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Melanie Peters (center) emceed the rally, held just prior to the march, which drew 40,000 people, including various local dignitaries in attendance. (Photo by Patrick Pemberton)

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In the wake of President Donald J. Trump’s election, his cabinet picks and his promises to roll back many existing rights and laws, a Women’s March on Washington was planned for Jan. 21, the day

after his inauguration. Similar marches popped up across the country and even the world as concerned citizens took to the streets

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Originally founded in 1995 by Mary Maschal, who opened her Golden Hill home to the public after having gathered relevant collectibles and memorabilia for over a decade, the Women’s Museum of California is now located in Liberty Station. With its mission of “preserving the past, inspiring the future,” the museum has grown into a wealth of archives, exhibits, resources and live shows. On Thursday, Jan. 26, the Women’s Museum held a fundraiser called “Celebrating Women in Politics,” honoring all the women who were recently elected into local offices, while unveiling a new traveling exhibit, “Rocking the Political Boat.” The event was held at Mister A’s in the “east room,” with its dynamic views overlooking Bankers Hill and Downtown. Rachel Laing — former San Diego Union-Tribune staff writer and deputy press secretary for Mayor Jerry Sanders who now runs her own PR and

communications consultation business — emceed the fundraiser. After a short networking social hour, Hannah Cohen, president of the Women’s Museum, opened up the event. “We are here to celebrate the wonderful women in San Diego who are our leaders,” she said. Thanking the board for its work, Cohen then introduced the board’s only male member, local political activist and Navy veteran Shawn VanDiver. Cohen also introduced Diane Peabody Strow, who took over

as executive director of the Women’s Museum from Ashley Gardner about six months ago. Laing then welcomed distinguished guests in attendance, including newly minted state Sen. Toni Atkins; new Assemblymember Todd Gloria, who was still en route; Sheriff Bill Gore; Supervisor Kristin Gaspar, City Attorney Mara Elliott; new San Diego City Councilmembers Barbara Bry, Chris Ward and Georgette

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America’s Finest City Softball League (AFCSL) begins its 37th season in March, and San Diego’s largest softball league is happily accepting new players across several divisions. The largest sports league for LGBT athletes and their friends in town, AFSCL hosts both a “women’s section” and an “open section” (women or men), with games played on Sundays during a 10-week season that spans most of spring. AFCSL has long been a popular outlet for recreational sports in the community for three reasons: it is well organized; it has various levels of competition for anyone of any skill level; and players can remain on their teams for multiple seasons. The league also plans weekly social events after games on a regular basis and affords teams the opportunity to participate in large tournaments around the country, should they choose to attend. The women’s section falls under the umbrella of a national organization known as Amateur Sports Alliance of North America, or ASANA. They will hold their World Series in Austin, Texas, July 4-8. The open section is part of the North American Gay Amateur Athletic Alliance (NAGAAA) and their World Series will be played Sept. 4-9 in Portland, Oregon. The two sections use individual ratings to determine a player’s eligibility to participate in various divisions, with A being the highest rated, down to the beginning level of D. For players who have never played in an ASANA or NAGAAA league, AFCSL requires them to attend one of the four new player clinics the league will host in February. Player clinics are free to attend and require no RSVP. Participants are asked to arrive a few minutes early, with

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Saving lives Nonprofit local LGBT minister helped found offers lifelines to homeless youth help end youth homelessness in San Diego. Lovett shared Steven still has nightmares the story of Steven, whose real about the time, when he was name is being withheld to proonly 3 or 4 years old, that his tect his privacy. drug-addicted mother got really “We brought Steven to our angry with him, grabbed him shelter and we helped him out,” by the ankles, then held him said Lovett, who has 25 years upside down over the toilet of experience working with the bowl — his head inches from homeless. the water — as she flushed and Urban Street Angels operflushed and flushed. ate an emergency overnight The little boy’s physical, shelter on Tuesdays in space mental and verbal abuse conrented from Missiongathering tinued for many years. With no Christian Church, located dad involved in his life, nor any on Polk Street in North Park. adults who cared much about Jerry Troyer, a longtime La his health and welfare, Steven Mesa resident who is one of lived in a hellish world where the founding members of the “normal” meant constantly seeAngels, is the shelter coordinaing a pile of drugs and needles tor who has just been promoted on the coffee table and his to assistant director. mother strung out and violent. Troyer said the shelter takes When he turned 12, Steven in “transitional age youth” typleft home, begging friends to ically between the ages of 17 let him temporarily stay with and 25, people like Steven who them. He dropped out of school. they find on the streets of San By age 17, he was on his own, Diego or who desperately call living on the streets. But the them for help. The shelter can cold, brutal Michigan winters accommodate up to 24 youth at took its toll, and Steven decided a time. he wanted to live somewhere “We feed them dinner, let Jerry Troyer, a local minister and author of “Coming Out to Ourselves,” co-founded Urban Street Angels. (Photo by Ken Williams) warm — and that’s how he end- them shower and clean up, ofed up in San Diego around the fer them haircuts, provide medtime he turned 21. ical services, give them clothing Mind you that this message With Steven’s luck what it and hygiene supplies, and they is delivered by a man whose was, he arrived in America’s have a warm and safe place background is the ministry. Finest City during last year’s to sleep for the night,” Troyer “We are not a faith-based worst weather event. That’s said. “We serve them breakfast organization,” Lovett agreed, when he made the call that Wednesday morning before they “but all of us come from that would change his life. go back out in the world.” background.” Troyer emphasized that the Sheltering in North Park A home and a job Angels have no religious affili“We rescued Steven in Ocean ation, unlike most local organiThe Angels also operate a Beach during the three-day zations that serve the homeless. transitional housing and emEl Nino storm, along with his ployment program for homeless “We are not religious or companion, his dog,” said Eric youth called “8 West” — think spiritual,” he said. “We are Lovett, founder and executive Interstate 8 West to get to not about saving souls or prosdirector of Urban Street Angels, elytizing. If you want to turn Ocean Beach, where a lot of a 5-year-old nonprofit 501(c)(3) homeless youth congregate. somebody off, hit them over the organization with a mission to At an undisclosed location in head with a Bible!” San Diego, they have a group home housing 10 young men and behind the main house is a “granny flat” housing six young women. Three house managers supervise the residents. Founder and Executive Director Eric Lovett (right) offers guidance to a young “These 16 young people are homeless man. (Courtesy Urban Street Angels) working toward preparing themselves for a productive life,” Troyer said, his voice are unceremoniously dumped to tell us how they identify. If I cracking with emotion. out of the system when they had to guess, the figure might “About 80 percent of our turn 18. Most have no job skills be 60 percent to 65 percent homeless youth come from our or prospects and no money for LGBT.” shelter,” he said about the 8 housing and living expensLGBT teenagers who come West program. es. Most end up living on the out to their parents and friends More than 3,000 young peostreets to survive. don’t always get a warm and ple are living and sleeping on “Many of the kids don’t know loving reaction. Instead of the streets of San Diego, out of about California’s AB 12 law,” acceptance they get rejection. Expanded Testing Hours for Your Convenience! an estimated 9,000 homeless he said, adding that the 2010 Lovett and Troyer hear all people. measure extended state benethe time from LGBT teens FIGHT TREAT TEST PROTECT San Diego has the fits to foster children to age 21. who were kicked out of their Stigma, Fear and Shaming Get Undetectable Know Your HIV Status PrEP and Condoms third-largest homeless populaAlthough LGBT Americans homes after coming out to their tion in the U.S., and the probcomprise about 10 percent of families. lem seems to be getting worse. the population, an overwhelm“We are the only [counCall 619.692.2077 x0 for an appointment. /bethegeneration Lovett figures that about ing number of homeless youths ty-funded] homeless housing Walk-ins are also welcome. half of the homeless youth identify as a sexual minority. program in San Diego that @BTGSD served by the Angels are from Lovett said the national averwelcomes transgender people Monday – Friday 9am-8pm (last test 7pm) the San Diego area, while age of LGBT homeless youth in the gender with which they the other half come from out is around 43 percent, but in identify,” Troyer said. 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In honor of women Back Out with Benny Ben Cartwright I love women; I was raised by them, educated by them, have worked for them, and have benefited from their many contributions to our society and world. After the recent Women’s Marches held across the country and globe, which were initially created as events to speak out for women’s rights and evolved into human rights marches, I have found myself thinking about the women who have been in my life over the years and my relationships with them. As a gay man, I feel like many of us have a special connection to the women in our lives. Often, it was the other boys who would taunt and harass us because we were different, and it was our female friends who often held our hands, hugged us and stood up to the bullies who made our childhoods difficult. It was often our mothers who were there for us when our fathers disapproved of our “lifestyle choices” (their words, not mine) and it was women who were leading the way in the fight for equality. Women continue to have it harder: As a group, they’re paid less for doing equal work, pay more for “feminine” clothes and products, and have to live in a society that often places the blame on them when they are victims of things like rape or sexual harassment. But so many of them have fought so hard, carried on, and been there for those of us who couldn’t always take care of ourselves. My mother, who divorced my father when I was 4 years old, spent most of our childhood working harder than anyone I know; working full time, raising us on her own, and finishing an advanced degree. She was working in the accounting field in the 1980s, a career dominated by men. She had to put up with a lot of sexism, but was better at her trade than any of those men. While I know she struggled immensely, we always had food on the table, and my brothers and I had a very comfortable childhood. And as I’m almost 37 years old now, mom is still there for me and occasionally helps me out when I need extra money for this or that. Both of my grandmothers were very supportive women, as well, and the one who is still living continues to be there for all of my brothers and me, as well as her many other grandchildren and great-grandchildren. Because my mom was often at work and school when I was a kid, I spent a lot of time with one of the neighbor ladies who became like a best friend to me. While no one could replace my mother, it was nice to have this woman to talk to, share my secrets, and laugh with (I was always more comfortable speaking to adult women than men). Many of my favorite educators growing up were also women. From kindergarten through the completion of a master’s degree, I had a mix of educators, but most of my favorites were women.

One educator in particular, whom I will never forget, is Ms. Candace Pauchnick of Patrick Henry High School in San Diego. She passed away late last year, but spent her 30-plus year career as a high school teacher working to chip away at hate and prejudice by hosting educational panels on LGBTQ issues, race issues, and more — even when her administration didn’t permit it. When asked why, she would tell me, “I just can’t imagine not teaching my students to be good human beings.” I’m also lucky to work for and with a number of amazing women, including the CEO of the San Diego LGBT Community Center, Dr. Delores Jacobs, whose wisdom, passion and patience have made The Center what it is today. Our community is a better place because of these women, and I’m grateful for it. There are dozens, if not hundreds of other women in my life who I love and value and can’t imagine the world without them. We need to be better to our women — including transgender women — and make sure they are paid equally, treated equally and valued. If it seems funny to you that in 2017 I would still need to make such a statement, you might need to re-assess your view of how this world really works. To all the amazing women who have shaped my life over the years: THANK YOU!

