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the local resource for women after forty after40.com March + April 2013

Spring’s pretty palette is fresh and wearable. We’ll show you how.

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CALENDAR MARCH+APRIL

OUT AND ABOUT

Fun springtime activities and events abound in Central Indiana Spring Has Sprung exhibit Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays, March 1 through April 26 Presented by the Hamilton County Artists’ Association, this free art show kicks off the spring season at the Hamilton County Art Center & Birdie Gallery. 195 S. 5th St., Noblesville, 773-5197, hcaa-in.org

First Friday Open House Friday, March 1 and Friday, April 5 Tour the Nickel Plate Arts campus, learn about classes, visit galleries and meet the artists during fun themed monthly events. 107 S. 8th St., Noblesville, 452-3690, nickelplatearts.org

Springtime in Indiana: Art, Craft & Gift Showcase

The Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra presents: The Music of ABBA starring Rajaton Sunday, March 17, 7:30 p.m. The six-member a capella group Rajaton teams up with the ISO for a fun-filled evening of charttopping hits from the 1970s super-group. 355 City Center Dr., Carmel, 843-3800, thecenterfortheperformingarts.org

Saturday, March 16 and Sunday, March 17 This two-day event features handcrafted works by exhibitors from several states. Adult admission is $3.

Little Shop of Horrors

Hamilton County 4-H Fairgrounds, 2003 E. Pleasant, Noblesville, (419) 436-1457, cloudshows.biz

The Belfry Theatre, 10690 Greenfield Ave., Noblesville, 773-1085, thebelfrytheatre.com

Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays, April 5 to 21 This fan-favorite musical tells the story of a carnivorous exotic plant. Adult admission is $17.

Around the World in the Indiana Uplands April 13 and 14, April 20 and 21 Visit Bloomington’s Oliver Winery and eight other Indiana Upland Wine Trail wineries for VIP treatment with wine tasting, tours and guided wine and food pairings. Early bird tickets are $35. indianauplands.com

Carmel Marathon Saturday, April 20 The third annual Carmel Marathon steps off with a variety of run/walk options for all skill levels. Carmel, 407-8489, carmelmarathon.com

Shakespeare and Spaghetti Saturday, April 27 and Sunday, April 28 This downtown Indy “staycation” includes tickets to “A Midsummer Night’s Dream” at the Indiana Repertory Theatre, dinner at Osteria Pronto, accommodations at SpringHill Suites, breakfast and valet parking. $169 per person/double; $260 per person/ single. Registration deadline is March 20. AAA Travel Group Getaways, 923-1500 ext.205, aaa.com/GroupGetaways

Indiana Wine Fair Saturday, April 27, 12:30 p.m. to 7 p.m. Indiana vintners gather at Story, Indiana to dole out pours of their finest Rieslings, Malbecs and Cabernets. Admission is $20 at the gate ($10 for designated drivers), and includes a Story Inn 10th anniversary keepsake wine glass. 21 and up only. indianawinefair.com

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MACY’S HEARD YOU! Feel like you’re always shopping but never for yourself? And when you do have time to explore the stores you can’t seem to find a single thing that fits both your lifestyle and your body? Maybe you’re just not sure what clothes look good on you and how to put them all together to create a wardrobe that wows. Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

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Special spring occasions demand a special outfit. Our experts can help you put together a look that fresh and festive for springtime weddings, parties and events. Let’s make figuring out what to wear fun again, together! 3 Look for our workshops coming up: June – All About Make Up & August – Wearing the right Jeans


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These easy and delicious mini quiches can be served right away or made ahead and reheated.

Perfect Individual Quiches Prep: 15 minutes | Cook: 20 minutes

Ingredients:

> 1 Box Food Club Pie Crusts > 1 cup chopped cooked shrimp, ham or bacon > 1/4 cup chopped onion > 4-oz. to 6-oz. shredded Swiss cheese > 1/2 cup mayonnaise > 2 eggs > 1/4 tsp. salt > 1/3 cup milk Directions: On floured surface unroll half of the pastry. Cut 6 circles approximately 4 inches in diameter. Repeat with other half of pastry. Fit the circles into 12 muffin tins. Fill each with some of the chopped cooked shrimp, ham or bacon, onion and cheese. Beat together remaining ingredients and pour slowly over cheese. Bake in 400째 oven for 15 to 20 minutes. Serves 12.

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CONTRIBUTORS

CHRIS WHONSETLER Photographer

ASHLEY FUSON

DEIDRA HENRY

Hair and makeup artist

Executive Chef

Ashley Fuson is a hairstylist and makeup artist at Silk Salon in Fishers, Indiana. She specializes in special occasion styles as well as airbrush makeup application, and has been a makeup artist for ten years. Ashley also enjoys doing dimensional color and men’s and women’s haircuts. She loves going on location to do hair and makeup for brides and bridal parties, and for print and creative photo shoots. Her passion in the beauty industry has always been to build a relationship with her clients and help them to look and feel their absolute best.

Indy native Deidra Henry is the coowner and executive chef of Taste Café & Marketplace, a South Broad Ripple mainstay. With Taste’s mix of updated comfort food and creative dishes, Henry always seems to know just what diners are craving. Before opening Taste in 2004, Henry worked in kitchens in Los Angeles and New York, one of which was the famed Gramercy Tavern in New York City, where she met her husband and Taste co-owner Marc Urwand. The couple’s next venture is Eat+Drink, a lounge opening in March next to Taste. tastecafeandmarketplace.com

KELLY AND CAT MITCHELL Photography Kelly and Cat Mitchell are the supersister duo behind The Ecology Box, a design firm specializing in photography and graphic design. The Mitchell family has a tradition of using old letterpress printer type cases to display personal keepsakes, mementos and treasures. These “ecology boxes” become a cherished way to share the things you love with the people you love.   You can follow The Ecology Box on Twitter @TheEcologyBox, or find Kelly and Cat on Facebook at facebook.com/TheEcologyBox. Visit the company’s web site at theecologybox.com.

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Christopher Whonsetler is an Indianapolis-based freelance photographer. He loves documenting weddings and seeking out the smallest details that make these days so special and distinctive. Chris knows that the personalities of each bride and groom go way beyond portraits; they are ingrained in every aspect of the day. From the floral centerpieces on the tabletops to the guests in attendance, Chris enjoys watching the events of the day unfold and documenting them in a way that makes viewers feel as if they were there. Whether it’s a family member who wasn’t able to attend the ceremony, or a bride and groom revisiting their images years down the road, photos and video capture and preserve precious memories like nothing else can. As a commercial photographer, Chris’ goals are to connect with businesses to help visually brand who they are, what they do, and where they do it. He enjoys working with small business owners who aren’t afraid to think outside the box to create images that really get their message across and infuse their marketing materials with unique personality.


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after4O the local source for women after forty

PUBLISHER + EDITOR Kelly McVey

ART DIRECTOR Kathy Davis

FASHION EDITOR Erica Sagon

ADVERTISING CREATIVE Julie Taylor-Reed Michelle Thompson

SOCIAL MEDIA CREATIVE Ashlie Hartgraves

WRITERS Tracy Line Kathy McHugh Judy Burnett Amy Lynch Adam Perry Erica Sagon

PHOTOGRAPHY Kelly Lynn Mitchell Charles Park Chris Whonsetler

ADVERTISING SALES Mary Lynch Sommer

MARKETING + SALES CONSULTANT Gary Nickander .........

