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If there’s something we’ve all experienced in recent months, it’s CHANGE! Our lives have been upended in many ways. We’ve adapted to different rhythms, expectations, stresses, schedules, access to people and (ironically) the ability to get time alone. Whew! So ... How are you doing? How is your marriage/relationship holding up under the strain of all the change it’s been asked to carry recently? As a couples’ counselor I get a front-row seat to those new and aggravated issues couples are dealing with in their marriages and families. I also get to see the creative ways they conquer those challenges and thrive. I’d like to offer some encouragement and some tools for keeping your relationship strong and healthy based on the issues I see most often in my practice these days. One of my favorite tools for that is Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s Strong Relationship House Model. The model has seven layers. I know, it sounds like a lot. And, to be honest, it can be a little dry. I’m going to try to put them in relatable, “real life” terms, so hang with me.
T H E S O U N D R E L AT I O N S H I P H O U S E , We n d y s t y l e :
Knowing one another’s world
Are you checking in with each other? Simple questions like, How are you? What do you need? and How can I help? show that the condition of your spouse’s heart is important to you.
Are you an optimist or a pessimist? The answer to that question will directly influence your ability to have a positive perspective when faced with challenges. But when you show some hopeful determination and have a “we’ve got this” approach, it will affect not only your mindset about the situation but be a boost to your partner and family as well.
2. Shared fondness and admiration What are some of your favorite things about your partner? Have you told them that lately? Never underestimate how much meaning there is in a simple, You’re amazing! I can’t wait to spend time with you! or, I’m so thankful you’re my partner in this life.
3. Turn towards, instead of away When you’re feeling pressure, tension or disappointment from your spouse it’s easy to back away. But that can backfire and leave you both feeling isolated. What would it look like if instead you said, Wow, this is so hard but I’m glad we’re in it together? You know, I like you! or, Hey, can we talk?
5. Manage conﬂict There are several different conflict styles: collaboration, avoidance, compromise, accommodation and competition. Knowing each other’s conflict style will help you manage it more effectively and cut down on frustration. Talk about these styles and see which resonate for each of you. How do they mesh (or not)?
6. Make life dreams come true Dreaming as a couple creates excitement and knits your hearts together. This season of slowed-down life has been a great opportunity to revisit some of those dreams, maybe even dust them off and put them into motion. Now, not every dream can come true. But why not ask each other, If we could embark on one of those dreams today, what would it be?
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How do you feel about makeup? Do you like to try the latest trends on Instagram or do you like to stick to your â&#x20AC;&#x153;au naturalâ&#x20AC;? look? Makeup may sound redundant in times like these, but it can be therapeutic for some. The touch of soft brushes on the skin and the variety of eyeshadows and lip colors can be the artistic escape we need to feel happy right now. Most of the time, when we are trying a new makeup look, it doesn't translate the way we want it to, especially if you are following a tutorial from Instagram or YouTube. Due to time constraints, when influencers are making a video tutorial, they cut some parts to keep it from getting too long. The small steps which are omitted in a tutorial may be causing the troubles you are facing when you are recreating that look. This is why today I am going to talk about the five most common issues and mistakes and how to fix them.
D R Y, T E X T U R E D UNDER-EYES: Believe me when I say this, we all have texture on our skin. Due to built-in smoothening filter effects on the latest cameras and editing software, we only see the smooth and "flawless" finished result. But there are some steps you can follow to truly achieve smoother looking skin in real life. In picture 1, you will see how dry and textured my under-eye area looks. It's because I have not used any moisturizer underneath. If you are very young, you can get away without an
3 eye cream under your concealer. Because of our age, most of us need the extra moisture due to the general dryness and loss of collagen in our under-eye skin. You will need less than a pea-size amount to cover the area around your eyes (picture 2). Now if you look closely to picture 3 you can see the same concealer looks much better with an eye cream underneath.
O I LY U P P E R L I D : Oily upper lids can cause smudged eyeliners and faded eyeshadows. If you have oily eyelids, skip the eye cream on your eyelid (use only on the under-eye area). Now what you can do is dab some concealer on your upper lid and blend it with a damp sponge using a tapping motion (picture 4). After the concealer is blended well, press on a small bit of translucent setting powder using the same damp sponge. Once it's set, go on with your liner or eyeshadow.
EYELINER IS NOT DARK ENOUGH:
ASHY/GREY CONCEALER: Often youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll notice that while your concealer looks good on the rest of your face, it looks ashy or grey under your eyes. The main reason for this is your undereye circles. You should be using different shades of concealers on different parts of your face, as our face is not just one color. First and foremost, apply a small amount of eye cream to prepare the area, then use a brush to apply a corrective concealer (with an orange or peach undertone) under the eye (picture 5).
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Also, pay attention to your skin undertone. Warmer skin tones should look for yellow or orange undertones, while cooler skin tones will look better with pink shades.
If you have pigmented lips or the area around your mouth is pigmented like mine, the lipstick will not show its true color. If you look at picture 6, the right side shows how this pink lipstick looks normally on my lips. On the left, you will see how the same color looks when I have prepped my lips to show the true color.
Be sure to get the sides of the nose that hits the inner corner of the eye. Make sure to blend the concealer outwards so itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s not too thick. After you have covered any darkness, take a translucent powder and dust over top to keep creasing at bay.
The key is to balance out the darkness on and around your lips so that the lip product has a clean surface on which to show the actual color. To achieve this, just dab your lips with a bit of your foundation or concealer with a damp sponge and blend it with a tapping motion. Do not overdo the product here, you will only need a tiny amount. After blending well, apply the lipstick on top.
Sometimes the darkest liquid eyeliner you own can end up looking not dark enough or patchy on your eyes, especially if it's a black liner. In this case, add a cream liner of the same color before you add the liquid one (picture 7). I have seen many makeup artists following the layering technique to get a depth of color. You can layer a cream liner with a powder shadow, a cream liner with a liquid liner, or a liquid liner with a powder shadow on top. Whichever method you choose, you will get a beautiful and long-lasting result.
There are many small steps like this you can follow to get a beautiful and flawless makeup. Performing the small steps in each stage are the main difference between looking like a makeup artist or a makeup-beginner. To get more tips like this you can follow me on Instagram and YouTube (@sifascorner). Stay safe and healthy! [ aw ]
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he pointed end of the drumstick stared at her as her green eyes found their way to meet his. His voice bellowed through the room like the bass drum near the exit requesting that she play her trumpet solo to prove she knew the notes. She nervously picked up the instrument, licked her lips and began to play. Everyone sat silently and stared as she stumbled through the notes. “Did you even practice?” He huffed in mockery form.
Self-confidence can easily be diminished at an early age. Simple phrases that are said to you as a child can be carried with you throughout your life, thus becoming the critical phrases you start saying to yourself. Do you see yourself struggling to find the confidence you need to excel? Confidence, or lack thereof, is a common feeling women wrestle with. We are expected to be confident, yet no one has taught us how or given us a reason to feel that way. We are left to figure it out on our own or be inspired by women who have embraced confidence because of the struggles that have built it up within them. There have been many times in my life that I have felt extremely confident and other times where I have really struggled. Situations and circumstances change but that does not mean your confidence needs to ebb and flow with them. After I lost my job in 2013 my confidence was at an all-time low. My career had been taken away from me and I felt like a complete failure. Subconsciously, I knew my worth wasn’t tied to my title, but I still felt like I needed a career to have confidence. At that point I started learning how to focus on other things in order to build my confidence back up.
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How can you boost your confidence right now? EXERCISE. When I start mentally spinning, I exercise. Exercise releases endorphins and endorphins send positive waves throughout your body. You will naturally feel more confident once you exercise.
DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. Lacking in self-confidence can quickly be stopped by genuinely doing something for someone else and not expecting anything in return.
GET OUT OF YO U R OW N H E A D . Overthinking never helped anyone, so let that stuff go, honey! If you are fearful of judgment, let that fear motivate you to follow what brings you joy.
G R AT I T U D E . Each day find one thing about yourself that you are extremely grateful for. Write it on a Post-It note and stick it on your mirror. You will be surprised how quickly your confidence is boosted when you start focusing on how amazing you truly are.
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Designer Andrea (Drea) Coleman, of Distinctions by Drea, has always believed that design should not only be beautiful, it should be highly functional with an emphasis on reflecting the personal style of every homeowner. For the past several years, Distinctions by Drea has operated in Fargo, Grand Forks and the lakes region, assisting clients in meeting their personal goals for their homes. Although Distinctions by Drea has always been known for assisting clients with color selection, home furnishings, space planning and accessories, the business expanded when Coleman became the exclusive designer for Kitchen Refresh in the area. This collaboration allowed for Distinctions by Drea to not only assist in kitchen design, but it eventually grew to encompass full-scale remodeling projects. Current functional trends Coleman has been focusing attention on as of late are the installation of beautiful walk-in showers, cozy gathering spaces and kitchen updating. Although help in these specific areas is predominantly being requested, Coleman still loves to help clients with all aspects of their home. Sometimes clients need someone to simply help them pick out the best flooring to coordinate in their home, to assist in choosing counter tops, or help them find which organizational features will make their home environments more efficient. Coleman has always felt that great design doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t need to break the bank. Unfortunately, many people overlook the financial advantage of having a designer assist in a home project, thinking they canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t afford the services. Not only does a designer help clients navigate through a project, maintain overall budget goals,
Working with Andrea was an absolute treat! She has helped me on three different projects and with each new project she impresses me more. There are no surprises. She is upfront about costs and provides options for areas you can spend less. Without hesitation, I will look to Andrea when my next projects presents itself.”
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and offer creative alternatives to customize the design to their client’s own personal style and budget, but they also help clients avoid costly mistakes. One of the first things Coleman does when meeting with a client is discuss their goals in their home, then offer an estimate on her time to complete the various elements. Once this is done, the plan is created for the client. The great part about the plan is that it never has to be done all at once, and it can be tackled over time. “I have clients call me once a year to move on to the next project on their list, and I love it,” says Coleman. More often than not, clients love having a goal to work toward in their home because it eliminates the stress of not knowing what steps to take, and in what order those elements need to happen. “I always smile and shake my head when clients tell me they don’t have a style,” says Coleman. “We are all creatures of habit and tend to make similar unconscious choices all the time in our homes because they make us feel comfortable. Everyone has a style, and one of the best parts of working with a client is when I see everything click for them, and once one area is functioning well for them, they are able to move forward with confidence about making selections for their home.”
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D e finit io n: The space above kitchen cabinets before the ceiling starts. In modern construction, the maw is not limited to just the kitchen, but can also be found randomly throughout the house — above the coat closet or in the stairwell, for instance. Someone thought it would be a good idea to have a display space 8-14 feet off the ground, making cleaning it an unpleasant affair involving extension poles and ladders. Conversely, maybe you didn’t have to clean it, because it’s 8-14 feet off the ground and no one can see it anyway. See what I did there? Back when I lived in a house built in 1926, I didn’t have this problem. The cabinets went all the way up to the ceiling. Fast forward to my 1992 split level, with a big kitchen featuring three gaping maws created by the airy cathedral ceilings. Happily, the rest of the house is maw-less. Tobacco basket in an earthy green. Arched and latticed window frame, in a variety of sizes. Both from Burlap. burlapfargo.com
What to do? I left it empty for a while, which contributed to the overall feeling that no one lived there. I put my treasured collection of midcentury hand-blown glass vases and pitchers up there, but they looked like shot glasses from normal viewing height. So, with scale foremost in mind, I began my quest for something the right size, unique and easy to remove and clean. Here’s what I found.
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Fringe and tassels, for the boho kitchen. Super modern and clean black metal wall hung sculpture. [below] Both from Dash + White. dashandwhite.com
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f you’re a vintage enthusiast or collector, you know the saying “buy it when you see it, or it will be gone when you come back” is true. I can promise you this is true at the Fargo Antiques and Repurposed Market (the FARM), where we’re getting in fresh vintage, antique, collectible and repurposed items literally every day. The 60+ small businesses housed in the FARM are all back and open for business. Have you ever wondered where all this stuff comes from? It’s a different answer for most of our small businesspeople. I and my partners assist in cleaning out entire houses full of goods. People frequently need help with this when they’re moving, down-sizing or have had a death in the family. We help pack, move and haul away everything. After sorting and cleaning, many of these items then go to the FARM, where we hope they find a new home and purpose. Some of the small businesses at the FARM are also crafters and creators. Most of our creators use old and discarded items to create new and beautiful things, keeping them out of the landfill and breathing new life into them. We have artists, furniture painters, lamp makers and shelf builders — just to name a few. Old
wooden window frames become quaint farmhouse shelves. Lengths of discarded lumber become “welcome” signs. An ugly old dresser with a broken drawer gets repaired and brought back into use with a fresh coat of paint and an entirely new look. We also have lifelong collectors at the FARM, who bring their vast collections and knowledge to the market for other collectors to enjoy. Toys, pottery, Depression glass, vintage tools — all can be found at the FARM. The FARM is also a treasure trove for crafters and creators who enjoy making their own repurposed treasures. We just unpacked about 100 vintage sewing patterns, some dating back to the ‘40s. The collection included men’s pajamas, doll clothes,
oversized ‘80s women’s tops, and they’re all still useable. You never know what you’ll find, but they may be gone soon. The FARM is celebrating summer and the reopening of our state and area. Join us for a flea market in the parking lot on June 20-21 and September 19-20, 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Local author Amelia Lemar will be at the June flea market, signing a limited quantity of her new book “It’s OK: The 8 Things All Children Need to Hear,” available from Amazon. Bring your own copy if you can! The FARM’s small businesses will be set up outside and inside. Stalls are also open to anyone on a first come, first served basis. We’ll also be doing special events in the coming months, including a furniture painting class, junk journaling and visits from local authors and crafters.
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aking financial decisions takes time, attention and energy at any age. In the case of elderly adults, it can become increasingly difficult to manage daily finances, particularly if their health is declining or they’re experiencing a cognitive issue. If you’re providing support to aging parents — or plan to in the future — here is some advice on how to handle the situation and prepare for what’s to come. D on ’ t wa i t to st ar t talk i ng a b o u t fin an ces. While it may be uncomfortable to ask your parents to discuss their finances with you, it’s essential that you are familiar with their intentions for care and what plans they have in place. The first time you broach the subject, emphasize that you are looking for only a high-level overview so that you can have more peace-of-mind that your parents will be well cared for. This initial conversation can then help set the groundwork for future discussions.
Create a conta c t list. If your parents experience a sudden change in a health that affects their ability to manage their own affairs, it’s important to have a game plan for what happens next. If you anticipate stepping in to pay bills, make insurance claims and handle other financial tasks, start by asking your parents for a list of contact information for the professionals they work with and where their accounts are held. Keep in mind that you may need to be an authorized user or power of attorney to be allowed access to certain accounts. Consult a lawyer to talk through what permission may be necessary for you to step in if the need arises.
