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New leaders in leather community look to future of inclusion and accessibility Morgan M. Hurley | Editor The leather community has always been many things to many people, not only within our greater LGBT community,

but even those beyond; and it hasn’t always been positive. Local activists and partners, in both business and life, Buster Adams and AJ Turner, are planning to up the ante and

expand what the leather community means to everyone. As we go to press, we are in the midst of the San Diego

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Transgender women of color lead vigil on those murdered this year By Rick Braatz In the evening of Thursday, March 2, more than 80 people surrounded the Hillcrest Pride Flag at the corner of University Avenue and Normal Street in Hillcrest, for a vigil that recognized the transgender women of color who have been murdered in the United States this year. “Seven,” Tracie Jada O’Brien, local transgender community advocate, shouted into the microphone. “Seven,” those gathered called out in response. “Seven,” O’Brien repeated, her voice now rising. “Seven,” the audience hollered, their volume following suit. “Seven,” O’Brien repeated again, even louder. “Seven,” the audience shouted higher, seemingly to meet O’Brien’s decibel. “That’s too fucking many! Too. Fucking. Many!” O’Brien shouted, halting her words for impact. “Too many sisters of us have been murdered, annihilated — and it’s too many!”

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Young lesbian player in town for Kia Classic to have fundraiser Morgan M. Hurley |Editor

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The annual Kia Classic tennis tournament — March 20–26 at Park Hyatt Aviara Resort in Carlsbad — is the closest San Diegans get to the LPGA tour, unless they take a trip to Palm Springs the following week for the ANA Inspiration championship (formerly the Kraft Nabisco Championship), during Dinah Shore Weekend. The 2017 Kia will feature 144 women golfers, including Paula Creamer, Stacy Lewis, Michelle Wei, Lexi Thompson, and the 2016 winner, Lydia Ko. The field for this year’s tournament will also include a young, out-lesbian player: Regan de Guzman, a 25-year-old rookie on this year’s LPGA tour.

Born in 1992, de Last December she Guzman is one of three performed well enough children of Romeo and Tet in that final qualifier to De Guzman, and aside land in the top 20 and from golf, also considers receive the coveted “full herself an artist, an actor, a tour card.” De Guzman songwriter and guitarist, a said a full card gets her diver and was an avid gym- into most tour events, nast before stepping away while those with a parto pursue her love of golf. tial are regulated as Before becoming a alternates or on waiting pro, de Guzman played lists for tournaments. for more than a decade in According to amateur golf tournaments Wikipedia, getting all over the world, but she through the Q School recently earned her LPGA of such an elite tour is tour card by participating “very competitive” and in the LPGA’s annual “Q “most professional golfSchool,” or “qualifying ers never achieve it.” tournament.” A recent graduate The Q School conof San Jose State, de sists of two sectional Guzman is also the only qualifying tournaments, Filipina golfer with a full which took place last tour card for 2017; anothSeptember and October, er Filipina, Dottie Ardina, where de Guzman had has partial status. to perform in the top 30 After watching an of her sectional to adintroductory video on de vance to the “final qualsee LPGA pg 7 ifying tournament.”

The local Filipino-American Chamber is raising money to cover de Guzman’s rookie tour expenses. (Photo by Anh Dao)


GAY SAN DIEGO March 17 – 30, 2017



LEATHER Leather Pride 2017 festivities, which kicked off Wednesday, March 15. They are the culmination of many months of planning and preparations to make them more inclusive and accessible than ever before. San Diego is currently playing host to visitors from all over the country, as local leaders prepare to crown the region’s new titleholders — the 35th Mr. San Diego Leather, the 23rd Ms. San Diego Leather and the fourth San Diego Bootblack — on Saturday, March 18, from 6–10 p.m. at the Worldbeat Cultural Center, located at 2100 Park Blvd. Free parking is available across the street at the Veterans War Memorial. Helping to oversee the festivities are the reigning 2016 Most events for San Diego Leather Pride will be held at the Worldbeat Cultural Center on Park Boulevard. (Facebook) titleholders: Jay Heimbach, Mr. San Diego Leather; Jae Marie, Ms. San Diego Leather; — if you wanna wear shorts or To some, the leather combecome your favorite food,” and Eric Audet, San Diego jeans or whatever — but you munity in years past has been Adams said. Bootblack. come out and meet other folks, seen as isolationist, standoffFor more information about This year’s contestants are whether they are straight, gay, ish, exclusive and inaccessible, the Leather Fetish Ball, visit Nathan Kendrick for Mr. San bi, transgender, or people who while others have even viewed Diego Leather; Tamanava don’t want to be identified as it with caution and kept their ‘Fifth generation leather’ Eden-McLintock for Ms. San anything specific, and meet distance. In contrast, some see These two new leaders of Diego Leather; and both Red, others who share similarities,” the leather community today as San Diego Leather Pride are and Jake Ott, are running Rodriquez said. “[I tell peowhat Adams described a “great not new to the local community. umbrella for understanding,” a for the San Diego Bootblack ple] don’t have expectations. Buster Adams was Mr. San title. During the coming year Explore. You can just sit there place that accepts everyone. Diego Leather 2006 and has the new titleholders, Adams and watch. My very first event In this vein, Adams and been involved with the organisaid, will focus on areas such I got flooded with emails and Turner are marching forward zation ever since. as LGBT homelessness; safetext messages from people sayand plan to shift the preconA former San Diego Leather ty in our bars in a post-Oring how wonderful it was and ceived notions currently in place Daddy titleholder, AJ Turner lando world; and community how they went home after and by embracing inclusiveness and is also the founding sister of involvement. played with their partner.” diversity and making it more the local Sisters of Perpetual The seven-person judges Turner said the experience appealing to the masses. Their Indulgence, Sister Amanda panel for this year’s title coninvolves something that everygoal? To bring the entire LGBT Reckinwith; he was crowned test include current and past one can relate to, goose bumps, community back together and Ruby Empress Ajax XL with the Mr. and Ms. titleholders, both make leather much more visible Imperial Court in 2012 and holds within that community, once regional and international, as the title of Knight of Leather well as Bootblack titleholders. again. within the Court as well; and None of the judges are connect“When I was the titleholder in his first “persona” is in drag, as ed to the local community. 2006, we still had the Ms. and Lady Ajax, who has performed at The title contest on Saturday the Mr. on separate weekends,” and emceed many popular events Adams said. “And I was one is the main event in five days over the years, including the anfull of festivities organized of the leather men who picked nual wreath auction. by San Diego Leather Pride, the side of ‘I’m not comfortable with [this].’ I was raised with These two men have a a 501(c)(7) nonprofit run by a mother and a sister, and the wealth of history and experiAdams and Turner. The fifth idea of community service and ence behind them, which will owners/producers since San equality was something that undoubtedly help them bring Diego Leather Pride’s inception, my mom really instilled in me. I the community into the future. they took over the organization think the irony is terrible that “We’re trying to introduce last July and have integrated a in general, in an oppressed concepts that we’re calling lot of subtle — and not so subRobert Rodriguez, founder of the minority culture, it is very com‘fifth generation leather’ betle — changes to make it more Leather Fetish Ball, with one of his cause now in our modern world, mon to create a pecking order; appealing to the masses. “Divas,” Eureka O’Hara. the people who end up at the there is so much diversity it’s Leather Fetish Ball bottom of the pecking order are very difficult to just pick one Former Imperial Court sometimes drag queens, somelabel with a capital letter to chills and feelings of pleasure. Emperor Robert Rodriguez, times it’s women, sometimes it’s define someone,” Adams said. “You see somebody and you also known for his Divas night trans people, and sometimes it’s “We’re becoming more complex, look at them and in your head at Rich’s Nightclub every bisexual people, like myself.” we’re more verbose, we have they’ve turned on something in other Friday, is also founder Adams then pointed to our a lot of buzzwords that we can your brain that turns the temof the fourth annual Leather community’s migration from “gay use [to identify ourselves with] perature up in the right part of Fetish Ball, which will take and lesbian” to our combined your body. Your neck, that little and each of us carves out our place Friday, March 17, at the political identity as LGBT, and spot where you get butterflies … own space.” Worldbeat Cultural Center also said that many men forget Though the organization everybody has an attraction.” from 9 p.m.–1 a.m. While just how devoted lesbians were to does have nonprofit status, Leather/kink/bdsm is really independently produced by their brothers during the AIDs the “7” deems it as a fraternal just about exploiting those baRodriquez, this fascinating crisis, “when the men’s communior “social” organization rather sic attractions, Turner added. night of leather, dance and surty was either dying or exhausted than a charitable one. So while “Essentially you come with prise has become a mainstay of or was fighting for their lives.” San Diego Leather Pride is an open mind and understand the weekend. “I think it is dangerous when affiliated with the locally-based that your limits might be The former Mr. San Diego we are looking for equality and we Leather Foundation — which pushed,” Adams said. “If you Latin Leather said he had among its focuses works to sup- perpetuate inequality,” he said. are offended you can leave, doubters in the beginning, but Not surprisingly, the popuport STD prevention and eduthat’s OK, we’re not there to his event has continued to grow offend you. Rob is organizing lar book and feature film, “50 cation, including hepatitis C — each year. Rodriquez said he Shades of Grey” has opened up amazing entertainment, a lot of their main goal is to keep San took queues from the Imperial variety, a lot of things to stimu- Diego Leather Pride afloat, con- the interests of many — both Court and some old-school straight and gay — who would tinue the annual title contests, late and challenge in general. leather community events and have otherwise never imagined and sponsor events throughout “With this kind of buffet, it’s combined it all together to the year that allow them to pro- making contact with the leather not about everything being for create a ball that is open to community, and rather than mote their own mission, which you, one thing may be for you everyone. turn their backs on those people, is to raise awareness of and and it might be that there is “This is an event where you accessibility to the local leather Adams and Turner want to reach something on that buffet that dress in your gear, your leather you have never tried but it will them, wherever they are. community. FRIDAY 4 p.m. Hillcrest Leather Pride Flag raising ceremony • San Diego Pride Flag, Normal Street at University Avenue 6–8 p.m. Social gathering and opening ceremonies • Worldbeat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd. 9 p.m.–1 a.m. Leather Fetish Ball • Worldbeat Cultural Center SATURDAY 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Bootblack contestant competition • Worldbeat Cultural Center 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Workshops • Pleasures & Treasures, 2525 University Ave. 6–10 p.m. San Diego Leather 2017 • Worldbeat Cultural Center 10 p.m.–2 a.m. Postcontest parties • Numbers, PECS, Eagle, etc. SUNDAY 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Leather Market Faire 11:30 a.m.–12:30 p.m. Victory Brunch (Keynote by IML 2015 Patrick Smith) • Worldbeat Cultural Center 2–6 p.m. Leather Tea Dance • The Rail, 3796 Ffith Ave. “The leather community provides a place where you can find out how to safely engage in essentially dangerous things in an accessible way,” Adams said. “We want that to be part of our outreach. Why have all those classes if we are not teaching people? It’s not like the movie. Preconceived ideas keep people from being engaged and they don’t engage because they’re not sure how. We’d like to let people know who we are.” Turner stressed the importance of getting the titleholders out on the street, giving them the tools and opportunity to share their personal experiences and the history and culture of the leather community. “We’re recreating the organization to support people being able to go out 365 days a year in their leather and keep people coming in, asking questions and getting them to join,” he said. There are big plans for the year ahead, starting with this weekend. Don’t be afraid to show up, learn more and maybe scratch that itch. To find more info about the weekend’s events, visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at


