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Welcome to our inaugural edition of the Union County Women’s Journal. We are delighted to share informative, educational and objective articles written by local professionals. Our contributors took the time to write these articles while running their businesses in the midst of dealing with the challenges posed by the tenacious winter of 2014. We decided to make our inaugural issue a bridal issue because we thought about how close weddings are to a woman’s heart. How much more womanly can a journal get? You will read profiles of new businesses in the area that are ready to serve the people of Union County. We will showcase local organizations that are making a difference in the community. Our goal for this journal is to play a key role in helping the community flourish by providing the readership with valued information about products, services and the resources available to them. All of this content and more are provided in a FREE publication! Should you have any questions about any of the articles in this issue, please feel free to contact the article’s contributor directly. The Union County Women’s Journal can be found in several locations including: medical buildings, doctors’ offices, salons, spas, coffee shops, health clubs, supermarkets and many other local businesses. - Thank you for your support, Carol & Joyce, Publishers of The Union County Women’s Journal

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The cover photo was shot on location at the Pantagis Renaissance in Scotch Plains. As you step foot into the venue the ambiance is truly breathtaking. The cover model and bride, Justina and interior model, Chrissy D’Amore are wearing gorgeous gowns from Victoria Nicole, located in Westfield. The creation and coordination of this bridal theme came from the efforts of photographer and stylist team, Robert Manella and Martha Birdsong Dunning. Martha coordinated the models, location, flowers, and the wedding gowns. She has worked in production and styling for photographic shoots for over 25 years. Her daughter, Josie, a future student of Aveda Institute, Los Angeles, was our makeup artist. Robert Manella, of Robert Manella Photography provided all the photography work. He is a local photographer whose projects include JoS A Bank Clothiers, Sotheby’s, and Marriott Hotels. See our Bridal Story on pages 15-17 for more on these contributers.

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Carol Komondy

Carol Komondy began her career in the health and weight loss industry 25 years ago. While studying nutrition at a local college she began working part-time for Diet Center. After completing her Bachelor’s Degree in Nutrition, she became a certified weight loss counselor with Diet Center. “Diet Center has always impressed me because of their real food approach to weight loss.” Carol has over 25 years experience as a Diet Center Weight Loss Counselor and has helped hundreds of clients reach their weight loss goals. She is extremely passionate about helping people achieve their weight loss goals and making a commitment to healthy lifestyle changes. At Diet Center, we are in the business of bringing more and more people to wellness every day. Our supporting staff of counselors offer different insight to the needs of the individual clients. With our attention to personal needs our counselors will make you feel special. Not only will they make you feel at home with our home cooked recipes, they will even translate them to Spanish for you. Come in for your free consultation, meet your own personal weight loss counselors and let us show you why for over 41 years, millions of people have turned to Diet Center for weight loss that lasts a lifetime!

Catherine M. DeAppolonio, Esq. A talented and tenacious attorney, Catherine M. DeAppolonio joined Palumbo Renaud in 2005 practicing primarily in the areas of litigation, including public entity defense, civil rights defense, whistleblower claims, real estate, estate administration, land use and municipal law. Catherine graduated from Albany Law School in 2005. She graduated from the University of New Hampshire in 2002 with a B.A., University Honors in Political Science, magna cum laude degree in Political Science and was selected to Phi Beta Kappa. In 2013, Catherine was appointed to serve on the Supreme Court of New Jersey District XII Ethics Committee for Union County. She is the President of Women Lawyers of Union County. Since 2008, she has served as a Trustee on the Board of Trustees for King’s Daughters Day School in Plainfield, New Jersey and currently serves as President. In her free time, Catherine enjoys Crossfit, flag football, a nice glass of red wine, reading, and traveling.

Patricia Sharkey & Christina Bove Patricia Sharkey and Christina Bove are sisters and partners in The Emma Team, Union County’s top real estate team. Based out of Summit NJ they service all the surrounding communities including Mountainside, Berkeley Heights, New Providence and Springfield. They also service Morris and Essex counties. They have been agents at their father’s firm, Century 21 Emma Realtors, since 2008. They love what they do and are so grateful that they are able to do it alongside their father and broker, Joe Emma. With their different strengths, they make a well-rounded team that offer exceptional service to their clients. Having grown up in Mountainside, they both attended and graduated from Rutgers University. Christina spent six years working in the entertainment industry out of NYC before moving back to join the family business. While Patricia worked for one of the top stock photography companies for 5.5 years, gaining valuable experience in sales, marketing, and photo production. They both currently live in Mountainside with their husbands and children. Selling or buying a home is one of life’s biggest decisions and they take the responsibility they’re given very seriously. Visit their blog and website for local information or to search for homes in the area: www.TheEmmaTeam.com

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Tanya Hughes Freeman, Esq.

The Law Firm of Freeman Hughes Freeman, LLC, offers clients the individual attention of a small law firm with the experience of a large firm while fostering a comfortable environment for clients to get through highly sensitive legal matters. With over 30 years of combined experience, the attorneys at Freeman Hughes Freeman, led by husband and wife team Brian and Tanya Freeman, have a thorough understanding of family law and are adept at resolving all issues of contested divorce, uncontested divorce, no-fault divorce or high net worth divorce. The firm provides effective legal representation with matters such as asset division and the crucial issues involved in determining child custody and child support. Tanya Freeman graduated cum laude from Touro College Jacob D. Fuchsberg Law Center. Prior to partnering with her husband to practice law, Attorney Freeman spent over fifteen years leading audit divisions for prominent banking and insurance corporations.

Maria De Santis Maria De Santis, AAM board certified diplomate and New Jersey State licensed Cosmetologist since 1984. Maria’s specialty in color correction (the most commonly requested service), lip reshaping and areola restoration after reconstructive breast surgery has earned her great recognition with local Plastic Surgeons in New Jersey. Alopecia and Chemo patients have also found a solution with Maria’s creative techniques to simulate eyebrow and eyelash hairs. All are invited to a personal consultation review where they can see what the prospective procedure will look like, ask questions and begin building a trusting relationship with Maria.

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Maria routinely continues advance education courses to master her techniques. Her extensive training also certifies her in two types of methods used when performing procedures to achieve the desired look for each

During the course of 2006, Maria had the opportunity to study and train under 4 of the top instructors in this field to master the newest techniques and hypo allergenic pigments that were open to the industry in 2006.

Nicola Pemberton MD, FACOG Nicola Pemberton MD, FACOG, graduated with a Biology degree from the University of Miami, and then attended St. George’s University School of Medicine where she lived for two years in the West Indies. During her third year of medical school, she did her clinical rotations in England, which included a neuroscience selective in the Czech Republic. After graduation, she completed her Ob/Gyn residency at Newark Beth Israel Medical Center. Multiple recognitions for her resident teaching lead her to a faculty position at Maimonides Medical Center in Brooklyn, NY, where she was also a Clinical Assistant Professor at SUNY Downstate.  Now, she returns to New Jersey, where she resides with her husband and two children. Dr. Pemberton is board certified by the American Board of Obstetrics and Gynecology. She has training in general laparoscopic and robotic gynecologic surgery (e.g., myomectomy, hysterectomy, ovarian pathology), performs office procedures, such as endometrial ablation, cryosurgery, colposcopy and cone biopsy, and specializes in obstetrics, ! reproductive endocrinology, and benign adult and adolescent gynecology.

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system is called a myomectomy, which is the removal of uterine fibroids.

Fibroids are an irregular firm mass located near the center of the pelvis. Fibroids are most often found during the pelvic exam portion of a routine annual exam. Some women have mild symptoms or no symptom, while others may experience disruptive to sever symptoms that cause them to schedule a non-routine visit to their OBGNY doctor.

The da Vinci robot is now serving as a phenomenal tool for gynecologists to use in what is considered to be the more challenging surgical procedures. Not only is the robot safe and effective, but it is minimally invasive. Using the da Vinci Robot system allows the doctor to have better visualization, improved depth perception and better manipulation allowing for more accuracy with the surgery. This equates to a better operation.

Symptoms of uterine Fibroids can include: heavy or prolonged menstrual periods, pelvic pain, pain during intercourse, frequent urination, abnormal bleeding between periods, and low back pains. One of the more popular surgeries used by the robotic

benefits are clear as well. Using the da Vinci robotic systems allows gynecologist to minimize abdominal incisions. Gynecologists recommend the da Vinci because it allows patients to maximize their quality of life due to the speedy recovery. We believe that it is extremely rewarding to watch your patients go home the next day and return to regular activities within one to two weeks versus months. With the considering of having less postoperative pain, less recovery time, blood loss reduction, fewer risks of postoperative complications such as infections and a shorter hospital stay, we encourage readers to consider discussing the robot as an option for gynecological surgery with Dr. Pemberton and the team at Artemis OB/ GYN.

