Page 1

Volume 8 Issue 5 March 3 – 16, 2017

Follow us on Facebook and Twitter

Dinah Shore Weekend Page 2





On top of

Toni shares her priorities

his game


Will Gustwiller and his popular South Park bistro enter the national limelight (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

South Park chocolatier cooks up a jackpot on the Food Network The illusions of Tony Kushner


By Frank Sabatini Jr. As one of the rare entrepreneurs in the country with a knack for weaving chocolate and caramel into savory dishes, Will Gustwiller accepted an invitation from the Food Network to be a contestant on a special episode of “Guy’s Chocolate Games” and ended up $16,000 richer because of it. The segment was a spinoff of “Guy’s Grocery Games” hosted


by Guy Fieri. Gustwiller was among four competitors vying to survive three elimination rounds of cooking for up to $20,000 in prize money. The episode was taped in November in Santa Rosa inside a closed set, replete with food-stocked aisles resembling a commercial grocery store. Gustwiller, a member of the LGBT community who has often supported Mama’s Kitchen and San Diego LGBT Pride on behalf

of his Eclipse Chocolate Bar & Bistro in South Park, was sworn to secrecy about his win until the program aired on Feb. 12. In round one, the contestants were tasked with constructing an “ultimate lunch” using the base ingredients of German chocolate cake. Gustwiller wowed the judges with cocoa-glazed pork tenderloin while incorporating coconut and pecans into a side dish of Chinese long beans. The second battle involved making a chocolate dessert on a “shopping” budget of $15.55.

See Eclipse page 15

Intersectionality in prime time


Making LGBT businesses relevant


Morgan M. Hurley | Editor (Editor’s note: In January, we started our series on LGBT businesses [Vol. 8, Issue 1, or online at] and due to a few unexpected distractions and delays, we are just now returning to it. We expect at least one more article in the series and in future issues will be adding GSDBA member spotlights and a column focusing on small-business development to keep our finger on the pulse of this arena. Stay tuned.)

Hillcrest’s vegan Thailand

Index Community








Contact us Editorial/Letters 619-961-1960

Advertising 619-961-1958 San Diego Community News Network

LGBT businesses have been around since the beginning of time, but in San Diego, it wasn’t until the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA) was launched in 1979, that local gay and lesbian businesses could “out” themselves, albeit quietly, to their customers and each other. While the name didn’t exactly explain it, the GSDBA is basically San Diego’s LGBT Chamber of Commerce. Chambers are organizations that are, according to Webster, “a local association to promote and protect the interests of the business community in a

particular place.” The GSDBA is an affiliate of the National Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC). The NGLCC, based in Washington, D.C., is sponsoring what is being touted as “the world’s largest LGBT business development event” in Las Vegas this August. It calls itself the “business voice of the LGBT community” and its “What we do” web page gives the following list of its areas of focus: ● diversity and inclusion — supporting and advocating for diversity and inclusion for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT)-owned businesses. ● policy priorities — working to ensure implementation of pro-business, LGBT-inclusive policies at the federal, state and local levels of government ● supplier innovation — a platform for connecting corporate partners with certified LGBT suppliers and an

incubator for entrepreneurial success. ● collaborations — proudly working with a range of organizations to ensure LGBT inclusion in business. ● business resources — great discounts offered by various organizations and companies. Check back often for additional resources and offers. ● NGLCC Global — promoting broad-based economic advancement and empowerment of the global LGBT community. As an affiliate, the GSDBA offers much of this, with the support of the NGLCC, but on a smaller scale. In the past, most have known the local chamber for its popular business directory and its monthly business mixers. But CEO Barbra Blake, who recently passed her original

see GSDBA pg 10

Producers of seventh annual Out at the Fair (OATF) — our very own “LGBT day” at the annual San Diego County Fair — are seeking applications for “community partners,” which include nonprofit vendor/exhibitors, artists, sponsors and divas for their “diva drop.” Note – the performer application deadline was Feb. 28. The County Fair will run June 2-July 4 at Del Mar Fairgrounds, located at 2260 Jimmy Durante Blvd. in Del Mar. This year’s theme is “Where the West is Fun.” OATF will be held on Saturday, June 10. Nonprofit organizations can sign up for free booth space in the exhibitor area. Participating organizations will receive a 10-foot by 10-foot tent with one table and two chairs; plus gate credentials and parking passes for booth workers. Those approved will need to submit proof of insurance and attend a mandatory orientation May 19 at 3 p.m. at the fairgrounds. Application deadline is May 12. Download the application at or Other special events during the County Fair — which is billed as the largest county fair in the U.S. — include San Diego International Beer Festival, the Toast of the Coast Wine Festival, and the Distilled Spirit and Cocktail Festival. Every day has a special theme so keep an eye on news about the fair. Note: The fair is closed the first four Mondays and the first three Tuesdays of its run. To visit the fair’s new website and sign up for informational emails, visit


Dining Out for Life (DOFL), the annual fundraiser for HIV/AIDS services takes place this year on April 27. In its 11th year, DOFL is a nationwide fundraising effort that takes place on just one day per year, to raise awareness and money to help with the much-needed services and prevention programs around the country. Here in San Diego, the funds are earmarked for both the San Diego LGBT Community Center and the North County LGBTQ Resource Center.

see Briefs pg 16



GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

Your 2017 “Dinah guide” It’s the largest lesbian music and comedy festival in the world, right in our backyard Morgan M. Hurley | Editor Dinah Shore Weekend got its start more than three decades ago, when lesbians began to gather in small groups in various hotels in the Coachella Valley so they could attend the Colgate Dinah Shore Golf Tournament, hoping to catch a glimpse of their favorite women’s golfer in action. Later, Nabisco took over sponsorship and the event became one of four majors on the LPGA circuit, when it became Nabisco Dinah Shore LPGA Championship. For those who are unaware, Dinah Shore was a beloved songstress in the 1950s and ‘60s who had her own daytime talk show in the 1970s. She was also well known for dating the popular actor Burt Reynolds, not long after his naked body graced the centerfold of Cosmopolitan – a first for the magazine. Eventually the gaggles of lesbians hanging out around a dozen or so pools were turned into the cottage industry the Palm Spring Dinah Shore Weekend is today, led by founder and executive producer Mariah Hanson. Many of the women who started going 30 years ago still go today — to the golf tournament, that is. To read the detailed history of The Dinah Shore Weekend that I wrote seven years ago, visit

2017 Host hotels

After many years of utilizing the expansive Palm Springs Convention Center to host the larger weekend events, this year’s producers of The Dinah — which takes place March 29– April 2 — are getting back to its roots, bringing many of the weekend’s events back into its two host hotels. The Hilton Palm Springs Hotel & Spa, located at 400 E. Tahquitz Canyon Way, remains the primary host hotel, as it has been for the last five years. Jumping in as the second host hotel is the Hard Rock Hotel Palm Springs, located a block away at 150 S. Indian Canyon Drive. The Hard Rock space was frequently a secondary host hotel in the past, first as Hotel Zoso and then the first year the Hard Rock took the hotel over in 2013. If you can’t afford the host hotels or they sell out, never fear, there are hundreds of other hotels in the greater Palm Springs area to choose from, but they go fast this time of year. If you can afford it, it’s always best to be at the host hotel, however, because transportation and parking can be a challenge. So much easier to walk downstairs or across the street to get around to all the parties you plan to attend.

Comedy House

While the opening and closing parties have always been

at Zelda’s, the one big event of the weekend still being held at the Palm Springs Convention Center this year is the Dinah Comedy House, Saturday, April 1, at 8 p.m. Attendees will get to hear the hilarious comedy from Erin Foley, Julie Goldman and Gina Yashere. Tickets are $30 and this show is only included in the weekend VIP pass, not the regular weekend pass. A limited amount of tickets will also be available at the door.

Pool parties

The pool parties have always been one of the biggest draws for The Dinah, with many women making the drive early Sunday morning to catch the last day of festivities, or others making a Saturday day-trip with a poolside destination. You can enjoy all three pool parties this year — TGIDF, Wet & Wild and Sunday Funday, which all take place at the Hilton Palm Springs Hotel & Spa — with the purchase of a weekend pass or weekend VIP pass. Expect lots of women; incredible performances; DJs of varying types; lots of dancing; swimming, splashing and water games; drink specials; an exhibit area with LGBT-themed vendors and giveaways; celebrity sightings; and more women. Pool party lineup includes: Friday — (live performances) Blackbox, Velvet Dive; (DJ) Keala Kennelly; (appearance) Rose Garcia. Saturday — (live performance) Tish Hyman; (appearances) Elizabeth Keener, Rachel Paulson, Mindy Sterling

YOU ARE INVITED! 4TH ANNUAL COMMUNITY OPEN HOUSE DAY Thursday, April 20 Campus-wide block party!

Campus Tours | Exhibits | Demonstrations | Resource Fair 12:45 –1:45pm Jazz Music | 5:30pm Planetarium Showing 12th Annual Student Project & Research Symposium Upper AH Plaza 9am–1pm Info: 1313 Park Boulevard, San Diego, CA 92101 #sdccoh

Tickets for Dinah Shore Weekend in Palm Springs are on sale now. (Courtesy Club Skirts The Dinah)

and Rose Garcia. Sunday — (live performance) Lizzo; (appearance) Rose Garcia.

Nighttime entertainment

While Wednesday is now the official pre-party, Thursday is when the party really gets started with the Throwback Thursday Opening Party at Zelda’s Nightclub, located just a few blocks away from the host hotels at 611 S. Palm Canyon Drive. The weekend of entertainment kicks off from 9 p.m.– 2 a.m., when Canadian singer and songwriter Margeaux Simms — from “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” (@houseofmargeaux) — will perform live. Friday night brings the legendary White Party at the Hard Rock Hotel from 8 p.m.–2 a.m. Dance and R&B icon Cece Penniston will bring down the house with Kittens spinning away the rest of the evening. Saturday night will again be spent at the Hard Rock Hotel for the Hollywood Party, from 9 p.m.– 2 a.m. Legendary surf champion turned DJ Keala Kennelly (@kealakennelly) will perform her DJ set, and Latin hip-hop artist, Lady Cultura (@ ladycultura) will perform live. Also the mysterious FHB (@ FHBOfficial), who conceals their identity so as not to be labeled but rather lets the music speak for itself, will also perform. Sunday the Closing Party takes the fun back to Zelda’s for a live performance with Butterscotch (@ Butterscotchmusic), a beatboxer and musician.

Passes and tickets

There are various ways you can enjoy the Dinah Shore Weekend. You can do it cafeteria style and just pick and choose a couple events you wish to participate in, but the best deal is the weekend passes.

