Volume 8 Issue 7
Come OUT to the Symphony
March 31 – April 13, 2017
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#Resizt Comedy Trumps everything
The Resizters are: (l to r) Laura Payne, bass and vocals; Jeff Musser, lead guitar and vocals; Barry Farrar, drums; Stacey Humphries, lead vocals; Melanie Peters, rhythm guitars and vocals; and Jordan Liberman, keyboards and vocals. (Photo by Chuck Lapensky Photography)
Local musician forms anti-Trump protest band By Margie M. Palmer Longtime musician and community activist Melanie Peters was elated when she was asked to emcee the San Diego Women’s March. The local event was held on Jan. 21 — starting with a rally at the Civic Center and culminating
with a march on the streets of Downtown — in solidarity with the Women’s March on Washington. “It struck me when I was up there, [amidst] the invigoration of all the energy that was coming towards me,” Peters said. “There were so many people looking at each
other wondering, ‘what do we do now?’” “When I was emceeing, I told people they should try to talk to their kids, their teachers and anyone they could, hoping to motivate them to do something more,” she continued. “That’s when I realized I should be taking my own
advice and started asking what I could do.” She quickly realized her best contribution to keep the movement going was to embark on a musical endeavor. Several emails and a few phone calls later, The Resizters were born. “It literally took two and a half hours to put the band together,” she said, adding that
see Resizters, pg 3
Ferociously funny train ride
Thirty miles and worlds apart
Chorus embraces their extended family across the border
Investiture and Royale Ball bring community together
By Tom Felkner
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It’s Monday night and the 170 singers belonging to the San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus (SDGMC) have gathered on an unseasonably cool Hillcrest evening to rehearse for its upcoming “Broadway NOW” show. There’s singing, dancing and even a TV news crew stopping by to film the group for an upcoming segment.
see SDGMC, pg 2
Lights, camera … charity Morgan M. Hurley | Editor
(l to r) San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus members Jesus Eder, Cary Berner, Sean Redmond, Jackson Redmond and Antonia Mertz-Vega unload a pallet of “wish list” items donated by Loews Coronado Bay Resort for Tijuana’s AIDS hospice. (Courtesy SDGMC)
The Imperial Court de San Diego is one of the oldest and most preeminent charitable nonprofits within our local LGBT community and this weekend, the newly crowned Emperor Jay Heimbach and Empress Angel Fairfax will
see Investiture, pg 2
GAY SAN DIEGO March 31 – April 13, 2017
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INVESTITURE formally invest their court for the 2017 reign. The “investiture,” as it is called, will act as a precursor to the 2017 Royale Ball, which serves as the crowning of the new Prince and Princess Royale. The events take place at Rich’s Nightclub on Sunday, April 2, from 4 – 8 p.m. For 52 years, the International Imperial Court System, founded in 1965 by José Sarria and currently run by Nicole the Great, Queen Mother I of the Americas — otherwise known as San Diego’s own Nicole Murray Ramirez — has literally crowned emerging and longtime leaders within each court’s LGBT community, adorning them with titles and all the nobility that goes along with it. After launching in San Francisco, the court system has continued to expand and currently has 86 chapters in cities throughout the United States, Mexico and Canada, where each city has its own “royal family” that follows the typical imperialistic traditions of history. This region’s royal family is called the Imperial Court de San Diego. It joined the court system 45 years ago and generally has its annual coronation ball the first weekend of February. The event consists of stunningly beautiful attire with full regalia, and
performances by current and former monarchs. But behind all that pomp and circumstance is an organization that is so much more. “A lot of people, because we wear gowns and we wear crowns, think that is what the court is all about; but to be very honest with you, it is really not,” said Regina Styles (aka Richard Poole), a former Empress who serves as executive secretary for the court’s board of directors. “We’re all about the charity work and every once in a while, it’s about the gowns and the crowns.” Styles said members of the royal court even get into the weeds and get down and dirty, referring to the court’s upcoming 15th annual Easter Egg Hunt, held at Trolley Barn Park on Easter Sunday, April 16. The free and wildly successful event involves the donation of 600 store-bought Easter baskets; 7,000 plastic eggs stuffed with 21,000 jellybeans; and 20 new bicycles that will be raffled off to a field of 600 excited children. The Easter egg hunt is just one of the many causes, often for children, that the court involves itself in. Styles said another of his favorites is “senior bingo,” which takes place on the third Sunday of every month at the Mission Hills Retirement Center in Hillcrest. “The cool thing about bingo is to see these men and women — probably about 60 percent of whom don’t get visitors and only get out of their rooms to eat or to watch TV in the lounge — get so excited when they win, and yell ‘bingo!’”
gay-sd.com monarchs will choose a privy council — those who will act as their support system — and a King Father and a Queen Mother — those who will inform and advise them. But the event, Styles said, is more about the Royale Ball, which gives the community a chance to honor the current Prince Romeo AndersonCamacho and Princess Royale Barbie Z, and thank them for their reign. “We added the investiture [to the Royale Ball] six or seven years ago to make it a larger scale event,” Styles said. “The last time we had an investiture all alone, was when I was Empress in 2010.”
The community will come together to honor Princess Royale Barbie Z and Prince Royale Romeo Anderson-Camacho at the Royale Gala on April 2 at Rich’s. (Courtesy Imperial Court de San Diego)
The doors for the Investiture/Royale Ball will open at 4 p.m. for a reception, which will have food and the opportunity to network. The actual festivities, which will last about 45 minutes, will begin promptly at 5 p.m., when the newly-crowned Emperor Jay Heimbach, who
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SDGMC But just 30 miles to the south — across the border and alongside Camino a Valle Redondo in Tijuana — the evening sun casts its rays on an entirely different scene at Albergue Las Memorias, the clinic serving as the city’s de facto AIDS hospice. Some of the region’s most seriously ill call this sparsely furnished, cinderblock-constructed building their home. Though seemingly worlds apart, the two communities have come together as part of the SDGMC’s outreach partner program, which seeks to raise awareness of people and groups doing extraordinary good in our community. “We’ve all seen the devastation brought on by AIDS. Mix it with poverty, homelessness and addiction and it’s a powder keg waiting to explode,” said Bob Lehman, SDGMC executive director. “What this clinic is doing is just short of a miracle.” Residents are people who have lived on the streets for a good part of their lives. The clinic provides them with food, clothes, a bed to sleep in, transportation to and from doctor’s offices, and the medication they need for HIV and other illnesses. This is a “working together” community, with no nurse or doctor on site. It’s just the residents taking care of each other.
just stepped down in March as Mr. San Diego Leather, and Empress Angel Fairfax, choose their royal court for 2017. Though they received their crowns in February, this is the official kickoff for the year of their reign and they need a court to assist them in their charitable deeds. The
At 6 p.m., after the new court has been duly appointed and titles have been handed out, the Royale Ball, the second largest official event of the Imperial Court de San Diego of the year, will begin. Styles said this is the second year they’ve had the event at Rich’s, having moved it from its longtime location at the San Diego LGBT Community Center in 2016. “Rich’s was really good to us last year and we had a really good time there,” Styles said. “Their big TV screens and light system and the ability to make it more of a production, rather than just coming into a room where you have a stage, those were the selling points for me. I’m very much a production person.”
see Royale Ball, pg 17
“I’ve seen people be nearly resort’s director of human dead and today I see them resources. walking around and being part Anyone wishing to donate of the community and being items may drop them off — so grateful for Las Memorias,” through April 17 — during said Rev. Jerri Handy, a misSDGMC rehearsals, which sionary who works at the clinic. are held Monday nights from “The love softens hearts and 7–10 p.m. at the University changes lives.” Christian Church, located Crossing the border to help at 3900 Cleveland Ave. in those in need is a life’s work for Hillcrest. many San Diego organizations, In addition, Las Memorias including the Imperial Court will also be the beneficiary of the chorus’ popular upcoming de San Diego, which has made spring performances. The supporting Las Memorias one Stonewall Citizens Patrol of its main areas of focus for — which has been on hand many years. keeping attendees safe at each Other groups, like chorus performance since the Hillcrest’s University Christian Church — where the Pulse shooting in Orlando last June — has offered to accept chorus rehearses — also help “wish list” items and fill up sponsor the clinic, through its their patrol car at the April missionary program. performances. “For more than 30 years, You can also always donate San Diego’s LGBT community cash by depositing it into the has been helping our brothers big ruby slipper during the and sisters in Mexico who are show as well. living with HIV/AIDS,” said To learn more about the Nicole Murray Ramirez. “Our SDGMC, or to get tickets to contributions help improve their upcoming spring show, their quality of life.” “Broadway NOW,” held April 22 Members of the chorus and at 8 p.m. and April 23 at 3 p.m., the local community will be at the historic Balboa Theatre, collecting “wish list” items for 868 Fourth Ave., Downtown, the clinic in the weeks leadvisit sdgmc.org. ing up to the April 22 and 23 To find other ways to help Broadway Now show dates. the chorus or support its many Items needed include cleanoutreach programs, visit sdging supplies, personal care and mc.org/ways-to-give. hygiene items, over-the-counter medicine, and wound-care —Tom Felkner is a freesupplies. lance writer and the husband Loews Coronado Bay Resort of SDGMC Executive Director has already donated enough Bob Lehman. He can be personal care products to fill reached at tdfelkner@gmail. an SUV, thanks to chorus com.▼ member Cary Berner, the
GAY SAN DIEGO March 31 – April 13, 2017
A trip down the yellow brick road Symphony holding first LGBT night, ‘Oz’ is theme By Dave Fidlin Thoughts of the symphony might conjure up images of formal attire and an all-around buttoned-up atmosphere for some, but with special events that include performances alongside screenings of such disparate films as “Star Trek” and “Home Alone,” the San Diego Symphony has been trying to broaden its fan base in recent years. In mid-April, the local symphony will enter yet
another new chapter in its storied existence, as it holds a first LGBTthemed night that will coincide with a performance around “The Wizard of Oz,” the 1939 classic film headlined by actress Judy Garland. Courtney Koscheka, marketing manager with the San Diego Symphony, said the LGBT night was borne out of a desire to have a truly inclusive organization that appeals to persons from all walks of life.
