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A Non-Profit Organization

WINTER 2009/2010

The Advocate At Brighter Tomorrows, we are taking a cue from our greatest source, our spirit-filled hearts, to Reflect, Renew and Rejoice During the holiday season, a campaign of “Reflect, Renew, Rejoice” struck a chord in our hearts, as we are sure it will in yours. Our personal Christmas wish, and New Year’s Resolution, is for another year of success stories from our women, children and even men, who have survived domestic and sexual violence. We can thank YOU, our caring supporters, for our continued success. stock.xchng - Light Show Ten (stock photo by ba1969) [id: 1208138]

Reflect... While this has been a hard year economically for non-profits and advocates alike, we are hopeful for the future. When we see what your support does for the families in our programs, we know that we are still on the right course.

Rejoice... Thanks to The Cindy Tamplin Tea, the S.E.E., South Side on Lamar and The Design Factory’s Annual Holiday Dinner, plus countless church and business fund-raisers and benefactors, we still managed to put smiles on the faces of clients in our shelters and transitional housing. Thank you to everyone who played a part in making this a memorable holiday season.

Renew... With our individual patron contributions down by 54 percent and business contributions down by over 60 percent, we remain confident and faithful that reinforcement will come. Renew your annual giving beyond the holidays and financially assist survivors. There is still time to respond to this cause. Please send your end-of-year check to Brighter Tomorrows today! (1 of 2) [11/30/2009 2:19:50 PM]

The truth of the matter is there are many domestic and sexual violence survivors. You may never see some of their stories splashed on TV; somehow they do not quite fit into the “America Needs To Care” profile. Sadly enough they are your friends, family, neighbors and even co-workers, silently searching for a voice. As a society, I believe, to many of us go missing in action in our communities from the domestic violence cause, labeling it controversial. Providing resources and a place for survivors to turn is essential. Education and training is imperative; enforcing laws and incarcerating offenders with stiffer sentences is crucial. Domestic violence is a crime; and as a society, we must come together to stop the abuse. Until we, as a society, understand the reality of domestic violence, until we understand that this type of abuse affects us all, we will never be able to effectively fight it. Domestic violence can happen to anyone, perhaps even someone you know. Neystal Howard-Jones Executive Director 24 Hour Crisis Hotline (972) 262-8383

“Our mission is to empower survivors of domestic and sexual abuse.”

National Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) TTY 1-800-787-3224

Executive Committee Debra Danhof - President Purnell Johnson - Vice President David Scott - Treasurer Tina Strand - Secretary Board Members Robert Brown Larry Boyd Jeanine Caraway Gregory Cashman Dan Cunningham Keith Humphrey Rhonda Lenard Rebecca Lopez Jody Morris Robbin Murley Marcella Santillan Beth Van Duyne Charles Wolford Mailing List Corrections Visit us on the web at

(972) 263-0506

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Keep the Candle Burning A Fond Farewell to Founder Jana Barker and a Warm Reception for Neystal Howard-Jones Brighter Tomorrows, the second largest domestic violence program in Dallas County, has announced the resignation of Jana Barker as Executive Director. Brighter Tomorrows is fortunate to continue Barker’s services in the future as a consultant. As a founder of Brighter Tomorrows in 1989, Barker deserves tremendous praise for the growth and works she has done in elevating awareness of what is still largely considered a taboo subject. During her tenure, the organization has moved to the forefront of servicing survivors of domestic and sexual abuse regardless of age, gender, race or religion. Currently, the organization has grown to include transitional housing, three shelters, and school prevention programs. [11/30/2009 1:50:20 PM]

“She has given her heart and soul to this agency since its inception. Not only will she be missed, but she will be remembered for being the backbone of Brighter Tomorrows. Because of her influence, we will continue to provide the services that this agency has done so compassionately under her direction,” said Allison Sharpe, Director of Client Services. Becky Fowler, Director of Business, agrees. “Her passion for sourcing and delivering services to Brighter Tomorrows clients with her extraordinary compassion is an example we will continue to model.” Barker’s philanthropy has extended in several areas of the community, most apparent in serving seven years on the board of the Texas Association Against Sexual Assault, a statewide organization committed to ending sexual violence. Her resignation comes after years of contemplating the need for Dallas to open a comprehensive free standing rape crisis center; Dallas is currently the largest city in the United States without such a facility. “The lack of comprehensive sexual assault services in Dallas County has been a long-term concern. After serving on the TAASA Board, I saw the gap in services continue to widen. I felt called to try and fill that gap,” said Barker. Brighter Tomorrows will continue to pass on the legacy of philanthropy and service Barker initiated twenty years ago. Barker also announced her replacement, Neystal Howard-Jones, former Director of Development. “Having the opportunity to choose my replacement makes leaving easier. Neystal has worked with me for the last three years. She is a very dedicated, intelligent and compassionate young woman. She has what it takes to move the agency to the next level,” said Barker. The organization has not announced any additional changes of corporate structure.