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This weekend is the Imperial Court de San Diego’s biggest event of the year: Coronation. While most people know about the main event on Saturday night at the Handlery Hotel in Mission Valley, there are a number of smaller shows and parties that are a lot of fun. I always make it a point to attend the last event of the weekend, the Sea to Shining Sea Show, which celebrates the newly elected monarchs with performances by entertainers from across the country. The show will close out Coronation weekend on Sunday, Feb. 5, from 5-7:30 p.m. at Numbers. More info about Coronation is at tinyurl. com/2gchly. The 2017 Bayard Rustin Civil Rights Honors event will be held at The Center on Friday, Feb. 10, from 6-8 p.m., honoring a number of leaders in San Diego’s black and LGBTQ communities. A $15 donation includes a soul food buffet, entertainment and program. Visit tinyurl.com/jk3pz6s. And the fabulous Tantrums & Tiaras: Battle of the Bar Queens is scheduled for Sunday, Feb. 19, from 7-10 p.m. at The Observatory North Park. This fabulous contest between amateur drag entertainers who have little or no experience is one of the best events of the year, and it benefits The Center. For details, visit tinyurl.com/j3gfc33. —Benny Cartwright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619-692-2077 ext. 106 or outreach@thecentersd.org. Note: Byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aperture Photography.▼

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Dipping into our collections Out of the Archives Archives Staff In a change from our usual reporting on events at Lambda Archives, we are going to mix things up to highlight some of our collections this time. We’ve chosen to highlight a collection that was processed very recently by a volunteer, Caro Vera, who also provided this report on the collection. The Archives is grateful for volunteers including Caro, who make all of what we do possible. The Lesbians In North County (LINC) collection reveals the birth and growth of a vibrant community of lesbians, a tightknit network that would exist for 26 years after its inception. LINC’s origins go back to the founding of the North County Lesbian Support Group in November of 1989 by two therapists from the San Diego Lesbian and Gay Men’s Community Center (The Center) who wanted to provide their North County clients with something closer to home. The first few meetings were held in a private home in Oceanside, but, as attendance increased over the course of a few weeks, a new location was warranted. The group started renting space from the Palomar Unitarian Universalist Church in Vista for their Friday night meetings. For the next few years, the size of the group fluctuated, rising to 35 people at times and dropping again. In 1992, one of the therapists who served as facilitator broke off with a portion of the group to form their own Wednesday night therapy-support group. It differed from the main support group in that it was a closed group with no drop-ins. It quickly died down, and the main support group, having suffered a loss of leadership and attendance, struggled to remain in existence. In August of 1993, the support group lost its other therapist-facilitator. Out of a desire to keep the group alive, members Patty Morton, Dawn Sitler, and Wanda Pattison, stepped forward as co-facilitators. They assumed leadership and ended the group’s official tie to the San Diego Center. The group renamed itself the Lesbians in North County

(LINC) and began to thrive amid core changes. The transition from outsider leadership to member leadership shifted the focus of the group. Its purpose, which had been to provide support for its members, was expanded to include a broader community of women. The members of LINC wanted the group to lift up their community. Their mission shifted, to provide “a safe and open environment for women seeking support and social activities.” As a result of the new energy and momentum in the group, its social activities expanded. They began to have bowling, camping, hiking, beach parties, concerts, plays, sporting events, dance lessons, lectures and more. The scale of these events changed as well, with the group’s strength attracting more and more members of the lesbian community to its events.

In 1997, the annual LINC Memorial Day Party at Patty and Dawn’s Pathfi nder Farm drew a crowd of more than 350 people. The entertainers they hired for that year’s party were Teresa Trull, a recording artist with Olivia Records and Redwood Records, and well-known guitarist Nina Gerber. That summer’s newsletter — called LINCletter, LINC’s quarterly publication — stated that the annual LINC Memorial Day Party was the “biggest San Diego County event of the lesbian year.” LINC events often doubled as fundraisers for The Center or for LINC itself. LINC had close ties with The Center; they were one of its major supporters and helped cut the dedication ribbon at its opening.

Various items in the archived LINC collection, including a hand-drawing of the first logo attempt (upper right). (Courtesy Lambda Archives)

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The LINCletter was often used to rally its members on behalf of The Center or for LINC when financial strains threatened to destroy their existence. They advertised fundraising events, such as benefit concerts or dinners, calling to attention the role LINC members could play in keeping these spaces open. LINC also helped fundraise and volunteered for other causes. The LINCletter typically contained personality profiles for LINC members, anonymous advice (Dear Stella), poetry, articles about lesbian identities or issues, and information about upcoming social events or LINC meetings. The first issue was published in the summer of 1997, and focused on highlighting the group’s origin and history. By reading LINC’s newsletters, one gets a sense for their closeness, its volunteer writers often describing individual members and what they did at an event. The LINCletters are riddled with inside jokes denoting close bonds between its members. The LINCletter also served as a place for community advertisements with local businesses submitting ads, which often gave LINC members discounts to their products or services. It was common to see ads for Pathfinder Farm, Copy Girls Inc., Charlie’s Canine Corner, Gay Realtors, Big Kitchen Cafe, Hillcrest Optical, and other businesses. LINC was a community pillar worth remembering. They provided an open space for lesbians to come together and support each other through discussion and social interaction. In addition to LINC newsletters, we have meeting minutes, fliers, event tickets and programs, a print out of their website and even a wrist watch bearing the LINC logo. LINC is just one of the collections that Lambda Archives is proud to house. For more information on LINC or any of our other collections, contact info@LambdaArchives.org or 619-260-1522. —Lambda Archives, a 501(c) (3) dedicated to collecting, preserving and teaching the history of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in San Diego and the Northern Baja California region, is located at 4545 Park Blvd., in University Heights. To learn more, stop in or visit their website at lambdaarchives.org.▼

Historical tidbits Research feedback: Have you used Lambda Archives for anything? Research? Recording interviews? Borrowing books? Making connections? If so, researchers from UCLA would like to hear about your experiences. They would like to know how community archives are used and are conducting two focus groups on Sunday, Feb. 5 from 3-5 p.m. and Monday, Feb. 6, from 5:30-7:30 p.m. In exchange for their time, each focus group participant will receive a $15 Amazon gift card and complimentary dinner after the group. RSVP to Michelle Caswell caswell@ gseis.ucla.edu with your name, contact information, and the date you’d prefer to participate in a focus group (Feb. 5 or Feb. 6). Both focus groups will be held at Lambda Archives, 4545 Park Blvd., Suite 104, University Heights. If you have any questions, please contact Jen LaBarbera archivist@ LambdaArchives.org or 619-260-1522. Fruit Loop: On Friday, Feb. 24 from 5:30-11 p.m., Parkeology will again host an event featuring stories from the Fruit Loop. Lambda Archives has been instrumental in finding interview subjects for this fascinating glimpse at cruising in Balboa Park. Cars will be parked around the parking lot at Marston Point playing some of the interviews with people who were involved in the Fruit Loop story, one way or another. The event is free and open to the public. For more information, visit parkeology.org/ queens-circle. We hope to see you there!

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[Ref: “A peaceful transition,” Vol. 8, Issue 2, or online at tinyurl.com/h6vk7t9] While I strongly disagree with her choice for presidents, thank you for this very upclose look at Gina Roberts and her views. Having said that, I also strongly agree with her statement, “I may not agree with you, but that doesn’t mean you are a bad person and I will listen to your perspective. I think that goes a long way to cementing solid friendships in so many ways.” She went on to state her willingness to listen to and respect the “well thought out” opinions of others. What was not said is that the peoples of a diverse nation inevitably disagree on many topics; dismissing anyone’s opinions without having at least a basic understanding of how they come by them, does nothing to unite a people behind common best interests and everything to divide them, further paralyze government and set neighbor against neighbor, family against family and friend against friend. Keep up the great objective reporting on the tough subjects. —Bill Kelly, via email —Letters to the editor can be sent to morgan@sdcnn.com. Comments can also be made on our website or Facebook page.▼

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Where I’ll draw the line in the Trump years By Rep. Scott Peters (Editor’s note: This was originally published in the San Diego Union-Tribune on Jan. 26.) I am hardly alone in my apprehension about what a Donald Trump presidency means for the state of our union. As we enter this new era, San Diegans should know that despite my grave concerns, I remain committed to solving problems and fi xing a broken Washington, D.C. I will continue to work with anyone who has a good idea, regardless of political party or title, in order to create more prosperous future – and a government that works — for all Americans. So if President Trump and Republicans and Democrats want to work together to revise the tax code to support middle-class job creation, bring offshore profits back home to invest here, repair America’s infrastructure, and keep America’s military the strongest and best in the world, I’m ready to help.