GAY SAN DIEGO March 17 – 30, 2017


All About Susan Oscar-winning screen icon talks her own sexual orientation, portraying Bette Davis and whether she regrets not voting for Hillary By Chris Azzopardi

for all these years, have always been my allies and have always been very, very important to me, very dear to me through the AIDS crisis and everything. It’s just a natural, very easy extended family for me.

Maybe gay people are customarily compelled to thank Susan Sarandon for her longstanding advocacy, because that’s how I begin my frank, anything-goes conversation with the 70-year-old (CA) You grew up Catholic multi-hyphenate. in Jackson Heights, a neighborhood in the northwestern end After all, no matter where of the borough of Queens in you stand on Sarandon’s diviNew York City. Would you say sive decision to vote for Green LGBT people felt like family Party candidate Jill Stein in then too? the recent presidential elec(SS) Well, not in my high tion, we can all agree that the school, I had 500 in my class. Oscar-winning actress has This was ages ago. But sure, in used her massive screen-icon college, of course if you’re in a prestige to aid in the advancetheater department or in any ment of LGBT rights. of the arts, that’s just part of She’s been a staunch supthe landscape, so there wasn’t porter through the AIDS crisis any delineation, as I became an and the fight for marriage adult. It was just natural. And, equality — even in times when honestly, the people who I made vocal Hollywood allies were friends with in my early day in scarce. New York in the ’70s are still Reinforcing Sarandon’s my friends. pro-queer stance is a breadth I find the guys who don’t of bold, iconic and uninhibited stick with you are the guys film roles dating back to the that you’ve had affairs with 1970s: as Janet, Sarandon got or marriages … or whatever! her freak on in the cult clas[Laughs] It’s very rare that sic “The Rocky Horror Picture those guys — once you’re not Show”; she had sex with her involved in a relationship, it’s co-star, Catherine Deneuve, hard to maintain those ties. So, in a lesbian-favorite scene really, my friends I’ve had forthat steamed up 1983’s vamp ever and ever and ever are gay flick “The Hunger”; and then, men and women. in 1987, Sarandon teamed up with Cher for “The Witches of (CA) That makes sense, unEastwick,” to presumably, offer less you’re having affairs with fresh fodder to every late-’80s gay men. drag queen. Later, in 1995, (SS) Well, I did at one point Sarandon appeared with many have a very successful and very of her industry peers in the acloving and wonderful affair claimed documentary inspired with a man who then wasn’t by gay activist Vito Russo, with another woman after me, “The Celluloid Closet,” which and that worked out fine! I examined depictions of LGBT don’t think you had to declare characters in Hollywood. yourself as rigidly as you do The next step in being a gay icon, apparently, is playing one: now in terms of having to deStarring alongside fellow acting clare yourself almost politically about your sexual preference. dynamo Jessica Lange as Joan Crawford, Sarandon portrays (CA) Just to clarify — you beloved Hollywood legend and were in a romantic relationship “All About Eve”-leading lady, with another actor who was Bette Davis, in Ryan Murphy’s gay? “Feud: Bette and Joan.” (SS) Yeah. Philip Sayer [who Sarandon was fresh off the also starred in “The Hunger”] FX series set when she dished on — he was a wonderful actor. He “Feud” and numerous other aspects of her storied life and career. passed away, but yes, he was “I’m just getting back and ac- gay and we had a great relationship in every way. climated,” she told me, dramatizing her experience shooting (CA) Is your sexuality Murphy’s latest creation. “I’ve more or less rigid these days? been gone for a very long time. Basically, should we be welcomOnce I joined this cult, I didn’t ing you to the family? get out.” (SS) [Laughs] Well, I’m a Free from “Feud” and any serial monogamist, so I haven’t canned-answer pretense, really had a large dating caSarandon refreshingly freewheeled through revelatory dis- reer. I married Chris Sarandon when I was 20 and that went cussions about her sexual orion for quite a while — each of entation, the gay actor she once my relationships have. I haven’t romanced and her impassioned exactly been in the midst of a response to critics who challot of offers of any kind. I’m still lenge her political convictions. not! I don’t know what’s going on! [Laughs] But I think back (Chris Azzopardi | CA) in the ’60s it just was much Between “Feud,” your film career and your LGBT activism, more open. I’d say you have more than earned your queer cred. (CA) Are you open regarding (Susan Sarandon | SS) your sexuality? (SS) Yeah, I’m open. My sex[Laughs] Well, I hope so! I ual orientation is up for grabs, I mean, I feel like an outsider myself. My people, my family guess you could say. [Laughs]

Susan Sarandon plays the legendary Bette Davis in Ryan Murphy’s “FEUD: Bette and Joan,” now available on the FX network. (Courtesy FX) (CA) The great thing about “Feud” is having you, a gay icon, play a gay icon. I can’t think of many things gayer than that. (SS) [Laughs] Well, I hope the appeal seems to be broader! I’m hoping we reach out across the aisles to heterosexuals also, because what I think the story is about is a really interesting examination of all kinds of things: power and roles and misogyny and aging. Have you seen it? (CA) Not yet — episodes weren’t available before our interview. But because it’s my due diligence as a gay man, I’ve seen “What Ever Happened to Baby Jane?” countless times. (SS) Oh, you’re gonna love it then! Although it’s not all about that. We do move on, so at least you don’t think I’m wearing gobs of makeup [the whole time]. There are some younger folks who haven’t seen “Baby Jane” who are like, “What is up with that? Does she do that through the whole thing? I don’t get it.” But we had a lot of fun recreating gesture for gesture, voice pattern for voice pattern. And some of the little snippets of the scenes were very tough. (CA) What’s the closest you’ve come to a Bette/Joantype feud? (SS) I think I’m just a little too young to see women as my adversary. I think that changed. I really haven’t experienced that. I think women just a little bit older than I am tried to align themselves with power — which were the men — and saw every woman as a threat. With my generation and slightly younger, you might be jealous that someone is getting all the good parts, but it’s just a different time; you don’t see them as your enemy. So, women are producing more projects, are finding things on their own. I feel very comfortable with all the women that are my competition. There was someone that came [to “Feud”] for two seconds who was not particularly collaborative and I didn’t get rid of her, but that was just not the tone. She kind of announced herself and she was