Using the da Vinci Robotic system allows a gynecologist to minimize abdominal incisions resulting in shorter recovery, less pain and blood loss and shorter hospital stays. The robot is also helpful when it comes to suturing. It enables us to sew things up inside the belly by using the robotic cams. For patients, the

Nicola Pemberton, MD, graduated with a Biology degree from the University of Miami, and then attended St. George’s University School of Medicine.  During her third year of medical school, she did her clinical rotations in England, which included a neuroscience selective in the Czech Republic. After graduation, she completed her Ob/Gyn residency at Newark Beth Israel Medical.

Dr. Pemberton uses the da Vinci Robot to perform the following procedures: • Complex removal of endometriosis • Hysterectomy • Myomectomy • Ovarian tumors

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Having a great smile on your wedding day can make a huge difference in the way you look and feel. Cosmetic Dentistry can address the confident smile that you have always wanted. There are several procedures that can assist you in achieving that perfect smile. People seek cosmetic dentistry for a variety of reasons. Some people simply want to look younger, and cosmetic dentistry is like a dental facelift that can quickly “reverse” the natural aging process of the teeth. Others, the majority, have had unattractive teeth their whole lives and have always felt self-conscious because of them. They will rarely smile, which can often hide a warm side of their personality. Modern dentistry offers a wide variety of treatment options for people seeking to enhance their smile. The options range from porcelain veneers to braces! In many cases, a combination of these techniques is required to deliver the best results. This article explains three different techniques available in the field of cosmetic dentistry and shows you the benefits of each. Veneers are custom-made porcelain wafers that the dentist places over the fronts of the teeth to enhance their appearance and also to repair damage. Veneers can dramatically change a person’s smile and help improve their self-confidence. Veneers can be used to improve a wide variety of cosmetic dental problems. They can whiten stained or discolored teeth, close gaps between teeth, “correct” a crooked smile without the need for braces, repair chips and imperfections, and create a more attractive or youthful looking smile. The procedure usually involves removing only a thin amount of the outermost layer of the tooth, called the enamel. The dentist then takes molds (impressions) of the mouth. Temporary veneers are then placed for the patient to wear

Achieve a Wedding Ready Smile By Dr. Mindy OK while the permanent veneers are being made. The procedure usually takes between one and a half to two hours. Clear orthodontics (Invisalign) straightens teeth without calling attention to the fact that you have braces, rather than using wires and brackets. Invisalign employs a custom made removable aligner that move teeth into to place discreetly and comfortably. The aesthetic aspect is important because having a smile you love can increase your happiness and self-esteem, whether you are an adult, teenager or child. Teeth Whitening is another procedure to assist you in achieving a perfect bridal smile. Tooth whitening involves the use of peroxide-based materials to whiten teeth. Most dentists use an inoffice whitening system to achieve the desired results. Before tooth whitening, the patient must get all cavities filled, and the gums must be healthy. The in-office systems use 35% hydrogen peroxide gels coupled with a high intensity light to whiten the teeth. The gums need to be protected with some systems, and then gels are placed on the teeth. A laser or plasma arc light source activates the peroxide to oxidize stains on the tooth surface. In about an hour, the teeth become four to six shades lighter .You can whiten yellow teeth and virtually eliminate tobacco, tea, and coffee stains. Both comfortable and affordable, teeth whitening can make your teeth up to eight shades lighter. It’s safe, effective and fast and can be properly performed only by a dental professional. Although there are several other options of cosmetic dentistry, for the best results, you and your dentist should talk about what outcome you expect before you begin treatments. Schedule your appointment with Dr. Mindy Ok at Summit Dentist to begin your smile makeover.

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Testimonials I was very impressed with Dr. OK and her staff. They were all pleasant, professional and made me feel very comfortable. Dr. Ok did a superb job with the Botox® & Juvéderm® on my face. I will return for my post op for some minor adjustments but I am very happy. I will return on a steady basis and hope to also come to Dr. Ok as my dentist as well. Her hours of operation are also fantastic !!! Thank you all! - AKW Summit Dentist is a very clean and comfortable environment. I never had a problem with any of the work that I received. They always provide the best option for your personal needs. - Kevin B. The office is clean, bright. The whole process from appointment to the “event” of getting my cavities filled was painless and a breeze.  Dr. Ok and her staff are friendly and efficient and I didn’t have to wait.  Even if I had, I wouldn’t have minded as each room has a TV to watch and

magazines to read to keep you occupied.  She was in and out, quick and painless, and next thing I knew, my 4 cavities were taken care of. She also made recommendations for me based on my x-rays on what to do to keep the health of my teeth into the future to prevent major work.  She is the first dentist to do that. Can you ask for more? - Caroline C. Dr. Ok is a wonderful dentist. She is gentle, thorough and very professional. My tooth extraction was a big deal, but she reviewed what I should expect afterward and called the following day to check on my status. -Francine M.

CREATING THE COMPLETE SMILE. Dr. Mindy Ok is part of the Summit tradition of dental comfort and care. She is a 1997 graduate of the University of Pennsylvania School of Dental Medicine. This school has ranked as one of the top dental schools in the country. She has dedicated her professional career to providing you with the best that dentistry has to offer. She received the Fellowship award from the Academy of General Dentistry in 2006. Only 7% of dentists nationwide have the FAGD status. Dr. Mindy Ok has over 500 hours of continuous education in Cosmetic and General Dentistry which includes same day veneers, all porcelain crowns, composite fillings, Invisalign, dental implants, gum treatments, root canals and preventative care.

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Many women are afraid of mammograms but having one is definitely worthwhile. In fact, it can even save a woman’s life. If the test is normal, you will feel better knowing that you are OK. If however; there is a problem, it is better to know early. Regular mammograms can detect breast cancer BEFORE it spreads. Treatment works best when the cancer is found early.

Make an appointment to see your Doctor for a mammogram if you fall under any of these categories that pose a higher risk: • Your Mother OR sister has/had breast cancer • You have Jewish ancestors from Eastern Europe (A certain gene is carried among this group) • You had your first menstrual period before age 12 • You NEVER had children OR you had your first child after age 30 • You had radiation treatments to your chest area • You have a lump, nipple, discharge, breast pain or dimpling of skin on the breast

Breast cancer is NOT a death sentence when detected early. Detection at later stages may be managed with all the new technologies and treatment available. It is never too late to be evaluated and undergo treatment. There is life after the diagnosis. FACE YOUR FEAR and TAKE CHARGE!!

Starting at age 40 women should have a mammogram every 1 – 2 years. If you feel a lump, see or have questions about anything unusual in your breast contact your health care provider.

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How do I get ready for my mammogram? • Make the appointment for 1 week after your period, when the breasts are less sensitive. • Wear a shirt with shorts, pants or skirt. This makes easier to undress from the waist up. • Do not wear deodorant, perfume, lotion or powder under arms or on your breasts on the day of your appointment. These products make shadows on the mammogram.

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Let’s get you into that dress! By Carol Komondy

Whether the dress you dream of is a size six or a sixteen, here are some secrets to help you get into it. For most brides the time before their wedding is full of social outings with friends and family, shopping for bridesmaid dresses, photographers, music and venues. Of course, you will be eating along the way. Months before your big day decide to make all your food choices healthy ones. When you focus early on making positive changes to your health, your reward will be the stunning dream dress you will be wearing the day of your wedding.

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Consume water daily. Seventy-five percent of the population walks around dehydrated every day and even mild dehydration will slow your body’s metabolism, thereby making it more difficult to burn any excess calories you may consume. Many people mistake thirst for hunger, so next time you think you want food, drink water instead.

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Be sure every meal and snack includes a good low-fat source of protein. Consuming adequate amounts of protein will help ward off hunger and mindless eating. Protein also helps the body build muscle and contrary to popular belief, muscles look sexy by adding definition and curves to the body.

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Include fiber in your daily diet. When your body has the right amount of fiber, your fabulous intestinal system will eliminate toxins daily. Skimp on fiber just a bit and you will be left feeling bloated and uncomfortable.

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Keep a food journal. Even when done intermittently, tracking the food you eat is a great way to stay focused on eating healthy, but can also be a very useful tool if ever needed to detect foods that do not agree with you.

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Be active every day. During this

 

great time in your life your activity level may not be something you need focus on, but for those who do, regular activity will not only help your body burn calories, it will also help reduce your pre wedding stress level. Daily exercise with a focus on building muscle will also benefit your shape in your dream dress. One easy way to increase your daily activity is to track your steps, flights of stairs and exercise. Keeping it in your journal will help you set goals to increase your activity to attain the results of your dreams.

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more people to wellness every day. Carol has over 25 years’ experience as a Diet Center Weight Loss Counselor and has helped hundreds of clients reach their weight loss goals. She is extremely passionate about helping people achieve their weight loss goals and making a commitment to healthy lifestyle changes.

