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T h r ou gh ou t mos t of myl i f et h e r ewas( an di s )awor dt h at I u s et ode s c r i bemy s e l f : “ br ok e n ” . My i n t e r ac t i on swi t hs t r an ge r s : “ br ok e n ” . Myi n t e r ac t i on swi t hmyownmi n d: “ br ok e n ” . Mys e l f i mage : “ br ok e n ” . Myr e l at i on s h i pswi t h , we l l , r e l at i on s h i ps : “ br ok e n ” . Myv i e wof my s e l f h asal way sbe e nt h at I was“ of f ” , t h at t h e r ewasa“ s c r e wl oos e ” , t h at age ar i nmyh e adwasmi s s i n gor “ br ok e n ” . I n owk n owt h at , at l e as t i npar t , t h ef e e l i n gsi nan dabou t r e l at i on s h i psh av es ome t h i n gt odowi t hme be i n gu n de r t h eu mbr e l l aof as e x u al i t y , e v e ni f I don ’ t f e e l c omf or t abl epl ac i n ge x ac t l ywh e r eI am. I t h i n kpar t of t h er e as ont h i su n de r s t an di n gi sc omi n gs omu c hl at e r t h ani t c ou l dh av ei st h at i t al l f al l s i n t omyme n t al s e l f i mage . Wh yl ookf or ar e as on , or wh yl ookf or ot h e r swh omaye x pe r i e n c es i mi l ar t h i n gs , af t e r al l I am“ br ok e n ” . Mybe i n g“ br ok e n ”i ss u c hac or epar t of wh oI pe r c e i v emy s e l f t obet h at i t h asal way si mpe de dmy s e e k i n gh e l pf or myme n t al h e al t hor f r oms e e k i n gt h ec ommu n i t yof s i mi l ar pe opl e . I t i sh ar dt oge t y ou r s e l f t os e eat h e r api s t or ps y c h i at r i s t wh e ni ny ou r mi n dt h eon l yt h i n gt h e yc ant e l l y oui s“ wh e l p y ou ’ r eme s s e du pan dbr ok e n , s e ey oun e x t we e k . ”Wh ybot h e r goi n gou t an dme e t i n gpe opl ei f y ou won ' t beabl et or e l at et ot h e m, i f t h epi e c e st h at wou l dal l owy out oc on n e c t t oot h e r pe opl ear e war pe d, mi s s i n g, or “ br ok e n ” .

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Con t i n u e d. . . Be i n g“ br ok e n ”was /i ss u c hac or eas pe c t of my s e l f t h at I wou l dl ookf or me di awh e r ec h ar ac t e r swe r e “ br ok e n ” , u s u al l ye v e nmor es ot h anme . T h ev i l l ai n san dt h os ewh oj u s t l i k et owat c ht h ewor l df al l apar t . T h et s u n de r ean dy an de r et r ope sf r oman i me . T h ec h ar ac t e r swi t ht h et r au mat i cbac k s t or y . Of c ou r s eI n owr e al i z et h i sWASmer e ac h i n gou t f or as e n s eof be l on gi n gor c ommu n i t y . I j u s t c ou l dn ’ t i magi n efi n di n gi t wi t hr e al pe opl e( s t i l l h av edi f fi c u l t i e sac t u al l y ) . T h efi r s t t i meI we n t t ot h e r apyI wasy ou n g, 1 11 2r an ge , an di t wasagai n s t mywi l l . I l i e dmyway t h r ou ght h eme e t i n gt omak es u r eI wou l dn e v e r h av et ogobac k . T h en e x t t i meI we n t t oa ps y c h ol ogi s t I wasar ou n d2 1 . Wh i l ev ol u n t ar y , I wass t i l l r e l u c t an t . I s t i l l c ou l dn ’ t t al kabou t e v e r y t h i n g, an dbyf oc u s i n gon l yonon ei s s u e( de