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Meet Cancer Survivor


In this Issue



EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Lori Samples Duncan


CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Kay H. Barlow Pastor Mark Crumpton Lori Samples Duncan Ashley Ford Beth McCrary Lydia Ramsey Mandy Rivers Elaine Samples Susan Swanson

COVER PHOTO Lista’s Studio of Photography

DESIGN Melissa W. Morris

PHOTOGRAPHY Clark Berry Photography Lista’s Studio of Photography

From the Editor 2 Welcome!


3 What’s Happening?

20 Mobile Office Management, LLC Left Brain Help for the Right Brain Entrepreneur

Health & Wellness

21 Let’s Talk 22 4 Where Will You Go from Here? A One on One with Valorie Burton 24 6 Dream Dance Academy 7 Recipe: Naked Chicken Tenders 26 8 At the Heart of It All 9 An Era of Meanness 10 There is Help Available at the Augusta Care Pregnancy Center

Celebrating the Survivor in You!

For Women Only: Enlighten Yourself! Family Y Invites Aiken to Its New Home My Daughter’s Diagnosis with Type 1 Diabetes The Etiquette of Sympathy

Business & Web Directory 27 Contact our advertisers

Personal Note 28 A New Heart

12 Liz Stewart: Cancer Survivor


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e are so excited about our premiere issue of Aiken Woman Magazine! Working in this community is my distinct pleasure. Woman 2 Woman Publishing is so excited to be starting this venture with you, the reader. I feel this is a lovely community to live and raise a family in. Some of you are doing that, and some of you are now focusing on grandchildren. We hope to bring you excellence in every issue of Aiken Woman Magazine. That is our goal. We believe that by sharing good information with each other, woman to woman, we can make a difference. We can make a difference in our homes, our communities and in the lives of those we love! Thank you for being a part of that.


Every advertiser within the pages of Aiken Woman Magazine has made a commitment to you, the Aiken woman, to provide you with quality services and products. We want you to know that these are businesses that we would refer our friends, neighbors and families to. Tell them you heard about them in Aiken Woman Magazine. It is through their support of our informative content that we are able to bring you this high quality publication at absolutely no cost to you! They have invested in you, so please invest in them!

Heart Month!

This magazine is not possible without you, our reader. Feel free to email us what you like, what you don’t like and what you want to see more of, or if you know a great story or a great man or woman in our community who is worth of telling others about, feel free to let us know. Our Survivor section is dedicated to the men and women who have fought valiantly against a life threatening illness and managed to keep their chin up and maintain a positive attitude. Being a survivor doesn’t mean you live to be a hundred years old. Being a survivor means that every day after diagnosis, you get up, put your feet on the floor and a smile on your face and FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT! We are striving for excellence in everything we do. We hope to leave you with that impression. Woman 2 Woman is all about living with an attitude of gratitude. Enjoy! Your friend,

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief

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Colossians 3:23-24 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward.


What’s HAPPENING? Women of Ireland: Celtic Goddess March 2, 8 p.m. Etherredge Center, USC-Aiken

The best performers within the Irish musical tradition in the form of singers, dancers and musicians. For more information, call (803) 641-3305.

Introducing Columbia’s first eco-friendly full-service hotel designed for LEED certification At the Holiday Inn Hotel® & Suites Columbia-Airport, we’re passionate about green lodging. Designed to meet LEED Gold certification, our hotel is built from eco-friendly materials and operates with the focus of better health for you and the environment. Our location in West Columbia, SC is near everything, conserving your time and gas. • Sporting News Grill Restaurant • Saltwater filtered pool • Cardio Fitness Center • Wired & Wireless Internet • 24 Hr Sundry Shop • Business Center & Board Room • Free Airport Shuttle

Prep Fest 2012 March 3, 3:30 p.m. – 9:45 p.m. Aiken Prep School Soccer Field

Due to the huge success of Prep Fest 2011, with nearly 1,000 in attendance, Aiken Prep School has decided to join forces with 3 other local non-profit organizations to make this an historic event in Aiken. General Admission tickets are only $20 plus a can of food. Admission for children 12 and under is one can of food. There will be food and drink vendors on site as well as activities for children. Candlelight dinner under the tent with cash bar, reserved parking, private restrooms, protection from Mother Nature and a perfect view of the stages is $80 per person. Tickets are available at Aiken Prep School, Aiken Drug Store, Lionel Smith LTD, Unique Expressions, Moonbeam’s Coffee, in Aiken & New Moon Café in Augusta and online at the website below. Prep Fest 2012 benefits the Aiken Prep School, Golden Harvest Food Bank, Children’s Place and Helping Hands.

4th Annual Juilliard in Aiken Music Festival March 10 – March 16

Juilliard in Aiken is the embodiment of Juilliard’s mission in action. The week long event features public performances, chamber concerts, master classes and outreach to area schools. For a full schedule of events, please visit their website.

business, and how attendees can find a winning balance. Tickets are $30 and can be purchased from the website listed below.

46th Running of the Spring Steeplechase March 24, 9:30 a.m. Ford Conger Field

The tradition of Steeplechasing continues in Aiken. The Committee seeks your continued support in making the day worthy of Aiken’s sporting traditions and welcomes your participation for the benefit of the Helping Hands, Inc. and the Aiken Rescue Squad. Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at the gate. Children 6 and under are admitted for free.

The Grascals Go Mayberry April 26 & 27, 8 p.m. URS Center for the Performing Arts

The Grascals pay homage to one of the most beloved and enduring shows in television history with “A Tribute to the music of the Andy Griffith Show.” Injecting a new energy into a classic American sound, The Grascals have quickly become one of bluegrass and country music’s rising stars. Visit the website below to purchase tickets for this event.

Aiken TruGrass Festival April 28 Newberry Street Festival Center

This family-friendly music festival will feature real bluegrass music by local artists; craft and food vendors will also be present. Please contact Bruce Moyer for more information at (803) 648-4124.

Women in Business March 14, 11:30 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. Woodside Plantation Country Club

Wellness and business success go hand in hand in today’s fast paced world. A healthy employer or employee translates to optimum production, and ultimately, a competitive edge in the marketplace. Having a plan to achieve the right balance for wellness and business can be a daunting task, one which the Aiken Chamber is going to address at its Women in Business Spring Luncheon. First Lady of the University of South Carolina, Patricia Moore-Pastides, is the featured speaker. An accomplished cook, writer, and public health professional, Pastides will deliver her message of health and nutrition as they relate to

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Where will you go from here?

A ONE ON ONE with VALORIE BURTON by Elaine Samples


Certified Personal and Executive Coach who has served hundreds of clients in over 40 states and eight countries, Valorie Burton is founder of The Coaching and Positive Psychology (CAPP) Institute – a training and leadership development company. She is a published author who is deeply committed to helping people be more resilient so they can thrive in life and work. Her newest book, Where Will You Go From Here?, helps readers move forward when life doesn’t go as planned. We had the chance to sit down with Valorie and discuss her latest book, and I hope you will enjoy her unique insight as much as we did!

Aiken Woman: Valorie, your message is that of empowerment. Where do you draw the strength to motivate others? Valorie Burton: I learned my mission after I’d prayed about it for a couple of years. I felt like God spoke to me one day in my spirit that I was supposed to inspire women to live more fulfilling lives and I would do it through writing and speaking. That’s really why I do what I do. And I know that it is God who gives me the strength. At

times, when you get tired, I really feel like my work inspired. I can’t attribute it to anything other than God, really.

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AW: What single attribute of yours would you say has contributed most to the success you’ve had? Valorie: Besides the fact that I know it’s my purpose, I’ve been able to persevere. It hasn’t always come easily to get


Let’s Talk book deals and to have a business for almost eleven years writing and speaking — that’s not a typical way to earn a living. Perseverance is key to anything just because if you give up too soon, you never know what could have been. One of the things that keeps me going is I get a lot of communication from people who have read something I’ve written or heard me speak and just knowing that they did something positive in their life, made a change, overcame a fear, or went after a dream because of something I said, motivates and inspires me.

haven’t been a kid for twenty years, she is still as dedicated to me now as ever, though in an adult way. AW: Tell us about the idea for your latest book, Where Will you go From Here? Valorie: This is a book that’s for people who — you’ve been walking along your path and feel like you got sideswiped into a ditch. So, it might be that you ended up divorced, that you received an unexpected health diagnosis, lost your job, lost your home, or had a financial setback. We all have those ditches that we land in, and the book is about how you bounce back from the setbacks and the unexpected turns in life — because you don’t have to stay in the ditch. It knocks you out and you might wake up and see stars. Though you can’t get up and run yet, you can get out of the ditch. You can forge a new path if you need to, or you can find your way back onto the old path.