(Courtesy Warner Bros. Entertainment, Inc.)
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RESIZTERS three of her new bandmates are also from the LGBT community, while two others are staunch allies. “We all felt we needed to do something, even if it was to just cover protest songs,” Peters continued. “It sounds cliché, but music joins people and brings them together. We’re covering songs like Woodie Guthrie’s ‘This Land Is Your Land’ — which most people don’t realize is a song about not being able to get a job during the Great Depression — to Nina Simone’s ‘Mississippi Goddam,’ which was performed at the end of the Selma-toMontgomery marches.”
The issues at hand
Peters said the band’s drummer, Barry — who is also a nighttime DJ on local FM jazz channel 88.3 — was at Berkeley during the civil rights protests during the 1960s and told her he can’t believe the fight for civil rights is still happening. “Our guitarist, Jeff, is married and he’s surrounded by strong women,” she added. “He’s appalled because he sees the women’s standpoint. He has a young son and wants to be a role model for his kid. He wants to show his son that we don’t sit around when something like this is happening and we can’t let someone like our current president be so openly misogynistic, and a liar, without doing anything in our power to fight back.”
“We want everybody coming to the symphony and feeling welcome here,” Koscheka said. “We’re looking forward to welcoming the LGBT community to ‘The Wizard of Oz’ concert and film,”added Martha Gilmer, CEO of the San Diego Symphony. “The combination of a great film, a wonderful orchestra and a post-concert party promises a fun evening.” In broader terms, Gilmer said the movie nights, where symphony members literally perform music scores during the actual screening of a film, serves as “a perfect way for those who have never attended one of our concerts to discover one of San Diego’s hidden gems.” Koscheka said a screening of “The Wizard of Oz,” long a crowd-pleaser within the LGBT community, was a logical first step for the San Diego Symphony to show its support. In the yellow brick road ahead, Koscheka said the goal within the symphony is to have additional events geared specifically toward
In looking at social media, from posts about Rachel Maddow obtaining a snippet of President Trump’s 2005 tax return, to the questions about whether the current administration was colluding with the Russians during the campaign, the overwhelming undertone, Peters said, is fear. “Everyone seems to be waiting for the other shoe to drop and it’s creating a lot of mistrust,” she said. “For us, the band allows us to commiserate and play these songs that someone else wrote, to protest President Trump’s rhetoric, his documented, flagrant misogynistic treatment of women, and to protest the people he surrounds himself with.” For now, her greatest hope for this project is to support others who are also doing their part. Not everyone can run for office, and not everyone can play an instrument. Doing one’s part, she said, can be as simple as teaching children to be more open, and kind. “One of the bandmembers was walking by a playground recently and she heard a bunch of kids chanting ‘build a wall, build a wall, build a wall!’ The rest of us were like, wow, what’s going on right now,” she said. “More people need to realize that stuff starts with parents and I hope that people will do something, or talk to someone about what’s happening, and make an effort to do their part each day.”
Who are The Resizters?
Melanie Peters — rhythm guitars, vocals; Stacey Humphries — lead
the LGBT community. “We’d like to make it a regular thing,” she said. The film screening and concert, slated for 8 p.m. Saturday, April 15, will have a number of added extras incorporated into the LGBT night, Koscheka said. A costume contest will precede the show at 7 p.m., and participants are being invited to dress up as Dorothy, the Scarecrow, Tin Man, Glinda the Good Witch of the North, or any of the other iconic characters that are steeped in pop culture. The contest is open to everyone — including persons with or without a ticket to the actual show. Once the film and concert end, at about 10 p.m., the symphony’s lower lobby area will be transformed into an after-party scene with a DJ and bar. The Snake Oil Cocktail Company is among the local businesses on hand. In addition to the milestone LGBT programs, Koscheka hinted other film screenings will be on the horizon. The symphony has been performing
vocals; Laura Payne — bass, vocals; Jeff Musser — lead guitar, vocals; Jordan Liberman — keyboards, vocals; Barry Farrar — drums They also often have — and welcome — other guest musicians to stop by and sit in. Peters said that Farrar plays in various bands around the region but donates his time to this important cause, while Liberman, “a musical theater guy,” counts the group as his first rock-style band. “[Humphries] is the best undiscovered talent I have ever heard,” Peters said. “Her voice is outstanding and she inspires us all to be our best. It’s her first band ever, too.” According to their website, the band’s mission is simple: “It is the goal of The Resizters to use our musical talents to support our community, and mankind, by representing those artists, from Woody Guthrie to Nina Simone, Creedence Clearwater Revival to Green Day, and motivating people to do the right thing, take an active stand in your community, and #Resizt hate, intolerance, ignorance and greed.”
Where to see The Resizters
● San Diego Chapter of NOW’s second annual fundraising event, PhenomeNOW, Women & Wine event, May 13 at the San Diego Foundation, located at 2508 Historic Decatur Road in Liberty Station. For details or to get tickets, visit tinyurl.com/lov6pkg. ● You can also check them out at San Diego Pride’s
The Symphony will perform alongside “The Wizard of Oz” for an LGBT audience (Courtesy Warner Bros. Entertainment, Inc.) renditions alongside all of the “Harry Potter” films and has also provided scores for special ComicCon events. “This comes as a surprise to people sometimes, but we’re exposed to classical music all the time,” Koscheka said. “You just don’t realize it because you’re so focused on the movie.” For information on the upcoming “Wizard of Oz”
LGBT event, visit the San Diego Symphony’s website, sandiegosymphony. org, or call 619-235-0804. Persons using the promo code TOTO will save $10 on tickets for this specific performance. —Dave Fidlin is a freelance journalist with a special affinity for San Diego and its people. Contact him at dave. firstname.lastname@example.org.▼
SHEFEST, Saturday, July 8. For more information about that event, visit tinyurl.com/lkfanwm.
involved in the #Resizt movement. Visit theresiztersband. com/about for more info.
How to #Resizt
—Margie M. Palmer is a San Diego-based freelance writer who has been racking up bylines in a myriad of news publications for the past 10 years. You can write to her at email@example.com.▼
You can bring The Resizters to your next event by contacting them through their website. The band’s site also offers information on ways you, too, can get
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GAY SAN DIEGO March 31 – April 13, 2017
Transformations at The Center Profiles in Advocacy Ian Morton For some fortunate cities and regions, there exists in the nexus of the LGBTQ community a hub or center where members can meet, celebrate, mourn and receive services. San Diego is one such city and the past years have shown impressive and responsive programming from the San Diego LGBT Community Center (The Center). From the seed planted in 1971, when community member Jess Jessop set up an answering machine as a gay and lesbian “helpline,” to its formal incorporation in 1973, and to the thriving hive of projects and services that exists today, The Center has come a very long way. I cannot begin to encapsulate the breadth of services at The Center in one column, so I am very excited that this will be the first of a three-part series, published over the next three quarters. I sat down with Ben Cartwright, The Center’s director of community outreach, to procure some insights on the mechanisms that allow The Center to be sensitively responsive to our community’s needs. “Our view of programming continues to be increasingly ‘holistic,’ ensuring that our project coordinators avoid working in silos,” Cartwright explained. “Our coordinators and navigators work as a team — to serve the full scope of an individual’s intersecting identities — through an integrated approach.”
