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ThePsychologyOfAccepting | UnderstandingDepression Loneliness | MusicTherapy | InMyHead | WhatDoesNotKillUs TheSuicideEpidemic | UnhappyStateOfSociety

04. October 2017, Nr. 01

FROM THE EDITOR PS, Psychology & Society, was established in 2006. Our goal is to step outside of the box of diagnosis and open up for a broader understanding of how it is to live with different psychological illnesses and problems. Our society today has a growing amount of people suffering from different psychological issues and through our magazine we hope to open the box and show how many different sides and experiences we all can have from even just one diagnosis. Our journalists are independent which means we from every issue will have different writers. We also pick articles that the public send in. We focus on getting our facts straight and therefor also publish interviews or articles where professionals talk about a picked theme for the next upcoming issue. In our magazine we hope that everyone at one time will find something that they can can relate to and in some way be of help.

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The Psychology Of Accepting




Understanding Depression


Music Therapy


In My Head


The Suicide Epidemic


What Does Not kill Us


Unhappy State Of Society

The Psychology Of

Accepting by Sarah James Field

In order to be ourself we must allow ourself to be ourself. Finding out who that self is, is a very big part of becoming authentic, of becoming real.

Facing the world Sooner or later we have to face the fact that we live in a world that is, in many ways, imperfect and unjust. We will need to come to terms with this if we are to face life with emotional and mental stability. We may commence our journey with the highest ideals, believing we really can change the world and, indeed, each one of us can change the world, though only some of us will but we will never alter the way that life is. Life will continue to be life regardless of our desires and remonstrations. It is under no obligation to be fair, it does not have to be just, and it does not have to always make sense. All it has to do is all that it can do:


It has to be itself.In the wise words of Lao Tzu, founder of Taoism, what we need to do is ‘let reality be reality’. This is the case, also, as it applies to each of us: We must permit ourselves to be ourselves. discovering who that self is, or more accurately who those selves are - because each person is a composite of many seperate aspects is a large part of becoming authentic, of becoming real. When we understand and accept this, when we cease demanding that life be something other than it is and that we become something other than we are, then we stop swimming against the current, and our passage through life becomes so much easier.

Trim your sails and plot course There are times when we have to trim our sails and plot a course that takes us through the rivers of compromise. We may not like this, but then again there is no ‘Great Law’ that says we must like everything in existence. The trick, of course, lies in knowing when to compromise and when not to.When something can not be changed, it is pointless to keep on knocking our head against it. The fortunate ones among us find the serenity to accept the things that we cannot change, the courage to change the things that we can and the wisdom to know the difference. Our feet will always find secure land as long as we do not abandon hope.

Who knows how many people we might one day help because of our own trying experiences? Though we may not see it as we are going through it, nothing need ever really be wasted. Everything has its value. Our true solutions, like so many of our difficuties, reside within. We need to work from the inside out, not from the outside in, to bring about real change and restore an inner balance that will last.


Loneliness by Brendan Shoshanna

Loneliness is one of the great sufferings of our time. Despite being constantly online and tuned in, the heart needs human warmth and contact.


Beyond that we all have a deep hunger to belong to community or family. Yet, before we can truly feel a part of their world, we must understand the difference between loneliness and being alone. If we come together out of fear of being alone, this togetherness is not really satisfying, but often a way to hide from the disconnection, self judgment and sense of separation that fuels our lives. There are many ways to heal this, both psychologically and spiritually. For example some practices and roads to health insist on community - individuals are strongly advised to spend time together, help one another, be there for each other. Interaction is considered crucial. Then question of fitting in, or not, to the community is also important, and has driven many individuals away to search for connection differently. They do not wish to fashion themselves to a ready made image, but to have the ability to discover and be who they are. In constrast, Zen practice asks, who is the One who walks alone, who is the Solitary one? This question is truly fundamental in our lives. How few are at ease by themselves, how often they seek the company of others compulsively, to escape what's going