gone in two days. Because Ryan is responsible for having a wonderful environment with a very collaborative atmosphere and it starts at the top. He just doesn’t tolerate anybody who isn’t part of that family and looks at the bigger picture. And that was it. She was gone. But it wasn’t about women against women — it was just about somebody who came in, sat down and announced that she was going to be difficult. I’m sure that came from a place of fear, in all fairness to her, but there wasn’t time or interest in developing a relationship with someone who isn’t a team player. Everybody was a team player on this. And I’ve seen men go at it on films, but I’ve never had an experience myself. It doesn’t work for me to work in an environment where there’s tension. I go out of my way to make sure there’s not. Can you imagine throwing your guts out there and you have to be brave and you’re in

a hostile environment? It’s just impossible. You open up your heart and all your energy and you can’t do that if you’re in a protective mode. There’s a line that I found in one of Bette’s books where she said, “I would rather have a go at something I feel and be hurt, than always be protecting myself — that way, one does not really live.” And she did that in romance and I think she did that in her work. That’s definitely where our philosophies align. You can’t live your life according to just what looks good on paper. I think the most interesting things happen when you’re out of your comfort zone, and this was way out of my comfort zone. It took me a good five weeks working with Ryan and working with Tim Monich, my dialect coach, to really get the fear/fun ratio to a place where it was in my favor [laughs].

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GAY SAN DIEGO March 17 – 30, 2017

2-1-1 — a San Diego resource Senior Matters William E. Kelly There is an invaluable nonprofit resource and information hub here in San Diego, that employs 72 call-takers who connect people to community, health and disaster services through a free, 24/7 stigma-free confidential phone service and a searchable online database. That resource is 2-1-1 San Diego. 2-1-1 is well known to service providing organizations but not to the same degree by all San Diegans. I recently had the privilege of touring their facility in Kearny Mesa and interviewing Alana G. Kalinowski, associate director of partner engagement, to discuss some of 2-1-1’s services in more depth. (William Kelly | WK) What is 2-1-1, who does it serve, and how? (Alana Kalinowski | AK) 2-1-1 serves as a link between those needing help and more than 6,000 health and social services throughout San Diego and Imperial Counties. Through a searchable database that can be accessed at, or by dialing 2-1-1 and talking to a live, highly trained “community connector” who will assess their needs, an individual can

be connected to the most appropriate resource within their community that is able to meet their need. Assistance is confidential and offered in more than 200 languages. The 2-1-1 motto is “Real People. Real Connections. Real Help.” (WK) What would you tell individuals in the LGBTQ community seeking community resources? (AK) At 2-1-1 San Diego, we are passionately dedicated to breaking down barriers to accessing health and community services throughout San Diego County. Recognizing that the LGBTQ community often faces additional barriers to access, 2-1-1 San Diego has created a “LGBTQ Community Resource” focus page as a tool to foster connections needed between service providers and individuals in need. The LGBTQ resource page is accessible online at: lgbtq-resource-page. Additionally, 2-1-1 employs a number of people from the LGBTQ community and is dedicated to creating a safe and culturally sensitive environment for both our staff and those who call 2-1-1, through ongoing training. (WK) I understand you get about 1,200 calls a day and about 20 percent of those calls are from — or on behalf of — older adults. Are there any

programs specifically for older adults? (AK) Yes, within our health navigation department — and in partnership with Jewish Family Services and Elderhelp of San Diego — 2-1-1 is working with the county of San Diego’s Aging and Independent Services to provide the services of Project C.A.R.E. (Community Action Reaching the Elderly), a safety net program for older adults and adults with disabilities. Project C.A.R.E operates by maintaining effective contact and empowering individuals to remain as independent for as long as possible in a safe environment by providing:

● A home visit to assess

needs, strengths, determine goals and create a care plan. This includes a recommendation to complete a “Vial of Life” form that helps identify medications and special needs in the event of an emergency. ● Follow-up on care plan goals is completed. Cross referrals are made to additional resources such as Adult Protective Services, Case Management, and In-Home Supportive Services. ● Referrals to appropriate community resources, such as minor home repair and the Sheriff’s Take Me Home program. ● And a reassurance contact via automated phone system or staff.

events ATTHECENTER Sunday, March 26

Tuesday, March 28

Hillcrest Wind Ensemble Spring Concert

Young Men’s Discussion Group

4 pm, First United Methodist Church of Chula Vista, 1200 East H St. The Hillcrest Wind Ensemble Spring Concert will include Gershwin’s “An American In Paris,” Bernstein’s “Candide Suite” and Copland’s “Hoe Down” from “Rodeo.” Russ Peck will join the band on the newly restored and enlarged pipe organ for Alfred Reed’s “Alleluia Laudamus Te.” The concert is free, but a freewill offering is suggested. For more information, call 619.692.2077 x814 or visit

Tuesday, March 28

Young Women’s Circle 7-8:30 pm, The Center Library Join other young women ages 18-30 to discuss academics, careers, relationships, politics, social media, pop culture, community building, activism and ways to be more involved in the LGBT community. Meet like-minded people and share your experiences as a member of the LGBT community. Gatherings are held on 2nd and 4th Thursdays in The Center’s library, and on the 1st and 3rd Thursdays off-site. For more information, or to reach out to the moderators, contact us at

2-1-1’s specialty programs, such as Health Navigation, are staffed by individuals who have specialized experience and higher education in case management, health, and social services; allowing for a deeper level of resource navigation, facilitated connection to services, and ongoing support in overcoming barriers to access. (WK) 2-1-1 also has the program, Courage to Call. What is that? (AK) Courage to Call is a confidential, veteran-staffed, 24/7 helpline dedicated to assisting active duty military personnel, veterans, and their family members through information, guidance, and referrals. All Courage to Call staff have been in the military and understand the rigors of the military and military family life, constant deployments, transitioning out of the military and navigating veterans services. Courage to Call “peer navigators” provide over-the-phone peer support in navigating the service system through the provision of accurate information, assistance and referral, proactive check-in, follow-up assistance, program enrollment and advocacy, with the ultimate goal of providing enrollment assistance in the services they need.

(WK) Are there any new and exciting things happening at 2-1-1? (AK) It’s an exciting time for us because we are creating a proactive, preventative new technology ecosystem meant to bridge service delivery gaps for clients, which is called 360° Community Coordination. With more than 10 years serving 1.5 million clients, we have identified ways in which we can improve our service delivery. Many clients have the potential to fall through the cracks and may not access the resources they were directed to. This is a common challenge for many of us working in the social services sector. Through a multi-dimensional needs assessment that provides case planning, and facilitated connection to services, through ongoing resource navigation, 2-1-1 aims to increase client access needed resources. For more information, visit —Bill Kelly is a longtime local activist who currently focuses on LGBT senior issues and moderates the Caring for our LGBT Seniors in San Diego Facebook page. Access to the group is free to all seniors, their advocates, families, friends and caregivers. Reach Bill at wekbill@yahoo. com.▼

7:30 pm, The Center Connect to The Center and the community. Join other 18-35 year olds to talk about relationships, sexual health, activism, community building and more. The young men’s group meets at The Center on the 4th Tuesday of the month. For more information, contact Aaron Heier at 619.692.2077 x211, or

Wed, March 29

Project Trans Job Fair 6 pm, The Center Join us at The Center and talk to some great local companies about employment opportunities. This event is open to all to attend, with a special emphasis on companies that are Trans-friendly. Come and talk to reps from such great companies as UCSD Health, Sempra Energy, Mental Health Systems of America, CareFusion, SDSU and more. There will be a resume writing workshop and local non-profit organizations will be on hand to answer your questions about volunteer opportunities as a way to spice up that resume. For more info, contact us at The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

Twitter: @LGBTCenter

A view of 2-1-1 San Diego’s call center. (Courtesy 2-1-1)


My peace does not lie in the world Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel How do you find peace of mind? With so many difficult people and situations in our lives, how do we not just lose it over and over again? After pursuing peace through many means over the past several decades, I have learned some things that have become practical tools for me. I’d like to share some of them here with you. My peace does not lie in the world I live in. There is no one out there to save me through the “perfect” romantic relationship, no man or woman who will complete me and bring happiness into my life. There is no job that will fulfill me. I am wasting my time looking for my joy in these places. The only place of real peace is in my mind, and only in my mind, because that is where everything important is. I can practice being aware of my thoughts and asking for insight and awareness. This may take the form of talking to someone wise, praying to God (if that works for you) or asking the universe to help you change. I believe that if we ask the universe for help, it will provide something — some person, place, experience — that will set us on a more constructive path. My peace comes from me, and only from me.

