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Volume 7 Issue 1 Jan. 8 – 21, 2016

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Waiting for Wil


Pop sensation set to perform at Rich’s By Eddie Reynoso A word with Rossellini


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(l to r) Cece, Donna, Margo, Susan and Sylvie enjoying a recent Girls Night Out (Photo by [XPOZD] Photography)

Local women’s dance hits its stride with a formal Morgan M. Hurley | Editor The best theater of 2015


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San Diego’s lesbian community will have the opportunity to dress “to the nines” this month, at the January installment of Girls Night Out San Diego, the monthly lesbian dance event produced by local media and entertainment activist Sally Hall. Called “Dappers and Dolls,” the event is the first formal-style dance of the monthly events, which Hall launched last July, on the Friday night of San Diego Pride weekend. The event drew nearly 500 women to the Brass Rail in Hillcrest. The response was so strong, Hall decided to give producing a recurring dance a whirl, and in August, she moved to the third Saturday of the month, where it has been every month since, except for December. The timing of Hall’s new venture could not have been more perfect, as the previous organized monthly women’s dance, run by SheShe Productions, had just ended its two year run.

Hall said the dances cater to “the women’s market, usually 28 and up, or queer loving women … however one identifies.” Former monthly women’s dances — Hot Flash, Inferno, Wildfire and SheShe — have all bounced around the community at various venues and eventually come and gone, but Hall thinks she has found the winning formula. She attributes the dances’ success to not only the supportive staff at Brass Rail, but also the musical talents of her resident deejay, Susan “SuSu” Jones. “Though, mostly, I have to give credit to all the great people and friends who are committed to seeing these events continue in San Diego and who come out and enjoy them,” Hall said. “Our feedback has been exceptional.” Jones, who was raised on a farm in Oklahoma and moved to San Diego 20 years ago, said she first began assembling her music collection and making mixed tapes while still in college. “With any music I could buy, beg, borrow or steal,” she said, laughing. “I mixed CDs after college for all my friends, making CD labels and cool titles for all of them.”

see Dance, pg 16

How close is too close? Public comment needed on huge evangelical project Ken Williams | Contributing Editor

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The public has until Jan. 15 to make comments on the Environmental Impact Review (EIR) for a televangelist’s massive mixed-use project that would bulldoze the San Diego Resort Hotel complex and turn the property into a “destination resort” for his followers from around the world. The proposed Morris Cerullo Legacy International Center would feature a five-story timeshare building on the back of the prop-

An artist’s rendering of Morris Cerullo’s proposed “Legacy Center” as it would be seen from the 8 east. (From document provided Mission Valley Planning Group) erty and tourist-style attractions such as catacombs, an Old World bazaar, an amphitheater, and a History Dome theater where viewers would be misted when the Red Sea parts during a 3D biblical movie.

The project’s first big hurdle will be the completion of the public comments section of the EIR. The city’s Planning Department

see Legacy Center, pg 3

Wiltay, a singer/songwriter from Singapore, is on a mission to conquer American audiences with the help of legendary music producer Randy Jackson. His music not only makes our bodies move, but it’s also impacting the way his audiences think about themselves. Now known professionally as Wil, the Los Angeles-based pop sensation is set to perform his new singles “What Are We Waiting For?” and “Back 2 Life” at Rich’s, Jan. 16.

Randy Jackson will introduce Wil at Rich’s. (Courtesy With a career that basically launched while on vacation in Spain, Wil’s Asian roots and his life experiences in various parts of the world have provided great influences to his music. He said his lyrics stand for believing in one’s dreams and working relentlessly to achieve those dreams while also standing up for others. His debut album, “WTF (Wiltay Fantasy),” led to several awards including the Hollywood F.A.M.E. Award’s Best Pop Album Of The Year – an award that has previously been won by artists such as Gwen Stefani and Paula Abdul. He also received nominations for “Best International Artist,” “Male Pop Vocal Of The Year,” and “Best Music Video Of The Year.” The first single off “WTF” was written after he serendipitously attended Orgullo Madrid, the region’s LGBT Pride Festival.

see Waiting, pg 12



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Spelled Out Isabella Rossellini talks ‘Joy,’ drag, and discovering ‘Death Becomes Her’ is a ‘gay film’ Chris Azzopardi | Q Syndicate Isabella Rossellini is leading me into the light. There, in front of an almost fullwall window in a hotel suite at the Mandarin Oriental hotel in New York City, we stand, beaming, as her assistant snaps a pic. Good lighting is everything, as Rossellini notes in her thick Swedish-Italian accent — otherwise, “it’ll get all black.” She should know. Rossellini embarked on a career in front of the camera when, at the age of 28, the classic Rome-born beauty fell into modeling, hawking Lancôme as the company’s spokeswoman for 14 years and posing for an array of eminent celeb photographers, including Annie Leibovitz and Robert Mapplethorpe. “When I worked with him, he was quite sick with AIDS,” Rossellini recalled. “I remember how sad I felt, because he was very handsome and he celebrated in his photos the male body, the human body, and to see him paying such a toll, not even just physically. But he seemed to be in good spirits. I wondered … of course he knew he was dying. It was a very difficult time, the ’80s. And it was the last book that he made. They wanted him to photograph women and he did beautiful portraits of several women.” (Also featuring Yoko Ono and Susan Sarandon, “Some Women” was published in 1989, the same year Mapplethorpe succumbed to AIDS-related illness.) Rossellini’s striking appeal wasn’t only dark room-worthy, however. While modeling, Rossellini also began mirroring the career of her iconic mother, Ingrid Bergman (Rossellini’s father is Italian director Roberto Rossellini), reaching beyond the glossy pages of Vogue to become a film star. As abused nightclub vocalist Dorothy Vallens in David Lynch’s 1986 trippy

(left) Rossellini plays step-mother to Jennifer Lawrence in “Joy”; (right) Robert DeNiro and Rossellini plot against Lawrence in the film. (Photos courtesy Twentieth Century Fox)

thriller “Blue Velvet” — a role that required Rossellini to sing — Mapplethorpe’s muse demonstrated more than a pretty face; she could really act. Rossellini also happens to know a lot about animal sex. In 2008, she directed, produced, wrote and starred in a series of short films for Sundance titled “Green Porno,” illustrating the various mating acts of insects and other non-humans with, of course, cardboard and foam rubber. And if you ever wondered how dolphins do it (who hasn’t?), the actress also created the 2014 web series “Seduce Me,” wherein she discusses “blowhole sex” as she pseudo swims in a diorama-inspired scene among some very frisky Flippers. Rossellini’s latest is certainly less niche. In director David O. Russell’s “Joy,” the veteran actress is back on the big screen as Jennifer Lawrence’s affluent, finger-wagging stepmom, Trudy, a tough-love foil to Joy, the based-on-reallife, titular character. “It’s empowering to women and it’s also about the struggle of success,” Rossellini said, nuzzled into the corner of a sofa. “Generally when a person is successful people imagine, ‘Oh, overnight success, luck,’ instead of how arduous it is. The film portrays it very well. Family encourages you and discourages you because they are protective.”

Though Rossellini recognizes Joy’s unwavering ambition to seize businesswoman status — a path she blazes after inventing a fancy mop — Rossellini’s own life, she said, has been “completely different,” a truth she attributes to her European background as well as her famous film-industry family. “You know, I was more successful than I thought I’d be,” she revealed. “I’m old enough to have belonged to a group of women who thought, ‘I’m gonna get married and be a housewife.’ Instead, a career came, and it was really modeling. Modeling is almost like winning the lottery.” Rossellini’s modeling career continued to blossom in the ’80s, when she graced the covers of countless women fashion mags: Marie Claire, Harper’s Bazaar, Vanity Fair and Elle. She could’ve been a stay-at-home mom; she could’ve cleaned and cooked and called it a day; and for many years, she thought she would. But in her 30s, she changed her mind. “I understood that being financially independent meant also to be independent,” Rossellini said. “You don’t really do anything to become a good model,” she added. “You’re either chosen or not

see Rossellini, pg 13 FROM PAGE 1

LEGACY CENTER is collecting the public’s input concerning this project. To review 10 documents related to the EIR and to make comments by the deadline, visit The proposed Legacy Center would be built at 875 Hotel Circle South on 18.1 prime acres located directly off an Interstate 8 exit in Mission Valley. If constructed, the center’s location would not only impact traffic in Mission Valley but also on Bachman Place leading up the canyon to the Hospital District, Hillcrest and Mission Hills, which are all directly above the project. Cerullo, 84, is a controversial Pentecostal televangelist who owns the San Diego Resort Hotel and the buildings in the complex that house other businesses. The property is west of Hotel Isis and the Holiday Inn Express & Suites, and east of the Travelodge. Critics from across the world have challenged the evangelist’s claims of being a faith healer, miracle worker and prophet, but that has not stopped him from building a global ministr y and reportedly becoming a multimillionaire. A San Diego resident since 1961, Cerullo currently bases his organization at 3545 Aero Court in the Serra Mesa neighborhood. His two spokesmen told Mission Valley Planning Group that the Legacy Center project is now fully funded, with much of the money raised through donations by Cerullo’s followers from around the world. The project was last presented as an informational item in March 2015, and reviewed again by Mission Valley Planning Group’s Design Advisory Board (DAB) on Monday, Jan. 4. Although the project was listed as an action item on the agenda, no action was taken. Mission Valley News attended the session, where members criticized the project and the EIR as being incomplete. Mission Valley News also attended the Mission Valley Planning Group meeting on

NEWS Wednesday, Jan. 6, where the project was removed from the agenda as an action item and changed to an informational item. During the comment period, some people questioned the project’s enormous size — eight buildings totaling 315,000 square feet — and its impact on traffic and the environment. Members of the local LGBT community wondered how the Legacy Center and Cerullo’s deeply conser vative biblical beliefs would fit into a city known for tolerance and acceptance of many cultures and religions. Another audience member noted that Cerullo has been criticized by rabbis for tr ying to convert Jews to Christianity. And the Hillcrest hospitals sent representatives to obser ve the presentation over concerns about possible impacts to ambulances rushing to emergency rooms. One of the curious obser vations was that Mark Hurrah, the original architect who is no longer involved in the project, attended both sessions as the presenter and has been pushing for the project to move for ward. A representative of the new architect, Carrier Johnson, was in attendance at the DAB meeting but only as an obser ver. Some DAB members wondered whether the new architect would follow the previous advice of the planning group. Also present at both meetings was Jim Penner, executive director of the Legacy Center Foundation at Morris Cerullo World Evangelism. A former executive producer at “Hour of Power” for the Cr ystal Cathedral Ministries run by the late Dr. Robert H. Schuller, Penner is also a member of the Mission Valley Planning Group. Penner spoke, not as a planner but as a Cerullo spokesman, due to his conflict of interest. Hurrah tried hard to convince DAB members that he had modified architectural plans to satisfy the group’s concerns. For example, the original “Ancient Rome” motif with an overuse of domes has been updated to reflect a Mediterranean/Tuscan style, common in some San Diego neighborhoods, he said.