With the date of this column’s publication (March 31) being International Transgender Day of Visibility and also with the Transgender Day of Empowerment and
Tracie Jada O’Brien scholarship event being hosted at The Center on April 14, kicking off this series with “Project Trans” seemed especially appropriate. Project Trans — the formal “umbrella” program for transgender services — is overseen by Connor Maddocks, transgender services coordinator. In a time when trans rights are under attack, The Center provides an array of tailored services, ranging from support groups, gender and ID name change processes, and HIV/ STD education and services. Of particular and alarming note is the disproportionate rate of HIV infection among transgender individuals, specifically trans women of color. When the CDC reviewed 29 published HIV studies, it was revealed that about 28 percent of transgender women were HIV-positive and upwards of 56 percent of African-American transgender women were living with HIV. Addressing this need is the “#BeTheGeneration Trans” campaign. #BeTheGeneration is a widely successful HIV awareness campaign launch by The Center in 2014, with the goal of ending HIV transmissions in San Diego by 2024. I got some feedback from PrEP coordinator David Vance as to how this branch of the campaign centered on and prioritized transgender voices. “All of the #BeTheGeneration Trans promotional materials feature trans individuals and only trans individuals,” he said. “This representation helps raise the visibility of the trans community and communicates the message that sexual health services, free HIV testing and PrEP should be accessible safely and comfortably by all members of the LGBTQ community, including trans folks. “#BeTheGeneration Trans hosts both social events and informational panels — led by trans community members — with the goal of raising HIV,
PrEP and PEP awareness for the trans community in particular.” In line with their leading-edge programming, The Center has instituted one of the first Transgender Youth Services Navigator positions in the nation. a.t. furuya — who has spent much of their time as an advocate prioritizing the voices of LGBTQ youth — assumed this position in late 2016. Having facilitated the creation of Trans Youth Project, a trans and gender non-conforming youth-led initiative, furuya possesses first-hand experience in navigating this evolution and understands the sensitivity needed to support and assist these youth. “When I came out as transgender, I started reflecting on what it would have meant to have a transgender person of color in my life when I was a teenager,” they said. “I think it would have been incredibly affirming to know I wasn’t alone.” While Vance and furuya both support trans and gender non-conforming youth and adults, one life at a time, they also spoke to the broader societal changes that would make a safer world for these members of our community. “I know we can start as basic as learning, understanding and witnessing the power of our intersectional identities,” furuya said. “We are a whole complex people. While our sexuality and gender have some commonalities, we also have incredible differences. It is honoring those incredible differences — not erasing, not homogenizing them, and not blending them into one narrative.” Vance spoke of how the broader community could show support. “Members of the LGB community can be allies to trans folks by listening to them, trusting them and centering their voices, particularly when it comes to issues that
(l to r) a.t. furuya and Heather Marino-Kibbee promote The Center’s social services programs (Courtesy San Diego LGBT Community Center) uniquely affect them, and especially in trans-prioritized spaces or at trans-prioritized events,” he said. “Also, I would encourage LGB people and even binary trans folks to listen to, trust and affi rm the identities of the non-binary, genderqueer, and gender non-conforming folks who may not feel they fit perfectly into any ‘LGBT’ box — especially with our LGBTQ youth, it is important to maintain an open mind and continue honest dialogue.” Cartwright and I closed our conversation with a discussion regarding how this agency-wide holistic approach is maintained. “All staff members — from accounting, to directors, to providers of direct services are committed to seeing The Center serve all of the facets of
The #BeTheGeneration Trans group promotional photo; (top cover teaser) David Vance (Photos by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography)
an individual,” he said. “Every staff member who works with a client, or is in the community, is encouraged to explore what scope of services will provide comprehensive support,” Cartwright said. “We consistently have discussions at all levels of staffing about the importance of intersectionality and how it helps us to better support our clients.” For more information, visit thecentersd.org or fi nd “TGCenter” on Facebook. Look for the second part of this series in June. —Ian D. Morton is s freelance grant writer and the producer of Y.E.S. San Diego, an LGBTQ youth empowerment conference. To nominate an individual or nonprofit for this column, please email the information to firstname.lastname@example.org.▼
Squeeze the toothpaste (just a little)
Dear Michael, I am writing to you because I want to get some therapy, but I’m afraid to. I am a middle-aged lesbian with a great girlfriend who loves me and tells me so on a regular basis. I have a job I like (most of the time, anyway) and a solid circle of friends. What’s my problem? I have so much baggage from my past that I think if I ever started to address it, I’d never finish. So why bother? Honestly, why should I put myself through the torture of working through all of my old, unresolved shit? Isn’t it just better to just move on and live in the present? —Too Much Baggage Dear Ms. Too Much, You’re not alone. We all, myself included, have lots of baggage. In fact, being human, it’s impossible not to. No matter how great your childhood, parents or early life, bad things have — inevitably — happened to you. So, what do we do with our baggage? Should we just pretend it doesn’t exist? Well, that may work in the short run. In the long run, however, our old, unresolved traumas haunt us and keep hanging around, waiting for us to do something about them. But what do we do about it, and when? When there’s so much to work through, how do you start, when do you start and where do you start? You start whenever you’re ready. And only you will know when you’re ready. You may be 18 or 81 when you’re ready. Don’t worry, you’ll know it. You’ll feel it inside. You’ll hear a little voice (it’s usually faint) telling you, “It’s time to work on our stuff now. Let’s not suffer any more.” And, voila! That’s when you start to work through your old pain and trauma but you don’t “attack” it all at once, that’s a recipe for failure; you deal with it a little bit at a time. This is where the idea of squeezing the toothpaste comes in: Your old baggage, trauma and pain is like toothpaste in a tube. You could squeeze the tube violently and get way more toothpaste (e.g.
—Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit lifebeyondtherapy.com.▼
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anxiety and discomfort) than you can handle, or, you can squeeze the toothpaste gently and let it out a little at a time, in small amounts that you can handle. Don’t overwhelm yourself. Take your time. Squeeze gently. After all, we’ll be squeezing this toothpaste until we take our last breath. We are never really done growing, changing and becoming happier and healthier. It’s a life-long process, so there’s no need to rush it or panic. You have plenty of time. You might even consider enjoying the process: laughing at your foibles, forgiving yourself (and others) and seeing the humor in so many things. Healing takes time, it’s not like a fast, extreme weight-loss diet: It evolves over time. You can help it along, but you can’t rush it. So, since you’re in it for the long run, why not ease up on the pressure you put on yourself and cut yourself some slack? No one wants to work on their psychological baggage all the time. So don’t. Squeeze the toothpaste periodically, but give yourself breaks when you don’t. When you take on a long-term project, you pace yourself, right? Same with working through your old baggage: Pace yourself. Remind yourself, “I’m in this for the long run; I can take breaks. Even if I fall down a few times. I can always pick myself up and get back on my feet.” We all have baggage from our past. Many of us are afraid to begin to work it through because it seems like too much to deal with. But since it doesn’t usually disappear on its own, we can begin to squeeze that toothpaste (a little) and start to be free of our old demons. We may never “finish” (e.g. become perfectly happy all the time). So what? If we grow a bit happier with each passing day/week/month, isn’t that progress? And, let’s be clear: It’s progress, not perfection, that we’re after.
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events ATTHECENTER Wednesday, April 5
Guys, Games & Grub 6 pm, The Center Everyone is welcome to The Center on the ﬁrst Wednesday of each month for GGG! The popular board game and social night, presented by Men @ The Center, includes pizza, snacks, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hundreds of board games to choose from. Come alone and meet new friends, or come with a group for a fun evening out! Popular Team Trivia hosted by community favorite John Lockhart begins at 6:30 pm and everyone is welcome. Suggested donation of $5 requested for admission. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at email@example.com or 619.692.2077 x106.
social gathering space for non-binary individuals. The group meets on the 1st and 3rd Thursdays monthly. For more information, contact David Vance at firstname.lastname@example.org or 619.692.2077 x109.
Tuesdays, April 11 & 25
Free Legal Clinic 9-11 am, The Centerr The Access to Law Initiative, a project of California Western School of Law aw sponsored loria, will hold by City Councilmember Todd Gloria, legal clinics the second and fourth Tuesday of each month. At these clinics, attorneys will be available for free, 30-minute consultations to help evaluate legal issues.
Friday, April 14
Free HIV Testing at The Hillcrest Youth Center 3-6 pm, HYC Thursdays, April 6 & 20
Non-Binary Gender Identity and Exploration 7:30-8:45 pm, The Center Anyone who identiﬁes with any part of the non-binary gender spectrum or anyone questioning/exploring their gender identity is welcome to join this discussion group. Facilitators bring topics of discussion while leaving plenty of space for group members to steer the conversation where they would like it to go. This group also serves as a
While HIV testing is available every day at The Center, once monthly we provide a tester at the Hillcrest Youth Center (HYC)! Testing at the HYC is available for youth ages 14-18. HIV testing is always free, and great incentives are given out to those who test! For more information contact Courtney at email@example.com.
www.thecentersd.org The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077
GAY SAN DIEGO March 31 – April 13, 2017
Letters No more country dancing?
After over 20 years, MO’s is dropping country night (Kickers). This icon has meant so much to me personally, and to so many LGBT men and women in our community. It’s like a family that’s about to be dismantled. I understand MO’s is doing it for business reasons, but it’s a real loss. Business is business, but what a history. It’s meant so much to so many. It really is a very tight-knit and diverse community. I would hate to see it completely disappear from Hillcrest/the local LGBT community. —Tamara Zyhylij, via email
see Letters, pg 9
April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month By Fernando Lopez
My second ‘coming out’
In some ways it’s hard to believe that it’s been almost four years since I was raped. Thankfully most days go by now where it doesn’t cross my mind, but that’s due to having had immediate access to health care, mental health services and relationships that gave me an understanding of who to turn to for help and at which agencies. Far too many are not so lucky. Life’s hardships forced me to become a fighter at a very young age. From being bullied all through school, to homelessness, to being denied access to care and services because of my sexual orientation … I’ve learned how to speak up and fight back. So when this new horror found its way to my life, I did what I always do, and fought. At first it was being brave enough to tell the people I loved the most. In some ways that was the hardest thing I had to do, because I felt I was breaking them, too, by passing on my pain. The more I shared, the more love and support I got. Yes, there were a few slut-shaming exceptions, but those people aren’t in my life anymore. The more I shared, the better I felt, and the more I began to hear, “Oh my God, me too” from a EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 firstname.lastname@example.org CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 ASSISTANT EDITOR John Gregory CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Tom Felkner Dave Fidlin Michael Kimmel Ian Morton Frank Sabatini Jr. Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x111
and community bar staff intervention trainings in the future. Additionally, with the hopes of bettering the care and competency on the part of the San Diego Police Department (SDPD), Cheli Mohamed — who sits on the police chief’s LGBT advisory board — and SDPD’s LGBT liaison, Sgt. Daniel Meyer, helped me set up a meeting with Assistant Police Chief Albert Guaderrama, who also committed to supporting our efforts.