Perseverance is key to anything just because if you give up too soon, you never know what could have been. AW: At Aiken Woman, we are always excited when we hear about women inspiring other women. Can you tell us about women who inspire you? Valorie: My mother has inspired me most. In addition to being a good, loving person who always does things for others without seeking glory or recognition, she is the most determined woman that I know, having suffered a brain aneurysm and bounced back. By all medical accounts, she should have died, but her faith continues to inspire me. And she’s just always been a good mom. She’s the one who taught me how to write when I was three years old, and how to read. I have loved books since I have had a memory and I attribute that to my mom. I also feel blessed to have a mom that knows part of her purpose was being a mother, and although I

AW: You offer five commitments to help when bouncing back from a setback: 1) I will not feel sorry for myself. 2) I will not stare at a closed door. 3) I will dig deep to unearth the courage I need. 4) I will direct my thoughts. My thoughts will not direct me. 5) I will choose to believe that all things work together for good. I really like, “I will direct my thoughts. My thoughts will not direct me.” I once heard Bishop T.D. Jakes say, “What you think about, you will become.” Can you tell us about how we can direct our thought life to be more healthy? Valorie: It’s about building selfawareness and that starts with noticing what you are saying to yourself, particularly when you deal with a challenge. One of the best things you can do is to identify the self-sabotaging, counterproductive thoughts that are most

common for you and develop the thoughts you want to replace those with so that when those common thoughts come to you, you already know what you are going to say. Decide to be very intentional about being more positive. AW: I especially like what you said about having the choice to become better or bitter. When my father died, my sister decided that she could use the most tragic thing in her life and become depressed or she could use the tragedy to make her better. Woman 2 Woman Publishing was born out of that very concept. Any advice on putting that instruction into action? Valorie: There is something that researchers call Post Traumatic Growth. We can actually grow as a result of our trials, and not just have to go through them. Ask yourself, “How will I be better because of this?” After my divorce, I made a decision that I will be a wiser woman. When my instincts tell me something, I will pay attention. I think a lot of times we have to say, “How will I be better?” Whether you are more grateful, you learn to enjoy your family more, or you were forced to slow down, there are a lot of good things that can come from a bad situation. When the bitterness comes up, I think if you are angry, you have to acknowledge it and find a constructive way to get through your anger. But bitterness and negative emotions damage your immune system. They are not good for your health or life expectancy, so if you

want to live a long, happy life, you can’t do it bitter. AW: Anything else you would like to share regarding resilience and bouncing back after serious setbacks? Valorie: I think that it is really critical to put things into perspective by talking to other people, reading other people’s stories and not isolating yourself. It’s the reason that I shared so many other people’s stories in the book. I thought I’d really gone through something and then I interview these people and many of them are people I knew, but I had no idea what they had gone through and bounced back from. One of the most important things you can do to be resilient is to be aware of other people who’ve gotten through things at least as difficult, if not more difficult than what you’ve gone through and it will give you help and perspective. AW: So, tell us, where will YOU go from here? Anything exciting in the works that you would like for our readers to know about? Valorie: I have another book coming out in 2012 called Successful Women Think Differently, and it is about all the habits that make you happier, healthier and more resilient. We are continuing our coach training program and I’m also working on a television show concept. I just signed a deal with a production company to develop a show and I’m really excited. So, I have big goals and I trust if I persevere, eventually they will all come together.

Get the Book! Order your copy of Valorie’s latest book Where Will You Go from Here? at or

Dream Dance ACADEMY

by Elaine Samples


organ Nicole Martin is a 20-year-old college student, but in no way could she be deemed a “typical” college student. Morgan not only goes to school full time, making good grades, participating on the USC-Aiken Dance Team, but she is also realizing her lifelong dream of running her own business. Morgan began dancing at the age of just three years old, and has never put up her dancing shoes!

From the time she was a little girl, Morgan dreamed of opening her very own dance studio so she could share her passion for the art form. Her mother, Julie, always supported her every move and made her dance career possible – from driving her to classes as a young girl, putting jewels on costumes, being a shoulder to lean on when things got tough, and now as a key component and major role in Morgan’s very own studio. In July of 2011, Morgan and Julie opened Dream Dance Academy (DDA) together, with Morgan as the artistic director and Julie the office manager. DDA is Morgan Nicole Martin’s dream come true. The road hasn’t always been easy, but rather filled with many obstacles that she has fought hard to overcome and get where she is today. She forgoes the active social life of most college students in order to devote all of her time and energy into nurturing DDA. When Morgan is not in class, studying, or at USC-Aiken dance team practice, she can be found writing lesson plans, choreographing for upcoming shows, making schedules, editing music, and holding staff meetings, along with all the other behind the scene duties it takes to run a successful dance school. Above all, Morgan is working to ensure that her studio is not your average dance studio – but the crème de la crème – that

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offers so much more to her clients and the community. Dream Dance Academy offers the widest variety of dance classes over any dancing school in Aiken. DDA offers Ballet, Pointe, Tap, Jazz, Hip Hop, Ballroom, Lyrical, Modern, Irish, Musical Theater, Cheer Stunt/Dance, creative movement, and more. The staff is well-rounded, complete with highly trained instructors from varied backgrounds and certifications. There are all levels of classes, from recreational to pre-professional, offered for little dancers (18 months) to big dancers (adult). Morgan and her team offer more adult classes than any other studio in the area for she believes that one is NEVER too old to dance. Dream Dance Academy offers a fun and nurturing environment for students of all ages while providing the highest quality of dance education. They recognize dance will not be a career choice for most students, but still an important element in development and self-esteem. Learn more about the classes offered and how you and/ or your children may benefit from a little more movement at www.dreamdanceacad. com. We could all use a little more spring in our step, so give them a try!


Recipe • 4 tablespoons Chicken Seasoning (recipe below) • 1 pound chicken breast tenderloins • 3-4 tablespoons vegetable oil Using kitchen shears, cut the white tendon from each tenderloin. Or don’t. I just do it because they skeeve me out. Liberally coat tenderloins with Chicken Seasoning. And I do mean liberally. This is less than 2/10 salt so rock it out.


use my chicken seasoning each and every time I cook chicken. Whether I’m baking it, grilling it, frying it, sautéing it or putting it in ice cream, it gets a good coating of the seasoning. But my very favorite way to use it is to coat chicken tenderloins and pan-fry them without breading… kind of like a naked chicken tender. Once cooked, you can use the tenderloins in so many dishes. When you’re cooking on a budget, you can make one 1-lb. package (about $5.00) stretch to feed your family.

Heat vegetable oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat. Use enough oil so that the bottom of the skillet is thoroughly covered. Once your oil is good and hot, place about half the tenderloins in the skillet. Do not overcrowd the pan. These cook quickly so you’re not going to miss Christmas if you have to cook two batches. Cook about 4 minutes or until lightly browned on each side then remove from heat. Let chicken rest about 10 minutes before cutting. I mean it!

Chicken Seasoning • 2 tablespoons salt • 2 tablespoons paprika • 2 tablespoons garlic powder • 1 tablespoon dried thyme • 1 tablespoon white pepper • 1 tablespoon black pepper • 1 tablespoon cayenne pepper* • 1 tablespoon onion powder Mix all ingredients together and store in an airtight container. I keep mine in a large used spice container that still has its shaker top for easy use. *if you prefer a Southwest vibe, use chili powder instead

Serving Suggestions You can absolutely serve these on their own but if you need to make one pound stretch, here are a few ideas: Big Fat Salad: Make everyone their own entrée size salad on a dinner plate. Cut the tenderloins into bite-sized pieces and place on top. My brood likes their Big Fat Salad with romaine lettuce, cucumbers, tomatoes, onions, chopped boiled eggs, cheddar or blue cheese and whatever else I might have handy. Serve with ranch, blue cheese or honey mustard dressing.

