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The LOCAL Go To Guide for Busy Families • August 2013

how not to raise spoiled kids pg. 20

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WINNING the whining war pg. 7

Event Calendar pg. 24 Beach Guide pg. 32 Camping Guide pg. 38


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The LOCAL Go To Guide for Busy Families

The summer is winding down, fall clothes are in the stores and every other commercial is geared towards back to school. Yep, summer is almost over! Are you excited to get the kids back into their routine and perhaps capture a few quiet moments to yourself? Or are you still looking forward to a few more excursions with the family? If so, be sure to check out our Beach Guide on page 32 and our Camping Guide on page 38. These are sure to offer some local fun. Our articles this month deal with some very real issues that we all encounter as parents, particularly, ‘Winning the Whining War’, ‘How to deal with Mean People’ and ‘How not to Raise Spoiled Brats’. Take advantage of the last few weeks of summer, grab the August issue of Active Kids while you sit beachside watching the kids frolic in the ocean, and enjoy!

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Contributing Authors Chick Moorman Danielle Federico, M.P.H Christine Carter, PhD Sue Harding Tom Limbert Dr. Jim Taylor Elizabeth Pantley Dr. Laura Markham

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WINNING THE WHINING WAR by Chick Moorman Jason Meridith’s two-year old son whines when he wants more juice. Brenda Kreuger’s eight-year old daughter whines about having to take piano lessons. Connie Gustufson’s daughter whines about not getting enough playing time on the softball team. Each parent finds the whining annoying, but is unsure what to do about it. In each case, the parent and the child could be helped by the following guidelines. Do expect your child to whine. It is age appropriate at two, three, eight, thirteen, nineteen and every other age in between. Children will whine. Count on it. Don’t say, “Stop whining.” That doesn’t work. Children do not like being ordered around under normal circumstances. When they are whining, they like it even less. One thing worse than a whiner is a whiner that engages you in a power struggle. Do say, “Madison, that is whining. Whining doesn’t work with me. What works with me is to ask in a normal voice, with normal tone and normal volume. If you do that, sometimes you get what you want. Sometimes you don’t. But it’s your only hope.” Don’t be surprised if you are tested. Your child will check you out to see if you meant what you just said. Show them that you do. Don’t cave. You may be tested more than once. Once your child realizes that whining doesn’t work, he will drop the behavior. A child who fights, fights because that behavior works for him. A child who runs away from fights, runs away because that works for him. A child who gives excuses, does so because that behavior works for him. Show your child that whining doesn’t work with you. Do announce the living room, kitchen, your bedroom, and the car are whine free zones. Put up whine free signs if necessary. Do allow your child to whine. Provide a whining area. Her bedroom will work well for this purpose. With a legitimate whining area, your child can continue to whine if she chooses and you don’t have to hear it. 6 ACTIVE KIDS

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Don’t whine to your spouse about your whining your child. You are always modeling. Your child learned whining behavior somewhere. Could it have been from you? Do use a whine fine for older children. Assess each whiner $1.00 per whine. Keep it in a whine jar or whine bottle. Treat yourself to dinner out or a massage when the whine toll allows. Do allow children to whine in a whining journal. Inform them that you will listen to all whining if it is written down. Do praise your child when she asks in a normal voice, with a normal tone and normal volume. Don’t take children to stores, malls or relatives homes beyond their normal bedtime. You are asking for whining. Whining, both theirs and yours, increases with tiredness. Do use preventative communication before you enter whine zones. Have a talk in the car before you enter the grocery store. Explain the purpose of the trip. Set the ground rules. Make your expectations clear before you enter the whine zone and you will experience less whining after you get in there. Do inform your child that you are having trouble hearing when she whines. Tell her she is hard to understand when she chooses that tone. Tell her whining hurts your ears and they close down for whine protection. Do make a copy of this article and carry it around with you. This will help you stay conscious that whining is a behavior you have made a commitment to eliminate. Don’t get discouraged. Whining is learned behavior. Learned behavior can be unlearned and with consistent use of these strategies, your child will learn new behaviors to replace it.

