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Volume 8 Issue 9 April 28 – May 13, 2017

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Reflecting on 30 years

Melissa smokin’ through the storm

7 COMMUNITY San Diego Women’s Chorus back up Janis Ian (center) last year at the Balboa Theatre while Artistic Director Kathleen Hansen (foreground) looks on. (Courtesy ProMotion Entertainment)

Local women look back on a life of sharing community and song By Margie M. Palmer The San Diego Women’s Chorus (SDWC) is turning 30. To celebrate the milestone, the chorus will be hosting three separate performances on May 6 and 7 at the University Christian Church in Hillcrest. Titled “Looking Back on Our First 30 Years,” the retrospective concert will highlight some of the group’s favorite songs from the past three decades. SDWC Artistic Director Kathleen Hansen said she believes their audience will delight in their song selections, which span contemporary

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music, commissioned pieces and social tributes including “The Lesbian Second Date Moving Service,” Adele’s “Rumor Has it / Someone Like You” mashup and Jan Ian’s choral anthem “I’m Still Standing.” Ian performed with the chorus last year at Balboa Theatre. Board co-chair Laura Stratton reflected on the chorus’ history. “The presence of [LGBTQ] allies as opposed to having an all lesbian and bisexual membership is a significant evolution of the organization, especially over the past 10 years,” Stratton said, adding

that the chorus has also seen a shift in its musical quality over the years, gaining national recognition and the chance to sing at the opening concert at the Gay and Lesbian International Association of Choruses (GALA) International Festival in Denver last December. “As the world has changed and lesbian/bi/queer women found and created more spaces within the community, women who enjoyed singing and had musical training, flocked to SDWC more and more,” Stratton said. “We

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Morgan M. Hurley | Editor

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ArtZine is a new column that will share the work, places and lives of the artists within the local arts community of San Diego. I will try to make it as all-inclusive and feature not only artists of all mediums but also galleries, art spaces, art classes and at times include photography, music, theater or even architecture. Alternative topics may include murals, tagging, outdoor art, interviews, etc. It may not run every issue but it is my wish to bring more attention to our local arts community, with a focus on LGBT artists of all kinds. I hope to add a calendar of art events in the future and we may have guest contributors on occasion, too. If you are interested in participating, email me at

Alejandro Rojas comes out

Local art dealer Alexander Salazar, who opened his first gallery “Alexander Salazar Fine Art” in 2010 on Broadway, Downtown, is still successfully supporting artists at his current digs, located at 225 W.

Salazar stands next to a finished piece. (Courtesy Alexander Salazar) Market St., where he moved a year ago. Salazar was recently inspired to go back to his artistic roots and let the artist within come out of the closet. “After 10 years, I have returned to painting, rejoining my mission of combining art and philanthropy,” he stated in an email. With two masters degrees in art (Harvard, Boston College), Salazar’s new venture uses his birth name, Alejandro Rojas Salazar, and a method he calls

“swirling and pouring.” He has used the hashtag #pourart on social media when he shares the work. With this method, he literally pours paint on to the canvas, then either leaves it as is, lets it wander by moving the canvas around, or uses his hands to shape the image. His recent foray has been quite popular among his Facebook followers and has not only consummated in pop-up

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The 2017 National LGBT Equality March on Washington is set for Sunday, June 11. The march will be organized similar to January’s “Women’s March,” with other equality marches being held the same day in various cities across the country and even internationally. San Diego City Commissioner Nicole Murray Ramirez, a national activist for his decades of work for LGBT and Latino rights, has been selected as one of 12 national co-chairs for the event, which includes representatives from all walks of life within the LGBTQ community. “I am very honored to have been elected and believe that this is the most diverse leadership ever elected to lead one of our marches on Washington,” Ramirez said in a press release announcing his co-chairmanship. “From activists involved with HRC, AMFAR, National LGBT Taskforce, international Pride [organizations], to advocates of immigrant rights, Black Lives Matter, queer youth and the trans community.” Helping to organize a massive LGBT march on Washington is not new to Ramirez, who has also served as co-chair for three previous marches; helped plan six previous marches, the first held in 1979 and the most recent in 2009; as well as having served as national chair for Stonewall 25, which drew 500,000 marchers to New York City in 1994. Ramirez currently serves on the national board of the Harvey Milk Foundation; is chairman and CEO of the International Imperial Court System of the U.S.A., Canada, and Mexico; serves as executive director of the National GLBT Network U.S.A.; is a past state president of Equality California; and has served the LGBT community in San Diego in various roles and titles for over 40 years. The June 11 date is in keeping with the commemoration of June being Pride month across the nation. For more information about the equality march, including a complete list of co-chairs, follow them on Facebook at mux9ewk. To read up on the last National Equality March, visit k7uogm8.

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Melissa Etheridge:

‘I’m still here’ The icon on writing new politically driven songs, her Trump-era medicine and what can make us stronger Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate “You keep doing what you’re doing, you keep being out, you keep being beautiful,” Melissa Etheridge told me, as if to emphasize the present-day significance of simply being your queer self. The Grammywinning rock icon, whose coming out at the height of her career in the early ’90s paved the way for many in the LGBT community, knows the gravity mere visibility can have on the world. During this impassioned interview, Etheridge, 55, brings her centered thoughtfulness to our conversation about the precise career moments when her music incited momentous change, the influence Donald Trump is having on her latest “empowered” songwriting sessions and why she’s not sweating the “big bully in the schoolyard.” (Chris Azzopardi | CA) Melissa, if there was ever a time to drink your weed wine, it’s gotta be now and for the next four years. (Melissa Etheridge | ME) [Laughs] Tell me about it! (CA) Can you send me a crate?

(ME) You do need it, don’t you? Oh my god, I wish I could. I wish I could get it out of [California], but I’m working on it. (CA) Does that stuff help you write? Does it get the words flowing? (ME) You know what, I’m not as much of a drinker. I actually just smoke, and yes, smoking helps me write very much — smoking helps me every day. (CA) Is it sativa you smoke for writing? (ME) For writing I smoke sativa; otherwise, if I’m not writing, I don’t use sativa because it would just make me run around in circles. [Laughs] (CA) You know, when it comes to marijuana, I’m still learning. (ME) Aww. The whole product thing that I’ve got going, called Etheridge Farms — part of what we really want to be is sort of the “Cannabis for Dummies.” I can really take everybody through this … and this is good medicine! It’s good

see Interview, pg 13

The chorus practices at the Spreckels Organ Pavilion for San Diego Sings 2017, put on by the Choral Consortium of San Diego. (Courtesy SDWC) FROM PAGE 1

SDWC have remained committed to performing music that fits our mission to celebrate diversity, encourage women’s creativity and inspire social action, but the world has changed drastically in the last 30 years and we continue to evolve with it.” They’ve also had memorable performances with the Indigo Girls and Frenchie Davis, in addition to performing at San Diego Pride and rallies against Proposition 8, helping the community grieve after the Orlando tragedy, and singing at the San Diego Women’s March in January. “Sharing the Balboa Theatre stage with the Indigo Girls‬ ‬ in 2014 was an incredible experience I don’t think anyone ever dreamed could be reality,” said Carin Scheinin, marketing chair and past president of the chorus. “Singing with them and then taking selfies at the end of that concert ‘Songs of Protest, Songs of Peace’ was euphoric.” Scheinin said chorus members expressed interest in participating in the Women’s March from the beginning. “We reached out to event organizers and as planning continued, it became apparent that the best way for SDWC to participate was to select some of our protest/street songs that are simple to learn and lead, gather together to march together and to help lead the crowd around us in song,” she said. Hansen wasn’t surprised at the interest, especially since the chorus has a history of being socially active. “It’s part of our mission,” she said. “We like to get involved whenever we can provide inspiration or a soundtrack to a community event.” The chorus also joined the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus and members of San Diego Pride and the San Diego Padres at the Out at the Park event on April 21, to sing the national anthem live on the field. It was their third time singing the national anthem for before a Padres game. In addition to lending their voices to social and protest

events, chorus members have been heavily focused on preparing for their upcoming show. “Our artistic team started preparing for this concert by looking at all of the songs SDWC has performed over the last 30 years,” Scheinin said, adding that they tried to find songs they hadn’t sung at past anniversary concerts. “[It] was a huge task, as you can imagine, to start flagging the songs that jumped out as really important to include in this retrospective,” she continued. “Our production committee has been hard at work planning concert elements that will make the experience exciting and innovative.” Plans include incorporating video messages and other visu-

enjoy what you hear. While their upcoming performance will highlight memories, the women of SDWC maintain that they are committed to forging a sense of family, friendship and social activism as they look toward the future. “SDWC is really a family for so many of our members,” Stratton said. “It is truly a place of safety, a place to share the love of music and a place that encourages the practice of activism; and I think that combination is rare in this world. Performing is exhilarating, but I think our members join and stay because of the community they can just step into. They can be themselves without hiding.” “Reflections: Looking Back on Our First 30 Years” will be held at the University Christian

The chorus sings during their “Broadway Our Way” concert, which featured Frenchie Davis, in 2015. (Courtesy ProMotion Entertainment). al aspects, including a timeline of their 30-year history and a tribute to former artistic director Christopher Allen. Allen led the chorus from 1996 to 2014 and died in April 2016. Scheinin, who has been with the chorus for 15 of its 30 years, remembers Allen warmly. “He was always laughing and making us laugh,” she said. “Whether it was putting something funny on his head — like a boa or little hat — and taking pictures, or singing off-key to a perfectly played accompaniment, or reminding us to have ‘ovarian fortitude’ while singing, he was a really funny guy. It always felt so good to get him to laugh, as well.” A number of the songs chosen for the upcoming retrospective have never been sung by the chorus, Scheinin said, or were previously performed but with a different arrangement, so whether you’ve attended one of their concerts or not, you’ll

