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SPICE |November 2015|

Life Loved her

Right Back DIWALI Recipes Special


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content: Feature: And  life  loved  her  right  back   The  Coach  

Interests and  Hobbies    

Fashion &  Beauty  

Food &  Drink    

Money Mine    

   

Seeds of  Inspiration    

Health &  Fitness

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Living

 

Travel    

 

Q&A

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editor’s note: Since I  started  this  magazine,  my  life  h asn’t  been  the  same.  Where  I  used  to  laze  on  the  couch   watching  reality  shows  on  the  television,  now  I’m  snooping  into  the  lives  of  real  women,   writing  to  women  I’ve  never  met  and  Skyping  with  them  or  meeting  with  them  to  learn  more   about  their  lives  and  their  stories.     As  I  put  together  the  magazine,  I  imagine  what  her  life  must  be  like.  As  I  read  the  story,  as  I   look  at  the  photos,  I  almost  become  this  woman.  I  choose  a  colour  that  I  think  matches  her   aura.  I  select  a  quote  that  I  think  best  represents  her  message.  I  study  the  photographs  she   sends  me  and  the  accompanying  messages  like  “I  don’t  know  if  this  picture  will  work”  or  “I’m   happy  for  you  to  use  any  of  the  p ictures  or  n one  at  all.”  It’s  always  a  tough  decision  when  it   comes  to  pictures,  as  they  are  so  personal.  What  if  I  left  out  a  family  member  who  was  in   another  picture?  What  if  left  out  an  important  moment  of  a  person’s  life  in  either  the  picture   or  the  edit?  I  spend  hours  editing  and  sometimes  I  don’t  move  from  my  seat  u ntil  the  bladder   threatens  to  burst.  And  I  only  hope  that  I  do  each  and  every  woman  justice.     Every  woman  is  special.  Every  woman’s  story  is  special.  In  this  month’s  issue  we  h ave  Carol   who  has  overcome  many  h urdles  from  a  very  young  age  to  become  a  successful  life  coach;  a   young  entrepreneur  Sharin  who  overcame  the  challenges  of  two  failed  business  ventures  and   with  a  never-­‐say-­‐die  attitude,  she’s  embarked  on  her  third;  Emma  who  believed  in  herself  and   shed  35  kilos  in  2.5  years  and  is  now  a  personal  trainer  and  wellness  coach  and  finally,  I’m   proud  to  introduce  S atwant,  who  has  agreed  to  be  our  regular  food  feature  writer,  kicking  off   with  a  few  Indian  dishes  for  Diwali.     Diwali  or  Deepavali  –  the  Hindu  festival  of  lights  will  be  celebrated  on  10th  November  and  I’d   like  to  wish  all  my  readers  a  very  Happy  Diwali.     So  if  you  have  a  story  you’d  like  to  share  and  inspire  women,  we’d  like  to  hear  from  you.  Drop   us  an  email  at  magazine@oneasiacoach.com  and  b e  part  of  the  spicy  family.     Begin  again;  Live  again;  Love  again.  

Editor, A  Dash  of  Spice  

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Carol Johnston  is  45  years  old,  a  mum  of  2  young  men  aged  21  and   12.  She  lives  at  Terrigal  on  the  beautiful  Central  Coast  of  New  South   Wales,  Australia.  Carol  runs  her  coaching  business  and  is  also  a  public   relations/  customer  care  manager  for  Smash  Repairer.  She  enjoys  her   strolls  on  the  beach  with  her  dog,  Marni  and  sometimes  her  boys  tag   a  long  too.  She  enjoys  these  moments  on  the  beach  as  it  gives  her   quiet  time  for  inner  reflection  and  solitude.   Carol  is  a  certified  Law  Of  Attraction  Life  Coach  and  is  currently   studying  for  her  diploma  o f  Life  Coaching.  She  also  holds  a  Level  4   Certificate  in  telephone  crisis  counselling.  As  an  extension  of  her   work  as  an  LOA  coach,  Carol  is  also  an  Empowerment/Self  Esteem   and  Mother/Daughter  relationship  coach.  Carol  is  an  Author  and  will   have  her  first  book  o ut  in  early  2016.  Carol  has  contributed  to  Agnes   Vivarelli’s  book  A  Person  o f  Interest  and  contributed  to  the  series, Adventures  In  Manifesting:  Soulful  Relationships.  Carol  is  also  the   Hub  Leader  in  her  local  area  for  Wellness  Hubs  Australia,  a  support   for  wellness  practitioners.

..and life loved her right back: I grew  up  in  a  small  country  town  called   Coopernook  the  population  was  around  300  people.   My  Dad  was  a  truck  driver  and  Mum  was  a  cleaner   at  the  local  primary  school.  I  h ave  very  fond   memories  growing  up;  my  parents  always  managed   to  take  my  sister  and  I  away  on  little  holidays.  I  grew   up  with  lots  of  love  and  encouragement.  My  sister   and  I  were  very  close  to  our  grandparents.  One  of   my  most  significant  memories  was  the  Sunday  ritual   of  Nan  and  Pop  coming  to  visit  and  my  M um  would   cook  a  baked  dinner.  My  Dad  would  insist  that  we   all  sit  down  together  after  dinner  to  watch  the   football.  Its  only  now  that  I  really  appreciate  this   little  weekly  ritual  as  it  really  wasn’t  about  the  game   on  TV;  it  was  about  being  present  for  family.  Being   in  each  other’s  company,  q uality  conversation  and   fun  all  rolled  into  one  weekly  experience.   Things  weren’t  always  easy  though  as  my  dad  was   away  all  week  and  only  home  on  weekends  so  it   was  like  mum  was  raising  her  two  daughters  on  her   own.  I  have  to  say  that  my  mother  is  one  of  the   hardest  working  people  I  know.     In  1985,  at  the  age  of  15,  while  on  school  holidays  

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with my  mum  and  my  sister,  (  my  dad  was  away  and   couldn’t  come  with  us)  I  met  C,  a  very  charming  and   extremely  good  looking  boy  from  Sydney.  Over  the   course  of  my  little  holiday  we  hung  out  together,  went   to  the  b each  and  at  the  end  of  the  week  exchanged   phone  numbers  and  addresses  to  write  and  stay  in   touch.  We  exchanged  letters  and  on  boxing  day,  C   showed  up  on  my  doorstep.  He  was  having  his  h olidays   not  far  from  where  I  lived.  So  I  saw  a  fair  bit  of  C  over   those  holidays  and  we  were  inseparable.  The  following   year  I  started  TAFE  and  C  and  I  continued  to  be  in   touch.  He  even  h itchhiked  to  see  me  one  weekend.               I  was  even  allowed  to  go  to  Sydney  to  visit  him.  During   one  of  my  visits  I  decided  that  I  didn’t  want  to  be  apart   from  him  anymore  so  I  started  having  job  interviews.   As  a  teenager  I  made  that  big  decision  to  stay  in   Sydney  a  week  longer  than  I  was  supposed  too!  Very   quickly,  I  ended  up  getting  a  job  with  the  State  Bank  at   Bondi  Beach.  Perfect!  

fast-track to growing up: I came  home  and  told  my  parents  I  was  leaving  and   they  were  devastated.  I  was  going  to  live  with  my   aunty  who  was  close  to  where  my  job  was.  So  I  started  


my first  job  in  a  bank,  which  I  really   didn’t  like  at  all  once  I  had  been  there  a   little  while.  Even  though  Mum  and  Dad   were  devastated  about  my  decision   they  were  extremely  supportive  which   actually  made  it  easier.    