Individual events you can purchase in advance include the Comedy Show, $30; the Friday Pool Party, $40; and the rest of the pool parties, $60; and the White Party and Hollywood Party, $60. The Opening and Closing Parties at Zelda’s will offer limited tickets at the door for $30. VIP Weekend Pass is $500 through March 30 — it gives you VIP access to all events and shows. Every one of them. Plus, you get priority entrance and seating; exclusive lounges and bars to hang out in; bottle service options; and special VIP receptions on Friday and Saturday night. Weekend Pass is $289 through March 30 — you get priority admission to seven parties (Thursday opening party; Friday pool party; White Party; Saturday Pool Party; Hollywood Party; Sunday Pool Party and the Sunday night closing party). If you are staying at one of the two host hotels, you will get a promo code that gives you a discount for the weekend pass. Get your tickets here — Whenever you are attending Dinah Shore Weekend, remember that there are so many other things to appreciate about the Palm Springs area while you are there: the visual of those oh-so-close mountains; the tramway to the top; the city’s history and walk of fame; the LPGA golf tournament going on across town; the valley’s vast array of diverse restaurants; the many hot springs, spas and casinos … hell, just knowing a celebrity could be around every corner is reason enough to go enjoy yourself. To see a partial list of those who plan on making appearances, visit —Reach Morgan M. Hurley at▼

GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017




GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

The history of our bars Out of the Archives Archives Staff One of the most frequent requests we receive at Lambda Archives is for information about the early gay and lesbian bars. Some are casual inquiries, “my friends and I were trying to remember the name of the bar that was there before Bourbon Street — do you know, or could I look at some old newspapers to find a list?” and others are more scholarly inquiries. Professor Paul Detwiler is working on a documentary about the bars for KPBS and has compiled a list of bars. So far it has some 156 entries, although some are listed more than once. For instance, the Brass Rail (now called simply The Rail) is listed at each of its three locations. Some of those bars lasted less than a year. Others, like the Brass Rail, have endured for decades, although the precise date when that bar went from being a restaurant/catering with a primarily straight clientele to primarily a bar catering to gay men — especially Navy men — is hard to pin down. For the documentary, Detwiler has been tracking down some of the people who owned and worked in the bar industry. He is sharing many of his findings with Lambda Archives to add to our store of knowledge and materials. Among the things he uncovered were a box of photographs — in slide format — taken at West Coast Production Company. WCPC was in the three-story space located on Hancock Street just west of Interstate 5, later occupied by Club Montage and currently home to Spin Nightclub. The slides have since

been donated by Chris Shaw, the previous owner of WCPC, who now owns the four bars that comprise MO’s Universe. San Diego State scanned a few of the slides for Detwiler and eventually the Archives will scan the rest to add them in digital form to our collection of thousands of photos. Detwiler was also located photos taken inside Peacock Alley. Peacock Alley was a bar on University Avenue in the mid-to-late 1980s frequented by gay men, and AfricanAmerican gay men in particular. The space is now occupied by The Merrow. Those photos will also be digitized and added to the Archives’ collection. The Spartacus Guide for 1986 lists 40 bars open in San Diego at that time — compared to half that many today — making that year the high water mark for the bars. Whether the rapid decline in the quantity of bars was due to the brunt of the AIDS epidemic hitting the community or that the region just reached its saturation point for bars, is hard to say. There were never nearly as many bars catering to women. At their peak, there were only three lesbian-focused bars open simultaneously; The Flame on Park Boulevard, Club Bombay (now Starlite) on India Street, and Bella’s (now PECS) on University Avenue. One of the most popular lesbian bars was The Flame. It began life as The Garden of Allah in 1946, which was destroyed by a fire in 1954. In January 1955, the building was remodeled and renamed the Flame Supper Club — ironically after the fire, it had nothing to do with “gay flames” — and that’s when it got its iconic neon sign. The restaurant closed in 1980, but

U P CO M I N G E V E N T S: • Walking Tour of Hillcrest LGBT History March 19, 11 a.m.

A stained glass window leftover from Bacchus House (Photo by Walter Meyer) in 1984 The Flame opened as a lesbian bar and operated until 2004. Then it went through various permutations before finally closing in June 2013. The new owner of the building said he plans to preserve the neon sign and façade when he remodels. Many of the area’s bars have left behind pieces of their past; we have matchbooks from many defunct bars and T-shirts from various bars and their sports teams. One of the more eye-catching pieces in our collection is the stained-glass window from Bacchus House (now Seven Grand on University Avenue in North Park). Recently, Will Widick and his friend Matt Clark cleaned and reframed the window and we’ll soon be hanging it at the Archives. We also have a complete collection of the various LGBT newspapers and they hold a host of information about the bars — ads, pool league scores, maps, articles about special events and more. When the new owners took over Bourbon Street, they found a closet full of photos, plaques and awards, and donated them to the Archives. We also have Nicky Awards, AIDS Walk awards and numerous other

events ATTHECENTER Tuesday, March 7

Wed, March 15

Community Food Bank

Lunch & Learn:

9-10:30 am, The Center

Financial Peace of Mind in Very Uncertain Times

The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at


Guys, Games & Grub 6 pm, The Center Everyone is welcome to The Center on the first Wednesday evening of each month for GGG! The popular board game and social night, presented by Men @ The Center, includes pizza, snacks, beer, wine, soft drinks, and hundreds of board games to choose from. Participants are welcome to come alone and meet new friends, or come with a group for a fun evening out. The popular Team Trivia game hosted by community favorite John Lockhart begins at 6:30 pm and everyone is welcome to drop in. Suggested donation of $5 is requested for admission. For more information contact Ben Cartwright at or 619.692.2077 x106. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

Twitter: @LGBTCenter

pieces of our community’s bars. The bars served a special role in LGBTQ life. Before there were LGBT centers, Pride and coming out groups, there were the bars. They were meeting places and centers of civic engagement. It is no coincidence that the event that is usually regarded as the birthplace of LGBT liberation — the Stonewall Riots — started in a bar. And that special connection to the bars is what made the Pulse shooting in Orlando, Florida especially painful to the LGBTQ community. In June, Lambda Archives will present one of its Out at the Archives events with a special nod to Pulse Nightclub and the role of the bars in making our world what it is. On March 19, at 11 a.m., Lambda Archives will resume its popular Hillcrest walking tours, and many bar locations and bar stories will figure prominently on that tour. For tickets visit lambda-archives. By the way, the bar that preceded Bourbon Street in that space was called Stagecoach. —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at▼

Learn about San Diego’s “gayborhood.” Peek into the secret garden. Visit the hate crimes plaque. Learn about some of the early gay and lesbian bars. Approximately two and a half hours long, meetup instructions provided upon ticket purchase. No tickets will be sold the day of the tour, so reserve today. Tickets: $20 (members) $25 (non-members) Visit lambda-archives. • Out at the Archives, March This special event is in the planning stages with details to be announced soon. Like us on Facebook ( LambdaArchives) or shoot us an email (manager.lambda. to be added to our mailing list, to get all the latest news, as well as invitations to upcoming events and other exciting happenings from the Archives.

12 Noon, The Center Is your income/retirement plan safe and savvy? What are the options for the best return on your money? Will your retirement plan be there when you need it – will you outlive your money? Your presenters will address these items and other critical issues for LGBT seniors in today’s uncertain times. Please join us for a delicious meal combined with peace of mind! For more information on this event or to RSVP, contact LaRue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205.

Wednesday, March 15

Bi Coming Out Group p 7-8:30 pm, The e Center Join The Center’s discussion group on bisexuality on the third d Wednesday of every month. It’s a welcoming ng space to share your experiences, xperiences, ask questions, discuss community mmunity issuess and meet like-minded people. This group is open to all persons who are sexually and/or emotionally attracted to more than one gender. For more information, contact Aaron Heier at

The new owners of Park and Rec found many items left behind by Bourbon Street. (Photo by Walter Meyer)


Our youth need us now more than ever Back Out with Benny Ben Cartwright When I was a teenager growing up in San Diego, I didn’t have it so bad. I first realized I was gay at 15 years old in 1995 and was lucky to live in the San Diego suburb of Allied Gardens, a less-than-a-minute drive down the 8 freeway to Hillcrest. Of course, at 15, I wasn’t able to drive yet, but I was determined to get to Hillcrest — kids growing up in San Diego generally know that Hillcrest is where the “gay people” are, and I remember some of the taunts on the playground, “I heard your dad is gay and he goes to The Brass Rail.” Even though my family was fairly accepting of my coming out, I wanted to get to this “magical place” called Hillcrest, that, without transportation, seemed so far away. Even though I was very savvy with the San Diego bus system at the time (it was worse than it is today!), I didn’t want to take a 45-minute bus ride to Hillcrest. Instead, I got creative and realized that from my neighborhood, if I biked up College Avenue past San Diego State, I could get to El Cajon Boulevard and ride out to Hillcrest. Of course, this bike ride took much longer than the bus ride would have. Upon arriving at the corner of Park Boulevard and University Avenue, I was in absolute awe. I’ll never forget seeing a pair of men holding hands as they crossed the street and a rainbow flag on a couple of the buildings. I was too scared to go any further into the neighborhood, but I immediately felt like this place could be a place for me. I got my drivers license on my 16th birthday and the first place I drove to on my own was Carl’s Jr. — I was hungry and could eat fast food at the time without having to worry about my waistline — and then immediately drove to Hillcrest. It was a Friday evening so the neighborhood was full of nightlife energy. I just drove around University Avenue looking and getting excited about one day being a part of all that, rather than just watching it alone from my car (and boy have I become a part of all that!). I eventually learned about The Center’s “Gay Youth Alliance,” which met on Friday nights at 7:30 p.m. and for months, I would drive past The Center (at its former location on Normal Street) around that time each Friday to watch the youth go inside. I wanted to see others like me, but being shy as I was, I just wasn’t ready to go in myself. One night I finally got up the courage to go into a meeting and met some cool youth. I also learned about some of the (now defunct) coffee shops where youth would hang out together in Hillcrest and

from there I was introduced to this whole amazing community. Since then, a number of incredible youth resources have popped up in our community, such as The Center’s Hillcrest Youth Center; a dedicated fulltime support person for trans youth at The Center; and so many more. And of course, we have a number of national resources, many of them with local branches, like The Trevor Project, TransLifeLine, GLSEN, GSA Network, and so many others out there fighting for and supporting our LGBTQ youth. But it’s never enough. Even in fairly progressive places like San Diego, many LGBTQ youth are still being rejected by their families, some are even kicked out of their homes, making the percentage of LGBTQ homeless youth way out of proportion.

Across the nation, legislators are trying to strip trans youth of the much-needed protections that we’ve worked so hard to gain over the years and this never-ending nonsense about which bathroom transgender folks can use is evidence of the fear and hatred that still exists, and its effects on our youth are staggering. I just read an article this morning that featured a volunteer at a LGBTQ youth suicide and support hotline who said that since the presidential election, the numbers of calls from youth in distress have skyrocketed. With all the advances and progress made, our youth are still hurting and struggling. They need us! Whatever you can do to be there for our youth is helpful. If you have the means, donate to LGBTQ youth-serving organizations so they can sustain their vital work. If you have time to give, find an organization that could use your volunteer skills. Donate clothes and toiletries to organizations that will provide them to homeless or unstably housed youth. Most importantly, speak up! Continue to demand that legislators and school districts protect our youth — especially our trans youth. Write letters or emails, call their offices, visit their staff at their office to demand they support all kids. As it’s been said, “the children are our future” — and our beautiful LGBTQ youth are a major part of that future, too!

see Benny, pg 9


Empowerment, resiliency and collaboration Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Well, it’s March now, not even two months into the Trump administration, and I still hear comments like this from my clients: “I have stopped reading the news. I don’t want to know the latest awfulness to come out of Trump’s mouth.” “I dread hearing about what his latest cabinet appointee has said or done. For us LGBTers, it seems like it’s only gonna get worse.” And today a client told me: “I still feel so stressed out and anxious about Trump. There is just so much weird shit coming from his administration. Even though I’m an American citizen [she was born outside the U.S.], I ‘m actually afraid to travel back home.” What do we do about all this trauma and upset? How do we live with such uncertainty? We can focus on empowerment, collaboration and resiliency. That’s what this column is about. How can you feel empowered in this era of national dis-empowerment?