When your weight is not at your desired goal, it can lower your selfconfidence and self-esteem. How you see yourself is important to how you appear to others. When you are overweight, it can rob you of vitality and your zest for life. When you change your lifestyle habits with regard to eating and your health, the benefits will begin to show almost immediately. Take pictures and measurements each month so you can visually record your results. When you are happy and healthy, you generally look and feel better, have higher self-esteem and more energy. Statistically you will live longer. So grab your friends, your family and your fiancé and get started on your road to great

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Banquet Directors: Konstantine Garyfallos, Al DeRienzo, Thomas Brenner

From the moment you arrive until your last guest has departed, you and your guests will find yourselves surrounded by elegant and stylish surroundings and looked after by the warm and professional staff that is the pride of the Pantagis Renaissance.

and your guests will enjoy the attentive personal service of our professional staff and the masterful cuisine of our gifted chefs. Our group of culinary professionals craft menus with creativity and enthusiasm designed to please the most discriminating of palates. 

From rehearsal dinners to brunches to the wedding ceremony and reception, our thirty-five years of experience promises the art of a perfect wedding. Our professional catering staff and culinary experts are prepared to implement every aspect of your vision so that you can relax, savor the moment and enjoy the wedding of your dreams.

For signature meetings, flawless receptions and distinctive social occasions look no further than the Pantagis Renaissance. Our eight distinctive ballrooms offer flexible space ideal for stylish private parties, one-of-a-kind business meetings and truly unforgettable events. Our warm and welcoming atmosphere is perfect for any affair and our courteous, efficient staff is prepared to implement every element of your vision.

Let us help you begin planning for this unforgettable occasion. For personal assistance and a tour of our facilities, please contact us. We look forward to making one of the most important moments in your life an experience to remember for years to come. At the Pantagis Renaissance, we understand that the promises two people make to each other on their wedding day form the foundation of their future together. The exchange of vows is a heartfelt expression of the hopes and dreams they have for their lives together and to be invited to share such a special occasion is an extraordinary privilege. We are honored to help you create a ceremony that expresses your individuality and transforms the exchange of vows into a moment you will treasure forever. With two inside chapels and a romantic outdoor gazebo to choose from, our wedding specialists will guide you every step of the way to make sure your special day is a dream come true.

At the Pantagis Renaissance, it is our personal mission to create events that stir the imagination and challenge expectations. We have the ability to customize every aspect of your function from theme to cuisine and our event coordinators are experts at anticipating the needs and desires of your guests. Offering a sophisticated setting, delectable cuisine and superb staff, the Pantagis Renaissance is the perfect venue choice for hosting your next social or corporate event. For personal assistance and tour of our facilities, we invite you to contact us soon.

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Our 2014 Wedding.. Victoria Nicole

Victoria Nicole provided our breathtaking gowns. Victoria is an award-winning designer who was born and educated in Philadelphia. She graduated from Drexel University’s Nesbit School of Art & Design. Victoria’s first design job was on the staff of the well-known bridal designer Christos, where she worked as an assistant. Victoria launched, designed and managed her own bridal design company (whom she named in honor of her grandmother) for almost 20 years. Her signature gowns have been worn internationally by thousands of brides including Oscar winning actress Hilary Swank. In 2007, Victoria was awarded “Couture Bridal Gown Designer of the Year “ for the Classic Designs by Wedding Dress Magazine. Each Victoria Nicole gown is a picture of timeless elegance, and the entire line features beautiful silk and organzas as well as Victoria Nicole’s signature handembroidered beading and accents. Known for its classy sophistication, Victoria says of her work “It is my intent to create styles that a bride can reflect on many years later and still love the way they looked on their wedding day”. Please visit the Victoria Nicole website at www.victorianicole.com to view the entire collection of bridal designs

Jefre Bridal Our beautiful bridesmaids’ dresses were provided by Jefre Bridal. Jefre Bridal is located at 217 U.S. 22, Green Brook Township, NJ 08812. A family owned business, Jefre Bridal has operated continuously since 1958. Attention to detail is what sets Jefre Bridal apart from larger supermarket bridal shops. When you visit Jefre Bridals, you’ll find a wide selection of designer dresses to outfit the bride and her entire bridal party. Jefre bridals offer you quality designer dresses that are sized and ordered for you. In most cases, alterations are minimal and for the bride there are no alteration charges. Our talented European seamstresses are always on the premises to customize your bridal gown. Once you have chosen your gown, our consultant will help you create a total coordinated wedding look, including every member of the wedding party. Allow Jefre Bridals to help you plan the wedding of your dreams. Please call Jefre at 732-968-7733 or contact us at info@jefrebridals.com.

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Martha birdsong dunning, producer & stylist

Our 2014 Union County Women’s Journal Wedding was produced and styled by Martha Birdsong Dunning. Martha’s career spans 20 years and she resides locally in Union County. Martha also created both of the bridal bouquets. She can be reached by email or cell phone; marthabirdsong@mac.com (917) 825 0836

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Justina Valentine, singer/songwriter/model entrepreneur, comes from New Jersey and is steadily making waves through out the nation with her music & fashion blogging. She recently released her debut EP, “Valentine”, which ranked #38 on the iTunes R&B charts. For updates on Justina find her online at www.JustinaMusic.com & www.JustinaFashion.com. Instagram/Twitter @ JustinaMusic

Chrissy Cetinich D’Amore is a stylist, business owner and model from Cedar Grove, NJ. With over 10 years of experience in the fashion world, Chrissy has styled for big name fashion houses such as DKNY, Cole Haan, Vince, Lacoste and many others. She is also a lifestyle model and owner of a home decor line, La Bella Candela. Follow Chrissy on Instagram @labellaamore For Chrissy’s home decor line visit www.LaBellaCandela.com For Chrissy and Justina’s fashion blog go to www.2sisters1closet.com

josie faye dunning, make-up artist

Josie Dunning worked with our models to create the beautiful bridal make-up and hair. Josie has worked primarily in makeup, for many special events including weddings, bridal showers, sweet 16 events and has glamorized many a glowing prom girl. She will be continuing her endeavors in the field of professional make-up when she attends the Aveda Institute in Los Angeles this fall. For rates and a free consultation, please contact us by mobile or email: josiedunning@earthlink.net (908) 917 5235

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Vendors & Participants Robert Manella photography

Photography for the bridal story was shot by Robert Manella. A New York City based commercial photographer with over 25 years of experience in the industry. Robert’s range of talents includes fashion for editorial, catalogue and advertising. He has also branched out by combining video and stills for several clients, weddings and special events. Robert is a long time contributing photographer to Getty Images; his stock photographs have appeared worldwide. Robert is the photography director of “Ocean Style” magazine, for which he travels frequently to Jamaica and other Caribbean destinations.

Additionally Robert resides in Union County, where he shoots real estate and architecture for Callaway Henderson Sotheby’s International Realty, primarily in the Princeton, NJ area. Robert loves to meet and collaborate with other creative people; he often works on shoots in tandem with his wife, producer & stylist, Martha Birdsong Dunning.

Pantagis Renaissance

Vibrant, inviting and definitely unique: At the Pantagis Renaissance, your dream of a beautiful, distinctive wedding becomes reality. From the moment you arrive until your last guest has departed, you and your guests will find yourselves surrounded by elegant and stylish surroundings and looked after by the warm and professional staff that is the pride of the Pantagis Renaissance. From rehearsal dinners to brunches to the wedding ceremony and reception, our thirty-five years of experience promises the art of a perfect wedding. Our professional catering staff and culinary experts are prepared to implement every aspect of your vision so that you can relax, savor the moment and enjoy the wedding of your dreams. Let us help you begin planning for this unforgettable occasion. For personal assistance and a tour of our facilities, please contact us at 908-322-7726 or visit our website at www.pantagis.com. We look forward to making one of the most important moments in your life an experience to remember for years to come.season.

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“Grin and bear it.” Many people just think that is just the way it goes. I can assure you that is not the way it has to go down - you can have a nice relaxing stressfree, pain-free wedding that is orderly, with people being able to communicate clearly with you, and you with them. Even handling hiccups and unfortunate changes will become a minor glitch in the plan, so they don’t throw you off the deep end. If you are like many brides you become overwhelmed with the amount of things that must be done in planning a wedding. This overwhelm takes a toll on a woman. From the dress, to the catering, flowers, DJ, band, photographer, invites, and picking the date most of all - the list never ends. To be honest with you, this sounds like an every day thing. Women always have endless to-do lists. So what’s the difference between a wedding to-do list and your daily grind? The answer is: the highly emotional attachment state you have to your wedding. This state confuses and muddles the way that you actually function in life; it causes many other things to go wrong: you become short tempered, having aches and pains in places that you don’t really have aches and pains normally. On top of that, you’re beginning to forget certain aspects of what needs to happen, which causes a ripple effect of small problems, after small problems making your wedding planning very stressful and overwhelming.

