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OUT at the movies

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David Renier from San Diego races around the second barrel during the Barrel Race competitions at the Hot Rodeo Palm Springs 2018 in Banning, California on May 13 (Photo by Albert H. Fulcher)

In the thrill of the ride, Palm Springs rodeo brings great rivalry Albert H. Fulcher | Editor

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The Hot Rodeo Palm Springs 2018 — which is part of the International Gay Rodeo Association (IGRA) — brought cowboys and cowgirls from all over the U.S. and Canada for two days of rodeo competition. This is serious rivalry, as competitors gain scores in order to

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move forward to the IGRA World Day Rodeo Finals in Mesquite, Texas in November. Held at the A. C. Dysart Equestrian Park in Banning May 12–13, entrants participated in rough stock, roping, speed and camp events. Expert horsemanship, ranching skills and excellent sportsmanship were demonstrated by all the contestants. Competitions on

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Mama’s Kitchen raised $170,000 at the 27th annual Mama’s Day on May 11 at the Hyatt Regency La Jolla at the Aventine. Nearly 600 attendees enjoyed an atmospheric dining experience prepared by 55 of San Diego’s top executive chefs. VIPs were treated to a special presentation from Sam “The Cooking Guy” Zien, as funds were raised through ticket sales, direct donations and silent auctions. Nonprofit organization Mama’s Kitchen provides more than 58,000 meals free of charge each year to local people that are susceptible to hunger. Mama’s Kitchen Executive Director Alberto Cortes noted that Mama’s Day is an opportunity to raise awareness and funds in support of the nonprofit’s mission. “At Mama’s Kitchen we believe that everyone is entitled to the basic necessity of life — nutritious food,” Cortes said. “We are a community driven

organization that provides nutrition services to men, women and children that are affected by HIV, cancer, or other critical illnesses that would otherwise be vulnerable to hunger. We’ve been doing what we do close to 28 years now.” Mama’s Kitchen began in the throes of the AIDS epidemic, focusing exclusively

both days included calf roping, team roping, break-away roping, pole bending, chute dogging, barrel racing and flag racing. Winners received buckles for each event, and each participant’s total score for the two-day competition decided the all-round winners in each category.

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on people with the illness. Cortes said that through the years serving those in need has taught those at Mama’s compassion, judgement, and inclusiveness, as well as set the ground work and cultural values still present today for the nonprofit. In the past 27 years, Mama’s has served nearly 9 million meals. The Mama’s Day event helps raise funds for the next 9 million meals that Mama’s will continue to serve, as well as expanded programs.

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(l to r) Sam “The Cooking Guy” Zien and Mama’s Kitchen Executive Director Alberto Cortes prepare a simple gourmet shrimp roll at the VIP reception at Mama’s Day 2018 (Photo by Albert H. Fulcher)

Out at the Fair, coming to the San Diego County Fair on June 9, is now one of the largest “Out” events in the region. Out at the Fair started from a simple Facebook post in 2011 from William Zakrajshek, WZ Productions and Caleb Wilkins that asked people to join them at the San Diego County Fair for the first-ever “Unofficial Gay Days.” In its second year, with an extended Facebook invitation, more than 135 people accepted the request. The Del Mar Fairgrounds took notice — they met them on the day of the event and handed out pins as a form of celebration. This is when Zakrajshek met Luis Valdivia, Del Mar Fairgrounds Multicultural Marketing specialist. The two have worked together to create what now draws tens of thousands of people each year. “We started working with community partners at The Center, San Diego PRIDE [and] South Bay PRIDE to develop the format of Out at the Fair so it would match the other LGBTQ ‘out’ events here in San Diego,” said Zakrajshek. “From there we have progressively grown every year, adding new content every year, trying to bring in new elements to the fair. Along with more entertainment for the whole family, we’ve added a LGBTQ art exhibit. These artists rarely get the chance to have their art displayed for such a large audience.” Last year, WZ Productions expanded outside of San Diego to the California State Fair, as well as extending out of state to the New Mexico State Fair. It has been rapidly expanding since. WZ Productions earned the 2018 Barham Award from the Western Fairs Association. The award — which they won for producing Out at the Fair — is based on innovation, leadership and quality in the service member division. WZ Productions is the first LGBTQ company to earn this award.

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OUT AT THE FAIR Luis Valdivia said the number one goal in this event that it is 100 percent family friendly. During the growth of this event, he noticed that the community not only embraced it, but wanted to be a part of it. This included sensitivity training to all county fair senior staff and anyone who has front line contact with the public. Specifically, the LGBT community addressed them about the subject of all gender restrooms. Valdivia works with Kathie Moehlig with TransFamily Support Services to offer sensitivity training. “It has been fascinating to watch,” Valdivia said. “We have had no major issues. During the first year of sensitivity training, one of our

ambassadors came out as transgender during the training because it inspired him. This is more than just a fun event. It’s really touching. This event was meant to tell the public that anyone is welcome here and this has gone beyond the one day. “We now see more same sex couples holding hands during any day of the fair,” he continued. “This has really helped us position the fair and an LGBT-friendly event and the fairgrounds as an LGBT-friendly venue. We are all about multi-culturalism, diversity and inclusion. This fair and this [‘Out at the Fair’] event is for everyone regardless of your background.” For more information, shuttle services and tickets, visit outatthefair.com. —Albert Fulcher can be reached at albert@sdcnn.com.t

“We are moving into the arena of food is medicine,” Cortes continued. “We are looking to tailor our services more and more to the specific needs of the people that we serve. We not only providing a statement of love and caring, but a service that really helps people’s lives to improve. We can truly improve the prognosis of the people that we serve.” Mama’s is now working on targeting folks with congestive heart failure in the near future. This project, partly-funded by the state of California. It is intended to demonstrate to the state that by providing a medically-tailored meal to people that are using the Medi-Cal system, that it can actually reduce health care costs in the state. This program will provide an intensive intervention that includes a dietician, and food specifically tailored to the individuals. “As part of our evolution, we are moving more and more to fresh from scratch meals that are delicious and healthy,” Cortes said. “We also want to honor the people we serve and provide them with a service that they will remember and make their lives better. When you make the lives of the most vulnerable better, we ultimately make our whole society better.”

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Tuesday, June 5

Transgender Name and Gender Marker Change Program 6:30 pm, The Center USD Pride Law is sponsoring the Transgender Name and Gender Marker Change Program to provide legal assistance to trans* individuals seeking name and gender-marker changes through the San Diego County court system. Law students and attorney volunteers will assist eligible clients in completing the requisite applications and navigating the process of obtaining a name and/or gender marker change. Appointments are available at The Center on the first Tuesday of each month. To schedule an appointment, call 732.567.8394 or email transclinic.sandiego@gmail.com.

GGG Everyone is welcome on the first Wednesday evening of each month for GGG! The popular board game and social night, presented by Men @ The Center, includes pizza, snacks, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hundreds of board games to choose from. Come alone and meet new friends, or come with a group for a fun evening out. Popular Team Trivia is hosted by John Lockhart and everyone is welcome to drop in. Suggested donation of $5 is requested for admission. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at outreach@thecentersd.org or 619.692.2077 x106.