At the DAB meeting, board members Paul Brown, Jerry Shonkwiler and Bruce Warren were skeptical of Hurrah’s claim that he had made requested changes, since he did not present any new visual evidence, such as 3D renderings or architectural drawings showing the project’s scale and environmental impact. Warren chided Hurrah and Penner for expecting DAB members to advance a massive project like this, based on “good faith” promises. So they, along with chair Randy Dolph, requested that the architects return to the next DAB meeting — at 3:30 p.m. Monday, Feb. 1 at the Mission Valley Library — with a full presentation. The public is invited to attend that meeting. The project is expected to be listed on the agenda as an action item for both DAB and the planning group, which next meets at noon Wednesday, Feb. 3. Since the planning group could cast a vote, public comments will also be appropriate at that time. The Legacy Center is being pitched to planners and the city as a project that will boost local tourism. “We think people from all over the world will come to the Legacy Center and stay at nearby hotels,” Hurrah told DAB members. “We think this will add to the economy of San Diego,” adding that it would appeal to Christians. Penner said it was about the “histor y of the Judeo-Christian faith, a histor y of Christ on this Ear th.” They touted Cerullo’s collection of ancient ar tifacts and the re-creation of biblical histor y, such as St. Paul’s prison cell in Rome. They promised exhibitions of Torahs that date back 400 years and original Gutenberg Bibles. They mar veled about ongoing features, such as “Wings Over Israel,” “Journey Through the Bible” and “March of Prophecy.” “Even if you were an atheist,” Hurrah said, “you would be impressed.” But on Cerullo’s website, the message is quite different. “The mission of the Morris Cerullo Legacy Center is to equip the Body of Christ to work the works of God until Jesus comes. Through God’s plan for evange-

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lism, the Morris Cerullo Legacy Center will continue to train an army for God who will then be able to train others,” the website states. At the planning group meeting, John Horst, chair of the Mira Mesa planning group, questioned whether the Legacy Center’s mission was tourism or evangelism. Penner admitted that the Training Center would be used to teach foreigners how to pastor their flocks. The proposed Legacy Center would have eight buildings, including a Welcoming Center; the Histor y Dome Theater; the underground Catacombs; a Training Center Pavilion; Legacy Village; executive offices; a 300-seat amphitheater; and both underground and above ground parking structures. Editor’s Note: To see a full explanation of each of these buildings, see this stor y online at A central plaza and an outdoor water feature is also planned, along with a large outdoor swimming lagoon. It is not known if California’s drought restrictions will impact the water feature, which project officials said was being considered as a way to mitigate noise from the nearby freeway. According to the planning group, “The proposed mixed-use project requires a Process Five Community Plan Amendment, Atlas Specific Plan Amendment, Rezone, Site Development Permit, Planned Development Permit, Conditional Use Permit and Vesting Tentative Map to construct a mixed-use development with religious, non-denominational, faith-based entertainment Center, Museum, timeshare, administrative, recreational and commercial uses.” To learn more about the ministr y, visit its website at To read more about Cerullo’s vision for the Legacy Center, which appears different from public documents submitted to the city, visit and bit. ly/1IQu5Go. —Ken Williams is editor of Mission Valley News and San Diego Uptown News and can be reached at


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To be ‘young and gay’ Back Out with Benny Ben Cartwright I was thinking the other day about what it felt like to be young and gay. While I know at 35 years old, I’m still “young,” I’m certainly not 18 years old anymore. There was an innocence, excitement and curiosity that just can’t be matched. Whenever possible, I try to have Monday date nights with myself, as I seem to have free time on that day more than any other. I typically take myself to another part of town, listen to relaxing music, and either take a long walk, sit in a cafe with tea, catch a movie, or just drive around. This week, I found myself driving up to the San Diego beachside community of La Jolla where I passed The Living Room Coffeehouse. The now longclosed Hillcrest location of The Living Room was a place that I met my first group of gay friends, and learned so much about the community. It was there that I spent just about every night of the week after work and school studying, socializing, people watching, gossiping, and making new friends and romances. Ever y new LGBT person I met brought curiosity, ever y

upcoming community event was not to be missed, and exploring things I hadn’t done before made ever y day an adventure. I remember ever y time I met a new, attractive guy my age, there were instant butterflies in my stomach as we went on dates and explored this “new” gay world together. I remember going to movies with dates and the ner ves filled my body as I decided whether or not to hold their hand and our hands kept “bumping” into each other. There are so many sweet memories now that I look back. And as time went on, I got to know lots of people, learned so much about the community, and made some incredible connections. But the excitement of those early years seemed to fade. I have since had days where I dreaded small talk with community members and tried to figure out how to get out of going to some of the many events that fill my calendar. I’ve been involved in dozens of community projects and organizations, and have been through points where I had to scale some of them back due to the stress they brought. Something that I have been working on in recent months, though, and my late night La Jolla walk past The Living Room reminded me, is to bring back some of that excitement from

the early days. Sure, it’ll never be my first time at Pride again, I’m more than well past my first sexual experience, and I have lots of good, bad, and ugly information about the community in my head. Those who follow me on Facebook may have seen me repost some of my old “twink” photos recently, but it goes beyond that. My new goal is to refocus my energies on the causes, organizations and projects that I care about most. This means learning to be better at saying “no,” this means continuing to scale back the things I do — but not because I’m stressed out, because I need to do things that bring me excitement — so that my enthusiasm will carr y out for the benefit of the project. Also of great importance to me, is continuing to share my life journey through writing. As this first column of 2016 is evidence, I will spend more time sharing about my life, fun stories, and things I’m doing in the community. Not only is this fun and therapeutic for me, but many of my friends and longtime readers tell me they want more of this — so I hope you enjoy it! Before we go, I have a few upcoming community events I wanted to share with you (for those who aren’t completely burnt out from all of the celebrations, events, and gatherings during the holiday season). For those who live in the best gayborhood around, the first Hillcrest Town Council meeting of the year is on Tuesday, Jan. 12 from 6:30 – 8 p.m., at the Joyce Beers Center on Vermont Street. The group

wants to hear what Hillcrest residents (renters and owners alike!) want from the group in 2016, and as secretar y, I encourage all Hillcresters to come speak up! Details at The San Diego Human Rights Campaign will host their next HRC Connect event on Tuesday, Jan. 19 from 7 – 9 p.m. at S&M (Sausage & Meat). Participants will hear more about the Rady Children’s Hospital Gender Management Clinic while mixing with some pretty cool San Diegans. Details are at Jai Rodriguez will be at Martinis Above Fourth Jan. 21 at 8 p.m. for a performance of his “Tales of An Aging Twink” show. As a fellow “aging twink” — or maybe I’m an “aged out twink” — I’m ver y much looking for ward to this show! Details and tickets at And finally, the San Diego LGBT Community Center is looking for ward to presenting our “Masquerade” event on Feb. 11 at the beautiful BRICK space in Liberty Station. The evening will include cocktails and surprises, with costumes and masks encouraged! Proceeds benefit The Center’s ser vices and programs. Tickets and more at I wish you all a happy and healthy 2016 and look for ward to sharing more next month! —Benny Car twright is the director of community outreach at the San Diego LGBT Community Center. He can be reached at 619-692-2077 ext. 106 or Note: Byline photo by Rob Lucas Modern Aper ture Photography. t

Welcome to 2016 South Bay Alliance Dae Elliott South Bay Alliance is looking for ward to yet another exciting year. Mark your calendars for South Bay Pride, Sept. 10 this year at the Bayside Park. I can’t believe how much we have grown since South Bay Alliance was organized in 2006. In nine years we have gone from an informal gathering of 200 or so people to over 15,000 attendees and plan to do so again this year. Perhaps even more! Sign up for LGBTQA 101 This month on Jan. 28, we are doing our LGBTQA (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, and Allies) 101 training for all LGBTQA who want to learn how to better provide an accepting and supportive environment for those in our neighborhoods for the LGBTQA community. We will introduce you to terminology, issues and resources along with activities to help you understand and be effective in making our neighborhoods safe and friendly places for our LGBTQA. Business members, teachers, parents, friends and family, students — ever yone is invited to this FREE training. Upon completion, you will receive a certificate of completion and South Bay Pride palm tree to post indicating your support for the community! This training will be conducted by South Bay Alliance in conjunction with personnel from YES, SDSU, and PFLAG. The Foundr y Methodist Church in Chula Vista is graciously hosting the event. Visit in order to sign up.