Empower yourself:

A young Benny (File photo)

GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017

● Take action, no matter the form, and put forward what you believe in: volunteer, give money, or use social media to advocate for what is important to you. ● Contact your elected officials and let them know what you want them to do: emails, phone calls, let these people hear from you (and please do it respectfully). As Michelle Obama put it, “When they go low, we go high.” Words to live by. Remain Resilient:

● Do things that remind you of the good things in life: don’t let fear consume your life. ● Find ways to accept all the uncertainty in the world right now; admit that you are powerless to control much of what goes on out there. Find ways to be at peace with that. Do what you can to affect change

and then do what you can to find some inner peace. Real strength is about accepting this. 12-step folks know this; they admit that they are powerless in certain situations. You don’t need to surrender to a “higher power,” but it will benefit you to explore and discover ways to find an inner peace, one that is independent of external conditions (like awful presidents). ● Explore constructive ways to release your emotions. I don’t know about you, but lately, when I meditate, I find myself weeping; seemingly, for no conscious reason. I think my subconscious is just so unhappy and frustrated with the Trump administration that it needs to let it out. I also find myself more easily angered and annoyed. I’m working with that one by being more physical: hiking, walking, gardening, yoga and going to the gym. I am also a big fan of hitting pillows to release my frustrations and yelling in the car (windows up, of course) or into pillows at home (so I don’t scare the cats) to release my anger.


● Get support from friends, therapists, ministers, wise elders and family members. Work together with colleagues and comrades for common causes. ● Don’t be a lone ranger. In these troubled times, we need to know that we’re not alone and that our reactions to the madness in the world are normal ones. Many of my clients say stuff like, “Am I the

only one who feels like this world is going to hell?” or “Are other people as scared about what Trump will do as I am?” Granted, not everyone is scared and unhappy (yes, I do know some Trump supporters), but many of us are and it helps to know we’re not alone. ● Avoid the temptation to play “Ain’t it awful?” It sounds like fun, when you’re with your friends, to complain ad nauseum about the latest idiocy from the Trump administration. Unfortunately, it doesn’t help (okay, maybe a brief recitation of the latest evil, but then shift your focus) because playing “ain’t it awful?” only makes you feel worse. Turn your unhappiness into action and be part of a solution. It’s very good for your psyche (and your life). Please remember that all this trauma and upset will, eventually, pass. We’ve lived through awful presidents before and come out smarter and stronger. In the meanwhile, let’s focus on empowerment, collaboration and resiliency; doing so will bring about a better day … and much more quickly and peacefully. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit▼



GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

Guest Editorial

Call to action: Protect trans* youth By Max Disposti On Feb. 22, the Trump administration levied an attack on our community’s youth. By rescinding protection for transgender students that was in place under the Obama administration, Trump has proven that his campaign “promise” to protect LGBTQI people is a lie. According to the Transgender Law Center (, 75 percent of transgender youth report feeling unsafe at school. Over 40 percent have been violently attacked at school because of their gender identity and more than half report skipping school to avoid bullying. Rescinding this guidance sends the message to school boards, principals and parents that it’s OK to allow dangerous school environments to exist that can lead to suicide, depression, homelessness, addiction and HIV infection for transgender youth. All students deserve the dignity of being free from harassment and discrimination, including use of the bathroom that corresponds with their

EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Ken Williams, x102 Jeff Clemetson, x119 ASSISTANT EDITOR John Gregory CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi Charlene Baldridge Ben Cartwright Michael Kimmel Frank Sabatini Jr. Lambda Archives Staff

gender identities. Refusing to protect our most vulnerable youth is deplorable and dangerous. The North County LGBTQ Resource Center works every day to provide life-changing and life-saving programs and services to transgender youth. From mental health care to support groups, school advocacy and training and more, with your support the Center gives transgender youth what they need most: hope. What can you do? Take actions to make schools safe. This kind of willful indifference by the White House, Department of Education and Justice Department puts the

COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS Andrew Bagley, x106 Annie Burchard, x 105 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 John Watson, x113 SENIOR INTERN David Sengmany INTERN Jennifer Gotschalk Alex Ehrie Yesenia Luna Christian Gurrola

lives of children at risk and is a disgrace to America. All children deserve the dignity of a safe and welcoming learning environment. Yesterday it was bathrooms, what will it be tomorrow? Please join the North County LGBTQ Resource Center and our friends at the National Center for Transgender Equality ( to stand up and speak out against this action and support our basic human right to pee in peace! 1. Call the federal government and make your voice heard. 2. Call or email your local school superintendent and ask them to publicly oppose any legislative efforts that undermine the rights of our transgender youth anywhere in our country. —Max Disposti is the executive director of the North County LGBTQ Resource Center, now located at 3220 Mission Ave., Suite 2, Oceanside. For more information, visit or call 760-994-1690.▼

ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza

DISTRIBUTION Gay San Diego is distributed free every other Friday of the month. © 2017. All rights reserved. PUBLISHER David Mannis (619) 961-1951

ACT NOW: President Donald J. Trump, 202-456-1111 Attorney General Jeff Sessions, 202-353-1555 U.S. Secretary of Education Betsy DeVos, 202-401-3000

Superintendents North County: Oceanside Dr. Duane Coleman, 760-996-4008 Vista Devin Vodicka,

Superintendents SDUSD: Lincoln and Sierra (Area1) Bruce Bivins, 619-725-7233 Mira Mesa, Morse, University City (Area 2) Lamont Jackson, 619-725-5584

San Marcos Dr. Kevin D. Holt, 760-752-1299

Kearny, Mission Bay, Point Loma (Area 3) Kimie Lochtefeld, 760-752-1299

Carlsbad Dr. Benjamin Churchill, 760-331-5002

Clairemont, Madison and Henry (Area 4) Sofia Freire, 619-725-7254

Escondido Dr. Luis Ibarra, 760-432-2110

La Jolla and San Diego (Area 5) Mitzi Merino, 619-432-2110

Encinitas Dr. Timothy Baird, 760-9444300, ext. 1111

Crawford, Hoover and Scripps Ranch (Area 6) Fabiola Bagula, 619-725-7210 Office of Charter Schools 619-725-7107

Fallbrook Dr. Candace Singh, 760-731-5420

OPINIONS/LETTERS: Gay San Diego encourages letters to the editor and guest editorials. Please email either to and include your phone number and address for verification. We reserve the right to edit letters for brevity and accuracy. Letters and guest editorials do not necessarily reflect the views of the publisher or staff. Business Improvement Association

SUBMISSIONS/NEWS TIPS Press releases and story ideas are welcomed. Send press releases, tips, photos or story ideas to For breaking news and investigative story ideas contact the editor by phone or email. Copyright © 2017 San Diego Community News Network

Gay San Diego 123 Camino de la Reina, Suite 202 East San Diego, CA 92108 (619) 519-7775 Twitter @GaySD


GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017

Guest Editorial

How I am tackling my top priorities in Sacramento By Toni G. Atkins The 2017 legislative session is well underway, and I am pursuing several of my top priorities while at the same time joining my colleagues in making sure that California remains a national leader in environmental protection and access to quality health care, and serves as a beacon of compassion and inclusiveness when it comes to human rights. Housing affordability remains my top issue, and SB 2 — the Building Homes and Jobs Act — was the first bill I introduced. SB 2 is an important piece of the Senate Democrats’ overall infrastructure bill package as well as a smaller package of priority housing bills. Through a modest document-recording fee on certain real-estate transactions, SB 2 will create a permanent source of funding for affordable housing, generating hundreds of millions of dollars to help thousands of low-income families every year. I am grateful to the California Realtors Association and many other business organizations throughout the state for their support for this bill. These groups understand that not only will SB 2 help create stable housing for struggling families; it also creates jobs — an estimated 29,000 for every $500 million spent on affordable housing. Human trafficking is a serious problem in San Diego and across the state, and I have introduced three new bills to crack down on traffickers and help their victims. SB 270 requires all hotels and motels in California to train their employees to recognize the signs when sex trafficking is happening in their midst and victims are hiding in plain sight, and I sincerely appreciate the support of the California Hotel and Lodging Association for this important bill. While SB 270 helps law enforcement apprehend traffickers, SB 230 helps district attorneys convict them, by allowing a prosecutor, with a judge’s permission, to introduce evidence of a defendant’s past sex-trafficking crimes during trial. This is already allowed in trials involving other types of sex crimes. The third bill, SB 767, helps child victims of sex trafficking after they’ve been rescued from their traffickers. SB 767 provides safe housing and mental health care that’s specifically tailored to the unique type of trauma suffered by children who’ve been used essentially as sex slaves. Meanwhile, with national officials threatening to repeal the Affordable Care Act, California must take ambitious steps to ensure that all of our residents have access to quality health care. That’s why I am partnering with my colleague Sen. Ricardo Lara on SB 562 — the

Sen. Toni G. Atkins Healthy California Act — that will create a universal, single-payer health care system. In the coming months, Sen. Lara and I will be working with all interested parties to craft the details of this plan. Let me tell you, this won’t be easy. The idea is simple — one plan to cover everyone who lives in our state — but health care policy is anything but simple. It’s going to take a lot of hard work. In addition to protecting Californians from what I consider a national path in the wrong direction on health care, I am also committed to expanding the rights of transgender residents while our president is attempting to roll back transgender rights. My bill SB 179 will make it easier for transgender Californians to obtain state-issued identification documents that match their gender identity. With SB 179, our state will be the first to create a nonbinary gender marker for those who don’t identify as either male or female. Another one of my bills, SB 310, will make it easier for transgender people incarcerated in our prisons and jails to obtain a gender or name change — which will bring them a greater sense of dignity while incarcerated and help ease their transition back into society after their release. These are examples of how California is moving forward and solving difficult problems. In many ways, the current leadership in Washington, D.C., is trying to roll back the progress that we’ve made. But California won’t go back. We’ve come too far in areas like climate change, access to health care and civil rights for previously marginalized communities, and I am committed to maintaining that progress, as well as working hard to address our state’s most difficult matters. I look forward to keeping you updated throughout the year on these bills and all of the important issues facing California, and I encourage you to contact my district office at 619-645-3133 and let me know what you think. —Toni G. Atkins represents the 39th District in the California Senate. Follow her on Twitter @SenToniAtkins.▼





GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

North Coast Rep nails Kushner’s ‘Illusion’ Theater Review Charlene Baldridge North Coast Repertory Theatre presents a fi ne production of Tony Kushner’s “The Illusion” — his thoroughly modern 1988 adaptation of Pierre Corneille’s 17th-century work, “L’Illusion Comique” — playing through March 19. Playwright Kushner went on to write the Tony Award- and Pulitzer Prize-winning epic, “Angels in America: A Gay Fantasia of America,” in 1993. Artistic Director David Ellenstein fields an attractive company with exemplary language skills. The production also offers a rare opportunity see actor Kandis Chappell, a beloved and much admired associate artist of The Old

Globe. Prior to moving to New York City more than a decade ago, she played more than 30 roles at The Old Globe. In “The Illusion,” Chappell portrays Alcandre, the sorcerer in whose cave the action takes place. Kudos to Ellenstein for mounting this piece, not seen in professional production in the area since 1999 when it was staged at San Diego Repertory Theatre. Alcandre, notably garbed in diaphanous and flowing wizard wear by costume designer Elisa Benzoni (whose other costumes are stupendous), has many notable speeches about love and life, especially as the play reaches its denouement. All is enhanced of course, by Chappell’s assured grace and her cello-like voice, of which some people never hear enough.