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Ladeki Restaurant Group Executive Chef Alfie Seeprethy (right), works the Pisco Rotisserie & Cevicheria tasting table at Mama’s Day 2018 (By Albert H. Fulcher) Ladeki Restaurant Group Executive Chef Alfie Szeprethy, who represented Pisco Rotisserie & Cevicheria and Sammy’s Woodfired Pizza & Grill for the evening, has worked the event for six years. He said there are many reasons he loves this event, but mainly because it is a great cause for a worthy charity. “Also, normally, the chefs themselves don’t come to these events, they send their cooks, but all the head chefs are always here because it is a near and dear event with Mother’s Day [shortly following it],” Szeprethy said. “It’s kind of a fun, undermining competition, who’s got the best food, who’s got the best setup, who’s got the best line. That’s the best part — these are the top dogs that run the restaurants.” Headlining the VIPs for Mama’s Day, Sam “The Cooking Guy” Zien said that he quickly accepts any invitation he can to help this charity since his first experience with Mama’s Kitchen. During his demonstration at the VIP party, Zien had Cortes create a delicious shrimp roll recipe within 10 minutes under his instruction. Zien believes that teaching people that there are simple, inexpensive ways to serve gourmet food at home is his passion. After the demonstration, Zien took to the mic with a manifesto of good eating habits. After, in a surprise appearance, San Diego Men’s Chorus joined him and performed “The Battle Hymn of the Republic.” Zien said his father’s charity

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work was a huge influence on his principle in giving back to the community. “I am a believer that if you have a face that can be used for good, and that is recognized and does good things for the public, it encourages others also,” Zien said. “I didn’t know much about Mama’s in the beginning, but it did not take very long after getting to know people in the organization. Getting a real sense of what they are doing, I totally want to be a part of it. I dig it, I love what they do, the mission is great and of course it is food, which is relatively close to my heart.” Zien said Mama’s has nothing to do with the financial needs of its clients, but more than that, it addresses physical, emotional and nutritional needs. “So many people don’t have someone there to cook nutritional meals for them,” Zien continued. “Then what do they do? You turn to Mama’s and they are there, and they always show up. They are not only delivering meals and food, but they are also delivering smiles, and a little human kindness into the homes when they deliver the meals. You cannot discount the effect that a hand on the shoulder, or hand on a hand has on people.” To find out more about Mama’s Kitchen, the communities it serves, donations, volunteering and special events, visit mamaskitchen.org. —Albert Fulcher can be reached at albert@sdcnn.com.t

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How’s your sex life? Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Sex is great right? Lots of fun. Easy, no problems. Always available when you want it. Your libido is strong and will do whatever you want, whenever you want. You can have great sex several times a day with any number of hot men and/or women who come your way. Yeah, maybe if you live in a porn video. In real life, sex isn’t always great and often creates unhappiness. Whether we’re single or coupled, sex is an important part of our lives that sometimes doesn’t work so well for us. What can you do? For the best sexual experiences, I recommend balancing the desires and demands of your heart, mind, and genitals (what I call “The Three Musketeers”). For example, when you meet someone and feel an attraction, how and when do you decide to have sex with them? Is it right off the bat, when your heart and mind barely know them? Or is it later on, when your libido has been moderated by the wisdom of your mind and the feelings in your heart? Whether you’re looking for a lifetime partner or someone just for tonight, you want the sex to be good, right? So, how can you have a sex life where your heart, mind, and genitals are all working together? Let’s take a closer look at The Three Musketeers. Your Heart Emotions and feelings are the provenance of your heart. So, when you’re getting to know someone, take some time and check in with yourself. Do you feel good around this person? Do they make you feel attractive? Are you happy and relaxed around them? This is your heart speaking. People who are stuck in addictive, repetitive sex are rarely in touch with their emotions. Their genitals are running wild without any emotional connection to the people they have sex with. Their emotional, heart-centered needs never get satisfied, so they keep looking for the next hookup and the next one after that. Sound like anyone you know? Without having your heart involved in a sexual relationship — whether it’s a one-night stand or marriage — the sex is likely to be meaningless and leave you feeling empty and alone. Your Mind When you masturbate, what fantasies do you have and of whom? What are these people saying and doing to you (and vice-versa)? This is all in your mind; it’s all your thoughts. Thoughts create feelings, and the feelings work in harmony with erotic physical sensations. The result? Great sex. Whether you’re with someone, or alone, a crucial component of great sex is your mind.

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A look at FilmOut LGBT Festival’s 20th year By FilmOut San Diego FilmOut’s annual San Diego LGBT Film Festival returns Thursday, June 7 and runs through Sunday, June 10. The film screenings will be at Observatory North Park, 2981 University Ave. Tickets cost $10–$50 per show, online or at the box office. For more information about each film, visit bit.ly/2kft1II. For post-festival coverage, pick up our next issue of Gay San Diego, out online and on newsstands June 8. Here is the show schedule for the festival’s 20th year:

Thursday, June 7 Co-presenters: CICA, Smirnoff and Anheuser-Busch

With: ‘Turn It Around’ (Netherlands) 9-minute short film Director: Niels Bourgonje West Coast Premiere When 15-year-old Bram meets Florian at a house party, he immediately falls for him. There’s only one problem … nobody knows Bram is gay. ‘Femme’ (U.S.) 17-minute short film Director: Alden Peters West Coast Premiere After being shamed by an online hookup for being too femme, Carson must confront his own notions of masculinity and gender roles within the LGBTQ community.

Friday, June 8

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1 p.m. Co-presenter: San Diego Latino Film Festival ‘Al Berto’ (Portugal) 109 minutes Director: Vicente Alves do Ó West Coast Premiere It’s the summer of ’75 in Sines, Portugal. Al Berto (Ricardo Teixeira), the writer, embodies an entire moving generation. He and his friends exude youth, eccentricity and hope for the future — but right after the fall of Portugal’s dictatorship system, the country is not yet ready for his love story. With Jose Pimentao, Raquel Rocha Vieira, Jose Leite and Joao Villas-Boas.

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Co-presenters: Enterprise Rent-A-Car and Promos RK 3:15 p.m. ‘Mario’ (Switzerland) 119 minutes Director: Marcel Gisler West Coast Premiere Mario (Max Hubacher) has fallen in love with new team member Leon (Aaron Altaras), who could pose a threat to Mario’s chances of advancing his soccer career. Before long, their relationship is discovered by their team members and rumors begin to spread beyond the locker room. Mario realizes he must make a decision. Does he risk his fame as a soccer star or lose the only man he’s truly loved?

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7 p.m. ‘Ideal Home’ (U.S.) 91 minutes Director: Andrew Fleming West Coast premiere The 20th anniversary Opening Night kicks off with Steve Coogan and Paul Rudd in a delightful rom-com with sardonic wit. They co-star as Erasmus and Paul, a bickering gay couple whose life is turned inside out when a 10-year old boy shows up at their door claiming to be Erasmus’ grandson. Neither Paul, nor Erasmus, are ready to give up their extravagant lifestyles to be parents, but maybe this little kid has a thing or two to teach them about the value of family. With Jack Gore, Alison Pill and Jake McDoran.

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5:30 p.m. Co-presenters: RAGE and Randall & James ‘To A More Perfect Union: U.S. v Windsor’ (U.S.) 63 minutes Director: Donna Zaccaro West Coast Premiere This film tells a story of love, marriage and a fight for equality. The documentary chronicles unlikely heroes — octogenarian Edie Windsor and her attorney, Roberta Kaplan, on their quest for justice. Beyond the story of what became the pivotal case in the marriage equality movement and the compelling personal, legal and political stories behind it, the film also chronicles our continued journey as a people, as a culture, and as citizens with the promise of equal rights. With: ‘For a Change’ (Israel) 4-minute short film Director: Keren Nir Ofer is a transgender man struggling with his developing body and discovering feminine attributes while searching for self-acceptance. 7 p.m. Co-presenter: Roberts Electric Service ‘Golden Boy’ (U.S.) 105 minutes Director: Stoney Westmoreland West Coast Premiere James (Mark Elias) is a man who gambles on the dangers of being seen versus the quiet life of desperation and invisibility. Saved by CQ (Lex Medlin), a wealthy businessman with more going on than meets the eye and introduced to a world he’s not ready to navigate. James chases his dreams -- while losing himself, one piece at a time. Trust. Seduction. Betrayal. Redemption. With Logan Fahey, Paul Culos and Kimberly Westbrook. With: ‘Night Shift’ (U.S.) 13-minute short film Director: Chris Phillips World Premiere After a chance meeting years later, two men reignite an incendiary relationship forged by their mysterious shared past. 9:30 p.m. Co-presenters: Horrible Imaginings, Cinema Junkie, The Film Geeks SD, and

iHorror ‘Devil’s Path’ (U.S.) 86 minutes Director: Matthew Montgomery World Premiere This dramatic thriller is Montgomery’s feature directorial debut. Two men (Stephen Twardokus and JD Scalzo) encounter each other on a wooded trail in a dangerous gay cruising park where they find themselves caught up in a deadly game of cat-and-mouse. With Steve Callahan. With: ‘Fish Tank’ (U.S.) 6-minute short film Director: Neal Mulani West Coast Premiere When a college student goes to his first hook-up with a mysterious older man, he must determine if his anxieties point to a darker truth about his host for the night. ‘Hookup’ (U.S.) 10-minute short film Director: Stan Madray West Coast Premiere Adam is looking for love in all the quick places.