Once it is firmly anchored in my mind, no one can mess with it. As Aretha Franklin sings, “Ain’t nobody gonna turn me around.” Exactly. When you start watching your thoughts and begin to change and redirect them, there isn’t anyone who can take away your peace of mind. Conversely, when you’re ignorant of the power of your thoughts and believe that your happiness lies in having the right friends, job, car, income, home or clothes, your peace of mind is extremely shaky. When you’re unstable like this, you’re likely to blame other people when you feel bad, taking no responsibility for the thoughts you think that have generated the unpleasant emotions you feel. I am happy to share these ideas with you, but honestly, I didn’t invent this stuff. This is the basic logic of every path of psychological happiness, personal growth and spiritual developmental that’s out there. I am just boiling it down to its essence. Another way of talking about this is to use some basic Buddhist terminology. I am not a Buddhist, but I have learned so much about myself — and my fellow human beings — from studying it over the past 30 years. It has definitely made me a better therapist, boyfriend, person and brother. I don’t consider Buddhism to be a religion,

but instead, a philosophy of living. Buddhist psychology is very practical and useful. Here are some ways it explains suffering and how to avoid it: “Samsara” is suffering caused by a constant search for security. How can we free ourselves of this suffering? How can we stop searching for security outside of ourselves, in people, places and things (like money)? This reminds me of Einstein’s definition of insanity: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over hoping you’ll get a different result. That is the essence of samsara: We just keep doing the same old stuff, expecting that, one day, our situation will miraculously change. If only. “Shenpas” is what Buddhism refers to as being hooked, attached, or over-invested in something that is bound to change (like jobs, lovers, real estate and the stock market). The desire to unhook from this stuff is what starts many of us on a path of personal growth, whether it’s Buddhism, AA/ NA, The Forum, The Body Electric, psychotherapy or any other vehicle for psychological change. “Kleslas” are strong emotions that lead to suffering: aggression, craving, ignorance, jealousy, arrogance, and pride are good examples. We are jealous of those who

are wealthier, more popular or attractive, or have better jobs. We compete with our equals and to those we consider “beneath” us, (e.g., Trump supporters) we are scornful and proud. Recognizing that your peace does not lie in the world is a major step forward in personal growth and freedom. I invite you to try it on for size and see how it fits (and feels). —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit▼

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Letters Atkins’ priorities

[Ref: “Guest editorial: How I am tackling my top priorities in Sacramento,” Vol. 8, Issue 5, or online at] Thank you Senator Atkins for always fighting for California! —Kathie Moehlig, via our website,

Peace, equality and justice

[Ref: “Profiles in Advocacy: Marching forward with the National Black Justice Coalition,” Vol. 8, Issue 4, or online at]

Guest Editorial

Spring is coming soon, isn’t it? Lee Lynch | The Amazon Trail OK, I give in; it’s depression. I might as well face it. And I know I’m not alone. You can guess when it started: Nov. 8, 2016. I tried to overcome it by resisting, ignoring, laughing at the fools on the hill. Like the amazing Elizabeth Warren, I persisted, but so did this depression. I’ve buried myself in books, my favorites: British police procedurals like Cynthia Harrod-Eagles, Graham Hurley, Elizabeth George. Right now, they’re less gloomy than what has become of the land that I love. The local library has seen a lot of me lately. My sweetheart has done extra duty with cuddling, encouraging, listening. It’s crazy, my life has never been better: I’m married to a spectacular woman, we have shelter, food, friends; yet I can’t shake the depression. I had a 12-step sponsor who warned me against the word depression. “Call it being down in the dumps, feeling blue.” Sorry, Mary, I’m beyond that now. The only substitution I can make is “low-spirited.” I have no creative energy, no enthusiasm or passion, even some of the time, no interest in reading. I nap. I find cheer in the activity of the birds outside and our cat inside. I am grateful, because those treasures in themselves make for a good life. Yet the depression started in deep winter. We don’t have blizzards here, but the wind and rain have been unrelenting. EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 ASSISTANT EDITOR John Gregory CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Rick Braatz William E. Kelly Michael Kimmel Frank Sabatini Jr. Web and Social Media Sara Butler, x111

Walking has always been a helpful tool in downward spirals, and I always have loved walking, even while the atmospheric river called the Pineapple Express barrels through as it has this winter. Now that my arthritis has gotten worse, though, walking in the damp and cold has become painful enough to be unwise. Finding the motivation and spunk to get on the exercycle is another battle. Then I heard from my oldest friend. She has been diagnosed with liver cancer that spread to the pancreas. We’ve known each other since seventh grade, fell in love, and came out together. She was always going to be around. She has a loving daughter and granddaughter and partner, and just turned 71. Mortality is a sharp, ice-cold slap in the face. I can’t fix her, save her or even soothe her. She’s a nurse and said she’d rather live a good four months than eight months of torture. Immediately thereafter, I started winnowing out my books. I’ve been hauling some of them around almost as long as I’ve known my friend. My office is too cluttered; I can’t find things. In the process, I’ve tossed out other worn out, once-beloved objects. I know what this sounds like, this divesting of possessions, but I suspect it’s more about my friend than me. It’s a letting go. Two days after I heard my friend’s news, I came down with the Coastal Crud, a term COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich

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used by an R.N. at the local hospital to describe a flu-ish cold that drags on for weeks, guaranteeing an annoying cough and lower energy than an empty gas tank. My sweetheart said it’s like the Trump election — insidious, always at the back of my throat, inducing a gagging threat of nausea and perpetuating the gloom of an everlasting winter. There were times when, resting prone, it took all my energy to keep breathing. Once back at my laptop, I discovered that my ability to focus had called in sick. What’s a writer without focus? I did a lot of research for my next book, and very little actual writing while sitting in front of a S.A.D. light (for Seasonal Affective Disorder), a handy tool in this climate. But the birds are coming back. V’s of geese have been honking overhead. Rustcolored rufous hummingbirds are making year-round hummers share their feeders. Clouds of robins regularly descend on the berry bushes outside our kitchen window. Crocuses, hyacinths, daffodils are showing their colors. Shoots of mystery are poking out of the ground and in pots where we planted who knows what. It’s also the season for award finalists to be announced. While I don’t write for awards or money, every writer knows how encouraging it is to be recognized. The Goldies are one reason I’m grateful to The Golden Crown Literary Society, Saints and Sinners, and The Alice B. Readers Awards. To paraphrase my sweetheart, other

Thanks so much Ian, for your column on the National Black Justice Coalition. I sure did appreciate our phone call interview. Am making sure to share this column on my Facebook Page and that of the NBJC. Two quick corrections for your readers: Julian Bond was a former member of the Georgia State House but not in 2003. Rev. Gary Daniels said, “If the Klan were to ride against the gays, I would ride with them.” In our interview I forgot to add that Phill Wilson spoke at the 30th anniversary of the 1963 March on Washington. For peace, equality and justice! —Mandy Carter, via our website Editor’s note: We fixed the story online, thank you for letting us know.

A reminiscing read

[Ref: “Out of the Archives: The history of our bars,” Vol. 8, Issue 5, or online at]

And right before it was Starlite Lounge, it was a lesbian bar called 6 Degrees. 25-cent beers and $1 well drinks on Sundays! —Kay via our website, This is great to see, I’ve heard many stories how the scene has changed over the years it would be great to hear more historical accounts. —Andre Canook, via our website What a great article, I enjoyed this! —Destiny Roxas, via our website I was the resident DJ at Wolfs (now Bluefoot Bar and Grill) for six years. That place was amazing. There hasn’t been anything like it in San Diego, since. —James, via our website

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LPGA Guzman’s Facebook fan page (visit, we reached out to learn a little more about this young golfing phenom. (Gay San Diego | GSD) Where were you born? (Regan de Guzman | RDG) I was born in Quezon City, metro Manila, in the Philippines. The golf course I play at is 2 1/2 – 3 hours south of Manila. (GSD) Did you pick San Jose State or did they pick you? (RDG) The school picked me — I got [offered] a full ride from my junior year to senior year — and I decided to fully commit after doing my research about the school’s athletic history. Also, I knew other Filipinos in the golf team at that time. (GSD) When did you first come out? (RDG) I came out when I was 18 years old, but people already knew that I was gay. I just didn’t confirm because of other personal issues. (GSD) Your bio and the video both say that you endured a lot of bullying. Did that happen after you got to the States? (RDG) I was never bullied in California. I just wasn’t sure of coming out [while on] a golf team and I didn’t know how my coach and other people would react if they knew I was gay. When I was in elementary school in the