ADVERTISE WITH AFTER40 kelly@after40.com For customer service and subscription inquiries, please visit after40.com.

after40 Inc. 18 B Harbourtown Center Noblesville, IN 46062

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PUBLISHER’S NOTE

WHAT’S IN A NAME? Did you ever go to school with someone and wonder why the heck their parents named them what they did? I’m experiencing some of those same feelings where After40 is concerned. After40 has been in business for four years now. When we selected the name for the magazine, it seemed perfect. Not “over 40,” but “after 40.” What happens next. A stage of life to look forward to. To enjoy. To make the most of. Some people still think the magazine is called “Over 40,” and I must admit, I hate it when I hear that. I guess they don’t see a big difference between “over” and “after.” And, after thinking about it some more, I find myself wondering how much it really matters. I regularly meet with women in their 20s and 30s who love the magazine. Several older women have suggested we launch a new publication called “After60.” It recently dawned on me that I’ve unwittingly created a division among women by putting a number reference in the magazine’s title. In reality, most of the stories and information within our pages are relevant to women of all ages. At the end of the day, our goal is to reach real women and help them feel good about themselves, no matter what their age. We want to bond with you about your wardrobe, your health and wellness, your family, your finances and your travel plans. This magazine is not about reaching a certain age, it’s about helping women manage all the aspects of their busy lives. So while our target demographic hasn’t changed, and neither will the content of our magazine, we have decided to pick a new name that better reflects our mission and who we are. PHOTOGRAPH BY HETHER MILES

We’ll reveal our new name in the next issue. Curious? Here’s a hint: it might just have something to with putting it — and keeping it — all together… Happy spring!

KELLY MCVEY

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CONTENTS

March + April 2013

DEPARTMENTS Out and About, 2 Fun springtime activities Fashion Mini, 14 Loafer Love

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Fashion Mini, 16 Pretty and polished Health, 32 Facing the change Fashion Mini, 36 Seeing green

ON THE COVER: Alfani “Shayla” peep-toe heels, $79, and Charter Club necklace, $34, both at Macy’s; Merona faux-leather clutch, $14.99 at Target; Givenchy Dahlia Noir eau de toilette, givenchy.com. Photograph by Chris Whonsetler

FEATURES

Home, 41 Movin’ on Out

Spring Brunch, 20 Laid-back brunch at home

Family, 44 All hands on deck

Layers, 24 Outsmart spring temperatures

A Day In…, 46 Carmel’s City Center

Spring Colors, 48 Neutrals, Polished Pastels

The Man, 63 I joined an internet dating site

Girls Getaway, 56 Amazing Architecture

Passing on Hope, 64 Living your truth

PHOTOS COURTESY INDIANAPOLIS MUSEUM OF ART

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FASHION LOAFERS

3. 1. The driving loafer is an icon, for sure, but the trend shouldn’t be taken too literally. Look for a pair with polished, modern flair, like these, with a glam gold finish and a preppy bow. Clarks “Dunbar Racer” loafers, $80 at piperlime.com

2. Get ready for the compliments to pour in — with an elegant pointy toe and sporty perforated leather, these cobalt beauties are all about eye-catching contrast. Matt Bernson “Gauloise Perf” loafers, $189 at piperlime.com 3. Every gal needs a pair of fun shoes that go with nothing and everything at the same time — and these are it. The reliable penny loafer gets a weekendworthy makeover in bright colors. “Marlin” patent loafers, $59.99 at Nine West Outlet Store

LOAFER LOVE

BY ERICA SAGON

When it comes to comfy flats, we’ve got a new crush this season — loafers. Designers have taken something perfectly practical and re-imagined them as fantastically chic in bright colors and updated shapes. Best of all, you can wear them to the office with a blouse and blazer, and on the weekends with a striped T or button-down. 14 after4O.com march+april 2013


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FASHION NAIL POLISH

PRETTY AND POLISHED

Whether you’re prepping for spring break or just wanting a fun new hue for that first day when it’s warm enough to wear sandals— finally!—dip into these sweet sorbet polishes. BY ERICA SAGON + PHOTOGRAPH BY CHRIS WHONSETLER

1. Slick this on toes and slip into gold sandals for instant glam. Sally Hansen Complete Salon Manicure “Peach of Cake,” $7, sallyhansen.com for retail locations 2. Pale, milky, cool — and perfect for the beach. Zoya “Blu,” $7, zoya.com for retail locations 3. This flamingo pink makes for a pretty pedi. Deborah Lippmann “Groove is in the Heart,” $17, lippmanncollection.com for retail locations

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4. Go for a third coat to get a true jade shade, just like the name says. Sally Hansen Complete Salon Manicure “Jaded,” $7, sallyhansen.com for retail locations 5. A demure lilac that is definitely grown-up. OPI “You’re Such a BudaPest,” $9, opi.com for retail locations 3. 4.

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This year, kick spring off right. And kick spider veins and varicose veins to the curb with help from VeinSolutions. Now is the perfect time to make sure you step into this spring with comfort and confidence. It all starts with a free screening at VeinSolutions. VeinSolutions offers minimally invasive, effective treatments for spider and varicose veins with very little discomfort. Best of all, treatment is administered by board certified vascular surgeons—something you just won’t find at most other vein clinics. So don’t wait until spring. Do the right thing for your legs—and your confidence—by calling 800-477-0233 to schedule a free screening at VeinSolutions. Visit stvincent.org/veinsolutions for more information.

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DRESSING (WITHOUT STRESSING) FOR SPRING Ever wish that getting dressed up for events was a bit more black and white? It can be— literally—with pieces in blackand-white graphic prints. Zig-zags and stripes are crisp, versatile and easy to accessorize with bright accents—the perfect solution for those hard-to-dressfor spring days and nights. Add neutral heels featuring subtle details like a cap toe or Mary Jane strap. Macy’s and After40 are teaming up to make dressing up for spring events a cinch. We’ll point you in the right direction starting here, with two stylish outfits that we shopped for at Macy’s. Then, join Macy’s instore workshop on April 16, where you’ll learn how to make the latest trends work for you. Whether you’re eyeing a new dress or a whole new outfit, Macy’s and After40 are here to help.

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9. Anne Klein gold tone stretch bracelet, $32 10. Charter Club stretch bracelets (two shown), $18 each

Macy’s Workshops. See separate full page ad in this issue about our in-store small group fashion workshops!

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a spring brunch Eggs en Cocotte recipe on page 23.


BY ERICA SAGON PHOTOGRAPHS BY KELLY LYNN MITCHELL There’s no better way to celebrate that first beautiful spring weekend than with a laid-back brunch at home — invite a few friends over, push open a window or two and enjoy simple-yet-delicious fare. For a menu that feels elegant and effortless at the same time, we turned to Deidra Henry, co-owner and executive chef of Taste Café and Marketplace, the beloved Broad Ripple restaurant that turns out creative quiches, omelets and more every day. She imagined a weekend morning with Bloody Marys and delicate baked eggs in individual bowls — an impressive presentation that couldn’t be easier. For grazing, prepare deviled eggs and a cheese plate with roasted grapes (“The flavor will blow your mind,” Henry assures). With make-ahead dishes like these, you’re less of a short-order cook and more of a relaxed hostess. “If you’re going to enjoy brunch at your own house, you don’t want to stand over the stove the whole time,” Henry says. “The goal is to make it easy for whoever is cooking.”

Dirty Bloody Mary recipe on page 23.

Taste Café and Marketplace 5164 N. College Ave. Indianapolis 317-925-2233 tastecafeandmarketplace.com

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Salmon Roe Deviled Eggs recipe on page 23.