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11 a.m. Co-presenter: U.S. Bank Short 1: ‘Lions in Waiting’ (Canada) 17 minutes Director: Jason Karman Ray, the newest hockey team member, fights to have ice-time after being hazed and finds the courage to be comfortable in his own skin. Short 2: ‘Marguerite’ (Canada) 19 minutes Director: Marianna Farley California Premiere An elderly lady and her nurse develop a friendship that will push her to dig-up unconfessed desires and passions forcing her to make peace with her past. Short 3: ‘The Jealous Sea’ (U.S.) 13 minutes Director: Reid Waterer When Carlos discovers pictures of a nude male model taken by his photographer boyfriend, he becomes engulfed in jealousy. Short 4: ‘The Quiet Room’ (U.S.) 27 minutes Director: Sam Wineman When Michael’s attempt at suicide awakens a psych-ward demon, he must stop her before she kills everyone in the hospital he connects with. Short 5: ‘Foxy Trot’ (U.S.) 15 minutes Director: Lisa Donato A married lesbian couple take ballroom dance lessons in a heteronormative class. Short 6: ‘Beard’ (U.S.) 18 minutes Director: Christopher Crompton West Coast Premiere Gabe forces his best friend Chrissy to masquerade as his fake girlfriend to hide his sexuality from his peers. Short 7: ‘Be More Popcorn’

(Italy) 7 minutes Director: Sara Corbioli This animated film focuses on the awkward situations of Riley and her friends. 1:15 p.m. Co-presented by: American Institute of Bisexuality ‘Say Yes’ (U.S.) 96 minutes Director: Stewart Wade World Premiere A young woman (Leah McKendrick) diagnosed with cancer tries to play matchmaker between her soon-to-be widowed husband (Patrick Zeller) and her bisexual twin brother (Matt Pascua). The conflict/resolve with terminal illness, mortality, compassion and sexual fluidity are all touched upon in this poignant and heartfelt film. With Shari Belafonte, Alberto Manquero, Stefanie Estes and Alexandra Paul. With: ‘Morning After’ (Canada) 15-minute short film Director: Patricia Chica After a long time abroad, a young man returns home and reunites with friends. A sensual game amongst them forces him to confront deep conflicts within himself that lead to a powerful awakening.

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3:30 p.m. Co-presented by: FlawLes and Gossip Grill ‘Wild Nights with Emily’ (U.S.) 84 minutes Director: Madeleine Olnek West Coast Premiere Molly Shannon plays Emily Dickinson in this cleverly witty dramedy. The poet’s persona, popularized since her death, became that of a reclusive spinster — a delicate wallflower, too sensitive for this world. This film explores her vivacious, irreverent side that was covered up for years — most notably Emily’s lifelong romantic relationship with another woman (Susan Ziegler). After Emily died, a rivalry emerged when her brother’s mistress (Amy Seimetz) along with editor T.W. Higginson (Brett Gelman) published a book of her now infamous poems. With: ‘Fishy’ (U.S.) 6-minute short film Director: Joseph Sulsenti A man stranded in the middle of the ocean is saved in more ways than one by a mystical sea creature. 5:30 p.m. Co-presenter: Woods Real Estate Services ‘The Fabulous Allan Carr’ (U.S.) 90 minutes Director: Jeffrey Schwarz Armed with a limitless Rolodex and a Benedict Canyon enclave with its own disco, this documentary shows how Allan Carr threw the Hollywood parties that defined the 1970s. A producer, manager, and marketing genius, Carr built his bombastic reputation amid a series of successes including “Grease” and “La Cage Aux Folles” until it all came crashing down after he produced the notorious debacle of the 1989 Academy

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Directors: Russell Sheaffer & Jared Callahan Local San Diego Filmmaker Santiago is one week away from becoming the first college graduate in his family. For Santi, graduation is both an achievement and a relief; his conservative university has lifestyle bylaws, meaning that he has to hide his sexuality for fear of expulsion. 3:15 p.m. Co-presenters: FlawLes and Gossip Grill ‘Freelancers Anonymous’ (U.S.) 81 minutes Director: Sonia Sebastian West Coast Premiere Rushing to get to her pointless job every morning sucks, and Billie (Lisa Cordileone) is not putting up with it anymore. After telling everyone to [expletive] off, she unfortunately has to break the news to her fiancée (Natasha Negovanlis). When she meets a ragtag group of women who are also looking for employment, Billie is struck with the idea of cultivating their skills to create an app, by designing a prototype for an investor launch party. Billie takes the risk of her life, lying to her fiancée in order to buy time until her plan for Freelancers Anonymous can come to fruition. When the wedding and the launch party are booked for the same day, it all comes to a head. With Alexandra Billings, Megan Cavanagh, Grace Rex, Amy Shiels, Haviland Stillwell, Jamison Scala, Jennie McNulty, Cassandra Blair, Jennifer Bartels and Mouzam Makkar. With: ‘Gabber Lover’ (France) 13-minute short film Director: Anna Cazenave Cambet

Laurie and Mila, both 13 years old, dance to Gabber music on the shores of a remote lake. Mila is in love with Laurie and she wants to tell her.

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A poetic story about searching for an unexpired romance, a mélange of sexy fantasy and innocent love.

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5:15 p.m. 7 p.m. Co-presenter: Merrill Lynch Co-presented by: ‘Every Act of Life’ West Coast and (U.S.) Family Health Centers of San 90 minutes Diego Director: Jeff Kaufman ‘Anything’ West Coast Premiere (U.S.) The story of the ground97 minutes breaking life and work of fourDirector: Timothy McNeil time Tony-winning playwright Southern California Terrence McNally — a personal Exclusive San Diego journey through five decades of Premiere the American theatre, the strugEarly Landry (John Carroll gle for LGBT rights, triumph over addiction, the power of the arts to Lynch) is a kind and decent man. Grief-stricken over the recent shape society … and finding love death of his wife, Early moves and inspiration at all ages. At 78 from Mississippi to Los Angeles years old, McNally is one of the and into a run-down Hollywood world’s most renowned, risk-takapartment. He is loved by all his ing playwrights, but he wakes up neighbors, especially transsexuevery day with the spirit of an al neighbor Freda (Matt Bomer). ambitious and romantic young The simplicity of their shared man. It’s that attitude, mixed loneliness and growing affection with a quiet courage, that makes must be reconciled with the comhim one of the best American plexity of their disparate backplaywrights. Interviewees grounds. As non-judgmental as include: F. Murray Abraham, Christine Baranski, Zoe Caldwell, its southern protagonist, the film is a deceptively quiet love story Tyne Daly, Edie Falco, John and an all too timely parable on Glover, John Benjamin Hickey, the pressing need to bridge barLarry Kramer, Nathan Lane, riers and find common ground. Angela Lansbury, Joe Mantello, With Maura Tierney. Marin Mazzie, Audra McDonald, With: Rita Moreno, Jack O’Brien, Billy ‘Mrs. McCutcheon’ Porter, Chita Rivera, Doris (Australia) Roberts, Richard Thomas, 17 minutes Stanley Tucci, and Patrick Director: John Sheedy Wilson, plus the voices of Bryan Having always felt he was Cranston and Meryl Streep. born in the wrong body, 10-yearWith: old Tom chooses the name Mrs. ‘Expiration Date’ McCutcheon rather than the (U.S.) name he was given at birth. Now 5-minute short film at his third school he is having Director: Shwenn Shunya trouble settling in and finding Chang acceptance with his peers.t West Coast Premiere