WHAT IT TAKES TO HAVE A STRESS-FREE, PAIN-FREE WEDDING By Patrick Lerouge, Restorative Therapist and founder emotional foundation, and mental foundation. For the wedding, we will be focusing on the emotional foundation and the mental foundation. Your emotional foundation consists of Trust, Love, and Safety. If one of these parts are triggered, your emotions will run out of control, resulting in a loss of a lot of energy. In the case of your wedding, you feel unsafe because you are not trusting yourself to have the “perfect” wedding because of the many moving parts. Your mental foundation consists of Clarity, Focus, and Drive. Your clarity and focus are affected when your emotional foundation is being triggered – such as feeling unfocused due to a lack of trust and safety. The first step that needs to happen is you need to balance out the fact that you feel unsafe and not trusting in yourself. Ladies, please believe you will not do something purposefully to ruin your wedding. The only way to regain your safety is to realize that. Realize that you’ve been dreaming about this: it’s already all in your head, you just have to visualize and realize it as if it already happened, and everything went fine. Once you are able to do that, you realize you’re safe. Then, you just have to play it out.

You must begin to put on the brakes and check in with yourself, noticing what part you’re playing within the whole, and correct it.

Which brings us to the mental aspect - you must now be clear about that vision of your wedding, seeing what you saw in your dream and in your head, and bring it into reality. Once you are clear on your vision, you now have to get focused on just making the to-do list. Now that the to-do list is made, are you second guessing anything? Trust yourself - but keep in mind there is another person in this wedding. Just trust your judgment, trust your vision.

To break the cycle of overwhelm, you need to understand that your body is built off of three foundations: structural foundation,

Where many people make their fatal mistakes is when they don’t get completely clear with their vision. To do this you must sit

So what is a woman supposed to do when she’s planning the most important day of her life?

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down with yourself in a quiet place and play out your wedding in your head. The more you play it out, the clearer the vision will be. As you get closer and closer to your wedding you will start to notice that this is just like planning and executing every single day. All you should be doing is saying to yourself “this is how my day will play out.” What is left is checking off the next thing on the list. Remember: just because you don’t check all things off in one day doesn’t mean it won’t get done tomorrow. Stay true to yourself and remember if you become emotionally triggered you will lose control - and that’s when the stress creeps in and begins to overwhelm you. Testimonials I started going to Patrick after having countless running injuries.

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As happy couples plan to walk down the aisle and begin a new life together, they should also consider whether a premarital agreement is right for them. Premarital agreements are designed to help parties arrange their matters in advance in the event of a divorce or separation. Whether you are preparing for your first visit to an attorney or have been presented with a draft of a premarital agreement by your fiancé, there are several questions for you to consider and discuss with an attorney: 1. Premarital Assets & Liabilities Prepare a list of all your current assets and liabilities. It is essential to identify what assets were truly pre-marital and what debt each party may have. 2. How Will the Laws of Inheritance Impact You Whether or not you have a will, fully understanding the inheritance laws in New Jersey is essential. If one spouse dies with out a will, what rights will the surviving spouse have? Likewise, if the spouse has a will, what rights do the surviving spouse have to receive any portion of the deceased spouse’s estate above and beyond what is provided in the will? 3. Children If one spouse has children from a prior relationship, how will the parties share costs and expenses for that child after the marriage? Will the payment of expenses on behalf of the other party’s child imply any obligation to do so in the future? If children are born of the marriage, is the premarital agreement invalidated? If one spouse leaves employment to provide full-time care to a child born of the marriage, is there agreement on whether that spouse will receive a pre-

10 Things to Consider Before You Say “I Do” without a Premarital Agreement By Tanya Hughes Freeman, Esq. determined sum of alimony in the event of divorce? 4. Living Expenses Have the parties discussed how they will share household expenses? What about savings, will each save for retirement in equal proportions. If one party receives a bonus, is there agreement on what percentage of the bonus is spent versus what is earmarked for savings? 5. Tax Returns Will the parties file joint tax returns post marriage? If so, how will they share any resulting refund or liability? 6. Property Acquired During the Marriage When the parties acquire property (real estate, cars or other large purchases), in the event of divorce or separation, will the property be divided equally, or in proportion to each person’s financial contribution to the property? 7. Gifts How will gifts received during the marriage, including wedding presents be divided in the event of divorce? Will gifts received by one party be treated differently? 8. Insurance The parties should also discuss life insurance benefits for one another and who will provide medical coverage for the family. 9. Debt Will each party assume full responsibility for any debt incurred during the marriage in his or her individual name? How will the parties treat debt incurred during the marriage? Will each party be solely responsible for any premarital debt he or she may have prior to marriage irrespective of whether the parties later use marital funds to make payments towards that debt?

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10. Relocation New Jersey is an equitable distribution state in contrast to a community property state. If the parties relocate from New Jersey to a community property state, will they wish to have the laws of equitable distribution govern or community property laws. A visit to a knowledgeable family law attorney can help you find the answers you need before saying “I Do.” The attorneys at Freeman Hughes Freeman, led by husband and wife team Tanya and Brian Freeman, have a thorough understanding of family law and are adept at resolving all issues of contested divorce, uncontested divorce, nofault divorce and high net worth divorce. Prior to partnering with her husband to practice law, Attorney Tanya Freeman spent over fifteen years leading audit divisions for prominent banking and insurance companies.

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Carla Friday

Owner and Wedding Day Coordinator at Details Made Simple. Carla Friday has turned her passion for weddings and appreciation for love into the most rewarding career. With her keen eye for design and huge attention to detail, Carla is so proud to call Details Made Simple her very own! She puts her meticulous organizational skills and professional list making to good use. With years of event planning, graphic design and arts & crafts experience, she is able to make any brides’ big day memorable. In fact, many of her brides have named her their very own “Gal Friday”! “As the owner of such a unique company, I hold myself and my amazing team to exceeding our client’s expectations on a daily basis. Developing a personal relationship with each bride is the key to making each wedding unique and memorable, and this is important to us,” says Carla. Carla continues to attend year round wedding expos and trainings to stay on top of the latest trends as she believes that every bride deserves the day of her dreams! You can find her and the team in their amazing new office located in downtown Westfield, NJ. To contact Carla, please call Details Made Simple at 732.692.4259 or visit www.DetailsMadeSimple.com

Regina Smith Regina Smith is a highly skilled and well-trained esthetician licensed in the state of New Jersey. She began her esthetics career in 2004 with world renowned dermatologist Dr. Howard Murad.  Prior to working in skincare she was a national makeup artist for brands like MAC and Laura Mercier. Regina started R Studio in 2009 when she was trained by Sophia Navarro of Novalash and received an advanced certificate. She continued to train and become certified with Xtreme Lashes who is the global leader in eyelash extensions. R Studio Lash Spa is the premier destination for eyelash extensions in the tri-state area. Our service is privately located in the heart of downtown Westfield across from Starbucks, we offer the best quality of materials used in the industry i.e.., mink faux, synthetic and silk eyelash extensions. We customize all services with compassion to exceed the client expectations in a relaxed spa environment. We understand that many salons now offer eyelash extensions but we encourage you to understand that not all lash stylists receive the extensive training and education. Our lash stylists have not only received advanced training and certification from many of the leading lash companies but they receive continuing education designed especially for R Studio Lash Spa. It’s this advanced training that allows us to provide superior service. Making a more beautiful you……one lash at a time. For more information please contact us: R Studio Lash Spa

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Lissa-Marie Ribeiro Lissa-Marie Ribeiro was born in Elizabeth, NJ and currently resides in Roselle Park with her husband, two children and her dog. She graduated from The Learning Institute of Beauty Sciences in Manhattan. Her 19 years experience in the hair and makeup industry and her pursuit of excellence in a constantly evolving profession makes her a much sought after artist. In keeping up with industry changes she often attends seminars and classes to further her education.  She possesses a strong background and has built a well recognized name amongst brides and brides-to-be. Also freelancing in fashion, editorial and multimedia she has had the pleasure of working with some well recognized names in the entertainment industry. Femme Studio was voted Best of Weddings by The Knot for 2010, 2011, 2012 and 2014. She loves cooking, crafting and photography. FEMME Studio, Bridal Xperience 908-456-1444 www.femmestudio.carbonmade.com www.bridalxperience.carbonmade.com

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Fashion Beauty and

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According to the American Academy of Dermatology, the average adult uses at least seven different skin care products each day. Think of the time and expense, the uneven brows and smeared eyeliner, the smudged lipstick that gets on your teeth or the broken tube that sits in the bottom of your favorite handbag. 

A Desire to always look your best By Maria De Santis optical anesthetics have been developed for permanent cosmetic procedures and are used to keep clients comfortable. There are many different procedures a permanent cosmetic technician can provide. The most

The pigments are specifically formulated for the face, using natural and iron oxide ingredients so there is little chance of allergic reaction. A patch test can be given 48 hours prior to receiving a procedure at the clients’ request. The actual procedure takes approximately 1 hour. Several areas can be completed in one visit. Effective REASONS TO CONSIDER PERMANENT COSMETICS • BUSY WITH FAMILY • AN ACTIVE LIFESTYLE • MS PATIENTS THAT CAN’T APPLY MAKEUP as they would wish     • MENOPAUSAL WOMEN SWEATING OFF MAKE UP • HAIR LOSS DUE TO ALOPECIA/ CHEMO/TRICOTILLOMANIA • VISUALLY IMPAIRED • LITTLE OR NO BROW GROWTH • WORRY-FREE VACATIONS • SAVE TIME IN THE morning • SAVE $$$$ ON MAKEUP • CLEFT LIP RESHAPING      • AREOLA POST OP RECONSTRUCTION • THIN OR NO LIPS 

What can permanent cosmetics do for me? It can enhance your eyebrows, eyes & lips and make your morning routine easier. Why have permanent cosmetics? You can save time and money. You’d also eliminate worrying about smearing and smudging, makeup removal or cosmetic allergies.

