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AIDS Memorial site plan draws scrutiny


Ken Williams | Contributing Editor

Amy and Goldie get snatched

w DINING Time to THRIVE: (l to r) Noel Augustus; San Diego’s own Vinnie Pompei, the director of the event; and CNN commentator and New York Times Op-Ed columnist Charles M. Blow at the April gathering that focuses on the support of LGBT K-12 children. (Photo by David Goodman Photography)

Thriving in San Diego and beyond By Morgan M. Hurley Two local LGBT activists, Dr. Vincent “Vinnie” Pompei and Clarione Gutierrez, work every day to make a difference within the local and the greater LGBT community. Both men work for the Human Rights Campaign (HRC); Pompei is a full-time employee of the HRC Foundation who serves as director of the organization’s annual Time to THRIVE event. Gutierrez works for HRC San Diego, in a volunteer capacity, as a steering committee member who produces the group’s annual gala in August.

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The two San Diegans went to Washington, D.C. in March to participate in spring lobby day — an annual day where members of Congress allocate time to meet with representatives from various organizations. HRC brought a large group from across the country and Pompei and Gutierrez were with the California contingent. “It gives us the chance to be vocal about the issues and put them on the forefront for them,” Gutierrez said. “A lot of them said ‘tell me how this directly impacts you, so that we can share your stories and bring other people along,’” Pompei said.

Gutierrez added that Sen. Kamala Harris’ staff decided to bring her speechwriter to the meeting so they could document their stories to give her talking points in the future. The lobby day was held in conjunction with HRC’s annual Equality Convention, which also took place in the nation’s Capitol. “I would say there were 450 steering committee members and other volunteers from around the country that convened for the Equality Convention,” Pompei said. Of those, 200 participated in lobby day, Gutierrez said,

see THRIVE, pg 18

Airport ‘transcends’ race and age with dance


By Margie M. Palmer

Artists show their Pride

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The San Diego International Airport’s Performing Arts Residency Program continues to thrive. Founded in 2016, goal of the program is to enrich the airport environment while helping to cultivate the performing arts community. And while the inaugural year featured the acrobatic and theatrical skills of Fern Street Circus, the airport’s choice for year’s resident group, the transcenDANCE Youth Arts Project, hopes to bring an inspired, youthful kaleidoscope to the venue. Group co-founder and creative and executive director Cat Corral said she was excited about pursuing the residency from the moment she heard about it, especially since transcenDANCE’s mission is to empower youth to mobilize social change through dance and performance. “I felt we were perfect for this and that we needed to go for it,” she said. “We have an innovative approach because we’re interested in breaking down barriers and connecting

More than a century behind schedule, the Olive Street Park long sought on a small lot overlooking Maple Canyon in Bankers Hill has finally made it to the drawing board — but not without attracting controversy then and now. The lot, measuring 80 feet by 120 feet, was donated to the city in 1909 by the Ford, McKee and Woods families, with the deed stipulating: “forever for use as a public park.” Except the proposed pocket park has yet to be built, much to the dismay of descendants of the three families as well as Bankers Hill residents. In the 10 decades that have passed since the lot’s donation, the property has been mostly used by a neighboring business as a parking lot — apparently with the city’s blessing — and has a driveway with a small roundabout next to the canyon. Today, the site is fenced off and the driveway is barricaded. Back in 2004, the Uptown Planners noticed that the city had listed the lot as surplus property and set off warning flares to prevent the sale of a lot designated for parkland, which is scarce in Uptown outside of Balboa Park. Last year, Todd Gloria — in his final year as the District 3 Councilmember and before his election to the state Assembly — spearheaded an effort to get the park built by suggesting that a proposed AIDS memorial — which would be a place for reflection and remembrance of the 8,000 San Diegans who have died from the disease — could be located on the site so that enough funding could be rounded up and the project could move forward.

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transcenDANCE Youth Arts Project at their first of eight planned performances at Terminal 2’s baggage claim, as the San Diego International Airport’s Performing Arts Residency Program for 2017 (Courtesy SDIA) authentically with our audience through different styles of dance, spoken word and music. “I felt we could bring a breath of fresh air, a youthful voice and diversity of content

and style,” Corral continued. “We were excited the selection panel was receptive to having a younger dance company

see transcends, pg 16

A public meeting on the proposed Olive Street Park was held by the Public Facilities Subcommittee of the Uptown Planners on April 20 in the Guild Room at St. Paul’s Cathedral. About 70 people showed up to watch and participate in a presentation by KTU+A, a landscape architecture firm in Hillcrest that is taking public input on what the pocket park should look

see Memorial, pg 19


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Review: My personal Farmer’s Fix Morgan M. Hurley | Editor A few weeks ago, we ran a story titled, “Farmer’s Fix: Healthy eating made easy,” [Vol. 8, Issue 8, April 24 or online at]. The company was launched by two local men, Tawei David Lin and Doug Murphy, who wanted to create an alternative to “the fastest and easiest thing” most of us seem to grab, usually on the go, for lunch during our work days. The result, Farmer’s Fix, is an on-demand, high quality salad delivery service, with free delivery on orders of $50 or more. Orders costing less than this will have a $6 delivery charge, which Murphy easily justified. “Amazon has tricked us into thinking this isn’t an expense, but we actually spend more making a delivery than we do making a salad,” he said. “And this is huge — because when you’re sitting at your desk and you’re late for a meeting, you’re not going to drive to the store with the best healthy food and wait in line.” With my chained-to-a-desk schedule, and at the invitation of Lin and Murphy, I decided to give Farmer’s Fix a try on their dime. My first step was to go to their website, myfarmersfix. com, and set up my account. I spent an inordinate amount of time reviewing all the salad options, intrigued by the variety of choices and their many

ingredients, most of which, you pistachios, peanuts, sunflower can’t find at even the best salseeds, quinoa, couscous, farro ad bar. and “forbidden rice.” Forbidden I was impressed by the rice is an ancient grain that is presentation of the website, esblack in color and has expandpecially for a startup. It is intu- ed health benefits over other itive, user-friendly and both the rice varieties. I had to ask Murphy about images and the graphics are of all these ingredients, in comthe highest quality; this first parison to salads you can impression told me these guys purchase elsewhere and bring were serious about providing to work on your own. He said the best product possible at evpistachios “cost about the same ery level. per pound as filet mignon” but Once you create a login and they still use them — as well decide upon your salads for the as the very pricey forbidden following week — orders must rice — because they are better be placed by Wednesday for both in taste and nutrition. Sunday delivery — they will I tried as many of the choicarrive in a special cooler-style es as possible, though I did not tote bag with a freezer cold ever add on a protein — chickpack inside. You can just toss en, tofu or eggs — which are this whole bag full of salads into your refrigerator. I ordered now all available. I don’t have any allergies to food, but for enough to get me through the those that do, the website is whole week. very detailed regarding these Since two-thirds of their client base have them delivered issues and you are free to specify anything you wish to to their homes, their typical keep out of your salads. Even delivery occurs on Sundays, without the additional probetween 2–4 p.m., so if you are teins, however, the proteins are planning to eat them at work packed in, with generally 10 to and your office is not open on the weekends, you’ll want to re- 20 grams. When it came to freshness, quest a Monday delivery. While which for salads delivered up those will generally arrive by to five or six days in advance noon, as with anything, some things are beyond their control. could be an issue, I found it to be top-notch quality across Murphy said many clients have the board. The website refers them delivered to their homes to their “plastic” container on Sunday and just bring them to work or split them up for side — made of vegetables and fully compostable — and their pressalads at dinner. ervation process, as a “relentWhat I loved most about less focus on eliminating any these salads was the infusion moisture.” I can vouch for that, of different legumes, nuts and grains: lentils, almonds, pecans, as the tomatoes in the Pearl

(l to r) Lin and Murphy goof around with a selection of their gourmet salads. (Courtesy Farmer’s Fix)

Couscous still literally popped in my mouth on day four and the spinach in the Field and Garden was still “incredibly fresh” as my notes stated, on the fifth day of a second week. If a salad were to arrive in a subpar state, Murphy assured me his focus on long-term relationships with their clients ensures their customer service is taken seriously. And while some may recoil at the $10 starter price, these salads are fresh, hearty healthy, huge, and they are delivered to your door. In addition, Murphy and Lin really put a great deal of thought into their ingredients and I asked about that, too.

“Iceberg is water and fiber, no nutrients,” Murphy said, describing a typical salad staple. “Spinach is probably the best way to get magnesium in your diet, and it’s packed with vitamins A–D, folate, iron, potassium ... so many good things. “There is more to a good diet than restricting calories and avoiding bad stuff, although you should do those things,” he continued. “You also need to get a balance of nutrients, with maximum bioavailability — in a way that your body actually absorbs them, instead of just excreting them. We think about these things.”

see Farmer’s Fix, pg 18


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Gay for Goldie Hawn and Amy Schumer “Snatched” co-stars talk longtime LGBT support, doing a gay cult film together and how ‘love knows no gender’ Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate “We’re serious bitches too,” said Amy Schumer, nearly in tears. The comic firecracker is seated next to national gayloved treasure Goldie Hawn, and the screen icon has just made a touching revelation: She used to comfort men dying of AIDS. Perhaps that isn’t the kind of heartwarming reveal you’d expect during a sit-down for their action-comedy, “Snatched,” but as this onscreen mom-daughter duo joke about a potential gay-themed sequel (the ladies already have several queer-centric working titles; for Schumer, the joke writes itself), it’s clear nothing is off topic. They’re just happy to be here speaking to gay press, which has Schumer “very elated.” “This will be our favorite interview of the day,” the 35-yearold raves from a hotel bungalow in Santa Monica. Beaming, Hawn shared her own enthusiasm: “It will be!” “Snatched” is Hawn’s first movie since 2002’s “The Banger Sisters.” But donning a signature frilly, shoulder-less, royal blue dress, it seems like just yesterday that the 71-yearold’s frothy charm enraptured gay audiences beginning with “Laugh-In” in the late ’60s. “It’s fun doing press with her,” Schumer said, as Hawn, en route, recharged at the hotel’s nearby buffet line before breezing in. “It’s also relaxing, because she’s like a mom.” Before being snatched up for their next interview, Hawn and Schumer got real about their respective gay followings, how Schumer still has time to pursue a lesbian relationship and their commitment to “fight to the death” for LGBT people. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) Why has it been important to you both to advocate for the LGBT community, especially now, in this political climate? (Amy Schumer | AS) I can’t remember a time I didn’t.