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RECIPES BY DEIDRA HENRY

EGGS EN COCOTTE THESE FRENCH-STYLE BAKED EGGS ARE cooked in individual portions in a water bath, which makes them supremely silky. The recipe easily scales up to feed a larger group. Use whatever oven-safe dishes you have on hand, like ramekins or your everyday bowls. To save time, use store-bought marinara sauce and pesto in the preparation. Serves 2 INGREDIENTS 4 eggs 2 cups marinara sauce 2 tablespoons feta cheese 2 tablespoons basil pesto (recipe follows) Salt and pepper, to taste Prepare a water bath by filling a cake pan with an inch of water. Preheat in a 350° oven. To assemble the individual servings, place 1 cup of marinara into each of 2 oven-safe dishes. Break 2 eggs into each dish. Sprinkle with salt and pepper. Place dishes in the water bath in the oven and cook at 350° for 15 to 20 minutes, depending on how runny or firm you prefer the yolks.  Before serving, top each dish with a tablespoon of pesto and feta cheese. FOR THE BASIL PESTO: INGREDIENTS 1 cup basil 3 tablespoons Parmesan 2 tablespoons walnuts 1 clove garlic 1 /4 cup olive oil Pinch salt Pinch pepper Process all ingredients in a food processor until almost smooth. 

ROASTED GRAPES WITH ARUGULA AND AGED CHEESE YOU’VE PROBABLY ADORNED A CHEESE plate with grapes, but have you ever tried roasting them first? “The flavor completely changes and the texture completely changes,” Henry says. “When you’re drinking a glass of wine and you get that deep fruit flavor, that’s what it reminds me of.”

SALMON ROE DEVILED EGGS A DAB OF SALMON ROE, AN ALTERNATIVE to caviar, adds a fancy spin to deviled eggs. Yields 20 deviled egg halves INGREDIENTS 10 hard-boiled eggs, peeled 1 /3 cup mayo 1 /3 cup sour cream 1 teaspoon salt 1 /2 teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon chopped dill 1 /2 teaspoon chopped capers 1 ounce salmon roe Cut hard-boiled eggs in half; remove yolks and place in a bowl. Set whites aside. Work yolks with a fork until they are broken into very small pieces. Add remaining ingredients, except salmon roe, and combine well.  Spoon mixture into reserved egg whites, then top each with a bit of salmon roe.

DIRTY BLOODY MARY OLIVE JUICE GIVES THIS HOMEMADE MIX A vinegary kick, which Henry loves. Don’t skimp on the garnish at home — it’s what makes the Bloody Mary feel special. Serves 4 INGREDIENTS 4 cups tomato juice 9 ounces vodka 1 /3 cup lemon juice 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 tablespoon olive juice 1 tablespoon prepared horseradish 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 teaspoon hot sauce 1 teaspoon black pepper Celery, olives and baby tomatoes for garnish Combine all ingredients together in a large pitcher and serve over ice in chilled glasses. Garnish with celery stalks, olives and baby tomatoes.

Roasted Grapes with Arugula and Aged Cheese, recipe at left.

Pair the grapes with an aged cheese, like Boone County Bloomy from Traders Point Creamery in Zionsville (tpforganics.com). Drizzle one bunch of grapes with extra virgin olive oil and season with a sprinkle of salt and pepper. Roast in a 350° oven for 25 minutes.  Assemble roasted grapes on a platter with a handful of arugula and aged cheese. Drizzle with extra virgin olive oil and balsamic vinegar.  Serve with a French baguette or crackers. 23


New LAYER OUTSMART SPRING’S TRICKY TEMPERATURES WITH CARDIGANS, JACKETS AND SCARVES THAT ARE AS STYLISH AS THE OUTFITS UNDERNEATH. PHOTOGRAPHY BY CHRIS WHONSETLER TEXT AND STYLING BY ERICA SAGON HAIR AND MAKEUP BY ASHLEY FUSON MODEL BRENDA COLETTO, FORD MODELS-CHICAGO

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1. Dark denim trench coat, $175 at Banana Republic; 2. stripe-and-floral cardigan, $54.50 at Loft; 3. “Selena” sleeveless dress, $198 at bodenusa.com; 4. Nine West “Kendra” heels, $59.99, at Nine West Outlet Store; 5. Anne Klein “Preppy Classics” crossbody purse, $59 at Macy’s. 25


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1. Esprit hooded toggle coat, $140 at Macy’s; 2. short-sleeve lace T-shirt, $29.99, 3. printed pencil skirt, $89.99, and 4. captoe ballet flats, $59.99, all at Ann Taylor Outlet Store; 5. striped scarf, $19.99, and long necklace, $49.99, both at Coldwater Creek Outlet Store.


DON’T LET LIP LINES SHOW YOUR AGE Laser resurfacing will erase the telltale signs of aging

Dr. Jan Turkle Turkle & Associates To arrange a consultation with Dr. Turkle, call 317-848-0001.

Dr. Turkle offers an ongoing series of free webinars on various surgical and non-surgical enhancement topics. To view a webinar go to www.turklemd.com.

Those annoying vertical lines between the lips and nose are often a dead giveaway of your age. Sometimes called lipstick lines or smoker’s lines, they are caused by repetitive movements such as smoking or puckering your lips and sun exposure. They can make it difficult to apply lipstick and may cause your lipstick to migrate up into the deep lines. No surgery will remove these lines. They can be improved with the use of a dermal filler, such as Juvederm. The substance injected fills the deep wrinkles and plumps the area to smooth out the lines. It is not a permanent solution. The injections will need to be repeated after several months. Permanent removal of lip lines requires laser resurfacing treatment. The laser uses concentrated pulsed beams of light to remove the outer layers of skin and stimulate skin growth while also treating the deeper levels of the skin, or dermis, which activates collagen and elastin production. The skin will be very red and sensitive and may be slightly swollen immediately following treatment.

of your skin will re-grow and can be covered with makeup. Growth of new collagen and elastin will continue over the next 4-6 months, during which time the skin may show increased tightening and resilience. Sun exposure must be avoided until fully healed. Once healed, the result is smoother skin and more youthful looking appearance as exhibited in this patient’s before and after photo. Some patients combine deep laser resurfacing around the mouth with laser treatments to the entire face and neck. In addition to erasing lip lines, laser resurfacing is an excellent treatment for acne scarring. A physician consultation is necessary to determine if lip line treatment or other laser resurfacing treatment is suitable for you.

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There is about a week to 10 days of social down time required for laser resurfacing. At that point the top layer

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Julie Schnieders, WHNP, discusses some of the most common questions about menopause:

Julie Schneiders Nurse Practitioner St. Vincent’s Women’s Hospital 8111 Township Line Rd. Indianapolis, IN 46260 St. Vincent Medical Center Northeast 13914 Southeastern Parkway Fishers, IN 46037 317-338-4HER To schedule a free thyroid consult, Call Julie at 317338-4HER or visit 3348her.com

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What is menopause?

The actual definition of menopause is the last menstrual period. When a woman goes 12 consecutive months without a period, then she becomes post-menopausal. Any bleeding after this time needs to be evaluated. Menopause can happen naturally, or when the ovaries are surgically removed.

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What happens during menopause?

Ovary function starts to decrease. You will have lower levels of estrogen and other hormones; this starts to happen about four to eight years prior to your last period and is called peri-menopause. The average age that women have their last period is 51. Women can start experiencing symptoms of peri-menopause in their 40s.

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What are the most common symptoms of menopause?

“Hot flashes, trouble sleeping, and changes in mood. Women also may skip periods during this time. Blood tests can help your healthcare provider figure out what is going on.

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What are hot flashes?

Hot flashes can be mild, or they can be severe. Lower estrogen levels cause them, and they can happen day or night. Usually, hot flashes are sort of a flushing feeling from within that lasts for one to five minutes followed by a cold chill. Treatment can include over-the-counter remedies, diet changes and hormone therapy.

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How can I find out if I’m a good candidate for hormone therapy?