see South Bay, pg 5


It’s not the alcohol; it’s you Life Beyond Therapy Michael Kimmel Consider these: Dear Michael: I have been with my partner for several years now. Our sex life isn’t great, but everything else is good. Last week, I was out of town for work, went to a bar, and after too many drinks, ended up going home with this hot guy. I woke up the next morning in his bed, thinking, “If my boyfriend knew I did this, he’d leave me.” What do I do now? Dear Michael: Everyone thinks of me as this really nice guy, always sweet and patient. And I am … except when I drink. Then, after three or four drinks, I become really mean and cruel to everyone around me, even my best friends. What’s wrong with me? Dear Michael: I love my boyfriend and we are good together, except when we go out to the bars. Then, after a few too many drinks, I increasingly want attention from other guys and it makes my boyfriend crazy. Do I need to stop drinking? People love to blame their problems on sources other than themselves. It’s not much fun to take responsibility for our problems, is it? And yet, it’s really the only way to make changes that last. Some people decide that they drink too much, so they resolve to drink less. Sounds good, right? Except, it often doesn’t work. Why? Because they haven’t figured out why they drink so much. Like the above drinkers, they think their “normal” (nonalcohol) life is good — or good enough, anyway — but for some reason, when they drink, they become these cheating, mean, attention-seeking people. I would say that all of the three drinkers above are kidding themselves in one way or another: They’re pretending that their non-drinking life is just fine, when obviously, it’s not. You may be able to kid yourself that: • Your sex life with your partner is okay (when it’s not) • You really are this nice,

sweet person (when you’re not) • You get enough attention from your boyfriend (when you don’t) You are, in essence, lying to yourself. And alcohol, by lowering your inhibitions, shows you the truth. And you don’t like it. Sure, you can blame this on alcohol and stop drinking, but that’s just putting a Band-Aid on a dirty, deep, psychological wound. That wound will never heal unless you rip off the Band-Aid and clean out the infection (which, of course, is no fun). I used to work as a bar back when I was putting myself through college and I have clients who bartend in some of the best bars in San Diego. One of the wisest of them recently told me, “Alcohol is like truth serum: it shows you who the person really is beneath their happy, shiny façade.” Wow, that’s quite a statement. I don’t know if I’d go quite that far, but the man has a point: For most people, alcohol lowers our inhibitions, and, as a result, we allow aspects of our personality to surface that we usually hide, suppress or deny. Truth serum, indeed. So what do we do about this? We could start by admitting to ourselves that we’re in denial about parts of our life that really aren’t going so well. Perhaps, as drinker No. 1 writes, he’s not happy with his sex life with his partner, and by pretending he is, he’s not doing anyone any favors. If he doesn’t address this problem

honestly and directly, he’s on a path to sabotaging his good thing. I would imagine that drinker No. 2 wants to express anger about things in his life that aren’t okay with him, but he doesn’t know how to … unless his old friend alcohol is there to help. And drinker No. 3 may not have worked through his need for attention. He may pretend that he has when he’s sober, but when he’s not, it leaps out and takes control, much to his — and his partner’s — chagrin. Luckily, this stuff is all very workable. The alcohol is merely showing us the wounds that we’re pretending are healed, when in reality, we’ve just been changing the Band-Aids. As the title of this column says, “It’s not the alcohol; it’s you.” It’s you who can clean out your unresolved problems so they don’t haunt you any more. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to have a couple of drinks and not turn into some unpleasant version of yourself? You can do it. Get help, clean out your old psychological wounds and make it a really good new year. —Michael Kimmel is a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in helping LGBT clients achieve their goals and deal with anxiety, depression, grief, sexually addictive behavior, coming out, relationship challenges and homophobia. Contact him at 619-955-3311 or visit


SOUTH BAY Space is limited so do so soon! Youth Movie Night As part of this year’s expanded support of our youth, we are happy to announce the Foundr y Methodist Church of Chula Vista is hosting a “Youth Movie Night” on Feb. 19 for high school LGBTQA students to enjoy a safe and friendly evening with each other. We are reaching out to all of the Gay Straight Alliance (GSA) student organizations in the area to ensure ever yone knows about it! Stay tuned for more information. Attend the South Bay LGBTQA Prom In addition, SBA along with YES, PFLAG, Foundr y Methodist Church, and the local GSAs are organizing South Bay’s “other” (title will be determined by our youth) Prom on April 16. South Bay Alliance will be organizing the entertainment and are currently looking for supporters to help with the decorations and DJ. If you are interested in assisting, please contact us at All in all, we are ver y excited that we can provide our youth with fun and safe activities. They are our future and I am thrilled that we can be there for them. SBA Fundraiser Keep a look out for our upcoming South Bay Pride fundraiser! It will be a great opportunity to network and socialize while supporting a great cause. We will be having a silent auction with all

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sorts of great items to bid on. All of the proceeds will be going to the South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival and those of you giving $100 or more will be listed on our home page as our honored “early bird” supporters. If you want to contribute to the silent auction, let us know by emailing You can also stay posted on all these events and activities by following us on Facebook at or Twitter @SouthBayPride and of course, visit us online at —Dae Elliott is a founding executive committee member and the current executive director of South Bay Alliance, a 501(c)3 nonprofit and organizer of the annual South Bay Pride Art & Music Festival. Contact her at southbayalliance@

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Letters Responses to our former sports writer tribute You know Morgan, I never felt I deser ved such an amazing tribute column [see “Dugout Chatter: A difficult goodbye,” Vol. 6, Issue 26 or zmd2omx]. I was over whelmed when reading it. I was just a guy writing about two things he loves more than anything: sports and the amazing people in our community who make them happen and help others to do so. My favorite stor y was called “Why I Coach,” inspired by coaching beginning softball players with Roman Jimenez. The most difficult ones were stories about David Valenzuela, Mike Petracca, and most recently, Bruce Ragland. These folks mean so much to the community and gave so much, yet faced long odds in various struggles. Those stories were tough because they are my friends, but the beauty behind each stor y is how much people in our community stepped up. People like Tom Abbas, Kent Hammond, Troy Camacho, Matthew Pirecki, Brian Burnett, Little Michael, Jeff Jackson, Andy

see Letters, pg 7


Let’s stop bullying in 2016 By Morgan M. Hurley Bully (n): a person who uses strength or power to harm or intimidate those who are smaller or weaker. Synonyms: persecutor, oppressor, tyrant, tormentor, intimidator, strong-arm, cyberbully, “the school bully.” There are many definitions of the word “bully,” but they all add up to the same thing. Control. Though it may often seem random and without direct purpose, generally a person who bullies another does so with intention and a definite means to an end. They want to oppress or control the other person. In recent years, our community as a whole has suffered greatly under the guise of the bully. Gay and trans teens have committed suicide in droves due to both schoolhouse and cyber bullying. We, as a community, have mourned those lost at vigils and marches; we’ve launched “It Gets Better” and other projects to reach out to those most at risk; we’ve started the Tyler Clementi Foundation and other nonprofits to counteract these

bullying practices; and we’ve pushed our governments to pass laws to put an end to it. Many of us who now identify as LGBT experienced bullying as children on the playground, in the classroom, or on our walks home. We, as a group, tend to receive more bullying as children than any other group, even in those early years when our orientation is merely perceived. I was bullied a great deal throughout my childhood because I was considered a “tomboy.” That word was thrown at me all the time. I was constantly made fun of for climbing on the monkey bars in my dress; for wearing (and preferring) my brother’s hand-me-down Hang Ten shirts; for not sitting like a “lady” even though I was wearing jeans; for riding my bike as well — if not better — than the boys on my street; for not doing well in my creative dance class; or for crying when my best male friend wanted to “feel me out” when we were both going through puberty. Truth be told, I just wanted to go ride bikes and look for polly-

wogs with him —instead, I lost his friendship that day. Throughout my childhood years I had many boys say horrible things to me, most that I’ve never forgotten. Many of my adult gay male friends were bullied in elementary and high school for not being “athletic”; being effeminate; having too many female friends; not getting picked for group sports; dressing sharply; or just being themselves, which was considered different than the other boys. I think I can cast a pretty wide net and say with confidence that 90 percent of the LGBT community experienced some sort of bullying while growing up, just because others felt we were “different.” Bullies usually grow up. And yet, here today in 2016, our LGBT community at large is rife with bullies. These bullies haven’t grown up — or they’ve somehow become bullies as adults — and it really must stop. I’m sure you know a bully. The bullies I’m familiar with can be found in a variety of places right here in our local community. My first thought when putting this together was to call out all the bullies I know by name. Then I realized it would not assist in making my point. So I’ll do it this way. You may see people you know. You may even be

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one of these people. These bullies are: • in our nonprofits. I’ve seen and heard of various “leaders” who bully their volunteers or even paid employees who have questioned the organization’s financial tactics or shown the courage to stand up to internal systematic deficits and even their poor or shady management styles. Some employees have been intimidated into silence, others fired. • in our newspapers. It has been the status quo in our community for publishers and various columnists to use their pages as “bully pulpits,” to launch vicious character attacks or dish up disabling laments of others they may have a simple beef with. • on our streets. I was one of many very disturbed by the faction that created an unnecessary cycle of hatred toward a local LGBT politician and “turned their backs” on him because they disagreed with his politics. The acerbic base that was created enabled rivals to spin various webs of flat-out lies against that same politician. I am not a fan of the politician in question, but I am less of a fan of the tactics that kept him from attaining office. • in our businesses. I’ve personally experienced, witnessed and heard of managers manipulating, intimidating and bullying employees, and undermining their rights and

ability to grow and prosper, for no good reason. • in our emails. I receive relentless missives filled with hate, vulgarities and discord at any mention of HIV or AIDS within the pages of our newspaper. These are sent by an apparently very troubled man who hides behind the safety and anonymity of the computer screen, but refuses all requests to meet in person. • on social media. Those who draft fake profiles — or even fake nonprofit groups — in order to trash and exploit other humans or businesses are some of the worst of them. The people who habitually and hatefully post in these forums only seem to bash their subjects and never offer any solutions. Others play “troll” and seek to add hateful commentary poised to discredit or malign activists or other community members who may side with ideas or people that they disagree with. We all know these people. Some of us are these people. Many of us have been hurt by them. For the better of our community, we need to change. —Morgan M. Hurley is the managing editor of SDCNN and the editor of Gay San Diego. She can be reached at