Gr Greetings! I am Mellony Martin, the new Volunteer Coordinator for Brighter Tomorrows. I’ve been working with the Volunteer Program a little over a month now and have already met We have a great exciting year coming up with ato lot of wonderful volunteer many ofand you. I’m so excited be a part of the opportunities! I look forward to partnering with you in the near future helping Brighter Tomorrows team and to serve you in making a difference for Brighter Tomorrows. capacity. I’m not new toSPEAKERS this type this VOLUNTEER TRAINING BUREAUservice, TRAINING Dates: January 12 & 14 & COMING SOON! but I am new to the non-profit arena. January 19 & 21 Greetings! My name is Mellony Martin, and I am the new Volunteer Coordinator for Brighter Tomorrows. I’ve been working with the Volunteer Program a little over a month now and have already met many of you. I’m so excited to be a part of the Brighter Tomorrows team and to serve you in this capacity. It is my desire to create fresh and innovative ways to keep each and every one of you as what I would call an IIV (Informed & Involved Volunteer) here at Brighter Tomorrows!

Times: 6 pm-8 pm (each night)

Place: It is my desire toCounseling create& Resource freshCenter and innovative (Conference room) 1417 Densman ways to keep each and every one of you as Grand Prairie, TX 75051 what I would call, an IIV (Informed & Involved Come join us for an exciting and informative four evenings and learn how to support and empower survivors sexual and domestic violence. Volunteer) here at ofBrighter Tomorrows! We have a great andand exciting coming with Volunteer applications background year forms can also be foundup on the Brighter Tomorrows website a lot of wonderful volunteer opportunities! fax or e-mail your completed volunteer applications to I lookPlease forward to partnering with you in the Mellony Martin at 972-237-2565 or near future helping making a difference for There will be a variety of speakers on topics including: Orientation & Overview of Brighter Tomorrows; Volunteer Job Descriptions; Introduction to Sexual Assault & Domestic VioBrighter Tomorrows. Hispanic Youth for a Brighter Tomorrow VOLUNTEER ThisTRAINING talented group of youth belong to the Hispanic Youth for a Brighter Tomorrow. They The next Volunteer decided Training is scheduled for 8 to give back by spending Thanksgiving break delivering cupcakes for thefor families our shelters. hours on Tuesdays and Thursdays 2inconsecSetting a great example at an early age...Thank you! utive weeks as follows:

We appreciate the many contributions received from our supporters. This list includes donations received from October 2009 through December 31, 2009. Allen Samuels Autoplex Allstate Giving Campaign Angela Arthur Angelia Gallman Angi Mize Barbara Ladwig Barbara Seal Beverly Fitzgerald Bonnie Cockrum Brenda McGahey Brandy Smith Brigitte E. Robinson Carmen Chapman Carol Ann Hindes Carol Miller Carol Stockweather Cathy Luckett Cecil Alumbaugh Charlene Ensley Charles Miller Cherly Dover Cindy Dalton City Of Irving Community Affairs Communities Foundation of Texas Connie Assadi County Treasurer of the County of Dallas Cretia’s on McKinney Crump Insurance Curtis Harshaw Cynthia Brown Cynthia Russell D. Yvonne Goodnight Dallas Jewish Community Foundation Dallas Women’s Foundation Dane Houliston Darenda Smith Dean Peyton Debbie Bailey Debbie Pecor Deborah Bennett Deborah Brown Debra Danhof Debra J. Norton

Debra Upchurch Delta Kappa Gamma Society International Lambda Theta Chapter Denai Vaughn DFW Trailers Donna Heffington Donna Maxwell Donna Roblin Ed Blythe Edgar Clarkson Edward Gregory Mrs. Edward Lee Miller Eileen L. Feller Ellen Beal Elva McClay First United Methodist Church Gladys Hicks Gloria R. McNelis Grand Prairie Evening Lions Club Grand Prairie Fire Department Grand Prairie Rotary GRC Wireless Inc Hackberry Creek Church Heather Owen Impact Resource Group Indian Hills Baptist Church Inglewood Baptist Irving Bible Church Irving North Christian Church Ivy Tech Community College James R. Adams Jana Barker Janice Frazier Jeanette Wheelis Jeanine Byrd Jeanne McKinney Jennifer A. Barnard Jill Houseworth Jill Moore Joe P. Hill John T. Goodnight John Watkins Joyce Monsey Judith Denton Judy Clark

