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Monogamous or open? GSD columnist’s colum l mnist’s i t’ new w book tackles controversial contro topic Kenn Williams Willia | Contributing Editor (E Editoor’s note: not This is the first of a (Editor’s tw wo-p part ser two-part series.)

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Members of our local LGBT community, as well as many residents and business owners in the Uptown area, are all familiar with Elizabeth Hannon, who for the last several years was a very visible force as the CEO of the Uptown Parking District. But earlier this year, Hannon seemed to effectively drop out of sight; causing many in the community to wonder where she is and what she is up to. Wonder no more. We recently caught up with Hannon, who, after taking a monthlong hiatus from the churning wheels of San Diego to lend support during the passing of her beloved father in January, was forced to take a long hard look at where she was and where she was going. “In a nutshell, my nearly four years work for the Uptown community at the parking district was a tremendous experience,” Hannon said. “I learned much about designing our streets, the inner workings of our public agencies, politics, and

FilmOut Festival lineup Get your tickets and peruse what’s in store By FilmOut/SDCNN Staff The 19th annual FilmOut San Diego LGBT Film Festival unspools June 9-11 at the Observatory North Park. Buy tickets online at filmoutsandiego.com or visit the box office on Saturday or Sunday. The Opening Night film has already sold out.

The former Uptown Parking District CEO has seemingly disappeared. We have the scoop. (Courtesy Elizabeth Hannon) developed such fondness for the four unique communities. I should also mention the personal joy and challenge it was to balance all the varied voices, letting them be heard, finding compromises and steering opinions to find common ground

to bring about community consensus.” Hannon said she understood how important it was to ensure the district’s recently hired support staff were equipped

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Subdivision of Truax House property is approved Ken Williams | Contributing Editor San Diego’s Planning Commission voted 6-0 on Thursday, June 1, to approve the subdivision of the historical Truax House property in Bankers Hill into three parcels. The decision allows the tentative map of the property to be subdivided into three parcels: � Parcel 1: The corner house at 540 W. Laurel St., which is not occupied. � Parcel 2: The Truax House at 2513-2515 Union St. � Parcel 3: The vacant lot on the north side of the Truax House, which leads to the western entry to Maple Canyon. The Truax House is perched on a hillside and offers a desirable view of San Diego Bay and Downtown. Designated as a “historic resource� by the city’s Historical Resources Board, the building was once the home of San Diego’s first AIDS hospice, operated by Dr. Brad Truax. The city bought the property in 1966 when there was talk of building a connector highway between nearby Interstate 5 and state Route 163 to the west, via Maple Canyon. Those plans fell through, and eventually the city declared the Truax House as surplus property to be sold to the highest bidder. Bankers Hill resident Soheil Nakhshab, the principal at Nakhshab Design & Development, was awarded the winning bid last year after his offer of $2.5 million

The historic home located at the corner of Laurel and Union streets in Bankers Hill, was used as an AIDS hospice. (Photo by Walter Meyer) and his pledge to restore the Truax House. As reported in San Diego Uptown News on May 19, Nakhshab decided not to go into escrow on April 28, as scheduled, but agreed to pay $10,000 every two weeks until the deal is finalized. He said he wanted to wait until the Planning Commission approved the subdivision plans before going to closing. At the June 1 meeting, the developer reaffirmed his commitment of restoring Truax House and creating a community room to be shared by local nonprofits. The developer said he wanted to subdivide the property so he could build in stages, in case the local economy tanked.

At the meeting, two neighbors spoke out against the project, led by Al Olin, who owns the house located at the end of the dead-end of Union Street. Olin was particularly concerned that his private sewage system would be impacted by infrastructure improvements the developer must make on that portion of Union Street. City officials told Olin that he will be able to connect to the city’s sewer after it is realigned and the process will be a simple one that will not require his sewage to be pumped any further distance up the hill. Charles “Chuck� Kaminski, a local LGBT historian and activist, worried what would happen if the developer sold the Truax House parcel. He

asked the commissioners to put protections in writing that any buyer of the parcel be required to preserve the historical building. Most speakers at the meeting were in favor of the project, including the historical preservation group, Save Our Heritage Organisation, and two other neighbors of the property. A man named Aaron complimented the developer for his environmentally-friendly construction and said his Sofia Lofts project on Broadway is “very beautiful.� A woman named Dalia said the project would “significantly improve our neighborhood.� Others supporting the subdivision plan included Leo Wilson, representing Metro San Diego Community Development Corp.; Michael Brennan and Mat Wahlstrom, members of Uptown Planners; and Terry Cunningham, former chief of the county’s HIV, STD and Hepatitis Branch of Public Health Services and a longtime voice for the HIV/AIDS community. “Mr. Nakhshab has garnered so much support from the community,� Cunningham said. “We are looking forward to having public space for people to gather.� The commissioners were united in their support for the plan. Vicki Granowitz, a new member of the Planning Commission, noted how rare it was that the developer paid

for a historical report before he was required to do so and before he had even purchased the property. She said that showed the developer’s commitment to the values of those who support historical preservation. The chair, Stephan Haase, went out of his way to get city officials to reassure Olin, the neighbor, that his concerns will be addressed during the development process. Lastly, Haase pointed out the project, in the future, may now qualify for ministerial review by staff, meaning that plans for the corner house and the apartment building proposed for the vacant lot might not be required to go through review by the Uptown Planners. But since Nakhshab also is a member of the volunteer advisory group, it is expected that he would give courtesy presentations on his future plans for the site. Update: At the June 6 meeting of the citizen-elected volunteer board of the Uptown Planners, Nakhshab announced that he had closed on the Truax House property and was now the owner of the three parcels. The audience and board members applauded. —Ken Williams is editor of Uptown News and can be reached at ken@sdcnn. com or at 619-961-1952. Follow him on Twitter at @KenSanDiego, Instagram at @KenSD or Facebook at KenWilliamsSanDiego.▟

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GAY NEWS BRIEFS WIND ENSEMBLE’S CABARET CONCERT TO FEATURE CAREY

The Hillcrest Wind Ensemble presents its 2017 Cabaret Concert, “Pops! Goes The Weasel” on Friday, June 23 at 8 p.m. The band will perform a mix of pop music, called by organizers a “pop-pourri,” with some added jazz in the Mississippi Room at the historic Lafayette Hotel, located at 2223 El Cajon Blvd. in North Park. The evening will include music from movies, popular band literature, as well as a classic ’60s symphonic rock piece. Ria Carey, a popular local performer of both musical theater and nightclubs, will be featured as a special guest, joining the ensemble for some jazz and a musical number from “The Little Mermaid.” Complimentary hors d’oeuvres will be served at 7:30 p.m. and the show will start at 8 p.m. A no-host bar will be available during the concert, with a 50/50 raffle offering a variety of prizes to add to the entertainment. Tickets are $20 and available at sdartstix. com; The Windsmith, located at 3875 Granada Ave. in North Park, and also at the door. The 45-piece Hillcrest Wind Ensemble is in its 30th year of performing and is a program of the San Diego LGBT Community Center, acting as a musical ambassador to the community as a whole. For more information, call 619-6922077 x814 or visit hillcrestwindensemble.com.

‘SOAKED SUNDAYS’ LAUNCH AT THE CALIPH

San Diego’s gay bars have a popular tradition of hosting wet underwear contests, where guys (and some gals) strip down to their underwear and dance underneath a stream of water while the crowd cheers on their favorite contestant. One of the most popular such events was held for decades at the now-shuttered Bourbon Street Bar and Grill in University Heights, where crowds flocked to the bar’s indoor-outdoor area to watch the show every Thursday night, hosted by a rotating cast of community figures. A new event, called “Soaked Sunday,” has launched at The Caliph, a longtime San Diego gay bar that is working hard to bring in new events and entertainment to attract an expanded crowd alongside their longtime regulars. Organizers of “Soaked Sunday” were able to acquire the original shower stall that hundreds of people danced in during the previous event’s reign at Bourbon Street, and then for a short time at Numbers. “Soaked Sunday” is hosted by community activist Benny Cartwright, who also writes the “Back Out With Benny” column in Gay San Diego. The event includes a live DJ and dancing inside the bar, with the water works taking place on The Caliph’s back patio. Sign-ups for the contest

classes and coaching workshops for beginners and pros. “Finest City Improv has worked hard to consciously establish an inclusive and safe environment for all,” said LGBT CENTER FAMILIES Impride co-chair Jesse Suphan, INCLUDED IN in a press release. “What we ‘CREATIVITY DAY’ create here is a space where The New Children’s Museum people feel comfortable being in Downtown San Diego is themselves.” hosting its fifth annual Mass Impride will feature local Creativity Day event, with a and national talent as headlinnew theme centered on proers, including Celeste Pechous, moting cultural diversity. Six Impride co-chair and founder workshops were held around of Dosage Improv Workshops the county at various commuin Los Angeles; Suphan, who in nity and recreation centers and addition to his co-chair duties with the help of the museum’s is also the operations manager creative team, workshops used at Finest City Improv; Second “the art of storytelling” to celeCity comedy school alum Tim brate the diverse communities Paul; and comedian and Martin within San Diego. Garcia, an Improv Olympic One of the six workshop loca- comedy school alum. tions was the San Diego LGBT Friday night will kick off Community Center. with “Gay Jam,” where anyone “Our workshops are stemmed can jump on stage to particiaround diversity,” said Kara pate, and continue with “The Baltazar, manager of commuAbsolutely Fabulous Improv nity programs and the event’s Show,” a team of local improvorganizer. “Our artists create ers who present a mixup of varthe content, develop it and host ious hilarity staged on the spot a variety of workshops from and based on the life of a local making instruments to paintmember of our LGBT communiing and watercolors, poetry and ty; “Double Pretty,” a Portland, writing all celebrating people’s Oregon-based improv trio; and individual stories and diversity.” “Musical the Musical,” a song Each of the six workshops and dance improvisational held over the last few weeks performance. had a subtheme of “Celebrate On Saturday, the event your story” and the completed starts with the Lip Sync works of each location were Battle, where 10 contestants melded together to create a offer up two-minute routines community display, which will and the audience votes on the be presented at the actual upwinner; “The Gay Mafia,” an coming event. improv/sketch comedy group “Mass Creativity Day exfrom Logo; “Queerwolves,” a pands the art experience well team from Chicago and Los beyond our walls,” Baltazar Angeles; “Purdy Twins,” vaudesaid, in a press release. “It’s a ville performers Prudence day to celebrate diversity, art and Pervis who hail from and community with all of San Chickopee, Tennessee; and Diego.” “Novices,” another team with a Held June 24 from 10 a.m.–3 mix of comedy and acting. In p.m., Mass Creativity Day will addition, Finest City Improv be hosted at the Children’s will also premiere the return of Museum site, located at 200 W. “Twistered!,” a sketch comedy Island Ave., as well as its adjainspired by the “Wizard of Oz.” cent park, with Island Avenue With a sold-out performance closed so participants can walk last year, “Twistered!” is an freely. interactive show that features The event will include audience participation and genhands-on art making, food, mu- der-bending comedy. sic, live performances and more. Tickets to the Impride In addition, artwork created at Festival are $20 per block, $15 the six various workshops will of which will be donated to San be exhibited at Mass Creativity Diego Pride LGBT youth proDay and free transportation grams. For the full lineup and for participating families from more information, visit finestcthose six community centers ityimprov.com/impride. will be provided by the museum ATKINS GETS TWO ACTS to the event. THROUGH SENATE For more information, visit On Tuesday, May 30 two thinkplaycreate.org. bills, SB 179 and SB 310 — NEW ‘IMPRIDE’ FESTIVAL both authored by Democratic ADDS IMPROV TO PRIDE Sen. Toni G. Atkins and aimed FESTIVITIES at increasing rights for transThe inaugural LGBT Improv gender California citizens — Comedy Festival — held in were passed on the senate floor. partnership with San Diego SB 179, also known as the LGBT Pride — will be held Gender Recognition Act, would Friday, July 7, and Saturday, allow people to identify as July 8, from 7–11:30 p.m. non-binary (neither male nor Called “Impride” for short, the female) on state-issued identifiunique comedy festival will be cation cards. hosted by Finest City Improv “Most of us use our ID on and bring two days full of live a daily basis and take it for improvisational comedy to San granted,” said Sen. Atkins in Diego and benefit San Diego a press release. “SB 179 will Pride’s youth arts program make what should be a simbeneficiaries. ple task much easier for our Founded in 2011, Finest transgender and non-binary City Improv is located at 4250 neighbors.” Louisiana St. in the basement If passed, this act would of the Lafayette Hotel. The make California one of the local comedy troupe hosts imfi rst states to have a third prov shows every Thursday and see Briefs, pg 23 Saturday night and also offers