Church, located at 3900 Cleveland Ave. in Hillcrest. Performances will take place Saturday, May 6, at 3 and 7:30 p.m. A third performance will be held Sunday, May 7, at 4 p.m. Advance tickets cost $20 online, while same-day tickets can be purchased at the church for $25. A select number of VIP tickets, which must be purchased in advance, will entitle ticket holders to premium seating in a reserved section of the venue and are available online for $30. For more information, visit —Editor Morgan M. Hurley contributed to this report. —Margie M. Palmer is a San Diego-based freelance writer who has been racking up bylines in a myriad of news publications for the past 10 years. You can write to her at▼


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The Veterans of Foreign Wars “Legislator of the Year” award is given every year to members of the California state Legislature who have provided leadership on veterans issues. This year at their Legislative Day and Reception, held April 19 in Sacramento, the award was given to Sen. Toni G. Atkins, who represents San Diego, and Assemblymember Jacqui Irwin of Thousand Oaks. “We are proud to recognize these two outstanding legislators,” said Steve Milano, the VFW’s Dept. of California state adjutant and quartermaster. “Senator Atkins and Assemblywoman Irwin have been instrumental in advancing veterans’ programs in California and we are pleased to recognize their hard work and achievements on behalf of the veterans of our state.” Atkins has long been a supporter and champion of veterans. She has always made their issues among her top priorities and remained actively involved in efforts to secure affordable housing and other well-earned benefits for all veterans and their families, including LGBT veterans. A bill Atkins co-authored, which led to Proposition 41, has so far awarded $180 million in contracts for affordable housing for 1,600 veterans, with more on the way. Atkins has also pushed for increased funding for support personnel positions at veterans claims offices to help veterans track down overdue and current payments and benefits. In addition, she is an avid supporter of “Stand Down,” the annual weekend event that connects homeless veterans to vital services, and launched the “Socks for Stand Down” program several years ago that brings hundreds of socks every year for attending veterans. “It’s truly an honor to have my efforts on behalf of veterans recognized by an effective advocacy organization like the VFW,” Atkins said. “Not only are veterans an important and venerable component of San Diego’s population and history; military service is also a major part of my DNA, with numerous members of my family having served in the armed forces. For me, taking care of veterans is both personal and a public-policy imperative.” Visit


The Administration on Aging, part of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, oversees the National Survey of Older Americans Act Participants, which is used to determine what services will be provided to older Americans in need. The Trump administration wants the survey to stop gathering information about LGBT seniors. SAGE (Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders) — the nation’s oldest and largest nonprofit dedicated to focusing on the issue of LGBT aging and improving the lives of LGBT older adults — has launched a 30-day campaign in response to this news. “It’s a first step in erasing the LGBT community from the American map,” SAGE organizers said in a press release. “We will

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Consciousness, change and humility Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel This column is inspired by a phrase in a terrific book I am reading, “Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life” by Jungian psychologist James Hollis. The author wrote that many of life’s hardships are “… a summons to consciousness, change and humility.” “Wow,” I thought. “That nicely summarizes what so much of life is all about.” And my intuition told me, “That would be a great concept for your Gay San Diego column.” And, here it is. To me, consciousness is about being an observer, watching yourself, noticing things and expanding your mind/ awareness/life. A lawyer client of mine told me that her law firm — huge and conservative — has begun to offer the lawyers classes in “mindfulness.” My client told me that she had some initial resistance to the classes. “Why should we spend time learning this kind of stuff?” she asked. But after a few weeks of classes, she told me that not only had the mindfulness classes helped most of the lawyers in the firm to be more efficient, kind and aware, it had helped her to see that her wife was unhappy with their sex life and my client had just been ignoring it, hoping it would “go away” (as if).

I have also used mindfulness with clients who wanted to change a behavior. One client was drinking more than he wanted to, but didn’t really want to think about it or deal with it. He wanted to better control how much he drank. I taught him a few mindfulness techniques so he could more accurately observe/watch himself. (Note: mindfulness isn’t about judging or punishing yourself, it’s about being more conscious of what you are doing). The mindfulness techniques helped him see when he had had enough and why he sometimes kept drinking anyway (shyness and social anxiety, in his case). The result of all of this? He drinks a bit less and enjoys it a lot more, as do the friends he goes out with. Most of us say that we want to — consciously — change our lives for the better, but on the other hand, our subconscious mind is very resistant to change. It’s much more fun to demand/expect that other people change to please us. Ah, if only life worked that way. I recently became aware that the vast majority of my problems are because people aren’t doing what I want them to do and I can’t change them. Luckily, this made me laugh at myself. It sounds so simple to say: You can’t control other people, so just let them be. But it’s harder than hell to pull this off. As human beings, we live in a world of other human beings, and unfortunately, so many of

them do things that drive us nuts. What can we do? We can change ourselves. Sure, I participate in social change movements, give money to good causes and do my best to help those who are disenfranchised, but can I really change other people? No, I’m stuck with them, just as they are. I may give them my terrifically enlightened feedback: “You should do more of this or less of that,” but they can choose to listen or blow me off. Humility is not a virtue I came to easily. In my younger years, I thought it was rather stupid and associated it with weakness and meekness. “The meek shall inherit the earth” seemed highly unlikely; I thought that the strong, aggressive people would get it instead. And sometimes, it looks as though they have. But aggression, greed and boastfulness (“Make America Great Again”) come from fear, not from strength. A humble person views her accomplishments, gifts and talents from a healthy perspective. He/She is aware of his/her limitations as an individual and as a human being. Empirical research shows humility has been positively correlated with better academic performance, job performance and excellence in leadership. Humble people have better social relationships, avoid deception in their social interactions and are more forgiving, grateful and cooperative.

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NEWS not be erased. We will not be eliminated. We will not go quietly.” The group has established a series of social media posts, directed for use by LGBT elders and supporters on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, which will help them “get our voices heard.” A sample Facebook or Instagram post, using more than 140 characters: ● So many of our LGBTQ seniors survived the AIDS epidemic. They don’t deserve to have the government once again abandon them. Help us fight for the services #LGBTElders deserve at bit. ly/WeRefuse2BInvisible #We RefuseToBeInvisible Sample Twitter posts (less than 140 characters): ● We won’t turn our backs on our elders. Tell @POTUS: #WeRefuseToBeInvisible www. ● Dumping #LGBTElders from critical surveys is only the beginning. We must #resist every step. #WeRefuseToBeInvisible via @sageusa WeRefuse2BInvisible These phrases and posts can also be shared directly from the SAGE Facebook, Instagram and Twitter pages. For more information and a dozen or more other sample social media posts, follow @sageusa and visit bit. ly/WeRefuse2BInvisible.


The body of a North Park man who had crashed his SUV at the west Interstate 8 at Jackson Drive interchange on April 6, was finally found April 18, the San Diego Union Tribune reported. SDPD detectives believe he fell down an embankment along Camino del Rio North, near the transition lanes of Interstate 8 and Interstate 805. His upper body had suffered major trauma due to the fall. He had been missing for two weeks. Bernal-Medina’s partner Josef Gonzales is devastated over the loss and friends have started a GoFundMe page to help pay for Bernal-Medina’s funeral expenses, and is seeking $15,000. At press time they had raised $4,500. “The search for our beloved David came to a tragic end as his body was discovered on Tuesday April 18. After a long, emotional two-week search, we can now lay our friend to sleep and pray that he is at peace. I know that David would want and most importantly deserves a proper funeral for his family in Arizona and Celebration of Life in his honor scheduled for Saturday April 29,” the page states. “Please help up us reach our goal of 15k. All funds raised will be used to pay for the funeral and celebration of life. Any funds left over will be giving to the Bernal-Medina family. A little goes a long way. Please share this with your friends and family. Thank you so much for all your support during this time.” To donate, visit mrkvggr.▼

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Spring into action Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton Just yesterday, I got to go on my annual Dining Out For Life “date” with the inimitable Elaine Graybill, an event that always reminds me that it isn’t just what’s in our pockets that can help nonprofits move forward, but also what is in our hearts. The “ambassadors” at each participating DOFL business have an opportunity to really elevate the event and make patrons feel great about participating. As San Diego’s spring weather gets progressively more beautiful, I think it’s a great time to take stock of some of our organizations and programs that could use our talents, as volunteers. San Diego LGBT Pride: If ever there was a time to “represent” for our city, it is on Pride weekend! Pulling off this huge event takes a strong, strategically thinking staff, and willing volunteers, to put a friendly and dedicated face to San Diego, not only for our community members, but also vendors, entertainers and out-of-town visitors. There are volunteer positions available both before and during the festival, for folks of all ages and ability levels. Visit volunteer. Mama’s Kitchen and Special Delivery: Food insecurity for those facing health challenges due to HIV/AIDS or cancer is very real, and both of these local organizations are strong allies to our community in fighting this issue. Without an amazing volunteer team to help prepare and deliver

nutritious meals to these homebound individuals, not only would they experience poor nutrition, but they might also go days or weeks without seeing a friendly face. Nutrition and positive interactions are such vital ingredients to regaining and maintaining health, and both Special Delivery and Mama’s Kitchen are helping San Diegans “live again.” Visit or San Diego Food Bank: Speaking of helping feed San Diego, the San Diego Food Bank is a great place for families and youth organizations to lend a hand. Volunteers of 11 years of age or older are welcome, so if you are a parent, scout leader, or Big Brother/ Sister, this could be an excellent opportunity to start teaching lessons on how we give back. Shifts last about three hours in the warehouse and groups can sign up for shifts together. Visit I Love a Clean San Diego (ILACSD): Beautiful beaches, parks and bays are an important part of why San Diego is “America’s Finest City,” and keeping our city clean are the great folks at ILACSD! There are monthly opportunities to participate all throughout San Diego County, from storm drain stenciling, to canyon and beach cleanups and recycling events. So if your passion includes sustainable, pollution-free living, ILACSD is the organization for you. Visit San Diego Public Library: Be a part of a team of thousands of volunteers who assist the city’s workforce to enhance services to the public. Volunteers support special populations; help with the success of various environmental,

