The Carer's Champion June Issue

ISSUE 10 | JUNE 2022

The Carer's Champion Easing the Caring Journey for all!

In this issue: LIFESTYLE Experts sharing their wisdom to help you live your best life.

FEATURE STORY

IN THE SPOTLIGHT Sharing about the products and services available to ease the caring journey.

Winter Safety Tips

GUIDE: GADGETS, PRODUCTS AND SERVICES

WHY I DO WHAT I DO Talking with people across the aged care sector to find out why they do what they do.

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Tips, Traps, and Tricks for Carers!

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A Day in the Life

Feature Story: Winter Safety Attitude of Gratitufe

A look at what it is like for the amazing people working hard behind the aged care scene to provide products and services that will make caring easier for you and your loved ones.

This issue we have a chat with a couple of people who provide services in the aged care sector.

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In the Spotlight

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Enhancing your lives with gadgets, products and services.

Shining a light on products and services to make the caring journey easier and a little something that makes you smile.

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Lifestyle Articles on topics like health, fitness, stress, mindfulness, relationships, and more. Get the best out of your life with Lifestyle! .

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Attitude of Gratitude

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Q &A

Why I Do What I Do Technology That Isn't All About Monitoring

Carer's Chitter-Chatter Page 7

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A Day in the Life

Page 17 Affiliates

Carer Gateway

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Caring Is Lonely

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Page 24 Ageing Successfully

In the Spotlight Home Care Packages

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Carer Connect

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LifeStyle Mindfully Me by Dee Brennan

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Real World Real Health

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Self Compassion with Alyson Williams

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Life Style by Dr Gina Kingston

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Page 38 Gadgets, Products and Services Guide for you Page 43 Harmony in Words Book Review Page 59

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Editor's Note Welcome to the tenth issue of The Carer’s Champion. A space for you!

Photography by @traceymurrayphotography

This month we look at Winter and things to consider for your aged loved ones.

We continue to look at Ageing Successfully for you and your aged loved ones.

In this issue, we chat with Paul and Kate from HOMELife Technology about some products that will enhance the lives of your aged loved ones and make your caring role easier.

In the last month I found out more about the Carer Gateway and the services and products available to help carers.

I've had to carry over a couple of stories until next month - Your Side and Moran Aged Care and the pre schoolers.

I was speaking with a few carers at the launch of the Northern Beaches launch of a new program for carers and it really struck me how lonely caring is and how important it is to connect with other carers and people with lived experience.

I am excited to let you know that I am now a CareAbout Contributor and my third article has been published in their newsletter.

Have you checked out the Q&A section?

If you have any questions please send them to me and I will try to find the answers for you.

I was very pleased to be involved with The Post's biggest morning tea which was a huge success, with lots of fun.

Our fabulous columnists help us to take a break and think about ourselves. We can't fill from an empty cup and we all need to include some time for ourselves.

As we move into the winter months I hope you find a warmth that will keep you smiling.

You matter to me!

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Meet the Columnists Catie Chung

Deanne Brennan

Catie is a nurse case manager who has helps families deal with the crazy

Wellbeing and Mindfulness Coach, Mum, Runner and total Coffee snob. Her number

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Alyson Williams Trained Transformational coach, Relationship coach, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Coach, Extended DISC Behaviour Analysis practitioner and Hypnotherapist and Bling Angel

Rita Merienne Editor, author, podcaster and the main person behind The Carer's Champion.

Here to support you on your caring journey.

You Matter to Me!

Yvonne Heitz Words in Harmony book review provided

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Providing support for carers since 2014 with Aged Care with Ease.

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Carer's Chitter-Chatter!

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Winter Safety Tips for our Aged Loved Ones Article provided by Tessa Pinkerton, White Chalk Road.

With the weather starting to cool down, it's important to make sure you're prepared for the winter months. Older adults in particular, are at risk of developing serious health problems if they're not careful. Here are some safety tips for family carers to help keep your loved ones safe and healthy this winter: Get the Winter Warmers Out It's time to take your coats and thick blankets out of storage. Rug up in layers to keep warm both inside and outside. Make sure those you are caring for are also well prepared for the cold weather.

Get a Flu Vaccine One of the best ways to protect yourself and your loved ones from the flu is to get a flu vaccine every year. With COVID, many people have forgotten about getting the flu vaccine but it is still important to get it this year. The flu can be very dangerous, especially for elderly people, so make sure you and your loved ones are vaccinated.

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Get Your Appliances Serviced Winter is peak time for servicing heaters and hot water systems. Make sure you get your appliances serviced before winter to avoid any problems when you need them most. Otherwise, you could be facing long waits for a repairman during the coldest months.

Check On Your Elderly Loved Ones Regularly If you have elderly loved ones living alone, make sure to check on them regularly during winter. Cold weather can make it difficult for them to get out and about, so they may appreciate your help with things like shopping and errands. You can also help them by making sure their home is warm and safe, and that they have enough food.

Make Sure the House is Well Insulated One of the best ways to keep your or your loved one’s home warm during winter is to make sure it’s well insulated. This includes sealing up any gaps or cracks in the walls, ceilings, and floors. You can also add insulation to the attic and crawl spaces. You also want to ensure heat isn't escaping through windows and doors. Try to keep them closed as much as possible, and use heavy curtains or blinds to block out drafts.

Winter Safety Tips for our Aged Loved Ones

Article provided by Tessa Pinkerton, White Chalk Road.

Keep Doors Closed to Rooms Your Not Using Another way to conserve heat is to keep doors closed to rooms you’re not using. This will help to contain the heat in the areas where you are spending most of your time. Plus, this will also help you reduce your energy costs.

Monitor Your Home’s Humidity Levels Another winter safety tip for the elderly is to monitor your home’s humidity levels. Low humidity levels can cause a number of problems, such as dry skin, static electricity, and an increased risk of respiratory infections. A humidifier can help to alleviate some of these issues

Remove Any Hazards The risk of falls and trips is greater in winter for elderly people. Make sure to remove any hazards in your homes, such as loose rugs, electrical cords, or even wet tiles.

For going outside in wet weather, make sure your elderly loved one is equipped with shoes that have plenty of grips to avoid any slips in wet weather.

Take Precautions Against Fires and Carbon Monoxide Poisoning Make sure your smoke and carbon monoxide alarms are in good working order and test them regularly. If you have a fireplace, make sure it is properly ventilated before lighting it.

Take steps to actively prevent carbon monoxide poisoning by ensuring that any fuel-burning appliances in your home are properly working by maintaining regular service intervals and by ensuring gas appliances have been switched off when not in use.

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Winter Safety Tips for our Aged Loved Ones

Article provided by Tessa Pinkerton, White Chalk Road.

Limit Time Spent Outside Whilst spending time outdoors with your senior loved ones is a good thing, it’s important to monitor the amount of time they are exposed to the cold weather.

Limit their time outside to short periods and make sure they are well wrapped up. If possible, avoid going out in very cold or wet weather altogether.

Keep Your Elderly Loved Ones Safe this Winter With these tips and tricks, you can help your elderly loved ones stay safe, healthy, and warm all winter long.

From preparing their home or bedroom for the cold weather to monitoring their time outdoors, a little bit of planning can go a long way in ensuring their safety and wellbeing this winter.

