Screenplay — Del Shores, “A Very Sordid Wedding”
—Ken Williams is a contributing editor of Gay San Diego • Best Cinematography — Cathal and can be reached at ken@ Watters, “Handsome Devil” sdcnn.com or at 619-961-1952. • Best Soundtrack — Cian McCarthy, He is also a volunteer board “Something Like Summer” member of FilmOut San Diego, serving as Film & Media Relations Director.▼
• Best Female Short — Christie Conochalla, “August In The City” • Best Actor in a Feature Film — Fionn O’Shea, “Handsome Devil” • Best Actress in a Feature Film — Fawzia Mirza, “Signature Move” • Best Supporting Actor — Ben Baur, “Something Like Summer” • Best Supporting Actress — Dale Dickey, “A Very Sordid Wedding” • Best Ensemble — Cast of “A Very Sordid Wedding” • Best Screenplay — Del Shores, “A Very Sordid Wedding”
Programming Awards (chosen by the festival and programming directors) • Freedom Award — Josh Howard, “The Lavender Scare” • Outstanding Emerging Talent — McGhee Monteith, “He Could’ve Gone Pro” • Outstanding Artistic Achievement — Eli Mak, “Devil Wears A Suit”
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The Access to Law Initiative, a project of California Western School of Law, will hold legal clinics the second and fourth Tuesday of each month. At these clinics, attorneys will be available for free, 30-minute consultations to help evaluate legal issues. No appointment is necessary. For more information, call 619.692.2077.
Everyone is welcome to The Center on the ﬁrst Wednesday evening of each month for pizza, snacks, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hundreds of board games to choose from. The popular Team Trivia game, hosted by John Lockhart, begins at 6:30 pm. A $5 donation is suggested. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at email@example.com or 619.692.2077 x106.
Tuesday, June 27
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Tuesday, July 11
Community Food Bank (JULY DATE CHANGE)
9-10:30 am, The Center The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the ﬁrst Tuesday of every month, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at www.sandiegofoodbank.org.
If you look back at the past 50 M. Blow. To list all the writers years of gay history, sex has who inspire me would take up played a really important role. several pages. Before AIDS killed off half of The book originated in my cohorts, the ability to have workshops I facilitated right wrong with you. This sells sex with lots of men whenever here at the San Diego LGBT billions of dollars worth of “anyou want was really importCommunity Center in Hillcrest. ti-aging” products and services. ant to the men I knew in in The workshops had different I sure wish someone had the ’60s, ’70s and early ’80s. titles and focuses — from told me when I was younger Read Larry Kramer’s book “The Goodboy/Badboy” workhow much happier I would be “Faggots” for a snapshot of shop to “Monogamy or Open at 63 than I could ever have those sybaritic years. I’m not Relationship,” which was ofimagined. Had I known that, saying that the ability to have fered way before same-sex marI would have been a whole lot sex with lots of men is right riage became legal. happier to be getting older. As or wrong, good or bad. What I At the end of each workshop, a result of our work together, am saying is that historically, the guys in the workshops kept many of my clients have a betit has been very important telling me that I should put ter sex life as they get older! As to us. this stuff into a book. I was they work through their old unSo, yes, in a way, there is reluctant. It wasn’t until I met resolved issues, their sex lives a “double standard.” I’d fi nd it my agent that I realized that at 50, 60 and even 70, improve! more accurate to say that our I could write a book about We don’t have to fall to pieces community is divided on the monogamy and open marriage. as we age: We can get better, issue. And, unfortunately, in With her encouragement, I happier and healthier. OK, I’ll recent years, I have met gay wrote the book proposal, she get off my soapbox. men who fi nd it “fun” to split sent it out for bids and my up someone else’s marriage. brave publisher decided the GSD: You write about It usually doesn’t come from time was right to publish a the “double standard” in a healthy place; e.g., jealoubook of this type. our community. How is sy, loneliness and anger are it impacting us, and how typical motivating factors for GSD: You talk about a do we get out of this judgthese home-wreckers. sea change ahead? Can you mental situation? Part 3 Instead of judging each please elaborate? of your book is devoted other, it is my aspiration that MK: Younger people — to “Exploring Monogamy.” our community can learn to LGBTQ and straight — don’t What are the major chalembrace options and respect seem to have a linear, rigid lenges of monogamy among the choices of our gay brothers idea about sexuality, sensuality gay males? What makes without needing to denigrate and gender-related roles. In the “double testosterone” marwhat someone else and his husbook, I talk about this in one of riages so challenging? band have built. Unhappy gay the chapters at length: When MK: There are two major men want to mess with other two men come together, how challenges to monogamy — people’s marriages and relado they decide who does what whether you’re legally married tionships; happy, contented gay around the home? Who takes or not; one is biological, the oth- men don’t. care of the car? Home repairs? er cultural. My intention with this book