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KIMMEL The bottom line: Be conscious and humble when life throws problems your way. And as a result, don’t be surprised when

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Guest Editorial The impossible missions of the TSA By Kristin Beck I spent 20 years in the Navy SEALs and we carried out a lot of missions. Some of the missions were seemingly impossible, but we did those missions and we succeeded. Other impossible missions are: Making everyone happy; maximizing both freedom and public safety; rhyming something with orange. So, where is this going? The impossible missions of the Transportation Security Administration (TSA). First thing you should know is that I am a minority citizen whose civil rights and dignity are challenged every single day. The world defines me as transgender and I describe myself as two-spirit. Both descriptions describe me as different than many people. I look different than “normal” and sometimes I am treated badly because of it. Basically I am a human who wishes to be treated with dignity and respect as any other person would. My personal dignity came under fire by the TSA last year. I challenged them to do better, which was followed by the Deputy Administrator of the TSA calling me in for a talk. The Office of Civil Rights and Liberties got heavily involved and has EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Ben Cartwright Michael Kimmel Ian Morton Margie M. Palmer Frank Sabatini Jr. Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x111

dedicated themselves to training all TSA officers to ensure better treatment of passengers. The results have been videos, education and training for TSA employees and other educational materials for passengers who encounter those TSA officers while they travel. Again, the results are education for both the TSA and travelers, which I see as great progress for all of us. So how is this an “impossible” mission and why the worries?

I see TSA’s mission as:

● Ensuring everyone’s safety. ● Search every traveler

thoroughly. ● Never make a mistake. ● Never allow dangerous items onboard an aircraft. ● Understand and respect travelers’ limited time and schedule. ● Never infringe on a travelers dignity while doing all of the above.

I see each passenger’s mission as:

● Follow procedures and be patient. ● Pack your own bags and don’t carry unauthorized items. ● Move quickly and efficiently as possible. ● Understand the TSA has a job and limited time to search you. COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 INTERNS Alex Ehrie Jennifer Gotschalk Yesenia Luna

Even if you do all of these things with 100 percent effort and perfectly every time, there are going to be issues and compromises at times. Trying to manage these compromises and ensure every traveler is treated fairly and with dignity is where leadership, education and training come in. TSA employees are given various cultural awareness and sensitivity trainings covering nearly every passenger need, but there is still work to do and not every single issue can be covered. I have personally witnessed the TSA Office of Civil Rights and Liberties supplementing standard procedures with training to improve passenger interaction. I was also invited to the TSA headquarters to host a webinar highlighting transgender passengers needs and expectations. This webinar was given as extra training to many front-line TSA officers. I also heard about the many other webinars and guest speakers they have had over the years, including the National Center for Transgender Equality, Gender Justice Nevada, Equality Florida and former Federal Air Marshal, Veronica Pickell. The TSA is developing online training for all TSA employees and recently, training focused on screening passengers who may wear chest binders and prosthetics. TSA is respectful and committed to clearing the traveler and not their sex/gender. A new training module entitled Transgender 101 has been ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza

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developed for TSO New Hire Training and it will also be incorporated into the FY2017 National Training Program. When I first saw this video my only thought was of the 1950s government video about “duck and cover.” I watched it again and saw that quite a bit of material is covered and government policy was covered quite well. So the impossible mission continues thousands of times a day. The TSA is training and educating their employees and the process of evolving and improving continues. We can help them improve by offering suggestions and constructive criticism where required. I truly believe the mission can be accomplished and we can help. Here’s how: Watch the video found here Then comment productively and share it on social media platforms. Maybe the right people will see it and we can improve everyone’s travel. —Kristin Beck is a retired U.S. Navy Seal Senior Chief Petty Officer. Beck is also a former San Diego resident and was inducted onto the San Diego LGBT Community Center’s Ben F. Dillingham, III & Bridget Wilson LGBT Veterans Wall of Honor in 2013. She was the subject of the feature length CNN documentary, “Lady Valor.” To see the film’s trailer and learn more, visit▼

Lately, we Hillcrest residents have been getting a pretty raw deal from the city and in general. Our rents climb ever higher as our neighborhood deteriorates into a filthy playground for ill-behaved street people. A simple walk to the store (which many will no longer do after dark) often involves dodging human feces and walking over the bodies of passed out homeless as we navigate through their fields of garbage. Often, we neighbors are subjected to angry and abusive rants. We endure all this and yet, the good things planned for Hillcrest never materialize. The site of our “mythical” library remains just another spot for the homeless to trash. We remain without a local park or dog park. Our fancier western neighbor has two city parks within blocks of the main business district. Residents in this “hospitals” area shouldn’t have to drive to Balboa Park to see some greenery or have a quiet walk with their kids or dogs. Many here are older (or their dogs are) and don’t drive, or don’t want to have to “drive to walk.” Give us a park/dog park! Give us a pretty spot to decompress. Two possibilities come to mind. The first is the large canyon side green space area on the north end of Third Avenue (as you go toward the Scripps facility). Although it might be a narrow park, there is space beyond the last apartment building for benches, meandering and observing the pretty view. An improved path could lead to the official green space trail. Another spot (in my fantasy) is the gorgeous property across from the UCSD emergency room. The property was the former residence of an amazing artist whose beautiful stone work graces the property in the form of stone arches, fireplaces, walls, walkways, etc. It probably is not a very buildable property but would make a heck of a park, even if the park was more of a walkway above it. Hillcrest needs some love! It is not the positive, happy place it used to be. Give us something so that we feel, once more, glad to be living here. —Marilyn Mangion, via email

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father’s abuse of their mother and when they began to explore feminism in college, were drawn to the work of ending There is so much work to be abuse and sexual assault. done, but the group has begun Back Out Wexler had worked for a numto make some progress and I with Benny ber of organizations and projspoke to some of its members Ben Cartwright ects before landing at CCS as about the work. the training specialist in sexWalter Castaneda, a surviA few weeks ago, I was out ual assault and partner abuse vor of childhood sexual abuse, at a bar on a Sunday afternoon prevention and education. said he was drawn to this with friends and we were disThe mission of CCS, which work because of his experience cussing some thoughts about has served San Diego for 48 searching for local resources this planned column. In the years, is to end sexual and for male survivors and finding middle of the conversation, a relationship violence by being next to nothing. man came up to us to say hello a catalyst for caring commuLuckily, he was able to find a great therapist that helped and during that interaction, he nities and social justice. Their him to practice self-care and services include a 24/7 honoticed that one of my friends healing, but he was particutline, shelters, advocacy, legal was wearing a snap butservices, counseling and preton-down shirt. The person who larly inspired by a workshop he attended called “Sexy vention education. CCS underapproached us thought it would stands that partner and sexual be “fun” to unbutton my friend’s Survivors” at the National LGBTQ Task Force’s Creating abuse isn’t just a women’s issue shirt so he could touch his bare Change Conference last year. and have been serving men chest. He did it once without Following that experience, and non-binary people alongasking and got maybe three or Castaneda knew he had to side women for many years four buttons undone. My friend take action, and he reached — in fact CCS was one of the told him not to do it again, but out to Lopez and myself to first to have gender-inclusive the man kept saying “Aww schedule a meeting to disshelters. come on! You’re asking for it cuss this. We had our first “Sexual assault in general is wearing a shirt like that!” and meeting in March 2016, and hugely underreported,” Wexler persisted to pull down his shirt while I’ve stepped out of the said. “One reason is that about buttons again and again, even group, they’ve now grown to 86 percent of sexual assaults though my friend kept repeatmore than six people working are committed by someone edly saying “No, this isn’t cool.” together to help create a safe known to the survivor: often What so many people seem space of healing for men. a friend, acquaintance, family to forget is that no means no. Castaneda is particularly member, or partner. People are Always. pleased that the San Diego more likely to report to law April is Sexual Assault LGBT Community Center enforcement when raped by a Awareness Month (SAAM), a launched a Male Survivors stranger, rather than by somecampaign designed to raise of Intimate Partner Violence one they know and care about. public awareness about sexual group in February, which “Sometimes survivors don’t violence and to educate comhe said “Gives other men a realize what was done to them munities on how to prevent it. safe space to share similar is sexual assault; it feels icky, Sexual violence is a major pubstories among themselves, but maybe the person didn’t lic health, human rights and which might help them with use force or a weapon,” Wexler social justice issue, and many their queer identities and continued. “Most sexual aspeople don’t even realize what relationships.” saults are perpetrated with the constitutes sexual assault. The We also know that sexual assistance of drugs and the story above was a form of sexuassault, especially among most common intoxicant used al assault and things like that males, is underreported. Walter is alcohol. So many times surhappen every single day. shared that he believes the anvivors don’t remember all the According to the National swer is complex, but there are details of the assault. Trauma Sexual Violence Resource social “norms” that play a part. also affects memory because Center, sexual violence is any Castaneda believes, especially when we are in crisis, we often type of unwanted sexual conin his Latino culture, that the react with a fight/flight/freeze tact, ranging from sexist attiexpectations of “traditional response, which shuts down our tudes and actions, to rape and masculinity” — such as not ability to remember a timeline murder. Sexual violence can being allowed to cry or show of events.” include words and actions of a emotion — coupled with family And then there’s victim sexual nature made against closeness, can lead to shame; as blaming. Wexler said our cula person’s will. A person may well as immigration concerns ture blames victims, making it also use force, threats, manipfor some, including fears of harder to disclose and identify ulation, or coercion to commit being deported if they should the abuse. Victims are often sexual violence. report anything, are the main asked about their sexual hisWith all this said, statistics tory; how much they had to show that sexual violence is not reasons why reporting doesn’t happen. drink; what they were wearing; just a problem that women exAfter finally getting the whether they led the perpeperience, but it’s also a particcourage to tell his parents trator on; and why they didn’t ularly rampant problem within about the abuse he had expefight back. the LGBTQ community. Four rienced as a young man and “Now let’s consider a survivor in 10 gay men (40.2 percent) who is a man, and the ways and nearly half of bisexual men reporting it to the Sherriff’s Department in his hometown, that society tells men that they (47.4 percent) have experienced sexual violence in their lifetime. he found they were of little help. should always be able to protect “Asking for help was the himself and always enjoy sex, One in 8 lesbians (13.1 percent) hardest thing I sought out to especially gay men,” Wexler and nearly half of bisexual said. “Many men who were sexwomen (46.1 percent) have been do after that,” Castaneda said. “I gave it another shot four ually assaulted have said they raped in their lifetime. years ago when I asked Benny felt intense confusion if they To raise awareness about if there was anything at The experienced an erection or ejacthe real problem that sexual Center for sexual assault surulation, believing that meant it assault is, a group of local comvivors, but there wasn’t. I was wasn’t rape.” munity members have been discouraged after that again. I Wexler said that gay men’s working for several months to feel like that’s part of the reaculture “in particular” emphamake sure that local agencies son why male survivors don’t sizes sexuality and drug use, better serve GBT male and report sexual violence. We don’t which they said could feel emmasculine-of-center survivors. feel supported by society due powering and exciting and lead Fernando Lopez, director of to the lack of resources made to vulnerable situations. operations at San Diego Pride, available for us.” “At the same time, gay started this work over two Liat Wexler — a genculture doesn’t create onyears ago shortly after he first der-queer identified member going conversations about (anonymously) shared his story of our community who uses respecting boundaries and of being raped after being out “they/them/their” pronouns seeking consent in the same at a local nightclub. After the — works for the Center for way that it does about getting story was published, he heard Community Solutions (CCS) tested for HIV,” they confrom dozens of men who said, in San Diego and has been intinued. “I’ve heard men and “That happened to me, too.” He strumental working to create masculine-of-center people in began to realize how big of a more resources for survivors. the LGBTQ community exproblem this was and wanted They said they witnessed their press disbelief that rape even to take action.