on in their lives. Being with others can then become an addiction to cover up fundamental anxiety at facing the truth of ourselves. In order to be free of loneliness, it is necessary to first learn how to be alone, to face ourselves, stand on our own two feet. The question of the solitary one has often been misunderstood. It does not point to an anti-social individual who withdraws from life, but to a person who journeys deep within their own nature, addressing the primal questions of life and responding according to their own spirit and wisdom. This form of practice is not about belonging. It is not about being noticed or accepted by anyone. Being alone will however increase the chances for other mental health problems. When one is isolated for a long period of time the mind tends do drift off to a more dark and pecimistic place. Depression can become a problem and as the wheels keep turnig the life of being more soscial seems to get further away from our grasp. There stress one has when wanting to be social can actual be a factor in not being social as the preassure gets to big. It is not nessesarely about not wanting to be around other people, but about not knowing how to interact or what to talk about when meeting new people, or even when meeting close friends and family. The only way to stop the wheel before it start to turn is to little by little start taking steps into the social world. After you got your feet wet things will seems easyer even tho the fear probably will take longer to concer. Being alone is not a choice when we look at how digitilized the world has become. It is however your choice to step ot of that box. You are not alone in being in the situation you are in and giving yourself a chance will in the and pay off.



However, the causes of depression are not so simple, and while a negative event may trigger depression, the causes of depression are not external factors alone. Many of the causes of depression are issues with the sufferer.

Depression is a very widespread problem today affecting one in four women and one in eight men. Many people are aware of the many symptoms of depression, including feelings of hopelessness or helplessness, obsessive negative thoughts, loss or gain in appetite, insomnia or an increased need for sleep, social withdrawal, irritability and loss of memory or concentration, and recurrent thoughts of death or suicide. It is


tempting to think that depression is sadness and the causes of depression will simply disappear and the negative feelings will subside.

Causes of dewpression are 40 – 70% hereditary and children of depressed children are more likely to be depressed. This would mean that the potential for depression lies in one's genetic makeup, and a stressor may trigger a latent potential for depres-

sion. However those who dispute heredity as one of the causes of depression cite other true observations that those who live with depressed individuals are more likely to be depressed, and a depressed parent may lack parenting skills or the necessary energy or patience to deal with a child properly, and may be one of the causes of depression. It is hard to know who really wins the nature versus nurture argument, but once

we learn more about the role heredity plays among the causes of depression, the better we will understand how genes have an impact on our moods. Whether causes of depression are hereditary or not, there is a physiological basis for the problem, which refutes claims that depression is nothing more than a bad mood that will pass. Low serotonin levels have been shown to be one of the causes of depression, and loss of neu-

rotransmitters in the hippocampus has also been identified as one of the causes of depression. Seasonal affective disorder is also one of the causes of depression, and it has been shown that those who are deprived of light and warmth in the wintertime and become depressed as a result are not merely suffering from the “winter blues� but have a problem caused by the shorter days and longer nights.



Seasonal effective disorder can

Young adults now days have far

develop into full blown depression if it not treated as one of the series causes of depression. Hormones may also play a role as one of the causes of depression, especially teenagers. Getting a bad reslaut on a scool test, parents getting a divorce or a death in the family may not be actual causes of depression, but they can trigger the problem in those who have a predisposition for the problem. Certainly, such events can cause sadness and a feeling of worthlessness, but if these feelings are not persistent, they are normal aspects of the grieving process and are not causes of depression. However, if the negative feelings are prolonged and obsessive, they may be triggers in setting off depression and need to be attended to as soon as possible.

more expectations coming their way than before. The anxiety from being a part of a society filled with unrealistic expectations might be one of the biggest triggers of causing depression amogst young people. The preasure of being perfect in every aspect of ones life is a hard burden to carry at such a young age. The feeling of never being good enough or always faling will crush a young mind. Life is supposed to be filles with opurtuneties of leanring in our young years, but instead its been invaded by adults who rob young of their childhood and young years. Ineatd they are filled with an experience and knowledge from a young age thtaht life will never be more than chasing your own tail. In such a world one can often feel alone and feel like the world is passing by while you are standing in the exact same spot.