Your healthcare provider will need to take your complete health history to determine whether you are a candidate for hormone replacement therapy. Any woman who has had breast cancer or other female-related cancers is not a candidate for hormone therapy; a family history of female cancers can be a reason to avoid hormones.

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Are there other health concerns that can pop up during menopause?

Heart health is extremely important during this time, as cholesterol numbers sometimes go up. Do you know your numbers? Osteoporosis is a common concern during menopause; when a woman has no more estrogen, she can lose bone mass and be at risk for fracture. We want to make sure women get enough calcium, and possibly supplement their diet with calcium and vitamin D. 31


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Facing the change

ALTERNATIVE THERAPIES MAY HELP TO EASE THE SYMPTOMS OF MENOPAUSE BY AMY LYNCH

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he hot flashes, the night sweats, the mood swings – for women over 40, these indications usually mean one thing. The change of life is coming. During menopause, ovarian function declines and periods will eventually cease due to decreasing hormone levels. According to Womenshealth.gov, the average age at which women reach menopause is 51, although it can happen years earlier or later. Some women sail through menopause with

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no problems at all. For others, going through the process is not so easy. In fact, at times, it can be downright miserable. “While estimates vary, many studies suggest that as many as 70 percent of women experience bothersome symptoms around the time of menopause,” says Dr. Stephen Elliott of Fishers-based Living with Intention. “The most common symptoms include hot and/or cold flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, irritability, insomnia and loss of libido. Some of these

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symptoms may start months to years prior to menopause and, in rare cases, can last as long as ten years.” “Usually, women consult their doctors because they are having bothersome hot flashes, not sleeping or feeling moody,” says Julie Schnieders, MSN, NP with St. Vincent Hospital. “They also may be having issues with their periods – maybe they’ve skipped a few or are bleeding twice a month, but hot flashes and not sleeping are the most common symptoms.” Menopause symptoms can be bothersome, but fortunately, there are plenty of ways to ease the related aches and pains, both through conventional medicine and with complementary/ alternative therapies. Doctor-prescribed hormone replacement therapy may help to relieve the effects of decreased hormone levels through the administration of synthetic hormones. It’s important to note, though, that HRT is not appropriate for everyone and may actually increase the risk of certain cancers, heart disease and stroke in some patients. “The standard protocol for treatment of menopause should be individualized,” Schnieders points out. “The new standard is the lowest dose of hormones for the shortest amount of time. If a woman still has her uterus, she will have to take both an estrogen and a progestin; you cannot take estrogen by itself when you still have a uterus, or you run the risk of a uterine cancer. If you’ve had a hysterectomy, then you can just take estrogen.” A detailed discussion with your doctor is the best approach to weigh the benefits versus risks and find out if hormone replacement therapy is a good option for you. Complementary approaches to treating the symptoms of menopause can be safe, inexpensive and easy to pursue, either in addition to medical treatments or on their own. Alternative therapies can include dietary changes, herbal supplements and acupuncture – even increasing daily activity levels can have beneficial effects for menopause sufferers. “Staying active works wonders,” Dr. Elliott says. “Many studies clearly demonstrate an inverse relationship between a woman’s physical activity level and the severity, frequency and duration of menopausal symptoms.” Eating right is a smart way to make sure your body is getting the nutritional support it needs to cope with the physical changes it’s going through. Make sure to include plenty of fruits and vegetables in your daily meal plan; increase your fiber intake; and limit processed foods, sugar, caffeine and alcohol. Also, osteoporosis is a common problem that occurs as women age, and bone loss often accelerates after menopause. Therefore, it’s important to make sure you’re getting enough calcium to maintain good bone health.

“BE HONEST WITH YOUR HEALTHCARE PROVIDER ABOUT ALL OF THE ALTERNATIVES THAT YOU MIGHT BE TRYING, OR ARE CONSIDERING TRYING.” — JULIE SCHNIEDERS, MSN, NP

In addition, certain herbal supplements and plant-based botanicals may be worth exploring to treat menopause symptoms, especially soy, vitamin E, black cohosh and dong quai (a botanical often used in traditional Chinese medicine). “One very specific rhubarb root extract provides tremendous relief for many symptoms,” Dr. Elliott adds. Again, make sure to consult with your doctor for advice before taking any supplement. “The problem with some of these herbal supplements is that there isn’t any regulation on the exact dose, or info on what will mix with other meds you might be on,” Schnieders says. “Many of these preparations have estrogen as a base, so adding them to traditional therapy would not be recommended. For example, breast cancer patients should not use some of the alternative medications.” For some menopausal women, though, complementary therapies may be all that’s needed to relieve their worst symptoms. “As a rule, alternative functional remedies are at least as effective as conventional remedies,” Dr. Elliott says. “While conventional and alternative therapies may be used together, often that’s simply not necessary. For most women, the natural functional approach works best.” If you’re struggling with the physical effects of menopause, schedule an appointment with your doctor to get more information, and don’t be afraid to ask plenty of questions. “Be honest with your healthcare provider about all of the alternatives that you might be trying, or are considering trying,” Schnieders advises. “If you have a healthcare provider who is absolutely opposed to any alternatives, I would suggest getting a second opinion. There are practitioners out there who use some of the alternatives, and will be happy to have a conversation about them with you.” “Take control,” urges Dr. Elliott. “After all, it’s your body. It’s your health.” m

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Fellowship-trained and boardcertified in Functional Medicine, Dr. Stephen Elliott embraces cutting-edge medicine in the quest for optimal health.

Stephen P. Elliott, M.D. Living with Intention, LLC 8495 Fishers Centre Drive Fishers, IN 46038 317-863-5888 livingwithintention.biz

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First of all, exactly what is menopause?

Menopause is defined as the end of menstruation. Once you’ve had no menstrual bleeding for a full year, you are officially “post-menopausal.”

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What about peri-menopause? What’s that?

Peri-menopause refers to the many months or even years before menopause in which key hormone levels drop. It’s those drops that trigger the many symptoms of “the change” – hot flashes, mood swings, low sex drive, weight gain, “brain fog,” insomnia, irritability, and fatigue.

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Besides the symptoms, what else happens during this time?

Lots of things. Hormone declines lead to increased risk of heart disease, bone loss, hypertension, higher cholesterol, memory loss and cognitive slippage.

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How do I know if I’m nearing menopause, if I’m in this “peri-menopause?”

Well, symptoms are a big clue, but they don’t quantify where you actually stand. To do that you need to test. And not all tests are equally helpful. The best, most comprehensive test involves a 24-hour urine collection. Blood draws and saliva samples simply aren’t adequate.

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Is there something I can do to avoid all this? What can I do to protect myself?

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Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is a great option for most women. While this has become somewhat controversial, the preponderance of evidence suggests that when it’s done right, HRT is a very effective, healthy, and safe way to reduce both the symptoms of menopause and the health decline that comes with it.

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What do you mean, “When it’s done right?”

Not all HRT is safe. Major studies show that HRT can actually increase the risk of heart disease and breast cancer. It’s crucial to note that every one of those studies was done using synthetic hormones, not the naturallyoccurring or “BIOIDENTICAL” hormone molecules a woman’s body was designed to make on its own.

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So how do I get the “good stuff,” these “bioidenticals?”

That’s where functional medicine comes in. Working with a properly trained Functional Medicine physician who fully understands the risks and benefits of Bioidentical HRT (BHRT) is very important.

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Why functional medicine?

