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Vol. 4 Issue 10

October 2016

A Variety of Local Experiences

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Monthly Columns

Contents

October 2016

4 Senior Moments

Departments 6

5 Array of Pets 8 Catastrophe Primed

Artistic Communique

9 Social Security

Dedication, Passion & Art

10 Good News Hope, Horses & Healing

16 Pet Talk The Terrible Truth Behind The Paw-ty

18 Bizz Buzz World’s Biggest Homecoming

21 Sip & Savor Hope Mill’s Ole Mill days

Smarts

26 The Prince

Charles Hotel

13 Small Biz Doctor

Featured

14 Hidden Nuggets

22 Hope Mills Church

Historic Hope Mills Church is celebrating 125 years being in the community!

26 The Prince

17 From the desk of... 24 Calender 29 More Than Skin Deep

Charles Hotel

38 FYI for you EI

Find out what has been going on with the hotel in recent year as we start the Past, Present & Future Series.

40 Stiletto Thoughts

30 Fall Fun There is so much to do this fall, see what’s going on!

32 Jaiden Frost Jaiden is unburying NC Film. Find out what he has planned for it!

36 Bullying 18 Bizz Buzz

12 Healthy Living

Find out what we can do to stop this dangerous trend.

43 Dollar and Sense 43 Dear Shanessa 45 Ask Tina 46 Array for Kids 47 Bulletin board 48 Publisher’s Note ArrayNC.com

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Week of Oct. 2

• Better Health is providing FREE Diabetic Clinics every Tuesday, October 4th at 8 am at 1422 Bragg Blvd. Call 910-483-7534 for more information. • Bring or borrow binoculars and meet other bird lovers as we walk the trails at Clark Park & Nature Center and along the Cape Fear River looking for species, learning song, and collecting information about locations and behavior. Some participants may enjoy assisting park rangers in monitoring Cumberland County’s avian residents during bird surveys. This is every Tuesday, from 8:15-9:30 am; Free. Contact the park office at 910-433-1579.

Week of Oct. 9

• Did you know Clark Park & Nature Center offers Cape Fear River Trail golf cart tours? Interpretive golf cart tours along the Cape Fear River Trail are available for individuals or groups of up to five people. This is for seniors and persons with permanent limited physical abilities. Riders must be able to grasp and hold safety handles. Reservations are required and the cost is Free. Contact the park office at 910-433-1579. • Have you tried Pickle Ball? Seniors interested in staying active, you have to try Pickle ball! There’s an energetic group of seniors at Myers, who will teach beginners and challenge others in this fun competitive mixture of Ping Pong, Tennis and Badminton. 55+; Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 9:30 am-noon; Free. Call G.B. Meyers Rec Center at 910-433-1570.

Week of Oct. 16

• Listen to creepy local stories and legends as you cruise down the Cape Fear on a sunset pontoon boat tour. Bring a flashlight and water. Departing from Campbellton Landing; 1126 Person St. Register very early as space is limited. Wednesday, October 19 or Thursday, October, 20; 6-7:30 pm; Cost is $20/person. Contact Clark Park for more information at 910-433-1579. • Do you live in the West Fayetteville area and are 55 or older? Then check out the brand new life senior club and community! The club meets the third Friday of every month at 10 am for those 55+. Free. For more information, call Lake Rim Recreation Center at 910433-1175.

Week of Oct. 23

• Let local history get your heart racing! From October 27th – 29th tours which focus on historic events in Fayetteville of a shocking and frightening nature will be held. There are activities for all ages and some are free while others involve a fee. For more information on times and fees of Historic Hauntings contact the Dogwood Festival at 910-323-1934. • On Friday, October 28th be sure to make plans to join in Fourth Friday in Downtown Fayetteville. Come stroll the streets, shop local and enjoy dinner at one of our many Downtown restaurants. You can also watch the many performances on the Downtown streets, stop by the Transportation Museum for a cruise-in and relive fond memories on younger days and great cars every 4th Friday.

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Array of Pets

The Fayetteville Animal Protection Society, Inc (FAPS) provides a licensed, no-kill shelter. Anyone interested in these animals or others should phone 910-864-9040 or visit 3927 Bragg Blvd, Fayetteville. Photos by www.JeniferFennellPhotography.com

Name: Emily Age: 12 years Sex: Spayed Female Breed: Domestic Shorthair Hey, My name is Emily! I’m sassy and sweet, depending on how I’m feeling that day. I’m the center of attention, and everything happens by my rules! I’m royalty and shall be treated as such! I can be found atop my favorite scratching post, my throne as my friends here call it.

Name: Olympus Age: 2 years Sex: Neutered Male Breed: Mastiff Mix Hello, I’m Olympus! Majestic sounding right? I’m a pretty big guy, and sometimes I don’t realize it. Be careful I may knock over little ones with my enormous amounts of love! I’d like an active family that’s up for teaching me new things! I have a lot of energy and need to focus all of it on a task! Come play with me today!

Name: Maxwell Age: 8 years Sex: Neutered Male Breed: Domestic Shorthair Hello, I’m Maxwell! I’m a big guy with a warm heart. I can by shy at first, but easily warm up. I can be very affectionate, especially with other cats. I can usually be found snuggling up to my best friend Alex. More often than not, we are both trying to squeeze into the same bed. Come by today to see if I’m your purr-fect match!

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Jazz an

Written by Allie Bayat

Art is living history. Few things say more about humanity than the things they create and leave behind. On Gillespie Street sits a hidden treasure. It doesn’t look like much from the outside, but walking inside is a treat to a complete transformation of time and place. Add a little jazz and it’s a diminutive space with grand presence and character. “Art is an integral part of the community. When we came here there was not a lot. We wanted to show people what art was,” says Dwight Smith, artist-in-residence, Fayetteville State University assistant professor of art, and owner of the Ellington-White Contemporary Gallery on Gillespie Street, in Fayetteville, North Carolina. The Ellington-White Contemporary Gallery is an affiliate of The Ellington-White Community Development Corporation, a non-profit transplant out of Detroit, Michigan. When pressed on the reason for relocating, Dwight jokingly replies, “Twenty-seven inches of snow.” Dwight brought his vision to the Fayetteville community in 2008 and the gallery itself has been open for three years. It’s a member-based organization sustained by the membership, donations and annual funds, received from The Cumberland County Community Foundation as well as grants from the Arts Council of Fayetteville. The gallery is contracted to curate and install exhibitions for the Arts Council. Dwight has a passion for art, history, and the community. It didn’t take long to see it bubbling under the surface as he transitioned from talking about the gallery to the importance of art. His unmistakable affinity for jazz and art is evidenced in the distinctive name of the corporation and gallery as an homage to musician Duke Ellington and artist Charles White. The Ellington-White Contemporary Art Gallery and its parent corporation are only the surface of what is an effort to teach, support and advocate for artists and art of all kinds in the region. “Original art does not lose value. Art is a financial investment

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and potentially a family heirloom. If the artist’s reputation grows it can be worth a lot,” explains Dwight. He also adds that art from the gallery can be bought on a payment plan. He would like to see artist patronage return to the community so that artists may be able to once again focus on their work. He is also a strong advocate for art programs in schools. “Art should be funded so every student has one art class every semester,” says Dwight. That gallery attracts individuals in the area who are just as enthusiastic, committed and determined to enlighten the community. Noreda Hess blew in the door like a gust of wind, brandishing a newly discovered piece to bestow upon Dwight: a Matisse print tie, according to Smith. Her excitement was infectious. Noreda enthusiastically told Dwight about a set of art books she’d acquired from the library sale, to donate to the gallery book collection. According to Dwight, she is the catalyst for their collection. Dwight and Noreda met at the Discovery Art Program in a class for at-risk youth, just one of the many community art programs EllingtonWhite Contemporary Gallery supports. According to Noreda, the gallery also hosts a summer art program where students are usually also able to exhibit their work at its end. A true art supporter, Noreda tells about haggling for a $20 increase on a piece of art she was buying


“Art should be funded so every student has one art class every semester,” says Dwight. because she felt the artist was not selling the piece for its worth. One artist, Rose-Ann San Martino, illustrates the dilemma found in creating and selling their work. “Today images abound; they are everywhere, transmitted, and often created via electronic means. So much so that in recent years I have begun to question the validity and usefulness of creating paintings and images. But, when I see the works of contemporary artists that I admire, I react to the beautiful personal visions.” Visiting the gallery raises the age-old question: what is art? Especially in an era where digital images surround and engage us, how does ‘traditional’ art fit in? While there may never be a specific answer, the take-away is this - a lot can be learned about culture, ideas, thoughts, feelings and even perceptions of the world from those imprints of human souls which remain. Art is a semblance of that. To lose it, would be a tragedy. •A•

Dwight Smith

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Catastrophe Primed

Don’t Wait, Communicate! If you read last month’s article you will remember that

it was National Preparedness Month and I gave some tips on what you can do to start preparing. Some people around these parts may think that preparing for disasters is a waste of time, money and energy. In fact, it is just the opposite. Just last month I had two experiences to draw from to prove my point on why preparing is not just for things like tornados and floods and is not a waste of time. It was a Wednesday afternoon and I went to ask my boss if I could be about an hour or so late the next morning. I wanted to go to the Chamber coffee club and listen to the perspective County Commissioners’ candidates that would be running in the upcoming election. She said yes. I woke up the next morning, kissed my wife goodbye and left for the event. On my way, I remembered that I had forgotten to put my absence on the calendar at work. I also forgot to let my wife know my plans for that morning. I did not take any action on either of my thoughts which was a big mistake. Going to this event was not part of my normal routine and I should have informed my wife and called to inform my co-workers of my schedule. The event was inside the Crown Coliseum and I did not receive cell service. I enjoyed the forum and as I was leaving, my oldest daughter texted me to ask if everything was okay. I said yes, and questioned why. She said that work called and asked where you were and it upset mom. Upset mom is an understatement. When I called my wife she was in tears and had called several other people to ask them of my whereabouts. My boss was out of the office that morning and because I forgot to put it on the calendar, no one knew and someone called my wife at home. The point I am trying to make is that this lack of communication turned into a small panic when nobody knew of my whereabouts. So, if you plan on doing something out of the ordinary or not part of your normal routine I would recommend communicating with the parties involved.