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LETTERS Clark, Tom Urbanski, Christine Herzig, and so many more I can’t possibly tag without running out. In between, I got to write about my personal favorite leagues (AFCSL, SDAFFL, SD Hoops, SD Pool), and others in which I had never participated (golf, SDTF, bowling, SD Armada, wrestling, the women’s leagues, etc.) Ever y league is someone’s passion, they all ser ve an important purpose, and if I helped even one person learn about one league, I’ll feel good about the column. Over eight years writing for the community (five-plus with this publication) has brought a lot of fun. Thanks for inspiring me to write, Roman. It was just time for you all to get a new voice. And if you are interested in writing for Morgan, her [tribute to me] is proof how awesome of a person she is to not only work with, but be friends with. Happy New Year! —Jeff Praught, former Dugout Chatter columnist, via Facebook [Jeff, you deser ve] all the kudos (and more) that you’re getting for your work. Covering sports in our community ain’t easy. Ironically, I too hung up my keyboard after saying goodbye to my dear friend, so I get it. When it’s time, it’s time. You did a solid job and ever y single LGBT sports organization benefitted from your coverage. But more than that, the entire community has because there was a resource for learning about the LGBT sports organizations anyone could join. Well done and thank you for your work. On another note, from the earliest days of Nigel covering sports in Bravo! and me at Update, GLT and SDGLN to you at GSD, and ever yone in between, our community has had sports coverage for nearly as long as there has been sports in our community to cover. I hope we don’t lose that resource and someone steps in. Until then, enjoy your next chapter. You’ve earned it. —Roman Jimenez, via Facebook Jeff, your boundless enthusiasm for sports in general and

the amazing job you’ve done, particularly with LGBT sports, will make the filling of your shoes impossible. In a time where men’s sports still garner most of the attention, your efforts to spotlight the 2012 ASANA World Series held here in SD and our many women’s teams’ exploits attending other tournaments have always been appreciated. It was my honor to ser ve on the AFCSL board for a time. Thank you for all you’ve done for our league and our community. Your insightful and humorous take on things will be missed. —Lisa Tinnerman, via Facebook I don’t think any of us who know Jeff could have said it better. A classy article for a classy guy. —Dave Batzer, via Facebook What a nice tribute. Jeff is a class act. Appreciate all his contributions and proud to also call him a friend! —Russ Edra, via Facebook Great tribute to one of my great friends. Cheers. —David Valenzuela, via Facebook

Enjoyed Rakitori and its review It is a wonderful restaurant and truly deserves this positive review!! [See “Beating to a different drum,” Vol. 6, Issue 26, or] We have gone a couple of times and have enjoyed every scrumptious bite. We will continue to support this endeavor. —Anitra Wirtz, via

Getting the stor y right Thank you Gay San Diego and Walter for this! You got it right! [See “Del Shores will soon be ‘tell stories’ in San Diego,” at] —Del Shores, via gay-sd.comt



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FilmOut San Diego, the nonprofit that produces the region’s LGBT Film Festival, conducts monthly film screenings to help raise funds and awareness of the annual film festival. During its Jan. 13 screening, FilmOut will not only celebrate the 25th anniversary of a cult classic, but also unveil their new logo. The nonprofit’s board and staff has long toyed with the notion of changing their logo. “For several years, I have advocated for the board of directors to retire the old FilmOut logo, which never made any sense to me,” said Ken Williams, a longtime board member who serves as the film and media relations director. “I am excited that FilmOut is modernizing its icon, imagery and branding, bringing the logo into the 21st century with a fresh new typeface and a multicolored icon that reflects the self-identities of our diverse audiences.”

Histor y of HIV It’s incredible how much HIV/AIDS research is done here in San Diego, and so few people locally know about it! Thanks for sharing about Dr. Richman’s work. [See “Profiles in Advocacy: Transforming HIV,” Vol. 6, Issue 26, or] —Benny Car twright, via

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FilmOut’s former logo

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Originally released in 1991, this month’s screening is “My Own Private Idaho” — starring the late River Phoenix and a pre-“Matrix” Keanu Reeves — which tells the story of two street hustlers, one gay, “navigating a volatile world of junkies, thieves and johns.” While shuffling all over the Pacific Northwest together, Phoenix’s character, Mike Waters, suffers from the unrequited love and desire of Scott Favor, played by Reeves. “We wanted to include seminal LGBT films that were celebrating milestone anniversaries and this was one of the first choices,” said Michael McQuiggan, FilmOut’s festival programmer. “[Gus] Van Sant’s film at the time of its initial release 25 years ago was revelatory in terms of its bold direction, loose Shakespearean homage to ‘Henry IV,’ themes of male hustling/drug use and risqué casting of mainstream Hollywood actors appearing in a major motion picture with a slant to the independent film dealing with ‘real and honest themes.’” The third, highly acclaimed independent film by Van Sant

see Briefs, pg 8

CORRECTION: In our last issue [see “Happily celebrating all loving couples,” Vol. 6, Issue 26], we incorrectly attributed a photo credit on our front page. The correct caption and credit for the above photo should be: Amy and Stephanie show their appreciation to officiant Bethel Nathan after saying their vows. (Photo by Chana and Don)



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BRIEFS captured a cult following over the years, attributed to its “visually dazzling” and “thematically groundbreaking” themes. The film included the last award-wining role of Phoenix’s career, which was cut short when he died of a drug overdose in October of 1993, an event that may have enhanced the film’s cult status. “We are hoping that we can bring in a new generation to experience this film for the first time, along with the generation that has seen this film and wants to reconnect with it,” McQuiggan said. In February, FilmOut will host two screenings: Julie Andrews in “Victor, Victoria,” on Feb. 10; and the 30th anniversary of “My Beautiful Laundrette,” starring Daniel Day-Lewis, on Feb. 24. Future screenings include “Parting Glances,” “Donnie Darko,” and a double feature: “What’s Up Doc” (starring Barbra Streisand and Ryan O’Neal) and “Overboard” (starring Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell). All monthly films are screened on Wednesdays starting at 7 p.m. at Landmark’s Hillcrest Cinema, located at 3965 Fifth Ave., Suite 200. This year’s annual FilmOut Film Festival will be held June 3 – 5, at Observatory North Park, formerly the Birch North Park Theatre, located at 2891 University Ave. FilmOut’s mission is “to enlighten, educate and entertain the communities of San Diego County and beyond through the exhibition of LGBT-themed films. FilmOut San Diego seeks to recognize, promote, celebrate and support the important diverse artistic con-

tributions LGBT filmmakers make to our community.” For more information about FilmOut, to buy tickets to any of the films, or to become a donor, visit You can also follow them at FilmOutSanDiego and @FilmOutSD.


A San Diego police officer fatally shot a domestic-violence suspect in Hillcrest on the evening of New Year’s Day. The suspect was identified as Joshua Adam Sisson, 30, who lived in the 500 block of Lewis Street. His friends and family would take to Facebook to mourn his death and lament a life that ended too soon. Police were called to the scene just after 10:30 p.m. Jan. 1 after Sisson’s boyfriend called authorities and alleged that Sisson had held a kitchen knife at his throat. According to the San Diego Police Department (SDPD), officers arrived at the apartment within five minutes but learned that the suspect had fled. A police helicopter also responded, and while using a searchlight found a man running in the 4200 block of Sixth Avenue. Officer Richard Butera confronted the suspect and ordered him to stop. The suspect turned around and pointed a knife at the officer “in an aggressive stance,” then allegedly walked toward the officer, according to a police department statement. The officer allegedly told the suspect to drop the knife, but the suspect continued moving toward the officer. That’s when the officer shot him in the chest, according the SDPD.

Got Art? Patric Stillman’s Milk Loves Art cow was on the cover of our last issue [see “Got Art?” Vol. 6, Issue 26]. This is the completed back side and the cow has now been shipped back to the California Milk Processor Board for auction. (Courtesy Patric Stillman) A kitchen knife was found next to the suspect, police said. The officer’s body camera captured the fatal shooting, according to police. Hours later, police told the media that they subsequently had learned that Sisson had an outstanding felony parole warrant for his arrest, but did not specify what it was for. Witnesses told local media that the gravely wounded suspect was sprawled on the street pleading with police to save his life, and said that the ambulance didn’t arrive in a timely manner. Sisson was taken to nearby Scripps Mercy Hospital, where he died very early Saturday. Sisson’s boyfriend was not harmed, and neither was Officer Butera, according to police. Officer Butera has been with

SDPD for 13 years, and this was the boyfriend posted this message on his third fatal shooting, according Facebook: to local media reports. “You can’t fix another person! Sisson’s Facebook page was still I did everything I could to let my active this week, and his boyfriend friend, Joshua Sisson, know that posted additional information there. he had a person on this planet who “I was just informed by Josh’s cared about his well being, but his mother that after the SDPD shot craving for drugs destroyed him. him, they left him in the street I told him daily that he was a wonwithout any treatderful person with infinite ment. Josh was begpossibilities ahead of him, ging them for help, and that any bad situation telling them that could be turned around. he was dying, and, The cravings got the better of course, we know of him, he attacked me and what happened,” the then drew a knife on police boyfriend posted on officials. Josh died a couple Monday. of hours ago from the gunFriends and relashot wounds. I feel as if I’m tives shared their grief in a nightmare! on Sisson’s Facebook “RIP Joshua Sisson. I page. And on Jan. 2, am still and always have Joshua Adam not long after Sisson been your friend. And yes, Sisson (Facebook) had died at the hospital, I loved you!”t


Assessing the year in theater Theater Review Charlene Baldridge Theatrically, it’s time to take a look back upon the year 2015, name a few favorite productions here in San Diego County, and take a look forward into 2016, finding what looks worthwhile and perhaps taking some time to fret over what seems troubling. Please be aware that although I see most everything (I attended 115 theatrical productions, musicals, concerts and operas in town this year, not counting at least 10 Fringe Festival shows), there are some things I missed because scheduling is sometimes impossible. Here’s what I found to be excellent: Marsha Norman’s “‘night Mother,” at ion theatre company, so good I paid to see it again as skillfully directed by Glenn Paris and starring Sylvia M’Lafi Thompson as the mother of a daughter hell-bent on suicide, played by Yolanda Franklin. Stephen Karam’s 2011 offBroadway hit, “Sons of the Prophet,” at Cygnet in January, directed by then-new associate artistic director, Rob Lutfy. It was a touching, wildly inscrutable, deeply comic play about a Pennsylvania man of Lebanese descent confined to a wheelchair by an undiagnosed illness, brilliantly played by newcomer Alex Hoeffler. The pace was 1,000 mph and the play chock-full of challenging characters, who repeatedly missed out on love. By far the most outstanding new musical of the year was La