Bu il d a s up p or t net work. Talk with siblings or other trusted family members about what a possible care plan could look like for your parents. While this conversation can be tough to initiate, know that it’s often easier to bring everyone together while your parents are still healthy and in good mental capacity. Discuss who can realistically provide support — and in what way and at what cost. Proactively deciding who can drive your parents to doctor appointments, manage financial affairs, care for their home, and handle other tasks can help avoid a strain on your time and energy down the road.
Anticip a te fut ure l i fest y l e cha ng es a nd cha l l eng es . Even if they aren’t yet needed, explore the options and costs of various assisted living and memory care services. And, check your parents’ insurance policies to see if and how services might be covered. You may also want to decide whether their home or yours could be modified to provide additional space or comforts, such as wheelchair access. Knowing what choices exist and how your parents feel about each one can help you make future decisions with more confidence.
Know your right s a t wor k . The Federal Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 (FMLA) allows covered employees up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave to provide care for a family member with a serious health condition.2 Consult your human resources (HR) department to learn what your company’s policies are for supporting employees who are caring for a parent and how to initiate a claim if you need to. Many employers have access to resources and support groups to help you manage your responsibilities at home and at work. 2 – United States Department of Labor, Wage and Hour Division, Family and Medical Leave Act http://www.dol.gov/whd/fmla/
M a i nt a i n m o me nt u m o n yo u r ow n f i na nc i al go als. It’s understandable to want to provide your parents with as much support as you can. It’s prudent to look at your finances to see how much support you could provide (if it’s needed) without jeopardizing your own retirement and future health care needs. It’s hard to imagine — let alone talk about — what caring for an ill or aging parent may look like. For additional support in having family conversations, evaluating financial options and creating a plan for your parents, contact your financial advisor and lawyer. These experts work day-in and day-out with families in similar situations and can help you take the steps necessary to feel more confident about your own plan. [ aw ]
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For c ol l eg e s t ud e n t s o n a t ig h t b u dg e t , e ve n a sm a l l e m e r g e n c y c a n c aus e s tres s . So, when campuses and workplaces closed in response to the COVID-19 pandemic, Minnesota State University Moorhead quickly moved to support students who were affected financially. The university’s foundation raised more than $26,000 in two weeks for its student emergency assistance fund. More than 120 donors contributed to the fund, bringing its total to about $39,000. “When times are tough, people look to where they can make a big impact,” says Cindy Bailey, director of the annual fund at the MSUM Foundation. “Our alumni and donors wanted to know how they could help students get through this tough time.” MSUM’s student emergency assistance fund has been in place since 2014. Students can apply for grants of up to $500 to help cover unexpected expenses, such as accidents, family
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In the February/March 2020 issue of Area Woman, we walked through some scenarios faced by two young adult characters: Kacey and Josh. While both Kacey and Josh are considered legal adults, there are some criminal consequences they may face when …
Kacey, our 19-year-old art history major, has found herself at a college party drinking rosé followed by a trendy IPA. What are some legal consequences to which Kacey is now exposed? In North Dakota and Minnesota, individuals under 21 years old are prohibited from being in possession of, or consuming, alcohol. Kacey may be subject to a misdemeanor criminal conviction, fines, jail time, and, in North Dakota, an evidence-based alcohol and drug education program. Let’s take it a step further. Kacey decides she is over the party (i.e., the cute guy from the wellness center hasn’t shown up) so she gets in her car to head back to her dorm and gets pulled over by the police. First, not only is this dangerous to herself and others, it is also a crime to drink and drive, regardless of your age, if your alcohol concentration is above .08, if you are “under the influence” of alcohol, or if you refuse to submit to a chemical test to measure your alcohol concentration after being arrested. Kacey could lose her license for three to six months. However, because Kacey is under 21, she is subject to “special consequences.” She does not need to have a blood alcohol level of .08 — she can lose her license for blowing even a .02.
Kacey is mortified at thought of her parents driving her around (she is an adult after all) but using ride-sharing services for three to six months can get expensive and those North Dakota winters are not meant for leisurely strolls around town. One important thing for young adults to know and remember if they do find themselves to have partaken in adult beverages and an emergency comes up is the Good Samaritan Law. Both North Dakota and Minnesota law provides immunity to criminal charges for minors who have unlawfully consumed alcohol if they are seeking medical or emergency services for themselves (in Minnesota) or another minor in need of medical or emergency services (in Minnesota and North Dakota). Josh, our now 19-year-old communications major, is still dating his 16-year-old high school sweetheart. They are now living in different towns and trying to make their long-distance relationship work over text and cell phone apps. Sharing of sexual explicit photos, or “sexting,” whether it be via email, text or cell phone apps (do people still send love letters? — if so, that applies too), can lead to serious criminal charges, including felonies, for Josh, our young adult character.
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Josh could potentially be convicted of luring a minor (if they are more than three years apart in age), as well as possession and dissemination of child pornography. Consent by both parties is not a defense to the charges. In addition to the criminal charges, Josh could have to register as a sex offender for a period of 15 years to the rest of his lifetime. In addition, if his college took action to investigate the conduct, he could be subject to Title IX Sexual Misconduct Proceedings through the school, making them susceptible to possible penalties there, including suspension or even expulsion. Not to mention the embarrassment or the potential to lose any scholarships and ability to play college level sports. If you have a criminal issue, please do not hesitate to call Vogel Law Firm at 701-237-6983. This article is general information regarding this issue and is not intended to be an in-depth review of these rather complex legal issues. [ aw ]
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Th e de fi n i t i o n o f si st e rho o d is : an association, society or community of women linked by a common interest, religion or trade. And when I think of NICU moms and the relationship they share with each other, what common interest bonds them closer than a NICU journey? (The NICU is the neonatal intensive care unit which provides intensive medical care babies born prematurely, or babies born full-term in need of medical intervention.)
When we envision our birth stories and our new beginnings to motherhood, we envision what we see on commercials and what we see as we scroll through our social media. We envision early motherhood to be a time of bonding, of latching and nursing, of play dates, all while experiencing the magic of motherhood. But what about when it isn’t the magical beginning that we always envisioned? What if it doesn’t feel magical as you’re connected to a mechanical pump while watching your baby fight for life in an isolette? What if you struggle to bond with your baby when your nights are spent miles apart from each other? What if you feel immense feelings of loneliness as you isolate yourself from the “outside world?” This is where the healing power of sisterhood comes in. We don’t have to journey through these feelings alone.
Dear NICU Mama exists to connect the past and present NICU mom by bringing them out of isolation and into a sisterhood of women that remind them that they are not alone. But what does this sisterhood look like? First of all, NICU sisters don’t compare each other’s scars. They tend to each other’s wounds. We believe that there’s no such thing as an easy NICU journey, and that all NICU journeys are to be honored and celebrated. Two days or 200 days in the NICU is hard.
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When the NICU journey feels like too much, your NICU sisters remind you that you are braver than you feel. When you feel guilt or shame about what your body did or didn’t do, your NICU sisters remind you that this was never your fault. When you feel deep sadness as you miss out on events or gatherings with people that you love, your NICU sisters remind you of the bravery it takes to set strict social boundaries to keep your miracle healthy and safe. When others perceive your honesty as complacency, your NICU sisters remind you that you can be grateful and grieve at the same time. And most importantly, your NICU sisters remind you that you are never alone.
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So if you are a NICU mama reading this, we want to invite you to be a part of the Dear NICU Mama sisterhood. The NICU journey can be incredibly isolating, but you do not have to journey through it alone. Community with women and mothers who “get it” can be an essential and beautiful part of the healing process both during and after the NICU. We see you, we hear you, and are here to honor your story. You are never alone.