One of the fundamental principles of functional medicine is uniqueness, recognizing and embracing the notion that everyone – on a biochemical and physiological level – is unique. It’s important to work with someone who can tailor a safe and effective protocol that’s just right for you. 35


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I’M IN GOOD SHAPE, BUT I HAVE VARICOSE VEINS! Vein disease can impact the active or athletic adult but treatment is available Varicose veins are not just a disease of older women. In fact, many people can develop varicose veins including men, athletes, pregnant women and those who are generally in good health. Active people are sometimes surprised to see bulging veins in their legs or to feel discomfort. Jeffery P. Schoonover, M.D., FAAFP, RVT, RPVI Indiana Vein Specialists

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As you may know, when we walk, our leg muscles pump blood back to the heart through one-way valves. In varicose vein disease, those valves do not work properly and allow some of the blood to flow backwards and pool in our legs, resulting in bulging veins and symptoms such as pain, swelling, tiredness or redness. Athletes sometimes experience aching or throbbing legs after a period of training or activity. If an individual has bulging veins or is suffering from discomfort, treatment may be required to relieve symptoms. One of our patients, Diane Ebbert, was kind enough to share her story. She came in for a consultation because she was unhappy with the appearance of her right leg and was experiencing significant discomfort and swelling in both legs. Diagnostic ultrasound vein mapping was performed and we were able to determine the abnormal areas of blood flow in both of her legs. With that information, we recommended Endovenous Laser Treatment (EVLT) and a course of sclerotherapy. EVLT is a minimally invasive treatment for varicose veins. Using EVLT, guided by

ultrasound, we insert a small laser fiber through the skin into the varicose vein. Laser energy is delivered inside the vein, which causes the vein to collapse and seal shut. Once that vein is closed, the blood reroutes to other healthy veins. This procedure is done in our office, under local anesthetic. It usually takes 30-45 minutes. Following the procedure, our patients wear a compression stocking on the treated leg. Most patients return to work within a day or two. In fact, many of our patients return to work the same day. “I was shocked at how much better my leg looked after the first treatment,” said Diane. “I actually sat in your office and cried because I was so happy.” (With her permission, Diane’s before and after photo accompanies this article.) EVLT has the additional benefit of offering the least disturbance to exercise or training regimens. Active and athletic people can get back to training in just a few days. “It could not have been easier,” said Diane. “I’ve had paper cuts worse than this!” For Diane, one of the greatest benefits has been the improved appearance of her legs. “I wore shorts in public for the first time in years this past summer,” she said. If you are active or athletic but experiencing symptoms of varicose veins, a consultation is important. Treatment is easy and will dramatically improve your quality of life.

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WOMEN AND COLORECTAL DISEASE

Tobi Reidy, D.O., addresses the causes of and treatment options available for common colorectal diseases that impact women.

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Isn’t colorectal cancer typically a man’s disease?

Colon cancer is the third most common cancer in both men and women. The risk of developing colorectal cancer is almost the same for both men and women, and it affects people of all races. The No. 1 risk factor for colorectal cancer is age. Beginning at age 50 all women should have a screening colonoscopy, or sooner if there is a family history of colorectal cancer.

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What causes hemorrhoids and will they be a recurring problem?

Hemorrhoids help with bowel control and we are all born with them. With age, or temporary events such as pregnancy, childbirth, chronic diarrhea, constipation or heavy exercise, they enlarge and do not function properly. It does not occur in everyone, but when it happens, bleeding, pain, leakage and even odor are common. Many at-home treatments are helpful in the early phase; however, once hemorrhoids reach a certain size, prescription medicine, physician office procedures or surgical treatment may be necessary.

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What are the causes of anal fissures in men and women?

is equally common in men and women. Anal fissures are caused by injury to the anal canal. Injury can happen during childbirth, with repeated diarrhea, passing of a large stool or anal intercourse. Most anal fissures heal with home treatment after a few weeks. But if they do not, topical medicines may be needed. In some cases, surgery or a newer treatment using Botox injection may be necessary.

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Why do I have trouble controlling bowel movements?

Bowel incontinence is the inability to control bowel movements and is a common problem. Bowel incontinence is usually not a serious medical problem, but it can seriously affect overall quality of life. Vaginal childbirth is a common cause, with damage occurring to the muscles around the anus, which is why women are affected by bowel incontinence about twice as often as men. Other causes include nerve injury, aging and post-menopausal hormonal changes, and inflammatory bowel disease. Embarrassment often keeps many patients from reporting symptoms to a doctor. But bowel incontinence, along with urinary incontinence and constipation, is often treatable, and many options are now available.

An anal fissure is a tear in the lining of the lower rectum or anus that causes pain during bowel movements. It is a common condition that affects people of all ages and 39


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MOVIN’ ON OUT

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OUTDOOR RUGS. A weatherproof rug, like this one from Linden Tree, completes the look of your outdoor “room.” In addition, accessories such as lamps and artwork can add warmth, making your space more inviting and usable.

OUTDOOR FURNITURE. Sleek furniture sets blend into your surroundings without taking away from the natural beauty of your space. This Tuscan table set, available at Houseworks, is both striking and functional, suiting every occasion.

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Fishers at a glance: • Population: 79,127 • School systems: Top ranked Hamilton Southeastern High School and Fishers High School • Fishers was ranked among CNN Money’s top 10 best places to live in 2010. • Average days on market for homes is 82.3 for January 2013, down from 95.1 in January 2012. Good news for sellers — homes are moving quicker in the Fishers area! If you’re thinking about selling your home, now is a great time to get it on the market. • Median selling price is $272, 090 for January 2013, down slightly from $278,848 in January last year.

Fishers highlights and attractions: • Conner Prairie living history museum • Holland Park in Sunblest Farms • Billericay Park • Ironwood Golf Course • River Glen Country Club & Golf Course • Hawthorns Golf and Country Club • Geist Reservoir

New to Fishers Downtown Fishers will undergo renovations and expand to give families more entertainment options and bring a greater sense of community to the sprawling city.

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Hearthstone – I often come by for a morning coffee, or a nice glass of wine and appetizer after a long day at work. The cozy fireplace creates a warm, inviting atmosphere.

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Nickel Plate – a casual, fun stop for lunch or dinner, and one of the best traditional tenderloins in the state.

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Original Pancake House – one of my favorite local destinations for a weekend breakfast out. Get there early on Saturdays!

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Delaney’s – a great place to find perfect gifts for babies, girlfriends and the women in your life who have everything.

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Gallery 116 – this is my go-to store whenever I need a thank-you gift for a business client. Shopping here is also a good way to support local artists.

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MOVIN’ ON OUT

An outdoor “room” extends your living space and offers a sweet spot of respite so you can de-stress daily. Add a custom kitchen, blooming plants and great lighting to your backyard, and you’ll rarely need nor want to go back inside.

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OUTDOOR PLANTS. Keep it simple by using low-maintenance plants. Allisonville Nursery’s Betsy Cochran recommends Nepeta or Cat Mint (pictured). Cat Mint blooms all summer long. Cailbrachoa or Million Bells are a great option for your hanging baskets. OUTDOOR LIGHTS. Great lighting is an excellent investment. Lights can be used not only in seating areas, but also to enhance your surroundings. Highlight trees, walkways and water fountains to add to the atmosphere. Using a professional service like Indiana Outdoor Lighting helps avoid issues like intrusive glare and energy waste. OUTDOOR KITCHENS. Go beyond the grill with an outdoor kitchen. Sinks, dishwashers, refrigerators and pizza ovens can all be part of the package. Procare Horticultural Services’ Lowell Rolsky offers custom-designed kitchens to fit your space. Cooking and dining al fresco was never so easy.