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Creep of the Week: Robert Oscar Lopez By D’Anne Witkowski Hey gentlemen, if you’re a gay and want to become a heterosexual, you can do it today in 10 easy steps with this one weird trick called self-hatred and denial! Well, that’s two weird tricks, but still. At least that’s what blogger Robert Oscar Lopez wants you to believe. He was raised by lesbians and it apparently ruined him to the point where he has become the expert on ex-gaying. On the Barb Wire website (tagline: barbwire.com We print all the garbage that gets stuck to the fence) Lopez posted, “Rebuking the Big Lie: Ten Tips for Ex-Gay Happiness.” And if you’re wondering, “Hey, can I really be ex-gaypy (that’s ex-gay happy, obviously) in just 10 steps?” Well, no. Lopez has a lot of “10 Tips” type blog posts on his website for the ex-gay curious. Perhaps he learned how to blog from Clickbait (But EDITOR Albert H. Fulcher (619) 961-1960 albert@sdcnn.om CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Sara Butler, x118 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Dae Elliott Michael Kimmel Jean Lowerison Ian Morton Nicole Murray -Ramirez Frank Sabatini Jr. D'Anne Witkowski WEB AND SOCIAL MEDIA Sara Butler, x118

Not In A Gay Way) University. So once you add “Ten Dating Suggestions for Ex-Gay Men in Pursuit of Women” and “Ten Things to Love About Heterosexuality,” not to mention “The Ex-Gay’s Strategy on Women: Many Top Tens In One,” we’re talking about a lot of steps. Needless to say, Lopez has some, ‘er, really messed up ideas about this whole gay thing. First of all, he seems to think that men (and his focus is on gay men here, sorry lesbians) become gay after being tricked into it. “Gay activists can flood you with stimuli and arousal techniques to make you curious or interested in homosexuality,” Lopez writes. “Once you try it or find yourself thinking about it, cultural messages and cues all around you mess with your head and convince you that this is who you are, you have to make yourself sexually available to other guys.” COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 mike@sdcnn.com ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 Brenda Vergara, x110 EDITORIAL ASSISANT Jess Winans SENIOR INTERN Eric Diaz

Now if he were describing instance, if you identify as gay, heterosexuality this might people pity you and give you make some sense. Since the less responsibility for being a majority of people are heterojerk.” sexual, we are surrounded by Oh man, wait until he hears images of heteronormativity. In about Milo Yiannopoulos. fact, if you want to get “flooded” “The world feels small and with gay “stimuli and arousal cozy because everywhere you techniques” you pretty much go, you can go to the gay bar have to seek it out. Otherwise and have instant community,” that flood is more like an ocLopez continues. casional trickle (see “Will & Okay, wait a minute. There Grace,” the gays on “Modern are gay bars everywhere? That Family,” “Ellen” et al.). is news to me and will likely He then writes, “I don’t have be news to millions of gay peomuch more time before …” and ple around the world who live I’m thinking, “Oh no, is he go(checks map) near no gay bars. ing to die?” But I guess Lopez sees every But he continues, “… before bar as a homosexual Cheers, the law makes it illegal for me “where everybody knows you’re to share the 10 tips I will share gay.” in this blog.” “Once you commit to not There’s no law against sharbeing gay anymore, things ing dumb lies on the internet, will get hard,” he writes. “In or Donald Trump would be in the gay world, you may have prison where he belongs. competed from time to time for Lopez warns that leaving the attention of men with nice gay life is hard. physiques; now, you will be “There are certain perks fighting against men with even about being gay that you are more well-developed physiques, trying to achieve victory over going to miss,” he writes. “For ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 accounting@sdcnn.com

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them in order to win for yourself a coveted prize: a virtuous and desirable wife.” Aaaaaand fuck off. Women are not prizes. Women are human beings who have value and worth outside of whether or not they are somebody’s wife. “Soon you will see how much harder life is for straight guys,” Lopez laments. And he’s probably right that life is harder for him now that he’s “straight.” Self-hatred and denial are a bitch. But straight guys in general? Nah. They’ve been riding roughshod over all of us and continue to do so. It’s my hope that Lopez will one day write a “Top Ten Reasons Not to Hate Your Gay Self.” But until then, I wonder if he’ll put “riding roughshod” on his “Top Ten Gay Stimuli and Arousal Techniques.” —D'Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living in Michigan with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on Twitter @MamaDWitkowski.t

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GLBT Vote 2018 Conversations with Nicole Nicole Murray Ramirez Out of the closets ... into the voting booths!

Coming up on June 5 is the California primary elections. And Nov. 6 is the general elections. The 2018 midterm elections are one of the most important in the history of our country, which leaves us with many unanswered questions. Will America go forward or backward? Will Democrats capture the needed congressional seats and stop President Donald Trump's agenda? Will impeachment proceedings begin against this president? I have been a registered Republican, Independent and now once again a registered Democrat, who many times votes for Republican candidates. For me, it is the candidate, not the party, that counts. But I must say that the current Republican Party represents the extreme right as a whole. As for San Diego, I firmly believe that we have some of the best Republican elected officials in the entire country. I was a Republican when I first arrived in San Diego in the early 1970s. At that time, San Diego was a very conservative, Republican city. Like it or not, Mayor Roger Hedgecock will go down in history as the first mayor to actively go after the gay vote and appoint the first gay and lesbian San Diegans — including Susan Jester and Dr. Brad Truax — to boards and commissions. Yes, I was a strong supporter of Hedgecock and advised him as a candidate and mayor on the LGBT community. Actually, the first Mayoral Pride Proclamation came from Hedgecock, and he is the first mayor to attend LGBT functions. I was honored to be the first openly gay citizen to receive a special commendation from a mayor. Needless to say, Mayor Hedgecock and the radio host Hedgecock were two different people. Mayor Maureen O’Connor appointed the first mayoral LGBT advisory board following her election after Hedgecock resigned from office, and Barbara Crusberg and I were elected co-chairs. Six mayors later, I am still an elected co-chair of the Mayor Kevin Faulconer’s advisory board, along with Susan Jester. I have served and advised five Republican, two Democrat mayors, and two interim mayors: Toni Atkins and Todd Gloria. Mayor Kevin Faulconer has been the most visible and supporter pro-LGBT mayor in the history of our city. Faulconer could probably be the last Republican mayor of our city since Assemblymember Todd Gloria, a Democrat, is on the top of everyone’s list as a front-runner to be our next mayor in 2020. Gloria would historically be San Diego’s

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first mayor of color, as well as the first who is openly gay. Homosexual acts were not legal in our state until 1976, and as I have said many times, LGBT Californians could have been — or were — sent to state mental hospitals at a stroke of a pen by a judge or one’s parents. I had gay friends who were subjected to lobotomies and electric shock treatments, and they never were the same again. San Diego has one of the oldest cross-dressing laws in the nation, and I was arrested for wearing the clothes of the opposite sex as were many transsexuals and drag queens. The first gay event openly held in a public hotel was in 1973 at what was then the Royal Inn across from the Star of India downtown. The first openly gay candidates to run for public office were first Al Best, then Neil Good and finally Christine Kehoe. This coming election will be one of the most important ever. Among the candidates I urge you to vote for are: Bill Gore for Sheriff and Nathan Fletcher for San Diego County Supervisor. Also, for city

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to my co-chairs Dr. Delores Jacobs and City Commissioner Robert Gleason, and especially the hard-working staff and volunteers of our LGBT Community Center. Also, a special shout-out to Joyce Rowland and Pamela Morgan, who have been the breakfast’s major sponsor for years. In addition, thanks to Rich’s Nightclub (Nick and Ryan) for the special Harvey buttons as well as the Imperial Court de San Diego. Harvey Milk would have been 88 years old this May 22.

