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Taking the Bite Bite out of what, you might ask? Well, I have been asking myself that same question for the past couple of months and the answer is, to be quite frank, a little bite out of everything. As a mom of four young girls, I have always wanted to know anything and everything kid and family related (and I think I am not the only parent that attempts to do this!). I constantly search for the latest and greatest when it comes to advice, shopping, play, toys-- you name it. This was the motor that kicked Active Kids into gear. Starting February, we entered our transition from a directory style publication to an oh-so-fabulous, editorial-style resource guide. We’re still providing parents information to their local play spaces, pediatricians, and toy stores but now offering just a bit more. And more is the key word here. From February on we have been constantly thinking of new ways to give East Bay parents all the resources at their fingertips (and yes, I mean all). So here’s what’s new this month:

Get Your Calendar Set: Starting March, we have added an events calendar for East Bay parents to be used as a quick reference guide. We wanted to do the grunt work for you, so instead of spending hours researching and planning your week, you can simply reference our calendar for those oh-so-special day trips, an afternoon play opportunity, or even a local story time. It’s all there for you: quick and easy.

Get Advice and Know-how: We have also included a ‘Working Moms’ piece. What better way to give mothers advice and motivation than reading another mom’s personal story? We hope these will encourage other mamas to reach high and stay strong during the most unbearable, (we’ve all been there!) and rewarding moments.

Get Connected: In addition, we are now reaching out through multiple social media outlets, including facebook and most recently Twitter (yes, we’re tweeting). We want to make sure East Bay mamas know about publication happenings and of course get the updates on the latest kids services (and discounts!). Not to mention, our monthly giveaways. Last month we provided two happy moms with products from Boon Inc. and tutoring sessions from Empower Academic Services in San Ramon. We enjoy free things and think other moms do too. Sincerely,

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CONTENTS

Swim Schools/Facilities

Academic Service Provider/Tutoring

Zoos/Animals

Empower.................................22

American Swim Academy............13

letter from editor.............2 Features

products we love.........................31 got baby? want sleep......................12 raising money smart kids................20 Understanding your child’s unique style..21 dealing with sibling rivalry........28 & 29 Raising Kids Who Care……….............7 Working Moms Interview……........….14 Balancing Your Family, Career & Yourself………..................…34 & 35 Calendar of Events…….............36 & 37

Hospitals

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Children’s Play Structures Backyard Factory/Rainbow Play.........16

Children’s Clothing Boutiques

Stork’s Nest...............................27 Savvy Seconds.............................33

Oakland Zoo ..................32 & 33

Birthday Party Places

Maternity StorE

Super Franks.............................19 Studio Grow..............................32 Play Café..................................17 Danville Bowl ............................33 parti palooza ............................38 your stage toys .........................17

Stork’s Nest.........................27 savvy seconds........................33

Mommy Jewelry

Hayjac Designs.......................10

Insurance Services

Darci Gutierrez .....................17

Custom Keepsakes

Children’s Paw Prints..............10

Educational Play Studio Grow.........................32 Play Café..............................17 Super Franks.........................19 parti palooza ........................38

Bowling Alleys

Danville Bowl .......................33

Learning materials for children

Childcare Little People Child Care Services.......27 TOT drop.................................25

Family-Friendly Restaurants Eddie Papa’s..............................13

Toy Stores Your Stage Toys.........................17 Golden Apple Learning Store............9

ATTORNEY SERVICES/TRUSTS & WILLS H. Alan Huovinen........................32 Shirley White Law........................8

Golden Apple Learning Store........9

Chef Services/Catering

Women’s Clothing Boutiques

3D/4D Ultrasound

Chef Dan Leff.............................38 events by wallace .......................26

transportation for children

Equestrian/Riding Lessons

Photographers

Erica Rae’s.................................23 Savvy Seconds.............................33

Paula Walsh Photography……........…8 Essence of the Soul Photography........26 Lani Allen Photography...................24

Consignment Stores

adorable baby........................17

Horizons East Equestrian...............38

diablo kids chauffeur ..............30

shopping destination

Blackhawk plaza ....................39

hair cuts for kids

Savvy Seconds..............................33

cool tops .............................9

Dentistry for Kids and Teens

Salon/Spa Services

Music Classes

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Spanish Classes for Kids

martial arts

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Nanny Agencies

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Pilates studio IM=x ......................................25

Life Coaching PreSchool

business opportunity for moms/spa products piano lessons

events by wallace.........................26

Everyday Leader ...........................8

Danville Pediatric Dentistry .............23 Amador Dental & orthodontic ...........10 general Dentistry for children ..........15

