Pain comes in many forms, death, divorce, abuse, betrayal and countless others. The last place a Christian expects to receive pain is in God’s House – church. You and I both know that this does happen on large and small scales. The media highlights sexual abuse claims where youth are coerced into sexual acts in exchange for material gifts. Other reports loom our society about leaders involved in financial scams, affairs and the like. This kind of abuse is blatant and some of it illegal. These situations heinous acts that cause the violator to be disengaged. That is not what we are talking about here. Our topic is about people who are hurt in the church by other professing Christians. For whom there is no legal recourse protecting them. Yet, those hurt are often the ones who are banished or turned away from ministries, marked as if they have done something wrong. Maybe you were serving in leadership, greeting or ushering, working tirelessly in the Children’s Ministry and were removed from your assignment. Sometimes we experience church hurt from negligence of those in authority, or unkind words were spoke to you by your fellow parishioners. It causes us to ask, “God, do you see this.”
Unfortunately, these are not isolated events happening in one ministry in one city. This is a nation wide epidemic and it is sweeping the Christian church in every city. A topic that is taboo and can cause resentment towards the things of God. As a result, people inside the church are hurting and the people outside of the church remain hurt.
However you have been hurt or through whatever your circumstance (big or small) it’s time to RISE UP and begin to unravel the pain of ‘Church Hurt” in your life. We let pain enter into our spirits but we seldom release it. Only God can heal your pain and He wants to, but you must allow Him. There are some things that you need to do to begin this process of healing
First start with the “Man In the Mirror” – Recognize how you got to this point. Are you a YES person, looking for validation and acceptance? Did you extend yourself beyond where God was calling you? Did you ignore His voice when He told you to be aware? Encouragement: We seek the approval of man because it is instant gratification, but it is not God’s desire. He desires that we please Him. Begin to write down times in your life, including child hood where you eager to please those in authority whose attention you sought. Highlight the most painful ones and vocally tell God how you felt at the time. Ask Him to help you forgive those people and to show you ways you can move on
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,” Colossians 3: 23
Second discover an outlet for this pain to be released from you. You must desire to release the pain. You must forgive. Sometimes we hold on to our pain thinking it is a way for us to control the other person by not forgiving them. This is not the time to pick up a bad habit such as eating, alcohol, smoking, etc. Those will only compound your pain. Encouragement: God created us to be LIVING beings. Anything that is living is moving. RISE UP. Your outlet may come from sharing the situation with others, journaling, take up a new hobby or even writing a letter to the people who have hurt you.
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 2 Corinthians 1: 3-4
“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6: 14 – 15 Third replace the open space with God’s Word. Anything that is left open needs to be filled. Allow the Word of God to attach to the tissues of your heart, letting it become apart of your spirit. Encouragement: Find scriptures that remind you of God’s love toward you. There are various Internet sources that allow you to search scriptures. Invest in a good concordance. Embrace the Holy Spirit as your Comforter, not just a feeling. Deny yourself from revisiting the pain; excuse yourself from conversations with others that cause you bring it up.
Last don’t blame God. We want to associate God with God’s people and this can be a mistake, as you well know. God is God and people are people. His will is to love you, provide for you and think highly of you, preparing for your future. Encouragement: Spend time in worship. Don’t be gun shy, go back to A church. Spend time with God to be led to a place where you can heal and RISE UP! Church is a place designed for YOU AND GOD!
“Exalt the Lord our God; worship at his footstool! Holy is He! Psalm 99: 5
Kira McConico’s universal assignment is to deliver encouragement to the hopeless through her Assigned To Encourage! ™ Words are powerful and can be spoken into dark times and bring light to life's situations. In addition, Kira is an inspirational speaker. Her target audience is young women ages 17-30. She frequently speaks at area schools, domestic violence shelters and other organizations to encourage young women to pursue their dreams no matter their past. While her target audience is young women, the message of encouragement is for everyone! For booking information visit: www.assignedtoencourage.com.
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