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Chicken Alfredo: Cook linguine according to package directions. Meanwhile heat jarred alfredo sauce (Gasp! These are weeknight meals, remember? Don’t get all judgey, we’re pimping on a budget here) and add 1 teaspoon Chicken Seasoning. Toss pasta with alfredo sauce then plate pasta with chicken on top.

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Heart of it ALL by Pastor Mark Crumpton


oday we are living at a much faster pace than ever before in our society. We seem to always have something to do or some place to be. We scarcely have time for family meals and visits. After all, there is no time to say “Hello; Good-bye ... I’m late, I’m late, I’m late.”

Many of us have sold our time to the highest bidder, our jobs, and substituted our presence with stuff we have purchased from our earnings. We want our children to have all the things we never had and we want them to have more than we had growing up, because we love them. Unfortunately in many families today the children don’t have what many of us had growing up, time spent with mom and dad.

I have memories of playing ball with my mom when no one else was willing, mom had time. I have memories of hunting with my dad, and even riding with him in the summer on long road trips as he was a truck driver. Of course we too had stuff that they purchased for my brothers and I; but I honestly don’t remember much of it specifically.

My dad’s job kept him on the road four nights of the week, but somehow I don’t remember him ever missing one of my ball games. I am sure that he must have but somehow he was always there for me. I know that we didn’t always have the money to buy the name brand clothes that I thought I couldn’t live without. But I never felt as if we did without. What I am trying to say is At the Heart of it All was love! I knew then and I still know today that I was loved, not because of the things they could do for me but because I was more important than that stuff. Today more than ever before we wrestle against balancing career and family. Divorce rates continue to rise, and in a down economy so does the stress of finance. But at the heart of it all should be love. The Bible tells us that “Love never fails” 1 Cor 13:8.

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or heard anyone say on their death bed “I wish I had worked more, or I wish I had more stuff ”. Friends you can make more money but you can’t make more time; so invest what you have wisely. If you only invest money into those you love, you will see little to no return on investment. If you invest love into those you care about, you will reap a lifetime of returns because Love never fails.

Today more than ever we wrestle against balancing career and family. If upon reading this article you find that something else is at the heart of your life right now, be honest with yourself. If that is the case I want to remind you it is NOT too late to put things back in order and proper perspective. Eph 5:15-16 15See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, 16redeeming the time, because the days are evil. NKJV I have been in ministry for nearly 15 years and I have never yet seen

John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (KJV) Pastor Mark Crumpton Lexington Church of God 1228 S. Lake Drive, Lexington, SC (803) 957-6675,

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by Kay H. Barlow


arely do we look into the crib at that precious newborn and see a child who will become a bully, be bullied or stand by and watch another person bullied. Yet, statistics show that bullying takes place every 7 minutes on our playgrounds and goes unreported a majority of the time.1 Bullying is a learned behavior. It is meanness, a quality we do not want to see in ourselves and especially not in our children. In view of recent suicides throughout the country, we must recognize bullying as a serious problem, with serious repercussions and in need of serious attention. As parents, we are our children’s greatest teachers. We must model kindness and show that bullying will not be tolerated. According to Olweus, a bullying prevention program, a person is bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more person, and has difficulty defending himself or herself. 2 Bullying comes in many forms, both direct and indirect.3

Physical bullying involves hitting, kicking, shoving and spitting with the intention of causing physical harm and fear. Physical bullying is most often done by boys to other boys. Verbal bullying includes namecalling, teasing and making insults or threats to embarrass and intimidate. Social or relational bullying is mental harassment by teasing, excluding or humiliating. Threatening gestures, body language, dirty looks and gossip are used to isolate individuals and destroy status within a peer group. Social bullying is most often done by girls to other girls.

Cyber bullying is the newest and perhaps the most harmful type of bullying our children are experiencing. Text messages, voicemails, e-mails and social networking sites are used to threaten, intimidate and spread false rumors about a victim. Our children are tech savvy but often emotionally insensitive to the feelings of others. In today’s world of immediate connection, one photo upload or derogatory post can go “viral,” causing great harm and hurt almost instantly. As parents, we must stay connected with our children. Talk with them, listen to them and get to know their friends. Let them know that bullying is wrong, unacceptable and carries serious consequences. Watch for signs that your child is being bullied. If he or she no longer wants to go to school or ride the bus, begins losing his or her school supplies or lunch money, has unexpected cuts and bruises, you may have a problem and you need to investigate. Go to the proper authorities. Start at the school, but do not stop there if the issue is not resolved.

As parents, we must stay connected with our children. Talk with them, listen to them and get to know their friends.

Bullying is not only about the bully and the victim. Bullying also impacts those who witness such acts. Many simply stand by and do nothing, often resulting in years of emotional distress and guilt. We must teach our children empa-

thy. We must show them how to treat others and encourage them to seek help when needed. In the simplest words, we must foster love and kindness. Love and kindness should be taught early and often, as no one wants their child to grow up in an era of meanness. Midlands Education and Business Alliance is a local nonprofit working to connect students, parents, educators and employers to education and career opportunities in the Midlands through programs and partnerships of business, school, college, faith and other community leaders. MEBA fosters community collaboration between business and education to promote economic development and enhance the quality of life in the Midlands. For more information on bullying, please visit our website at for tips and links to other great organizations and resources. Pepler, Craig & Roberts, 1998. Olweus. Retrieved from http://www.- 3 Bully Free Program. Facts About Bullying. Retrieved from sources/facts-about-bullying 1 2

About Kay H. Barlow Kay H. Barlow is the Parent and Community Education Director for Midlands Education and Business Alliance. Ms. Barlow has over 20 years experience working with students of the nine school districts of the Midlands and with various parents and community. Much of her time is spent working with educators, social workers and businesses dealing with the growing issue of poverty in South Carolina and its effect on the families of this state. Ms. Barlow holds an undergraduate degree from Missouri Baptist College and a Masters of Education from the University of South Carolina.

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hen a young woman comes to the Augusta Care Pregnancy Center we often find that she has experienced some type of abuse in her past. In her family and/or friends there may have been verbal abuse, physical or sexual abuse. Many young women were neglected by one or both parents. This scenario sets a young woman up for a pattern of self-destructive decisions leading to early sexual activity and later abuse by boyfriend or husband. Augusta Care Pregnancy Center volunteer counselors and staff are trained to spot abusive relationships that young women are experiencing.

The Care Pregnancy Center has several classes to help intervene in the abuse cycle. Clients who are pregnant are offered a Parenting Program called the “Nurturing Place” which CPC begun in 1993 to help mothers learn how to correctly teach and care for their children. The Parenting classes bring forth subjects to help young women recognize the co-dependent relationship they are in.


As a society we must uphold the commitment of married couple families and the blessedness of parenthood if our society is to survive the many obstacles we face today. Susan Swanson

The highest rate of child abuse is among mother’s who live with their “boyfriend”. In this type of situation children can be very vulnerable to sexual and physical abuse. Many times when this abuse happens the mother has chosen to support the “boyfriend” above their biological children best interest. You can see that this can create more anger and bitterness in a child.

Four years ago the Augusta Care Pregnancy Center created a “Healthy Relationship Class” to help build young women and men learn how to build a healthy relationship with good boundaries as they move toward marriage. CPC staff has seen great success in this class as couples have learned to communicate better and show great respect for each other.

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Augusta CPC serves many abused women each year and our goal is getting them stable and helping them break the cycle of abuse. “Sally” (not her real name) had a mother who was in the house as she grew up but never paid attention to Sally. Her mother never played games or talked with her. Her family never had a meal together. Her father left when was 9 years old. Her mother used a lot of alcohol and marijuana.

When Sally was in the 6th & 7th grade she was on the A Honor Roll, Student Council and was considered “gifted”. Her mother never even looked at her report card, never acknowledged her achievement. Sally got pregnant at age 13 by a 16 year old boy (this was 15 years ago). Her mother did begin to pay more attention to her but a lot of damage had already been done by

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Abuse, is he worth it?