MU SALON .............................24

Music Together.............................6 Lynda McManus Piano Co.................26

Event Planning

The Quarry Lane School ……............9

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Events

Celebrate Mama………..........……..11

House Cleaning Services

Mina’s House Cleaning..................26

Charities/Non-Profit

OaklaND ZOO.......................32 & 33 The Taylor Family........................18

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Raising Kids Who Care

Tip #1 Ask Questions by Gail Perry Johnston

If you want to raise kids who care—about others, themselves, and their world—it goes without saying that they need to be recipients of your good care when they are young. The first tip in this new column suggests a simple way to lavish your kids with care: ask questions. You see, one of the best ways to show you care about people is to ask them questions about their lives, and kids are, after all, little people. The goal is to engage your child, show you care, and teach him or her how to be relational. Sometimes parents ask the same questions over and over, fail to adequately engage their child, and teach diddly-squat about how to enjoy a vibrant relationship. I suggest that you avoid vague questions like, “How was school today?” and ask something more specific like, “What did you do at recess?” My boy is now a teenager and he still comes alive with that question. Avoid any form of interrogation as well. After you ask your thoughtful question, give your child time to answer before you rattle off ten more. Speaking of time, take advantage of those moments in the day when a child is more apt to share. According to Dr. James Dobson, that would be first thing in the morning, right after school, and bedtime. One question that is worth repeating is, “What was your ‘high’ of the day?” This is part of the “High/Low Game,” and as soon as your kids can talk, you’ll want to play it at dinner time. Go around the table, asking each person what the best part of their day was. Then, go around again, asking what their “low” was. Make sure Dad participates too. There is no shortage of lessons that can be learned from this game when everyone plays. Lastly, every now and then, choose a meaty question—one that communicates your values and gets your kids thinking. When my daughter was just three, it appeared to me, for reasons I will not disclose, that I needed to teach her what it means to be nice. I did my best, then followed up by occasionally asking, “How were you nice to someone today?” Five years later, when I overheard a boy say that my daughter was the nicest girl in the class, I beamed. There’s a children’s book called, Have You Filled a Bucket Today? The concept is that everyone has an invisible bucket that can be filled or emptied based on what you do for them. A hello, smile, and a kind word would fill someone’s bucket, for example. Once the analogy is understood, the question really is an excellent one. Ask “Have you filled a bucket today?” and watch your kids become more aware of their impact on others and a whole lot more caring. Read TIP #2 of Raising Kids Who Care in the next issue of ACTIVE KIDS! Gail Perry Johnston is the author of The Social Cause Diet and The Wish & The Wonder: Words of Wisdom for Expectant Parents. www.gailperryjohnston.com


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Got Baby? Want Sleep? Part II

by Karen Pollack - Founder, Babies2Sleep

“There was never a child so lovely but his mother was glad to get him to sleep” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

In last month’s issue of Active Kids we examined the first five important tools parents should implement when helping their baby or toddler improve the quality and duration of sleep. This month we will explore the other five critical elements. When assessing your child, consider the following questions: 6 Am I putting my baby down drowsy, but awake?

By three months, help your baby begin to go down drowsy but awake. Becoming aware of the sensation of ‘falling asleep’ helps baby get himself back to sleep when waking in the middle of a nap or at night.

7 Does my baby have self-soothing skills?

Does your baby have a ‘lovey’? Is it incorporated into her sleep routine? Most babies will bond with an object if used consistently. When holding or feeding your baby, keep the object between you and she so that she begins to feel a comfort connection. When going to sleep she’ll have a ‘part of you’ next to her. Consult your pediatrician and ask at what age it’s appropriate for baby to sleep with a lovey.

8 Are there environmental impediments in your baby’s nursery?

Is baby’s room dark enough? Is the temperature safe and comfortable? Is there stimulating decor? An ideal room environment can aid restful sleep.

9 Do I have a regular nap and night routine for my baby?

Babies thrive on routine, so make sure to deliver consistent nap and night routines to your baby in her nursery to ‘tell’ her it’s time for sleep. Make sure the elements promote relaxation, avoiding ones that will stimulate your child. Is my baby’s sleep a priority? Parents who experience the greatest success with improving their baby’s sleep are the ones who consistently make sleep a priority. Babies require proper nourishment and adequate daytime sleep to ensure they go down come nightfall. By implementing the suggestions from last month and those above, you and your baby will be well on the way to a good night’s rest. It may be a challenge you never anticipated, but when done right, a good night’s sleep is but a few winks away.