Philippines, I was humiliated by my classmates and teachers. (GSD) Which players on the tour (past and present – LPGA and PGA) do you look up to? (RDG) LPGA — Lorena Ochoa (retired); PGA — Rory McIlroy (GSD) What has been the most memorable thing that you’ve done since playing golf? (RDG) Before Q school I would [have said] winning the 2007 Thailand Ladies Open but now, making it on the LPGA Tour. (GSD) What are your goals for this year and the future? (RDG) Not to let anyone or anything take my dream away, by not worrying and thinking about what they say about me and about my game. I would love to give back to my country by giving hope to kids who want to become professional golfers and are hungry for success. I would like to pursue my father’s mangrove project/foundation in Cebu. San Diego’s FilipinoAmerican Chamber of Commerce is so excited to have de Guzman in town for the Kia that they are holding a special welcome reception and fundraiser for the potential rising star, to help fund her tour expenses while she travels during her rookie year. The event, which will include a meet and greet with de Guzman, will be held March 20, from 6:30–8:30 p.m. at Happy Sushi, located at 8973 Mira

Mesa Blvd. in Mira Mesa. A suggested donation of $20 at the door will go toward the fundraiser and there will be a silent auction. For those who cannot attend the meet and greet, organizers have launched a GoFundMe page, called “Regan’s Journey.” The page explains why there is a need to raise funds for a professional golfer. “Recently graduating from San Jose State University and transitioning from her student visa, Regan is primarily depending on financial support from her single-parent mom, Tet De Ocampo Guzman, who is still based in the Philippines. “Financial success is not guaranteed for the LPGA tour. If Regan does not make the cut to play the weekend, she gets $0 for her effort. Even if she makes the cut, the prize money is only in the low thousands for most of the players. And for Regan to retain her tour card for next year, she needs to be in the 100th to 125th in the tour earnings ranking. Unfortunately, the money is not the same between the PGA and LPGA tours. … “This fundraising campaign is to help Regan and Tet jumpstart Regan’s dream of having a long career as an LPGA tour professional. This will help Regan put her focus on the golf course so she can make her tournament cuts and ensure her tour card for next year. Whatever else she achieves will then be icing on the cake.” For more information about the meet and greet, visit To contribute separately to de Guzman’s journey, visit the GoFundMe page at

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GUEST EDITORIAL organizations seem to bypass books written by actual lesbians, published by lesbians, edited by lesbians, bought and read by lesbians. A couple of days ago, a break in the weather gave us spring for about 24 hours. Neighbors were everywhere in the streets greeting one another. The next day we were driven back inside by the blowing rain. Driven back inside to the computer, radio and TV news. The “whathas-he-done-now” news, the “end of health insurance” news, the “destroy civil rights” news. Spring is in the air, though, and I’m finding breaths of it on Twitter. Here’s @leahmcelrath (she persisted) on Twitter: “When you feel despair creep in ... Take a moment to look around at the mobilization of resistance. It’s a beautiful thing.” Then a sweet reminder from poet James Schwartz (@queeraspoetry) tweeting my own “It Gets Better” message (@ LeeLynchWriter @ItGetsBetter back to me when I most needed it. —Lee Lynch is an award-winning author and has written many gay and lesbian-themed novels over the course of her 30-year career. Her latest novel, “Rainbow Gap,” is now available at and other outlets. This piece is from her syndicated column, “The Amazon Trail.” To learn more about Lynch, visit▼

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Get your foie gras fi x on March 20 as Bleu Boheme in Kensington puts a French twist on National Ravioli Day by offering a saffron-poached ravioli stuffed with the goose liver and served with balsamic fig jus and crispy shallots. The shareable dish costs $25, or $40 if opting for shaved black truffles on top. 4090 Adams Ave., 619-255-4167,


Talavera Azul in Chula Vista recently partnered with El Zarape Restaurant & Tequileria. Starting March 30, daily breakfast will introduced (except Mondays) and feature several popular items from Talavera’s morning menu, such as café de la olla (Mexican coffee) and five different types of chilaquiles. Various egg plates and granola-fruit bowls will also be available. El Zarape’s lunch and dinner menus will remain the same. 3201 Adams Ave., 619-578-2600, Raffles for various prizes and discounts on pizza and beer are in the offi ng as The Haven in Kensington celebrates its fourth anniversary from 4–9:30 p.m., March 28. The restaurant, a popular destination for Neapolitan-style pizzas and craft beer, was named by owners Lauren Passero and Kate Grimes after a maze of caves that were dug beneath a nearby home more than 75 years ago. 4051 Adams Ave., 619-281-1904,

Beer, food and art converge in Bankers Hill at the end of March. (Courtesy San Diego Brewers Guild) The Bankers Hill Business Group will present its fifth annual Bankers Hill Art & Craft Beer Festival from 6–9 p.m., March 31, in conjunction with the San Diego Brewers Guild. The event spans throughout two levels of The Abbey, a 10,000-square-foot historic space that will allow for nearly 15 local breweries and several neighborhood restaurants to dole out samples as local artists showcase their pop-up exhibits. Among the vendors taking part are Hillcrest Brewing Company, Thorn Street Brewery, Pizza Port, Mister A’s, Cucina Urbana, Barrio Star, Hornblower and more. Admission is $30 (or $25 during early bird pricing). Attendees must be 21 years of age or older. Tickets can be purchased online at The Abbey is located at 2825 Fifth Ave.

Muffaletta sandwiches for a good cause (Photo by Katie Barton) San Diego-based Pure Project Brewing will debut its latest beer, The Mind Expander, from noon–4 p.m., March 19, at Carnitas Snack Shack in North Park. The eatery’s chef-owner, Hanis Cavin, will dish up “specialty bites” to pair with the suds, which the brew masters describe as “one-of-a-kind English cream ale with honey.” In addition, the Shack’s special sandwich of the month is a muffaletta with ham, salami, mortadella, white cheddar and pickled veggies on ciabatta. Available through the remainder of March, it sells for $11.75 with a portion of the proceeds earmarked for the North Park Public Library. 2632 University Ave., 619-294-7675, The Wine Lover in Hillcrest kicks off a series of monthly sitdown wine tastings with various winemakers and the establishment’s owner-sommelier, Serge Chable. The first one will be held from 5 –7 p.m., March 25. It will feature both popular and obscure varietals hailing from different growing regions around the world. Artisan cheeses will also be in the offing. The tastings continue on the last Saturday of each month through October. They range in range in price from $30 to $45, depending on the wines served. Chable says an average of five different wines will be poured at the events. Reservations are required. For schedule updates call The Wine Lover or visit the web site. 3968 Fifth Ave., 619-294-9200,

Imaginative ceviches coming to India Street (Photo by Jennifer Petit) Look for a late-March opening of Karina’s Ceviche & More, a walk-up window in Mission Hills that will sell various ceviches, shrimp cocktail and more than a dozen different types of tacos and burritos. The fast-casual venture is an offshoot to Karina’s Seafood Mexican Restaurants, and replaces Saffron Thai Chicken Shop. The company will mark its neighborhood debut with free tacos on the Tuesday after it opens. Check the website for updates. 3731-B India St., Missouri native Roy Elam has taken animal proteins out of Southern cooking at a restaurant he opened recently in Hillcrest called Donna Jean. It’s named after his late mother and features dishes such as black-eyed pea burgers, bourbon chili, tempeh Salisbury steak with red eye gravy, and cast-iron mac n’ cheese using cashew milk. The menu extends to a few desserts as well, including non-dairy buttermilk sugButtermilk-style sugar pie at Donna ar pie. Jean (Photo by Roy Elam) Elam converted to a plantbased diet more than 10 years ago and was head chef at two different vegan restaurants in Los Angeles before moving here. He launched Donna Jean in partnership with the owners of Evolution, a vegan eatery next door, and Plant Power in Ocean Beach. His drink menu includes wine, craft beers, ciders, kombucha, teas and Dark Horse coffee. 2949 Fifth Ave., 619-299-5500, —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at▼


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Corned bf for the birthday boy Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. My spouse’s birthday is on St. Patrick’s Day and I’ll be damned if I take another chance cooking him corned beef for the occasion. For two years in a row, they’ve yielded gross amounts of incorrigible fat. This time around, he gets homemade lasagna with a green candle in the middle. Though in the week leading up to the celebration, we sated our corned beef desires over brunch at McGregor’s Grill & Ale House, which opened a stone’s throw away from Qualcomm Stadium, 20 years ago. The kitchen serves the brined beef with cabbage every March 17, but also offers it seven days a week in half-pound sandwiches and as hash from 10 a.m.–2 p.m., Saturdays and Sundays. It’s sourced from the lauded Tarantino’s in San Diego. McGregor’s is first and foremost a sports bar that happens to offer a decent selection of burgers, sandwiches, tacos and other pub grub. Hence, its lack of table service can evade first-time customers once they settle into their chairs or hightop stools in any of three large seating areas. Food must be ordered and picked up at the bar, which is misleading because the place feels very much like a full-service restaurant amid billiard tables, flat screens and laminated menus placed at the tables. An arrow hanging over one end of the main bar marks the spot to place the food orders. But there is no other signage indicating this is how it’s done and customers might feel neglected at first until a drink server swings by to explain the system. Managing partner Ian Linekin assures the staff does its best to greet customers and explain the process to them, adding that when the bar first opened the food menu contained only four or five items. Since the choices expanded, he said discussions have been held about installing a sign at the entrance stating more clearly how to order the meals. Based on our initial confusion and that of fellow customers I


