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District 4 County Board of Supervisors election


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8 FEATURE District 3 City Councilmember Chris Ward (center) holds a seat that since 1992, has been held by a member of the LGBT community. Openly LGBT District 9 Councilmember Georgette Gomez is at Ward's right. (Courtesy Office of Councilmember Chris Ward)

Transcending history

A chat with a Leather Pride elder

As a husband and a father, Ward embraces an intersected community


Morgan M. Hurley | Editor [Editor’s Note: This is the third and final article in a series on San Diego’s three sophomore LGBT City Councilmembers, which also included Cori Schumacher in Carlsbad (“A vision for change,” Vol. 9, Issue 2, or online at; and Georgette Gomez of San Diego’s

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District 3 Councilmember Chris Ward takes the storied history of his seat on the San Diego City Council and the shoulders that he and others have come to stand on very seriously. Now entering his

second year as the representative for District 3, which he acknowledged has been held “by a really special long line of LGBT representation” for over 26 years, he recently took some time to reflect on our “community of interest” and his role within it.

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Later this month, HRC San Diego will hold its 10th annual “Bowling for Equality” event, Saturday, Feb. 24, with two sessions; 12:30–2:30 p.m. and 3–5 p.m., at Kearny Mesa Bowl, located at 7585 Clairemont Mesa Blvd. in Kearny Mesa. Presented by Century 21 Award, the event is HRC San Diego’s second largest fundraiser each year, next to their annual gala, which takes place each August. HRC San Diego is a local chapter of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), a national organization that represents more than 3 million members and supporters.

HRC educates the public about LGBTQ issues and advocates for LGBTQ rights and is considered the largest civil rights organization focused on LGBTQ equality. According to its website, “HRC envisions a world where LGBTQ people are ensured of their basic equal rights, and can be open, honest and safe at home, work and in the community.” This bowling event is one of many events throughout the year that allows the local chapter to assist the national team in the march toward full equality. “I am thrilled to have taken on the co-chair role for the Bowling for Equality event along with Beth Kind, my


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(l to r) Event co-chairs Matthew Price and Beth Kind (Courtesy HRC San Diego) fellow co-chair, and have held active roles in both events,” said Matthew Price, corporate sponsorship chair for the San Diego chapter of HRC, as well as silent auction co-chair for the annual gala.

see Bowling, pg 1

In late July 2017, I began writing to the six candidates who had announced they are running for the seat currently occupied by termed-out San Diego County Supervisor Ron Roberts in District 4. They are, in alphabetical order: Bonnie Dumanis, Nathan Fletcher, Ken Malbrough, Marcia Nordstrom, Omar Passons and Lori Saldaña. During the past eight months, I interviewed each a number of times. Then I asked that they express their thoughts, qualifications, experience, awareness etc. with a focus on the aging of the county’s population, its impact and what can or should be done and why, through a selection of questions I posed them. Each took the time to provide written replies. Their responses will be shared in the March 2, 16, and 30 issues of Gay San Diego. The reason for this focus is alarming and frightening. An enormous and growing number of older constituents are living in poverty and too many with a woefully insufficient supply of safe, affordable and accessible housing, food, medical care, transportation, social engagement and assistance to lift them up, or where and when capable, help lift themselves up. Before endorsing a candidate, I and a growing number of seniors, their families and caregivers need to understand just how aware the candidates are regarding what Stephen Russell, executive director of the San Diego Housing Federation, has referred to as a “catastrophe” and County Supervisor and chair Dianne Jacob called a “challenge we are unprepared to meet.” While there are numerous priority issues the county board of supervisors and their constituents are

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We are all Allison Janney ‘I, Tonya’ actress on Tonya Harding’s queerness, girl crushes and her quest to play a ‘pioneering lesbian’ By Chris Azzopardi Allison Janney shares many of your concerns, like, what’s up with the president’s wild contradictions and flat-out lies? And what will happen to the LGBTQ community under his administration? And, of course, something we’ve all wondered from time to time — and an issue she definitely plans on addressing with her agent soon, be-cause it’s high time — “Where are all my lesbian roles?” Though her latest turn in “I, Tonya” is not queer by definition — but, as infamous figure-skating icon Tonya Harding’s mother (Harding is played by actress Margot Robbie), one of her very best and most Oscar-buzzy roles, so all is obviously forgiven — the chameleonic 58-year-old actress has delightedly dipped into some impressive gay fare both onstage and in film. Here, the beloved and soonto-be-lesbian-somewhere Emmy winner discusses Harding as a queer icon, identifying with the LGBTQ community as an outsider herself and kissing “a lot of cool women.” (Chris Azzopardi | CA) LGBTQ people — we are all Tonya. (Allison Janney | AJ) Right? Everyone identifies with her. Everyone can identify with Tonya because she’s struggling to have a voice and the powers that be deemed that she was not worthy of having a voice in the figure skating world, didn’t think she fit in. It’s so classic. And then the press vilified her and we were all told what to believe about her and we kind of believed it, because it was the advent of the 24-hour news cycle. Just spoon-fed to us every day: Tonya, bad; Nancy — princess, good. So, to do this movie and to see all the different things that were at play in her life makes you have so much more empathy for her. And I was so excited to meet her at the premiere. She was there! I just wanted to hug her and hold her. Sometimes I’m not great with

words and I just wanted to hug her. (CA) You play her disapproving monster of a mother, LaVona Golden, which will strike a chord with many people in the LGBTQ community who have experienced parental disapproval because of their sexuality. (AJ) Oh, sure! (CA) Tonya has been called a gay icon. Do you see her as a gay icon? (AJ) I never have thought about it before, but now that you’re saying it, I understand the reasons why she would be. (CA) She wanted to be loved for who she was. (AJ) Wanting to be loved for who she was! Absolutely, I can see why it would resonate with the gay community — with women too. With anyone who has felt like an underdog or not felt like they had a voice. As I talk about this movie more and more to people like yourself, I’m learning more about it and why it’s resonating right now. It’s also the concept of truth and what that is and you know, the media told us what to believe was true and we did, and now in this time that we’re living in with the president [being] wildly contradictory — it’s phenomenal to me what’s going on in the country and in our discourse, and [sighs] I just feel it’s one of the most divisive, scary times I’ve ever experienced in my lifetime, certainly. (CA) You mentioned Tonya as the “underdog,” a word you have also used to describe yourself. (AJ) Yeah. (CA) Do you think that has anything to do with why you’ve attracted a doting LGBTQ following? (AJ) Maybe that’s it! I was always just told I was too tall to act and told I wasn’t pretty enough, that I didn’t have enough edge. Didn’t have this, that. Everyone in the business

told me that and it was heartbreaking to me; and yet I tried to find other things to do, but this was really the only thing I was really meant to be, this time ’round [laughs]. I think it might also just be the characters that I get to play. Some of them speak to the community because they are that underdog character — now I’m trying to make up a theory out of something I haven’t thought about [laugh]. But I also think it’s that I love to bring the humanity to every character I play. (CA) I’m sure that your gay fans also appreciate that you seem to enjoy randomly kissing women. (AJ) I do! [Laughs] Oh my gosh, I don’t know if you’ve seen my kiss with Cloris Leachman but that is, like, the best kiss. (CA) Better than Kate Winslet even? (AJ) How about that moment?! That floored me. And I just thought, “Did she just say my name?” [Winslet gushed about Janney at the Hollywood Film Awards in Novem-ber.] It was one of the funniest moments for me, and I thought, “How can I not just go up and kiss her?” I mean, Meryl Streep, Kate Winslet — i’ve kissed a lot of cool wom-en and men! (CA) In our 2016 interview, Meryl Streep told me kissing you was a real “perk.” (AJ) She said “perk”? I love her! (CA) Is that what all the women say about kissing you? (AJ) I don’t know! Meryl is the only one I’ve gotten feedback on. Actually, no, Rosie! I got to kiss Rosie. Rosie said I was a good kisser. And Rosie O’Donnell is a great kisser, I have to say. She’s a very good kisser. On [the CBS sitcom] “Mom,” she plays a woman that I used to have a relationship with and there’s one episode where I kiss her a couple of times and it was really — she’s a good kisser! [Laughs]

It took Allison Janney three hours every day to transform into LaVona Golden, Tonya Harding’s mother. (Photos courtesy NEON) (CA) What was the moment in your career you knew you had an LGBTQ following? (AJ) I feel like [1999s] “Drop Dead Gorgeous” was the start of that for me. And it was a slow dawning, awakening, realization that was happening and I thought that was the highest show of honor to be embraced by the gay community. It was like, “OK, you guys know.” I don’t want to say something stereotypical, but a lot of the men that I know who are my dear friends have a real appreciation for women who are strong and powerful and kickass. They really, really love strong women. They’re not afraid of women the way that some heterosexual men are. But they love a strong dame. They love a dame! So, that’s high praise. It’s high praise coming from the gays. So I am thrilled that I am in that club. (CA) Of the lesbian characters you’ve played, from Sally in “The Hours” to your les-bian roles in stage productions like Eve Ensler’s “Ladies” and Alan Ball’s “Five Women Wearing the Same Dress,” which do you wish you could’ve gotten to know more? (AJ) Probably my character in “The Hours” with Meryl. I would’ve liked to have got-ten to know Sally and really explored that relationship. You know, my famous story with her with that kiss is that she gave me a facelift. She didn’t like the way we were lit in the scene and she said, “I’m gonna do you a favor, honey.” So she placed her hands on the side of my face and lifted it ever so gently. When you watch it next, look at that — it’s pretty great. A little Meryl lift. I got a little lift from Meryl. It was fan-tastic.