When I was in high school, people weren’t really out yet. I think it’s more now. It was a different time even then, but it was never a question. It was never a choice. It was, “Yeah, of course.” (Goldie Hawn | GH) Being an ally for LGBT people and an ally for all people — transgender or whatever — to me, that’s a human story. I feel there are injustices in the world that I’ll stand up for, and I think that it’s important to realize that the world is filled with these kinds of issues. We’re dealing with intolerance and what’s going on with deportation and what’s happening with Mexicans and what’s happening with people who are Muslim. There are so many things, and if you can’t stand up for it, then you’re not standing up for humankind. Because that’s who we are. We all have skin and blood, and we’re all made of the same things. I have a note that I will probably needlepoint one day: “Love knows no gender.” And it doesn’t. Love is something in the heart and in the mind, so why would you chastise anyone for that? And this is something that I feel very strongly about. (AS) Also, we’re both people who will stand up to the death for our gay friends and gay people and what’s going on in Chechnya and the fear of what will happen in the coming years. We’ll be there to fight alongside our gay friends. (GH) You know what I used to do? This is interesting. When we went through the AIDS period, it was a very scary time, and I would go visit guys and I’d get in bed with them just to be there with them. (AS) Come on, think about that. (GH) Oh, I just remember. (AS) Aw, Goldie. And great – now we’re all crying. (CA) Amy, on behalf of gays everywhere, thank you for being instrumental in bringing Goldie back to the big screen.

(GH) Awwww! (AS) You’re welcome! (GH) Oh my god, so sweet. (CA) You were missed, Goldie. (AS) Dude, yeah. I completely agree, and I feel the same way. I just stayed on her, and we did it together. (GH) You were the one, I gotta tell you. It really was Amy. (CA) When in your career did you two first know you had a big gay following? (GH) Gosh, honey, this is a long time ago. I think when I first came on — it started then. The early days. There wasn’t a moment in my career, never a moment. I was a dancer, and I grew up and that’s who I was. There was no issue. I mean, I had a tremendous amount of gay friends, so my whole life was basically like that while dancing. So, I never noticed who was gay or who was straight. For me, it was like that. Now, later on, you started seeing more, maybe excitement, around it. But I’ll tell you, I don’t pay much attention. You can’t pay too much attention to those things and live a full life. It can’t be just about that. So, I don’t pay a lot of attention to things. I have a little bit of blinders on. (AS) I’ve been on the road for 15 years. What I would do after shows is go dance at gay bars, and I started noticing, because even the worst towns have a fun gay bar, people being like, “We were at the show.” I remember it was a realization for me going on the road. And I’ve had a bunch of gay couples say, “I wanna propose at your show,” and I get really psyched! Ha! You’re like, “Yes!” Not because, “Oh, good, that’s a market,” it’s like, that’s who you want to love you. I feel really grateful and lucky, and the love is mutual.

see Interview, pg 17

(l to r) Goldie Hawn, Amy Schumer and Tom Bateman in the upcoming action / comedy, “Snatched.” (Photo by Justina Mintz)

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Remembering Orlando Out of the Archives Archives Staff June 12, 2016 is a date that will be burned forever into the collective memory of our community. In the early morning hours of that day, 49 of our siblings were senselessly murdered in a horrific act of hate at the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Florida. Our community was shaken to its core; in the midst of nearing Pride celebrations, we were reminded that violence can and does sometimes enter our sacred spaces. The global reaction of support was swift and overwhelming. Vigils quickly grew in major cities across the world, with allies condemning the act and honoring those who were lost. News sources focused on remembering the victims, telling their stories, and saying their names. San Diego came out en masse to show our solidarity with Orlando. On that Sunday evening, there was an impromptu candlelight vigil and gathering at the base of the Hillcrest Pride Flag monument, with hundreds in attendance. The next day, on Monday, June 13, the San Diego LGBT Community Center organized a formal candlelight vigil, also at the base of the Hillcrest Pride Flag, followed by a march to Rich’s Nightclub, two city

blocks away. Thousands of our community members attended — some carried signs, others embraced. Some exclaimed loud support for the many moving speeches, and others found solace in silence. Almost everyone lit candles, marched and cried together as one. After these two vigils and throughout the following week, candles and signs and other items were left at the base of the flagpole, which had become a physical, makeshift memorial to those we lost that night in Orlando. The impromptu memorial remained for many days, reminding us to remember our losses, but also to remember our resilience. After about a week, the Hillcrest Business Association gathered up the materials that had accumulated at the Pride Flag, and all seven boxes were donated to Lambda Archives for preservation. A majority of the vigil materials were prayer candles of varying shapes and sizes. Many featured images of Catholic saints, though some included homemade labels, with handwritten messages addressed to victims, their family members, and Orlando as a whole. There was even a set of candles labeled with some of the victims’ names and ages. One of the most touching pieces of ephemera was a partially burnt letter, found inside a pillar candle.

A poster listing each of the shooting victims at Pulse Nightclub (Courtesy Lambda Archives of San Diego) It was an anonymous letter from a gay man — one whose urgency was surely inspired by this reminder of mortality and the necessity to live authentically. In it, the author detailed his coming out to his father, who, though loving and supportive, had warned his son to be careful in a world that aimed to harm him and erase his existence. He had reassured his father the world was now safer for LGBTQ people — but this recent event made him think of his father’s words immediately. Despite the tragedy, the author encouraged people to keep living “without hesitations — because it [is] worth it to celebrate.� He also had a message for the 49 lost: “I wish


there was some way for you to feel how much love the world is sending you.� Much of the other material gathered from the vigil consisted of signs and posters. Many of the handmade signs included hashtags like #OrlandoStrong and #WeAreOrlando, meant to evoke solidarity, and form an interconnected web of virtual and tangible media, photos, and vigils across the internet and the globe. One very special poster came from the Monarch School, a public K-12 school located Downtown that serves homeless students who live in San Diego County. The Monarch students and teachers created a 10-foot-long poster that was hand-drawn and painted, and

included personalized messages to the victims, messages of allyship, and prayers for Orlando. There were over 40 signatures on the poster. Another poster that was especially noteworthy was one that included the names and ages of all 49 victims. In mass shootings of this magnitude, sometimes victims’ identities have become shrouded under news coverage of the shooter’s backstory, the international political fallout, and debates about gun control; however, by naming and memorializing each individual victim, we center them by ensuring that their lives are honored and their memory is not forgotten.

see Orlando, pg 8

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Our bars, connecting and community Back Out With Benny Ben Cartwright One month from today will mark one year since the horrific Pulse Nightclub massacre in Orlando, Florida. While the shooting was absolutely devastating, it proved once again that our community is great at rallying together in times of need. Within 24 hours of the shooting, gatherings popped up across the country for community members to be there for each other and help one another process what had just happened. The massacre also served as a reminder of the importance of our LGBTQ bars and nightclubs — our original LGBT community centers. A few weeks ago, I was getting an iced tea at a local coffee shop and someone from the community stopped me. “Benny, I appreciate all your work in the community, but I feel like on social media I always see you in bars,” he said. “That’s probably not the best way to represent yourself.” I smiled, thanked him for the unsolicited advice and went on with my day. But his comment really struck me; and what it did was make me want to commit myself even more to making sure people know that these places, these LGBT bars and nightclubs, are places where our community comes together, celebrates, raises funds, and more. A big part of my persona in the community revolves around being accessible to folks who want to discuss community issues, learn more about how they can get involved, and so many things, and bars are places where many people feel comfortable approaching me. LGBT bars are safe places for people to come out and be themselves, and my presence in these spaces gives folks — who might not have the chance to otherwise partake in community affairs — the opportunity to interact with someone who can show them the way. Over the last couple years, I’ve become known for my weekly #BennyHour happy hour at a particular local bar. It started simply because I happen to like that particular bar, enjoyed the drink specials, and it was easier to just plant myself in the same spot every week, rather than those endless texts with friends every Friday “Where should we go tonight?” My friends soon learned that while they could continue to figure out their own plans each week, they always knew where to find me. Friends continue to visit me during the many hours that make up #BennyHour, but others from the community also sometimes stop by, to chat about issues that are concerning them, get my perspective on things, and just otherwise connect. I’m really proud to be a part of this tradition, which I feel, is what community is all about. Being out and social also gives us the opportunity to

celebrate. There are so many things to celebrate (rather than complain about) every day, and I like to toast friends who get job promotions, have signed a new apartment lease, or for any number of victories — our lives are worth celebrating! Sure, there are times when I want to let loose and just be another bar patron myself and not have to discuss things related to work or the community, but I’ve found my places to do that — which I won’t divulge! Our bars remain key spaces in our community and it’s important that we protect them, patronize them, and celebrate their existence! I have built many “mini-families” among the various patrons and staff of the venues I frequent, and I am so lucky to have these people in my life. While bars aren’t for everyone for a variety of reasons, they continue to serve as safe spaces for so many people to connect with community, and we need to hold onto that — and not shame those who choose these spaces as their outlet.