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We welcome your sleep questions! Each month Karen will address a specific concern from our readers. If you would like to ask her a question related to your baby’s sleep, email her at Info@babies2sleep.com. One question each month will be chosen. Karen Pollak is the founder of babies2sleep, a baby sleep coaching service. Please visit her website at www.babies2sleep.com for more information or to learn about her upcoming speaking engagements in your community and throughout the country.


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Working moms are constantly encountering daily hurdles. For a lot of new moms, the question of whether or not to continue with the 9 to 5 becomes an issue once you throw the little ones into the equation. Is it possible to juggle family responsibilities while maintaining a full-time job? Danville mom, Sasha Nichols, has a different approach. Nichols launched Bow Bijou in March of 2009 after her hobby of making bows for her two daughters, Ella, 3, and Lia, 5, took off. ‘The ultimate non-slip hair clip’ was created after Nichols had little success finding bows that were out of the ordinary, or that would just stay put. “The stores only had the standard bows, and I wanted something different,” says Nichols. What initially began as a hobby, quickly turned into a stack of over 500 orders at her launch party. Just one year later, her clips have attracted multiple celebrity customers including Denise Richards, Courtney Cox, and Jennifer Garner and have been featured on CBS and Celebrity Baby Scoop, to name a few. When asked if she has a hard time juggling the kids and her home-based business, the simple answer was ‘no’. Nichols finds ways to incorporate her girls when it comes time to make the bows. “It’s everybody’s creative time,” says Nichols. “I get the girls right up next to me so they can color, draw, or paint.” And the girls create their own bows, too. They suggest different colors and patterns and even have their own selections on Bow Bijou’s website: one titled, ‘Lovely Lia’ and the other, ‘Elegant Ella’. Nichols says, “Being at home with the kids has definitely been the most rewarding. And not having to go to an office!”

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Understanding Your Child’s Unique Style by Rona Renner, RN

Is your child growing up to be very different than you expected? Do you sometimes wonder where your daughter learned to be so outspoken and strong willed, or your son so quiet and reserved? Understanding temperament can help you step back and see a child’s unique style more clearly. “Temperament” is a person’s first and most natural way of responding. It’s the way we move in the world. Just as some children are born with curly hair and others with straight hair, some children are high energy right from birth and may want to run and jump non-stop, while other babies are happy to play quietly with their toys while you make dinner. Children come into the world with a style all their own. There are many factors that influence your child’s behavior, like your parenting style, their environment, siblings, and friends…but temperament is a key part of the equation. There are no good or bad temperaments, but some children are more challenging than others. So much depends on your temperament, and how well you and your child “fit” with each other. For example: Your high-energy daughter may want you to practice soccer with her when she wakes up, but you may have lower energy and want to sit and read the paper or sleep in. Her high energy might bother you, even though it’s normal for her. Your son may be slow to warm up and sensitive to new places and people, so when you go to a friend’s house he may want to sit on your lap. Just because you’re outgoing, doesn’t mean that he will be. Give him time to get comfortable, and then he’s bound to venture out and play with the other children. You might be intense in your reactions, and yell, just like your parents did. Your child might be low in intensity and sensitive to loud noise. When you yell, he may cry easily. Do your best to lower your voice and talk to him after you’ve calmed down. On the other hand, you may have a child who is loud and reactive. If so, take 3 deep breaths before responding. A yelling match always ends with everyone feeling bad. Some parents are fast adapting and impatient with a child who’s slow to get out of the house in the morning. Get up a few minutes earlier, slow down a bit, and give your child clear instructions about what you expect. Use a timer so everyone will know when it’s time to move on. Understanding temperament is a tool to use in the never-ending process of building a healthy relationship with your child. For more information check out, Raising Your Spirited Child, and Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles, by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka. For information and inspiration, go to www.childhoodmatters.org and tune into “Childhood Matters,” Sundays from 7- 8am on 98.1 KISS FM.


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Dealing with Sibling Rivalry by Joanne Stern, PhD

If you have more than one child, you are probably fairly familiar with sibling squabbles. If one child has a toy, no doubt the other one wants it. It’s especially hard with smaller children; the youngest instantly craves what the older sibling possesses, no matter how big or small. So what do you do when they start to make fun and call each other names? How do you handle the oh-so-common fights over who gets the red, yellow, or pink crayon—the one that isn’t broken yet? How do you deal if one child thinks the other got a better fire truck or a prettier princess dress? Let’s take four common scenarios one at a time and look at some options for diffusing sibling rivalry.

