Laura and Adamʼs Wedding May 21st, 2011 Fireseed Catering Gardens Whidbey Island, WA (MUSIC) Paul starts “Somewhere Over The Rainbow” from iPod as Adam walks to alter. Best man (Travis) and mother of the groom start walking down isle, followed by Lauraʼs brother (Chris), and mother of the bride. Song finishes. Nick and Meagan perform “Young at Heart” as Laura walks down the isle with her father. WELCOME Nick: What a wonderful day for a wedding! Welcome one and all to this beautiful sanctuary on Whidbey Island, a short ferry ride from reality, nestled on the strident blue waters of Puget Sound, the region Laura and Adam have chosen for their home. On behalf of Laura and Adam, their parents, families, and the wedding party next to me, I welcome you. My name is Nick Drummond and I am honored to be here to help usher two of my very best friends into the next stage of their lives. Many of you have traveled from far away to be here to witness this celebration - we thank you for taking the time and the trouble to join us. There are also those who could not join us today, but are here in spirit. We welcome them too. Thank you, to all who have come. (pause) As a small point of housekeeping, in the event of the Rapture, please move forward and fill the empty seats in front of you. (pause)
We are here today for formality and the sanctity of ceremony, but really and truly, this is no less than a celebration of the highest order. Laura and Adam have found their place in the world, and we all share in the delight of being a part of it. These two view this marriage, not only as something between the two of them, but also as something in which all of us are participants. In that spirit, we are going to pass around the wedding rings for everyone to see during the ceremony. Please pass them on to the next person so they end up in the front row over here. (pause) When Laura and Adam asked me to fill this role, I was at first speechless and then sleepless, as this is neither my profession nor my hobby. It is however, a great honor. Laura and Adam have brought much joy and laughter into my life, and it is an immense privilege to get to witness them take this great leap in their union. They are two of the most generous people I know. There is a feeling - or a thought - I know most of us have had upon meeting these two, whether it was years ago or months ago.... One very quickly comes to love all that is so good about both of them. Perhaps, like me, you said to yourself “Oh I HOPE they stay together... but if they donʼt, we must find a way to keep them both as friends!” Well, I have some wonderful news for you! They will have each other, and we all get to keep them as friends! Laura and Adam have invited a couple people who are dear to them to share some poems with us today. First Iʼd like to introduce Lauraʼs brother, Jordan, who will be reading the poem Tin Wedding Whistle by Ogden Nash.
Jordan: Though you know it anyhow Listen to me, darling, now, Proving what I need not prove How I know I love you, love. Near and far, near and far, I am happy where you are; Likewise I have never larnt How to be it where you aren't. Far and wide, far and wide, I can walk with you beside; Furthermore, I tell you what, I sit and sulk where you are not. Visitors remark my frown Where you're upstairs and I am down, Yes, and I'm afraid I pout When I'm indoors and you are out; But how contentedly I view Any room containing you. In fact I care not where you be, Just as long as it's with me. In all your absences I glimpse Fire and flood and trolls and imps. When with friends to bridge you drive I never know if you're alive, And when you linger late in shops I long to telephone the cops. Yet how worth the waiting for, To see you coming through the door. Somehow, I can be complacent Never but with you adjacent. Near and far, near and far, I am happy where you are; Likewise I have never larnt How to be it where you aren't. Then grudge me not my fond endeavor, To hold you in my sight forever; Let none, not even you, disparage Such a valid reason for a marriage. 3
Nick: Thank you Jordan. That was wonderful. TRANSITION I first met Laura almost three years ago while stopping by the coffee shop where both she and my girlfriend Meagan worked. I was instantly disarmed by her razor-sharp wit, her genuine warmth, and her ability to say what needed to be said. “You could use a haircut,” she said. A couple hours later, Meagan and I emerged from the Greenwood Academy of Hair. My head was transformed, my face hurt from laughing, and I knew I had just met someone special. Not long after, I met Adam, and was instantly charmed by tails of world travel, incisive comments about music and the people who make it, and his quiver full of Commonwealth accents that are never more than half a beer from bubbling to the surface. Since that time our friendships have matured and weʼve all grown closer. And it has become clear to me, as it has for many who have come to know and love these two remarkable people... some things just make sense. You two are truly fortunate to have found each other. You are here to marry your best friend and you have a long time ahead of you to enjoy it. Nick: And now Travis, Adamʼs brother and Best Man will read a poem entitled “To Love Is Not To Possess” by James Kavanaugh
Travis: To Love is Not to Possess To love is not to possess, To own or imprison, Nor to lose one's self in another. Love is to join and separate, To walk alone and together, To find a laughing freedom That lonely isolation does not permit. It is finally to be able To be who we really are No longer clinging in childish dependency Nor docilely living separate lives in silence, It is to be perfectly one's self And perfectly joined in permanent commitment To another--and to one's inner self. Love only endures when it moves like waves, Receding and returning gently or passionately, Or moving lovingly like the tide In the moon's own predictable harmony, Because finally, despite a child's scars Or an adult's deepest wounds, They are openly free to be Who they really are--and always secretly were, In the very core of their being Where true and lasting love can alone abide.