Many abused women have grown up in that environment and are in need of an encounter with someone who can show them the love of Christ... that time. The family breakdown gave her little nurturing support as a child. I just met “Sally” a few weeks ago and I picked her up from a local hospital because her boyfriend had beaten her for the third time. This man was the fourth abusive/controlling man she had been with. I put her in a hotel because there were no beds available at the local shelters. Our Center will help her find housing and introduce her to different support groups. Wives and mothers are the heart of the family and the foundation of our culture. As a society we must uphold the commitment of married couple families and the blessedness of parenthood if we are to survive the many obstacles we face today. A happy healthy mother in the house makes all the difference. Augusta Care Pregnancy Center focuses on the education of the parents of young children in our Parenting Class called the “Nurturing Place” and the Abstinence until Marriage program called “Aspire/Quest” to help break this cycle of abuse seen in Sally’s life. As Director I have seen this same sad destructive cycle over


Does this sound familiar?

and over again in the lives of women and I know it really does not have to continue in a well-educated, blessed society like America. I believe we allow this behavior because perhaps women and children are not worth what they should be in our society. Jesus always cared for the weak and vulnerable. He said to let the little children come unto Him for such is the Kingdom of Heaven (Matthew 19:14). Just as the woman at the well in John 4 who had lived her life without knowing there was a better way, without knowing of Jesus, the one who could redeem her life. Many abused women have grown up in that environment and are in need of an encounter with someone who can show them the love of Christ, the redemption that He can bring to their lives. That is what Christian’s are called to do, that is the mission of the Augusta Care Pregnancy Center.

“A woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” — Proverbs 31:30

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• Before you met him, you had more friends than you have now • Before you began dating him, you were more outgoing and involved with family, school activities, and/or place of worship • You frequently cry or are very sad • If your he text or calls you, you must call him back immediately • He becomes jealous if you look or speak casually with another boy • He accuses you of behaviors that you do not actually engage in • He is aggressive in other areas of his life: he puts his fist through walls or closets, bangs his fist to make a point, or throw things when angry • You make excuses for his poor behavior or say its your fault • He calls you demeaning names, then laughs and tells you he was only kidding or that you are too sensitive • You have recently become very critical of your appearance, talents, or abilities • You frequently have to explain yourself to him or often say you are sorry If so, you may be in the beginnings of an abusive relationship!

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ke n Wo m a n ce l e b r a t e s t h e s u r v i vo r i n yo u RealA i Women

by Ashley Ford

photography by Lista’s Studio of Photography

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iz Stewart doesn’t like to waste time. A self-described “fast-mover,” Stewart has such an keen awareness of time that she refuses to spend even a minute on anything that she believes is not worth it.

“Yes, I’m the person who walks out of a movie theater if the movie is bad,” she said, laughing. Unlike Stewart, most people go their entire lives without even thinking about how much time they’ve wasted during their day-today activities. But then again, not everyone else has survived cancer on three different occasions. “Most people have that one defining moment that completely changes their lives,” she said. “I have three.” And for Stewart, that first moment came when she was only 27 years old. “That’s when I was diagnosed with cervical cancer. I was given only six months to live,” she said. “At that age, it had a very profound effect on the rest of my life. It meant I couldn’t have children. I was single and just getting started in my career, and it really changed how I looked at things.” It wasn’t until she began to search for a third medical opinion that she met a doctor who agreed to let her become a subject for his clinical trials. The treatment was tough and brutal, Stewart said, but her cancer eventually went into remission. Eighteen years later, she was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. After responding well to treatment and surgery for that cancer, Stewart went into remission again. Four years later, she was diagnosed with uterine cancer.

“It was tough, but I kept going,” she said. “I always thought you should treat it as a minor inconvenience and not let it rule your life. When people stop being in control of their life and let cancer control what they can and can’t do, they will lose the battle. What I figured was best for me was to keep everything around me as normal as possible.” Today, Stewart serves as not just a source of inspiration to those who had or are battling cancer, but also to those that she touches on a daily basis through her involvement in the community. In addition to owning Stewart and Associates, Inc., her management consulting firm, Stewart serves on the board for seven local organizations and is very active with the Aiken Chamber of Commerce. “I was this year’s United Way Campaign chair...there’s just a lot of causes that I’ve been involved with, and education is a big one so I’m especially excited about serving on the Public Education (PEP) board. I just think that if anyone has any talents or gifts to share, they should do so,” she said. “And if we’re fortunate enough to have a job and decent salary, we need to give back as much as we can. That’s been my motivating focus -- as much as has been given to you, you should give back.” One thing that Stewart tries to communicate to people is to always look for the positive aspect of any situation. And if there is ever a positive side to being diagnosed with cancer, she said, it’s that it

really puts everything in perspective. “We make such big deals out of little things and sometimes we don’t have the right perspective,” she added. “Don’t let cancer or something drastic happen to put things in perspective, enjoy it now. There is absolutely something wonderful about every single day if you just look for it. You won’t believe how much better life can be if you just open yourself up to it.” Today, Stewart said she is in currently in remission. about how much you give.

And if there’s one thing that she has learned about life, it’s that it isn’t about how much you get. Life, she added, is about how much you give. “It may end up getting me someday, but it’s not really ever going to win. I’m 40 years past when they told me I would have six months to live, so I’m a happy camper,” she said. “There is life after cancer, and it can actually be a better life than the one you had before it. I have a wonder career, live in a community I adore, and am married to the love of my life. Because I’m so much more aware now, I just have a different perspective on life.”


photo by Lista’s Studio of Photography

Shannon Ellis and The Willcox by Ashley Ford


hannon Ellis has been everywhere. She grew up in Toronto, Canada, finished high school at the Lycee Canadien en France in St. Jean cap Ferrat, France. Did her undergraduate work at the University of Western Ontario, Canada and has an MBA from the University of Waikato in New Zealand. She was involved in politics in Charlotte, N.C., Lived in Los Angeles for several years and opened six restaurants with her husband, Geoff Ellis, while living in New Zealand.


“But, there’s something about Aiken – it’s just a really, really special place. My husband and I were married in Aiken in 2002 and on a trip home to visit family in March of 2009, we were presented with an opportunity to open a restaurant in The Willcox hotel,” Ellis remembers. We were living in New Zealand at the time and had always intended to move back to the US before our daughter Grace started school. “We opened the Restaurant at The Willcox in September of 2009. In mid-December, we were told the hotel would be closing its doors on January 1st if a buyer

could not be found. We endured two weeks of fierce negotiations, with that midnight deadline looming ever closer, before finally signing a deal at 11:50 p.m., on New Year’s Eve … with only 10 minutes to spare!”

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Once Shannon and Geoff took ownership of The Willcox a little more than two years ago, the hotel began to thrive. It was recognized in November 2011 by Conde Nast Traveler as one of the top-50 Small Hotels in the United States – less than two years after they took command! Women

Among the first things the Ellises did after assuming ownership, was to shift the hotel’s business model from being a targeted destination hotel for elite customers to focusing on the local community. Today, the Ellises consider The Willcox to have become “the Living Room of the Community,” their concept from the start. Shannon explained their core hurdle as they began their stewardship. “People who have lived in this town for many years have seen the hotel go through so many phases.

They weren’t being welcomed to the extent that they deserved to be welcomed to the hotel, and for us, that was very clear.” “So, the first thing we did when we opened the restaurant was to welcome people in a relaxed way,” she explained of their philosophy. “We showed by example that the Willcox did not need to be a stuffy place. While there’s no denying how elegantly beautiful the property is, we wanted to present an easy-going elegance. We trained our staff to be very welcoming to everyone and Geoff and I often,

Professional Alliance, a joint function of the South Carolina Department of Health and Environmental Control and the private S.C. Hospitality Association. In January and February of this year, the Ellises were awarded the Good Stewardship Award by the Historic Aiken Foundation for saving the hotel and the South Carolina Hospitality Association’s Good EarthKeeping Award as the top environmentally conscience hotel in the state, among several other honors.