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Written by Steve Rogers

Thursday afternoon after I get off work I rush home to start packing the van for an extended weekend camping trip with some of the other church members. Just myself and my son were heading into the wilderness to join up with the others. My intentions were to be there before dark. That did not happen. I had not discussed with anyone as to what camp site was reserved. I knew the location but not the campsite number. I had to text the Pastor which was already there and ask what number. I did text him before leaving town to let him know we were on our way. This event was communicated okay this time, but what if I or the pastor didn’t have cell service in that location. I literally would have been riding around in the dark, with nowhere to go. I can tell you where I would have gone. HOME. But luckily we both had service and were able to communicate and we made it to our destination. September was National Preparedness Month, but it’s never too late to start preparing and keep preparing. Make a 72- hour emergency kit, make a plan, and always, always communicate. With your safety in mind, Take Inventory...Your Priorities, Your Possessions, Your Life! •A•

More safety, security and emergency preparedness tips will be in each monthly article. Any questions can be directed to Steve Rogers, Owner of Home Safe Home Inventory, LLC He can be reached by phone 910-884-7021 or info@ homesafehomeinventory.com


Social Security

Smarts

Written by Brenda Brown

Social Security Covers Children Battling Cancer

Social Security Public Affairs Specialist in Fayetteville, NC

Christopher Columbus might be one of the most famous explorers in America. Though Native Americans were here long before the Italian sailor, he gets credit with discovering the New World. Centuries later, there are new horizons to explore and you can do it from the comfort of your home or office. With Social Security, you can discover a new world of information and services at www.socialsecurity.gov. For example, you can apply online for Social Security retirement benefits. If you are not sure whether you are ready for retirement, we can help you plot your course with our online benefit planners. Perhaps the most impressive of these planners is the online Retirement Estimator, which you can use to get quick and accurate estimates of your retirement benefits based on different scenarios. You also can apply online for disability benefits and even apply online for help to pay the costs of the Medicare prescription drug program at www. socialsecurity.gov. One of our most powerful tools is our website: my Social Security. Create your online account at www. socialsecurity.gov/myaccount and then you will always have quick and easy access to see and update your information. You can use my Social Security to get estimates of your retirement, disability, and survivors benefits; view your earnings record; and get estimates of

the Social Security and Medicare taxes you have paid. If you already receive Social Security benefits, you can use your account to get an instant benefit verification letter, check your benefit and payment information, and to change your address, phone number and direct deposit information. If you receive Medicare, you can get a replacement Medicare card using my Social Security. Whether you receive benefits or not, you may be, able to apply for a replacement Social Security card in certain states all online. We have made exploring your bright future secure and easy at www.socialsecurity.gov. Remember, we are with you through life’s journey. Social Security online tools will help you decide when to weigh anchor, and venture into the seas of retirement. •A• Brenda Brown has been with the Social Security Administration for over 40 years. She began her career with Social Security as a Service Representative in the Reidsville, NC field office. She transferred to the Fayetteville, NC field office in March 1975 as a Service Representative and later promoted to a Claims Representative. She has worked as a Public Affairs Specialist since 2008. As the Public Affairs Specialist, she is responsible for providing information to the media, other employees and the public regarding Social Security issues and policies. She covers the Southeastern and Piedmont Triad area of North Carolina. Brenda is available to speak to groups in almost any setting in her efforts to educate the public about their Social Security Program. Brenda is a graduate of Johnson C. Smith University in Charlotte, NC.

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Hope, Horses & Healing Written by Amanda Loftus

Healing doesn’t come in a one-

size-fits-all package – each person is different and each person’s struggles vary. This unique and fully customizable approach to healing is what Hope-Thru-Horses offers all clients at their Lumber Bridge location. As a 501(c)3 organization, their main goal is to make sure that regardless of income, insurance, and personal situation, no one will be turned away from visiting the farm. Hope-Thru-Horses accepts most insurance companies, including Tricare and Medicaid, and will help make sure claims are processed and filed correctly and quickly.

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Healing doesn’t come in a one-size-fitsall package- each person is different and each person’s struggles vary. According to EAGALA (Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association), “Horses are large and powerful. This creates a natural opportunity for some to overcome fear and develop confidence. Working alongside a horse, in spite of those fears, creates confidence and provides wonderful insight when dealing with other intimidating

and challenging situations in life.” Hope-Thru-Horses has four fullsize horses and one smaller horse which was rescued from neardeath and brought back to life at the farm. The horses are beautiful, intuitive, and friendly, ready to lend a helping hand (or hoof!) to anyone that needs that extra bit of strength and understanding to help them overcome their personal difficulties. In addition to equine-assisted psychotherapy, Hope-Thru-Horses also hosts retreats and organizational team building events. “Not everyone is drawn to the horses,” says Heather Wilkerson, President of Hope-ThruHorses, Inc. “We have been on this twenty-acre farm with horses, minihorses, donkeys, llamas, goats, pigs, dogs, and a cockatoo for about eight years.” Arriving at the farm, there’s a certain smell in the air - and it’s not the horses! It’s the smell of hope, passion, and comfort. “There is no receptionist behind a glass window with whom to interact,” Heather says, “no one knows why they are here. They could be providing services to the animals, farm, conducting a magazine interview, etc. The anonymity is safer here. There isn’t a crowded impersonal waiting room.” Comfort and safety are top priorities for the clinicians at Hope-ThruHorses. The farm has an “incredible atmosphere and a genuine caring staff”, according to one client. “We specialize in trauma,” Heather


explains. “[for example] A fiveyear-old girl knelt down beside a horse and looked at his genitals. She said, ‘It doesn’t look right. It doesn’t look like my daddy’s.’ She had been sexually abused by her father.” From that point, the clinicians can work through the trauma and help their client move past the pain and debilitating effects of their experiences. Heather is an EAGALA Advanced Certified Master’s level licensed clinician, and will most likely be the first point of contact when beginning the healing journey with Hope-Thru-Horses. Heather and the other clinicians work with adults as well as children. Heather related an account of a soldier, who recreated an IED blast (or trauma) he endured while in his Humvee, using the stuff and horses in the pasture. He was able to process the event in the openness of being outside in the pasture, and that’s where his healing began. Allowing a natural environment to safely experience and work through trauma is important for successful therapy. Horses weren’t a part of Heather’s life until about 10 years ago, when her husband was preparing to deploy to Iraq. “My veterinarian reminds me every time I see her - which is quite often - that I didn’t even know how to put the halter and lead rope on the horse,” recalls Heather. Learning how to work with horses was a difficult and on-going task. It took a lot of personal reflection and patience, but has been as equally rewarding. “This process has led to Hope-Thru-Horses ten years later. “ Working with animals together can help many different groups achieve their goals and bring together different people for a common cause. Church, school, and family groups can gain insight into their weaknesses and strengths, as well as discover ways to bond in different settings. “We work with organizations by using animals in group activities to show where the leadership talents exist and where they need to be developed,” says Heather. These activities include team building exercises utilizing problem-solving skills, teamwork, leadership, and fostering camaraderie among teammates. “I may ask the group to catch a horse and take it for a walk without using an actual rope, and one group took off their socks and made a rope.” •A•

To celebrate their 10-year anniversary, Hope-Thru-Horses is hosting the Hogs for Horses motorcycle run fundraiser to raise money for group therapy sessions for families on the farm. The event is on October 22nd, 2016, and the motorcycle run begins at Fort Bragg Harley Davidson, making stops at Sandhill Harley Davidson, Rail House in Aberdeen, and ends at the Hope-Thru-Horses Lumber Bridge location. After the ride, from 3pm until 6pm, there will be a great dinner and live music by Seal the Deal. Tickets are only $20 per bike / $25 with a passenger, and $10 for dinner only. The farm will also be open and free to all that want to listen to music and meet the animals. To pre-register for the event, contact Heather Wilkerson directly at 910-494-5888.

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Healthy Living

Written by Dr. Shanessa Fenner

October is National Domestic

Violence Awareness Month. On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year this equates to more than 10 million victims. On a typical day there are more than 20,000 calls placed to domestic violence hotlines nationwide. Love is supposed to make you feel good and not hurt or cause you to have black eyes, bruises, or pain. If someone truly loves you they will protect you and keep you safe from harm. Besides physical and sexual abuse there is also emotional

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Stop Domestic Violence abuse. This is when the abuser chips away at your self-esteem and independence. The abuser will say things to make you feel bad or worthless or tell you that no one else will want you. This is supposed to make you want to stay and continue to be abused. We live in a society that can make you feel like you are supposed to get married, have children, be in a relationship, etc. but that life may not be for everyone. Some choose to remain single and have peace of mind. This is your life so you have to make that decision because sometimes we end up in situations that we never imagined we would be a part of. Some warning signs of abusers include extreme jealousy, possessiveness, a bad temper, verbal abuse, controlling behavior, blaming the victim for anything bad that happens, demeaning the victim, abuse of others and pets, controlling what you say, wear, or do, accusations of flirting or having an affair, and having antiquated beliefs about the role of men and women in relationships. It is important to have your independence before entering into any relationship. You should not stay with someone just for the sake of having money, a nice house, car, or material things and then the abuser is mean to

you, belittles you, or puts their hands on you. Some victims stay with the abuser because of the children. Do you think it is a good idea for your children to see the abuser batter or belittle you? Most of the time the abuser is abusing the children too. Some victims stay because they do not want to be alone. Would you rather be alone and alive or with someone who abuses you and you could possibly end up hurt or dead? Is it worth the risk? It can be rather hurtful to see a family member or friend in a domestic violence relationship. If you have a family member or friend who is a victim you must speak up and talk with them in private to let them know that you are concerned. Let them know that you want to help in any way that you can. Domestic violence is real and it can happen to anyone. If you are involved in a domestic violence situation consider getting out of the situation before something tragic happens like death. Please do not put your family members in a position to have to plan your funeral. You have got to love yourself enough to walk away. You can always call the domestic violence helpline at 1-(800) 799-7233. •A•


Small Biz Doctor

No Grey Areas! Written by Michael McCollum “The Small Biz Dr.”