(CA) If you were to play another lesbian role, who would be your ideal co-star? (AJ) Whoa. Well, I kind of have a girl crush on Margot Robbie right now! [Laughs] She is so talented and so friggin’ beautiful — it’s kind of remarkable. I just find my-self staring at her, like, how can anything be that beautiful? And she’s a really good actress and you know, why not? Margot is on my mind right now, so I’m saying Mar-got. (CA) There have been Tonya Harding impersonators and after this film, I fully ex-pect a few LaVona Golden queens. (AJ) Oh my god, do you really? (CA) Her name alone is made for the stage at some gay bar, don’t you think? (AJ) It is a great name: LaVona! There was already someone on Halloween who dressed as LaVona. It was on Twitter and it made me laugh. It was a guy who dressed as LaVona, with the bowl haircut and the bird and the fur coat. It’s a real unique look. (CA) Does looking the part help you get into character? (AJ) Oh god, yes. With that, especially. It was three hours of hair and makeup getting that look with the bird and it was really liberating too. I thought I was gonna be horrified and not be able to look at myself in the mirror and it was fascinating — I wanted to look at myself all the time! I was like, “God, this is so cool!” It felt just so different and I didn’t see myself. I felt really confident in doing what I had to do. The look was so perfect and so great, and it made me excited to do my scenes. (CA) I hope you got to keep a piece of LaVona. (AJ) I didn’t! But I was thinking about seeing if that bird could be adopted because I kind of fell in love with him. He lives in southern Georgia and he’s so lovely. But I do have three dogs and I don’t want there to be an unfortunate situation there. (CA) Yeah, maybe give it to somebody who doesn’t have an animal that will eat it. (AJ) Yes! That’s always something to think about before you get a bird. [Laughs]

see Interview, pg 16


CHRIS WARD While his 2016 candidacy for many was important first and foremost to keep the District 3 seat LGBT — a status spawned from a redistricting process that began in 1992, which allowed Christine Kehoe to become the first LGBT person on the City Council, and further refined during another redistricting in 2011 — Ward said he instead ran on his priorities for the communities involved and his professional skillset. Yet he appreciates that his sexuality may have been a factor. “I’m continuing that strong line of LGBT and community-oriented leadership that we have enjoyed in District 3; they set the bar high and I’m doing my best every day to meet those expectations,” Ward said. But Ward also knows that he is a new kind of LGBT representative; one whose personal experiences not only transcend identities but intersect many. For Kehoe, the idea of legal, same-sex marriage wasn’t even a thing in 1992 when she first ran for City Council; and for Toni Atkins who succeeded her, the fight for same-sex marriage hadn’t yet taken shape during her campaign in 2000. Even for Todd Gloria, who then followed Atkins in 2008, while same-sex marriage had just become legal in California, it was immediately taken away during the same election that put him into office and the fight continued. Each of these three public servants moved our community and its place of importance within this city forward leaps and bounds in many other ways. Enter candidate Ward in 2016 — already married to husband Thom Harpole, an executive at San Diego State, and raising an infant daughter during the campaign — and his perspective toward the district’s needs were unique to his predecessor’s in many ways. “One thing I thought maybe made myself the ‘right person at the right time for the right job’ situation, was being a parent; albeit LGBT parent,” Ward said. “We do have a lot of interest in young parents who want to live in Hillcrest and North

Park. We have a lot of housing affordability challenges, but we do see a lot of people that are trying to stay in the urban core and not have to recede to the suburbs; they enjoy themselves as young professionals here they want to establish a family here, and that’s contributing to our neighborhood schools and that is something that I am personally invested in as well.” Ward admitted he “enjoys” working with a mayor who has repeatedly gone on the record and even served on national boards in support of LGBT equality; and while Ward remains conscious of the history and nature of his seat, he is steadfast that his focus as the representative for District 3 is on the common concerns we all share, such as homelessness, affordable housing and quality of life, things he calls “the bread and butter issues.” Balancing his busy career with his husband and young daughter is also a priority for Ward, who said he takes any opportunity to include them in his community events whenever feasible, as well as making an effort to find time together outside of these job-related events. “If I have a library or parks and recreation event, it is a wonderful chance for me to bring my daughter,” he said. “Many of the community activities that keep me engaged with nighttime events are a pleasure to bring my spouse to, so you just try to blend the two, but you also have to consciously schedule in some quality time at home. That is centering and it certainly is what will be here with me long after my job has passed.” Male politicians are rarely asked how their jobs impact their family lives; but Ward embraced the question, noting that it not only scratches the surface of who they are as everyday people, but might also explain what guides them in their policy and priority choices as elected officials. “I would hope that whether gay or straight, other men — who choose to have a family — are also thinking about that balance,” Ward said. “We see that in David Alvarez, who is a good friend and a colleague with two young kids and we certainly know where each other is coming from when

somebody has been sick all night long or you have that school obligation you have to balance. But it is an important question to ask men because men should be just as involved in child rearing as women.” After bouncing around most of his younger years to nine different locations in a military family, Ward settled in San Diego 20 years ago and considers it home. Throughout those two decades, he witnessed the development of today’s strong LGBT community and the inclusive, welcoming environment that the many leaders before him — both political and community — worked hard to foster within San Diego. “I think that we are a beacon for others in the region who may come from communities that are not as accepting or don’t have the community infrastructure or resources that we do for LGBT youth; so, it is certainly something that I acknowledge and am proud of,” he said. On the heels of his attendance at the 46th annual Coronation of the Imperial Court de San Diego on Feb. 10 — “Talk about an institution … there’s some history right there,” he said — Ward knows there are many more events on the horizon in his area of responsibility; including Adams Avenue Street Fair, North Park Festival of Arts, EarthDay and of course, San Diego Pride, and he looks forward to them. “I engage with all of them,” he said. “It is good for me to get out of city hall and connect with people.” Editor’s Note: Our sister publication, San Diego Uptown News, is concurrently running a different interview with Ward, one which focuses on his priorities and accomplishments within his first year representing District 3. We encourage you to continue reading about Councilmember Ward as he addresses homelessness in Hillcrest; the plight of homeless LGBTQ youth; affordable housing and more. [Ref: “Year 1: A chat with Councilmember Chris Ward,” San Diego Uptown News, Vol. 10, Issue 3, and online at bit. ly/2C7iPsf.] —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

Ward speaks to the crowd at last year’s Equality March. (Courtesy Office of Councilmember Chris Ward)

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BOWLING Whether you are an individual bowler, just a couple of friends who love to bowl, part of an organized team or are employed in a LGBTsupportive corporate environment and want to get involved with your coworkers, everyone is welcome. There will be plenty of extra, fun things going on, due to the event’s 10th anniversary, including a heavily-encouraged (but not mandatory) dress code. “Since we are celebrating a decade of Bowling for Equality, we are asking that all teams dress in attire from their favorite decade — 50s, 60s, 70s and 80s,” Price said that prizes will be given out for the “Top” and “Bottom” bowlers of each shift, the most “spirited” lane and the bowler or team with the most “likes” on social media. Individual bowlers and teams will all participate at the same time; individual bowlers who sign up will be paired with other bowlers to form groups of up to five people per lane. Just like last year, the first shift of this event has already sold out, so organizers are asking people to get their tickets for the second shift as soon as they can. The community is invited to come cheer on their favorite bowlers and teams during either shift, however. Last year, corporate sponsors included LGBT teams from Sony, MO’s Universe, Caesars Entertainment, Harrah’s, Wyndham Vacation Ownership and many others. While sponsorship deadlines


have already passed this year, teams can still participate with a dedicated lane for the bowlers they sign up. HRC San Diego has also received a number of “donated lanes,” which they plan to offer to LGBT youth groups. Individual bowler fees for either session (remember, the first session is now sold out) are $35, which include shoe rental, two hours of bowling and free pizza. The pizza comes from Hillcrest Brewing Company (HBC) — the world’s only known LGBT brewery — and is included with the price of your ticket. “HBC has been a longtime supporter of HRC along with the other franchises of MO’s Universe, and they provide a generous discount,” Price said. Price, who joined the local HRC San Diego chapter in 2016, said Century 21 Award is returning for the second year in a row as presenting sponsor and really get into the event. “They are definitely the team to watch out for regarding the most spirited bowling award,” he said. Laura Jane will once again be back as emcee this year and tables will be set up with plenty of swag and the opportunity to join the national HRC membership, which includes communications on the latest events and everything regarding our fight for equality as well as special offers and discounts on merchandise. For more information on sponsorship or bowling, email or visit —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at



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Saving black LGBTQ history Out of the Archives Archives Staff In marginalized communities, our histories are often left untold — they’re often not collected by mainstream historical institutions, leaving us vulnerable to being erased from history. This is true for the LGBTQ community and is true of the African-American and black community and is doubly true for black LGBTQ history. This Black History Month, the Archives is acutely aware of the paucity of materials in our collections that document the experiences of people of color.

While we have some key materials, we know that the history of the black LGBTQ community is richer and deeper than our materials reflect. Fortuitously, this week Lambda Archives received a donation of materials from Vertez Burks, an African-American woman who has been active in San Diego’s lesbian world for decades. Among the items she gave the Archives is a program from The Karibu Homecoming First Anniversary Celebration held at the Park Manor Suites Hotel in 1996. Karibu, which means “welcome” in Swahili, was the successor to Lesbians and Gays of African Descent United (LAGADU). LAGADU

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existed from 1989-1994 and was formed as a social and service organization to provide solidarity, outreach and support for a minority that often battled severe homophobia in the black community. In the program from that Karibu event 22 years ago, it is interesting to see how many familiar names are still active in the LGBTQ community — Phyllis Jackson, Teresa Oyos, Jimmy Lovett, Jr. and Stan Lewis, among them. Included in the services Karibu provided, was education and outreach about HIV/AIDS, which took a disproportionate toll on the African-American community. During the same period that Karibu was operating, other groups also endeavored to serve the community: AfricanAmerican Gay Women’s Association (AAGWA), Daraga, and Shades of Color, to name a few. AAGWA’s mission included economic justice and building political power, though it was a social organization as well. Daraga, which means “bridge,” welcomed gay, bisexual and transgender men of color. Shades of Color’s mission was to “foster educational, civic and cultural awareness, as well as opportunities and options to enhance the business networking and the social atmosphere within the African-American Gay and Lesbian Community of San Diego.” In 1997, an event named Spectrum was held at The San Diego LGBT Community Center (which was still on Normal Street in those days), as an evening to bring together the African-American LGBT community for speakers, workshops, a marketplace and a formal. The first Ebony Pride was held in 2002 and other blackthemed Prides have come and gone over the years in San Diego, never garnering enough support to last long; the Archives has dribs and drabs of that history, but far from its complete story. People often ask our archivists, “Why don’t you have ____?” The answer is: because no one has donated it yet.