‘Much has been celebrated throughout her one hundred and fourteen years and you feel that energy, that inherited significance, when you arrive.’

no usually, wear jeans. We wanted to show that we are open to the community and that The Willcox could be something that the community could once again be proud of. The stronger the community is, and the stronger the bond between the community and the hotel, the stronger our business will be.” They re-opened The Spa at The Willcox to be competitively priced with the local market and added a hair salon in 2011. As a bold stroke to reach out to the community, The Willcox has just acquired a food truck, a 17-foot kitchen on wheels that will bring The Willcox to the community. “Our friends will have so many options to hire the food truck to cook hamburgers or steaks, fried chicken or Chateau Briand, for birthday parties, horse shows, factory lunches, back yard barbecues or black tie weddings. We want to bring The Willcox to the community and we want to do it any way they want.” Shannon said they would like to see The Willcox continue to thrive, play a positive role in the community and be an example of environmental excellence. They are getting quite a bit of notice for their efforts. Last year, the hotel was awarded the highest environmental sustainability certification offered by the South Carolina Green Hospitality

“Of course, all of those accolades come only from a concerted team effort,” Ellis said in earnest. “We have a brilliant, dedicated and motivated team. Our General Manager Tina McCarthy, our Executive Chef Regan Browell, the entire team are wonderful to work with and are all dedicated to making every visit here a pleasure. Geoff and I are certainly surrounded by a great group of friends with whom we work.” “Before we got here, the Willcox built a tremendous history of hosting presidents, royalty and captains of industry,” explained Ellis. “Much has been celebrated throughout her one hundred and fourteen years and you feel that energy, that inherited significance, when you arrive. I’ve been told by many people that they feel like they are enveloped in a great big hug when they walk through our doors. But now it can be felt by everybody. You don’t have to be a Hollywood star or a visiting dignitary.” “We are very proud to be part of the history of The Willcox and we see ourselves as the latest stewards of her proud life,” Ellis said. “We feel a responsibility to ensure that she survives another one hundred years in the service of the people of Aiken and her friends.”



Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center:



ayne’s Automotive & Towing Center, in Aiken, South Carolina, is proud to announce they are ready to address the needs of women consumers, as part of the growing network of Certified Female Friendly® locations in North America.  Team members at Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center have completed a training and certification process to provide a Certified Female Friendly® experience that exceeds women’s expectations. “With most of household decisions being made by women, my wife and I wanted our female customers to understand and feel comfortable with their service and repairs being done on their vehicles, stated Jeff Corbett. “We believe every woman should understand the process that we perform in doing a courtesy safety check on their vehicles, so they can make good decisions of the repairs or maintenance needed. We believe the Certified Female

Friendly® program is the perfect fit for the type of service we like to provide.” Visit the Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center micro-site: and at 1997 Richland Avenue E., Aiken, South Carolina 29801. To become Certified Female Friendly®, Wayne’s

In conjunction with, Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center has launched a female-focused micro-site that provides the tools and resources most requested by women.


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Automotive & Towing Center personnel completed an extensive training program on how to best serve women. Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center employees will participate in year-round instruction to enhance their awareness, appreciation, and commitment to a female-friendly service experience Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center will also benefit from a unique marketing support program designed to reach out and build lasting relation-

ships with women customers. “Women influence 85 percent of the buying decisions in North American households, effectively becoming the family’s chief purchasing officer,” says Jody DeVere, CEO of, Inc.”  AskPatty trains and certifies automotive businesses on how to com-

Professional municate more effectively with women and ensure they feel safe, respected and empowered, which creates tremendous customer loyalty. Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center’s commitment to women shows that management is serious about earning their business.” In conjunction with, Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center has launched a female-focused micro-site that provides the tools and resources most requested by women. The micro-site gives women the ability to schedule service appointments, access coupons and discounts, and learn more about car buying and maintenance online from the comfort of their home or office. The micro-site is easily accessed by searching on, or by going directly to their site. Wayne’s Automotive & Towing Center Wayne’s Automotive was originally started in 1980 by Wayne and Mary Lou Anderson.  After a tragic and unexpected passing in 1983, Wayne’s wife, Mary Lou, continued to run the facility. In 1985, Jeff Corbett purchased the business, which he had been employed at since the original owner passed. The business continued to

grow and a new building was purchased in 1987.  Wayne’s Automotive moved from downtown Aiken to a larger facility at 1997 Richland Ave. E. In addition to expanding the building size with a total of 7 bays, a heavy-duty truck shop with 4 bays and acreage, Jeff also added state-of-the-art equipment, diagnostic tools and one tow truck to better service his customers. In 2007 the company continued to expand, by purchasing another 4 acres to accommodate the growing fleet of 22 road service and tow trucks that range in light, medium, and heavy duty. In 2010 with the assistance of his wife, Sherry Corbett, Wayne’s Automotive has invested thousands in remodeling the building with additional offices, restrooms, shop area, and lounge to be friendlier to females and mothers of children. Jeff Corbett has been named NAPA Technician of the year 3 times and has a Master Certification, with his shop being the only AAA Auto Repair and Towing Facility and ASE Blue Seal Certified. The management team attends continuing education classes with Automotive Training Institute yearly to ensure they continue to meet the

Wayne’s Automotive has invested thousands in remodeling the building... to be friendlier to females and mothers of children. needs of their customers. They stand behind their work and offer NAPA parts with a “Peace of Mind Warranty” Program that offers 24 months or 24,000 miles.  Jeff also serves on the advisory board at the Aiken County Career Center for Automotive Technology, the board of Automotive for Aiken Technical College, the board of directors for the SC Towing Association, as well as receiving the Silver Ace Award for Towing excellence, which only 1% of towers in the country are recognized for excellence in service. About, Inc. With international headquarters in Thousand Oaks, California,, Inc. takes a twopronged approach to revolutionizing the women’s automotive retail market: For consumers, the website, is a safe and reliable source for expert automotive

advice and research. For auto dealers, tire dealers, collision centers, auto service and repair centers, the revolutionary Certified Female Friendly® program, designed from the ground up, trains and certifies automotive retail and service centers on how to attract, sell, retain and increase loyalty with women customers. Women can find an Ask Patty Certified Female Friendly® auto dealer, tire dealer, collision center, auto service and repair centers using the location search at AskPatty. com. Go here to learn how to become Ask Patty Certified Female Friendly®.

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TEN THINGS Professional Women

Should Know About Their Financial Future


Anticipate that you are likely to live a long life. And plan accordingly. In fact, according to U.S. Census Bureau statistics, a woman who reaches age 50 today without serious health problems can anticipate celebrating her 92nd birthday. Women in the United States, on average, will live to reach 81.1 years of age, compared with men’s life expectancy of just 76.2.1 So if you’ve always left money matters to your husband, start learning why you need to know how to manage on your own.


Beware of being overly conservative in your investments. While there is a correlation between your age and the amount of risk you should assume when investing, being too conservative

can seriously erode the value of a retirement account. You may need to rely on this money for 30 years or more. That’s why you should think of retirement as a long-term investment. Consider keeping a significant portion of your portfolio in stocks, as long a possible.


Pay yourself first. Invest for your future now. By investing systematically over a period of time, you will be surprised how fast your nest egg can grow. Hypothetically, if at age 25 you began investing about $5,000 per year ($417 per month) and earned an 8% return, you could build a nest egg of about $1.3 million at age 65.


Choose an IRA that’s right for you. Take advantage of compli-

mentary IRA and pension calculators, or ask your Financial Advisor to run a calculator for you, to compare the projected results of contributing to different types of accounts, including transferring assets from a traditional IRA to a Roth IRA.


Fund your IRA, 401(k) or other employersponsored program to the maximum. You can build up a good portion of your retirement savings if you contribute the maximum allowable amount into deferred income plans, such as a 401(k). You will you reduce your current taxable income, and the tax-deferred compounding feature of these plans allows you to accumulate more than you would in a comparable account that taxes earnings each year.


Remember this special Social Security tip: Even if you are divorced, you are entitled to half of your exspouse’s Social Security benefits if you are 62 or older, were married for at least 10 years and have not remarried.2 A widow, as long as she doesn’t remarry before age 60, is entitled to at least 71.5% of her husband’s Social Security benefits. If she waits until full retirement age, she is entitled to 100%. For more information on your particular circumstances, call the Social Security Administration at 1-800772-1213.


If you are employed and decide to switch jobs, check your complete benefits package, including the portability and vesting rules of your retirement plan. The U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that, on average, working women over age 25 switch jobs every 4.8 years.3 This jobchange frequency often limits the growth of retirement plan assets due to vesting requirements typically set at five years.

If you’ve always left money matters to your husband, start learning why you need to know how to manage on your own.


Investigate your employer’s tuition reimbursement benefits. In the Employee Benefit Research Institute’s 2011 Retirement Confidence Survey, 74% of workers said they expected to work for pay in retirement.4 Going back to school to develop “secondary employment skills” or to learn a new field can be a tremendous benefit if you choose to make a career or job change at a later date.