“I do  remember  being  quite   home  sick  and  I  rang  home  one   day  from  a  phone  box.  I  was   crying  and  having  a  moment  of   regret.  “   I  spoke  to  my  dad  and  told  him  I   wanted  to  come  home.  I  will  never   forget  what  he  told  me.  My  Dad  used  to   call  me  Possum  and  he  said,  “Pos  you   can  come  home  any  time  you  like   however  this  was  your  decision.  Maybe   you  need  to  think  about  why  you   decided  to  go  in  the  first  place?  It’s  up   to  you  however  your  mother  and  I  are   proud  of  you  no  matter  what  decision   you  make.”  After  that  chat  with  my  dad,   I  decided  to  stay.  I  had  to  grow  up   quickly  but  knowing  that  I  had  my   parents’  support  was  enough  for  me  to   carry  on  and  p ersevere.        

following my dream: The job  at  the  b ank  wasn’t  really  what  I   wanted  to  do.  F rom  a  very  young  age,   I’ve  always  wanted  b e  a  hairdresser,  so   not  too  long  after  the  bank  I  managed   to  get  myself  a  hairdressing   apprenticeship.  How  exciting!  Finally  I   was  able  to  achieve  my  lifelong   ambition.  This  certainly  opened  my   eyes  and  gave  me  a  passion  for   something  creative  that  I  loved.  I  met  a   lot  of  interesting  people,  moved  into  a   shared  house  with  a  colleague  and   learned  a  lot  about  life.  

Carol’s sons:  Luke  on  the  left  and  Nicholas  on  the  right.  

tough lessons on being tough: C and  I  had  our  ups  and  downs,  mostly  due  to  his  need  for  d rugs   and  alcohol.  Again  my  eyes  were  opened  to  things  that  were   unfamiliar,  I  hated  it  and  I  hated  what  it  did  to  h im.  The  more  I   tried  to  help  him  the  more  he  resisted.  Unfortunately  the  lovely   boy  I  met  on  holidays  was  very  different.  When  he  was  drinking  or   smoking  pot  he  was  abusive.  I  stayed  for  a  while  until  one  night.   After  a  night  out,  he  arrived  at  my  house.  I  opened  the  door  and   was  met  by  a  fist  to  the  face.  That  was  a  trip  to  the  hospital  and   luckily  nothing  was  broken.  I  didn’t  have  him  charged.  It  was  over.     We  actually  remained  in  touch  even  though  I  know  he  had  many   regrets.  We  both  moved  on  and  C  died  of  a  h eroin  overdose  in   1997  at  the  age  of  29.  My  time  with  him  taught  me  about  strength   and  staying  true  to  my  values.  I  know  I  could  have  easily  b een   caught  up  in  his  world  however  my  strong  family  ties  helped  me.     When  I  was  19  I  met  D  who  I  went  on  to  marry  at  the  tender  age  of   21.  The  first  couple  of  years  I  managed  and  worked  in  a  few   different  hair  salons  however,  by  this  time  I  was  feeling  the  need   for  change.  At  the  age  of  24,  I  gave  birth  to  my  first  son,  Luke.   During  the  first  year  of  his  life  I  was  a  stay  at  home  mum  which  I   loved,  however,  I  got  to  a  point  where  I  really  needed  to  get  back   to  work.  So  for  a  year  I  tried  my  hand  at  telemarketing.  Luckily  for   me  I  found  this  a  very  easy  job  to  do  as  I  loved  to  talk  on  the  phone.   However  day  in  and  day  out  for  a  year  was  enough.  So  I  left  the  job.      

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bud is blossoming: It wasn’t  long  after  leaving  this  job  I   got  a  call  from  my  mum  saying  that   she  had  become  a  Nutrimetics   consultant  and  seeing  that  I  had  been   using  this  skin  care  product  since  I   was  12  years  old,  she  thought  it  would   be  a  good  idea  for  me  to  have   business  of  my  own  and  join  as  a   consultant  too.  So  I  thought  “why   not?”  The  thought  of  going  into   people’s  homes  and  demonstrating   skin  care  product  sounded  scary  but   fun  all  at  the  same  time.  I  became   dedicated  to  weekly  training  and  in  no   time  at  all,  I  had  moved  up  to  the  first   management  level  with  a  few  lovely   ladies  who  had  joined  my  team.  I  can   honestly  say  that  this  business  really   cemented  my  love  of  self-­‐ development.  I  found  that  the  place  I   enjoyed  the  most  was  out  the  front   talking  and  introducing  women  to  a   product  that  I  now  still  use  at  the  age   of  45.   I  become  a  leader  and  a  trainer  and  in   Feb  2000  I  was  finally  presented  my   very  first  brand  new  company  car.  I   had  my  entire  family  and  team  there   to  support  me  and  see  me  receive   such  an  important  reward.  The  start   of  2000  was  amazing.  

losing a pillar:

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This was  also  the  year  I  turned  30  and   3  weeks  later  would  lose  my  gorgeous   Dad  to  a  very  unexpected  heart   attack.  He  was  54  years  old.  Today  I   still  struggle  at  times  when  I  think  of   how  young  he  was  and  the  fact  that   its  only  9  years  away  until  I  am  the   same  age.  The  last  time  I  saw  my  dad   was  my  30th  Birthday  party,  I  was   grateful  to  h ave  shared  such  a  special   night  with  him  and  my  family.  My   father`s  death  took  its  toll  on  all  of

Carol in  Las  Vegas  attending  a  much  deserved  event  from  Nutrimetics.  

us, especially  my  son  Luke  who  was  5  at  the  time.  He  was  at  that   age  where  h e  and  my  dad  were  just  starting  to  form  a  very   special  bond.    Explaining  death  to  a  5  year  old  was  one  of  the   hardest  things  I  ever  had  to  do  especially  when  it’s  someone  you   love  so  very  much.    

giving my all: My Nutrimetics  business  continued  to  grow  and  because  of  this  I   was  also  able  to  travel  overseas  for  management  conferences.  All   up  I  h ad  5  amazing  5  star  trips:  Haymen  Island,  Thailand,  Las   Vegas,  Japan  and  China.  Not  forgetting,  I  even  got  three  company   cars  over  the  years.  I  absolutely  loved  this  job  and  the  best  p art   was  being  a  leader  who  was  able  to  help,  encourage  and  bring   out  the  best  in  people.  It’s  amazing  what  people  can  achieve   when  they  know  that  someone  believes  in  them.  Little  did  I  know   that  this  part  of  my  job  would  put  me  on  a  n ew  journey  later  in   my  life.   In  2003  I  gave  birth  to  my  second  son  Nicholas.  Luke  was  8  years   old  by  then.  I  continued  working  with  Nutrimetics  until  2007.   Once  again  I  found  myself  in  that  familiar  place  where  I  was  in   need  of  a  change.  When  you  are  in  sales  there  is  also  a  certain   amount  of  pressure  that  goes  with  that  so  I  just  felt  I  needed  to   put  my  energies  in  other  places.  Luckily  for  me  I  got  a  job  working   as  a  Public  Relations/  Customer  Care  manager  at  the  Smash   Repairer  where  D  worked.  This  was  great  because  again,  I  was  in   a  position  to  h elp  people,  problem  solve  and  get  to  talk  on  the   phone.  I  am  still  at  this  job.     2007  was  also  the  year  Luke  started  high  school,  this  was  a   challenging  year  as  there  were  problems  with  bullies.  It  really   took  its  toll  on  my  gorgeous  boy.  So  we  decided  to  move  him  to  


a new  school  in  term  3  and  he  never  looked  back.  It  was   here  at  his  new  school  I  would  say  he  found  his   brothers/best  buddies.  Luke  was  also  a  drummer  in  a   band.  This  was  his  outlet  and  thank  goodness  he  found   the  love  of  music.  This  is  where  he  was  able  to  regain  his   confidence  and  actually  become  quite  a  showman  up   there  behind  his  drum  kit.  He  continued  to  on  his  music   path,  appeared  on  TV,  made  a  few  video  clips  and  his   band  released  2  CDs.  He  was  also  part  of  a  few  more   bands  and  did  a  bit  of  travelling  touring  interstate.  In   2011  he  decided  that  he  needed  to  seriously  think  about   his  career  so  at  the  age  of  17  he  joined  the  Army   Reserves.  