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HOME SPRING CLEAN

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FIVE WAYS TO GET, AND KEEP, YOUR HOUSE CLEAN AND CLUTTER-FREE BY TRACY LINE

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don’t know about you, but as the pages of the calendar turn and spring approaches, the last thing I want to do is clean. Take a walk in the park? Dine al fresco? Throw my windows wide open? Yes, yes and yes. But cleaning? No. That’s pretty low on my list. Even so, a messy house causes me stress. And, there’s something about sunshine and fresh spring air that inspires me to get my home in order. So I’ve devised a plan. Five foolhardy ways to make cleaning easy. If, like me, you’d much rather hit the bike path than spend all day dusting blinds and scrubbing toilets, then read on, my friend. You deserve a home that’s free from dog hair and dust bunnies.

1. Stock up on supplies. Having everything you need on hand is essential. Having it in close proximity is even better. Think in terms of rooms — bathrooms, kitchen, living area and bedrooms. Keep bathroom cleanser, toilet bowl cleaner, a brush, sponges and disinfecting wipes in each bathroom. Store stove and countertop cleaners, multipurpose wipes and window cleaner under the kitchen sink.

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Stow a Swiffer, broom, mop or vacuum on each level of your home. Invest in a cordless sweeper for quick daily clean ups. Life is busy; whatever you can do to make cleaning easier is worth it.

2. Enlist the troops. If you have a husband and one child, there are six hands in your house. Put them all to work! I used to believe it was easier just to do it all myself, but doing everything made me resentful. And a resentful mom is one step away from being a martyr. Ask your family to help, and let them. It’s likely they either won’t want to, or they won’t do things the way you do. That’s fine. Helping around the house is one of the best ways to teach kids responsibility. It also shows them that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. If it helps us moms let go of our obsessive need to have everything done just so, even better.

3. Keep it simple. Devise a quick cleaning routine that suits your lifestyle. Think in terms of time and rooms. A simple plan with daily, weekly and quarterly chores can help. For instance, here’s how it might break down:

DAILY: 15 MINUTES Kitchen: Put away dishes, wipe down countertops, sweep the floor. Living areas: Pick up, organize magazines, fluff pillows. Bedrooms: Make the bed, put clothes away. Bathrooms: Wipe out the sink, put away personal items, spray shower with shower mist.

WEEKLY: 2 TO 3 HOURS Kitchen: Wipe counters and cabinets, toss leftovers from the refrigerator, mop floor, clean sink, wipe down trashcan. Living areas: Dust frames, tables and shelves; wipe off electronics; toss old magazines; vacuum/mop floors; clean upholstery as needed. Bedrooms: Change sheets; dust shelves, pictures and nightstands; vacuum. Bathrooms: Scrub sink, tub and toilet; wipe down mirror; mop; empty trashcan.

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QUARTERLY: 4 TO 6 HOURS Kitchen: Wipe out refrigerator, wipe down cabinet exteriors, clean the oven. Living areas: Clean windows, vacuum/mop under furniture, wipe down baseboards. Bedrooms: Flip mattress; launder mattress pad, comforter, and dust ruffle; wash windows. Bathrooms: Clean shower curtain, organize medicine cabinet and linen closet.

4. De-clutter, for good. We all have clutter in our homes. The first step in getting rid of it is to think about why you have it. Do you keep things you don’t use because you don’t want to be wasteful? Do you have an emotional attachment to your grandmother’s china or your favorite jeans that no longer fit? Are you overwhelmed by piles of mail, shelves full of gadgets, or scads of knick-knacks? Figure out why you’re keeping things you no longer need, then take charge. Look at each room with fresh eyes, evaluating everything in it. If there are things you no longer like or that just don’t fit in, find a new home for them. Most things we don’t need can easily be donated, dumped or relocated. Get creative and make the most of your space. Clutter reproduces quickly. Sort through mail and papers daily. Use baskets, containers and files to house the items you need to have on hand. And honestly consider what you could live without. Less is more when it comes to maintaining a clean and clutter-free home.

5. Stick with it. Chores and housework can quickly become overwhelming. Typically, this happens when we haven’t kept up with it. Stick to your daily, weekly and quarterly cleaning routines, and you’ll not only feel better, you’ll also lessen your stress. Remember, the goal isn’t to maintain a perfect home, but rather one you can live in comfortably. And yes, children (and husbands) do eventually learn to hang up their coats, put their socks away and rinse the toothpaste out of the sink. So I’ve been told anyway. m

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A DAY IN CITY CENTER

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RESTAURANTS, BOUTIQUES AND GALLERIES GALORE TO EXPLORE MAKE IT EASY TO FILL THE DAY WITH FUN ACTIVITIES AT CARMEL’S CITY CENTER. BY AMY LYNCH + ILLUSTRATION BY MARTHA RICH + PHOTOS BY KELLY LYNN MITCHELL

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4. Eggshell Bistro 1. 1. Hubbard & Cravens 703 Veterans Way 805-1888 hubbardandcravens.com Get your morning going with a caffeine fix at this popular Indianapolis-based coffee company. With pretty patterns poured right into the frothed milk, the lovely lattes here are drinkable works of art. Or maybe an exhilarating beverage from the fresh juice and smoothie bar is more your speed…

2. Uber Boutique 31 W. City Center Dr. 564-5638 shopuber.com Formerly Haus, this trendy lifestyle boutique successfully blends an inventory of vintage, retro and modern items for both your home and your wardrobe. Don’t miss browsing the consignment rack for hidden treasures.

3. Eye Candy Boutique 736 Hanover Place Suite 100 Recently relocated from Mass Ave in downtown Indy, Eye Candy offers a stylish array of jewelry, scarves, bags, hats, gloves and accessories on par with fashions you might see on the streets of New York.

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51 W. City Center Dr. 660-1616 eggshellbistro.com Refuel with artful breakfast/brunch/lunch offerings made from healthful locally sourced building blocks at this charming French bistro-style café. The egg-centric menu highlights omelets, frittatas and beautiful marbled eggs steeped in a fragrant Chinese herbal tea bath; lunch options include tasty sandwiches, soups and salads.

8. 8. Addendum Gallery 736 Hanover Place Suite 108 564-5979 addendumgallery.com Take a walk on the artistic side with a stroll through this global gallery, where the handcrafted art, gift items and unique jewelry originate from throughout the United States, France and South Africa.

5. Rain Aveda Salon and Spa 41 W. City Center Dr. 805-1858 rainaveda.com Pamper yourself with a new do, a rejuvenating facial or a mani-pedi within a relaxing, peaceful atmosphere. All treatments include professional consultation and earth-friendly Aveda products created using natural flower and plant essences.

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9. Nature’s Karma 711 Veterans Way 843-9999 natureskarma.org With a wide collection of fair-trade items, organic skincare products and goods made with recycled materials, Nature’s Karma sells housewares, clothing, teas, jewelry and candles you can feel good about buying.

6. Bath Junkie 741 Hanover Place 805-1850 bathjunkie.com Keep the spa glow going at home with phosphatefree bubble baths, salt scrubs, body washes, shower gels, lotions and body mists in a rainbow of colors and scrumptious scents. There’s even a full pet line!

10. Divvy 71 W. City Center Dr. 706-0000 divvycarmel.com Wrap up the day with a glass of wine and sharable small plates at this classy restaurant where the tapas-style concept allows guests to savor bites from categories like comfort, tidbits, toppers, and sweets. The rich and creamy corn crème brulee is a must-order.

7. Holy Cow, Cupcakes! 61 City Center Dr., Suite 119 571-1500 holycowcupcakes.com Sink your teeth into a sweet afternoon treat; Holy Cow features heavenly chocolate, vanilla and red velvet cupcakes on a daily basis, along with an array of evolving flavors sure to induce oohs and ahhs.