MUSIC THERAPY by Javies Phaltual

Most people, even the most addicted music lovers do not know much about the healing power of music. Music has many health benefits which when used in the form of a therapy, can be very useful healing and self improvement tool.

Believe me or not, music was there since the world began. Biblically speaking, God made heaven and earth and filled it with various kinds of plants and animals and seeing them, He was well satisfied. In fact, He was satisfied not only for what he saw but also for what he heard. The soft gentle breeze swaying the branches and leaves in melancholy, the streams, the chirping birds and animals producing a melody of praise was soothing in His ears, thus music was there from the beginning. Today, music is the oldest form of expression known to have influencing power on the physical, mental, spiritual and moral side of man.


Healing power of music is so true that various musicologists and psychologists have even acknowledged it as a powerful instrument of achieving all-round development when used properly with the right kind. Listening to music also increases concentration and attention. It is also beneficial and widely used for relaxation reducing mental tension. After a long and tiresome day at work, music can be very relaxing and soothing. It feels like each and every part of your body suddenly bounce and your stress dancing away along with the rhythm of the music. Honestly speaking, music has always been my sleep mate and I can't sleep

a single night without listening music.

The power of music has been observed on animals. It is believed that animals and plants have positive response when played music. Research shows that when exposed to music, cows produce more milk, and horses discipline themselves better than other horses. Plants grow well and yield well when exposed to music.the healing power of music in the form of music therapy is widely encouraged these days by many doctors around the world. Patients when played music reduces stress and anxiety during hospital care. Research also proves

that patients suffering from cancer, high blood pressure, labor pain and even Alzheimer's disease recover well and the wounds heal faster when given music therapy. Children with autism, who are generally difficult to deal with ordinary therapies can also improve well when given music therapy and how unusual sensitivity. Music can make a person soft and calm while on the contrary it can also make a person wild. It is often said music speaks more than words as one can express his feeling and thoughts deeper with music. We can say that music lovers are the most fortunate people in the world as life without music is very dull.


in my head by Paola Andrea Paszos

Emotional personality disorder is a psychological burden which is hard on a persons everyday life and can cause problems in social situations. This is my life, this is my illness..



What is a personality disorder?

as powerless, vulnerable, unacceptable and uncertain in our self-identity. Self-injury and suicidality are also very common.

A personality disorder (PF) is characterized by anomalies in personality. We all have different personality traits, both positive and negative. However, when What causes the disease? these personality traits cause functional problems The reason why individual developer BPD is many and go beyond life and everyday life and make you and complex. It is a mixture between genetics and upno longer work normally, it may be a personality bringing / experiences. Very many have experienced disorder. One with a PF has developed a stable patdifferent trauma, both in the form of sexual assault, tern of perception, thinking and behavior that differs physical / psychological violence, bullying, lack of stafrom what is normal in one's culture. There are many ble caregivers etc. types of personality disorders, but in this article we When experiencing things like this in adulthood, it will address Emotionally may help negatively affect Unstable Personality Disorpersonality development. "It is important to remember that der, borderline type (BPD) This may in turn cause a borderline personality dispersonality disorder. Here BPD is an illness, not a willful order. People with (BPD) the genes also come in. One attempt to get attention. are typically impulsive, with "good" genes gladly The borderline lacks the boots, have fluctuating and strong tolerates more than one much less the bootstraps, with effects, have poor self-eswith "bad" genes before it which to pull himself up." teem, are self-destructive. affects the personality deThey exhibit constant mood velopment.It's hard to say swings. Often they take their mind on themselves exactly what has meant that I've developed this diagand injure themselves and suicide attempts are not nosis, but I think it has a lot to do with bullying in uncommon. They think very much black and white. the upbringing and the abuses I've experienced at the Studies indicate that people with BPD tend to expeend of the teens. There have also been periods when rience frequent, strong and prolonged conditions of part of the family situation has not been so easy.I unpleasant tension, often triggered by perceived rehave probably also been born with "bad" genes, which jection, of being lonely or perceiving themselves as made me extra vulnerable. I was not the only one in unsuccessful. Persons with borderline can show labilmy class who was bullied, but I'm the only one who ity between anger and anxiety or between depression has developed a personality disorder - as far as I know. and anxiety, and temperate sensitivity to emotional stimuli. We experience frequent and powerful fluctuBeing social ations in the mood. We can be very sensitive to how Being social is probably the scariest thing I know but others treat us, and react strongly to what we perceive It can also make me feel very much alive. It is a weird as criticism or deprivation. We also feel difficult to controdiction that way. I care about people that I meet place the mind / feelings in the right place. I do not and want to know them better, but in the end it is hard often have an eruption, but when I get angry or if I feel for me to make those bonds as I feel different than hurt (or experience other strong emotions), I usually most people i meet. When tht is said, a part of the take it out on myself and not on the person who maddiagnosis is that I tend to adabt or almost copy peowwe me angry or hurt me .The self-esteem of people ples behaviour. This is normal in younger years as we with BPD is often low and we tend to look at ourselves need to learn the social conventions of the society. I