Chick Moorman is the co-author of Parent Talk Essentials: How to Talk to Kids about Divorce, Sex, Money, School and Being Responsible in Today’s World and The Only Three Discipline Strategies You Will Ever Need: Essential Tools for Busy Parents. They are two of the world’s foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. They publish a free Uncommon Parenting blog. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: www.uncommon-parenting.com

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How to Choose the Best Fruits and Vegetables by Danielle Federico, M.P.H Summertime is when we have the widest variety of fruits and vegetables locally in season. August, being an especially hot month, makes it the perfect time for enjoying produce raw or grilled outdoors. Buying in-season produce is the first strategy for getting the most delicious of Earth’s bounty. What’s In-Season in August? Corn, bell peppers, avocado, cucumbers, eggplant, cauliflower, okra, zucchini, blackberries, blueberries, huckleberries, raspberries, melons, mangos, nectarines, peaches, plums, tomatoes What is Wabi-Sabi Produce? You tell your kids not to judge a book by its cover, but can you judge a bell pepper based on appearances? You can and should. As a general rule, choose the smallest and most deeply colored fruits and vegetables in the piles. These ones contain the most vitamins and nutrients. This is counterintuitive because the most attractive berries are the giant ones. The smaller berries, however, are tastier and contain more nutrients per bite. When I shop, I look for wabi-sabi produce. Wabi-sabi, a Japanese word, is a comprehensive world view that does not translate easily. Characteristics of wabi-sabi include asymmetry, roughness, irregularity and appreciating beauty due to imperfection. Heirloom tomatoes come to mind. Organic and farmer’s market selections may have more scaring and abnormal shapes. This shouldn’t be a deterrent. Supermarket produce has been grown with more pesticides or genetically modified seeds to achieve produce with perfect skin and shape. As long as there is no bruising or punctures, enjoy small, deeply colored, wabi-sabi bell peppers…they are healthier for you! Melons are the exception. Smaller, darker melons are not ripe. Melons should smell sweet. Next, check to see if it looks like it fell off the vine (ripe) or was pulled off. When it comes to watermelons, tap with your middle finger; the melon should sound hollow. How Do I Get My Kids to Try It? • Getting kids involved in meal planning is a proven way to foster cooperation at the dinner table. A family outing to the farmer’s market is another way to get children interested in eating produce. Encourage 10 ACTIVE KIDS

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kids to pick anything that interests them and look online for ways to prepare it. The only rule being that everyone at the table must try it. Use this as a positive way to encourage adventurous eating rather than a threat…as in, “If I buy this, you better eat it.” • Be open-minded. When was the last time you tried something new? Parents who try new things have children who are willing to try new things. Avoid saying things like, “Don’t those look weird,” or “I don’t think you are going to like that.” These discouraging statements suggest to a child that what in unknown is probably not good or worth trying It may take several exposures to a new food before a child decides to like it. If parents fail to provide opportunities to try new things, a child will never develop a taste for okra. • Serve something familiar in a new way. Cut peaches in half and grill them for a few minutes, for example. Serving the same foods, the same way, all the time, causes kids to become close-minded to any unfamiliar foods. • Don’t cover it up. Children naturally enjoy raw foods, and summer vegetables are so tasty they don’t need seasonings. Children who are not served dressings and dips eat more vegetables and try new vegetables more often than kids who will only eat a vegetable if it is covered with ranch dressing. Children who have become accustomed to dips favor processed, fatty, salty flavors. If you wean your children off dips you may find they become more open-minded about vegetables Wrap corn on the cob in foil and grill it plain. Corn is very sweet and after a couple of times, no one will miss the butter.

Danielle Federico, M.P.H. is the author of “MOMMY FABULOUS: Complete Pregnancy Fitness and Nutrition Guide, Designed to Deliver a Fabulous Postpartum Figure.” (amazon.com) She holds a Masters of Public Health from UC Berkeley and is a personal trainer and nutritional counselor. Danielle’s popular blog www.dani-fabulous.com provides nutrition, health and fitness information for anyone looking to lead a healthier life.