particularly in the LGBTQ comsurprising number of people. munity. The underreporting gets It was hearing this from so worse across lines of race and many that drove me to come out immigration status, and yet six anonymously in SDGLN, and rapes have already been reportit was then the outpouring of ed in 92103 so far this year. yet more “Oh my God, me toos” As more and more surviwhich followed that led me to come out publicly. It was startling vors continued to come out to me once I had gone public, to learn that many had never many asked what they could told anyone before, not even their Helping others or yourself do to help. After two years friends or partners. Most had April is Sexual Assault of taking time to focus on my never sought treatment for their Awareness Month (SAAM). own healing, I began getting physical or mental wellbeing. Each of us can play a role in Those who had pursued help small group of us together being advocates for survivors. — including fellow survivors found what I had also experiListen to them. Trust them. enced, a lack of resources, care, Christopher Sheehan and Watch your “rape jokes” — they Walter Castaneda, and our or compassion for gay, bi and aren’t funny and can be very trans men who had been raped. dear friend Benny Cartwright harmful. Stop slut-shaming — to meet on a monthly basis Most of the materials were to see what we could do to help. people. Educate yourself and geared towards women and ask for better consent-based We then brought in local the ones that were geared tosex education for our youth. LGBTQ member Liat Wexler wards men were very focused from the Center for Community Ask for better funding for deon the “shame around being tectives to assist and process Solutions (CCS) and Heather perceived to be gay.” rape cases. Demand easier Marino-Kibbee from the San These “resources” were very access to healthcare tools, like Diego LGBT Community heteronormative and hurtful, PrEP and PEP. even though roughly 40 percent Center (The Center) to join If you’re in need of support, these efforts. of gay men and 47 percent of seek it. If you are survivor who While it has been a relativebisexual men will experience sexual violence in their lifetime. ly slow process, since that time, is ready to come out of that closet, speak up. There is no shame in The Center and CCS have It happens more being a survivor. There are more met and worked more closethan we know of us than you know. ly together on ensuring that Ever since I started down Remember, you can invite LGBTQ competent survivor adthis path, I have had more and someone into your home, your vocacy and mental healthcare more friends who have been bed and even your body, but are available, with efforts to drugged and/or raped here in those boundaries are yours to expand these services. There San Diego and it crushes my define and control. are even plans to host LGBTQ heart every time. I have to give huge credit to competent survivor resources Rape and sexual violence are my mother who used to sing on their websites, the possible deeply underreported crimes, “My Body” by Peter Aslop to me creation of a survivor group COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 email@example.com ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 SENIOR INTERN David Sengmany INTERNS Alex Ehrie Christian Gurrola Jennifer Gotschalk Yesenia Luna Lexi Taketa
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when I was little. “My body’s nobody’s body but mine. You run your own body, let me run mine!” I also have to give a huge thank you to San Diego Pride, who has supported me on this journey; Dr. Delores Jacobs at The Center for her steadfast guidance; my father for standing by my side; and my partner David, who has brought love and intimacy back to my life. All my heart and love to all those who are working so diligently to take this dark toxic thing and turn it into something bright and beautiful.
Engage during SAAM
The Center’s Young Professionals Council (YPC) group’s monthly First Tuesday Series will focus on SAAM, with a short presentation by Liat Wexler, followed by a discussion about sexual assault. The event will take place at Refill Café, located at 3752 Park Blvd. in Hillcrest. For more information, contact TPC cochair Jeremy Bloom at Jeremy. email@example.com. Also, the survivor’s group mentioned above — for GBT male and “masculine of center” survivors — will meet Monday, April 10 at 10:30 a.m. at San Diego Pride offices, located at 3620 30th St. in North Park. —Fernando Lopez is the operations director of San Diego LGBT Pride and the co-founder of the GBT Survivors Group. He can be reached at fernando @sdpride.org.▼
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GAY NEWS BRIEFS FUND SET UP FOR FILMOUT PROGRAMMER
Friends of Michael McQuiggan, FilmOut San Diego’s longtime programmer, have set up a GoFundMe.com account to help pay for medical bills that are mounting. McQuiggan was diagnosed earlier this year with lymphoma and is currently undergoing chemotherapy. He reports that the treatments have been effective and he is now in remission. Realizing the need to focus full-time on his treatment and recovery, McQuiggan had go on short-term disability in February from his job at Ascent Real Estate and is receiving only 55 percent of his salary. Friends who launched the GoFundMe page said they are trying to raise $40,000 to cover lost wages as well as medical expenses that are not covered by insurance. More than $10,000 was raised in the first day. To donate money toward McQuiggan’s bills, visit bit. ly/2n2xVIK. McQuiggan has been involved with FilmOut — a local nonprofit that produces monthly movie screenings and the annual LGBT Film Festival — for the past 19 years. He has watched every single film or film short that has ever been submitted to FilmOut, choosing only the very best movies for the festival. The 2017 San Diego LGBT Film Festival will take place June 9–11, at the Observatory North Park Theatre. The film schedule will be released in April. Visit filmoutsandiego.com.
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THIRD ANNUAL ‘BIG HARD TALK’
It’s time once again for the “Big Hard Talk,” presented by Impulse San Diego on April 8 at the Lafayette Hotel in North Park. The third annual Big Hard Talk is an open forum concerning topics relating to drug and alcohol abuse — something that has always been a real issue in the LGBT community — with the goal of helping them gain greater awareness when the use of drugs and alcohol becomes a problem. “For 2017, we are going bigger on our conversations, harder on our topics, and talking louder about the issues in our community,” stated organizers in a press release. Calling it “a night to meet people, socialize in a stigma-free environment while having big hard fun,” Impulse organizers encourage those 18 and older to bring their “critical challenges of
15 bachelors await your bidding for a dinner date. (Courtesy SDGMC) being gay” to the event, which will offer both peer interactions and key speakers. The event is free. Signature “cock-tails” and “mock-tails” will be served, along with food bites, all included with your RSVP on Eventbrite. “Big Hard Talk,” presented by Impulse San Diego, will take place April 8 from 7–11 p.m., at The Conservatory at the Lafayette Hotel, located at 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. You can follow Impulse San Diego on Snapchat and Instagram. For more information or tickets, visit tinyurl. com/n78jwly.
MATCHING GRANT DEADLINE APPROACHES
Community members have another 10 days to rally to
help Being Alive San Diego to achieve a goal. They need to raise $10,000 in donations, which will be doubled and give them a total of $20,000, through a matching grant recently offered to them by a group of local HIV/AIDS physicians. Being Alive is now appealing to the local community to help them achieve this generous match by donating whatever they can (large or small — everything helps) by the deadline, which is April 10. Founded in 1989, Being Alive is one of San Diego’s oldest AIDS/HIV services providers, always providing quality and compassionate services to their clients free of charge. Support from the government has waned and even diminished
over the years while the cost of the services Being Alive provides have not. Hoping to ease the reliance on government funding, especially in these challenging times, the private group approached Being Alive with the idea and fundraising began in early March. To donate, contact Executive Director Shannon Wagner at 619-291-1400 x317, or swagner@ BeingAlive.org. Being Alive is located at 3940 Fourth Ave., #340, in Hillcrest. For more information, visit beingalive.org.
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Join San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus for Sunday Funday this April 2, when they present their annual Bachelor Auction, starting at 3 p.m. at Flicks, located 1017 University Ave., in Hillcrest. Attendees will have an opportunity to bid on one of 15 handsome and talented bachelors, including singers with the chorus and local guest celebrities. Landa Plenty will host, with Charles Albert Brown acting as emcee. All auction winners will join their bachelors at dinners, which are graciously being provided that same evening by Harley Gray, Kous Kous Moroccan Bistro and Uptown Tavern. Aside from bachelors, you can also bid on other items, and there will be raffles throughout the day. A special live auction will also take place, a once-in-a-lifetime fabulous luxury weekend at the Hotel del Coronado, valued at $3,600. The package includes a two-night stay (tax and fees included!), two 80-minute spa treatments, dinner for two, and Sunday Brunch for two. This weekend getaway would be fun for couples, families, singles or friends. Opportunity drawing prizes include a $250 private tasting party at VOM FASS Hillcrest; a $150 package at iFly San Diego; other items and gift cards from Blue Bridge Hospitality restaurants; Busalacchi’s A Modo Mio; The Crack Shack; Cohn Restaurant Group; Flicks; author Jackie Huba; Jax Cuts; The Lafayette Hotel, Swim Club & Bungalows; Mankind; San Diego Pride; Ricardo Sousa; Target; and Two Seven Eight. All proceeds benefit SDGMC’s musical mission of community outreach. For more information, visit tinyurl.com/ m8pvhbt.