Editors Note: There are some great tips here and some things I hadn't considered.

With all the rain we have had this year it is particularly important to reduce the chance of mould growth.

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More Winter Tips There were some great tips from Tessa in the last article and I would like to share a couple more.

As I sit writing this article the TV is on in the background and the headline on the news show is "Polar Surge is on the way" which is a fancy way of saying there is a very cold front on the way.

What does that mean for your aged loved one?

Just as we take extra care in the warm weather we need to put a few extra “things” in place for cold weather.

Here are a few things to consider when planning cold weather solutions.

Apart from keeping your winter woolies close at hand have a think about: Water Water intake needs to be monitored – just because it is cooler doesn’t mean they don’t need to have water. Water is so good for us, especially our minds. Hydration is an important factor in everyone’s health not just our aged loved ones. Maybe warm water with some lemon if your aged loved one is struggling drinking water.

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Heating Check all heaters.

Clean them, make sure there are no frayed cords and that when turned on they are not close to flammable items.

This can be difficult – our aged loved one would often stand in front of the heater when we weren’t there – I noticed a few scorched marks on her dressing gown!

Have some extra throw rugs lying over their chair, make sure the heater can’t be moved, warm socks and clothes can take the chill off the air.

More Winter Tips Hot Water Bottles These can be very dangerous for our aged loved ones – from filling with hot water to not doing them up properly and even hot water bottles bursting.

I personally think that hot water bottles are not to be used for our aged loved ones.

Finding options for your aged loved ones to keep warm is very important. Extra, comfortable clothing is something to consider.

Increasing their activity – no, I don’t mean star jumps every 10 minutes however getting them to do something will take their mind off the weather.

Knitting squares for charities. Most hospitals would love knitted blankets for their Children’s ward.

Warm foods and drinks also help.

The best solution is one that will be used – if your aged loved one won’t put on the extra warm clothes then it’s no use having them.

Electric Blankets When used as designed, they are great!

However, often they are left on all night and if you aged love done is incontinent this could be an issue.

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Talk to your aged loved one and ask them what they want – remember if they have some input they will be more likely to use it.

Attitude of Gratitude It seems a funny thing to say on the Caring journey – Attitude of Gratitude.

What is there to be grateful for?

Your aged loved ones not being able to look after themselves anymore?

Your time being taking up caring for others?

Feeling overwhelmed?

Being responsible for an aged person – especially a parent?

It wasn’t until I had my breakdown that I realised I had to change a few things – Ok I had to change many things.

That is exactly how I felt when I was caring for our Father.

The most important thing I had to change was the way I looked at my caring role.

I wasn’t grateful!

I was scared, I was overwhelmed, I was lonely!

Was I doing the right thing?

Yes I know this sounds corny but when I had my breakdown I felt as though I snapped – everything snapped and would never be the same again. It was my chance to rebuild what I was doing so that I wouldn’t break again!

How do I deal with the relationship change – caring for Dad instead of being cared for by him.

Was I just overthinking all of this!

Yes to every single thing!

I had to learn how to SNAP the stress cycle so I wouldn’t snap.

With the help of my counselor, I started with learning to stress less.

Yes, I hear you - it is easier said than done.

But each day I did something to lessen the stress in my life.

I am the list queen – I love a good list, I have lists about lists.

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Attitude of Gratitude I started making a list of the things I could to lessen the stress in my life and most importantly I started implementing them in my life.

Some worked and some didn’t.

But I didn’t give up. I kept trying, I kept putting my hand up to be rescued from overwhelmed.

Spending 10 minutes a day on mindfulness worked really well but getting up at 5am and walking each day didn’t.

It is a personal thing and you need to work out what is best for you. The aim is to stress less and not create more expectations.

Understanding that there was a new normal, that my life had changed, and accepting those changes.

Working those changes into what I want my life to be.

Caring was now part of my life and I had to adjust my life and the caring to make a perfect fit for me.

The attitude of gratitude was the game changer for me.

When I changed the way I looked at my caring role everything changed for me.

Instead of thinking I had to care for Dad I changed it to “I want to care for Dad”.

I felt the difference and he felt the difference too.

There was a spring in my step when I visited instead of dragging my feet as I slouched into his room.

We started having fun again instead of just making the visits about caring. I actually started to look forward to my visits and instead of finding reasons to not visit I was actually visiting more.

Our relationship changed too – Dad started sharing his life stories with me.

I thought I knew our family history – all of Dad’s stories but I didn’t. As he saw I was happy to just sit and talk to him he talked more with me. Sharing his stories, our stories. For this I was definitely grateful.

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Attitude of Gratitude

Preventing Burnout was also a very important part of snapping the stress cycle. I had to learn how to be rescued from overwhelm.

No, it wasn’t easy but I learnt how to take some time out so I wouldn’t be taken out again.

I learnt how to take a break so I didn’t break.

I learnt how to SNAP the Stress cycle.

As I said this is a very personal journey but it doesn’t mean you can’t share it with others.

Find a great support network that will help rescue you from overwhelm.

It isn’t easy.

But it is worth it.

You can’t change other’s attitude however you can be an example, when they see how an attitude of gratitude is making a difference for you they may change the way they approach things too

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I know my attitude of gratitude changed my relationship with Dad and brought us both a lot of happiness in the last few months of his life. And I am really grateful it did!

It starts with a few words: Change need to want Change hate to like Two simple little changes that will make a huge difference in your life and the lives of those around you.

When your attitude changes it will also change those that are closest to you.

As I spent the last three days of our Father’s life with him, caring for him in his final days, holding his hand, talking with him and being present for him I can truly say I was grateful that I was privileged to be his main carer and that I had the opportunity to be with him as he took his final breath.

Attitude of Gratitude I am grateful that our relationship had been strengthened by my change of attitude.

Every person’s caring journey is different and there is no judgement, guilt, shame – just understanding and acknowledgement that it is tough and how important it is to be part of a support network where you can connect with like-minded people.

It doesn’t matter if you care for your aged loved one in your home, their home or an aged care home caring is tough and it is important to have the right supports around you.

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We don’t know what we don’t know and until we hear a question we may not know we need to know the answer.

I come across many questions each and every day, here is one of them:

What is Compassionate Fatigue?

Compassion fatigue is a term that describes the physical, emotional, and psychological impact of helping others — often through experiences of stress or trauma.

Compassion fatigue is often mistaken for burnout, which is a cumulative sense of fatigue or dissatisfaction So that is the "official" definition of Compassion Fatigue, I would add a couple of more things to this definition.

Doing the same thing over and over again with no change or appreciation.

Taking on too much of the caring responsibilities.

Running around caring for everyone, running yourself into the ground.

There isn't one thing that causes compassion fatigue.

What causes compassion fatigue for one person may not cause it for another.

Professional carers are taught about it but informal carers or the family members caring for their aged loved ones aren't and they are the ones that are more than likely to suffer it.

Find a good support network, take regular breaks and make sure you do other things in your life - not just caring. Have some fun.

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WHY I DO WHAT I DO! Introducing the people behind the products and services

TECHNOLOGY THAT ISN’T ALL ABOUT MONITORING!