Judy Toler Julie Downey June Holland Kara Porter Kathlyn J. Bailey Kathy A. Roper Kaye Williams Kelly Gallagher K.L.K. Chapman Kum Doubles Sunday School Class Irving LaDawn Dewberry Lea A. Watson Lee P. Berlin Lillian Price Linda F. Bennett Linda Emmons Lisa Castillo Lisa Francis Lockheed Martin Vought Heritage Management Associations Lou Ann Mauldin Manning & Associates, PC Marjerie J. Dumas Marjorie Martin Marsha J. Phillips Martha S. Graham as TTEE Mary Gray Mary Higbie Mary Hughes Meadows Foundation Men of St. Andrews Michael Clark M. M. O. Mountain Creek Lodge No 511 Nancy Minton Nancy Stahnke Ouida Smith Ovilla United Methodist Church Pam Jones Pamela Sanders Patricia Ojeda Paula Hamilton Purnell Johnson Rebecca Glenn

Rebecca Thompson Regina Houston Rhonda Lenard Roberta Jennings Robert Linnstaedt Rosalinda Garcia Safeway, Inc. Saint Francis Catholic Church Sally Derkacz Sandra Wilson Sedella Austin Shelly Hendryx Susan Bolton Susan F. Piercy

Susan Rehfeld Tammi Anderson Teresa L. Eder Teresa Davis Teresa Fulton Teresa Richards Teri Kramer Texas Trust Credit Union The Phillips Foundation The Rosewood Foundation The Whimsey Shoppe, Inc The Woods United Methodist Church Tom Webster

Trisha Stanford Troy Kelley TXU Energy United Way Campaign of New Jersey United Way of Metro Dallas United Way of Metro Dallas United Way of Tarrant County Vanda S. Ozment Vicky Murray View Point Bank Vincent M. Hunter Virginia Fitzgibbon Yellow Rose Ambucs, Inc.


The Baron and Blue Foundation - $20,000 Communities Foundation of North Texas - $10,000 The Dallas Foundation - $20,000 The Dallas Women’s Foundation - $50,000 The Harold Simmons Foundation - $20,000 HUD Supportive Housing Program - $178,876 Lockheed Martin - $15,000 Lockheed Martin - $14,000 Mary Kay Ash Charitable Foundation - $20,000 The Meadows Foundation - $50,000 Texas Capital Bank - $5,000

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Brighter Tomorrows

Brighter Tomorrows

Thrift Shop of Irving

Thrift Shop of DeSoto

1215 S. MacArthur

230 E. Beltline

Irving, TX 75061

DeSoto, TX 75115

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Clean, heavy, usable items in good condition at drop- off locations. No used computers and related equipme nt. State law prevents us from accepting mattresses and car seats. Pick-ups are limited to items in good condition in Grand Prairie, Irving, DeSoto and the Best Southw est area.

Please donate clean, gently-used in good condition our Brighter Tomorrows Brighter Tomor rows incurs additional costs in disposing items of large, unusable items. FURNI TURE PIC K- UPSto A VAILA BLE-CALL 972-263- 0506 Tomor rows sincerely appreciates your support ! ThriftBrighter Stores. No used computers and related equipment. State law prevents us from accepting matresses and car seats. Pick-ups limited to items in good condition in Grand Prairie, Irving, DeSoto and Best Southwest area. Brighter Tomorrows incurs additional costs in disposing of large, unusable items. FURNITURE PICK-UPS AVAILABLE. Call 972-263-0506. Brighter Tomorrows appreciates your support.

Helping us make tomorrow brighter. The Design Factory, along with South Side on Lamar and S.E.E. volunteers in downtown Dallas, agreed to adopt and provide gifts for eighty women and children and hosted an event in downtown Dallas at South Side on Lamar. The festivities kicked off with beauty makeovers for the women and older girls, including manicures, makeup application, and hair styling. Everyone then participated in a “shopping spree� through high-end donated clothing items, even a few beautiful dresses from one of the evenings speakers, eco-designer Abi Ferrin. After shopping, the women and children were treated to a delicious brisket dinner, complete with dessert. During this time, several speakers greeted and shared inspirational messages, including the event director Cheryl Roseborough and designer Abi Ferrin.Santa capped off the evening by taking pictures with the kids and handing out gifts to each family from wish lists they had created earlier in the year. It was more than a night to remember; it was a night that proved the holiday spirit survives the worst economic downfalls. Thank you to all of those involved.

A Cause for Celebration Here are a few causes worth celebrating Along with ideas of how you can become Involved with Brighter Tomorrows.

White Ribbon Campaign Real men don’t hit, they swear; swear to help beat violence against women, that is. Husbands, fathers, brothers and sons, now is the time to stand up for the ladies in your life. If you would like your men’s group to start a campaign against domestic and sexual violence, contact us today!