Jolla Playhouse’s world premiere of “Come From Away,” in which a huge ensemble company told the story of the planes and people that were forced to land in Newfoundland on 9/11. A truly ravishing visual experience was the Old Globe’s “In Your Arms,” a dance musical with vignettes written by 10 major playwrights, directed and choreographed Christopher Gattelli. Best musical revival was San Diego Musical Theatre’s “La Cage Aux Folles” with endearing performances by Robert Townsend, David Engel and James Vasquez. I adored Jeanine Tesori’s “Violet,” sensitively directed by San Diego Repertory Artistic Director Sam Woodhouse. Other laudable productions: “The Twenty-Seventh Man,” Old Globe Theatre; “Oedipus El Rey,” San Diego Repertory Theatre; “Freud’s Last Session” with Francis Gercke and Robert Smyth at Lamb’s Players Theatre; “A New Brain,” with Tom Zohar and his real-life husband Anthony Methvin, directed by Kim Strassburger at Diversionary Theatre; “Healing Wars,” La Jolla Playhouse; “The Quality of Life,” produced by Intrepid Theatre at the old Carlsbad Cinema; and “The Vortex” and “Hay Fever” in repertory at Cygnet. And just for fun: “Return to the Forbidden Planet” at New Village Arts and “Silence of the Clams” at Diversionary; and “The (Curious Case of the) Watson Intelligence” at Moxie Theatre; and “Chapatti” at North Coast Repertory Theatre. Intrepid Theatre Company is certainly the outstanding theater company of the year, having

Promo shot for “Silence of the Clams” parody (Courtesy Jamie Morris)

One of the better casts for “La Cage” (Photo by Ken Jacques)

Bowman as Garland (Courtesy Intrepid Theater)

engendered the two most indelible performances of the year — Jeffrey Jones as the dying protagonist in “The Quality of Life,” and Eileen Bowman as Judy Garland in “End of the Rainbow,” at San Diego Rep. Both shows were directed by Christy Yael-Cox, who built wonderful supporting ensembles for each. Good news and worrisome news for 2016 The re-enlivened InnerMission Theatre produced two fine shows in Diversionary Theatre’s new Black Box. In worrisome news, Mo’olelo “lost” its newish artistic director, Lydia Fort, and more recently announced postponement of the remainder of the season. A pity. Watch for these two new promising play festivals in January and February. The first, the Old Globe’s New Voices Festival, Jan. 15 –17, with readings as follows: • 7:30 p.m., Friday, Jan. 15: Sheri Wilner, Julia Jordan, and Adam Gwon’s musical, “Cake Off” 4 p.m. Saturday, Jan. 16: Jiehae Park’s “peerless,” directed by Delicia Turner Sonnenberg • 7:30 p.m. Jan. 16: “The Blameless” by Nick Gandiello, directed by Globe Artistic Director Barry Edelstein; • 4 p.m. Sunday, Jan. 17: Mona Mansour’s “Unseen,” directed by Johanna McKeon. All four readings take place in the Sheryl and Harvey White Theatre. Tickets are free but require reservations, open to the general public beginning Tuesday, Jan. 5 at noon, through the box office at 619-23-GLOBE. For the second, La Jolla Playhouse received a $20,000 NEA grant to enhance this year’s DNA New Work Series, which takes place Feb. 15 – 27. Plays will be announced in early January. Visit Put these on the calendar now: • Broadway San Diego: Idina Menzel in “If/Then” Jan. 5 – 10 at Civic Theatre. San Diego Repertory Theatre: John Patrick Shanley’s “Outside Mullingar” Jan. 14 – Feb. 21. Visit • Old Globe: David Ives adaptation of the 18th century French farce, “Metromaniacs,” directed by legendary director Michael Kahn, Shiley Stage Jan. 30 – March 6. Visit • San Diego Musical Theatre: Lynn Ahrens, Stephen Flaherty and Terrence McNally’s “Ragtime” — one of the best musicals of the 20th century. February 5 – 21 at Spreckels Theatre. Visit —Charlene Baldridge has been writing about the arts since 1979. You can follow her blog at or reach her at

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Where 'dirty sauce' is


but exceedingly more filling. Shredded halal chicken appears in several choices. The meat adheres to Islamic Law, in which the birds are slaughtered humanely with a sharp instrument to the throat while a Muslim cleric recites a prayer. There is no difference in the actual cooking method or flavor. Although when introduced to zesty orange glaze, avocado, pepper jack cheese, and Ike’s dirty sauce, it becomes an unforgettable thing, especially when paired to Dutch crunch bread. Look for it on the menu under the name, “We’re just friends.” From the vegan list, I tried a Hillcrest exclusive called “The Murph” on sturdy sourdough bread sporting a bubbly crust. The sandwich was filled with vegan fried chicken that could easily pass for real poultry, plus lightly brined artiRestaurant Review choke hearts, provolone cheese, and “Seau sauce” resembling Frank Sabatini Jr. a cross between Sriracha and Buffalo sauce. The flavors and textures were chaotic, but not enough for me to abandon. Ordinary in comparison was the “Paul Reubens,” Over the past few weeks I’ve sunk my choppers a pastrami sandwich with poppy seed coleslaw, into four different sandwiches from Ike’s Place, Swiss cheese and lots of French dressing the new hyped-up sandwich shop in The HUB mingling with the dirty sauce. Messier than Hillcrest Market that originated nearly 10 years what you’d find at a Jewish deli, it tasted ago from a humble storefront in San Francisco’s similar nonetheless. Castro District. Other options include the “Sally The whacky combinations of ingredients and Ride,” made with vegan turkey, avocado flavors I encountered in most of them have explicitly and havarti cheese; “The Pride of Castro” set this growing chain apart from the pack. layered with turkey, ham, and brie; and Its owner, Ike Shehadeh Mission, is a Muslim of the hot-selling “Ménage a Trois,” which (above) Halal chicken Dutch crunch bread Palestinian descent who breaks the rules of sandwichfeatures halal chicken slathered in honey, (below) The “Anchor Man” making based on a longtime habit of putting his favorite barbecue sauce and mustard, and with three (Photos by Frank Sabatini Jr.) foods and condiments between two slices of bread in ways that cheeses to boot. could send some running. Although shortly after opening the original In each visit, the lines for these heated way-out shop in 2007, the concept began attracting lines down the street while drawing sandwiches weren’t terribly long, and they moved reasonably fast. I wasn’t national media to the phenomenon. nuts, however, about the odd layout and unkempt condition of the space, Meatballs with Ranch dressing? You got it. Turkey with yellow BBQ sauce which used to house La Salsa Fresh Mexican Grill. and Provolone? Why not? The indoor dining area is cluttered with tiny tables and uncomfortable The chain has grown to about 21 locations throughout California with a chairs, and it’s blocked off from the order counter. Garbage bins overmenu that includes dozens of zany sandwiches named after sports figures, flowed, and floors needed sweeping, which are perhaps testimonies to celebrities, and random sayings. A good number of them are vegan. Ike’s daily cult following. But it is the “dirty sauce” that either draws or repels consumers to the place, The outdoor patio holds more appeal if you’re dining in. Or as I disdepending on whether your palate is a sponge for creamy garlic aioli. covered, better to get the sandwiches to go, to a place where you can get The dressing is bold and haunting, and baked per order into your bread of down and dirty in private with their dripping sauces and big, bold flavors choice (Dutch crunch, sourdough, French or whole wheat shipped down halfthat really do incite moaning. baked from San Francisco). A little more is added to the sandwiches at the end. Its exact ingredients remain top secret, although I would guess cumin resides —Frank Sabatini Jr. is the author of “Secret San Diego” (ECW Press), and bein the recipe. gan his local writing career more than two decades ago as a staffer for the former Unless you request otherwise, the dirty sauce comes on all of the sandwich- San Diego Tribune. You can reach him at es, even those containing other condiments such as Italian, French or Caesar dressing. As a result, you’ll likely get your chin and fingers a little wet during the eating process. 1010 University Ave., Suite 101 (Hillcrest) My hands-down favorite sandwich was The Anchor Man. I chose neutral 619-452-2826; French bread as to not interfere with the initially questionable mix of fried Sandwich prices: $7.97 to $11.11 chicken, American cheese, purple coleslaw and jalapenos. It offered memorable (various add-ons cost extra) crispiness. And as with all of the sandwiches, it was smaller than a 6-inch sub,

The “Paul Reubens” pastrami

Ike’s Place


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Another potential hotspot designed by acclaimed craftsman Paul Basile has sprouted in metro San Diego, this time in the heart of North Park under the name Encontro. The chic, casual space, which opened Jan. 2, features an open kitchen, plus wine and craft beers on tap. Homemade sausages, portobello fries, and handmade shakes using Hammonds Ice Cream are among the culinary standouts. All of the meat proteins are prepared on a grill prominently displayed at the front of the dining room. This is the first project by A North Park newcomer (Courtesy Encontro North Park LLC) Encontro North Park LLC, which comprises a group of local entrepreneurs. 3001 University Ave., 619-291-1220,

(l to r) Malarkey and business partner Puffer begin work on a woodsy, new restaurant concept (Courtesy Katalyst PR)

Chef and restaurateur Brian Malarkey has set his sights on rustic wood-fire cooking for an upcoming venture called Herb & Wood, due to open by mid-spring in Little Italy. With the support of business partner Christopher Puffer, the duo promises to “ignite all five senses” with their focus on roasted vegetables and seafood, pizzas using dough aged for 48 hours, house-made sausages and pastas, and a cocktail program leaning toward old-school throwbacks. A grab-and-go café area within the space (Herb & Eatery) will open shortly after. 2210 Kettner Blvd. Eclipse Chocolate Bar & Bistro in South Park continues its “chocolate threeway” series at 7 p.m., Jan. 28, in conjunction with Urbn St. Brewing Co. For $20, guests will receive a guided tasting of three chocolate truffles paired with three artisan cheeses and three craft beers. 2145 Fern St., 619-578-2984,

The deconstructed steak salad at Madison (Photo by Lyudmila Zotova)

The recent opening of Madison in University Heights reveals a cedar arched ceiling, colorful, geometric inlayed tiles, and midcentur y modern appointments conceived by local design team Anna and Dave Sindelar. The restaurant, which occupies the former Lei Lounge, features a full bar and a menu of modern Mediterranean fare with Southern California influences. Helming the kitchen is Chef Mario Casserneri, who concurrently works at BICE in the Gaslamp Quarter. The venture was co-launched by Matthew Sieve after managing Isabel’s Cantina and Barrio Star for the past four years. 4622 Park Blvd., 619-269-6566,