starting over: In 2008  D  and  I  separated.  My  boys  were  14  and  5.  This   wasn’t  an  easy  time  however  we  managed  to  get   through  it.  As  hard  as  it  was,  I  was  on  a  totally  different   path  and  sometime  you  just  outgrow  those  who  can`t  or   won’t  grow  with  you.  D  and  I  still  remain  friends  and  the   boys  both  have  an  amazing  relationship  with  their  Dad.    

“I was  on  a  totally  different  path  and   sometime  you  just  outgrow  those  who         can’t  or  won’t  grow  with  you.”   It  was  at  this  time  where  I  really  started  to  evaluate  my   life,  I  was  now  38  and  a  single  mum.  I  h ad  always  wanted   to  go  back  to  study  so  with  a  lot  of  encouragement  from   close  friends  I  decided  to  take  a  leap  of  faith  and  start   my  degree  in  counselling.  I’ve  always  been  the  one   people  turn  to  in  times  of  crisis.  I  thought  that  this  would   be  a  great  fit  for  me.  I  actually  thrived  at  this.  I  loved  the   study  and  all  that  I  was  learning.  Life  was  pretty  good,  I   was  happy  and  doing  something  I  loved  and  I  was  getting   great  marks  in  all  my  essays.    

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At the  end  of  2009  I  met  K  and  h e  lived  5  hours  away   from  me.  He  was  generous  and  very  charming.  Just   before  we  met  K  was  retrenched  so  after  a  year  of   looking  for  a  job  I  suggested  maybe  he  look  for  work   closer  to  me.  We  had  a  long  distance  romance  for  about   a  year.  Well  this  decision  changed  everything.  In  March   2010  he  got  an  interview  and  got  the  job.  I  need  to  say  at   this  point  just  b efore  K  moved  to  b e  with  me  I  had  a    

dream. I  can’t  remember  exactly  what  the  dream   consisted  of  however  I  remember  the  message  in  the   dream  so  clearly.  The  message  said:  BE  CAREFUL,  ALL  IS   NOT  WHAT  IT  SEEMS.  They  say  women’s  intuition   never  lies.  I  was  so  excited,  and  so  were  the  boys,   about  K  moving  to  be  with  us  that  I  ignored  the   message  even  though  in  my  heart  I  new  it  was  to  do   with  K.  I  did  however  think  about  it  from  time  to  time.   These  days  I  listen  to  EVERY  message  I  receive.  I’m   tuned  into  my  intuition  now  more  than  I  have  ever   been  in  my  entire  life.  

soaring higher: All  was  going  well,  I  had  also  started  working  toward   my  level  4  Certificate  in  crisis  counselling  for  Lifeline.   This  was  such  an  amazing  opportunity  and  I  can  happily   say  I  met  two  of  my  now  best  friends  there.  However   working  on  the  crisis  line  actually  highlighted  that   maybe  counselling  wasn’t  for  me  even  though  I   absolutely  loved  the  work,  it  just  didn’t  feel  quite  right.   One  day  I  was  reflecting  on  all  the  things  I  had  done  in   my  life  so  far  and  I  kept  coming  back  to  my  time  with   Nutrimetics.  The  times  I  was  speaking  on  stage,   teaching,  encouraging  my  team  to  believe  in   themselves,  to  show  them  what  can  be  achieved  when   you  have  belief  in  yourself.  It  was  at  this  moment  I   decided  to  look  into  becoming  a  Life  Coach  instead  of  a   counsellor.  In  2012,  I  began  my  studies  with  The   Inspired  Spirit  Coaching  Academy  to  become  a  certified   Law  Of  Attraction  Life  Coach.  This  was  also  the  year   that  K  and  I  bought  a  house  together,  K`s  mum  passed   away  and  he  lost  his  job.  

“I knew  that  thoughts  become  things  and   the  Law  of  Attraction  is  all  about  the   emotion  that  you  put  into  things  you   desire.”   Studying  to  become  a  LOA  coach  made  so  much  sense   to  me;  I  had  a  very  good  understanding  of  how  it   worked,  as  I  was  already  a  really  good  manifester.  This   was  an  absolutely  perfect  fit.  My  study  started  in  July   and  in  October  2013  I  finished  my  study  and  graduated   with  a  certification  as  a  Law  of  Attraction  life  Coach.  

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she loved her life….. K`s  mum  died  in  July  2012  and  he  left  for  England  for   her  funeral.  He  was  gone  a  month  and  the  man  who   got  off  the  plane  certainly  wasn’t  the  same  loving   caring  man  I  said  goodbye  too.  Grief  is  such  a  hard   and  challenging  emotion,  its  something  that  we  all   deal  with  differently.  I  tried  to  b e  patient  with  all   that  he  was  feeling.  In  December  2012  K  lost  his  job.   This  was  a  scary  time  for  us  having  only  just   purchased  our  house  together.  Fortunately  I  had  an   investment  property  with  my  sister  and  the  timing   was  perfect  for  us  to  consider  selling.  I  put  the   money  I  received  from  the  sale  into  our  h ouse,   which  was  able  to  keep  us  afloat  until  K  found  a  job.   After  12  months  of  him  still  dealing  with  his  grief  and   no  job  I  asked  him  to  seek  some  help  however  the   answer  was  a  definite  NO.  He  became  withdrawn,   verbally  and  mentally  abusive  towards  my  boys  and   me.  I  left  that  relationship  in  July  2015  and  can   honestly  say  I  haven’t  looked  back.    

“My life  lesson  here  was  about  being   specific,  to  be  very  specific  in  the  type  of   person  you  invite  into  your  life.  Do  they   match  your  values,  do  they  have  the   qualities  you  want  in  a  partner.  I  did  get   what  I  asked  for  however  it  was  in  the   detail  that  I  missed.”

…..and it loved her right back: In  2013  I  wrote  my  first  workshop  “Buds  To   Blossoms:  Empowerment  for  Girls”.  I  started  running   these  workshops  about  confidence  and  self  esteem   for  girls  aged  10-­‐16.  I  had  a  lot  of  friends  with   daughters  and  was  naturally  drawn  to  this  topic.   Finally  I  was  doing  something  I  absolutely  loved  and  I   could  see  the  difference  I  was  making  in  these  young   girls’  lives.     It  was  here  that  my  direction  would  slightly  change   yet  again.  The  mums  of  the  girls  d oing  my  workshops   started  asking  if  I  had  anything  for  them  to  help  their   relationships  with  their  gorgeous  girls.  In  2014  I   launched  “Mothers  and  Daughters  United”.