A cover of The Lavender magazine (previously known as Lavender Lens) from the 2000s (Photos courtesy Lambda Archives) The Archives does not have subpoena powers. Archivists cannot serve search warrants to demand that individuals or organizations turn over their history. Can you imagine: “We suspect you are hiding a copy of the 1984 Pride Guide and we’re going to rip this house apart until we find it!” We are completely dependent on the materials donated by members of the community who are equally concerned with preserving history before it is lost or discarded. Also this month, Dwayne Crenshaw, founder and CEO of RISE San Diego, will be conducting a lunch presentation called, “Lunch & Learn: Dueling Identities – Black and Gay in San Diego.” The event will be held Wednesday, Feb. 21 from noon–1 p.m. at the San Diego LGBT Community Center, located at 3903 Centre St. in Hillcrest and will be hosted by The Center’s #BeTheGeneration program.

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Lambda Archives will soon be making a major announcement about a large and important exhibit of LGBTQ history. In searching through materials, it became apparent not only the scope of the Archives’ holdings, but the many gaps that should be filled to fully tell the story of San Diego’s rich and diverse LGBTQ history. If you have anything that can help paint a full-color portrait, please get in touch at info@lambdaArchives. org, 619-260-1522, or stop by the Archives. We are located at 4545 Park Blvd. #104 (the back half of the Diversionary Theatre building). —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at


Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel When you left your teenage years and entered your 20s, did you ever feel that you were falling apart? If so, you’re not alone. It’s also true for those of us in our 30s, 40s and upwards. Most of us head into “grown-up” life with so many hopes, dreams and desires, only to have them shatter and fall apart, no matter how hard we try. What to do? In this column, I want to show you how to not fall apart, but, instead, to fall upward. Years ago, Richard Rohr, renegade Franciscan monk, writer and activist, wrote a book called “Falling Upward.” I just re-read it and there are so many good ideas in the book that I’d like to share some of them with you, in my own words. According to Rohr, life is divided into two halves. The first half is spent building a container (education, career and


SUPERVISORS facing, I would suggest none is as gravely serious as this or will impact our lives so broadly as will our aging population. Which candidates are aware enough and prepared to address this as the priority it needs to be? In the three issues throughout March, the candidates themselves will be informing you just how aware of this crisis they are and where it lies on their priority list. More importantly, their words will help arm you with the knowledge to reason which are and are not prepared to address it. Many ask me why it is necessary for our communities to collaborate and cooperate with government to help minimize the negative impacts of the aging crisis. My answer is always the same. As our population grows disproportionately older, it will increasingly affect all residents of all ages in every aspect of their day-to-day lives, happiness and well-being. The lack of affordable and accessible older adult care, housing, as well as homelessness, poverty and transportation are related issues burdening and altering both family and community structures, the labor pool and the broader economy. Voters need to know what feasible steps their field of candidates envision county government is capable of taking to mitigate impacts of an aging population. Just over three years ago, I wrote an article on “aging.” It stated that for decades, our nation has studied, researched and consistently warned us of what the realities and implications of a rapidly aging population are. In short, it said that if feasible, carefully designed and deliberate strategies addressing

identity) for our life. The second half is, hopefully, about filling that container with joy, depth and wisdom. This second half of life — if done well — can bring a “wideness” to our life: We can see much more than before and aren’t afraid to see people/places/ things that used to scare us. We can embrace the new, the different and the not-yet-understandable with humor and courage. Not easy, is it? But, one thing in life we can all be certain of: Shit will come our way. What will we do about it? How do we fall upward and not apart? Many of us feel that there’s an “emptiness” or “hole” in the center of our mind/heart. We try to fill it with romance, sex, alcohol/drugs, shopping, eating, working … anything to distract us from feeling it. The older we get, the more it’s clear that this strategy won’t work. The more we exclude and try to push people/things/ experiences away, the more hellish and lonely our life becomes. our aging and diverse population are not implemented, we will find ourselves faced with inadequate Band-Aids and reactionary strategies that will decimate the national economy and the standards of living will decline for citizens of all ages. FACT: Currently 1 out of 4 (25 percent) is caring for at least one senior relative, or is a homeless person and/or veteran aged 60 or greater, and by 2039, 25 percent of San Diegans will be aged 60 or over. The 2010 Federal Census projections for San Diego show those 60 years of age or greater will number 200,000 in less than five years. Further, while there are many challenges commonly shared by all seniors, the probability and priority order of how those issues can be dealt with vary widely from person to person and are dictated largely by geographic location, health, social, cultural, family, education and other variable conditions. Establishing successful strategies to meet the challenges requires the serious awareness of and earnest collaboration and

cooperation between a diverse citizenry, their government, the nonprofits that serve them and the for-profit organizations that depend on them to stay in business. Only then can the challenges and issues be dealt with in a manner that serves both the common and diversified needs of all San Diego seniors and residents of all ages. To that end, there are no short cuts or one-size-fitsall solutions in a population as diverse as ours. Before the June 30 primary, I will share my personal endorsement and the reasons for my choice. Until then, through these interviews, you’ll gain the knowledge to make your own. —Bill Kelly is a longtime local activist who currently focuses on LGBT senior issues and moderates the Caring for our LGBT Seniors in San Diego Facebook page. Access to the group is free to all seniors, their advocates, families, friends and caregivers. Reach Bill at

This is falling upward. As an LGBT elder (age 64), reading this book helped me to better understand why so many retired and older people are so angry. At a time when most of us can finally enjoy the time we have left, so many of us are still trying to live in the first half of life and let our ego-driven self keep us in an aggressive, driven mode. We become, in essence, a slave to achievement. This is fine in the first half of life, when we are defining who we are and trying all kinds of new things to see what we want and how to get it. In the second half of life, however, it’s sad to see so many LGBT elders who are bitter, angry, resentful of younger people and full of regrets about their pasts.

—Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit


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Falling upward is about making peace with our past — whether we’re 21 or 81 — and finding ways to forgive ourselves, others and this crazy Trumpian world we’re living in. Enjoy your 20s, 30s and 40s. Live it up! Have fun! Experiment and have adventures! But, once you’ve gone through all that good stuff, what’s next? Maybe it’s time to start falling upward.

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Falling upward

So we work toward inclusion … accepting ourselves and others as they are, finding ways to talk to people we don’t like, work with colleagues that we find obnoxious, forgive friends who unconsciously hurt us. Don’t get me wrong, we are not doormats, but we are no longer reactive people who act out and are easily upset. Rohr says that the two halves of life are not chronologically determined: You can be young in years and fully into your wise, second half; or you can be an elder who still acts like a high-schooler. What we might think of as falling down (e.g., failing at something, losing a job or home, a death or illness) can be experienced as “falling upward.” We can explore the (counterintuitive) message that we grow in depth and wisdom more by doing things wrong more than by doing them right. As a psychotherapist, I see that most of us learn more from pain than pleasure; pleasure encourages us to relax and enjoy, which is great, but pain tells us, “Wake up! You’re making the same mistake over and over. It’s time to tell the truth and change how you’re living.”

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Correction On Jan. 19, 2018, part of the “Conversations with Nicole” column published in Gay San Diego was entitled “‘Traveling Butts’ . . . a San Diego disgrace.” The piece mentioned an incident in Thailand involving two San Diego tourists (the Dasilvas) who took a photograph of their naked buttocks and were arrested by Thai authorities in November 2017. The Dasilvas claim each paid a $150 fine and were sent back to America. The January 2018 article included a photograph of two naked men misidentified as Joseph and Travis Dasilva. The photo is not of the Dasilvas. Rather, the photo is of two other men and when they complained the photo was deleted from the online version of the article. While Travis Dasilva shared on Instagram an image of a “I Support the Traveling Butts” T-Shirt, Dasilvas’ husband informed Gay San Diego the Dasilvas do not personally profit from sales. Nicole regrets the error.t

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Shady funding deal for AIDS memorial? By Jim Frost On Dec. 11, 2017, the City Council unanimously approved a half-million-dollar smokeand-mirrors funding deal for an AIDS Memorial. It appears that the public funds will be delivered, concealed in a well-traveled, unmarked brown paper bag, since the cash won’t fit into an envelope. The money will in effect be turned over to the control of the AIDS Memorial Task Force, a private lobbying group without any formal public oversight, to pay for their regional AIDS Memorial, occupying a significant portion of the new neighborhood Olive Street Park in Bankers Hill. The AIDS Memorial Task Force, which coincidentally includes Mayor Kevin Faulconer’s wife Katherine as a prominent member, was set up by the mayor with the alleged purpose of locating and constructing an AIDS memorial in San Diego. After months of looking at and rejecting several prominent, offered sites, including a waterfront site which is still available, things came to a standstill for the AIDS EDITOR Morgan M. Hurley (619) 961-1960 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS (619) 519-7775 Sara Butler, x118 Jeff Clemetson, x119 CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Chris Azzopardi William E. Kelly Michael Kimmel Jean Lowerison Nicole Murray Ramirez Frank Sabatini Jr. Lambda Archives Staff WEB AND SOCIAL MEDIA Sara Butler, x118