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March with us for equality Back Out with Benny Ben Cartwright This Sunday, we’re asking community members to come out and march at The Equality March: San Diego, in conjunction with the National LGBTQ March on Washington and many other marches across the country happening the same day. We’re marching to claim the rights that all people should enjoy. We’re marching to stand up for the protections of all people in our community. And we’re marching so that we can be heard by those in power to the highest office in the land and around the globe. In light of today’s political climate, there have been a lot of marches as of late. The highly successful womens’ marches, the People’s Climate March, the March for Science, the March for Truth, and many others. It’s been amazing to see the hundreds of thousands of people taking to the streets around the country to make their voices heard and they have made a difference. Those in power are seeing that there are more people than they ever imagined that support the human rights and dignity that all people should be afforded. But is marching all there is to do? What happens after we march? What do we do with all that energy? One sure and clear thing we can do, for those who are eligible, is to vote. Voting is a power that all U.S. citizens over 18 years of age hold and so many don’t take advantage of it. Many people will come out to march or protest when a bad policy decision is made, but it really is so much easier to vote. Our political system was set up so that the people’s interests are

represented by their elected leaders. Unfortunately, when we don’t vote, we aren’t ensuring that our best interests are being represented. I know that we’ve all read hundreds of articles and campaigns like this that implore others to vote and I’m not sure how effective my voice will be, but if I can get even a few people to change their thinking about voting, I’ll have made a difference. I’ve been participating in marches and rallies for almost 20 years now and I’ve also voted in every single election since I was able to vote in 1998 and I can tell you with certainty that it’s a lot easier to drop a ballot in the mail than to organize or even show up for these protest events. As one of the organizers of this Sunday’s Equality March: San Diego, I’m looking forward to seeing thousands of our community members, friends and allies show up in full force to speak up for our rights and equality. We deserve nothing less and I am looking forward to the collective statement we will make together. But when the march ends, we’ve put our signs down and gone back to our daily lives, I really want people to realize how powerful our individual voices can also be. As mentioned above, voting is one of the most powerful ways to speak up, and here are some others:

● Know who your local legislators and politicians are and how you can reach them. You can fi nd out by entering your zip code here tinyurl. com/mt7tlt6. ● Get out there! Complaining on social media only goes so far. ● Participate in community meetings. Most neighborhoods have a community association

of some sort (like Hillcrest has the Hillcrest Town Council) that hold regular meetings and elected officials or their representatives are almost always present and easily accessible. ● Contact your elected representatives and let them know how you feel about issues that are important to you. They do listen! ● Volunteer for a campaign. Help get people whose values match yours into office. ● Help register voters. You can do this through an organized program (like The Center’s non-partisan voter outreach program) or by simply encouraging your friends and co-workers to register. ● Donate. Financial contributions help advance causes and candidates. I hope to see many of you this Sunday at the march and continue in the struggle together once we put our marching shoes back in the closet. Further details about the march are below. Individually and together, we can make a difference!

Getting Out With Benny

There are so many events going on this weekend, it almost feels like a mini-Pride weekend here in San Diego! Some of the highlights include: FilmOut San Diego’s 19th Annual Film Festival — “Sweet!” We are lucky to have such a vibrant LGBTQ arts

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community in San Diego and our fi lm festival is no exception. FilmOut San Diego, which screens fi lms year round, will hold its annual fi lm festival this weekend, opening on Friday night. The weekend long festival will include parties, screenings, meet and greets, and more. I can’t wait to enjoy some of the fi lms in between events this weekend: For tickets and more information, visit tinyurl.com/ ya375cdd. Out at The Fair: This fun event, now in its seventh year, brings the LGBT community together at the San Diego County Fair on Saturday, June 10. While all the regular fair fun will be happening, the day will also include a special resource area, entertainment, shows, and more. Visit tinyurl.com/y9k2t3r5. The Equality March: San Diego: Community members will gather at 10 a.m. on Sunday, June 11 at Sixth Avenue and Juniper Street in Balboa Park. The march will kick off at 11 a.m., and end up at the County Administration Building’s Waterfront Park at noon for a rally with speakers, including community leaders, elected officials and others. Visit sdpride.org/march. #OrlandoStrong — We Remember: Monday, June 12, marks one year since the massacre at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando, Florida. The Center will host a gathering at 6:30 p.m. that day to remember the 49 lives lost that night. Everyone is welcome to The Center’s parking lot for the event, which will include a reading of the names and a vigil. Visit tinyurl.com/yc72tovm. —Benny Cartwright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619-692-2077 ext. 106 or outreach@thecentersd. org. Note: Byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography.▼

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An excerpt from my new book on marriage the joys of infinite sexual possibilities or the security of one person for the rest of your life is a huge Catch-22. How do we “win” here? In heterosexual couples, By the time you are readthe male and female stereoing this, my first book, “The types often play out as “Men Gay Men’s Guide to Open and are from Mars, Women are Monogamous Marriage,” will from Venus.” As married gay have been published on June 8 men, we are inventing our and available on Amazon. own genres of love, literally It has taken me more than making up the rules as we go seven years to write it, but fialong. If you have two men nally, it’s out in the world. Now from Mars married to each it’s time for it to live on its own other, who cleans up? Who is (outside my head). I’d like to the more nurturing one? Who give you a sneak preview. Here is the more career-oriented? is a bit of the book’s introduction, There are currently no “rule which sets the tone for what’s to books” for how a “double tesfollow. I hope you enjoy it. tosterone” marriage could or should work. While there are For centuries, heterosexulots of books about how to plan al people have defined what your gay wedding, there are marriage is. It started out as a virtually none that address type of possession: “I own you.” what to do after the honeyHardly anchored in love, was it? moon is over (literally and And yet, this is the model that figuratively). most of the human race has I hope that this book will fill embraced for hundreds of years. that void. Only in the last century or so It is my intention that has marriage begun to be based this book be frank, engaging on love, mutual respect and and full of practical advice. understanding. Toward that purpose, you will Now, when two men consider find “Questions to Consider” getting married, we no longer throughout the book that have to do it “that” way. This will give you (and your husis a cause for rejoicing! This band) easy ways to talk about is real freedom! So why aren’t the ideas presented in each we more excited about this? chapter. Because this kind of freedom Same-sex marriage has isn’t easy. It’s quite daunting to been a long time coming — a invent or re-invent a cultural few thousand years or so — and now that it’s finally here, institution that’s been around many gay, bisexual and translonger than anyone alive can remember. It’s so much easier to gender men may think that it’s a bad idea to “rock the boat” just follow what straight people by discussing the kinds of have been doing and — maybe ideas that this book presents. — modify it a little bit, tweak it I believe that now is the perjust a tad. fect time to question what gay This is certainly an option, marriage can, should and will but given the power of our combe, while it is still relatively munity to create and invent our new, fresh and malleable. own norms and institutions, why would we settle for that? This book is an invitation — a radical invitation — to you to not settle. Instead, I urge you to examine and investigate the idea and institution of marriage and come up with your own version of what works for you and your husband. For many of us considering marriage — or already married — the question of monogamy or open relationship looms large: it’s both terribly important and terribly confusing. Deciding between

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OPINION

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Letters Location of AIDS memorial

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Why you shouldn’t march in the 2017 Gay Pride parade By David W. McCormick I marched in San Diego’s 2016 LGBT Pride Parade. Reluctantly, I should add. The move and transition from New York City to San Diego was an “adjustment in waiting.” An example is the simplicity of crossing the street. For a New Yorker, a flashing “DO NOT WALK” light is when we begin walking, but do this in San Diego and potentially, a summons may await. Minor though it may be, it’s a pet peeve of mine. Not knowing many people and acclimating to our new surroundings, it was my partner Jeffrey who suggested that I march. Actually, of all things to do, that was not at the top of my totem pole. As a member of a Vietnam veteran’s group back East, I marched there. But in San Diego, it was different. The overwhelming military presence that exists here is Navy and Marines. I was Army. Admittedly, I felt a tad awkward marching in a group with little representation of my EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 morgan@sdcnn.com CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Michelle Burkart Ben Cartwright Michael Good Michael Kimmel Lambda Archives Staff Frank Sabatini Jr. Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x111 EDITORIAL INTERN Jess Winans

branch of service, but with a bit of coaching from Jeffrey, I decided to make the effort. The morning of the parade I dug out my Vietnam veterans dress uniform; slid into my once-a-year spit-shined shoes; adjusted the various ribbons on my shirt; and checked myself out in the mirror and remembered, I looked okay. But after arriving at the parade staging area, I still had that “disconnected” feeling. Surrounded by so many Navy sailors and Marines was overwhelming, if not intimidating. But then something happened to change my demeanor. I met Eric Fanning, then Secretary of the Army and the parade’s grand marshal. I was elated and committed the cardinal sin of all sins (in my book anyway); I asked Eric for a “selfie.” I was like a kid in a candy store. I was ready to march. Then several months ago my partner and I caught the play “Perfect Arrangement,” performed with a stellar cast at the Horton Grand Theatre. For those who missed it, I’ll COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 mike@sdcnn.com ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 INTERNS Alex Ehrie Czarina Greaney Madhu Chandnani SENIOR INTERN Jennifer Gottschalk

give you a Reader’s Digest version. It was about two gay and lesbian couples in the early 1950s — two of which worked for the government — who were disguised as married heterosexuals. It was during the McCarthy era, a time of a “witch-hunts,” where homosexuals were aggressively weeded out from government employment. It was discrimination at its best and a dark time in our history. The performance was an emotional one for me and also very personal. While in the Army, I had the experience of similar treatment. On our walk back, I began to think about last year’s parade. After seeing the play, I came to realize, my participation was along the lines of “How did I look?” “Why was I there?” “Did I need to be there?” “Should I even march?” The parade was all about me. Since moving from New York to San Diego, it seemed I had developed a zone of complacency regarding the numerous current and ongoing issues of gay rights. After all, the movement over the past many years since Stonewall had made such great progress. Marriage in California and many other states had become legal. Acceptance of gays in general is at an all-time high. Even the former Secretary of the Army, Eric Fanning, is openly gay. ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 accounting@sdcnn.com WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza espinozawebworks.com kim@kespinoza.com

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But then I began to think about some of the recent and more serious incidents and the current political atmosphere: Kentucky’s Kim Davis’ denial of a marriage license to a gay couple; the killings in Orlando; the suicide of Tyler Clementi; the denial of work, a seat in a restaurant, or a trade not wanting to do business with you. Discrimination of any kind is just outright wrong. Discrimination also, unfortunately, does not go away, nor will it likely ever be completely eliminated. But it can be lessened with continuing education and by standing up, putting yourself out there and speaking out on the issues at hand. You can also lessen discrimination by being relentless in continuing to show a strong, prominent and unified presence … and by participating in marches. This year, I will be marching in the San Diego’s LGBT Pride parade, but with a totally different outlook: It won’t be all about me. Because it’s only when everything is all about you that you shouldn’t be marching at all. —Native New Yorker David W. McCormick is now a San Diego resident and real estate agent with Keller Williams. You can reach him at zdavidmccormick@gmail. com.▼

I believe there needs to be a community dialogue (is that possible?) about what an AIDs memorial needs to be. It is important to understand what the “sense of the place” is for a memorial. I do not agree with Olive Street (a neighborhood park and tot lot) nor Normal Street (too busy and would be more like a bus shelter (see New York City’s AIDs Memorial location). UC San Diego Hillcrest is undertaking a master plan for their Hillcrest campus. Perhaps there. The Owens Clinic and Dr. Chris Matthews were the early leaders in care for the people with AIDS. Perhaps even Inspiration Point (what an appropriate name!) in Balboa Park as a site. As you can see from all the comments, lots of opinions and ideas. Thus perhaps a community dialogue. —Charles Kaminski, via gay-sd.com I agree with your every word, Morgan! You express the feelings many of our community share. What are they thinking? Or are they thinking? —William “Bill” Kelly, via gay-sd.com

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[Ref: “Out of the Archives: The history of our bars,” Vol. 8, Issue 5, or online at tinyurl. com/h6nhfyx] In the late ’70s there was a mostly African American gay and lesbian bar near the airport, just a few blocks from The Club, called Barbary Coast. It seemed mostly military folks but they played the best music for dancing in the city. Also, what about Sorino’s (not sure of the spelling)? It was the notorious lesbian bar in the Mississippi Ballroom on El Cajon Boulevard in the early 1980s. It was a beautiful, crazy and sexy place. Best lesbian bar I’ve been to in my whole life. —Suzie, via gay-sd.com —Letters to the editor can be sent to morgan@sdcnn.com. Comments can also be made on our website or Facebook page.▼

