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There is nothing like a journey into your mind to discover who you really are. Here are 10 tips to help you along the way. 1. Become 100% responsible for everything that happens in your life the

good and the bad. Every challenging experience you face has something for you to learn and grow from. Being responsible is not about blame and judgement it is about empowerment. If you are responsible you have choices. You choose the way you respond to 1 every event and communication in your life. No-one makes you feel bored, unloved, angry, appreciated, successful, whole or any other emotion. You choose how you experience your world! Do you want to be the driver of your bus in this journey of life or a passenger? 2. Go beyond your boundary conditions of thinking (comfort zone). It is

only by going beyond what you know that you will be able to find out what you don’t know. Every result you are getting in your life is based on what you currently know. Any issue that is outside your comfort zone seems big and unmanageable If you expand your thinking the problem becomes inside your comfort zone and is now manageable. Working with a coach takes you beyond your boundary conditions of thinking in a totally supportive environment. 3. Start to notice your beliefs and ask yourself about each one does this

belief serve me? does it support, nurture or challenge me. 4. Ask your self who do I need to BE in order to DO the things I need to

do in order to HAVE what it is I want to have. This is one of the most life changing models of thinking it all starts who you need to be. Be-Do-Have. For example If you are feeling disconnected and without purpose ask yourself who do I need to be in order to do the things I need to do to have the connection and purpose I’m looking for.What we focus on is what we get. Have you ever decided to buy a type of

car and as soon as you think about that car you see them everywhere! This works in life what we focus on is what we will find evidence of, to the exclusion of everything else. So if you focus on a problem, having no money, being unhappy in your job, being overweight etc etc that is what you will get. If you focus on a solution to the issue that is what you will get. We spend 90% of our time focussed on the problem and only 10% on the solution imagine the power in shifting that focus. 5. Your view of the world is only a representation of the world based on

your own map, which is made up of your unique values, attitudes, beliefs, experiences and stories. No two maps are the same we are all unique and experience the world differently. Knowing this and respecting others maps of the world helps us to understand that we all create our own reality and there is no right or wrong. Also that the map can be changed with exploration and choice. 6. Adopt the belief there is no failure only feed back. No matter what

you do you cannot fail. Everything that happens (including the results you don’t want), is simply feed back it is telling you to adjust your choices, your behavior or your beliefs to get a different type of feed back. 7. Learn to embrace uncertainty. Try new things, remember old things

that you’ve forgotten. Change is uncertain and sometimes the fear of change is bigger than the fear of staying the same. Think of a time when you were uncertain what about driving a car how uncertain were you then? Because you wanted to be able to drive you went through that uncertainty and slowly you became certain. You probably drive now without thinking about it. Changing your thinking and exploring your map of the world is the same. 8. At the end of the day, find a quiet spot somewhere to evaluate how

things went during the day. Self discovery requires some quiet time to understand how you do things.

9. Journaling. Keeping a journal of experiences and feelings is a great

way to express your thoughts and emotions. Reading back on your entries weeks, months or even years later allows you to view your experiences as an outsider. When we always experience life in the moment, we get caught up. Journaling is almost like pushing the pause button, stepping outside of the frame and looking in as the situation occurs. It allows you to analyze how you feel, react and think, ultimately learning how you behave and who you really are. 10.Look back again over your life, and begin to remember times when you felt the happiest. What where you doing? Who were you with? What skills were you using? Be willing to tell the truth about who you are, and what you want in your life. Stop trying to “be� who or what you think you ought to be. Instead, determine that you are comfortable with what you want in your life, and how you want to address the world. There are many ways to change how you think and feel. Your beliefs and behavior patterns are all interrelated. Change one thing and you could change many. This is just the beginning of Finding the Real You.

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Tips for and extraordinary mindset.