As a small business consultant for

over 20 years, there is one thing that I have all new clients do ASAP. Provide me a list of all full/time and part/time employees, and I will explain why in just a moment. In the United States, the average small business has 10 employees or less. To some owners this number may sound incredible, and something that they would love to have. While others may say this number is way too low, because they just have too much to do, and 10 employees are not enough. Once the employer provides a list of employees, the next question I ask them catches them off guard, because they are only allowed to use one of two words when answering the following question: IS THIS EMPLOYEE AN ASSET OR LIABILITY TO YOUR COMPANY? NO GREY AREAS! Asset: Definition: A useful and desirable thing or quality. Example: Organizational ability is an asset. Liability: Definition: Something

disadvantageous. Example: His lack of education is his biggest liability. The first response is normally the same for over 90% of them, which is “OMG this is hard to do”. However, with today’s average small business having 10 employees or less, as a business consultant there is very little time or room to be indecisive when it comes to this very direct question. It is IMPERATIVE that small business owners are able to answer this question not only quickly, but without reservation, because employees are your business, while products and/or services is what your business offers. The following question is even more difficult for small business owners to answer. So they think! After the employee receives an asset or liability label, the owner then has to define why, which is where the fun comes. The owner will sit there looking confused for a moment, and then the ink pen starts to go crazy with words. Trust me, after an employee has been with you for 90 days or more, you already have the answer stored in your mind. After meeting with countless

business owners and discussing each employee, a great deal of them realized that this is something that they are forced to do if they want their company to stay alive and grow. As a small business owner, it’s your turn to do this very simple test. Write down the names of your full time & part time employees, and take the following steps: 1. Asset or Liability (no other words allowed) 2. Define why One of the hardest pills to swallow is this. The answers you give have already been provided by your clients or customers, who would gladly tell you if you ever cared to ask. So here is where the two biggest questions of all comes: 1. What are you going to do WITH your liabilities? 2. What are you going to do FOR your assets? •A•

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Hidden Nuggets

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What happens when one person’s need become a

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addition to their household matrix required extra income to adequately support everyone. Like many, she and her husband already had a lot on their plate. With children of their own, the traditional part-time approach to adding extra income to their budget was not an option. The traditional part-time job would not allow them the flexibility they needed to move as warranted by the military, or to be available to their children. This is when Toya determined that a home-based option was the solution. The solution she soon found for herself, was the solution that many others were searching for as well. This is what led to the birth of JT Virtual Communications. What is JT Virtual Communications? ~~~ It is a company whose mission is to provide employment opportunities for others in the convenience of

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The Terrible Truth Behind The Paw-ty

Written by Rosemary Teague, Board Member Fayetteville Animal Protection Society

Most animal supporters living in

our area are now aware that Woofstock, Fayetteville Animal Protection Society’s, major fundraiser is the best party in town. In fact, FAPS was recently voted the best local fundraising event! In addition to best, another key word is nonprofit. The Fayetteville Animal Protection Society (FAPS), a nonprofit organization, has been saving homeless companion animals for more than 34 years and is totally supported by fundraisers, private donations, grants awarded and endowments at the Cumberland Community Foundation. We don’t get a dime from local, state or national governments! That’s why the best party in town is also one of the most important annual functions you should support. FAPS maintains an attractive, fully equipped animal shelter at 3927 Bragg Blvd. where we save hundreds of sweet, discarded pets every year. Some are injured, some sick, others blind or deaf and way too many have been abused. We work to save as many as we can and provide them with the medical care they need, the love and care they deserve and finally, the

wonderful, fur-ever homes they are all worthy of. Woofstock is our primary event to raise the funds we must have to help these pets that cannot help themselves. We are the only state licensed, no kill shelter in Cumberland and Hoke counties. The terrible truth is in the numbers (from the NC Department of Agriculture for 2015). Cumberland County euthanized 2,893 cats, the second highest county number in the state. Our county also euthanized 1,947 dogs. Cumberland has the distinction of being in second place in the state for the numbers of animals put to death---nearly 5,000 during that year, and we’re only the fifth most populated county! Please support the Fayetteville Animal Protection Society’s goal to … adopt one by one, until there are none. Every penny we raise goes to reducing the

numbers of homeless pets that are starving and suffering in our community, many ending up dying at Animal Control. We also take in pets surrendered to us by owners who cannot continue to care for them, such as deployed soldiers, the elderly and those whose living conditions change, not allowing them to keep their pets. And, please help us reduce the number of strays by spaying and neutering your pets. See that they receive proper veterinarian care and necessary vaccinations. Urge your friends to do the same! You can help FAPS with monetary donations and contributions of food and shelter supplies, or volunteer a little of your time to walk a dog, console a cat or help in other ways at our shelter. Let’s all get together on Friday, October 7 to Paw-ty at Woofstock and support the important work FAPS is doing for the animals in our community! Hope to see you there! For tickets and information, please go to www. fapspet.org •A•

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From the desk of‌

Darsweil L Rogers The Future is NOW! It is a great time to be in business!

It is also a great time to be in business in the Greater Fayetteville area. Our community is on the cusp of a significant economic expansion. I believe that when we look back 5 years from now at 2016 and 2017 we will realize that the decisions and the events that took place in these short months were the catalyst for dramatic change in the future. We have plenty of well-documented good news including plans for new parks and recreation areas, the new I-295 extension and additional entertainment venues on the horizon. That is all good. But some of the truly good news is the talent that within our community that is beginning to realize that Fayetteville is a place to be. As Chamber CEO I am approached regularly to meet with people and attend events where groups of the best minds in the community and around the state are looking at our community as the place to be over the next 5 to 10 years. To achieve the future I see, will take plenty of hard work. But, it will especially take the collective energy and commitment of a community leadership. Which is different from the leaders in our community. The opportunities are not just for those that lead, but for those that dare to dream and see new opportunities when others see nothing or just see obstacles. The Greater Fayetteville Chamber of Commerce is here to be one of the community of leaders to support our collective future. The future begins right now.

Darsweil L Rogers President & CEO Greater Fayetteville Chamber

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World’s Biggest Homecoming

Bigger than Life

Written by Allie Bayat and Kelsey Minnick Shaver

Marking the end of summer and the beginning of fall, at Hubb’s Corn Maze in Clinton, North Carolina, presented the World’s Biggest Homecoming, featuring a patriotic parachute jump demonstration by the All Veterans Parachute Team out of Raeford, North Carolina. The Biggest Homecoming was sponsored by the Christian Listening Network (CLN) radio stations WGQR (Christian 105.7) and Christian 107.3-WCLN-FM. All of the proceeds from the Homecoming were donated, to Christian Food Bank of Salemburg, NC, and Tim’s Gift in Clinton, NC, both organizations who depend on donations from their communities.

The Event

The World’s Biggest Homecoming began with a prayer and grand welcome to attendees, who had nearly filled the parking lot a full half hour before the gates opened! According to an unofficial estimate, about a thousand people were in attendance and ready to start the fun. The first performer was Dennis Cash and Friends. Dennis, both a musician and a member on the board of Christian Food Bank of Salemburg, has a passion for Jesus. He shares that passion through his music: “Jesus and music, a good combination.” He sang as participants entered the Corn Maze, providing a fun musical backdrop to the puzzle-solving. Throughout the rest of the day, other artists performed, including Beck + Kasie, a well-known duo. “This is my first year, and me and my children are really enjoying our day!” explains one attendee, Heidi Wells of Stedman. She and her family heard about the event through the sponsors’ radio promotions. They especially enjoyed the corn maze and the BBQ, which included pulled pork, coleslaw and potato salad. They were also thankful for the free water, as the day turned out unexpectedly hot for the season. The Corn Hole Tournament began thirty minutes after the gates opened to the public, a tournament whose rules were orchestrated by Play It Again Sports of Fayetteville. Teams – both single person and many-personed – competed in either the amateur or pro divisions. Competitors received trophies or plaques as prizes, and the glories of having triumphed over all in their divisions (age brackets determined at the time of the event). The centrepiece of the cookout appeared to be the American flag fly-in by the All Veterans Parachute Team, a jump that occurred at 1pm. One couple in attendance, Erin Autry and her husband, thoroughly enjoyed the airshow. “I’m returning to my old stomping grounds. It felt like a real welcome home to see them jump in,” says Erin, who has returned from deployment and newly retired from the United States Army after 12 years. “I felt like it was just for me.” If the fly-in served as the centerpiece of the cookout, then the cook-off was the tastiest side ever! Prepared offsite, but cooked on-site, participants had the chance to show off their skills of one of the Carolinas best known dishes: barbecue. Blind judging began at 2pm, and the winners were announced at 4pm – probably some of the most delicious hours that day! The winners of the cook-off

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were Luis McDonald sponsored by Big Hogg’s BBQ in first place, with Ingle Baptist Church in second, and Flooring America in third place. With the BBQ winners announced, the Homecoming closed amid words of gratitude and praise to all participants, visitors and sponsors. This is the first event presented by the radio stations, says Program Director of WGQR, Dee Stevens. “There was so much to do to prepare, it all seemed to blend together!” But, she adds, the festival would not have been possible without “all the volunteers”. And there were a good many – especially from Rockfish Church, whose volunteers arrived ready to tackle the day, and did: everything from serving food, to carrying trash. She also notes that there were many local businesses involved in the festival, something she hopes will continue, and welcomes, for the future. Smithfield Food provided the meat for the cook-off, while Pier41 Seafood of Lumberton, NC and Morty Pride helped provide food for the BBQ meal for guests. Hubb’s Farm graciously allowed the Christian Listening Network the use of the Corn Maze, a premiere before its official grand opening on September 17.