Then, imagine never having to think about applying make-up again. Permanent cosmetics also known as Micropigmentation, is the art and science of implanting color into your skin. The specialized state of the art digital machine and sterilized disposable needles used, allow color placement into the layer of skin known as the dermis. Since the color is placed “in” your skin and not “on” your skin a more natural, softer look results. 

patch test is done 48 hours prior to receiving treatment at the clients’ request.

frequently requested are brows, eyeliner and lip color. Lip liner is perfect for correcting cleft lip, uneven lips, adding fullness or giving more definition to the mouth. It will also eliminate annoying lipstick bleed. In addition to the commonly requested permanent makeup, reconstructive procedures such as scar camouflage, repigmentation of the areola and nipples after a mastectomy or breast reduction, or re-creation of hair lost as a result of alopecia or chemotherapy can be performed. Although techniques may vary, the results are always the same: permanent waterproof, hassle free and always fresh. FAQs Can I tell in advance which shape & colors will look best on me? Yes. All shaping and color selecting will be done before treatments to meet your approval. What colors are available? Select from 50 natural tones or a custom blend can be developed for your own unique color. Could I have an allergic reaction? The pigments used are created from natural and iron oxide so there is little chance of allergic reaction. A

Does it hurt? Most clients do not feel anything. A few might experience a little discomfort described as a “plucking” sensation only in the brow area.  A very effective anesthetic topical is used to keep the area numb. How long do permanent cosmetics last? Micropigmentation is semipermanent, meaning it won’t wash off . However, with age, lifestyle, routine products used the colors may soften. Touchups are required. To help prevent fading apply sunscreen daily. Additional post procedure information is given and explained thoroughly to each client before leaving the office.

Maria De Santis, AAM board certified diplomate and New Jersey State licensed Cosmetologist since 1984. Maria De Santis DAAM/FSPCP, Permanent Cosmetic Specialist created A Face Forever LLC to offer clients a one-on-one experience in a warm atmosphere that follows the proper laws to Micropigmentation a.k.a. Permanent Cosmetic protocol. Her expertise and desire to form close relationships with her clients makes her a top professional in her field. Maria understands and values the importance of quality customer service. Due to Maria’s high recognition in the Permanent Cosmetic field, local doctors have and continue to refer Maria to their patients.

Testimonials “I believe I have made three visits to Maria over the years and will be calling her again soon for a touchup.  She keeps excellent records and photos on each person.  I am now free from worrying about my eye makeup; it is professionally done, subtle, and just perfect. Maria is one of the best, if not the best, in her field.” - Nancy U. “Hi Maria, you’ve done my eyebrows almost a year ago and I couldn’t be happier, no more penciling it before leaving the house. I wanted to email you and let you know how grateful I am but kept forgetting it. You’ve improved my life and I am grateful… Thank you =)” - Selma T.

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Our vision comes from the Brazilian waxes and body treatments that have been in my family for generations.  These recipes have been perfected using organic and homeopathic oils, vegetable based compounds, and other natural ingredients from the rainforests of Brazil.  Today, Girl From Ipanema’s waxes and skin care treatments contain the same natural ingredients and are prepared regularly in small batches, making them gentle for even our most sensitive guests. It is this 100% natural recipe that allows us to provide a less painful service, minimizing hair regrowth and skin irritation, while also diminishing the formation of ingrown hairs. Our service providers are individually hand trained in the technique specific to our natural hard wax.  All have been perfecting their skills for years, some even for decades.  They have a passion for providing the very best skin care treatments, while creating a comfortable and friendly environment.    Girl From Ipanema Spa provides a range of skin and body care treatments that will leave you looking and feeling beautiful.  Our focus on each of our guests and out attention to detail is as much a part of our philosophy as the products and services we provide.   Why wax Waxing is one of the best ways to temporarily remove unwanted hair. it is more effective than shaving because it removes the entire hair from the root, not just from the surface of the skin. Over time, and with repeated waxing, unwanted hair grows back finer and sparser. When shaving, you also scrape and cut the top layer of the skin, which causes razor burn and (over time) makes the skin in that area darker, scalier and harder (dead skin). Waxing preparation: For best results we suggest that your skin be clean and exfoliated prior to waxing. Relax and don’t

come see the difference my family recipes from the rainforests of brazil makes By Rosana Elias be embarrassed, our waxers all have extensive training and are extremely professional. How long will the results last? After your first wax, the results can last 4 to 5 weeks, depending on the individual’s hair re-growth. In most cases, hair growth is minimal during the first week or two and noticeably increases in the third and fourth week. With regular waxing, the length of time required between treatments will increase significantly. If you used to shave, a few treatments may be required to see the full beneficial effects of the waxing. Will the hair grow back thicker in those areas? Absolutely not, usually re-growth will be finer, thinner and slower in areas that are waxed on a regular basis. Does it hurt Everyone’s tolerance for pain is different. it may be more the anticipation of not knowing what to expect that makes one feel uncomfortable or vulnerable to any discomfort. however, this will quickly subside and lessen with each visit, as the hair thins and less hair is required to be removed from the area. Caffeine, pregnancy and menstruation can cause increased sensitivity. Taking a mild painkiller 30 minutes prior to your visit has been known to reduce pain. How long does a Brazilian bikini wax take? The waxing itself doesn’t take very long. In fact, getting unchanged and relaxing for a minute or two can sometimes take as long as the wax. Girl from Ipanema Brazilian bikini wax will take between 10 - 15 minutes for regular customers and slightly longer for first timers. Testimonials I am originally from Philadelphia and for the last 4 years have been traveling back and forth to get waxed because I haven’t been able to find a clean, thorough, friendly esthetician in North Jersey until I visited Girl from Ipanema.  

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It was amazing!  And if you’ve ever had an Brazilian you know those words rarely, if ever, go together.  They were able to take me within 30 minutes of making a last-minute appointment.  I only had to wait 5 minutes to be seen and they only use hard wax which makes the hair extracting process far less painful.   The ambiance is welcoming and relaxing and the staff is very friendly. - Tasheea N. The best waxing place around.  I lived in NYC for two years and came to Summit on the weekends to get a wax here.  The woman that owns it (Rosanna) is Brazilian and they only use hard wax here.  The best part, it’s Rosanna’s own recipe.  I go to Nara, also Brazilian, for my treatments... I highly recommend this place to anyone looking for a great, moderately inexpensive (when cross-comparing) and less painful waxing experience. - Courtney D. I’ve been waxing for 10 years now and I’ve never experienced wax like this before. The consistency of the wax is amazing! I’ve had people use hard wax on my before and it was miserable because it dried too fast/hard making

the experience very painful. This wax is strip free and it’s so great! I stopped by here for an appointment while on a business trip and I’ve been dying to find a place like this in Los Angeles, CA! Highly recommend it. - Christina B. I had a good Brazilian wax experience with Shawn. She is pleasant, quick and effective. Pricing is very fair...........Parking is easy in the closest of the lots on Deforest Ave, just a short walk away, with the first hour of parking free. - M.L. Best waxing I’ve ever had. I get a regular bikini and eyebrow and I’m always thrilled with the results. I couldn’t recommend more. - Jessica F.