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Carol’s son  Luke  is  n ow  21  years  old  and  in  the   Australian  Defence  Force.  Carol,  Nick  and  Marni,   their  dog,  have  their  own  place  close  to  the  beach.   Nick  is  in  h igh  school  and  his  passion  is  Martial  Arts   to  the  p oint  that  he  trains  14  hours  a  week.  Carol  is   looking  forward  to  having  Luke  back  home  at   Christmas.    

“I’m the  happiest  I  have  been  in  years  and  I   am  grateful  for  my  family  and  friends  for  their   patience  and  support  in  all  my  decisions.  Plus   a  very  special  person  who  is  showing  me  and   reminding  me  that  I  am  worthy  of  happiness   and  to  be  the  very  best  version  of  myself.  I’m   45,  and  I  am  the  fittest  I  have  ever  been.  I’m   happy  and  so  are  my  boys.  That’s  all  I  need.   Life  is  amazing  and  I  know  I  can  only  move   forward  from  here.”     In  2016,  Carol  will  be  bring  you  New  Mothers  and   Daughters  Workshops,  New  Buds  To  Blossoms   Workshops  and  also  an  Empowerment  for  Women   Workshop  and  a  book  especially  for  Mothers  and   Daughters.  Contact  Carol  Johnston  at:   www.mothersanddaughtersunited.com   https://www.facebook.com/CarolJohnston2013   LinkedIn:  Carol  Johnston   Twitter  @CarolJohnston70   Email:  carol@mothersanddaughtersunited.com   Or  carol@caroljohnston.com.au  


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the coach: Professional versus Perfectionist

“Errors and  untidiness  are,  to  me,  

This incident  I  am  about  to  relate  you   took  place  about  two  months  ago  and   has  been  b ugging  me  ever  since.   Some  background  story  (don’t  we  all   love  stories)  first.  I’ve  been  having   back  aches,  pinched  nerves,  tensed   muscles  for  many  years  and  in  the   past  one  year  it’s  heightened.  So  a   friend  suggested  that  I  did  some  reiki   sessions  to  ease  the  discomfort.  I  am   open  to  most  methods  of  healing  and   so  I  decided  to  give  it  a  shot.   So,  in  the  comfort  of  my  study,  on  my   sofa-­‐bed  meant  for  the  passing   traveller,  I  lay  down  while  she  started   the  reiki.  Halfway  through,  she  said   that  I  was  really  tense  and  I  should   really  take  it  easy  and  not  work  so   hard.  Laughingly,  I  said  “Hey,  this  is   Singapore.  No  such  thing  as  not    

stakeholders, whether  they  are  my   a  sign  of  sloppiness  and  disrespect   colleagues  or  external  customers.  I   believe  that  when  at  work,  we  are  the   for  the  stakeholders,  whether  they   organisation’s  ambassador  and  h ence,   are  my  colleagues  or  external   the  organisation’s  image  is  reflected  in   customers.”   how  the  people  present  themselves   and  h ow  the  environment  is   working  hard.”  And  then  she  said,   organised.  Surely  you  wouldn’t  dine  at   “You  are  a  perfectionist.  You  need  to   a  restaurant  where  the  tables  and   let  go  of  perfectionism.”  So  the   chairs  are  haphazardly  arranged  and   debate  started  (yes  in  the  midst  of   cutlery  strewn  all  over  and  where  the   treatment)  as  I  insisted  I  wasn’t  a   server’s  hair  is  falling  into  the  food?   perfectionist  but  a  professional.  We   left  it  that  but  the  thought  bugged  me   Being  a  perfectionist,  on  the  other   ever  since  and  so  I  thought  I’d  write   hand,  is  wanting  order  for  the  sake  of   about  it  today.   it;  wanting  to  control  even  when  there   is  no  need  for  control.  So  yes,  walk   Am  I  really  a  perfectionist  and  just  in   into  my  house  now  and  you’ll  see   denial?  Why  was  I  u pset  at  being   called  a  perfectionist?  Why  did  I  insist   laundry  from  last  week  on  the  couch   and  b ooks  on  the  antique  chair.   that  I  was  being  a  professional?  Why   Professional  I  am,  perfectionist  I  am   did  I  find  the  label  “professional”   more  acceptable  than  “perfectionist”.     not.  I  strive  for  perfection  in  my  work   because  I  respect  my  stakeholders   In  my  work,  and  this  has  been  true  for   and  they  deserve  the  best.   all  my  25  years  working,  I  place  high   emphasis  on  high  q uality  output.  Be  it   a  letter  or  email  that  is  sent  to   Rachpal  has  designed  an  online   someone,  be  it  getting  a  room  ready   coaching  programme  for   for  a  meeting  or  b e  it  wearing  an   women  in  transition.    For  a   FREE  CONSULTATION,  write  to   outfit  for  a  meeting.  Errors  and   her  at   untidiness  are,  to  me,  a  sign  of   more@oneasiacoach.com  or   sloppiness  and  disrespect  for  the     visit  her  website  at   www.oneasiacoach.com  

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spice up your life

interests/hobbies: This month’s  contribution  is  from   Satwant  Kaur,  who  is  also  going  to   be  contributing  regularly  to  the   food  and  drinks  feature.  Satwant   had  sent  me  a  few  pictures  to   accompany  the  recipes  she  had  sent   through  and  the  first  thing  that   struck  me  was  the  little  details  with   the  decoration.  Curious,  I  asked  if   she  had  put  up  the  decoration  just   for  the  magazine  and  her  reply   caught  me  by  surprise.         Satwant  told  me  that  decorating   her  home  was  something  she  just   enjoyed  doing.  “It's  my  passion,   hobby  and  I  just  love  to  decorate,   cook  for  family  and    friends  to   enjoy!”     How  exciting  her  house  must  be,  I   thought  to  myself  as  she  patiently   walked  me  through  the  pictures   and  h ow  she  gets  her  inspiration.     With  the  year-­‐end  festivities  fast   approaching,  perhaps  you  too  can   get  inspiration  start  some  little   projects  of  your  own  in  your  home.   And  when  you  d o,  please  share  it   with  us  at:   magazine@oneasiacoach.com    

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Make Anyday a Special Day As I  live  so  far  away  from  my  family,  I   put  pictures  of  them  around  the   house.  I  usually  like  to  place  flowers  as   they  symbolise  the  love  and  joy  we   have  as  family  even  though  we  are  so   far  away.  On  the  left  is  a  picture  of  my   late  father  when  he  was  much   younger.  

Special events  are  a  big  deal  in   my  household;  whether  it’s  the   Hawks  football  match  (on  the   left)  or  Chinese  New  Year   (above).  It  is  just  fun  to  do  up  the   house  and  give  it  a  different  look   every  month.  