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To help you talk to your kids about COVID-19, Joseph Segeleon, MD, a critical care pediatrician at Sanford Children’s, answers some frequently asked questions on the topic. W ha t a d vice d o you have for p a rent s rig ht now? The role for parents right now is to be reassuring, to be a listening ear and to make sure children feel safe. Kids pick up on parental anxiety, anger and impatience. They know when we’re afraid. Control your anxiety by concentrating on what we know, keeping your family safe and how you can cope in a healthy manner. Kids look to us for reassurance that, yes, we’ll do everything we can to keep them safe.
How imp or ta nt is keep i ng a n op en d ia log ue with our k i d s ? It’s very important right now to be accessible to your kids, to be available for questions and to acknowledge that they may be anxious or fearful. Be reassuring, confident and comfortable when you address their concerns because they may have heard other things about what’s going on, particularly if they’re older children.
How d o we ta lk to old er child ren a b out COV I D- 19? Be aware of where your child is getting their information and it wouldn’t be a bad idea to get your information from the same sources. Not everything online is true, so it’s really important to stick with facts and science. For example, we know there wasn’t a person or group of people who caused this virus. Especially with older kids, they may have a lot of questions, and let’s face it, we have a lot of questions about this current situation too.
How d o we a p p roa ch the s ub jec t b a sed on child ren’s a g es ? It’s very important that we acknowledge the developmental difference between children. For a 5-year-old who knows about germs, explain it to them in the same way you would about how we get colds and runny noses. But for an adolescent, you can go into the details about where this virus came from and what we know about it. Compare and contrast it to something like the flu, which a lot of kids know about.
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C h i l d re n m a y be an xio u s, co nf u se d a nd afraid. H ow c a n we h e lp? We’ve all been thrown into this topsy-turvy world where a lot of adults are working from home and kids are doing school online. Sticking with a routine is vitally important. Kids look to parents to establish a routine, and so I would strongly advocate for bedtimes and three nutritious meals together a day.
How can we shift our thinking and l oo k a t th e bright side ? It’s important to stay positive and kids pick up on that positive energy too. When it comes to this virus, there are some positives if we look for them. One is that on the whole, the younger population isn’t as significantly affected. That’s a positive that you can share with your child to help them worry less about their safety and yours. I also encourage you to find new ways of doing things together, like hosting virtual meetings with friends and loved ones.
H ow c a n we e n co u rage goo d ha b i t s am o n g k ids? This may be an opportunity to talk about the reasons behind our actions. Such as, the reason why we wash our hands is not only to keep us safe, but also to keep the people around us safe. The reason why we’re staying home, not playing on the playground — or not going to school to see our friends — is about more than just you and I. It’s about the opportunity to do something for the general good. I personally think that’s a positive message. Amid a pandemic, we’re seeing a lot of creativity and, more importantly, kindness. You don’t have to look far to see people reaching out and helping others, and I encourage you to connect with those who might be lonely or isolated. There’s a lot of kindness in this world and it’s a nice time to celebrate that. [ aw ]
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FA IT H : Life is beautiful, messy and hard, all at the same time! God uses the biggest trials and the hardest moments for the greater good. He has a purpose and plan through it all, but it’s up to us to trust and believe that God is doing a great work in us and through us. The tough moments are opportunities for us to lean on God, to go to him, and to take on these challenges together. God knows your pain and unlike the saying, “God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle,” the truth is that he will give you more than you can handle, so you will go
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Although this will never replace in-person interactions, I have been loving connecting virtually over Zoom and Skype with my family and friends. Whether it’s a virtual happy hour, a Friday night couple’s date, a Monday night “grow group” with church friends, or a Saturday brunch date with extended family (from Michigan, North Carolina, Florida, New Jersey and Belgium), it’s fun to get creative with ways we can connect. Think of fun ways you can connect with your family and friends and schedule it. Despite being apart, there are actually many more ways we can connect and can create that community that we all desire and need.
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I N N O VAT I V E H O L I S T I C MEMORY CARE W O R D S : A R E A W O M A N S TA F F W R I T E R
Kayla Howard is a woman with a vision. After spending 16 years working in various capacities serving patients with dementia and Alzheimer's disease, she was disheartened by the standard treatment and intervention protocols. It broke her heart to see her patients, primarily elderly, enter a cycle of crisis, emergency rooms, hospitalizations and the far too common usage of psychotropic drugs to end a crisis. Kayla knew there had to be a better way, not only for the patient but for caregivers, staff and families. Thus, the plans for the Thompson Howard Home began. The plans for the Thompson Howard Home include a 2022 opening date. It will be a residential facility, with room for approximately 30 residents. A site for the facility has been selected in Mapleton, North Dakota. Rhet Architecture is working with Kayla on facility design. Kayla is working with the Dakota Medical Foundation and Innovate ND, as well as experts all over the country to navigate the process, including NDSBA, Womenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Business Center, SCORE, the NICE Center, and other mentors in the field. The goals of the Thompson Howard Home are to enhance the quality care standards for dementia, to educate families and the community on how to effectively engage with this population, and to empower the staff on all levels.
P H O T O G R A P H Y : K E L LY M A H A N
The Home will raise the standard of care by employing non-pharmacological interventions during times of distress caused by forms of dementia. Non-pharmacological interventions include a variety of modalities, like massage, music, animals, aromatherapy and light therapy. During times of distress, these methods can be used to calm a loved one down, reducing and potentially eliminating the use of drugs. These therapies will be in regular use, with a goal being to avoid times of distress entirely. Family involvement is a crucial aspect of the Thompson Howard Home. From the beginning stages of the admission process all the way through to end-of-life care, the Home will require the family to be deeply involved with the care of their loved one. The Homeâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s inclusive, holistic approach will eliminate the need to ever change care facilities. This includes providing an in-depth timeline of the incoming residentâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s life. Ultimately, this leads to the Home being able to understand and relate better to the resident, especially when they are in distress. Key to achieving these goals is the staff. The staff at Thompson Howard Home will have higher educational requirements than are currently standard in similar treatment facilities. All staff will be dementia-care certified, with the requirement of quarterly recertification in dementia care and
DISCOVER REAL POSSIBILITIES IN FARGO-MOORHEAD AARP is in North Dakota creating real, meaningful change. We’re proud to help all our communities become the best they can be. Like providing family caregivers with tips to take care of loved ones, helping to make our communities more livable and hosting fun, informative events all across the state. If you don’t think Real Possibilities when you think AARP, then you don’t know “aarp.” hands-on behavioral care. With their specific and up-to-date training, the staff will be directly involved in decision-making regarding the procedures of the facility. Staffing will be based on the care needs of the patients, not a staffing and patient census number. Kayla, who is a registered nurse with a master’s degree in nursing administration and leadership, is planning a Zoom educational seminar on June 11, 2020 at 11:30 a.m. Additional Zoom educational seminars will be ongoing, with a July date to be determined. These are free to anyone interested, whether you are a healthcare professional, someone dealing with dementia care issues or a member of the community interested in learning more. More information about these seminars can be found on the Thompson Howard Home website, thompsonhowardhome.org, Facebook, Instagram and LinkedIn.
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Essentia Health changes HOW CARE IS DELIVERED A M I D COV I D - 1 9 PA N D E M I C WO R DS : J E N N I F E R M C L AU G H L I N
n the course of a few weeks, “normal” took a sharp turn as communities, businesses and organizations adapted to finding innovative ways of doing things when faced with the reality of COVID-19. The sudden new reality caused everyone to navigate through social distancing and business closures for the health and safety of our community. From delivering care virtually to drive-up testing, healthcare took on a new look in the face of the pandemic.