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It is a great time to become a Chamber member! Membership in the Union Township Chamber of Commerce provides you with access to leaders of government, to decision-makers in the community and to colleagues who share your desire for success in today’s ever-changing business climate. Membership in the Chamber tells your clients and customers that you are part of an association that prides itself on superior performance and quality service. The Chamber logo on your wall illustrates that you are supported by a network of business heads, entrepreneurs, civic leaders and volunteers whose mission is to unite, strengthen, represent and promote their individual and collective growth. The Chamber is about success – YOUR success! What does Chamber membership offer? The following is a sampling of our many member benefits: Networking Events Attend one or all of our monthly events, which are held at various member locations throughout the area. The Chamber provides relevant and helpful topics from members within our ranks who can give you sound advice on growing your business. Our members prefer to do business with other members! Member Referrals The Chamber is a respected referral source, and we receive numerous inquiries from potential customers searching for businesses and services they can trust. We only refer Chamber members! Extend Your Reach at Other Events Chamber members also receive invitations to other events held throughout the county and state. Brush Up on Your Skills The Chamber provides human resources-related topics free to members on topics such as “Maintaining a Drug-Free Workplace,” and “Sexual Harassment and Your Employees.” Additionally, we partner with other agencies to offer computer-training,

Grow Your Business through Membership in the Union Township Chamber of Commerce By James Masterson, Executive Director/CEO customer service skills and more. Some classes can be held right at the Chamber office. Develop a Presence on our Website www.unionchamber.com Each member receives a free password-protected member profile that you can update at any time. Members also are invited to submit an article on their area of expertise in our section called “Expert Tips from our Members.” Members also may be featured with a photo and business spotlight on the front page of the site – free. The Chamber also offers paid advertising at very reasonable rates. Promote Yourself at Our Special Events Become a sponsor at our Annual Dinner and receive the recognition you deserve in front of the 250 attendees who join us each year! Or join in with our annual kids’ Treasure Hunt with the community and encourage their parents to shop locally with you. Prefer sporting events? Sponsorship at our annual Mayor’s Day 5K Race – complete with a table at the event – will highlight your business to the hundreds of participants and spectators we get each year! Need an Advocate? Are you in need of meeting with local decision-makers, but don’t know where to begin? We can help make those important introductions. With 60 years of experience, the Chamber has accumulated a tremendous volume of information on how to get things accomplished. See Yourself on TV – and Let Others See You Chamber members may also showcase their businesses on Union’s TV-34 Business Spotlight with the Mayor, which is broadcast to several local communities. Link your interview to your website and keep that highlight airing! Free to members. Receive and Share News The Chamber publishes two weekly e-newsletters sent to a

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large audience. “This Week at Your Chamber” is sent out every Monday, and “Member to Member” is published on Fridays. Send us your news and we’ll share it! Do you have breaking news? Send us your PDF and we’ll blast it to our email mailing list! Need Professional Help in Starting or Growing Your Business? Through the services of SCORE and the Small Business Development Center at Kean University, you have access to experts who can assist you in developing a sound business plan and more! We make it even more convenient by allowing our members to meet at the Chamber office for complimentary one-on-one counseling services. Introduce Yourself to the Community The Chamber can help you organize grand openings and ribbon cuttings for members that have opened, relocated or expanded. Need Help with a News Release? For a very small fee, the Chamber can prepare a professional news

release for your business that is suitable for submitting to the local media. These benefits and many more are part of your Chamber experience. At the Union Township Chamber of Commerce, your success is our story! Contact Jim Masterson at 908-688-2777, or e-mail him at executivedirector@unionchamber. com today. James Masterson, Currently serving as Executive Director/CEO of the Union Township Chamber of Commerce,  Jim has been part of the Union Township and Union County business community for decades, having served in senior leadership positions at Union Hospital (Barnabas Health) and the Union County College Foundation.  Active in the nonprofit arena, he serves on several local boards including the Gateway Family YMCA, Ehrhart Gardens and Schaefer Gardens in Union.  During his tenure at Union Hospital, he served on the Board of the Union Chamber, and was President from 1995 - 1997.

A HISTORY THAT DATES BACK TO AMERICA’S COLONIAL ERA: Originally known as Connecticut Farms, Union was settled in 1667 by Rev. Abraham Pierson and his followers from Connecticut, who traveled for weeks under difficult circumstances to find a new settlement. On June 7, 1780, the village of Connecticut Farms was plundered and burned to the ground after a three hour battle by a British and Hessian army that was marching toward General Washington’s army camped at Morristown. Both the village and parsonage were rebuilt later. In 1808, the Township of Union was created when a General Assembly in Trenton approved a petition from local residents asking for a separation from Elizabethtown. At that time, the township was about 75% larger than it is today. Union has been home to two New Jersey Governors: Governor William Livingston and Thomas Kean. Both are actually related and resided at one time or another in Liberty Hall.

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You just joined the ranks of 4.5 Million recent college graduates that now realize they don’t have a job in their chosen area of professional study, and if you do have a job, you are most likely receiving 30% of the pay you thought you would be earning. We have the answer. Do you want to make $100,000 plus this next year in your county - in your state? By Heather Schaffer And Luke Kennedy

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Bypassing The Corporate Ladder I was lucky enough to grow up in a well educated, affluent family that had the ability to afford me every opportunity parents could want for their child. I went to a prestigious private school, participated in sports, and extracurricular activates. I had great friends and managed to stick to the principles my parents had brought me up to believe in such as hard work, honesty, Integrity, and self sufficiency, effectively keeping me out of harm’s way and trouble. When it was time to go to college, I was glad to go. I had been accepted to a prestigious school In Boston that I was excited about, and felt that it was time to stand on my own two feet and start carving my own way in the world. College accomplished for me what any realistic expectations could hope for: the ability to think analytically and express myself appropriately. However, the reason I chose my school, and the reason most people I know went to college, was not for these rather humble aspirations. I was career focused and wanted college to be my ticket into an amusement park of opportunity. What I found was my analytical mind saying, “You’ve got a $120,000 education. What now, hot shot?� Although I had a good experience at college, I wasn’t an academic at heart and knew that spending another $100,000 for post grad was not for me unless absolutely necessary. Of course it was time to get a job, but where? I started contacting all the advertising companies I had been studying over the past four years and managed to land a handful of interviews. It became quite clear that nobody was hiring, and that the whole industry was slow enough to grant inter­views as a way of distracting themselves from the fact that they didn’t have enough work to do either. The offers I did get would have given “education investment� a return in about 6 years as long as I didn’t need to pay rent or eat. We all have to start somewhere,

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By Mary Adelman, NJAWBO President

The New Jersey Association of Women Business Owners (NJAWBO) is proud to be celebrating 35 years in the business community.  We’re looking forward to our annual procurement event, coming up in April, and have been working hard to ensure a quality program.  Our members’ companies vary greatly in category and size, and we have some very successful business owners with fascinating stories to be told.  Recently, NJAWBO has been approached to submit articles to Diversity News, and our State President is reaching out to the membership to garner those stories.  This type of opportunity is just one example of the value of your NJAWBO membership. Over the past year, NJAWBO has availed its members of many other opportunities and programs, a few of which are highlighted below: • NFL Superbowl XLVIII vendor opportunities for NJAWBO business owners, some of whom were selected to participate in the NFL vendor listing.  Certification workshops were offered by NJAWBO to support this initiative. 

• We implemented both a $1M+ and a $250K+ Think Tank for our members to share business ideas, innovation, and support their peers.

and have written chapters on various aspects of doing business, entrepreneurship, and breaking through corporate culture as women. The publisher is currently working on a second volume now due to the overwhelming success of her first book.

• Our mentorship program has a waiting list 25-deep for our members. • Our annual Procurement and Business Growth conference, assembled and run by NJAWBO, is well known and largely attended by the statewide business community. • We collaborated with Goldman Sachs to bring their 10,000 Small Businesses program to the business community, and had 75 people in attendance.  NJAWBO partnered with Rutgers University on this event.

• We currently have six regions that cover the state which offer open networking events to members and non-members. • Our website gives tremendous exposure to our members, allowing them to create profiles describing their businesses and expertise, write blogs, and share business ideas through interactive chats.

In addition to these remarkable programs and events, NJAWBO offers other opportunities for members to build their visibility and their companies:

• We currently have the $1M+ and $250K+ think tank group writing their stories for publication in our organization’s newsletter, on our website, and in our media partner publications. 

• Many of our members are contributing authors to a business advice book (published by a NJAWBO member)

• The Procurement/Business Growth conference is another great resource because of the event’s format which includes

networking/industry round tables where women business owners can share their ideas, focus on engaging with corporate sponsors, and learn new skills.  This year’s keynote speaker is Linda Hollander, The Wealthy Bag Lady, who will present “ Wealthy Bag Lady’s 7 Success Secrets.”  We encourage you to read emails from NJAWBO , engage with fellow members, and seek out a mentor.  The Board of Trustees has worked tirelessly this past year to ensure that your NJAWBO membership would be an invaluable resource to your business…and just wait until you see what we have lined up going forward!  Remember, do not miss an opportunity for business growth! Mary Adelman has been the NJAWBO President since 2008. She recently received the NAPW 2013/2014 Professional Women of the Year award, which recognized her for outstanding leadership and commitment within her profession.

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Children’s Specialized Hospital has been serving children with special needs for 122 years. With twelve sites across New Jersey, the hospital is dedicated to providing the highest quality specialty healthcare and helping each child reach their fullest potential. Children’s Specialized Hospital was founded in 1891 in Westfield, New Jersey to give summer respite to the impoverished children living in near by cities. Known then as Children’s Country Home; Children’s Specialized Hospital’s care evolved to meet the ever changing needs of the community. In the early 1940’s the hospital began treating children afflicted by the polio epidemic. In 1962, Children’s Country Home officially became Children’s Specialized Hospital to better reflect the nature of the work being done. The change in name marked the start of what has become the continuous growth of services for children with special needs. Children’s Specialized Hospital has become the preeminent provider of pediatric rehabilitation services treating children affected by brain injury, spinal cord injury, premature birth, autism, developmental delays and lifechanging illnesses. Children’s Specialized Hospital has twelve

sites in New Jersey and treats over 20,000 children each year, making it the largest pediatric rehabilitation system of its kind in the nation. Current services include pediatric medical day care, outpatient therapy and physician services, acute rehabilitation and longterm care. The hospital staffs one third of the state’s board certified developmental pediatricians. Children’s Specialized Hospital is the state’s largest provider of autism services which include diagnosis, treatment and community education.