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glitter and glam

fashion/beauty:

Sequinze Styling the Queen in You by Sharin Kaur

Sharin Kaur  is  not  one  who  gives  up  easily.  In  her  late  20s,  this  is  her  third   attempt  at  a  business.  She  got  married  two  years  ago  and  runs  a   successful  boutique  specialising  in  ethnic  Indian-­‐wear  that  are  is   affordable  and  modern.     Her  boutique,  Sequinze,  is  located  in  a  Singapore,  along  Selegie  Road  at   the  start  of  what  is  popularly  known  as  Little  India.   Here’s  how  you  can  get  in  touch  with  Sharin  to  find  out  more  about  her   design  range  and  how  you  can  make  online  purchases  or  visit  the   boutique  at  173  Selegie  Road,  Singapore  188329.     Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/sequinzebysharin/?fref=ts Email:    sharinkaur@hotmail.co.uk    

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So it’s  blind  courage  you  may  call  it  that  I  jumped   into  the  abyss  and  perhaps  with  a  little  bit  of  n aivety,   started  something  that  sadly,  didn’t  last.  Running  a   business  and  working  full-­‐time  was  no  easy  feat.  I   couldn’t  b e  at  the  shop  everyday  and  hence  I   couldn’t  b uild  the  business  strategy  as  I  really  d idn’t   know  what  was  happening  within  the  business.  So  I   bit  the  bullet,  cut  the  losses  and  walked  away  from   the  business.  I  lost  some  of  the  money  I’d  invested,   but  I  could  hold  my  head  up  high  and  say,  “I  tried.”   Two  years  ago,  I  got  married  and  a  few  months   before  the  wedding,  I  went  to  India  to  shop  for  my   wedding  trousseau,  something  most  Indian  brides  do   these  days.  But  what  I  didn’t  know  was  that  that  was   not  just  a  shopping  trip  –  it  was  a  trip  that  would   change  my  life.   Sharin  with  her  sisters  and  her  mother,   at  far  left.   After  finishing  school,  I  started  work  in  the   recruitment  industry;  recruiting  students  for   higher  education  for  the  many  private   education  institutes  in  Singapore.  It  was  a   fairly  demanding  and  exciting  job,  attending   fairs,  talking  to  students  and  the  occasional   travel  to  India  to  conduct  recruitment.  But   somewhere  deep  inside,  I  was  unsettled.   There  was  this  feeling  that  I  was  destined  to   do  more  and  there  was  an  adventure   waiting  for  me.  So  I  listened  to  that  inner   voice  and  while  still  working,  started  my  first   business  venture.  Yes,  you  heard  me  right,   first  –  which  suggests  that  I  didn’t  stop  at   one.  

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It was  a  time  that  the  women  in  Singapore   were  beginning  to  splurge  a  little  more  on   personal  grooming  and  I  thought  I  found  the   perfect  business,  a  nail  spa  in  Holland   Village.  Mind  you  this  was  my  very  first   business  and  I  don’t  come  from  a  family  of   business  people;  neither  my  M um  nor  my   Dad  were  running  businesses.  

Now, you  will  not  believe  me  when  I  say  that,   growing  up  and  up  until  I  got  married,  I  h ad   absolutely  no  interest  in  Indian  outfits.  I’d  wear   jeans  and  kurtis  to  the  temple  and  if  it  were  a  more   fancy  occasion,  I’d  borrow  outfits  from  my  sisters   and  aunts!  When  I  started  shopping  for  my  outfits,  I   was  just  fascinated  at  the  intricacy  of  the  thread  and   beadwork  on  the  outfits;  how  the  threads  were   finely  woven  into  the  fabric,  how  the  stones  were   carefully  chosen  by  size  and  colour  to  give  the  outfit   a  different  appeal.   As  I  learnt  about  each  outfit  and  how  it  was  created,   I  began  to  fall  in  love  with  the  process  –  each  outfit   had  a  special  story,  each  outfit  was  a  piece  of  art.   And  suddenly,  that  old,  unsettled  feeling  emerged   and  this  time  I  was  absolutely  certain,  I  had  found   my  passion.   When  I  came  back  to  Singapore,  I  decided  that  I   wanted  to  run  my  own  Indian  fashion  business.   Wedding  shopping  was  fun.  Designing  outfits,   creating  designs  –  it  was  FUN!  So  why  not?  Of   course,  the  well-­‐meaning  voices  started  to  speak,   “but  it’s  a  saturated  business,  there  are  so  many   other  shops  also  doing  Indian fashion  in  Little  India”  


and so  on.  But  I  had  one  motto,  “I  run  my  own  competition.”   Once  again,  I  plunged  into  the  abyss  as  I  had  no  other   knowledge  than  what  I  had  gained  while  shopping  for  my   trousseau.  

Alas, business  b egan  to  suffer.  With  two  shops,  it   meant  higher  overheads  and  also  managing  and   strategizing  for  each  shop  was  compromised.  I   couldn’t  focus  on  both  the  shops  and  once  again,   I  saw  my  business  wrap  u p.  You  cannot  imagine   the  disappointment  I  felt  and  my  confidence  was   shaken.  My  dream  was  to  have  a  third  shop  so   that  I  would  have  a  boutique  for  female  outfits,   another  for  male  outfits  and  another  for   jewellery.   But  I  reminded  myself  of  my  motto  “I  run  my   own  competition”  and  told  my  husband  that  I   wanted  to  give  it  one  more  shot.  In  May  2015,  I   took  a  floor  space  of  about  400  square  feet  and   started  my  boutique  Sequinze.  I  learnt  from  the   two  past  failures  and  decided  that  I  needed  to   run  this  business  d ifferently.     I  needed  to  have  discipline;  where  I  used  to  not   be  at  the  shop  all  the  time,  now  I’m  here  almost   8  hours  a  day,  except  Sundays  when  my  husband   and  I  have  our  time  together.  I  am  involved  in   choosing  the  outfits,  meeting  the  suppliers.  I   now  have  more  time  to  build  my  business.  Have   more  involvement  with  my  clients;   understanding  what  they  need,  helping  them   with  their  wedding  trousseau.  I  also  get  clients   to  help  me  with  their  designs,  educate  them  on   different  kind  of  fabrics,  matching  up  their   jewellery  with  the  outfit.  M y  clients  are  not  only   my  customers  but  part  of  the  whole  design  team   as  well  as  they  are  contributing  ideas  to  the  

Once again,  I  faced  a  setback.  I  had  started  one  boutique  and   in  a  few  months,  I  felt  the  shop  space  was  not  enough  to  hold  a   wide  collection  and  I  could  only  showcase  a  few  outfits.  So,   with  great  confidence,  I  started  a  second  shop  and  was  excited   that  my  business  was  expanding.  M y  aim  was  to  have  a  bigger   shop,  so  that  I  could  have  a  boutique  not  only  for  female   outfits  but  for  male  outfits  as  well  and  more  varieties  of   jewelleries.      

design of  their  own  outfit.   For  me  running  my  own  business  is  just  not  about  coming  to   boutique,  do  my  sales  and  close  the  boutique  at  9pm.  I  try  to   make  my  business  an  enjoyable  moment  everyday.  In  fact  I   make  more  friends  while  running  my  business.  I  have  always   enjoyed  each  and  every  moment  in  my  shop.   After  a  hectic  day  at  my  boutique,  I  bake  and  I  bring  the   goodies  to  the  shop  and  serve  my  customers.   I’ve  not  stopped  dreaming,  I’m  already  on  the  lookout  to   relocate  to  a  bigger  space.  My  n ext  step  is  working  towards  a   men’s  collection  and  indo-­‐western  dresses.  My  inspiration   for  creating  the  dresses  if  for  the  woman  who  just  wants  to   dress  up  for  the  night  –  the  fun  type  of  dress;  Friday  night,   Saturday  night,  cheerful  fun  d resses;  affordable  p ieces,  woth   thread-­‐work  and  mirror-­‐work.    

“I am  a  strong  woman,  even  if  I  feel  it  cannot   work,  I  will  still  try  until  results  are  proven.”    