Based on last year’s success, Cueva Bar in University Heights will continue its “meatless Mondays” series through 2016 on the second Monday of every month, with various guest chefs contributing to the vegetarian dinners. Joining chef-owner Oz Blackaller on Jan. 11 is Phillip Esteban from The Cork and Craft. On Feb. 8, Nick Brune from Eco Caters jumps in. The dinners start at 6 p.m. and cost between $40 and $45, depending on their menus. They include beer pairings, tax, and gratuity. Tickets must be purchased in advance via Cueva’s website. 2123 Adams Ave., 619-269-6612, Nearly 180 restaurants stretching from North County to Coronado are taking part in San Diego Restaurant Week on Jan. 17 – 24. Deals will vary among the establishments, with three-course dinners priced at $20, $30, $40, and $50, and two-course lunches ranging from $10 to $20. No passes or tickets are required, although reservations are recommended. Some of the restaurants

taking part are: La Bonne Table in Hillcrest; The Red Door in Mission Hills; The Smoking Goat in North Park; Coasterra in Shelter Island; Bellamy’s Restaurant & Wine Bar in Escondido; Donovan’s in the Gaslamp Quarter; Stake Chophouse in Coronado; and more. For a complete list, visit The owners of PB Shore Club and The Duck Dive in Pacific Beach are launching a tiki-inspired bar and restaurant in Mission Beach this spring called Miss B’s Coconut Club, named after a fictitious pinup woman used on marketing materials to help promote property sales in Mission Beach during the 1920s. The venture replaces Boardwalk Mission Beach, and will pay homage to the era with colorful, nautical design elements, and island-style food and drinks. 3704 Mission Blvd. —Frank Sabatini Jr can be reached at



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WAITING While there, Wil said he witnessed how much more accepting the Spanish culture was towards the LGBT community, a stark contrast to the attitudes in parts of Asia. That experience inspired him to write a song he felt would help empower the community, not just in his home country, but also throughout the world. Called “Hola,” the single became an instant hit and quickly propelled Wil to fame. His fans were able to relate to the positive portrayals of the LGBT community, and it has arguably helped shift Asian culture towards being more accepting of individuals who might be different. And being different is something Wil understands for himself. Growing up with Eastern music, Wil said he appreciates Eastern artists, such as Taiwanese pop singer Teresa Teng, whose songs are often poetic in manner. He has combined Eastern style lyrics with the modern sounds and beats of the West, and taken inspiration from the pop ballads of the ’80s and ’90s. He credits Sia as his main musical inspiration, and said she has a powerful and artistic way of expressing emotion using song and music. Former American Idol judge Randy Jackson has said he believes Wil is on a path to leave a historic legacy in pop music. There hasn’t been an Asian artist to date that has broken through and made it big in the United States, and together Jackson and Wil are on a mission to change that. Jackson has called Wil the Filipino Ricky Martin, and has said that he predicts Wil will have the same affect on American audiences for Asian performers that Ricky Martin did for Latin performers. Gay San Diego recently caught up with Wil to find out a little more about him and what fans can expect in San Diego. Gay San Diego (GSD): What has it been like having Randy Jackson as your manager? Wiltay (Wil): I have so much fun with Randy, we are always joking. And I’ve realized that abdominal muscles were created to withstand his jokes, because we end up laughing the entire time when we are creating music. He creates an environment that you can joke and talk about everything and that is where creativity and imagination thrives. Everything starts with that. He has taught me how important it is to imagine and share my ideas and learn that there are no wrong ideas. GSD: If you could meet Sia, what would you want to tell her, and how would you like to see yourself collaborating with her? Wil: If she were ever to decide not to make music, I would just say “Sia later.” In terms of musical collaboration, since I am from the East and she is from the West, I would hope and think it would be very interesting to have our voices together. I grew up listening to Eastern music and they are all about very dramatic lyrics and expressions and Sia’s music is that way too. So it would be a fun project of east and west music styles. GSD: What is the legacy that you want to leave with your music? Wil: I would love to leave a legacy of empowerment. I want people and in particular, youth to say these words: “I” and “Am” … followed by what they want to be. Saying those words is very powerful. If you say, “I am amazing,” it means you have already made that happen for you, because you realize this and made it reality that you are amazing. So if you start little by little saying I am amazing or I am brave, or I am great, pretty soon the rest of the world will start agreeing with you. I want people to start imaging and start seeing that they can make anything in life happen for them. GSD: Tell me about the new singles you will be performing at Rich’s and the meanings behind them. Wil: “What Are We Waiting For?” is about realizing that is it easy to get comfortable with where we are in life and not push toward what you want. It’s about encouraging ourselves to make things happen. Each action you do is going to take you further ahead to where you have to be. So you can’t wait for things to happen. You have to make them happen. “Back 2 Life” is about the circumstances in our life that pull us away from what we want — it can be relationships or it can be work — and sometimes those things make us upset. This song is about not allowing those experiences to change you and to come back stronger each time. So what are YOU waiting for? Learn more about Wil at or listen to his new singles, “What Are You Waiting For?,” and “Back 2 Life.” Jackson will be on hand to introduce Wil when he performs Saturday, Jan. 16 (at approximately 12:30 a.m.) at Rich’s, located at 1277 University Ave., in Hillcrest. For more information visit —Eddie Reynoso is a local blogger and travel aficionado who operates the San Diego LGBT Visitor Center. Contact him at eddie@




ROSSELLINI chosen, liked or not liked. If you are a bitch, they’re not gonna hire you anymore. And modeling really teaches you the discipline of work. So modeling for me was a wonderful revelation. “Though my mother worked — my mother was Ingrid Bergman, had a big career — it was seen as she had a gift, she had a talent, that it was extraordinary. It was a kind of a call for her, but it wasn’t percolating down to the family that all the women should have a career, no.” In 1976, Rossellini shot her movie debut, playing a minor role in her mother’s film “A Matter of Time.” Ten years later, Rossellini became an icon in her own right, achieving cult status after starring in “Blue Velvet.” However, it was “Death Becomes Her” in 1992 that secured the actresses’ queer cred. And god bless that film — it featured a dream trifecta: Rossellini, Meryl Streep and Goldie Hawn, an ensemble cast that punched up the film’s camp commentary on preBotox-fad superficiality. “Now, a warning,” her potiontouting character, Lisle Von Rhuman, cautioned Meryl’s Madeline Ashton to the delight of supremely geeked gays everywhere. Rossellini revealed that “Death Becomes Her” was always meant to be one of the gayest films about beauty you’ve ever seen — even if she, and director Robert Zemeckis, didn’t know it at first. “Robert Zemeckis told me,” Rossellini said about discovering that she was, in fact, starring in a “gay film.” “When the film came out, Robert Zemeckis was so successful after ‘Roger Rabbit’ and the films that he did at the time were big, big, big. Also, they were family films, so when he did ‘Death Becomes Her’ he also thought it was going to be a family film. But then they did all this marketing research and said … ” — Rossellini unleashes a whooping laugh — “‘ … oh, it’s a gay film!’” It took almost no time for Zem-

eckis and the cast to realize they weren’t making the next “Roger Rabbit.” (Sorry, kids.) “Within three, four months, he said, ‘You know, our audience is a gay audience,’” Rossellini recalled. The actress has become accustomed to swooning gay adoration. She’s inspired drag queens, and not just with that vampy nip-hidingnecklace coverup she wore in “Death Becomes Her.” “They do me in drag in ‘Blue Velvet,’” she admitted, heartedly amused. “I had a friend who was gay who died, unfortunately, and he would go out on Halloween and dress up like me. I had a ‘Blue Velvet’ robe, and I had my wig for a while, and he would borrow it every year.” Rossellini is smitten with the idea of men resurrecting her most iconic screen characters in drag. She calls it a “compliment.” “Oh, it’s fun,” she said. “I know there are certain women like Judy Garland and Barbra Streisand who are particularly liked by the gay culture. I know that strong women are liked, and I wonder why strong women and not weak women.” She pops a laugh. “I don’t know what it is in the gay culture! What is it that makes the gay culture to be so supportive of Barbra Streisand, Judy Garland, and images of these iconic women? Why do you like so much stronger women instead of, like, a housewife?” I explain that, when it comes to empowered female icons, young gay men like myself aspire to their strength and power. Naturally, Madonna is mentioned. Rossellini famously appeared in the Material Girl’s “Erotica” video, and also photographed for her controversial “Sex” book, both out in 1992. The latter, she said, was not what she had hoped. “I didn’t like it totally,” Rossellini said of “Sex.” “In a way, I found it a bit moralistic in the sense that Madonna is playing the sadomasochistic, Madonna playing the gay,” she explained. “It was teaching us to be open-minded, and she didn’t really reveal anything about herself. It wasn’t vulnerable. Vulnerability is

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not what she exudes, and what she did was powerful and unique. There was something about the book that was not erotic, and not moving either. It was aesthetic. It was guarded. It wasn’t empowering. “But she is an incredible lady,” she continued. “I’m looking at her, because she’s now in her 50s and I’m 63, and I would like to have a role model of a woman who is older. I want to see these powerful women. How do they fight ageism? What do they propose to fight ageism?” Regarding Hollywood ageism, not much has changed, she admitted. “I see that, at 40 now, you’re still considered beautiful, but I don’t see it defeated,” she said. “They stretch the younger age longer, but I haven’t seen acceptance.” Rossellini celebrates Streep and Helen Mirren, actresses who have “given old age an energy that is beyond that” without sucking down an age-defying potion. At the same time, she noted there are fewer and fewer roles for older women in Hollywood these days and that they get most of them. It’s a reality that she’s come to terms with, and instead of sulking over Streep and Mirren’s lock on roles for women over 60, she’s blazed her own quirky path. The titles alone are telling (and this is not counting her horny dolphin doc): “The Saddest Music in the World,” “My Dog Tulip” and 2011’s “Chicken with Plums.” It’s no surprise, then, that she’s also voiced a hamster. In the gay-themed coming-of-age drama “Closet Monster” — from out producer Niv Fichman and first-time director Stephen Dunn, who’s also gay — Rossellini takes on a rodent. Her involvement, she said, is partly due to the fact that she’s friends with Fichman, and has been known to study animals, “or maybe just because I have a foreign voice.” For the film’s protagonist — a sexually confused boy named Oscar — the hamster is an illusion, his muse for comprehending life tropes like “mortality, lying … that life is tough,” Rossellini said, laughing. Though it won Best Canadian Feature Film at the 2015 Toronto International Film Festival, the indie isn’t meant for mainstream con-

sumption, like “Joy,” and that’s just fine by Rossellini. “Since I was always interested in animals, I went back to university to study animals and then I made my own film and I do monologues,” she said, regarding her peculiar one-offs. “The work that I have done doesn’t have the exposure of ‘Joy,’” she said. “I am still working and