Getting out with Benny

Right along with the theme of this column, the Lambda Archives will host its next Out at the Archives event focusing on the topic “The Importance of Gay Bars.” The event is scheduled for Thursday, June 8 from 7-9 p.m., inside one of largest local gay nightclubs, Rich’s. The event will feature a panel of bar owners and managers who will talk about their part in the history of our local gay bars. For tickets and more information, visit mr94n64. Two of our community’s larger fundraising events are coming up in the next couple of weeks including Mama’s Kitchen’s annual Mama’s Day, and The San Diego LGBT Community Center’s Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast. Mama’s Day, Friday, May 12, is a foodie’s dream with dozens of local restaurants serving up samplings of their delicious food and drink in a classy but comfortable setting at the Hyatt Regency La Jolla at Aventine. It’s a highlight of the year for many people’s social calendars and benefits the lifesaving work of Mama’s Kitchen. Visit The Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast, scheduled for Friday, May 19, brings together more than 1,000 diverse San Diegans — business, labor, Democrats, Republicans, all communities, all ages, all San Diegans who support equality and justice — to celebrate the memory of this influential civil rights activist. This is an event not to miss! Visit —Benny Cartwright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619-692-2077 ext. 106 or outreach@thecentersd. org. Note: Byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography.▼

Realizing your gifts Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Recently, I went to a big, fancy dinner at a friend’s house. There were about 18 people there, and as far as I know, I was the only LGBT person at the table. I was talking with this really interesting straight woman and the topic turned to being gay (don’t ask me how). She looked me in the eye and asked me, “What is unique about being gay? What gifts do you bring to the world that straight people don’t?” I was impressed with the question and it stuck with me. I’d like to address it in this column. This column isn’t your typical column — in it, you will be invited to visualize, meditate, make up a myth about yourself and fantasize yourself as a warrior. So relax, sit back and enjoy! A gift is a special ability, capacity or talent. It’s given voluntarily without an expected payment in return. It is something bestowed or acquired without being sought or earned by the receiver. What are your gifts? This is quite a deep question. You might like to “sit with it” (as meditators say) for a day or two and give it some thought. You can write down your gifts or just contemplate them in your mind. If you’re stuck, this may help: What have people said

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that’s positive/good/great about you? I invite you to go below the superficial and allow your most powerful gifts to rise to your consciousness. Be willing to be surprised. Now, I’d like you to tell a story: “The Story of Me.” It starts like this: Once there was a little boy/girl who _______. Make up a myth about yourself. Allow it to unfold in your mind and — regardless of where you are in your life now — give the story a happy ending. In the story, allow yourself to be the person you’ve always wanted to be: Let your life be like a fairy tale. This is your story, so tell it however you like and see yourself as you’ve never seen yourself before. If you’d like, you can tell someone who loves you this story, or you can tell yourself the story. It’s especially interesting if you look in the mirror when you tell the story to yourself. It makes it much more real. Next question: What stops me from exercising my gifts? Name three of your biggest obstacles. See them as dragons. Now, imagine yourself as a fierce warrior from your favorite scifi movie. Close your eyes and imagine the dragons attacking you. You, great warrior that you are, have a mighty sword that can easily vanquish any dragon. In your mind, slay your dragons/ obstacles, one by one. As you slay each dragon, name it as you cut its head off. Well done! Next question: When do my gifts most easily flow? Close your eyes and think of a time when everything just fell into place and people appreciated you and all you had to give; a time when simply being yourself


was absolutely perfect. Remember all the details. If you like, think of another time when people were grateful for you just being you. Last question: What can I do now to share my gifts with the world around me? After doing these visualizations and answering the questions, odds are that most of what’s on your list of gifts are things you’ve known about for a long time. Ditto for the obstacles to expressing them. So, rather than pretend that it’s all easy and requires no work to give your gifts, let’s admit that it’s an ongoing process and it takes time and energy. I encourage you to identify your gifts and put yourself in situations where it’s relatively easy to share them. Start with people who love you (a sure thing), then, once you’ve had some practice, move to people you don’t know. It can be scary to give your gifts. Someone might have once made fun of them, mocked you, or put you down when you expressed them. If so, congratulations, you’re normal! Some of us have hidden our gifts for so long that we may not be sure they’re still down there in that box in the basement, or up in the attic. Well, my friends, maybe it’s time to come out of yet another closet. Maybe it’s time to realize your gifts. The world is waiting. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619955-3311 or visit▼

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Where our AIDS Memorial belongs By Morgan M. Hurley

Guest Editorial New parents and children can still qualify for health insurance By Covered California Staff New parents have a lot to be joyful about, but the worries can add up as well. One concern parents can still take care of is having health insurance for their child and themselves through Covered California. Though Covered California’s annual open-enrollment period has ended, having a newborn or adopting a child are among the circumstances that can make one eligible for special enrollment. And consumers can rest assured that all Covered California health plans, financial assistance and rates are locked in for 2017. New parents, make sure your first Mother’s Day (May 14) or Father’s Day (June 18) with your child is as joyous and worry-free as it can be by enrolling for health insurance through Covered California and taking advantage of the financial assistance available to you and your family to pay for it. An analysis by Covered California shows that its households received an average of $5,300 per year in tax credits to help pay for the EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Ben Cartwright Michael Kimmel Lambda Archives Staff Margie M. Palmer Frank Sabatini Jr. Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x111

cost of their coverage in 2016. Additionally, 12 percent of Covered California households receive more than $10,000 per year and 16 percent of individuals receive more than $6,000 per year to help bring health coverage within reach. Through Oct. 31, eligible consumers can sign up for coverage outside of open enrollment as long as they do so within 60 days of a qualifying life event occurring. The following are among the more common reasons that make people eligible for special enrollment: ● Have a baby, adopt a child or place a child for adoption or in foster care. ● Lose their health care coverage because they have lost or changed jobs. ● Get married or enter into a domestic partnership. ● Move and gain access to new Covered California health insurance plans that were not available where they previously lived. ● Become a citizen, national or lawfully present individual. If you qualify for special enrollment, you can get yourself covered with a plan that best fits your needs and budget. COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 INTERNS Alex Ehrie Jennifer Gottschalk Yesenia Luna

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Having lived as an adult during the ghastly time of the AIDS epidemic, I was very encouraged several years ago when Mayor Kevin Faulconer announced the launch of an AIDS Memorial Task Force to ensure the creation of an AIDS Memorial. I lost a very close friend to AIDS in San Diego after moving here in 1987, and remember the chaos, the fear and the isolation our community experienced in those dark days, so I have been eager to learn where the memorial might find its home. As you will read in Ken Williams’ story starting on page 1, the current plan is to build the AIDS Memorial at an obscure location which, once developed, will be named Olive Street Park in Bankers Hill. The proposed location is not only a bird-fly mile away from the soon-to-be restored Dr. Brad Truax House, but the location is tucked away among a residential neighborhood on a short, dead-end street that will be difficult to access by car or bus. In addition, the proposal includes playground equipment for children. With all due respect to Assemblymember Todd Gloria, who as a city councilmember identified the plot of land, and the members of the AIDS Memorial Task Force, who are working to fund and support a place for the memorial, I am completely against this site. This location does not offer accessibility; it does not offer a place for reflection; and it does not have a direct connection to the San Diego LGBT community. People can argue the point, but we all know — whether we like it or not — that predominately, in America, AIDS has historically been a disease related to the LGBT community.

see Opinion, pg 7

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OPINION Nearly 8,000 San Diegans have died of AIDS to date. The largest percentage of transmissions — according to data from the County of San Diego in 2012 — were men having sex with men, at 75 percent. The other percentages are groupings of less than 10 percent, which include intravenous drug users, women, children, etc. According to the California Department of Finance, Demographic Research Unit, 66 percent of reported AIDS cases statewide came from men having sex with men. As a community, because of AIDS, we all experienced the discrimination and the forced isolation from a city that put fear and ignorance above the human condition. The war was all of ours, and those deaths were our deaths, first and foremost. As such, the memorial belongs in Hillcrest, a neighborhood that was our battleground and is still our shared community; a neighborhood that has bounced back from that awful time and is open, accepting and welcoming to all. Olive Street Park would not be any of those things. There are many other options to consider but I wish to propose my own: Place the memorial in the median at the corner of Normal Street and Lincoln Avenue. There are logical reasons for my proposal. The memorial would be in Hillcrest, home of our LGBTQ community. The plot to be developed would be anchored by Harvey Milk Street on one end. It would act as a figurative bookend to the current LGBT Pride Flag and monument, located at the corner of Normal Street and University Avenue, and act as the natural extension of the area used by our community as a gathering place. The location would have easy access to all: those on foot, bicycle, bus, car, etc., without causing disruption to a residential neighborhood. The memorial would not share its existence with a playground but would offer enough space to create a viable place of reflection. The Hillcrest Business Association has long called for the redevelopment of the Normal Street corridor between University Avenue and Washington Street. This location and the memorial itself could act as the perfect inspiration for architects and landscape architect designers to work together to create a fitting memorial and community space to replace the unsightly median that currently exists. Just like with the Pride Flag, various Hillcrest neighborhood and local LGBT organizations could supplement the fundraising efforts of the AIDS Memorial Task Force

see AIDS, pg 8

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Following the shooting, the Orlando Sentinel newspaper created a collection of images, stories, and interviews about the lives of each one of the 49 victims — each had their own personal memorial page. Their coverage of the shooting and its aftermath won a fi rst-place prize at the National Headliner Awards for news that dignified the lives of the victims and their families. By continuing to say their names, the materials housed at Lambda Archives will do the same. As we approach the oneyear anniversary of the Pulse shooting, we must look to the LGBTQ community’s long history of supporting one another in times of crisis and tragedy, and we must continue to uplift each other with this history in mind. We must continue to say each other’s names in the face of homophobia, transphobia and violence. The year since Pulse has not been easy. We are living under an administration that aims to remove our rights. We are fighting for the most basic civil rights of our trans community, and our trans siblings of color are being murdered at alarming rates. It is our duty to live courageously in these times and to hold one another when our courage falters. We must allow ourselves sadness as we remember the events of Orlando, but we must know that we have been through this before, and we have come out on the other side, stronger than ever. Lambda Archives is proud to house the San Diego Orlando Pulse vigil materials, and to document our community’s commitment to solidarity in this memorial.

(think “Amazing High Heel Race�) and offset the costs the HBA would need to beautify this location in the neighborhood. Thousands of San Diegans are still living with AIDS , many of whom survived the indescribable loss of a mass number of close friends and acquaintances. Many other residents, able to steer clear of the disease itself, also experienced the heartbreaking loss of dozens of friends. Hundreds of LGBT and straight volunteers at AIDS service organizations throughout the years have lost countless numbers of clients. Many more of us lost a friend or a family member to the insidious disease. All of us described above — and all of those who we have lost — deserve a beautiful, accessible place of thought and reflection in our own neighborhood. Let’s redirect the efforts and focus of the AIDS Memorial Task Force to the unkempt median that lies squarely between Harvey Milk Street and Lincoln Avenue.