The Community

As a retired veteran, Dan DeBruler, Program Director of 107.3 and General Manager of both radio stations, emphasizes the need to be “plugged in” – he wants both the military and civilian communities to be a part of the Homecoming. “This is for all of us, and I hope that in the future we can tie the communities more closely together.” As a former military family, he understands the transient nature of building roots only to leave again - which is why it is important to get involved. “If you don’t get plugged in, you don’t get connected.” And the World’s Biggest Homecoming is a fabulous way to get connected. This year, the attendees ranged in age from tiny tots running and playing, to seniors who loved listening to the music. Many military families were also present with the civilians, a mix that Dan hopes to continue to grow. The All Veterans Parachute Team was a boost to this idea. “The thing people really enjoyed was the All Veteran Parachute team jumping,” says Dan. “They were wonderful interacting with kids on the ground after


the jump. They were great.” Most of all, though, Dee says, is “keeping the main thing, the main thing.” It is a personal motto of the CLN, a belief of keeping God the focus of life. While it began as a staffmeeting shorthand, the belief has grown into a hashtag (#mainthing) on the CLN’s social media pages. Potential memes aside, the faith is real and enacting it is important. “We want the guests to be foremost for the event, not the host,” Dan chimes in. “We want to serve and follow God.” Along that vein is serving the community at large. While this year’s Homecoming was the first, there are high hopes for making it a permanent annual occurrence. “This year was a trial run,” says Dan, chuckling. “Hubb’s Farm actually started the conversation, and we seem to be on the same page for making it happen regularly.” But to make it happen regularly includes one special person: you. One of the unique features of the World’s Biggest Homecoming is its amount of participation: to volunteer/serve, to perform, or to compete. On the Christian 107.3WCLN website are sign-up forms for all three. If your business or organization is interested in being part of the fall festivities in the future, you may reach the CLN on their business line, at (910) 864-5028.•A•

The CLN would like to thank the following sponsors for their involvement. • Hubb’s Farm • All Veterans Parachute Team • Play It Again Sports of Fayetteville • Morty Pride • Smithfield Food • Paraclete Skydive • Clinton Appliance & Furniture • Flooring America • Webb Carpet • Pier41 Seafood of Lumberton Special thanks to all volunteers who helped make this day a perfect beginning to fall!

For more information on the Christian Listening Network, visit www.wgqr.com or www.christian107.com For more information on Hubb’s Farm, visit their facebook page www.facebook.com/Hubbscornmaze For booking the All Veterans Parachute Team, visit www.allveterangroup.com

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3 Part Series

This one will be a 3 part series presented by Daniel Martin, Outsourced Ingenuity Sponsored by Hope Mills Chamber and ARRAY Magazine • Part 1 Managing your Self 10/11 • Part 2 Managing your Time 11/15 • Part 3 Managing your Relationships 12/6 October 11, November 15, December 6 from 5:30-7:30 pm at WoodmenLife, 414 East Mountain Dr. Fayetteville (near Crown Coliseum) Registration required $10 (light refreshments and handouts provided) Register at www.hopemillschamber.org/product/array-of-knowledge

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Hope Mills’ Ole Mill Days & Chili Cook Off

Written by Amanda Loftus

Get your taste buds ready for some spicy fun

in Hope Mills! The Chili Cook Off is one of the main attractions in the annual Hope Mills’ Ole Mill Days. Kicking off the weekend on October 14th, from 6pm-10pm, is the Second Annual Street Dance on Trade Street, that sets the stage for the next morning of action-packed competitions and flavorful contests. After a fun evening of dancing in the streets with music, food, and craft vendors, the kids are sure to be sleeping by the time they reach the house. Tuck them in quickly and get some rest for even more excitement on Saturday. Among the day’s non-cooking festivities will be a tractor pull, food vendors, hot wings contest, haunted house, Kid’s Corner, ‘pony & friends’, cheerleading competition, ‘arts & crafts’ vendors, and much more. With the cool, crisp air coming in, what better way to welcome the change in temperature than with the Chili Cook Off? Hosted by The Hope Mills Area Chamber of Commerce (HMACC) and WKML radio it starts at 10am, and judging begins at 10:30am. Both mild and hot chili pots will wake your senses up and warm your soul. For just $5, all of the samples for the Chili Cook Off will be right at your fingertips! Full bowls are only $4, and don’t worry about getting thirsty - legendary $1 drinks will also be available the entire day, and the bake sale will make sure even the sweetest of tooth is satisfied. “Between the cookies, cakes and pies, it’s hard to walk away with just one thing,” says HMACC Executive Director, Tiffany Aldridge. “I’m a sucker for sweets.” Another contest also makes its way into the festivities - a corn hole tournament. Sponsored by Rudino’s, the tournament is a big deal among Hope Mills residents and some consider it a serious sport. The lawn game has grown in interest all across the United States over the past several years, and has even been on ESPN with national championships! While the corn hole contest requires a lot of focus mixed with a ton of fun and a little luck, the Chili Cook Off takes patience stirred

in with some ridiculously good beans and a dash of trial and error. Both competitions are going to be crowd-pleasers and will leave both spectators and participants talking about the day for weeks to come. Once the Chili Cook Off judging begins, it’s all spoons on deck! All participants will be working towards the top choice in either the mild or spicy categories. For each category, there will be a Silver Spoon Award with a cash award of $100, as well as the Wooden Spoon Award with a cash award of $50, and the Plastic Spoon Award with a $25 cash award. In addition to both categories, there will also be a People’s Choice Award given to the chili with the most public votes by 3pm, with a $100 cash award! “My chili had the right amount of spice to give it the winning kick,” says Sandy Scott, the 2015 1st Place Hot Chili Winner, won with her spicy chili family recipe. Sandy is an insurance agent by day, but a darn good cook by night - just talk to anyone that tried her chili last year! When asked what her special ingredient was, she says it’s “just a combination of love, spices and a little competitive fun.” If there’s no special ingredient, there must be something magical in the chili pots these participants are using! Last year’s People’s Choice Winner, Perry Harrison, says “I just used the types of food that I enjoy and made it to taste the way I like.” He really must be doing something right - last year was his fourth year in a row that he has won the People’s Choice Award. In fact, when he and his wife got married in 2013, he had just dropped off his pot of chili for the 2013 Chili Cook Off. It was while he was at his wedding reception that he found out he had won. Maybe he cooks with his own combination of love, too? Well, there’s only one way to find out! Whether it’s the chili that’s to your taste, or the many activities available for families, this year’s Chili Cook Off is destined to be one of the best yet. If you wish to attend, plan to stay the day, for all of the festive fun and memories to be had. •A•

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An Evolution of Grace

Written & photography by Amy Garner

The low ceiling did nothing to contain the excitement

of the women sitting with me. Their voices became entangled with the documents and handwritten notes spread across the small table. These are the ladies of Hope Mills First Baptist Church, and they have history, one-hundred-and-twenty-five years to be exact. They have come together to share their beloved church’s story with me, and with this community. Sissy Melvin, LaVonne Watts and Rena McLaurin all attend Hope Mills First Baptist Church. They are the keepers of the church’s story. As we sit and talk, they are firing dates and names at me so quickly that I can barely keep up. Like any church that can boast a century-life, this one has its own fair share of longstanding families, buildings, fires, rebuilding, preachers, politics, pastors and pianos. Sissy has gathered years of research and organized it into a fat red binder. Her work is a comprehensive, chronological map of the academic history of the church, a a foundation that LaVonne and Rena build upon. The women’s voices lift and fall as they share about Sissy’s in-laws, Weldon and Josephine. Josephine attended a nearby Methodist church before marrying Weldon, and shocked the congregation by actually sitting with him during church services. Josephine and Weldon were one of hundreds of couples married at Hope Mills First Baptist. It’s in the family - their children and grandchildren were married there, also, and the couple celebrated their 50th anniversary there as well. The family-church-family-church tales go on and on. Weddings, funerals, births all woven into a greater tapestry of history. On October 9, Hope Mills Baptist Church will officially

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celebrate the 125 years. The original congregation was organized in 1891 by Reverend A.R. Pittman, over top of the community store for the workers at Mill #2. The store served the mill village’s families and services were held in the upper rooms. Around 1893, the Church developed a covenant and a written Decorum, which included establishing separate entrances for men and women. In 1904, the trustees met with W.C Houston, Jr. of the Hope Mills manufacturing company and procured land for an actual church house to be built. The land came with the stipulation that that it had to be used for “religious purpose” or it would revert back to the manufacturing company. Over the next 115 years, there is ample change and the expected growth and recession. It is, again, the expected history: buildings, babies, a steady flow of pastors coming and going. Things were changing, yet staying the same. At one point the church grew to almost 200 members before a slow decline to today’s 50. Still, Sissy, LaVonne and Rena continue to share the names and stories. We come to the point in the interview where I have to ask about the decline of the membership. The women seemed to be of one mind, their voices intertwining and they carry each other along through the core of this story. While the number of members dwindled, the heart of the church seemed to grow. They were caught in limbo, offering a traditional service and making the necessary move to a contemporary service. As in all change, this created friction and that created sparks. Around 2005-2006, the congregation was introduced to a man who obviously struggled with alcohol abuse. And hygiene. And etiquette. Merle was quite the character and he decided he would join the small group