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Pop culture, politics and business #LGBTB2B Michelle Burkart Welcome to our new monthly column, #LGBTB2B, embracing the world of LGBT business-to-business (B2B) opportunities through the LGBT business enterprise (LGBTBE) initiatives. And now that I have your attention, the full headline should be “Pop culture, politics and business: How LGBT equality, activism and opportunity have changed over the last 15 years of NGLCC.” Our goal is to share with you insights into building a successful enterprise and provide the latest updates in the “LGBT supplier diversity initiative” movement, which was started in 2002 by the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC). We are all fortunate to be doing business in California, as the Golden State has always been a beacon of light, the trendsetter and ahead of the curve in LGBT supplier diversity opportunities. The title of my column heralds a session title at the upcoming 2017 NGLCC Supplier Diversity Conference in Las Vegas this summer. It seemed appropriate, as I have personally experienced these changes, working hand-in-hand with the NGLCC since 2002. Although my business career has taken me on a journey from Washington, D.C. to Germany, Silicon Valley, Atlanta, and finally, to San Diego, it was not until I came to America’s Finest City in 1999 that I truly immersed myself in the world of LGBT business equality. I sold my Silicon Valleybased company in 1990 and worked for the new corporate owner as a regional vice president of sales. Then, in 1995, I came to San Diego, poised for an early retirement life of sailing and traveling. But the business bug bit again, and in 1998, I started TH!NKbusiness, an LGBT/woman-owned business-advising firm for small and midsize companies. The only certification available to me back then, however, was as a “woman-owned business.” Thanks to the NGLCC, today I can also add the LGBT business enterprise (LGBTBE) certification. As an active member, board member and board chair of GSDBA for 15 years, I came to realize that the “economic empowerment” of our LGBT business community was critical to drive the political and cultural changes we all needed as a diverse minority population. I knew that there was power in numbers! As a result, I began my alliance with the NGLCC, the Small Business Administration (SBA) and the LGBTBE supplier diversity initiatives in 2002. It has been a long road forward. I remember my first NGLCC conference in Washington, D.C. in 2003, with 100 participants and just 10 corporate sponsors and three

Burkart promotes LGBT business enterprises at Pride. government agencies represented. By August 2016, participation at the annual conference had grown to 1,000 attendees, with 157 corporate strategic partners, 10 new government partnerships, a marketplace tradeshow, “Meet the Buyers” sessions and Melissa Etheridge as the entertainment. I knew our LGBT businesses were finally on the road to being counted as a viable economic force. Did you know that there are 1.4 million LGBT-owned businesses (ownership equaling 51 percent or more) in the U.S., with only 959 certified as LGBTBE? Of those 959, 22 percent are located in California. Our lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender business owners are a vibrant and essential part of the small business economy that makes the U.S. economy run. We contribute about $8 billion dollars to the San Diego economy annually. We deserve a place at the equality table, and as former Congressmember Barney

Acronyms to remember B2B — Business-toBusiness commerce exchange CPUC — California Public Utilities Commission GSDBA — Greater San Diego Business Association (San Diego’s own LGBT Chamber of Commerce and NGLCC affiliate) LGBTBE — Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Business Enterprise (relates to being a LGBT Certified business) NGLCC — National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce SBA — Small Business Administration SBDC — Small Business Development Center SDI — Supplier Diversity Initiative SDIV SBDC — San Diego/ Imperial Valley Small Business Development Center Regional Network

Frank said, “If you’re not at the table, you’re on the menu!” Let me introduce you to some of the progress we have made over the years. In November 2014, California legislature passed AB1678, which directed the California Public Utilities Commission (CPUC) and its affiliates to have “mandated spend” amounts allocated to contracts with certified LGBTBE businesses. In January 2015, the SBA partnered with NGLCC to promote the new Supplier Diversity Initiative. The SBA supports no fee consulting, training, capital infusion and resources to LGBTBE-certified businesses through the San Diego/Imperial Valley Small Business Development Center regional network (SDIV SBDC). In 2016, the San Diego SBA office provided a booth at the San Diego Pride Festival for outreach, and in 2017, the SDIV SBDC network received a large grant to continue LGBTBE partnership program. In the NGLCC’s report, “America’s LGBT Economy 2016 Snapshot,” the data shows that the average revenues for LGBTBE businesses are $2,475,642, which translates into a national estimate of annual earnings to be $1.15 billion. Keep in mind that America’s estimated LGBT buying power is currently $1.5 trillion, contributed to by thousands of entrepreneurs and the millions of American households and families they serve. Again, the power is in the numbers. You can be a part of that power and increase your business revenues by becoming LGBTBE certified. As one NGLCC certified owner said, “The certification creates visibility for LGBT business. Visibility creates awareness. Awareness leads to acceptance. And widespread acceptance ends discrimination. You can’t change hearts, minds and attitudes if you are invisible.” So if you are an existing or startup business owner, don’t be on the menu, or leave your opportunities on the table — get certified and have a seat at the table! Our next column will show you how to get certified and work that certification for success. —Michelle Burkart is the SDIV SBDC network program coordinator for the LGBTBE certification program, and co-founder of the Diversity Supplier Alliance. She can be reached at mburkart@swccd.org. For more information on the SDIV LGBTBE programs, visit sdivsbdc.org/lgbtbe.▼

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30 years of marching for equality Out of the Archives Archives Staff As we prepare for the Equality March this Sunday, June 11, in Downtown San Diego, we’d like to take a look back on the LGBTQ community’s legacy of protesting, marching and stepping up for our rights. Specifically, one of the precursors to this weekend’s Equality March: the 1987 March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights. After hearing in a few of our oral history interviews and passing conversations with some elders in San Diego’s LGBTQ community that San Diego had sent a significant contingent to the second National March in 1987, we dug into our collections. Sure enough, on Oct. 11, 1987, San Diego sent about 500 activists to Washington, D.C., joining a crowd of over

500,000, for what would be the largest civil rights demonstration since the 1960s. The organization of the march struck me, as did the intersectionality of the demands, as listed on the official March on Washington flyer. ● Passage of the congressional lesbian and gay rights bill. ● An end to discrimination against people with AIDS, ARC, HIV-positive status, or those perceived to have AIDS. ● Massive increase in funding for AIDS education, research and patient care. ● The repeal of all laws that make sodomy between consenting adults a crime ● A presidential order banning anti-gay discrimination by the federal government. • • Legal recognition of lesbian and gay relationships ● Reproductive freedom, the right to control our own bodies, and an end to sexist oppression ● An end to racism in this country and apartheid in South Africa.

Oct. 11, 1987 also marked the first time that the AIDS Quilt, created by Cleve Jones through his NAMES Project, was unveiled in Washington, D.C. This early iteration of the quilt was laid out on the National Mall the morning of the march, honoring and mourning the 2,600 people who died from AIDS-related illnesses and brought national attention to the enormity and scale of the AIDS crisis. The 1987 March on Washington was more than just one day of a massive march through the streets of Washington, D.C. Two days after the march, on Tuesday, Oct. 13, over 600 people were arrested in a large civil disobedience action at the Supreme Court, protesting the 1986 decision in Bowers v. Hardwick that upheld an anti-sodomy law in Georgia. Among the 600-plus people arrested at the Supreme Court

AIDS Quilt on National Mall in 1987 (Photo by Charles Kaminski) were San Diego’s own Jess Jessop (a founder of both the Lambda Archives and the San Diego LGBT Community Center) and Albert Bell (a founder of San Diego’s ACT UP chapter). Nestled in Jessop’s file on the 1987 March was a short list of eight “cheers/chants,” recorded after the civil disobedience arrests. Also in Jessop’s

(right) A schedule of events flyer for March 1987 and handwritten chants used by protestors after they were arrested (Courtesy Lambda Archives)

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papers were other documents related to the day of the march, including a full schedule of events from formal lobby days at the Capitol, to mass wedding ceremonies at the IRS building, informal teach-ins, a coincidentally concurrent SM/ Leather conference, to various dance parties (dancing has always been part of LGBTQ resistance). Recently, we hosted a group of local high school students at the Archives and engaged them in a walking tour around Hillcrest. While at the Archives, the students looked through some archival materials, including flyers for the 1987 March. They remarked on the similar language between the 1987 march and the now-regularly-scheduled marches and protests of 2017, most notably comparing the 1987 march with the 2017 Women’s March in January. They noted at first that it seems demoralizing and exhausting — and it is true; we’ve made so much progress, and yet, we’re still fighting so many of the same fights we’ve been fighting for 30 years and longer. But these students also noted that this similarity connected them with their history, with all of the leaders and activists that came before them. We are at a unique and powerful point in history right now, in 2017, built on the foundation of our community’s elders and LGBTQ ancestors. Nearly 30 years after the 1987 March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights, the Equality March of 2017 will be historic and it will weave this particular moment into our longer arc of history. Lambda Archives will be out at the Equality March in San Diego on June 11, both participating and actively archiving the historic moment, and will act as the repository for march materials (posters, signs, buttons, T-shirts and other ephemera) after the fact. We hope to see you there. Contact our archivist, Jen LaBarbera, at archivist@lambdaarchives.org if you’d like to schedule a time to drop off any Equality March materials. —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at lambdaarchives.org.▼


FEATURE

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GAY SAN DIEGO June 9 – 22, 2017 their wisdom, how they moved through the leadership ladder, and what advice they have to share. Those chosen for the survey will come through our established connections, input sought through our partner organizations, and guidance received from our task force/ working group. We also have two main ideas for books in the works and will be tying all of these ideas together to share our life lessons and the 100 wise women’s life lessons to further develop compassionate, resonant leaders. Later this summer, we’ll be talking a bit more about our 100 Wise Women Leaders interviews and survey to better understand the opportunities and obstacles for women in leadership positions and those stepping onto or up the ladder.

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HANNON appropriately to continue making progress for the region in the four transportation modes of choice — walking, biking, bus riding or parking. One of Hannon’s fait accompli was making sure the district reviewed its vast parking demands and documented all the statistical data, which included patterns of usage and time of day, as well as parking needs. “We developed a parking toolbox with tools to manage our needs and analyzed the data to deliver a set of comprehensive strategies that can better manage parking in Uptown,” she said. With decisions made and loose ends wrapped up, “everything aligned wonderfully” and Hannon has now moved on. In April, she landed at Sutra Research, in a role with a larger focus on the region’s transportation issues and the added ability to pursue the reality of her dreams. Here are five questions for Elizabeth Hannon. 1. What is your new role at Sutra Research and Analytics and what does this company do? Sutra provides technology, strategy and planning, system engineering and change management with a focus on transportation for public agencies and organizations. A progressive technology and strategy-consulting firm, Sutra is based in San Diego, with clients worldwide. They are regarded for their expertise in bridging ideas and communication between technology developers and project stakeholders. I’ve been brought on as their COO to coordinate operations, expand and develop business, while serving as a project manager and community liaison on current projects. For some time, I have been looking to create a livelihood in work that is a bit more profound and rooted in my spiritual practices. It is through my studies and implementation of the practices of Buddhism, yoga and mediation that I find the greatest connection to my authentic self and I honor the role of mindfulness in being a leader. To this end, I’ve been attending summits and retreats for many years to learn and to integrate these key practices into my day-to-day life with the intent to share them with others. I’ve been able to manifest a win-win situation to develop a passion project, “Wiser Everday,” while still putting (gluten-free) bread on the table, as Sutra is fully supporting this effort. 2. What is “Wiser Everyday” and who will benefit from it? My passion project has now come to fruition with the founding of this new organization. Together with my partner, Ty Manzo, we launched Wiser Everyday to provide leadership and development training and consulting, rooted in mindfulness practices. Currently, we are working with several women-focused

Partners in life and now in business, Ty Manzo and Elizabeth Hannon recently launched an organization focused on empowering women leaders with mindful practices. (Courtesy Wiser Everyday) nonprofit organizations for those seeking to develop skills and a leadership presence to advance equality in their work. Of the people we’ve begun to work with that are women, many are in affinity groups — for those working at corporations — or small businesses, or are entrepreneurs themselves. Several are interested in leading social change. We have designed and are customizing workshops to teach everyone, with a focus on women, how they can develop the leadership mind. 3. What motivated you to start it? For the past 15-plus years, I’ve been exploring a spiritual path rooted in Buddhism. Mindfulness, as taught in Buddhism, is key to finding the clarity and compassion to be a resilient and resonant leader. Throughout my career and work in the community, it has been a tool that allows one to find the space between a situation and a response; it is being aware of others and of one-self and a major contributor to how one can find the space to lead others. As our personal partnership blossomed, Ty and I discussed the significant benefits we’ve both experienced with this and in emotional intelligence. We wanted to share our insights with others to create more inspired and keenly developed leaders — many of whom are women — to better lead our organizations and communities with more compassion, more courage and the confidence to find their own voice. [The Women’s March], events like it and what we are doing are the best thing to come out of this seemingly devastating administration. People, and especially women, are standing up and getting engaged! 4. What are your shortand long-term goals for the organization?

This fall, we will be conducting a survey called, “100 Wise Women Leaders.” One of our goals is to use the survey and the stories from it as a means to inspire, provide role models and develop mentor programs. We are interested in learning more about how these women have achieved

5. Do you have any upcoming events that will allow the community to get more involved? Our only public event in the next few months is on June 21, presented by the San Diego Chapter of NOW. It’s called “Developing Leadership Presence for Social Change” and takes place from 6–8 p.m. at the San Diego Foundation, located at 2508 Historic Decatur Road in Liberty Station. Those wishing to attend can sign up or get more information by emailing SanDiegoAreaChapter@gmail. com or calling 818-927-3669.