A poster made by homeless children from the Monarch School was left at the Pride Flag. (Courtesy Lambda Archives) For more information on the Orlando collection or any of our other collections, contact archivist@ or call 619-260-1522. This article was authored by Hartlyn Haynes and Bonnie Hullings, two graduate students from San Diego State University who are performing collections processing while interning with the Archives. —Lambda Archives, a 501(c)(3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at▟

Some of the many candles acquired from the makeshift Pulse memorial last June. (Courtesy Lambda Archives)

—Morgan M. Hurley is the editor of Gay San Diego. She can be reached at▟



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The new Liberty Public Farmers Market is up and running with 60 vendors that include local growers, specialty food purveyors and craftspeople. Located across the street from Liberty Public Market on the grassy area between Sims Road and Decatur Court, the market is held from 2 to 7 p.m., every Thursday to the tune of live music. Culinary demos and local chef pop-ups will begin in July. A portion of proceeds from market sales are earmarked for Outside the Lens, a Liberty Station-based organization dedicated to teaching youth digital media, videography and photography.

Liberty Station joins the roster of local farmers markets (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Everything from crafty sandwiches to haute cuisine will tie into literature at an upcoming culinary event (Courtesy SDCOL)

Chefs from Waypoint Public, Solare, Galaxy Taco, Casa Guadalajara, Civico 1845 and more will create imaginative dishes based on their favorite books for the eighth annual “Eat. Drink. Read. A Culinary Event for Literacy.” Beer and spirits from local breweries and distillers will accompany the cuisine. The event is a fundraiser for the San Diego Council on Literacy. It will be held from 5:30 to 8 p.m., May 18 at the San Diego Air & Space Museum in Balboa Park. Tickets are $75 per person. 2001 Pan American Plaza, 619-574-1641,

Sweet! SAN DIEGO LGBT FILM Local restaurateur Paul Fatta of Bayside Landing in Mission Bay will take over the Ritual Kitchen and Beer Garden in North Park when it closes in the coming month or two. The 10-year-old restaurant has reportedly experienced fi nancial setbacks in the face of rising competition within the neighborhood. According to Mike Spilky of Location Matters, which is handling the real estate transfer, Fatta plans to invest nearly $500,000 into the property for what will become Working Class American Diner + Bar, due to open this fall. The remodeled space will feature two bars, multiple fl at screens and an expanded beer garden in the back. 4095 30th St.

The tahini chicken burger with beet aioli and OB Surf Lodge (Courtesy Crowe PR) Inventive dishes such as coconut-braised pork belly, tahini chicken burgers and jalapeno-glazed shrimp are in the offing at the new OB Surf Lodge, which was previously home to Shades Oceanfront Bistro. The restaurant-bar was recently unveiled by the Social Syndicate, a hospitality group with a portfolio that includes The Rabbit Hole, Bootlegger, The Local, and Wonderland Ocean Pub, located upstairs from OB Surf Lodge. The kitchen is headed by executive chef James Ausem, formerly with The Prado and Barefoot Bar & Grill. And the bar program features classic drinks with contemporary twists, such as Mai Tais with passionfruit foam on top, and margaritas made with rosemary-ginger syrup and served with black salt on the rim. Bar manager Sean Ward said that despite some final menu revisions in the works and a fire pit that’s yet to be installed on the patio, the establishment “is fully functioning.” It will hold a grand opening sometime in the coming month. 5083 Santa Monica Blvd., 619-955-5475,

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The pie guys Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. Gan Suebsarakham and his spouse, Steven Torres, could have given us another trendy ramen house or cool taco shop when they opened their eatery in October. But they dared to be original and immediately stole the hearts of both hipsters and everyday consumers with sweet and savory pies crafted in individual sizes. Pop Pie Co. is the only urban kitchen in metro San Diego devoted exclusively to pie making. The pies are stamped with all-butter crusts and contain house-made fillings that can include on any given day braised beef in mushroom-ale gravy, jackfruit in herb sauce, guava cream cheese or German chocolate fudge. The classic chicken pot pie is one of their mainstays. It’s augmented with peas, carrots, celery and herbs, and exceeded in flavor any I’ve had from a mey diner — or when buyhomey ing them from frozen foods

Creamed corn with a steak & ale pie, Lemon meringue pie, Chicken pie

aisles in my younger, shameless days. The sauce wasn’t starchy; the veggies were garden-fresh; and the flaky crust added a buttery oven-baked essence as it collapsed into the filling. Suebsarakham is the culinary maestro in the business. He grew up in Thailand savoring an array of fillings slung from an Australian pie shop that catered to an international community. He then studied pastry at Grossmont College when coming to San Diego and began pursuing the concept with Torres, who was previously a business banker. Torres heads up the coffee program and sources the beans from local roasters, such as James Coffee Co. in Little Italy and Ironsmith Coffee in Encinitas. His drink selection includes everything from cappuccino and pour-overs to cold crews and flavored lattes. Matcha and un-sweetened ice teas are also available. Hubby and I squeezed onto one of the shop’s communal tables during a full house to eat a trio of savory pies, which included the aforementioned chicken, plus two side dishes. We toted home a few sweet ones for later.

Our favorite savory was the Green Hog & Cheese featuring a mix of tomatillo-braised pork, three different types of de-seeded chilies and jack cheese. If the fi llings were served alone on a plate they’d make for a spirited meal. Encase them in Suebsarakham’s pie crust and they become deliciously surreal, like nothing America’s pie goddesses ever conceived — meaty, tangy and with sneaky bits of chili heat for good measure. The Steak & Ale pie was also memorable, like what I wished for when eating versions of it in visits to England, where good-quality beef rarely appears in casual fare. Here, the pie is fi lled with deftly braised chuck swaddled in dark-ale gravy sporting an earthy tinge from mushrooms. The pie isn’t as saucy as you might expect. But the tender, cubed meat and well-constructed gravy compensates for the slight lack of moisture. A side of firm mashed potatoes with lighter brown gravy paired naturally to all three of our pies, especially when spoonin spooning

GAY SAN DIEGO May 12 – 25, 2017 some of the spuds on top of them. The kitchen will actually do this for you if requesting the entire serving of potatoes on a pie. We also devoured an order of creamed corn, which was beautifully “creamed” and both sweet and salty at the same time. That too jived well with our savory pies when errant kernels fell into them. Our love for these pies resumed hours after leaving, when forking into the lemon meringue in particular. The curd’s sunny-yellow color matched the high level of juicy citrus fl avor, which was expertly balanced by the semi-sweetness of the meringue and crust. The strawberry-rhubarb pie was nostalgically sweet and tart while the German chocolate fudge pie was dense and toothsome to the point of requiring a glass of cold milk to wash it down. At last, a new culinary concept in San Diego has emerged. Pop Pie Co. exposes us to meal pies that are gourmet without tasting fl amboyant and to sweet ones that transcend the sugar-loaded options produced by grocery store bakeries. No more of those for me. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at▼

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Pop Pie Co. 4404 Park Blvd. (University Heights) 619-501-4440, Prices: Savory pies, $8 to $9; sweet pies, $3.95 to $7.95; side dishes, $3 and $4

(l to r) Owners Gan Suebsarakham and his spouse Steven Torres

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The once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when used with safer sex practices. • TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. • You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.




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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.



Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce XLIVMWOSJKIXXMRK,-:YRPIWW]SYEVIGSRƤVQIHXSFI,-:RIKEXMZI • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. 7]QTXSQWSJRI[,-:MRJIGXMSRMRGPYHIƥYPMOI symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the RIGOSVKVSMR8IPP]SYVLIEPXLGEVITVSZMHIVMJ]SYLEZILEHEƥYPMOIMPPRIWW within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP.

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Theater Review Charlene Baldridge On the heels of its magnificent â&#x20AC;&#x153;Shadowlands,â&#x20AC;? Lambâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Players Theatre in Coronado continues its string of extraordinary productions with the San Diego premiere of Lauren Gundersonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s â&#x20AC;&#x153;Silent Sky,â&#x20AC;? an absolutely delectable, mind-expanding examination of the early days of women in astronomy. The most-produced living American playwright in 2016, Gunderson has several works seen or about to be seen in San Diego theaters, among them â&#x20AC;&#x153;Emilie: La Marquise du Chatelet â&#x20AC;Śâ&#x20AC;? at New Village Arts last season, and â&#x20AC;&#x153;The Revolutionistsâ&#x20AC;? to be seen at Moxie Theatre in May. Director Robert Smyth (Lambâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s producing artistic director) was shown â&#x20AC;&#x153;Silent Skyâ&#x20AC;? by a colleague and immediately applied for the rights to produce it locally, which he does in gorgeous fashion with scenic design by Sean Fanning

and a cast of five (four of them women). Rachel VanWormerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s endearing performance as pioneering woman astronomer Henrietta Leavitt (1868-1921) is stunning and her characterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s unconsummated love affair with a socially gauche astronomer named Peter Shaw, played by her real-life husband Brian Mackey, is delicious fun. Add to this the two other women â&#x20AC;&#x153;computersâ&#x20AC;? (as they were called) in the astronomy lab â&#x20AC;&#x201D; Annie Canon (Cynthia Gerber) and Williamina Fleming (Deborah Gilmour Smyth) â&#x20AC;&#x201D; a host of unseen but fully imagined additional characters, and Henriettaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s musical, married sister Margaret (Catie Grady), and this audience member found herself royally entertained, entranced, and wanting more â&#x20AC;&#x201D; more of this play, its characters and more of Gunderson. When the historical Henrietta, a stargazer from childhood, went to work at Harvard (in 1893 at age 25) scientists believed the Milky Way was the extent of the universe, with earth most importantly its center.