“Truly learn to love each other, to not judge.” of Baptists who were meeting weekly to pray and worship. He would often interact with the Pastor while he was actually delivering his sermon. LaVonne lowers her voice and shares of the time Pastor Mike Sower, who presided over the flock at that time, took the ladies to Merle’s home to visit. She recalls the squalor and the unpleasant smells from Merle’s home. She also recalls his pride in having them there and in cooking for them. But, smiling, LaVonne recalls how Merle helped them to “truly learn to love each other, to not judge.” The trio agreed that Merle was a catalyst for the changes coming from Hope Mills First Baptist Church. Pastor Sower apparently picked up on the vibe and the study of grace emerged from small group bible studies. The numbers continued to decrease and Pastor Sower was called away. New preachers came and went. The church felt a great divide over the transition of service styles from traditional to contemporary. Rena pointed out that it was like there were “two churches, the old people and the young people.” LaVonne and Sissy agreed. This was a rough patch, a period of time where grace was being studied and tested. Then, on September 21, 2007 Hope Mills First Baptist Church learned that one of their own, Emily Haddock, had been brutally murdered. Emily was only 12 and had stayed home sick from school the day she was robbed of her life by two men. Sissy’s hands trembled as she recalled the day. “I worked with her whole family. I remember her in Sunday School to this day.” LaVonne and Rena began to add to Sissy’s telling. Rena, once again, points out that she remembers

attending Bible studies during that time and that they all seemed to have one theme: grace. LaVonne’s voice trembled as she spoke about the Haddock family and their grief, how they struggled through the murder trial, how the entire community struggled to understand the murder of this beautiful child. All three women, vividly remember a blanket of peace settling over the entire congregation. Things were far from perfect - there was still the expected, textbook church politicking and debate. The century-old family dynamics and drama continued, more mildly maybe. Focus on missions and outreach was renewed and groups were sent out to help those less fortunate, more often. The church began to do the Work again. Integration finally found its way to Mill Street in 2016, with the appointment of Reverend Wilbert Harrison. LaVonne reveals that she loves seeing the church grow, while Reverend Harrison adds that Hope Mills First Baptist Church may “be a place for the elderly to serve or for those who will forego the amenities of the larger churches.” All three women begin quietly wrapping up the interview. They have places to be and we have talked about a lot of sensitive things – you could say, a history’s worth. However, after years laughing and crying together, years of finishing each other’s sentences and holding each other’s hands, years of text book church history and finding and losing Merle and Emily… Grace had joined the Church. •A•

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1pm Gallberry Corn Maze 5991 Braxton Rd, Hope Mills 6pm Bull Riding on the Farm - Shady Acres Rodeo

Senior Exercise FREE Diabetes Clinic 3 8:30am 4 9am Spring Lake Senior Enrichment 1422 Bragg Blvd center, 301 Ruth St, Spring Lake 7pm Zumba Class - Kiwanis Recreation Center 7pm JAVA JAMS: FAYETTEVILLE’S PREMIERE POETRY OPEN MIKE - The Coffee Scene

12pm What’s Really in Your Meat? A Discussion About Hormones and Antibiotics in Your Food - 301 E Mountain Dr 6:30pm Cape Fear Toastmasters - Methodist University

Teen Bookmark Design 10 10am FREE Exercise Class - 11 10am Parent and Child Art 9 11am Contest - Cliffdale Regional 1422 Bragg Blvd Classes with Lisette YoungBranch 1pm Gallberry Corn Maze 5991 Braxton Rd, Hope Mills 6pm Bull Riding on the Farm - Shady Acres Rodeo

2pm Hope Mills Chamber of Commerce Luncheon - Parks and Recreation Services Center, 5766 Rockfish Road, Hope Mills 7pm Zumba Class - Kiwanis Recreation Center

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Fit4Life, 3266 Ray Rd, Spring Lake 10am FREE Exercise Class 1422 Bragg Blvd 7pm JAVA JAMS: FAYETTEVILLE’S PREMIERE POETRY OPEN MIKE - The Coffee Scene

- Spring Lake Senior Enrichment center, 301 Ruth St, Spring Lake 10am FREE Exercise Class 1422 Bragg Blvd 7pm Zumba Class - Kiwanis Recreation Center

- Spring Lake Senior Enrichment center, 301 Ruth St, Spring Lake 10am FREE Exercise Class 1422 Bragg Blvd 7pm Zumba Class - Kiwanis Recreation Center

- Kiwanis Recreation Center and Honeycutt Park 12pm Third Tuesday Talks Pizza Inn, 1138 W Broad St, Dunn 7pm Chess Club - Kiwanis Recreation Center and Honeycutt Park

Club - Kiwanis Recreation Center and Honeycutt Park 7pm Weymouth Jam Session with Irish Guests Weymouth, 555 E Connecticut Ave, Southern Pines 7:30pm Senior Citizens Entertainment Night Eastover-Central Recreation Center

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10am Crocheting @ the Senior center - Spring Lake Senior Enrichment center, 301 Ruth St, Spring Lake 7pm Oldies, Rock and Blues Music - Hope Mills Parks and Recreation Center 8pm Art Meets Life - The Sweet Palette

Enrichment center, 301 Ruth St, Spring Lake 6pm Jazzy Friday - Cypress Bend Vineyards, 21904 Riverton Rd, Wagram 7pm VerseUs Open Mic and Discussion - The Big Apple Restaurant & Sports Pub, 5900 Yadkin Rd Maze - 5991 Braxton Rd 6pm Oldies, Rock and Blues Music - Hope Mills Recreation Center 8:30pm Live Music at Luigi’s - Luigi’s, 528 North McPherson Church Road

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9am Cars and Coffee Meet Millstone Towne Centre 10am Parkinson’s Disease Support Group of Fayetteville - Kiwanis Recreation Center and Honeycutt Park 10:30am Yvette’s Dance Academy - Kiwanis Recreation Center and Honeycutt Park Cars and Coffee Car 15 9am Show - Millstone Complex 9am City Market at the Museum - Fayetteville Transportation Museum, 325 Franklin St 7pm Cape Fear Ballroom Dancers - Roland’s Dance Studio, 310 Hope Mills Rd

Museum - Fayetteville Transportation Museum 12pm Art Market - The Sweet Palette 2pm MakerBox Saturdays - 170 W Connecticut Ave, Southern Pines

Sesquicentennial Exhibit 325 Franklin St 12pm Gallberry Corn Maze 5991 Braxton Rd, Hope Mills 2pm MakerBox Saturdays - 170 W Connecticut Ave, Southern Pines

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Preserving a Legacy

Written by Allie Bayat Photos by Allie Bayat & Daniel Fournier

If the eyes are the windows to the soul, the

windows of the Prince Charles Hotel have seen the passing of history. Built in the 1920’s in downtown Fayetteville, the Hotel served as a focal point for events in the community, including hosting weddings, balls, and proms. As the building aged, it collected stories of all kinds: meetings, hauntings, and, more lately, the stories of disrepair. Like many cities of the era, downtown Fayetteville was established around the railroad, a station that served as a midpoint between Florida and New York. Travellers who rode the train meant new business prospects in the area – and Jones was no different. He seized the opportunity and established what has now become a significant historical landmark. Years later, Jones sold his interests, and ever since the hotel has changed hands frequently. After several attempts at revitalization and reopening between 1941 to 1992, the hotel passed to John Chen in 2007. Between the times Chen acquired The Prince Charles Hotel, vandals, thrill seekers and homeless individuals broke in, and it slowly slipped into its current level of disrepair. With the openings of Eutaw and Tallywood Shopping Centers in 1957 and the establishment of the Cross Creek Mall on

Skibo Road in 1975, the exodus was complete as residents moved away from the downtown area. In 2014 the great grandson of James Addison Jones decided he’d give it a go. Project manager and Fayetteville native, Jordan Jones along with his partners, Michael Lemanski, Bob Distry and Rory Dowling, have brought their wealth of experiences to this project, whose goal is to hopefully create jobs and benefit individuals. “When I was growing up, my brother had his prom there. I remember going to dinner at the hotel,” says Jones. Jones believes, this time, it will be different because they have a large support system with the community, council members and the mayor all wanting the project to succeed. “I think the key thing that differentiates our group from other groups is our track record,” Jones explains. The renovation of the Prince Charles Hotel is not only his legacy, but it will be a catalyst for a larger investment in the city. Like his great-grandfather, Jordan Jones sees potential in Fayetteville. The restoration of the Prince Charles Hotel is part of a larger plan for the downtown area in collaboration with the city of Fayetteville to draw new investors, businesses, to preserve the history of downtown and stimulate growth.