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Consider long-term care health insurance. Since the cost of spending a year in a nursing home can exceed $100,000 in some parts of the country,5 and the average duration of care is about three years,6 you could face unplanned expenses of at least $300,000 in retirement. Plan ahead to make sure you don’t leave everything to Uncle Sam. If you expect to leave something to your heirs, establish an appropriate estate plan. Without proper planning, estate taxes, state taxes and income taxes on retirement plan distributions could reduce your estate substantially. Essentially, your heirs may receive only a fraction of what you’ve worked so hard to accumulate.


Call your financial advisor to discuss your goals. To build a financial strategy that will help you achieve your ideal retirement, consult with your legal, tax and financial experts regularly.*

1 The World Bank, life expectancy charts, data?qterm=life%20expectancy&la nguage=EN. 2 Age 60 if your ex-spouse is deceased, 50 if you are disabled. Dana Anspach, “Key Things to Know About the Social Security Spouse Benefit,”, 3 Bureau of Labor Statistics of the U.S. Department of Labor, “Number of Jobs Held, Labor Market Activity, and Earnings Growth Among the Youngest Baby Boomers: Results From a Longitudinal Survey,” Sept. 2010. PDF available at http://www. 4 Retirement Confidence Survey, Employee Benefit Research Institute, 2011, ib/index.cfm?fa=ibDisp&content_ id=4772. 5 Genworth 2009 Cost of Care Survey, page 6. PDF available at http://www.

us/en/products/long_term_care/ long_term_care/cost_of_care.html. 6 Ibid. * Bonus step.

For More Information If you’d like to learn more, please contact Katy Moore, Financial Advisor at Morgan Stanley Smith Barney of Aiken, at (803) 6427047.

Morgan Stanley Smith Barney does not provide tax or legal advice. Please consult with your tax or legal advisor for such guidance. For clients whose account is carried by Morgan Stanley & Co. Incorporated, Morgan Stanley Smith Barney offers insurance products in conjunction with Morgan Stanley Insurance Services Inc. For clients whose account is carried by Citigroup Global Markets Inc., Morgan Stanley Smith Barney offers insurance products in conjunction with SBHU Life Agency, Inc.

Everybody needs m.o.m. sometime! We offer administrative support that comes to your Aiken or CSRA location. Pegi Flahault

The author(s) and/or publication are neither employees of nor affiliated with Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC (“MSSB”). By providing this third party publication, we are not implying an affiliation, sponsorship, endorsement, approval, investigation, verification or monitoring by MSSB of any information contained in the publication. The opinions expressed by the authors are solely their own and do not necessarily reflect those of MSSB.  The information and data in the article or publication has been obtained from sources outside of MSSB and MSSB makes no representations or guarantees as to the accuracy or completeness of information or data from sources outside of MSSB. Neither the information provided nor any opinion expressed constitutes a solicitation by MSSB with respect to the purchase or sale of any security, investment, strategy or product that may be mentioned.   Article written by McGraw Hill and provided courtesy of Morgan Stanley Smith Barney Financial Advisor [FA NAME]   Morgan Stanley Smith Barney LLC. Member SIPC. 370108



Mobile Office Management, LLC left BRAIN HELP FOR THE right BRAIN ENTREPRENEUR

by Elaine Samples


egi Flahaultz is a mom, but her children are grown. Now she nurtures and provides TLC to new businesses that are just getting started. Pegi began Mobile Office Management, LLC (M.O.M.) in 2005, and while she thought the nomenclature seemed silly at first, after mulling it over, realized it was perfect. She does for small business owners what mothers do for their children – holds them accountable in tough times.

Pegi has been blessed with a left brain skill set (systems and organization) while also being able to understand and complement the right brain (creative) folks around her. As a natural problem-solver, she quickly identifies the problem, finds efficient solutions, and subsequently implements them. “I’m the Left Brain help for the Right Brain entrepreneur,” says Pegi. “I specialize in the one person/home-based business that has been in business for five years or less. Generally by the five year mark, most businesses have matured to the point of having at least a part time administrative person.” The ideal client for M.O.M. recognizes what he or she does well and understands the benefit of paying others to perform remaining tasks, as it frees their time to focus on the success they desire to achieve. Not to be confused with a virtual assistant who typically works from a remote location, Pegi will actually travel to your business and perform any administrative work that needs to be done. “I can be hired to do a single project such as design a filing system that works, or I can perform ongoing work weekly, monthly or quarterly. For instance, a client may ask that I make all accounting entries from the prior month and balance the bank statement, or do the accounting plus file and handle mail. The only two


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things I do not do are cold calls and collection calls. Otherwise, I am able to efficiently perform do any office work that the business owner does not have the time or inclination to complete.” Some businesses start as a microbusiness and become much larger; others prefer to be a one person business. “These are energetic, passionate business owners with a product or service that solves a problem or meets a need in the marketplace,” says Pegi. “Often these are the creative, innovative Right Brain people that simply were not designed to make entries in accounting programs, run and review cash flow reports, design and use a filing system, or open and process mail promptly. Generally, startups are not in a position to hire someone to handle these administrative functions and many wouldn’t even know where to start to explain to someone else what they need because they don’t yet know. “I can use my Left Brain skills to help them keep the details under control and free their time to



do what they do best. Since these functions are second nature to me, I can get them done in much less time than it takes the new business owner because they do not enjoy them or put them off because they are so busy with building a successful business. It can be quite overwhelming.” Pegi wants to make sure and convey that she respects the business owner’s decision making role and doesn’t try to “come in and take over.” Rather, she will research options, set forth pros and cons of possible solutions, and act as sounding board for ideas. “But,” says Pegi, “Bottom line is that it’s your business and you have to be the one who makes the final deci-

sion. By hiring me, they are investing in their business through purchasing small blocks of time from me in order to free much larger blocks of time to work on their business. “When you don’t know what you don’t know, you don’t know what to ask. I’ve been in business many years and learned many things the hard way. I offer an easier way to shorten the learning curve.” If you are starting a new business, allow Pegi to free up your time to focus on growing the business and achieve success. Visit her website at to learn more about M.O.M. and hear from actual clients that Pegi has helped along the way. See her ad on page 19.

Health & Wellness

For Women ONLY:

Enlighten YOURSELF!

ARMC Now Offers the CSRA’s First and Only Comprehensive Women’s Health Initiative


iken Regional Medical Centers (ARMC) has spent the past year developing an innovative program designed to help women take control of their health. The program — called Women Enlightened (WE) for Better Health — is the first initiative in the CSRA that offers comprehensive resources and personal attention to help local women and families thrive. Aiken Regional Medical Centers (ARMC) has spent the past year developing a FREE innovative membership program designed to help women take control of their health. The program — called Women Enlightened (WE) for Better Health — is the first initiative in the CSRA that offers comprehensive resources and personal attention to help local women and families thrive and is open to all women in Aiken and the surrounding area. “Dealing with health decisions is tough enough — navigating through the healthcare system shouldn’t be,” says Melissa Summer, director of marketing at ARMC. “WE is a comprehensive program that eases the burden on women and helps them take better care of themselves and their loved ones. It’s a fun way for women to begin their journey to optimal health and wellness.” According to Olivia Newton-John, actress and breast cancer survivor, “Aiken Regional’s WE program makes it easy to get the healthcare you need. By joining the program, you will take an important step for yourself and your family. You will have a partner to guide you the healthcare system, assist you with appointments and provide the ed-

ucation you need to live a healthier life at every stage of life. On behalf of every woman who has benefitted from early detection, and all those who seek optimal health, I encourage you to join the WE program.” The WE Way of Life Women who join the WE Program are invited to a new member orientation where they tour the hospital and take part in an orientation to the WE program. In addition, members receive: • A Women’s Health Information/ Record Book. • A coupon for a LIV® Breast Self Exam Aid. The LIV® is a soft, heart-shaped pad named after breast cancer survivor Olivia Newton-John, who is a spokesperson for the device. “The WE program stresses prevention through free health screenings and by providing every member with a Liv breast self-exam aid,” Newton-John says. “The Liv is a simple, yet ex tremely valuable, tool in your personal defense against breast cancer. You’ll learn to use it monthly to perform a correct breast self-exam. And, as a breast cancer ‘thriver,’ I understand the importance of early detection.” • Health screenings, assessments,

referrals and information about community resources. • Reduced fees for educational classes, programs and events. • Women receive one free training/evaluation session with a personal trainer at the Aiken Family Y. In addition, the enrollment fee is waived for WE members. • Members receive a quarterly WE newsletter with the latest information on health, fitness and nutrition. • WE members can access information about the program 24 hours a day through the hospital’s website at and our Facebook page. • Age-appropriate programming, from “Mommy Advantage” to MidLife and Mature Adult. • Free access to our nurse navigator who is dedicated to helping women take better care of themselves and their families. The “Add-a-Pearl” Incentive Members have the option of participating in the WE Pearl Incentive Program and earning an “adda-pearl” each year that they meet certain health goals. To participate, WE members make an annual $20 donation to the Sa-