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happens to them. Men are taught that they can’t be victims and that to be one would threaten their masculinity.” On average, men who were assaulted as children or young adults often don’t even seek help for the abuse until after they reach their 40s, Wexler said. So what should one do if they have been a victim of sexual assault? According to Wexler, you can receive support from CCS for any sexual assault or unwanted sexual contact that you have experienced, regardless of when it happened or whether you choose to report it to law enforcement. “CCS’s services are free, confidential, available in English and Spanish and to people of all orientations, genders, and immigration statuses,” they said. “You can call CCS’s 24/7 hotline at 888-385-4657 to talk with someone for support, learn about your options if you want evidence collected in a forensic exam, or get connected to counseling and other resources.” I’m grateful to this small but mighty group of community that has come together to tackle a very complex issue within our community, and their work is only just beginning. We all play a role in preventing sexual violence and establishing norms of respect, safety, equality, and helping others, so it’s important that we all speak up against the systems that have normalized sexual assault. And remember: NO ALWAYS MEANS NO. For more information about SAAM, visit hpapenb.



LETTERS New look for The Rail

[Ref: “Out with the brass, in with the new,” Vol. 8, Issue 8, or online at mfchsje]. They goofed the outside architecture. They should hire an expert designer and restore it. Crest Cafe can help! They have a feeling for Streamlined-Moderne. —Gregory May, via

Cheers for coverage

[Ref: “A Very Reverend reverend,” Vol. 8, Issue 8, or online at]. Thank you so much for the great coverage in Gay San Diego! It was a pleasure to talk with Joyell. I appreciate the work you do in our community. Peace. —The Very Rev. Penny Bridges, via email —Letters to the editor can be sent to morgan@sdcnn. com. Comments can also be made on our website or Facebook page.▼

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Captivating cuisine from India’ s tropics (Clockwise from left) Dosa filled with curried potatoes; fish wrapped in banana leaves; Fried vegetable “cutlets�; and chicken curry with appam bread (Photos by

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr.

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Forget the pakoras, naan bread and chicken tikka masala flaunted in most Indian restaurants. Those are standard provisions from the country’s northern regions far removed from the menu choices at Flavors of Mayura, which specializes in a rare lineup of dishes common to India’s tropical southwest province of Kerala. (Mayura is a Sanskrit word for peacock.) Indeed, you’ll be hardpressed to find elsewhere things like ultra-thin dosa crepes made with a batter of rice and lentils and stuffed

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with turmeric-kissed potatoes. Dramatic in size, they sport the length and girth of a loosely rolled-up wall poster. The curries and marinades veer into novel territory as well with their exceptionally dynamic combinations of red and green chilies, black peppercorns, shaved coconut, garlic, and ginger. On a heat scale of one to 10, they can soar to a seven by default, although most of the dishes we tried ranked tolerably at level five. Even the breads are unique compared to other Indian restaurants. Here, one of the

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preferred sauce “mops�� eet is appam, a subtly sweet pancake of sorts that relies on fermented rice batter and coconut milk to achieve its spongy, bubbly texture. If you’re familiar with injera bread served in Ethiopian restaurants, this comes close. There’s also paratha, a multi-layered flat bread of refi ned flour that is so delicate it turns dry and crumbly if you ignore it for too long. Throughout our entire dinner, the cozy semi-formal dining room was fi lled exclusively with Indian families that were obviously more familiar with the cuisine than us. According to our friendly and efficient waiter, there are only two other restaurants in California that focus mainly on Keralan cuisine — Los Angeles and Silicon Valley. As a couple of flat screens overhead played Indian music videos, our fi rst grandly flavored dish was the chicken lollipops, certainly not the panko-crusted types served on wooden sticks in trendy American eateries. These were frenched wings, with the meat pulled down a bit from their bones and the tips wrapped in aluminum foil for easy handling. The darkred sauce coating them tasted equal parts garlic, chilies and black pepper, offering a mischievous heat factor we found addicting. From the “veg appetizer� section we tried the tlet,� which is er“cutlet,� neously described roneously on the menu as a ep-fried meat “deep-fried ack.� Similar snack.� to croquettes and rved two to an served der with a curious order tchup-like conketchup-like ment, they diment,

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Chicken lollipops coated in a sauce of chilies and ginger (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

consisted of potatoes, peas and flecks of red chilies — simple but delicious. The giant dosa crepe followed. Despite its astounding mass, we easily polished off every speck of the paper-thin casing and the tenderly cooked spiced potatoes inside. It was served with pulpy coconut chutney and comforting lentil soup for dipping. For our entrees, hubby opted for the meen polichathu, a large fi let of king mackerel marinated intensely in ginger, cinnamon and chilies. It was wrapped tightly in oily banana leaves, which served as a barrier to the meaty, greaseless fish during deep-frying. The mackerel was supposed to be the spiciest entrÊe in p, according g to the our lineup, waiter. But the chicken curry I chose — served with potatoes in innocent-looking brown gravy — rivaled the fish’s heat level by a couple of notches.

Offering tender meat and a riot of flavors, I loved every speck of it. Our cool down was mango mousse for dessert, a straightforward blend of mango puree and heavy cream. If you’re expecting something airy, this isn’t it. Although given its bright fruity flavor and perhaps the first dose of dairy you’re encountering from a menu that uses only ghee (clarified butter) in a few of the dishes, it’s a coddling treat to the palate. In addition to nightly dinner service, Flavors of Mayura offers plated lunch specials from 11:30 a.m. to 3 p.m., Monday through Wednesday, and a buffet for $9.99 during the same hours on Thursdays and Fridays. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diegoâ€? (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him atâ–ź


The Hillcrest Farmers Market is adding to its Sunday vendor lineup (starting May 21) Bread & Cheese Catering, which offers four different types of grilled cheese sandwiches as well as coconut-curry tomato soup. The company was launched in January by Justin Frank, who served as director of operations at the former S&M Sausage and Meat. His business partner, Devin Gneiting, was a local event planner.