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The renovation of the Prince Charles Hotel is not only his legacy, but it will be a catalyst for a larger investment in the city. The development team has invested a great deal in the delicate process of restoring historical details. The windows, for example, are a symbolic investment to show that the group is doing everything to preserve the history; a couple of generations ago, Jones’ family hand-made some of these windows. “It means too much for too many for it to be torn down and I have a family history to preserve,” answers Jones when pressed on the possibility of tearing down the hotel. He’s personally as well as professionally vested in the restoration and preservation of the hotel. Initially, they had a contract to support a local investor group. When the investment group pulled out they had to make a quick decision. “Our hands were forced when we got interested in the hotel. With the online auction and a deadline set, it put pressure on us.” The team has run into a few surprises and has had some obstacles and setbacks. One key issue is there was a renovation on the building done in ‘87 or ‘88. That renovation was a historical tax credit renovation. They [the renovators] stated they would leave the corridors, but Jones’ group could tell that the original block corridors had been demolished and sheet rock had been put in instead. This small detail briefly stalled the project, but Jones and his team are determined. One of the surprises they had to contend with was how much people like to break into the hotel, for many different reasons. “I learned how to secure buildings. When the mayor calls that the door is broken, I have to go home, change and do some of the construction and fix the door.” When asked about the ghost stories, he laughed and emphatically said that he has not seen any ghosts yet. Jones has shown commitment and dedication to Fayetteville, the Prince Charles Hotel and to his family legacy, making this a project destined to succeed. “I am super excited to be a part of these changes in my hometown.” In the months to come, the Prince Charles Hotel will begin the process of a rebirth. Jordan Jones is confident that Fayetteville residents will be happy with the changes to come. To each their own compelling story. This is only the beginning. •A• ArrayNC.com 28


More Than Skin Deep

We’ve Got Your Back Combating PTSD Naturally

Written by Brenda Howell

Living in a military town, we are

no strangers to post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Many of us are married, serving and living with this condition every day. Additionally, it is not just our military personnel who suffer from this. Our police officers and first responders are also subject to this potentially devastating condition. PTSD may occur after any traumatic event. This event doesn’t have to be related to war. It can be a massive traffic accident or a horrendous crime. The symptoms of PTSD do not come overnight, and in some cases it can be up to six months before the symptoms begin to emerge. This makes it more difficult to diagnose because the resulting irritability, depression, anger and anxiety may not be matched to the event that caused these issues. Of course only a doctor can officially diagnose you with PTSD but if you have it, it’s likely that those close to you will know it before you do. As I was researching the different methods of treating PTSD I quickly saw a common theme emerge, drugs! Paxil, Celexa, Luvox, Prozac, and Zoloft; and tricyclic antidepressants such as Elavil and Doxepin. Then there are tranquilizers such as Ativan and Klonopin, mood stabilizers

such as Depakote and Lamictal; and neuroleptics such as Seroquel and Abilify are sometimes used. Certain blood pressure medicines are also occasionally used to control particular symptoms. For example, prazosin may be used for nightmares, or propranolol may be used to help minimize the formation of traumatic memories. I’m not saying the use of medications is wrong or that that they can’t help. It’s just that every day I hear from my clients that they are sick and tired of nothing but medications. They want to feel better naturally. Or at least be able to function without the clouded mess in their heads caused by all the medications. WebMD states that “the goal of PTSD treatment is to reduce the emotional and physical symptoms, to improve daily functioning, and to help the person better cope with the event that triggered the disorder.” Can this be done naturally? Or at least somewhat naturally so the patient doesn’t have to be on so many different drugs? YES IT CAN! Treatments such has oxygen therapy (hyperbarics), medical massage therapy, and personal coaching are just a few of the natural methods. The Fayetteville Hyperbarics Holistic Wellness Center is one place

where you can find multiple methods of treating PTSD. These treatments can be performed individually or in combination as warranted. The center has a variety of providers from MD’s to Naturopaths, counselors, coaches and licensed massage therapists. While each provider comes from a different walk of life, with different reasons bringing them to their chosen field, they are all dedicated to one mission: helping each of you find the root cause of your pain and injury, feel better, move better and live better naturally. If you know or even think you suffer from PTSD, I encourage you to call the Wellness Center (910-920-1165) for a consult. Otherwise, reach out to someone, anyone you feel that can help you. Not just for your peace of mind but for the ones who love you!•A• Brenda is a Licensed Massage and Bodywork Therapist and owner of Healing Hands Body Therapy, 5843 Ramsey Street, Fayetteville, NC. 910-5023596. Healinghandsbodytherapy.com. She and her team specialize in medical massage by using a variety of modalities to reach your goals. Brenda and her team are constantly taking more training and education classes to help you realize that becoming pain free is not just a dream but is something that is attainable.

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Falling for Fall

Written by Amanda Loftus

It’s finally October! Some might argue that Autumn

is the absolute best time of the year. While the summer brought beautiful scenery, vacations, beach trips, boating, and mosquitos, the fall brings firewood, marshmallows, hot cocoa, hayrides, haunted trails, mazes, and zombies. To start off with some family-oriented fun, Gallberry Farm’s Corn Maze, located at 5991 Braxton Road in Hope Mills, is sure to please everyone. Don’t be surprised when the entire day is spent on the farm. After the maze, there will be lots of time for hayrides, a giant jumping pillow, food concessions, corn box, corn hole, farm animals, giant tube slides, pony hops, bouncy balls, pumpkin bowling, a playhouse, covered picnic areas, and much more - all included in the price of admission! “The staff was friendly and helpful, more like family,” says one visitor, “my kids fell asleep in five minutes flat that night and my stomach still hurts from laughing so much!” Another local corn maze can be found at Gross Farms, located at 1606 Pickett Road in Sanford, and it will certainly put a smile on everyone’s face. With

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their season going through November 6th as well, there will be plenty of time to visit each farm at least once this year! There won’t be many zombies at the beach, or evil clowns at the pool, but you are sure to run into a few in October! The indoor haunt at the Aberdeen Fear Factory will certainly send goosebumps down your spine regardless of the weather since it’s inside, doors will be open rain or shine. Opening night is September 30th and will be open Wednesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays, from 7:30pmMidnight. Grab some special scares from October 27th each night until October 31st. New for 2016 is the outdoor “Zombie Outbreak” Paintball trail hunt which is sure to get your blood pumping. For $15, you will be provided all the paintball guns, ammo, and safety equipment needed to help contain the zombies and stop them from raging havoc throughout the trail. Afterwards, your courageous actions will be rewarded with a special entrance to the Fear Factory. Just don’t get caught by a zombie unless you like to eat brains! As if zombies and the thought of a factory filled


with fear isn’t enough to quench your thirst for horror, the Vander Haunted Trail will be sure to please. Located at 621 Autry Highway in Roseboro, and opening on September 30th, the drive will be well worth the ride. “It’s a lot more fun if you let yourself get scared! Also, 3D creepy clowns? Heck yes! I am planning on going every year forever!” says one of their many happy visitors. Now, what about some fright in support of firefighters? “The Trail of Terror is a fun-filled assault on your senses!” according to the Stoney Point Trail of Terror website. Open from 8pm11pm starting September 30th for 11 nights in October, the Trail of Terror is a must-see! This annual fundraiser, starting its thirteenth year, is run by the men and women of Stoney Point Fire Department with the help of volunteers from the community. The trail is located in the woods behind the fire department, at 7221 Stoney Point Road in Fayetteville, so be prepared for screams and frights all night! There are so many different places to stock up on memories and fun for the family, but the season wouldn’t be the same without the Fall Dogwood Festival in Festival Park. The festival begins on Thursday, October 27th from 6pm-10pm and continues on Friday, October 28th from 6pm-11pm and on Saturday, October 29th from 3pm-11pm. Each night there will be a guided walking tour in

the dark through the Cross Creek Cemetery while hearing creepy tales of Fayetteville’s true history. Once you’ve made it through the scary stories, take your chances in the LaFayette Insane Asylum outdoor haunted maze. Bring a canned good and receive a $1 discount for a scary good cause! All proceeds will benefit “Fishing to Fight Cancer”. At the end of the night, there will be not-so-scary hayrides running every 30 minutes to calm the nerves and relax the mind while strolling through Historic Downtown Fayetteville. With all the ghosts and ghouls at the festival, it might be easy to forget to eat. Don’t worry though Friday and Saturday will be full of live music, food, cold beer, and wine. Saturday from 3pm-10pm will also feature the flavorful Fayetteville Food Truck Festival with tons of food trucks from all over the Carolinas. Between the food, haunted trails, hayrides, mazes, and scares, October is shaping up to be quite the month to remember! Each season is truly something to behold, so enjoy each as they come - before you know it, it’ll be springtime again, and all of those crunchy leaves will turn into bright, blooming flowers. Might as well catch a zombie or two while they’re in season! •A•

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Jaiden Frost Written by Robin Minnick

Growing up in nearby Parkton, Jaiden Frost always

heard that Wilmington, North Carolina was the Hollywood of the East Coast. “I love my home,” he says, “so hearing that was great.” By the time he grew up determined to pursue a career in filmmaking, the North Carolina movie industry was not so vital. Like many, he went to Los Angeles. There, he found two things: L.A. wasn’t for him (especially financially), and few people in Los Angeles were aware of North Carolina’s influence on the film industry. For nearly 30 years, North Carolina had a major hand in filmmaking and television, in part due to incentives offered by the state. Supporting businesses sprang up and relationships developed among them, film studios, and other local businesses. Talent was drawn here, and inspired more. Filmmaking became a substantial part of North Carolina’s economy, producing such films as “Leatherheads” and “Iron Man 3”. In 2015, the incentives were dropped and replaced with lessfunded grants, which understandably resulted in a drop in movie-making activity in the state. Jaiden says there’s nothing more coming out of North Carolina now; everything is based in Los Angeles. Projects are filmed here, but they’re

produced by L.A. companies that receive all the credit. To pursue a career in filmmaking, people still have to go to Los Angeles. Jaiden wants to be able to work nearer to home. Further, he wants to re-ignite the pride in North Carolina’s film accomplishments. It’s not easy he’s only twenty-six. “I have the ability to create,” he says, “ but not the resources.” He wanted and needed to be able to work in North Carolina. A well-loved mentor advised him, “If you don’t need to come to L.A., don’t, but make damn sure that what you’re doing is worth it.” So Jaiden came up with a project to meet that standard and sat down and turned out a 130-page script in three days. He laughs brightly. “I took every good idea I had over the last five years and put them together and made something great,” he says. In his words, he’s “put all his cards in one hand.” The ideas he combined include the one he had for the first script he ever wrote, based on Fayetteville’s own Prince Charles Hotel. To that he added people hunting serial killers and the band ‘Victims of Burial’. Together these elements became a script titled ‘Victims of Burial’ and centered around a group of paranormal investigators checking out North Carolina most haunted sites and


one man’s struggle between immortalizing his legacy as photographer of the dead, and keeping the woman he loves alive. The script is non-linear, done in five acts, and will be, he feels, the standard of what will become known as a ‘Jaiden Froststyle script’. He likes finding stories that have been molded by retelling and building on them. He has great confidence in himself as a storyteller. When he talks about his script, his excitement is palpable. There has been a lot of buzz about ‘Victims of Burial’: its North Carolina filming and the plans to premier it here. However, it’s caused some confusion about the project’s production status. So much enthusiasm has generated that people think it’s already filmed. The fact is that ‘Victims of Burial’ still needs to be funded. Jaiden is in the process of actively seeking donations – if you are interested, see the sidebar for details.