Memorial Task Force. A possible scenario of how this sordid affair developed begins in early 2016 when along came the proposed sale of the city-owned “Truax House,” which was the first San Diego AIDS Hospice. Then things began to get interesting. The source of the original money for the city purchase of the Truax House and property can be traced back decades ago, when the city used “Prop 42 State Gas Tax Funds” (remember this fund?) to buy the property for “Street Improvement” purposes. In a February 2016 backroom deal, Mayor Faulconer and then-Councilmember Todd Gloria put the Truax House up for sale as surplus city property to solve funding and lack of action by the AIDS Memorial Task Force. A condition of the sale was that somehow a portion of the “Prop 42 State Gas Tax Funds” would ultimately be used for the Task Force’s AIDS memorial at Olive Street Park. No public consultation, no public process, no transparency — nothing except a done deal. The Truax House was sold and the proceeds duly placed COPY EDITOR Dustin Lothspeich SALES & MARKETING DIRECTOR Mike Rosensteel (619) 961-1958 ADVERTISING CONSULTANTS (619) 519-7775 Heather Fine, x107 Sloan Gomez, x104 Brenda Vergara, x110 SALES INTERN Erik Guerrero EDITORIAL INTERN Cassidy Klein

into the city’s “Prop 42 Gas Tax Fund” — the first stop on the “hide the money trail.” The Dec. 11, 2017 City Council meeting, year-end holidays, and a no-news week was an ideal time for some budgetary hocus pocus at City Hall. Nothing appears remarkable on the agenda until a closer look at Resolution Number 311466 reveals the next stop. The resolution authorized what seemed to be routine midyear amendments to the 2018 Capital Improvements Program Budget. The resolution passed unanimously as a “Consent Item” without discussion. Did the City Council really understand that by voting to approve the resolution they could be potentially involved in an illegal transfer of public funds from the Prop 42 State Gas Tax Fund to the control of the private AIDS Memorial Task Force? Digging deeper on page 13 of the resolution, “Item 83 increases the budget for Street Resurfacing and Reconstruction account by $500,000.” This is all paid for out of funds from the “Prop 42 Gas Tax Fund” account, the ACCOUNTING Priscilla Umel-Martinez (619) 961-1962 WEB DESIGN Kim Espinoza

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second stop on the “hide the money trail.” Then in the next breath, “Item 84 increases the budget for the Olive Street Park account by $500,000,” with the city’s general fund cited as the source for the money. But how to pay for this increase without creating a deficit in the general fund? This is the third stop for the money. All is revealed in the next line, “Item 85 de-appropriate $500,000 from the Street Resurfacing and Reconstruction account,” the exact same amount by which Item 83 increased. Now transfer the $500,000 to the general fund, thus covering the deficit. This is the last stop in a rather amateurish attempt to hide the money. The wording of Item 84 attempts to portray the $500,000 as a simple increase in funding for Olive Street Park. Until now, the AIDS Memorial Task Force, by its own account, has raised less than $45,000. That amount will be nowhere near the amount necessary to build their memorial. Given past events and the parties involved, it should be apparent that the Olive Street Park funding increase will be used by the city, directed by the AIDS Memorial

Task Force, to pay for their private AIDS memorial. On the surface with the passage of the resolution, all accounts are now square with Mayor Kevin Faulconer, the City Council and newly elected Assemblymember Gloria. However, one inconvenient question should be posed by the state of California: How can “Prop 42 State Gas Tax Funds” be used to pay for a private AIDS memorial? Perhaps the grand jury is a bit wiser than the city and should investigate the city’s involvement in possible transfer of public funds to de facto control of the private AIDS Memorial Task Force group to pay for their AIDS memorial? The public can ask its own questions at the special Uptown Planners Meeting on Feb. 22, at St. Paul’s Cathedral, Great Hall, 2700 Fifth Ave. from 6–9 p.m. –James Frost is architect/ planner and member of the Bankers Hill Design Committee and Bankers Hill Community group. Editor’s Note: The City Council docket for Dec. 12, 2017 that he refers to can be found online at].t

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Television, politics and royalty Conversations with Nicole Nicole Murray Ramirez Versace TV series full of falsehoods

Before each of FX TVs nine episodes of its super-rated “The assassination of Giovanni Versace” in yes very, very small print it states that this is film is based on a sensational book and is the producer’s interpretation ... and they are not kidding one bit. First of all, Versace was not “assassinated,” he was murdered in cold blood by Andrew Cunanan who lived in San Diego. Most importantly, something that is absolutely a bald face lie is the insinuation that both Versace and Cunanan had HIV/AIDS. At the time of this killing spree, it was covered by the international press and every major television news network. Some media rumors stated that Cunanan had AIDS and was an angry gay man who was trying to give it to other people ... well because of this there were official autopsies performed on both men with official government announcements that they absolutely did not have AIDS. Also, it is well known that Versace did not meet Cunanan in San Francisco and in fact never met him. I am glad about two things so far ... that it finally came out that the Chicago millionaire businessman was gay and lived a double life. The FBI really screwed up the case and didn’t make it a priority (somewhat) until the businessman and Versace were murdered. Yes, this TV series has been very much blown up and sensationalized. Yes, I knew Andrew Cunanan and saw him many times when I emceed a weekly event at The Hole (he tipped well) and ran into him and his boyfriend at parties ... and I will continue to not name the San Diego businessman or talk about him because he was a good caring man who supported many of our community’s causes and organizations ...

sadly, he died last year. So all I have to say about this FX TV series is ... viewer be aware and absolutely do not believe everything about this mini movie.


GLBT and HIV/AIDS activists will be picketing the district office of millionaire Congressmember Scott Peters on Feb. 22 (10:30 a.m.) for not supporting the life-saving 340 B drug programs … Our Mayor Kevin Faulconer recently appointed two fierce lesbians as City Commissioners, Attorney Beth Kransburger and Army captain Jacqueline Atkinson, who may be running for City Council in the future. … I had lunch with former mayor of Chula Vista and now Councilmember Steve Padilla, who is on the state board of Equality California … By the way, if you were ever convicted of a marijuana offense you can now have your criminal record changed; I met the other day with some new marijuana businessmen about financially supporting our GLBT community more … Yes, I have endorsed Chris Cate and Myrtle Cole for re-election to our City Council ... also, the re-election of our popular and hardworking Sheriff Bill Gore.

New Police Chief

I had the honor of serving on the community panel that interviewed six finalists to be our next Police Chief here in San Diego … three of the finalists were men of color... all six were good, solid candidates but 30-year SDPD veteran David Nisleit was absolutely the very best and most qualified and got the highest ratings from the Citizen’s Community Panel members including me. He knows our city and ALL our neighborhoods and diverse communities ... we will be hosting an LGBT community reception for Police Chief Nisleit in the near future.

San Diego’s 46th Coronation Ball

In 1972, GLBT San Diegans started planning for their first Coronation Ball of The Imperial Court de San Diego ... it was so good to see our first elected Emperor I Omar

Lowry (#1 Fifth Ave.) at last Saturday’s event. Also, to see such San Diego leaders as State Senate President Pro Temporeselect HeadToni Atkins, the first lady of San Diego Katherine Stuart Faulconer, State Assemblymember Todd Gloria, City Attorney Mara Elliot, State Assemblymember Lorena Gonzales Fletcher and Nathan Fletcher, City Councilmember Chris Ward and many more. Over $70,000 was raised by the 45th reign and congratulations to our new Emperor Mark Newsome and Empress Barbie Z. —Nicole Murray Ramirez has been writing a column since 1973. He has been a Latino/gay activist for almost half a century and has advised and served the last seven mayors of San Diego. Named the “Honorary Mayor of Hillcrest” by a city proclamation, he has received many media awards including from the prestigious San Diego Press Club. Reach Nicole at Hillcrestqueen5@ Editor’s Note: The opinions written in this column are the author’s own and by no means reflect or represent the opinions of the staff and/or publisher of Gay San Diego and/or its parent company, San Diego Community News Network (SDCNN). The newspaper and its staff should be held harmless of liability or damages.t

events @TheCen TheCenTer Tuesday, Feb. 20 & March 6

Wednesday, Feb. 21

YA+ Discussion Group

6-7:30 pm, The Center YA+ meets the 1st & 3rd Tuesdays of each month at 6pm. It is a bilingual discussion and support group for young people who are HIV+. For more information, contact ricardo Gallego at or 619.692.2077 x116.

Wed, Feb. 21

Dueling Identities: Black and Gay in San Diego 12 noon-1 pm, The Center

Nicole, who was part of the citizen’s community panel that helped select him, seen in attendance at the mayor’s announcement of the new San Diego Police Chief Dave Nisleit. (Photo by Big Mike)


This presentation will take attendees through a conversation about the past and present conditions of Black Dwayne Crenshaw, RISE San Diego LGBT San Diegans. The conversation will include an introduction to the San Diego Black LGBTQ Coalition and other ways to support each other as a community. Dwayne Crenshaw is the chief executive officer of RISE San Diego, which is committed to fostering urban leadership and civic engagement. For more information and/or to rSVP, please contact Larue Fields at 619.692.2077 x205 or

Bi Coming Out Group 7-8:30 pm, The Center Join The Center’s discussion group on bisexuality on the third Wednesday of every month. It’s a welcoming space to share your experiences, ask questions, discuss community issues and meet like-minded people. This group is open to all persons who are sexually and/or emotionally attracted to more than one gender. For more information, contact Aaron heier at

Tuesday, Feb. 27

Senior Food Bank 1 pm, The Center The Senior Food Bank Program provides food and nutrition education to eligible low-income seniors 60 years or older on the 4th Tuesday of every month. Eligible applicants can enroll in the program by applying in person at our site on the day of the event or call the Jacobs & Cushman San Diego Food Bank at 866.350.3663. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website or contact Larue Fields at or 619.692.2077 x205. The San Diego LGBT Community Center 3909 Centre Street • 619-692-2077

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Peaceful, mellow and kind A leather elder on the way it should be Morgan M. Hurley | Editor When first meeting Anthony Jerome Lindsey — “Papa Tony” to those who know him in the local community — it’s a bit startling at first. The self-described “leather daddy master” is usually decked out from head-to-toe in leather gear and is everything you’d imagine of the stereotypical hyper-masculine man. He’s a very tall man, to boot — towering above at 6-foot 5-inches. What is even more surprising, is that more often than not at that first meeting, he will grab your hand warmly and not let go until you’ve finished introductions. This is a case where what you see (or think you see) is not what you get — at least when Papa Tony is out and about in the public sphere; catch him in a leather realm and you would definitely see another side of him — and what is unique about him is the way he has chosen to live his public life: in a very cordial, loving and unassuming way. It is safe to say that he’s put a different face on the traditional leather community. While he’s been promoting this mindset as an active member of San Diego’s leather community for nearly 41 years, today he embraces being an elder and often defines that role for others. He revels in sharing his wisdom with those his age but mostly, the younger gay men coming up the ranks.