‘Dealing with health decisions is tough enough — navigating through the healthcare system shouldn’t be.’ vannah River Cancer Foundation (SRCF). During the year, members must complete five health services from the WE Health Service & Guide to qualify for a pearl. The Guide has an extensive list of health services, screenings, annual physician visits, online assessments and more. Get Started Today – It’s Free and Easy. Becoming a member is free and easy. Fill out an application online at or call us at 803-641-58WE (5893) and we’ll mail you an application. Once you sign up, you’ll receive a membership card, program information and an invitation to the next new member luncheon and orientation.


Family Y



n January, a ten-year-old dream came true for the Family Y of Aiken County when its new facility opened on Trolley Line Road. If you drive by now, you’ll see happy families, seniors and adults coming and going for exercise, fun and fellowship. Construction is well underway for the outdoor pool and water park which opens later this spring.

The Family Y was not a stranger to Aiken as it began serving Aiken County almost twenty years ago through after-school care in several Aiken County elementary schools. Over the past few years, the Y has also become the go-to provider of swim lessons and wellness programs for all ages, summer and holiday camps, and family-friendly programs like Parent’s Night Out, School Days Out care, and Family Fitness Nights. The effort to build a Y in Aiken County got its needed jumpstart in 2004 when developer Bob Deering, of Fine Deering Development Group, realized that there wasn’t a Y facility in Aiken. Bob and his business partner, Richard Fine, were in the planning stage of the Trolley Station community off of Robert Bell Pkwy. Bob was an active volunteer and member


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at the Houston YMCA and knew first-hand the importance of a Y to a community. Bob’s interest in bringing a Y to Aiken and to the residents of Trolley Station led to Fine Deering’s donation of the 35 acres that the new Family Y sits upon on Trolley Line Rd. In the spring of 2008, the Family Y opened a wellness and family center in a shared facility with Hitchcock Healthcare. Since there isn’t yet an indoor pool at the new facility, the Y will continue to offer swim lessons and water aerobics at the Hitchcock indoor pool. There are plans to add an indoor pool to the new facility once sufficient funds can be raised. The new Aiken Y offers programs for all ages and stages of life in its new, state-of-the-art facility. The 40,000 sq. foot main building in-



cludes a fully-equipped wellness center; an elevated indoor walking/running track; multi-use gym; juice bar; group fitness rooms; community classrooms; age-specific childcare adventure centers; cycling room; Aiken Regional Medical Center’s Health Connection; and, men’s and women’s locker rooms with sauna/steam rooms and a family-friendly locker rooms. The building is also the new home of the administrative offices and Sunday worship for Cedar Creek West Church. The outdoor campus features sports fields and a perimeter walking trail. The water park will feature a double water slide into a plunge pool, a competition pool, a lazy river, and a pool for toddlers with water features. The pool complex will also include a pool house with rest rooms and concession stand,

shade features and a 20,000 sq. ft. pool deck with lounge chairs. Memberships are available for individuals and families with up to five adults in the household. There is never a membership contract and financial assistance is available for all Family Y programs. Charter Memberships and Charter Business Partnerships are currently being offered for the new facility. For more information about The Family Y of Aiken County or the Prime Time program, call 803-349-8080 or visit


Heart Month!

Don’t Become a Statistic More women die of cardiovascular disease than from the next four causes of death combined, including all forms of cancer. But 80 percent of cardiac events in women could be prevented if women made the right choices for their hearts involving diet, exercise and abstinence from smoking. Make it your mission to learn all you can about heart attacks and stroke — don’t become a statistic.

Signs of a Heart Attack in Women • Uncomfortable pressure, squeezing, fullness or pain in the •

center of your chest. It lasts more than a few minutes, or goes away and comes back. • Pain or discomfort in one or both arms, the back, neck, jaw or stomach. • Shortness of breath with or without chest discomfort. • Breaking out in a cold sweat, nausea or lightheadedness. • As with men, women’s most common heart attack symptom is chest pain or discomfort. But women are somewhat more likely than men to experience some of the other common symptoms, particularly shortness of breath, nausea/vomiting and back or jaw pain.

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My Daughter’s Diagnosis with

TYPE 1 DIABETES by Beth McCrary

photography by Clark Berry Photography


will never forget the second day of second grade for my daughter Hannah. It was Thursday, August 21, 2008, the day she was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. Very briefly, our world was turned upside down as we navigated the waters of learning how to treat and manage a very challenging disease. Prior to Hannah’s diagnosis, I knew very little about Type 1 Diabetes, as it was simply not on my radar. After a three night stay in Palmetto Health Children’s Hospital, we were sent home with syringes, insulin, a glucose meter, lots of reading material, and a Bag of Hope. My husband Sam remarked that he felt like we were taking home a newborn with a whole new set of directions. And we were. However, our goal from the moment Hannah was diagnosed was for her to lead as normal a life as possible with Type 1 Diabetes. She was back in school the Monday following her diagnosis and back on the soccer practice field the following weekend.


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The Bag of Hope we were given contained Hannah’s first glucose meter with test strips, Rufus the diabetes bear, a video about Type 1 Diabetes, and plenty of reading material. Most importantly, the Bag of Hope connected my family to the local Palmetto Chapter of JDRF. We attended our first outreach event the Tuesday following Hannah’s diagnosis and we have been involved ever since. It was a cooking class for children with Type 1 Diabetes. This opportunity introduced us to our greatest source of hope for a cure for people living with diabetes.

Health & Wellness The Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation is an organization that was founded in 1970 by parents desiring to make a difference in the lives of their children and loved ones living with Type 1 Diabetes. To this day, it remains a volunteer driven organization devoted to preventing, treating, and finding a cure for Type 1 Diabetes. It only made sense to our family to get involved and do everything we can to raise awareness and funds to help JDRF find a cure. Allow me to tell you why a cure is so important for all people with diabetes. Diabetes is a challenging and misunderstood disease. There are far too many myths and misconceptions surrounding it. Because there are several types of diabetes and the cause of each is unknown, much confusion abounds. Far from an expert on diabetes, I have learned quite a bit in the past few years. The most common types of diabetes are referred to as Type 1, Type 2, and Gestational Diabetes. Contrary to popular believe, eating too much sugar does not cause diabetes. Diabetes is the result of a pan-

...our goal from the moment Hannah was diagnosed was for her to lead as normal a life as possible... creas that no longer works properly. When diabetes is present, the pancreas no longer makes enough (or any) insulin to break down the carbohydrates in foods to properly fuel the body. Type 1 Diabetes is an autoimmune disease in which the body’s immune system attacks and destroys the insulin-producing cells of the pancreas. While its causes are not yet entirely understood, scientists believe that both genetic factors and environmental triggers are involved. Insulin must be given by multiple daily injections or via an insulin pump. Yet insulin is not a cure, it is what keeps a Type 1 Diabetic alive. Diabetes affects the entire family. This isn’t entirely a bad thing because diabetics need to eat the same way that the rest of us should eat – a diet consisting of healthy

choices, moderation and portion control. Contrary to what many people think, we learned that Hannah can eat sugar, just in moderation like the rest of us should. We do not forbid or deny her the occasional piece of cake or candy. We teach healthy choices and lots of exercise to control her blood sugar. In addition to her JDRF advocacy work, Hannah also serves as the SC Ambassador for the Diabetes Dude. You can read more about Hannah’s diagnosis story under friends of the DD at Over the past three years we have served as mentors to newly diagnosed families and make ourselves available whenever possible to do what we can to help JDRF. I began a two year term on the Board of Directors for the Palmetto Chap-

ter of JDRF in June of 2011. In March of 2011, I was chosen to attend the annual Government Days in Washington, DC as one of the South Carolina delegates. I visited with each of our Congressman to thank them for their past support of legislation involving diabetes research and funding and asked for their signatures on a letter urging the Commissioner of the FDA to accept guidelines for the Artificial Pancreas Project. I will be returning to Washington in March of 2012 to ask for continued support of the Special Diabetes Program. Please consider getting involved to help JDRF raise awareness of diabetes. People living with Type 1 Diabetes didn’t choose it, diabetes chose them. Sadly, it can strike any one at any time and if not treated and managed properly can lead to life-threatening health complications or death. Together, we can make a really big difference for all people living with diabetes! We definitely feel that JDRF is our greatest source of HOPE for a cure. For facts about JDRF and Type 1 diabetes please visit

