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More charges in Melero case

Modern love

Beloved Hillcrest hairstylist died in February By Neal Putnam

Transgender teens in crisis

3 COMMUNITY In one of their engagement photos, (l to r) Matthew Alvarado and Brian Lyons walk toward the sunset on Coronado Beach. (Photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography) Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

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[Editor’s note: This is the first in a two-part series about two members in our local LGBT community whose profiles I hope will inspire and empower you. As we march steadily forward toward the Supreme Court’s decision on marriage equality in late June, Matthew and Brian Alvarado were handpicked as Gay San Diego’s face of what that decision means for so many in our community in every state across this nation.] This is the tale of two men who epitomize modern love in our community — as it exists in 2015 — and it can only get better from here.

One survived a difficult childhood; the other was raised in a solid, stable environment. Both came away from their respective upbringings striving hard to meet and exceed their individual personal and professional goals until they serendipitously crossed, and merged, paths. The fact that they met at all seems a miracle; one a humble and dedicated graphic designer turned real estate entrepreneur; the other a hard-charging, highly decorated Petty Officer in the U.S. Navy. Neither had any interest in the commu-

A second-degree murder charge has been added against the alleged drunk driver who killed Oscar Melero, 52, a popular hair stylist in Hillcrest who died early Feb. 15 while on his way to the California 10/20 race at the Del Mar Fairgrounds. The reason murder was added against Abraham Granados Beltran, 24, is due to his three convictions for driving on a suspended license that followed drunk driving, said Deputy District Attorney Cally Bright. Beltran, of San Juan Capistrano, was driving his 2007 Toyota at an estimated speed of 80 mph when he crashed into the back of the BMW driven by Melero, and two other cars, on Interstate 5 just south of the Via de la Valle exit at 7 a.m. Melero died from trauma to his head and upper body. Bail was increased from $750,000 to $1 million by San Diego Superior Court Judge Polly Shamoon as a result of the new charge. Beltran remains in the George Bailey Detention Facility. The preliminary hearing date was also

see Modern, pg 13

see Melero, pg 9

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Hillcrest’s parking czar launches ‘the loop’ Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

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On May 18 to much fanfare, Elizabeth Hannon, the chief operating officer of the Uptown Parking District (UPD), launched the Hillcrest Lunch Loop, a free, lunchtime shuttle that will connect Hillcrest residents, visitors and employees of local businesses with the restaurants of west Hillcrest. The pilot program, funded by Uptown parking meter revenue and made possible through a partnership between UPD, UC San Diego Health Sciences and the Hillcrest Business Association (HBA), will run through July. Also on hand to cut the ribbon and ride the first loop was District Three Councilmember Todd Gloria,

two officials from UCSD — Assistant Director Zachary Schlagel and Gerard Philips, director of care coordination, and Megan Gamwell, HBA marketing and communications program manager. Geared to reduce traffic congestion, parking challenges and boost local businesses, the 10-minute, four-stop loop operates Monday through Friday from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. and will deliver its riders within steps of nearly 50 Hillcrest eatery options. Hannon holds one of the community’s more influential positions — one that could easily be rife with conflict and political strife — but the Zen in her nature keeps her well above the fray. A Buddhist and a self-described hippie — not hipster — chick, those who know her best recognize her role as the Uptown Parking Czar is a bit of an oxymoron. “I’m a hippie with vagabond feet representing the car,” she

(l to r) Zachary Schlagel, UC San Diego Health Sciences; Councilmember Todd Gloria; Elizabeth Hannon, CEO, Uptown Parking District; and Gerard Philips, UCSD Health Sciences at the ribbon cutting. (Photo by Melanie Peters) said wryly, noting that the irony is not lost on her. “When I was asked to interview, I thought, ‘hmmm … the parking district … that sounds kinda boring.’ But people are so passionate about parking,” she said. “A teacher told me long ago, ‘your core values will come

through in whatever you do’ so there are still ways that I can impact the environment, impact human life and create safe walking environments.” The Hillcrest Lunch Loop — along with two other UPD trolley initiatives, one that runs see Loop, pg 15



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A transition within a transition Learning from Kyler Prescott’s death Timothy Rawles | Special to Gay San Diego

[Editor’s Note: This news analysis piece first ran May 22 with our media partner San Diego Gay & Lesbian News, at] On May 18, San Diego transgender teen Kyler Prescott died by suicide. He was 14 years old. Imagining what it feels like to live inside a body that doesn’t feel genuinely yours might be hard to understand for some, but a close friend of the Prescotts, and mother of a transgender teen herself, Kathie Moehlig talks about Kyler’s life and the challenges transgender children face within the world and within their everevolving selves. Kathie Moehlig got to know the Prescott family through transgender support groups around San Diego. The two families became friends and created a support system within their own circle. The griefstricken Prescotts gave Moehlig permission to speak to SDGLN on their behalf. Moehlig explained that Kyler was slowly emerging as a transgender teen a few years ago. The family was in full support of Kyler’s journey, even asking the teen if he minded the pictures around the house of him in dresses. Kyler was fine with that, Moehlig said. Some transgender teens are

(above) Kyler Prescott was just 14 years old when he took his life recently, after a heavy dose of bullying, according to his grieving mother; (right) Transgender flag flies high in memory of Kyler on Friday, May 22 in Hillcrest. (Photo by Rick Cervantes)

more comfortable making their announcements, or transitioning at a slower speed than others. This was the case for Kyler. “Probably starting a few years ago there was some gender fluidity; transition has been at Kyler’s pace,” Moehlig said. “Some teens when they come out, they come out and that’s it. Other teens tend to flow between the genders. He chose male pronouns, but was completely comfortable with the family still having all the pictures up of his childhood. Because in Kyler’s world a guy can wear a dress.”

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Kyler was involved in the youth group at the North County Resource Center, the youth group in Hillcrest and The Transforming Family support group. These organizations helped Kyler understand what he was going through and offered a stable environment for talking about and sharing feelings on his transition. “Kyler wasn’t necessarily an activist for the trans community,” Moehlig said. “However, Kyler was a very outspoken activist for marriage equality — and since preschool age, a huge animal activist. The family has a small little zoo, and Kyler really connected to animals. He did amazing art, sketching. He was also a very talented pianist and he loved to write stories and poems.” Moehlig said that Kyler was well supported within most aspects of his life. There were a few times when he was misgendered by others and had to endure the rigorous challenges of just being a teenager, but overall Kyler was met with acceptance and approval. Unfortunately, the developing teen was unable to come to an armistice between the battle of puberty and the pace of time. “It just was too hard.” Moehlig said. “Teens once they start that seed of puberty, or whenever age it is they come out, we typically start them on hormone blockers. And that just stops whatever puberty is happening in their body. For some kids they just stay on blockers for a while. And with more gender-phobic kids that gives them time to kinda figure out who they are.” The medical community in San Diego makes it very difficult to assist transgender youth when they are going through puberty. Although a doctor can prescribe hormones for a teen when they decide it’s time to transition, it is the cross-hormone medication that is time-sensitive. Typically a medical professional will want to wait until a transitioning youth is 16 before introducing the cross-hormones. This can cause a young person a lot of mental hardship, try-

ing to exist in a world among their gender peers, but never truly feeling included because of extreme gender dysphoria. In a sense Moehlig explains it as your own body betraying you. “Your body doesn’t match the image of what you feel it should match,” she said. “And that becomes difficult on your mental health and the dysphoria can be overwhelming. We can sit here and try and dissect as to why this happened. I don’t think that there’s anything that can be pinpointed, I think it’s a matter of it just got too hard. He just couldn’t continue anymore. Mom was educated in suicide prevention, and support people were around. Everything that could have been done was done. It just was too hard.” Moehlig said she is starting her own nonprofit organization called Trans Family Support Services, where she hopes to educate families, schools and the world about the importance of acceptance to all children whether they are gay, lesbian or transgender. “This does not happen because someone had bad parenting, or a couple broke up and there wasn’t a strong male role model in the house,” she said. “They are born this way, they are intended to be this way.” Kyler Prescott was 14 years old and the world will never know him as an artist, an animal rights activist or an accomplished pianist. But one thing is for sure, his death will bring awareness to people and their see Kyler, pg 14