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Then we are doing a threemonth long series of presentations for San Diego’s leading organization of women professionals in the transportation sector, launched in 1977 as Women’s Transportation Seminar and now called WTS International. These presentations will focus on board development, mindfulness and emotional intelligence for leadership development, and they are scheduled to begin in August. We are also providing training for the American Public Works Association (APWA) at the Public Works Institute here in San Diego this September, which will cover a spectrum of practices within Public Works in San Diego for emerging leaders at all levels. Hannon said she and Manzo recently attended a women’s circle event at The Chopra Center, which gave them further inspiration for what they have planned to do. “We are also beginning to explore how to bring these practices into under-served and lower-income aspects of our community,” Hannon said. “It is there that the seeds for greatness and loving kindness need to be planted and it is perhaps there that people voted for something ‘different.’ By opening hearts, we can open minds.” Intrigued? Visit wisereveryday.org or contact Hannon at 619-794-8612. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at morgan@sdcnn. com.▼

events ATTHECENTER Sat, June 17

Saturday, June 24

HYC Annual Rainbow Prom 2017

10th Annual Pachanga de Frida (Happy Birthday Frida) 6 pm, The Center

6 pm, The Center The Rainbow Prom provides LGBTQ youth a safe, welcoming and affirming event where they can express themselves. LGBTQ youth want to go to prom, dress up and dance with that special someone, just like everyone else. Queer Royalty! Free! Great food! Awesome music! This year’s theme is Goth. For more information, contact hyc@thecentersd.org.

Wed, June 21

Each year we celebrate the birthday of Frida Kahlo, commemorating the legendary life of one of the most influential Mexican painters of the mid-twentieth century while enjoying live music multiple art exhibits by local Latin@ artists and vendors, a Frida look-alike contest, great food and Tequila! Proceeds from this event benefit The Nicole Murray Ramirez Latino Services @ The Center! Tickets are now on sale at events.thecentersd.org/Frida.

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Friday, June 23

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This presentation will introduce the Health Insurance Counseling & Advocacy Program (HICAP). It will also provide you with a brief summary of Medicare, focusing on programs available for those having difficulty affording their Medicare premiums, co-payments, and Medicare Part D prescription drug costs. For more information and to RSVP, contact LaRue Fields at 619.692.2077 x205 or seniors@thecentersd.org.

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8 pm, Lafayette Hotel Enjoy a fun mix of pop music in the beautiful Mississippi Room at the historic Lafayette Hotel, (2223 El Cajon Blvd). Special guest Ria Carey will join the ensemble for some jazz and a musical number from “The Little Mermaid”. Complimentary hors d’oeuvres will be served at 7:30pm. A no host bar will be available during the concert and a raffle and prizes will highlight the night. Tickets: $20. Available at The Windsmith, www.sdartstix.com, or at the door. For more information, visit www.hillcrestwindensemble.com.


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ach year the Old House Fair Home Tour features five historic homes in the South Park neighborhood. With your ticket, you’ll enjoy each home on the tour with docent-lead education and history. You will also have access to hop on and off the tour trolley as you choose, according to the website oldhousefairsd.com.

Burlingame Prairie: This Burlingame house is by famed architect William H. Wheeler. (Photo by Brandon Hubbard) Margherita Chiavoloni, an Italian immigrant whose source of income is a bit of a mystery: She worked as a companion to a private family in 1920, and in 1930 was working as a secretary at the Navy locker and reading room. Really! Somehow she was able to afford this rather spacious $7,000 DESIGN | LANDSCAPE | WOODWORK | MASONRY | LIGHTING | IRRIGATION

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This new house blends in remarkably well on its corner lot, which was vacant for many years after the original house was leveled by a person who

Crazy castle: Among this house’s mysteries is an attempted murder and a crooked window.

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A 1931 ad in the San Diego Union touted these homes on Grape Street as being based on the “style and design of the castles of Munich, Germany.” The houses were built by A.L. Wynston, a retired San Diego and Toronto businessman. Apparently he liked his women German, too. He married one in Tijuana, but the union was tumultuous, to say the least, and in 1933 he shot her and poisoned himself. Apparently, he was a better chemist than marksman: He died, she survived.

The house in the trees

The original owner of this 1924 Spanish Eclectic style house on 29th Street was

It only looks old: The lot on this prominent Burlingame corner stood barren for years before this house was recently built in the Spanish Revival style. house, which was built by general contractor Edgar Hastings. A supporter of landmark preservation, Hastings apparently was conversant with a number of architectural styles, which he combined artfully in this light-filled corner house. The plaster walls have been retextured, the woodwork has been painted, and there are a number of curious add-ons. But many of the kitchen cabinets are original, as is the tile and sink in the hall bath. And the house maintains its light, airy feel and formal composure.

Burlingame Prairie style

A home in the trees: This very eclectic Spanish Eclectic house is included in The Old House Fair home tour on June 17.

Prolific architect William H. Wheeler designed this Laurel Street home for Dr. John L. Taylor in 1912 at a cost of $5,000. In 2002, the house was extensively renovated, with restored windows, plaster walls and Douglas fir trim. The kitchen and bath are new, as is the electrical, and every room

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What style is it? By Michael Good Tracey and Tyler Bunting’s house in South Park might best be described as Spanish Eclectic. But it also has some other elements thrown in — Mission, Prairie, even Beaux Arts. It’s a little bit Prairie because of the flat roof, the horizontal band of windows on the street-facing sides of the house and the divided light, tucked-away front door. It’s a bit Mission because of the parapet around the top. And there is a Beaux Arts feel because that aforementioned parapet is broken up into a mix of individual stiles and solid blocks, forming a sort of roofline balustrade. At any rate, you won’t find this house in Virginia Savage McAlester’s definitive guide to house styles, “A Field Guide to American

Yes, it’s original: Kitchen cabinets include a hidden ironing board. (Photo|by Michael Good)

Houses.” That’s what makes it eclectic. Mission style was popular in the mid-1920s, and there are a number of examples in the South Park area. It’s most often identified by the parapet over the front door, a look borrowed from the Spanish Missions. Irving Gill liked the style and adapted it to his cubist designs. Three of those houses can be found on Granada in South Park. Beaux Arts, an English interpretation of a French style, is rare in San Diego. (It’s more popular on the East Coast.) There is a version on 28th Street in South Park, across the street from the nine-hole golf course. It’s marked by classical elements and a formal central hallway. Spanish Revival took over the residential building scene in the 1920s. Its hallmarks are a red tile roof and plaster walls, a focus on tile and plaster effects rather than wood trim inside, and a somewhat fanciful and romantic air. The house on the hill with the trees is a little more serious and formal than most small Spanish Revival houses, and the tile in the bathroom isn’t the exuberant colorful tile of the Spanish style, but rather an austere, classy square tile with tight grout lines and a crackle fi nish. Inside, the wood trim resembles some Spanish Revival houses, but the coved plaster ceiling in the living room is more often found in the Mission style. There are arched cutouts in the living room wall and above the fireplace, which are sometimes

It’s a conundrum: The roof line is Beaux Arts or Neoclassical, the tile is Spanish, the cutaway over the doorway is art deco, and the hidden door is Prairie. (Photo by Michael Good) found in Mission houses as well. Irving Gill hung bells in the cutouts. The Beaux Arts or Neoclassical elements might be a nod to the house’s original owner, Margherita Chiavoloni, who emigrated from Italy in 1907. She bought the house in 1924 for $7,000, a princely sum at the time, from builder Edgar Hastings. If we could ask him, Hastings might be able to tell us what style he intended the house to be. Then again he might just say, “I built it like that because I thought it looked good.” Hastings was a preservationist, so he probably was familiar with Classical and historical architectural styles and felt comfortable mixing them together. At any rate, he produced a pleasing, if confounding, style that might just be all his own.v

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FILMOUT Wedding’ (U.S.) 109 minutes Director: Del Shores Southern California exclusive | San Diego premiere The follow-up to the 2008 prequel Logo series and the 2000 feature film of the cult smash hit “Sordid Lives.” With: ‘He Could’ve Gone Pro’ (U.S.) 13-minute short film Director: McGhee Monteith West Coast premiere When Debbie comes home for Christmas, she and her mother Gayle are forced to confront the truth about their family’s past over a tense holiday lunch.

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Co-presenter: SDLFF, SDAFF and Micky’s 11 a.m. Short 1: ‘Sisak’ (India) 15 minutes Director: Faraz Arif Ansari West Coast premiere Story of two gay men in Mumbai who meet on a train and fall in love; burdened with the larger social (and legal) scorn, the two are unable to say anything to each other. Short 2: ‘And Why Not? (Et Pourquoi Pas?)’ (France) 12 minutes Director: Nicolas Fay West Coast premiere Virginie is waiting for an old girlfriend she lost touch with but met up with again on the social networks. Short 3: ‘Lily’ (Ireland) 21 minutes Director: Graham Cantwell West Coast premiere A schoolgirl with a secret is on the cusp of becoming a young woman. Short 4: ‘Por Un Beso’ (Spain) 5 minutes Director: David Velduque Southern California premiere Two men standing opposite each other at a zebra crossing in Gran Via when their eyes meet. Short 5: ‘Swim’ (U.S.) 11 minutes Director: Mari Walker Southern California premiere As summer draws to a close, a young trans girl finds freedom in a secret midnight swim. Short 6: ‘Scar Tissue’ (Belgium) 14 minutes Director: Nish Gera U.S. premiere Sami has fled Aleppo and now resides in Amsterdam, where a chance meeting causes truths to be revealed and confronted. Short 7: ‘Alpha’ (U.S.) 4 minutes Director: Ben Rodriguez World premiere A man forces his boyfriend to sneak out with him to their vacation rental pool to have sex. Short 8: ‘Pussy (Cipka)’ (Poland) 8 minutes Director: Renata Gasiorowska West Coast premiere A young girl spends the evening alone and decides to have a sweet, solo pleasure session. Short 9: ‘The Wanker (Pajero)’ (Spain) 8 minutes Director: Aitor Gonzalez Iturbe West Coast premiere Juan has a problem, or so he thinks. Actually he’s about to discover that he has quite a few of them. Short 10: ‘It’s A Boy’ (U.S.) 5 minutes

Co-presented by Lambda Archives, The Festival Spotlight is "The Lavender Scare" a documentary that shines line on a forgotten time of our history. Director: Trent Nakamura Southern California premiere Young newlyweds are in the middle of an ultrasound when Dr. Kinsey reveals the exciting news. A baby boy! Who’s also gay!

FESTIVAL SPOTLIGHT

Co-presenters: Merrill Lynch and Lambda Archives 1:15 p.m. ‘The Lavender Scare’ (U.S.) Directors: Josh Howard and Jill Landes West Coast premiere This documentary shines a spotlight on a mostly forgotten chapter of American history that has never received the attention it deserves. With the United States gripped in the panic of the Cold War, President Dwight D. Eisenhower deems homosexuals to be “security risks” and orders the immediate firing of any government employee discovered to be gay or lesbian. It triggers a vicious witch hunt that ruins tens of thousands of lives and thrusts an unlikely hero into the forefront of what would become the modern LGBT rights movement. With: ‘Golden Boys’ (Canada) 8 minutes Director: Jill Riley West Coast premiere When three longtime friends break into their old private school, long forgotten memories come back to the surface, forcing them to grapple with the true consequences of having been the school’s Golden Boys. Co-presenter: Richard Woods Real Estate and ROK Promos 3:15 p.m. ‘Pushing Dead’ (U.S.) 108 minutes Director: Tom E. Brown Yes, it’s a comedy! When Dan, a struggling writer (James Roday from “Psych”) and HIV-positive for 20-plus years, ill advisedly deposits a $100 birthday check, he is dropped from his health plan for earning too much income. In this new era of sort-of universal care, his only options are long shots: take on a helpless bureaucracy, or come up with $3,000 a month to buy his medication. Also starring Danny Glover, Khandi Alexander and Robin Weigert. Co-presenter: Wells Fargo Bank 5:30 p.m. ‘A Million Happy Nows’ (U.S.) 80 minutes Director: Albert Alarr West Coast premiere Veteran actress Lainey Allen (Crystal Chappell) is tired of being sidelined for younger talent on the soap opera she has starred in for 20 years. Coupled with finding it harder to retain her lines, she decides not to renew her contract, and she and her publicist/partner, Eva Morales (Jessica Leccia), move to a beach house overlooking the ocean on the Central California coast. But when Lainey starts to forget more than can be attributed to stress, Eva insists on a visit to the doctor — which then chronicles Lainey and Eva’s changing relationship as they struggle to deal with a new diagnosis. Thoughtfully poignant and deftly written and performed, do not miss this emotionally moving film — with cameos galore from some of your

favorite daytime serial dramas. With: ‘August In The City’ (U.S.) 16 minutes Director: Christie Conochalla West Coast premiere Two young women find themselves completely drawn to each other but one fears the repercussions of society in 1978 Brooklyn.