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McGregor’s corned beef hash and eggs (Photo

Half-pound corned beef sandwich

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(Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Prices: Appetizers, soups and salads, $7 to $14, burgers, sandwiches, tacos and burritos, $3.50 to $13; specials, $9 to $14. Weekend brunch items, $10 to $12

Beer-battered fish tacos (Courtesy McGregor’s)

witnessed — it would be a wise decision. Fortunately there was no food line during the quiet time we visited and only a few peeps were ahead of me when returning one late afternoon a couple days later. We shared two dishes, the half-pound corned beef sandwich on buttery, grilled rye, and the corned beef hash crowned with two gorgeously poached eggs. In both cases the spiced meat was much to our liking, free of gristle and sliced appropriately thin. The sandwich featured a layer of melted Swiss cheese and deli mustard on the side. We converted it into a Reuben of sorts by piling in some of the fresh, semi-sweet coleslaw served alongside and then fetching from the bar a plastic cup of Thousand Island dressing. Much like the corned beef sandwiches at Milton’s and D.Z. Akin’s (when paying for extra-lean meat), our choppers glided effortlessly through the sandwich’s interior. From the short brunch menu, which includes “hair o’ the swine” carnitas with eggs and red sauce, and the extra-hearty “Murphy’s spuds” mixed with ham, bacon, cheese, avocado and sour cream, we chose with sober heads the “hangover hash.” Here, the lean corned beef was coarsely chipped and strewn with sautéed onions, tender potatoes and slightly undercooked green bell peppers. The poached eggs on top sported uncommonly large

Grasshopper pie (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

yolks, adding extra richness to everything below them. Lamb stew in Guinness gravy was in the offing on the specials board, as well as a calamari club sandwich and street tacos. But we came hell-bent for the protein that was introduced to New Yorkers in the mid-1800s by Irish immigrants, and ended our meal with a fat slice of minty, creamy grasshopper pie. Amid the scent of Guinness and other beer (served in true pints) that endures inside of McGregor’s, hubby opted for a bourbon-infused cocktail ($9)

with basil and muddled strawberries. Though boozy, we felt the price was a bit high for its size, which we estimated measured about four or five ounces. When dropping in for a weekday lunch, I discovered some of the best fish tacos in Mission Valley — beer-battered pollock and grilled mahi. Purchased a la carte, the former was draped in addicting “white sauce” that I later learned is house-made ranch dressing. The fish in both tacos was flakey and substantial. McGregor’s was a favored haunt among Chargers fans

— and still is for Aztec football fans. Fronted by an elongated front patio, this non-consumer of sports can easily pass visiting on game days. But when a certain birthday comes around, or I start hankering for solid bar food, the low-key hours inside these established confines are comfortably appealing. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at▼



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‘ Blameless’: Journeys of grief Theater Review Charlene Baldridge Despite wonderful casting and Gaye Taylor Upchurch’s sensitive direction, the world premiere of Nick Gandiello’s family drama, “The Blameless,” seems somehow under-cooked. Developed in part in a reading at the Old Globe’s Powers New Voices Festival last year, the piece, which concerns grieving and forgiveness, continues at the White Theatre through March 26. No two people, even in a family as close as the Garcias, and maybe especially in a family this close, grieve in the same way and at the same pace. It’s been only a year since the Garcias’ shining-hope son died

(l to r) Nataysha Rey (as Theresa Garcia), Liza Colón-Zayas (as Amanda Garcia), and Pando. (Photo by Jim Cox) in gun violence at school. Now, as a step towards “healing,” the father of the perpetrator (Drew Davis, played by Stephen

The cast of “The Blameless” (Photo by Jim Cox)

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Barker Turner) has been invited to dinner. From where she stands in her grieving, the family’s teenage daughter, Theresa (Nataysha Rey), feels coerced into greeting the man she holds responsible for her brother’s death and when the play begins, she has acted out, preempting the school prop room for a sexual interlude with two male classmates, one her boyfriend, Howard (Amara James Aja). In the first, funniest and best written scene, Theresa’s mother, Diana (Antoinette La Vecchia), brings Theresa home from school, grounds her, and takes away all her social media, a tablet and cellphone, leaving her with no means to contact Howard on whom she depends, especially in the last year, for comfort and understanding. The dad, Alex Garcia (excellent Broadway, television and film actor Frank Pando), arrives home from his apparently lucrative job as a property rehab specialist. Theresa is terrified that he will find out about her sexual misbehavior and be furious. Way beyond anger, Alex is in a common stage of grieving;

(l to r) Antoinette LaVecchia (as Diana Garcia) and Frank Pando (as Alex Garcia) in the world premiere of|“The Blameless,” at The Old Globe. (Photo by Jim Cox) emotional inertia. He merely goes through the motions of being alive and heaves to the current activity (in this case, cooking), hoping no one will notice he’s not there. He and Diana argue bitterly, as seems their longtime wont. The arrival of Alex’s wise, truth-teller sister, Amanda (Liza Colon-Zayas), seems to tease the tension as she begins to help with dinner prep. What ensues is demanding of the audience, at risk of being exhausted by the constant exploration of emotions and issues in the space of a mere 90 minutes with no interval, hearing each aria-like viewpoint from family members and Mr. Davis, who certainly grieves his own loss.


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Telling revelations are made regarding both sons and their relationships to family. Among contemporary plays that address differences in grieving and the way it can sunder families, is David LindsayAbaire’s excellent “Rabbit Hole,” in which parents seek peace through confronting the teenage boy who caused their son’s death in a traffic accident. When all the Garcia stories have been told, playwright Gandiello, seeming to have exhausted mere words, gives the players tacit departures and then provides the audience an unnecessary glimpse of the future. Acceptance and forgiveness need not be spelled out. There is no resolution or healing from the death of a child. It’s a lifelong process of learning to live with it. The playwright’s ending feels like a cop-out, but there’s still time for Gandiello. He’s got a terrific set of believable, flawed and funny characters. All that’s needed is for him to trust them and get out of their way. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at charlenecriticism. or reach her at▼

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In the early 1980s there were four lesbian bars: The Apt in Mission Beach; The Club at Kettner and Laurel; Diablo’s in Normal Heights/University Heights; and The Box Office off the 8-fwy at Mission Gorge Road. There was also Los Hermanas, a lesbian-owned coffee house/performance space. —Wendy Sue Biegeleisen, via our website

Seven transgender women of color have been murdered in the U.S. in the first two months of 2017 alone, according to various media reports. “They are killing us, they are ceasing our lives,â€? O’Brien — a transgender woman of color herself — said. “We are here to honor that, to mourn and move forward.â€? Syra Evans, a local transgender woman of color activist, spoke next. They had many questions for the attendees, many of whom held candles and signs that sought to remember the lost lives. “Where do I begin, you guys?â€? Evans asked the crowd. “Where do we begin? ‌ Where do we go from here? ‌ How do we rise from it? That is the question I am seeking to answer for myself, for my family, for my community.â€? Following Evans, Jelecia King, another local transgender woman of color, encouraged attendees to unite against the barbarity. “Seven of our sisters have been killed this year just for trying to be trans and be alive and just live,â€? she said. “This has to end. We have to stand together. ... People should not have to go to the store and get murdered, to be chased trying to survive, to be murdered. It has to end.â€? King then read some statistics on violence against transgender people.

Is anyone adding the “gay Denny’sâ€? to the history? After the bars closed on weekend nights, it was where the under- and over-21 LGBT community could meet and greet. It was quite a scene. I still remember Vi the waitress, and we’re talking nearly 40 years ago now. —“Sibputtyâ€? via our website And if anyone remembers Studio 9 a block from gay Denny’s for the under 21; The Matador in PB; The Grand on Garnet; OH ‌ and BeeJays on Home Avenue. —Kelly, via our website Also WPCP was down the street before being torn down. At the backside of WPCP, was under-age club called Crackers. Club West Coast was a new construction club, which became Club Montage and now Spin. Also, just a block up from gay Denny’s was Studio 9, another underage dance club. —Phil, via our website —Letters to the editor can be sent toâ–ź

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The transgender flag was raised on the Pride flagpole for the day. (Photo by Clarione Gutierrez)

“44 percent of transgender people attempt suicide,� King began. “64 percent of young trans people are bullied. 73 percent of trans people are harassed in public ... 21 percent of trans people avoid going out in public due to fear. After King, O’Brien came back to the mic and again hollered, “Seven!� “Seven!� the audience responded. “It’s nothing new. I’m 65, and they’ve been killing us since I fi rst came out in 1970,� O’Brien said. “It’s nothing fucking new. They’ve been killing us probably from the beginning of time.� O’Brien then read the names of the transgender women of color that have been murdered in the U.S. this year.