Technology and caring go hand in hand.

For carers, it makes their lives easier and for our aged loved ones it enhances their lives but where do you go to get what you need.

How do you know what is available and what you need?

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Technology that isn't all about Monitoring I will be the first one to admit that I am not tech savvy.

Most of the time I don’t understand how it works, why it works but what I do know it does enhance our lives.

Until I sat down with Paul and Kate from HOMELife Technology I didn’t understand how pivotal technology was on the caring journey.

Paul has a background in Consumer Technology and Kate is a health professional whose expertise is Dementia care.

Arriving at their home for our interview I was immediately welcomed and I felt instantly at ease as we discussed how technology has a huge role to enhance the caring journey.

Paul’s mother has dementia and was living independently until Paul and Kate noticed that she wasn’t coping with basic things around the home – cooking meals or even operating the TV.

Caring stepped up a notch or two and Paul’s mother moved into their home where they soon realised that different technologies would benefit all of them on the caring journey.

As her condition deteriorated and more care was required she has recently moved to an aged care home where technology is helping to keep her connected.

Paul and Kate not only professionally understand technology in care they have personally lived it.

One of the areas we spoke about was that at HOMELife Technology it was important that all technology was ethically used and that the privacy of our aged loved ones was at the heart of every product.

Not monitoring but life-enhancing products that are high-quality products and very easy to use.

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Technology that isn't all about Monitoring I was really impressed when some of the products were demonstrated, areas that I hadn’t previously thought about but now I totally understand how technology can enhance not only the lives of our aged loved ones but the carers too.

The first product we looked at was “The Relish Music Player/Radio”.

That’s where the Relish Music Player/Radio is perfect – it is especially designed for dementia patients with the following features: Digital radio, FM Radio MP3 for Music and Audio Books Labels the stations with familiar names for easy access Large easy to use buttons The volume is never fully silent – so you will know if the radio is on or off which eliminates confusion for the user regarding its on/off state.

We all know how important music is in our lives – all of our lives and how most of our aged loved ones listen to the radio. A part of their lives that was so important.

I loved this, our father was vision impaired and this would have been a great product for him.

But what happens when they can’t operate a radio anymore?

Instead of him fumbling with buttons trying to tune in his favourite stations and shows, it would have been easy for me to assign the different programs he listened to a number.

When their fingers can’t find the right button to tune in their favourite show!

How does a vision impaired person operate a radio?

Easier for the support worker too – all they have to do is push one button.

Family can provide the aged loved one’s favourite music on an MP3 or even messages of love.

How special would it be having the grandkids providing messages, reading a few poems or just speaking to their grandparents.

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Technology that isn't all about Monitoring Or if your aged loved one gets agitated at different times the support worker could play their favourite music or messages from loved ones to help calm them down.

Easy to use, practical and very high quality.

Perfect.

It’s something that Paul strives for in his products. He does a lot of research to get the best product available.

The next item we looked at was the Robin Day Clock. There are many versions of big digital clocks around and most of us have experienced some of them.

We had a talking clock for Dad but it really wasn’t very good – actually it was more annoying than helpful.

He had to press a button to find out the time and more often than not he pressed the wrong one and I had to rest everything again. I was really pleased to see the Robin Day Clock, not only was it easy to ready with all the information on it but you can set it up with reminders or alarms and to audibly announce the time for people with low vision.

Buttons are easy to access.

There are three sizes available and there is even a backup battery to save all the settings.

I am actually thinking of getting this clock for myself.

Saving the best to last – the other item we looked at was The Connected Photo Frame.

Wow! Back in the day I had a digital photo frame and when I first saw this product I thought it was another one just a bit fancier. But I was wrong!

Yes, it is a digital photo frame but so much more. Family members can send photos to their loved ones from their phone.

Just like posting on social media but instead direct to the digital photo frame.

Personal message can be included with each photo.

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Technology that isn't all about Monitoring Fully automatic with no interaction required by the recipient, but if they want to they can respond with an emoji.

No ongoing fees – just access to WIFI is all you need.

This was amazing – such an easy way to stay connected and engaged with your aged loved one.

Making them feel included in activities when they can’t physically be there. Helping them to stay involved.

One of the things that really frustrated Dad was that he couldn’t do things for himself anymore – being vision impaired meant that even the simple things were difficult.

Turning on the radio to his favourite show became too hard.

When he got frustrated he got angry and depressed.

I was totally blown away by this technology.

It wasn’t just the quality of the items but the way each and every one of the items has the potential to enhance the lives of not only our aged loved ones but also the carers and the support worker.

Keeping our aged loved ones engaged and connected to the things they love but not taking up precious time for the carers and support workers.

Just imagine the difference in his life if he had a radio where all he had to do was turn it on and not fiddle to find his station.

Paul’s favourite product is The Relish Music Player/Radio because it is well designed and brings joy to many people.

While Kate’s favourite product is The Connected Photo Frame because it keeps our aged loved ones connected and engaged.

I love sharing products and services that will make the caring journey easier and for me HOMELife Technology products have the perfect blend of making life easier and enhancing lives.

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Technology that isn't all about Monitoring Paul and Kate’s professional expertise combined with their lived experience of caring for an aged loved one shines through in every one of their products.

It’s not just about selling you a product – HOMELife Technology will provide the support you need to get the best outcomes for your aged loved one.

Check out the details on https://homelifetech.com.au/ You won’t be disappointed.

"All HOMELife Technology products can be purchased under the NDIS or My Aged Care programs. If you need a quote or Tax Invoice prior to purchase, you can quickly obtain one here on the HOMELife Technology website. https://homelifetech.com.au/pages/ndis-myaged-care-invoice-request I have also featured the products in this month’s guide.

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Final 3 Thoughts: Best piece of advice received: Paul - You never know what someone else is going through – be kind.

Kate – Find the chance to have a break.

Rest is important.

If in 5 years it won’t matter what do you wish you hadn’t spent more than 5 minutes on: Paul - Nagging the kids Kate – Housework What are you passionate about: Paul – Music and guitars Kate – Understanding and connecting with people.

Editor’s Note: Speaking with Paul and Kate was wonderful.

I love that they are combining their individual expertise with their lived caring experience and making the caring journey easier for others.

I didn’t realise how important the little things were – easy to use buttons would have made life so much easier for our father and me too! Instead of racing over to the home and fixing the radio I could have actually spent the time with him.

Just imagine having your family connecting with you each and every day – sending you images of where they are and little messages. As easy as we post things on social media we can bring happiness to our aged loved ones. Connection, engagement and inclusion.

With the added bonus of something else to talk about when you visit.

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A DAY IN THE LIFE! What they do to make it work for you!

THE CARER GATEWAY We hear it all the time – Age Care needs to change, we have to do things differently.

But what do we need to do?

How do we change things?

For me it is shining a light on different products and services to make caring easier.

One such service is the Carer Gateway. I asked Kiersten who is a carer herself about the Carer Gateway and the following are her responses.

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Kiersten with one of her clients Image provided by YourSide

Carer Gateway

An outline of Carer Gateway and the services that are available focusing on carers?

Do you regularly look after a family member or friend who is elderly, ill or has disability?