BOYS CENTERPIECE

Co-presenter: Ascent Real Estate (Josh Bottfeld/Ron Oster), Ivan Solis and RAGE Magazine 7:45 p.m. ‘Something Like Summer’ (U.S.) 109 minutes Director: David Berry West Coast premiere The film is based on the bestselling novel of the same name. The only guy at his Texas high school with the courage to come out of the closet, Benjamin Bentley (Grant Davis) believes he has doomed himself to a life of loneliness. Putting up with the bullies and his classmates’ whispered condemnations keeps him from pursuing his dream of being a singer, despite the encouragement of his best friend, Allison (Ajiona Alexus). Instead, Ben spends his summer vacation stalking the handsome athlete who just moved to town, Tim Wyman (Davi Santos). Epic in scope and wonderfully written and performed, the film follows the course of true love over the span of a dozen years, from awkward adolescence through challenging adulthood, featuring seven classic and original musical numbers and the artwork of a talented young artist. Also starring Ben Baur, Jana Lee Hamblin, Ron Boyd, Tristan Decker and Riley Stewart. With: ‘Apollo (Apollon)’ (France) 8 minutes Director: Loic Dimitch West Coast premiere A teen hung up by the social ideals of masculinity who dreams about having the perfect body and endowment.

FRIGHTOUT LGBT SHORTS

Co-presenter: Horrible Imaginings & Cinema Junkie 10 p.m. Short 1: ‘Tonight It’s You’ (U.S.) 17 minutes Director: Dominic Haxton Southern California premiere CJ ventures out for a late night hook-up when things take a dark turn, leading him into something much more sinister than he could ever imagine. Short 2: ‘Room For Rent’ (Brazil) 20 minutes Director: Enock Carvalho U.S. premiere When Leticia meets Gabriela at a party and brings her home, strange movements begin to develop in her dark and mysterious apartment. Short 3: ‘Hi, It’s Your Mother’ (Canada) 5 minutes Director: Daniel Sterlin-Altman West Coast premiere A shocking tragicomic stop-motion animated film about a mother’s love for her child (and also some carnal pleasure). Short 4: ‘Demons’ (U.S.) 11 minutes Director: Jesse Klein West Coast premiere

A closeted serial killer is on the hunt for love and acceptance in a messed up world. Short 5: ‘PYOTR495’ (Canada/ Germany) 15 minutes Director: Blake Mawson Southern California premiere A 16-year-old boy is baited by an ultra-nationalist group known for their violent abductions and attacks bolstered by Russia’s LGBT propaganda law, but Pyotr has a dangerous secret.

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Co-presenter: Enterprise 11 a.m. Short 1: ‘Evil Alan’ (U.S.) 10 minutes Director: Jonathan Hammond World premiere Alan has a Grindr date with someone who is not from his town. Or dimension. Short 2: ‘Sleep On It’ (U.S.) 7 minutes Director: Benjamin Howard World premiere A quarrel puts things into perspective for a young couple mattress-hunting for their first apartment. Short 3: ‘Legally Wed’ (U.S.) 12 minutes Director: Michael Solorio World premiere A sister’s conservative views cause a rift between her and her gay brother as they experience a funeral, a wedding and life. Short 4: ‘Silent’ (U.S.) 13 minutes Director: Paul Baker Southern California premiere Two closeted film stars wrestle with their desires and cynicism before facing their public again. Co-presenter: LIVE Magazine 12:15 p.m. ‘Cas’ (Netherlands) 48 minutes Director: Joris van de Berg U.S. premiere Pepijn and Sjors’ steady, seven-year relationship is shaken up after they allow a young student named Cas to sleep on their couch until he finds a place of his own. With: ‘An Evening (En Aften)’ (Denmark) 9 minutes Director: Soren Green California premiere Two friends share a common experience but have very different reactions.

Set in Brussels, the Belgium film, "Even Lovers Get the Blues" is the International Spotlight.

INTERNATIONAL SPOTLIGHT

Co-presenter: American Institute of Bisexuality 1:15 p.m. ‘Even Lovers Get the Blues’ (Belgium) 95 minutes Director: Laurent Micheli West Coast premiere A liberating portrait of the love and sexual lives of disenchanted and passionate young people; Ana sleeps with Hugo, Dahlia with Graciano, Leo with Louis, and Arthur with everybody. They

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Face of FilmOut After battling lymphoma, Program Director Michael McQuiggan looks forward to the upcoming film festival Ken Williams | Contributing Editor Chances are, if you have attended a movie or a festival presented by FilmOut San Diego, you have been cheerfully greeted by longtime Program Director Michael McQuiggan. Filmmakers from across the globe know McQuiggan, who has built a stellar reputation for helping to produce one of the top LGBT film festivals in the U.S. “For over 15 years, Michael McQuiggan has been my mentor, my friend and my hero,” said Kaleb Nicola, FilmOut’s executive director. “His tireless efforts to enlighten, educate and inform our community through the use of a medium that no one knows better, have always inspired me. “His countless hours of labor to produce a world-class LGBT film festival here in San Diego often go unnoticed, but the positive effects can be seen and felt throughout our various communities,” Nicola said. McQuiggan is eagerly looking forward to FilmOut San Diego’s 19th annual LGBT Film Festival, running June 9–11 at the historic Observatory North Park theater — and putting a little distance from his battle against lymphoma. After being diagnosed in January, McQuiggan has undergone six rounds of chemotherapy, which required him to be hospitalized for a week at a time. In February, he took a leave of absence from his fulltime job as team coordinator at Ascent Real Estate in North Park to devote full time to his treatment and recovery. Yet he has somehow found time to continue working his second job at FilmOut, which he describes as a labor of love. This spring, two monthly FilmOut board meetings were rescheduled to be held at Scripps Mercy Hospital. McQuiggan was receiving chemotherapy as he, Nicola and board members carried on their business of preparing for the film festival.

1. What is your history with FilmOut San Diego? Are you one of the founders? How has the festival changed over the years? I am not one of the original founders. FilmOut began with my good friend Joe Ferrelli. It was his thesis project at San Diego State University in the 1990s. FilmOut has seen many incarnations since then, including a couple of gap years and also when we were associated briefly with another entity from Los Angeles, where I volunteered for a few years and observed everything. That entity didn’t last and we bounced them and we rebranded FilmOut back in 2004 with me as program director. I have been involved in that capacity ever since. Before program director, I came on board with FilmOut as the volunteer coordinator [which is when he recruited Nicola] when Krista Page was the executive director and Joe was the program director. The festival has changed in terms of the number of days. We were initially a seven-day, then five-day, and now a threeday festival. Reason for cut is this: Audiences simply weren’t attending the films Mondays through Wednesdays. So to save embarrassment to us and filmmakers in attendance, we simply decided to streamline the festival down. It is hard to pass on some quality films, but we manage to squeeze those films into one of our special event screenings throughout the year. As far as the quality of films, it has improved, but I can honestly say that the quality has been there all along. Lastly, bringing on a team to help with film selection has helped tremendously. I was for years a one-man team. I do need to give credit to my right-hand man, Jeff Howell, who is our outstanding senior film programmer who will disagree with me, challenge me and is always there to listen to my concerns.

McQuiggan and Beth Accomando dressed up in appropriate attire for the May 20 screening of “What Ever Happened to Baby Jane,” the 1962 film starring Joan Crawford and Bette Davis. (Photo by Ryan Lowe)

LGBT Short tracts (Best Of, 2. Predict what will be Horror, Local Filmmakers) this the highlights of the 19th year and are closing out the fesannual festival? tival with the outstanding docWell, obviously, our Opening umentary, “The Untold Tales of Night film “A Very Sordid Armistead Maupin.” Wedding.” This will be the There will be filmmakers/ exclusive San Diego premiere cast in attendance from most of the sequel to the cult classic of the films mentioned above film, “Sordid Lives.” – with Q&A’s hosted by Ken We are super excited that Williams. writer/director Del Shores is making a return appearance to 3. Why do you think the FilmOut and most of the entire festival has become so succast will be in attendance. Plus, cessful in building an interyou can mingle with them at national reputation? the after party! I think we have been sucI will predict that cessful in terms of exposure “Something Like Summer,” “A partly due to the fact that Million Happy Nows,” “Pushing we showcase great fi lms and Dead” and “Handsome Devil” treat the fi lmmakers/cast that have the potential to be the attend with great respect, and sleeper hits of the festival. Not let’s face it, fi lmmakers and to mention that we have three cast travel to festivals, get to

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know each other on the circuit and compare festivals. We are extremely low maintenance, efficient, organized and have an amazing team, which includes board members and volunteers and trust me, that is a concern for anybody involved in the production of a nonprofit fi lm festival. I have attended dozens of fi lm festivals and observing on the sidelines is quite revealing — in terms of how a festival is run. 4. The year 2017 will certainly be one that you will never forget. You have been very public in sharing your diagnosis and treatment

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Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP:

• Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP” section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious but rare medical emergency that can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, stomach pain with nausea and vomiting, cold or blue hands and feet, feel dizzy or lightheaded, or a fast or abnormal heartbeat. • Severe liver problems, which in rare cases can lead to death. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you get these symptoms: skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, or stomach-area pain. • Bone problems.

• You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 unless you are confirmed to be HIV-1 negative. • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP: • You must continue to use safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you think you were exposed to HIV-1 or have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How To Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. TRUVADA is not approved to treat HBV. If you have HBV, your HBV may suddenly get worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. Do not stop taking TRUVADA without first talking to your healthcare provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months.

TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including:

Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.

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ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP TRUVADA for PrEP is a prescription medicine used together with safer sex practices to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This use is only for HIV-negative adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1. • To help determine your risk of getting HIV-1, talk openly with your healthcare provider about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take certain medicines to treat hepatitis B infection.

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• Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.

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An ‘epic fairy tale’ comes to life Theater Review Charlene Baldridge PigPen Theatre Company’s “The Old Man and the Old Moon” — playing through June 18 in its West Coast premiere at The Old Globe’s Shiley Theatre — is a devised and epic fairy tale packed into 90 fleeting moments in time. Swept up in visual beauty, wonder and music, the opening night audience on May 18 had a rip-roaring good time and at the journey’s conclusion leapt to its feet in vigorous, vociferous response. On the plaza afterward, the buzz continued. Lovers of oral tradition and good music, wonderfully sung and foot-stompingly played, found “Old Man” a rare theatrical treat indeed. The Old Man (Ryan Melia) and the Old Woman (Alex Falberg, who plays multiple roles as well) have lived together for many years, so many in fact that they sometimes are neglectful of one another. One day, the Old Woman unaccountably takes a boat and sails away. The Old Man, charged for eons with filling the leaky moon with light, goes after her, and thus, the world is plunged into darkness. “The Old Man and the Old Moon” which was written and directed by company members and Stuart Carden, springs from Celtic and Greek lore and reminds one of other odysseys with a redemptive ending that results in restoration of love, light and order. Subtitled “A New Musical Folktale,” the work (think Shakespeare’s “Cymbeline,” Homer’s “The Odyssey” and Voltaire’s “Candide”) unfolds upon a rude, multi-level set (by scenic, puppet and costume designer Lydia Fine) made of wood. These designs afford the deployed band of player/musicians the very best platform, theatrically and musically.

When they are arrayed downstage, however, the effect is most thrilling, and gradually each becomes a vivid character in the tale, to which many assuredly will return again and again. Other company members are Matt Nuernberger as Matheson, who acts as narrator; Dan Weschler as Callahan and others; Curtis Gillen as Llewelyn and others; and Arya Shahi as Cookie and others. Well-known recording artists, their instrumentation throughout the show comprises banjos, drums, bells, accordion and various others. Lighting designer is Bart Cartright, and sound designer is Mikhail Fiksel. The music and the tale telling are seamlessly and amazingly interwoven, with slight separations between episodes in the Old Man’s frantic pursuit of the Old Woman. To find his wife, he must go ever westward to a “city buried by time,” along the way having traversed the sea, the land and the belly of a gigantic fish, ultimately to find his wife, return to his moon-tending post, renew his marriage and restore order, creating at last the phases of the moon as we know them. After all the chaos, it is a stupefying, satisfying and splendid ending. All the elements of epic storytelling are here, full of shadows and brightness, wrapped up in PigPen’s listenable music, amazing puppetry and light shows. Those who embark on the journey are amply rewarded. For those who want more, PigPen Theatre Company also plays two concert gigs while in San Diego: June 5 and 19 at the House of Blues, located at 1055 Fifth Ave., Downtown. —Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. Follow her blog at charlenecriticism.blogspot.com or reach her at charb81@gmail. com.