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Successful events … and a new addition! Out of the Archives Walter G. Meyer The first “Out at the Archives,” held at Diversionary Theatre, was a huge success. The 75 attendees were entertained by Mel Merrill and his humorous retelling of the San Diego LGBT political trail and the candidates who paved the way for Councilmember Todd Gloria. Mel pointed out that San Diego has had at least one LGBT elected official in office continuously since 1994 and at times, such as now, several in office at the same time and he wondered out loud how many other cities have had that rich a history of involvement. Twice we have had an interim mayor from the LGBT community. Stephen Whitburn then engaged Gloria in a lively discussion of his life, politics, LGBT issues and the city council race that pitted them against each other. It was the first time they had discussed that contest in detail and each seemed surprised by the other’s revelations about it. In the audience were local current, former and hopeful future political office holders; among them Kevin Beiser, Steve Padilla, Chris Ward and Anthony Bernal as well as several pioneering LGBT political volunteers who participated in many of the campaigns chronicled. Thanks to all who attended and especially to the many volunteers and Diversionary Theatre for helping to make the evening possible. We are looking forward to the June event — the particulars of which will be announced soon. Stay tuned! You can watch Mel’s presentation and Stephen’s interview with Todd on the video section of our website at LambdaArchives. org, or in the “Notes” section of our Facebook page (click on the Notes link under More just below the profile picture). And while you’re on the page, go ahead and “Like” Lambda Archives so you won’t miss out on notifications of upcoming events. An even better way to stay in touch is to become a member of the Archives and get first notice of special events and other happenings. Visit our website and click on Membership. We’re not only adding to our collections with newly donated materials, we’re also adding staff. Jen LaBarbera started May 19 as lead archivist. Jen had visited the Archives when she was in San Diego last year, fell in love with what we were doing, and applied for the open position. Jen will begin processing the backlog of collections and the additions that seem to arrive weekly from donors. It’s doubtful she will ever catch up – unless you volunteer to come in and have her train you! Jen received her master’s degree in library and information science from the University of Denver and was most recently working in Boston as part the first cohort of the

(l to r) Pride Executive Director Stephen Whitburn and Councilmember Todd Gloria discuss a previous election. (Courtesy Lambda Archives) Theatre — wants to explore the location as “San Diego LGBT Cultural and Performing Arts Center.” The foundation asks for your input at one of the remaining two upcoming presentations at the Diversionary space (May 27 at 11 a.m.) June 2 at 7 p.m. and June 7 at 4 p.m. All are welcome to attend offer suggestions. Though Jen LaBarbera (cover) is the The Oral History Program new lead archivist, Ken Selnick (above) update: Meredith Vezina handles all digital archiving. (Courtesy and Ellen Holzman have Lambda Archives) continued conducting interviews with members of the National Digital Stewardlocal transgender community ship Residency. She is looking while Robert Lynn is interforward to the warm weather, viewing other pioneers of the yoga at the beach, and applying LGBT community. her skills at Lambda Archives. To volunteer, be interviewed, Our digital archivist, Ken or to become a member of the Selnick, who also recently Archives, visit our website at worked in Boston, is now settled Lambda, call us at in and with the help of some 619-260-1522 or email me, Walt great volunteers and interns, (aka Max) at manager.lambda. continues to digitize some of the tens of thousands of photos we —Walter G. Meyer is the auhave. With Ken and Jen on the thor of the critically acclaimed job, our growing collections will gay novel “Rounding Third,” be in great shape to be easily a regular contributor to Gay accessed by researchers. San Diego, and the manager of The San Diego Human DigLambda Archives. Reach him nity Foundation — new owner at manager.lambda.archives@ of the building that is home to the Archives and Diversionary

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Fathers and mothers Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel As we’re about halfway between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, it feels timely to address how our fathers and mothers affect our lives and relationships. In this column, I’d like to focus on: (1) how our fathers and mothers are (unknowing) models for our own adult relationships, and (2) how we can become good fathers and mothers ourselves, whether we are single or married. According to Freud, we model our adult relationships on those that our fathers and mothers had with each other. For many of us, this is not good news. However, it may explain why our past relationships might have emulated our parents’ relationship (for better and for worse). This may sound simplistic, but I think there’s a lot of truth to it. In my own case, I sure played it out according to Freud’s predictions: before I came out, I always picked women who were so much like my dad. Whenever these women met my dad, they just loved each other. After I came out, I picked men who were like dad, and dad and my boyfriends

got along much better than dad and I ever did. And, yes, I played out my mom’s role with all these girlfriends and boyfriends: I was attentive to them, looked after them and catered to their needs (much more than they did to mine). It took me a lot of therapy to see that I was imitating mom and picking partners like dad in my own relationships. I don’t do this anymore, thanks to my own therapy and now I assist others who want to break their own patterns and NOT have relationships like mom and dad’s. If you are having difficulties in your relationship(s), look and see if your partner is like either your father or mother and also question if you’re playing out your mother or father’s role. If so, you’re not alone. And, happily, you’re not stuck there. With awareness, help from friends, books, workshops — and perhaps good therapy — you can break those old patterns and not play out your parents’ relationship. And now, a bit of a jump over to point number two. You may wonder, if you’re single or not a biological parent, how you can be a good father or mother? The reality is that being a good father or mother is more about an attitude and point-of-view than it is biology. Lots of biological parents do a lousy job and lots of us single folks have good parent energy that we share with the world. What is a good father or mother? Someone who is protective; wants you to be happy, safe and successful; someone who does their best to be the model of who you could grow up to become. It’s not about biology, it’s about intention and behavior. For example, do you do your best to protect younger LGBT people in the world? Or do you criticize and belittle them? Once we get older, part of our life task is to mentor/help younger people. What good is experience and wisdom if we don’t share it with those who could benefit? If it’s our intention to help younger people have a better, happier, more fulfilling life, then we are truly being good fathers and mothers. It’s all too easy to denigrate younger people: “They do this wrong and they do that wrong and they don’t do … like we used to.” This is not merely unhelpful, it’s also quite destructive. Don’t go there. Instead, be a source of strength and encouragement. Live and demonstrate that good mother/good father energy with whomever you come in contact with. YOU can make a real difference in the lives of younger people. As LGBT people, we often didn’t have biological parents who really “got” us. We had to struggle to find our place in the world. It doesn’t have to be that way. By being “good” LGBT mothers and fathers, we can give that loving, protective, nurturing energy to others. And, by doing so, we can redefine Father’s Day and Mother’s Day and make them a universal experience that we can all take part in. I sincerely invite you to do so. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit


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Trans-forming San Diego Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton On May 19, I began seeing the social media posts that a third trans-identifying San Diego teen had died by suicide. This event is framed by an ever-increasing conversation that the “T” in LGBTQ has too long been a “backburner” community, in the scope of how LGBTQ resources are allocated. A question often raised is, “How important is fighting for marriage equality, when a transgender woman cannot safely walk down a street?” This third tragic death in San Diego County only underscores the need for transspecific resources — and the time is now. Enter the Marsha P. Johnson Center for Gender Identity and Expression. Conceived by a group of over 50 transgender community members at Broke Girls Coffee Bar in Normal Heights and named for the iconic New York City activist and advocate for trans and drag communities, this effort plans to create a safe home for and by the San Diego trans community. Some of the center’s planning committee members, Veronica “Ronnie,” Kaya, Liat and Alejandro, welcomed me into the meeting space they currently share with Canvass for a Cause, to discuss their vision and plan. After the initial coffee bar meeting, there was a two-day forum held at the Sherman Heights Community Center on January 24 – 25, including over 175 trans and trans-ally community members. With town hall-type discussions and breakout sessions and focus groups, the immediate needs and vision of San Diego’s community began to shape. A goal statement was established to “cultivate an inclusive community that values the dignity of all human life by developing and empowering people to live authentically and thrive, free from violence and oppression.” The road from 175 people to a tight, but diverse, core leadership team was then reached. “We have a very horizontally integrated organization,” Ronnie said. “We don’t really have a ‘hierarchy.’ This was a conscious decision based in a desire to concentrate on each person having their own voice.” Alejandro concurred. “Something I find inspiring and refreshing is the intentionality of making sure everyone’s voice is heard. That was planned into the Sherman Heights meetings, and we continue to see important decisions made at the community level.” Open meetings are held every other week to insure that decisions and actions do reflect the vision of the community.

