PLAY BALL By Anna Osborn, LMFT, owner of Life Unscripted Counseling
It’s officially spring, which around my house means baseball season. We have three different game/practice schedules that we’re navigating this time of year and sometimes the madness of it all feels crazy; luckily enough most of the time it’s crazy in a good way. My daughter played softball last year and although it wasn’t her favorite thing in the world, she was a trooper. Her games were a bit (a lot) on the slow side, some kids at bats stretched well into the 20-minute mark and there was very little ball hitting, base running action. To make it even harder, when she went to watch her brother’s game, (in her eyes) it looked like he was having more fun. His games were a bit more action packed than the tee she found herself hitting on and she left each game feeling sort of deflated 50. ardentforlife.net - Spring 2019
only to ask, “how come I don’t get to do strikeouts and run the bases like brother does?” Well you can imagine my surprise when signups came around this year and she said she was willing to give it another try. Yes, I might have nudged her to give it one last shot but at the end of the day, she was the one willing to step up to the plate. The wild thing is she’s having a blast so far. I don’t know if it’s the difference of a year, a coach that’s really focused on fun or being a bit more coordinated, but regardless, she’s having a great time. Honestly, I think the biggest difference is that she sees herself getting a little better. Her confidence is growing, and it’s absolutely transforming her attitude. Now, she’s no Jenny Finch; but the girl is hitting the ball and knows to always look for the play at first. She’s seeing herself do this hard thing and it’s starting to build her confidence.
The amazing thing about confidence, which I feel we need to be reminded of at any age, is that it’s not a requirement to do the hard thing, it’s the result you get from doing it anyway. Let me say that again…Confidence is not a requirement to be brave! It’s the byproduct you receive from showing up anyway. Sadly, I see so many folks believing that confidence really is the prerequisite to taking action. You tell yourself enough times that you must feel certain about your ability, in order to take on said goal, and soon you start to believe it’s true. When in fact, it couldn’t be further from the truth; believing that confidence is required (before you risk) is one of the most self-limiting beliefs you hold. You can spend so much time talking yourself out of trying the hard thing, that you miss opportunity upon opportunity to take the first step.
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