Brian Mackey and Rachael VonWormer in â&#x20AC;&#x153;Silent Skyâ&#x20AC;? (Photo by Ken Jacques)

â&#x20AC;&#x153;Silent Skyâ&#x20AC;? by Lauren Gunderson Tuesdays-Sundays through May 28 Lambâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Playerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Theatre 1142 Orange Ave., Coronado Tickets $24-$72, with discounts for â&#x20AC;&#x153;under 35 club,â&#x20AC;? military, youth and seniors 619-437-6000

In her job, which she spent her dowry to effect, Henrietta began cataloguing the stars from photographic plates given her and the other computers by male astronomers, who were the only ones allowed to use Harvardâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Great Refractor Telescope, which was the largest in the U. S. for more than 20 years. Her discoveries gave scientists the means to measure the distance between stars and thus the size of the expanding universe. Donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t worry about the science: Lambâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s provides a helpful glossary. Robert Smyth illuminates Gundersonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s text with keen direction of his assemblage. Jemima Dutraâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s period costumes, which include suffragette â&#x20AC;&#x153;bloomers,â&#x20AC;? are wondrous, and Nathan Peirsonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s lighting provides exactly whatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s needed expansively. Deborah Gilmour Smyth also provides sound design and original music. Gunderson, who is based in the Bay Area, has a talent for mingling metaphors and revelations about scientific, poetic, human and even religious matters, sending shivers of recognition up oneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s spine. Her language is glorious, her insight keen, and the playâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s culmination, touching and inspired. It makes one glad to be alive in the cosmos.

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AIRPORT come in to hold the residency for the year.” Their first performance took place on at 9:30 a.m. on April 26 in Terminal 2; it began in the baggage claim area and eventually spilled into a dance procession along the outside curb. Corral describes the experience as “exhilarating.” “We had a musician and seven dancers spanning ages 17 to 27 who performed,” she said. “We wanted to provide a joyful presence and provide aesthetic relief while showing how young people can make a positive impact in our community through the beauty of dance.” Exploring the various “creative possibilities” within the airport space will allow the dance troupe to make both “small and significant” connections for not only the transient travellers there, but the employees as well, Corral said. “We made people smile and we look forward to continuing to do that,” she said. Robert Gleason, San Diego Airport Authority arts advisory committee board liaison, agreed that watching the performances adds an element of joy to the airport experience. “It’s great to watch these performances along with the reactions of travelers that come across them,” Gleason said. “They get to experience a performance in a

transcenDANCE Youth Arts Project Arts in Residence Program at San Diego International Airport Terminal 2 Baggage Claim Performance schedule (various days of week): May 30, June 28, July 27, Aug. 4 • All performances 11:30 a.m.–1:30 p.m. Sept. 14 • 5–7 p.m.

transcenDANCE Youth Arts Project at their first of eight planned performances at Terminal 2’s baggage claim. (Courtesy SDIA)

way that’s more personal and interactive than seeing someone on stage or behind a microphone. The performers are able to surprise and delight travelers who come across them unexpectedly.” Gleason said he feels the Performance Arts Residency Program helps create a positive customer experience for the traveling public. “It’s a way for visitors, travelers and the general public to connect with the airport and see it in a different way,” Gleason said. “It’s also a way for people to experience some of what San Diego happens

to offer in terms of cultural uniqueness.” Embracing the arts is not only a sign of the times but a way for our local airport to stand out among the others. “I think San Diego International certainly aims to be a leader in terms of its customer service and in this aspect of customer service,” Gleason said. “There are a growing number of arts programs at many airports around the country and we want to try to be a leader in this field.” transcenDANCE Youth Arts Project will continue to perform at SDIA’s Terminal 2

baggage claim area throughout 2017. Their next scheduled performance will take place on May 30 from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. For more information on transcenDANCE, visit To learn more about San Diego International Airport’s Performing Arts Residency Program, visit performing-arts.

Oct. 12 • 4:30–6:30 p.m. • Followed by a VIP reception and special performance. Nov. 21, Dec. 20 • All performances 11:30 a.m.–1:30 p.m.

—Margie Palmer is a San Diego-based freelance writer. Reach her at margiep@alumni.▼ performing-arts

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Robert Gleason, San Diego Airport Authority’s arts advisory committee board liaison, speaks at the 2917 residency kickoff. (Courtesy SDIA)

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11th Annual Senior Resource Fair 10 am, The Center This event should be educational, informative and fun! More than 25 vendors will be there, and a free lunch will be served at 11:15 am. Come join the fun! For more information, contact LaRue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205.

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LGBT Military Support Group 6-7:30 pm, The Center The Center and Fleet and Family Support Services are excited to provide this support/education group for LGBT active duty service members. The group meets the 4th Tuesday of every month and is for both individuals and couples with or without children. For more information, contact Caroline Bender at 619.222.5586 or The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

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wore man shoes all the time and I was always the one in little twinkle shoes. She’d go out with me and I’d say, “Now are you gonna wear your suit and your man shoes because we’re quite a couple!” Ha! But my best girlfriend is gay and this is the girl I laugh with like crazy. And my nephew!


INTERVIEW (GH) A really good friend of mine, who is gay, married her girlfriend and they wanted to get married in my house. All our friends were there, and it was the most beautiful thing. It was just so emotional, and [my son] Oliver, who is 40 now — at that time he was about 20-something — basically went, “Mom, I want a gay marriage!” Ha! I was like, “I know! It’s so beautiful.” (AS) I’m always walking around in every town I’m in and I’ll find a park, and there are always people having their engagement pictures. I’m like, “Can I be in this photo?” I want in on the fun! (CA) As someone who used to dance in gay bars, were your dance moves in “Snatched” gay-inspired? And how about Goldie’s? (AS) Oh, definitely. Also, just to watch Goldie dance is one of the great joys of my life. Honestly, to see that live. (GH) Ha! (CA) Goldie, with your dance scenes in this movie, were you having flashbacks to your iconic dancing in “First Wives Club” at that lesbian bar? (GH) Oh, right! I danced in a lot of movies! It’s weird but it happened and it’s good. (AS) To have you not dance in a movie is a crime. (CA) Both of you have experience in a lesbian bar. Goldie


When Amy Schumer’s boyfriend dumps her before her exotic vacation, she invites her mother, played by Goldie Hawn, with unexpected results. (Photo by Justina Mintz) in “First Wives Club,” and Amy, you were a bartender at one before your comedy career took off. Is this maybe a potential jumping-off point for a second movie starring both of you? (AS) There’s our sequel: “The Real Snatched.” (GH) Ha! “Snatched Unhinged”! “Snatched Uncensored”! (AS) And “Uncut”! (CA) How do you think this film may resonate with gay people and the relationships they do or don’t have with their parents? (AS) That’s a good question. (GH) Very good question. (AS) I definitely haven’t thought about how different sort of lifestyles could experience it because it does feel pretty universal, but I get it. I think it really will bring together people who have had a struggle with a parent — that

idea of, we’re both doing the best we can. As kids, you’re just so, “Oh, my mom just loves me.” We all take our parents for granted, and the goal is to be able to accept that they just love the shit out of me and did the best they could. And maybe it wasn’t enough, but (it’s important) to find peace for yourself in that and to get rid of some of the anger. I hope this movie brings kids and parents together — I think it will. (GH) The other thing you’re dealing with is a very strong rejection and it is arguably very, very important to find forgiveness. This movie may or may not touch a little on that, but we’re talking about a relationship between a mother and a daughter. It’s kind of like a fraught relationship, and we do get into it. I’d like the idea that perhaps whether you’re gay or not that you’re able to go in and say, “Maybe I should call my dad, maybe I’m gonna call my mom.” One of the realities is that if you don’t make peace, they’re gonna die one day, and it’s really important to know that, because moms and dads don’t last forever. If you’ve got unfi nished business, we need to face that and that’s not easy. And a lot of parents are stoic and won’t give, and if they

don’t give it’s a very sad story, because you know why? Every child wants to love their mother and their father. Love is the most important thing and when they feel rejected and unloved that hole can never be fi lled by anyone else. (CA) Amy, in the movie, you tell your brother that he’s “so gay for mom.” (AS) I wondered what the experience would be of that line. (CA) Who are you gay for in your lives? (AS) I’m gay for so many people that I think I may be just gay. (GH) Ha! (AS) I love my girlfriends so much that I’ve kissed girls — but I’ve never had, like, a lesbian experience. Not yet. But I’m sure. The life is young. (GH) I was gonna say: There’s a lot of time! (AS) There’s time left. But you know how you just think your friends are so beautiful and with my really good girlfriends, over the years I’ve had confusing feelings because I just love them so much. I just think they’re so beautiful, so I’m gay for my friends. (GH) My best girlfriend is gay … and my other girlfriend probably could’ve been! She

(CA) Naturally, Goldie, everyone around you is gay, and with a résumé that includes “First Wives Club” and “Death Becomes Her,” I’d expect nothing less. Which of those films do you think earned you the most gay cred? (GH) That’s really interesting. Probably “First Wives Club.” But “Death Becomes Her” was pretty gay. (CA) Did you know “Death Becomes Her” would eventually become a gay cult film? (GH) Not at all! I just thought that it was gonna be a cult film forever because it’s all about staying alive and staying young forever, and [director] Bob Zemeckis was way ahead of his time. So, for me, it was just a general commentary on where we’re going, because everyone wants to stay young and no one wants to get old and what is the elixir and what can I drink? (CA) When did you realize that it was adored by gay audiences? (GH) I never thought of it! But I love that. (AS) I hope this becomes a gay cult movie. (GH) That would be awesome! (CA) I mean, basically anything that Goldie touches, right? (GH) Well, my God, that’s quite a compliment. (AS) We should all be so lucky! —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter @chrisazzopardi.▼


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THRIVE adding that San Diego had seven attendees at the convention and three of them participated in the lobby day. “It was a lot of fun, fortunately for us, all of our representatives are very supportive,” he said. “So a lot of it was just thanking them and reminding them that their support needs to still be on the table and visible more than anything. ” This year’s Time to THRIVE convention, which took place April 28–30 in Washington, D.C., was filled with keynote speakers and honorees and focused on the challenges of K-12 students face in cities across the country. Pompei said they had 800 attendees from 44 states, the highest attendance yet of the four-year-old conference. Next year’s conference will be in Orlando, Florida. Distinguished key note speakers this year included Charles M. Blow, a CNN commentator and OpEd columnist for The New York Times; Al Franken, the U.S. Senator from Minnesota; Erin O’Flaherty, the first openly lesbian Miss America contender; transgender youth activist Jazz Jennings; Judy and Dennis Shepard; Dolores Huerta and various leaders from throughout the national educational system. Katie Couric received the “Upstander Award” for her recent National Geographic documentary on gender identity.