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Kathy Griffin to the rescue Activism in Trump’s America, being on the road in red states ... and gay-inspired comebacks Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Of course Kathy Griffin’s manager asks if our conversation is being recorded — have you heard her talk? Luckily, the celeb-skewering, gay-loving, Trump-hating comedienne’s filterless mouth moves at a meteoric pace, which is good news for anyone who wants to know her thoughts on basically everything: the practicality of celebrity activism, her idea for a “My Life on the D-List” spinoff and the surprising number of people she meets who say they’ve never encountered a gay person. I caught up with Griffin just days after being honored with the Vanguard Award by the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus on March 12 for her ardent and unwavering role as an ally in the LGBT rights movement. Read on for her insight into what the hell we do — and what she’s doing — now that Donald Trump is running this country. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) I hear you gave an incredible speech at the 11th annual Crescendo Gala in San Francisco, where you were presented with the Vanguard Award. (Kathy Griffin | KG) I did give an impassioned speech. You know, we’re all very, very engaged right now — although the LGBT community is obviously used to being engaged — and now my call to action is to ask the LGBT community to help engage folks that have never been engaged before. Know your local representatives. It’s all about the down-ballot. You know, stay galvanized. Learn from the Republicans. They stick together no matter what. We can’t be divided. We gotta all stay together. This is it. This is the big one. (CA) You have two Emmys and a Grammy. How would you describe the way those industry honors feel compared to something like the Vanguard Award? (KG) This award feels special, because when I found out about the [SF Gay Men’s Chorus] “Lavender Pen Tour,” I really thought that was a cool thing, as someone who is a touring animal like myself. I did 80 cities last year, and I’m doing 50 cities this year on my “Kathy Griffin: Celebrity Run-In Tour” to support my book, and what’s so cool is, when I heard that the chorus, which by the way is the oldest gay men’s chorus in the world — they have a lot of street cred — were gonna purposefully go to very Trump red states, I was like, “OK, I gotta get on board.” Because I go to those places on a regular basis! I said this in my speech, but I see the
Confederate flags on people’s garages when I’m driving gig to gig. What they’re doing is kind of like what I do. I think it’s so great and I believe in many, many forms of activism, and it’s such a brilliant idea for the chorus to go, “We’re taking this on the road and we’re just literally gonna be a road tour of gay men singing,” so if anybody approaches them or has a problem with them, they’re just gonna look like assholes. (CA) What does it mean to you to be an activist and a celebrity with the kind of platform you have in the Trump era? (KG) I think people that believe in any kind of nuanced thought, who can handle a thought, know that, yeah, a celebrity can actually provide a real service for a cause. Celebrities sort of apologize all the time, but we’re voting citizens like anybody else. I defend my right to speak about things as a celebrity or as an offensive comic or whatever you wanna call me. I’ve toured this country so many times, and I’ve also performed in Iraq and Afghanistan for the troops. I’ve performed in a prison. I’ve performed at the Walter Reed Army Medical Center. So, I kind of feel that’s what I bring to the table — that I’m really, really proud of. Every city has a different vibe. I can kind of tell in the first few minutes of the show what they’re gonna be into. But some audiences really want to hear a lot of Trump material, some wanna hear a lot about my mom, some wanna hear a lot about, you know, my new neighbors Kim Kardashian and Kanye West [laughs], which is hilarious to all parties. My material is definitely new, so if you’ve seen me five months ago, five years ago or 10 years ago, you’re definitely gonna see a new show. And even though I’m supporting the book, I’m not, like, just sitting there reading from the book. I’m doing all different stuff. Sometimes in my shows I’ll actually talk about the kind of activism that I’m up to and I’ll try to make it funny. Like, I had a one-day show in Mexico, where, by the way, I spent the whole day apologizing to the whole country; I just walked around stage saying, “Lo siento [or] Señor Cheeto.” But I bought a bunch of Mexican postcards and those, for examples, are fun to mail to legislators that are maybe not helping the LGBT agenda. You can march, you can call, you can send letters, send postcards. The cool thing is, we’re no longer focusing just on Trump, and also, I think we’ve written him off as just a crazy person. The other thing is, elections are every year. We have to stop
thinking, “Oh, I’m just gonna be depressed till 2020” — no, no. I think if a celebrity says [something political], I love it. If Katy Perry can say, like, here’s a way you can help — these are grassroots [efforts] and very much in tune with how the LGBT has been rocking it forever. I’m really tired of these people apologizing. It’s important that the LGBT community keep standing strong. And what we’re gonna hear a lot of is, “Well, you guys are single-agenda” — no, we’re equality. Equality is for all. “Oh, a trans woman is gonna molest my kid.” OK, hold back. The last thing a Jenny Boylan or even Caitlyn Jenner wants to do is go into a bathroom because they’re gonna — I mean, I can’t even finish the sentence it’s so ridiculous. And also, by the way, there’s a lot of comedy in that. There’s a lot of comedy in how some of the Trump voters are kind of coming around a little bit, like not a lot, but some of them. I put a lot of thought into it when I do my messages or calls to action. I don’t want to hit them over the head with it, but if you do it with humor — I still say the greatest protest sign I’ve ever seen is when my mom was in her wheelchair marching with me for the repeal of DOMA and her sign was, “Gay marriage — I’ll drink to that.” So, you know, we could use humor. (CA) We need humor! (KG) We need humor, I think you’re absolutely right. The thing that I hear now as opposed to a year ago and certainly opposed to five years ago is overwhelmingly people saying, “Oh my god, I needed this laugh so bad,” or, “I’ve been in a ball since the election,” or, “I’m scared that my cousin is gonna be deported and I needed a night of laughs.” (CA) If Trump can get into office, anyone can, apparently. And now Oprah wants to run. If you could replace Trump with any celebrity in the world, whom would you put in the White House? (KG) If I could replace Trump with any celebrity, I would replace him with a lady named Hillary Rodham Clinton! Because she fucking won. And it’s hers. And she’s a celebrity! Well, I mean the obvious joke is, I would put my dog Larry in the Oval and have a lot more confidence in [him] even though all he does is fart and eat and sleep. (CA) Larry for president … and Anderson Cooper for VP? (KG) Yes! I actually think that works for both parties, because you don’t want to make Anderson president because then that’s gonna cut down on his modeling. And I want him to be able to take care of the wonderful Gloria Vanderbilt in the style to which she is accustomed for the rest of her life, which means forever. Gloria Vanderbilt for president wouldn’t be bad! (CA) Gloria and Anderson: 2021? (KG) I think that’s got a mass appeal that you tapped into and this could be the new movement.
Comedian Kathy Griffin was just honored by the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus with their Vanguard Award. (Photo by Gooch) (CA) What did you think when you discovered that Kellyanne Conway was a former “comedian”? (KG) Well, she was at, like, a corporate party and she had to get up and do standup. Look, Kellyanne Conway is the perfect example of somebody who’s like a wet dream for me. I mean, first of all, everything about her is made for comedy. Everything from the lies that get more insane every day, to her denials, which are hilarious, to the inauguration outfit, which still haunts me. My theory is maybe she got herself a vindictive gay who just said, “When you go to Gucci, buy the entire mannequin and wear the whole mannequin.” You know how gay people can be. Don’t act innocent. It was a gay man with an agenda going, “I know how to make the real story here. We’re gonna put Kellyanne Conway in a crazy ass red hat like she’s in Devo. And then we’re gonna give her a Civil War jacket from Gucci that only fucking Rihanna could have pulled off, and then give her a matching handbag. And don’t forget the gloves, because when she goes and hugs Steven Bannon you’ve gotta look at the red gloves and then the red alleged meth marks on his face and see which one strikes you as being more patriotic.” (CA) Let me just say: That is one gay agenda I am behind. (KG) [Laughs] And I am too, dammit! (CA) Similar to what you’ve done as a touring act, and now what the SF Gay Men’s Chorus is also doing, “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” is returning and going to red-state cities that need help. (KG) I mean, look, that’s really the best thing we can all do right now, because we’ve all decided to live in these weird bubbles and this administration obviously has a different world or America or whatever they’re doing. But the cool thing is, we’re all here doing our thing and that’s what I love. The Gay Men’s Chorus is going, “OK, this is our reaction; we’re gonna go on the road and we’re going to frickin’ Trumpland.” And I love that “Queer Eye” is like, “We’re coming back, but we’re not just coming back to Manhattan; we’re going to the real America.” It’s gonna be
amazing how many people are probably gonna look at them and go, “You’re the first gay person I’ve ever met.” And I love that to this day I’ll hear that. I do meet-and-greets, say, at the casino, and to this day I’ll have someone after a show say, “You know, I don’t think I ever met a gay person before, but there seems to be a bunch of gay people at your show.” And I always say, “You never met a gay person?” And they’ll go, “Nope.” And I’ll go, “Well, do you go to church?” And then usually it’s a little bit of a conversation ender, but I’m just saying, I’m out there in the real America and I’m telling you, there are many, many people in the real America who think that they’ve never even laid eyes on a gay person. But we’re all gonna get together and go, “Here we are. We’re here, we’re queer, don’t fucking be scared of us.” (CA) Do you think it’s time “D-List” makes a comeback too? (KG) Well, I sort of would love to do something similar. I mean, the challenge is, would anyone really let me do a reality show? Because “D-List” really was unscripted and now they’re all scripted and you can see them reading a teleprompter in the interviews and stuff. I’d love to do, like, “D-List to Legend,” where I’m trying to become a legend and I’m trying to surround myself with, I don’t know, Sidney Poitier, Mick Jagger and Cher. Like, all right, maybe I’m not A-list, maybe I’m B, but it’s time for me to become a legend. I think there could be some comedy there. If nobody wants to do it, I’ll just have to be a living legend in my mind and rock my 50-city tour and my bestseller, which Anderson Cooper told me he just read his section and then closed it. (CA) If you do another reality show, can all your confessionals be like Mariah Carey’s in “Mariah’s World” with the best lighting and on a settee? (KG) Oh my god. I love it. There’s an example of a show that clearly had an agenda to be about her engagement to Packer and then she starts banging the young, hot dancer — Tanaka or whatever his government name is — and then the show becomes about that, and then there’s just a lot of scenes with
see Grifﬁn, pg 19
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FROM PAGE 7
BRIEFS giving foodies a chance to sample some of their best and signature dishes. The event takes place Saturday, April 15, from noon–4 p.m. The HBA calls this “the most anticipated self-guided culinary walking tour in San Diego.” With sample bites that include pad thai, sashimi, Italian antipasto, and classic American comfort food, organizers are sure your taste buds are going to “go wild” on this culinary walking journey throughout the streets of Hillcrest. Attendees must have a valid photo ID to participate. A free shuttle, which will be making frequent stops all over the neighborhood, will be provided for all participants. Will call locations are at Gossip Grill located at 1220 University Ave. and Rite Aid located at 535 Robinson Ave. Tickets for Taste of Hillcrest are currently on sale for $30 and will go up to $35 April 15. This event has sold out in advance the last couple of years, so the HBA strongly encourages that you get your tickets early. Taste of Hillcrest benefits the neighborhood improvements in Hillcrest. For more information or to purchase tickets, visit tinyurl.com/ kqdps9m.▼
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[Ref: “Open minds and open hearts,” Vol. 8, Issue 6, or online at tinyurl.com/l2wpmub]. Thanks for the interview and write-up, we are very honored by your article and attention to our community and we are so proud of #SDLP2017. We’re also so touched to be on the front cover and for all the coverage you gave our interview and vision. We both really feel so honored. There were some errors in the article, we had two local judges on our panel, thanks again to Annette Suarez and Duff Roberts! This was the third, not fourth, SDBB [San Diego Bootblack]. [The writer’s] take on our philosophy is pretty good and she did a great job condensing a very lengthy interview — she gave us a lot of time and love thank you again Morgan M. Hurley! The weekend was great beyond our wildest dreams! Well attended and enjoyed by all! —Buster Adams and AJ Turner, via Facebook and email (Editor’s Note: Thanks to Buster’s keen oversight, a number of updates/corrections were made to the online version of the story, so if you read it in print, we strongly suggest those interested reread it online.) —Letters to the editor can be sent to firstname.lastname@example.org. Comments can also be made on our website or Facebook page.▼
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Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: Â‹ You must be HIV-negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce VJGTKUMQHIGVVKPI*+8WPNGUU[QWCTGEQPĆ’TOGFVQDG*+8PGICVKXG Â‹ Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: Â‹ You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. Â‹ You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Â‹ To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: â€˘ Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. â€˘ Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. â€˘ Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. â€˘ Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. â€˘ Have fewer sex partners. â€˘ Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. â€˘ If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. Â‹ If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: Â‹ Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis include weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. Â‹ Serious liver problems. Your liver may become large and tender, and you may develop fat in your liver. Symptoms of liver problems include your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark â€œtea-coloredâ€? urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain. Â‹ You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or serious liver problems if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time. In some cases, these serious conditions have led to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any symptoms of these conditions.