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They include: â—? Keke Collier, 24, who was in school studying medical assistance in Chicago. â—? Jaquarrius Holland, 18, who lived in Monroe, Louisiana, and had a passion for hairstyling and makeup. â—? JoJo Striker, 41, who was a transgender community advocate in Toledo, Ohio. â—? Jamie Lee Wounded Arrow, 28, who was studying nursing and social work in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. â—? Mesha Caldwell, 41, who was a makeup artist and hairstylist in Canton, Mississippi. â—? Chyna Doll Dupree, 31, who performed drag in New Orleans. â—? Ciara McElveen, 25, a homeless outreach worker, also from New Orleans. While reading the names, O’Brien also described some of the ways the women were killed. “Ciara McElveen ‌ was snatched out of a car, her head slammed against a curb, and then she was shot,â€? O’Brien said. “Chyna was leaving a restaurant the Saturday before


last and she was shot. Not once. Not two. Not three. Not four. Not five. Not six. Not seven. Not eight. Not nine. But 10 times! They shot her 10 times!â€? Venice Price, a local transgender community member, then came to the mic and sang a portion of a gospel song that included some lyrical changes. “I feel like going on. I feel like going on though trials. They may come on every hand, oh I feel like feel like going on. I feel like going on. I feel like fighting on though trials. They may come on every hand, but we got to keep on fighting on!â€? When Price concluded the song, O’Brien returned and offered some solutions to the tragedy. “Where do we go from here?â€? O’Brien asked those attending the vigil. “Legislation, primary care, housing. Just to see me. Just to see me and not look through me. Just to see me and recognize me. Just to see me and respect me. Just to see me and realize that I am no different than whom you are. I am human and these seven people were human as well.â€? From there, O’Brien and the audience concluded the vigil with the word that started it. “Seven!â€? O’Brien cried out. “Seven!â€? the audience hollered back. “Seven!â€? O’Brien called out. “Seven!â€? the audience hollered back. “Goodnight!â€? said O‘Brien. For those in our community needing help or support — or for those wishing to help our transgender brothers and sisters — visit (or for those in North County visit, or —Rick Braatz is a sociologist, social worker, a journalist and a former editor of Gay San Diego. He can be reached atâ–ź


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SUSAN I was just terrified! I said to Ryan, “This really, really scares me. I just don’t know.” And he said, “Well, I’m scared too. We’ll find it together.” And that made me jump at it. (CA) How do you explain the gay fascination with Bette Davis and Joan Crawford? (SS) Well, I can’t speak for Joan — I can only speak for Bette. But, first of all, being some kind of outsider — she was an intruder at the time, when she was trying to get good parts, because she wasn’t your classic Hollywood beauty. So, she started off as an outsider and I think that she had a secret, and in the early days of being gay — and still in some places — there has to be a secret. I think she had a lot of secrets and you sense that she was trying to do things that were not easily done as a woman and as an artist and she was a very straight shooter. When we

important thing right now is that we stop harping on blame, because blame, if you really want me to talk about this election — you know, I was not the person who brought Trump into power. The DNC has a lot of … there are already suits all over the country about how that was rigged, the primary. So, to talk about this, for me, is a waste of energy. I think right now we’re about to appoint Scott Pruitt, which is the end of the EPA (Environmental Protection Agency), and we’ve got this gal, (Betsy) DeVos. People have to get over what happened, take some personal responsibility for being in a bubble and not paying attention to what was going on in the country and start applying their anger and their energy to rectifying what’s going on. We’re at a moment in history where a revolution is taking place. We have a guy in there who is so obvious that he gives you very clear targets — this didn’t happen overnight. In the last eight years, the Democrats have lost thousands of seats. In the last eight years, we’ve put

Sarandon (left), has a tense onscreen moment with Joan Crawford, played by Jessica Lange. (Courtesy FX) were working on it, our biggest challenge was trying to make it grounded in reality because they’re so big. Her gestures, everything — I felt like, “Here goes another meme!” [Laughs] The question was, are we able to make this into something that people are actually moved by? It’s very funny, obviously, and interesting. (CA) Do you think audiences might come away with more empathy for Bette as we watch this? (SS) I hope so. In watching all of her interviews and TV appearances, and in reading all the books she wrote and that her daughter wrote and other people wrote, she was pretty special in her focus to find good work that [gave her] some control over her choices at a time when you were given the protection of the studio in exchange for your freedom. Now, of course, if you do episodic TV, you’re right back in the same kind of contractual bind. Films have been liberated, but not these seasonal TV shows, because you really don’t know what they’re going to do with you. You sign away for years at a time, which was exactly what she was fighting against. (CA) Shifting to politics, some LGBT people were disappointed in your decision to cast your vote for someone other than the predicted winner, Hillary Clinton. If you would’ve known that Trump would be elected and that we’d currently be experiencing such a threat to human rights, which I know are so important to you, would you have voted differently? (SS) This is the thing: To have the conversations about “woulda, shoulda, coulda” opens up everything about the primaries and all kinds of things. The

fracking and Monsanto and everybody in place. In the last eight years, there were tons of people deported. This guy is horrible. But this didn’t happen overnight. So what are we gonna do now? This is a moment where we have to start using our energy and the time that we have and the media to divest from our banks that are building these pipelines all over the place, not just in Dakota, which are going to bring down this country. Fracking is going to go full speed ahead. We have to stop that. And we have to protect those who are vulnerable under this administration, and that’s not gonna happen until we let go of what happened before and really dedicate ourselves to making phone calls, putting our bodies in the street, and most of all, taking our money out of organizations, banks and networks that are supporting the actions of this guy. Now that everybody is awake, we have to take that and that fear, and we have to not indulge our depression — not indulge on pointing fingers — and get out there and work with some of the people who are going to be betrayed by Trump who voted for him and use that as a force for real change, because now it can happen. And we’re in a moment in history where you’re gonna either be on one side or the other and to be quiet or to be depressed or to blame me is not productive, so that’s what I would say about that. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter (@ chrisazzopardi).▼

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Friday, March 17

Rooftop BBQ and Bonfire Social: Log Cabin Republicans of San Diego County presents an Ocean Beach barbecue and bonfire. $10 per person. Free street parking, other lots nearby for $5. 6–9 p.m. 5050 Niagara Ave., Ocean Beach. Visit

YPC St. Patrick’s Day Social: Young Professionals Council (YPC) will host its monthly social at Oscar Wilde’s Irish Pub to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. 21-and-older. 6:30–8:30 p.m. 1440 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2mGQ4fR or contact YPC co-chair Jeremy Bloom at Free Family Movie Night: Snuggle up with trolls! Join families at the San Diego LGBT Community Center for a free family movie night featuring the film “Trolls.” Come in your favorite pajamas and bring your sleeping bags, blankets and pillows. 6:30–8:30 p.m. 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/2mH53GN. Leather Fetish Ball: The fourth annual Leather Fetish Ball is an evening of fabulous entertainers, choice music and a love for leather. Glitz Glam hosts this pansexual event, which celebrates all genders and sexualities while raising money for local charities on Leather Pride weekend. Enjoy performances, a DJ, theatrics and surprises throughout the evening to help your erotic side emerge. All welcome. Tickets: $20, $40 VIP. 9 p.m.–1 a.m. Worldbeat Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego. Visit

Saturday, March 18

Girls Night OUT San Diego: Come dance to the songs you want with at the Spring Fever Dance. DJ Fariba will be at the helm spinning your favorite songs, because this month, it’s D.I.Y., so it comes with your own soundtrack. Just post your song requests on their Facebook page and go dance the night away. 7–10 p.m.

The Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit San Diego Leather and Bootblack Contest: Enjoy an evening of leather while supporting the contestants for Mr. San Diego Leather, Ms. San Diego Leather and San Diego Bootblack. Doors open at 6 p.m., contest at 7 p.m., afterglow party with Mankind fashion show, open bootblacking, cigar social at 9 p.m. Worldbeat Center, 2100 Park Blvd., San Diego. Visit Last weekend — Kron in Rep: Lisa Kron’s “2.5 Minute Ride” plays in repertory today with “Well.” An inventive solo show, “2.5 Minute Ride” is a roller coaster adventure through the playwright’s family album, focusing on Kron’s relationship with her Holocaustsurvivor father. “Well” is an uproariously funny and magical memoir, centered around Kron’s mother’s illness. Directed by Kym Pappas. “2.5 Minute Ride” is at 2 p.m. and “Well” follows at 8 p.m. 4545 Park Blvd., #1, University Heights. Visit

Park Blvd., #1, University Heights. Visit diversionary. org/kronrep.