Your three-year-old and your five-year-old are fighting over a toy. It may not even be a favorite, but the second the younger child takes it, the older one simply must have it.

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11. Begin by calmly asking each one to please stop their bad behavior. 22. If they don’t obey, it’s time to begin a more specific strategy. Try saying, “You

normally listen to me because you’re such a good listener.” Or “I’m surprised. I can usually count on you to do as I ask.” The idea is to appeal to the positive rather than scolding them for the negative. Kids tend to do what they believe you expect of them. If you focus on what they’re doing wrong, they’ll continue to do it. But if you focus on the good actions you want them to do, they’re much more likely to surprise you with positive behavior.

33. Tell them, “From now on—if you don’t share your toys this time, you won’t be able

to play with them the next time.” The key is to emphasize “from now on” because it causes them to think about future consequences of their behavior. You can’t win every battle in the moment, but one of the goals of parenting is to teach kids to make better decisions in the future. However, you must remember to follow through or your children will learn that your words don’t count.

A couple of weeks after you bring your new baby home from the hospital, your older child begins to show signs of jealousy. He begins to regress, asking for a bottle, wanting to be held constantly, slapping or biting the baby on occasion.

Tips:

11. Carve out some extra time to spend with the older child. His world has been rocked

and he’s feeling slightly knocked off center stage. He misses the attention he used to get and he’s identified the cause of his deficit. Tell him how special he is to you, how much you love him and how happy you are that he is so grown up.


22. Enlist him to help with some of the baby tasks. He can get the diapers and the wipes.

He can cover the baby with a blanket or hold his feet while you breast feed—any job that makes him feel useful, valuable and part of the family. Tell him how glad you are that he is able to help out.

33. Your baby has probably received gifts, so be sure you have a few small presents now

and then for your older child so that he doesn’t feel left out. a healthy relationship with your child.

Your older child gets a shiny new bike and your younger child gets the hand-me-down. The older child may rub it in and the younger may kick the bike or even her older sibling.

Tips:

11. At the same time the new bike arrives, re-paint and decorate the older one. Adorn it

with a basket, a bell, colorful stickers and everything special to your younger child.

22. Take some private time with your older child and talk with her about how to be

sensitive to her sister. Ask her how she would feel if the tables were turned because one day someone else will get something that she would like. This is an opportunity to share with her the importance of being tender with other people’s feelings.

33. Take some private time with your younger child. If she is still upset, ask her what she

likes more about her bike. Focus on that. And then get on with the excitement of riding with her.

One child gets invited to a party. The other does not. The one who doesn’t starts being mean to the one who does.

Tips:

11. In an age appropriate way talk with both children about the fact that there are things in

life that are both disappointing and heartbreaking. These kinds of things just happen in life, and at different times they happen to everyone.

22. Reinforce your family value of supporting each other in a painful time—being

understanding, compassionate and caring. “We are a family that celebrates each other’s good fortune and successes and gives encouragement and hugs for the bad times and defeats.”

33. Give an example of a time when you were left out or felt rejected so your child

doesn’t feel he’s the only one.

44. Acknowledge his feelings, listen attentively and continue to encourage him to share

them with you.

When kids are young, it’s easier to solve these sibling rivalries. But when they get older, the issues get more complicated and there isn’t a simple solution for each incident. That’s why it’s important to prepare your family and your kids in advance. Teach them when they’re young and before the situation arises so they have already learned to support each other instead of making fun of each other. Then when something comes up, it becomes another opportunity to reinforce caring, compassion and learning to deal with failure, disappointment and delayed gratification. Joanne Stern, PhD is a psychotherapist and author of Parenting Is a Contact Sport: 8 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Kids for Life www.parentingisacontactsport.com


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Bundleme, by JJ Cole The plush polyester shearling inner lining of the Original Bundleme features a luxurious texture, while the polyester fleece exterior provides warmth.  Use with car seats, strollers, and joggers  Machine washable  Movable top for easy temperature control

Hana Hobo Bag, by JJ Cole This super-stylish hobo is made from our Re-Runâ&#x201E;˘ fabric and keeps 6 plastic bottles out of landfill! With multiple pockets inside and out, you are sure to stay organized. Rings on the inside of the strap make it easy to attach the Hana to your stroller.  Re-Runâ&#x201E;˘ fabric keeps 6 plastic bottles out of landfill  Easy access zippered bottle pocket on outside  2 fleece lined side turnlock pockets