An immediate focus for the leadership is the cultivating and sustaining of San Diego Trans* Pride, now in its second year. This event, held concurrently with San Diego LGBT Pride on July 17, is an opportunity for heightened visibility for the trans community within the context of the broader celebration. Stationed at Quince Street and Sixth Avenue, this event is free to the community. Communities are diverse by nature, so we delved a bit into the challenge of not falling into a pattern of “a room full of the same.” “Every one of us asks ourselves if we are diverse enough,” Ronnie explained. “We engage all ages, from high school students to elders in nursing homes, and include all races.” “We are very intentional about considering who is in the space and who is not,” Liat added. “From conception, we have tried to be mindful of who was not in the space, but needed to be — this is work that never stops. It’s also important to remember folks from the deaf and broader disability communities when we plan our work and spaces. It’s all part of being very intentional.” Also intentional on both sides of the relationship is the cultivation of allies to the trans community. Alejandro spoke to the value in “unpacking your own privilege” when entering into the space as an ally, and Kaya described how these relationships with cisgender allies spoke to their core vision. “The Center is going to provide resources for cisgender people, like the family and friends of transgender individuals, especially people just coming out,” Alejandro said. “It’s crucial to keep their voice in mind as we develop resources. And, of course, our allies bring important talents to the table, something to which we are very open!” One of the final weighty topics we tackled was current discussion of what being “trans” means and how to navigate potentially destructive tropes, such as “passing/ stealth privilege” and an inherent human hierarchy that centers on the physical. I feel as though Ronnie summed up the position of the leadership in this simple statement: “I always advise people: Don’t go for ‘pass-ability,’ go for ‘credibility.’” To this end, a priority project for the Marsha P. Johnson Center for Gender Identity and Expression is to begin a mentoring program for transgender individuals who are coming into themselves, at any age. There is work to be done and being in a room with passionate, intentional and driven individuals gives me great confidence that San Diego will be a home of safe and supportive

spaces for the trans community, by the community. To keep up with the progress and to be a part of the conversation, follow them on Facebook at TransCenterSanDiego or email the team at —Ian D. Morton is the senior program analyst at San Diego Human Dignity Foundation and produces the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ youth conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to

Planning committee members meet to discuss the Marsha P. Johnson Center for Gender Identity and Expression. (Photo by AT Furuya)




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Letters Remembering Top of the Park I am soooo sad that this iconic icon is gone from the LGBT Community [see “Top of the Park rumored to close,” Nov. 1, 2013]. I can remember both staying at this iconic hotel and spending many New Years’ Eves at Top of The Park. I even dined with the Dr. (I will not present his name) who owned the club at the time. I can remember going to Top of the Park to the round table with Frank Slay, Mike and his transgender wife, Raymond Tibbs. One of my most iconic pictures is me in my tuxedo Jan 1, 1999 at Top of the Park. I also remember spending many evenings at the piano bar and five star restaurant at “Bottom of the Park.” Oh, the memories. —Michael K. Schroyer, via

Editorials Why you need to take the Senior Affairs Advisory Board survey By William Kelly

San Diego’s adult older population is a rapidly increasing percentage of the city’s residents. Recent professional studies at the city, county, state and national level duplicate the warnings of a looming national aging crisis that cannot be ignored. The older adult population is increasing fastest in the western U.S., and lacking proper planning, shortfalls in available, accessible and affordable housing, health care, transportation and underfunded social safety nets will soon negatively impact the quality of life in every age group and neighborhood. San Diego’s Paul Downey, a widely recognized authority on aging, reported that one out of four homeless San Diegans is aged 60 or greater and the number of San Diegans over the age of 60 will double by 2030 to one in four residents. The Elder Index also tells us that two out of five [40 percent] seniors lack enough money to meet their housing, food, health care and transportation needs. Other sources show one out of every four adult San Diegans is currently caring for one or more senior relatives and that one out of four homeless persons is a veteran. Our mayor and City Council

are ultimately responsible for city policies, ordinances, laws, projects and budgets impacting all San Diegans. The City of San Diego Senior Affairs Advisory Board (SAAB) was given the responsibility of informing and advising them of the needs of older adults as they carry out that responsibility. Recognizing both the diversity and commonality of each City Council district, SAAB is visiting each district and conducting an anonymous 10-15 minute voluntary survey of adults aged 49 or greater. The geographic, economic, financial, cultural, social, physical and mental health, family and other factors of San Diego’s diverse population are what determines the priority levels of concern for each of us, younger and older alike. Accordingly, there are no one-size-fits-all strategies to address the challenges before us. The information being collected will underscore older adult priority concerns down to the neighborhood level. Mapping the results and overlaying that map with one of existing transportation, shopping, medical care facilities, services, programs, recreation/entertainment facilities, and housing inventory and costs will highlight deficiencies by neighborhood and district. As a result, your participation

in the survey is critical to achieving viable San Diego solutions that identify and address the challenges. San Diego can and is attempting to head off a potential human disaster; but government, nonprofits, businesses, community organizations and SAAB member volunteers cannot do the job without the valuable information you provide by completing the survey. Help us help you and each other. Take the survey. Remember: Our community can heed the warning or wait until we reach crisis levels requiring more drastic and expensive measures that could negatively impact the lives of every San Diegan. For cost and time efficiency, please take the SAAB survey online at: English version: Spanish version: If this is not possible, request a paper copy by calling 619-2366362 or writing: Office of ADA Compliance Attn: Senior Survey 1200 Third Ave., Ste. 924 San Diego, CA 92101 For more information visit —William Kelly can be reached at

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Review brings BBQ to life Mark’s Bark is famous all the way up in Toronto, Canada [see “Sunday Q,” Vol. 6, Issue 10]. Keep up the good work, Mark. This review has me drooling in memory. —Cathy Molnar, via gay-sd. com

Pro officials no match for local refs From a local five sport high school official’s perspective, great article [see “Dugout Chatter: Rant: Berating referees is bad practice,” Vol. 6, Issue 10]. But real, justified ranting should be aimed at pro sport officials. How can a Super Bowl ref like Ed Hochuli cost the Chargers a game with an inadvertent whistle? This is inexcusable for a top tier pro official and it happens all the time. Thank God instant replay has come to pro baseball and hockey. Poor officials should be sent to the minor leagues like players when their batting average falls below the Mendoza line. But no! Officials unions prohibit that. I started officiating high school football to see how the best NFL football officials could be so inept. It is now obvious to me. The top attributes of an official should be judgment, vision and speed of foot. But no officials’ association I have been involved with has ever checked me for those three. Their main

concern is mechanics, appearance and rules knowledge. So a well-groomed, overweight, near-sighted ex-con with years of studying a rule book in jail will be promoted over an ex-pro athlete with a wrinkled shirt. That is most of the problem. —Billy Bahmboozal, via

Life-changing Stepping Stone I’ve been a proud member of Stepping Stone’s board of directors for nearly five years, and have seen the lifechanging work this organization does every day [see “Pedaling for a local cause,” Vol. 6, Issue 10]! Thank you for shedding the light on our needs, and helping us keep this organization running another 40 years! —Ben Cartwright, via

Kudos for Tyler piece Thank you so much for the wonderful article you wrote in Gay San Diego [see “A tribute to Tyler,” Vol. 6, Issue 10]. We so appreciate your helping us bring the issue of gay youth suicide to the forefront of the minds of our community. All the best. —Joshua Stanley, SDGMC board of directors, via U.S. mail Thank you so much for writing your article about the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus, “Tyler’s Suite” show. Your article likely reached people who have not seen our shows before. —Andrew Glazbrook, SDGMC singer and director of board development, via U.S. mail Thank you so much for the wonderful article on Tyler’s Suite and the Clementi family. We appreciate your thoughtfulness. —David Pierce, Vice President, SDGMC, via U.S. mail Thank you so much for supporting San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus and our message of hope during the Tyler Suite concert. Thank you for the coverage. —Joe Gregore, SDGMC director of membership, via U.S. mail t

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GAY NEWS BRIEFS KAMENY TO BE INDUCTED IN LABOR’S HALL OF HONOR Gay-rights pioneer Franklin Edward “Frank” Kameny will be posthumously honored by the U.S. Department of Labor in June for his work to end discrimination in the federal workplace. On June 23, at Labor’s Hall of Honor induction ceremony, Kameny will join Edward M. Kennedy, Frances Perkins, Bayard Rustin, Dolores Huerta and others who have made lifechanging contributions in the field of labor, elevating working conditions, wages, and the overall quality of life of America’s working families. Kameny died in 2011 at age 86. He was a World War II veteran and a Harvard-educated doctor of astronomy with the U.S. Army Map Service. In 1958, Kameny was discharged and barred from federal government employment after U.S. Civil Service Commission investigators asked if he was a homosexual. He fought back, but his legal case was eventually denied by the U.S. Supreme Court in 1961. Kameny then became a cofounder of the first gay rights organization in Washington, D.C., and began a lifelong quest to force the federal government to end employment discrimination based on sexual orientation.

“Frank Kameny was a groundbreaking leader in the LGBT civil rights movement,” said Secretary of Labor Thomas E. Perez in a statement. “He fought tirelessly to live out his truth and to end workplace discrimination. At the Department of Labor we work every day to carry on his legacy and ensure that all workers, no matter who they are or who they love, have equal access to opportunity.” In 1975, almost two decades after Kameny was fired by the Army, the Civil Service Commission announced it would no longer exclude homosexuals from government employment. Twenty years later, President Bill Clinton signed an executive order to allow lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender employees to hold security clearances and high government positions.