'The Old Man and the Old Moon' By PigPen Theatre Co. Tuesdays through Sundays, through June 18 Donald and Darlene Shiley Stage The Old Globe Theatre Conrad Prebys Theatre Center, 1363 Old Globe Way (Balboa Park) Tickets start at $29 theoldglobe.org 619-23-GLOBE

The cast of PigPen Theatre Co.’s|“The Old Man and The Old Moon,” directed by Stuart Carden. The show’s West Coast premiere runs through June 18 at The Old Globe. (Photo by Jim Cox)

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Romance. Passion. Tuberculosis. Heathcliff and Catherine on the Moors as you’ve never seen them before: a comic retelling of Emily Bronte’s most romantic English novel. It’s an action packed tour de force of two character actors against the most famous romantic novel of all time. A whirlwind Gothic love story wtith a very new twist.

The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe | June 22 – July 8 By Jane Wagner | Directed by Rachel Hastings | Featuring Monique Gaffney

In this one-woman comedic show, Monique Gaffney plays 12 unique characters including Trudy, a bag lady who advises extraterrestrials about life on earth. A one woman comet taking the audience straight into the stratosphere.

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Group discounts available! Ryan Melia, as The Old Man, in a scene from “The Old Man and The Old Moon (Photo by Jim Cox)

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DINING

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French kitchen Café Bleu, which originated in Hillcrest and moved to Mission Hills several years ago, has closed. The bistro’s owners posted the notice recently on Facebook, stating in part: “It just now happens to be our time to move on to the next adventure. But stay tuned, if the right opportunity presents itself you just might see a Café Bleu opening up near you.” 807 W. Washington St.

Pork belly with raspberry pico and black bean puree at The Kettle Room (Photo by Rocio Fleckenstein)

Soda & Swine is taking part in the upcoming Taste of Liberty Station (Courtesy

A fine-dining “restaurant” with a speakeasy feel is up and running in the back of Ballast Point’s Little Italy tasting room. Known as The Kettle Room, it seats 25 to 30 guests and reservations are required. Chefs Rocio Fleckenstein and Devin Woodall oversee a four-course menu featuring seasonal appetizers, salads, entrees and desserts. Diners can order al a carte or opt for prix fixe meals priced at $55 or $75 with beer or wine pairings. “It’s an elevated dining experience compared to our other locations and we use a lot of our research and development beers for the pairings, which we only brew here,” Fleckenstein said. The Kettle Room operates from 6–10 p.m., Wednesday through Sunday. 2215 India St., 619-255-7213, ballastpoint.com.

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With its growing number of tenants, the time has come for the first annual Taste of Liberty Station, which will spotlight nearly two dozen restaurants and beverage vendors doling out samples within the historic compound. Resident art galleries will also be open for attendees to explore. The event, which also features live music and a bubbly garden, will be held from 5–9 p.m., June 21. Participating restaurants include Fire by the Patio, Slater’s 50/50, Soda & Swine, Dirty Birds, Solare Ristorante, Point Loma Tea, Tender Greens, the newly opened Officine Buona Forchetta, and more. Admission is $30 for all food samples ($40 day of the event) and $15 for entrance into the bubbly garden, which includes three tastings of sparkling wines for guests 21 years and older. Advance tickets can be purchased through the website: libertystation.com/ events. 2851 Dewey Road.

The fast-casual Taco Stand is coming to North Park (Photo by Julian Hakim) Famous for its spit-roasted pork (al pastor) and spicy shrimp tacos, The Taco Stand will replace Tacos Perla in North Park this summer, marking the company’s fifth location since opening in La Jolla four years ago. The other locations are in Downtown, Encinitas and Miami. Co-owner Julian Hakim expects the North Park operation to open in August, adding that it will feature the same menu as the other locations. 3000 Upas St., letstaco.com.

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The loading docks and stock rooms at all locations of Barons Markets, including those in North Park and Point Loma, will soon be utilized for pairings of food from the stores with beers by Mike Hess Brewing Company. The annual event is a fundraiser for the San Diego Food Bank and will be held company-wide from 6–8 p.m., June 21. Pairings include the “green goddess” spring salad with 8 West Orange Honey Wheat, curry chicken skewers with Grapefruit Solis IPA, and more. Tickets are $15 per person and can be purchased through eventbrite.com under “Barons back room beer pairing.” Guests must be 21 years or older. 3231 University Ave. and 4001 W. Point Loma Blvd., 619-814-5555.

After serving Sicilian and Italian cuisine in Hillcrest for more than 30 years, the Busalacchi family has closed A Modo Mio, which opened six years ago at 3707 Fifth Ave., one block down from its original Busalacchi’s restaurant. The latter sprung onto the scene in 1986 and shuttered shortly before A Modo Mio was launched. In a letter issued by the family, it states the decision to close “didn’t come easily, we felt it was the right thing to do for the continued growth of our family business.” Three restaurants in the Busalacchi restaurant group remain: Barbusa is its newest and the two others — Trattoria Fantastica and Café Zucchero, all three in Little Italy — are currently under renovation and due to reopen in August or September. barbusa.com.

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Bull & Grain’s new pasta-free eggplant lasagna (Photo by Simon Wolujewicz) New and recreated dishes at Bull & Grain have been introduced in the wake of Chef Daniel Barron’s departure from the Hillcrest restaurant. Owner Simon Wolujewicz said a new executive chef will be announced “in the next month or two,” and that his kitchen staff has since added to the menu items such as gluten-free eggplant lasagna without pasta and hanger steak with blue cheese-peppercorn sauce. Common desserts with boozy twists have also come into play such as tiramisu incorporating whiskey and strawberry cream; chocolate lava cake with fresh mint and mint liqueur; and crème brulee with dark rum. Also, happy hour now features $6 craft cocktails from 4 to 6 p.m. Tuesday through Friday; and half-price cocktails from 3 to 6 p.m. on Saturdays. 1263 University Ave., 619-546-9122, bullandgrain.com. —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at fsabatini@san.rr.com.


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Sticky fingers Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. Despite small price hikes over the past couple of years, Rose Donuts ranks among the cheapest places in San Diego to consume a hefty well-made sandwich plus a sugary treat and beverage of choice for as little as $5.45 — and at any time of the day or night. For nearly two decades, the family-owned 24-hour donut shop is still something of a hidden gem, especially among those who demand their apple fritters extravagantly crispy on the outside and fluffy and apple-loaded on the inside. They’re the top sellers that share rack space with a full complement of anti-trendy donuts ranging from yeast-raised and cake varieties to hole-less Bismarck types filled with custard and jellies. In addition to oversized cookies, brownies and croissants, Rose’s made-to-order sandwiches remain one of the city’s best kept foodie secrets, which hubby and I discovered just recently in spite of living less than a mile away. We were aware, however, from late-night donut runs, that all purchases are cash-only. In our first meal probe, he ordered the fiesta breakfast sandwich on an exceptionally fresh house-made croissant. For about $1.30 extra, it included a choice of donut and beverage, in this case a buttermilk old-fashioned that he washed down with a small carton of chocolate milk. This wasn’t a day we were counting calories, as proven by our sugary fingertips when we left. The sandwich was stuffed with ham, flawlessly cooked bacon, scrambled eggs, melted American and Swiss cheeses, diced tomatoes and brined

jalapenos. Despite the so-so quality of the pressed ham, the ingredients swaddled by the big, puffy croissant rivaled most breakfast sandies we’ve eaten in reputable restaurants. ich Ditto for my BLT, which featured big strips of the bac bacon, dded lettuce and decent decen nt shredded toes stacked between ttwo wo w tomatoes wide slices of sourh crisped from a dough entional toaster. aster. conventional alo long That bread, along with white orr t, iss wheat, ed d sourced from co. o Costco.

Yett wh heree where some of the sand((clockwise (c lockwise from m wich top) Freshly racked rackked lling gs fillings cake donuts; Thee origfiesta breakfast inate sandwich;; and sandwich; a d BL an BLT LLTT on ins remains sourdough. a mystery. The anchor staff — three personable Asian women ravenou us only with a ravenous who speak limited English — anappetite. swered vaguely when I inquired. ndwich h choicOther sandwich Although one of them indicated urkey, egg e and es include turkey, that the chicken salad I chose in a witthout bacon); sandwich on toasted wheat bread a cheese (with or without h turkey-cheese k h tuna salad; ham-turkey-cheese few days later was made in-house. he aforemenclubs; and any of the The finely chopped breast tioned ingredients in preferred meat was mixed generously with very white mayo that seemed combinations. They’re also availalmost whipped. I actually liked able on split house-made bagels. it, due perhaps to the diced sweet Breakfast sausage, as well as pickles blended in and what I fancy condiments and garnishes, suspected was an extra dose of are absent from the menu — not lemon juice used in its making. surprising from a non-hyped Opting for Swiss cheese over eatery that cranks out fresh American, I’d enthusiastically donuts at least twice daily and eat the sandwich again — but also serves Thrifty’s ice cream in about 10 flavors, should your sweet tooth veer out of control. Note: Rose Donuts is located in The Presidio, a strip plaza where parking is limited to 30 minutes (less in certain slots) and aggressively enforced with tow warnings. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.rr.com. ▼

Rose Donuts 5201 Linda Vista Road (Linda Vista) 619-294-8856 Prices: Single donuts and pastries, $1.15 to $2; donuts by the half dozen, $6.55; per dozen, $12.45. Sandwiches, $3.35 to $7.45; sandwich combos, $5.45 to $8.95

A neighborhood destination for donuts, sandwiches and ice cream (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

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FEATURE

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MARRIAGE “The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage,� which publisher Rowman & Littlefield released on June 8. Gay San Diego (GSD) was allowed to read the book in advance, in preparation for this in-depth interview with Michael Kimmel (MK), which will be presented in two parts. GSD: In your book, you propose “a radical invitation� for married gay spouses not to “settle� for traditional marriage and to “come up with your own version of what works for

you and your husband.� Why wouldn’t this be considered a controversial position, not only by many within the gay community but especially within the straight community? MK: I agree, it should be a controversial position. Whenever a well-established cultural institution like marriage is questioned or challenged — which this book most certainly does — it’s usually considered radical. I have shown the book, in galley form, to married friends (straight, bisexual, lesbian, trans and gay). All of them found the book useful, particularly the idea not to settle for anyone else’s idea of marriage, to literally “design� your own

kind of marriage — monogamous, open or some combination of both. While questioning the basic structure of marriage sounds good in theory, in reality, it’s likely to piss off a whole lot of people. GSD: What does it say about gay marriage, which is still a newfangled thing in America, when you contend that half of same-sex marriages are not monogamous? Also, doesn’t this discourage single gay men who hope to marry someday? And doesn’t this limit the dating pool of eligible bachelors when so many men are cheating on their spouses or have embraced open relationships?

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gay-sd.com MK: Let me answer each of your three excellent (and pithy) questions: Question 1: What does the possibility/likelihood of non-monogamy say about gay marriage? That sex is often more important for us than it is for heterosexual or lesbian couples. This is related to the double-testosterone combo of two men in a sexually-exclusive relationship. If you go for the biological explanation: One of the most basic — some call is “primitive� — functions for men is the desire to “spread our seed� with a variety of sexual partners. I’m not saying that this biologically-based behavior rules us and that we are helpless victims of our genitals. What I am saying is that sex for two men together is likely to play out quite differently than it is for two women or a man and a woman together. Question 2: It is my experience as a psychotherapist of long-standing in the gay community — and a major premise of this book — that having the option to have an open or a monogamous relationship encourages gay men to create healthy and durable relationships. During the years that I offered workshops on the subject of “open or monogamous relationship?� I often got feedback from the participants like: “We pretend that our (gay) relationship is monogamous, but, it really isn’t.� and “We feel shame and guilt that we lie about the true (non-monogamous) nature of our relationship.� This is another important reason why I wrote this book: shame and guilt are not good mental health! And their presence makes any relationship much more difficult than it needs to be. If we can create the kind of marriage where we don’t have to lie if we’re not 100 percent monogamous, that encourages more of us to consider getting married. Question 3: First of all, if you’re in an open relationship

and have good, honest communication with your husband, no one is “cheating.â€? Why do people “cheatâ€?? Because they are unhappy in their relationship but don’t see a way out. They feel trapped, so they lie and deceive their partner. This is why so many relationships — homo and hetero — haven’t worked so well: Everyone had to “pretendâ€? that everything was going so well, when it really wasn’t. If you are single and meet someone in an open relationship, that man is going to be honest with you: He has no need to lie or cheat. He can tell you the truth about his situation and what he can offer, and you get to decide if it works for you or not. This is healthy and honest: “all the cards are on the table,â€? as my grandma used to say. It doesn’t “limitâ€? a dating pool of eligible bachelors; it clarifies who is really eligible for dating and who isn’t. It takes away a lot of dishonesty. Instead of having a dating pool of men who “mightâ€? be available to date, there’s much more likely to be a dating pool of men who are clearly 100 percent “singleâ€? and men who are not. This takes away the guilt and pretending. You may think the dating pool gets “smaller,â€? but, in all reality, it gets “clearerâ€? and more honest ‌ which is better for us all. (Part 2 will appear in the June 23 issue of Gay San Diego.) On June 24, Kimmel will have a book signing from 2-5 p.m. in the lobby of the Diversionary Theatre, located at 4545 Park Blvd. in University Heights. Classical guitarist Horacio Jones will perform as well, and a bar with snacks will be available. RSVP to beyondtherapy@cox.net. —Ken Williams is a contributing editor of Gay San Diego and can be reached at ken@ sdcnn.com or at 619-961-1952.â–ź


INTERVIEW

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out of the gym together, holding hands. Considering being gay was more taboo during that time, how do you reflect on that groundbreaking moment when it comes to gay inclusivity? (ONJ) You know what, I don’t think I even realized it at the time. I just thought it was extremely funny. Whenever someone tells me that “Physical” is sexy, it makes me laugh because, to me, it’s just funny, you know? And the director really should take credit: Brian Grant, an Englishman who was great fun and did nearly all my videos at that time. Of course, the choreographer [Kenny Ortega] is gay and all the boys were our friends. And it was hilarious! We just had a blast and until you said that I hadn’t really thought of it as being groundbreaking. It seemed quite natural at the time. But I thought it was a very funny twist at the end.