pr e s s i on )i t mademei gn or eal l t h ei n t e r c on n e c t i n g i s s u e s . Byon l yt al k i n gabou t on et h i n g, I wasabl et omak epr ogr e s sonn on eof t h e m. I e v e n t u al l y s t oppe dgoi n g. J u s t ass oc i al c at e gor i z at i on sh av eanov e r l appi n ge f f e c t si ni n t e r s e c t i on al i t y , me n t al h e al t hi s s u e sdo aswe l l . I f y ouf oc u son l yonon eas pe c t l i k ede pr e s s i on , y ouwon ’ t e x pl or ean x i e t y , s e l f wor t h , ac c e pt an c e , or t r au ma. T h et h i n gi st h e yc anal l i n t e r ac t . E ac hi s s u ey ouh av ec anc au s e , magn i f y , or modi f yot h e r i s s u e sy ouh av e . Ar ou n d8y e ar sagoI fi n al l ywe n t t oaps y c h i at r i s t . I r e al i z e dt h at I c ou l dn ot h opeof mak i n gpr ogr e s s onmyown . T h eme di c at i on sh e l pe d, bu t asan y on ewi l l t e l l y ou , t h e yar en ot amagi cbu l l e t . I s t i l l di dn ' t r e ac hou t f or mor eh e l pat t h at poi n t . R ou gh l yt woan dh al f t ot h r e ey e ar sagoI di s c ov e r e dot h e r pe opl eu s i n gt h et e r m“ as e x u al i t y ” . I h ads t u mbl e don t oot h e r swh os e e me dt oh av es i mi l ar e x pe r i e n c e st ome . I s t i l l f e l t “ br ok e n ”i nman yway s , bu t h e r ewasagr ou pof pe opl es ay i n gt h at par t of mewas n ’ t “ br ok e n ” , j u s t di f f e r e n t bu t n ot al on ei nbe i n gs o. Wh e nI fi n al l yj oi n e dAVE Nabou t 2y e ar sago, I h adt omak eac h oi c e . T h ec h oi c eof au s e r n ame . I h adman yu s e r n ame sont h ei n t e r n e t . “ Ar c n e sDar k h ar t ”be i n gon eI h av eh adi ns omef or mor an ot h e r f or 2 5i s hy e ar s . I h adal s obe e nu s i n g“ br ok e n bl u e wi n gs ”bu n c hat t h et i me . Howe v e r , e ac h h adc on n ot at i on sI wast r y i n gt oov e r c ome . SoI c h os et odr opt h ebr ok e nan daddadr agon , “ bl u e dr agon wi n gs ”wasbor n . Su c has mal l s t e p, s u c has mal l c h an ge , t oc h an geau s e r n ame . Y e t i t s e e mst oh av eh e l pe d. T h at c h an ge , al on gwi t has e n s eof be l on gi n g, h asal l owe dmet or e ac h ou t t omor epe opl e . I t h asmadei t s oI c anwor konmyme n t al h e al t hi nmor et h anj u s t me di c at i v e way s . I ams e e i n gat h e r api s t n ow, i npar t du et oc on v e r s at i on sI h av eh adonAVE N. I t i ss t i l l h ar dt o t al kabou t t h i n gs , I s t i l l h av eat e n de n c yt odi s as s oc i at emy s e l f f r ome v e r y t h i n g, bu t I amt r y i n g, an d t r y i n gt ot al kh ol i s t i c al l y . T h ewh ol er at h e r t h anan yon ei s s u e . Myas e x u al i t yi sn ot ani n di c at or t h at I am“ br ok e n ” . I t i sn ot ame n t al h e al t hi s s u ei nan dof i t s e l f , on l ymyi s s u e sof s e l f ac c e pt an c eaf f e c t myme n t al h e al t h . Sowh i l ei t mays e e ml i k eas mal l s t e pt owar ds e l f ac c e pt an c e , I wi l l t r yt os e emy s e l f asa“ dr agon ” , an dn ot as“ br ok e n ” .