The McCrary Family


The Etiquette of Sympathy

What to do When Someone You Know Suffers a Loss by Lydia Ramsey


n a beautiful spring day I was driving home after welcoming my first grandchild into the world. Little Samuel Carroll Niles was whole and healthy, and life was good – almost. My husband had suffered a serious fall in October and was unable to accompany me. He seemed to be recovering, but I was still concerned about him.

I was nearly home when my cell phone rang. The call was from a friend who had stopped by to visit Hank and became alarmed when there was no response. I drove into my driveway with the lights of the EMS truck flashing in my rear view mirror. I lost my warm, wonderful, gentle husband. Within a three-week period, I became a grandmother and a widow. As I attempted to get back to life “as normal,” I found that grief had its own timetable. When I was able to write again, I decided that I needed to address this issue that confronts everyone at some point, personally and professionally. It is often difficult to know what to say or do when a death occurs. I want to share what I have learned that may help when someone you know—a client, a colleague, a coworker or a friend—loses a loved one. It is important to do something. Many of us are so uncomfortable with death that we don’t do anything at all—afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing.

Commercial sympathy cards are equally cherished. It was clear to me that the commercial cards I received had been carefully chosen. Each one came with an additional sentence or two written by the sender. Be sure you take the time to add a short personal note. Send flowers unless the family specifies otherwise. Send them to the family, the funeral home, the church or the gravesite. Flowers add warmth and are visual reminders of the support of friends. Flowers and personal gifts continued to arrive weeks later to confirm that neither my pain nor I had been forgotten.

Write a note as soon as you can. Personal notes of condolence are

Take food and other items for daily living to the house. The last thing the grieving family can think about is grocery shopping and meal preparation. A thoughtful neighbor called me and said, “I am going to the grocery store. What do you need?” My response was a baffled, “I have no idea.” This kind, generous person filled her car with everything from fresh fruit and vegetables to paper towels and

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Attend the funeral or the memorial service if you can. Your presence offers inestimable support. Even if you can’t speak directly to the family members, you can sign the book that they will look at over and over again and they will know you cared enough to be there.


a source of great comfort—more than you can imagine. I was moved by the ways people expressed their sympathy. There were those who simply spoke of their sincere sorrow for my loss. There were those who described what Hank had meant to them personally. Others wrote about the character and personality of the special person I had lost. I was grateful for each and every one.


toilet tissue. She even included pet food for the four-legged members of the family. Make a contribution to the charities indicated by the family. Honor the wishes of the deceased. Give to the causes they chose unless the obituary states that contributions should be made to the donor’s favorite charity. If you missed the funeral notice and don’t have that information, call the funeral home. They will have a record. Be specific when you offer to help. Most people say, “If there is anything you need, call.” While their intentions were genuine, I didn’t always know what I could ask certain people to do. When our assistant rector uttered those words, my face must have flashed back a message that said, “Like what?” because he immediately followed with a verbal list of all things I could call on him or other church members to do. One neighbor offered to walk the dog. Another proclaimed to be handy with household repairs if anything broke down or stopped working. Someone else volunteered to pick up family members from the airport. Once people were clear on what they could do, I knew where to turn without hesitation for what I needed. Make a note of the date of the death. Honor the anniversary with a note or a phone call that says you haven’t forgotten.

Lydia Ramsey Any gesture you make is comforting. A simple word, a hug, a phone call, a card or an offer to run an errand are just a few ways to express your sympathy. Keep in mind that great authors, poets and thinkers have written for centuries about grief and loss, searching for just the right words to console themselves or someone else. When all is said and done, there are no words. Sometimes the best you can offer are the words, “I’m sorry.” I hope that what I have learned first hand will help you to reach out with confidence and ease the next time someone close to you suffers a loss.

Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate trainer and author of Manners That Sell – Adding The Polish That Builds Profits. For more information about her programs, products and services, visit her web site

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A Personal Note (In the words of my Aunt Mary Samples Ray Holcombe)


h the heart is a marvelous thing…and my heart is my Family. Being the mother of four is a job, and though it is trying sometimes,, those four very different, little people fill my life with joy. Last December, Trey our oldest son went to take his learners permit test. One of the questions on the forms we filled out was regarding becoming an organ donor. I asked Trey if he would like to be a donor, and his answer was quick and concise. Yes, he wanted to be a donor, “why not, I won’t need it when I’m gone.” I know I was crying before he took his test, because I cry. He is my first and each time we pass another milestone, I am reminded of what an extraordinary young man he is becoming. His decision to be a donor was even more meaningful to me because of a woman who was very special to me. Mary Samples Ray Holcombe is my aunt. She was 41 years old when she was diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy in 1985. Cardiomyopathy, which literally means “heart muscle disease,” is the deterioration of the function of the myocardium (i.e., the actual heart muscle) for any reason. According to statistics approximately 36,000 people a year in the United States of America are hospitalized for Cardiomyopathy. Mary went from being a healthy active mother of four to being nearly bedridden in a matter of months. Let me say that Mary wasn’t just my beautiful aunt or one of my daddy’s favorite sisters; she was a devoted mother to two older sons, Michael and Kenneth Ray, a younger daughter, Jane Holcombe, and a younger son, Shawn Holcombe, and much more. She was a fun person. She made you laugh and was always the center of family gatherings. She was a daughter who often stopped by to check on her elderly widowed mother. She was an attentive wife and a loving sister to nine siblings. Many called her friend. For Valentine’s Day in 1986, her wish was not for jewelry or a flowers as it is for many of us. It was for a new heart. Recently I learned of a letter Mary wrote before her death, and I am sharing it with you today. Mary’s wishes were granted September 25th, 1989, and she lived for three years after receiving her heart. She was the second woman in the state of Georgia to receive a heart transplant at Emory University in Atlanta. She was the 18th heart transplant recipient since the beginning of their transplant program in 1985. It may not be politically correct to share with you my view on organ donation. I signed my donor card at a young age. I knew that someone else’s decision to do so gave us three more years with Mary. It is of course a personal decision for each of us. If you decide for whatever reason you cannot become an organ donor, all I ask is that you not judge others decision to do so. I know we are busy and it’s hard sometimes to get your own name on the list. I plan to take a lesson from this young mother’s life and commit to doing more for my heart this year. Will you join me? God Bless you,

Lori Samples Duncan Editor-in-Chief


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To My Family: At a certain moment a doctor will determine that my brain is dead. It has ceased to function and that, for all intents and purposes my life has stopped. When that happens, do not attempt to instill artificial life into my body, by the use of a machine. And don’t call this my “Deathbed.” Call it my “bed of life” and let my body be taken from it to help others lead fuller lives. Take my heart for experiment that it might save someone else from pain and suffering. Give my eyes to a man who has never seen a sunrise, a baby’s face or love in the eyes of a woman. Give my blood to the teenager who has been pulled from the wreckage of his car so that he might live to see his grand-children play. Give my kidneys to one who depends on a machine to exist from week to week. Take my bones, every muscle, every fiber and nerve in my body and find a way to make a cripple child walk. Explore every corner of my brain. Take my cells, if necessary and let them grow so that someday a speechless boy will shout at the crack of a bat and a deaf girl will hear the sounds of rain against her windows. Bury what is left next to my earthly father. “My faults and weaknesses, all my prejudices against my fellowmen. My soul is going to God.” Mary



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