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San Diego LGBT activists Clarione Gutierrez (fourth from left) and Vinnie Pompei (to his left) with members of HRC’s “spring lobby day” in Washington D.C. in March (Courtesy Vincent Pompei)

In her acceptance speech, Couric commented on the fallout from her inappropriate question to a transgender model on her TV show in 2014 and how it eventually led to her work in the documentary. “Armed with curiosity and a true desire to grow …” she said she started on her way. Hillary Whittington, a local LGBTQ youth advocate and the mother of a transgender child, attended the conference with her husband Jeff and said she was “deeply touched” by the inspirational people she met and listened to at the conference. “The presenters came from all different backgrounds, with


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unique histories and insight,” Whittington said. “A few of the speakers that stood out were: Jane Clementi, whose son Tyler took his life after a horrific [cyber]bullying event [at Rutgers University]; Javier Cifuentes Monzon, whose mother immigrated [to the U.S.] from Guatemala because she suspected Javier was gay as a small child; Nayyef Hrebid and Btoo Allami, two Iraqi citizens who fell in love and had to flee their country to escape death; legend and icon Delores Huerta; and Charles Blow, who discussed being misunderstood and bullied by the LGBTQ

community for being bisexual.” Whittington, who is a tireless advocate for her young transgender son, said the event made her “think beyond my own experience” and said she returned to San Diego “energized” in her quest to advocate for LGBTQ+ youth. “I think the highlight of the conference for me were the many LGBTQ youth speakers who shared their stores and recommendations for the adults who work with youth on how to be more inclusive and affirming,” Pompei said. To learn more about Time to THRIVE, you can visit HRC’s

YouTube channel, where many of the speeches have already been uploaded. Visit tinyurl. com/m3hdb3q. HRC San Diego’s Facebook page states that they have various volunteer subcommittee positions available, including work in diversity, political activism, membership and community events. For more information, email info@ and follow them on Facebook to stay upto-date with future HRC San Diego CONNECT events. —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at ▼


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MEMORIAL like. The planning is now in the fourth of six stages, and KTU+A is taking public comments on several concepts.

Existing problems

The lot is at the corner of Olive Street and Third Avenue, three blocks west of the West Mesa of Balboa Park. Third Avenue dead-ends just north of Olive Street, at Maple Canyon, which catches some motorists by surprise and requires a turnaround. This could pose safety concerns for park visitors. Then there is the Rheumatology Center of San Diego, located on the north side of the lot, which has access problems to the street. The structure was built on the edge of Maple Canyon on two sides. As a result, the project managers said, the building requires emergency access via the existing driveway. This would impact what could be constructed on the lot’s north side. Other than the Rheumatology Center, the rest of the surrounding buildings are residential. Some of the nearby residents said they are wary of building a pocket park that could become overrun by the homeless population. The flat side of the lot, along the west side of Third Avenue, is currently empty except for dirt and weeds. The back side, which includes land that extends into the top of the canyon, has two mature trees among six smaller ones around the driveway.

What neighbors want

KTU+A officials and the city’s project officer Kevin Oliver and associate engineer Yovanna Lewis discussed the concepts via a PowerPoint presentation, then took audience questions. They shared the results of a previous survey of about a dozen nearby neighbors showing that the residents: ● Liked: recreation areas, playgrounds, relaxation areas, native plantings, runoff basins, a tree grove, walking paths, and sculptures and public art. ● Disliked: gathering spaces, a green wall, shade features, tables and a barbecue area. In 2016, the Bankers Hill Community Group (BHCG) submitted its priorities for the park: low-level landscape and pedestrian lighting instead of intrusive bright lights, walking paths, seating and picnic areas for the area’s older population, possibly some playground equipment if a need is shown, shade structure, shade trees, and attractive landscape plantings. The group opposed restroom and parking facilities since it would be a walk-to neighborhood park. Also, the group liked the idea of limited hours for offleash dogs. BHCG wrote: “A neighborhood park does not provide a suitable venue and would do the [AIDS] memorial a disservice. The West Mesa of Balboa Park, for example, with extensive parking along Sixth Avenue and Balboa Drive, would be a much better location.” Additionally, the group urged creating access to the canyon

and an observation deck or overlook area. “The opportunity to provide these should not be squandered,” BHCG wrote in a letter to city officials. “Also, the park should be part of an inviting, pedestrian connection between Maple Canyon and Balboa Park.” Lastly, BHCG urged the city for help in providing park maintenance and enforcement of regulations regarding loitering, littering, noise and encampments. The working concepts ● Concept 1 would feature a large tot lot on the northeast corner, away from residential areas. It would have a picnic area, benches and a circular walkway. ● Concept 2 would have a smaller tot lot in the same location with a picnic area, plus an AIDS memorial placed on the southeast corner. There would be a circular path and a large open space between the two main attractions. ● Concept 3 would locate the AIDS memorial on the northeast corner, a picnic area, benches, open space and a circular pathway.

The AIDS memorial

Some of the concept images for the AIDS memorial included a memorial wall, paving stones with names and messages, and a series of small monuments. The AIDS memorial proves to be a controversial element in the design, according to comments from participants at the April 20 meeting. Susan Jester, a member of the San Diego AIDS Memorial Task Force, said the committee is adamantly opposed to the concept of a memorial wall. “What we don’t have in mind is a Vietnam Veterans Memorial Wall,” Jester said, referring to the large wall in Washington D.C. that is etched with the names of service members who died in the Vietnam War. She said the task force envisions a memorial that would fit in better within the community. “We see it more like ‘The Grove’ in San Francisco,” Jester said, referring to the National AIDS Memorial Grove in eastern Golden Gate Park. Go to for images and more information.

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This aerial view of a vacant lot and driveway is the site of the proposed Olive Street Park, located along Third Avenue at Olive Street. (Google) Task force members want the memorial to be near the edge of Maple Canyon, so it provides a natural place of “repose and reflection,” Jester said. “The memorial needs to integrate with the neighborhood, not interfere with it,” she said. “It doesn’t have to be in one location in the park; it can be on stones, on plaques, among the trees.” Some audience members oppose placing the AIDS memorial in the proposed park, saying it has no connection to the neighborhood. They said the logical choice would be in Balboa Park or at the historic Truax House — the city’s first AIDS hospice run by Dr. Brad Truax, a prominent gay physician and early AIDS pioneer — which is almost a mile away on the other end of Maple Canyon, located at 2513/2515 Union St. in Bankers Hill. Last year, the city sold the Truax House and an adjoining home for $2.5 million to the highest bidder: local developer Nakhshab Design & Development. The principal, Soheil Nakhshab, is a member of the Uptown Planners. According to District 3 Councilmember Chris Ward’s office, the property remains in escrow but the sale has yet to be completed. Nakhshab has promised to preserve and restore Truax House, and create a community meeting room in the building.

Jester and Leo Wilson, chair of the Uptown Planners who helmed the discussion, explained the myriad hurdles necessary to get any monument placed in Balboa Park. They also pointed out the agreement to move the Olive Street Park proposal forward by pairing it with the AIDS memorial, and that convinced the city to push up construction of the park by years. Complicating matters is that the money from the sale of the Truax House property is legally required to be returned to the city’s gas tax fund and cannot be spent directly on the AIDS memorial. Mayor Kevin Faulconer — whose wife Katherine Stewart Faulconer co-chairs the task force with LGBT activist Nicole MurrayRamirez — vowed that his staff will find a way to redirect funding from other sources to match the $2.5 million expected to be made from the sale of the property. Audience members were divided over whether the AIDS memorial should be included in the park, much less sharing space with a large tot lot with a playground. The contrast between a place for “repose and reflection” and a place for energetic children to play bothered some people. A millennial woman stressed the need for a

playground, although several people doubted the neighborhood’s demographics would show a need for a tot lot. Another woman pointed out another problem with building a playground: The park would have no restrooms, so where would the children relieve themselves? Some questioned whether an AIDS memorial would bring noise, traffic and parking problems for public events associated with the project. A number of people worried that the homeless population would overwhelm the park and create a security risk for the neighborhood. Most people supported the creation of an overlook onto Maple Canyon as well as a trail link. A man named Roy, who identified himself as gay, said he was OK with the AIDS memorial being at the park and as a member of the Friends of Maple Canyon, he urged creating access to the canyon’s trails. “This is our last chance to get a trail into the canyon from this location,” he said. The concepts do not include access to the trail system, only suggesting to designate an area for a future link. “This is a wasted opportunity,” Roy said. “And the park is overdesigned!” One man said he has been living with AIDS for many years and that he is in favor of locating the memorial in Olive Street Park. And Peter Raymond, who said he knew the late Dr. Truax, urged including a link to the trail, which would lead back to the Truax House on the other end of the canyon. Without a link to the trail, another man said, there is no connection whatsoever to Truax House.

What’s next?

By the end of spring or early summer, KTU+A expects to come up with a fi nal schematic design for the park and plans to return this summer to the Uptown Planners for a third and fi nal meeting on the matter. Soon after that, the project will then go to the city’s Park and Recreation Board for review.