Monday, March 20

PrEP Works: A Conversion Across Barriers: The San Diego LGBT Community Center and #BeTheGeneration host an interactive panel discussion about PrEP, a daily treatment that helps prevent HIV infection. 6:30–8 p.m. 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit

Tuesday, March 21

Live Music with Robin Henkel: Three-time winner of “Best of Blues” at SD Music Awards, Henkel performs country blues that are grounded in Mississippi but performed with his own style. Happy hour in the Salvation Alley Bar 4–6 p.m., show 7 p.m. Dining reservations also available. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Gaslamp Quarter. Visit

Wednesday, March 22

Sunday, March 19

Walking Tour of Hillcrest LGBTQ History: Lambda Archives of San Diego will lead an informational walking tour of San Diego’s gayborhood. Visit the “secret garden,” the hate crimes plaque, and learn about some of the area’s early gay and lesbian bars. 11 a.m.–1:15 p.m. Meet-up location will be provided upon ticket purchase. Tickets: Visit Last weekend — Kron in Rep: Lisa Kron’s “Well,” an uproariously funny and magical memoir centered around Kron’s mother, plays in repertory with “2.5 Minute Ride,” an inventive solo show which is a roller coaster adventure through the playwright’s family album and focuses on Kron’s relationship with her Holocaust-survivor father. Directed by Kym Pappas. “Well” hits the stage at 2 p.m. and “2.5 Minute Ride” follows at 7 p.m. 4545

2016 winner, Jef Cummings Stoli Key West Cocktail Classic: The fourth annual Stoli Key West Cocktail Classic is the world’s largest LGBT bartender competition, and it is working its way across North America. San Diego’s competition will be hosted by “Queer Eye” star Jai Rodriguez and Stoli LGBT Ambassador Patrik Gallineaux, and last year’s local winner — Jef Cummings of Babycakes — will be one of the judges. Stoli drink specials and performances by Debby Holiday, who will also be a judge. First 100 guests get a Stoli drink ticket plus a wristband to sample each

of the contestant cocktails to vote for their favorite. The winner will get $15,000 for the charity of their choice and a trip to Key West for the championship. No cover with online RSVP. 8–11 p.m. Rich’s Nightclub, 1051 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit

Thursday, March 23

The Power of Intersectionality in Lesbian Activism: Lambda Archives celebrates Women’s History Month by featuring a panel of lesbian activists. Panel includes Kim SontagMulder, Cheli Mohamed, Gloria Cruz and Brooke Sullivan, among others. Moderated by Toni Duran. Reception 6 p.m., panel 7– 8:30 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd. Buy tickets online to RSVP. Archives members and students can use code WOMEN when ordering. Visit bit. ly/2mH2gNv.

Friday, March 24

Women’s Film Festival 2017: Women’s Museum of California will host the annual international film festival to celebrate the diversity of women in film, both on screen and behind the camera. Tickets online; prices vary. 10 a.m. on March 24 through 10 p.m. on March 26. THE LOT Liberty Station, 2620 Truxtun Road. Visit

‘The LADY at the MIC’: A one-night-only fundraising cabaret to benefit La Jolla Playhouse’s critically acclaimed New Play Development Program. “The LADY at the MIC” stars Charles Busch, a two-time MAC Award winner, Tony Award nominee and drag legend. Described by New York Times critic Stephen Holden as “innately funny, endearing and acutely intelligent, he also has claws,” Busch will be accompanied by musical director Tom Judson and combine hilarious personal reminiscence, character sketches and superb storytelling through song into one glittering and glamorous evening in cabaret. 8 p.m.

Saturday, March 25

National Rally of the Border: Rally at the Border presents a program that will feature humanitarians, activists, artists, thought leaders and speakers. Hosted by We Are One Foundation. 3–6 p.m. at Larsen Field, 455 Sycamore Road, San Ysidro. Visit

Sunday, March 26

Craft Beer & Canvas: Spend your Sunday afternoon pairing craft beer with a little painting courtesy of the folks at Wine & Canvas. Create your own masterpiece while enjoying this craft beer location for a change of pace. Admission is $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by-20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas. Tonight’s art selection is “Tuscany Doorstep.” 21-and-older. ID required. Free parking and valet. 1–4 p.m. Gordon Biersch, 5010 Mission Center Road, Mission Valley. Visit tinyurl. com/jhjhqev.

March Madness Flights: It’s that time of the year again, the NCAA basketball championships. Celebrate March Madness with style — take a quick trip Downtown, join the staff of the House of Blues and enjoy their special carnitas sliders and ale flight pairings for $14, available only on March Madness game nights. 21+ for ale flights sliders. Doors open at 4 p.m. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Gaslamp Quarter. Visit

Monday, March 27

Mazing Mondays at the Caliph: Come sing along to the songs of your past with Carol Curtis from 5–8 p.m. and enjoy karaoke with Danny from 8:30 p.m.–12:30 a.m. at this “easy-going” cocktail bar and lounge that has been in our community since 1960. Happy hour all

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42 Specialty of Wanda Sykes 43 Fairy story 47 Just make, with “out” 48 “The Lonely Goatherd” singer 50 Comic actor DeLaria 51 Vincente Minnelli’s “___ Parade” 53 Person in the Navy 55 End of the distinction 59 Like a Muscle Mary who does sit-ups 61 Martian marking 62 Some actors have big ones 65 Load 66 The way we word 67 “Aida” solo 68 Helpful tip 69 Printer powder 70 Gay Bob, for example

1 Paul Newman role in “Exodus” 2 Orton’s “The ___ on the Stair” 3 Summer tops 4 “Fer ___!” 5 Ralph Waldo Emerson’s hometown 6 Nitpicky about a bit of history? 7 Dry and crumbly 8 Cotton props in “Showboat” 9 “Yeah, right!” 10 Ricky Martin’s “Livin’ La ___ Loca” 11 Teach LGBTQ studies, for example 12 Made pink? 13 Army N.C.O. 21 Longtime Dolphins coach Don 22 TÈa of “Fun with Dick and Jane” 23 1993 Carole Maso novel 26 Scores with Esera Tuaolo 28 Splinter group 30 Big top, e.g. 32 Manly man 33 Where to look, in “Misty”

34 Drag queen Gene 37 Brief circumcision? 38 Athlete who tries to pin you to the floor 39 On the small side 40 Alias, initially 41 Either of Heather’s two mommies 44 “Fast,” to Leonard Bernstein 45 Gene Wilder in “The Producers” 46 Copland capability 48 “You said it!” 49 Indian author Santha Rama ___ 52 Offer an apple to Adam and Steve? 54 Response to “How do you know?” 56 Part of a Texas town’s name 57 ___ instant (like premature ejaculation) 58 Composer John 59 “No whispering!” 60 Island necklace 63 Lubricant 64 Mineo of movies


CALENDAR day. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

Tuesday, March 28

‘I am a Girl’ documentary screening: San Diego Coalition for Reproductive Justice, First Unitarian Church of San Diego and the Lawyers

Club of San Diego present a documentary about what it means to be a girl in the 21st century. Light refreshments will be available. Social hour 5:30–6:30 p.m. and screening 6:30–8 p.m., 4190 Front St. Visit bit. ly/2mHcT34 and RSVP at Free Immigration Forum: Presented by the San Diego LGBT Community Center, Casa Cornelia Law Center and Alliance San Diego

and Ready now San Diego offer this forum for those who are concerned about upcoming changes in immigration law. Confidential legal appointments, and questions about immigration rights and qualification for immigrant benefits answered. 6 –8 p.m. The Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. For more information, call 619-263-3423 or email or visit

GAY SAN DIEGO March 17 – 30, 2017

Wednesday, March 29

Welcome back Wednesdays at the Caliph: Come out and enjoy Kenny Ard live on the piano from 8–11 p.m. at this “easy-going” cocktail bar and lounge that has been in our community since 1960. Happy hour til 8 p.m., beer bust 7:30–11:30 p.m. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

Thursday, March 30

Wine & Canvas: Join Wine and Canvas for


artsy fun in East Village Admission is $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas. Tonight’s art selection is “Starry Coronado.” 21-and-owner. ID required. Validated parking $10 with purchase or park nearby. 6–9 p.m. Hotel Indigo, Table 509, 509 Ninth Ave., East Village. Visit jhjhqev.


GAY SAN DIEGO March 17 – 30, 2017

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