(l to r) Nicole Murray-Ramirez with 10-year-olds Chase and Ryland at The Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast on May 18 council: Myrtle Cole for San Diego District 4 and Antonio Martinez for District 8. Check out the “GLBT VOTE 2018” that has endorsed candidates for office and take it to the polls with you on June 5.

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Thank you for your 10 years of supporting and making the annual Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast such a success with more than 1,000 people in attendance this year. My sincere appreciation goes out

—Nicole Murray Ramirez has been writing a column since 1973. He has been a Latino/ gay activist for almost half a century and has advised and served the last seven mayors of San Diego. Named the “Honorary Mayor of Hillcrest” by a city proclamation, he has received many media awards

including from the prestigious San Diego Press Club. Reach Nicole at Hillcrestqueen5@ gmail.com. Editor’s Note: The opinions written in this column are the author’s own and by no means reflect or represent the opinions of the staff and/ or publisher of Gay San Diego and/or its parent company, San Diego Community News Network (SDCNN). The newspaper and its staff should be held harmless of liability or damages.t

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Getting Out the vote Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton “Theoretical” comprehensive voting rights, across all genders and races, are a relatively recent and hard-won victory in the United States, which arguably has yet to be fully realized. While we’ve seen bright moments in U.S. history, such as the 19th Amendment giving women access to the vote, and the Voting Rights Act of 1965, aimed at removing barriers between black Americans and voting access, there continues to be attempts to suppress

voting, especially in underserved communities. On the bright side, there are ways to fight against this, and for justice! In this month’s “Profiles in Advocacy,” as we head into the 2018 Primary Election on June 5, I wanted to highlight some of the national and local opportunities to support voting access. The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU): Founded in 1920, in response to “The Red Scare,” when the fear of Communism in the U.S. began to translate to unwarranted arrests and deportation of individuals suspected of radicalism. Since then, that small group of concerned citizens has grown into an organization

boasting more than 1.75 million members, nearly 300 staff attorneys, thousands of volunteer attorneys, and offices throughout the nation. A primary pillar of their efforts center around recent attacks on voter rights, from the 2013 decision to gut the 1965 Voting Rights Act, to the individual state responses to this opportunity to enact voting policies that create barriers for Black, elderly and disabled Americans to exercise their right to vote. (aclu.org) League of Women Voters (LWV): Around the same time of the ACLU’s formation, there was a rising movement among American women, who had just received the right to vote (nationally) with the ratification of the 19th Amendment in August 1920. This was the

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first year in which women could vote in every state and, out of the convention of the National American Woman Suffrage Association was born the LWV. Beginning as a national Chicago-based movement in the 1920s, the Depression Era of and onset of World War II impacted the League’s membership and ability to meet centrally. To counter this, the 1930s saw the formation of chapters around the country, of which there are now more than 700, with chapters in every state. Non-partisan in nature, the LWV focuses on fair voting practices, keeping a close eye on “partisan and racial gerrymandering that strips rights away from voters.“ It is worth noting that San Diego County boasts two LWV chapters, one in San Diego and one in North County. (lwv.org) Alliance San Diego: As we bring our focus local, when seeking a champion for underrepresented voters, one need look no further than Alliance San Diego. Through its Vote For San Diego initiative, created in 2014, Alliance seeks to reach voters who tend not to show up at the polls. From providing web-based information about how to register and where to vote, to canvassers who engage with neighborhoods where voter turnout is low, they advocate for greater representation in every election. In its first decade of existence (2007-2017), Alliance reached more than 95,000 voters from low-voting communities, through calls and visits. (voteforsd.org) Get Out the Vote: Voting season would not be complete, in my estimation, without the work of the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s Get Out the Vote initiative. It has a volunteer-staffed phone bank in the weeks leading up to the election, as well as

opportunities to canvass the neighborhood. For those looking for a meaningful way to engage with the LGBT and ally community, I personally recommend spending a few hours at the phone bank. There is something electric about being in the trenches with our community, and impacting the vital civic opportunity to have our voices heard! Since its most recent low point in 1996, national voter turnout has spanned between 53 and 64 percent of eligible voters and, with marginalized populations facing the most barriers, it follows that we are not seeing the diversity we cherish at the polls. Engaging in voter engagement can help counter this inequality, and I’m pretty sure you’ll find it satisfying to be a part of the process. As of this column’s release, there are still five opportunities to volunteer with Get Out the Vote at The Center (May 29, May 30, May 31, June 3, and June 4) - look for information at (thecentersd.org) or email civicengagement@ thecentersd.org. Many fought hard for these rights, and it’s easy to forget the sacrifices it took to legislate voter equality. In a world designed to keep us too busy and distracted to engage in the process, you can be a modern-day champion of voter rights, through your volunteer efforts. See you at the polls on June 5! —Ian Morton has been in San Diego for over 20 years, working in the LGBTQ and HIV fields. He is currently a full-time student and works with the San Diego Black LGBTQ Coalition and the Y.E.S. San Diego LGBTQ Youth Conference. Recommendations for individuals and groups to highlight in Profiles in Advocacy may be emails to iandanielsmusic@gmail.com.t

Mr. Miss and Ms. South Bay Pride Contest coming June 30 B’day Bash a success, with more opportunities on the way Dae Elliott South Bay Alliance Michelle’s B’day Bash was a bash! Our fundraiser for South Bay PRIDE was a hit day for all. Wonderful local bands stepped up to give amazing performances while we ate, drank and were certainly merry. Thank you, Michelle, Regina Styles, Veronica May, Ingenue, Network, Girl in the Middle, The Real Fake News, Social Animal, Jesse May, Karina Frost, and the Banduvloons for coming out and making it so wonderful. A special thank you to Otis Merry and Michael Williamson who generously donated money and time (and a trailer!) for the day before and the “day of” equipment needed to pull this off. Also, a shout out to all of you who helped out — it was

great to see it all come together! We raised more than $1,000 towards SBPRIDE2018. It was such a success that Michelle volunteered to have another event in early August. I will keep you posted! Our next fundraiser is the Mr. Ms. & Miss Contest on June 30 at OnStage Playhouse on Third Avenue in Chula Vista. Doors open at 6 p.m. The contest starts at 7 p.m. Seating is limited and will go on sale for $10 on June 1. Regina Styles is putting this together along with special performances by Angel Fairfax, Miss Gay Pride 2012, Sienna Desire, Miss South Bay Pride 2017, and Kickxy Vixen Styles, Miss Gay Pride 2015. If you are a South Bay resident or work in the area and want to compete, please check out our website SouthBayPride.org for the application. Winners

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THEATER / COMMUNITY VOICES

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Rapping musical tackles urban issues “Wind in the Breeze” is a fresh musical for this generation

Theater Review Jean Lowerison The concrete bridge over the Rock River may be broken, seldom used or no longer open to the public, but it appears to be Sam’s favorite hangout. He especially likes to be there on July 4, when it makes a great viewing spot for Rockford, Illinois’ fireworks. He sits in a lawn chair on the bridge, listening to music on headphones. Sam (Terrell Donnell Sledge), urban poet and philosopher, can invent a mean rap rhyme on the spot, but seems to have retired from chasing fame in the music world, despite the fact that friends describe him as “the best emcee around.” Rob Lutfy directs Cygnet Theatre’s world premiere of Nathan Alan Davis’ “The Wind and the Breeze” through June 10. It’s on this bridge that Sam meets his friends, musical and otherwise. First up this day is 40-something no-nonsense cop Ronda (played with relish by Monique Gaffney), acerbic of tongue and short of patience, who depends on Sam for her supply of Virginia Slims. The rest of Sam’s friends are African American rappers like him, but a decade younger