Honestly loved Olivia Newton-John on her dream to cure cancer, gay adoration and how she’s ‘here and still going’ Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate “My dream is to see an end to cancer in my lifetime,” Olivia Newton-John told me at the end of April, just weeks before announcing that she’d been diagnosed with a recurrence of breast cancer, which has spread to the sacrum bone in her back. The entertainer and “Grease” star fi rst battled breast cancer in 1992 and lost her sister to brain cancer in 2013. She turned her personal loss into a universal catharsis on her October 2016 release, “LIV ON,” a collaborative album featuring singer-songwriters Beth Nielsen Chapman and Amy Sky. Scheduled as a preview for her summer tour — which has since been postponed due to her health — Newton-John was in good spirits during our recent interview. As expected, the 68-year-old Aussie singer-actress exuded warmth and humility — and, as she reflected on queer-aligned moments in her career, offered the kind of charming laughter that’s made her one of the most approachable icons of our time. “I love you guys,” NewtonJohn said, doting on her vast gay following. “You’re so loyal and lovely to me, and I appreciate you.” I told her we honestly love her back and we talked about her professional highs and personal passions — and how cancer, which she is now suddenly battling again, is what she’s determined to help cure. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) How would you compare yourself as an artist now versus when the world first met you in “Grease” and “Xanadu”? (Olivia Newton John | ONJ) I think I’ve been through so many different eras. With “Grace and Gratitude” (2006) and my

“Gaia” (1994) albums, both were kind of mellow, so I have done this before. It’s usually on albums that have a theme to them, or when I’ve gone through some kind of crisis, which are those two albums and this one. [“LIV ON”] was born out of me losing my sister. It was kind of inspired by that, and it was just important to me to make this record to help heal ourselves and help other people, because I think grief is not something that is talked about enough. It can lead to depression and anxiety and people don’t even realize that they’re sad, so they use other means to cover it up and they don’t talk about it because people make them feel they should be over it. There’s no time when there’s a loss. Loss is different for everybody. The people you’ve lost, they’ll always be in your life; they’ll always be there, in your heart. (CA) What was your first introduction to the gay community? Did you know gay people growing up in the U.K.? (ONJ) I probably did, but I probably didn’t decipher between them and anybody else. They were all just people. I had very loving parents who were very open, so I don’t think I ever thought about it that much. In the ’70s, I was very close to my hairdresser/makeup person who sadly died of AIDS and that was a terrible, terrible shock. In show business, there’s a very high percentage of gay people, so I’ve just always been around them. (CA) If a gay fan stops you on the street, what project of yours are they most likely to gush over? (ONJ) “Sordid Lives.” [Laughs] But it depends! It’s hard! Because there are many, many gay men and women, and they all love something different — they’re just people,

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Olivia Newton-John was set to launch a summer tour for her 2016 release, “LIV ON,” before she got news her cancer had returned. (Photo by Denise Truscello) so they all have different tastes. But a lot of them have been touched by the message in “Sordid Lives” if they had or have a problem coming out to their family. (CA) Where does playing a tattooed lesbian ex-con in that movie rank on your list of accomplishments? (ONJ) [Laughs] It was fun! I did it for fun! Because I love [writer and director] Del Shores, who is my friend. He was actually

my sister’s best friend — that’s how that came about, because of their friendship. If my sister hadn’t known Del, I wouldn’t have gone to the play and then I wouldn’t have said, “If you ever make this into a movie, think of me.” It was all kind of in fun and then it happened. (CA) Like many gay men of my generation, my introduction to you was the “Physical” video. I remember being surprised seeing two gay men walking

(CA) The video came out in 1981, when there was still a lot of resistance regarding gay issues. Gay marriage wasn’t, obviously, legal. (ONJ) That is true. I don’t even know if it was being talked about then. It was just part of my life. (CA) As kitschy as it was, it still put gay people in many living rooms across the world. (ONJ) Looking back now, I realize that. But I was so busy doing what I was doing — working. I didn’t reflect on

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ARTS & CULTURE / INTERVIEW

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Art around town

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California Tower and Museum of Man to commemorate the U.S. Supreme Court’s ruling in favor of marriage equality. Check out his website, where you can see the diversity of his work, find special deals, examples of his beefcake art, and become a Riccoboni “patron” starting at just a dollar per month. Prints of Riccoboni’s work, including the piece now on display at the Capitol, hand-signed note cards, copies of his Art Traveler (a walking guide of Balboa Park), and more can be purchased at the San Diego LGBT Visitor Center inside Creative Crossroads, located at 502 University Ave., near the Hillcrest sign. You can also find him in Studio 18 at Spanish Village Art Center, 1770 Village Place, Balboa Park. Contact him for his schedule at artiststudioriccoboni@gmail.com or visit rdriccoboni.com. On June 2, The Studio Door launched its

RD Riccoboni with his piece chosen to display at the state Capitol. Local artist RD (Randy) Riccoboni got some great news recently; Sen. Toni G. Atkins selected his work, “We Rise As We Lift Others,” for the Senate’s 2017-18 Contemporary Art Collection exhibition at the state Capitol building. Each state senator was asked to select an artist from their district and Atkins chose Riccoboni’s iconic piece depicting the day Pride flags were flying from Balboa Park’s

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A poignant piece by Mac McCuster, whose submission commemorating the Pulse victims made the gallery owner cry.

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INTERVIEW things as much then. I was too busy doing them! (CA) What’s it like when you perform “Physical” these days? Are you surrounded by shirtless, sweaty gay men? (ONJ) Only in the audience if they choose to do that! [Laughs] But no, just my singers on stage come and jump around and my guitarist comes forward and we do the guitar solo. We just have fun. I try to get the audience to have fun. (CA) Do you strip it down? Do you do a cabaret version of the song? (ONJ) No, no, we do it like the record. They want to hear it like it was. I always remember going to see a famous artist when I was a young girl and when she did sing her songs, she changed them. I remember making a note: If I’m ever lucky enough to be that successful, I’m going to do them the way they were done. That’s what people wanna hear. (CA) Which artist are you referring to? (ONJ) Oh, it’s an artist and I don’t want to mention her name. Her whole show was not — it was just, I was anticipating all the hits and they didn’t come and then when she did them she

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changed them up. That was just an important lesson for me. (CA) It’s Pride season. As someone who’s been a mainstay on the Pride circuit, can you reflect on some of your most memorable experiences at Pride? (ONJ) I have been a part of many Mardi Gras celebrations in Sydney and I can never remember places, so you have to forgive me, but it was off New York and that was the night gay marriage was passed. It was incredibly exciting. Everybody was celebrating. So those are the two that stick out for me. And I’ve done other ones too with incredible crowds. A lot of fun. My gay fans are a lot of fun. (CA) What was going through your mind when marriage equality became a reality that day? (ONJ) I was just very happy for them and happy for the gay community that they have equality. I’ve always said this and I’ll say it again: Love is love. That’s all it is. (CA) You were one of the first stars to speak out on marriage equality in Australia. How are you feeling about the fact that it’s still not a reality there? (ONJ) It’s ridiculous. I hope a change is made. And it is really silly and it needs to change and I hope it does. I don’t get involved politically, really, but I just think this issue is obvious — it’s ridiculous. If people love each other, they should be able to form a partnership and that’s that. (CA) It seems so simple when you put it like that. (ONJ) It is simple. (CA) I came across a video of you acknowledging lesbian rumors that were circulating about you in the ’80s. I had no idea people ever thought you were a lesbian. (ONJ) Yeah, I remember that. It was very odd. I couldn’t figure out why, but it didn’t do me any harm, obviously. [Laughs] (CA) Actually, I think it might’ve benefited you. (ONJ) I think it was probably a good rumor! It was a nice rumor, not a mean rumor. (CA) Do mean rumors about Olivia Newton-John actually exist? (ONJ) I’m sure there have been some! I try not to tune in to negativity. I tune that stuff out, so I don’t know. (CA) What is left for you to accomplish? (ONJ) Everything now is icing on the cake. I thought I was gonna retire in 2000 and here I am. I’m still going. And doing the Sydney Olympics [in 2000] was like, “Wow, nothing can be better than this.” Then I built my hospital [Olivia Newton-John Cancer Wellness & Research Centre in Melbourne, Australia, where she will receive treatments for her new cancer diagnosis] and I think that

She recently opened the Olivia Newton-John Cancer Wellness & Research Centre in Melbourne, Australia, and will be seeking treatment there. (Photo by Denise Truscello)

was probably the greatest achievement in my life, to have helped raise the money to build this amazing cancer center that’s helping so many people. And to have Gaia, my wellness retreat — that is also helping to heal people. So, I feel very grateful for all that I have achieved. The wonderful thing about these achievements is that it’s giving back to people — it’s not just about me. It’s helping other people move forward in their lives, for their future, which is much more important. (CA) More important than ...? (ONJ) Than fame. It’s a different kind of fame; it’s something that’s gonna help people’s lives and quality of life. The cancer center and wellness program are my babies and I really care deeply for cancer patients, having gone through it myself. Now we have an amazing research center at my cancer center and we just did some groundbreaking research that was published in Australia, so we’re doing amazing things there. My dream is to see an end to cancer in my lifetime and that the hospital becomes a wellness center, just focusing on wellness — that’s my dream. — Chris Azzopardi is editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter, @ chrisazzopardi.▼


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FILMOUT are lovers, friends and share their daily lives as young city dwellers in their 30s who live in Brussels, until a heartbreaking event comes to break this balance.

decide whether to “cure” his homosexuality with an injection or be ostracized from his community forever.

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BRIEFS gender on state-issued identification documents like driver’s licenses and birth certificates. “We need to make it easier for transgender and gender nonconforming people to live their lives as who they are, not who society says they’re supposed to be,” said Sen. Scott Wiener, a Democrat who is a joint-author of the act, in the release. “In particular, our LGBTQ youth need to know that we support them and want them to succeed as their authentic selves.”

Passing the senate with a vote of 26-12, the act has gained support from California organizations like Transgender Law Center and Equality California. The second bill, the Name and Gender Act, or SB 310, gives those housed in state prisons or county jails the right to access the courts to obtain a name or gender change. In addition, the bill would require corrections officials to address these individuals using the new name if they have successfully obtained the name change. “Transgender people who are incarcerated should have the same right as anyone else to legally change their name or gender and to be recognized for who they are,” Atkins said in

the release. “In addition to providing transgender prisoners with a sense of dignity while incarcerated, SB 310 will give them a better chance to reenter society successfully.” Rick Zbur, executive director of Equality California and a supporter of both bills, noted the challenges already facing a transgender person before they apply for a name or gender change. “The last thing they need is for the government to throw more obstacles in their path,” he said. “These bills would make a difficult process easier and help protect the basic dignity of transgender and non-binary people.” Both bills have now moved on to the Assembly for consideration.