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It’s his way of saying “look at all the talent we have here.” Maybe they can’t go to L.A. to chase the dream, but they can make movies all the same. Jaiden and his crew shot a film short, a sort of prequel to ‘Victims of Burial’, the story of Parkton native Velma Barfield, a serial killer put to death in 1984. He’d done his homework – or so he thought. The film site was a public cemetery, a place you can film in North Carolina with-out obtaining permission. However, as they started to shoot, nearly seven hours behind schedule and having lost about half their crew, the police pulled in. To Jaiden’s surprise, while it is a public cemetery, plots are considered private once sold. He’d have to contact the owners of each and every plot to get permission to continue filming. He’d have to re-collect his thirty-member crew, too, as nearly half of them had had to leave. He wound up shooting the film on his parent’s land at a small cemetery, shooting through the objections of some neighbors. Despite these headaches and other problems with the film, Jaiden is making resourceful use of the short. He’ll use it to create a trailer, for the book he’s making from his script. He hopes to make enough from book sales to re-invest wholly in ‘Victims of Burial’. Jaiden Frost is primarily self-educated: his only formal training in screenwriting is from UCLA seminars and watching B movies


purchased at Walmart. He watches and re-watches them, examining everything that was done wrong, looking for where they mess up. Crews seek him out for work, and he takes care of his people. When he sees potential in someone, he follows through, sharing his knowledge and coaching the person. He’s mentored a young makeup artist most recently, teaching her how to do script breakdowns and related tasks. Now she’s in demand for other projects - at only eighteen years old. He sometimes refers to him-self as a “walking film school” for his efforts. He’s their mentor, telling them if they work hard and keep learning, they can succeed. Jaiden is inspired by singular locations, scenes, places that speak to him until he feels he has to write a movie about it. “Does a location invoke a story before you ever write?” he asks, with a firm belief in that a location has to be able to tell a story in pictures. As much as he is a self-avowed “heavy dialogue writer”, at the end of the day, a movie is done with pictures. Jaiden is enthusiastic, passionate about filmmaking and as passionate about his home. He wants to make good film, but he also wants to do something for kids like himself, give them opportunities for work and show them it can be done. Making his film here, he hopes, will help to create more opportunity to chase the dream locally. It’s his way of saying “look at all the talent we have here.” Maybe they can’t go to L.A. to chase the dream, but they can make movies all the same.•A•

If you’d like to get in on the action, be a part of the industry, and bring North Carolina filmmaking back to life, here is how to become an investor. • You can make a donation by going to the gofundeme link here. www.gofundme.com/VOBNC • If you’d like to go larger-scale, you can message Jaiden thru either his or the film’s Facebook page www.facebook.com/vonc www.facebook.com/Jaidenfrost • Pitch in! It’s an opportunity to be part of the excitement of Jaiden’s film, and to help put North Carolina back on the movie industry’s map.

Pumps and Pearls October 22nd 2016

The casual mixer brings awareness to and raises money for the Mary Kay Foundation, a nonprofit that supports the research of cancers affecting women and domestic abuse shelters. Don’t miss this fun-filled opportunity to support a worthy cause.

No admission fee Doors open at 1 pm Raffles, vendors, swag bags Let Me Cater to You 445 Westwood Shopping Center Fayetteville, NC For more information contact Anissa Short at 910-364-9208

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Bullying: What can we do about it? Written by Amanda Loftus Photography by Kirsten Howard

Bullying can take form in many different ways,

especially with technology being in the hands of just about everyone – from youngsters about eight years old, to elders well into their nineties. The definition of bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose. In order to prevent and stop bullying, we must identify a difference between bullying and playful banter - when jokes are being targeted at one specific person repeatedly, there is reason to look into the actions more thoroughly. Seeing as the most prevalent opportunities for bullying are within the schools where children spend most of their time, each school has their own policies and procedures, both on school grounds and through the internet. For example, the Cumberland County Schools’ 2016-2017 Code of Conduct lists Bullying and Cyber Bullying as Class II Violations, which are considered “behaviors that significantly violate the rights of others or put others at risk of harm.” Other Class II Violations include Harassment, Extortion, and Possession of Drug Paraphernalia. Entering puberty is already a challenge, and hormones cause a chaotic whirlwind of physical and emotional differences at varying speeds for each person. Growing up is certainly confusing and difficult, so it seems impossible to anticipate every opportunity for bullying in school, but teachers are prepared when it comes to preventing, recognizing, and stopping bullying in the classroom. As described in the CCS Student Code of Conduct, bullying is a form of verbal harassment. “Bullying may include, but is not limited to, verbal taunts, name-calling and put downs, rumor spreading, extortion of money or possessions, implied or stated threats, and exclusion from peer groups.” With ever-changing technological advancements being made each day, it is necessary for these type of documents to be reevaluated on a regular basis. While bullying is an issue that isn’t new to society,

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cyber-bullying is rather new to the discussion. When it comes to the internet, it seems that it leads to a lot of gray area - nothing is just black-andwhite. “Cyber Bullying includes but is not limited to the following misuses of any school or non-school technology resources or networks: harassing, threatening, teasing, intimidating, humiliating, embarrassing, terrorizing another student or school employee by sending or posting such inappropriate or hurtful email messages, instant messages, text messages, text/digital pictures or images, or through social media websites and blogs,” according to a separate entry in the CCS Student Code of Conduct. Another aspect of cyber-bullying is more subtle – that is, the importance of children and young adults to realize the permanency of images and text that are put on the internet or sent electronically. With controversy over which jurisdiction the internet falls in, and authenticity arguments, holding students accountable for cyberbullying at the school level, even when not conducted on school grounds or equipment, is a step in the right direction for holding children accountable for their actions. With serious consequences, it’s also important for parents to monitor their children’s online activity regularly, not only the safety of their child, but for the community as a whole. “It greatly impacted our way of life. Depression, fighting to not go to school, grades dropped,” says Shannon Page, mother of six. Being a victim of bullying herself, watching her children go through it now is even more painful than when she was growing up. “It makes me more upset to see my own kids go through it.” Her resolution included taking legal action to ensure justice and home-schooling her children to prevent it in the future. Serious acts of bullying can cause traumatic life experiences for children in the prime stages of developing their social skills and mental maturity. When children are being bullied, it may be hard to talk to their parents and other adults; they can feel alone and ostracized. One significant step toward righting the


hurts felt is to make sure that the lines of communication are open and free from the beginning - regardless of any suspicion of bullying. “I make sure they know they’re safe and can tell me absolutely anything without feeling criticized for it,” says Shannon. Some children may just feel too embarrassed to speak up – certain indicators have shown having an open discussion regularly at home on the subject of bullying may lessen the fear and stigma of being bullied. It may even open a parent’s eyes to their child being the one who is bullying another. Though there is no way for every parent to know everything about their

child at every point in their life, communication is key. Insecurities are especially abundant in the pre-teen and teenage years for adolescents; feelings of inadequacies, fears, and differences can cause a lower feeling of selfworth, which could manifest in many different ways - such as bullying another to hide their own feelings of despair. These children are our future leaders, caretakers, teachers, nurses, and doctors. They may not see it now, but they are the most important part of the future, and as a community, we need to protect that future in every way. •A•

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The Value of Vulnerability Written by Daniel Martin Outsourced Ingenuity

Emotions drive people.