Essentia Health physical therapist Scott Barnhardt conducts a virtual therapy visit with a patient.
P H O T O G R A P H Y : D E N I S E S A R G E N T a n d E S S E N T I A H E A LT H
V I R T U A L H E A LT H C A R E Essentia Health expanded healthcare into people’s homes with virtual video visits. Virtual visits are a telephone or video appointment directly between a provider and patient similar to an in-person visit. The difference is patients are in the comfort of their home using audio and video through their own computer, tablet or smartphone. Plans for an April launch were already in place at Essentia for this service when COVID-19 fast-tracked it. Essentia’s first virtual video visit was conducted on March 18 and since then has exploded with an average of about 3,000 visits occurring each day. “Essentia Health has changed the way we operate, and we are doing it for the better of our patients,” says Nicole Christensen, chief nursing officer. Virtual video visits are available in primary and pediatric care, and nearly all specialty areas. Even walk-in virtual visits are now available, and all appointments are open to both new and existing patients.
to identify what makes the pain worse or better, because they are doing it in their own home and in their own environment,” says Enockson. Family members have also been more likely to attend these virtual appointments, allowing therapists to keep them actively engaged in the treatment as well. Karra Krump, a physical therapy patient in Detroit Lakes, has had five appointments so far. Her appointments consist of discussing pain level, issues, and reviewing past exercises. New exercises are implemented by her therapist demonstrating and then watching, giving suggestions and critiques, while she completes them. “These visits have been great, and I feel the virtual visits for this have been just as successful as an in-person visit,” she says. Krump says a bonus has been the amount of time it saves in travel or possible wait times.
COV ID -19 SC R EEN IN G
Therapy is virtually serving patients of all ages. Michelle Enockson, director of Rehabilitation Services at Essentia Health, says patient reaction has been extremely positive. “Patients have appreciated being able to continue therapy from the comfort of their home, and they also feel safer by limiting their exposure to the risk of coronavirus out in the community.”
a n d D R IV E - UP T EST IN G
Therapists can provide therapy exercises utilizing what is available to the patient at home. Patients are giving more detailed feedback, which is enhancing their treatment. “Patients are paying more attention to their body, and are better able
After the visit, patients determined
If you have concerns or symptoms related to COVID-19, Essentia Health is providing e-visits at no cost* for evaluation. To learn more, or to start an e-visit, go to essentiahealth.org/covid-19.
to need a test will be directed to one of Essentia’s drive-up testing sites. *Testing ordered as a result of screening may incur a charge.
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Hannah Cook attends her OB curbside vitals appointment at Essentia Health.
CONVENIENT CURBSIDE CARE With patient safety and comfort in mind, Essentia Health put new models in place for virtual video visits that may require in-person follow-up. Clinic locations have been designated for patients to receive immunizations, labs or other necessary treatments post-virtual visit to ensure the highest level of care. OB patients are receiving curbside vital checks once a virtual visit is completed with their provider. These curbside appointments check blood pressure and baby’s heartbeat, which are vital elements to gauge mother and baby’s health. Patients arrive, drive up to a designated parking space, and a nurse and provider come out to their vehicle and complete the check-up. “We recognized that there was a gap with our virtual visits in that we are not able to assess fetal heart rate and blood pressures for our OB patients. Our curbside vitals appointment allows us to offer a comprehensive visit without our patients even entering the clinic,” explains Dr. Stefanie Gefroh Ellison, OB/GYN physician at Essentia Health. Hannah Cook, an Essentia OB patient loved the experience. “It helped just having that extra faceto-face contact and reassurance that everything was going well,” she says. “To have Essentia working and coming up with ideas to help us moms stay safe during this time and yet have that assurance is very much appreciated.”
F O R M O R E I N F O R M AT I O N on virtual video visits, go to essentiahealth.org/virtualvisit.
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SIMPLE LIFE C R E AT I O N S
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W O R D S + P H O T O G R A P H Y : L A R E S S A M AT T S O N
imple Life Creations is the culmination of many years of dreaming, planning, saving and praying. But it was well worth the wait. Earlier this year I finally launched my website and the Shopify store I've been working so hard for. That's not where it all started though. I started out in school in veterinary medicine. I have always loved animals and wanted a chance to work with them daily. As time went on, I decided to change my focus from animals to humans and went into massage therapy. During that time, I had my first child, moved from Fargo to Wisconsin, and back to Fargo. We had our second child and decided to return to my original focus on animals. I graduated from college in 2007 and eventually went on to get certification in canine rehabilitation from the Canine Rehab Institute in Coral Springs, Florida.
Now I have three kids, a husband, a dog and a full-time job at Prairie Winds Veterinary Center in Fargo. Life gets crazy at times when you're balancing all of that! From trying to understand why your youngest brushed the dog’s teeth with their sibling’s toothbrush to wondering why they'd put toilet water in their sister’s water bottle for revenge, there's never a dull moment in my house. Through all of that, the changes, the chaos, kid schedules and work, one thing has always been a constant source of comfort and peace in my life: my crafts. My love of crafting started with scrapbooking and blossomed from there. One day I realized that this was my calling. Caring for others through my crafts. I have an extensive list of things that I love to create and have found a few specialty items globally that I offer in my shop as well. Wood projects are one of my favorite things. Each product is unique. They may be similar, but when you're working with wood, the beauty is that each product is its own. When I see a
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block of wood or even a random jumble of twigs in nature, my brain ignites with the possibilities of things I could create. I have had the rewarding opportunity to create custom pieces for people, which I love. Some of the items I make, especially the well-being items (bath bombs, lip balm, wax melts), I can make in bulk, since these items typically get used up quickly and need to be replaced. Ultimately, my goal with Simple Life Creations is to bring joy and happiness to people's lives when they see and use my finished products. I truly believe that if you love what you do, you never work a day in your life. Crafting is what I love to do and have made it my life goal to do it the rest of my life. Simple Life Creations puts you in touch with the things that matter most — home, family and your own well-being. It's your one-stop shop for everything you need to be complete.
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auren Singelmann credits her self-confidence to the opportunities she’s been given at North Dakota State University to learn and grow in her field of engineering. “Imposter syndrome is something I continue to work through, but I’ve found that I now have more moments where I genuinely feel proud of myself and my work,” Singelmann says. “When working on a thesis or dissertation, you become the expert on that topic. It has required me to grow in my ability to tackle tough problems and feel more comfortable standing up for my decisions.” Singelmann earned her bachelor’s degree from NDSU in electrical engineering. She minored in biomedical engineering. She’s currently pursuing her master’s degree in electrical and computer engineering and hoping to start her doctoral degree in the fall. Singelmann also works as NDSU’s outreach coordinator for the College of Engineering. As an outreach coordinator, Singelmann organizes and hosts programs for students in elementary school through high school. She does not expect all of these students to become engineers, but her hope is that students feel more confident going into their math and science courses.
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“Knowledge in engineering helps you grow in your problem-solving and technical skills, and those abilities are valuable in almost anything you do today,” Singlemann says. Engineering is more than designing and building bridges, tunnels, vehicles and structures. Singlemann says engineers can find jobs in just about any industry because of the broad range of skills learned. NDSU realizes this versatility and has many resources, pathways and connections available for students. Singelmann wasn’t always sure she wanted to pursue a graduate degree. But she realized after discussions with her adviser that helping to better educate and support students was her career passion. Her love of learning, engineering and helping others made the decision to pursue an advanced degree an easy one. Singelmann is now able to work on complex technical problems and teach the next generation of students.