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How to Deal with Mean People by Christine Carter, Ph.D. Hint: Don’t just turn the other cheek. You, with your switching sides, And your walk by lies and your humiliation You, have pointed out my flaws again, As if I don’t already see them. I walk with my head down, Trying to block you out cause I’ll never impress you… —Taylor Swift, “Mean” “Why you gotta be so meeaann?” Taylor Swift croons in my car, accompanied rather loudly by five kids who are singing their hearts out. The song resonates with me, too, so much so that I find myself madly rummaging through my purse for my sunglasses, not wanting the carpool to see me choked up. (Honestly, I’m not sure why I cry when I hear that song. I think I’m moved because it tells of a kid succeeding despite difficulty. If you haven’t heard it, listen here. I particularly like the end of this version.) Anyway, one of the girls in my car (let’s call her Sally) has just revealed that she was once again the butt of a mean comment in PE. Everyone in the car feels her pain; unfortunately we’ve all been there. Most of us use avoidance as our chief strategy for dealing with unkindness, steering clear of the mean person at all costs. But this strategy is neither practical nor effective, as it is often impossible to avoid a person completely and usually leaves us cowering in fear. Fortunately, there is a better approach. From research on social and emotional well-being, here’s what I’ve learned about how to cope when someone gets nasty. First, remember that you can control your response when someone does or says something mean. We may not be able to control much about our life circumstances, but with practice we can control how we respond to those circumstances. I once got a horrible voicemail from a neighbor. In it, she called me a fraud and my blog a joke, and told me to stay away from her children. Though she seemed highfunctioning to the outside world, she seemed pretty unstable to me. My instinct was to fight back—to expose her craziness to the world, to tell everyone how insanely mean she was. Sally had the opposite instinct around the girl who teased her in PE. She let this particular mean girl boss her around, hoping against hope that she would eventually relent.

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Neither of these responses—attacking back or becoming a spineless doormat—are constructive ways to cope. The most effective response to meanness is compassion. Where there is meanness, there is often a lot of pain, both in the unkind person and for the person on the receiving end of a mean joke, comment, or email. Take care of your own pain first. When I got the crazy-neighbor voicemail, I was shocked, and hurt (I cared what she thought of me), and, frankly, scared. Researcher Brene Brown, in her fantastic book Daring Greatly, advocates a response to a situation like this that I’ve been using instinctively since I was a kid: Before you attack back, let yourself feel what is going on. You can simply repeat to yourself, “Pain, pain, pain,” and breathe. Sometimes I have to say it out loud. The key is not to deny what we are feeling, but rather to accept it. Take a moment to be mindful and narrate your emotions: This embarrassment is excruciating. I am so frightened right now. Hang in there with unpleasant feelings at least long enough to acknowledge them. Often we don’t want to admit we are hurt by another person’s meanness; we want to let it go without letting it get to us. If you can do this, more power to you. But if you can’t, that’s okay, too. You will survive the discomfort of your hurt feelings. It is perfectly normal to feel bad when someone wounds you. Once you practice this sort of self-compassion, take the next step: See mean people for what they really are—wounded and tiny and probably threatened. Frightened mice masquerading as roaring lions. When I suggested to Sally that her unkind classmate was probably insecure or threatened by her, Sally insisted that just the opposite was true. “She’s the most confident person I know!” The other kids in the car agreed. But then I had them recall the last time each of them was a little mean to a classmate or sibling. How did you feel right before you did it? The unanimous answer: They felt small, or frustrated, or humiliated, so they did something that might make them feel big or important or powerful. We began to imagine what might have made Sally’s mean-girl feel threatened or small, and the kids came up with a dozen possibilities. Finally, fight fire with water by sending loving thoughts to the people who hurt you. This is an advanced technique, but I can almost promise that it will make you feel better. I use a traditional loving-kindness meditation, and say things like “May you be happy. May you be healthy and strong. May you be free from suffering” while imagining the person who tried to hurt me. When we send well-wishes to the hurting people who want us to share their pain, we are able to rise above their suffering. We regain our true power. After all, it is only when mean people actually are happy and free from suffering that they will stop trying to take us down with them.

Christine Carter, Ph.D.*, is a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center. She is the author of “RAISING HAPPINESS: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents.” She teaches online happiness classes that help parents bring more joy into their own lives and the lives of their children, and she writes an award-winning blog for *Greater Good* (www.greatergoodparents.org). “Sign up now with promotional code ActiveKids, and get $25 off the cost of the class!”