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Clem’s Tap House in Kensington has expanded into an adjoining space that will add 400 square feet to its existing blueprint by late May. Owner Paul Kasawdish said the roomier digs will make way for a second bar and 20 more beer taps devoted exclusively to Belgian and sour beers. With additional seating inside and outside, he welcomes families and kids, adding that he might incorporate a play area on the patio. The food menu currently includes assorted appetizers, flat bread pizzas, sausages and paninis. 4108 Adams Ave., 619-255-4526,

Assorted gelato debuts at Napizza (Citrus Public Relations) Shakespeare’s traditional fish and chips (Courtesy Shakespeare Pub & Grille) Looking for the best plate of fish and chips in the country? The celebrated British dish served at Shakespeare Pub & Grille in Mission Hills recently earned the title in a national contest held by the makers of Old Speckled Hen, the U.K.’s long-established ale. More than 160 pubs across the U.S. initially entered the competition in an effort to gain the most public votes. After the top five contenders were determined, brewery reps from the U.K. made the trek across the pond to personally judge their plates. “They were looking at the actual establishments and the authenticity of the dish,� said Shakespeare general manager Ruth Thomas. “We’ve been in business for nearly 27 years and we were just elated to get this award. So much credit goes to our staff and customers.� 3701 India St., 619-299-0230,

Justin Frank of Bread & Cheese (Photo by Hoplight Social)

They’ve since secured a spot at the North Park Thursday Market and sporadically appear at several breweries around town — Modern Times, Bay City Brewing, Duck Foot and others. In addition, the company caters weddings, corporate lunches and other private events. “We started out with one mobile tent and now have three,� said Frank, who posts the company’s weekly schedule on Instagram and Facebook — @breadandcheesecatering. The menu includes sandwiches such as the Burna-Nator with pepper jack, capicola and enchilada aioli on jalapeno-cheddar sourdough, and the meatless Cali Gold with Swiss, pepper jack, arugula, red peppers and pesto on plain sourdough. 619-709-6016,

The much-anticipated reopening of Olympic CafĂŠ at its new North Park location will become a reality by midMay, said Donna Kotselas, who founded the Greek restaurant with her husband, John, more than 30 years ago. The couple closed the business last year at its original location, at 2340 University Ave., due to landlord issues. In deciding to relocate, they acquired the lease to a structure one door west, where Jersey Joe’s previously resided. But a series of delays involving city bureaucracy and the creation of a large covered patio forestalled their plans to reopen sooner. “The project ended up being more involved than we imagined,â€? Koteselas told Gay San Diego. “We’re now finally ready to come back to everyone.â€? At the new location, customers can expect a wider selection

of house-made desserts and daily specials that will include pork souvlakia skewers, chicken or beef Greek stifado stew, and additional dips and spreads. 2310 University Ave.

Napizza in Hillcrest has introduced gelato in six different flavors that include strawberry-basil, coffee, lemon-rosemary, and chocolate. The creamy Italian dessert is hand-mixed and sourced from Bottega Italiana in University City. The price is $4 for two scoops and $5 for three. 1040 University Ave., 619-546-8300,

A baked goods sale driven by 13 pastry chefs from popular, local establishments will be held from 11 a.m.–1 p.m., May 7 at Herb & Eatery in Little Italy. General admission is $11.49. Early VIP entry (at 10:30 a.m.) is $37.74, which includes three free baked goods. All proceeds from the event will be donated to Monarch School San Diego in Barrio Logan, which educates students impacted by homelessness. Participating chefs include Gan Suebsarakham of Pop Pie Co., Jeremy Harville from Trust, Jessica Scott from Puesto, Rocio Siso-Gurriaran of Nine-Ten, and Adrian Mendoza of Herb & Wood/Herb & Eatery. Tickets can be purchased through under “chef-driven bake sale.â€? 2210 Kettner Blvd., 619-794-2790, —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached atâ–ź

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A bit of travel The aunt of a timorous gent expands his life and ours Theater Review Charlene Baldridge It’s not a long drive to North Coast Repertory Theatre where currently playing is a hilarious, tightly conceived trip around the world titled “Travels With My Aunt.” Aunt Augusta has “brilliant” red hair, according to her nephew, Henry. Audiences hear this description but never really “see” the flamboyant septuagenarian in Graham Greene’s “Travels With My Aunt.” Greene’s book was adapted for the stage by Giles Havergal and directed by David Ellenstein at North Coast Repertory Theatre, where Ellenstein is artistic director. The production is seen through May 7 at the intimate Solana Beach theater. It’s a definite must-see for lovers of literature, spoken word and the actors involved, who are

(l to r) David McBean, Richard Baird, Benjamin Cole and James Saba in North County Rep’s enjoyable, “Travels With My Aunt” (Photo by Aaron Rumley) Richard Baird, Benjamin Cole, David McBean and James Saba. One might ask, who plays Aunt Augusta? The answer is everyone. And everyone plays all the others involved in telling the delightful tale of Henry, a newly retired 50-something banker who spends his days tending

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dahlias in his English garden. Henry meets his Aunt Augusta for the first time at his mother’s funeral. Apparently, she is the black sheep of the family and we quickly discover why. Henry doesn’t know it, but Aunt Augusta plans to enlist him as her new travel companion. He quickly discovers how unconventional she is when he goes to tea at her flat and encounters Wordsworth, an enormous native of Sierra Leone, who calls Augusta his “baby girl” and confides that she loves to “jig-jig” with him (“No one is too old for jig-jig”). Wordsworth, the redheaded aunt, and Henry are soon off with a suitcase of cash aboard the Orient Express, destination Istanbul. Henry is never certain where the money comes from (Augusta: “I am not interested in economy”) or just what Auntie is up to, but he — and we — suspect it is something nefarious that has to do with the love of Augusta’s life, one Mr. Visconti, a former associate of Mussolini. All their travels concern catching up with Visconti, whom they finally meet in Paraguay.

Needless to say, Henry’s life is forever changed. To tell readers all the details would be to spoil the uproarious goings-on. The play is brilliantly cast and directed and the laughter and suspense never let up. Ellenstein serves up another winner. It is great fun to see the identically clad actors (bowler hats are no hindrance!) switch characters right before one’s eyes. Before the evening is over, onlookers will swear to having seen a plethora of characters. Baird’s unforgettable Wordsworth breaks this onlooker’s heart with his passion, dedication and sincerity. Saba’s Augusta is a lovable female mountebank. McBean’s interpretations of the many females encountered along the road are delicious. There are upwards of 20 characters. Cole is the facilitator, making needed accouterments appear and disappear on Marty Burnett’s amazingly utilitarian, yet celestial set. Although certain roles are somewhat identified with certain actors, the switching off is continuous. At various times all play the mystified yet fascinated Henry, whose

dahlias, we suspect, lie forlorn and wilted, ultimately abandoned for the excitement of life. The ending of “Travels With My Aunt” may terrify staid audience members, but as is said, “Never assume yours is a better morality.” We do, however, revel in the fact that the formerly timorous Henry has many delights before him. —Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at charlenecriticism. or reach her at▼

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From Del Shores to Armistead Maupin FilmOut sets lineup for 19th annual LGBT film festival in June Ken Williams | Contributing Editor “A Very Sordid Wedding,” Del Shores’ sequel to his “Sordid Lives” cult classic film and TV prequel series, will get its San Diego premiere at FilmOut San Diego’s 19th annual San Diego LGBT Film Festival in June. The socially relevant sequel, which explores what happens when marriage equality comes to a small town in conservative Texas, will get the coveted spot as the Opening Night film. The three-day festival runs June 9-11 at the historic Observatory North Park theater, located at 2891 University Ave. Opening Night festivities will kick off at 7 p.m. Friday, June 9, with red-carpet treatment for writer/director Del Shores and many of his cast members who are scheduled to attend the local premiere. They will also participate in a Q&A session after the screening and make appearances at the Opening Night Gala from 10 p.m. to midnight at the Sunset Temple, directly across the street from the theater at 3911 Kansas St. Tickets are $45 with admission to both the film and the party. The festival closes with the West Coast premiere of Jennifer M. Kroot’s documentary, “The Untold Tales of Armistead Maupin.” The film begins at 7 p.m. Sunday, June 11, with a Closing Night Party afterward at the theater. Tickets are only $10 for the both the film and the party. The acclaimed author of the immensely popular “Tales of the City” series — which

began in the San Francisco Chronicle and spawned many books, a PBS mini-series and two subsequent series produced by Showtime — will be unable to attend due to his hectic schedule, according to Michael McQuiggan, FilmOut’s longtime programming director. McQuiggan said the buzz is already building for Opening Night. “This will be the only San FilmOut 2017 will premiere “A Very Sordid Wedding,” the sequel to Del Shores’ cult classic. (Courtesy FilmOut San Diego) Diego screening of [‘A Very Sordid Wedding’] and Del A total of 37 full-length and films plan to attend the festival Shores and most of the cast will at 7:45 p.m. Saturday, June 10. Tickets are $10. short films will be shown during and will participate in audience be attending,” he said. “Tickets “‘Something Like Summer’ is the festival, including world, Q&A’s after their respective are already going gangbusters the most buzzed about film on U.S., West Coast, California and screenings. since we teased our audience the LGBT film festival circuit,” San Diego premieres. Some of McQuiggan said fi lm fans online with the news.” McQuiggan said. “We’re excited the selections have been shown might want to purchase the The Friday night gala parto show it to our audience.” at prestigious festivals, such as All-Access Pass for $125, ty, McQuiggan said, will be Chosen for the Girls Sundance and Berlin. which is good for entrance to catered by a dozen Uptown Centerpiece is the West Coast “Our audiences love our all the movies, parties and restaurants, with accompapremiere of Jennifer Reeder’s short-film tracts and this year events scheduled throughout nying alcohol, wine and soft “Signature Move,” a comedic we will have Best of LGBT, the festival. drinks provided by Smirnoff and heartfelt look at modern Best of Local Filmmakers, “It’s a real bargain,” he said. and Anheuser Busch. families and the complexities and FrightOut LGBT Horror,” For the complete festival “All for only $45,” he added. of love in its many forms. The McQuiggan said. lineup and to purchase tickets, McQuiggan called the Girls Centerpiece will start at McQuiggan and senior visit Closing Night film “an out3 p.m. Sunday, June 11. Tickets programmer Jeff Howell have standing documentary based are $10. reviewed hundreds of films and —Ken Williams is a conon the life of the incomparable “‘Signature Move’ has been shorts that were submitted for tributing editor of Gay San Armistead Maupin.” getting raves around the naconsideration over the last year, Diego and can be reached at Picked for the Boys tion,” McQuiggan said. “‘The to be included in the festival. or at 619-961Centerpiece this year is the Lavender Scare’ is about a most- They whittled the choices down 1952. He is a volunteer board West Coast premiere of David ly forgotten chapter in American to the final selections. member of FilmOut San Diego, Berry’s “Something Like history and is powerful, insightFilmmakers and talent repserving as Film & Media Summer,” based on the bestful and relevant today.” resenting more than half of the Relations Director.▼ selling novel of the same title. It’s about the only guy in his Texas high school with the courage to come out of the closet, but having to endure bullying and shunning by classmates. It’s also epic storytelling, taking place over a dozen years as the boy becomes a man and Monday, May 1 - Friday May 5 Wed, May 3 pursues his dream relationship. The Boys Centerpiece will start