“The Illusion” Karaage chicken with spicy mayo

By Tony Kushner 7 p.m. Wednesdays, 8 p.m. Thursdays-Saturdays, 8 p.m. Saturdays and Sundays, and 2 p.m. Sundays through March 19 North Coast Repertory Theatre 987-D Lomas Santa Fe Drive, Solana Beach $46-$53 with discounts for seniors, students and military or 858-481-1055

(l to r) John Greanleaf (Amanuensis), Kandis Chappell (Alcandre) and John Herzog (Pridamant) in Tony Kushner’s ‘Illusion’ (Photo by Aaron Rumley)

(l to r) Christina L. Flynn, Michael Polak and Sharon Reitkerk

(l to r) Sharon Reitkerk, Andrew Ableson and Michael Polak as Calisto (Photo by Aaron Rumley)

Fifteen years have passed since a father, Pridamant (John Hertzog), sent his son, Calisto (Michael Polak), packing. Suffering equal parts remorse and curiosity, Pridamant visits Alcandre, who from behind a scrim allows him to view scenes from his son’s life. Abashed and concerned, Pridamant is understandably mystified because his son’s name and the

names of others keep changing. Calisto has fallen in love with a highborn woman named Malibea, or Isabelle or Hippolyta (Sharon Rietkerk) as the scenes play out. She is accompanied by her wily servant Elicia, Lyse or Clarina (Christine L. Flynn). The intrigue concerns the noblewoman’s suitors (played by Paul Turbiak and Andrew Ableson), each by turns more foppish, threatening and grandly clad as time goes by. Eventually there are knives and swords, and tragedy (with a capital T) ensues.

More cannot be divulged without spoiling the surprise. Alcandre is assisted through the past’s unfolding by a mostly deaf and mute Amanuensis (fabulous John Greanleaf). Alcandre sends him across the veil separating “reality” from her “charades” when Calisto gets into trouble. The surprise ending is really good fun, but getting there is what matters. The father grows in character before our (equally bewildered) eyes. Kushner’s use of language, meter and rhyme, is a further revelation of his genius. More than merely funny or eye-catching, the play deals with serious issues surrounding parental love as sons and daughters seek to separate and self determine. Marty Burnett is scenic designer, Matthew Novotny lighting designer, and Melanie Chen sound designer. Peter Herman provides hair and wig design, and Polak acts as fight director. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at charlenecriticism. or reach her at▼


A HELL OF A LOT OF FUN! ” The Hollywood Reporter

MARCH 9–12, 2017 Rating: Ages 10 and up.



Book Tickets Now! 619.544.1000 | SDREP.ORG | Lyceum Theatre | Horton Plaza


GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017


BENNY Getting Out With Benny

Just over one more week until the time changes and we have some more sunlight in the day! I absolutely can’t wait. Sunday Funday on Sunday, March 12 will be a fun one because the sun will be shining until at least 7 p.m. Also that day, community member Ebony Mullins is hosting a fundraiser at VomFass in Hillcrest to benefit The Center’s #BeTheGeneration program. She’ll donate 50 percent of all bloody mary and mimosa sales to the cause between 11 a.m.–2 p.m. (and if you haven’t tried one Ebony’s famous bloodys, you’re missing out). More details will be posted on the #BeTheGeneration Facebook page – One of my favorite events at The Center, Guys, Games & Grub, has a date change for March only! This fun social, board game, and live trivia night includes pizza, beer, wine, and other beverages for all attendees in a casual, relaxed environment. Everyone is welcome (not just “guys” anymore) and I guarantee you a good time! Join us on Wednesday, March 8 from 6-8:30 p.m. at The Center. Details – tinyurl. com/h5rgedr. Finally, the San Diego LGBT Visitors Center will host its next monthly Haunted Hillcrest Ghost Tour on Friday, March 10 from 6:30-9 p.m. He has agreed to make this month’s tour a fundraiser for the Hillcrest Town Council, which I’m proud to serve on as vice chair. I hear the tour is really scary, and all participants get a lantern to carry on the tour, and there are stops at bars along the way (drinks will help take the frightful edge off). Details – —Benny Cartwright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619-692-2077 ext. 106 or outreach@thecentersd. org. Note: Byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography.▼

ONE OF A KIND LOCATION. ONE OF A KIND OPPORTUNITY. The wait is over for a lifestyle that lives up to its location. Sophisticated high-rise homes just steps to the vibrant Little Italy scene with prime access to the very best of Downtown and beyond. Stylish new interiors and inviting amenity spaces that beg you to step inside. Coastal breezes and cosmopolitan evenings coming together to create an address and ownership opportunity like no other.


SAVINABYBOSA.COM This is not an offer to sell but intended for information only. Rendering, photography, illustrations, floor plans, amenities, finishes and other information described herein are representative only and are not intended to reflect any specific feature, amenity, unit condition or view when built. No representation and warranties are made with regard to the accuracy, completeness or suitability of the information published herein. The developer reserves the right to make modification in materials, specifications, plan, pricing, designs, scheduling and delivery without prior notice. Represented by S&P Realty Services Corp. CalBRE# 02012517.



GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

[the GSDBA] was started.” LGBT consumers over the years have also preferred to put their money and trust into a gay person’s pocket and busithree-year commitment on ness model than anyone else in the job while ushering in huge the community at large; it just changes to the internal nuts felt better and it still does. and bolts of the organization, That is why the GSDBA sees even greater change on business directory has been the horizon. such a successful tool for nearly Blake, who traces her hisfour decades. The 2017 directory within the local LGBT tory — which for the first time community as one of the early added “LGBT” to its front cover leaders of the local AIDS Walk just last year — is still as popand San Diego Pride, said she ular as it was in 1980, but the thinks “it’s time” to redefine new online version, which will the operational and benefit be available the first week of model of GSDBA. March, makes it more accessi“I have the backing to ble in today’s digital age. The change it,” she said. “As somehard copy directory will go to one who has been an agent of print by mid-March. change, that’s what I’ve done But despite the challenges the last 25 years, start, save or we continue to face, especially close,” she said. “As I tell peowith the current administraple the organization is 37 years tion, times have changed; for old, I wasn’t brought to start it.” the most part, LGBT businessAfter stepping into the role, es no longer operate out of the talking to many who had recentcloset and their needs have ly left the membership and netshifted. working with current members, In keeping with this, Blake it became clear to Blake that the wants to continue moving the chamber had “suddenly became GSDBA forward and making it irrelevant, it became outdated.” more relevant to our communiShe blames the recession, ty and what she calls, “a broadwhich caused business owners er array of members.” to start cutting back on marAnd there is a larger goal. keting expenditures and stop Every quarter, Blake atpaying their memberships. She tends a meeting of all the also points to advancements in area’s smaller chambers, hostsocial media and smart phones. ed by Jerry Sanders, former “That changed everything mayor who is president and and has gradually continued CEO of the San Diego Regional to change things,” she said, Chamber of Commerce. What adding that the forward moveshe has found attending these ments in the socio-political are- meetings is, all the chamna also had an impact. bers are experiencing a drop “When I talk to the older in membership for similar folks, like Jeff Keeny and Chris reasons. “As Jerry Sanders says, ‘If Shaw, they’ll always talk about my members tell me they are how they were operating esjoining for the mixers, I tell sentially in the closet and they them not to join,’” Blake said. wanted to be able to be themselves,” she said. “So that’s why “So it’s a different day; the




modern chamber of commerce needs to not only be involved in business issues, it needs to be involved in the economic health of its community.” What is the solution? To start, less mixers and more member benefits. Blake said she wants to offer a “buffet of benefits” and so far, the GSDBA website has undergone a complete top-to-bottom makeover and offers members much more than ever before.

LGBTBE certification

One of the things the GSDBA is currently focusing on is getting its members LGBT Business Enterprise (LGBTBE) certified. The NGLCC is really pushing the LGBTBE certification and they are the only organization qualified to do this and all their affiliates across the country are working to make this happen. Any LGBT-owned business can get certified, but the fees for certification are waived for NGLCC affiliate members. Certification is beneficial to any LGBT business, just like certification for women-owned, minority-owned and veteran-owned works; it adds an additional layer to your cake and opens you up to federal, state and local opportunities that you may not have been privy to before. Governments — and more and more commercial entities like SDG&E — are mandated to diversify their contracts and spread their dollars across a larger range of business interests. You don’t have to be a large business to get certified or compete for these contracts, as smaller businesses are often required; and in many instances

you can sign on as subcontractors or preferred vendors and get business in a myriad of ways. Most importantly, it puts you on the radar of other businesses looking to partner for these and many other contracts and opportunities. The GSDBA is offering workshops (the last one was Thursday, March 2, the day prior to publication) on a monthly basis to teach members how to get certified. Keep an eye on its website ( and your email for upcoming dates.

Small-business development

The Small Business Development Center (SBDC), which has offices in South Bay (at Southwestern College) and North County (at Mira Costa College) and in Imperial Valley, is also offering workshops for certification and are working with the GSDBA for members that may be unable to perform all the steps on their own, or are unable to get all the required paperwork in order. The SBDC offers additional time and direction to help them on their way. They are also offering a free, four-module training program called “Let’s Work It,” starting March 30, that will help LGBT businesses become

successful. To learn more, email Our next article in this series will focus on the website and the many other ways the GSDBA is shifting its direction and offering more to its members. To learn more about the GSDBA, visit or email Blake at barbrablake@ To learn more about the NGLCC, visit —Reach Morgan M. Hurley at▼


GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017


Making America hopeful again Dustin Lance Black on his first time as an activist, the power of collective protesting and changing hearts with ‘When We Rise’ Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate With an emotionally resonant acceptance speech, Dustin Lance Black accepted the Oscar for Best Original Screenplay in 2009 for “Milk”, a powerful tribute to gay political hero Harvey Milk. Could an Emmy be next? It’s possible, even if the 42-year-old Sacramento native is too modest to admit that his latest screen ambition, “When We Rise,” the accomplished filmmaker’s tremendous seven-part undertaking chronicling the progressive uprising of the 1960s and ’70s, is certainly golden statue-worthy. Partly inspired by LGBT rights activist Cleve Jones’ memoir, “When We Rise: My Life in the Movement,” the miniseries sheds light on our foremothers and -fathers who raised hell — working to combat misogyny, homophobia and racism — to create a changed world for future generations of, as the show declares, “others.” “With this show, I measure success by whether I get a phone call from one of my Southern family members who have never talked about being gay,” Black said. “When that happens, and that conversation is started, it will have succeeded.” And should that conversation stretch beyond Black’s own parochial loved ones, its influence could be life-changing for those in the queer population who now find themselves trying to resist the oppression of Trump’s America. For that reason, “When We Rise” is shockingly relevant, especially considering its half-century-old history isn’t just history — it’s our current reality. During this intimate conversation with Black, the filmmaker gets candid about the beginning of his activism at age 7, the importance of “we” in any resistance movement, and how sharing a story is the first step in changing a mind.