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food and drink:

spice, dice and splash

Diwali Special the rebel chef: Hello. I  am,  Satwant  Kaur.  I’m  54-­‐years  old,  a  wife,  a  Mom  of  two  always-­‐hungry   teenagers.  Friends  always  ask  me  where  I  learnt  to  cook  so  well  and  I  say  that  I’m   self-­‐taught.  From  a  very  young  age,  about  9  or  10  years  old,  my  Mother  u sed  to   get  me  and  my  older  sister  to  help  with  food  p reparation.  We  were  eight   members  in  all  and  it  was  normal  for  the  older  girls  to  help  around  the  house.   Well,  my  older  sister  always  managed  to  magically  disappear  midway  through  the   chores  and  I  was  Mother’s  assistant  almost  all  the  time.  And  I  actually  enjoyed   those  moments  –  watching  Mother  prepare  the  ingredients,  how  she   meticulously  cooked  each  d ish  over  a  charcoal  stove  (yes  we  didn’t  have   electricity  or  gas  when  I  was  growing  up).  Over  time,  I  acquired  the  “taste”  for   cooking  –  I  learnt  to  adjust  the  dishes  just  based  on  taste  and  not  recipes,  just  like   my  Mother.  There  was  never  a  weighing  scale  or  measuring  spoons  in  the  house,   she  just  estimated  as  she  went  along.  To  this  day,  when  someone  asks  me  for  a   recipe,  I  struggle,  as  we’re  all  so  fixed  on  specifics  and  conformity.  So  when  it   comes  to  cooking,  I’m  a  rebel.     From  cooking  and  baking  over  a  charcoal  stove,  I  moved  to  the  gas  stove  and   electric  ovens  and  began  experimenting  with  different  types  of  cuisines.  Now   that’s  the  beauty  of  being  born  and  raised  in  Singapore,  a  food  paradise  with   Chinese,  Indian,  Malay  and  Peranakan  influence  and  from  other  parts  of  the   world.  Now  I  not  only  cook,  b ut  I’ve  also  become  a  food  photographer.       As  a  teenager,  I  began  cooking  for  the  family  most  weekends,  digging  into   magazines  cutting  out  recipes  and  later  on  saved  money  to  buy  my  first   Kenwood  Chef,  which  was  a  big  deal  back  in  the  1980s.  My  pride  and  joy.     I  now  reside  in  Washington,  USA  for  the  last  15  years  and  together  with  my   husband,  Bir,  we  run  an  Indian  Restaurant  h ere  in  S eattle,  where  we  serve  b oth   Indian  and  American  Cuisine.  There  are  recipes  from  my  restaurant,  my  home   kitchen  and  food  cravings  I  have  from  time  to  time,  that  will  b e  shared  each   month  in  this  column.  Hope  you  have  fun  trying  out  the  recipes  like  I  do.     Since  Diwali  “Festival  of  Lights”  falls  in  November  I  h ope  you  will  make  these   dishes  and  enjoy  with  your  family  and  friends.  Wishing  one  and  all  A  Very   Happy  Diwali  and  Blessings!  

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To enjoy  more  American  and   Indian  cuisine,  join  Satwant  and   Bir  at  their  flagship  restaurant  in   Woodinville,  the  wine  valley  of   Washington.     There’s  also  bar  music  and   karaoke  for  the  music  lovers.     Indian  Palace  Restaurant     13330  NE  175th  Street   Woodinville,  Seattle     WA  98072     Tel:  425  483  6888     www.indianpalacecuisine.com    


Panneer Bhaji  (Cottage  Cheese)   Ingredients:   600g  panneer  (cut  into  small  cubes)   1  medium  sized  tomato  (cut  to   wedges)   5  cloves  of  garlic  (crushed)   4  inches  of  ginger  (crushed)   2  onions  (sliced)   1  capsicum  (cut  to  wedges)   15  grams  garam  masala   1  teaspoon  turmeric   ½  teaspoon  cumin  seeds   2  green  cardamoms   1  teaspoon  red  chilli  powder   10  tablespoons  cooking  oil     1  tablespoon  ghee  or  butter   Salt  (adjust  to  your  taste)  

Method: • Heat  the  oil  and  ghee/butter  in  a   frying  pan  and  add  in  the  cumin   seeds  and  cardamom.  They  will   crackle  for  a  few  seconds.   • Add  in  the  crushed  garlic  and  ginger   and  stir  for  about  2  minutes.   • Add  the  onions  and  tomatoes  and   cook  till  the  onions  are  golden  brown   and  fragrant.   • Add  the  turmeric,  garam  masala,  salt   and  chilli  powder  and  cook  for  a  few   minutes  till  fragrant.   • Add  in  the  capsicum  and  panneer   and  sauté  for  30  seconds  and  then   cover  and  cook  for  5  minutes.  

Garnish and  Serving:   • I  love  to  garnish  it  with  some   chopped  coriander  and  sliced   green  chillies.     • Serves  4.   • As  this  is  a  dry  dish,  it  can  be   served  as  an  accompaniment   with  curries,  dhall  and  rice.   • On  its  own,  it  goes  best  with   chapattis  or  naans.  If  you  can’t   get  these,  you  can  always  use   the  wraps  sold  at  the   supermarkets.    

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Butter Chicken   Ingredients:   800g  boneless  chicken  (cut  into  3  cm   cubes.  Marinade  with  1  tablespoon  of   crushed  garlic,  1  tablespoon  of  chilli   powder,  salt,  and  1  tablespoon  garam   masala.  Leave  for  6  hours  then  grill   the  chicken  at  160  celsius  for  at  least   20  minutes  or  until  cooked.)   120  g  butter   150  ml  cream   3  tablespoons  garlic  paste   3  tablespoons  ginger  paste   2  cinnamon  sticks  (about  5  cm  long)   5  green  cardamoms   1  tablespoon  fenugreek  leaves  (dry)   1  tablespoon  red  chilli  powder   4  cups  chopped  tomatoes   ½  cup  water   Salt  taste  

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Method:   • Melt  half  the  butter  in  a  pot  and   sauté  the  cinnamon  and   cardamoms  for  a  few  seconds.   • Add  in  the  garlic  and  ginger  paste   and  cook  till  its  fragrant  and  light   golden  brown  colour.   • Add  the  tomatoes  and  red  chilli   powder  and  cook  till  the   tomatoes  are  all  a  n ice  slush  and   starting  to  thicken.   • Add  in  the  remaining  butter  and   cream  and  cook  for  about  5  to  7   minutes  until  the  ingredients  are   all  well  mixed.   • Add  in  the  saltand  fenugreek  and   cook  for  2  more  minutes  until  it  is   well  mixed.   • Add  the  chicken  cubes.  Simmer   over  low  heat  for  10  minutes.  

Garnish and  Serving:   • Fresh  coriander  leaves,  sliced   onions,  green  chillies  and   tomatoes  are  the  best  way  to   perk  up  these  dishes.   • Serves  4-­‐5.   • This  dish  goes  best  with  naan.   Of  course,  you  can  always   have  it  with  a  wrap  that  you   can  get  at  the  supermarkets.   But  I  like  mine  with  garlic   naan.   Vegetarian  option:   • If  you’re  a  vegetarian,  fret  not   as  you  can  replace  the  chicken   with  panneer  vegetable  koftas   (and  that  will  be  a  recipe  for   another  issue).  


Besan Ladoo   Besan  is  also  called  gramflour  or  chickpea  flour.  You  can  get  it  from  the  Indian  grocer.  