Institute of UMDNJ, creating an unparalleled synergy among the efforts of acute care physicians, rehabilitation experts and research scientists.

Children’s Specialized Hospital became an affiliate member of the Robert Wood Johnson Health System in 1999. In 2007, Children’s Specialized Hospital opened PSE&G Children’s Specialized Hospital, a 60-bed pediatric acuteinpatient rehabilitation hospital on the pediatric health campus of Robert Wood Johnson in New Brunswick, New Jersey. For the first time in the state, children and families have access to acute care, rehabilitation and research on one campus, enabling children to move seamlessly through their recovery. PSE&G Children’s Specialized Hospital is adjacent to the BristolMyers Squibb Children’s Hospital at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital and the Child Health

for more information, visit: www.childrens-specialized.org or call 888-children

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The hospital’s mission is to be the preeminent provider of specialized healthcare services for infants, children and young adults. With a vision to create a world where all children can reach their full potential; the hospital is fulfilling its mission as a national leader of pediatric specialty care services

and is consistently expanding by opening new outpatient centers each year. Improving access to specialized care is key to ensuring children with special needs reach their fullest potential. Children’s Specialized Hospital Foundation supports the programs and services of the hospital. The Foundation is ranked among the top six pediatric hospital foundations in the country and a proud member of the Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals. 


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In Union County alone, close to 700 children annually between the age of 0-18 years will lose a parent to death. Imagine is a free year-round grief support center for children age (3-18)and young adults (18-30) who are coping with loss due to the death of a parent or sibling, or for children with a parent or primary caregiver who is living with illness. Imagine uses the peer support group model, the healing arts, physical play and movement, service to others, and community gatherings to provide a safe and healing environment for coping with the painful feelings that accompany loss. Children meet in small groups of ten or less with other children their same age. Parents and guardians meet concurrently in their own groups. At Imagine, children and teens learn lifelong healthy coping skills, build on their natural resilience and make meaning from their loss that allows for growth, healing and transformation. The National Alliance for Grieving Children estimates that 1 out of 7 children will experience the death of a parent or sibling by the time they are 20 and 1 out of 20 children under age 15 have lost one or both parents to death. Children grieving a loss are at-risk for poor performance in school, depression, addiction and simply not living life fully and joyfully. Adults are also at risk. “Our vision is to

Imagine Transforms Grief, Loss And Trauma Into Resiliency, Empathy And Compassion By Mary Robinson, Executive Director and Founder of Imagine create communities where children who have experienced a painful loss grow up emotionally healthy and able to lead meaningful and productive lives and that the adults in their lives get the same support,” said Mary Robinson, Executive Director and Founder of Imagine. In addition to year-round grief support groups, Imagine provides educational workshops at schools, agencies and in workplaces about grief and loss, its impact on children, and how to best support those who are grieving. Additionally, Imagine provides on-site support in schools and workplaces after a loss or trauma.

When Jessica and Brenden were age 4 and 2, their dad Matthew died. Jessica helped give her dad his pills and snuggled with him when he was sick. She and her brother would run into their dad’s room each morning to give him kisses in his bed before they left for school. “After our dad died, we were fighting really bad,” Brenden recalls. “At Imagine, I feel much better because I know I’m not the only one whose dad died and I get to talk about how I’m feeling,” said Jessica. She also says that Imagine is a happy place where she has met many new friends and learned to speak more openly about her loss. “And we don’t fight so much anymore!” said Brenden.

For more information about Imagine contact info@imaginenj. org, visit their website at www. imaginenj.org or call 908-264-3100. Or visit us on Facebook at www. facebook.com/imaginenj. Mission Imagine supports children and adults coping with loss and fosters resiliency and emotional well-being for all those who grieve. Vision We envision a world where the pain of grief and loss is transformed into resilience, empathy and compassion and where children coping with loss grow up emotionally healthy and able to lead meaningful and productive lives. We envision a world where no child ever grieves alone.

Pictured here is the Imagine Memory Tree. Every family that comes to Imagine has a chance to make a leaf, heart, star or butterfly in memory of the person in their life who died. This important ritual often helps family members share memories and talk about their loss together while the action of writing and making art together helps with the mourning process. “Just because the person has died, the relationship hasn’t. This helps children especially to maintain a bond with the parent or sibling they are missing. This is an important part of healthy mourning,” says Robinson.

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A Message from the Founder Imagine was born in my heart 40 years ago when I received the following note from a neighbor after the death of my father when I was 14 years old: “Dear Mary, I am so sorry for your great loss. I always think unhappy times are the hardest for young people to bear. But I think they have a way of making one grow up with a lot more compassion. The thing that helps me feel better when I’m sad is to think that nothing – feelings or situations – good or bad, last forever. Take Care. Sincerely, Eleanor Schenck.” I don’t know if this was the only sympathy card I received from an adult after my father’s death, but it is the only one I kept. It is yellowed and well-read. I held on to it like a lifeline, for it gave me hope that something good could come out of something so incomprehensible and painful. What this note said to me is: • I see you. • Your loss matters. • Your sadness won’t last forever. These are the messages grieving children need from adults. Parents, teachers and adults often ask us “what should I say” or “what should I do” when a child they know has experienced a painful loss. We say give them your love. Give them your time. Give them your attention. Give them your optimism that they will get through this. And let them lead the way. They will show you what they need.

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Duaa Babekr, 8, was facing a lifetime of blindness before the Lions Eye Bank of New Jersey helped provide her with cornea transplants that restored her vision and changed her life. This March, the Lions Eye Bank of New Jersey is recognizing the 31st annual National Eye Donor Month. This event has been celebrated each March since 1983, when thenPresident Ronald Reagan first marked this special occasion. It is an opportunity to express gratitude for tissue donors and their families and to celebrate the gift of sight and life with cornea recipients like Duaa. In 2013, the Lions Eye Bank of New Jersey provided 480 corneas for transplantation to residents of New Jersey, and 498 to people outside the state. Duaa, from Fords, N.J., was just 4 years old when she began experiencing vision problems because of corneal scarring. The damage to her corneas meant that Duaa was facing a lifetime of blindness. Realizing that their daughter – the second oldest of their five children – would struggle to do things that came naturally to other kids without her vision was heartbreaking for her parents, but they tried to stay positive for her. “It was a hard feeling,” said her father, Faris. “But there was nothing to do but try to make her feel better.” Duaa’s parents brought her to an ophthalmologist, who referred them to Dr. David Chu, the founder and director of the Metropolitan Eye Research and Surgery Institute of New York and New Jersey. Dr. Chu told the Babekrs that corneal transplantation could restore Duaa’s vision. She received a new cornea in her left eye first, followed by a transplant in her right eye a year later. A year after Duaa’s second transplant, she is back to being a carefree, happy child. The bright,

Duaa’s Story March marks 31 st National Eye Donor Month By Margaret Chaplin, Executive Director, Lions Eye Bank New Jersey energetic 8-year-old spends her free time watching cartoons and playing with her four siblings, activities that were difficult to enjoy without her sight.

humanitarian aid to those unable to afford transplantation procedures, both at home and abroad, by waiving our service fees when a charitable need exists.

“It wouldn’t be easy for her to do the things she loves without her cornea transplants,” Faris said. “Life wouldn’t be easy.”

To learn more about the Lions Eye Bank of New Jersey, visit www.lebnj.org, call us toll-free at (800) 653-9379 or email us at info@lebnj.org.

Faris said there are no words to describe how it feels to know that Duaa doesn’t have to feel left out or different from other kids now that she is able to see again. “It means more than winning the lottery,” he said. It only takes a few minutes to change someone’s life by becoming an eye, organ and tissue donor. One donor can save the lives of up to eight people and enhance the lives of 50 more. To join the Donate Life NJ Registry or learn more about the Lions Eye Bank New Jersey, visit www.lebnj.org. After seeing how Duaa’s life has improved thanks to the generosity of eye tissue donors, Faris and his family are quick to encourage everyone to consider donation and become registered donors. “I tell people to never hesitate to make somebody’s life better,” he said. “If you’re able to help, you should not hesitate.” The Lions Eye Bank of New Jersey is a subsidiary of Midwest EyeBanks, a charitable, not-for-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of sight. We recover, evaluate and provide human eye tissue for transplantation. As part of our mission, we support research into the causes and cures of blinding eye conditions. Through public and professional education programs, we encourage people to learn about eye, organ and tissue donation. We believe education is the key to making an informed decision about donation, and is also an important way for us to secure funding for the community services we provide. We also provide

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Margaret joined Midwest Eye-Banks

in 2007, when she was appointed Executive Director of the Lions Eye Bank of New Jersey. Prior to that, she spent 13 years with the St. Christopher’s Hospital for Children in Philadelphia, including seven years as Administrative Director, Professional Services. She has a Master’s degree in Health Services Administration from George Washington University, and has worked in the health care industry for more than 25 years.