Tony grew up Catholic in the San Fernando Valley and joined the Navy as soon as he graduated in 1975. Calling himself a “pollution refugee” — he said he escaped the thick, choking haze that used to overtake the Los Angeles basin until cleaner air policies came about. He went to boot camp and technical school in San Diego and was detailed to the USS Samuel Gompers, a destroyer tender that spent a lot of time at sea. It was while on this ship that his life began to make sense. Up until then, while he thought he might be gay, Tony never identified with any of the effeminate gay men he’d met or seen represented in the media. But once another sailor showed him the “Tom of Finland” books, a light bulb went on. “I was boggled,” Tony said. “It was the first time I had ever seen the concept that men could have sex with each other without one of them pretending to be a girl. I knew this was for me.” He photocopied some of the pages and had a Tom of Finlandinspired leather outfit custom made in Hong Kong. He said for the last two years of his fouryear Navy career, he came and left the ship in that gear with no questions asked. But Tony said it wasn’t until he left the Navy that his life would truly transform. He began

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meeting and hanging out with a bevy of older gay men in the leather community and at 22 years old, soaked up as much knowledge he could. “I wanted mentoring,” Tony said. “After 12 years of Catholic school, I was terribly ignorant about life. I’d ask them, ‘How could I have done that better?’ or ‘How do I deal with this issue?’ I did this over and over. “I had 30–40 men who were my ‘loving uncles’ and they made sure I got my needs handled, not just financially, but in making sure my questions were answered; because I had a lot of questions.” Then AIDS hit and it took a toll on his circle of friends. “I’m the only survivor,” he said. “I went from a very abusive father, up to the heights with these wonderful men and then



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down into the depths when they all died. It wounded me horribly.” He said despite the survivor guilt, he turned all of his anguish into a “power source” in an attempt to deal with what he called “the holocaust period” the community was stuck in. “I saw myself as an egg, a fetus compared to all these men I knew that were so kind and wise and so worthy of living and I just couldn’t understand how out of all those people, I never even became HIV positive,” Tony said. “And I was doing everything side-by-side with them. Luck of the draw, I guess.” Since those dark days, which still visibly impact him, Tony has made it his life’s work to reach out to other men his age who also lost so many, and give them the opportunity to shed some of that weight, through both kindness and community. The first thing he did was start documenting the leather community. “I was desperate to photograph and did well over 300 title holder ceremonies alone,” he said. “I have 140,000 kink, leather community-oriented photos on my computer.” So much had been lost — thrown away by the unaccepting families of those who had died; he felt compelled to fill the gap. In the early days of technology, Tony created email discussion lists, where topics could be shared and discussed by hundreds of people on the same email thread. Then he started a group where attendees could be present with each other, flirt, work on social skills and through any trauma or pain they have been carrying. He called it the San Diego League of Gentlemen. “I wanted it to be open and sweet and affectionate and hugging, because gentlemen are that way,” he said. “It’s not something that most people think of in terms of a gay leathermen’s group, but I find it to be crucial,

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because men who are wounded and damaged by loss and fear of intimacy — all these things that are crippling us — what we need more than anything else is to drop the threshold down to the ground; how nice are you? That’s all we care about.” He said he often reminds those who have not yet embraced their position as an elder — and might be caught up in thinking they need to compete with the 23-year olds — that they need to start “owning their age” and mentor them, too. It’s the job of the elders, he said, to become those “loving uncles,” and stand on the sidelines with the “pom poms” to cheer on and support the younger men who are now the ones working hard to make this community a better place. “What I tell these young people is, nobody does anything for free and my payoff is that some day when you’re old and you’ve got gray in your hair and beard, you turn around and help the next one,” Tony said. “That’s what I want. The worst thing that happened when everybody died, is that the cycle of mentoring between the generations closed and I want it back.” While the League of Gentlemen is no more, Papa Tony’s commitment to the community and outreach continues. A monthly event happens on the first Saturday of every month at Redwing Bar & Grill in North Park, from 4–7 p.m. on the back patio. “It’s peaceful and mellow and kind,” he said. “And it’s like everyone has known each other for decades even though technically they haven’t — everyone drops their shields and are just nice. We all know how to be evil, angry, people and I don’t want to be. I just want to be sweet. I want to be affectionate, I want to be joyful and playful.” —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

San Diego Leather Pride — March 15–19 Note: All events at World Beat Cultural Center, 2100 Park Blvd., Balboa Park unless otherwise stated. Contestants have until noon, Sunday, Feb. 18 to enter. Visit

Wednesday — Pictionary Leather/Fetish Night

7:30–10 p.m. — #1 Fifth Avenue, 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest The five-day festival starts tonight, hosted by Tiger, Ms. San Diego Leather 2010.

Thursday — Titleholder appreciation meet and greet

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7–8 p.m. — Join over 20 clubs as they show their appreciation for the hard work the outgoing titleholders have done all year. ● Leather Olympics and All Clubs Night 8:30–10:30 p.m. — 20 unique clubs to network with then compete in the games for win prizes and bragging rights for the year.

Friday — Leather Pride Flag raising

4–5 p.m. — Hillcrest Pride Flag, corner of University Avenue and Normal Street ● Opening Ceremonies 8–9 p.m. — Color Guard, blessing from the San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence and contestant introductions

● Leather history display Throughout weekend — The Leather History Project includes exhibits and donated items spanning many decades. ● Twisted: Visit the dark side of dance 10 p.m.–1 a.m. — A “Twisted” fetish dance party under the stars with DJ Matt Effect. Saturday — San Diego Bootblack and Leather contests 7:30–9:30 p.m. — 2018 San Diego Bootblack, Ms San Diego Leather and Mr San Diego Leather contests. The fourth San Diego Bootblack, 24th Ms and 36th Mr San Diego Leather. $25 ● Afterglow party 9:30–10:30 p.m. — Enjoy drink specials, finger foods and a tented shopping pavilion as votes are tallied, then (10:30 p.m.) Announcement of winners and photos; (10:45 p.m.–midnight) Cigar celebration; After party at San Diego Eagle, located 3040 North Park Way, North Park

Sunday — Victory brunch, keynote, vendor faire

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“Bruce M. Abrams GLBT Refugees Fund” at the Survivors of Torture International San Diego Office. Abrams is a local philanthropist who has been a longtime supporter of many causes in the region. For more information on the Imperial Court de San Diego, visit

(l to r) Artie Award sculptor of Jon Koehler and Artie Award winner Patric Stillman (Courtesy The Studio Door) The Majestic Golden Bear Emperor Mark Newsome and The Black Diamond Pegasus Empress Barbie Z Neors (Courtesy Imperial Court)

(l to r) Four of the five new Crown Princes, Toni Duran, Fernando Lopez, Rick Cervantes and Ben Cartwright. (Photo by Big Mike)


On Saturday, Feb. 10, the Imperial Court de San Diego hosted its 46th annual Coronation Ball celebration at Crowne Plaza Hotel in Mission Valley. Elected officials in attendance included State Assemblywoman Lorena Gonzalez Fletcher; City Attorney Mara Elliot; City Councilmember Chris Ward; former state assembly member Nathan Fletcher; and State Assembly Majority Whip Todd Gloria. The California State Senate’s President Pro Tempore-elect Toni Atkins was also in attendance, and addressed the crowd. Atkins praised the Imperial Court’s 46 years of “noble deeds” while supporting needy charities as well as the local LGBT community and the city of San Diego. The Imperial Court de San Diego and its coronation ball is the oldest organization and event in the city’s LGBT history. Katherine Stuart Faulconer, San Diego’s First Lady and also

co-chair of the San Diego AIDS Memorial Task Force, received a standing ovation from those in attendance when she stepped on the stage to be introduced. It was a night of dining, performances, fundraising, high fashion and competition and the sold-out, standing-room only event culminated in the crowing of the newly elected Imperial Court de San Diego XLVI monarchs, The Majestic Golden Bear Emperor Mark Newsome and The Black Diamond Pegasus Empress Barbie Z Neors. More than $70,000 was raised by the 45th reign for local charities. Also at the event, Queen Mother of the Americas Nicole Murray Ramirez knighted five new Crown Princes into the Imperial Court System. Local activists and community leaders Benny Cartwright, Rick Cervantes, Toni Duran, Fernando Lopez and 17-year old trans activist Sam Moehlig, all received the honor, which included a medal and plaque. When inviting the four new titleholders to the stage, Murray Ramirez noted that the young leaders were “our future,” but “they are all already doing big things for our community and are our present.” The Imperial Court also announced the newly established