This aerial view shows the location of the historic Truax House, located at the western end of Maple Canyon, and the proposed Olive Street Park where an AIDS memorial may be built. Truax House was home to the city’s first AIDS hospice. (Google)

—Ken Williams is editor of Uptown News and can be reached at▼



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William “Bill” Kelly, a local LGBT senior advocate and Gay San Diego columnist, was presented with the Richard Geyser Community Leadership Award, at the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation’s Aston Brooks gala on Saturday, April 29. The annual award, which comes with a $5,000 mone-

Bill Kelly gives a speech at the Aston Brooks gala after receiving his award. (Courtesy William G. Kelly) tary award, is named for the founding board president of the Human Dignity Foundation. It recognizes a San Diego resident who has “contributed significantly to LGBT and/or HIV causes within San Diego County.” Kelly, who knew six months ago that he’d be receiving the award, decided to donate the money toward the upcoming new LGBT-affirming senior housing development by CHWorks, currently in the build-out stage at the corner of Texas and Lincoln streets in North Park. He also decided to seek additional donations from the community at large to match the gift and in the process raised an additional $7,700, making the total amount he will donate to the housing project $12,700. Here is an excerpt of his speech at the gala. “I am deeply honored and humbled to accept this award on behalf of all who supported the vision. The changes we want begin with the visions and dreams of individuals, but the heavy lifting is done by our community organizations, their volunteers and donors. “A decade ago a group of dreamers began a journey. We called ourselves ‘the ad hoc working group on housing for

LGBT seniors.’ … I am so sorry Bill Beck did not live to see this day. It was he who encouraged me to stay with the dream. Because of the dedication of each of you, a dream is being realized that will live beyond us all. “The San Diego Human Dignity Foundation supported our dream. The Center provided sorely needed professional guidance and the meeting space to nurture it. Community HousingWorks has made it a reality. United as one community, we welcome this award. “I am very appreciative and happy to announce that a handful of our friends and my colleagues have donated an additional $7,700. I asked and The Center has agreed to earmark the total of $12,700 to provide casework, programs, and services to the residents of the new housing. “[To my] husband, Bob Taylor ... I am forever grateful for your love, patience and understanding of all the late nights and long days. You are truly the wind beneath my wings. Thank you. We must never forget what the collaboration and cooperation between volunteers, donors and organizations can accomplish together.” Kelly writes the Senior Matters column in Gay San Diego and facilitates the “Caring for our LGBT Seniors in San Diego” Facebook group. To see a recent short documentary on Kelly’s life and service to his community, visit bit. ly/2r6JHUV.


San Diego Pride and the Hillcrest Business Association are working together again this year to kick off the weekend’s 43rd annual Pride festivities on Friday, July 15. The Spirit of Stonewall Rally, which last year took place at the Pride Festival grounds on the West Mesa of Balboa Park — as it had in the years prior to the construction of the Hillcrest Pride Flag — is returning to the flag area at Normal Street and University Avenue prior to the Pride Block Party. “Our community and this country could use a little more unity right now. By bringing these two organizations together over Pride weekend to honor our history and celebrate our accomplishments we’re also highlighting all that is possible when we work together,” said Fernando Lopez, director of operations for San Diego Pride. The Spirit of Stonewall Rally — which celebrates local LGBT leaders, offers an inspirational speaker lineup that serves as a call to action during

challenging times, and ends with the ceremonial raising of the Hillcrest Pride Flag — has historically kicked off the weekend’s festivities. This year, as in years past, the rally will be immediately followed by the Pride Block Party, a neighborhood event held alongside the flag area that includes local DJs, carnival rides, bars and a large dance area all in the street at the intersection of Normal Street and University Avenue. “I am so happy that the Stonewall Rally is returning to Hillcrest this year,” said Benjamin Nicholls, executive director of the Hillcrest Business Association. “Unity is so important as we go forward in an ever more uncertain and difficult world. I know the businesses of Hillcrest are excited to be part of the kick off of Pride 2017!” The Spirit of Stonewall Rally, which starts at 5 p.m., is free and open to the public. Advance general admission tickets for the Block Party, which will start immediately after the rally and continue until 11 p.m., are currently on sale for $20, with VIP passes $45. Visit or for tickets and more information.


On Tuesday, May 9, Gina Roberts, president of the local Log Cabin Republicans organization, traveled to Washington D.C. with the transgender leadership caucus of the national organization to brief the Department of Education on the issues surrounding the safety of transgender students and equality for all students. Specific topics in the 23-page white paper presented included the challenges facing transgender K-12 students; establishing new guidelines; federal guidelines, local conditions and flexibility; terminology and biographies of the authors of the white paper, who came from both the national Log Cabin Republicans organization and the Liberty Education Forum. The white paper was written in response to the Trump administration’s February 2017 letter rescinding the Obama administration’s letter rescinding protections for transgender students and which also called for a need to “further and more completely consider the legal issues involved.” The white paper was presented to the civil liberties and legal staff of Education Secretary Betsy DeVos. Roberts, a resident of Valley Center and an active member of the San Diego LGBT community, assisted with the drafting of the white paper and was part of the contingent.

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GAY SAN DIEGO May 12 – 25, 2017 “It is an honor to represent Log Cabin Republicans and our transgender community to the Department of Education,” Roberts said in a press release from the Log Cabin Republicans. “We are very pleased with the conversations and are looking forward to helping to produce Title IX guidance that will protect the privacy and needs of all students, both transgender and non-transgender alike.” For more information on their visit to Washington and read the white paper, visit


Dr. Katie Schlein, of Life Within Family Chiropractic, a pediatric and prenatal family chiropractic practice in Hillcrest, recently announced that she is reaching out to the local LGBT community and offering a monthly social event for same-sex parents. Called “Connect,” the event will take place June 1 from 7–9 p.m. at their Hillcrest office space and Schlein hopes the event will allow parents to do just that: Connect with one another. “What motivated me to start this group is my passion to support children and families in a population that I am actively a part of,” Schlein said in an email. “I recognized the need to support an up and coming community in a space where people can connect, learn and grow from one another’s experiences. I am passionate about this parent population as I one day will be a part of it when I eventually have kids of my own. Through first-hand experiences, being that my sister is an LGBT parent, I know that it brings a different set of challenges that families overcome.” Schlein describes this free event as an opportunity to allow LGBT parents a monthly space to “connect, share highs and lows and come together” and support one another through the trials and tribulations of surrogacy, adoption,


insemination and parenting. While the first social will be “kid-free,” she hopes to incorporate kid-friendly events in the future. Life Within Family Chiropractic is located at 1452 University Ave. For more information, call 619-291-LIFE (5433) or visit


A new health environment focused on the popular “spin” exercise regimen has opened in Hillcrest and its owners are also launching a philanthropic arm. CycleBar Hillcrest — scheduled to celebrate its grand opening at 1040 University Ave., Suite B213 on June 8 — will also introduce CycleGiving, a new philanthropic effort that plans to raise money for local nonprofits while promoting health and fitness. To help engage the community in its grand opening, CycleBar will be offering 70 free classes over 10 days, which will take place June 8–18. The new work out center promises a “concert-like atmosphere” for its indoor, high energy workouts in what they describe as a “state of the art CycleTheatre” with specific CycleStar instructors leading 44 riders on the 50-minute workouts, complete with widescreen graphics, a DJ booth and LED lighting. Participants can relax and cool down post-workout with fresh fruit, enhanced water options and an aromatherapy experience throughout the new facility. “I have been a competitive endurance athlete since college and have been very active in the San Diego group fitness community for the last 10 years,” University Heights resident and CycleBar Hillcrest owner Bob Franzetta said in a press release. “Hillcrest is such an active, vibrant area and CycleBar fits into our community’s health and fitness lifestyle while making the experience fun for both new and experienced riders.” For more information, visit▼


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Friday, May 12

GLSEN SD sixth annual GSA/GSTA Awards: Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network San Diego presents a night to recognize GSA/GSTA students for their accomplishments that support the LGBTQ community. Free. 6–9 p.m. at San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St. Visit bit. ly/2psMkOP. Ladies ‘Bourbon Street Revival’ happy hour: Stop by Brick Bar every Friday for happy hour, just like we used to do at Bourbon Street. Full bar, outdoor patio, lots of parking (free at DMV), games, meet-up groups and more. Come hungry. 5–8 p.m. Brick Bar, 1475 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Saturday, May 13

Pride Youth Lunch Brunch: Every second Saturday of the month, visit the San Diego Pride Office, 3620 30th St. from 11 a.m.–2 p.m. to meet with other LGBTQ junior high and high schoolaged youth. Visit bit. ly/2psYKpH. Paint Your Pup Fundraiser: Wine and Paint Apartments invites you to paint a portrait of your furry friend, enjoy craft beers and grab lunch from a food truck while you work. Limited tickets available for $45 at Price includes painting instruction and art materials. Portion of the proceeds will benefit nonprofit Pup Package. 1:30–4 p.m. Mike Hess Brewing Company, 3812 Grim Ave. Visit bit. ly/2psGvAS. The Mother’s Day Comedy Shows: Celebrate your mom by enjoying stand-up comedy with MC Melissa Greenberg, headliner Rebekah Kochan and supporting acts. Tickets $15 at Two item minimum purchase. Urban Street Angels will receive a percentage of the proceeds. 7:30–11 p.m. The Comedy Palace, 8878 Clairemont Mesa Blvd. Visit

Sunday, May 14

Mother’s Day Drag Brunch: Enjoy brunch and a show with your mom this holiday. This monthly event includes live entertainment and a full breakfast with bottomless mimosas and wine. Tickets $27 online and reservations recommended. First show 10 a.m.– noon, second show noon–2 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qPbjR5.