Â‹ Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you also have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking 6478#&#&QPQVUVQRVCMKPI6478#&#YKVJQWVĆ’TUVVCNMKPIVQ[QWT healthcare provider. If your healthcare provider tells you to stop taking TRUVADA, they will need to watch you closely for several months to monitor your health. TRUVADA is not approved for the treatment of HBV.
Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP? Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you also take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).
What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP? Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: Â‹ Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Â‹ Bone problems, including bone pain or bones getting soft or thin, may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. Â‹ Changes in body fat, which can happen in people taking TRUVADA or medicines like TRUVADA. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.
What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP? Â‹ All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis virus infection. Â‹ If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. 2TGIPCPE[4GIKUVT[ÇĄA pregnancy registry collects information about your health and the health of your baby. There is a pregnancy registry for women who take medicines to prevent HIV-1 during pregnancy. For more information about the registry and how it works, talk to your healthcare provider. Â‹ If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. The medicines in TRUVADA can pass to your baby in breast milk. If you become HIV-1 positive, HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in breast milk. Â‹ All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. Â‹ +H[QWVCMGEGTVCKPQVJGTOGFKEKPGUÇĄwith TRUVADA for PrEP, your healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include ledipasvir with sofosbuvir (HARVONI). You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs VQVJG(KUKVÇĄYYY(&#IQXOGFYCVEJQTECNN(&#
Please see Important Facts about TRUVADA for PrEP including important warnings on the following page.
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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.
MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP
POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP
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TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Bone problems. • Changes in body fat. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomach-area (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.
While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-1 negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. •8IPP]SYVLIEPXLGEVITVSZMHIVMJ]SYLEZIEƥYPMOIMPPRIWW[LMPIXEOMRK TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Risk” section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Buildup of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency that can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. • Severe liver problems, which in some cases can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-colored” urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain. • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. (SRSXWXSTXEOMRK869:%(%[MXLSYXƤVWXXEPOMRKXS]SYVLIEPXLGEVI provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months. You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems if you are female, very overweight, or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time.
BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis infection. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed if you become HIV-1 positive because of the risk of passing HIV-1 to your baby. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.
HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • You must practice safer sex by using condoms and you must stay HIV-1 negative.
HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP (PRE-EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS) TRUVADA is a prescription medicine used with safer sex practices for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection in adults at high risk: • HIV-1 negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex. • Male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. To help determine your risk, talk openly with your doctor about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).
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• Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body ƥYMHWSRXLIQ
GET MORE INFORMATION • This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV-1 infection. • Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.
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(l to r) Steve Gunderson, Sean Murray and Melissa Fernandes on the 20th Century train from Chicago to NYC. (Photo by Ken Jacques)
A hilariously nefarious train ride Theater Review Charlene Baldridge As currently produced by Cygnet Theatre, Betty Comden and Adolph Green’s Tony Awardwinning 1978 Broadway farce, “On the 20th Century” — with music by Cy Coleman — convinces this observer that it is the funniest musical ever written. It is that exceptionally rich and laden with mirthful treasure. Attending March 18, opening night, where it will run through April 30, the musical features and is impeccably directed by, Cygnet Artistic Director Sean Murray, who surrounds himself with a rare group of singing comedians, something we’ve come to expect at the theater on Twiggs Street. Whether leaping onto a seat in Stateroom A or playing one of the flashbacks on the forestage (“Our Private World,” for instance), Murray, who is in fine voice, treads the fine line between reality and absurdity, whether directing himself, or his attractive company, all wildly garbed (it’s the Roaring 20s) by the masterful Jeanne Reith and playing upon Sean Fanning’s unbelievably resplendent scenic design. The title’s 20th Century refers to the art deco luxury train that famously plied the tracks between Chicago and New York City at the time, carrying theater artists and the wealthy elite who went to see them on Broadway. Once the toast of both towns, theatrical producer Oscar Jaffe (Murray) barely escapes the wrath of an abandoned Chicago theatrical company (his fourth flop in a row) and boards the train at La Salle Station in the Windy City. His faithful retainers, company manager Olive (Melissa Fernandes) and press agent Owen (Steve Gunderson) are sent ahead to secure Drawing Rooms A and B, where Oscar hopes to induce his one-time protégée Lily Garland (the indefatigable, splendid Eileen Bowman), now an Oscar Awardwinning film star, to return to the stage. Along with her fabulous ermine coat, she also has her hunky but dim-bulb Hollywood costar, Bruce Granit
steals every big scene (David (Michael Cusimano) in tow, who Brannen, choreographer). has one of the show’s best exOthers on the 20th Century are tended-farcical sequences with Morgan Carberry, Samantha the stateroom doors. Wynn Greenstone, LaFras Le A delicious flashback reRoux and Amy Perkins. counts how Lily and Oscar first Music director/keyboard met. Lily, then named Mildred Terry O’Donnell and an excelPlotka, was the piano accomlent five-piece orchestra are panist of Imelda Thornton (Debra Wanger), who auditioned somewhere out of sight. Peter Herman’s wigs and makeup for one of Oscar’s early shows, are outstanding. Chris Rynne singing “The Indian Maiden’s provides lighting and Dylan Lament” so poorly that Mildred Nielsen, the sound. Blake corrected her from the piano. Observing her spunk and talent, McCarty’s overhead projections provide smoke and other, more Oscar gave the leading role to hilarious visuals. Mildred, promptly renaming This splendidly cast and diher Lily. A star was born and rected show is so full of amusea blazing romance, long-since ment it warrants a return visit. cooled, ensued. Bravo to Murray, who put it all Meanwhile back on the 20th together and makes it appear Century, Olive and Owen disseamless and effortless, and to cover Miss Letitia Primrose all those who fulfilled his bid(Melinda Gilb at her best), a ding so wondrously. religious, wacky benefactor who blithely writes them a humon— Charlene Baldridge has gous check for a new show to been writing about the arts since star Lily. 1979. You can follow her blog at A quartet of tap-dancing porcharlenecriticism.blogspot.com ters and Pullman staff (Brian Banville, Drew Bradford, Trevor or reach her at charb81@gmail. Cruse and Luke H. Jacobs) com.▼
Eileen Bowman as Lily Garland (Photo by Ken Jacques)
“On the 20th Century” Book and lyrics by Betty Comden and Adolph Green Music by Cy Coleman Directed by Sean Murray Wednesdays through Sundays Cygnet Theatre 4040 Twiggs St. Old Town State Park Tickets $31-$56 (discounts available) cygnettheatre.com or 619-337-1525
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Russian sustenance with a side of whimsy Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. A mere mention of Russia these days is enough to demolish the frivolity of social gatherings. Moscow meddled in our elections, formed oily ties to high-ranking members of our government, and earlier this decade, imposed a 100-year ban on Pride parades. None of it makes you want to book a tour to The Kremlin. Yet through the smoky darkness of super powers misbehaving, there’s levity to be found at Pomegranate RussianGeorgian Restaurant, where gut-warming cuisine and lighthearted menu descriptions help
(above) Silky beef stroganoff; (above right) salad sampler
you forget (if only for a night) the tyrannical maneuvers of Vladdy the Puppet Master and the curious respect he draws from our very own Yam-mander in Chief. (Sorry Trumpsters, I can no longer resist.) Pomegranate demonstrates that food transcends world politics when you consider for example a carrot-garlic-walnut salad, which the menu states will “overwhelm the defenses of all your senses.” If there’s a way of reaching that liberating mindset after delving into your daily news feeds, this mound of uniquely flavored shredded carrots is surely one of them. “Serious love” is listed as an ingredient in another salad of fresh cabbage, berries and unidentifiable herbs that unanimously wowed our group of six. In
addition, the intriguingly spicy lobio bean salad with walnuts “awakens the appetite” while the Ikra Badrijannaya medley of eggplant, onions and garlic dressed in fruity olive oil is described as “a vegetarian’s dream while in hell.” We ordered all of the above in the salad sampler, priced at $17. It included two loaves of hot, crusty bread with butter, which paired without fail to every item on the platter. Some of us chose appetizers as our entrees. They included a few bowls of house-made vereniki dumplings stuffed generously with potato and cheese. Think Polish pierogis, sans the butter sauce and with onions that are more intensely caramelized. A substantial plop of
requisite sour cream in the middle fueled their mighty calorie count. My favorite starter was a pair of chebureki, a Crimean specialty of jumbo fried turnovers filled with ground beef, onions, cilantro and garlic. They’re served with garlicky yogurt-dill dipping sauce to compensate for the slight lack of moisture. Unable to finish them, I toted the leftovers home for lunch the next day, at which point the underlying essence of fresh black pepper in the meat had fully developed. One of our tablemates ordered Russia’s claim to fame — beef stroganoff. I opted for it when visiting here several years ago and trusted it would l be as lush and velvety as I remem remembered. Indeed, the beef strips and sautéed mushrooms lovingl united within a slick lovingly mixtur of jus and sour cream mixture t buttered noodles sat while the naked at one end of the plate, allowin you to slide some or allowing all of them into the stew.