(Chris Azzopardi | CA) Tell me how this miniseries ended up on a commercial network like ABC. (Dustin Lance Black | DLB) This project started for me four years ago, when I heard a rumor that ABC was looking at optioning LGBT history properties and I called my agent and was like, “Is that true?” Just four years before, I had to charge the development cost of “Milk” on my credit card because no one wanted to pay for it — no one was interested! So, I had made my agent book a meeting with the powers that be at ABC, to look them in the eye and see if it was true — and it was. The funny thing is, they said, “We can’t afford you, but who do you think would be good to write and create something like this?” and I just laughed. Like, come on! So, I thought, “Boy, this is an incredible opportunity to tell our LGBT story, or a part of our LGBT story and not be preaching directly to the choir.” I had other networks that had been interested for a long time in something of this nature, and I thought, “They’re gonna spend more money, they’re gonna give me all the time in the world, it’ll be a great experience and we’ll get it absolutely right … and we’re gonna turn around and preach directly to the choir and we might not change a single mind.” Here, I had a chance to tell our stories on the network that I watched as a kid, because as a kid, I grew up in the South, I grew up in the military, I grew up in a conservative home, in a Christian home, and we trusted ABC because ABC told family stories. I thought, “Well, here’s a chance to finally be able to tell the story of my LGBT family to my actual family,” and that’s what I set out to do. That’s why I think it’s remarkable that it’s on ABC. We’ve come to a place where we can perhaps talk the same language of family between these

two Americas and perhaps change hearts and minds in a time when that seems absolutely, critically necessary. (CA) Did you go to the recent Women’s March? And having shot a similar march for “When We Rise,” did it feel like history repeating itself? (DLB) I’m living in London, and we certainly walked through Trafalgar Square, which was jammed with thousands of people. I have to say, I’ve heard the rallying cry at many marches that says, “Gay, straight, black, white, same struggle, same fight.” But usually it’s either mostly black and a little white, or mostly gay and maybe a few straight, even though we chant that chant. This is the first time it truly seemed gay, straight, black, white. It was diverse. And that was, frankly, heartening. The reason I designed this show the way I designed it was because four years ago, I was concerned that social justice movements were becoming incredibly myopic and self-interested, forgetting that we need to work together if we’re gonna get anywhere. Not understanding the intersections of our movements, losing sight of where those intersections are, and certainly forgetting the great power that we can gain by working together. So, I was worried. We were becoming divided and it’s why I insisted when designing the show that I find real people who came from other movements, not just the LGBT movement — people who came from the women’s movement, the black civil rights movement, the peace movement, and the series eventually touches on immigration and healthcare. The most important word in the struggle for equality is “we.” It’s why I told ABC right from the beginning when we designed the title: “We” has to be the biggest word in it. It’s a word we’ve forgotten and it’s

Dustin Lance Black on set with Jonathan Majors (center) who plays a young Ken Jones in the miniseries (Courtesy ABC)

Dustin Lance Black sharing his vision of “When We Rise” (Courtesy ABC) the answer to beating back a backlash. The key is that we have to struggle together. So, I was heartened, frankly, by the diversity I saw, not just in the march that I was physically present for here in London, but the ones I paid careful attention to on TV and online. It gives me a little bit of hope. “When We Rise” touches on this glancingly, but I want to remind gay men that the Gay Liberation Front (of 1969) started as a group of men who were feminists because feminism says loud and clear that “gender ought not determine destiny,” and that means one thing to women, but it certainly means that gay men ought to be able to love who they love regardless of gender. So, gay men need to examine why we haven’t been more vocally feminist. (CA) How was the idea for “When We Rise” first conceived? (DLB) I toyed with the idea for a long time. After “Milk” was over, I started to think about other stories that needed to be told, and I’m doing other LGBT-themed history projects, but I always wondered, “Was there something bigger and how would I go about doing that?” As I met people, activists, along the way, I would sort of catalog their names in my head in case I ever got the chance to do something like this and it was ABC saying they would actually pay for a year of research to really figure out who to depict that set it in motion. So, it was always something I wanted to do and I thought ABC was the right home for it. So then, at great personal expense, I set out on a journey. Let me just say nobody made any money off this thing. If anything, my poor agent and business manager were

sweating it as we got it to year four. (CA) You have Rachel Griffiths, Mary-Louise Parker and Guy Pearce, and then a terrific cast playing them in their youth. How did the casting process work for this? Did you have any of these actors in mind while researching the real-life person they’re playing? (DLB) I never think about who will play the parts while I’m writing if it’s based on a true story because I’m working so hard to get the real people right. Certainly, by the time I was writing the finale, I started brainstorming and I had one dream for (lesbian women’s rights activist) Roma Guy and that was Mary-Louise Parker, and I had one dream for Cleve Jones and that was Guy Pearce. Then, I got this very emotional, beautiful phone call from Michael K. Williams (who plays Ken Jones, AfricanAmerican community organizer) while I was at the airport scouting locations in San Francisco. He told me how personally meaningful the scripts were to him and he talked about the people he lost — his friends and fellow artists in New York — when he was growing up and I could just tell it was coming from a very personal place, so you can’t beat that personal connection. The young cast — we went out searching and we just wanted to cast the very best people. (Transgender civil rights leader) Cecilia Chung was a really interesting one to me. I had said to my casting director that I only wanted to cast trans actors and actresses in the show to play the trans roles and they brought up Ivory (Aquino) to play Cecilia Chung.

see Rise, pg 14


GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

Curry cravings

Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr.

Thai restaurants tend to sneak onto the landscape without any hoopla and then take months to discover if you don’t have a friend who’s an addict to drunken noodles to tell you about them. Such is the case with Veganic Thai Café, which opened quietly more than a year ago in the heart of Hillcrest, where House of Khan resided briefly, and


Mama Testa before that. Given its understated signage and a general lack of buzz, it’s easy to overlook. As the name implies, all of the dishes are plant-based, relying on an array of mock meats to achieve pretty much the same fare found in Thai kitchens that serve meat. If you’re a fan of Plumeria and its vegan dishes, which I am, you’ll like it here. Although if you’re a loud talker or parent arriving with a fussy, nap-deprived toddler, Veganic’s calming Zen-like atmosphere is a misfit.

A bold mural dominates the tastefully appointed café (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) We also tried the pot stickers, filled with minced broccoli and g garlic. What made them lovable w the viscous dipping sauce was of soy, vinegar and garlic. It was tangy, salty

(clockwise from above) Tom Kha soup in a fire pot; green apple salad; yellow curry bowl; “jungle” red curry (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

Hope, Compassion, Love. The Garcias will need them all tonight.

By Nick Gandiello Directed by Gaye Taylor Upchurch

Now – March 26 Tickets start at $29

(619) 23-GLOBE (234-5623)

The cast of The Blameless. Photo by Jim Cox.

The spotless, tastefully decorated interior lacks soundproofing. And the non-cushioned wooden booths and banquettes are like transmitters for every little kick and noise vibration they receive, sending them a few tables in either direction from where you’re sitting. Nevertheless, hubby and I came expressly for the curries. He gravitates to yellow, and I to red. Here, the latter is available also in a more scarlet version called “jungle curry.” It’s void of coconut milk, slightly acidic, and a little spicier no matter what heat level you choose. I chose “four,” which turned the carrots, bamboo shoots, bell peppers and choice of mock duck into a garden of feverish joy. Contributing depth of flavor and additional spice was a cute branch of green peppercorns steeping in the liquid. Ironically, a pot of steaming hot semi-sweet ginger tea on our table served as a temporary mouth coolant.

Conversely, the yellow curry was awfully cloying for my taste, fraught with too much coconut milk and perhaps palm sugar. But hubs with his penchant for all things saccharine loved it, along with the chunky tender potatoes and fresh veggies occupying the bowl. With a lighter appetite, I would come back just for the green apple salad and tom kha soup, which we ordered in a moat-shaped firepot instead of standard cups. Not so spicy, it was coconut-milky, but without tasting overly sweet. The salad’s tartness from the green apples and spicy lime dressing were in poetic harmony with scatterings of faux abalone, which tasted more like salty, fried chicken skins than shellfish. Cashew nuts and red onions added additional texture. Vegan or not, these are the kind of bewitching ingredient matchups that Thai cuisine gives us.

and sweet at the same time. Other menu items include Thai samosas filled with peas, carrots and curried potatoes; potak soup comprising a mixture of mock squid, shrimp and white fish; spicy eggplant stir fry; pineapple fried rice; and various noodle dishes. Ice cream is made in-house with soymilk instead of cream. We chose coconut and loved its icy consistency, which melted like fluffy snow in our mouths. At last, the lingering burn on my palate from the jungle curry had become fully extinguished. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at▼

Veganic Thai Cafe 1417A University Ave. (Hillcrest) 619-230-5540 Prices: Appetizers, soups and salads, $3.95 to $8.95; noodle, rice, curry and stir-fry dishes, $8.95 to $12.95


In celebration of International Women’s Day (known also as Festa Della Donna) on March 8, a powerhouse of local female chefs will unleash their talents at Cucina Enoteca Del Mar a week later, on March 12, as they serve foods from eight different stations in collaboration with acclaimed West Coast winemakers, brewers and distillers. Among the chefs taking part are Giselle Wellman of Pacific Standard Coastal Kitchen; Isabel Cruz of Barrio Star and Isabel’s Cantina; Karen Krasne of Extraordinary Desserts; Jenny Goycochea of Tasting Room Del Mar; and more. The event will be held from 4–7 p.m. Tickets are $68 in advance and $80 the day it’s held. They can be purchased online at 2370 Via De La Valle, Del Mar, 858-704-4500.

Street tacos and other Baja fare on tap at the upcoming Sabor Latino Food, Beer and Wine Festival (Courtesy Media Arts Center San Diego) Fashion Valley Mall’s River Plaza area marks the spot for the second annual Sabor Latino Food, Beer and Wine Festival, which will be held from 1–5 p.m., March 18. The event correlates to the San Diego Latino Film Festival (March 16-26) and will afford guests unlimited tastings of Latino foods and beverages from dozens of regional and Baja-based restaurants, breweries and wineries. Participants include Dobson’s Bar & Restaurant, Harrah’s Resort Southern California, Mi Casa Supper Club, Mantou Pub, Baja Brew Lab, Adobe Guadalupe Winery, and more. Tickets are $50 (for 1 p.m. VIP admission) and $40 (2 p.m. general admission). All proceeds will benefit youth education and outreach programs at Media Arts Center San Diego. 7007 Friars Road, 619-230-1938,

Donuts with an exotic twist are coming to a matcha tea café in North Park (Photo by Stacy Keck)

San Diego’s first café devoted to matcha — a green tea grown in Japan and touted for calming nerves — arrives March 11 to North Park in a former trophy store. The pink-painted café, named Holy Matcha, is the brainchild of Geraldine Ridaura, who became intrigued by the vibrant-green drink during a trip to Japan. Her menu will feature everything from lemonade and lattes to pound cakes and glazed vanilla donuts, all containing the earthy tea. 3118 University Ave.,

Kilowatt Brewing has opened a tasting room in Ocean Beach with a tap list of 16 cleverly named brand beers, such as S3 Strawberry Sour, Bird on a Wire Porter, Galaxy Hoptastic Voyage, and the high-octane Trippy Belgian, which rings in at 9.9 percent alcohol. Based in Kearny Mesa, the company calls itself a “nanobrewery” because it produces “uniquestyled” beer in small batches. The space features psychedelic-style artwork, zany light fi xtures and an outdoor patio. 1875 Cable St., 619-255-9975,

Mark’s Bark might eventually move if a buyer purchases its host building. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) Contrary to circulating rumors, the obscure Mark’s Bark barbecue restaurant in Normal Heights has not closed — at least not yet. The building was recently put up for sale by owner Beverly Beattie, who uses its commercial kitchen to run Bettina’s Custom Catering. Her son, Mark Manfred, oversees Mark’s Bark, which is open from noon to 6 p.m. only on Sundays. Beattie plans on retiring once the building sells, and Manfred, she said, hasn’t decided if he’ll pursue a new space or food truck for selling his smoked meats if a buyer emerges. 3641 Madison Ave., 619-285-9578.

GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017 The French Table in Hillcrest is up and running, although it’s still without a website listing the signature dishes constructed by chef-owner Wilfried Lefebre, who moved here in December from a small town in the French Alps. Open daily for breakfast, lunch and dinner, a preliminary peek inside revealed a menu of various omelets, Normandy crepes, beef bourguignon, cheese fondue, panini sandwiches, and more. Weekday deals are also offered, such as all-you-can-eat mussels on Tuesdays for $25, and three-course dinners for $29 on Thursdays. 142 University Ave., 424-394-7835.

A cozy French restaurant has opened on the west end of University Avenue. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

—Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at ▼

MARCH 10 / 11 / 12M 2017




Tickets start at $25 619.533.7000 Tickets also available at



OF CARMEN Adapted by Peter Brook, based on Bizet’s Carmen

A new production by Alexander Gedeon, Director, Performer, Musician Contains nudity and adult themes.


GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017


Coin Laundry and Professional Fluff & Fold Service at a price everyone can afford!

an, The Cool, Cle o d Fun place to laundr y

Every wash cycle is sanotyzed with Ozone Fresh Water

Fluff + Fold Pricing

The Laundry Room (619) 795-9588

1955 El Cajon Blvd., SD, CA, 92104


Limited Time Offer

3 sessions for $99 Get Started Today!

619.794.0014 *Limited time offer. Terms and conditions apply. See studio for details. ©


I got a little upset with him and Free WiFi, said, “You know, I told you it’s s, ion tat rks Wo Flat screen TVs, important we make an effort and cast trans actors and acLounge Area

Residential: 15lb. min. Fri.-Mon. $1.19 p/lb Tues.-Thurs. $1.09 p/lb Commercial - 25lb. min. $1.09 p/lb Military w/ID - 15lb. min. $1.00 p/lb

Mission Hills 4019 Goldfinch Street San Diego, CA 92103


2017 Fitness Together Franchise Corporation. All rights reserved. Each Fitness Together® studio is independently owned and operated.

tresses for these roles,” and he said, “We think you need to get on the phone with Ivory,” and Ivory came out to me as trans on the phone call. She’s now come out to the world.

(CA) Why was it important for you to include actual trans actors in the trans roles? (DLB) First and foremost, when I’m casting any role, I’m gonna look for somebody who can bring a part of their experience to the role. They still have to be a great actor, so if I can’t find anyone in the world who shares some experience that they’re about to portray in this character, who’s also a good actor, then I’ll happily go for someone else. And the big surprise is, it was not hard to find amazing trans actors and actresses to play these parts. What was difficult was deciding whom to cast, because so many great tapes came in. So, I call bullshit on Hollywood if they say it’s difficult. And if they think it’s difficult, then they should call our casting directors because they found unbelievable trans actors and actresses, and it was actually tough to decide whom to cast. change as well, particularly in this young generation of actors and actresses who, in one way or another, have come out on social media when they were kids and there’s no putting them back in the closet in today’s social-media age. An interesting tidbit to share is, they also worked incredibly hard with the real people when that was possible. For both the young cast and the old cast, on my own dime, I flew up the real people to wherever we were shooting so they could be there to work with the costume department, the set design department and the actors, just to make sure we were as close to truthful as possible.

(CA) Do you remember the first time you stood up for something you believed in? (DLB) [Ponders] My mom was paralyzed from polio since she was 7 years old. She had the use of her arms, but that was about it. So, I grew up with a severely disabled mom and I didn’t quite know that or realize that until I was probably 7 years old, somewhere in the early years of elementary school when we started having to be out in public with strangers. The way they looked at her and the way they treated her, it ate at me. I was an incredibly shy kid. I rarely said a word in school. But there was this student named Anthony who was severely mentally disabled and he would get bullied constantly. I remember the time I (CA) I think people have the finally stood up for him. I was impression it is difficult based on what they’ve heard from very afraid, because I was a directors and casting agents, so tiny little thing [laughs]. And this is refreshing to hear. I remember trembling, but the (DLB) It’s not true. I’ll tell bullies backed down. I told that you what was difficult: Years story to my mom, and my mom ago, it was difficult to find open- looked me in the eyes and said, ly gay actors to play openly gay “You have a strong sense of jusroles — that was difficult. When tice — where does that come we were doing “Milk,” that’s from?” And the answer is pretty what we said we wanted to do obvious: I was hiding a pretty and the studio gave us full perbig difference of my own, and mission to do that. So, we called I knew at that point that I had agents and manager friends crushes on my guy friends and and they all said they didn’t not the girls in school. Certainly, have any gay actors or actresshaving watched my mom being es, which is funny since I knew treated so differently because some of their clients were gay! of her difference, those sorts of [Laughs] It was very frustrating, moments of witness instilled a but thankfully that’s begun to sense of justice in me.

(CA) And now you are one of our most recognized activists. (DLB) Well, your job’s incredibly important right now. I can’t overstate how much we depend on journalists right now to stand up for the truth, so good on you. (CA) We both tell stories about LGBT people and I imagine, like me, you hope that non-queers see your work and come away with a sense of just ... humanity. (DLB) That’s the key, isn’t it? Listen, this show is for ABC. As a kid who grew up watching ABC in the South in a Christian, military home I knew I could show up at the dinner table with all the laws and facts and science I wanted and I wouldn’t change a single mind. You want to change a mind in that other America? You gotta lead from the heart and you do that by telling stories, not by arguing facts or the Constitution. So, that’s what I came armed with for “When We Rise.” I went out and did my best to fi nd true stories — in particular, stories of families, because the family story transcends these two Americas. There’s not a lot we think we have in common right now, but both Americas have family stories and we can both be moved by each other’s family stories. That’s why I mine family stories: the families we lost when so many of us were outed or came out, the makeshift families we had to build to survive, and eventually the families we were able to build and raise. So, by that design, you tell an emotional story, you can change a heart; if you can change a heart, you can change a mind; you change a mind, you can change the law. But it goes in that order, and so this is the fi rst step of that. Let’s try and change some hearts. —Chris Azzopardi is editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter @ chrisazzopardi.▼

A scene from “When We Rise,” a mini-series written by Dustin Lance Black and shown on ABC prime time the week of Feb. 27. DLB also wrote the Oscar-award-winning feature length film, “Milk.” (Courtesy ABC)




North Park, and then moving into larger digs in South Park six years later, Gustwiller has sold more than 750,000 hand-molded, hand-wrapped chocolate bars he produces at the bistro. With a master’s degree in sculpture from San Diego State, the Ohio native began experimenting with truffle and chocolate bar recipes in his home and eased into selling the products to local hotels and at

He delivered with s’mores complemented by frozen blackberries and spiced drinking chocolate. Proceeding creatively to the final round, he squared off with remaining contestant Steven Oliver, a personal chef also based in San Diego. They were required to cook a “romantic dinner” using porterhouse steak with chocolate elements. Gustwiller rose to the occasion by matching the meat to cocoa-balsamic, cocoa nib noodles and asparagus. “It was a stressful experience. I had only 30 minutes to make each dish, which goes by really fast,” Gustwiller said, adding that the actual production of the show is more elaborate than viewers realize and the episode took a day and a half to shoot. “There are 90 people that produce four seasons of the program each year,” he revealed. “All of the food inside the grocery store set is real and at the end of the day, they donate it An array of ingredients for customers all to charity.” to build their own chocolate bars Gustwiller’s prize money (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) was ultimately determined by a frenzied scavenger hunt for certain products in the grocery farmers markets. aisles, with each find netting “It was my primary interest $4,000. to become a functional artist, “I found four of them,” he but you have to sell a lot of artsaid of the finale. work to pay the bills,” he said. Since launching Eclipse “So my chocolate hobby was a Chocolate 10 years ago in practical solution at becoming

Gustwiller preparing a sweet-and-savory beet tureen with basil custard (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017

Eclipse’s ever-expanding line of handmade chocolate bars include a vegan line. (Photo by Frank Sabatini Jr.) a self-employed craftsperson because chocolate is something people can interact with and explore.” Gustwiller soon took the concept further by offering multi-course brunches and dinners infused with chocolate, vanilla or caramel. They’re served daily at the bistro amid a retail section bursting with chocolate bars and truffles in numerous flavors. Some of the confections incorporate fresh produce dried in-house, as well as botanical oils used instead of cream for his new line of vegan truffles. His savory dishes run the gamut with creations such as crispy quinoa fritters accented by cocoa mole and garlic puree; eggs Benedict with burnt caramel Hollandaise sauce; pork and grits with vanilla sea salt; and many others that don’t typically embrace confectionary components. As for the dishes he made on the Food Network, they will likely appear on the bistro menus sooner or later. More recently, Gustwiller began inviting consumers into his world of chocolate-making with “build-a-bar” workshops, held once or twice a month on Thursday evenings. For $25, participants craft two large bars from a choice of 32 different ingredients while enjoying a cocktail, glass of wine or non-alcoholic beverage included in the price. “The workshops allow people to stretch their culinary muscles,” Gustwiller said, noting that consumers can also customize the bars online at and then have them shipped to anywhere in the country. While steadily growing the business both in South Park and online, Gustwiller has maintained a three-year relationship with Daniel Youngren, whom he met at a local food event. “We’re a pretty classic couple running a small business,” Gustwiller said. “He helps with administrative, sales, payroll, everything.” When asked what he’ll do with the show’s prize money

and the national recognition he gained from it, Gustwiller said he plans to spend it on solar energy for the bistro while remaining open to outside investors interested in his green agenda. “It’s our mission to build a solar panel array so we could be America’s first solar-powered lunar-themed chocolate company,” he explained to judges on the show. Eclipse Chocolate Bar & Bistro is located at 2145 Fern



St. For more information, call 619-578-2984 or visit, —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san.▼






s 7PM 7 1 0 2 , 5 1 O 92103 H C R , SAN DIEG A E V A M H T , IF Y 3965 F NESDA







GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017


NEWS Community members are asked to dine out that day at one of the dozens of participating restaurants, where management pledges to donate a portion — between 25 percent and 100 percent — of their day’s proceeds to the effort. Other restaurants over the years have graciously extended the fundraiser over several days. Thousands of diners are expected to once again make it a night of giving back. Organizers are seeking restaurants that would like to participate. “We are so grateful to all the generous restaurants that already have signed up to participate in Dining Out for Life this year and there is still room for even more venues to join us,� said Ian Johnson, director of development for The Center. “This day-long event is always inspirational and providing as many dining options as possible adds to the excitement and success of this event. By supporting Dining Out for Life, participating restaurants help fight HIV in our

community and also have the opportunity to showcase their venue to a new audience.� Those interested can contact Johnson at or 619-692-2077, x247. Organizers are also seeking DOFL Ambassadors to help make the event even better. Being an ambassador is fun, easy and does not require more than 15 hours total to participate. Those in North County wishing to help out should contact Those in the greater San Diego area should email


The North County LGBTQ Resource Center has announced the theme and dates of their 2017 gala — “Rise Up, SHINE ON� will take place June 3 at a private estate. The Center, which moved to a larger, more permanent location last year, is offering more services — specifically to the communities of San Marcos, Oceanside, Carlsbad, Fallbrook, Vista, Encinitas, Escondido and other outlying areas — than ever before.

Follow us on ‌

House for Rent

Search for ‌ Gay San Diego



AUTO DONATIONS Donate Your Car to Veterans Today! Help and Support our Veterans. Fast - FREE pick up. 100% tax deductible. Call 1-800- 245-0398


VIAGRA & CIALIS! 50 pills for $95. 100 pills for $150 FREE shipping. NO prescriptions needed. Money back guaranteed! 1-877- 743-5419 OXYGEN - Anytime. Anywhere. No tanks to refill. No deliveries. The All-New Inogen One G4 is only 2.8 pounds! FAA approved! FREE info kit: 844-558-7482 Lung Cancer? And 60+ Years Old? If So, You And Your Family May Be Entitled To A Significant Cash Award. Call 877-648-6308 To Learn More. No Risk. No Money Out Of Pocket.


AIRLINE MECHANIC TRAINING - Get FAA Technician certification. Approved for military benefits. Financial Aid if qualified. Job placement assistance. Call Aviation Institute of Maintenance 866-453-6204

Spectrum Triple Play TV, Internet & Voice for $29.99 ea. 60 MB per second speed No contract or commitment. We buy your existing contract up to $500! 1-855652-9304 Medicare Patients Call Health Hotline Now! 1- 844-502-1809

DRIVER TRAINEES NEEDED! Learn to drive for Stevens Transport! NO EXPERIENCE NEEDED! New drivers earn $900+ per week! PAID CDL TRAINING! Stevens covers all costs! 1-888-7346714

CASH FOR CARS: We Buy Any Condition Vehicle, 2000 and Newer. Nation’s Top Car Buyer! Free Towing From Anywhere! Call Now: 1- 800-864-5960.