Cooking? Cleaning? Children? Biological: Testosterone is is to help the gay community For many younger gay men, significantly correlated with embrace choice and not autosex-role stereotypes are falling aggression and competitive bematically imitate straight folks; away rapidly; the possibilities havior. A whole lot of research at the same time respecting gay for the future are open and studies have found direct corcouples whose marriages may bright. relations between testosterone look conventional and value Another type of sea change and dominance. Testosterone monogamy. Home-wreckers can ahead will focus on how our can produce aggression by actigo after someone in an open marriages fare in the longvating subcortical areas in the marriage, too. It’s not just moterm: Will we stay together/ brain, typically manifesting nogamous relationships that divorce at the same rate that through thoughts, anger, verbal can be messed with. straight folks do? Or will we aggression, competition, domiDouble testosterone marfind new ways to keep our marnance and physical/emotional/ riages are challenging because riages vital and alive? I was verbal violence. you’re balancing the desires of asked to speak to a group of Testosterone and other ansecurity with that of sexual vagay lawyers about the psycholodrogens “masculinize” a brain riety. We want the excitement gy of gay divorce. No one knows to be competitive even to the of a sexy lover like Superman what gay divorces will be like. point of risking psychological with the security of being marWill they mimic straight dior physical harm to yourself ried to Clark Kent. We want vorce or will we somehow manand others, like your husband. it all, these seeming opposites, age it differently? Testosterone helps us to surand it’s not easy to pull off. There are exciting times for vive, attract and “copulate with It is my hope that as gay us and I look forward to the sea mates as much as possible,” men, we can see we have a changes coming. which is a direct quote from a whole lot of options on how we research study I found. If our want to structure our relationGSD: Thank you for sharbiology tells us to have sex ships — whether we marry or ing bits and pieces about with as many hot guys as we not — and that what we choose yourself throughout the can, it may be challenging to with our man may not be what book. I learned that you completely embrace monogamy our best friend and his man are 63; raised on a farm in in our “double-testosterone” opt for. Ohio by Republican-voting marriages. Can we create a structure parents; as a teenager, you Cultural: Gay culture, in that works for our marriage once drove your mother’s many ways, doesn’t support mo- and respect the structures that car 120 mph; you came out nogamy. I cannot tell you how other gay men have chosen for in your early 30s; and, as many clients have told me that their marriages? I sure hope so. a psychotherapist, your once they’re in a monogamous clients have included relationship/marriage, they GSD: Do you think your porn stars, go-go boys and get hit on way more often than advice is more “textbook” escorts. they did when they were sinin style or more maverick You also let readers know gle. Is it that we want what we in thinking, and why? that you’ve been fired from can’t have? Or is it more that At one point, my publisher jobs, twice; one of your married men are safer to have said, “This is definitely not partners died of AIDS in sex with because they won’t fall a textbook, it’s too funny, too the late 1980s; you worked in love with us and want more? controversial and too easy to for Children’s Protective As far as monogamy is read.” Whether it’s a 700-word Services; were a middle concerned, our community is column for Gay San Diego or a school counselor; and definitely divided: Some of us 300-page book, I pretty much have lived in Paris, New value monogamy and want it, write the same way. York City, London and San while others see it as a leftover I wrote the kind of book Francisco. Based on your piece of “oppression” from that I’d like to read. I hate bormyriad life experiences, centuries’ old institution called ing, preachy self-help books what would your grown-up heterosexual marriage. and books without humor. I self tell your 13-year-old There are a lot of gay men am a very avid reader who is self? inspired by so many writers, who find marriage and monogMK: I was probably at my amy extremely unappealing. from Joan Didion to Charles most miserable at age 13, so
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GAY SAN DIEGO June 23 – July 6, 2017 you’ve picked an appropriately vulnerable time to ask about. I think I would take this skinny young man with buckteeth and thick glasses out to lunch, somewhere elegant — hard to find in rural Ohio, but, this is my fantasy — and tell him some version of: “I know this time is hell for you. It will pass. It’s not permanent. Someday, you will be able to come out and your life will change dramatically. Once you get to college, your world will open up tremendously and you’ll meet lots more people who are like you: studious, shy, socially awkward and gay. That’s only a few years away, so how can you hang in there until then? Focus on what you enjoy: reading, drawing, dancing and singing in the cornfields — where no one can hear — and stay close to your friends who understand you. “I’m sorry to tell you that you will be teased a lot during the next few years. Do your best to not believe what they say. They are unhappy and scared, too. Try and see that they are more like you than you might imagine.
