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enough to try to hide them, you have to be willing to speak up about them so that others will know exactly what you have experienced. Psychological and emotional abuse is crippling but sometimes it?s not taken as seriously as it deserves to be. Often it can be followed by financial abuse where the woman finds herself having to take on the lion?s share of the finances, only for the male to waste the family money on drink and racking up needless debt. For my new book on the subject 'There is a Light that Never Goes Out?I spoke to survivors who spoke of partners stealing money from credit cards and then giving it back to them, pretending that they were settling debts. Then as time passes on these forms of non-physical violence manifest themselves alongside the real thing. What?s troubling to me is when women are ridiculed for talking about these non-physical types of violence and the only reason I can fathom is that it?s the most pervasive sense of male entitlement and this is hard for people to overcome since it?s ingrained in almost all societies, Western or otherwise. It ?s h ar d t o see you r ow n posit ion of pr ivilege w h en you ?r e n ot per son ally bein g oppr essed. One of the ways to tackle this is to teach boys that while physical abuse is certainly wrong, so is psychological abuse. By tackling these dangerous conceptions of women as early as possible we can set a precedent that explains why so many women are trapped in a cycle of emotional and psychological control, and that those stuck within it are not victims of choice. Sometimes those who are impacted by

this form of abuse are made to feel worthless by their abusers; that leaving would mean they were cruel, selfish people. This is a psychological threat in itself as the choice to actually leave often leads to the greatest risk of violence, often fatal. We saw a lot written about mental health problems these days. Often this can obfuscate the real issue as many women who experience mental health problems may also be the victims of domestic violence and vice versa. Given how depression can easily set root in such victims, we must take action and prevent these situations. The violence does more than just leave physical damage, it leaves psychological scars as well. What I learned the most after writing ?Inviolate? was that those impacted must reach out to others who can help and that this is not an issue they have to fight alone because people will understand you. Psychological abuse is not a form of shame to carry on your shoulders or to live with it for the rest of your life. You are not weak, you are bearing pain and showing strength in doing so. Saurav?s new book ?There is a light that never goes out? explores the issue of psychological and physical domestic abuse. It features exclusive forewords by UN speaker and human rights activist Mandy Sanghera and Polly Harrar of The Sharan Project. It was released in May 2018. Follow Saurav at @sd_saurav on Twitter for further information. This article was previously published on ONMOGUL Text

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Violence Against Women Issue  

Ananke presents a special edition marking the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women - Nov 25th, 2018.

Violence Against Women Issue  

Ananke presents a special edition marking the International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women - Nov 25th, 2018.

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