Ingredients: Method:   200g  of  besan   • Melt  the  butter/ghee  in  a  heavy   180g  unsalted  butter  or  ghee   bottomed  pan  over  low  to   30g  pistachios  (chopped  really  fine)   moderate  heat.  In  this  recipe,  the   30g  almonds  (chopped  really  fine)   heat  is  crucial  as  very  high  heat   Seeds  from  2  green  cardamoms   will  cause  the  ingredients  to   100g  sugar  (I’ve  only  tried  this  recipe   overcook  and  turn  bitter.   with  white  sugar.  I’m  sure  it’ss  turn   • Add  the  besan,  finely  chopped   out  fine  with  light  brown  sugar  too.)   nuts  and  cardamom  seeds  and     stir  for  about  5  –  7  minutes  to     cook  the  besan.     • Add  sugar  and  continue  cooking  it   for  another  10  to  15  minutes  until   the  mixture  thickens  and  turns  a   nice  golden  brown  and  has  a   shiny  sheen.   • Cool  slightly  and  then  shape  into   equal  size  balls.  You  should  easily   get  20  to  24  ladoos.    

Garnish and  serving:   • Garnish  with  almonds  and   pistachios.  I  was  fooling   around  and  there  were   popcorns  that  the  kids  were   eating  and  just  decided  to  add   them  for  some  fun.  Told  you   I’m  a  rebel.   •

Serves 4-­‐8  (because  one  or  2   per  person  is  n ever  enough)  

Variation: • You  can  use  other  nuts  like   walnuts  or  flaxseed.  

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Masala Cha(i)   In  my  family  we  say  Cha,  b ut  many  people  call  it  Chai.  Cha  or  Chai.  Whatever  that  pleases  you  but  nothing  beats  a   cuppa  at  the  end  of  a  hearty  meal  and  ladoos.  This  is  so  easy  to  make  that  my  12-­‐year  old  daughter  prepared  a  cup   for  me.   Ingredients:   2  tablespoons  of  strong  black  tea   4  green  cardamoms   5  cloves   2  cm  cinnamon   ¼  tsp  of  fennel  seeds   1½    cups  water   ½  cup  milk     Sugar  according  to  your  liking      

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Method: • Crush  the  spices  roughly  (this   is  just  to  release  the   fragrance)   • Put  the  water  to  boil  in  a  pot   • Put  in  the  tea  leaves  and   spices   • Once  it  starts  to  boil,  let  it  boil   for  another  2  minutes  and   then  add  the  milk.   • Bring  to  boil  and  b oil  for   another  1  minute  or  2.   • Add  sugar  if  you  like  it  sweet   and  enjoy  your  cuppa.  

Garnish and  Serving:   • To  make  it  look  a  little  more   interesting,  you  can  omit  the   cinnamon  in  the  boil  and  put  a   cinnamon  stick  as  a  stirrer.  The   heat  will  release  the  fragrance   into  the  tea.   • Serves  2   •    


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It’s Just 10 cents; I don’t need it. I remember  when  my  niece  Roshen  was  about  6  years  old  and  I  had  taken  her  out  for  the  day   and  given  her  $10  to  buy  whatever  she  wanted.  At  the  end  of  the  trip,  she  had  10-­‐cents  left   and  she  returned  it  to  me  saying,  “you  can  have  it  back  because  it’s  just  10  cents  and  I  don’t   need  it.”  Alarm  b ells  started  ringing  in  my  head  and  thankfully  we  were  in  a  taxi  so  I  kept  my   hysteria  to  a  bare  minimum.  There  and  then  I  gave  her  quick  financial  lesson  in  the  value  of  10   cents,  how  10  of  it  make  a  dollar  and  how  10  one-­‐dollar  coins  make  $10  and  so  on.     Why  am  I  writing  this?  Because  as  Suze  Orman’s  saying  above  goes,  the  conversation  you  have   with  your  child  about  money  will  form  their  values  and  beliefs  about  money.  So  instead  of   saying  10-­‐cents  cannot  buy  anything,  we  need  the  child  to  understand  that  a  few  10-­‐cents  put   together  is  worth  a  lot  and  many  10-­‐cents  coins  can  buy  many  more  things.   Also  n otice  what  your  conversations  are  at  home  about  money  –  is  it  about  thrift  or   spendthrift?  Are  you  always  talking  about  buying  things  or  how  you  can  cut  down  expenses?   Do  you  talk  to  your  child  about  how  things  are  purchased  and  how  money  grows?  So  every   time  you  lament  about  having  to  save,  remember  that  that’s  what  your  child  is  learning,  that   saving  is  a  chore.  Every  time  that  you  say,  “it’s  okay.  I’ll  buy  it  for  you”  even  when  finances  are   tight,  you  are  again  teaching  them  the  value  that  there  is  no  need  to  plan  or  be  responsible   with  your  money.   Perhaps  the  first  action  you  want  to  have  is  start  a  10-­‐cents  jar  and  watch  it  fill  up.  Drop  all   your  10-­‐cents  at  the  end  of  the  day  and  let  your  child  watch  the  money  grow!  

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health and fitness: We all have to START somewhere By Emma Blake

Hands up  who,   while   watching   a  weight  loss   TV   show,   has   said   to   themselves   “Right   I   need   to   lose  weight  and  I  need  to  lose  it  RIGHT  NOW.  I   will   start   on   Monday   and   train   hard   and   eat   healthy  every  day?”  I  know  I  have.   Everywhere   we   turn,   society   is   telling   us   how   we   should   look   and   what   size   or   aesthetic   we   should  be.  Who   is   society  to  judge   us  on   what   we   look   like   and   how   much   we   should   weigh?   Society  d oesn’t  know  us  or  our  story,  do  they?   Yes  it  is  great  for  us  to  be  healthy  and  live  our   lives   to   full   vitality   and   I   encourage   all   my   clients   to   make changes   for   a   healthier   lifestyle.    

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We all   have   to   start   somewhere   and   more   often  than  not  a lot  of  people  don’t  really  know   where  or  how  to  start.  

avoid injury: When starting  any  form  of  exercise  program   after  a  long  p eriod  of  no  exercise  you,  need  to   take  things  slow  and  start  with  simple  exercises   and  light  resistance  training.  Going  “gung  h o”   straight  off  the  mark  with  2  hour  daily  training   sessions  6  days  a  week  because  you  want  to   lose  weight  quickly  can  actually  be  quite   dangerous  and  stressful  on  your  joints  and   ligaments  as    your muscles  have  more  than   likely  become  weaker  due  to  you  not  exercising   and  this  can cause  serious  injuries.      


Let’s face  it,  we  didn’t  go  to  sleep  and   wake  up  the  next  morning  10,  20,  50kg   heavier  so  we  will  definitely  not  lose  it   overnight  either.  There  is  no  quick  fix  to   losing  weight.     I  have  had  many  battles  within  myself   since  I  was  a  teenager;  society  and  people   around  me  judged  me  for  the  way  I  looked   on  the  outside.  I  was  always  trying  to   please  everyone  else  and  when  I  failed               I  would  punish  myself  by  over  eating,   eating  the  wrong  foods  and  not   exercising.  Then  the  weight  would  pile   back  on  and  I  would  be  back  to  square   one  and  the  cycle  repeated.  