“Remember that lots of people love you and vice-versa. Pet your dogs and cats, be good to the farm animals and enjoy driving that tractor! “P.S. And in the coming years you will grow three more inches, gain about 25 more pounds, get braces and start wearing contact lenses.” If you missed Part 1 of this interview, find it in Vol. 8, Issue 12, or online at bit. ly/2tKpzIv. —Ken Williams is a contributing editor of Gay San Diego and can be reached at email@example.com or at 619-961-1952.▼
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Local filmmakers Paul Dewiler and Chris Cashman have been working on a documentary about the history of San Diego’s gay bars and they are seeking the local LGBT community’s help to complete it. Those interested in offering their support are invited to a free fundraising mixer Wednesday, June 28 from 6–8 p.m. at The Rail, located at 3796 Fifth Ave. in Hillcrest. “This event is important because it reaches out directly to the San Diego LGBT community to help support stories about its history and culture,” said Detwiler, the director of the documentary, in a press release. “The bars are where the LGBT community began, so it’s fitting to hold the event on June 28 — the 47th anniversary of the Stonewall riots, which began in a gay bar, and essentially marked the beginning of the modern LGBT civil rights movement in this country.” The idea for the film was chosen as a finalist out of 180 submissions last fall to KPBS Explore, a program that solicits programming from local filmmakers. Detwiler interviewed bar owners, bartenders and activists from the local LGBT community as part of his submission. The completed film is scheduled to be released by KPBS in June 2018 and it may also be shown in Los Angeles and San Francisco. Attendees will get a chance to meet the filmmakers, enjoy snacks and drink specials, and watch a 7-minute sneak peek of the film. John Decker, program director at KPBS, will discuss KPBS’ involvement with the project. Those wishing to donate can purchase raffle tickets or a souvenir pint beer glass. iPad stations will be set up throughout the venue, allowing those who wish to contribute online, easy and convenient access. “We’re excited to partner with the nonprofit Media Arts Center as our fiscal sponsor, thereby allowing people to make tax-deductible donations towards the film through this well-respected San Diego organization,” said Cashman, the documentary’s producer, in the news release. For more information about the event, visit bit.ly/2rWYFfy. To donate, visit bit. ly/2rXbh65 and choose “Gay Bar History Project” from the drop-down menu.
UNIVERSITY AVENUE TO WELCOME NEW ATHLETIC CLUB
A new multi-modal athletic club will be moving into Hillcrest at 1243 University Ave. — the former home of Wine Steals — with a soft opening planned for July 14 and an official opening to follow on Aug. 5.
The newly branded Hillcrest Athletic Club (HAC) has been operating as two clubs out of a small space located at 3746 Sixth Ave. Owners had always deemed the location — which first opened in 2013 as Crossfit Hillcrest — as temporary and continued to look for a bigger space in the area. In the meantime, however, America’s Finest Bootcamp also launched at the Sixth Avenue address this past April, and things became tight, forcing the move. After searching since 2012 for a location that had high ceilings, non-wood floors and would allow for future expansion, HAC owner Mike Stoll said the former Wine Steals building was the perfect fit and will allow them to double their current workout space. “It also can be modified for showers and has dedicated parking, two things that help draw in folks who work, but don’t live, in Hillcrest,” Stoll said in a press release. “It’s also in the heart of Hillcrest, so now we’ll feel like we’re an integral part of the neighborhood instead of out on the fringes.” The new combined Hillcrest Athletic Club will offer CrossFit and bootcamp sessions; short-duration YogaFlex classes focused on improving flexibility; and they will have an Olympic lifting barbell club, called “Bent Iron Barbell Works.” In the future they plan to expand their classes to include 55-plus fitness classes; lessons on nutrition; and weekend seminars on special instruction. For a limited time, bootcamp and Crossfit classes will be offered at a reduced rate at the Sixth Avenue location. There will also be sign-up specials available during their soft-opening weekend, which is also Pride Weekend, that will include a group Crossfit fundamentals class for $50. Those who sign up for five months of CrossFit or bootcamp classes will be rewarded with a sixth month for free. For more information,visit CrossFitHillcrest.com or facebook.com/CrossFitHillcrest.