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PASTELS Dressing up this season is all about paring down—when it comes to color, anyway. If you’ve cast aside neutrals as boring and consider pastels prudish, it’s time to give these shades another chance. Spring’s palette is as pretty as a watercolor painting—think soft, muted hues like mint, blush and powder blue—mixed with creams and beiges for a look that’s polished and easy to wear.

PHOTOGRAPHY BY CHRIS WHONSETLER TEXT AND STYLING BY ERICA SAGON HAIR AND MAKEUP BY ASHLEY FUSON MODEL BRENDA COLETTO, FORD MODELS-CHICAGO

BLUSH CRUSH We can’t wait for wedding invitations to roll in so that we’ll have a reason to wear a dress like this—flowy, but utterly wearable, in the most beautiful blush hue. Simply Vera Vera Wang tie-waist dress, $68 at Kohl’s; Alfani “Fairfax” platform pumps, $75 at Macy’s; Merona clutch, $14.99 at Target; necklace, model ‘s own.

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PASTEL PALETTE Make room in your closet for pastel pieces in smart, fitted shapes, like this ocean-y blue jacket that flatters every skin tone. With a low-key floral scarf and crisp white pants, this is an outfit that can go anywhere.  Canvas jacket, $89.50 at Loft; Anne Klein wideleg trousers, $99, Alfani lace-front shell, $49, and Nine West “Msknoitall” platform pumps, $89, all at Macy’s; printed scarf, $49.99 at Ann Taylor Outlet Store.

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BRUNCH UNIFORM Brunch with friends calls for an outfit that’s polished yet relaxed. Try dark denim leggings and a flowy blouse. The secret to getting this effortless look right is adding a pop of color via ballet flats. Jeweled bracelet, $29.99 at Ann Taylor Outlet Store; Alfani contrast bandcollar shirt, $59, Not Your Daughter’s Jeans darkwash denim leggings, $98, and Alfani “Jayda” cap-toe flats, $69, all at Macy’s.

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NOVEL NEUTRALS Paired with a fresh spring color, beige is anything but boring. Here, a soft wash of peachy pink works nicely with the texture of a tweed skirt. Calvin Klein tweed pencil skirt, $79, Jones New York short-sleeve sweater, $44, Bar III necklace, $28, all at Macy’s. 51


TWO IN ONE How genius is a “twofer” — a dress that looks like a skirt and a top? This one pairs sunny yellow with beige for one of our favorite color combos yet. A printed scarf is all you need to tie the look together. Colorblock dress, $89.50, and scarf, $4.50 at Loft. 52 after4O.com march+april 2013


CHIC SHEATH It’s time to trade in your little black dress for something lighter. This one does double-duty: with a sparkly necklace, it’s just right for a spring wedding, and with a neutral cardigan or blazer, it’s ideal for the office. Bar III colorblock sheath dress, $69, and Nine West “Msknoitall” platform pumps, $89, both at Macy’s; multi-strand necklace, $16.99, at Target.

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GIRLS GETAWAY COLUMBUS, INDIANA

AMAZING ARCHITECTURE THE LITTLE INDIANA TOWN OF COLUMBUS IS HOME TO BIG CITY-CALIBER BUILDINGS BY AMY LYNCH + INTERIOR PHOTOGRAPHS BY CHARLES PARK

An hour south of Indianapolis amid rural farmland lies a Midwestern marvel of modern architecture. Ranked sixth in the United States for architectural innovation and design by the American Institute of Architects, Columbus (population 44,000) more than holds its own compared to much bigger cities like Chicago, New York, San Francisco and Washington D.C. So just how did this humble Hoosier city become such a major architectural force to be reckoned with, housing original creations by world-renowned architects like I.M.Pei and Eero Saarinen? Much of what Columbus is today has resulted from the vision of one influential local man — J. Irwin Miller. PHOTO COURTESY INDIANAPOLIS MUSEUM OF ART

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“WHAT IS BUILT REFLECTS WHAT A CITY THINKS OF ITSELF AND WHAT IT AIMS TO BE.” —J. IRWIN MILLER

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The Miller Home provides examples of many early modernist architectural design features, such as the conversation pit.

WHO WAS J. IRWIN MILLER?

Joseph Irwin Miller (1909-2004) was part of the prominent Columbus family that made a name for itself through the banking industry, real estate, and the Cummins Engine Company (now Cummins Inc.). Under Miller’s capable leadership and direction, the fledging diesel engine company thrived, and has since grown to become the world’s leading diesel manufacturer with 2006 reported sales of $11.4 billion. A dedicated philanthropist, Miller was widely recognized for his support of civic causes, the Christian church, and civil rights. He also harbored a keen personal interest in architecture.

At Miller’s urging, Finnish architect Eliel Saarinen signed on to design a new church in Columbus during the late 1930s. The project would ultimately forge a friendship between the two families that would last for decades, especially between Miller and Eliel’s son, Eero. One project led to another, and the face of Columbus architecture began to take shape. Realizing great architecture could help attract and retain the highest quality professionals to live and work in Columbus, Miller made an unusual proposal to the local school board. He offered to pay the architect’s fees for the new school they were building, if they agreed to use an architect selected from a list of top-caliber candidates provided 57


by Miller. Designed by Harry Weese, Schmitt Elementary was the first school built under the agreement, leading to a number of other resoundingly successful collaborations. This process, repeated many times over, evolved into the Cummins Foundation Architecture Program, which grew to eventually include not only schools, but also a number of public buildings within the county. “Columbus has a rich legacy of achievement and innovation; there is a commitment here to building a better life through a better environment,” says Lynn Lucas, executive director of the Columbus Area Visitors Center. “Mr. Miller said that the built environment reflects what a city thinks of itself. I think his vision continues to be a value that is shared by many in this community today. In Columbus, architecture is a symbol of the excellence we strive to achieve in many areas impacting quality of life.”

The built-in white marble dining table and chairs are a highlight of the Miller House tour.

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(Left to Right) J. Irwin Miller, Xenia Miller, Eero Saarinen, Dan Kiley and Alexander Girard

THE MILLER HOME AND GARDEN

Even in a city filled with uniquely distinctive buildings, perhaps the most iconic example of Miller’s love for architecture and design is his own personal residence. Architect Eero Saarinan, interior designer Alexander Girard and landscape architect Dan Kiley joined forces to create what Travel + Leisure magazine has hailed as the most significant modernist house in America. The home, commissioned in 1953, was built to accommodate Miller, his wife, Xenia, and their five children. Xenia worked closely with the team to make sure the home was not only beautiful, but also very practical and personal. The structure of the home is simple and startling, with lots of open space, clean lines, floor-to-ceiling windows, and unusual-for-the-time features like a sunken conversation pit in the living room and a magnificent white marble dining table. The Millers lived in the home for 50 years; after Xenia’s death in 2008, it was donated to the Indianapolis Museum of Art and opened for public tours in 2011. During tours of the Miller House, visitors can observe many distinctive personal design touches throughout the property.

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Alexander Girard’s floor-to-ceiling Eden print drapes make a bold statement in the Miller House kitchen.

PHOTOS THIS PAGE COURTESY INDIANAPOLIS MUSEUM OF ART

In soothing shades of blue, the Miller House kitchen was architecturally advanced, yet still functional and beautiful.

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EXPERIENCE COLUMBUS ARCHITECTURE The Columbus Area Visitors Center hosts guided city architecture bus tours year-round ($20 per person) and one-hour guided walking tours of downtown ($15 per person). Guided 90-minute tours of the Miller House and Garden are $20 per person, leaving by bus from the Visitors Center. Columbus visitors can use their cell phones to access information for a free self-guided walking tour of the downtown area. (A set of keepsake cards, available at the Visitor Center for $10, correlates with audio visitors can listen to on their cell phones at each location.)

