Page 39

On the couch with a head cold was exactly where I was supposed to be. Be here now.

Choosing Happiness Three of my immediate family members died unexpectedly between my twenty-sixth and thirty-fourth birthdays. Throughout most of my twenties and into my early thirties, I let those losses dictate how much, how often, and when I could experience joy. For years, anytime I started to feel light, free, or happy, the old feeling of “waiting for the other shoe to drop” would creep in. Can you only be happy if things are going your way and all the stars are aligned in your favor? In recent years, there’s been a lot of focus on the psychology of happiness, and one thing is clear: happiness isn’t something that happens to us; it’s something we create. I believe we’re born with the innate capacity to experience emotional well-being and joy; it’s our birthright to feel good. Happiness bubbles up from our spring of well-being (which needs tending to flow). We’re wired for happiness. We just have to remember

to choose this and consciously return here moment to moment. It’s easy to forget who we really are. To lose sight of what really matters. To fall asleep and not remember how interconnected we all are and that we’re fully human and, at the same time, divine. A regular spiritual practice — whether that’s daily meditation, prayer, involvement in a spiritual community, singing, or volunteer work — serves to anchor us. It grounds us and helps us navigate the challenges we face from just being human. It helps us stay awake. When we consciously connect with Source, we bloom into awakened souls, vibrant beings and partners, and conscious parents. We begin to trust the rhythm and flow of life and we let go and relax into the beauty of our true nature.

An internationally-recognized coach and consultant, speaker and author, Renée Peterson Trudeau is the author of the award-winning The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-balance Your Life, co-author of Courageous Parents, Confident Kids: Letting Go So You Both Can Grow, a contributing author to best-selling What Happy Working Mothers Know and her newest book is Nurturing the Soul of Your Family: 10 Ways to Reconnect and Find Peace in Everyday Life (New World Library 2013). Learn more at


Wisdom & Self-Growth

— my friend’s birthday party, my son’s piano recital, working on the garden, cleaning my office — and surrendered, connected to my breath, and felt myself arrive in the present moment, I could feel my resistance dissipate. A sense of peace slowly settled over me. I temporarily suspended my desire for things to be different, and as I released my expectations about relationships, work, and obligations, out went their siblings: worry, anxiety, and stress.

Aspire Magazine - Feb/Mar 2013 - The Essence of Love  

In the February/March 2013 “Essence of Love” issue of Aspire Magazine you’ll discover over 80 pages of inspiring, empowering content from so...