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doing a lot of work but more in an artisanal way.” After all, someone has to enlighten the world on the sexual habits of sea animals. —Chris Azzopardi is the editor of Q Syndicate, the international LGBT wire service. Reach him via his website at and on Twitter (@chrisazzopardi).t


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gathering to share his vision for the coming year along with refreshments and hors d’oeuvres. Raffle tickets will be sold for a chance to win two dinner tickets to the Coronation Ball on Feb. 6. 2 p.m. The Clubhouse, 5333 Baltimore Drive, La Mesa. Visit


Exhibit: ‘Talking Through Her Hat: Hats and the Women Who Wore Them’: Free admission to see this exhibit with wine and snacks served during Liberty Station’s “Friday Night Liberty.” Exhibit runs through Jan. 31. 5 – 9 p.m. Women’s Museum of California, 2730 Historic Decatur Rd., Barracks 16, Liberty Station. Visit Fundraiser event for LGBT homeless youth: San Diego Youth Services and Human Rights Campaign Foundation are partnering for this event. Raffle ticket sales will start at 7 p.m. ($1 each) with a raffle of prizes at 11 p.m. $2 Jell-O shots. All proceeds go to care bags for LGBT homeless youth to be assembled at the MLK Jr. Day of Service (see Jan. 17). Flicks, 1017 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/1mDxeEN. ‘In the Va Va Voom Room’: An evening of contemporary burlesque conceived and directed by Michael Mizerany — the provocateur behind “Hot Guys Dancing.” Four performances remain through Jan. 10. 8 p.m. Diversionary Theatre, 4545 Park Blvd., University Heights. Visit

‘The Danish Girl’: This film stars Eddie Redmayne as Danish artist Lili Elbe, who was one of the first recipients of sexual reassignment surgery in the 1920s. Showing at Angelika Film Center (11620 Carmel Mountain Road) several times today and various other dates. Visit for show times and tickets. ‘Bears Gone Wild’: This event featuring entertainment, drawings, an auction and more will benefit the Bears San Diego charities: Special Delivery, The Trevor Project and San Diego Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence. $6 (only $5 if you show your fur). 4 p.m. Numbers, 3811 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Visit bit. ly/1TCAM57.


‘The Recover y Ride’: A charity bike ride with three route lengths – 12, 25 and 40 miles. Registration starts at $25. Proceeds raised will benefit Stepping Stone of San Diego. 7 a.m. Visit


San Diego American Flag Football League rookie clinic: Open to all new players joining the SDAFFL for the 2016 season. Bring cleats and water. 9 – 11 a.m. Doyle Community Park, 8175 Regents Road, University City. Visit on.fb. me/1OKT8MJ. San Diego American Flag Football League pub crawl: Following the rookie clinic, the SDAFFL will host a pub crawl starting at Pecs (1 p.m.) and proceeding to Uptown Tavern (2:30 p.m.), Gossip Grill (3:15 p.m.), Flicks (4:15 p.m.), Babycakes (5:20 p.m.) and Urban MO’s (6:05 p.m.). Times are approximate. $10 entry includes an official pub crawl T-shirt. Pecs Bar, 2046 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit ‘A Rothschild Affair’: James von Rothschild, candidate for Emperor XLIV of the Imperial Court de San Diego, will host this social


‘Carol’: Directed by Todd Haynes, this film tells the story of Carol (Cate Blanchett) and Therese (Rooney Mara), who take a spontaneous road trip in 1952 after a chance encounter and end up falling deeply in love. Showing at Landmark Hillcrest (3965 Fifth Ave. #200) several times today and various other dates. Visit for show times and tickets.


‘The Danish Girl’: This film stars Eddie Redmayne as Danish artist Lili Elbe, who was one of the first recipients of sexual reassignment surgery in the 1920s. Show-

ing at Landmark Hillcrest (3965 Fifth Ave. #200) several times today and various other dates. Visit for show times and tickets. FilmOut Screening: “My Own Private Idaho” — A loose adaptation of Shakespeare’s “Henr y IV” starring River Phoenix as a gay hustler with narcolepsy and Keanu Reeves as the rebellious son of a mayor. The two travel together in search of former’s estranged mother, turning tricks for money and drugs along the way. This year marks the 25th anniversar y of the film. $10. 7 p.m., Landmark Cinemas, 3965 Fifth Ave. #200, Hillcrest. Visit ‘Booby Trap Burlesque Show’: A show featuring the ladies of Pink Boombox Productions plus all night happy hour. $3 cover, or free before 9 p.m. Show at 9 p.m. Gossip Grill, 1220 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


‘Carol’: This film directed by Todd Haynes tells the story of Carol (Cate Blanchett) and Therese (Rooney Mara), who take a spontaneous road trip in 1952 after a chance encounter and end up falling deeply in love. Showing at Angelika Film Center (11620 Carmel Mountain Road) several times today and various other dates. Visit angelikafilmcenter. com for show times and tickets. Rose Kingsley in ‘A Tribute to Barbra Streisand’: Kingsley will make her MA4 debut singing songs such as “The Way We Were,” “Don’t Rain On My Parade,” and more Barbra favorites. Tickets are $20 for reserved seating (plus $15 per person food/ drink minimum). Doors open at 6 p.m.; show at 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


RISE Urban Breakfast Club: The topic for this month’s special Martin Luther King Jr. lunchtime edition is: “Race, Equity and Inclusion in San Diego: Why Does It Matter?” $25 includes lunch and program. 11:30 a.m. – 1 p.m. Jacobs Center Celebration Hall, 404 Euclid Ave., San Diego. Visit ‘The Martian’: Cinema Under the Stars presents this sci-fi survival epic starring Matt Damon with Jessica Chastain, Kristen Wiig and Michael Pena. 8 p.m. $15. Additional screening on Saturday, Jan. 16. 4040 Goldfinch

St., Mission Hills. For more info, visit or call 619295-4221.


Fitbit Local fitness session: Part of a free workout program hosted by local fitness experts. Today’s session will include a coastal hike with Sheri Matthews and Mike Sherbakov. 9 a.m. Torrey Pines State Reserve, 2600 North Torrey Pines Road, La Jolla. Visit PrideFIT walk club: Meets every Saturday, hosted by Maribel. 10 a.m. Corner of Sixth Avenue and Upas Street. Visit prideFITsandiego. Young Professionals Council Januar y social: Join the YPC for a fitness boot camp by Grant Foreman Fitness followed by brunch at Gossip Grill (1220 University Ave., Hillcrest). Boot camp at 10 a.m. Old Trolley Barn Park, 1998 Adams Ave., University Heights. Contact YPC co-chairs Rick Cervantes ( or Prabha Singh (prabha711@ for more information. Visit Girls Night Out San Diego: Monthly dance for the local women’s community, consisting of a night filled with dance music, celebrations, flash mob dances and more. This month’s “Dapper and Dolls” dance encourages dressing up in black and white or formal attire. Champagne and sparkling cider at 8:30 p.m. to celebrate the new year. See article in this issue. 6 p.m. Brass Rail, 3796 Fifth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit


Yoga by the Ocean: A free session by the water to start your Sunday. 9 – 10 a.m. Mission Beach. Visit Martin Luther King Jr. Day of Ser vice: HRC and San Diego Youth Services along with volunteers will be assembling care bags for LGBT homeless youth. 12 – 4 p.m. Lafayette Hotel, 2223 El Cajon Blvd., North Park. Visit facebook. com/hrcsandiego MLK Weekend Sunday Funday: This event will feature happy hour drink specials along with burger and chip meals. Proceeds from the meals will benefit the Imperial Court de San Diego’s annual Easter egg hunt. Noon – 4 p.m. Pecs Bar, 2046 University Ave., Hillcrest. Visit ‘Illuminate Your Being’: A party featuring DJ Taj and go-go dancers. $5 cover. Party starts at 6 p.m., DJ from 7 p.m. to close. Visit

MARTIN LUTHER KING JR. DAY PrideFIT run club: Meets every Monday, hosted by Miguel Larios. 6:30 p.m. Corner of Sixth Avenue and Upas Street. Visit


HRC Connect: This month’s event will feature special guest Dr. Maja Marinkovic — co-director of Rady Children’s Hospital’s San Diego Gender Management Clinic. 7 – 9 p.m. S&M Sausage & Meat, 4130 Park Blvd., Hillcrest. Visit hrcsandiego.