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However, if the President continues to pursue some of the extreme plans he campaigned on — a Muslim registry, defunding Planned Parenthood, a border wall, reckless climate policies — I will draw the line and fight back in the 115th Congress. Here will be my guiding principles: Loyalty. I pledge loyalty to country and district first, ahead of political party. I’ll continue to work with both parties and I’ll stand up to my party when I disagree. I draw the line when fighting the other political party at home becomes more important than defeating our enemies abroad. We need an honest investigation of Russia’s interference with our election. And we need to make sure our President and his cabinet put service before self and don’t use their positions of trust to line their own pockets at the expense of American interests. Truth. To solve our toughest problems, we must know and accept the facts. I draw the line when some try to obscure our very real challenges with

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made-up realities. We know climate change threatens our future, let’s act responsibly to find economy-friendly, science-based solutions that reduce emissions and protect our planet. We know our growing national debt threatens our ability to invest in the long term. That debt won’t go away if we pretend that more tax cuts for the wealthiest Americans somehow pay for themselves. They don’t. Opportunity for all. Too many hard-working people aren’t able to make ends meet. I will continue to work for policies that reward hard work and provide economic opportunity for all; everyone should have a chance to get ahead and realize their American dream. This means working with Democrats and Republicans to invest in our federal highways and bridges and ports to create jobs and spur commerce. It means investment in science and in education so our kids can compete in today’s brain-powered economy. It means fixing our immigration system so we have the workforce we need, from

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farms to hospitals to laboratories. I draw the line against counterproductive policies like burying our children in student loan debt or wasting money on a multi-billion-dollar border wall. Strength abroad. I commit to maintaining America as the world’s leader in peace and strength. That means supporting diplomacy at the Department of State and our military at the Department of Defense. It means bolstering America’s economic leadership through global trade standards that increase protections for workers around the world while leveling the playing field for American workers here at home. And it means drawing the line and fighting back if our future president wants to undermine our long-standing alliances at NATO, allow the proliferation of nuclear weapons or abuse our military strength in order to antagonize, or incite war. Respect for all. Finally, I draw a line against the divisive and malicious tone set by President Trump, from his campaign to his speeches to his tweets. I commit to kindness and compassion in all that we do as a Congress. That means

caring for the poor and sick and others in need of help. It means remembering that discrimination has no place in a nation as great as ours and that immigrants and refugees are men, women and children, often fleeing danger and always seeking a better life, just like our ancestors. It means following the Golden Rule, and assuming the best in others – including my colleagues whose political ideology may be different from my own. I will continue to treat every one of my colleagues with respect and appreciation for their service to our nation. These are the guideposts San Diegans can expect me to follow. We should demand no less from the President of the United States. —Rep. Scott Peters serves the 52nd Congressional District of California, which covers much of central San Diego County including Poway, Coronado, and large portions of the City of San Diego. He is a member of the House Energy and Commerce Committee and a former environmental attorney, San Diego City Council president, and Port Commission Chairman.▼

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It’s been about two weeks since we’ve entered the Twilight Zone. The Doomsday Clock, which represents a symbolic countdown to global disaster, is now set at two and a half minutes till catastrophe. In less than a week, King Narcissist ousted State Department leadership, mandated all Environmental Protection Agency studies to go through “political review,” banned refugees from entering the U.S., and ordered to have illegal immigrants convicted of crimes in sanctuary cities be published weekly (emulating a Nazi Germany policy). It should be no surprise that George Orwell’s book “1984” is surging in sales. Among Trump’s corrupt (bursting with conflicts of interest), right-wing cabinet nominees are: Attorney General nominee Jeff Sessions, who appears to have no clue about race and racism; Tom Price, for secretary of the Department of Health and Human Services, who wants to puncture our social safety net; and Labor Secretary nominee Andrew Puzder, who has a history of preying on the working poor. LGBT people — particularly the LGBT working class, those relying on poverty programs and those involved in the criminal justice system — should take notice. These three cabinet picks are bound to make life more painful for you. LGBT workers and Puzder The vast majority of LGBT people in the U.S. work in low or working class jobs — everything from working at the Gap to doing auto repair. For example, the Pew Research Center reports that 39 percent of LGBT people are living on less than $30,000 and another 39 percent make between $30,000 and $75,000. In an era of declining union membership and huge wealth and income inequality, we need a labor secretary who will advocate for our rights as employees. The mission of the Department of Labor is to promote the welfare of workers, including those who are LGBT; but under Puzder’s possible leadership it may very well focus more on supporting worker exploitation. As head of CKE Restaurants (which owns Carl’s Jr. and Hardee’s), Puzder has a history of shortchanging his workers. The New York Times reports that Puzder’s company, during his reign, has turned over millions of dollars to settle lawsuits involving not paying his managers fairly, pressuring workers to not take breaks and/or falsifying their time cards to reduce hours worked. The social safety net and Price While far from being able to help people rise out of poverty, U.S. social safety net programs (like food aid, unemployment and Obamacare) still help millions of people make ends meet, including LGBT people. And LGBT people are more likely to receive government assistance than their straight counterparts. The Williams Institute reports that roughly 14 percent of lesbian

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Nightmares on labor, race and poverty By Rick Braatz

GAY SAN DIEGO Feb. 3 – 16, 2017

couples and nearly 8 percent of gay male couples receive food stamps (versus 6.5 percent of heterosexual couples). As a community, we need a secretary that will protect the programs that we have, not demolish them. Trump’s nominee for the Department of Health and Human Services (which oversees Obamacare, Medicare and Medicaid) is sure to do the latter. Price is a wealthy orthopedic surgeon and Republican congressmember from Georgia. He is anti-abortion, anti-Planned Parenthood and definitely anti-Obamacare. He fought Hillary Clinton in the 1990s when she proposed a form of healthcare reform. Among the many proposals to repeal Obamacare being circulated by Congress is sure to be Price’s Empowering Patients First Act. As reported on Vox.com, Price’s plan includes repealing Medicaid expansion (leaving millions of people without health care), charging patients with preexisting conditions more and eliminating the mandate that insurers must cover “essential health benefits” like mental health care and addiction treatment. The criminal justice system and Sessions Many LGBT people are entangled in the criminal justice system. Due to both transphobia and homophobia — which can lead LGBT people to engage in illicit drug use, become homeless or engage in survival economies like sex work — as well as institutionalized racism, LGBT people, particularly LGBT people of color, are more prone to interact with law enforcement and enter the prison system. Roughly 8 percent of prisoners in state and federal prison are LGBT (per the National Inmate Survey 2011-2012), which, the Center for American Progress notes is roughly double the rate of identified LGBTs in the U.S. population. In an era where many are questing the logic of racist policing and caging people, we need an attorney general who won’t make matters worse. Unfortunately, Sen. Jeff Sessions is not that person. The Nation reports that back in 1986, Congress blocked Sessions’ nomination to become a federal judge due to his racist views. In 1995, when Alabama brought back the chain gangs (an ugly reminder of Jim Crow), Sessions called it “perfectly proper.” He has criticized Department of Justice decrees to reform racist police departments (such as Ferguson). And, after the Charleston church massacre, when the Alabama governor removed the confederate flag from the statehouse, Sessions defended its history. Sessions, Price and Puzder — three men with horrific records on race, labor and poverty programs. Besides the ongoing chaos and dysfunction of Trump, they should make many LGBT people very concerned. —Rick Braatz is a sociologist, social worker, a journalist and a former editor of Gay San Diego. He can be reached at rickbraatz@ gmail.com.▼

The time has come By Max Disposti LGBTQ Community Centers all around the U.S. are demonstrating in solidarity with the immigrant community and against the latest executive order that bans refugees and singles out immigrants. If you have wondered why LGBTQI Centers are in the front line of the latest marches and actions, here are the reasons: 1. LGBTQI people are often refugees. They flee persecution and death and seek refugee status in the U.S. This is especially true for refugees from countries that are now under the ban. 2. LGBTQI people are also immigrants. They emigrated from countries where their relationships are not recognized and their lives are threatened solely because they are LGBTQI. There are hundreds of thousands of bi-national LGBTQI couples in the U.S. 3. Many newly-married LGBTQI people are not yet U.S. citizens but hold their legal status through green cards. The ban has created great confusion among green card holders and individuals who are coming from the countries affected by the ban, and might now have their green card revoked. They cannot travel and

their families cannot come and visit them. 4. For centuries (and still today) LGBTQI people have been the target of a hateful rhetoric that criminalizes us, shames us and deprives us of full recognition under the law. We cannot be bystanders when hate and rhetoric are singling out people due to their sexual orientation, gender identities and/or religious beliefs. 5. President Trump is congratulating himself for not interfering with our federal protections through an executive order. Meanwhile, he and the people he surrounds himself with, support FADA (First Amendment Defense Act). This comprehensive future house bill allows discrimination based on religious exclusions. An executive order can be undone by the next president, a bill requires the majority of votes (which he has) and it is harder to rescind. In conclusion, LGBTQI Centers, Women’s Resource Centers, the Planned Parenthoods and any service providers that help those that are in need, have the responsibility to protect and defend their constituents from additional harm. LGBTQI Centers were never born or designed to work only for marriage equality. In fact, the needs of those we serve are amidst experiences that go from the Black Lives Matter reality

and movement, the women reproductive rights, the poor, the immigrants, the uninsured and the victims of hate crimes and discrimination. Our own people would be surprised to know and see the incredible disparities that the majority of LGBTQI people are still facing in our cities. For those of us that work in the front lines every day being LGBT is not always about organizing the next Pride event or commemorating the ones we have lost, it is serving and helping and lifting those that are in our community now but that are often disfranchised even from within the same. Building better communities means not leaving anyone behind, and recognizing the institutionalized racism that has often deprived our own community to enjoy those social achievements that have benefitted only the few. It means that a culture of rape, chauvinism and misogyny needs to be addressed even within our own movement. It means that LGBTQI people are people too and the time has come for all of their voices to be heard. —Max Disposti is a human rights activist, a community organizer and the founder and executive director of the North County LGBTQ Resource Center. He is currently also serving on the boards of the Oceanside City Library and Main Street Oceanside and previously served on the city’s Community Relations Commission. He can be reached at maxrome@cox.net.▼

events ATTHECENTER Tuesday, Feb. 7

Wednesday, Feb. 15

Community Food Bank

Lunch and Learn – Living with Pride: Ruth C. Ellis at 100

9-10:30 am, The Center

12 noon, The Center

The San Diego LGBT Community Center hosts a distribution site once a month for the Community Cares Project of the San Diego Food Bank. On the first Tuesday of every month, visit The Center’s parking lot for emergency food. For more information, visit the San Diego Food Bank website at www.sandiegofoodbank.org.

Born July 23, 1899, Ruth Ellis was thought to be the oldest “out” African American lesbian. She passed away October 5, 2000 at age 101. Her story offers an opportunity to experience a rare glimpse into a century of African American gay and lesbian history through the eyes of one remarkable woman. For more information or to RSVP, contact LaRue Fields at seniors@thecentersd.org or 619.692.2077 x205.

Thursday, Feb. 9

Senior Housing Development Information Session 12 noon, The Center Looking for more information about the new LGBTaffirming senior housing development? The next information session will be held at The Center from 12 noon to 1:30 pm on Feb. 9. An additional information session will be held at The Center on Wednesday, March 1 from 5:30-7pm. For more information contact LaRue Fields at seniors@thecentersd.org or 619.692.2077 x205.

Friday, Feb. 17

Free Family Movie Night 6:30-8:30 pm, The Center Join Families @ The Center at family movie night every third Friday of the month. Bring the whole family with sleeping bags or blankets. Enjoy popcorn and snacks while you watch a family-friendly movie. For more information, contact us at families@thecentersd.org.