Visual artist Patric Stillman was recognized recently, for his contributions to the San Diego arts community with an Artie Award from Mission Federal ArtWalk due to his role in ArtWalk’s The Business of Art Scholarship. “Personally, this acknowledgement is such a heartfelt honor,” said Stillman in a press release. “As an artist, entrepreneur and community activist, I often felt pulled in one direction or the other at various moments in my career. To be honored for achievements where I have found balance in all three areas while nurturing my fellow visual artists is a reward beyond riches. Thank you to Mission Federal ArtWalk for this honor.” Stillman is also the owner The Studio Door, a community-based arts center located in North Park. He is a mentor to local artists and best known for his art-to-market incubator lab, designed to assist those interested in creative commerce. Outside of the art center, Stillman works with several art organizations, galleries, museums and associations. Also awarded an Artie Award this year was Chantal Wnuk and Tracy Thalo of Artist & Craftsman, located in Hillcest. They join past recipients, including Patricia Fischer and Alan Ziter, who were in attendance at the Westgate Hotel event held Jan. 25, as a kick off for the April 28–29 Mission Federal ArtWalk. “Mission Federal ArtWalk and San Diego Visual Arts Network have done so much over the years to support local artists,” Stillman said. “I’m proud to be collaborating with them on this project that gives an artist an understanding of the business aspects of the art industry.” For more information, visit, and San Diego Visual Arts Network at

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John-Michael Brooks John-Michael Brooks, 27, passed away unexpectedly at home due to a tragic fall. JohnMichael was an accomplished musician from San Diego. His primary instrument was the violin and he enjoyed classical and jazz, but had a special love for old-time fiddling. John-Michael began violin lessons at five years of age while living in Longview, Washington. He studied classical music but was soon introduced to fiddle-style. Within a short time, he began public performances, playing at restaurants, local fairs, schools and churches. As a member of the Longview Washington Youth Symphony, JohnMichael served in the second chair position. At age eight, John-Michael’s first contest experience was at the state Old

Time Fiddling Championships in Prosser, Washington, where he placed first in the Small Fry Division. He went on to place third at the National Oldtime Fiddlers’ Contest and Festival in Weiser, Idaho. Upon returning to San Diego, John-Michael continued his musical studies. He was a 2009 graduate of the San Diego School of Performing and Creative Arts (SCPA), where for four consecutive years, his peers voted him the Ludwig Van Beethoven award for Musician of the Year. He served as concertmaster of SCPA’s orchestra and in 2008 he was awarded the Itzhak Perlman award for best musician in the SCPA orchestra.

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Chef Chad Brunette recently left the position as head chef for The Rail and returned to his hometown of Las Vegas “for personal reasons,” according to general manager Dustin Santillan. Brunette elevated The Rail’s lunch and weekend brunch menus last year with the help of sous chef John Hamaker, who was promoted to executive chef in Brunette’s wake. Both men previously worked at The Cosmopolitan in Las Vegas. Santillan said the lunch menu will undergo a few changes but that all of the brunch offerings, such as the waffle sandwich, Cajun shrimp Benedict, meatball sliders and house-made donuts, will remain in place. The lunch menu is available from 11 a.m. to 8 p.m., Thursday through Monday and brunch is served from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., Saturdays and Sundays. 3796 Fifth Ave., 619-298-2233,

What used to be The Ritual in North Park has turned into Working Class, a casual bar and restaurant launched by Paul Fatta, who owns two Pacific Beach eating

It’s a deal that we thought was too good to be true. On the 21st of every month, from 4 to 6 p.m., Cafe 21 — located in the Gaslamp Quarter and University Heights — sells its house-made sangrias for only 21 cents a glass. They come in a variety of flavors such as persimmon, apple cider, blueberry-guava and more.

The restaurant at both locations opens at 8 a.m. daily and is lauded for its crafty cuisine, which includes dishes such as cast-iron omelets, sweet and savory crepes, hot sandwiches, flatbreads and kabobs. 802 Fifth Ave., 619795-0721 and 2736 Adams Ave., 619-640-2121;

A bar and restaurant with a “working class” feel has opened in North Park. (Facebook)

establishments — Second Nature and Bayside Landing. He teamed up with Jeffrey Kiyama, a former assistant general manager for Barleymash, for this venture. The space underwent a broad remodel that included an extension to the back patio, skylights over the dining room and the installation of a second bar at the front entrance. An imposing mural by designer Thom Guerra depicting industrial-age workers on strike was also added. “Some people are taking our name literally as blue collar,” Kiyama said. “But we relate to all people who work and need a space to hang out. It’s for everyone.” Heading the kitchen is Jason Williams, a former chef at Martini’s Above Fourth. The menu, which offers breakfast all day, includes General Tso cauliflower, fried bologna with egg sandwiches, meatballs with toasted sourdough, fried chicken, egg dishes and more. Complementing the bill of fare are 30 taps dispensing beer, wine, coffee and kombucha. 4095 30th St., 619-6420114,

A plant eater’s paradise known as Anthem Vegan opened recently in a circa-1965 structure formerly occupied by Lil B’s (and for a long time prior, Johnny R’s). The venture marks Anthem’s first brick-and-mortar address since establishing itself Sausage hash at the new Anthem Vegan (Yelp) at farmers markets in Hillcrest, Ocean Beach and the College Area. It still operates booths at those markets. The restaurant, which will eventually encompass a market and deli, offers an exclusive selection of vegan and nut-free breakfast dishes (weekends only) plus lunch and dinner entrees served on most days of the week. The menus include soyrizo hash with herb-garlic tofu, potato-zucchini tacos, and a variety of sandwiches and wraps using mock beef and chicken. Many of the items are also gluten-free. Anthem Vegan is the brainchild of Patrick Murray, who originally started in the local food industry by holding speakeasy vegan brunches at his house. The restaurant is closed on Mondays and its hours vary throughout the week. 2611 El Cajon Blvd., 619-268-4367,

Through the remainder of the month, Sammy’s Woodfired Pizza & Grill is selling make-at-home pizza kits starting at $7 each. For every kit sold, $1 will be donated to the American Heart Association as part of a charitable campaign titled “pizza from the Pizza for a heart-worthy cause (Courtesy heart.” Sammy’s Woodfired Pizza & Grill) The kits include house-made pizza dough portioned for consumers to shape into a heart as well as tomato sauce, shredded mozzarella, fresh basil and cooking instructions. Sangrias on the cheap (Courtesy Cafe 21) Patrons are encouraged to post photos of their heart-shaped pies on Instagram or Facebook using the hashtag #iheartsammys for a chance at winning $100 after the benefit concludes “Oscar Wilde’s comic masterwork – on Feb. 28. Sammy’s has six a worthy return to The Old Globe! locations throughout San Diego Broadway and West End luminary Maria Aitken County, including Mission has brought in a consummate cast for the Globe Valley at 1620 Camino de la Reina, 619-298-8222, samproduction. She directs with an expert touch.” The San Diego Union-Tribune

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Flaky, buttery pleasures Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. Acclaimed Broadway playwright David Mamet said it best in a line he wrote for his Victorian-era production, “Boston Marriage”: “Stress cannot exist in the presence of pie.” Indeed, the experience is transcendental when forking into a golden, craggy crust that breaks into ambrosial fragments as they tumble into whatever lies beneath. At the newish Pie Joint, located in an inconspicuous wing of Loma Portal’s Midway Towne Center, you can bet that all your woes will fly out the window once you start eating. If you’ve been to Pop Pie Co. in University Heights, the concept is similar in that the pies capture a variety of sweet and savory fillings — and they’re baked fresh throughout the day with all-butter pastry crusts. But a few differences exist between the two businesses. The Pie Joint slings pies in three sizes: 2-inch, 5-inch and whole 9-inchers. Pop Pie makes them in two sizes: 3.5 and 5.5 inches. Also, The Pie Joint’s menu of savory options is a little more concise with about five flavors available on any given day opposed to about eight at Pop Pie.

And there are only two sidekicks to choose from — one less than at Pop Pie — a garden salad or highly recommended mashed potatoes flecked with herbs and draped in fabulous house-made chicken gravy. Lastly, The Pie Joint feels airier in comparison, offering more open space that encompasses booth and table seating (rather than communal high tops) and a shuffleboard perched along an expansive chalkboard wall crammed with customer scribblings. This is friendly and sustainable competition spaced comfortably apart. And I count myself lucky to live equidistant to both establishments. The Pie Joint made its initial splash onto the food scene five years ago at the North Park Farmers Market. Owners Brandy Stevens and her husband, Nathan, maintained a presence at the market for a couple of years before using profits from the sale of their home to move into a brickand-mortar shop complete with a full, industrial bakery. Launched in November, most of their employees are family members. Immediately after stepping inside, my swine-loving spouse insisted we include in our meal the “pork enchilada” pie. I hardly opposed. We also ordered a classic chicken pie and the steak & ale, which was made on this day with cabernet instead of the usual nut brown

Nathan and Brandy Stevens at their family-run pie shop

The Pie Joint 3944 West Point Loma Blvd. (Loma Portal) 619-450-6316 Prices: Sides, $2.50 and $5; sweet and savory pies (mini to whole sizes), $2.95 to $20 ale from AleSmith Brewing Company. The pork pie (available mostly on weekends) was spectacular. It became our favorite, thanks to a bouquet of flavors involving soft potatoes and chunks of the roasted meat mingling with robust tomatillo-chili sauce and a bit of cheddar cheese. Combine those ingredients with delicate butter-laden pastry crust and life suddenly hugs you with a set of big, warm arms. The chicken pie featured a combination of thigh and breast meat, perhaps not as densely packed as what I’ve had at Pop Pie, but a fine construct nonetheless with its discernible inclusion of herbs and crunchy bits of carrots, celery and onions. Small cubes of tri-tip and root vegetables comprised the steak & ale pie, which offered whispers of bay leaf and thyme. The red wine used in lieu of the ale was evident, thus reminding me of classic beef bourguignon but with a scarcer measure of meat. A trio of commercial hot sauces were brought to the table when our food began arriving. But none were needed. The pies (and mashed potatoes) were perfectly seasoned and didn’t come across as too salty. Other savory choices are chicken-bacon and veggie-cheesy potato. The pastry cups used for the mini dessert pies were as light as feathers. A different recipe, perhaps? We took home a bunch and polished them off by the day’s end. Bravo for keeping their sugar levels under control,