Guys, Games and Grub: The name says it all! A $10 donation for attending the event will go to men’s programming at The Center. 6 p.m. San Diego LGBT Center, 3909 Centre St., Hillcrest. Visit ‘A Prosperous New Year’ business social: The GSDBA is hosting their first business social of 2016 with food and drinks (the first one is complimentar y) and ocean views on the Sundeck of the Hotel Del. Guests and nonmembers welcome. $15. 6 – 8 p.m. Hotel del Coronado, 1500 Orange Ave. Visit


Downtown at Sundown: A new after-hours event on the third Thursday of the month featuring visual and performing arts. Specials at area businesses and free admission/guided tours at MCASD Downtown and SDSU Downtown Galler y featured. 5 – 8 p.m. Museum of Contemporar y Art San Diego, 1100 & 1001 Kettner Blvd., Downtown. Visit Jai Rodriguez in ‘Tales Of An Aging Twink’: Rodriquez (“Queer Eye for the Straight Guy,” Broadway’s “Rent”) brings his new cabaret act to MA4 sharing an “R-rated ‘Glee’ version of his life.” Tickets are $20 – $25 for reser ved seating (plus $15 per person food/drink minimum). Doors open at 6 p.m.; show at 8 p.m. Martinis Above Fourth, 3940 Fourth Ave., Hillcrest. Visit PrideFIT hike club: Meets ever y Thursday, hosted by Carlos Salazar. 7 p.m. Parking lot at Golfcrest Avenue and Navajo Road, in San Carlos. Visit prideFITsandiego. —Compiled by Jen Van Tieghem. Email calendar items to morgan@ or


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ACROSS 1 Manger for Mary’s boy 5 One of two ways 8 “Ed Wood” role 12 Cole Porter’s Indiana hometown 13 Slice of wry 15 Go off, on Broadway 16 Judy Garland, to many 17 Words before “music,” to Britten 18 In the pink 19 Beginning of why Stella considers herself to be a woman, on “OITNB” 22 Peter and more 23 “Pretty in Pink” setting 24 Shoe part 27 Straight men fear to drop them in the shower 31 Put down 34 Event requiring metal balls 36 Thumbs-down votes 37 Come slowly closer 39 “The thing with feathers” in a Dickinson poem 40 Giant outfielder Mel


41 More of Stella’s reason 43 Cruising area 44 Ready to hit the sack 46 More of Stella’s reason 47 Emulated Miriam Margolyes 49 Grout may separate them 51 Ejaculate, e.g. 52 With 57-Across, actress who plays Stella 53 Military doctor 57 See 52-Across 59 Univ. e-mail ending 60 End of Stella’s reason 62 Third degree, often 63 Reno action 64 Some money from Melissa to Tammy Lynn 65 Warts prefix for Harry Potter? 66 Wall St. group 67 Thaw with Nureyev’s land 68 Frat hazing prop

1 Inflation meas. 2 Perform a decorator’s task 3 Do some pressing work 4 Places where you never get to second base 5 Releases from bondage 6 Campus mil. org. 7 Coming soon 8 Huge thing 9 Digital-rectal, for example 10 Tomlin of “Grandma” 11 Didn’t fast 13 ID for Sandra Scoppettone 14 Cole Porter’s “Brush Up ___ Shakespeare” 20 Prison part 21 Matching notes for Bernstein? 24 “Lead ___ into temptation” 25 Shakespeare’s “To thine own self be true” and such 26 Render unto Caesar, e.g. 28 Smee’s version of “epiphany” in “Hook”

29 Hand job at times? 30 Home extension 32 Gaydar, for example 33 ___ Mae Brown 34 Kind of gin 35 Rooster in drag, seemingly 38 Hollywood VIP 41 Inspired writing 42 Type of sucker 45 “In the Steps of Mr. Proust” author Stanley 48 Scar, in “The Lion King,” for example 50 Word from Tom Bianchi, perhaps 51 Hound’s trail 52 “Queen of Country” McEntire 54 Put out 55 Bas relief of Eleanor’s husband 56 Lay ___ the line 58 Beat, but barely 60 “When I was a ___ ...” 61 Easter egg application


‘The Cherokee Rose’ Out on the Page Katrina Young “The Cherokee Rose” is the enlightening debut novel from historian Tiya Miles. This work of fiction brings together an unlikely trio of women to tell a story of the little known history of Native American slaveholders. Through the course of the novel, the women discover history about their ancestors while also coming to terms with things within themselves that they were reluctant to acknowledge. Jinx is a present-day CherokeeCreek historian and writer from Oklahoma. She is proud of her heritage and has devoted her life to continuing the work of her beloved aunt through her research and record-keeping of tribal history. Jinx’s interest is sparked

after she writes an article criticizing the life decisions of a young Native American-Black girl, Mary Ann Battis, who remained in the South instead of joining her Creek family in Oklahoma during the Trail of Tears. Jinx is confronted about her portrayal of the young girl and forced to acknowledge her own racism as well as her aunt’s. She then travels to the Cherokee Rose Plantation in Georgia to find out what really happened to Mar y Ann Battis and learns more than she anticipated. Ruth is a biracial magazine writer living in the Midwest who sets off on a writing assignment based on the Cherokee Rose Plantation. Ruth has family histor y in Georgia and spent time in the area during her childhood. She is apprehensive about revisiting that part of her life and she is even more unner ved when she comes face-to-face with a childhood acquaintance, Cheyenne, who has

just purchased the plantation. Immediately this seemingly simple writing assignment turns out to be more than Ruth bargained for. During her stay at the Cherokee Rose Ruth encounters the ghost of Mar y Ann Battis, struggles to accept the truth of her own mother’s murder, and starts a romance with Jinx. Cheyenne, an African-American Atlanta socialite, leaves behind the life that she has built in Atlanta in search for answers to where her roots lead. To the surprise of those who know her as the ultimate city girl, she purchases the Cherokee Plantation and embarks on an adventure to live a simpler and more

GAY SAN DIEGO Jan. 8 – 21, 2016 rustic life on the plantation, which she plans to turn into a posh bed and breakfast. Cheyenne’s fascination with the plantation stems from her belief that her family was Cherokee, which in her mind gave her bragging rights that non-Native American black people did not have. Her world is turned upside down when she discovers the truth about her heritage. The women discover the centuries old journal of the plantations former missionary. The stories in the journal give accounts of life on the Cherokee Rose Plantation in the early 1800s. By reading the journal, the women honor the lives of the women who came before them and start healing processes for themselves. Jinx, Ruth, Cheyenne and all of the women of the Cherokee Rose were once worlds apart but in the


end, established a kinship that will last for centuries to come. Tiya Miles did an excellent job in ensuring that “The Cherokee Rose” was soundly researched. The historical aspect brings life to the characters without Miles having to over embellish the scenes and characters and allowing for more substance to be packed into this work. This was the perfect book for me to end the year with. Not only did I enjoy the story, it also allowed me to reevaluate my discernment of my own heritage and reevaluate the kind of legacy I want to leave behind. —Katrina Young is a board member of the Multicultural LGBT Literary Foundation and a lover of LGBT literature. Connect with her on Twitter @ktrnyoung.t


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DANCE She has also created a rather large following here in San Diego over the last five years among her large group of extended friendships, many of whom have consistently called on “DJSuSu” whenever they’ve planned a house party or rented out a local venue, the largest of which was a birthday with 100 people. DJSuSu’s “party faithful” clearly helped establish and grow Girls Night Out into the following it has today, but when the modest Jones was first asked to join Hall in the venture, it was like a dream come true for the 18-year General Dynamics employee. “My friends were so supportive, especially Sally, and the Pride Dance was amazing,” Jones said. “I was so excited and honored to be able to play music for all my current friends and new friends. It was just so fun to have all the girls there, dancing, talking and having a great time. But I was so nervous I was about to explode inside.” Known for launching ThatsSoGayLIVE and the Equality News Network in 2010 and 2012, respectively, Hall said she had wanted to get together with Jones on a dance-style project for quite some time and everything finally lined up last summer. “DJSuSu and I committed to doing the dances from Pride ’15 to Pride ’16,” Hall said. “It has been a very fun partnership. She makes it very easy to work alongside her.” “Everyone liked to go to the [other] dances but didn’t like the music most of the time,” Jones said. “I remember not wanting to ask someone to dance, as I couldn’t trust the song would be good enough to dance to. I hope to have ended that fear.” Historically, the ratio of gay men’s bars to lesbian bars in San Diego have been nearly 10 to 1. And only two lesbian / women’s bars at most, have ever been open at any given time over the last four decades, including The Club, Diablo’s, The Flame, KC’s, Club Bombay, Bella’s, and Six

Sally Hall says the staff of The Brass Rail, where the monthly Girls Night Out event takes place, are a key to its success. (Photo by [XPOZD] Photography)

(above) Susan “DJ SuSu” Jones spins every month for Girls Night Out San Diego and she has quite a devoted following; (inset) event producer Sally Hall hugs a patron at a recent dance (Photos by [XPOZD] Photography)

Degrees, to name the most familiar over the years. Traditional lesbian bars have never been able to support themselves very long for several reasons: single lesbians generally don’t make as much money as single gay men and as a result, they don’t go out as often or spend as much when they do. Lesbian couples are also not known for hitting up the bars every weekend; they like to stay home together or visit with other couples in smaller groups. While Gossip Grill — purposely positioned as a “women’s bar” to distance itself from the stigma of traditional lesbian bars — does cater to gay women, it also heavily markets to gay men and straight men and women, and does so quite successfully on a pretty equal basis. For all of these reasons, the monthly all-women dances have been met with great

success. Women in the community respond to them and they tend to draw an older, more mature crowd. “In my opinion, women have so few options for fun, or social events where they can meet other women, dance and just have a great time with other lesbians from all walks,” said Tamara Zyhylij, a local realtor and regular Girls Night Out patron. “I think it’s a great event.” Jones said her early music interests centered around “angry white boy music,” including grunge and alternative genres; but over the years her tastes have evolved more to music that “has a good beat” and “keeps you moving,” like disco, hip hop, Top 40 and dance tunes. Hall is appreciating the break from a more stressful career and just enjoying the ride. “I really love to dance and I love seeing other people have even more fun than me,”

she said. “We are always looking for people who want to help with the dances, too.” In February, Hall and Jones are planning to expand their offerings to include a singles dance at the Air Conditioned Lounge and a pool party at the Lafayette Hotel and Swim Club the day following their regular Girls Night Out dance on Feb. 20. For January’s “Dappers and Dolls” event, Hall and Jones have decided to change things up, too. Jones said since it is her job to “control the mood and excitement throughout the night,” she may include more slow and couples dances, and Hall is planning an “outerwear” contest. Awards will be given for the best couple, best dapper, best doll, best formal, sexiest, the most creative and most outrageous. They are also planning a Champagne toast at 8:30 p.m., to celebrate the new year. Despite the contest and overall theme, Hall said there is no obligation to dress up, though she is encouraging at the very least what she calls “an ironed look.” The “Dappers and Dolls” dance will be held Saturday, Jan. 16, at 6 p.m. at The Brass Rail, located at 3796 Fifth Ave., in Hillcrest. For more information on Girls Night Out, join the group on —Morgan M. Hurley can be reached at

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