SDWC’S #SORRYNOTSORRY TO ‘UNAPOLOGETICALLY’ KICK OFF PRIDE WEEKEND
The San Diego Women’s Chorus (SDWC) will host its #SorryNotSorry concert on Thursday, July 13, at 7 p.m. at The Irenic, located at 3090 Polk Ave. in North Park. The concert, described by the chorus as “edgy and fun,” will feature songs by pop stars such as Kelly Clarkson, Pink, CeeLo Green, Beyonc« and Gloria Gaynor, as well as Holly Near, “The Voice” winner Jordan Smith, and country singer Kasey Musgraves. “In a world where we, as women, are expected to censor ourselves constantly, this is our uncensored musical tribute to owning our emotions and using our freedom of expression — without apology,” said SDWC Artistic Director Kathleen Hansen
in a press release. “From being told to ‘Smile, honey,’ to being shamed for our bodies, there are times that each of us have held back [adult language]. That time is not this performance.” #SorryNotSorry will be feature SDWC performing as a full chorus, in small ensembles and using spoken word poetry. With adult themes and uncensored language, the event will be more appropriate for adults and mature teens. Tickets for the one-night concert are $20 with discounted pricing available. The Irenic has limited seating. A select number of VIP tickets are available for $30, which offer premium seating in a reserved area. Visit bit. ly/2rSS9ep.▼
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Friday, June 23
Fringe Festival (LGBT): “Twelve Nights with Viola & Olivia,” a take on Shakespeare’s classic, “Twelfth Night,” is one of two LGBT-themed entries into this year’s San Diego International Fringe Festival. This girl-meetsboy — or did she? — tale is told through Elizabethanstyle verse and brings the unique voice and viewpoint of an intersexed woman to the stage. Artist: A Stage of Our Own Theater Collective. 7:30–8:30 p.m. Tickets, $10 online or at door. Rosewood Five, 1150 Seventh Ave., Downtown. Visit bit.ly/2rAm32R. Community mixer: Sen. Toni G. Atkins will hold the Small Business of The Year reception, where she will recognize a select group of small businesses from the 39th Senate District. RSVP required. 5–7 p.m. at The Studio Door, 3750 30th St., North Park. Visit thestudiodoor.com.
Saturday, June 24
Hillcrest Beer Crawl: Hillcrest Brewing Company (HBC) wants to ease the LGBT community into the craft beer world by introducing them to other local breweries and educating them on craft beer. They’ve also paired up with area restaurants as well as their own playgrounds so that food, while not included, will be available at special prices throughout the crawl. Registration begins at 1:30 p.m. $20 gets you a tasting mug, your passport, beer tastings and for $25 you’ll also get a T-shirt at the end. Proceeds will help beautify Hillcrest. Prices will go up to $25 and $30 day of event. Shuttle service available. HBC, 1458 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2tLAIJl. Bingo for SheFest: Come out and play bingo, help raise money for SheFest, and learn about Civilized Disruption, a new #Resist group that is co-hosting the afternoon of Bingo. Each card is $5., there will be a 50/50 raffle with lots of prizes and
gay-sd.com they will play bingo until the prizes are gone. Cash only. Bingo. Drink. Repeat. 3 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2syej2C.
Sunday, June 25
Marriage Equality Anniversary: Join your local community members to commemorate the second anniversary of the Supreme Court’s ruling that established marriage equality across the nation. This will be one big reception party, complete with tray-passed cupcakes, $5 Chandon Champagne by the glass and Chandon will be matching the Champagne sales to benefit family programs at The Center. Dressing up is encouraged but not required. Uptown Tavern, 1236 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2sO3GLf. Dine In with Trevor Project: The San Diego Ambassadors of the Trevor Project fundraiser will get your tummy talking. Invite family and friends and join your community for a yummy, plant-based meal at Native Foods Café. The local Trevor Project ambassadors will receive 20 percent of the proceeds. 4–9 p.m. Native Foods Café, 5604 Balboa Ave., Genesee Plaza Shopping Center in Clairemont Mesa. To check out the menu, visit bit.ly/2rAUJBs. Visit bit. ly/2tqwszH. Bar Crawl for HIV Testing Awareness: In advance of National HIV Testing Day on June 27, join The Center’s #BeTheGeneration team while they do a Sunday Funday bar crawl to promote their #BTG campaign and educate the community about PrEP, HIV testing options and more. Participants are requested to wear their #BTG gear; if you don’t have a #BTG hoodie, shirt or tank top, contact Benny Cartwright at firstname.lastname@example.org to get one. Crawl starts at Babycakes, 3766 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Watch their Facebook event page to see where they go to next. 3–6:30 p.m. Visit bit. ly/2tqUhXW.