Sam (Terrell Donnell Sledge) meets his friends on the bridge to discuss his future as a rapper (Photos courtesy of Carli Cadel/Cygnet Theater) and still hanging tenaciously onto that dream of recording fame. Shantell (Demetrius Clayton) seems to be more driven than the others. When he’s not working the grill table at McDonalds, he’s angling for recording time in Atlanta. Tea (Cortez L. Johnson) is extremely casual of appearance (in fact, his jeans seem about to depart the scene the whole time) and not much of a rapper (“You suck” is the way Sam puts it), but he makes up in enthusiasm what he lacks in talent. Nia (Chaz Shermil) is young, pregnant and ready for anything, especially if it involves music. Ana (Nadia Guevara) is a beautiful woman and a fine

Ingenue performs at Michelle’s B’day Bash, a fundraiser for South Bay Pride 2018 (Photo by Dae Elliott) FROM PAGE 8

SOUTH BAY will represent South Bay Pride throughout the year at our events and also Miss South Bay Pride gets to perform during the last set on the Port of San Diego Stage during SBPRIDE2018. Rupaul's Drag Show Ongina — with SD DIVAS, Kickxy Vixen Styles, Dayamis Styles, Vanity Jones, Lolita Von Tease and Landa Plenty — will also be performing. Finally, just a peak at our headliners for the Port Stage this year. As I already gave away, we have Ongina from Rupaul’s Drag Show along with the SD DIVAS, but we also have — wait for it — Danielle LoPresti and the Hot Masses. I know many have missed them since Danielle and her wife, Alicia Champion, moved up north. Now is your chance

to hear Danielle’s amazing voice again! Don’t miss it. Tomas Serrano said we also have a great headliner for the Electronica Stage but is keeping it on the QT for a bit. Once again, we are getting very excited about our South Bay PRIDE on Sept. 8. It will be our 11th annual event! Where has all the time gone? Remember, South Bay PRIDE is a volunteer produced community PRIDE that is free and on the beautiful bay. If you can, visit our site to donate and be a part of making a difference. Connect with us to keep posted on all the events: SouthBayPride.org, facebook. com/SouthBayPride or twitter. com/SouthBayPride. —Dae Elliott is a founding executive committee member and the current executive director of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit and organizer of the annual South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival. Contact her at southbayalliance@gmail.com.t

singer. She really hopes to make a living in music and is ready for a new start. The cast is uniformly excellent. Sledge, as the central character Sam, is engaging and also does most of the heavy lifting. Also impressive is local favorite Monique Gaffney’s no-nonsense cop Ronda. The other characters are a bit like satellites that revolve around Sam. Buyer beware: “The Wind and the Breeze” is not for all audiences. The playwright has said upfront that while he frequently writes plays that tackle issues, this is not one of them. “Wind” leaves out a lot of backstory about these folks and doesn’t even pretend to give us a traditional plot. No sudden

reveals here; no wrapping up the play with a nice bow. “Wind in the Breeze” is more a meditation on how and when to content yourself with what you are and have. (I might have tossed in this quote attributed to Abraham Lincoln: “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”) Sean Fanning’s set design of the bridge with overhanging trees and a cityscape in the background works well. Shirley Pierson’s costumes, R. Craig Wolf’s lighting and Steven Leffue’s sound design are unobtrusive, as they should be. If you are like me, with ears not attuned to the sound and rhythms of rap, you may be bewildered by this play, even missing many of the words. But

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‘The Wind and the Breeze’ Plays through June 20 Cygnet Theatre 4040 Twiggs St. Old Town Wednesday and Thursday at 7:30 p.m. Friday at 8 p.m. Saturday at 3 and 8 p.m. Sunday at 2 and 7 p.m. Tickets: 619-337-1525 cygnettheatre.com if you’re ready for something completely different, you might want to give “The Wind and the Breeze” a whirl. —Jean Lowerison is a long-standing member of the San Diego Theatre Critics Circle and can be reached at infodame@cox.net.t

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DINING

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Bacon and booze galore The Brew Project rolls out a new brunch menu

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. It isn’t everyday hubby and I arrive somewhere for weekend brunch with a bottle of champagne waiting for us on ice. Such was the case on a recent Sunday when my sisterin-law and her wife suggested we join them to check out The Brew Project’s new weekend brunch menu. Both are club members of Brew Project’s bar program, and the ownership had invited them to patronize the brunch and review it online in exchange for a free bottle of Wycliff Brut champagne. Without any arm twisting, we were in. A gay ole brunch it was as we crafted mimosas at the table and passed around a kicky old fashioned that hubby ordered. The sweetish cocktail is made with bacon-infused bourbon and maple syrup. Since we hadn’t ordered our food yet, the curly slice of bacon garnishing the drink cruelly taunted our empty stomachs. Bacon in one form or another appears profusely across the brunch menu. You’ll find it in a number of other cocktails, including “breakfast shots,” plus various burritos, egg dishes, burgers, smothered French fries, and waffles. If you

suspect this persistent culinary trend is here to stay, you’re probably right. Even the re-fried beans included with my chilaquiles verde hid little bits of bacon throughout — and I’m guessing their unctuous drippings ended up in there too, given the beans’ terrific flavor and divine creaminess. Set in a converted Craftsman house, The Brew Project is a multi-level shrine to San Diego’s ever-growing number of breweries. The rotating beer selection is dispensed from 20-plus taps that will quench your palate with new, local discoveries. It’s also a hangout for Seattle Seahawks fans, per one of the owner’s Washington State roots. Fortunately, for this non-sports fan the place has never felt to me like a hardcore jock bar. It is first and foremost a neighborhood gathering spot flaunting cool aesthetics and a prime Hillcrest location. A sign out front states: “Please seat yourself.” (A sign in the restroom says the same.) We sat on the front patio, which features some of the comfiest nap-inducing banquettes in town, should you be lucky enough to seize one. Whimsical humor extends to the names of a few menu items as well. “Pepp in your step” and “Lindsey Lohan” are titles for

The Brew Project 3683 Fifth Ave. (Hillcrest) 619-795-7890 Weekend brunch: Sandwiches, burgers and burritos $10 to $14 egg dishes and house specialties $10 to $15 share plates, waffles and French toast $9 to $16 bloody marys, while “morning would” describes a stimulating breakfast of scrambled eggs, candied bacon, cheddar cheese and chipotle aioli on toasted brioche. The girls ordered the “project Benedict” and chicken and waffles. Hubs opted for the piggy scramble, and I reveled in the snappy tomatillo sauce infusing crisp tortilla chips on my chilaqauiles plate, which came with the fat-laced beans and tender, perfectly seasoned golden potatoes. My fork roamed the table. The braised pulled pork tucked into the project Benedict was tasty and juicy. And the

The Brew Project resides in a refurbished circa-1902 house (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Hollandaise sauce draping the eggs offered a bright lemon flavor, although the promise of ale in the recipe wasn’t detectable. The battered chicken tenders set between airy Belgian waffles on that plate seemed scant to me, although my sister-inlaw felt it was enough. We both loved the spices lurking in the batter — garlic, paprika, maybe curry, and “a whole bunch of other things,” according to our cheerful waitress. Hubby’s piggy scramble contained an oink fest of chopped bacon, breakfast sausage, and house-made carnitas mingling with eggs and mozzarella. In terms of calories and protein, it rivals everything else on the menu, including the hangover burrito and the Dicky’s grilled cheese, both of which also

contain bacon, sausage and cheese, but minus the carnitas. What we ate was hearty and well-executed, not the slapdash morning fare that trendier joints overload with potatoes and herbal garnishes. Best of all, we didn’t encounter a line. Granted, we had a reservation. But customers who didn’t breezed right in and wasted no time ordering from Brew Project’s invigorating beer and cocktail list. It appeared booze was flowing more than coffee. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.rr.com.t