Potato-cheese stuffed vereniki
Pomegranate’s meat turnovers
(Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)
Pomegranate Russian-Georgian Restaurant 2312 El Cajon Blvd. (North Park) 619-298-4007, pomegranatesd.com Prices: Salads, soups and appetizers, $7.50 to $9; dumplings and turnovers, $7.50 to $13.50; entrees, $12 to $21.50
Khinkali are off-menu Georgian dumplings available only on Thursdays and Sundays. Compared to the vereniki, they’re more elaborately crimped with their curly sides and knobby peaks. Served five to a plate, I intercepted a sample from a member of our party and found the beef-pork filling to be mouthwatering as the flavors of caraway, parsley and cilantro emerged. Because their dough casings are thicker than most dumplings, they fill you up faster than it takes to cop a buzz from a few shots of Pomegranate’s low-alcohol vodka, which is available in the absence of a full liquor license. A charcoal grill on the front patio is used for cooking shashlik, which translates to your choice of skewered pork loin, chicken or lamb. In my past visit, I ordered the pork and received four large, succulent pieces on the skewer. They were squirted with pomegranate sauce, which tasted both sweet and tart. My hopes for a repeat of the dish were dashed when lea learning the grill wasn’t in operati ation on this particular evening. We passed on dessert, which in includes “toad sweat ice cream” that the menu warns is “not for the faint of heart.” It’s basically vanilla ice cream topped with pomegranate-caramel sauce as well as habanero-spiked chocolate sauce. I had it before and can attest to its dramatic, stinging bite. Pomegranate’s interior desig sign evades the modern, industri trial templates of many other res restaurants in town. Soft lamp lighting pervades throughout two large dining rooms, each featuring warm fabrics, ceiling banners and quirky artwork. Adding to the décor are copious scribblings by customers on nearly every square inch of wall space. They impart a friendly, bridge-building vibe free of politics and full of compliments about the Russian staff and hearty food. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at email@example.com.▼
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The two-foot-long “pizza al metro” at Officine Buona Forchetta (Courtesy Left Coast Public Relations)
The much-anticipated spinoff of South Park’s beloved Buona Forchetta has opened in Liberty Station under the name Officine Buona Forchetta. Chef-owner Matteo Cattaneo launched the venture with Mario Cassineri, executive chef at BICE in the Gaslamp Quarter. Their menu includes several entrees not available in South Park, such as crab gnocchi, five-mushroom ravioli and veal osso buco. They also offer an expanded menu of Neapolitan pizzas, featuring more vegan choices as well as a giant family-size pie. The 2,600-square-foot space greets with bright-red seating positioned around the pizza station and main kitchen, and it also has two outdoor patios. 2865 Sims Road, 619-548-5770, officinebuonaforchetta.com.
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More than 80 craft brews and nearly 60 international specialty dishes are in store at SeaWorld San Diego’s Seven Seas Craft Beer & Food Festival, which will be held every weekend inside the park during regular hours from April 1–30. With 14 culinary hubs positioned on the grounds, foodies will encounter everything from escargot and Tuscan-style wild boar pasta to Peruvian ceviche, Caribbean jerk chicken, Polynesian-style grilled oysters and more. The weekly feasts will be prepared under the expertise of SeaWorld San Diego’s executive chef, Axel Dirolf, who Chef Axel Dirolf of SeaWorld San has cooked for a former U.S. Diego is cooking up globally inspired president as well as British feasts in April (Photo by Mike Aguilera) and Saudi royaltyThree breweries will take part each weekend. They include North Park Beer Co., Mike Hess Brewing, Ballast Point Brewing and Spirits, Stone Brewing and more. Live music from different stages will augment the festival, which is included with park admission. Food, beer and various wines will be sold al a carte or through sampler packages priced at $25 and $45. 500 Sea World Drive, 619-222-4732, seaworldsandiego.com.
After swinging onto Park Boulevard five years ago with crafty deli sandwiches, the Big Front Door has extended its brand to Bottlecraft’s new Solana Beach tasting room and retail shop (437 Highway 101, Suite 107). The sandwich shop also plans on opening a restaurant with ample seating in Bankers Hill this fall. In the meantime, for every “LGBT” sandwich (lettuce, gouda Big Front Door’s sandwiches are on cheese, bacon and tomato the rise (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) on toasted sourdough) purchased at the Hillcrest location throughout the remainder of the year, the company will donate $1 to the San Diego LGBT Community Center. 4135 Park Blvd., 619-255-4100, bfdsandiego.com. More than 20 chefs from San Diego and Baja will team up with a brewer or wine maker for the second annual Pairings with a Purpose from noon–4 p.m. April 15 at the Bobby Riggs Tennis Club & Museum (875 Santa Fe Drive, Encinitas). The event is presented by Feeding San Diego, a hunger-relief organization that feeds children, families and seniors throughout San Diego County.Each duo at the event will dole out an optimal food and drink pairing as attendees vote on a favorite. Among the chefs taking part are Karen Barnett of Small Bar, Shihomi Borillo of Azuki Sushi, Jamie Lozano of Tiger! Tiger! and Sharon Wilson of Panama 66. Three former contestants/ guests of Bravo’s Top Chef television series will also take part — Chad White, Jeremy Ford and Javier Plascencia.Beverage participants will include The California Fruit Wine Co., Belching Beaver Brewery, Bitter Brothers Brewing, Green Flash Brewing Co., Baja Wine Food and more. Admission is $75, or $150 for VIP entry. All proceeds will benefit Feeding San Diego’s meal sourcing and distribution efforts. Tickets must be purchased via the web site at feedingsandiego.org. For more information, call 858-452-3663.
A beer and wine license is in the pipeline at the new Maduro’s Cigar Lounge in Old Town. The business was launched by Dennis Bartelmo of Bartelmo Limoncello and Herman Puentes, a cigar retailer. Set back from the street, the space previously served as a satellite facility for Rose’s Tasting Room, which remains in operation inside the Fiesta de Reyes.Cigar smoking is permitted on Maduro’s large semi-covered patio. In the absence of a kitchen, customers can tote in their own food or receive deliveries from The Alamo Mexican Café or Pizza Bella. The cigar selection extends to about 40 different brands, and Bartelmo said an indoor bar will soon be built in preparation for drink sales. Check their Facebook page for updates. 2609 Congress St., 619-543-0619.
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Taking the place of Adams Avenue Grill is Grains, a new vegan/vegetarian restaurant that operates from noon–9 p.m. Sunday through Thursday, and until 10 p.m. on Fridays and Saturdays. Amid an extensive beer selection are dishes such as tempura-battered king oyster mushrooms, house-made quinoa (or egg) pasta, fried cauliflower with Buffalo sauce and Asian curries with tofu. 2201 Adams Ave., 619-269-5999. True North will host a smoke-friendly dinner that includes mezcal cocktails paired to each of the four courses, plus a pack of four hand-selected cigars selected by David Mogilner of Racine & Laramie Tobacconists. The event, to be held at 6:30 p.m. April 5, will feature live Latin-acoustic music. The cost is $65 per person. Reservations are recommended. 3815 30th St., 619-291-3815, truenorthtavern.com.
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Meet the Artists Night: Join Creative Crossroads and San Diego LGBT Visitors Center to celebrate over 40 talented artists with a creative mixer. The meet and greet is a free event with complimentary drinks, a raffle for a $100 gift card and more fun activities. 6–9 p.m. 502 University Ave. Visit bit.ly/2o8ai5F. Bankers Hill Art and Craft Beer Festival: The fifth annual Bankers Hill & Craft Beer Festival, presented by the San Diego Brewers Guild and Bankers Hill Business Group, includes an event full of food, beer and art. Local brewers, restaurants and local artists will be featured in the historic 10,000-square-foot venue. Tickets available online at bit.ly/2o8nWWH for $30. Admission includes 2-ounce pours and complimentary food samples. 21-and-up. 6–9 p.m. The Abbey, 2825 Fifth Ave. Visit bit.ly/2ovtUNm.
Saturday, April 1
LGBTQ Family Skate Party: Take the family on a skating trip! Families at The Center is hosting a family-friendly roller-skating event. Space is limited. $6 admission with regular skates. 5–7 p.m. Skateworld Roller Rink, 6907 Linda Vista Roa`d. Visit bit. ly/2ovs9Q7 and RSVP at firstname.lastname@example.org or 619-692-2077 x212. Queer Trans People of Color Mixer: Join San Diego LGBT Community Center for drinks, dancing and mingling. Bring your partner or fly solo. $5 donation. 21-and-up. 6–9 p.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St. Visit bit.ly/2ovx5EM or contact Carolina Ramos at email@example.com. Bear night: Resident DJ Jon Williams will get you sweating in the Big Room while DJ Sean Nile of LA gets you off in the Sideshow Bar. Cruise, dance and drink it up with the woofiest men, bears and cubs in town during happy hour from 9–10 p.m., but the fun lasts until 2 a.m. Flack’s grilledto-order burgers on the patio. Numbers Nightclub, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2ovyevR.