Roller skating for rights: The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) and Club X present an ’80s-themed roller skating fundraiser to benefit and raise awareness of the NCSF organization. NCSF advocates for advancing the rights of consenting adults in the BDSMLeather-Fetish, Swing and Polyamory communities. Costume contest with prizes, other games and activities. 5:30–7:30 p.m. Tickets $10 and include skate rental (add $4 for roller blades). Full snack bar. Must be 18 to attend. Skate World, 6907 Linda Vista Road, Kearny Mesa. Visit ncsfreedom.org or clubxsd.org.
Programming Director John Decker. If you can’t attend, donations can also be made to npo.justgive. org/macsd (select “gay bar history project” in the dropdown menu). All donations are tax-deductible. 6–8 p.m. The Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2tqGi4t.
Thursday, June 29
Wine and Paint Class in Hillcrest: Local artist Julie Harris will guide you through the steps to create your own masterpiece while you sip wine, connect with friends or make new ones. Cheese plates and wine by the glass will be available for purchase. $30. 6–8 p.m. Seating is limited. Sign up in the store, by phone 619-534-5034 or online. VomFass Hillcrest, 1050 University Ave., E103 (next to gay Ralphs) in the HUB shopping center. Visit bit. ly/2tLGjiP.
Monday, June 26
Mazing Mondays at the Caliph: Sing along to the songs of your past with Carol Curtis from 5–8 p.m. and enjoy karaoke with Danny from 8:30 p.m.–12:30 a.m. at this “easy-going” cocktail bar and lounge that has been in our community since 1960. Happy hour 4:30 p.m.–1 a.m. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit thecaliph.net.
Friday, June 30
Top of the Bay T-dance: The original LGBT happy hour is located on the Porto Vista Hotel’s rooftop with beautiful harbor views. The T-dance starts at 6 p.m. with a social hour, followed by rotating DJs at 7 p.m. Roundtrip shuttle service available to and from Rich’s Nightclub in Hillcrest and attendees also receive a hand stamp, good for free entry into Rich’s from 10 p.m. to midnight; ask the front desk for your hand stamp. Visit bit. ly/2rWHVVr.
Tuesday, June 27
Fringe Festival (LGBT): The second of only two LGBT-themed entries in this year’s International Film Fest is “The Fault of Falling.” Three friends and lovers in a modern-day college town negotiate the difficulties of independence, insecurity and identity within the context of young LGBT struggles. Artist: Maybelle Covington. 4–5 p.m. Tickets, $10 online or at door. San Diego Art Institute (Project Space), 141 Horton Plaza, Downtown. Visit bit.ly/2sTQ0yU.
Saturday, July 1
Wednesday, June 28
San Diego’s Gay Bar History: Join the filmmakers Paul Detwiler and Chris Cashman of the upcoming documentary on San Diego’s storied gay bar history for a fundraiser to support its completion and see a sneak peek of the film. Snacks, raffles, door prizes, and a preview of the film by KPBS
Fringe Festival (LGBT): “Twelve Nights with Viola & Olivia,” a take on Shakespeare’s classic, “Twelfth Night,” is one of two LGBT-themed entries into this year’s San Diego International Fringe Festival. This girl-meetsboy — or did she? — tale is told through Elizabethanstyle verse and brings the unique voice and viewpoint of an intersexed woman to the stage. Artist: A Stage of Our Own Theater Collective. 2:30–3:30 p.m. Tickets, $10 online or at door. Rosewood
Sunday, July 2
Dine In with LezBeHonest: The LezBeHonest Dragon Boat Racing Team fundraiser will get your tummy talking. Invite family and friends and join your community for a a burrito-sized sushi roll at Rolled Up. The racing team will get a portion of the proceeds. 1-5 p.m. Rolled Up, 3884 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. To check out the menu, visit rolledup.com. To learn more about the event, visit bit. ly/2tqwszH. Soaked Sundays: Ben Cartwright is back as host of a popular wet-undies contest, this time at The Caliph. “Soaked Sundays” invites you to strip down to your underwear and dance in the original shower from the Bourbon Street days. The event includes a DJ, dancing inside the bar, drink specials and the waterworks will take place on the back patio. Sign-ups begin at 9 p.m., contest begins at 10 p.m. The Caliph is located at 3100 Fifth Ave. on the Hillcrest-Bankers Hill border. Visit thecaliph.net.