The “Project Benedict” with bacon and pulled pork Chicken and waffles

Chilaquiles verde with re-fried beans and roasted potatoes

A maple-bacon old fashioned


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The Air Conditioned Lounge’s new “glampishere” (Courtesy of Alternative Strategies)

What the heck is a glampisphere, you ask? The answer lies in North Park’s Air Conditioned Lounge, which opened a groovy, outdoor space tailored for private events and business meetings. It features an elevated bar, retro-style tables and chairs, and

Fans of old-school Chinese restaurants have been heading to La Mesa since the recent reopening Wong’s Golden Palace and its adjoining bar, The Dragon Room. The restaurant, which opened in 1966 by Chinese immigrants Stanley and Helen Wong, closed in August because of a kitchen fire. The couple’s son, Jeff, who now runs the establishment, said damage was confined mainly to the structure’s electrical and plumbing systems. The dining room and its original, ornate artwork were spared and remain intact. In an effort to attract a new generation of customers, a variety of sushi rolls will soon nudge their way onto a menu that is otherwise frozen in time. It features ChineseAmerican classics such as egg foo young, chop suey, orange chicken, walnut shrimp and

a soothing waterfall. Situated on the building’s back patio, the glampishere was created expressly to “ignite creativity and spark conversation among guests,” according to Air Condition’s public relations team. 4673 30th St., 619-5356007, glampisphere.space.

The Googie-style structure in Hillcrest that last housed Bull & Grain — and numerous other food and drink concepts before that — is springing back to life in preparation for a late-June opening of Ad Libitum. Los Angeles transplant and co-owner Mike Kan told Gay San Diego that the restaurant will have a contemporary feel and feature bourbon that is barrel-aged onsite. The space is undergoing minor cosmetic touch ups and the menu is still in the works. Ad Libitum is a Latin, musical term for performers who decide which notes and tempos they will play. Kan is a classical-music buff and likes the term because of his disdain for labels and definitions. Thus, he hesitantly described the restaurant’s bill of fare as “California cuisine,” preferring to not put it into any particular context. Executive chef Irene Yoon will helm the kitchen. She is a graduate of Le Cordon Bleu with double degrees in French cuisine and baking, and she spent the last few years working for restaurants in Bali and Seoul. Kan’s business partners include Peter Shih, also a Le Cordon Bleu alum, and Jay Kang, a restaurateur who has opened hospitality ventures in Southern California, Las Vegas, The Bay Area, and the East Coast. The cocktail program will spotlight house-made syrups and locally sourced ingredients. 1263 University Ave.

Cocktails are served in vintage mugs and bowls at an iconic Chinese restaurant that reopened in La Mesa. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) more. Complementing the food are various cocktails still served in kitschy drink vessels ranging from Buddhas

Crispy egg rolls and other popular savories are in the offing at the latest incarnation of Thai Joint. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

and angels to tiki barrels and moat-shaped punch bowls. 7126 University Ave., La Mesa, 619-465-9222.

The original Thai Joint in Normal Heights, which closed several years ago to make way for Heights Tavern, has reopened in a nearby address at 3456 Adams Ave. The new rendition is also quaint and returns with a focused menu of favorites such as e-sarn sausage spiked with ginger; Thai meatball skewers; rice and noodle dishes; the colored curries; and more. Owner Patty Thongchua also owns Plumeria and Chi Extraordinary Kitchen in University Heights, and The Asian Bistro in Hillcrest. 619564-6659, thai-joint.com.

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Members of St. Spyridon Greek Orthodox Church are gearing up for their annual Greek festival. (Courtesy of St. Spyridon Greek Orthodox Church) Expect an abundance of spanokopita, pastitsio, mousaka and other Greek fare at the 49th annual San Diego Greek Festival, to be held June 8–10 at St. Spyridon Greek Orthodox Church in North Park. The three-day event features an “Opa!” beer garden serving Greek and domestic brews as well as ouzo; a wine lounge called The Oracle; and a main dining area where visitors can savor everything from Greek-style chicken and cheese-stuffed phyllo triangles to stuffed grape leaves and traditional green beans in tomato sauce.

An outdoor food area will feature legs of lamb, gyros, pork and beef souvlaki, flaming Greek cheese (saganaki), and more. All food items will be sold a la carte. New to operation is a system that allows consumers to pre-order baklava and koulourakia cookies for pickup. Festival hours are 5–10 p.m. on June 8; 11 a.m.–10 p.m. on June 9; and 11 a.m.–8 p.m. on June 10. Admission is free on the first day, and $3 for each of the remaining days. 3655 Park Blvd., 619-297-4165, sdgreekfestival.com.

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HOT RODEO The many volunteers within the ring, the chutes and around the arena, all helped push the rodeo adrenaline to the max. Additionally, wild drag racing (mount a steer in drag, then get pushed across the line), steer decorating (tie a ribbon to the tail of a steer) and goat dressing (put a pair of underwear on a goat) made for a gay ole’ time at the rodeo. This was a weekend of celebration throughout the Palm Springs area, which featured a pool party, dancing under the stars, and a kick off concert on Friday night. Headliner Brandon Stansell, gay country singer/songwriter, brought in nearly 600 people to listen to him croon his original songs at the Toolshed. Stansell also

The Wild Drag Race is one of the gay rodeo’s camp competition. A team of three have to get one dressed in drag on the steer, then push the steer across the line. (Photos by Albert H. Fulcher) sang during the Grand Entry on Saturday as the riderless horse, one of rodeo’s oldest traditions, took the arena in remembrance of all whom we have lost and could not be present.

Shyla Finan from Cherry Valley, California competes in the first day of Barrel Racing on May 12.

Palm Springs Chapter Rodeo Director Buck Beal said the entire rodeo went very well. Per IGRA regulations, 30 minutes after the close of the rodeo at the trustee meeting, everyone involved in producing the event participated in the rodeo review. For the second year in a row, the Palm Springs Rodeo received nearly a perfect score in all categories of animal and human safety, crowd control, and other areas that could cause penalties or fines. Beal said the rodeo had a total of 73 contestants, 26 of whom were women. “The women are some of our best competitors,” he said. “They especially excel in barrel racing, which is not that rare, but also in bull riding.”

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Christopher Michael Lefebre, aka Sketchalina Jones, gives a powerful performance telling the story of the plight of homeless LGBT youth at the Un-Masquerade Ball at Sunset Temple on May 19. (Photo by Albert H. Fulcher)

Behind the mask Un-Masquerade Ball breaks down personal barriers Albert H. Fulcher | Editor Masquerade masks filled the room at Sunset Temple in North Park on May 19 as attendees at San Diego’s first UnMasquerade Ball enjoyed an evening show of burlesque, boylesque and performances from Christopher Michael Lefebre, aka Sketchalina Jones. Though the Un-Masquerade Ball is a signature event for Lefebre, this was the first year it was held in San Diego. One of the ideas that Lefebre wanted to bring to San Diego is acceptance of who you are and those people around you. The premise of the Un-Masquerade Ball is simple. Come to the ball in extreme incognito attire. Network with people without exposing your identity. And then, through the course of the evening, take your mask off. This is where Lefebre’s message comes out loud and clear. Meet people without judgement and identify with them personally before seeing the people behind the masks. “I wanted people to talk to each other without seeing who they really were or what they looked like. After the mask came off, you might realize that you made a friend with someone that you might have never talked to before, just because of their looks,” Lefebre said. Lefebre found himself homeless as a young teenager in the streets of Los Angeles after coming out as gay to his parents. This led to him into the plight of many LGBT homeless youth in a world of drugs, hustling and doing whatever it takes to survive on the streets alone. This eventually led to Lefebre attempting suicide. But while at his lowest point in his life, Lefebre decided he wanted to live and serve the many individuals like him. On any given night, 2.5 million young people are living on the streets, with 40 percent of them identifying as LGBT.