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Tuesday, May 2

Community Food Bank 9-10:30 am, The Center The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

Armistead Maupin, author of “Tales of the City,” will be the subject of the festival’s Closing Night Film. (Courtesy FilmOut San Diego)

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6 pm, The Center Everyone is welcome to The Center on the first Wednesday evening of each month for GGG! The popular board game and social night, presented by Men @ The Center, includes pizza, snacks, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hundreds of board games to choose from. Participants are welcome to come alone and meet new friends, or come with a group for a fun evening out. The popular Team Trivia game hosted by community favorite John Lockhart begins at 6:30 pm and everyone is welcome to drop in. Suggested donation of $5 is requested for admission. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at or 619.692.2077 x106.

Thursday, May 11

(NEW!) HIV+ Seniors Discussion Group 12 noon, The Center The CDC estimates that over one-quarter of all HIV/AIDS patients are over 50 years old. If you are 50 years or better and living with HIV, then this discussion group is just for you! Discuss the topics that interest you most. Discover how to feel your best. Socialize with others who can relate. Join us for this lively discussion group to connect, to learn, and to have fun. For more information, contact LaRue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205.



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INTERVIEW for you. And I’ll show you the choices and how to do it if you’re scared and stuff; that’s really what I want my brand to be. It’s about wellness and sort of walking people through this. It’s a very good time to take a breath and know that this too shall pass and it’s making us all better. (CA) Do you really believe that message — this is making us all better, that “this too shall pass”? (ME) I do. I have to. It’s my worldview. It’s my belief in the world and I do have a belief that the universe doesn’t give us anything we cannot handle. All of this is cementing and making stronger our desire to live in a world that celebrates diversity. We know because the last eight years we’ve been riding on this incredibly amazing wave of, wow, we can all do this, we can live and let live and be stronger, and to borrow [Hillary Clinton’s] battle cry, be “stronger together.” Sometimes that being taken away from us and being confronted with what the world would be like without it is what makes that desire stronger, so obviously, it makes us stand up and take to the streets and say, “No, this is not how we want to live, this is not the American dream and let’s change that.” (CA) Well, because we have to — we’re forced to. I was listening to your song “What Happens Tomorrow,” from 2007, and it gave me so much hope then and it’s giving so much hope now. But also, at the same time, I can’t help but feel bittersweet hearing, “I believe a woman can work hard and succeed and we could be content to believe that she could be in charge of the free, and be the president,” knowing Hillary isn’t in the Oval Office right now. (ME) I still believe in it. I know it was hard. We will never forget what that was like in November and January. We will never forget. We will tell our children. I have 10-year olds and said, “Look, this is an important time in history and you’re going to tell people that you were alive when this happened.” (CA) Creatively speaking, is the current political climate

shaping your new music? Are you writing songs about all this? (ME) Of course. I think we’re going to see more music talking about it, more music coming from that, and my music has kind of — I’ve always had a bit of that in my music. So, right now is a writing time for me, this whole year and I can’t help but be influenced by it. I don’t want to put out a protest album, because I’m hoping in two years it will be moot and that we will have figured this all out, and yet I want it to be inspiring and speaking of our times because these, I think, are very important times. (CA) What you do so well is put a face on an issue or event, like your song about Matthew Shepard, “Scarecrow,” and “Tuesday Morning,” an LGBTrights rally cry centered on the late Mark Bingham, who sacrificed his life to save others in the Sept. 11 attacks. I imagine that might be the direction you’d go in. (ME) It’s funny, I haven’t really told anybody what I’m up to, but that’s exactly it — putting a face to it. I’m finding stories and really taking that way in. (CA) As someone who’s always been a voice in and for the LGBT community, what’s it like now to be an out gay musician and activist in a time of social and political fear? (ME) I’ve been doing this for 25 years now. I’ve been out and speaking and being an example, and speaking truthfully and answering the questions and watching our culture and our society move toward this and the world move toward less fear and more acceptance of the many different facets of humanity. Having done it for 25 years, I’m not as afraid of this big bully coming into the schoolyard because I’ve stood with my brothers and sisters and I’ve stood with Americans. This is not the majority. I have been around our great country, and, yes, there are fearful people and they have a very large megaphone, but it’s not the majority. It’s just not. And gay people are being born every day into families and it’s a struggle to some, and yet they learn and grow and love. So, I feel empowered. I feel that it only makes us stronger when there’s a pushback. It only makes us more determined to live peacefully.

(CA) When have you seen your own music influence the lives of others? (ME) The first time I really saw it was when I put my fourth album out, “Yes, I Am” [in 1993]. I came out completely unknowing what it was gonna be like, had never seen an artist in rock/pop form come out, and then seeing my album reach stratospheric heights — 6 million records [sold] and just great success … while talking about being a big ol’ lezzie [laughs]! Since then, I have had, oh my gosh, just thousands of people come up to me and say, “Thank you very much. You gave me an example of someone who was gay.” “Thank you so much, you helped me come out.” Just every day, every age, every type of person coming up. Then when I was diagnosed with cancer [in 2004], I remember some people in my management said, “Maybe you don’t want to tell people you have cancer, they might see it as weak.” I was like, “Whoa. Like I’m gonna start lying now? No.” So, I treated it the same way, spoke very truthfully and wrote “I Run for Life” and performed at the Grammys and

really just stood up and said, “This is what I’m going through and this is what I believe about my own health.” And I saw thousands of people come up to me and say how much it meant to them and that when they go through it, they remember me. Then I wrote a song about the environment [2006’s “I Need to Wake Up” for “An Inconvenient Truth”] and got an Academy Award for it — that was a lot of fun! So, I’m just honored to have been a part of a force of change in this country and in this world.

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(CA) So, do you march? Is every Melissa Etheridge concert now a protest?


(ME) It is in a way, just that I’m still here. Just like you said, I’m not much of a preacher; I am more of, “Look at this example, look at life.” If you can see it and not be afraid of it, then that helps bring about the change, so I think the experience of coming to a Melissa Etheridge show can really inspire. I speak about our human condition and the joy of diversity in our world. I really try to inspire people to strength in that way.

(ME) Let me tell you what happened: I started putting the boxed set together when I was at the end of my Island [Records] thing, and I just totally immersed myself in my old work and went into the vaults and got out old recordings and tracks that no one had ever heard and alternative things and, god, it was just amazing. I found old pictures and videos and was just like, “This is gonna be the greatest (CA) Where do you find boxed set ever.” strength right now? And then I changed man(ME) My music, my wife, my agement. I got off of Island children. Life itself. When you Records and my management go through cancer, you don’t let said, “OK, if you wanna put a a bully in the schoolyard mess boxed set out, that’s one thing, you up so much. I’ve seen chemo, but you’re not gonna make any I’ve seen death — and I will not money off of it because it befear. I know that fear is power longs to Universal.” We’re still and I will not give up my power. I looking to do a boxed set. It will will not fear this. I believe wholebe with Universal Music, and heartedly we are headed — and no, I won’t make any money are on our way already — to betfrom it, but it’s gonna be a reter worlds and understanding. So, ally nice thing. I would say in no, I wake up every morning and the next five years is when the I’m ready to go get ’em. boxed set is finally gonna come out. I took it off my No. 1 priori(CA) What are you enjoying ty list and that’s when I did the about your life now that you last two albums [including her couldn’t in the ’90s when you latest, 2016’s “Memphis Rock first went mainstream as a and Soul”] and really changed everything around … and I made more money! [Laughs] So, it’s still definitely on my mind, and I’m always thinking about it and it’s gonna be amazing.

The LGBT icon’s “Yes I Am” sold more than 6 million records in 1993, right after she came out publicly. (Photo by Myriam Santos)

(CA) Now seems to be a good time for another “I Need to Wake Up.” Maybe the 2017 version is just “Woke”? Do the kids keep you up to date on trendy vernacular like “woke”? (ME) Oh, you have no idea! My daughter goes to Columbia University in New York City and I was just visiting her and she goes, talking about someone, “They’re really woke.” And then goes, “Do you know what that means?” I go, “I can imagine what that means!” Then, [we] had a little discussion about it.