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21st-century cantina Restaurant Review Frank Sabatini Jr. It was one of those nights when hubby and I couldn’t decide between Mexican, Italian, Mexican, Asian or Mexican. It soon became apparent we’d end up somewhere with chips and salsa under our chins. I suggested a place we hadn’t tried yet, Primos Public Corner, which opened in October with an interior design that doesn’t exactly scream Mexico, but rather gives the impression of a taqueria saturated with urban-American soul. Our appetites were instantly whetted when first previewing online such menu items as roasted jalapeno corn bisque, New York strip steak tacos, bourbon-Sriracha flautas, and other dishes constructed with curious flair. Located in Mission Valley’s Fenton Marketplace, in the generically modern structure previously occupied by Playa Grill, customers enter into a sporty bar lounge replete with fl at screen televisions, limited high-top seating and overly bright lighting. We took a table in the dining area further back, beneath a domed ceiling offering a bit of architectural detail. The painted skyline encircling the dome’s base, combined with our view of a stylish fire feature on the outdoor patio, left us scratching our heads over the establishment’s skewed identity. Sports bar? Trendy industrial-style hangout? Or a customary plaza-restaurant sprinkled with touches of pizzazz?

Complimentary chips are served on cookie sheets with a trio of excellent salsas. The chips, however, signaled the start of a sweet, sugary undercurrent that ran through most of the dishes we ordered. Dusted in what looked like paprika, our waitress at fi rst told us they’re sprinkled with the sugar and salt mix used on the rims of margaritas glasses. She later clarified oning was chipotthe seasoning le-based,, which I’m guessing dditio on to — not was in addition instead of — the sugar-salt mix. oasteed The roasted jalapeno que corn bisque was too d thick and cloying for g, my liking, by but hubby lapped itt up d with wild n. abandon. I also surd to rendered him my bour bour-racha a bon-Sriracha fl autas after a s. Th ey few bites. They ed wi ith were fi lled with d chic ckshredded chicked en and drape draped aling in appealing an pu uree black bean puree h cre ema. and fresh crema. ise promise Yet the promi of booze and hot rking g inside sauce lurking li t flour tortilla t till these delicate tubes went unnoticed on my palate. Maybe it was my imagination, but the fl avor of confectionary sugar surfaced, as though I was eating a Monte Cristo sandwich. In exchange for the fl autus, I seized his “Messi” burrito, a hefty thing bursting with

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Primos Public Corner 2401 Fenton Parkway (Mission Valley) 619-571-4749, primospc.com Prices: salads, soups and appetizers, $5 to $13; tacos, burritos and plates, $9 to $15; weekday lunch specials, $6 to $8 BourbonSi h Sriracha flautas with black bean sauce

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cubed s New York strip mbled eggs, steak,, scrambled battered French fries beer-battered and “50/50” cheese, which is a blend of Jack and cotija. Finally, the savory flavors I had craved — and with some decent bites of steak to boot. I didn’t mind the heavy ratio of fries and scrambled eggs to the beef, which interacted nicely to traces of zesty chimichurri sauce also tucked inside. I also forked eagerly into a side of extra-creamy refried beans, fl avored seemingly with lard and cumin, as hubby made the fl autas go poof. Indeed, the burrito and beans eradicated the sweet aftertaste plaguing my tongue from everything that came before it, including the few sips I took of an AmorRita cocktail laced with heavy measures of pomegranate liquor and rather syrupy Mexican limonada. For many, like my spouse, a touch of sugar in savory recipes makes them mysteriously appealing, especially when contrasted with salt or citrus. And though our waitress couldn’t confirm whether sugar goes into any of the dishes we tried, I suspect it does and will order differently next time. —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and began his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at fsabatini@san. rr.com.▼

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A fi fth location of Breakfast Republic is hitting the San Diego landscape in April — this time in Ocean Beach and in partnership with Cohn Restaurant Group, which designated for the popular establishment a second-floor space within its recently shuttered OB Warehouse. (The ground level will make way for Coin Haus, a Cohn venture tailored after the one in La Mesa.) Break Breakfast Republic’s original locatio location in North Park has spawn spawned others in Liberty Statio Station, Encinitas, and most recent recently, in the East Village. 4839 N Newport Ave., breakfastrepublic.com. break Aft After a lengthy closure, the or original location of Samm Sammy’s Woodfired Pizza & Grill Gr in La Jolla has reopene opened after enduring extensiv tensive damage from a fire in 201 2015. The restaurant was launc launched in 1989 by founder Sam Ladeki. L It kick-started more than a dozen other locations throughout California and N Nevada. The remodel pays h homage to the restaurant’s original design with a color scheme of earth tones and bright b coral accents. New menu items include roasted mush mushroom pizza and spicy chicke chicken angel hair pasta. 702 P Pearl St., 858-456-5222, sammyspizza.com. samm

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Pork schnitzel adobada at the upcoming Tamarindo (Photo by Bill Sauer) Delayed by construction issues until recently, the Latininspired Tamarindo in North Park is set to open in the week of Feb. 20, said Steve Blasingham, managing partner of Moose Restaurant Group, which also owns Fred’s Mexican Café. Former home to the Claire de Lune Coffee Lounge, the 1929 building is still undergoing a full remodel as a menu of Mexican, Peruvian, Costa Rican and Cuban dishes is finalized. Helming the kitchen is executive chef and partner Bill Sauer, who worked at Delicias in Rancho Santa Fe, and Elliott Townsend, previously with Juniper & Ivy, the Pearl Hotel and George’s at the Cove. Sauer said all of the dishes will cost under $10. For updates, visit “Tamarindo North Park” on Facebook. 2906 University Ave. The recent appointment of Tony Guan as executive chef at UnderBelly in North Park and Little Italy will herald the arrival of several new menu items due to roll out in mid-February. They include Thai red curry ramen, kimchi gyu-don rice bowls and coconut mochi. Guan is a graduate of the Art Institute of California – San Diego, and previously worked at Cork & Craft as sous chef. 3000 Upas St., and 750 W. Fir St., godblessunderbelly.com.

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A new dessert café in North Park featuring crème brulee, tiramisu, Boston cream cake, bread pudding and more has moved into the address that previously housed Heaven Sent Desserts. Named Figaro, the venture was launched recently by first-time restaurateur Ivo Palazov and his parents. All of the desserts are made in an off-site kitchen. The offerings also include gelato in 18 flavors and coffee drinks using beans from nearby Caffe Calabria. Palazov said crepes, beer and wine will eventually be added to the menu. 3011 University Ave., 619-241-2976.

Chocolatier Will Gustwiller (Courtesy Eclipse Chocolate) Look for local chocolatier Will Gustwiller in an episode of “Guy’s Grocery Games” airing Feb. 12 on the Food Network as he vies for up to $20,000 in a cook-off of sweet and savory dishes using chocolate. Gustwiller, who owns Eclipse Chocolate in South Park, competed with three other contestants in the segment, which was fi lmed late last year in Santa Rosa, California. The outcome remains a secret until the episode airs. For its replay on Feb. 18, Gustwiller will present at Eclipse a multicourse tasting of the dishes he made on the show, at 5 and 8 p.m. The cost is $40 per person. 2145 Fern St., 619-578-2984, eclipsechocolate.com. —Frank Sabatini Jr. can be reached at fsabatini@san.rr.com. ▼

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It’s 1989 Chicago. Miriam and Abe, Sarah Goldman’s parents, are ecstatic. She tells them she’s no longer dating Chris the Gentile (not true) and moreover, she has a nice, new, Jewish boyfriend (not true, either), who’s a surgeon at one of Chicago’s best hospitals. A successful businesswoman, Sarah’s been on her own for quite some time, and now it appears that Miriam and Abe’s fondest wish for her may come true. They do what all good parents do: They invite themselves to dinner to meet the prospective son-in-law and even take Sarah’s brother, a divorced therapist, with them. James Sherman’s romantic comedy, “Beau Jest,” is just the ticket for a light-hearted theatrical evening, and Lamb’s Players Theatre, where it plays through Feb. 12, has cast it beautifully. Kerry Meads directs. Erika Beth Phillips, who wears costume designer Jemima Dutra’s period dresses and shoes wonderfully well, plays Sarah. The suitors, Jason Heil as Chris and Ross Hellwig as Bob — the at-sea pseudo-surgeon recruited from an escort service — are “got up” attractively as well. Sarah’s relationship with her mother (Sandy Campbell) and dad (John Rosen) has never been based on honesty. Now she’s boiling in her own hot water, with Bob struggling to pass himself off as 1) Jewish and 2) a physician specializing in heart and brain surgery. In truth, Bob is an actor, so he knows “Fiddler on the Roof” (that gets him through the Seder) and has also acted in some hospital sitcoms, so he successfully convinces nearly everyone. He also refuses to accept Sarah’s money. He’s crazy about her and her family. The real problem is Sarah’s brother

Erika Beth Phillips and Ross Hellwig in a funny scene (Photo by John Howard) Joel (Omri Schein), who becomes suspicious and wears the most awful sweaters in the Midwest. Absolute froth in the first act, “Beau Jest” turns serious in Act II, when Sarah must confess her ruse, pick the man she wants to marry and turn over a new leaf, honesty. It’s not easy when one has been less than transparent for so many years.

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“Beau Jest” may feel a bit dated, but it is nonetheless an extremely funny play. Hellwig is especially endearing as Bob, and he and Phillips do stir up some heat as they fall in love. I had a slight problem with the casting of Schein, an outrageously good comedian, as Joel. The eye is drawn to him even when it should not be. Any time you have such a comedian acting the truth teller, you could be in trouble. Fortunately my misgivings were overcome in large part. With scenic design by Mike Buckley and lighting by Nathan Peirson, the feel is definitely that of Chicago in the spring. And the parents, instead of stereotypes, come across as real and likeable, thanks to the real and wonderful performances of Campbell and Rosen. Deborah Gilmour Smyth’s amusing sound design, which draws on everything “Fiddler,” is a veritable treasure. — Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at charlenecriticism. blogspot.com or reach her at charb81@gmail.com.▼

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AFCSL

AFCSL’s 35 teams offer something for everyone. (File photo)

cleats and a glove, and be ready to spend an hour or two performing various skills, such as throwing, catching, and batting. The clinics are not to be considered “try-outs” and while often rigorous, they are merely used to determine the approximate skill level of each player. Everyone who attends the clinics will get to play on a team, whether they have already been accepted onto a team, are picked up as a free agent after the clinics are done, or get placed onto a team by the league. After one full spring season of play, a player will be assigned a specific individual rating by their manager. AFCSL’s Opening Day is on Sunday, March 12, and games are scheduled anytime between 8 a.m. and 3 p.m. on most Sundays through May. Field locations can include the Santee Sportsplex, Poway Sportsplex, Mt. San Miguel Park in Chula Vista, and Kit Carson Park in Escondido. Teams typically will play two games on Sundays (with generally never more than an hour break between games), though occasionally a team may be scheduled to play a tripleheader.