“Being healthy  starts  from  the   inside.  We  must  first  have  a   healthy  mind  to  build  a  healthy   body  and  create  a  healthy  soul.”   “somewhere” is the self: That  “somewhere”  that  we  all  have  to   start  with  is  with  OURSELVES.  We  need  to   change  our  behaviour  and  our  way  of   thinking.  We  all  deserve  to  live  happy,   healthy  lifestyles  but  it’s  up  to  us  to  make   those  changes,  break  those  bad  h abits  and   feel  good  about  ourselves.  Don’t  let   society  convince  you  that  you  need  to   look  a  certain  way  or  be  a  certain  size  to   be  accepted.  No  one  has  the  right  to  judge   us  but  ourselves.   One  rule  I  have  learnt  over  the  years,  have   followed  myself  and  coach  my  clients   about  is  when  making  changes  for  a   healthier  lifestyle  whether  it’s  to  lose   weight,  tone  up  or  increasing  your  fitness,   it  has  to  b e  because  YOU  WANT  TO.    

What a  difference  35kgs  m ake.  

It took   Emma   Blake   2.5yrs   to   lose   35kg   and   it   all   started   with   changing   bad   habits   to   good   habits,   changing   her   way   of   thinking   and   seeing   things   to   be   more   positive   and   fuelling   her   body   with   real   whole   foods  and  finding  a  type  of  exercise  that  she  enjoyed.   Emma  Blake,  is  a  personal  trainer  and  wellness  coach   whose  aim  is  to  work  with  h er  clients  to  overcome   their  struggles  when  it  comes  to  living  a  healthy   lifestyle.  She  is  a  single  mum  of  a  15-­‐year  old  daughter   and  sporty  9  –year  old  son.   If  you  want  to  work  with  Emma  on  your  weight-­‐loss  or   wellness,  you  can  contact  her  at:   Facebook  link:  https://www.facebook.com/Body-­‐Mind-­‐ Soul-­‐Wellness-­‐628900180585733/  

Website:  Under  Construction     Email:  em@bodymindsoulwellness.com.au     Instagram:  https://instagram.com/bodymindsoulwellness/    

Twitter: https://twitter.com/soul_wellness    

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Sometimes the best things are unplanned.. A common  lament  I  hear  from  my  friends,  family  and  associates  is  “there  isn’t  enough  time”  or  “I  missed  that   show,  I  was  so  busy  with….”.  And  I’m  sure  many  of  you  reading  this  article  can  relate  to  that;  missing  out  on   the  art  exhibition,  the  musical,  the  charity  drive  or  the  farmer’s  market.  You  mark  them  on  your  calendar,   you’re  all  excited  to  go,  you  talk  to  everyone  about  it  and  everyone  is  so  excited  and  then,  life  gets  In  the   way.  Perhaps  it’s  something  at  work  or  school  or  the  family  –  something  gets  in  the  way.  The  day  of  the  event   comes  and  you  know  you  are  not  going  to  make  it  and  the  day  passes,  just  like  any  other.  A  slight  tinge  of   regret  and  disappointment  but  you  console  yourself,  “there  will  be  another  time.”     I  have  summed  up  much  of  what’s  been  happening  to  me  this  p ast  few  years  until  last  weekend  I  decided  my   life  is  not  just  about  work  and  regrets.  There  was  a  night  art  festival  by  the  Singapore  River  and  though  I  had   work  on  Saturday  and  Sunday,  I  d ecided  that  I  would  still  go  for  the  show  on  the  Saturday  night.  I  didn’t  have   to  stay  out  late,  but  I  will  go.  And  I  mentioned  it  to  a  few  family  members  and  unplanned  as  it  was,  we  all   agreed  to  meet  by  the  river  and  enjoyed  the  evening  watching  the  performances.  I  learnt  to  let  go  of  control   and  to  just  be  in  the  moment  and  enjoy  the  moment.  So  let  go  of  organisation  my  friends.  Unplan  your  life.  

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I  look  away  from  the  email.  I  click  onto  my  calendar.  Finger  slowly  scrolls  the  days,  the  weeks  and  the  next   few  months.  And  then  I  remember  I  have  papers  to  mark.  A  few  hours  go  b y  and  again,  the  fingers  slowly   scroll  the  calendar;  looking,  searching  for  that  window,  for  that  few  d ays  break.  I’m  looking  to  escape,  to   run  away  to  some  faraway  land;  sit  atop  a  mountain  and  watch  the  sunrise  and  the  sunset;  sip  pina  coladas   on  the  beach;  feel  the  soft  sand  on  my  feet  and  the  breeze  gently  blowing  on  my  face  as  the  tiny  fish  swim   around  my  feet.     I  long  for  that  getaway;  I  feel  recharged  and  energised  after  each  trip.  I  get  bored  of  my  daily  routine.  And   it’s  not  just  me.  I  see  dull  faces  trudging  to  work  every  day;  faces  burdened  with  worry  and  bodies  fatigued.   I  can  almost  read  in  the  faces  that  they  too  are  looking  through  their  calendar  for  that  quick  escape.  If  only   I  could  change  my  h ome  every  few  months.  If  only  I  could  move  from  one  country  to  another.  Once  again  I   feel  that  surge  of  emotions  but  this  time  it’s  excitement  at  the  new  possibilities.  And  then  it  hit  me  that   perhaps,  we  weren’t  destined  to  live  in  one  p lace.  Perhaps  we  are  nomads  after  all.      


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Q & A: Q

Cheryl sent  me  this  p roblem  that  she’s  facing  at  work.  She  feels   that  a  senior  colleague  is  biased  against  her  and  has  taken  away  a   few  of  her  big  projects  and  assigned  them  to  other  colleagues.   She  wasn’t  consulted  nor  informed  of  this  and  found  out  only  by   chance  when  she  wanted  to  follow  up  with  the  stake-­‐holders  and   was  informed  that  another  colleague  was  already  working  on  it.   She’s  upset  and  doesn’t  know  what  to  do.      

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Unfortunately biases  at  the  workplace  still  exist  whether  it  is  due  to  gender,   race,  religion,  seniority  or  generational  differences.  It  is  natural  to  feel  angry   and  p owerless  in  times  like  this.  Here  is  what  Cheryl  can  do:   • Cheryl  needs  to  speak  with  this  senior  colleague  to  find  out  the  reasons   for  the  reassignment  of  projects.   • Cheryl  needs  to  prepare  questions  for  clarification  ahead  of  the  meeting   such  as:  what  is  the  criteria  for  allocation  of  projects;  how  is  employee’s   performance  measured  and  how  do  employee’s  get  feedback.   • The  strategy  proposed  here  is  to  STAY  WITH  THE  FACTS.  People  often  get   distracted  by  emotions  and  their  own  stories  that  the  conversation  turns   to  accusations.   • Staying  with  the  facts  also  allows  b oth  p arties  to  not  deviate  form  the   problem  at  hand  and  identify  gaps  and  work  on  any  gaps  in  the  system.   • Of  course,  if  the  matter  has  to  be  escalated  to  another  level,  it  is  easier  if   there  were  facts  rather  than  mere  opinions.     • In  summary,  plan  what  you  going  to  say  and  stay  with  the  facts.     If  you  have  a  question    on  a  life   or  work  transition  ,  write  to  us  at   magazine@oneasiacoach.com   and  we  will  feature  your   questions  and  reply  on  this  page.  

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‌I specialise in Transitional Transformation Coaching for women in transition; to smoothen the transition period, to give clarity and equip you with skills to move effortlessly to the next phase. My coaching philosophy is to take you from being a blunt tool to the sharpest tool in the shed‌ Rachpal Kaur Tulsi

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