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New Year’s Resolutions According to The Texas Council on Family Violence, one in four women will face physical violence in her lifetime. Let’s resolve to lower that statistic this year. Want to start a blog? Write about Brighter Tomorrows. Want to get healthy? Help form a walkathon. Resolve to get involved this year! eu-

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Make a Single Mother Feel Special February can be a tough month for the women in our shelters and transitional housing program. If you would like to make one woman or twenty women smile on Valentine’s Day, contact us about making care baskets for these amazing women. National Teen Dating Violence and Awareness Prevention Week (Feb. 4-8) Teens hold the keys to our future. By learning to break the cycle of violence, they can hope for a brighter future with less violence. Contact us today about having our Prevention Specialist conduct at presentation at your school or in your community. Call the Outreach Center at 972-263-3126.susci

My name is Masika Smith, and I have been working for Brighter Tomorrows since August 2006. It has been an enriching experience both professionally and personally. As a Case Manager for one of our shelters, I know that each day will be different and each client’s story is unique. I also discovered that my role could easily become synonymous with a crisis counselor. Every morning, I have a line of clients waiting to meet with me and share their pressing concerns. Each client considers her needs to be urgent and important, and rightfully so. As such, it is not unusual for a client to want to spend an hour in my office for their individual goals and needs. It is my job to know how to provide the best service to each person while balancing my time between client interactions, documentation,

Masika Smith, Irving Shelter Case Manager, with volunteer Sara Campos

reporting and transportation. During this process, I try to show empathy and learn from my clients. Another major component of my position is providing referrals to community agencies, as well as legal, medical and social advocacy. Together, we can provide comprehensive assistance to our clients. I have wondered several times whether I am making a positive

impact that will propel my clients towards a positive change. There are those clients who leave the shelter to move into transitional or personal housing, and then there are those who leave the shelter without sharing their

destination. How do I know or measure their (and our) success? To know that I have acted with compassion, listened with empathy and served with humility and dedication—to me, that is to have succeeded.

“I care about you and what has happened to you. I want to help you on this journey to achieve your goals.” - Masika Smith

Needing a Good Neighbor

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A recent Harvard study printed in the New York Times reveals something we have always known, the essence of human nature has a brighter side. In fact, the study shows children are born with an innate sense of altruism; we actually want to help. Couple that ideology with the spirit of giving and there is no doubt that Brighter Tomorrows will be able to bring in more donations and volunteers than ever before.

Just a few way you can help:

* Adopting a Family on a long-term basis * Building a cover for our outside staircase (especially important for mothers and babies in these cold, wet months) * Donating bed linens, toiletries and furniture for our shelters * Annual support (1 of 2) [11/30/2009 2:01:01 PM]

STogether, we will make sure nno child is left out in the cold.g eugue do luptat. Peros er sum quis-

Winter Wish Lists

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Items we need now for our families Laundry detergent • Underwear (all sizes) Dish washing liquid • Booster seats Bleach • Umbrellas Bath soap and hand sanitizer • Car seats of toddlers Toilet tissue • Twin beds Paper towels • Strollers Feminine Products • Baby walkers Deodorant • Alarm clocks without radio Cleaning supplies • Hats, scarves, gloves Towels • Diapers


Feeling Lucky? You don’t have to travel to Vegas to test you luck. If you play your cards right, you could walk away a winner from our 14th Annual Chocolate and Chic Event. In celebration of twenty years of service in Dallas County, this year’s event is a fun-filled Casino Night! Our fund-raising goal is $75,000.

Here’s the Skinny:

Price: $75 per person or $125 per couple Location: Dallas Marriott Las Colinas 223 West Las Colinas Blvd. Irving, TX 75039

Date: March 27, 2010 Time: 6 PM-11 PM

Enjoy an exciting night of food, dancing, music, raffle prizes, live auction and silent auction. Games Featured: Blackjack, Craps, Poker and Roulette

Betcha can make a difference!

Adopt-a-Family Lisa Buchanan and members and employees of Fit by Design, a personal training and fitness center in Coppell, were inspired by Darla Sevieri and decided to share the bliss of all those happy endorphins by buying presents for domestic violence survivors through the Adopt-a-Family program. Getting in the spirit probably never looked or felt so good.

Thanks to everyone who adopted families through Brighter Tomorrows!

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Sock it to Me Northside Elementary students celebrated their All-Star National School Lunch Week October 12-16th. To participate, students brought new socks and improved their slam-dunking abilities. All socks collected were donated to adults at our Desoto Outreach programs.

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Wondering what to do with old cell phones taking up space in your junk drawers?

Get a Head Start on Spring Cleaning Cell phones given to our women will help in case of emergency (all cell phones will dial 911), and extras are recycled through Shelter Alliance, which has given over seven million dollars this past year to nonprofits. [12/10/2009 3:28:57 PM]

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“Never doubt that a small group of committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.� --Margaret Mead

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