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“If you’re considering continuing your education, I’d really encourage you to jump in and go for it. For me, it’s been challenging and scary, but even more empowering and rewarding,” she says. “Graduate school has definitely prepared me for the type of career I want to pursue in the future. NDSU has given me so many opportunities during my time here so far, and I’ve already been able to make an impact both locally and globally.”
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FROM B E A U T I F U L LY BROKEN
to world changer One girl’s survival story becomes a movement for change
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osa Strubbe has turned her daughter’s survival story into a movement for change. The #IstandwithNatalee movement began in response to a video Strubbe shared on Facebook telling her daughter Natalee’s story and calling for change in the justice system. Two years ago, Rosa and Ryan Strubbe found out that four-year-old Natalee had been raped three times by their friends’ 13-year-old son. “I was devastated and I was angry. I felt like I was a complete failure because I should have been able to protect her from this,” says Strubbe. As soon as Natalee told her what happened, Strubbe reported the incident to the police, and Natalee went through a forensic interview at the Red River
Children’s Advocacy Center. Four months later, the offender was sentenced to one year of probation and outpatient therapy. Strubbe felt the justice system had let them down. “I realized I couldn’t be the only parent who experienced this, who went through these emotions,” Strubbe says. “Anger fueled me. It gave me a backbone so I could push for change.” She used that backbone to push for Natalee’s Law, a bill advocating for change in the North Dakota juvenile court system, which includes allowing parents of the victim access to court information as long as they do not share it, and stiffer sentencing for offenders. With the support of Representative Ben Koppelman, the bill passed unanimously in both the House and Senate, was signed by Governor Burgum and became active in August 2019. Strubbe recalls, “The day we found out Natalee’s Law passed unanimously I cried uncontrollably, because another family wasn’t going to have to jump the hurdles we did.”
No matter what mountain you've gotten through, you're going to come out on the other side.” rosa strubbe
“Our goal is to teach caregivers and other adults not just to recognize signs, but to actually report it. Even if it’s just a bad feeling, report it,” insists Strubbe. “These kids are never going to heal if you don’t believe them.”
Strubbe hasn’t stopped there. She believes North Dakota still needs a treatment program for juvenile sex offenders. “Research shows how successful treatment can be if they are treated before they become adults. They can actually rewire their brains. We are doing a disservice to our juvenile offenders by not offering them a program that has been proven to work, not just in the short term but the long term as well.”
THE STRUBBE FAM ILY [clockwise from left] Rosa, Luka s , R ya n a n d N a ta lee
She continues to work for change as an instructor with Stand to Protect, a nonprofit organization that aims to educate the community to prevent child sexual abuse. One in ten children are estimated to experience sexual abuse before the age of 18, but less than half of those children come forward. They are scared or ashamed, the abuser has told them to keep it a secret, or they don’t think an adult will believe them.
Strubbe urges parents to build an open relationship with their children. Make sure children feel comfortable talking with their parents about difficult subjects and know they can come forward if something does happen. “We’re talking to our children more about this and other subjects that are hard to talk about. Our family has changed and we’re stronger than ever because of this.” Above all, Strubbe reminds parents to try not to react if their children do come forward. “Children Natalee’s age don’t typically come forward. Like an adult victim, they blame themselves. If the parents react negatively, they turn those emotions onto themselves.” Strubbe reassures, “No matter what mountain you’ve gotten through, you’re going to come out on the other side. You’re going to be OK and your little one is going to come out stronger than you ever gave them credit for.” Today, six-year-old Natalee sees herself as a world changer. “She’s not a victim, she's a survivor. She’s beautifully broken and mended.” And when asked who is brave and strong, Natalee proudly replies, “I am, Mom!” [ aw ]
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‘just do do’ WITH
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D OO SA N B OBCAT LEA DER i nteg ra tes he r roles as “M o m ” a n d hi gh- powe red p rofess i o nal
LIKE MANY PEOPLE E, Laura Ness Owens had to modify her life when the COVID-19 pandemic started. She spent several weeks helping her sons, Boden, 5, and Teddy, 10, with distance learning, while juggling morning to evening video and telephone meetings with executives and colleagues from around the world for Doosan Bobcat. She also made sure her aging father had everything he needed. The scenario is an example of what she calls “just doing.” “I want to be the best mom and daughter I can be, and I also really like what I do. I make it work. You just do,” she says. The “just do” mantra guided Ness Owens to her position as vice president of marketing, communication and public affairs at Doosan Bobcat North America. Part of her job includes sitting on the executive task force guiding the crisis communication plan and ensuring solid communication to 4,000 internal and countless other stakeholders outside the company. “COVID-19 has created an incredibly interesting time in our business, and I get to be on the front line,” Ness Owens says. “It is quite the balance when I’m also sitting at the dining room table on the front line with my little guys.” Compassion, connection and humor helped along the way, too.
Her latest funny stories revolve around her sons’ quarantine haircuts and advising three fourth graders via facetime on how to use a protractor. She also spoke to a group of top dealers while doing gym class with her boys. While Ness Owens has lost her hair-cutting privileges, she hasn’t let COVID-19 ruin her children’s lives. She says you figure it out day by day, week by week and use what you learn to help others. Sharing about her life outside of work helps her build relationships at work. Early in her career, Ness Owens was so focused on getting things done that she didn’t take time to build relationships. “I spent a fair share of my early career being closed in, thinking I was right, I knew what I was doing, I had a job to get done,” she says. “Then, I started realizing if you work to build relationships, you can get things done better and it’s a lot more enjoyable.” At Bobcat’s North American headquarters in West Fargo, Ness Owens is known as someone people can confide in and go to for advice. She’s a leader who helps her team reach their full potential while having fun doing it, says Brianne Hill, dealer communications manager. The two women have worked together at Bobcat for about a decade. “Laura finds a way to maximize everything she touches,” Hill says. “Laura holds our team and company to high standards, while also still being compassionate toward people and life's realities along the way.”
Kindness and compassion come up a lot with Ness Owens. She talks about how important it is to take time to be respectful in emails, to be self-aware, and to remember you don’t know what’s going on in people’s lives. “I once was told that it wasn’t important to be liked and that I shouldn’t worry about what people thought about me; respect was all that mattered. I remember thinking those things were not mutually exclusive,” she says. “I believe that to get a seat at the table and earn respect, I have to show that I am human, I have compassion, and that I care if I’m perceived as kind or not.” When COVID-19 began impacting the way we live and work, Ness Owens’ goal with employees was to be empathetic and keep them motivated. She shared personal stories about the challenges of juggling it all so employees could see that she understands what they’re going through. “I communicated with them often via email, video conference and telephone, ensuring they knew my expectations were to not only work hard, but also work smart, because it was a difficult time for us all personally and professionally,” she says. Ness Owens’ team quickly transitioned marketing campaigns to align with the global crisis. They shifted from “Next Is Now,” a forward-thinking campaign about the future of Doosan Bobcat, to “Tougher Together,” a story about coming together as an entirely new business facing unique circumstances. “I’m immensely proud of my team in how they’ve pulled together and adjusted in this ever-changing situation,” Ness Owens says.
In a way, Ness Owens carries on her mom’s legacy by practicing kindness at work. Barbiece Ness, as Ness Owens describes her, was the epitome of kindness who “found the happy” in everything. Barbiece strived to create a loving home for her daughter, five sons and husband. “It was just love, pure love,” Ness Owens says. Barbiece championed Ness Owens’ career, too. They were best friends who’d talk daily and watch “Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood” over and over. Their relationship was built on conversation and togetherness since Barbiece lived with rheumatoid arthritis most of her life. Two years ago, after a brief battle with leukemia, Barbiece passed away in palliative care. Ness Owens was devastated and misses her daily—but, like her mom, she’s worked to see the best in it. She’s become close with her dad and uses her experience to help others with sick loved ones navigate hospitals, social services and other challenges. In and out of the office, she aims to make things better for people. “If I can help your journey be a little bit smoother, I want to do that. I want to help people, and I hate seeing people struggle,” she says.