People with a borderline or

emotional unstabile

personlaity disorder are often misunderstood and therefor have

problems with getting friiends or keeping them over a long period of time.


have had to teach myself to limit myself when it comes to conversations that I have with people as I somethimes can speak before I think. Making friends or keeping the ones I have has always been a hardship in my life. I remember that my mum used to call me "the ganator" because I always ended up in situations with other people where I wanted to help and fix what ever problems they were having. This always ended up with me taking the blame for their problems and then loosing my friends. I have had problems with social situations in genreal as they seemso different and colder than what is going on inside my head and heart. I have over the years harden myself more when it comes to friends as a part of me "knows" that noone will ever be my "best friends for life" as they can not handle my more destructive sides. I have a lot of party friends, .."a borderline suffers from a but I do not have close friends. This kind of ‘emotional hemophilia’ can at times feel very lonely.

My heart

where one lacks the clotting mechanism needed to moderate the spurts of feeling. Prick the delicate ‘skin’ of a borderline, and they will emotionally bleed to death."

I spend 90% of my day analyzing people, facial expresions and peoples actions. I over alazye at times and this can send me into a paranoia which can overwhelme me with emotions. I use 98% of my batteries "faking a personality that is more accepted than the ones we want roaming around in our society. Whilst I might seem calm on the outside it might be a storm inside my head. I am tapped for energy from holding back emotions and controlling my mind from overworking. That feeling where your chest tighten up and your fingers prickle, from whenyou are scared or sad, that is what I feel when I have to enter the classroom. Multiply that feeling with 100 and that is what I feel when waiting for an answer for a text I have sent to someone asking to do something social. One can say that a bordeline suffers from a kind of ‘emotional hemophilia’ where one lack the clotting mechanism needed to moderate the spurt of feeling. Prick the delicate ‘ delicate’ skin of a bordeline, and they will emotionally bleed to death.



suicide epidemic by Woodrow Wilson

Suicide is the number one killer of Americans in their prime. Too many of our young fall victim to this preventable cause of death. Its toll can be reduced. We can all help.

Suicide robs the world of far too many people. It's the biggest killer of people in their prime and at least tenth overall for the general population. Bigger than auto accidents and opioid overdoses, the worldwide suicide epidemic rivals global warfare in mortality and morbidity. The origins of suicide are complicated and not well understood.


No simple cause and effect can be expected. The work of psychologist Thomas Joiner suggests a combination of three factors underlie most suicides. He finds loneliness to be a critical contributor. Other researchers have labeled isolation and loneliness as deadly factors. Combine aloneness with a feeling of uselessness and you reduce the victim's will

to live. Change is stress.