METHODIST CHURCH OPENS ITS ARMS TO LGBT An East County church is embracing the LGBT community with a new event designed to recognize and amplify the voices of people of all sexual orientations and gender identities. Foothills United Methodist Church will host the event, called “Love Is …” on Saturday, June 6 at 7 p.m. in its sanctuary, 4031 Avocado Blvd. in La Mesa. Billed as a “modern-day ‘love-in,’” the event will feature live music by San Diego singer Danielle LoPresti as well as film clips, live storytelling and discussions about the multiple concepts and meanings of love in the New Testament.

The goal of the event is to give people — both existing congregants and those not affiliated with the church — a chance to grow, learn and expand their understanding of love and Christianity, said event leader Caitlin Kneale. “We want to make sure that everyone’s welcome and that everyone’s voices are heard,” Kneale said. “I think it’s a positive step for our whole congregation.” Kneale is a part of Foothills’ Reconciling Fellowship, which is linked to a national movement of activists within the United Methodist Church who seek to reform the church’s official policies toward LGBT members. The national church states that “the practice of homosexuality is incompatible with Christian teaching” and does not allow “self-avowed, practicing homosexuals” to be ordained as ministers, nor does it allow its clergy to perform same-sex weddings in church sanctuaries. Not every congregant at Foothills agrees that those policies should be changed, but the congregation of 1,300 members is united by a spirit of open minds, open hearts and open doors, said the Rev. Dr. Eric Smith. “God’s love is for all people,” Smith said. “What we’re trying to do is let folks know that this is a very safe place for LGBT folks.” For more information, visit, 619-6704009 or find the “Reconciling Fellowship Foothills UMC” page on Facebook.t

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GAY SAN DIEGO May 29 - June 11, 2015

Singin’ and dancin’ in the rain Theater Review Charlene Baldridge Depending on one’s point of view, it is either a longish slog or more than worth the cost of admission. Clocking in at around 2.5 hours, the usual length of a classic musical, San Diego Musical Theatre’s “Singin’ in the Rain” presents 29 singer/dancers in 19 music- and dance-filled scenes accompanied by an orchestra of 20 led by Don LeMaster. The colorful stage production, which premiered in 1983, by Betty Comden and Adolph Green, is based on their 1952 MGM film. Todd Nielsen directs, and Jill Gorrie is the choreographer. Certain scenes are so iconic and so imbedded in the mind that their realization on stage brings tears to the viewer’s eyes, particularly the title song and dance number, replete with lamppost, real rain, and umbrellas. At certain places in the score and script, one also seems to see Gene Kelly and Donald O’Connor, stars of the film, which is now a classic. The illusion is almost enough to make one long for a return visit to the show, certainly enhanced by the unseen presence of SDMT’s crackerjack orchestra impeccably led by LeMaster. Readers remember the plot of the musical, which is set in Hollywood in 1929, on the brink of Hollywood’s transition from silent films to “talkies.” Silent film stars Don Lockwood (Brandon Davidson) and Lina Lamont (Andi Davis) take bows for their latest hit film. It seems ungallant of Don not to allow the glamorous Lina to speak, but when we hear her for the first time, we understand. Hers is the timbre from hell. Immediately impresario R.F. Simpson (Ed Hollingsworth) begins grinding out another French Revolution film titled “The Dueling Cavalier,” but when “The Jazz Singer” hits the screen he knows his silent film, and indeed all potential silent films, are doomed. Don and his song-and-dance sidekick, Cosmo Brown (Cameron Lewis) hatch a dubbing scheme in which Don’s

“Singin’ in the Rain”

(based on the MGM film) Through June 7 7:30 p.m. Thursdays 8 p.m. Fridays and Saturdays 2 p.m. Sundays Spreckels Theatre 121 Broadway, Downtown Tickets $35-$65 858-560-5740 or lady love, a talented young stage performer named Kathy Selden (Brittany Rose Hammond) will record all of Lina’s dialogue and songs. The jealous Lina, who believes her filmstudio-created romance with Don is real, discovers the plot and threatens to sue Simpson and take over the film studio. The jig is up for her, however, when she is allowed to speak for herself following the new film’s hit premiere. All the lead performers are talented, attractive and enjoyable young pros, some not quite so adept, charismatic and smooth at singing as they are at dancing. The ensemble does well with the big dance and vocal numbers, and Karla J. Franko is a purposefully overbearing Dora Bailey Dinsmore, a Hedda Hopper type. There are two additional standout performances. John J. Wescott is terrific as the diction coach called in to help Don with language. He shines in a trio song and dance number (“Moses Supposes”) with Don and Cosmo. Bryan Banville is impressive as the production singer, who performs “Beautiful Girls” to accompany the female chorus girls’ costume entrances (surely you remember that scene from the film). In addition to the title song and the aforementioned, the musical numbers include “You Stepped Out of a Dream,” “All I Do Is Dream of You,” “Good Morning,” and “You Are My Lucky Star.” That song list alone is enough to recommend “Singin’ in the Rain.” — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. Follow her blog at She can be reached at charb81@gmail. com.t

(l to r) Karla Franko as a Hedda Hopper type and Andi Davis as glamorous Lina Lamont. (Photo by Ken Jacques)

(l to r) Cameron Lewis, John Wescott and Brandon Davidson in San Diego Musical Theatres's 'Singin' in the Rain' (Photo by Ken Jacques)


MELERO moved to Aug. 13. If Beltran is ordered to stand trial for murder, a trial date would likely be set for sometime in 2016. He has pleaded not guilty. A message was left with his attorney, but she could not be reached for comment. Beltran is also charged with gross vehicular manslaughter while intoxicated, driving under the influence of alcohol with injury to another driver, and driving with a suspended license with three prior convictions. He faces a maximum sentence of 15 years to life if convicted. A number of friends from the Indigo Salon and Spa where Melero worked have attended each hearing and were present to hear about the added charge. He was a longtime independent hair stylist and had known Indigo co-owners Randi Hosking and Phyllis Strauss for many years. The salon hosted a celebration of life in February at the National City home of Melero and his partner Ryan Rhodes. Melero is also survived by his mother, five brothers, six sisters, and many others, according to his obituary in a Chicago Tribune publication. “He was very much beloved,” Bright said. It used to be rare that a murder charge was filed in a traffic fatality, but it is becoming more common, thanks to a $500,000 state grant given to the DA’s office in 2014 that helps in prosecution costs. Bright is also the prosecutor in the case involving Marine Lance Cpl. Jason Riley King, 21, who was arraigned in his hospital bed May 20 on two murder counts in which he is accused of driving drunk and killing UC San Diego medical students Anne Baldock, 24, and Madison Cornwell, 23, on state Route 163 earlier this month. Another example is the murder charge filed against Jeremy Lucas Salcedo, 27, who is accused with allegedly driving drunk and killing popular George’s at the Cove waiter Bryan Delaney, 36, who died Aug. 3, 2014 while riding home on his motorcycle from a La Jolla restaurant. “Year after year we see senseless deaths and injuries due to drinking and driving,” said District Attorney Bonnie Dumanis when she first announced the grant was received from the California Office of Traffic Safety. “This grant will help us and our law enforcement partners deliver justice in the most serious DUI cases and send a message that our community won’t tolerate impaired drivers on our streets.” The grant funds two full time prosecutors and an investigator to focus solely on DUI homicide cases. A jury will have to decide in each case whether the crime is second-degree murder or vehicular manslaughter while intoxicated. The difference to the defendant is staggering. A second-degree murder con-

Oscar Melero (center) with some of his colleagues at Hillcrest's Indigo Salon and Spa last year. Melero was killed by a drunk driver in February. (Courtesy Indigo Salon and Spa) viction carries a 15-years-to-life sentence in prison, but some offenders can be held for life as the state’s governor can overrule a parole board in a homicide case. In contrast, a conviction for vehicular manslaughter carries a 10-year sentence or more, depending if others are injured. Some local juries have voted to acquit a defendant of murder and instead convict a driver of vehicular manslaughter. A 19-year-old man who went on trial for murder in three deaths in Lemon Grove was convicted of vehicular manslaughter in the 1980s. The driver was driving a stolen car and was speeding to get away from San Diego Police, though police stopped the pursuit as it became more dangerous. A jury in 2013 found a drunk driver guilty of second-degree murder of a Pacific Beach woman who was struck in a crosswalk in the daytime. That driver was 47 years old and had seven drunk-driving convictions, and even served time in prison for a non-injury crash. Prior history of drinking and

driving is often the key as to what a jury will determine in these types of cases. Melero was on his way to participate in the California 10 mile, 20 bands run which benefited the American Cancer Society when he was struck and killed. Court records say Beltran was convicted of driving with a suspended license in 2013, 2012, and 2011 that involved an injury to another person in Orange County. His license was revoked following a drunk-driving conviction as a juvenile. After his arrest, Beltran had posted $100,000 bond the next day. He was remanded into jail on Feb. 23 after Judge David Szumowski increased his bail to $500,000 at Bright’s recommendation. He had a bail review March 4, which resulted in an increase to $750,000. Melero’s family obituary said he “was very well loved and respected by the community” and “Oscar lived life to the fullest.” —Neal Putman is a local freelance writer. Reach him at