The Pie Joint opened late last year in Loma Portal’s Midway Towne Center. (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.)

as we could actually taste the cocoa in the chocolate mousse, the coconut in the coconut cream, and the potent citrus in the lemon and key lime curds. There are usually between six and 10 sweet mini pies in the offing each day, such as drunken caramel apple made with bourbon; Boston cream; apple crumble; orange creamsicle, and more. Only the dessert pies are available in whole 9-inch size, should you be feeding a party. If you’re ordering one, call first to see if your flavor of choice is in stock. If not, a 24-hour notice is required. The Stevens are expecting their beer and wine license by early March. Soon after, they plan on holding pie-andbeer pairings once a month in

honor of what can be called a wonderful and delicious pie revolution. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at

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‘Trivial comedy’ for fun-loving people Theater Review Jean Lowerison The subtitle of Oscar Wilde’s “The Importance of Being Earnest” gives it away — “A trivial comedy for serious people” — though I submit that limiting it to “serious” people slights what is certainly the funniest and may very well be the best-known and most-produced farce in the English language. Oscar Wilde, the son of Irish intellectuals, was an iconoclast from the get-go and while at Oxford, became involved in the

aesthetic and decadent movements of the 19th century. The former celebrated art for its own sake and style over substance; the second, artificiality over nature and ennui or boredom over hard work. It’s style over substance that is on abundant display in “Earnest,” Wilde’s last play, which skewers hypocrisy, social convention and even honesty, as its characters utter one great bon mot after another on their way to getting what they want by whatever means necessary. Maria Aitken directs a jaunty production of “Earnest” through March 4 on the Old Globe’s Shiley Stage. Algernon “Algy” Moncrieff (Christian Conn) is in headlong

(l to r) Helen Cespedes (as Cecily Cardew) and Kate Abbruzzese (as The Hon. Gwendolen Fairfax) in a scene from Oscar Wilde’s funny play (Photo by Jim Cox)

pursuit of pleasure and amusement. To this end, he has invented an imaginary friend named Bunbury who has a peculiar habit of taking ill and requiring care whenever Algy’s Aunt Augusta, aka Lady Bracknell, has invited him to one of her deadly dull dinner parties. On the other hand, Algy’s friend John, aka Jack, Worthing (Matt Schwader) is serious about most things, including love — especially after he meets Lady Bracknell’s daughter Gwendolen (Kate Abbruzzese), who is not only lovely, but rich. Jack also has a “Bunbury” — a ne’er-do-well “brother” named Ernest, who “lives” at Jack’s country estate. Of course, there are establishment types who will try to throw a monkey wrench into these plans. Lady Bracknell (Helen Carey), for example, is a society snob intent on finding a proper match for Gwendolen. She is quite sure Jack is not worthy to court, much less marry Gwendolen — especially when she learns he was a “foundling,” left in a handbag at Victoria Station as an infant. “To lose one parent may be regarded as a misfortune,” she sniffs. “To lose both looks like carelessness.” But Gwendolen, a headstrong young woman determined to marry a man named Ernest, is in love with Jack, or at least with the Jack who

(l to r) Christian Conn (as Algernon Moncrieff) and Matt Schwader (as John Worthing) in Oscar Wilde’s “The Importance of Being Earnest,” running through March 4 at The Old Globe. (Photo by Jim Cox) occasionally calls himself Ernest. Jack’s ward, 18-yearold Cecily Cardew (Helen Cespedes) lives in Jack’s country home. She has romantic notions and a diary of imaginary adventures, beginning when Algy shows up at Jack’s country estate posing as the charming scoundrel Ernest. Cecily has little interest in the efforts of Miss Prism (Jane Ridley), who tries to teach the girl German (and has a most interesting secret of her own). Mistaken identities, charming lies and the gleeful skewering of Victorian conventions abound in Wilde’s wondrously amusing piece. The Globe does it proud in both acting and production values. Matt Schwader’s John/Jack Worthing is a charming bounder and a worthy partner for Abbruzzese’s lovely Gwendolen. Cespedes is a hoot as the giddy Cecily Cardew and makes a fitting partner for Conn’s Algernon. Helen Carey’s interpretation of Lady Bracknell is fun to watch, less gorgon and more sniper in a role often played these days by a man in drag. Rodney Gardiner’s Chasuble, rector of the local church, and Jane Ridley’s Miss Prism, are amusing in their tentative pairing efforts. Hugh Landwehr’s sumptuous set for Algy’s town digs boasts rich colors and objets d’art, a perfect setting for a proper tea (with cucumber sandwiches, of course). Fabio Toblini’s beautiful (and sometimes comic) costumes add to the period atmosphere and luxurious look of the set.

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Philip S. Rosenberg’s lighting and Fitz Patton’s original music and sound design are appropriate as well. Though the play ends happily — and became a hit in 1895 — Wilde’s life did not. Though married, Wilde was gay, and a short time after “Earnest” opened, he was arrested and convicted of “gross indecency.” The sentence — two years at hard labor — ruined his health and he died soon after his release in Paris, a broken man. But he left us some wonderful plays and poetry. “The Importance of Being Earnest” may well be the best of them. —Jean Lowerison is a long-standing member of the San Diego Theatre Critics Circle and can be reached at

(l to r) Jane Ridley (Miss Prism) and Rodney Gardiner (The Rev. Canon Chasuble) in a scene from “Earnest” (Photo by Jim Cox)



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Friday, Feb. 16

SDPix presents Top of the Bay: Enjoy amazing views and first-rate entertainment at The Porto Vista. Top of the Bay is the original LGBT happy hour and it embodies the San Diego spirit. Social hour at 6 p.m. Rotating DJ performances 7–10 p.m. Free roundtrip shuttle between Porto Vista and Rich’s, with free entry into Rich’s until midnight. Porto Vista Hotel Rooftop, 1835 Columbia St. Little Italy.

Saturday, Feb. 17

Hillcrest Classic Car Show: Every third Saturday of the month, Great Autos of Yesteryear — the largest LGBT car club on the West Coast with almost 1,000 members — will bring at least 20 car collectors to share their love of cars with the public and oth-er members. To learn more about Great Autos of Yesteryear, visit Free. 1–4 p.m. Normal Street under the Hillcrest Pride Flag. bit. ly/2C0Wj8I Lesbian Dance & Lip Sync: Hosted by Sally Hall, this fun event will feature a lipsync battle before the dance from 6–7 p.m. then DJ Fariba returns to spin for the rest of the evening. It’s Sally Hall’s birthday and she’ll be providing light desserts. These dances repeat monthly and are a little different every month. The Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave. Hillcrest.

Sunday, Feb. 18

Wine and Canvas: Come out for some artsy fun at an urban wine bar. You don’t have to be an artist to have fun. Admission $35 and includes all necessary art materials, including easels, paints, brushes, aprons, step-by-step instruction and a 16-by-20-inch gallery-wrapped canvas. Wine not included, no food menu available but okay to bring outside food. Tonight’s art selection is “Ocean Beach Pier.” 21 and up. 1–4 p.m. at Gianni Buonomo Vinters, 4836 Newport Ave., Ocean Beach. Tantrums & Tiaras All Stars: Some of your favorite contestants are back with a new cast of characters for Tantrums and Tiaras: Battle of the Bar Queens all stars edi-tion, to battle for the crown. Hosted by the always fabulous Babette Schwartz, you’ll be laughing nonstop. Watch a bunch of “queens” — with little to no experience in drag — try to strut around the stage in stilettos and not fall over. Doors open at 6 p.m., show starts at 7 p.m. Observatory North Park, 2891 University Ave. North Park.

Monday, Feb. 19

Transgender Coming Out Group: This weekly group supports transgender people in all stages of exploring gender identity. Open to transgender women and men, gen-derqueer/ gender non-conforming people, people who are intersex and those question-ing their gender identity. Significant others, friends, family and allies are welcome to attend with their transgender loved ones. 7–8:30 p.m. at The Center, 3909 Centre St. Email, call 619-692-2077 x109 or visit Mazing Mondays at the Caliph: Come sing along to the songs of your past with Carol Curtis from 5–8 p.m. and enjoy karaoke with Danny from 8:30 p.m.–12:30 a.m. at this easy-going cocktail bar and lounge that has been in our community since 1960. Happy hour 4:30 p.m.–1 a.m. The Caliph, 3100 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Visit

Tuesday, Feb. 20

Hillcrest Comedy Night with Jaleesa Johnson: Come celebrate a night of comedic diversity with locally-acclaimed stand-up comedian Jaleesa Johnson (Buzzfeed, San Diego Pride Festival), with special performances by Cameron Frost, Raul Zambrano, Pallavi Gunalan, Connor McSpad-den and headliner

James Schrader, the 2017 winner of San Diego’s funniest person contest. Doors open at 6 p.m., show starts at 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave. Hillcrest.

Wednesday, Feb. 21

Film — ‘Jawbreaker’: Join FilmOut San Diego for their monthly screening in Febru-ary of this smash cult film, when an exclusive clique of teenage socialites accidentally murders their best friend, Liz (Charlotte Ayanna), on the morning of her birthday, the three girls responsible conspire to hide the truth. Directed by Darren Stein (G.B.F.) who will be in attendance for a Q&A. With Pam Grier, Rose McGowan, Carol Kane, William Katt, Jeff Conaway, Marilyn Manson and The Donnas. 87 minutes, Rated R. Trailer at 7–9:30 p.m. at Landmark’s Hillcrest Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. Hillcrest. bit. ly/2DFy6VV

Thursday, Feb. 22

Women in Leadership Forum: Presented by the Women’s Museum of California and hosted by Mister A’s Restaurant, enjoy tray-passed hors d’oeuvres, and refreshments while hearing various powerful speakers and Sen. Toni G. Atkins honor Adama Iwu, who exposed a culture of inequality at the California state Capitol and one of Time Magazine’s “Silence Breakers.” Valet parking $12; street parking availanle. 6–9 p.m. Mister A’s is located on 12th floor, 2550 Fifth Ave., Bankers Hill. Tickets: RuPaul’s All Stars Viewing Party: Tonight is the kickoff of VH1’s big hit “RuPaul’s All Stars, Season 3.” MO’s will stream it on all their screens with your hosts, Chad Michaels, Glitz Glam and Paris Quion. Arrive by 7 p.m. to get dance floor seating to watch on the big screen. 8 p.m. MO’s Bar and Grill, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest.