If so, you one of Australia’s 2.65million carers and the Carer Gateway can reduce your stress and support you on your caring journey.

The Carer Gateway provides services for carers including counselling, respite care (emergency and planned), personal care, domestic assistance, coaching, connecting you with other carers through peer support, purchase of laptops and mobile phones, online skills courses and financial support.

There are additional services for young carers including tutoring to help with schoolwork and exam preparation, access to educational programs and even driving lessons.

Carer Gateway: Is NOT means tested Doesn’t affect Government payments Does not require you to provide doctors certificates or reports Does not require you to fill in a heavy amount of paperwork

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Tania and her Mum Image provided by YourSide

Who will benefit from your services?

All carers benefit from these services listed above. It is not means tested and doesn’t affect any other Government payments.

Do you regularly look after a family member or friend who is elderly, ill or has disability? If the answer is YES – you are a CARER and eligible for assistance through the Carer Gateway.

As a carer getting help early can make a big difference to your life by helping to reduce emotional and physical strain and improving your overall health and wellbeing.

How carers can access the service?

You can call our team on 1800 422 737 between 8am - 6pm Monday - Friday or visit www.carergateway.gov.au After the initial call to the 1800 number we set-up a 1 hour assessment with the carer which is a lovely conversation going over a number of key areas where you might need support as a carer. From there we put those supports and services into place.

When you call the Carer Gateway, our team will walk you through some questions designed to understand what services will help you in your caring role.

Carer Gateway These questions will ask about: Health The caring role Managing at home Time for yourself How you feel Finances Work Based on your answers, we will provide you with information, advice and referrals to services already available or our Carer Gateway Services.

What are some of your challenges in getting carers to register with the Carer Gateway?

Often people who are carers don’t identify or even know they are carers. They are just going about their day-to-day, doing the best they can and don’t know they are eligible for support and services.

We encourage carers, their friends and family, to access Carer Gateway to find out what types of services and supports you may be eligible for.

What makes you smile?

Celebrating the individual and varied successes of my four daughters. Oh, and the way my daughter with ASD likes to distract me with compliments whenever she feels she’s in trouble!

One bit of advice you would give carers?

As a carer myself, the best piece of advice I would give is to accept the assistance of those who offer it. Learning to say yes to support can be difficult and sometimes feel awkward, but the benefits far outweigh the initial discomfort.

It is our job to let as many people know as possible about the Carer Gateway.

The services provided by Carer Gateway are free and available to all carers including: People providing unpaid care for older people; People with chronic illness; People with disability; and People living with mental illness.

Laura a carer Image provided by Yourside

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Carer Gateway Connection and engagement are very important for our aged loved ones how does the Carer Gateway help achieve it?

The Carer Gateway has three amazing services which help Carers with connection and engagement. Counselling, coaching and peer support.

The supports and services that the Carer Gateway helps carers with also means they have more time for themselves for self-care, social activities, and rest.

This means they are more refreshed and engaged when delivering care themselves to ageing loved ones.

The Financial Support Packages – one off $1500 and yearly $3000 – can you get both, What are they used for?

After your initial assessment with your individual consultant, you will work together to plan the way the Carer Gateway can best support you.

If this is a much-needed item or a course to support your caring role then the $1500 package might be suggested. If between you, you decide that its more helpful to have fortnightly supports such as Domestic Assistance (cleaning and gardening) then your consultant might guide you to the $3000 package. At the end of the 12-month period this can be revisited and adjusted to suit your changing needs.

The Carer Gateway offers two FINANCIAL SUPPORT packages either: One-off practical support in the form of technology and resources to assist you in your caring role. or A range of ongoing practical supports, such as planned respite or transport, provided over a twelve-month period.

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Carer Gateway How does the carers coach work – how many sessions?

One of the services available from the Carer Gateway is COACHING - reflecting on how your caring role impacts your life and learn new ways to manage stress and improve your wellbeing.

There is also the option of self-guided coaching through online interactive courses. Coaches are there to hold your hand through the myriad of services and supports available.

More detail about the Carer Gateway Coach here: https://yourside.org.au/coaching-andcourses/

I liked what Kiersten said about getting respite for unplanned circumstances – can you explain the circumstances this could be used and how somebody goes about organising it?

Designed to offer support to carers who are experiencing an urgent, unplanned and imminent event that temporarily restricts their ability to continue caring when no other services are available, for example: An unplanned situation that prevents the carer from providing care required by the care recipient; An unplanned event that threatens the health and safety of the care recipient; or, An unplanned event that threatens the health and safety of the carer (including extremely high levels of strain and anxiety).

Registering for the Carer Gateway now means that if this need for Emergency Respite arises, support can be found within 24 hrs.

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Carer Gateway What other services are available for Carers?

You can see all the Carer Gateway services in detail here: https://yourside.org.au/carergateway-sydney/ Is there an assets test involved with the services?

NO. Carer Gateway: Is NOT means tested Doesn’t affect Government payments Does not require you to provide doctors certificates or reports Does not require you to fill in a heavy amount of paperwork 4 Does getting assistance through the Carer’s Gateway affect the Home care package?

No Can you get assistance if your aged if your aged loved one is in an aged care home?

Yes

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Getting people to know about this service seems to be difficult – how do you reach the people that need these services the most.

My role as a Community Engagement Consultant is mirrored in each Regional Service Provider.

We make connections with all Allied Health agencies, community groups, schools, Councils and other organisations that might be in a position to recognise when someone is in a caring role.

We welcome all opportunities to share physical information and to do personalised presentations to the carer community.

Every conversation is a chance to support a carer.

Carer Gateway

Support for Carers Emotional, Practical and Financial Support for Carers If you are caring for a family member or friend there is support for you too You can call the team on 1800 422 737 between 8am - 6pm Monday - Friday or visit www.carergateway.gov.au Final three thoughts: What is the best bit of advice you have ever received?

What you allow is what will continue. I first heard this after my divorce 10 years ago and it has become ingrained in my psyche. It helps me in personal relationships, in dealing with bureaucracy, or anytime when I’m feeling put upon. Setting clear boundaries is paramount.

If in 5 years it won’t matter don’t spend more than 5 minutes on it. What do you wish you didn’t spend more than 5 minutes on?

Second guessing my own strengths and abilities.

I’ve learned that knowledge is power, so now I attempt more challenging circumstances by looking for the information to help me prepare for them.

What's your passion?

The easy answer would be to say my children, but interestingly as they have grown up and are leaving the nest, I’ve discovered a passion for getting away from it all. Camping and discovering off road tracks, swimming in rivers, gold panning, hot air ballooning are all examples of my newfound passion for adventures.

Editor’s Note: You may have noticed this article is a little different to the usual way I present information. I was really impressed with what Kiersten had to say when I met her and due to some prior commitments I was unable to do the interview in person and this is such an important service that I wanted to get the information to you as soon as possible.

I highly recommend that you register with the Carer Gateway as soon as you can and start using some of their services.

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Carer Gateway

Editor’s Note Con't : A couple of highlights for were: Assistance with respite for unforeseen circumstances – register now to be able to access this service if some emergency arises. This is such a great service and I really wish this had been available when I was on the caring journey with Dad. Coaching for Carers – helping you to manage your caring responsibilities but most importantly help you to look after yourself.