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GAY SAN DIEGO May 29 - June 11, 2015

Italian durability Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. At a time when the average price of gas was 31 cents a gallon, The Venetian in Point Loma began feeding customers plates of spaghetti for 85 cents and whole pizzas for $1.25. Now, 50 years later, it stands as a haven for some of the sturdiest Italian dishes in town. Founder Vince Giacalone, a first-generation American of Sicilian parents, opened the doors in 1965 at a location on Canon Street after trying his hands at running a local bakery. Prior to that, he served as an Army cook in the Korean War. “He was miserable running a bakery. It wasn’t for him,” said Joey Giacolone, who oversees the softly lit restaurant with his brother, Frank, as their dad savors retirement. “He still comes in to dine, usually with my mom after 5:30 p.m. Mass on Saturdays.” Since moving in 1973 to the village-like tip of Voltaire Street, the menu has come to include a slate of new dishes developed by Joey and Frank, such as fabulous preparations of scallops and chicken or veal piccata laced in a glaze of lemon, butter and white wine that comes together in the pan per order. Yet many of the revered reci-

The Venetian’s commendable antipasto (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) pes established by their father remain intact. “Those are the untouchables,” Joey said, referring to chicken cacciatore, veal Parmesan, the red sauces and pizza dough, all of which over the past 50 years have attracted the likes of singers Frankie Laine and Barry White, as well as famed author Joseph Wambaugh and players from the San Diego Chargers. The restaurant was recently gutted and made over with the deftness of a reputable cosmetic surgeon. Its wrinkles and age spots are gone, but without appearing unnaturally out of sync

with its ripe heritage. A giant bouquet of fresh flowers perched at the entranceway stands over a front dining room filled with high-back booths, which leads further into a covered wood-clad patio and bar lounge that feels more indoors than outdoors. Steamed clams, bruschetta, fried calamari and a salume platter are among the usual suspects on the appetizer menu. But it’s the Mediterranean scallops that steal the show. Served four to an order, the jumbo mollusks were cooked to a pearly finish and draped in emulsified butter, olive oil and herbs. A light dusting of Parmesan cheese and bread crumbs added further richness to the sauce, which necessitates a thorough mopping with the complimentary garlic bread you get after being seated. Scallops are big sellers here. They’re sourced from Pacific Shellfish and appear also in pasta dishes and an arrabbiata-style presentation with bright marinara sauce, herbs and chili flakes. “Our scallops especially blow the minds of East Coasters,” Joey said. We proceeded to a small, but shareable antipasto salad. The oil-vinegar dressing was commendably light and herby, exactly as it should be when salami, pepperoni and provolone cheese blanket the greens. All of the dressings are made in-house, including creamy Caesar and paprika-spiked ranch, which harbors a few other secret ingredients in its buttermilk base. We tried it on the side as our devoted waitress of 26 years revealed that the family wanted to sell it commercially. But the preservatives required for bottling the stuff changed the flavor profile and the plan was aborted. I came expressly for the chicken piccata that rocked my palate here a decade ago. The dish was no less sensational this time around. It featured two pounded-out breast filets in breaded pan-fried jackets resembling that of Wiener Schnitzel. The caper-lemon sauce on top was zingy without being overly tart. Alongside was a single serving of tube pasta dressed in fresh, glowing-red marinara sauce. This is piccata at its zenith. My companion ordered lasagna, hiding chunks of meatballs between its generous layers. Served in two pieces, the dish appeared like a lead weight impossibility until forking into it. Each bite was remarkably light in the mouth, thanks to the thin, non-starchy sheet pasta and judicious measures of ricotta used in its construction.

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The Venetian 3663 Voltaire St. (Point Loma)

619-223-8197 Dinner prices: Starters, soups and salads, $3.75 to $14.75; pizzas, $15 to $21.50; pasta and entrees, $9.25 to $22.95 There isn’t a classic Italian dish that goes missing on The Venetian’s menu, which captures everything from shrimp diavolo and veal Milanese to manicotti, cannelloni and eggplant Parmesan. Pizzas are part of the restaurant’s culinary foundation. We tried “the combination” featuring pepperoni, mushrooms and house-made Italian sausage, all tucked under a mantle of toasted

Their Mediterranean scallops surprise even visitors from the East Coast. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

mozzarella cheese. For those accustomed to thin or airy crusts, these pies bring you back to a bygone era when crusts were denser and slightly chewier, and when pizza cooks actually covered the dough disks with plenty of sauce from end to end. As a result, if you’re a threeslice kind of person, you’ll likely become sated before finishing the second. Or maybe sooner if you opt for the Genovese crowned with scallops, prosciutto, pine nuts, roasted garlic, pesto and a blend of cheeses. For dessert, we dove into a slab of tiramisu that we would have guessed was house-made if the waitress didn’t tell us. The addictive moistness of the mascarpone cheese and coffeesoaked ladyfingers were the giveaways. As Joey pointed out, golden anniversaries don’t come easy for restaurants these days. “We are very lucky that my father built a foundation that is un-crackable,” he said. “It’s not an easy business, but at the end of a working shift, when you see people who have been enjoying our restaurant for years, it’s all worth it.” —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.


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Toronado, Belching Beaver, Ritual Tavern, Hess Brewery and other popular beer bars in the neighborhood. For more information visit or Restaurateur Johan Engman purchased Western Steakburger in North Park nearly a year ago to eventually bring an “Instagram-worthy” eatery to the neighborhood. His vision for Breakfast Republic will finally materialize in late June, now that the original owner of Western has ceased operations and entered into retirement. “We’re doing a thorough remodel,” Engman said, revealing that the restaurant will serve both classic and uncommon breakfast fare from 7 a.m. – 3 p.m., daily. The redesign will feature front and back patios, an entrance wrapped in galvanized metal, and restrooms rigged with recordings of jokes and quotes that break randomly into songs. He’s also installing a 20-tap chrome beer tower, assuring that the suds will pair swimmingly to dishes such as s’mores french toast, Vietnamese chicken wing breakfast bowls and standard egg dishes. “I want a restaurant that stands out for photo ops on Instagram and other social media,” added Engman, referring also to an exterior painting that will depict roosters escaping from a henhouse. Engman’s portfolio consists of Fig Tree Cafes in three locations, including Hillcrest, plus Café Cantata in Del Mar. He said a lease has already been secured for a second Breakfast Republic in metro San Diego, but can’t reveal the details just yet. 2730 University Ave. The new Burnside in Normal Heights is a quaint sandwich shop with a big imagination. Launched recently by the owners of Sycamore Den two doors away, the menu takes on cosmopolitan flair with sandwiches such as Korean rib eye with kimchi; a Cubano made with pork belly; and the French-inspired “stinky grilled cheese” accented with braised leeks. Of the American-style offerings, there is buttermilk chicken or braised pot roast tucked into bread as well. The sandwiches can be consumed inside the eatery or while imbibing at Sycamore. 3373 Adams Ave.

(l to r) Mike Sill and Beau Schmitt begin work on their new brewery venture. (Courtesy The Brew Project) Construction is underway to the space that formerly gave reign to R Gang Eatery in Hillcrest. Its new tenants, beer consultant Beau Schmitt of The Brew Project and Mike Sill, who previously managed Quality Social, will open The Brew Project House in July. “We’re pushing to be open before Pride, which is July 18,” said Schmitt, adding that he’s aiming for the style of “an old Victorian country house.” The establishment will feature 28 handles devoted exclusively to San Diego craft beers. A cocktail program is also in the works along with a food menu flaunting salads, tortas and shareable plates. 3683 Fifth Ave., Where other than San Diego for holding the National Homebrewers Conference? The event takes place June 11–13 at The Town & Country Resort in Mission Valley, although a few pre-events spotlighting our prolific beer scene are planned for locals and incoming brewers alike. The self-guided Taste of North, which occurs largely along the neighborhood’s 30th Street beer and food corridor, will be held from 5 – 8 p.m., June 9. On the following evening, June 10, Waypoint Public will host a three-course dinner paired to beers from Ballast Point Brewery. Seatings are at 7 and 8 p.m., and the cost is $65. The activities extend to a North Park mobile beer hop, also to be held on June 10. The service welcomes all beer lovers to hop aboard free shuttles running every half hour (between noon and midnight) from the Town & Country. The route includes stops at

El Agave in Old Town has introduced gourmet tacos. (Courtesy El Agave Restaurant & Tequileria)

With the recent arrival of El Charko Grill & Bar’s progressive street tacos to Old Town, the long-established El Agave Restaurant & Tequileria located a block away is matching the competition with its own gourmet creations. New to the menu are duck tacos with cactus and fig jelly; crispy ahi tuna tacos served over Mexican rice; and salmon burritos wrapped in tomato tortillas. 2304 San Diego Ave., 619-220-0692. Forget wine and beer. The folks at S&M Sausage and Meat in University Heights are going for the harder stuff at a four-course Journeyman Whiskey dinner to be held at the restaurant at 7 p.m., June 10. Reps from the lauded Michigan-based distillery will offer educational pours of several signature whiskeys that include Ravenswood Rye, Silver Cross and Featherbone Bourbon. The meal will feature smoked venison sausage, chipotle pork belly sliders, duck confit and more. Tickets are $100 per person, which includes tax and tip. 4130 Park Blvd., 619-344-2177. —Frank Sabatini can be reached at fsabatini@san.