Players new to the league should attend one of these clinic dates. (Courtesy AFCSL) Another appeal of the league is the low player fee, at just $67 per player. That price gets you a minimum of 20 games, making AFCSL the best bargain in town. Teams often fi nd sponsors to cover the cost of being in the league and for uniforms. Players are responsible for their own equipment. The league has a website, afcsl.org, where visitors can view the league calendar, the season’s schedule (once posted), eligible bats, and other Amateur Softball Association

rules. AFCSL also has a strong social media presence on Facebook (facebook.com/ afcsl-sandiego). Whether you are a beginning player or an all-star, competitive or casual, AFCSL and its 35-plus teams offer something for everyone. For more information, visit them online or email the league at secretary@afscl.org. —Jeff Praught is assistant commissioner of the AFCSL. Reach him at assistantcommissioner@afcsl.org.▼

How to forgive

Tips for Improving WiFi in the Home Getting great performance and optimal security out of your home WiFi can be tricky. Even if you’ve been setting up the basics for years, here are some quick tips that can help you get the most from your wireless connections. 1. Place your router in the best location possible. Most people just plug in the router and toss it on the nearest desk, or worse, into a drawer. A wireless router needs open space, away from walls and obstructions. Heavy-duty appliances like refrigerators, washers, dryers or other electronics that are close to the router can impact WiFi performance. Avoid placing your router near a functioning microwave, as it can greatly impact your signal. 2. Update your router’s firmware. Manufacturers constantly update the software that runs your router. Keeping this software up-to-date is just as important as keeping your Windows or Mac OS up-to-date for security, features and speed. Most routers have a quick “Update Firmware” option built right in to the router’s settings, making this a painless process. 3. Replace your router’s external antennas with directional antennas. This can provide a significant boost

in signal coverage overall, but is particularly useful for people who have their router on one side of the home and their computers and devices on the other. By default, most routers come with omnidirectional antennas, which means the wireless signal is broadcast at roughly the same strength over 360 degrees. Replacing the default antennas with directional antennas redirects all the signal strength to a 180 degree arc to better power your home – that means more range, better signal strength and likely faster speeds. 4. Secure your network. Make certain your network has a password and your router is secured using WPA2. This keeps you safe and ensures your speeds are not compromised by unauthorized users. If your devices support the standard, make certain you use WPA2-PSK (AES) as the most secure router option. If you have older devices, they may only work with versions of WPA or WPA2 with TKIP. Keep in mind that if you use older devices, your WiFi network may be limited to 54 Mbps, regardless of your signal. 5. Consider other options. If your network still has issues with speed or coverage in your home, it may be time to look at wireless extenders or access points.

These devices can extend your network by using your home’s electric lines or network cabling, or by using the coaxial cable your home already has. 6. When in doubt, call an expert. If you continue to have issues with your inhome WiFi, contact your local service provider. Cox customers, for example, now have access to Panoramic WiFi, in-home wall to wall coverage that provides the strongest WiFi signal ranges. Panoramic WiFi uses devices and tools to ensure the best speed, coverage and connectivity for all your devices, including the MyWiFi mobile app that allows you to see the state of your home’s WiFi health from the palm of your hand. To learn more about Panoramic WiFi and Cox High Speed Internet,  visit cox.com/wifi or call (888) 557-1740.

Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Just in time for Valentine’s Day, that day when many of us remember the men and women who hurt us, broke our hearts or “done us wrong,” I offer you some ideas on how to forgive those who have hurt you. I was inspired to write this after reading Colin Tipping’s terrific book, “Radical Forgiveness.” I’d like to share with you my version of forgiveness, which although is inspired by Mr. Tipping’s, diverges from it in several important ways. Mr. Tipping places a strong focus on spirituality; my focus is more on making forgiving as easy and practical as possible. Here is my version of Mr. Tipping’s five steps of forgiveness: Step 1. Tell your story: Have someone — friend, therapist or whomever — willingly and compassionately listen to you tell your story without trying to problem-solve or interpret it. Step 2. Feel your feelings: This is the step that many people want to skip, thinking that the feelings may overwhelm them or that it’s not necessary to go back there and feel all those negative emotions again. Sorry about that, but you gotta “walk through the fire” to come out the other side. Step 3. Examine your story: Look at how your story began and how your interpretation of events led to certain (false) beliefs that determined

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What is TRUVADA for PrEP (Pre-exposure Prophylaxis)? TRUVADA is a prescription medicine that can be used for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection when used together with safer sex practices. This use is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV-1 through sex. This includes HIV-negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex, and male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. Ask your healthcare provider if you have questions about how to prevent getting HIV-1. Always practice safer sex and use condoms to lower the chance of sexual contact with body fluids. Never reuse or share needles or other items that have body fluids on them.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION What is the most important information I should know about TRUVADA for PrEP?

Before taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: ‹ You must be HIV-negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for 2T'2VQTGFWEGVJGTKUMQHIGVVKPI*+8WPNGUU[QWCTGEQPĆ’TOGFVQ be HIV-negative. ‹ Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. If you have flu-like symptoms, you could have recently become infected with HIV-1. Tell your healthcare provider if you had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP or at any time while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: ‹ You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. ‹You must stay HIV-negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. ‹To further help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1: • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not miss any doses of TRUVADA. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. ‹ If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. TRUVADA can cause serious side effects: ‹ Too much lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis include weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. ‹ Serious liver problems. Your liver may become large and tender, and you may develop fat in your liver. Symptoms of liver problems include your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-coloredâ€? urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/or stomach-area pain.

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‹ You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or serious liver

problems if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time. In some cases, these serious conditions have led to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any symptoms of these conditions. ‹ Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you also have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop VCMKPI6478#&#&QPQVUVQRVCMKPI6478#&#YKVJQWVƒTUVVCNMKPI to your healthcare provider. If your healthcare provider tells you to stop taking TRUVADA, they will need to watch you closely for several months to monitor your health. TRUVADA is not approved for the treatment of HBV.

Who should not take TRUVADA for PrEP?

Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. If you are HIV-1 positive, you need to take other medicines with TRUVADA to treat HIV-1. TRUVADA by itself is not a complete treatment for HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP if you also take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).

What are the other possible side effects of TRUVADA for PrEP?

Serious side effects of TRUVADA may also include: ‹ Kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare provider may do blood tests to check your kidneys before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP. If you develop kidney problems, your healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking TRUVADA for PrEP. ‹ Bone problems, including bone pain or bones getting soft or thin, may lead to fractures. Your healthcare provider may do tests to check your bones. ‹ Changes in body fat, which can happen in people taking TRUVADA or medicines like TRUVADA. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP are stomacharea (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effects that bother you or do not go away.

What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking TRUVADA for PrEP?

‹ All your health problems. Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you

have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis virus infection. ‹ If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if TRUVADA can harm your unborn baby. If you become pregnant while taking TRUVADA for PrEP, talk to your healthcare provider to decide if you should keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Pregnancy Registry:ÇĄ#RTGIPCPE[TGIKUVT[EQNNGEVUKPHQTOCVKQPCDQWV your health and the health of your baby. There is a pregnancy registry for women who take medicines to prevent HIV-1 during pregnancy. For more information about the registry and how it works, talk to your healthcare provider. ‹ If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. The medicines in TRUVADA can pass to your baby in breast milk. If you become HIV-1 positive, HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in breast milk. ‹ All the medicines you take, including prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements. TRUVADA may interact with other medicines. Keep a list of all your medicines and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. ‹ +H[QWVCMGEGTVCKPQVJGTOGFKEKPGUÇĄwith TRUVADA for PrEP, your healthcare provider may need to check you more often or change your dose. These medicines include ledipasvir with sofosbuvir (HARVONI). You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs VQVJG(&#8KUKVÇĄYYY(&#IQXOGFYCVEJQTECNN(&#

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The once-daily prescription medicine that can help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 when used with safer sex practices. • TRUVADA for PrEP is only for adults who are at high risk of getting HIV through sex. • You must be HIV-negative before you start taking TRUVADA. Ask your doctor about your risk of getting HIV-1 infection and if TRUVADA for PrEP may be right for you.

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This is only a brief summary of important information about taking TRUVADA for PrEP (pre-exposure prophylaxis) to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. This does not replace talking to your healthcare provider about your medicine.

MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP

POSSIBLE SIDE EFFECTS OF TRUVADA FOR PrEP

Before starting TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must be HIV-1 negative. You must get tested to make sure that you do not already have HIV-1 infection. Do not take TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce VJGTKUMQHIGVVKPI*+8WPNGUU[QWCTGEQPƒTOGFVQDG*+8PGICVKXG • Many HIV-1 tests can miss HIV-1 infection in a person who has recently become infected. Symptoms of new HIV-1 infection include flu-like symptoms, tiredness, fever, joint or muscle aches, headache, sore throat, vomiting, diarrhea, rash, night sweats, and/or enlarged lymph nodes in the neck or groin. Tell your healthcare provider if you have had a flu-like illness within the last month before starting TRUVADA for PrEP.

TRUVADA can cause serious side effects, including: • Those in the “Most Important Information About TRUVADA for PrEP" section. • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. • Bone problems. • Changes in body fat. Common side effects in people taking TRUVADA for PrEP include stomacharea (abdomen) pain, headache, and decreased weight. These are not all the possible side effects of TRUVADA. Tell your healthcare provider right away if you have any new symptoms while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. Your healthcare provider will need to do tests to monitor your health before and during treatment with TRUVADA for PrEP.