A Witching Hour Guide by Tom Limbert

Getting Safely – and Happily – from Kansas to Oz Do you dread the time between when your kids get home from school and dinnertime? Are fights, yelling and crying more inevitable than death and taxes? Then you, my friend, have fallen victim to the deep, dark and mysterious black magic of the witching hour. Before you call your tax adviser, I’ve got some concrete advice to help break the nasty spell. No longer will you be the Wicked Witch of the West. Just keep these tips in mind, tap your glitteriest red shoes together and say it with me: “There’s no place like home, there’s no place like home …” • Break it up (the monotony and the time that is, not your marriage or household). Every preschool has a scheduled routine for the day; these little guys need it, and you need it. Break two-hour increments into four half-hour segments. Definitely include a downtime and give young children two to three choices for what to do during each time period. Give them something to look forward to. • Make a list. Involve kids in making a list of activities they enjoy; help them refer to it when they need ideas or re-directing. Art and books are no-brainers. (I would say that limited amounts of time on an electronic device or watching a mellow TV show are acceptable, but I live in the East Bay, and I don’t need hate mail.) Every so often, add new activities to the list. Your child will have new interests every few weeks; get books on those subjects from the library. • Articulate great expectations. Confidently tell your children what kind of behavior you expect. If you’ve got work to do and need the to play quietly for a bit, tell them how long it will be and what you’ll do after. Remember to be supportive and convey that you believe in them. (If you do it in a negative, threatening way, you’re setting everyone up for failure.) The more you establish the fact that there is a plan and some structure, the less chaotic things will be. Try not to get too frustrated when they inevitably slip up. If you feed their drama with your own, you’ll only get lions and tigers and bears, oh my! 16 ACTIVE KIDS

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• Nip it in the bud. When you start to hear the tone of the play getting sassy or too rambunctious— before it’s clear you’re not in Kansas anymore—remind them of your expectations. Review their choices and give them the opportunity and responsibility of making good decisions (if they only had a brain?). Instead of focusing on punishment and blame, convey that you believe they can work things out through honest communication and respect. • Try to engage. Have a heart. You’re no Tin Man and don’t be a Cowardly Lion. No matter how busy you are, you have enough time to play with your children. Even if you can only spare 20 minutes, tell them clearly you have time to spend with them. Get hands-free and dive into their world. Relax and enjoy them and watch them magically become relaxing and enjoyable. For you are Glinda, the Good Witch of the North. • Applaud their efforts. It’s so easy to only say something when you need to discipline or re-direct. Attention energizes. Make a conscious effort to thank them and applaud them when you see they are helping you out and behaving respectfully. Help them see that when they make good choices, everyone benefits and feels better. Because, because, because, because, because—because of the wonderful things he does. We all long for a place where there isn’t trouble, somewhere over the rainbow. By now you know parenting isn’t always a romantic love story. No doubt it will be an action/adventure, but you can help it be less of a suburban drama. Anytime things start spinning out of control, take charge. Huddle up and make a plan. Be the director in your own family classic. Like Dorothy, you may awake to find that you needn’t look any farther than your own backyard to find your heart’s desire. Because if it isn’t there, you never really lost it to begin with.

Tom Limbert is a published parenting author and Parent Coach and can be found online at www.parentcoachtom.com. He has been working with young children and their families since 1992. Tom has a Master’s degree in Education with an emphasis in early childhood development and is the co-creator of Studio Grow. Tom’s book, Dad’s Playbook: Wisdom for Fathers from the Greatest Coaches of All Time, has over one hundred inspiring quotes and includes a Foreword from Hall of Fame QB Steve Young.

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How to Find the Right Tutor by Sue Harding According to the Education Industry Association, the demaid for tutoring has increased 15-18% in the past year, compared to singe-digit growth previously. As a result the number of tutors has also increased dramatically. Before entrusting your child’s academic future to someone, it is important to ensure that person is the best qualified and will personalize the tutoring to fit the child’s individual needs. 1. Make sure the instructor is licensed or certified. Teachers will need the proper qualifications to assess, diagnose and tutor to a child’s weakness. 2. Look for an instructor with experience teaching children the same age as your child 3.

Request an assesment. An individualized analysis of a student’s strengths and weaknesses can determine a child’s unique needs and help set goals. Also, insist on progress updates as a child passes through each step of the learning program.

