which does sometimes put the ‘social squeeze’ on our children, especially the older two, who are at an age when they want to do things with their friends. They do complain from time to time, but honestly, they know how our family works and for the most part they’re fine with it.” Of course, living in two cities or commuting back and forth carries a hefty price tag. All four families acknowledge that they’ve made significant sacrifices in other areas to make their school and living arrangements possible. “Between the cost of the second home and the gas back and forth, I’m honestly afraid to figure it up,” Stephanie Daly says. “We are so blessed to be able to do this, but it is definitely a financial burden. This is not something we’re doing easily or taking lightly. It’s a sacrifice, but one that we’re more than willing to make for our children.” When asked if she’s ever calculated the cost of maintaining two homes, Alice Harper’s reply is, “Yikes! I’m not sure I want to. Seriously, it is costly to have two homes, and time is always a challenge. But we still think it’s worth it. It’s hard to find a substitute for the St. Andrew’s experience.” Miles Marcus jokes that he is “appropriately named,” given that his daily commute costs about $100 per week in gas and puts about 30,000 miles per year on his car;
his last vehicle made it to 214,000 miles before the commute killed it. But the Marcuses are in it for the long haul, with no plans to alter their arrangements until their sons receive their St. Andrew’s diplomas. “There are many things that made St. Andrew’s the right choice for us,” Miles Marcus says. “We liked the strong academics and the progressive, inclusive nature of the school. Probably what sealed the deal for us was the feeling we got that St. Andrew’s was just a nice place to be, and that’s the kind of environment we wanted for our children. We are very happy with our decision, and even though it has required some logistical adjustments, it’s been absolutely worth it.” By the time Hayes Daly graduates, his family will have been living in two cities for 10 years. “We said from the beginning we’d take this one year at a time,” Stephanie Daly says. “And every year we ask, ‘Is everybody good? Can we do it for another year? Can we do it financially for another year?’ And every year, we’ve made the same decision. We’re registered for next year.” Walk 10 miles uphill in the snow for a St. Andrew’s education? For the Dalys, Harpers, Lamptons, and Marcuses, that would be a piece of cake.
“Probably what sealed the deal for us was the feeling we got that St. Andrew’s was just a nice place to be, and that’s the kind of environment we wanted for our children.” — Miles Marcus Above: Sam, Angela, Miles, and Patrick Marcus
Published on May 22, 2014
Published on May 22, 2014
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