AIRLINE MECHANIC TRAINING - Get FAA certification. Approved for military benefits. Financial Aid if qualified. Job placement assistance. Call Aviation Institute of Maintenance 888-686-1704

CRUISE VACATIONS – 3, 4, 5 or 7+ day cruises to the Caribbean. Start planning now to save $$ on your fall or winter getaway vacation. Royal Caribbean, Norwegian, Carnival, Princess and many more. Great deals for all budgets and departure ports. To search for your next cruise vacation visit

Drive with Uber. You'll need a Smartphone. It's fun and easy. For more information, call: 1-844-700-8936


MAKE MONEY MAILING POSTCARDS! Easy Work, Great Pay! FREE Info: Call 1-619-649-0708. 24/Hours Guaranteed Legitimate Opportunity! Register Online Today!




Renee Differ Registered Tax Preparer Individuals & Businesses Rentals & Investments Reporting Bookkeeping & Payroll Processing Audits & Amended Returns Notary Public Mobile Appointments

Experienced & Professional

SAVE YOUR HOME! Are you behind paying your MORTGAGE? Denied a Loan Modification? Is the bank threatening foreclosure? CALL Homeowner's Relief Line now for Help 855-402-3220

HEALTH & FITNESS VIAGRA 100MG and CIALIS 20mg! 50 Pills $99.00 FREE Shipping! 100% guaranteed. CALL NOW! 1 -866-312-6061 Hablamos Espanol

619-516-0400 LAW

Got Knee Pain? Back Pain? Shoulder Pain? Get a pain-relieving brace at little or NO cost to you.

HERO MILES - to find out more about how you can help our service members, veterans and their families in their time of need, visit the Fisher House website at DONATE TIMESHARES Cars or Real Estate. Fast and Easy. Tax Deductible. Call Today! 1-800-363-6319 DonateTS.COM

HOME IMPROVEMENT Advance General Contractingg & Painting



Garden Design & Maintenance

â&#x20AC;˘ Complete Remodeling â&#x20AC;˘ Electrical â&#x20AC;˘ Flooring â&#x20AC;˘ Painting â&#x20AC;˘ Plumbing â&#x20AC;˘ Windows

Free Estimates

Call (619)995-6741

CASH PAID for unexpired, sealed DIABETIC TEST STRIPS! 1 DAY PAYMENT & PREPAID shipping. HIGHEST PRICES! Call 1-888- 776-7771. SOCIAL SECURITY DISABILITY BENEFITS. Unable to work? Denied benefits? We Can Help! WIN or Pay Nothing! Contact Bill Gordon & Associates at 1-855-4986323 to start your application today!




CARS/TRUCKS WANTED!!! All Make/ Models 2000-2015! Any Condition. Running or Not. Competitive Offer! Free Towing! Weâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re Nationwide! Call Now: 1-888-416-2330.




CARS/TRUCKS WANTED!!! All Makes/ Models 2000-2016! Any Condition. Running or Not. Top $$$ Paid! Free Towing! We're Nationwide! Call Now: 1-888-985-1806

see Briefs pg 17

FOR RENT Cozy 2 bedroom, 2 bath house. Close to all. Looking for quiet, responsible tenant. Indoor cat ok. $1,600 Rent, $800 Deposit 4345 Louisiana St. Call Jesse â&#x20AC;&#x201C; 619-250-5384


Ca. Contractor License #920677


DIGITAL HEARING AIDS - Now offering a 45Day Risk Free Offer! FREE BATTERIES for Life! Call to start your free trial! 888-675- 5116

SWITCH TO DIRECTV. From $50/Month, includes FREE Genie HD/DVR & 3 months HBO, SHOWTIME, CINEMAX, STARZ. Get a $50 Gift Card. Call 888-672-1159

MOTORCYCLES WANTED OLD JAPANESE MOTORCYCLES KAWASAKI Z1-900 (1972-75), KZ900, KZ1000 (1976-1982), Z1R, KZ 1000MK2 (1979,80), W1-650, H1-500 (1969-72), H2-750 (1972-1975), S1250, S2-350, S3-400, KH250, KH400, SUZUKI-GS400, GT380, HONDACB750K (1969-1976), CBX1000 (1979,80) CASH!! 1-800-772-1142 1-310-7210726

WANTED TO BUY CASH PAID- up to $25/Box for unexpired, sealed DIABETIC TEST STRIPS. 1-DAYPAYMENT.1-800-371-1136 Wants to purchase minerals and other oil and gas interests. Send details to P.O. Box 13557 Denver, Co. 80201 ADVERTISE to 10 Million Homes across the USA! Place your ad in over 140 community newspapers, with circulation totaling over 10 million homes. Contact Independent Free Papers of America IFPA at or visit our website for more information Reader Advisory: The National Trade Association we belong to has purchased the above classifieds. Determining the value of their service or product is advised by this publication. In order to avoid misunderstandings, some advertisers do not offer employment but rather supply the readers with manuals, directories and other materials designed to help their clients establish mail order selling and other businesses at home. Under NO circumstance should you send any money in advance or give the clientyour checking, license ID, or credit card numbers. Also beware of ads that claim to guarantee loans regardless of credit and note that if a credit repair company does business only over the phone it is illegal to request any money before delivering its service. All funds are based in US dollars. Toll free numbers may or may not reach Canada.

DISH SPECIAL! Stop paying for channels you don't watch! Starting at $39.99/mo. FREE Next-Day Installation + FREE $50 giftcard with signup courtesy of SatelliteDeals Call 866-620-9429 Lung Cancer? And Age 60+? You And Your Family May Be Entitled To Significant Cash Award. Call 866-428-1639 for Information. No Risk. No Money Out Of Pocket. Make a Connection. Real People, Flirty Chat. Meet singles right now! Call LiveLinks. Try it FREE. Call NOW: 1-888-909-9905 18+. Make a Connection. Real People, Flirty Chat. Meet singles right now! Call LiveLinks. Try it FREE. Call NOW: Call 1-877-737-9447 18+

BATHTUBS REFINISHED Like new without removal. Bathtubs â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Kitchen Sinks â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Wash Basins. Fiberglass & Porcelain. Over 25 years in San Diego. Lic#560438. 619-464-5141


VIAGRA 100MG and CIALIS 20mg! 40 Pills + 10 FREE. SPECIAL $99.00 100% guaranteed. FREE Shipping! 24/7 CALL: 1-888-223- 8818 Hablamos Espanol.



BRIEFS In a recent letter signed by Lisa Nava, NCLGBTQ Resource Center Chair, Nava stated: “In these past years, over 50,000 people have visited the North County LGBTQ Resource Center, which now offers more activities and programming than ever before. Among these, more youth events, leadership summits and more gender therapists are available in the area. “Our vision of creating a safe space for all has already had practical outcomes. We created the only certified LGBTQI training programs, which were offered to 46 organizations, with a total of 100 hours of training and 1,500 personnel certifications. This alone has made the North County region and our schools a more inclusive and accepting community for us and our allies and offered other youth providers the possibility to better serve the LGBTQ community.” In addition to raffle prizes, dinner, drinks and networking, attendees will get to hear the comedy of Julie Goldman, who will also participate in a meet and greet. Musical guest is Lee Coulter. Advance tickets for the gala are $100 for general admission and $150 for VIP but they will go up May 8, to $125 for GA and $175 for VIP. To purchase tickets, visit


The 26th annual Mama’s Day on May 12 from 6:30–9:30 p.m. will feature 55 chefs from restaurants, hotels and catering companies all over San Diego, each who will graciously give their time, energy and edibles to prepare delicious samples of food for the nearly 600 attendees to this valuable fundraiser. Always held the Friday evening before Mother’s Day, this popular annual fundraiser has been raising money for Mama’s Kitchen, which delivers hot, nutritious meals free of charge to local men, women and children affected by AIDS or cancer. Last year Mama’s Kitchen delivered 51,000 meals and raised $165,000. Presented by Nordstrom and Sycuan, Mama’s Day will be hosted by the Hyatt Regency La Jolla at Aventine, located at 3777 La Jolla Village Drive. In addition to the dozens of delicious food samples, attendees will enjoy music and other fun throughout the evening, including a silent auction and opportunity drawings. “I am committed to Mama’s Kitchen because I have seen first-hand the impact that Mama’s makes on the lives of our clients,” said longtime volunteer Jennifer Kearns, this year’s chair of the event. “They are so grateful for our deliveries of nutritious food, accompanied by a warm smile. “Mama’s Day is our largest fundraising event and every year, our valued food and beverage providers raise the bar higher and higher,” Kearns continued. “It’s truly a culinary extravaganza.”

Pre-sale tickets to this premier tasting event are $150 per person in advance and $175 at the door. Premium VIP tickets are available for $250 each, and include early access at 5:30 p.m. to an exclusive VIP dining area and pre-party featuring a private culinary chef’s presentation before the doors open to general admission attendees at 6:30 p.m. VIPs also enjoy a full hosted bar for two hours. Sponsorships are still available and there are many more opportunities for chefs and restaurants to participate. For tickets or more information, visit or email Tegan Ellis at tegan@


As of Feb. 28, Araceli “Cheli” Mohamed returned to the San Diego LGBT Community Center as director of volunteer services and community leadership development. She broke the news on her personal Facebook page. “The first time I was hired at The Center in 1995, I had just graduated from UCSD, was driving a brand new car and was the current Ms. SD Leather – I was young, naïve and full of hope (and a little full of myself). “21 years later, I am coming back home to the San Diego LGBT Community Center. Now, I have salt and pepper hair, a few more pounds, a few more activist scars, a better understanding of politics, an incredible partner in life … and four amazing kids. “Now I am not so naïve — now I am determined to make this world just a little better for my kids, all our kids, our seniors, our people of color, our immigrants, our women, our LGBT community — now #45 will have listen to me, our collective communities, and the rest of the world as we RISE and RESIST! Because our rights can’t be taken away overnight, but they can be chipped away — every day that we remain silent.” The popular Mohamed is well known within the local LGBT community, especially through her many hours of volunteer work at San Diego Pride. Her most recent job was as chief operations officer for the United States Police and Fire Championships, but Mohamed has spent two decades in nonprofit social service related jobs with a focus on volunteer work. “Her professional background includes program and corporate development, volunteer management, crisis intervention, HIV/AIDS prevention and education, fundraising and special events,” stated a press release from The Center announcing her return. Sara Merk-Benitez, former volunteer coordinator, was promoted to director of services integration upon Mohamed’s hiring, a new role that The Center said will “ensure that staff, services and programs provide community members with simple, streamlined access to the full set of services” they offer. Merk-Benitez, who first began as a volunteer at The Center, was eventually hired as a contract worker and when the contract was up in 2015, she was hired full time.▼

GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – 16, 2017



GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

Friday, March 3

Top of the Bay T-Dance Launch: Meet on the fifth floor of the Porto Vista Hotel for the relaunch of Top of the Bay San Diego — the original LGBT happy hour — located on the hotel’s rooftop with beautiful harbor views. The T-dance starts at 6 p.m. with a social hour, followed by rotating DJs at 7 p.m., including DJ dirtyKURTY. Roundtrip shuttle service available to and from Rich’s Nightclub in Hillcrest and attendees also receive a hand stamp, good for free entry into Rich’s from 10 p.m. to midnight; ask front desk for hand stamp. Visit tinyurl. com/j84czj7.