Financial support – yearly or one off grants for those extra things you may need.

You can access Carer Gateway if your aged loved one is in an aged care home.

There is help available. You just need to know where to find it and Carer Gateway is a great resource for you.

I often hear "this is just my lot in life"

Even if you don’t think you need the services now – register anyway because you never know when an emergency may arise and your need assistance. Having the registration in place will take a bit of the caring stress away – knowing that you have support available if needed. Hopefully you will not need it however if you do it will be available.

I can’t tell you how important it is to have plans in place “just in case”.

Who are you not to feel good?

What will make you feel good?

Register now for a bit of peace of mind!

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But is it really?

You don't have to do everything!

You can have some fun too!

If there was one thing you could do each day to make you feel good, what would it be?

Caring Is Lonely!

Over the last few weeks I have been out and about, spending time at different events and something I have noticed is that people have really missed connecting with others.

Caring is Lonely!

You feel no one understands.

I was asked to speak at the launch of a new program for carers and after the “official” side of the launch I spoke with a few participants and one of the things that really struck me was how many people told me that they were lonely.

You feel no one is going through the same things you are.

Again this week I was helping to host a function and so many people said it was good to be back out doing things again.

You feel alone.

Then this morning I read a few comments in a Facebook group about how a carer was feeling very lonely, not that they begrudged caring for their aged loved ones but they were lonely.

It reminded me of how I felt when caring for our Father and my partner’s Mother.

You feel you don’t want to burden others with your feelings.

I think back to my time caring with Dad – I was so busy you would think that I didn’t have time to be lonely however it was the present every single day.

I didn’t think anyone else could understand.

I was working full time.

I was dealing with the grief of our big sister passing unexpectedly.

I was caring for Dad who I had just moved to Canberra and into a new aged care home.

So I thought I needed to be there every day to help him settle in

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Caring Is Lonely!

My 30 year marriage had been on the rocks for a few years and was crumbling more and more each day.

The more I think about this in relation to caring it is the perfect definition – without company relates perfectly to how I felt.

My teenage son, the light of my life, was diagnosed with a permanent eye condition that meant he would never be able to drive.

Yes I had people around me but I felt without company on my caring journey.

And I felt alone!

But I wasn’t! Each and everyday carers are going through the same type of things if not worse.

At least I had family around me.

The wonderful support of my sister, Yvonne.

Friends that kept calling until I eventually pushed them away. Work to keep my mind occupied. People to talk to each and every day.

My darling son to light up my life.

Looking back I can see that I had support, friendship and people in my life but I felt so lonely.

Let’s look at that a little bit shall we?

I had people around me all the time but I felt lonely.

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Which was probably my own fault because I didn’t ask for help and I kept telling everyone I was ok.

I didn’t want to seem weak or unable to “do it all” so I kept saying I was ok.

But what I really wanted was for someone with lived experience to talk to.

Someone that had been through the same things to list and give advice, no it was more than that I wanted to be part of a group that understood me and what I was feeling.

That is the single important reason being part of a support network is so beneficial on the caring journey.

You are not alone!

You are with like-minded people that understand what you are going through that will listen to your “complaints” and know that you are just venting and that you don’t want to change your caring role but today, well today it is frustrating and you want to share it with someone that understands.

Caring Is Lonely!

At both events I attended this month I met people that were feeling overwhelmed.

The first person was caring for their father-inlaw who was slowly declining due to dementia.

He had recently been diagnosed and was in the “transitional” period where he still was able to function for part of the day but was also forgetful, repetitive, obstinate and getting very difficult to deal with.

The Carer was overwhelmed, not knowing who to turn to for help.

Family members didn’t understand the difficulties of caring.

They saw him as he used to be. It isn’t until you are with them day in and day out that you realise how much they are deteriorating.

I listened and offered reassurances but mostly I listened to the fears, the hurt, the concern, the loneliness.

It is all they really wanted, to have someone to listen and to understand.

To offer some advice and to acknowledge what they were going through.

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The second person I spoke was caring for a spouse with dementia, whose condition was considerably more advanced and didn’t realise anything was wrong with them.

Caring was overwhelming them. The changes. Everything.

The other example was the comment from the person in the Facebook group about caring for their parents and feeling lonely.

Each and every one of these situations was different but each and every one of these carers were feeling overwhelmed and alone – sad because they didn’t have company!

Each and every one of these carers reached out for help.

By attending the respective functions or asking for advice in the Facebook group they were finding the support they needed from people with lived experience who understood what caring was actually about.

Caring Is Lonely!

It isn’t always easy to reach out for help however the benefits are amazing – the old saying “a problem shared is a problem halved” comes to mind. Just getting it off your chest is a great first step and will relieve a little of the burden.

I often find that just verbalising the issue to someone else starts the healing process however you never know what pearls of wisdom may be shared and what help you may find is available.

Rescue from overwhelm starts with you putting your hand up to say – I need help!

Finding the right people to rescue you from overwhelm is important, sometimes you may have to ask twice or more until you find the right help.

I was reminded this week that people aren’t mind readers and sometimes even if we have verbalised something it might not have been clear to the other person.

Don’t stop asking for help just because the first person wasn’t able to help.

Keep asking.

Keep talking.

Keep raising that hand!

Caring is something that is often done alone but it doesn’t need to be lonely.

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What are you doing for you today?

Does it include reaching out and Asking for help?

Spending time with friends?

Being with like-minded people?

Ageing Successfully Ageing Successfully for our aged loved ones and their carers.

Each month we will bring you tips, traps and tricks to help you age successfully with AMIE AMIE is: Attitude Movement Inclusion Engagement Ageing Successfully is all about getting the best out of your life – no matter what stage you are at. Everything we do every day to make every day a day worth living.

Often times we see people just surviving instead of thriving and living a life included and engaged.

It’s not just our aged loved ones but also the carers – the forgotten carers. Family members caring for their aged loved ones.

AMIE – Ageing Successfully is here to enhance the lives of everyone on the caring journey.

Carers: Attitude – Being grateful that we can help our aged loved ones. This may seem difficult when we are feeling overwhelmed however when we look at things differently things become different.

Movement - making the time to do something for you. Small movements are just as important as spending hours doing something.

Inclusion – We often think we need to do everything ourselves but now is the time let family members help out. Include others in your caring journey. .

Engagement – Reach out to other carers and share lived experiences.

Tip: If nothing changes than nothing will change.

Challenge: Walk for 15 minutes – break it down 5 minutes 3 times a day. Find a local support network.

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Ageing Successfully

Aged Loved Ones: Attitude – motivation is often hard for our aged loved ones. Find something that will give them the reason to keep on keeping on.

Movement –Ask them to do something for you.

Make a cup of tea. Simple and easy and movement!

Inclusion – Do something with them. Include them in what you do. Hang out the washing together.

Engagement - find something they like doing and do it with them. Even if it is 15 minutes a day.

Knitting squares for blankets for the local children's hospital.

Tip: Laughing is great and makes you feel good.

Find something to help your aged loved one laugh each day.

Challenge: Arm curls x 5 x 5 times a day. Smiling and laughing each day.

Ageing Successfully is something we can all aspire to.

Starting early will make it easier as you age.