While taking TRUVADA for PrEP to help reduce your risk of getting HIV-1 infection: • You must continue using safer sex practices. Just taking TRUVADA for PrEP may not keep you from getting HIV-1. • You must stay HIV-1 negative to keep taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • Tell your healthcare provider if you have a flu-like illness while taking TRUVADA for PrEP. • If you think you were exposed to HIV-1, tell your healthcare provider right away. • If you do become HIV-1 positive, you need more medicine than TRUVADA alone to treat HIV-1. If you have HIV-1 and take only TRUVADA, your HIV-1 may become harder to treat over time. • See the “How to Further Reduce Your Riskâ€? section for more information. TRUVADA may cause serious side effects, including: • Buildup of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical emergency that can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: weakness or being more tired than usual, unusual muscle pain, being short of breath or fast breathing, nausea, vomiting, stomach-area pain, cold or blue hands and feet, feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or fast or abnormal heartbeats. • Severe liver problems, which in some cases can lead to death. Call your healthcare provider right away if you have any of these symptoms: your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow, dark “tea-coloredâ€? urine, light-colored stools, loss of appetite for several days or longer, nausea, and/ or stomach-area pain. • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. If you have HBV and take TRUVADA, your hepatitis may become worse if you stop taking TRUVADA. &QPQVUVQRVCMKPI6478#&#YKVJQWVĆ’TUVVCNMKPIVQ[QWTJGCNVJECTG provider, as they will need to check your health regularly for several months. You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems if you are female, very overweight, or have been taking TRUVADA for a long time.

ABOUT TRUVADA FOR PrEP (PRE-EXPOSURE PROPHYLAXIS) TRUVADA is a prescription medicine used with safer sex practices for PrEP to help reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection in adults at high risk: • HIV-1 negative men who have sex with men and who are at high risk of getting infected with HIV-1 through sex. • Male-female sex partners when one partner has HIV-1 infection and the other does not. To help determine your risk, talk openly with your doctor about your sexual health. Do NOT take TRUVADA for PrEP if you: • Already have HIV-1 infection or if you do not know your HIV-1 status. • Take lamivudine (Epivir-HBV) or adefovir (HEPSERA).

BEFORE TAKING TRUVADA FOR PrEP Tell your healthcare provider if you: • Have or have had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis infection. • Have any other medical conditions. • Are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. • Are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed if you become HIV-1 positive because of the risk of passing HIV-1 to your baby. Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take: • Keep a list that includes all prescription and over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, and herbal supplements, and show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist. • Ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist about medicines that should not be taken with TRUVADA for PrEP.

HOW TO TAKE TRUVADA FOR PrEP • Take 1 tablet once a day, every day, not just when you think you have been exposed to HIV-1. • Do not miss any doses. Missing doses may increase your risk of getting HIV-1 infection. • You must practice safer sex by using condoms and you must stay HIV-1 negative.

HOW TO FURTHER REDUCE YOUR RISK • Know your HIV-1 status and the HIV-1 status of your partners. • Get tested for HIV-1 at least every 3 months or when your healthcare provider tells you. • Get tested for other sexually transmitted infections. Other infections make it easier for HIV-1 to infect you. • Get information and support to help reduce risky sexual behavior. • Have fewer sex partners. • Do not share needles or personal items that can have blood or body fluids on them.

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• This is only a brief summary of important information about TRUVADA for PrEP to reduce the risk of getting HIV-1 infection. Talk to your healthcare provider or pharmacist to learn more, including how to prevent HIV-1 infection. • Go to start.truvada.com or call 1-800-GILEAD-5 • If you need help paying for your medicine, visit start.truvada.com for program information.


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MARCH to show solidarity with those marching in Washington, D.C. The San Diego Women’s March was a well-organized event that started with a rally at the San Diego Civic Center Plaza, located at 1200 Third Ave., and a peaceful but passionate march that went south from the Plaza to Broadway, and then west to Harbor Drive, where it turned north and ended up at the Waterfront Park that bookends the San Diego County Administration Building. Police estimated that 40,000 people showed up in San Diego — women marched along with their husbands, fathers and children, and the event drew people of all ethnicities and backgrounds — and there was not one arrest. Though its original mission was to support equal rights of women, all the marches ended up expanding their scope to include the issues at hand. With

a heavy emphasis on women, marchers carried signs that addressed issues ranging from reproductive rights, LGBT rights, immigration rights, pay equity, concern about the demise of the Affordable Care Act, gun laws, water protection issues, and more. Many signs also maligned the Trump administration or referenced many of the memes and poular phrases that arose out of the presidential campaign.▼

San Diego Women's March Jan. 21, 2017 San Diego Civic Center to County Administration Building Photos by Walter Meyer** and Morgan M. Hurley

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SAVING LIVES their lives even more challenging. Some faith-based agencies, for example, refuse to serve LGBT clients. Because almost all of the homeless youth are suffering from some form of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), the Angels provide outpatient therapy. “They need a safe place to talk about their feelings,” Lovett said. “Most have PTSD, are depressed and have a lot of anxiety. Most have never been taught how to deal with these issues. That’s why therapy is so important.”

Why they do it

Troyer and Lovett get emotional talking about their

lifesaving work. Troyer had to pause twice during the interview to compose himself as he brushed away tears in his eyes. “The point I want to make,” Troyer said, “is that we are in the business of providing unconditional love, which is something that some of these kids have never experienced. That’s our business.” But that’s not all. “The reason we do this for this particular age group,” Troyer said, “is because they are incredibly underserved by programs that deal with the homeless. Most of the other programs in San Diego deal with either homeless veterans or chronically homeless people who have addiction problems. “We believe that if we get homeless youth off the streets

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The shelter, run out of Missiongathering Church in North Park, offers homeless youth like this one food, clothing, services, a place to sleep and even training for a job. (Photos courtesy Urban Street Angels) before they reach the age of 25,” he continued, “we can break the cycle and help reduce the number of chronically homeless people.” Lovett added that it is a difficult challenge to get older homeless people off the streets. “When somebody has been on the streets for 20 years,” he said, “it is hard to get them to change their ways.” As for homeless youth, Lovett said the key is building trust. “I cannot help someone who cannot help himself,” he said. “If you are willing to change, we can help you. If you are willing to move forward, we can help you. We can show you: This is what your worth is. You may fall, and most of us will, but we will be there to pick you up.” The youths who are accepted into the 8 West program must make a number of important commitments, including remaining clean and sober, but the most important of which is to agree to earn a GED if they dropped out of school and/or attend community college classes. They also must agree to find a job or work in the program’s “highend soap-making business,” Troyer said. The handmade soap is sold online at 8west.org and raises money to help sustain the program. Success stories like Steven’s are mounting, Lovett and Troyer said. But neither man is resting on his laurels.

“Our goal, within three years, is to house 50 young men and 50 young women,” Lovett said. “And in five years, we want to house 100 young men and 100 young women.” The immediate objective, they said, is to persuade six other churches to join their cause and sponsor a nightly emergency shelter for homeless youth. “We would like to have a shelter every night a week at seven different churches,” Lovett said, noting that the Angels are in talks with a church in Pacific Beach and another church in North Park about joining their cause.

A happy ending

“Steven joined our housing program in March,” Lovett said. “Since then, he has gotten a fulltime job and is now the manager of a high-end carwash. He has also earned his GED.” Lovett said he is so pleased to see Steven thriving. He knows how hard it is for homeless youth, who have difficulty trusting adults after living in abusive situations in their childhood, to express their emotions. Just the other day, Lovett said he pulled into the carwash to get his vehicle cleaned and got a chance to speak with Steven. He learned that Steven is doing so well at his job that he might get to run his own carwash franchise. “For the first time, Steven said thank you for helping me,”

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8 West 8west.org Selling handmade, organic soap as a sustainable solution for ending youth homelessness Since this story ran in our sister paper San Diego Uptown News in December, the Angels were able to get a van to transport the homeless youth and two freezers they had asked for. However, they still need small lockers, money and other donations. Contact jerry@8west.org Lovett recalled, his voice choking with emotion. “And he said, ‘I love you.’ “I must say, his pathway forward is very inspiring.” —Ken Williams is editor of Uptown News and can be reached at ken@sdcnn.com or at 619-961-1952. Follow him on Twitter at @KenSanDiego.▼


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Yes, they can (and did) Indigo Girls Emily Saliers and Amy Ray look back on ‘fearful’ coming out, talk new music and how art will affect the Trump era By Chris Azzopardi Marriage equality was a mere pipe dream when Indigo Girls duo Emily Saliers and Amy Ray came out in 1988, coinciding with the release of their eponymous Epic Records debut. There was no groundbreaking television sitcom. Melissa Etheridge wasn’t formally out, and wouldn’t be until 1993, when she released “Yes I Am.” With regard to popular entertainment, particularly within the music business, Saliers and Ray were at the forefront of the queer rights movement. They won a Grammy and released chart-toppers like “Closer to Fine.” And they refused to let their sexuality get in the way of their success, brazenly being themselves at a time when being a gay public figure was uncommon and even downright scary. I caught up with Saliers, 53, and Ray, 52, at the beginning of 2017, just days before Donald Trump would become our 45th president. The trailblazers talked about how music will unify despite the divisiveness of his administration, why “this is a really good time for artists to come to the forefront and stand up and be brave,” and their initial grade school encounter that

led to a devoted musical career and dear friendship spanning three decades. (Chris Azzopardi | CA) You’re on the road fairly frequently. What keeps you touring as often as you do? (Amy Ray | AR) Every audience is different, so every experience is different, and I just think it’s good to get out there and play in front of people and keep that community … build it and keep it vibrant and have that exchange. (Emily Saliers | ES) The demographic is more mixed now and there are younger people who come to the shows. I don’t know how they fi nd out about us, maybe their parents. Also, a lot of young women who are looking for bands that have a feminist reality about them. Self-empowered, selfworth, self-questioning — all those things that are all over our lyrics. Even though we’ve gotten much older, I don’t feel like the experience of going to one of our shows is like we’re just this old band that’s been around forever. It still feels new and fresh. I love it as much or more than I ever have. (CA) Given the divisiveness of what’s happening politically,