Saturday, March 4

Impeachment March: Come clean up Dog Beach then march to the Ocean Beach Pier and replicate the human protest sign from Ocean Beach San Francisco. Participants will spell out “IMPEACH” on the sand. 10 a.m. Start at the end of West Point Loma Drive and end at 1950 Abbott St. Visit tinyurl. com/h3lvvvh. Celebrate 365: Pardon My French restaurant is celebrating a year in business and they want you to be a part of it. Food, drink specials, live music, community and lots of love. 6–10 p.m. 3797 Park Blvd., North Park/Hillcrest border. Visit

Sunday, March 5

Chamber Choral presents ‘Americana’: SDGMC’s Chamber Choral was selected as part of the acclaimed music series of First United Methodist Church of San Diego. The Chamber Chorale will present its popular Americana concert, featuring traditional masterworks such as “Amazing Grace,” “Shenandoah,” “Battle Hymn of the Republic,” “America the Beautiful” and more. 7 p.m. First United Methodist Church, 2111 Camino del Rio South, Mission Valley. Tickets are $15 in advance, $20 at door. Students through age 25 with ID are free. Visit Bear Night: Resident DJ Jon Williams will get you sweating in the Big Room while DJ Sean Nile of LA will get you off in the Sideshow Bar. Cruise, dance and drink it up with the woofiest men, bears and cubs in town during happy hour from 9 to 10 p.m., but the fun lasts until 2 a.m. Flack’s grilled-to-order burgers on the patio. Numbers Nightclub, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest/North Park border. Visit Live Music: Country music rocker Chase Rice with Nashville country artist Jason Mizelle. Doors open 7 p.m. All ages. Tickets $27.50–$55. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Downtown.

Monday, March 6

Industry Night at Diversionary: Lisa Kron’s “2.5 Minute Ride” (in repertory with “Well,” another play by award-winning Kron, which plays on alternating days) returns to Diversionary Theatre. “2.5 Minute Ride” is an inventive solo show — a roller coaster adventure through the playwright’s family album — focusing on her relationship with her Holocaust-survivor father. Swirling through three disparate yet strikingly resonant experiences of a trip to Auschwitz, a Brooklyn wedding and an annual outing to an Ohio amusement park, a disarming story emerges about the ties that bind a family and a compelling portrait of a honorable man. 7 p.m. This night, normally “dark,” has been set aside for those also in the “biz” who rarely get to see the work of their peers. 4545 Park Blvd., #1, University Heights. Visit Live Music: Country music rocker Chase Rice with Nashville country artist Jason Mizelle. Doors open 7 p.m. All ages. Tickets $27.50–$55. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Downtown.

Tuesday, March 7

Showtunes Spaghetti Tuesday: Urban MO’s Bar & Grill presents musical clips from your favorite movie and stage productions for

Showtunes Tuesdays, 6-10 p.m. Feast on an all-you-caneat spaghetti dinner for $6 per person from 5 p.m. until closing. Pop videos rock the house from 10 p.m. until closing. 308 University Ave. in Hillcrest. Visit tinyurl. com/hmnyghn.

Wednesday, March 8

Wine & Canvas: Join Wine and Canvas and celebrate San Diego Festival of Science and Engineering Week with some drinks and painting. Co-sponsored by Fleet Science Center, you’ll be led through your own masterpiece of “Ocean Beach Pier,” while learning about marine biology and next-generation climate models. Admission is $35 and includes all necessary art materials. 21 and up. ID required. 6–9 p.m. at 57 Degrees, 1735 Hancock St. in Mission Hills. Visit

Thursday, March 9

Back Stage at Diversionary: Lisa Kron’s “2.5 Minute Ride” (in repertory with “Well,” another play by award-winning Kron, which plays on alternating days) returns to Diversionary Theatre. “2.5 Minute Ride” is a roller coaster adventure through the playwright’s family album, focusing on her relationship with her Holocaustsurvivor father. Experience trips to Auschwitz, a Brooklyn wedding and an annual outing to an Ohio amusement park, which portrays the ties that bind a family and a compelling portrait of a honorable man. Join director Rosina Reynolds before the show for hosted hors d’oeuvres from Sultan Banoo and hear her guiding vision for the play and ask questions. Preshow reception 6 p.m., show 7 p.m. 4545 Park Blvd., #1, University Heights. Visit

Friday, March 10

Hillcrest Ghost Tour: San Diego's only lantern-led neighborhood walking tour will take you on a spirited

2½-hour adventure to explore the most haunted and historic buildings in Hillcrest. Departs at 6:30 p.m. from the fountains in front of Scripps Mercy Hospital, 4077 Fifth Ave., and ends at the Hillcrest Pride Flag. Benefits the Hillcrest Town Council and the San Diego LGBT Visitors Center. Call 619-432-LGBT (5428) to reserve your lantern and visit for all the details.

Saturday, March 11

Pride Youth Lunch Bunch: Every second Saturday, San Diego Pride invites LGBTQ+ junior high and high school-aged youth to mingle with one another with free lunch and activities. This month the Lunch Bunch will be decorating “gender bread” cookies. Produced by San Diego Pride, The Trevor Project San Diego and the Hillcrest Youth Center. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. For questions, contact Josh Coyne at San Diego Pride Office, 3620 30th St., North Park. Visit Art of Pride Youth Art Show: Calling all young artists! The San Diego Pride office will be opening its doors to feature art by local LGBTQ+ youth artists, currently enrolled in junior high and high school. Coincides with North Park’s Ray at Night, which is San Diego’s largest and longest-running monthly art walk. 6–8 p.m. San Diego Pride office, 3620 30th St., North Park. For submission guidelines, to register and learn more, visit Jock/Harness Party: MAN UPP presents Lucky Fukr in March. DJ Corey Craig of New York will be spinning hot beats for the evening. Wear your favorite jock and harness and get lucky at the largest dance space in Hillcrest! The VIP area includes backstage passes and upstairs access. 8 p.m.–2 a.m. at the World Beat Center, 2100 Park Blvd. Early bird tickets are available. Visit

Sunday, March 12

Preview at Cygnet

Monday, March 13

Craft Beer & Canvas: Kick off the Monday blues with an evening of drinks and painting with Wine & Canvas. Create your very own masterpiece while enjoying this craft beer location for a change of pace. Admission is $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by-20-inch gallery wrapped canvas. Tonight’s art selection is “Blue Lagoon.” 21 and up. ID required. Free parking. 6–9 p.m. at Gordon Biersch, 5010 Mission Center Road, Mission Valley. Visit tinyurl. com/a5m2hhz

Tuesday, March 14

HTC Annual Meeting: The Hillcrest Town Council invites all Hillcrest residents and friends to its annual community meeting, where elections and amendments to bylaws will take place. The meeting will also include updates from local elected officials and representatives, community organizations and public comment. 6:30-8 p.m. Joyce Beers Community Center, 3900 Vermont St. For more information, contact info@ or visit

see Calendar, pg 19


solution on page 16


ACROSS 1 Collette of “United States of Tara” 5 Puts the tongue between the cheeks 9 “___ fan tutte” 13 “Ben Hur” or “Spartacus” 14 Red rind contents 15 Sherman Hemsley religious sitcom 16 Unimportant 17 Ward of “Once and Again” 18 Aquarium 19 Gathering for tops and bottoms? 22 Writer Castillo 23 Mapa of “Switched at Birth” 24 Connection with people 28 Marine role of Jim Nabors 32 Be in the hole 33 Stops suckling 36 Kunis of “Black Swan” 37 Country ruled by a dick-tator? 40 One of Grampa Walton’s grandaughters

Theatre: Enjoy a low-priced preview on this Sunday afternoon in Old Town with “On the 20th Century,” a madcap musical comedy directed by Sean Murray. The 20th Century is a luxury train traveling from Chicago to New York City. Luck, love and mischief collide when the bankrupt theater producer Oscar Jaffee embarks on a mission to cajole glamorous Hollywood starlet Lily Garland into playing the lead in his new, non-existent epic drama. But is the train ride long enough to reignite the spark between these former lovers, create a play from scratch, and find the money to get it all the way to Broadway? 2 p.m. Old Town Theatre, 4040 Twiggs St., Old Town. Visit jpfy5d9.

41 Presbyterian minister Jane 42 Went down on 43 Cul-___ 45 Equated 47 Like Albee’s three women 50 Neighbor of Ariz. 51 Computer storage of phallic pictures? 57 Date opening? 58 Mary Richards’ spunk, for example 59 “Charlie’s Angels” role 61 Second fruit eater 62 “___ Upon a Mattress” 63 Hairy twin 64 Anna Madrigal’s daughter 65 One who looks into crystal balls 66 Cold-cock

1 Word after pro 2 Source of oil-based lubricants 3 Robert De ___ 4 Top of the world 5 Where motorists get off 6 What comes to mind 7 One of the Obama girls 8 Vidal’s “Visit to a ___ Planet” 9 Where the ancients stuck their bones 10 Barbra’s “Funny Girl” guy 11 Tickled pink 12 Like a desk blotter 20 “If I’d only ___!” 21 Ball holder for Patty Sheehan 24 Like Orlando Cruz before a bout 25 Gay-friendly, perhaps 26 Meaning of the homojis that appear in circles 27 Canvas covering 29 City of Da Vinci’s “Last Supper”

30 Top 31 Competed at Indy 34 Scott of “Beautiful Thing” 35 The hole she bang, perhaps? 38 Curse from Jeremy Irons in “The Borgias” 39 Dweebish “Family Matters” boy 44 The Batmobile, e.g. 46 Caused to come out 48 HRC's equal sign, and others 49 “SNL” producer Michaels 51 Word to a dominatrix 52 Bring to naught 53 Trey does his voice on “South Park” 54 Disney’s Mickey and Minnie, e.g. 55 Bear up there 56 Guillermo of “Weeds” 60 Wicks of the WNBA


CALENDAR Live Music: Classic rockers UFO with their original lineup along with English heavy metal band Saxon. Doors open 7 p.m. All ages. Tickets $25–$45. House of Blues, 1055 Fifth Ave., Downtown. HouseofBlues. com/SanDiego.

Wednesday, March 15

FilmOut presents ‘Making Love’: It’s the 35th anniversary of this groundbreaking film, which stars Michael Ontkean, Kate Jackson and Harry Hamlin in a film about the disintegration of a marriage when the husband decides to explore a relationship with a man. It is a compelling film about love,

honesty and courage and one of the very first full-length feature films from a major studio to deal with homosexuality. Running Time: 111 minutes, Rated R. The nonprofit FilmOut San Diego presents this seminal gay film from 7–10 p.m. at Landmark’s Hillcrest Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. For tickets, visit

Thursday, March 16

‘The Girl from Oz’: Courtney Act takes you over the rainbow and down under in her new show, “The Girl from Oz.” Chock full of hits and high notes, you will leave this show realizing there’s no place like her home! 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth Table + Stage, 3940 Fourth Ave. For more information and tickets, visit


Cygnet Wine Party: Come out for a Cygnet Theatre fundraiser and enjoy wine, appetizers and help them plan their upcoming gala. Bring a bottle of wine that costs $25 or more for Cygnet’s gala, “Gin & Jazz,” and get a free cupcake. They are trying to collect 100 bottles total for a wine pull at the gala. Babycakes, 3766 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


GAY SAN DIEGO March 3 – March 16, 2017

3U(3DSSRLQWPHQWVR΍HUHGDW Hillcrest Family Health Center 4094 4th Ave. San Diego, CA 92103 0RQGD\7KXUVGD\ 8AM–9PM )ULGD\ 8AM–5PM )RU$SSRLQWPHQWV (619) 876-4462

© 2016 California Department of Public Health. This material may not be reproduced or disseminated without prior written permission from the California Department of Public Health. This material has been reviewed by an authorized local review panel. Funded by the County of San Diego, Health and Human Services Agency.

Gay San Diego 03-03-17  
Gay San Diego 03-03-17