Muslin Blanket Set, by JJ Cole Lightweight, breathable wraps ideal for swaddling or receiving.  100% cotton  Opens to a large 48â&#x20AC;? x 48â&#x20AC;?  Machine washable To purchase online, retailer information and to view full product line, visit www.jjcoleusa.com

Extra Relish Lunch Tote, by BUILTNY This insulated lunch bag is designed to fit whatever foodstuff you needâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;and then some. Pack the Extra Relish tightly with a meal that will be the envy of your lunchtime companions, and snap on the shoulder strap to help carry the extra load. This neoprene lunch tote is also machine washable, so thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s no need to worry about spills.

Double Thirsty Tote, by BUILTNY The Double Thirsty Tote stretches to fit two bottles or sippy cups, and keeps drinks cold or warm. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s machine washable, which comes in handy since it also soaks up spills. And it attaches to strollers, car seats, and diaper bagsâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;so you always know where to find those bottles when baby needs them. To purchase online, retailer information and to view full product line, visit www.BUILTNY.com


ZooCamp 2010: Oakland Zooâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Summer Camp Day camp activities include stories, puppet play, games, craft projects, science activities and of course, animals! The Oakland Zoo takes great pride in creating age -appropriate options for campers age 4 through high school. Registration starts mid-March. For registration details go to www.oaklandzoo.org Or, you may call (510) 632-9525, ext 280

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ENJOY A FULL YEAR OF FAMILY FUN! Oakland Zoo Memberships make great holiday gifts for friends and family. Plus, each membership comes with free guest passes, parking passes, and ride passes - a $41 value! Mention Active Kids and save $5 Family Memberships start at $85. For more information call (510) 632-9525 x 150.

THE DANVILLE BOWL The Danville Bowl offers the Bay Area's Best Birthday Party Package! Fun, Affordable! Call for details! 200 BOONE CT. DANVILLE, CA 925.837.7272

ALSO OFFERING:

Rockin' Bowl! .99 Kids Bowl! Special Kids Pricing!

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Balancing Your Family, Career and Yourself by Jami L. Tucker, MBA

Have you ever wished that you could extend a day beyond 24 hours? What about just not requiring sleep? So, is it possible to do everything you want to do? The short answer is “no”. But you can help yourself by using a technique that will enable you to fulfill many of your goals and determine the ones that matter most to you. The technique is called L.I.F.E: List (brainstorm), Imagine (visualize), Filter (evaluate), and Execute (do!). My challenge to you is to find out what you really want to do and find ways to do it, using organization, undisrupted thought, and a results-oriented approach. If you can discipline yourself to using this approach on a routine basis, you will start to feel more fulfilled and achieve balance in your life. So how can you prioritize what is most important for you, your children, and your family? Start by setting aside some time to think, without being disturbed. This first part is actually a test, to see if you can even find 45 minutes to devote to yourself. If you pass the first part of the test, you’re already on your way to truly finding balance. Now that you are in a meeting with the Key Decision Maker (i.e., yourself), it is time to strategically prioritize your life. By prioritizing, you are improving not just your day-to-day routine, but the lives of those around you. Start simple. List all of things on your plate or on your wish list, big and small. Write down the things you want to do, have to do, and never expect to be able to do (for whatever reason – time, cost, etc.). Will you be able to do it all? If you can defer some things, you can eventually do most of the things on your list, just not today. Prioritizing is as simple as following the steps below: 1u LIST. Brainstorm items/things that are on your mind. Jot them down on paper so you

can see them in front of you, and include a verb (action) at the beginning of each item. Go ahead and list everything you can or have been thinking about for a long time.

2v IMAGINE. Visualize all of your listed items as pictures. This visualization step

enables you to form a tangible or concrete image of your items, which will ultimately help you sort through what is truly meaningful for you and help you determine when/how you can accomplish it.

3wFILTER. Evaluate so you can sort your list by writing down details such as cost, level

of effort, impact, availability, frequency, duration, and any other information that will help you prioritize. Once you have all the details in front of you, for each item, you can better see how to prioritize them.


4x EXECUTE. Number the items one, two, and three. Use the number one for those you

will implement right away. Use the number two for things you will do in the next month. Use the number three for things you will need to defer and re-evaluate after some items have dropped off or you have significant changes in your life. You will have multiple items for each number.