It’s about thinking outside the box and finding ways to take care of everything but it doesn’t mean you have to do everything.

Fitting in health and happiness each and every day.

Giving your aged loved one something to do and giving you the space and time to do things for your own successful ageing.

It doesn't have to be expensive actually it is the little things you do each and every day that will make the difference.

Group activities are fantastic too.

Have you tried Laughter Yoga?

Walking groups are also a great idea.

Book Clubs are also a great for inclusion and engagement.

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IN THE SPOTLIGHT Shining a light on Products and Services!

You don't know what you don't know!

In this section I will sharing different products and services with you.

Products and services that can make the caring journey easier for you and for your aged loved ones.

Not all of the products and services will be right for you but it will show you what is available.

When we know better we do better!

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HOME CARE PACKAGES A Level 2 Home Care Package is aimed at Disclaimer: I am a contributor to CareAbout Helping your aged loved one stay at home is one of the main aims of a Home Care Package.

Providing support to help with care both domestic and personal.

Sounds pretty simple, doesn't it!

But it isn't!

Understanding what home care packages are all about is the first part of getting your head around the how the program works.

The following information is provided by CareAbout: A Level 1 Home Care Package will give you approximately 2.5 hours of support per week, depending on your particular provider’s fees. Most of the customers we speak to choose to use this for weekly household cleaning and fortnightly or monthly gardening duties. The amount of funding received on a level 1 home care package is $9,026 per year.

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supporting people who have low-level care needs. The amount of funding received by those with a Level 2 Home Care Package is $15,877 per year.

A Level 3 Home Care Package will give you approximately 9-10 hours of support per week, depending on your provider’s fees.

Generally, those with a Level 3 Package will access more personal care, nursing, or allied health support than those with lower-level packages. This level will give you $34,551 worth of funding a year.

A Level 4 Home Care Package is intended to support people who have high level care needs. This level of package will give you $52,377 worth of funding per year. This works out to be approximately 14-15 hours of care per week, depending on your particular provider’s fees.

To find the right home care provider talk to CareAbout.

Contact CareAbout now to find out how they can help you. www.careabout.com.au

CARER CONNECT

In May I was honoured to speak at the launch of a new program for Carers run by Sydney North Health Network.

Carer Connect is about connecting carers.

It is a free program run at the Dee Why RSL one day a month for six months.

For Carers aged over 65 it will give access to different themes each month.

Well Being and pampering day Movie Day Occupational Health and Tai Chi Mindfulness Falls prevention Christmas party This program is free for attendees and supported by Carer Gateway who can arrange for respite care for your loved one.

Interested in connecting with other people in the northern beaches community and enjoying social events, health and wellbeing seminars?.

This is such a good program that helps carers connect with others on the caring journey and we all know how important it is to talk to people with lived experience.

Sharing tips, traps and tricks. Listening to advice and learning new things.

We don't know what we don't know!

I highly recommend this program and I suggest you have a look at your local health networks - they may have similar programs.

Get in contact with the Carer Gateway they may know of similar programs in your area.

Finding the right support is important and just spending time with people who understand what it is like to be on the caring journey is enormously beneficial.

To find out more about this program for Carers in the Northern Beaches area please register for your free place please fill-in the online registration form or email community@snhn.org.au with your full name and contact details or call SNHN on (02) 9432 8250.

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GADGETS, PRODUCTS AND SERVICES For Your Aged Loved One and You!

People with lived experience often look at how they can help others either by creating new gadgets, products or services.

There are many challenges on the caring journey. There are many solutions for the challenges but we don't know what we don't know.

The following guide has some gadgets, products or services that I have found very helpful on my caring journey.

Not everything will resonate but you just never know you might just find the solution to your challenges.

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The Connected Photo Frame HOMELife Technology Keep Loved Ones Connected Allows families to remotely send photos with a message to loved ones from their mobile phones.

Requires no operational interaction from the receiver.

Perfect for simple connection with distant loved ones or reminiscence therapy.

Basic WiFi connection and power are the only requirements.

No accounts, subscriptions or ongoing costs.

Hundreds of five-star reviews One of our wonderful reviews: "The connected photo frame has been a wonderful help for our family. Our father had 2 strokes and has lost his hearing. Communication is extremely difficult as he is 85. The photo frame means we can send him pics with a message from all family of grandchildren great-grandchildren sons daughters He had tears in his eyes when he realised how it would work for him He is loving the connection " The Connected Photo Frame

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The Relish Radio/Music Player (NEW) HOMELife Technology Music so simple, everyone can enjoy it!

Scribble strips for instant access to favourite Stations, Music or MP3 Audio books.

Simple to use for carers and loved ones alike.

Contrasting colours and tactile buttons for people with low vision.

MP3 Playback (Music, Audio Books) Radio Playback (DAB+ and FM) Designed for people living with low vision and/or dementia by Relish-Life in the UK. One of our wonderful reviews: "Bought this for my mum who loves to listen to the radio but cognitively could no longer operate standard ones herself. My mum could instantly use this (once I had programmed the stations), I didn’t have to explain how to operate, was intuitive.

Wish I bought it sooner."

The Relish Radio

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The Flipper Big Button Remote HOMELife Technology

Makes TV easy, again!

Large tactile easy to read/feel buttons.

Non-abbreviated button descriptions.

Dementia and Vision impaired friendly.

Learning function for any TV/set-top box.

Lockable settings.

The Flipper Big Button Remote

The Robin Day Clock HOMELife Technology

Designed by America's leading Day Clock brand.

Easy to read Day Clock Customisable alarms and reminders.

Customisable display to meet changing needs.

Audible time announcements for people with low vision.

Designed by the leading day clock brand in the USA. Available in 8", 12" & 15" One of our wonderful reviews: "Very happy with the clock, my MIL is too. She now knows what day it is, and has reminders so she won’t miss bus trips or when the hairdresser comes. Love it, thank you" The Robin Day Clock

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Carer Gateway Carer Gateway aims to make your life easier.

By calling Carer Gateway, you will be connected with a new Australia-wide network of Carer Gateway service providers. They will talk through what you need and help you to find local services and support to help you. https://www.carergateway.gov.au

Dossy Dossy is closing the tech gap between our elderly loved ones, their friends, families and carers.

Everything your senior needs to connect with family and friends. And nothing they don’t A simple meaningful way to connect.

A video app connecting families. https://dossy.co/

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MEMBO IS A DIGITAL NOTICEBOARD Assistive Technology that Simplifies Life for Everyone easy to set up and use replaces Calendars, Whiteboards & paper Diaries can be updated in real-time by multiple people including Family, Carers and Support Teams from Computers, Tablets & Mobile Phones easy to share information among all Users – the Noticeboard itself and additional options in the online Family/Team Hub cost can be covered by NDIS, My Aged Care, CHSP https://www.membonoticeboard.com/

CareAbout Easy Online Service, 100% Obligation Free. Start Your Aged Care Comparison Today.

Australia's Premier Destination for Comparing Aged Care Services. Home Care & NDIS Advice. Speak To Specialists. No Catch, No Commitment. Aged Care Experts. https://www.careabout.com.au/

Gadgets, Apps and Services can make our lives easier. Helping us to connect and engaging us. It is the same for our aged loved ones.