Barbie Z’s Dollhouse: Barbie invites you into her dollhouse in the month of love. Her “dolls of the month” are Felipe Velazquez-Coronado; Bebe Gunn; Michael Smeltzer; Evelyn Rose; Remington Scott Kienbusch; Miriam T; and Phanta Z Debbie Debbo Sanders. Sponsored by Hillcrest Social. No cover. 8–11 p.m. #1 Fifth Avenue, 3845 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest.

Friday, Feb. 23

The Resizters live at Gossip Grill: Come hear The Resizters as they sing their songs of protest and peace with front woman Stacey back at the helm. This is a happy hour show, so bring your chips. Hard start and end times so don’t be late! Stick around afterward for the San Diego Drag Kings at 8 p.m. $5 cover. 5:30–7:30 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest.

Saturday, Feb. 24

Tour of Scotland: Take a “tour” with Colleen and Jay as they bring the tastes of different regions of Scotland to be considered and compared by all who attend. Sample and discuss rare and small batch Scotches in a convivial atmosphere. They have some new selections that they are excited to share! Food will also be provided. 6:30 –8 p.m. Vom Fass, 1050 University Ave., Hillcrest. bit. ly/2EGTSZR Film – ‘How to Steal a Million’: Forget Valentine’s Day? Bring your valentine for a classic film presented at an outdoor viewing space in a reserved seat under the stars for the 50th anniversary of the suspenseful comedy, “How to Steal a Million,” with Audrey Hepburn and Peter O’Toole. 127 minutes. Films start at 8 p.m. $16 –$19. Cinema Under the Stars, 4040 Goldfinch St., Mission Hills. Visit or call 619-295-4221.


1 “The Death of Friends” author Michael 5 The A in GLARP (abbr.) 9 Fairy story figure 14 How far up it goes (abbr.) 15 Syngman of Korea 16 Dykes on Bikes member, e.g. 17 “Hairspray” handle 18 Bamako’s country 19 With a wide-open mouth 20 Gus Kenworthy displayed this in a Head & Shoulders commercial 23 “The Simpsons” bartender 24 Hard top? 25 Kind of key, for Jerry Herman 27 Town in da Vinci’s land 30 “The Music Man” composer Willson 33 Tammy Faye’s old club 34 Wood that doesn’t need moth balls 36 Tonto’s erection 37 “Pretty in Pink” setting 39 Almodovar's mister

41 Practice hitting a shirtless man 42 One of Caesar’s stones 44 Dead duck 46 Fruit sugar ending 47 Female impersonator’s pencil application 49 Sex toys, for some 51 The S of WASP 52 Mauna ___ 53 What thespians do with each other 55 Kenworthy is often called this for being vocal about LGBTQ issues 61 Feature of Langston Hughes’ work 63 Sitarist Shankar 64 Nuts 65 Whoopi in “The Color Purple” 66 Ghostbusters role 67 Chimp that was out in space 68 Sailor’s rear 69 Emulated Rufus Wainwright 70 Hungers

Dragalicious Gospel Brunch at Lips: Join Sister Nun-of-the-Above (Tootie) and the Sis-ters of Sequin for a church session that is done correctly. For just $19.95 you get an entrée, sides, unlimited mimosas, champage, bloodys and a dragalicious drag show. First seating between 11–11:30 a.m., second seating at 1:30 p.m. $5 cover. Reserva-tions required. 3036 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit or lipssd. com.

Monday, Feb. 26

San Diego Pride annual meeting: Join San Diego Pride's board, staff and volunteers for their annual meeting. Agenda includes a discussion of their year in review, a high-light of upcoming events, and the introduction of San Diego Pride’s new Pride execu-tive director. 6–7 p.m. The San Diego LGBT Community Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. RuPaul’s Drag Race Trivia: Start those engines kittens! Mariam T hosts this monthly trivia event. If this season of All Stars has you wanting more, you’re in luck. We’re testing your knowledge of the best show on earth – RuPaul’s Drag Race. Questions about every season including All Stars. To pre-register your teams for an extra five points, visit 7–10 p.m. MO’s Bar and Grill, 308 University Ave., Hillcrest.

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Sunday, Feb. 25

YPC’s February Social - Karaoke: This month, Sunday Funday means karaoke at The Hive. Room for 30 people, lots of food and drink, and plenty of fun, with pool tables and arcade games. Must register. New people are always welcome at YPC (Young Professionals Council) events! If you don’t know anyone in YPC yet, we promise you will within 10 minutes of arriving! 1–3 p.m. Hive, 4428 Convoy St. Suite 100, Clairemont Mesa bit. ly/2HhK0nX

solution on page 13 DOWN 1 Not even once, to Dickinson 2 Alan of “And the Band Played On” 3 Part of Caesar’s boast 4 Ahead, in da Vinci’s land 5 Powder rooms? 6 Peggy of WOW Cafe 7 Word with gratification or abuse 8 “Hairspray” coproducer with Craig Zadan 9 Cop show about catching some queens? 10 Sham locks 11 First openly gay man to qualify for the Winter Olympics 12 Car that used to be yours 13 Like love, for some 21 Fruit of Peter Pears? 22 k.d. lang’s “The ___ That I Breathe” 26 Sapphic poetry 27 Big name in computers 28 Be unfaithful to your lover 29 One of Kenworthy’s event 30 Bruce Wayne kept his Dick in one

31 Style Tracy Turnblad’s hair 32 Toast opener 35 De Rossi’s wife 38 Kunis of “Black Swan” 40 Dealing with an invitation 43 “___ Going on Seventeen” 45 P’s for Socrates 48 Drama in the land of Samurai 50 YouTube personality Tyler 53 Curve and others 54 Guitarist Atkins 56 “Do What U Want” Lady 57 Shakespeare could have bathed in it 58 Skye on screens 59 Supply-and-demand subj. 60 Diana, who was once a Supreme being? 62 To me, to Hirschfeld



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(CA) You’ve said you like to use your platform and acting to support important caus-es, which you’ve done in projects like 2009’s “Funny or Die’s Prop 8 — The Musical.” Do you recall the point in your life or career when you became passionate about queer issues? (AJ) I have so many gay friends in my world and having such close friends in the gay community made me more aware of different issues. So, I’d naturally get in-volved through my friends. It happened when I came out to LA and I was doing “West Wing.” Once you start becoming someone — you know, a celebrity person — you realize, “Actually, I could help just by showing up there and by doing this.” It was a wonderful thing to realize, that I could use my name for something good other than the acting. (CA) Does it feel even more important right now to take on projects that can make a difference?



John-Michael performed with the San Diego Youth Symphony from 2000 until 2009. For the 2008-09 season, he was awarded the position of “Maurice Kawashima Associate Concertmaster — San Diego Youth Symphony Orchestra.” In 2015, JohnMichael was invited back to the San Diego Youth Symphony Orchestra for its 70th anniversary celebration trip to China, performing in Beijing, Yantai and Shanghai. John-Michael attended the Berklee College of Music in Boston and graduated Summa Cum Laude with a bachelor’s degree in violin performance in May 2013. He served as concertmaster of Berklee’s Musical Theater Orchestra and first violinist for Berklee’s string quartet. In recent years, JohnMichael taught violin and viola, jazz and classical theory; performed in many local venues, including the Sapphire Theatre Company in Escondido, the La Jolla Music Society’s summer production of “A Midsummer Night’s Dream”; and was a fiddle player with The Desperados

(AJ) Yes, yes! It really does. And I don’t know what I’m gonna be asked to do next, but I hope that I will be able to contribute. (CA) I think now is the right time for another lesbian role, just sayin’. (AJ) OK, alright. I’m gonna start looking for one. Will you start looking for one for me? Should I do a biopic of – I’m trying to think, what lesbian should I play? I think it’s gotta be a character that’s not written yet. (CA) Considering your trove of lesbian parts, I’m surprised lesbian roles aren’t just rolling in for you. (AJ) I don’t know — I don’t think so! I’m gonna have to call my agent: “Where are all my lesbian roles?” Oh, a pioneering lesbian! Amelia Earhart. I don’t know if she was. I’m gonna get on that though. I’m gonna start looking. That’s a good thing to put in my head. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter, @chrisazzopardi.t

and for Shawn Rohlf and the Buskers. John-Michael leaves behind his loving father, Michael R. Brooks and stepdad, Dan M. Gilbreath; his maternal grandmother, Isabel Hall, as well as a large extended family. John-Michael was predeceased by his mother, Roberta Ann Brooks, who passed away in 2008. Roberta worked tirelessly during John-Michael's formative years to give him the exposure to the violin and music that he so desperately craved. Many people throughout John-Michael’s life contributed significantly to his love of music. These include Maxine Johnson and Matt Mandrones in Washington state; Steve Luchs, San Diego Unified School District; Dr. Philip Tyler, Point Loma Nazarene University; San Diego Youth Symphony Conductor Jeff Edmonds; SCPA music teacher and best mentor ever Tamara Paige; Mark O’Connor, preeminent fiddler and classical violinist, avid teacher and mentor; and the late Sam Necochea of Lakeside, California, a great friend and fellow fiddler. Plans are in the works for a summer memorial concert. Donations in John-Michael’s name may be made to the San Diego Youth Symphony.t

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