North Christian Church (top) and First Christian Church (bottom).

For tour days, times and reservations, go to www.columbus.in.us, or call (812) 378-2622.

Must-see Columbus buildings and the architects behind them:

Highlighting a soaring 192-foot spire, this otherworldly-looking structure was completed in 1964. The grounds of the multi-acre site are the contribution of renowned landscape architect Dan Kiley. Designed by: Eero Saarinen (1910–1961) Born in Finland, immigrated to the United States in 1923 and grew up outside Detroit Other famous works: Gateway Arch (St. Louis), TWA terminal at JFK airport (New York), the Tulip chair, the Womb chair First Christian Church* Completed in 1942, this geometric structure showcases a 166-foothigh freestanding bell tower, and was the first contemporary building constructed in Columbus. Designed by: Eliel Saarinen (1873–1950) From Finland, immigrated to the United States in 1923 and lived outside Detroit, where he designed the campus of Cranbrook Academy of Art, regarded as the birthplace of American Modernism. Other famous works: Gulf Building (Houston), National Museum of Finland (Helsinki)

Bartholomew County Public Library/Cleo Rogers Memorial Library Built in 1969, the brick library is an early example of sustainable building practices, using an elaborate intake system to recycle heated air from canister lights in the ceiling. A large-scale sculpture by Henry Moore adorns the exterior plaza. Designed by: I.M. Pei (1917- ) Born in Canton, raised in Hong Kong and Shanghai Other famous works: the Louvre pyramid (Paris), John F. Kennedy Library (Boston), Bank of China Tower (Hong Kong), Rock and Roll Hall of Fame (Cleveland) The Republic newspaper offices* The open-concept glassand-steel exterior of this office, designed in 1971, lets visitors observe the inner workings of the daily newspaper production housed inside. Designed by: Myron Goldsmith (1918–1996) Born and lived in Chicago Other famous works: United Airlines hangar at San Francisco International Airport, McMath-Pierce Solar Telescope building (Arizona)

First Baptist Church* Completed in 1965, this pink brick church sits on a sloping knoll that complements its elevation, stark rooflines and peaked bell tower. Designed by: Harry Weese (1915–1998) Lived in Chicago Other famous works: Washington Metro stations, Mercantile Bank (Kansas City, Missouri), Seventeenth Church of Christ Scientist (Chicago) Cummins Inc. headquarters The home base of J. Irwin Miller’s international diesel engine empire since 1983, this structure features a three-block span of glass and concrete in downtown Columbus. The “Exploded Engine” by Rudolph de Harak is a centerpiece in the publicly accessible lobby. Designed by: Kevin Roche (1922– ) Born in Ireland, joined Eero Saarinen’s firm in 1950 and worked closely with him on a number of projects. Other famous works: Gateway Arch (St. Louis), TWA terminal at JFK airport (New York), Oakland Museum of California

* Designates National Historic Landmark status

PHOTOS THIS PAGE BY CHARLES PARK

North Christian Church *

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THE MAN Q+A

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I’ve been alone for a lot of years, and I’ve recently joined an Internet dating site. I notice everyone is into “fitness,” and I think that’s great. I always was, too, until I started having trouble with my hip. Now, I use a cane half the time when walking. I’m working with a doctor to resolve this, but am wondering when I should address this issue with prospective dates. There are two men I could be interested in, but I feel like I’m cheating because I haven’t told either one that I have a walking issue. What is the best way to approach this? I’m still a whole woman, but this is a problem for me.

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I haven’t personally experienced online dating, but I have been on Facebook and have felt the irresistible urge to post pictures of myself from 15 years ago. With my shirt off. I’ve also been shocked, and pleasantly surprised, by the touching honesty and yearning humanity displayed by people I barely knew in high school, even if the Avatar of all that emotional honesty was the digital version of a Glamour Shots photo. Dating, like all forms of social interaction, involves a certain amount of risk. To put yourself out there and honestly express your desire to be liked, or loved, is a brave act. I suggest you grab onto that bravery and be honest about your health issues. Don’t make a big deal about it. Just mention that you’re having trouble with your hip and are working with a doctor to resolve it. If you think that being “into fitness” is an attractive, admirable trait, then find a way to honestly be into fitness. If it’s a struggle to do that in your current condition, share those struggles with these men and ask for their advice. Start the

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It doesn’t matter if you are “dating” via handwritten letters that cross the Atlantic on a 19th-century steamship or via mathematically coded 0s and 1s flying through fiber-optic cable at the speed of light. If it feels like you’re lying, you probably are.

journey because it’s good for you, and then just BE you. In a way, computer dating has rekindled the long-lost art of romantic correspondence, and that’s a good thing. I’m sure you’ve already shared much of your passion, wit and intellect with these guys, and they continue the conversation because they like you, not because they want to take you jogging. If the men you’re corresponding with are “whole men,” then they already know you’re a “whole woman.”

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PASSING ON HOPE DANGEROUS WOMAN

Living your truth EMBRACING THE DANGEROUS WOMAN WITHIN CAN LEAD TO LIBERATION BY KATHY McHUGH

y business partner and I were driving down the road when, out of nowhere, I confessed to her, “I’m a dangerous woman. The fears and shame that used to bind me are gone.” Her response was an enthusiastic ”I LOOOOOOOVE IT!” We began to laugh. I explained that I had no forethought of expressing that declaration, and truly had no idea where it had come from.  Once I said it, I wanted to shout it out to the world. “My name is Kathy McHugh, and I am a dangerous woman!” I wanted to lead a movement and invite all dangerous women to rise up and join me in this stand for freedom. We are women who refuse to be held back by our shame-based culture. We have the courage to take fear by the hand and befriend it instead of letting it rule us and our life choices. In this case, I compare the word “dangerous” to “courageous,” denoting a sense of the great odyssey that comes from going within and drinking from the well of the soul that is eternally free from the conditioning and constraints of this human life. Whitman urged us to “dismiss whatever insults your soul.” He understood that following the herd and settling for status quo simply isn’t possible for everyone. As a dangerous woman committed to a shame-free existence, though, I must say there’s nothing wrong with choosing to pursue a conventional life either. The truth of who we are cannot fully be realized when we are ashamed of our thoughts, our desires and our beliefs. This shame causes us to censor ourselves, to be only what others need or expect us to be, and dulls the aliveness within us that longs to come out and play.  Learning to fall unconditionally in love with ourselves, appreciating ourselves flaws and all, owning and delighting in a sense of ourselves wholly, and letting go of abusive perfectionism is a liberation like no other. The more each of us can appreciate all that we are as individuals, the more we can appreciate others instead of projecting onto them what we think they should be and shaming them into submission just so we can feel comfortable instead of threatened by what is different.  I am idealistic, and I am pragmatic. I realize that those two words aren’t usually used in the same sentence, but I am a dangerous woman 64 after4O.com march+april 2013

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who is not afraid to be both. Some women will read this and feel a stirring to join me in this liberation. Some will think I’m nuts. I have no expectations to project onto you, only a deep desire to share my truth and allow you to share yours. All roads lead us back to the Self to heal, to let go and to reach for more. Here’s to the dangerous women who dare to stand up and rock the boat because they must. And here’s to the women who have no desire to do so. Making room for both—for all—and living an inclusive life is essential for me. Any other way insults my soul. m Kathy McHugh is the author of Passing On Hope, a book of healing stories about her walk of liberation from the pain of the past through the transformative power of love. Kathy reminds others to “love your life” every single day, no matter what. You can contact Kathy at mchugh_kathy@yahoo.com and check out her website: www.passingonhope.com.

Kathy McHugh, pictured above.

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