Monday, July 3
Mobile Medical Monday: Every Monday, the Family Health Centers of San Diego Mobile Medical Unit will be located in the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s parking lot from 3–7 p.m. Onsite medical services include basic primary care; immunizations; PrEP (through prescription only); STD screening and treatment; chest/ breast cancer screening; family planning; pap smears; pregnancy testing; hormone therapy and sick and wellness visits. To make an appointment, call 619-692-2077, x211. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit thecentersd.org.
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ACROSS 1 37-Across said tennis is “___ of lesbians” 5 “Move your butt!” 9 TV newsman Brit 13 “Aida” solo 14 One way to have one’s meat 15 Part of, as a plot 16 Lesbian who beat Bobby Riggs in a 1973 Battle of the Sexes 19 Not taken in by 20 Portrayal of Mary and son 21 Mouth-to-mouth pro 24 Crack investigator? 26 No-tell motel meetings 29 Isherwood’s “The ___ Stories” 31 They move your dinghy 33 Prefix with room 34 Skater Orser 35 Weight loss product 36 Borscht veggie 37 Homophobe who lost to Bobby Riggs in a 1973 Battle of the Sexes
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40 Went down 41 Old photo print 42 Stuck your nose in 44 One in a fairy tale threesome 45 “It ___ Necessarily So” 46 Pussies with sharp teeth 47 Grownups 49 Collar kind 51 Old streaker over the Atlantic 52 Glove material 54 Got a little behind 56 Mass event John McEnroe hopes to have at the arena named for 37-Across 61 Cockpit predictions 62 Not even once, to Whitman 63 “Dancing Queen” band 64 Quality of Feniger’s cooking 65 Says further 66 Sentence unit
1 British sitcom “Ab ___” 2 William Tell’s canton 3 Like Abner, before Viagra? 4 Composer Edouard 5 Greek island dweller 6 Ursa ___ (nighttime bear) 7 Rough stuff underground 8 Minimal tide 9 Scouts out 10 Type of wedding candle 11 Men here don't date women 12 Short tongue? 17 It consists of a top and a bottom 18 Kind of acid 21 Flow out 22 Howard Ashman’s little one 23 Make a pink gay symbol? 25 “Claudine at School” author 27 Is about to go down, perhaps 28 Posed for Annie Leibovitz 30 Carefree adventure
32 Butch’s part in the chorus 35 “Viva Las Vegas” middle name 36 Hamlet 38 Becomes erect 39 Gave a piece of one’s mind 40 Site for three men in a tub 43 P-town summer hrs. 45 Bear witness 46 Eiffel's erection, and others 48 Teachers in “The King and I” 50 Dragged behind 53 Warrior Princess 55 “Band of Brothers” event 56 States, informally 57 Crossed through 58 “How may ___ of service?” 59 Org. for rim jobs? 60 Toothy swimmer
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CALENDAR Tuesday, July 4 Independence Day
Live Music – Wynonna: Celebrate America’s birthday under the stars with Wynonna at the San Diego Symphony’s outdoor concert series, Bayside Summer Nights, and then stay for a great view of the Big Bay Boom fi reworks on
San Diego Bay. Cabaret tables, grandstand and lawn seating available. 7:30 p.m. Embarcadero Marina South, 206 Marina Park Way (behind the Convention Center), Downtown. Visit bit. ly/2msrr6y.
Wednesday, July 5
Pictionary: Come play with Tiger and Sister Ida Know on the back patio.
Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for a good cause. 7:30–10 p.m. #1 on Fifth, 3845 Fifth Ave. Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2rE1Wko.
Thursday, July 6
HTC Summer Social: In place of the Hillcrest Town Council’s July community meeting, join its membership for this happy hour summer social at Uptown Tavern, presented by District
GAY SAN DIEGO June 23 – July 6, 2017 3 Councilmember Chris Ward. Meet your neighbors, learn more about HTC, enjoy appetizers on HTC (drinks are also available for purchase) and have a meet and greet with Councilmember Ward and his predecessor, Assemblymember Todd Gloria. Uptown Tavern, 1236 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2so8sys. HRC’s ‘Persisting Women’: Hosted by HRC San Diego, this happy hour
is meant to help you get engaged to affect change. They are looking to build a coalition of women from every background in San Diego to “fight the fight united.” Learn about their upcoming events and how to get involved in volunteer opportunities for Pride and their annual gala in August. 5:30–7:30 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2rAz4tm.
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