Ness Owens’ husband, Steve, describes his wife as strongly committed to work and equally committed to their family. He also travels frequently for his job and says they work together to ensure they have family time. They take family vacations whenever they can and have a standing Sunday dinner date with Ness Owens’ dad. “When you have time together, you have to make the best of it,” Steve says. “We work so hard for them. I think that’s one thing I learned from my mom, too: Family’s first,” Ness Owens says. “I want to make sure that I’m always keeping them at the front of my mind. They’re the reason I get up and get going every morning.”
– JODI DUNCAN
Over the last 15 years, Flint Group President Jodi Duncan has witnessed Ness Owens’ leadership and kindness. The women have become close friends over the years they’ve worked together, and Duncan admires Ness Owens’ kindness, generosity and commitment to building relationships.
“She takes every opportunity to share her kind heart,” she says. “Laura is a wonderful representative of successful women, but more importantly, she’s a good person who wants to make the world a better place.”
SHE TAKES EVERY OPPORTUNITY TO SHARE HER KIND HEART.”
‘P URE LOVE’
Laura Ness Owens with her mother, Barbiece Ness. Photo by Michelle Warren
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Ness Owens started at Bobcat 17 years ago, first working in tradeshows and events, and later holding several positions in areas like dealer training and development, customer experience, brand management and trademark protection. In every role, she’s looked for value-add and purpose, saying she’s “always building to something else.” Working with mostly men, Ness Owens is frequently asked what it’s like to work in the construction equipment industry as a woman. “It’s all about the skills and experiences you bring to the table. Do I have everything in common with the guys? No, but you find common ground and ‘just do,’” she says. “We’re all here for the same reason, and we respect each other as teammates.” She’s part of a shift at the company and in the industry, where more women are being promoted to leadership roles than ever before. Ness Owens sits
on the Association of Equipment Manufacturer’s Board of Directors and is committed to helping more women get into the construction equipment industry, which has typically been dominated by men. Michael Ballweber, president of Doosan Bobcat North America, says that is rapidly changing. “I am very proud to say that I have three women on my executive team, and Ness Owens is right when she says she and the other two female executives were the best candidates for those roles. They all deserved it,” he says. Throughout her career, Ness Owens has advocated for her work. She hasn’t always been selected for positions she desired, but she didn’t give up. If Ness Owens was told she didn’t have the experience for a role, she’d gain the experience and champion the work she’d done to improve the business to ensure she’d be considered for the next opportunity.
IF WE DON’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR ADVOCATING FOR OURSELVES, HOW CAN WE EXPECT OTHERS TO DO IT FOR US?” – LAURA NESS OWENS
Ness Owens empowers her team, too, encouraging them to grow their skills while supporting the overall business motion. She helps those around her “get in the driver’s seat,” Hill says. “I recognize key skills are required for a position and have sought to develop myself accordingly,” she says. “I’ve also worked to change the dialogue to focus on what I bring to the table. If we don’t take responsibility for advocating for ourselves, how can we expect others to do it for us?” Ness Owens has overall responsibility for the Doosan Bobcat North America brand, ensuring marketing aligns with the company’s goal of empowering their customers to do their jobs more efficiently and effectively. She leads efforts to promote Bobcat products in new and different ways, like launching a social media program and using influencers Josh Duhamel and Carson Wentz to reach new audiences in innovative ways.
“My growth and development are in large part due to her leadership,” she says. “Her vision drives an entire marketing and communications team toward success.” For Ness Owens, business success is important, but even more significant is knowing that she’s Mom, too, “just doing” the best she can every day. Her determination has a special admirer in her 10-year-old son, Teddy. “The best thing about my mom is she doesn’t give up,” he says. “She keeps trying.” [ aw ]
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June 20 HOLISTIC HEALTHY LIVING FESTIVAL Holistic Healthy Living Festival is a unique opportunity to gather together in purposeful presence during one of the most enjoyable days of the year… the summer solstice. You’ll be surrounded by natural beauty and swirling in intentional energy as you embark upon engaging keynote speaker and best-selling author of "The Art Of Psychic Reiki," Lisa Campion. There will be a variety of other speakers followed up by all levels of yoga (from beginners to experienced) and a vendor village to engage with all your senses. Cherish your soul, nourish your body and ignite your passion! The festival is designed to take you on a heartfelt, joyous journey through laughter, joy and inspiration to help you shift your inner stuff that may be holding you back. A body-mind-spirit transformation can be a deeply personal process but it’s also supported, empowered and amplified by community and fun. All levels welcome. Join us! 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM Detroit Mountain Recreational Area 29409 170th St. Detroit Lakes, MN fitnessforthesoulfestival.com/event
R IDE TO FIGHT SUI CI DE Join us for the Fargo Ride to Fight Suicide. Registration will begin at the Harwood Grill and Saloon starting at 10:30 a.m. with kickstands up at noon. Tickets: Driver - Motorcycle or Car $25 Passenger - Motorcycle or Car $10 Proceeds benefit local and national suicide prevention and awareness programs of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Learn more at afsp.org/fargoride 10:30 AM to 7:00 PM Harwood Grill and Saloon 217 Chaplin Dr. Harwood, ND afsp.org/FargoRide
5 th A nnu a l F L E A M A R K E T AT T HE FA RM Fargo Antiques & Repurposed Market, aka The FARM, will be having our annual June flea market outside in the parking lot again! Come scour the flea market and the sales inside for vintage planters and unique garden items, antiques, vinyl records, collectible toys, comics, painted furniture, books, vintage craft supplies, rustic farmhouse decor, and so much more! Along with the 60+ vendors inside, we've invited our friends at Heidi's Home Rescue to join us. Visit their booth at the flea market and find out more about their services and how you can help rescue dogs. And, of course, you can donate to help, including dropping off cleaning and pet supplies. There will be a prize drawing for a PetSmart gift package worth over $50. Local author Amelia Lemar will be signing a limited quantity of her new book “It’s OK: The 8 Things All Children Need to Hear,” available from Amazon. Bring your own copy if you can! Worried about the coronavirus? As our FARM friends know, the antique mall is large and social distancing is relatively easy (we have hand sanitizer at the door, and a washroom about halfway through too). Masks are recommended, but not required. 10:00 AM to 6:00 PM Fargo Antiques and Repurposed Market 5258 51st Ave. S., Fargo | farmantiques.net
B O NA NZ AV I LLE 4 t h O F J U LY CELEBRAT IO N Join us on July 4th for a day packed with family fun. We kick off the event with a historic shooting of the anvil. We will have historic games, live historic demonstrations, horse-drawn wagon rides, crafts for the kids, train rides, two station Bungee Jumper from Games to Go, aerialist Katie Hicks, Terry & Jerry's food truck, snow cones, a parade at 2:00 p.m. and more. FIREWORKS AT DARK! Regular admission prices apply, military FREE with ID. Plenty of room to social distance and extra precautions taken to ensure the safety of our guests. 10:00 AM – 5:00 PM Bonanzaville | 1351 Main Ave W, West Fargo bonanzaville.org
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The warm sunshine puts a smile on my face, even as I look forward to a summer that's a little different than usual. From work to school to social activities, our daily lives have changed a lot in the last couple of months. As we all continue to adapt to what seems like a constantly evolving world, I wonder how your reading habits have changed. Are you reading more in place of the events and obligations that have now been canceled? Or maybe the stress of it all has made it difficult for your attention to stay focused on any book. What if the content you're reading has changed to keep you engaged in a different way? Or maybe it's all of those, depending on how you feel that day.