People drive results. This isn’t just touchy-feely, nice-to-have stuff. It’s a critical component of success and wellbeing in every area of your life. As we slowly transition out of the “stiff upper lip” era, there’s a brand new set of skills required to win in the marketplace. Did you know that 90% of wildly successful people have high emotional intelligence? What if I told you that 58% of

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your job performance depends on it? Tough to believe, right? Well, it’s true. You can even check it out for yourself. Take a look at some people you know who are successful (and if you don’t have any successful friends... well, that’s another conversation). How often do you see them lose control and blow up? Do they stay down when life punches them in the face or do they rub some dirt on it and keep moving? Do they avoid difficult situations

or confront them with grit and find win-win solutions? Really important one here...how do you feel when you’re around them? Do you feel drained or are you inspired to step your game up and make progress on your goals? We live in a world where the lone wolf is beginning to starve. The loose cannon isn’t welcome anymore. Where the “good guys” aren’t always finishing last. If you want to play in the world of collaboration, communication,


and connection, emotional Intelligence is the difference between a gold medal and a participation certificate. Ok, ok...I’m getting to the point. To sum up everything so far, emotions matter when it comes to success. So when it comes to dealing with other people, where does the work begin? Vulnerability. Technically defined, vulnerability is “the quality of being easily hurt or attacked”. That doesn’t just mean leaving your hands down in a boxing match...we’re talking about emotions here too. Speaking your mind even though it might ruffle some feathers is vulnerability. Admitting to an important client that you made a mistake is vulnerability. Being comfortable saying, “I don’t know” instead of pretending to have all the answers counts too. It’s easy to feel like “vulnerable” is the same as “weak”. That couldn’t be further from the truth. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to be vulnerable. And guess what? People like it. When your employees, colleagues, and customers see that you’re just as human as they are, it creates a level of trust and transparency in the relationship that didn’t exist before. So how can you get comfortable being vulnerable? For the next few days, focus on being aware of how you behave while dealing with others. See if you notice yourself doing or saying things to protect the way you’re seen by others. If you do, pause, let the image drop away so the unpolished, authentic version of you shine through, and see what happens. The results just might surprise you.•A•

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Stiletto Thoughts

Written by Lisa Thomas

I’m reading the book “Great

By Choice” and learning how companies like Apple remain great and the values they’ve adopted to do so. There’s a common theme of being “prepared”. While the book doesn’t cover in depth the value of understanding financials, according to businessmen like Kevin O’Leary of Shark Tank, a healthy relationship to financials is part of the winning formula for women. From profit and loss statements, to lifetime value of the client, to break-even analysis – knowing all

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g n i d Fin oice! V r u o Y of this financial information truly positions you to lead the pack. So, the preparation for success for any woman is to be armed with financial brilliance. At The P3 Group, we highlight and emphasize these nuggets that lead to stellar leverage when negotiating or being at the helm of a major corporation. But what happens when you’ve equipped your toolbox with the numbers, you understand them, yet you freeze in the very moment that matters? You’re a woman standing in a room full of men that dominate your industry and your voice all of sudden goes

silent. You freeze in fear that you may not quite get it right. • What will resonate with them most? • Do I sound smart enough? • What if I forget a part that matters? • What if my skirt is too high? • Is the lipstick too bright? • Should I project here? Or remain monotone? • How do I speak to the guy on the left to get his buy in? A multitude of questions evade your space and fear comes over you like a bad winter storm. Before finding yourself in this


peculiar position of dealing with mind chatter, preparation is key (as noted in Great By Choice). Preparation, coupled with knowing how your role impacts the bottom line, is paramount. However, the outcome also lies in your delivery - your ability to convey the message in a way that lands you right into the elite group of high ranking executives. The jewels that continue to set you apart are often hidden from your view. Most are not in the forefront to consider examining and are not as obvious as knowing the numbers. Worthiness – Know who you are and who you are not. Your willingness to embrace and accept all of it; your good parts, your not-so-good parts and everything in between; knowing you deserve the outcome. Courage – Forging ahead and taking the dive, confident that you’ve prepared and when you least expect it, you’ll swim like you’ve never swam before; bringing your very best. Ownership – As you wear your worthiness and courage, you’ll also own it all. What you bring fills the gap of what’s missing and what’s needed. Without you, it fails. OWN IT. Your worth, courage, owning the solution and preparation has you in a unique and powerful position. You can ASK for whatever you want: a raise, a promotion, the increased budget - whatever you desire. Go get it girls, the world is waiting! •A•

Lisa Thomas is CEO of The P3 Group, Inc., a revolutionary training and development company; President of NetWorth; freelance writer and radio show host. www.TheP3Group.com

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Contributed by Alan Porter, Strategic Wealth Strategies

I was reading a report from the

Age Lab at MIT and it stated if you are married and 65 or older there is a 75% chance that you or your spouse will contact 1. Dementia 2. Parkinson’s Disease, or 3. Alzheimer’s! That is a very scary thought. Are you aware that long term care or assisted living care can range from $70,000 to $120,000 a year or more in today’s economy and with the increases in Health Care Premiums think about what it will cost in the future! What if you and your spouse are still working putting money aside for your retirement and one or both parents become disabled? One of you may have to quit work to care for them, stopping the caregiver’s portion of the retirement savings. This can have catastrophic consequences. Not only to your future retirement plans, but the affects that these illnesses have on the caregiver are very extreme, which in turn affects the entire household. People need to start planning now, not 5 years before retirement or at retirement! People need to become educated about what is available to help them through a crisis such as this. You need to be aware that there are strategies available if followed correctly that can give you a TAX FREE retirement and also protect you and your family from long-term care expenses. You see the TV commercials that ask you, what is your number, the amount of money that you will need in retirement. Please understand this it is not the amount of money you have, it is the amount of money you will have after taxes. And, if you think that your taxes will go down in retirement, think again. Our National Debt is $19 TRILLION and growing. Our gross domestic product, I believe, is only $15

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Are You Prepared For Long Term Care In Retirement? trillion. Taxes already are going up, capital gains taxes are going up and there is talk about doing away with the estate tax deduction. What product would be best to help you achieve protection for your family, have your money grow tax deferred, access your money TAX FREE by IRS codes 7702 and 70E, and does not affect taxation of Social Security? Also it will help with expenses for long term care. Let me tell you this, it is not stocks, bonds, or mutual funds! It is properly structured cash value life insurance policies! People have not been educated about permanent cash value life insurance, they have always thought, as I used to, that you have to die to benefit from insurance. This is such a fallacy. Insurance is a living product, a wants and needs product. You can access your money from these policies while you are still alive. I have had many people tell me that insurance is a bad investment, to include Financial Planners,

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Ask Tina

Are you thinking about buying or selling a home? Have a question about real estate? Ask Tina. Linda A. Fayetteville, NC asks…

Can you please explain to me what Earnest Money is and if I have to pay it?

The process of paying Earnest

Monies is fairly straight forward and it tells the seller that you are fully committed to buying. This part of the process prevents potential buyers from putting in offers on several homes at once and keeping all off the market. In essence, it is a deposit on the home that the buyer gives in good faith. Rarely are contracts accepted without some type of deposit. If all goes well with the contract, these monies are applied toward the down payment and closing costs. In many cases, you can get most of your deposit back if you find things you do not like about the home during the Due Diligence period. It is very important that you are mindful of timeframes during this period. The amount of Earnest Monies that you will pay depends on several factors. The average you can expect to pay is 1%-2% of the purchase price. The seller may require you to pay more in some cases. Having a real estate agent that

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is savvy with how the market is in your area is helpful. In times where the market is slow and homes aren’t selling well, you may get away with putting the bare minimum down. If you are buying in a time where homes are selling quickly, the seller may require a more substantial deposit. Keep in mind that when an offer is pending, it is essentially off the market and the seller may miss out on other potential buyers. If you get into a bidding war for a particular home, offering a larger deposit may swing the seller towards your offer. In all cases when it comes to deposits and down payments, you might have to show that you have had the funds at least sixty days prior. If it is less than sixty days, the lender may require you to show where the funds came from. The Earnest Monies are usually

paid within five days of the fully executed contract. The closing attorney may hold these monies, and in some cases the real estate agent might hold them. The funds must be held in escrow. Never give the seller any monies. It could be very difficult to get them back if something should go wrong with the deal. It is wise to find out if and how monies are returned before paying anything. If you have to back out during the Due Diligence period, there is usually no issue. If you back out after that time frame, both parties have to agree how the money is to be disbursed. If no agreement can be reached, the case goes to the Magistrate for a decision. •A•

Send your real estate questions to Tina Dawson at tinardawson@gmail.com, or give her a call at 910-988-1969. Your question may be featured in an upcoming edition of Array.

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Publisher’s Note We must not allow other people’s limited perception to define us. ~Virginia Satire

The bright colors of fall are beginning to fill

the landscape and the smell of burning leaves will soon fill the air. Pumpkins and mums will decorate yards and doorsteps with those pumpkins soon turning to jack-o-lanterns. The Fayetteville area is such a busy place during the month of October. We have local corn mazes, haunted trails, insane asylums, zombie walks and so much more. Amanda has covered a few of the many events in this month’s issue. I’m sure you’ll want to see what fun family and adult activities will be taking place in our area. I’m always excited about all the things to do once Autumn arrives. October is National Bullying Prevention Month. Bullying has become a serious issue in our lives and those of our children and grandchildren. Lives are lost due to cyber bullying as well as bullying in the schools. While in the past it was looked upon as a childhood rite of passage but we now know that it can have devastating effects on children, at times leading to suicide. Let’s be more aware of this terrible plight that has taken over our children’s lives and put an end to it by speaking up and learning what we can do to stop it. A local church in Hope Mills is celebrating their 125th anniversary and sharing some of the events that helped to make the people attending strong and proud of all their church has been through in the past 125 years. Amy explores a church that is built of people and their beliefs and convictions and concern for the community. There are some exciting things happening in our local communities and one of those is the Prince Charles Hotel is getting a major face lift and new life. There is so much history associated with the hotel that this will be a series talking about what is happening currently, as well as touching on the past, and looking forward to the future. We should be proud that a hotel that was built in the early to mid-1920’s will once again become the gem it once was. Allie will be looking at the future of this historical building and how it will play into ArrayNC.com 48

our downtown area growing, changing and bringing life back to the area. September was a great opportunity to get out there and talk with so many of our readers and hear all the wonderful things they had to say. We are proud to have been a sponsor for the Fayetteville Walk to End Alzheimer’s as well as the International Folk Festival and the Chair-ity Auction. We are looking forward to getting our groove on in October with Woofstock and pawtying like it was the 60s and 70s again!! There are so many other events coming up and we are glad we can help our local community. Remember our advertisers and know they care about our community as well and need and appreciate your support. Their advertising is what allows us to bring you the magazine each month. If you are interested in advertising just contact us so we can custom design your marketing plan at an affordable price! We appreciate your support and hope you tell a friend to pick up a copy of ARRAY and tell a business to let us showcase their passion (their business)! Enjoy the cooler temperatures and the beautiful colorful scenery and enjoy all our community has to offer.

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