Unpleasant events in life—like divorce, falure in school or job loss— thrust many people into such situations. Their social and professional networks evaporate. Most people weather the depression and survive but a few lose their fear of death and are tempted to end their hopeless-

injury and death. People intent on injuring themselves need professional help. You and I can administer the first aid that will get them there alive.

Watch for changes in friends' behavior. Withdrawal can be self-imposed isolation and is a clear sign that something is very wrong. Depression, rage, and ranting may signal a crisis. Be especially careful of talking about suicide as this can trigger the person even more. Sometimes one can' t see any changes in the persons behaviour socialy, but changes in the persos priorities might be a sign. Suddenly drinking too much,t alking about suicide or is unusually quiet. A more selfdestructiv way of acting or a vasley different way of acting from how the person usually are can be a symptom that something is wrong. The reason one could act like that is the lack of love for its own life to the point that they stop thinking about consequenses of ones actions. The more harm you do to yourself the more anxiety and lack of selfrespect and love you will have. Its like healing "the day after" anxiety hangover with more booze. ness.Those contemplating injuring or killing themselves will find ample opportunity to do so as this becomes a priority.

Creative ways are used for the task to subdue the pain for good. Toxic household and industrial chemicals are readily available. Cliffs, bridges, and tall buildings are everywhere.

Hanging yourself is a clichÊ. Guns are everywhere. Three out of every four gun deaths are self-inflicted. Take guns away, and they turn to the next deadliest weapon in their arsenal— their car. How many single car-accident fatalities are suicides? How many ninety-mile-per-hour wrong way drivers are suicidal? We can all help reduce the level of self-inflicted

When in doubt, don't walk away from them.Remove drugs and alcohol from the scene. Remove any potential means of suicide and get your friend immediate medical attention. Let them know you are there for them and keep as calm as possible until help arrives. This is a cry for help and should be taken seriously.


what does not kill us by Frederick Fabella

It is a sad reality that no one goes through life without being wounded in some way by one’s a. Sometimes our sufferings reach a point where we ask the question, ‘why me?’

We all desire meaning in the sufferings we endure. We want to make sense of our hardships. We need to believe that there is a higher purpose for the miseries that we experience. We all seek a deeper reason for the agony that we bear. We tell ourselves that this is probably a test. And perhaps this trial will play a part in some cosmic pattern - that its purpose is hidden deep within the grand scheme of things. But what if we can find no meaning? What if no matter how hard we try, we fail to see the reason for our sufferings? Whether or not our trials have a reason, there is no denying the truth that what does not kill us makes us stronger. This is what bestows meaning to our suffering. This fact is what gives it purpose. We draw strength from a history of difficulties that we have already overcome.

Our triumphs in life are a testament that we did not give up, that we refused to surrender. Our trials may make us sad for a while. They may make us lose faith. And we may


We see those around us who are

untouched and unscathed, and we feel

angry that we have been singled out for this hardship.

feel that our burdens are overwhelming. But it is only our fear that sometimes blinds us to another truth - that this suffering is only temporary and that this too shall pass. We have all been wounded in one way or another. But it is up to us to choose to learn from the scars we bear. For what does not kill usFree Articles, makes us wiser as well. overcome. And our triumphs in life are a testament that we did not give up, that we refused to surrender.

Our trials may make us sad for a while. They may make us lose faith. And we may feel that our burdens are overwhelming. But it is only our fear that sometimes blinds us to another truth - that this suffering is only temporary and that this too shall pass. We have all been wounded in one way or another. But it is up to us to choose to learn from the scars we bear. For what does not kill usFree Articles, makes us wiser as well. overcome. And our triumphs in life are a testament that we did not give up, that we refused to surrender. Our trials may make us sad for a while. They may make us lose faith. And we may feel that our burdens are overwhelming. But it is only our fear that sometimes blinds us to another truth - that this suffering is only temporary and that this too shall pass. We have all been wounded in one way or another. But it is up to us to choose to learn from the scars we bear. For what does not kill usFree Articles, makes us wiser as well.


