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PERSONALDEVELOPMENT

EQUANIMITY – the Cool approach for Survival By Tina Viney

“Equanimity suggests balance, centeredness, not being pulled internally too far in one direction or another.” — Nancy Flam I HAVE A CONFESSION TO MAKE. There are times when I feel quite overwhelmed with the pressures of life. Yet each morning, I wake up and face the day with courage and a positive expectation that I will make it through the day victoriously, despite the odds. I need to convince myself to have this mindset, otherwise, I will roll over and go back to sleep and that is not an option. Have you ever felt this way? In my own quest for mastering my circumstance I came across an interesting word for which I was somewhat vague about its meaning. The word was equanimity. I first heard it when I attended a two-day Breakthrough Experience with human behaviour and personal development authority Dr John Demartini and while a had a rough idea what it meant, grasping its full meaning has been lifechanging.

For most of us, equanimity is a practice to be developed like exercising, eating healthier foods, or developing habits like mindfulness that can allow us to be in control of our life. We set an intention to navigate towards the internal spaciousness that equanimity offers and practice it incrementally. As many of you who may be in a position of trying to manage your business while also faced with home and family obligations, life can sometimes be unpredictable. There are times when you may be confronted with unfair demands and pressures and possibly find yourself in the predicament of being the only one who can solve “that problem”. Our sails can be ruffled and we can lament the unfairness of life. However, gradually, we learn to manage the sails as they flail in the winds of our lives and realise that whinging and complaining will get us nowhere.

How would you like to master your thoughts, mental and emotional state where nothing can phase you, or make you lose your sense of self-control or balance, regardless of the challenges you may be facing? That is called equanimity.

On the other hand, maintaining our internal equilibrium and staying calm can allow us to navigate through stormy times and actually come up with some great solutions. It all comes down to the power of calm and how valuable that is in helping us successfully overcome challenges.

Equanimity is a capacity for calmness and balance even in a difficult situation. To get a mental image of the meaning of equanimity consider a sailboat managing to remain upright and balanced even in heavy winds. Although the sails sway in the breeze, they hold the boat’s centeredness.

I recently was speaking with a member who was struggling with a staffing relationship issue. “How do I deal with my emotions in these types of difficult situations,”she asked? We brainstormed a few strategies she might consider and I encouraged her to pause and remember “this won’t last forever

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Profile for APAN - Aesthetics Practitioners Advisory Network

APJ Vol 38 2018  

Aesthetics Practitioners Journal Volume 38 Spring 2018 - The official publication of the Aesthetics Practitioners Advisory Network (APAN)

APJ Vol 38 2018  

Aesthetics Practitioners Journal Volume 38 Spring 2018 - The official publication of the Aesthetics Practitioners Advisory Network (APAN)

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