Engaging them, keeping them active and giving you the space to do the things you need to. Allowing time for more meaningful engagement and interaction.

Getting help with caring for your aged loved ones means you will have quality time with your aged loved ones. Not just doing the chores!

Finding what is right for you and your aged loved ones.

Engaging, connecting and inclusion.

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LIFESTYLE Living your best life, Your way!

Living your life. Your way!

In this section our columnists will share tips, traps and tricks on how to live life your way. Making the most of each and every day.

Not all of the products and services will be right for you however it will shine a light on how self-love, self-care and self-compassion isn't selfish! .

When we know better we do better!

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Mindfully Me Dee Brennan – is a Wellbeing and Mindfulness Coach, Mum, Runner and total Coffee snob.

Her number one priority in life is to take care of herself first. Having had cancer and been a carer for family members with cancer it’s health that matters most. Her non-negotiable meditation and mindfulness practice helps her handle life with more ease.

Photography - Tracey Lee Photography

OH Those Shitty Days!

Truth. We all have shitty days. It doesn’t matter if you are a lawyer, mum or monk, no one is immune to a shitty day.

Several years ago I went to a Buddhist retreat in the south of France. I took away some golden nuggets I’ll never forget. I sat down in a group with a monk and he started to tell us how he was struggling with something and that it was making him feel unwell. I stared at him in surprise as I had this idea in my head that if anyone lived in paradise and meditated daily, they would always be happy. I have no idea why I assume that??

After his honest share, I felt relieved as the pressure had been taken off my shoulders of having to be happy every day. It was clearly unattainable. Who knew it was normal to have a shitty day.

And yay, I’m normal!

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Oh Those Shitty Days!

On those shitty days, I now I give myself some grace and use mindfulness to lean in bravely to how I am feeling in the moment. This can look like sitting in silence for a few minutes or going for a quiet walk in nature.

Sometimes I’ll message a friend, just to have my feelings acknowledged can feel affirming.

Learning to sit with difficult emotions is really helpful for when the same emotions pop up again and again. We can learn to ‘be’ with them without totally flipping out or being overly reactive.

And on those big days, whether it be a work presentation or an important meeting we can learn to ‘be’ with it whilst doing what we need to do.

So the next time you have a shitty day, instead of grabbing another cup of coffee, see if you can sit with the emotions for a couple of minutes.

It’s not easy or a quick fix, but you’ll learn to move through the day with a little more ease.

Dee Brennan – is a Wellbeing and Mindfulness Coach, Mum, Runner and Coffee snob. Her number one priority in life is to take care of herself first. Having had cancer and been a carer for family members with cancer it’s health that matters most. Her non-negotiable meditation and mindfulness practice helps her handle life with more ease.

For more resources join Dee’s private group DIY Meditation & Mindfulness. Go to her facebook page thinkoutloud for details. .

FB – thinkoutloud Insta – thinkoutloudwellness www.thinkoutloud.com.au deanne@thinkoutloud.com.au

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Real World Real Health Catie is a nurse case manager who has helps families deal with the crazy healthcare system & aging parents for years. Even with that experience, my dad's cancer journey was a big fat b*tch. But it did help that I understood the healthcare.

Hello Champions!

You are starting winter and I am starting summer, but our body’s largest organ needs to be kept safe all year around - especially true for our aged care recipients!

The skin is the largest organ of the body - I’ve always thought that was interesting. We kind of take our skin for granted other than plastering our face with creams, don’t we?

As people age, the fat layer under the skin that helps protect us from bruises and sores deteriorates. (Of course we lose the one kind of fat we really want to keep!) Skin also becomes dryer and the cells actually get thinner. These factors result in older skin that is much more likely to “tear” - have you heard of “skin tears” among the aged? Our aged who use wheelchairs are extra vulnerable because of the pinching that can happen around an armrest or footrest.

Skin tears are just like they sound - they occur with friction when the skin gets stuck even on something as simple as a wheelchair seat - and since the skin is so dry and fragile it splits open.

These wounds are a risk for germs and infection to set in, so you want to keep skin tears covered with sterile dressings.

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Real World Real Health Skin Care Lotions can be helpful for skin, but the best skin care happens from our inside. Staying hydrated with non-caffeinated beverages is key. So is good nutrition! Our aged folks need plenty of vitamins - fruit and vegetables are the best sources but supplements can help as well. Fruit and vegetables have the added bonuses of containing fiber and water.

If lotions are used, look for petrolatum, glycerin, or shea butter on the ingredients list.

Fragrance free is also a good idea to avoid any allergic reactions. Finally, remember that SPF sun protection is essential all year!

Stay skin safe!

Catie Join me online Web: www.realworldrealhealth.com Email: catie@realworldrealhealth.com Instagram: @realworldrealhealth Facebook: realwrealh Caregiver Etsy Shop HealthProsForYou

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SELF COMPASSION Alyson Williams is a Transformation; Mindset Coach and Self-love Mentor, she empowers women to love themselves and live a life they love.

Alyson is a trained Transformational coach, Relationship coach, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Coach, Extended DISC Behaviour Analysis practitioner and Hypnotherapist and Bling Angel.

Handling Conflict & Having Difficult Conversations Conflict is typically a disagreement or argument of a relatively serious nature. It occurs most commonly in workplaces but also with families & friends, and even between countries.

Part of being human is having thoughts and feelings and it is differences in these which bring about conflict. Deeper than just thoughts and feelings are our Values, those ‘high ticket’ principles which form the basis of our beliefs and decisions.

People with different value systems are more likely to conflict with each other than those with similar value systems.

So, how do we handle conflict and the difficult conversations they create?

Firstly, it’s about knowing What it is that is at the core of the conflict. Sounds silly yet people often argue without having a clear understanding of what they’re arguing about or what the actual difference is between both sides.

The next thing is to be respectful of the other person’s right to their own beliefs and be open to hearing them out fairly, without judgement or blame. It’s also important not to make the disagreement personal so, in the worst case scenario, both parties can walk away without damaging the relationship for good; and, lastly, acting from the stance of your values is the bottom-line.

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Handling Conflict & Having Difficult Conversations When we act in alignment with our values, we are more likely to be at ease with the outcome whatever it might be, for our values are those strongholds of our belief system which underpins our peace of mind.

Here are some steps to handling conflict and difficult conversations: Separate the person from the problem – the conflict should be about ‘the issue’, not the person. Even if the issue is the person’s behaviour, it is the behaviour that is the “problem”. For example, with children, we no longer say ‘you’re a naughty boy/girl’, instead we say ‘that was a naughty thing to do’.

Using "I" instead of "You" statements – using “I” instead of “You” statements removes any accusation which can lead to defensiveness or even an escalation of the problem.

Asking open-ended questions – asking open-ended questions starting with ‘What’ or ‘How’ invites dialogue., better than a question that brings a ‘Yes/No’ answer. Be aware, however, ‘Why’ questions are similar to an accusation and invite justification from the other person; not conducive to open communication.

Using active listening – be fully attentive, not distracted, check-in that you understand what they said eg ‘Do you mean…’, maybe even summarise your understanding of what they said and check if that’s correct.

