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freed up for more important things you want to focus on. In my house, when I cook, Mario does the dishes. I imposed that rule when we first met. He doesn’t clean the counters afterward, but I was happy that the dishes were done and I didn’t have to do them, so I just wipe off the counters when he’s finished. You may want to consider hiring a housekeeper once or twice a month to minimize the work you need to do. A friend of mine used to have her housekeeper come twice a week, and she would also make an oversized dinner, and they had four meals covered for the week since each meal served as two with left overs.

3 Be Kind to yourself and your loved ones.

Have you heard the expression, “You get what you give?” Why would you expect your spouse or your kids to respond in a loving way if you order them around like the Commandant on Hogan’s Heroes? Not to mention, what types of words do you use to describe yourself when something doesn’t go as planned.

I always describes things I wish I would do differently as silly instead of dumb because I know I’m not stupid, but if I keep affirming I am, I’ll continue to do stupid things. Instead, the word silly implies you had a momentary lapse, instead of a permanent condition. It is a gentler, kinder way to treat yourself. Choose the words and tone you use to share information or make requests of your spouse and children much more carefully. We don’t realize how powerful our words are. Notice the difference between how the following two statements feel:

“Honey, would you mind taking the trash out for me?”


“You forgot to take the trash out again. Can’t you remember to do anything?” Take time to formulate your requests and see if you don’t notice receiving a much more loving response in return.

4 Express your appreciation more. When Mario

and I first started dating, I thanked him for every little thing he did for me. He wasn’t used to it and asked me to stop. I didn’t stop though, because I know the value that expressing appreciation has on how people feel about themselves and how it affects their behavior. Unfortunately, we often stop expressing our appreciation and end up taking the ones we love for granted. Pay attention for just one week to all the things your spouse does for you, even if the tasks are expected of him, and thank him for it. They are two small, yet very powerful words. Bring appreciation and gratitude back into your relationship and watch the love flow. I know these tips are small, subtle and seemingly unromantic. However, I promise that as you implement them consistently, you will see a shift in how your man responds to you. It’s the little things that add up to big changes over time. Adjust your everyday actions and observe as they gently fan the flame and rekindle your relationship. Stacy Corrigan empowers you to escalate your self-esteem, embrace self-love, and radiate self-confidence so you become a magnet for the quality of man you deserve. In her loving, gentle, and captivating style, Stacy teaches you to love yourself first, realize your magnificence, and ultimately prepares you to Manifest Your Man®. Learn more at www.

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