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Define your goals. Are you trying to keep your child from failing? Are you looking to challenge a child who is already doing well in school? Be sure your child’s instructor understands your objective and is skilled enough to meet it.

5. Find an instructor with specific expertise in the subject of your choosing. Just because somoene is a math genuis, it does not mean he is qualified to teach other subjects. 6. Make a personality match. Determine what kind of teacher the student has excelled with previously. 7. Ask teachers how they will help your child master a specific skill. A good instructor will require that a child learn a specifci skill before 18 ACTIVE KIDS

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advancing to the next academic level. Find a teacher who will work with parents and teachers to create an individucal program. 8. Obtain recommendations for instructors from family and friends. 9. Ask prospective instructors for references from previous employers and students or hire a respected supplemtental education company that has a proven record of academic success.

As the Center Director, Sue Harding handles the day to day operations of the learning center such as meeting with new families and reaching out to the education community in the Tri-Valley. She has a wealth of experience in education as a classroom English teacher and as home teaching District Liaison for Livermore Valley JUSD for many years. Prior to joining Sylvan Learning Sue ran her own SAT Prep and College Advising business. She is a wonderful resource for our families as they look for supplemental education. Sue really enjoys working with the kids and you may occasionally see her teaching at a table.

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How NOT to Raise Spoiled Brats, Part I by Dr. Jim Taylor In my consulting practice, I work with many families, both high-net-worth and those less affluent. I am constantly amazed at how nonchalant (or even downright neglectful) the parents are in their children’s fiscal education in both of these income groups. Despite the fact that many of the well-to-do parents grew up in less-affluent families themselves and their parents taught them to be fiscally responsible (which, by the way, probably contributed to their ability to create wealth) they are, more often than not, raising their children in precisely the opposite to the way they were raised. Practices that foster fiscal responsibility, such as assigned chores, allowances, and the attitude that money doesn’t grow on trees, are often completely absent from these families. The typical excuses range from “I don’t want them to go through what I had to go through,” to “My children work so hard. I don’t want to place more of a burden on them,” to “Heck, they’re only young once. Let them enjoy themselves!” Even more interesting is the fact that such practices are, in my experience, becoming more commonplace among families of more moderate incomes. Many families who clearly lack the means to “live high on the hog,” are nonetheless trying to live an aspirational life well beyond their means and sending commensurate signals to their children about money and what it takes to become a successful, happy, and contributing adult. Of course, a popular culture that has a truly toxic view of wealth contributes further to the distorted and destructive relationship that families have with money. When the two most powerful forces — parents and popular culture — send the same harmful messages about money to children, what chance do they have to develop a healthy relationship with money and acquire the necessary maturity and fiscal skills to survive and thrive in the real world in which most of us live? I can assure you that any of these attitudes, from well intentioned to cavalier, is a recipe for financial doom for children. Yes, childhood is a time to play, have fun, and not have to face the demands of adulthood. At the same time, childhood must also be a time to prepare children for adulthood. In other words, you must actively train your children for adulthood. Here’s how to think about it. Consider all the attitudes and skillsets necessary to be a functioning adult with a healthy relationship to money, for example, delayed gratification, respect, responsibility, discipline, cooperation, decision making, and promptness. Now ask yourself whether you are instilling those attitudes and teaching those skillsets in your children. Unless you plan to leave your children with a large trust fund and no expectations of doing anything substantial or meaningful in their lives, you are leaving them wholly unprepared for the “real world.”