Nick: Thank you Travis. VOWS Nick: Today we are here to mark the marriage of Laura and Adam, to recognize their commitment to each other, and their desire to entwine their individual and unique lives within one union. Now Laura and Adam are going to share the vows they wrote together. They have also chosen to each start with a sentiment that the other has not yet heard. As every relationship is unique to those in it, these vows reflect the promises of marriage in their unique way. ADAM AND LAURA VOWS Adam: Laura, it may have taken us almost 6 years to get to this day, but it seems like only a week. Much as a vacation seems to fly by as soon as it begins, our relationship moves at the speed of a most splendid holiday, full of surprise, laughter, and just a touch of jet lag. This has been the greatest path I have traveled, because it has crossed your own, and will only be surpassed by the trails ahead, yet to be discovered. I will walk this path with you even after my legs refuse, and my sight grows dim. We shall never journey this road alone. I, Adam, take you, Laura, to be my wife, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the woman you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever our life may bring us. I will look with joy down the path of our tomorrow始s, knowing we will walk it together. Side by side, hand in hand. Laura: Adam, you are my Emerald City. You are the one I seek when I am a scarecrow in search of a brain. Like the time I couldn't remember how to say taco in Spanish. And you so 6
sweetly and gently said "You just say taco." Yours is also the brain that reminds me to always turn off the breaker before doing home electrical projects. You are the one I seek when I am a cowardly lion in search of some courage. You helped we muster up the courage to not only go to beauty school, but to finish, get my license, and find work. And I look forward to you helping me find the courage to go scuba diving in Thailand, where there are lions and tigers and bears oh my. You are the one I seek when I am a Tin Man in search of a heart. Whether it be my own heart or yours, you always seem to find them both and open them effortlessly. Your warm kiss on my forehead reminds me my heart sits so near the surface of my chest. And Adam, you are the one I seek when I am Dorothy and I want to go home. You are it. When our apartment flooded you were on tour in Europe, I was without a house, but I was never without a home, for when you landed back in Seattle and wrapped me in your embrace I was home. I, Laura, take you, Adam, my greatest friend, to be my husband, loving what I know of you, (that you like yellow ties, and hate delicious pickles), and trusting what I do not yet know, like whether you'll always have that great head of hair. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together as we learn new things and teach them to one another. I greatly look forward to getting to know the man you will become, and falling in love a little more with you every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever our life may bring us; be it floods, leaks or mold. I will look with joy down the path of our tomorrow始s, knowing no matter what, we will walk it together. Side by side, hand in hand. Playing tag your it all the way. COMMUNITY VOWS Nick: Weddings are joyous and beautiful occasions, and are fun to attend, or crash. The food is delicious, the drink generous, the love infectious, and the dancing righteous. However there are responsibilities shared by all of us here today, even you, that extend beyond the toaster you brought, and the kiss you place on the bride. By being here today, and 7
witnessing the promises Laura and Adam are making to each other, we are, all of us, making a promise to them. IF YOU PROMISE to be there for Laura and Adam, to open your hearts and your homes to them, and to support them in their journey together, I invite you stand. What a great community you are a part of! So I ask you now for your vows, as the community that knows and loves these two wonderful people that stand before you. If you agree to the following, please shout “WE DO!!” Do you, Laura and Adamʼs closest friends and family, grant your blessing, love and acceptance and promise to support this marriage?