Monday, May 15

Wine & Canvas: Join Wine and Canvas for artsy fun in Mission Valley. Admission is $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by-20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas. Tonight’s art selection is “A Walk in the Park.” 21 and up. ID required. Free parking. 6–9 p.m. Gordon Biersch Brewery Restaurant, 5010 Mission Center Road. Visit Mazing Mondays at the Caliph: Come sing along to the songs of your past with Carol Curtis from 5–8 p.m. and enjoy karaoke with Danny from 8:30 p.m.–12:30 a.m. at this “easy-going” cocktail bar and lounge that’s been in our community since 1960. Happy hour all day. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

Tuesday, May 16

Live music from Robyn Spangler: Broadway World Award winner and Playbill Pick Robyn Spangler will perform songs from Nelson Riddle and Linda Ronstadt. Tickets online at bit. ly/2qOPT6Q. $35 reserved seating and $15 per person food/drink minimum. 8–9:30 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit Amy Goodman Speaks to SD: Democracy Now!’s National Tour features Amy Goodman, an award-winning journalist. The talk will focus on independent media, grassroots movements and other political matters. Tickets $16 in

advance and $20 at the door. 7–9 p.m. St. Paul’s Episcopal Cathedral, 2728 Sixth Ave. Visit

Wednesday, May 17

2017 SDLA Fellows Fundraiser: #PartyForProgress with San Diego Leadership Alliance, a fundraiser that aims to connect attendees with diverse voices on progressive policy and activism. Tickets start at $25 online at Admission includes complimentary snacks and nonalcoholic drinks. 5:309 p.m. AleSmith Brewing Company, 9990 AleSmith Court. Visit Welcome back Wednesdays at the Caliph: Come out and enjoy Kenny Ard live on the piano from 8–11 p.m. at this “easy-going” cocktail bar and lounge that’s been in our community since 1960. Happy hour till 8 p.m., beer bust 7:30–11:30 p.m. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

Thursday, May 18

Joe Posa’s ‘The Bitch Is Back’: Comedian Joe Posa will impersonate the legend Joan Rivers in this hilarious performance with Tony Tripoli. This show features adult content. Tickets online at bit. ly/2ptj4aI. $20–25 reserved seating and $15 per person food/drink minimum. 8–9:30 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit bit. ly/2pt5EeP.

Friday, May 19

Ninth annual Harvey Milk Diversity Breakfast: Come together to support equality and justice while honoring Harvey Milk’s life. Cleve Jones and Bishop Yvette A. Flunder will be honored. Proceeds benefit San Diego LGBT Community Center programs. Tickets start at $65 at 7:30-9 a.m. Hilton San Diego Bayfront, 1 Park Blvd. Visit DIVAS Show Benefit: San Diego Divas present

a show that’s equally entertaining and philanthropic and this fun-fi lled evening will raise funds for TransFamily Support Services. Special guests include Sasha Colby, Fuddie Fontasia Lewis and others. Contact Robert at 619-8179926 for reservations. 7–10 p.m. Rich’s San Diego, 1051 University Ave. Visit bit. ly/2ptde9g.

Saturday, May 20

NOH8 Campaign Open Photo Shoot: Support #NOH8Worldwide with artistic pride! Come camera-ready in a white shirt to add your face to the movement. $40 for solo shots and $25 per person for groups. Photos are fi rst come, fi rst served. Volunteer opportunities also available. 2–5 p.m. Kimpton Hotel Palomar, 1047 Fifth Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qPCWtc. 11th Annual Senior Resource Fair: “Rise up, speak out and live free!” 50 and Better Together hosts a resource fair for seniors full of educational and informational booths. Free lunch offered to the fi rst 100 attendees (50 years and older). 10 a.m.–1 p.m. at San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St. Visit or call 619-692-2077 ext. 205. Girls Night OUT San Diego: Come dance the night away with DJ Dallas from The Flame days! The locally loved DJ will be spinning your favorite songs for the ultimate throwback night. 7–10 p.m. The Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2pt2QhI. 2017 San Diego Taco Fest: Celebrate America’s Finest City with a day full of tacos. The San Diego Taco Festival will feature food from 30 taco-centric restaurants. The festival will also host lucha libre wrestling matches, a Chihuahuas beauty pageant and race, and live performances from Vanilla Ice, Mix Master Mike and other musicians. This is a 21-and-older event. Tickets

Sunday, May 21

San Diego Military Contingent Fundraiser: San Diego LGBT Pride Military Contingent invites you to raise money for the veterans and active duty members who will march in the San Diego Pride parade. The fundraiser features a silent auction and raffle. Proceeds will help provide T-shirts for parade participants. 10 a.m.-2 p.m. Uptown Tavern, 1236 University Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qPDpfc. Cinema at The Balboa: ‘All About Eve’ & ‘Mildred Pierce’ Balboa Theatre presents two gay cult fi lm screenings back-to-back, “All About Eve” and “Mildred Pierce.” The fi rst fi lm is about the journey of aspiring actress Eve Harrington, while the second fi lm explores wealth, freedom and mother-daughter relationships. Tickets $21.50. 1–4 p.m. at Balboa Theatre, 868 Fourth Ave. Visit

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ACROSS 1 Drag queen ___ Lettuce 6 Dawson’s, in teen TV drama 11 Break it on Broadway 15 Oral performances 16 Primary blood carrier 17 Novelist Patricia ___ Warren 18 Out Pentatonix singer 20 Handle a shrew, for Shakespeare 21 Sexy clothing material 22 “Don’t Look ___ That Way” (Cole Porter) 23 Potbelly, and others 25 Endora portrayer 27 Sawbucks 28 Used the Divine Miss M’s name in vain? 31 Jeremy Irons role as a pope 32 Lines at checkout? (abbr.) 33 Medical research monkey 36 For-skin cream ingredient

$25-125 online. 11 a.m.–10 p.m. at Waterfront Park, 1600 Pacific Highway. Visit Cinema at The Balboa: ‘Whatever Happened to Baby Jane?’ Balboa Theatre presents a fi lm screening of “What Ever Happened to Baby Jane?” the psychological thriller about sibling rivalry and the aftermath of fame, featured in Ryan Murphy’s recent FX series, “Feud.” Bette Davis and Joan Crawford star in the 1962 classic. Tickets $8–11, plus fees. 5–7:30 p.m. at Balboa Theatre, 868 Fourth Ave. Visit 21st Annual SDCCU Festival of Arts in North Park: Take part in the North Park tradition with this fun-fi lled festival to celebrate the creative side of San Diego. The event features eight music stages, live street art demonstrations, local dining options, craft beer selections and more. Free. 11 a.m.–10 p.m. Visit or bit. ly/2qPBeZ4.

39 Pentatonix cover of a Freddie Mercury song that went viral 43 Give ___ to (approve) 44 White water site 45 Virginia Woolf ___ Stephen 46 Pulling out of the closet? 49 Rock Hudson’s “Winchester,” et al. 51 Lubricant containers 53 Prefix with vitamin 55 The Spanish one was huge 56 Pound sound 57 De Matteo of “Desperate Housewives” 61 Top target 62 Out Pentatonix singer 65 “___ The Woods” 66 Gung-ho 67 “Amadeus” star Tom 68 One who gazes at crystal balls 69 “Bewitched” aunt 70 Go lickety-split

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PROUD for National Pride Month ArtZine Morgan M. Hurley In our last column, we talked about The Studio Doorâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s upcoming exhibit called â&#x20AC;&#x153;PROUD,â&#x20AC;? which will run June 2â&#x20AC;&#x201C;25 in conjunction with national Pride month and in advance of San Diego Pride. Works for the exhibit are in the process of being juried by Patric Stillman, founder of The Alex Fialho, a renowned juror Studio Door in North Park and native San Diegan. Fialho is currently a curatorial associate of the Lower Manhattan An opening reception will Cultural Council Research in take place at The Studio Door, New York City, a contributing located at 3750 30th Street, writer for ArtForum, and will June 3 from 6â&#x20AC;&#x201C;9 p.m. soon be curating interviews Some of the works entered for an upcoming Smithsonian into consideration are on this Archives of American Art. page. Patric Stillman, founder A concurrent exhibition, cuof The Studio Door, expects rated by local LGBT activist â&#x20AC;&#x153;PROUDâ&#x20AC;? to be comprised of 60 and artist John Keasler, will works of art, representing LGBT be on display at the San Diego artists from 22 states, to be on Pride offices, located one block display at his North Park exhisouth of The Studio Door at bition space. Stillman said the 3620 30th St. This exhibition exhibition is meant for mature will feature eight San Diego audiences and the works will LGBT artists and will be on represent â&#x20AC;&#x153;authentic viewpoints display starting in May and of LGBTQ Pride, underscoring run through June. identities, lifestyles and diversity.â&#x20AC;? The first reception of the art The Studio Door will preexhibit at the San Diego Pride senting the exhibit in conjuncoffices will be Saturday, May tion with San Diego Pride, 13, from 6-8 p.m. Prideâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s â&#x20AC;&#x153;Art of Pride,â&#x20AC;? and For more information, visit Visual AIDS New York.â&#x2013;ź

One of the many submissions for PROUD, called â&#x20AC;&#x153;Golden to Gray, Silver to Brown,â&#x20AC;? by Hunter Scott. (Courtesy The Studio Door)





GAY SAN DIEGO May 12 – 25, 2017


CALENDAR Monday, May 22

Log Cabins Republicans of San Diego County meeting: Log Cabin Republicans invite you to their May monthly meeting. Dan McAllister, San Diego County Tax Collector, will be the featured speaker. 6:30 – 8:30 p.m. Brick Bar, 1475

University Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qPtGFv. Mike Hess Brewing Paint Night: Painting, pints and pizza! Enjoy URBN coal-fi red pizza and Mike Hess beer while creating an artistic masterpiece. Tickets $35 online at bit. ly/2qPHCzw. 6-9 p.m. Mike Hess Brewing Company, 3812 Grim Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qPhSTz.

Tuesday, May 23

HRC Connect – Honoring Older

A mericans Month: Join Human Rights Campaign ( HRC) San Diego for their monthly social to connect, network and chat with LGBTQ community members. This month will focus on LGBTQ seniors and feature speakers Kevin Hannahoe of GSDBA and Larue Fields from The LGBT Center. Free. Food available. 6 -8 p.m. Babycakes San Diego, 3766 Fifth Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qPbcFc.

Wednesday, May 24

Dreamgirls Revue: Spend every Wednesday night cheering on talented drag performers at Urban MO’s. 21-years-and-up. Drink specials. $8 cover. 7-11 p.m. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Thursday, May 25

Kickers Country Line Dancing: Kickers is back! Every Thursday night, come check out the cowboys and

cowgirls as they spin across the floor, join in or even take free lessons (7–8:30 p.m.). All skill levels encouraged. Drink specials. 7 p.m.–close. Urban MO’s, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

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