The Indigo Girls, who generally visit San Diego every summer as part of the Humphreys lineup, are currently on tour. (Photo by Jeremy Cowart)

is building that sense of community more important now? (AR) It might be. I guess in some ways there are other levels where community is always important, because even when you have the best kind of administration and a president that you love, there are still pockets within our own country that need community and need that glue where there’s hard things going on, whether it’s different queer communities or Native American communities or communities of color that are disenfranchised in some way. But right now, it’s pretty daunting. There might be reversals that are negative environmentally and human rights-wise. I think it’s definitely a time to batten down the hatches and roll up the sleeves and start working. (CA) What part do you think the arts, including music, will play in the political climate of Trump’s America? (AR) This is a really good time for artists to come to the forefront and stand up and be brave and make themselves known, and not be worried about alienating people with their art. Sometimes in the music community — still — there are people who go, “Oh, we don’t want to rock the boat and alienate our audience.” But I feel like people are feeling less of that and more like, “Screw it.” I can see it happening around me with my friends even, who didn’t want to rock the boat, who might’ve been scared to alienate somebody in their audience. But now I think it’s like, “Well, what do we have to lose?” Visual art and movies and theater right now are very important — music, also. Popular culture, like with “Ellen,” the original sitcom, for instance, really impacted people. It broadened a lot of people’s horizons, and “Transparent” does that as far as issues around queerness and trans issues and issues around Jewishness. During Obama’s administration, there was, in a good way, a lot of permission given to all this really beautiful art to blossom, and I think that’s good because there’s this strong groundwork that’s been laid that just needs to continue happening well into the next administration. Art can really bring people together who might feel

alienated from each other, like in my community. I live in a rural community where maybe 80 or 90 percent of the people voted for Trump, but I don’t really demonize people. I can’t go there ’cause they’re my neighbors, and I know them. I know them in their best moments. And I just try to understand where they’re coming from. (ES) I think [art is] going to play a huge part. For me, personally, the second the election was over I wrote a song about it, and it’s gonna be on my new record, because for my own

reality. We can’t forget and I really believe music is going to keep reminding all of us what we’re up against. (CA) Amy, what was your post-election catharsis? (AR) I definitely wrote. I write all the time. I just didn’t have the visceral ... it didn’t totally surprise me, I guess. I’ve worked it out in my community. I really made this commitment to myself to reach out to people even though I know they voted for Trump [laughs] — family members. I really tried to take Michelle Obama’s word and “go

Emily Saliers (right) will be releasing a solo album this spring, which includes a song inspired by President Trump. (Photo by Jeremy Cowart) personal reasons, I had to have a catharsis. I know people need music to help speak their challenges and their struggles, and I think music is going to do two things, maybe more. First of all, for people who are just horrified that he’s our president, and the cabinet that he’s bringing in — possibly the Supreme Court justices — it’s gonna let them know they’re not alone. They’re gonna be able to tap into music that makes them realize that they’re part of a vast community of people who are opposed to all that stuff, and that’s really important. It’s going to remind Trump that the musical culture is not with him. That can be a very real pressure — that there is a movement against hate. Also, it’s a way for us to soothe our souls in troubled times. Go out and hear live music and listen to music and keep the conversation going, and don’t forget that we have elected someone who is frightening and incapable. Americans get lethargic and we forget bad things happen. But this is an ongoing

high.” She’s a very important person to me and so is Barack. I just really tried to look at how they were dealing with the situation and follow their example. I hate to say that, because I am my own person, but in some ways, I needed some inspiration, and they inspire me in a lot of ways to reach beyond my little world and little bubble of friends. I’m the kind of person who processes by doing, so volunteering — something concrete — is how I process stuff. Writing helps me. Generally, I write every day, so I’m always processing everything. But I haven’t written an anti-Trump song, and I probably won’t. (CA) People have long revered you as gay icons. (AR) [Laughs] I think it’s funny. (CA) Why is it funny? (AR) I mean, it’s flattering, but my god, we have such a lot to learn. I feel like we’ve been

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INDIGO GIRLS students more than teachers in the world of activism. The people who came before us and the people who are younger than us have really constantly challenged us to think about things and look at intersectionality, things that more people in their teens and 20s are really focusing on. Our activism is really an area that is constantly evolving and morphing, so it’s hard to think about myself as an icon when I still think of myself as a student. I guess we’ve been at it a long time and we’re older, and we certainly have seen a lot of things change. We’re stronger than we used to be in our convictions and are able to love ourselves more than we used to, so in some ways I guess we have some experience — a little bit of gained wisdom. But that’s always been a long road, and we’ve made mistakes along the way and been scared, so in that way we can still understand people and how they feel if they’re struggling with it. We don’t forget our struggles. (CA) Emily, what does being a gay icon mean to you? (ES) I feel humbled to hear that, but I don’t feel like an icon. I always feel like somebody built the bridge, paved the path and suffered more before I got to be part of the movement. (CA) Someone’s gotta carry the torch, though. (ES) I feel like a torch-carrier, that’s what I feel like. I also feel like the fact that we’ve been able to be out, open and supportive of the queer rights movement and of the trans evolution and of civil rights now has just been — I’m so grateful for it. I’m happy that we’ve been able to be out and free for so long and real active members for the community, standing up for our family members who are still suffering. (CA) Does being an “out artist” mean anything different to you now than it did when you first came out? (AR) When we first came out, we were fearful of what it meant. Our biggest fear was alienating part of our audience — I wouldn’t even think about that now, honestly. It’s a more positive thing now. Back then it was … there was so much derogatory language around us being gay in the first half of our career. So many reviews that would refer to us in a really negative way and people would make fun of our audience. We were always the punching bag for gay humor. It just felt like a bummer sometimes. Over time, we’ve had to learn how to just look at it as a positive thing. Back then, I did think about visibility and that’s probably what spurred us to [come out]. We were feeling guilty because we were hiding something. We were out in our communities and we were community activists, so our lens, even in the late ’80s, early ’90s, was a political lens, although it definitely got more and more political through the ’90s. But we did

think about [visibility] because where we lived in Atlanta, post high school, when we were in college at Emory, HIV/AIDS activism was really big, and they were trying to get artists, actors and people in the arts to come out in support of HIV/ AIDS activism. So, it was something we were thinking about. It wasn’t like we were scared we were going to get caught and then crucified. It was more like, “This is a compelling reason. If we’re sitting in front of our audience and talking about the importance of self-esteem and individualism, and we’re activists and we’re not willing to be visible when all these other people are willing to be visible, there’s something wrong with that.” That was our conversation with each other. (ES) We were always out in our lives and with our families, friends and locally, and then we got signed to a major label and the national press wanted to talk about it. I had a lot of fear at that time about talking about it in the national press. When I got the courage to be out, it was a feeling of relief and pride. I had fears that we’d be stigmatized and judged and the same old crap. We ended up being all those things, but it didn’t matter. The way I felt about being an out musician then was like [whispers], “OK, we’ve announced it. We’re in it.” Now, it’s like, this is really who we are and we are part of a community and things are too important not to take a stand. (CA) I think it’s become a very important part of what the Indigo Girls represent. (ES) And I’m really thankful for that. Over time and with age and wisdom, I think you just have a different perspective on how important it is. (CA) Are you working on any solo material, Amy? (AR) I’m writing right now for it and I’d say I’m about a third of the way through. It’ll be a country-tinged record with punk influences. Emily’s got her record coming out; we just gotta figure out timing. And how to make another Indigo record, ’cause we’re both like, “We’re ready for the next record,” but then we’re like, “When are we gonna write for the next record?” I think her solo record is gonna be bigger than she thinks it will be, so I’m standing back a little bit. She wrote me a text and was like, “I’m really excited to write for the next Indigo record.” She’s such a team player. It’s good for us. We’re both in it for each other. (CA) Amy, what’s your earliest memory of Emily? (AR) I remember seeing her in the lunchroom with a gaggle of girls around her and she was playing a song on her guitar and singing. I think a couple of them were singing with her, maybe, and I was like, “That’s the new girl and she plays and sings.” I was playing guitar already too. And I think my first memory was immediately realizing how far ahead she was of the curve. [Laughs] It kind of made me feel intimidated. She was a year older, and you know, we didn’t get to be friends until high school,

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While Saliers (right) has completed her latest solo album and Ray has one in its early stages, the duo plans another joint effort as soon as possible. (Photos by Jeremy Cowart) when we were around 15. I was 9 when I first saw her. (CA) You were just admiring her from afar? (AR) Yeah, just kind of taking stock. Emily has this revision of history that she wasn’t popular and I beg to differ with her about that all the time. I’m always like, “Well, to me, you were popular because I always saw you with all these people around you, and you were always singing and everybody was adoring you, and I was totally intimidated. So, in my little world, you were very popular.” We ended up being the best of friends, so it all worked out. (CA) Was there ever a moment in your career when you wanted to pursue something outside of music?

(ES) The only time I ever thought about the possibility of not doing what I was doing was when I had stage fright for a year and a half and it just derailed me. I thought, “I can’t do this.” This was a long, long time ago — over 10, 15 years ago. Honestly, that’s the only time I’ve ever thought, “I can’t do this.” And it was because of the fear, not anything else. Also, we get to do so many outside projects from Indigo Girls I’ve never felt like I’d rather be doing something else. I just fi nished tracking my solo record! I’m very excited. I’ve been talking about it for years. It’s very rhythm-centric. A lot of R&B inspiration. I set out to make a record for what I wanted that I wasn’t hearing. I really wanted the African-American

presence of drummers who come from the soul-gospelchurch background. (CA) When can we expect your debut solo album? (ES) In the spring. I hope for April, maybe May. In the spring, we’re gonna go record with University of Colorado’s symphony orchestra, and [Amy and I are] gonna make a record of symphonically performed songs. We’re also working toward making another Indigo Girls studio record. It’s just onto the next thing. There’s no stopping us. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at chris-azzopardi.com and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).▼


