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One of the main problems that occurs when women escape abusive relationships, is that violence against women doesn't end as soon as the relationship is over. The dynamics of power and abuse that existed during that relationship, can linger long after the relationship ended. Men can also be victims of family and domestic violence. This article is my own personal story. The need to control others is often not limited to the partner. Often children are emotionally, physically abused or manipulated to how the abuser sees fit. I wish I could say that to escape the cycle of abuse and violence all the victim must do is go to court and seek assistance from social services, but it isn?t that simple. GETTING CONTROL OVER THE VICTIM VIA THE COURT SYSTEM I attended the WAVE conference in Berlin two years ago, where there were participants from various ethnic backgrounds and nationalities who held their hands up high when asked if they were familiar with abusive parents using the family courts to gain control over the children. When asked if they familiar with the perpetrator gaining custody of the children, leading to the victim being without their children. Or using the children as a threat to control the victim again. Almost all hands went up. It happened to me too. I fled with my children away from my abusive ex-partner when they were one year old. He had abused me so severely that they were born seven weeks prematurely. We didn't hear from him for a long time until I temporarily received money from the government because I had no job at that point. I begged them not to, however, they contacted my ex in order to force

One of the main problems that occurs when women escape abusive relationships, is that violence against women doesn't end as soon as the relationship is over.

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Violence Against Women Issue  

Ananke presents a special edition marking the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women - Nov 25th, 2018.

Violence Against Women Issue  

Ananke presents a special edition marking the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women - Nov 25th, 2018.

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