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Handling Conflict & Having Difficult Conversations Differentiating between negotiables and non-negotiables – each person should know their own negotiables and non-negotiables ie what they are willing to compromise on and what they’re not. This often comes down to each person’s values system.

Coming up with options for mutual benefit even if it is not a perfect solution, following from knowing the negotiables and non-negotiables, it is much easier to reach an agreement or compromise that suits both people.

Try these out next time you’re caught in a conflict.

Alyson Williams Alyson is an Empowerment and Self-directed Self-love Strategist, Relationship coach, Leadership coach, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) Master Coach, Extended DISC Behaviour Analysis practitioner, Hypnotherapist and Bling Angel.

To book a strategy session if you would like to explore how to have difficult conversations, manage relationships, identify your values and/or increase your self-love or self-care practices contact Alyson, details below.

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LIFE STYLE BY DR GINA KINGSTON Qualified Personal Stylist specialising in people with health issues. Gina’s mum had Multiple Systems Atrophy a Parkinson’s Plus disorder and Gina has scoliosis. They still want to look stylish.

The Things We Do For Love As I write this it’s 5am and I am just back from dropping my son off at work. He could walk or cycle, but he is on his feet for his job and I’m happy to get up and drop him off if it makes his life a little easier. The things we do for love.

Carers do a lot for love. They give a lot of their time, can forgo doing the things they enjoy, and lose relationships with friends. I know people who have been verbally abused, beaten and raped by those they care for, because the carer knows that this behaviour is related to their illness and medication. (If this sounds like you, it’s not okay and it’s time to get help.

Speak to their doctor about medication, and get support from family, friends, support workers and other medical professionals). The things we do for love.

Getting mum out of bed used to twinge my back - I have scoliosis. I knew that it I did things wrong I could seriously injure my back and end up in pain or unable to walk. Most of the time I would have some else do it. But when there was no-one else around, I would do it despite the danger. Mum’s quality of life was important. The things we do for love.

It wasn’t until afterwards that I realised just how dangerous getting mum dressed was.

My’s arm didn’t heal properly after a break and putting on regular jackets and tops could be painful for her.

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LIFE STYLE BY DR GINA KINGSTON The Things We Do For Love Mum’s limited mobility meant that I had to move her and balance her while getting her dressed. I would often push her feet to slide her closer to her chair, or try and balance her while at the same time trying to adjust her trousers or pants. Getting mum dressed was tiring, often painful, and dangerous. I was always conscious of the risk of fall and what it would mean for both of us -likely a temporary injury for me but there was always the risk of a permanent further decrease in Mum’s mobility. But mum always wanted to look good and appropriate. The things we do for love.

But is putting someone at risk every day really the right thing to do for someone we love?

It was thinking about this that got me looking at adaptive clothing and alternative options for dressing for people with limited mobility. Clothes that would enable Mum to feel stylist and be safe for her to wear and for everyone while getting her dressed. I was able to find some shoes and clothes for mum that would be easier to dress her in that she would still look and feel good in. The things we do for love.

Are you doing something for love that is dangerous, painful or time-consuming? Is time to take another look and find a safe, easy alternative?

If this is getting someone you loved dressed, then drop me a line. Let’s do the right things for love.

Book a free chat at www.calendly.com/ginakingstonstylist/chat Gina helps people with health issues spend less effort to look and feel good so they can spend more time enjoying life.

Gina offers colour analysis, wardrobe edits and shopping sessions for $250 to provide Safe, Easy Stylish dressing solutions for her customers. .

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HARMONY IN WORDS A Book Review

By Yvonne Heitz from Word Harmony Proofreading and Editing Enterprise

Life is What You Make it – Phillip Eling This is a truly heart felt story of Phillip Eling’s life and the difficulties he experienced growing up with a muscle-wasting disease. It is a beautiful and a sad story ~ but it is written with incredible honesty from the heart.

I am not sure what convinced me to buy this book, whether it was the title, which is very powerful especially coming from the author who has had to overcome many obstacles, more so than the average abled person. Or whether it was the cover picture of Eling that moved me to read this book. Either way it is an exceptional story and is only 85 pages long.

I love show-casing Adelaide authors and although Eling was born in Brisbane, his family moved to Adelaide when he was 9 months old. He writes honestly about his family life.

There are even photos, which I have previously said in my reviews that I love a book with photos ~ it just seems to bring the book to life and one can relate to the characters in the story once you see what they look like.

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Eling speaks honestly about his love for his mother and how she has empowered him to be the person he is today. He speaks about his life in Adelaide and mentions various places and suburbs that I know well, and I always find it fascinating when an author writes about a place that you, the reader knows well, it just seems to resonate more with the author or the story.

Eling also speaks highly of Coolangatta which is his happy place, and that resonates very close to me as my family lived at Coolangatta.

Eling also has a sense of humour which I am sure has seen him through tough times. I also love the fact that at the end of each chapter Eling has included inspirational quotes ~ some I have heard bore but for some reason when Eling uses these quotes, I found that I was looking and reading the quote with a different lens. A few examples for you to ponder: It's a common fact that people don’t know what they have, until it’s gone.

Those who live for today don’t think about tomorrow.

The only time you should look down on someone is when you’re giving them a hand up.

Take the time to read Eling’s story and I know you will be moved with admiration for such a fine young man.

Until next time!

Good reading

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World According To Rita I've been running the ACE support network since 2014.

I've been a support carer, long-distance carer, main carer and now I am helping my partner to care for his 95 year old mother.

Caring isn't always pretty or nice, however, there are always pretty and nice moments.

Guilt Free Caring Guilt free caring is achievable and within reach.

Every situation is different and there are different solutions for every situation.

Understanding that you are doing the best you can is important.

Take a deep breath, step back to give the person space and take some time. A heated response may make the situation worse. What are you reacting to – the situation or your feelings. Time for empathy and to find out what the real issue is.

Forgive yourself. It’s ok you are doing the best you can. Mistakes will be made, learn from them. Nothing is perfect and every situation will be a lesson.

Try not to show any fear, alarm or anxiety, as this may increase the person’s agitation. If you feel threatened, call for help. Try not to shout or initiate physical contact – this could be misinterpreted as threatening behaviour. If the person’s behaviour is physically violent, give them plenty of space and time. Unless it is absolutely necessary, avoid closing in or trying to restrain someone, as this can make things worse.

Don’t punish the person for their behaviour; try to carry on as normal and be as reassuring as possible. Yes they may have hurt you and their behaviour may be unacceptable however two wrongs do not make a right.

Finding ways to prevent and manage the behaviour will improve the quality of life for both of you. It will also make the caring role easier. Don’t make caring your whole life, find things that are fun for both of you. Enjoy the time you have together.

You never will do it all so well that everyone is happy. You have to remember that you, too, are part of the equation and have every right to have your opinions heard.

Talk to other caregivers. Sharing your experience will help. You are not alone and it helps to talk about things.

Find a support network to help you work through the issues. It helps to share the highs and the lows.

Work out what the issue is and work on strategies to change the situation. Sometimes it isn’t what you think.

Your feelings matter too. Never ever forget that you matter and it is really important to have your feelings acknowledge and heard. They may not understand your feelings however it is good to have them heard.

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