Taking a new direction, Melissa Etheridge released “Memphis Rock and Soul,” where she pays respect to the music of Stax Records, last fall. (Photo

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newly out lesbian? (ME) Well, actually, I find myself talking less about being gay now than I did then. That was all I ever talked about. My god, I spent two years just talking about gay, gay, gay. The interviews are more about my whole life and I enjoy that. I’m so much more relaxed, oh my gosh. I wouldn’t trade being in my 50s for anything else. I’ve learned so much. I’ve grown. I look back at my 30s, when I thought I was all grown up and I’m like, “Girl, you’ve got so much to learn.” That’s the one thing I would tell my younger self — just chill, it’s OK, it won’t always be this way, you will get through this, you will get where you wanna go, but just take your time because once you get there, it’s not gonna be what you think and you’re gonna be off to something else. But don’t you worry: 40s are better than the 30s, and I’m telling you, buddy, 50s rock. You’re gonna get there in 16 years and you’re gonna go, “That Melissa said 50s was gonna rock and she was right.” (CA) Whatever happened to the boxed set that was supposed to be released a few years ago? Is that still happening?

(CA) What unreleased material did you dig up that we might be surprised to hear? (ME) Oh, there’s so much! There are songs from the second and third album — there’s just these songs that didn’t make the albums, but are completely cut and they’re just really great. It’s like, oh my gosh, there are songs from “Yes, I Am” that I didn’t put out and I listen to them now and go, “Holy cow, these are great,” and of course back then I was told, “Don’t do this, don’t do that.” But I’m really looking forward to them seeing the light of day. (CA) Nostalgia gets easier as you get older, I find. (ME) I forgive myself so much — how I looked, how I sounded, everything! (CA) Considering all that’s happening in the world currently, do you have any final words for the LGBT community? (ME) What I would say is, friends, brothers and sisters, we are as strong together as we are strong inside. The work is now inside of us; it’s up to each of us to know in our hearts that we are part of the American fabric. We are part of the world fabric. We are part of human society. We always have been and we are here to represent love. It should tell us something that our biggest struggles these days are about empathy and compassion. That’s what we are fighting in our halls of congress: empathy. It is about love. Stand firm and together with anyone — straight, gay, bi, trans, whomever — and go: This is us, this is the truth, this is humanity, this is life. —Chris Azzopardi is editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter, @chrisazzopardi.▼


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Friday, April 28

‘r’flect’ Dialogue Series: Watch a screening of “r’flect” that spotlights William “Bill” Kelly and his efforts to help LGBT seniors. A discussion from director Heidi Rataj will follow. 3:30–5 p.m. 2-1-1 Connections Center, 3860 Calle Fortunada. Visit bit. ly/2qbyVLD. Planned Parenthood fundraiser ‘Protect the Pussy’: Get a tattoo for a good cause! Diego Tattoo Gallery will offer 11 tattoos for $50 each. Little Dame’s popup shop will also be at the event. Percentage of proceeds will be donated to Planned Parenthood. Free admission. 12–9 p.m. Diego Tattoo Gallery, 3434 University Ave. Suite A. Visit Ladies ‘Bourbon St. Revival’ happy hour: Stop by Brick Bar every Friday for happy hour and bring your girlfriends and friends, just like we used to do at Bourbon Street. Full bar, large outdoor patio, no smoking areas, lots of parking, and DJ Dallas from The Flame will be spinning. Come hungry. 5–8 p.m. Brick Bar, 1475 University Ave. Visit

Saturday, April 29

Walking Tour of Hillcrest LGBTQ History: Lambda Archives of San Diego will lead an informational walking tour of San Diego’s gayborhood. Visit the “secret garden,” the hate crimes plaque and learn about some of the area’s early gay and lesbian bars. 10 a.m.–2:15 p.m. Meet-up location will be provided upon ticket purchase. Tickets visit Mission Federal ArtWalk: Spend your weekend at the 33rd annual Art Walk San Diego, presented by Mission Federal. The twoday event covers 17 blocks of Little Italy and over 350 diverse artists will take part and display their work. Live music, art activities and street food also offered. April 29 and April 30 at 11 a.m.–6 p.m. Visit Aston Brooks Awards Gala: Join the La Pietra Foundation for the “Big Easy” Jazz Gala to honor outstanding LGBT community members. This is a black-tie event with a cocktail reception, dinner, silent auction, live entertainment and awards ceremony. Lea DeLaria, the first out lesbian on TV, will also take to the stage. Proceeds benefit the San Diego Human Dignity Foundation. Tickets online at 6-11 p.m. Hilton San Diego Resort & Spa, 1775 East Mission Bay Drive. Visit Flip Cup Contest: The Flip for the Cure contest and fun-raiser returns for a competition that’s bigger, better and fiercer than ever. Pre-register for $30 through PayPal (FlipForTheCure2017@ or Venmo (FlipForTheCure) before noon on April 29. Donation includes entry to the event, all of the beer for the event and entrance into Rich’s WTF Party afterward. All donations will benefit Cancer Research Institute. Teams of five and costumes are required. 7:30 p.m. Rich’s Nightclub, 1051 University Ave. For more information, email Trans Day of Empowerment: Celebrate the transgender community at the fifth annual North County event, with Melissa Marquette and Tommi Clinton leading an empowering and educational discussion. Questions and personal stories of empowerment encouraged. All sexualities and genders welcome. 6–7:30 p.m. Oceanside Public Library, 330 North Coast Highway. Visit

Sunday, April 30

Community picnic: Enjoy some burgers and hotdogs with Stonewell Citizens’ Patrol at this community picnic. Learn more about the organization and how to you can keep your community safe. Limited seating available and blankets encouraged. 12–3 p.m. Balboa Park, Sixth Avenue and Laurel Street. Visit Painting It Forward: Create a masterpiece and enjoy a glass of wine at this Trevor Project fundraiser, which is a 21-and-up event. Admission includes all necessary materials and one drink. Only 45 spots now available. Tickets $50 online at 6–8 p.m. (5:30 p.m. arrival encouraged.) Pinot’s Palette, Liberty

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Monday, May 1

Open auditions: Grab a mic and sing! The San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus is offering open auditions for their summer spectacular production of DIVAS. Tenors and baritones welcome. Sign up for an audition at for May 1, 6 or 8. An Info Night Party will be held at 7 p.m. University Christian Church, 3900 Cleveland Ave. Free parking in DMV lot. Visit bit. ly/2oJpq6d.

Tuesday, May 2

Live music: Linda Clifford, known for her classic soul and disco hits, will perform at Martinis in celebration of Nancy Wilson and featuring many of her jazz and R&B songs. Tickets online at $35–45 reserved seating and $15 per person food/drink minimum. 8–9:30 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit bit. ly/2pwVjTu.

Wednesday, May 3

Pictionary: Come play with Tiger and Sister Ida Know on the back patio. Match your skills, win fun prizes and raise money for a good cause. 7:30–10 p.m. #1 on Fifth, 3845 Fifth Ave. in Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2pwZj6z.

Thursday, May 4

Out at the Archives: Celebrate the Imperial Court de San Diego’s 45 years of noble deeds at this special event hosted and moderated by Lambda Archives of San Diego. Tickets $5–10 at the door or online at A portion of the proceeds will go to the Archives. 21-plus with a photo ID. 7–9 p.m. Rich’s San Diego, 1051 University Ave. Visit bit. ly/2pwUv0X. ‘The Loving Story’ film and discussion: The San Diego Law Library in conjunction with the San Diego City Library presents a free screening of Emmy Awardwinning documentary “The Loving Story,” about the arrest of Richard and Mildred

Loving, a mixed-race couple living in Virginia during the 1950s whose case eventually led to a landmark decision from the Supreme Court on interracial marriage. Discussion to follow. San Diego Central Library, 330 Park Blvd. Visit bit. ly/2pwVvSM. Live comedy: National award-winning comedian Dana Goldberg will return to the stage at Martinis. Tickets online at $20–25 reserved seating and $15 per person food/ drink minimum. 8–9:30 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit

Friday, May 5

Cinco de Mayo: It’s that time of the year again, the Friday Fiesta! Celebrate Cinco de Mayo with style — take a quick trip Downtown, join the staff of the House of Blues and enjoy their $3 taco plates, import beer and margaritas. 21-plus for beer and margaritas. The evening also features free, live entertainment. Doors open at 4 p.m. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Gaslamp Quarter. Visit

Saturday, May 6

San Diego Women’s Chorus 30th Anniversary Concert: Reflect on three decades of song with SDWC. The “Reflections: Looking Back on Our First 30 Years” will highlight the best songs and performances of the chorus’ past three decades. Tickets $20 online at and $25 at the door. 3 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. on Saturday, May 6; 4 p.m. on Friday, May 7. Visit SCPA Drag Race: Come out to support local youth of the LGBTQ+ community. This fundraiser is a talent competition and features students from all over the county. Proceeds benefit queer youth in the community and San Diego School of Creative and Performing Arts’ Gay Straight Alliance (GSA) organization. Tickets online $8-10 online at 3–5 p.m. SD SCPA, 2425 Dusk Drive. Visit Free community showing of ‘Moonlight’:

Sunday, May 7

Lafayette pool parties kick-off: Is it getting hot in here? Levinson and LE Parties present their monthly Day & Pool Party with DJs, pool floats, drink specials, floating islands, a photo booth and more. Tickets $12–$99 online at 12 p.m. The Lafayette Hotel, Swim Club & Bungalows, 2223 El Cajon Blvd. Visit bit. ly/2qc7kKk. 2017 Freedom Awards: San Diego Democrats for Equality host an award ceremony for individuals and organizations working diligently for freedom. Awards to be given in the name of A. Brad Truax, Gloria Johnson, Eleanor Roosevelt, Gloria Steinem and more. 5–7 p.m. Early bird tickets are available online, club members $50, non-club members $75 at The Lafayette Hotel, Swim Club