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Fourth annual YPC Academy graduation and FilmOut San Diego’s 17th champagne brunch: An event annual LGBT Film Festival: to celebrate the accomplishOpening night for the three-day ments and future endeavors of festival featuring the film “Tab the Youth Professionals Council Hunter Confidential” at 7 p.m. Academy. 11 a.m. – 1 p.m. MarAll films at The Observatory tinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth North Park, 2891 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit events. Ave., North Park. Opening night party 10 p.m. at Claire Live and Let Live Alano de Lune’s Sunset Temple, 3911 Club Anniversary: The fourth Kansas St., North Park. Visit oldest GLBTQ sober community for full center in the U.S. celebrates 32 schedule. years with refreshments and ‘Suspicion’: Cinema Under hors d’oeuvres for club members the Stars presents this thriller and invited guests. 2 – 4:30 p.m. starring Cary Grant and Joan LLLAC, 1730 Monroe Ave., UniFontaine. 8 p.m. $15. 4040 versity Heights. Visit Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. For #BeTheGeneration more info visit topspresents. Sunday Funday Party: A fun com or call 619-295-4221. event promoting The Center’s campaign to end new cases of SATURDAY, MAY 30 HIV in San Diego. $15 donation Gaslamp Quarter Neighfor #BeTheGeneration T-shirt. borhood Clean Up: More than 2 – 6 p.m. Urban MO’s Bar 100 volunteers are expected to and Grill, 308 University Ave., participate in this neighborHillcrest. Visit hood cleanup. 8 – 11 a.m. Visit bethegeneration. ‘The Spirit of Cabaret – MONDAY, JUNE 1 It Lives in the Music’: This Modern Military Associaall-new cabaret soiree stars tion meeting: A free group Karen Giogio and Ric Henry and for those serving or who have features a three-course dinner. served in any military branch Tickets are $89. 6:30 p.m. The addressing LGBT issues and Westgate Hotel, 1055 Second promoting positive images. Ave., Downtown. Visit thespiri6:30 – 7:30 p.m., North County LGBT Resource Center, 510 Everyday Heroes Garden North Coast Highway, OceansGala: A fundraising event with ide. Visit actor-comedian Leslie Jordan performing stand-up for VIP TUESDAY, JUNE 2 guests. Funds raised support ‘Intersections of Sex-Trafprograms by the North County ficking’: An event by HRC San LGBTQ Resource Center for Diego, California Against SlavLGBT youth and their families. ery and the Truman National 6 p.m. The estate of Stephen Security Project discussing the and Janet Bledsoe Lacy, 2165 dangers of sex trafficking and Grandview St., Oceanside. Visit how it effects the LGBT munity. 5:30 – 8 p.m. San Diego FilmOut San Diego’s 17th LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., annual LGBT Film Festival: Hillcrest. Visit full day of films and shorts committees/san-diego. from 11 a.m. – 10 p.m. All films San Diego Pride volunat The Observatory North Park, teer info session: An infor2891 University Ave., North mation session to learn about Park. Visit various volunteer opportunities for full schedule. with Pride. 6 p.m. San Diego Pride, 3620 30th St., North SUNDAY, MAY 31 Park. Visit San Diego’s 17th iegoLGBTPride. annual LGBT Film Festival: #4545ParksArts ComA full day of films and shorts munity Meeting: Your chance from 11 a.m. – 7 p.m. Closing to share comments and feedparty at West Coast Tavern back on the San Diego LGBT following final film. All films at Cultural and Performing Arts The Observatory North Park, Center to be created by San 2891 University Ave., North Diego Human Dignity FoundaPark. Visit tion, Diversionary Theatre and for full schedule. Lambda Archives of San Diego.


7 p.m. Diversionary Theatre 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit


SD Hoops basketball open gym: Weekly open gym will be held through June 24 with co-ed and all skill levels welcome. 6 – 9 p.m. Ron Roberts Branch Family Boys and Girls Club, 2230 East Jewett St., Linda Vista. Visit


Sip the City: Part of San Diego’s first urban wine week, this event will feature tastings by 10 wineries for $10. 6 – 8 p.m. The Headquarters Courtyard, 789 W. Harbor Dr., Downtown. Visit for a full list of wine week events. ‘Dancer Briefs’: Michael Mizerany introduces a new dance event featuring San Diego choreographers and dancers, through June 14. Tickets start at $20. 8 p.m. ion theatre, 3704 Sixth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit dancerbriefs.


Grunion run: These events follow high tides when the grunions come for a mating ritual on shore. $14 for members, $16 for the public. 10:30 p.m. – 12:30 a.m. Birch Aquarium, 2300 Expedition Way, La Jolla. Visit


‘Summer’s Spring Cleaning’: An open invite to come help make The Center shine! Some cleaning supplies/equipment will be on hand but feel free to bring your own. 11 a.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit 12th annual Art Around Adams: A music and art walk presented by The InSlider SD which features free exhibits and performances throughout the area. Noon – 8 p.m. Visit Bingo with Barry: Fundraiser to repaint the San Diego Indoor Sports Club; the event will feature the fun of bingo with the unique entertainment of host Barry Shingle. 6 p.m. San Diego Indoor Sports Club, 3030 Front St., Bankers Hill. Visit ‘Love is …’: This unique event is expected to host over

400 people to showcase one United Methodist congregation’s welcoming environment for all, including the LGBT community; it will feature live music, personal stories and more. 7 p.m. Foothills United Methodist Church, 4031 Avocado Blvd., La Mesa. Visit



Three-course chef and Ballast Point Brewer dinner: In honor of the American Homebrewers Association Conference, this dinner will be held with courses prepared by Waypoint Public’s executive chef and paired with beers by Ballast Point. $65. Seatings at 7 and 8 p.m. Waypoint Public, 3795 30th St., North Park. Visit

Eighth Annual Blazing Laptops Write-a-thon: An annual fundraiser by San Diego Writers, Ink providing space, writing prompts, food and activities for participants who want to write. 9 a.m. – 4 p.m. Ink Spot and Inspirations Gallery, 2730 Historic Decatur Road #202, Liberty Station. Visit San Diego Equality Awards: This event by Equality California starts with a champagne reception followed by luncheon. 11 a.m. – 2 p.m. The Prado, 1549 El Prado, Balboa Park. Visit #4545ParksArts Community Meeting: Your chance to share comments and feedback on the San Diego LGBT Cultural and Performing Arts Center to be created by San Diego Human Dignity Foundation, Diversionary Theatre, and Lambda Archives of San Diego. 4 p.m. Diversionary Theatre 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit

Tuesday Taste of North Park: Self-guided walking tour to enjoy bite-sized and 4-ounce samples of North Park’s eateries and breweries. $20. 5 – 8 p.m. Visit northparkmainstreet. com.