AIDS/Life Cycle has become a passion for Lefebre. This is a seven day, 545-mile bike ride from San Francisco to Los Angeles. This ride benefits many LGBT homeless youths in San Francisco and Los Angeles. Aside from participating in the ride, Lefebre has found other ways to fundraise for this event, such as the UnMasquerade Ball, which serves more than one purpose. The evening was filled with entertainment, with Sketchalina Jones headlining the show. She delivered poignant performances through song and monologue. Most striking for the evening was a number that started with Sketchalina on stage in a straightjacket as a video played of a young youth being kicked out to the streets by his parents for being gay — the story of Lefebre’s early life. As she made her way out of the jacket, she began performing singer Jessie J’s “Big White Room.” Lefebre said that the reason for the Un-Masquerade Ball is to show that we all live behind masks and that these personal barriers need to be broken down. “Everyone wears a mask. People feel uncomfortable in their skin,” Lefebre said. “Wearing a mask is so exhausting. I had to wear many masks when I was homeless just to survive. But that is the point of the Un-masquerade Ball. To get to know people behind the mask and then after the unveiling of the mask, get to see the people that they had been mingling with them all night.” Lefebre is HIV+ and also wants to break down the stigmas that are still prevelant, even if it is one person at a time. He said there is a new generation that doesn’t understand the complications of living with HIV/AIDS due to the advance of HIV medications.

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Saturday, May 26

‘Native Gardens’ – The West Coast premiere of “Native Gardens” at The Old Globe. Written by Karen Zacarias and directed by Edward Torres, this hilarious comedy follows a young power couple who run amiss when they buy their American dream home in a historic neighborhood, but soon find that their neighbors bring about a culture clash that

spirals into outright war. Running through June 24 at The Old Globe, 1363 Old Globe Way, Balboa Park. bit.ly/2rSuRCJ

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Showstopper Sunday – An evening filled with all of today’s mega-hit songs paired with fabulous divas and hosted by Jasmine Maters from RuPaul’s Drag Race. Seating starts at 7 p.m. $5 cover plus $15 food minimum per person. Lips, 3036 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. bit.ly/2KxhyiE Soul Train PAR-TY – A ’70s outfit contest, line dancing, food, Jell-O shots, raff les and a shot will be featured at The Imperial Court de San Diego’s event, benefiting The Harvey Milk/ Nicole Murray Ramirez Scholarship. For more information contact Emperor Mark Newsome at 619665-5587 or Empress Barbie Z at 619-8229343. The Merrow, 1271 University Ave.

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P!NK – Valley View Casino Center is hosting P!NK Beautiful World Tour. Tickets range from $47–$233 based on seating. Doors open at 6 p.m. at 3500 Sports Arena Blvd. bit.ly/2rKGbS1

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Heir Gloom at Soda Bar – Alternative trio performs with New Speak and Dragon Dragon. $6. 21 and up. 8:30 p.m. at Soda Bar. 3615 El Cajon Blvd. bit.ly/2Kr6l3i

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North Park Farmers Market – Shop more than 90 tents of locally grown produce, artisan grocery items, prepared foods and hand-crafted goods. 3–7:30 p.m. at 3000 North Park Way, stretching from 31st Street to Utah Street, North Park. bit.ly/2H9AItc

Saturday, June 2

SCPA’s 2nd Annual Drag Race – A competition between San Diego high school students showing off their talents for a celebratory evening of self-expression. All proceeds benefit LGBTQ+ youth in the community and School of Creative Performing Art’s Gay Straight Alliance. Tickets will be sold at the door on the day of the event. 3–5 p.m. at Lincoln High School, 4777 Imperial Ave. Preorder admission: $11.42. bit.ly/2KAFYId Stepping Under the Sea Party – Stepping Under the Sea Party benefits Stepping Stone, an organization dedicated to helping individuals who want to be treated for alcohol and other drug problems. This event will have live entertainment, a cake walk, silent auction, food and a DJ. 6–10 p.m. University Christian Church, 3900 Cleveland Ave. bit.ly/2ItDQBh

Sunday, June 3

Hillcrest Farmers Market – About 175 vendors offer a variety of locally grown fruit, produce, gifts, arts and crafts, flowers, and more. 9 a.m.–2 p.m. on Normal Street between University and Lincoln avenues. bit.ly/2FC4slg Bowl for Life 2018 – Vida presents Bowl for Life 2018 from 1–3 p.m. The event will feature a tribute to Carmen Miranda hosted by Glitz Glam, raffle prizes and Musica Latina. Proceeds will benefit the GLTBQ Latino Youth Scholarship Program. $30 donation per person. The event will be held at Kearny Mesa Bowl, 7585 Clairemont Mesa Blvd. bit.ly/2GsLM3L

music, art and a sunset dinner to reach its $100,000 goal to keep the Center’s doors open. Early bird tickets are $125. Sponsorships begin at $1500. The Center is also looking for donations for its auction. 2–8 p.m. at the Leichtag Foundation, 444 Saxony Road. Encinitas. bit.ly/2GtbcOL

Monday, June 4

Positive Resilience – Dr. Neva Chauppette leads a discussion about being a resilient warrior while facing your diagnosis, AIDS Survivor’s Syndrome, and where to go from there. Held at the LGBT Center auditorium, 3909 Centre St.

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Scarlett Deville entertains the crowd with classic burlesque at the UnMasquerade Ball (Photo by Albert H. Fulcher) of $10,000 for this year’s ride. Lefebre said one of the great aspects about moving the fundraiser to San Diego is learning about the The Center San Diego’s Sunburst Youth Housing Project. He hopes to come back with this event next year and partner with The

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great orgasms are all that count. Very few porn videos show more than genitals in charge — the heart and mind have been left behind. While our libido/sex drive is a powerful force, we don’t need to let it run our lives. Just because we can have lots of sex, will it bring us satisfaction? When we’re conscious about the role our heart, mind and genitals play in our sex life, we can maintain a good balance of the three. Sure, some days the balance may be a bit skewed, but overall, the best sexual experiences are those where your mind is attracted to someone, your heart feels a good connection, and your genitals get just the right amount of attention too. Hooray for The Three Musketeers! —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.t

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HOT RODEO Beal said that animal welfare is important to him as well as others who compete in rodeo. “We’ve all seen those horrendous videos on TV and elsewhere and they really look like they are taken at slaughter houses under horrible conditions,” Beal said. “In rodeo, needless to say, none of us would ever tolerate these conditions.” Many people in rodeo are ranchers and farmers, owning animals themselves, including large stock like horses, steers, and bulls. Often, rodeo events are practical

tasks that are done on a daily basis on any ranch or farm. Beal said harming these animals used in rodeo is unreasonable and the IGRA has strict regulations regarding their housing, feeding and use in the rodeo itself. “We also keep on site, from start to end, a veterinarian, and an assistant just in case the slightest thing happens to an animal, the vet can intercede instantaneously to ensure the safety and well-being of our animals,” Beal said. “As well as our humans.” Jeff Shooter recently relocated to Palm Springs after living in San Diego for 28 years. He said he did not participate in the San Diego Gay Rodeo but was a spectator at

all of its events. This year, he decided to volunteer for the Hot Rodeo. “I thought it was a lot of fun,” Shooter said. “I love small town rodeos. It reminds me of the ones I grew up going to in northern California. This was up close and personal. Being a volunteer, I saw how great it is behind the scenes and how wonderful the staff and volunteers are.” For more information about the International Gay Rodeo Association, visit igra. com. To find out more about the Palm Spring Hot Rodeo, visit psrodeo.org.

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