AwareNow: Issue 25: The Light Edition

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ALLIÉ: Whether professional or personal, success in life is all about finding wins within losses. Charlë, please share a loss you’ve experienced and the win you were able to find within it. CHARLË: It's hard for me to think of any bigger loss recently than losing my best friend in that Surfside building collapse. People might say, what kind of win could you find from that? And this was recent — only six or seven months ago. It's been a very trying time, but the win that I get from that is really understanding the impermanence of life and to make decisions, while not being flighty, because you don't know how long you have here. For me, since then, every decision that I make is very pointed. I don't do things the way I used to anymore. Even in Cassie's death, she brings a light to me. I'm looking at a picture of her right now behind the screen. It's going to make me cry. It just reminds me that life is really fleeting, and every decision that you make has weight. Do whatever you want to do. Be a good person and don't go crazy, but do whatever you want... Go crazy, but in a healthy way. Do whatever you want to do in life. Don't make concessions for people about who you are or what you want. Don't limit yourself. Go for the gusto. Do you want to go back to school? Go back to school. Do you want to have kids? Do it. You don't want to have kids? Don't. You want to travel the world? You want to change your profession at 60? Do it. Do it because you never know what next step may be your last. And that is the win that I've learned from that loss. Life now has a different meaning and a different weight. Everything I do now is done with her in mind, knowing that she would've loved to continue living and doing. She always grabbed life by the horns... That's what I loved about her. I'm going to make sure that I continue to do that. I want to say, "I love you" to my friends and my family. I want to see them as much as I can — not just on Instagram, but in person to remind them that I love them. I want to see them. I wanna touch their faces. I want to continue to travel the world. I want to have experiences with them as much as I can. And I want to be myself as much as I can. ∎