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Co-presenter: FlawLes and Gossip Grill 3 p.m. ‘Signature Move’ (U.S.) 82 minutes Director: Jennifer Reeder West Coast premiere This film is a socially relevant comedic and heartfelt look at modern families and the complexities of love in its many forms. Zaynab (Fawzia Mirza) is a Pakistani, Muslim lawyer living in Chicago who begins a new romance with Alma (Sari Sanchez), a confident MexicanAmerican woman. Zaynab’s recently widowed mother Parveen (Shabana Azmi) has moved in and spends her days watching Pakistani TV dramas while searching for a potential husband for her only daughter. Alma’s mother is a former professional Luchadora, which Zaynab finds fascinating, as she has recently taken up lucha-style wrestling with a former pro wrestler. Zaynab tries to keep her secrets from her mother, who knows more than she lets on. With: ‘Balcony’ (UK) 17 minutes Director: Toby Fell-Holden Southern California premiere In a neighborhood rife with racial tension, a local girl falls for a recent immigrant who is the victim of prejudice and shame. Co-presenter: Roberts Electric Service 5:15 p.m. ‘Handsome Devil’ (Ireland) 95 minutes Director: John Butler West Coast premiere Dyed-hair, subversive rock music loving Ned (Fionn O’Shea) attends a boarding school where everything is all about rugby. Initially, he is happy living in his dorm alone and content with drawing as little attention to himself as possible when new kid and rugby star Conor (Nicholas Galitzine) gets assigned to his room and rocks his world. With: ‘Devil Wears A Suit’ (Australia) 20 minutes Director: Eli Mack World premiere A high-concept sci-fi /drama about a religious boy who must

Director: Jennifer M. Kroot West Coast premiere This documentary examines the life and work of one of the world’s most beloved storytellers, following his evolution from a conservative son of the Old South to a gay rights pioneer whose novels have inspired millions to claim their own truth. Jennifer Kroot’s documentary about the creator of “Tales Of The City” moves nimbly between playful and poignant and laugh-out-loud funny. With help from his friends (including Neil Gaiman, Laura Linney, Olympia Dukakis, Sir Ian McKellen and Amy Tan), Maupin offers a disarmingly frank look at the journey that took him from the jungles of Vietnam to the bathhouses of 1970s San Francisco to the front line of the American culture war.

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So nice we have it twice! | 3pm-6pm, 10pm-close The author of "Tales of the City" is profiled in the closing night film. With: ‘Dusk’ (UK) 15 minutes Director: Jake Graf West Coast premiere Growing up in 1950s England in an intolerant and uninformed world, young Chris Winters struggles to fit into the gender roles dictated by wider society. The Observatory North Park is located at 2891 University Ave. For tickets, visit filmoutsandiego.org.

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ARTZINE latest extended exhibit, called “PROUD,” which will run through most of June in conjunction with national Pride month. Entries were submitted by LGBT artists from 22 states. Patric Stillman, founder of The Studio Door, was moved by many of the works he received, especially one in particular.

a positive impact “by protecting and promoting the health and wellness of the community’s underserved populations” and celebrates SYHC’s nearly 50 years of service to these communities. Assemblymember Lorena Gonzales Fletcher will be sharing the “Health Champion” award with state Sen. Ben Hueso and U.S. Rep. Juan Vargas, for their support of SYHC. If you wish to bid on one of Salazar’s black-and-white pour works, tickets to the event are $500 and available at syhc.org/ gala.

Salazar experimenting with black-and-white pour art. “Opening boxes as I began to install the show, I had to stop for a moment; I was unwrapping 30 bottles with pictures of the kids from the Pulse massacre and [found myself] just bawling in the gallery,” Stillman said. “This show is so interesting, in that it goes from outsider to personal to political, just like our community.” “PROUD” was juried by native San Diegan, Alex Fialho, a curatorial associate of the Lower Manhattan Cultural Council Research in New York City. Fialho is also a contributing writer for ArtForum and will soon be curating interviews for an upcoming Smithsonian Archives of American Art. Local artist and activist John Keasler has also curated a concurrent exhibition of local artwork, located a block down the street from The Studio Door at the San Diego Pride offices, in conjunction with Art of Pride. “PROUD” will be on display through June 25 at The Studio Door, located at 3750 30th St. in North Park. For more information, visit thestudiodoor.com. On June 24, Alexander Salazar will be supporting one of his favorite charities, the San Ysidro Health Center (SYHC), by donating 30 works of his black-andwhite “pour art” pieces painted specifically for the Black, White and Bling Bash fundraiser, held at the Hotel de Coronado from 5-11 p.m. The works will act as part of the event’s design backdrop before they are each auctioned off to the highest bidder. The eighth annual event honors those who continue to make

Salazar is also a gallery owner and art dealer and is currently showcasing the works of Judy Ragagli, oil paintings that pay homage to vintage Barbie dolls. The show takes you through a journey starting in 1959, with Barbie’s debut. “She’s more significant than an object for child’s play — she is an indicator of trends, a marker of historical eras, and a positive role model for the past, present and future,” Ragagli said.

Judy Ragagli paints vintage Barbies with oil. (Courtesy Alexander Salazar) Ragagli’s Barbie collection will be on display for a limited time and by appointment only. Alexander Salazar Fine Art is located at 225 W. Market St., Downtown. Call 619-531-8996. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at morgan@sdcnn. com.▼

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gay-sd.com group will stand outside The Restored Hope Network’s weekend conference in opposition. 9 a.m.-5 p.m. (on Saturday, June 17, too) at 8404 Phyllis Place. Prior to the event, Gossip Grill will provide a free poster making space on Tuesday, June 13 until 3 p.m. Visit tinyurl.com/ ybsvn6ee. Dance Against Abuse – Drag it Out in the Open: Join the San Diego Coalition Against Gay Conversion for a free dance party featuring DJ Heabnasty. The event will be held on Friday, June 16 from 8 p.m.-10 p.m. at 901 Camino del Rio S. This dance party is about LGBTQ pride and organizers encourage participants to bring their “most gender-bending style”, rainbow flags and drag. Come on down and dance the night away to celebrate LGBTQ pride! For more information, you can visit the event’s Facebook page here: tinyurl.com/ybplp8ra

Friday, June 9-Sunday, June 11

FilmOut San Diego’s 19th LGBT Film Festival: FilmOut San Diego presents a fun weekend of film celebrating the LGBT community. The festival will kick off with Del Shores’ ‘Sordid Lives’ sequel “A Very Sordid Wedding.” See the full line up at bit. ly/2rM6YvT and buy tickets at bit.ly/2rlvDaA for $10-45 per show. Times vary. The Observatory North Park, 2891 University Ave. Visit tinyurl. com/y9vvm98h.

Saturday, June 10

Out at the Fair: Out at the Fair is back with their seventh annual festival at Del Mar Fairgrounds! Enjoy live entertainment from Toby Keith, Landa Plenty, Simply Barbra and more. A percentage of profit from apparel sales will benefit The Trevor Project. Flicks Shuttles will be available for $5 each way. Tickets outatthefair.com. 10 a.m.-11 p.m. at Del Mar Fairgrounds, 2260 Jimmy Durante Blvd. Visit tinyurl. com/y9cqft8s. Sixth Annual YPC Academy Graduation & Champagne Brunch: Cheers to the Young Professionals Council graduating class! Join the LGBT Community Center in celebrating the accomplishments with a buffet brunch and bottomless mimosas. Tickets start at $50 at bit.ly/2rMfDhU. 11 a.m.-1 p.m. at Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit tinyurl. com/ybkysxcn.

Sunday, June 11

The Equality March in San Diego: This Sunday join community members as they march at the same time as those in Washington, D.C. marching on the Washington Mall for LGBTQIA rights. The march, which is held in conjunction with the San Diego LGBT Community Center and San Diego Pride, will begin at 10 a.m. in Balboa Park on Sixth Avenue and Juniper Street. Marchers will set out at 11 a.m. and make their way to the Southwest end of the County Administration

Building on Pacific Highway at approximately noon. There will be a rally at the end of the event. This event is free and open to the public. You can RSVP as an individual at tinyurl.com/y7gngg4d or as an organization at tinyurl.com/y9fnho9u.

Monday, June 12

Orlando Strong: We Remember: San Diegans will gather to honor individuals whose lives were lost during the Pulse Nightclub shooting in Orlando last year. There will be a candlelight vigil at the San Diego LGBT Community Center located at 3909 Centre St. Community members will gather in The Center’s parking lot at 6:30 p.m. For more information you can visit the event’s Facebook page at tinyurl.com/ yc72tovm. #Honor Them WithAction: North County LGBTQ Resource Center will also host a memorial for the victims of the Pulse massacre, aimed at raising awareness against hate and bigotry. Free. If you would like to speak at the event, contact info@ncresourcecenter.org. 6:30-8 p.m. at 300 North Coast Highway. Visit tinyurl.com/yagntdgk.

Meyers. HRC San Diego’s second annual Cyber Fresh Food Drive will also be accepting produce and pantry donations at the event. Free. 7-9 p.m. at The Ould Sod, 3373 Adams Ave. Visit tinyurl.com/ ycj2xb6d.

Wednesday, June 14

Painting and Vino: Grab your paintbrush to swim with the fishes at the Loading Dock! Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece of “Yin Yang Koi.” $45, all supplies included, registration is required. Food and drink available for purchase. 21+ 6–9 p.m. The Loading Dock, 2400 Kettner Blvd. #110, in Little Italy. Visit tinyurl.com/ y7hkehf5.

HYC Annual Rainbow Prom 2017: Calling all LGBTIQA youth and allies — grab your “goth” garb and hit the dance floor for this year’s Rainbow Prom. Wear whatever you feel validated in, be it formal attire or a cosplay outfit. Enjoy an endless supply of goth tears (vegan water) and punk music all night long. Free to all LGBTIQA youth and allies. Visit tinyurl.com/ y7c3czgr.

Thursday, June 15

Press Conference and Vigil in Opposition to Conversion Therapy: LGBT community members, religious leaders, health practitioners, elected officials and survivors are coming together to speak out against conversion therapy. The event is in response to The Restored Hope Network — the biggest group of gay conversion supporters — and their upcoming San Diego conference. 5-6:30 p.m. at St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral, 2728 Sixth Ave. Visit tinyurl.com/ya6eqj4g.

Tuesday, June 13

HRC Connect: This month’s theme is “LGBTQ Law Enforcement Panel and Food Drive.” Hear from law enforcement officials who will discuss their experiences on the force and serving the LGBT community. Panelists include San Diego Police Sgt. Daniel Meyer and San Diego Sheriff candidate Dave

Saturday, June 17

Girls Night Out Dance: Dance the night away with the fabulous DJ Laura Jane and Girls Night SD. Post any song recommendations in the Facebook event invitation before the event. 7-10 p.m. at The Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave. Visit tinyurl.com/y7poajuc.

Sunday, June 18

Friday, June 16

The Big O’ Gay AntiConversion Therapy Protest: Bring your posters, voices and community to protest conversion therapy for LGBTQA youths. The

Dragalicious Gospel Brunch: Join Sister Nunof-the-Above (Tootie) and the Sisters of Sequin for a church session that is done correctly. For just $19.95 you get an entrée, sides, and unlimited mimosas, champage, bloodys and a dragalicious drag show. First seating between 11–11:30 a.m., second seating at 1:30 p.m. $5 cover. Reservations required. 3036

Monday, June 19

Mobile Medical Unit at The Center: The Family Health Centers of San Diego Mobile Medical Unit will be located in The Center’s parking lot every Monday from 3-7 p.m. Services include basic primary care, immunizations, PEP & PrEP (through Rx), STD screening and treatment, chest/breast cancer screening, family planning, pap smears, pregnancy testing, hormone therapy and sick and well visits. To make an appointment, call 619-692-2077 ext. 208.

Tuesday, June 20

Leigh Scarritt’s ‘Stars of the Future’: Musical theater choices from your favorites with gifted young performers sharing their talents. $20 reserved seating and $15 per person food/drink minimum. 8–9:30 p.m. Doors open at 6 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit tinyurl. com/ycukrtfq.

Wednesday, June 21:

Wine and Canvas: Come out for some artsy fun and a glass of Blue Door wine! Admission is $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by-20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas. You don’t have to be an artist to have fun. Tonight’s art selection is “Swami’s Sunset.” Outside food OK, but only Blue Door Winery drinks are allowed. Street parking. 6–9 p.m. Blue Door Winery, 4060 Morena Blvd., Clairemont. Visit tinyurl. com/a5m2hhz.

Thursday, June 22

Shop with Pride: Need to go grocery shopping? Whole Foods Market in Hillcrest will be donating 5 percent of profits to San Diego LGBT Pride projects and programs. Come shop all day on and give back to the community. Whole Foods is located at 711 University Ave. in Hillcrest. Visit tinyurl.com/yaj2c9hq

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MCQUIGGAN for lymphoma. How are you feeling? What is the latest prognosis? Yes, that diagnosis came out of nowhere. Literally, my life changed with one phone call in January, but I am just grateful that I listened to that voice in my head that something was off. I just finished round six of chemotherapy on May 12, which was my birthday, so I am

very pleased that that chapter is now over. It was a long and very interesting experience. Not quite what I expected. I was only stage one, so I was in remission after round two. I was lucky that I always remained positive, never was “woe is me” and was always surrounded by family, friends and co-workers. I have an excellent oncologist named Dr. Marin Xavier. She told me at my first meeting that she could cure me if I put in the time. My type A personality listened and just let go. Her team and the entire

nursing staff at Scripps Mercy were outstanding. A-plus. No complaints. As far as how I feel, well let’s just say that I am on my way to rebuilding my strength and body. I wish I could describe the feeling. It was strange. I was also extremely lucky that I didn’t have many side effects. My prognosis at the moment is great. Like I previously mentioned, I am in remission and will continue with bloodwork/scans over the next few years until I am determined to be cancer free.

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(l to r) Michael McQuiggan and board member Ken Williams at a previous FilmOut Film Festival event. (Courtesy FilmOut San Diego)


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