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It is about privi“I’m a brown, lesbian woman,” lege for our girls and our women. she said. “But people believed in What is privilege? Being able to me, financially and emotionally. walk through your world knowWe need a city that is reflective of ing you will get a fair shake.” what San Diego looks like. Councilmember Ward, just “I’m proud to bring people six weeks on the job, presented to City Hall with me who don’t Sen. Atkins with the Women’s normally get to be there,” she Museum’s “Women in Leadership said, referring to a staffer who Award,” noting that it is a historpreviously worked for the ACLU. ic time in the city’s history. “We’re bringing a different voice.” “This year marks a first for our Mara Elliott, the city’s first San Diego City Council,” Ward female city attorney, emphasized said. “The four officials that lead the importance of the Women’s the business of the council meetMuseum. ings — and sit at the upper dais “[It’s] a place where I can es— are all women: the Council cape and remember why women President, City Attorney, City do the things they do,” she said, Clerk and Independent Budget before relaying a story about her Analyst,” Ward said. mother and the challenges she The award honored Atkins, faced as the owner of a drafting citing, “to commemorate your business. trailblazing leadership and advo“She wasn’t allowed to admit it cacy for women throughout your was her company,” she said. public service.” She cited her mother as an “Tonight is about taking the inspiration who often took her to Women’s Museum to the next various women’s caucuses and level,” Atkins said, while acceptevents as she was growing up. ing the award. “In this day of al“I want little girls to look at me ternative facts, it is so important and say, ‘I can do this,’” Elliott to document our history. We need said. “This race swung those to focus our commitment and doors open and kids can dream really think about what it means again.” to have the resources to know Elliott said she plans to focus our history.” on immigration, hate crimes and Atkins told the audience minimum wage. that when she was in the state “Thank you for supporting Assembly, only 17 out of 80 were women, it gives us encouragewomen; a low 22 percent. ment to run,” she said. “Mothers and women can do Other speakers included anything,” she continued. “When new District 1 Councilmember a window opens, we as women Barbara Bry, and County need to jump through it.” Supervisor Kristin Gaspar, the She noted the Assembly’s former Encinitas mayor who unsurprise when she took over as seated incumbent Dave Roberts Speaker of the Assembly; she for the district 3 seat. was the first San Diegan, and Bry welcomed Ward as an the first lesbian, to do so. “honorary member” of the wom“They didn’t see it coming and en’s club on the City Council and I think it was because I was a described herself as “a high-tech woman,” she said. “I want the entrepreneur and 67-year-old world to be equal to when we grandma” who never thought she don’t need to point out our allies would run for office. Recognizing and friends. I stand on the shoulthe need to empower women ders of people like Lucy Killea, into politics, Bry launched Run and my friend Christine Kehoe, Women Run — a non-partisan who told me that I had to run.” organization focused on inspiring, The mention of Killea was recruiting, training, mentoring poignant. Killea, who served 14 and supporting San Diego proyears in the California state legchoice women for elected and islature and is a large part of the appointed offices — in the fall of Women’s Museum’s new traveling 2008. Since then it has grown to exhibit, died Jan. 17. more than 300 members. 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Annual AIDS Tijuana Party: What does it take to become the next Monarchs and Prince and Princess de Rio de Tijuana? It starts with being at the Redwing Bar & Grill, 4012 30th St., on Friday, 11 a.m.–2 p.m. Put your name in, do some fundraising, and if you raise the most money for AIDS Tijuana — then you’re it! The new Imperial Family de Rio de Tijuana get their own walk at Coronation in San Diego on Saturday. Cover is $20. Visit bit.ly/2kjYIlF.

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‘Gender Revolution’: TransFamily Support Services will screen “Gender Revolution: A Journey with Katie Couric.” The revered journalist meets with the parents of a transgender child in this National Geographic documentary, and explores the complexities of gender in everyday life. The screening is planned for 1–3 p.m. at First Unitarian Universalist Church of San Diego, 4190 Front St. Visit bit. ly/2knYTfV. The Artist’s Way Workshop: A 12-week therapy group at the Therapeutic Center for Anxiety and Trauma, this closed group allows you to explore your connection to your creative spirit in a safe, supportive space. Costs $425. 10 a.m. to noon each Sunday from Feb. 5 and ends April 30, 2121 Fifth Ave. Visit bit. ly/2knZv52.

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LGBTBE Certification Workshop: Learning how becoming a certified LGBT Business Enterprise (LGBTBE) can help you build business relationships that could be the opportunity of a lifetime. 9–10 a.m. in the GSDBA Conference Room, 3737 Fifth Ave., Suite 201. Visit bit.ly/2kk6j3x.

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Mood Swings preview ‘Broadway Now’: The San Diego Gay Men’s Chorus (SDGMC) presents the Mood Swings starting at 8 p.m. at Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave. The event will include the ensemble’s greatest hits from its performances at Balboa Theatre and a preview of the upcoming “Broadway Now” show. Visit sdgmc.org. Senior Housing Informational Session:

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FRIDAY, FEB. 10

Annual Bayard Rustin Civil Rights Honors: The ceremonies will include Lifetime Achievement Awards for Dr. Tanis Starck (San Diego State) and Tom Dickerson (Imperial Court de San Diego and the leather community). Civil rights honorees: Syra Evans, Marsha P. Johnson Emerging Activist Award; Miki Vale, Langston Hughes Award for Excellence in the Arts; Venice “Pepper” Price, Mandy Carter Community Mobilization Award; and Tonio “Flo Flo” Ray, In Memoriam. For a $15 donation, guests will enjoy a soul food buffet, entertainment and the program. Presented by the Imperial Court de San Diego and The San Diego LGBT Community Center. 6–8 p.m. at The Center, 3909 Centre St. Visit bit. ly/2kjLQfc. Hillcrest Ghost Tour: San Diego’s only lantern-led neighborhood walking tour will take you on a spirited 2 ½-hour adventure to explore the most haunted and historic buildings in Hillcrest. Departs at 6:30 p.m. from the fountains in front of Scripps Mercy Hospital, 4077 Fifth Ave., and ends at the Hillcrest Pride Flag. Benefits Vintage San Diego, an organization working to collect and document San Diego’s history; and the San Diego LGBT Visitors Center. Visit bit.ly/2jAjaul.

Defend Planned Parenthood March: Show the importance of reproductive choice and health care access by participating in this march supporting Planned Parenthood, 10 a.m.–noon. Meet in the parking lot at 1060 S. Coast Highway 101, Encinitas, and march north toward Moonlight Beach. Bring peaceful protest signs. Visit bit.ly/2jAqvd5. Trans Youth Meet & Greet: Aydin OlsonKennedy, executive director of the Los Angeles Gender Center, will share inspiration, hope and entertaining stories. Hosted by TransFamily Support Services, this event is for middle/high school youth. Parents can join to share with Dr. Jo Olson-Kennedy, director of The Center for Transyouth Health Development at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles; and Susan Landon, LFMT director of the Child and Adolescent Program at the LA Gender Center. 6–7:30 p.m. at the North County LGBTQ Resource Center, 3320 Mission Ave., Suite 2, Oceanside. RSVP to kathie@ transfamilysos.org. Visit bit. ly/2jAil4m. Pride Youth Lunch Brunch: Every second Saturday of the month, visit the San Diego Pride Office, 3620 30th St. from 11 a.m.– 2 p.m. to meet with other LGBTQ junior high and high school-aged youth. Visit bit. ly/2kk4mnN.

SUNDAY, FEB. 12

‘Breakfast at Tiffany’s’: A 1961 American romantic comedy, “Breakfast at Tiffany’s,” is about a young New York socialite who becomes interested in a young man who has moved into her apartment building. Starring Audrey Hepburn and George Peppard; released in 1961. Screens at 5 p.m. in Balboa Theatre, 868 Fourth Ave. Visit bit. ly/2jA97p0. Coronado Valentine’s Day Fun Run: The seventh annual Coronado Valentine’s Day 10K, 5K,

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ACROSS 1 Where the Dutch girl stuck her finger? 5 Sequence for Bernstein 10 Stone of “Easy A” 14 Party to 15 Sheryl Swoopes, for one 16 Small vessel 17 Like characters in “Kinky Boots” 18 What Garbo “vanted” to be 19 Business letter abbr. 20 Start of the translation of a political slogan 23 Albert to Armand, in “The Birdcage” 24 “Are you calling me ___?” 25 Captain Jack Sparrow, e.g. 27 “A Girl Thing” director 30 Pink fruit 31 Wild and crazy 35 Gin type 36 End of the translation 40 Irene of “Fame” 41 Bust to private, e.g. 42 Water molecule threesome 44 Lost an erection, with “out”?

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49 One whose mother is a bitch 53 “Love Affair” costar Dunne 54 Psychic Geller 55 Source of the original slogan 58 Make more potent 60 Like Christopher Rice’s stories 61 “Take a crack ___” 62 Series terminal 63 Like a rambling sentence 64 Amsterdam’s land (abbr.) 65 He shot a fruit on his son’s head 66 Gyrates 67 They don’t hang out in gay bars

1 Bottom-of-the-barrel 2 Prepare to blow 3 “77 Sunset Strip” character 4 Curry favor 5 Play for a sucker 6 Auto racer Yarborough 7 Socrates’ market 8 Pinko’s hero 9 With blood rushing to the head 10 She had no heterosexual parents 11 “Cabaret” singer 12 Oral stimulator that tastes like nuts 13 What Heather says to her mommies after a meal 21 Emanation from Feniger’s kitchen 22 Order before shooting off? 26 “Nowhere Man” opening 28 Came out with 29 Beat, but barely 32 Academic dept. head 33 Straddling 34 “A bit of ___?” “I drink it all day” 36 Over do the golden shower?

37 Like some exotic fruit 38 Drivers get off on it 39 Response after a Cho joke, perhaps 40 “Romeo and Juliet” clan 43 “Providence” lead role 45 Senate page’s chore 46 News agency founder 47 Ill will 48 Bottommost areas 50 The active crowd 51 A stroke ahead, for Sheehan 52 “With parsley” 56 Heart donor for King Richard? 57 Lairs of bears 59 Wing for Philip Johnson


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CALENDAR and 1-mile Fun Run will start with day of race registration at 6 a.m., opening remarks at 7 a.m., 1-mile Fun Run starts at 7:30 a.m.; held at Tidelands Park, 2000 Mullinix Drive. Visit valentinesday10k.com.

MONDAY, FEB. 13

Lestat’s West Open Mic: Sign up at 6:30 p.m. to perform at Lestat’s West Music Venue, 3343 Adams Ave. Time slots are picked by lottery and performers may perform for 10 minutes or two songs, whichever comes first. Visit bit.ly/2jAAlMb.

TUESDAY, FEB. 14

V-Date at Urban MO’s: Take your sweetheart to the Cheap Thrills V-Date Dinner

and enjoy a $25 bottomless spaghetti dinner for two with choice of red or white bottle of wine. DJ FukFace will provide romantic show tunes. 5 to 11 p.m. at 308 University Ave. Visit bit.ly/2kjU32Z.

WEDNESDAY, FEB. 15

GSDBA Member Information Workshop: Join the Greater San Diego Business Association (GSDBA) staff for an informative workshop about how

to get the most reach out of your online presence with GSDBA. 9–10 a.m. in the GSDBA Conference Room, 3737 Fifth Ave., suite 201. Visit bit.ly/2kjW93b.

THURSDAY, FEB. 16

‘As Seen On’: “Queer Eye” alum Jai Rodriguez returns to Martinis Above Fourth with his new irreverent cabaret “As Seen On.” A powerful vocalist and colorful story teller, this Emmy

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Award-winner shares stories of finding the funny in the highs and lows of his almost20-year career. Doors open at 6 p.m., show 8 p.m. Visit bit.ly/2jAddxo Nashville Nights: Country music is back starting at 6 p.m. in the House of Blues San Diego, 1055 Fifth Ave. The evening features the Country Rockin’ Rebels and drink specials in the Voodoo Room. Visit houseofblues.com/sandiego.


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