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Here’s an example of a father who, wanting to give his children everything, is leaving his children with little of substance or value. This father, I’ll call him David, had a very difficult upbringing in a high-net-worth family. David’s father was hard working and hard driving, expecting obedience and achievement in his son. At the same time, his father was perfectionistic, cold, and unloving. Added to that, an accident left David with a minor, though noticeable, disability. David took the money he got from his father and, through hard work and savvy investing, parlayed it into a substantial fortune. He and his wife raised their children on a compound in the Western mountains and David was determined give his kids the childhood that he never had. Their property was like Neverland, a veritable amusement park with every plaything a child could want. David’s children never had to work for anything. He heaped them with love regardless of their behavior and bought them anything they wanted without asking anything in return. His children never had chores, responsibilities, expectations, or consequences placed on them. What kind of children did David’s grow up to be? They were selfish, entitled, rude, disrespectful, irresponsible, out of control, and lazy. In two words, spoiled brats. Speaking of spoiled brats, I make a distinction between children who are spoiled (perhaps a better term is “fortunate”) and those who are spoiled brats. Both spoiled children and spoiled brats are given just about everything they want. The difference is that spoiled children are raised to take full advantage of the opportunities they are given and to be grateful for all that they have. Plus, they are asked give back in some form in return. In contrast, spoiled brats are not. As long as David’s children stayed on the family compound, life was good because they played by the rules set by David (in other words, there were no rules). But problems arose when they entered the real world of school, sports, and relationships beyond the family. The children were simply incapable of functioning in a healthy way or taking care of themselves in the real world. Though this example may seem extreme, it is far from the exception for children raised in high-net-worth families and, increasingly, among less-well-off families as well. Clearly, no parents intend to raise their children this way, whether wealthy or not, but it is a real risk when money – its acquisition, accumulation, and expenditure – becomes a defining value and force in a family. Keep an eye out for next month’s article: How NOT to Raise Spoiled Brats Part II

Jim Taylor, Ph.D., Psychology, has work with young people, parents, and educators for more than 27 years. Jim is the author of 14 books, four of which are parenting books. Jim has appeared on NBC’s Today Show, Fox News Channel, ABC’s World News This Weekend, and the major television network affiliates around the country. He has participated in many radio shows. Dr. Taylor has been an expert source for articles that have appeared in The London Telegraph, The Los Angeles Times, The New York Daily News, The Chicago Tribune, The Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Outside, Men’s Health, and many other newspapers and magazines. Jim lives north of San Francisco with his wife, Sarah, and his daughters, Catie and Gracie. To learn more, visit www.drjimtaylor.com.


When Your Baby Has Separation Anxiety by Elizabeth Pantley From the time that babies become aware of the world around them they begin to form important relationships with the people in their lives. They quickly learn that certain people are vital to their happiness and their survival. Babies don’t have the ability to understand how the world works, so they don’t know what makes these people appear or disappear, and when they are out of sight they have now way of knowing if their beloved people are gone forever. So to protect themselves from potential loss, babies crave the nearness of those they love. Try to embrace separation anxiety as a positive sign. It’s perfectly okay — even wonderful — for your child to be so attached to you and for her to desire your constant companionship. Congratulations: It’s evidence that the bond you’ve worked so hard to create is holding. Over time, your little one will learn that when the two of you are separated everything is just fine, and that other people are capable of meeting his needs. He’ll also learn through experience that you do always eventually return. It will take time, however, for your child to mature enough to reach this point. Until then, to help your child learn to understand, accept and deal with separation, try some of the following ideas. PLAY THE “BYE-BYE” GAME Most parents play “Peek-A-Boo” games with their babies. That’s a great way to show Baby that even when he can’t see you - you still exist. You can take this game to the next level – here’s how: Say “Bye-Bye” to your baby and duck behind a corner or a piece of furniture. A few seconds later pop out and say, “Hi Baby!” Play this game every day, and then use the same actions when you leave the room or when you leave the house. AVOID THE IN-ARMS TRANSFER It’s common to hand the baby over to the sitter on your way out the door. But this physical act can produce a lot of anxiety for your baby. To avoid this, make your exit when your baby is playing on the floor, or sitting in a swing or highchair. Have the sitter engage your child’s attention. Say a quick, happy good-bye. When you’re gone – that’s the time for the caregiver to pick your baby up. Then she’ll be the rescuer - this can help them bond while you are gone. 22 ACTIVE KIDS

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ENCOURAGE INDEPENDENT PLAYTIME Many children wake up after a nap, or in the morning, and are content to look around, play with a toy or daydream. Without thinking it through, we act as if baby can never be awake and alone. It’s helpful to know that a baby or toddler can enjoy alone time and can learn to be his own best company. This is a lovely gift that you give your child. I suggest that next time . . . walk a little slower! Listen carefully– is she calling to you or fussing for attention? Or is she just waking up to her world and taking a few quiet minutes for herself? If Baby’s content then keep an ear on her, but allow her this independent play time. AVOID SEPARATING WHEN POSSIBLE It’s perfectly okay to avoid separation when your child in the midst of an anxiety stage. Some people will try to convince you that it’s important to force your child to deal with separations. But the truth is that no study proves that a child who is forced to face his fear head on will overcome it easier or quicker than one who is allowed to adjust on his own time frame. It makes sense to be respectful - and work with your child’s needs - to gently and lovingly nudge him towards the goal of independence.