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Wh e ni t fi r s t c amet omyn ot i c et h at as e x u al i t ywas be gi n n i n gt o be t ak e ns e r i ou s l y as a r e al or i e n t at i on ,an dn ot s ome t h i n gt obec u r e dwi t ha pi l l , myn obl e r s e l f wast h r i l l e dt os e eas h i f t t owar ds a mor ei n c l u s i v e wor l d.My c r appi e r ,mor e s e l f c e n t e r e ds e l f ,t h ou gh t ,*Oh ,gr e at .An ot h e r l abe l t h at al mos t fi t sme , bu t n ot qu i t e . * Y ous e e , i nmyy ou n ge r day s , I h ads u c hah ar dt i me fi t t i n gi n t o an yc at e gor yu s e dt o de s c r i be or i e n t at i on t h at a f r i e n d on c e de c l ar e di n af f e c t i on at ee x as pe r at i on , “ J . i sav ar i abl ef ac t or , X , t h atmov e su pan ddownt h eKi n s e ys c al e . ”( He wasamat hmaj or . ) I h adc on s i de r e dmy s e l f s t r ai gh t u n t i lt h emome n twh e nIc ou l dn ’ tde n yt h atIk e pt ge t t i n gc r u s h e songi r l s . I i de n t i fi e dasbi s e x u al f or a wh i l e . Mos tpe opl eh adgoodi n t e n t i on sabou tbe i n g s u ppor t i v e , bu t ou ri n t e r ac t i on swe r es t i l l pe ppe r e d wi t hqu e s t i on sl i k e , “ Di dy oue v e r de c i dewh i c hy ou l i k e dbe t t e r , boy sorgi r l s ? ”E v e nt h et h e r api s t I was s e e i n gatt h et i medi dn ’ ts e e mt obe l i e v eIwas s u f fi c i e n t l ypr ov i n gmy s e l ft obewh at Is ai dIwas , an de v e n t u al l y ,br i e fl y ,Ii de n t i fi e dasgay .E x c e pt t h atIk e ptge t t i n gc r u s h e sonboy s .Idon ’ tt h i n k “ qu e e r ”wasqu i t easwi de l ye mbr ac e di nt h os e day s , or i f i t was , I di dn ’ t k n owabou t i t , s oI wasl e f t wi t h ou tl an gu aget ode s c r i bewh atIwas .Iqu i t s e e i n gt h at t h e r api s t at ar ou n dt h es amet i met h at I de v e l ope ds omef ai r l yde bi l i t at i n gan x i e t yi s s u e s , wh i c hi spr obabl yj u s t aswe l l . T h en e x t l ar gec h u n k i f ewasde v ot e dt ot r y i n gt oman agemy ofmyl me n t alh e al t hpr obl e mswi t h ou tmu c hpr of e s s i on al h e l p. Aqu an t i t yofy e ar ss l i ppe dt h r ou ghmygr as p.I r e ac h e danageatwh i c hwor dsl i k e“ boy s ”we r e n ol on ge rappr opr i at et ode s c r i bemyr oman t i c i n t e r e s t su n l e s sI wan t e dt os ou n dl i k eac r e e p, an d t h e nIr e ac h e danageat wh i c hIt h ou gh t , “ Imi gh t bet oool df ori t t omat t e rn ow, be c au s eal l oft h e goodon e sar et ak e n . ”Ats omepoi n ti nmyl at e t we n t i e sore ar l yt h i r t i e s ,It al k e dal i t t l ebi twi t ha f e w pe opl eabou tmyf e e l i n gst owar dsph y s i c al i n t i mac y– f e e l i n gswh i c h mos t l yr an ge df r om apat h yt oav e r s i on . Ofc ou r s e ,atl e as ton e pe r s on made t h e we l l i n t e n t i on e ds u gge s t i ont h at may beIc ou l dbe t r e at e dwi t hme di c at i on . An ot h e rpe r s onobs e r v e d c au t i ou s l y , pr obabl yn ot wan t i n gt o

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