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ACROSS 1 The Oscars, and others 6 “Woe ___!” (“Hamlet”) 10 Greek war deity 14 City of Lorca’s homeland 15 “The Boys in the Band,” in 1968 16 Ward of “Once and Again” 17 Official dessert of the rainbow flag? 19 Ginsberg’s “Gotcha” 20 One-named designer 21 Pennsylvania city 22 Lake site of a gay and lesbian ski week 23 Official band of the rainbow flag? 26 Heteros, on PlanetOut? 27 Brand for covering your bottom 30 List-maker Schindler 32 Home of the Buckeyes 33 “Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s ___” 34 ”Six Feet Under” auto 37 Queen, to a dealer

RISE San Diego hosts a free community screening of “Moonlight,” winner of 2017’s Oscar for Best Picture. The unique film tells a coming-of-age story of a black boy/young man navigating the challenges of growing up in an inner city Miami neighborhood while coming to terms with his sexuality. 6:30–9:30 p.m. Jacobs Center for Neighborhood Innovation, 404 Euclid Ave. Visit bit. ly/2qbMURZ. ‘The Sounds of Boozin’’: Gay Men’s Spiritual Retreat presents an original musical by Bill Kerlin. Michael Anthony directs the comedic performance. 8–9:30 p.m. Tickets $25–100 online at bit. ly/2qc2ZGZ. Irwin M. Jacobs Hall at Qualcomm Inc., 5775 Morehouse Drive. Visit bit. ly/2qbTOGN. Paint & Sip Fundraiser: Grab a paintbrush to lend a hand to the LGBT Community Center when Wine and Paint Apartments host a creative fundraiser to support the many things they do for our community. Includes professional instruction and all necessary materials. Tickets $45 online at 1:30–4 p.m. Brick Bar, 1475 University Ave. Visit

39 San Francisco’s Nob ___ 40 Building managers 43 Sixth notes in “Do-Re-Mi” 46 Fourth book of the OT 47 What some are doing in bed 49 “Fast,” to Leonard Bernstein 51 Follower of James Buchanan, familiarly 53 Official song of the rainbow flag? 55 Fruit desserts 57 Emma Donoghue’s country 58 Colors hair 62 “I’ve had better ...” 63 Official beverage of the rainbow flag? 65 “No” to someone who is “lesbisch” 66 Bear overhead 67 Treats meat 68 Marine flyer 69 Rosie Jones supporters 70 Begins, as a Broadway play

1 Ironically straight singer Marvin 2 State with certainty 3 Gay tune 4 Claim 5 Saint, in Rio 6 Len Deighton’s “The ___ File” 7 Like Harvey Milk in 1978 8 Get by barely 9 Queer body part on TV 10 Continent of Margaret Cho’s parents 11 Official seafood entree of the rainbow flag? 12 She’s George 13 Wise guys 18 TV show with Isabelle 22 Little biker in a gay pride march 24 Cell stuff, for short 25 It hangs from your butt 27 George O’Malley, et al. 28 Birthright seller of the Bible 29 The other official song

of the rainbow flag? 31 Mouth-open-wide sound 35 Sling mud at 36 Muppet pal of Rosie 38 Laurie Partridge portrayer Susan 41 Ridges on condoms 42 Trump-mocking comedy 43 Thin plates 44 “___ Comes Mary” (The Association, 1966) 45 “Reduce Speed,” on a sign 48 Bonheur’s war 50 With butts in the air? 51 Make up (for) 52 Rainbow flag designer Gilbert 54 Use a rubber 56 Timothy Daly’s sister 59 Time of “Camelot” 60 Genie portrayer Barbara 61 Abuse orally 63 Glossy gay magazine 64 Logical beginning


ARTZINE exhibitions and sales, but also helped him rejuvenate his philanthropic efforts. “If you have a need and the art is going to a good cause, I’ll give you a painting,” he said. On June 24, Salazar will be staying true to his word — and then some — when he donates 30 pieces of his pour art specifically painted for the San Ysidro Health Center’s “Black, White & Bling Bash” fundraiser gala at the Hotel del Coronado from 5–11 p.m. In keeping with the gala’s theme, Salazar painted the entire collection using black and white paint. Most of the series, called “Black and White Pour Series on Canvas,” are of the same size, while six are giant pieces. Interested art lovers can see a preview of the work May 13 at the Hard Rock Hotel’s 207 Bar and Nightclub in the Gaslamp Quarter. In addition to his gallery, Salazar has at least six other locations where he has semi-permanent exhibitions or pop-up installations in place, most of them located Downtown. They include some of his own work at Luxe Lounge & Spa on Market Street; a new large original piece at Andaz Hotel, which was commissioned during their recent renovation; 15 pieces of his own work at FIT Athletic on 10th Avenue, with more of his original work on display at FIT’s Carmel Mountain (12171 World Trade Drive) and Solana Beach (511 Highway 101) gyms as well. In Hillcrest, he even has some of his personal work at the Hillcrest Newsstand space on University Avenue between Fifth and Sixth avenues. The Newsstand’s proprietor decided to clear a section of one magazine wall and create a pop-up art display. Salazar was happy to oblige him. A large exhibition of works from one of his most successful and long-term clients, Walter Redondo, is currently on display at the San Diego Marriott Marquis and Marina, located on Harbor Drive next to the Convention Center. Ten pieces of Redondo’s giant canvases are on display at the premier hotel, hoisted from the ceiling by a unique wiring hanging system. The works can be found in a long passage that doubles as a reflective lounge area, located between the North and South Towers and just outside all of the hotels three large ballrooms. “This is the most professional partnership I’ve ever had putting on an art exhibition,” Salazar said, referring to the relationship with Marriott Marquis. He said no expense was spared by the hotel when it came to ensuring the exhibition was the best it could be. Art work on display at hotels are generally done so in an anonymous fashion; here, each piece is identified and priced on a script located on the wall beside it, and an extensive bio of the artist has been inscribed on a wall/pillar

at each end of the passage. It is truly a pop-up art gallery. In six months Salazar will swap out the series for another. For more information about any of Salazar’s exhibitions or the art preview at the Hard Rock for the works he is donating to the Black, White and Bling Bash, reach him at

Stillman works on a project. (Courtesy Patric Stillman)

Patric Stillman opens his doors

Patric Stillman, who runs a very successful gallery and artist’s space in North Park called The Studio Door — located on 30th Street at the corner of Gunn — has lots of artsy things of interest coming up. In addition to the ongoing exhibition in his main gallery called “Through the Eyes of the Artist 2” that focuses on professional artists in California and Baja, Stillman recently expanded into an adjoining storefront on 30th Street and has named it The Hype. The Hype, based on a co-op model, is a way for Stillman to mentor and showcase other burgeoning artists. Each month, nine local artists present their work in the space and engage in the commerce side of art, many for the first time. Each artist also engages in gallery duties and weekend tours. “As a North Park resident, business owner and North Park Main Street board member, I’m happy to be bringing more art into our community,” Stillman said. In addition, Stillman is coming up on the final week of a “national call for artists” for his upcoming LGBT-themed exhibition called “PROUD,” which will be on display from June 2–25 in his main gallery. Stillman is calling his production, which will honor the Stonewall Riots and National Pride Month, a “positive visual arts exhibition that reminds the community of their inner strength and resilience.” As a national show, PROUD will be juried by Alex Fialho, visual AIDS program director and lower Manhattan cultural council research and curatorial associate. Founded in 1988, Visual AIDS Arts connects HIV/AIDS awareness with the visual arts. If you are interested in learning more or wish to join the exhibit, visit lll26ss —Reach Morgan M. Hurley at▼

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Monday, May 8

Painting and Vino: Get your peacock on and paint it teal! Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece of “Teal Peacock.” $45, all supplies included, registration is required. Food and

drink available for purchase. 21-and-older. 6–9 p.m. Barn Brewery, 2850 El Cajon Blvd #3, North Park. Visit bit. ly/2px34cl.

Tuesday, May 9

Trivia Tuesday: Every Tuesday come solo or with a group of friends (teams of two, four, six or eight) for a chance to win valuable HBC gift cards with Chris D. as the mistress of questions. 7:30–10 p.m. Hillcrest Brewing Company, 1458 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit or call 619-269-4323.

Wednesday, May 10

Pre-Mother’s Day Small Business Expo: Mama Cakes and Peacock Butterfly Planning will host both small businesses and mothers at their Small Business Expo honoring mom’s special day. Featuring local business vendors, including VomFASS, Laser Café, Haus of 2K, Style on the Go and many others, available for your last minute Mother’s Day shopping. 5:30–8 p.m. Free admission. Kid-friendly with wine tasting for adults available. Negociant Winery, 2419 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit Running for Elected Office: The New Narrative hosts a panel about running for office featuring former and current political figures. Theme is coalition building and panelists include Councilmember Colin Parent (La Mesa); Councilmember Chris Ward (San Diego); and Carol Kim (former San Diego City Council candidate). $10 suggested donation. 7 p.m. Come early for a glass of wine or a bite. Registration available online at p.m. The Rose

Wine Bar, 2219 30th St. Visit

Thursday, May 11

Dinner with the Divas at Lips: Enjoy performances from your favorite celebrities, all under one roof. This weekly show features the best impersonators including Tina Turner, Aretha Franklin and many more. $5 cover; $15 food minimum per person. Seating is between 7 and 7:30 p.m. 3036 El Cajon Blvd. in North Park. Visit

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