“WE DO!” That was okay, but this time, letʼs shout it out so it rings out past the fingers of this beautiful Island. Do you promise to support them through their most difficult times, and to honor the love they share?
“WE DO!” Do you promise to celebrate them tonight, eat delicious food, and drink lots of wine?
“WE DO!” Do you promise to dance your little butts off?
“WE DO!” 8
Excellent. I invite you to return to your seats. RINGS Nick: At last itʼs time to exchange the rings. By now everyone should have had a chance to see them. These rings represent the bond that Laura and Adam share with each other, and by passing through all of your hands, they also represent the bond that they share with all of you. These rings come from ring makers in Seattle, and as you noticed, parts of the bands are smooth and parts of the bands are rough. This serves to remind them that their marriage together will not always feel the same, and there will be both rough seas and smooth sailing. So with that, Lauraʼs brother Ryan will give the first ring to Adam…….. and Adam will repeat after me: Nick to Adam: Adam : Nick to Laura: Laura :
Laura, with this ring, I thee wed.” Laura, with this ring, I thee wed. And now Laura: Adam, with this ring, I thee wed. Adam, with this ring, I thee wed.
CEREMONY OF HANDS Nick: (To Laura and Adam) Ok you two, please join your hands. They look different now! These are the hands of your best friend and partner that are holding yours on your wedding day. These are the hands that will paint many pictures together These are the hands that will row many canoes and explore many tide pools. These are the hands that will hold you and comfort you in times of sadness and grief. May these hands help to heal you when you are sick. May these hands lift you up to celebrate your achievements May these hands cook countless meals together. 9
May these hands encircle old friends and reach out to new friends. May these hands always reach for each other, and share their loving touch long beyond when they始re wrinkled with age. (pause)
WORDS OF CELEBRATION Nick: (to Laura and Adam) We rejoice this day in the marriage of this lovely couple, Laura and Adam. We celebrate the love which has brought you both to this day. With joy that deepens through many years, may you now know its meaning and its mystery - how you become truly one in caring for one another, and yet, in love, remain truly two in your uniqueness. May your house be a place of happiness for all who enter it, a place where the old and the young are renewed in each other's company, a place for growing, a place for music, and a place for laughter. And when shadows and darkness fall within its rooms, may it still be a place of hope and strength for all who enter it, especially for those who are entrusted to your care. May no person be alien to your compassion May your larger family be the family of all human kind. And may those who are nearest to you and dearest to you be constantly enriched by the beauty and the bounty of your love for one another.
KISS AND CLOSING THOUGHTS
So, Laura, Adam, it is time. All these smiling and teary faces have come here to this magnificent sanctuary on this beautiful island, in our small beautiful part of the world, to welcome you into the next chapter of your lives. You have heard words of encouragement and celebration. You have made your vows, exchanged your rings and you have the loving approval of everyone present. There is only one thing left for me to do: With the power vested in me, by our dear friendship, the love and support of all those here, and the knowledge that the world is a much better place for it being said, I now pronounce you Husband and Wife. Laura, you may kiss your groom. Laura and Adam kiss Ladies and gentlemen, I present to you, Mr. and Mrs. Holloway!!
(MUSIC) Paul starts iPod track â€œJackson.â€? Laura and Adam walk out. (MUSIC) fade for announcement: Nick: The Bride and Groom will be taking pictures with parents and grandparents, and then they will join us a bit later. There are appetizers and drinks to be found behind you at the bar. Dinner will start at 5:00 in the barn. (MUSIC) fade BACK IN. MUSIC PLAYLIST: WEDDING WALKOUT (HOUSE SYSTEM)