GSDBA business awards dinner and silent auction: Event to recognize business and community leaders. 6 – 9 p.m. Kona Kai Resort and Marina, 1551 Shelter Island Drive. Visit —Email calendar items to


Leigh Scarritt Productions presents ‘A Dozen Divas’: Twelve (or more) San Diego singers will perform a range of tunes; talent includes Leigh Scarritt, Jeannine Marquie, Tom Andrew and more. Doors 6 p.m., show 8 p.m. $20 reserved seating with $15 food/ drink minimum Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit



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Deep inside Hollywood By Romeo San Vicente

“Three Generations” puts trans teen story in spotlight

weird place these days. There are more of them than ever, some good and some bad, and yet few of them, regardless of quality, seem to make much impact unless they come front-loaded with well known names in front of or behind the camera. That means it’s all on

British filmmaker Gaby Dellal, mostly known for her work as a director and actor in the U.K., just found herself in the middle of the deal-making world of the Cannes Film Festival. Her feature, “Three Generations” was the object of a $6 million buy from The Weinstein Company, who’ll now distribute it in the United States. And the story is a timely one: a transgender teenager (Elle Fanning) begins the process of identifying as male, while the young man’s single mother (Naomi Watts) and lesbian grandKate Walsh (Courtesy QSyndicate) mother (Susan Sarandon) do what they can to help. you, Kate Walsh and Anthony It has all the earmarks of Rapp, best known for “Grey’s a high-quality production, but Anatomy” and “Rent,” respecwill it be well received by trans tively; you are the pair who’ll audiences, who’ve become have to carry the weight of much more vocal lately about “Modern Love” on your shoulthe cisgender (non-trans) ders, and we hope you’re up to casting choices employed in the task. The film is from first most trans stories? That’s time feature writer-director the hope. But with the pool of Joshua Tunick and it’s a real trans actors growing and small ensemble comedy startheir employment on the rise ring Walsh and Rapp (as well (“Orange is the New Black,” as “Mean Girls” alum Jona“The Fosters,” “Transparent”), than Bennett), and it’s about the clock is ticking on how long a group of friends who help this sort of thing can continue out a gay couple when their unquestioned. wedding plans hit the rocks. It starts shooting in June and The O.J. show is coming. that ought to put it in position You ready? for the 2016 festivals where, “American Crime Story,” fingers crossed, the right the new series created by Scott people will 1) Like it. 2) Buy Alexander and Larry Karaszeit. And 3) Get it out to the wski, and produced by Ryan world of real audiences. Murphy and Brad Falchuk, is on its way, filling the void left —Romeo San Vicente audiby “Glee” and — oh, wait, it’s tioned to be the sixth Backstreet not a musical? It’s not even ocBoy. But dreams sometimes die. casionally a musical, like that He can be reached care of this one time when Stevie Nicks publication or at DeepInsideHolguested on “American Horror Story”? Well … we might still watch it, if only because the first season will be devoted entirely to the O.J. Simpson murder trial and the cast is just oddball enough: Cuba Gooding Jr. as Simpson, as well as Sarah Paulson, John Travolta, David Schwimmer, Courtney B. Vance, Jordana Brewster, Selma Blair, Billy Magnussen, Connie Britton, Malcolm Jamal Warner, Kenneth Choi, Evan Handler and Cheryl Ladd (!), all recreating the Trial of the Century. And when it airs in 2016 we’ll find out if they convinced Travolta to sing something. You know he’d be into it.

Seasons of “Love” with Anthony Rapp and Kate Walsh The gay indie film is in a


MODERN nity’s typical bar scene or all that comes with it. Instead, they longed for more than just a passing glance or touch, though there was little time for dating while they both focused heavily on their careers. In the back of their minds, however, they were always yearning for completion; that once in a lifetime chance with that one special guy … and they each found him … in the most unexpected place, ever. Brian Lyons made his way to San Diego nine years ago after realizing journalism was not his thing. He credits a number of local people for giving him a chance and the “step up” he needed when he launched his graphic arts and marketing business. While he quickly made a name for himself and was highly sought after, he came to some realizations. “Working in the media graphic design business in Hillcrest in the LGBT community in San Diego, it was not for the money,” he explained. “It was small businesses who didn’t have an advertising budget but they did trade – and it was fun while it lasted but I got to a certain point in my life where I said, ‘I want to retire at some point, I want to buy a house … ”’ One client, Urban Homes Investments, was a small boutique real estate firm in Little Italy outside the nonprofit and LGBT community realm. It gave Lyons the opportunity to stretch his long legs and display his strengths in marketing and especially branding, to another level. With one principal and just a couple of agents at the time, Lyons’ expertise was a game-changer for them. “From the moment Brian walked into the Urban Homes office wearing a neon green dress shirt, we knew he would rock our world,” founder Tina Dameron says in Lyons’ bio on the company website. Three years later, after marketing and building the firm’s — as well as each individual agent’s — brands and pushing them to visualize other methods of revenue, Dameron knew Lyons had what it took for the long haul. “You need to get your real

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estate license,” Lyons recalled Lyons said. Less than three years later, Dameron telling him one day he’s doing up to 11 transactions over lunch. “What you’re doper year and just closed his ing for us you could be doing third with DeSilva. for yourself.” “I never in a million years This was just the nudge thought real estate,” he said. “It Lyons needed to step out of his wasn’t something I knew anycommunity and begin building thing about. The idea of being a the future of his dreams. salesman was not for me. Tina Meanwhile, Boatswain’s taught me that real estate is Mate First Class Matthew not supposed to be about being Alvarado had recently returned a salesman; it’s about that fiduto duty in San Diego and was ciary responsibility with your building his career, too. client. I owe her a lot in life. I After time spent as a Sheriff cadet gave him the structure and owe her loyalty.” During a post-purchase paintdiscipline he needed to get him ing party at a friend’s new home through high school and prepare soon after the year he’d dropped him for a military career, Alout of the dating scene to focus on varado had entered the Navy in his own goals, Lyons was encourSan Bernardino County in 1999. aged to add a profile to Grindr. While he was aware when he “I was perfectly content with took his oath that he might be being busy,” he said, but he gay, he knew nothing of “Don’t created a profile, anyway. The Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) until dozens of vulgar responses his a class in boot camp taught post received were not his style everyone what this fairly recent at all. “I wanted people to talk to Defense Directive was all about. me like they would in person.” He focused instead on himself and dropped 40 pounds in training. Though Alvarado said he and a friend he had met in training at Great Lakes made the rounds at the gay bars of Chicago’s Boys Town, DADT never really impacted his career like it did so many others. “I always remained professional when the uniform was on and respected the law,” he said. “I never brought attention onto myself Lyons and Alvarado realized they had lots of the for being a gay sailor.” same goals and values. (Photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography) After training, Alvarado landed in San Then, three days in, he got a Diego on the USS Tarawa (LHA-1) message “from a beautiful man” but would then spend nearly 10 that changed the course of his life. years in Hawaii on shore duty and “He told me his first and last again at sea aboard the USS Port name, he told me he worked for Royal (CG-73). the U.S. Navy, sent me a couple Despite moving up the ranks and filling his chest with ribbons pictures and said, ‘I’d like to talk,’” Lyons said, tearing up. and medals, Alvarado hit the It changed the course of over-manned-promotion wall, meaning there are too many sail- Alvarado’s life, too. “First and foremost Brian ors working in his job descriphad an amazing profile picture,” tion vying for the same job and Alvarado said. “Not the typical rank. He remained determined trashy pics one sees on there. to make rank, but never settled I fully introduced myself and into a relationship. waited to hear back. To my “I was never the type of guy surprise he did and was a total that needed a boyfriend. I was gentleman! Very proper, kind constantly looking to date,” he and adorably handsome. said. “I am very independent, “After speaking a few times but there was the hope that on the phone with him I was I would find a good man to in shock,” he continued. “No hopefully bring as my date to a sexual questions, no asking for command party, bring home to nasty XXX pictures. He was remeet my parents, and maybe ally asking questions, getting to get married.” know me for me.” After his current tour at Texting followed the messagAmphibious Construction Bates and then the beginning of a talion One in Coronado ends long series of traditions shared this summer, he plans to rotate between the two men: they to his “twilight” tour at Naval went to dinner and a movie. Base Point Loma with plans to “He said he would drive, so retire in 2019. he showed up at my house and I Lyons cocooned himself with walked outside,” Lyons said. “He studies for nine months in 2012, was literally standing outside which paid off when he obtained his real estate license on the first his car with the car door open.” Sixteen months later, the try. He said he hit the ground couple is now happily married running and his enthusiasm for … but that part of the journey his new career is infectious. will have to wait. Stay tuned for “I had clients lined up “Modern Love Part Two” in the waiting for me to get licensed, next issue of Gay San Diego. including my very best friend in the whole world, Joseph —Morgan M. Hurley can be DeSilva, who was waiting to sell reached at his condo until I got licensed,”



