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more block to find a more suitable place to eat. Grateful that at least she didn’t have to walk far for her breakfast, Joan cast him a look as if to say, “This is a physiological issue I have dealt with all my life. Get used to it.” “Are you familiar with the mythological Greek Poet? Orpheus?” he asked her. “Who?” she said, stuffing a large piece of bread into her mouth. Gordon began to tell her the story. Back in olden times, Orpheus was in love and married to a beautiful nymph named Eurydice. Eurydice ran into a nest of snakes, one of which bit her fatally on her heel. Distraught at the death of his love, Orpheus sang so mournfully that all the nymphs and gods wept. On their advice, Orpheus traveled to the underworld to bring Eurydice back to life. Through his music, he softened the hearts of Hades and Persephone (he was the only person ever to do so), who agreed to allow Eurydice to return with him to earth, but on one condition: he must walk in front of her and not


look back until they both had reached the upper world. He was instructed that no matter how much she cried or protested, Orpheus must not look at her or pay Heed to her or he would lose her forever. They began up the stairway to the upper world. Eurydice asked him to turn around and give her one kiss, but Orpheus knew that he shouldn’t listen to her. He knew best. She continued to plead and beg for him to turn around and look at her. Eventually, against his better judgment, he turned around to her most plaintive plea only to catch a glimpse of her disappearing forever. As Gordon finished his story, he looked across the breakfast table at his beloved Joan. “Having heard that story, how does that make you feel?” He asked her. “It makes me feel like punching you in the face,” Joan said, swallowing the last of her delicious breakfast. Gordon leaned back in his chair, laughing hysterically, and then Joan—in concert— began to laugh as well. They now refer to this as their Huánuco Moment. After all | February/March 2013

these years, it still generates a good laugh between them. Gordon has since truly recognized Joan’s need to eat frequently and now insists that Joan never leave home without a PowerBar in her pocketbook. As this story illustrates, Gordon was able to transform his annoyance (and a potentially lifelong grievance) by utilizing his knowledge of a classic myth to express his love and support to Joan. I love this story because he was saying, “I will go to hell and back for you, but if you want to share this life together, you have to trust me to guide you.” Wow! Now, that is a man who knows how to put his sword in the ground and stake his claim. Bravo.

©2013. Excerpt from Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships. Arielle Ford. Reprinted with permission. Harper One Publishing. A leader in personal growth and contemporary spirituality, Love Expert Arielle Ford has spent 25 years raising consciousness. Her new book, Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love In Imperfect Relationships, shows couples how to create deeper, more loving and more fulfilling relationships. Learn more at

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