Unhappy State Of Society by Liv Sydler The mobile is not just a phone without a cord. It has changed the way we interact

Early in the 1990s, cell phones were raging lumped deeds in the hands of high-pitched, market-speculative japtic remains. Now they are almost as common as underpants. That's because the Norwegian society needed the mobile, even before it was cheap enough for everyone to have one.

think through the message and design the perfect answer. But the newcomer in the communication family also has its negative sides. We have changed the way we make deals, says Nordli. Nobody decides anything until the last minute, and even then you expect everyone to be available on the phone, in case you change your mind. It is no longer as accurate We live in a terribly complicatwhether you come in time either. If ed society, where we have to use you miss the bus, just send a institutions such as schools, quick 'sorry late, come on ten' kindergartens and specialty .."we get anxiety and depression message. Thus, your friend is shops in everyday life. Everything must be arranged. when we realise that the world on sitting with the coffee cup unour phones can never be ours." til you arrive dangling twenty When good and affordable minutes late. In old days, she mobile technology came on had probably gone home a the market, it covered a huge need in our rich society. Before we the power to call. Divorced parents long time ago, and in addition, she knew it even the obscure SMS ser- can send good night messages to the was reasonably musty. vices opened a new and cheap com- kids without breaking into an exclumunication arena, where the young sive private sphere. You can not turn off the phone people could freely refrain from their either. Indeed, quite a few of us are own abbreviations. But it's not just "Many adults also use SMS to caught by some kind of horror-blown the pods that have learned to com- get a difficult conversations with curiosity for who can possibly call municate with up to 160 characters their kids," says Nordli. If you want while unavailable Friends and famiat a time. to make a flame out of date, or ad- ly will also be pretty safe if you are dress delicate topics, text messaging still offline. Thus, there is a danger "Adult people are not so dif- is a better tool than the phone call. of the girls' night on the city to bring ferent from the kids," says Hege It gives the opposing party time to phones from the kids and babysitters


Nordli, who has studied the mobile habits of those between the ages of 25 and 45. These are also increasingly connected to the phone and use it to keep in touch with family and friends. The mobile has opened up a completely new way of communicating, and given most people a new arena to interact with. Fast text messaging is a means to keep in touch with acquaintances you do not have

Photo: Engin Akyurt

quickly. And it indicates that we are not getting less mobile in the years to come. Sooner or later, the phones will become a platform for mobile Internet services, "Rasmussen says. And the future is certain of the signs of entertainment. Eventually, the market will be filled with news, pictures, jokes, advanced ring sounds and logos. But it's going to cost. Now, service providers are looking to earn money on mobile services that people will not pay for online.

are constant, goes digitally through our phones. We are getting more bold and are seeing our self worth in likes on Instagram or how mny friends we have on facebook. We show the wolrd too much of our self by posting naughty pictures or even making private videoes and public diaries. How can we know how to interact with other people without our phones? what does it do to us when we are contant in need of our phones compared to human interaction..?

Social consequenses has shown

Our society contains of more unhhappy people now than before. We use real life social inter-

itself in our society. We are no longer being social even tho we are constantly talking to or around other people. Our conversations, which

actions as a performance where we need to show our self from the sides

we have so edited protrayed on our phones and social media. We no longer "stop to smell the roses". We keep our head down and our eyes on our phones instead of looking around. The suddel smile or nod on the bus, the kind "hello" or other things that makes us human, are lost. We do all we can to not have to interact with anyone unless they are chosen by your in a safe way. We swipe left or right on tinder to find our perfect mate, we read peoples profiles to learn more about them and we get anxiety and depression when we realise that the world on our phones can never be ours. We have distanced ouself so much from eachother.



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School project in magazine design. I had to make a design with a clear identity. The audience for the magazine would be everyone suffering...