An example of prioritizing using the L.I.F.E. technique: Step 1: List (Brainstorm)

Step 1: Imagine (Visualize)

Step 1: Filter (Evaluate)

Step 4: Execute, using 1-2- 3 (Do)

Learn Yoga

See myself sitting cross - legged on a mat

Classes offered through the park district. Very inexpensive. Can do it at lunch time, once a week, for 45 min. Includes 20 min. driving time/locker room time

1. Sign- up for the Wednesday 12:00 yoga class. Start next week!

Get my professional license/certification

See a framed diploma on my wall

3. Defer for now. Re-evaluate in six months.

Organize my pictures

See a set of five photo albums on my shelf

Very costly and only offered in distant locations Minimal cost. Time consuming. Can do it in chunks of 30 min.

Clean out my email inbox

See this when I log in to my computer: Inbox (0)

Ongoing activity, no cost. If I can devote 30 min. twice a week, I can dwindle down the list to zero by: <k^Zmbg`_he]^kl to group subjects =^e^mbg`he] ^fZbelpabe^Bf hk`Zgbsbg`%BfZelh teaching myself how to do this automatically in the future

1. Start in one month, after schedule becomes â&#x20AC;&#x153;normalizedâ&#x20AC;? doing yoga classes and email organization (one personal and one business item) 1. Schedule two, 30-minute time blocks in my calendar, at the end of the day. The time required should decrease each week, as I have taught myself how to organize and file items when they come in to my inbox.

Use the L.I.F.E. technique on a routine basis. Priorities change when you complete those items that are finite or change based on circumstances and other environmental conditions. However, knowing that you have a solid, results-oriented approach for setting your priorities will enable you to achieve balance and fulfillment in your life. Remember that you canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t do it all right now.

Jami Tucker is the founder of The Everyday Leader, a Life Coaching service. You can contact her at 925-998-7838 or jami@TheEverydayLeader.com Please visit her website at www.TheEverydayLeader.com Š 2010 The Everyday Leader. All Rights Reserved.


MARCH Sunday

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Civic Center Library, Livermore Baby & Toddler Story Time 10:30am

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;`ad\j]fk>YajqdYf\$ Oakland Meet the Animal of the Day 1pm

Oakland Zoo Bedtime with the Beasts

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17 The Lindsay Wildlife Museum, Walnut Creek Raptors: Meet a Resident Eagle 1pm

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Civic Center Library, Livermore Preschool Story Time 11am

Civic Center Library, Livermore Baby & Toddler Story Time 10:30am

The Lindsay Wildlife Museum, Walnut Creek Petting Circle: Every Sat & Sun 10:30am, 12:30pm, 3:45pm

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The Lindsay Wildlife Museum, Walnut Creek Kids Cook: 4 Week Class 11am

L`]@YZalgl;`ad\j]fk Museum, Berkeley Dance Party, Ages 0 - 6 Every Wednesday 10:45am

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_PERSONAL CHEF SERVICES PERFECT FOR BUSY FAMILIES! _HEALTHY, PERSONALIZED, AND AFFORDABLE Chef Dan also offers catering, business consulting services and culinary parties and education!

Call today to book your holiday event!

CHEF DAN LEFF 510.336.CHEF (2433) / Dan@ChefDanLeff.com / www.ChefDanLeff.com

Horizons East Equestrian Center Our facility offers:

Private & Group Lessons Horsemanship Clinics Summer/Winter Riding Camps Mommy/Daddy & Me Classes Birthday Parties

Come out & join in the fun! www.showstables.com 5111 Doolan Rd., Livermore, CA 94551 * 925-960-9696*

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Bloom at Blackhawk Plaza! Come out and play at Blackhawk Plaza! With New Stores, Restaurants, and Events, we’ve got everything you need for Spring! BLACKHAWKSPRINGCELEBRATION I Saturday, March 27th: 11am-1pm A fun-filled day of kids cras, entertainment, balloon animals, and special characters including the Calico Criers, and a special bug show from Sandi and Stevie! ENTERTOWINASPADAYATJELLYFISHSPA!

Enjoy a day of pampering at the Bay Area’s Newest Spa concept- exclusively at Blackhawk Plaza. Including massage, facial, manicure, pedicure and makeover! For details and to enter visit: blackhawkplaza.com

Join the Blackhawk Rewards Loyalty Program and receive a point for every dollar spent while shopping, dining, or at the movie theatre. Go to blackhawkplaza.com for more information Camino Tassajara & Crow Canyon Road in Danville

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