Sunday, April 2
SDGMC Bachelor Auction: San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus presents their annual event showcasing 15 bachelors, including singers and local celebrities. Come bid and win at chance at dinner with your chosen pick. There will also be a special live auction with many other raffle prizes. All proceeds go to SDGMC’s musical mission of community outreach. 3–7 p.m. Flicks, 1017 University Ave. Visit bit.ly/2ovGQCS. San Diego Royale Gala and Investitures: Imperial Court de San Diego will honor Prince Royale Romeo Anderson-Camacho and Princess Royale Barbie Z Neors as they turn over their crowns to a new prince and princess. The event will also feature the Investitures of Reign 45 by Emperor Jay Heimbach and Empress Angel Fairfax. Doors open at 4 p.m. for a reception with food and cocktail service, investitures start at 5 p.m. and the Royale Gala begins at 6 p.m. Lots of entertainment. Tickets $25. Rich’s San Diego, 1051 University Ave. Visit bit.ly/2ovAKSP.
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Monday, April 3
Live music: Portlandbased singer/songwriter Matt Alber will perform original pop/folk art songs. Tickets online at bit.ly/2ovId4m. $25–35 reserved seating and $15 per person food/drink minimum. Doors open 6 p.m. and show starts at 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit bit.ly/2ovSfm9.
Tuesday, April 4
YPC First Tuesday Series: Join the Young Professionals Council – a program of The Center – for a discussion on sexual assault. This month’s series
will feature networking and a presentation by Liat Wexler. Cold brew coffee, crepes and additional menu items will be available for purchase. 6:30–8 p.m. Refill, 3752 Park Blvd. Visit bit. ly/2ovOHQX or contact cochair Prabha Singh at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Wednesday, April 5
GGG at The Center: Men @ The Center and #BeTheGeneration present an evening of team trivia, board games, food, drinks and socializing. Stewart Renninson will host a team trivia game in lieu of John Lockhart. $5 donation suggested. Doors open at 6 p.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St. Visit bit.ly/2ovLGzW or email email@example.com.
Thursday, April 6
What You See Is What You Eat workshop: SDMA presents an edible sculpture workshop with waffle building blocks inspired by the exhibition “Richard Deacon: What You See Is What You Get.” 21-and-up. Food and drink available for purchase at Panama 66. Tickets $30 members, $45 nonmembers. Admission includes workshop supplies and an after-hours tour of the exhibition. 7–10 p.m. San Diego Museum of Art, 1450 El Prado. Visit bit. ly/2ovW9eN. PP’s 54th Anniversary Dinner: Planned Parenthood of the Pacific Southwest hosts their annual gala themed “Now More Than Ever,” to celebrate the organization’s 54 years of commitment to reproductive health care and sexuality education. Tickets $175 and tables start at $1,750. 5:30–8:30 p.m. Hilton San Diego Bayfront, 1 Park Blvd. Visit bit.ly/2o8ATzB.
Friday, April 7
Opening Day Block Party Weekend: Spend the weekend in East Village for this free, family-friendly community event. Celebrate the Padres’ opening day at Petco Parks with live music from local bands, an interactive game zone, a micro-brew beer garden, jump houses, a rock wall and more. 10 a.m.–6:30 p.m. on
April 7 and 11 a.m.–7:30 p.m. on April 8. East Village, 1041 Market St., Downtown. Visit bit.ly/2ovEFiz. 2017 San Diego Equality Awards KickOff Reception: Equality California invites you to celebrate the victories of EQCA and unite to stand up against discrimination. 5:30–7:30 p.m. Dwell Well Realty, 3809 32nd St., North Park. Visit bit.ly/2o8BpO3.
Saturday, April 8
POZ Life Weekend Seminar: This free healing and transformational weekend is for people with HIV or AIDS. Loved ones and caretakers are also welcome. The event aims to help individuals identify real-life issues living with the disease. Continental breakfast, snacks, drinks and lunch are complimentary for both days. Pre-registration is required at lifegroupla.org. Visit bit.ly/2ow3qLu. Bateworld 2017 Men’s Summit: Join Bateworld and Sexologist Dr. Jallen Rix for the fi rst ever “cock summit.” The goal of the summit is to expand the “safe space” of the Bateworld website and bring it face to face and out in the open of nature’s acceptance. Register online. Prices are $325 for a dorm room and $280 for tent lodging. Liberty Advance Yoga Retreat Center, 1585 Jewel Valley Road, Boulevard. Visit bit.ly/2ovUQg2.
Sunday, April 9
Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece of “Rainbow Sunflowers.” $45, all supplies included, registration is required. Food and drink available for purchase. 21-and-older. 6–9 p.m. Café Bella Italia, 1525 Garnet Ave., Pacific Beach. Visit bit.ly/2ow8gIy.
Monday, April 10
Lestat’s West Open Mic: Sign up at 6:30 p.m. to perform. Time slots are picked by lottery and performers may perform for 10 minutes or two songs, whichever comes first. 6:30–11 p.m. Lestat’s West
Tuesday, April 11
San Diego LGBT Pride Town Hall: San Diego Pride welcomes the public to the 2017 town hall meeting. Discussion topics include the strategic vision of where Pride is going and the national march on June 11. 6–8 p.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit bit.ly/2ovLTTS. HOB 3 Amigos Tuesday: House of Blues Restaurant & Bar is hosting 3 Amigos Mondays with $3 food and beverage specials and free live entertainment. Take a trip Downtown for $3 taco plates, import beer and margaritas, as well as a free show on their Salvation Stage while you enjoy these specials. Every Tuesday, 4 p.m. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Gaslamp Quarter. Visit tinyurl.com/ lfqb44u.
Wednesday, April 12
Painting and Vino: Local professional artists instruct attendees on painting a masterpiece of “Low Tide.” $45, all supplies included, registration is required. Food and drink available for purchase. 21-and-older. 6:30–9:30 p.m. Joe’s Crab Shack, 7610 Hazard Center Drive, Mission Valley. Visit bit.ly/2ow0EWB. HOB Rockin’ Trivia: Test your music knowledge every Wednesday at House of Blues Restaurant + Bar. Grab some friends, head Downtown for a change of scenery, play trivia and enjoy drink specials all night. Enjoy happy hour from 4-6 p.m., before trivia starts at 7 p.m. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Gaslamp Quarter. Visit tinyurl.com/klfmmzp.
Thursday, April 13
Live music: Multiplatinum recording artist and Tony-nominated Broadway star Sam Harris will perform in this intimate venue. Tickets online at bit. ly/2ovId4m. $30–40 reserved seating and $15 per person food/drink minimum. 8–9:30 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. Visit bit.ly/2ovJFne.
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39 “Why should ___ you?” 40 Barrett or Chaplin 41 Enola Gay, for one 42 End of the quote 44 Like characters that aren’t straight 48 Skipper’s spot 49 How 20-Across knew the quote was true 54 Staying power, on Broadway 55 Six feet under 56 They hang from utility belts and under them 58 Emulate Jon Barrett 59 “Legally Blonde” character 60 Hank of hair 61 Old Soviet news agency 62 Goes out with 63 Catcher of phallic fish
1 Dipstick word 2 Shakespeare’s Othello, for one 3 In the year, in Caesar’s time 4 Solar protection for Klinger 5 High points at Metropolitan Community Churches 6 Snow White’s dwarfs, e.g. 7 Part of San Francisco’s BART 8 Neeson of “Kinsey” 9 Do more than just consider 10 Tosses in one’s hand 11 Frida’s “farewell” 12 He wrote about two guys living together on an island 13 Utopias 21 Park of Queens 22 On the down ___ 25 Songwriter Mitchell 26 Milk-colored stone 27 Where a queen bee rules 28 Margaret Thatcher’s middle name
29 k. d. lang’s “Big Boned ___” 32 Whoopi’s “Ghost” dance partner 33 Jessica of “Dark Angel” 34 Layer under two tiny brides 35 Hearing things? 37 “The Fountainhead” author Rand 38 Toni of “United States of Tara” 40 Pulls out, in “Gone with the Wind” 41 BBC nickname, with “the” 42 Third notes, to Bernstein 43 Straddled harbor of old 44 Place to stop when cruising 45 Courtroom VIP 46 Protection 47 Fantasizes about a hottie 50 Cut 51 Maupin story 52 Coward of “Blithe Spirit” 53 Alternative word 57 CCCP part
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GRIFFIN a lot of airbrush, filters and lighting where Mariah is dancing on her private jet. (CA) Speaking of divas, you’re already besties with Cher. Who’s another gay icon you wish you were chummy with? (KG) I’ve kind of met most of them by now. Cher is definitely the diva that I’m closest with, but I’m pretty close with Bette and Bette is super cool, super
hardworking and will say anything and yet she has a very classy side. Streisand is definitely a tough cookie and hard to have a conversation with, but being a gay boy, I just love her anyway. Liza is just a dream because she’s just so Liza. But yeah, I love anything that brings divas together. I hosted “Divas Live” one time on VH1 and that was fantastic. It was like, I’d be in a van going to set — me, Katy Perry and Nicki Minaj and, you know, Sugarland. (CA) Who do you plan on inviting to your “Fire Island” viewing party?
(KG) Well, first of all, the gay mafia is real. I’m a product of it and it exists. So, actually, on the Twitter, I just got a tweet from Jai Rodriguez, an original “Queer Eye,” saying “overdue for a Kathy Griffin mafia night at her house,” so it’ll be Jai Rodriguez, Chris Colfer from “Glee,” Lance Bass and their plus-ones, and they’ll all come over to my new house and we’ll sit in my fabulous screening room — and then we’ll watch “Feud.” But that’s just a typical night for me. (CA) “Feud” is so your show. You must be eating that up.
GAY SAN DIEGO March 31 – April 13, 2017 (KG) Oh yeah. I’m eating it up almost as much as Jessica (Lange) and Susan (Sarandon) are eating up the scenery. Actually, we all have indigestion from how much eating of the scenery we’re all doing. (CA) Ha, I believe it! Well, great to talk to you again, Kathy. Thanks for your time and for being on the frontlines of the gay movement. (KG) I feel we’re all kind of re-energized. Our work is not done. But I couldn’t feel like I was in better hands with the LGBT community. I always say this community knows how to
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