I'm firmly in the last camp. Some days I'm escaping into a great story for as long as possible; some days I can't stay focused no matter what. And generally I'm finding myself reaching for happy, feelgood stories and escapist reads that feel far removed from our current world. The most important thing is that I'm still discovering new books and that makes me happy, even if it looks a little different than before. Keep reading for some of my favorite escapist reads.
The Night Circus
The Bride Test
by Erin Morgenstern
by Helen Hoang
by Ibi Zoboi
"The circus arrives without warning. No announcements precede it. It is simply there, when yesterday it was not." These atmospheric first lines have me itching to pick up this magical book again. I've read it so many times, my beloved paperback copy is in rough shape and it never fails to capture my heart. Two young magicians, Celia and Marco, have been trained since childhood for a fierce competition of imagination and will. The circus itself is their battleground as they create magical illusions and fantastical attractions for the audiences who explore the black and white circus tents. As the game plays out, Celia and Marco fall deeply in love. But only one winner can be left standing in this deadly game and the fates of everyone involved, from circus performers to patrons, hang in the balance. From describing the atmosphere of the circus down to the delicious smells to the magic that permeates every scene, Morgenstern's writing will have you wishing you could visit "Le Cirque des Rêves" for real.
Khai doesn't feel big emotions like grief or love. He thinks he's defective and avoids relationships, but his family knows thats that his autism means he processes emotions differently. His mother decides to take matters into her own hands and returns to Vietnam to find him a wife. She interviews many candidates, but knows none of them are right for her son. Until she stumbles upon Esme working as a maid at the hotel. When she's offered the opportunity to go to America, Esme sees it as a chance to make things better for her struggling family. The meeting between Esme and Khai doesn't exactly go as planned, but she is determined to use her time there to better herself in any way possible. Esme soon finds herself falling for a man who claims he cannot possibly feel love. However, when Esme's time in the U.S. is coming to an end, Khai realizes he's been wrong all along and must find his own way to love. Esme is a strong, capable woman who works hard to do what she can for her family. This is an introspective, emotional story that left me feeling uplifted.
Retellings and adaptations of Jane Austen’s works are so numerous and widely varied I could fill these pages with lists of options. But one of my favorite things about these modern versions are the authors who are telling Austen’s stories through a different cultural lens. Pride is a smart remix of Austen’s Pride and Prejudice starring all characters of color and set in Brooklyn. Zuri Benitez has pride in her family, her neighborhood, and her Afro-Latino roots. But it can’t save her rapidly gentrifying neighborhood from becoming unrecognizable and the wealthy Darcy family moving in across the street only makes things worse. Her older sister, Janae quickly falls for charming Ainsley Darcy, but Zuri wants nothing to do with them, especially the arrogant younger brother Darius Darcy. Between her wild sisters, worrying about college applications and the cute local boy Warren vying for her attention, Zuri fights to find her place in this changing neighborhood. I especially loved Zuri’s poetry which is raw and beautiful. Zoboi skillfully uses Austen’s trademark social criticism to reflect modern explorations of culture, race and class among her young black characters as they navigate the world they live in.
Pick up Morgenstern's newest novel "The Starless Sea."
Another modern romance I enjoyed is "The Proposal" by Jasmine Guillory.
LOVED THIS? I'm also looking forward to reading "Ayesha at Last" by Uzma Jalaluddin.
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Binti by Nnedi Okorafor This short novella is the perfect quick-read for the next chance you have to spend an hour or two with a great book. On the surface, this is a comingof-age story about a young woman who leaves her home to find her own way. Binti is the first of her people ever to be offered a place at the prestigious Oomza University, the finest institution in the galaxy. But to accept the offer will mean giving up her place in her family and leaving her home to travel to another planet. There she will be among strangers who do not share her ways or respect the customs of the Himba people. Binti is willing to pay the cost for the knowledge she will gain, but her journey will not be easy. As she is traveling to Oomza University with her fellow students, she finds herself face to face with the Meduse, an alien race that has become the stuff of nightmares during their long war with the Khoush people of Earth. Binti must use the gifts of her people and her own talents if she hopes to survive. In the end, this is more than a simple coming-of-age story. Binti may have been taught to fear the Meduse, but she shows the reader that really listening to those who are different than you is a way to a better solution.
The Girls at the Kingfisher Club
Sucks to Be Me
by Genevieve Valentine
Author Kristen Painter has joined forces with 12 other authors to define a place for books with midlife heroines. They’re calling these books Paranormal Women’s Fiction and they all feature women who are over 40, with all the wisdom life’s experiences have granted them. Painter’s book follows 49-year-old Belladonna Barrone who’s mobbed-up husband does her the favor of dying in a car accident. Donna is finally free of the crime family she unwittingly married into, until the boss tells her she must finish her husband’s last job. Of course, the job goes sideways before it starts and Donna wakes up suddenly looking years younger and craving blood. That’s right, she’s a vampire (they’re real?) and her new life is more complicated than ever. With the help of the First Fangs Club for newly turned vampires and her own strength and determination, Donna will have to make a new life for herself. This is a fun, spellbinding read with a smart, strong protagonist who takes life in her own hands.
This is a reimagining of the German fairy tale “The Twelve Dancing Princesses” by the Brothers Grimm, set in Manhattan during the roaring twenties. Twelve Hamilton girls live upstairs during the day, never going out in public according to the rules set by their controlling father. The olders, Jo, protects her younger sisters and negotiates with their father, earning her the nickname of “The General.” She is the one who taught them to dance and helps them sneak out each night to spend the evening dancing away at their favorite speakeasy, the Kingfisher Club. But what are they to do when their father decides it’s time to marry them off to the highest bidder? I loved getting to know the Hamilton sisters and I loved the way they followed their passions both by sneaking out to go dancing and in the ways they found their feet after leaving their father’s house.
by Kristen Painter
Keep reading as Binti’s story continues in books 2 and 3.
Check out the Paranormal Women’s Fiction books by all 13 authors at paranormalwomensfiction.net.
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People of the Book by Geraldine Brooks Rare book expert Hanna Heath is offered the job of a lifetime: analysis and conservation of the famous Sarajevo Haggadah. One of the earliest Jewish volumes ever to be illuminated with images, this priceless and beautiful book is full of mysteries Hanna hopes to unlock. As she discovers a series of tiny artifacts in the book’s ancient binding, the reader traces the books journey backwards to its creation. A Muslim risks his life to protect it from Nazis in World Ward II Bosnia. In Vienna, the book becomes a pawn in the struggle agains the city’s rising anti-Semitism. A Catholic priest saves it from burning in inquisition-era Venice. The scribe who wrote the text in Barcelona in 1492 watches his family being destroyed by the agonies of enforced exile. And in Seville in 1480, the secret of the Haggadah’s extraordinary illuminations is finally revealed. As Hann’s investigation unlocks the past, her belief in herself and the man she has come to love is tested. I loved this grand historical novel as it moved backwards through the extraordinary history of the Haggadah and the people who saved the book from certain doom.
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I also recommend reading "The Lost Sisterhood" by Anne Fortier.
As you and your family are reading this summer, be sure to check out the summer reading program at the Fargo Public Library. This year, the annual summer reading program is taking place online with fun for readers of all ages. Kids can redeem points for prizes, including a free book. Adults will be entered into weekly prize drawings. For more information, visit fargolibrary.org.
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