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on weekend nights and another that supports the farmers market — is but one example. “The trolley is a way to reduce greenhouse gas emissions, decrease the number of drivers who are getting in the car at the hospital’s parking structure and driving into Hillcrest, and increase walkability,” she said. “When someone parks at the DMV [after hours] and contemplates walking or taking the Hillcrest trolley to their destination — either are good choices for parking, for your health, and for the environment.” Hannon, who spends her long days attending meetings, writing grants, overseeing the parking budget, contemplating new initiatives and networking, is a plethora of parking-, bicycle- and pedestrian-based information and she doesn’t shy away from any topic, even the hot-button issues. Parking and bicycle supporters have drawn their swords on each side in recent

months, creating a divide that hasn’t been seen since the height ordinance debates. At last month’s contentious and heated Uptown Planners meeting about SANDAG’s bicycle plan, it was Hannon who grabbed the microphone when the speakers began to falter amidst the chaos, calming the crowd with her wit, compassion and clear understanding of the issues at hand. “In Hillcrest, there are two ways we can impact parking,” she said recently from a seat on the Lunch Loop trolley. “We can increase supply and we can manage demand by introducing pedestrian safety projects and bicycle infrastructure. Providing biking as an option decreases the impacts on parking because more people are riding their bikes safely.” Hannon said she and her staff are also looking at ways — outside of the many politically charged plans in the works — to increase supply in Hillcrest. “On-street parking is not necessarily maxed out here and because there are some streets that we can angle park and add

spaces by converting the parallel parking,” she said. With parking angles ranging from 35.5 to 90 degrees and the opportunity for more space with each degree of angle, visibility and safety is also a factor. “In a residential or a business community where cars are angled, people just naturally drive slow,” she said. “It calms traffic and that makes it safer to walk and with cars slowing down you’re going to feel safer, too. “[Angled parking] is also a benefit to the businesses because you can actually see what’s around,” she continued. “Not only is there more parking and a decrease in the amount of time you have to circle around to find a spot, it will provide storefront businesses more visibility.” On the flipside, the Lunch Loop is expected to not only support the area’s restaurants, but the employees at UCSD’s Health and Sciences group as well. “UCSD is our main demographic,” Hannon said, adding that based on a survey they found that nearly 200 hundred of their employees get in their car and drive to lunch on any

GAY SAN DIEGO May 29 - June 11, 2015 given day. “Our staff’s current options are fairly limited,” Schlagel said. “They have access to our cafeteria and various vending machines … [which now] have healthy, sustainable and locally grown foods available. That being said, it is difficult for staff to get into the community to eat, as the closest restaurants are Jack in the Box and Panda Express, and they are each a 10-minute walk each way. “In the time it takes to walk to one of those restaurants on Washington, they can now access virtually any Hillcrest restaurant on the Lunch Loop,” he said. Though the east end of Hillcrest is not currently included, if things go well during the pilot, Hannon sees the potential of adding another trolley to service not only the residents and seniors on the east end of Hillcrest, but also the businesses along Park Boulevard. “We want to make sure that the ridership is there and that the times are working but we needed to keep our routing at 10 minutes or under,” she


explained, adding that during the post-launch review a trip to Trader Joe’s increased the ride by seven minutes. “People only get an hour for lunch so you don’t want to take a 20-minute trolley in each direction to get to the other side.” Those interested in giving the Lunch Loop a whirl can download the ParkHillcrest app to their phone, where you will find the live trolley tracker, showing you exactly where the active trolley is along its route; maps for each of the three trolley services; parking and valet options throughout the neighborhood, and more. Riders are also encouraged to “Like” the ParkHillcrest Facebook page and visit You can even find menus for most of the area restaurants found within walking distance of the loop and decide your destination before you board or order ahead. For more information about the Uptown Parking District, visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at







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Your personal FilmOut schedule Friday, May 29 6 p.m. – “Tab Hunter Confidential” (92 min) In the 1950s, Tab Hunter was Hollywood’s hottest star, America’s “boy next door” idol. Romantically romantically linked to Natalie Wood, Debbie Reynolds and Sophia Loren; nothing could damage his career — except he is secretly gay. With: “Bendick & The Monster” (10 min) In this animated short, a boy encounters a monster underneath his bed who dreams of being a cabaret singer. With: “Tom In America” (16 min) For 50 years, Michael and Betty have been united by one guiding principle: no secrets.

Saturday, May 30 11 a.m. “Best of LGBT Shorts” (nine total) “Safe Word” (16 min) A gay couple decides to spice up their relationship but find themselves in peril when fantasy and reality start to blur in this comedic thriller. “Captive” (6 min) A confused old man receives a disturbing leaflet in the mail and realizes that his name, his home and his soul mate, are not what they appear to be. “09:55 — 11:05, Ingrid Ekman, Bergsgatan 4B” (15 min) As Ingrid, 67, retreats from the outside world to deal with cancer, a younger home care worker awakens feelings that Ingrid can’t shut out. “Pipe Dream” (14 min) Resident nerd, Peter Epstein-Takahashi, 16, worries that his penis is too small and struggles to make it bigger before his first BJ. “Eden” (12 min) In a contemporary portrayal, João and Pedro live in this idyllic garden, one straight one gay, but one ate forbidden fruit. “An Afternoon” (8 min) Mathias has decided that “today is the day” to tell Frederik that he is in love with him. “Plunge” (6 min) A romantic daytrip is shrouded in mystery as the relationship of two young women is revealed. “Off A Cliff” (5 min) Jhongwei has something important to say to Damon, his boyfriend, but time isn’t right. “Sex Date” (16 min) A case of mistaken identity gone right. 1 p.m. — “How To Win At Checkers (Every Time)” (80 min) Young Oat faces an uncertain future when his older, gay brother must submit to Thailand’s annual military draft. Set in the economic fringes of Bangkok and examines the joys and challenges of growing up in contemporary Thailand. With: “Pepper” (18 min) When an experienced drag queen encounters a lost boy out-

side her club, Pepper is reminded of the importance of family with her own estranged son. 3 p.m. — “Gameface” (99 min) This moving documentary shows the quest for self-realization of LGBT athletes and their acceptance in society. 5:15 p.m. — “BFFs” (90 min) One of the funniest films of the festival, BFFs Kat and Samantha have been gifted a weekend vacation to a couple’s retreat. The only problem … the single women are straight! With: “Bachelorette” (15 min) While celebrating a friend’s bachelorette party, Stefanie shockingly surprises the entire group with whom she finds more intriguing. 7:30 p.m. — “Paternity Leave” (90 min) Caught in a moment of passion on the eve of their four-year anniversary, Greg soon begins feeling nauseated, fatigued, moody and fat. To everyone’s amazement, Greg is pregnant! With: “The Cream” (8 min) Gilbert, a quirky young man, is out for a Sunday jog in the forest. When a muscular, athletic man passes him at tremendous speeds, Gilbert is left confused, curious and ultimately aroused by his secret. With: “You. Me. Bathroom. Sex. Now.” (17 min) When Antonio discovers his boyfriend of eight years is cheating on him, he decides to find solace amongst friends: an outrageous drag queen, a wisecracking older man, and one sexy stranger at the neighborhood dive bar. 10 p.m. — “Seed Money: The Chuck Holmes Story” (70 min) This documentary is a revealing look at Chuck Holmes, San Francisco Falcon Studio’s founder/pornographer turned philanthropist. This film contains nudity and scenes of sexual situations. With: “Hole” (5 min) Two men share an unlikely encounter at a bathroom glory hole in this insightful animated short. With: “Midnight” (22 min) Shane and Aiden are a couple who decide to try an open relationship.

Sunday, May 31 11 a.m. — “WASP” (72 min) Having left England for a romantic escapade in the south of France, Olivier and James invite Caroline along at the last minute. A tension of sexual jealousy and possessiveness inevitably escalates between them. With: “Little Secrets” (20 min) While accompanying his girlfriend at a birthday party, Tim recognizes a male lover from years past. 1 p.m. — “In The Turn” (91 min) The film weaves the story of 10-year-old transgender Crystal into the broader narrative of the evolution of roller derby from a niche sport into a social movement with strong roots in the LGBTQ community. With: “cONSensual” (1 min) A “One Night Stand” (ONS)

is used as a destigmatizing tool against the shame and guilt of exploring female sexuality in this stylized encounter that’s simply Flawles. 3 p.m. — “Drown” (93 min) Surf lifesaving champion Len is a legend in the cloistered surf club until the arrival of younger, faster, fitter and openly gay Phil. Through the summer, Len’s enraged reaction to Phil begins to reveal confusion about his own sexuality climaxing in an intoxicated evening filled with jealousy, homophobic fear and unrequited lust. Warning: This film contains graphic depictions of homophobic violence. With: “Want It” (11 min) When the owner of a luxuri-

ous home returns unexpectedly to find an intruder … the tables are turned, and the intruder finds himself naked and powerless. 5 p.m. — “Jess & James” (90 min) In this sexually charged, coming-of-age road trip tale, Jess and James feel trapped in their lives. This film contains graphic depictions of sex. With: “Ten Min Left” (7 min) Rodrigo is recently out and feeling a bit uncomfortable in a gay bar. 7 p.m. — “I Am Michael” (98 min) Based on a true story, the film depicts gay activist Michael Glatze, the managing editor of popular queer San Franciscobased XY magazine as a proud gay man in a loving relationship with his partner Bennett. After Glatze faces a health scare, he turns to Christianity and renounces his homosexuality, eventually becoming a Christian pastor and marrying Rebekah With: “Tomorrow” (11 min) New Year’s Eve 1999 finds college-bound Clark and Trevor concerned about the future of their friendship, and a request for Clark to be Trevor’s wingman ensures things will never be the same again. —For a more complete description of each film and to view trailers for many of the films and shorts listed here, see this article at

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