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Ross Rosen, President, Founder and Clinic Director Ross’s early interest in Chinese culture led to the study of acupuncture and Chinese herbal medicine at the Pacific College of Oriental Medicine in New York City, where he earned his Masters of Science in Traditional Oriental Medicine. Ross is Board Certified nationally by the NCCAOM in acupuncture, herbal medicine and Asian bodywork (Dipl. O.M.), as well as being state licensed in New York and New Jersey. In addition to his training and background in Chinese medicine, he is a member of the New York and New Jersey Bar. Ross’s passion for Chinese medicine lies in its diagnostic capability; specifically, determining the underlying causes of an illness and detecting the energetics of that illness in order to prevent disease. This is why Ross has dedicated years to the study of Contemporary Chinese Pulse Diagnosis (CCPD), Contemporary Oriental Medicine® (COM)and Chinese medical psychology and is one of only a few practitioners to be certified by and continue to receive hands on training with world renown Dr. Leon Hammer in these disciplines. Ross is a senior certified teacher and serves on the Board of Directors of Dragon Rises, Inc. as well as Contemporary Oriental Medicine Foundation and is a direct lineage holder and spokesman for CCPD and COM. Ross has also spent years dedicated to the study and practice of Classical Chinese Medicine (including Classical pulse diagnosis) under 88th generation Daoist priest Jeffrey Yuen, both privately as well as through the American University of Complementary Medicine’s PhD program. Ross has been granted permission to teach this material directly by Jeffrey Yuen. This foundation and the synthesis with CCPD and COM forms the basis of his clinical practice, ideology, paradigm and world-view. Ross’s passion for martial arts has been a constant throughout his life. He attained the rank of Fourth Degree Black Belt and Instructor in Shaolin Kempo in his early twenties. He currently practices Tai Ji Quan, Qi Gong and meditation.

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Synopsis Jameson Hartford and his wife, Abigail, return to their home in South Carolina to claim his inheritance, the Serenity Plantation, where he is determined to free all his workers and put an end to the evils of enslavement. He encounters hostility and hatred from family, friends, an entire community, and even his wife, as he steadfastly holds to his beliefs. Through the ordeal, he meets and falls in love with Delilah, one of his female workers, which further complicates the volatile situation. Outnumbered and alone, he must sacrifice everything as he attempts to liberate Delilah and her people, facing confrontations, treachery, and even betrayal, culminating in a final deadly showdown between precious freedom and extreme prejudice. A Northern Rebel is a romantic adventure that touches on human emotions and forbidden love amidst the rich backdrop of the old South at the onset of the Civil War. Biography John J Schafer has worked in advertising for various pharmaceutical and industrial corporations, winning several AGA awards for his creation of a wide range of promotional materials and literature. This is John’s first novel and he is currently hard at work on his second thrilling tale of romance and adventure. John currently resides in Old Bridge Township, New Jersey. Excerpts “She leaned in close to him and pressed her moist, soft lips firmly yet gently on his. He did not hesitate and kissed her in return. She tasted so different, yet so delicious. They looked deep into each other’s souls; they would never forget this moment for the rest of their lives. She joined her hand into his and slowly led him into the barn. They crawled onto a pile of hay, and began to kiss each other passionately. She started to unbutton his shirt, he, in turn, removed her dress. They fell into

book corner A Northern Rebel By John J Schafer each other’s arms and gave into the temptation and the lust.” “Jameson had the horse at full gallop, dodging low-hanging tree limbs and jumping any obstacles in his path. The moonlight illuminated the road, such as it was, but holes, fallen branches, and nocturnal creatures always posed a constant threat. The thick, humid air caused the sweat of his brow to roll into his eyes, making visibility even worse. Fog was rolling in to easily mask any trail he might be able to locate. Adrenalin was pumping through his veins as he raced onward… He was beginning to panic as fear for Delilah’s safety welled up inside of him. Nothing was going to stop him from finding and saving her, nothing…” Book available on Amazon.com or Barnes & Noble Can’t find it… Go online using this link to get a copy! http://www.tatepublishing. com/bookstore/book. php?w=9781625106681

 

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5.0 out of 5 stars A Great Book from a ! New Author, !October 3, 2013 ! By Dominick – This review is from: A Northern Rebel (Paperback)  

A historical novel that puts you in a moral dilemma and makes you think what you would have done in this pre-Civil War situation. This book was a fast-clipped adventure with suspense as well as romance. I will be looking for future novels by this author. 5 .0 out of 5 stars for A NORTHERN REBEL, September 22, 2013 By Monica - This review is from: A Northern Rebel (Paperback)

A Northern Rebel was a gift from my daughter. Enjoyed every minute of it even though it is not my usual type of read, emotionally moving, from sadness (have to admit, even a few tears) to anger to anxiety and to smiles. Great read! Hope to see a follow up in the near future.

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5.0 out of 5 stars I loved this book! September 10, 2013 By Nancy Moskwa - This review is from: A Northern Rebel (Paperback)

This was an amazing story of courage, love, and the struggles of the rich and poor. The characters came to life and I did not want to put the book down. I cannot wait for the next book by this author! 5.0 out of 5 stars A Northern Rebel, August 29, 2013 By Beth - This review is from: A Northern Rebel (Paperback)

A Northern Rebel is a thought provoking romantic adventure! This book takes the reader back to the old South, and leads them on a journey that is a realistic look

at our sad history. I had a hard time putting this one down. True love does not see color, and this refreshing story is written by Mr. Schafer with passion and a realistic look at human nature. I am looking forward to a sequel! 5.0 out of 5 stars JUST AWESOME, August 17, 2013 By Jamillah - This review is from: A Northern Rebel (Paperback)

This book is awesome I really got into the story which we all can relate to LOVE who doesn’t like a good ole fashion love story . Well this book to me was well written and I truly enjoyed reading this book. Way to go Mr. Shafer you rock!!!!!!!!


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Westfield’s Upscale French Dining That Makes You Feel At Home Chef and owner C. J. Reycraft, Jr. and fiancée Julianne Hodges

Westfield has added a new, upscale -restaurant. Amuse, a French bistro by Chef C. J. Reycraft, Jr., opened in January 2014 in the heart of downtown Westfield at 39 Elm Street. Chef and owner C. J. Reycraft, Jr. and fiancée Julianne Hodges welcome you to experience their fine cuisine. The French Culinary Institute graduate has garnered exceptional marks from critics, including Star Ledger food columnist Cody Kendall, “for well-focused dishes that consistently hit high marks for visuals that match the taste”. Julianne Hodges, also an experienced chef and FCI graduate, will work in the kitchen as well. Amuse is an exciting French restaurant with a cuisine so delicious you will swear you are dining in France. The restaurant has a lovely décor and creates an atmosphere where guests can enjoy outstanding food with their friends. In fact, once you dine here for the first time, you are guaranteed to return time and time again. Currently, the restaurant is open for brunch, lunch and dinner. Amuse cooks up truly great Provencal-inspired dishes in a comfy bistro setting. The Sunday à la carte brunch, served from 11am to 3pm, is worth getting out of bed for. “The opening of Amuse is the culmination of a dream come true,” said Reycraft. “I can’t wait to greet all of my customers and friends at my new restaurant. I want Amuse to become their new home away from home.” The teams behind

options for seafood, duck, chicken, and beef. I ordered the skate, served with hazelnuts, golden raisins, and mashed parsnips and roasted Brussels sprouts, and was delighted with each bite, ranging from soft and crunchy to salty, savory, and sweet. My husband raved about the duck confit. The portions were generous, and we will likely skip the appetizer next time to save room for dessert!” - Dined on 1/21/2014 Amuse are inspired by the beautiful simplicity of fresh local ingredients, French food culture, seasonality, and the Westfield community. The restaurant lives up to its name. Amusebouche, in French, literally translates as “to please the mouth”. Here are some recent diner’s experiences: “By 7pm Sunday evening of a holiday weekend, nearly all tables at the newly opened Amuse were occupied. The ambiance of the French BYOB bistro was bright and unpretentious, with light butcher block style tables, whitish walls, high ceilings, and pale wood trim. The seasonal menu was presented mostly in English and presented on one page, with several

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“So excited for this new Westfield gem to open and it definitely lived up to my expectations. Best meal I’ve had in a long time!” - Dined on 1/22/2014 “Chef CJ’s food is really great! He has created a wonderful compliment of tastes! You should absolutely check this place out if you haven’t yet. Friendly staff and great ambiance!” - Dined on 2/11/2014 I could not be more excited for Amuse to open. CJ Reycraft has created a go-to restaurant that’s perfect for people who know and enjoy great food! Classic French inspiration combined with a relaxed environment makes this place a mustvisit... often.” - Dined on 2/12/2014

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Union County Women's Journal March April 2014