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AUGUST calendar Alameda August 1 Olympic Day

San Pablo Park Berkeley 10:00am – 2:30pm www.ci.berkeley.ca.us

Summer Concert Series Central Park Performance Pavilion Fremont 6:00pm – 8:00pm www.fremont.gov

Hotel Transylvania Movies In The Park

Amador Valley Community Park Pleasanton Begins at Dusk www.cityofpleasantonca.gov

August 1 – 4 Berkeley’s Annual MusicFest Downtown Berkeley Multiple times www.visitberkeley.com

August 1, 8, 15, 22 & 29 Farmers’ Market Emerald Glen Park Dublin 4:00pm – 8:00pm www.ci.dublin.ca.us

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Farmers’ Market

Carnegie Park Livermore 4:00pm – 8:00pm www.cityoflivermore.net

August 2 Drop-in Craft

Rincon Branch Livermore Library 2:00pm – 4:00pm www.cityoflivermore.net

August 2, 9, 16, 23 & 30 Fremont Street Eats Capital Ave Downtown Fremont Fremont 4:30pm – 9:00pm www.fremont.gov

Stoneridge Street Eats Food Truck Fest Stoneridge Mall 11:00am – 2:00pm www.simon.com

August 2 & 23 Picnic Flix Emerald Glen Park Dublin 8:30pm – 10:30pm www.ci.dublin.ca.us

August 3 & 4 Taste of Downtown

Downtown Livermore 12:00pm – 5:00pm www.cityoflivermore.net

August 3, 10, 17, 24 & 31 Saturday Stroll

Oakland Art Murmur Venues Multiple Locations throughout Oakland www.oaklandartmurmur.org

Rockin’ Tots Rockin’ Jump

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August 4, 11, 18 & 25 Sundays on Telegraph Telegraph Ave Berkeley 11:00am – 6:00pm www.ci.berkeley.ca.us

August 5 – 9 Color Bundles Summer Camp Session Alamo 10:00am – 1:00pm or 2:00pm – 5:00pm www.colorbundles.com

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August 5, 12, 19 & 26 Drop-in Craft Rincon Branch Off the Grid Livermore Library Mobile Food Truck Event Hayward 5:00pm – 9:00pm www.ci.hayward.ca.us

August 6 The Raytones!

Community Room Dublin Library 3:00pm – 4:00pm www.ci.dublin.ca.us

August 7 Uncle Jer’s Traveling Bee Show Civic Center Branch Livermore Library 10:30am – 11:30am www.cityoflivermore.net

1st Wednesday Street Party & Artblock

Angela @ Main Downtown Pleasanton 6:00pm – 9:00pm www.pleasantondowntown.net

August 8 Summer Concert Series Central Park Performance Pavilion Fremont 6:00pm – 8:00pm www.fremont.gov

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The Amazing Spiderman Movies In The Park

August 15 Summer Concert Series Central Park Performance Pavilion Fremont 6:00pm – 8:00pm www.fremont.gov

Amador Valley Community Park Pleasanton Begins at Dusk www.cityofpleasantonca.gov

Third Thursday

August 9 Burton & Co

The Avengers Movies In The Park

Lions Wayside Park Pleasanton 7:00pm - 8:30pm www.pleasantondowntown.net

Piedmont Ave Stroll 6:00pm – 9:00pm www.piedmontavenue.org

Amador Valley Community Park Pleasanton Begins at Dusk www.cityofpleasantonca.gov

August 12 – 16 Color Bundles Summer Camp Session

August 16 Synaptic Gap

August 14 Alex Ramon Magic

August 18 Shamrock’n Sundays: Finding Stella

Alamo 10:00am – 1:00pm or 2:00pm – 5:00pm www.colorbundles.com

Civic Center Branch Livermore Library 10:30am – 11:30am www.cityoflivermore.net

Lions Wayside Park Pleasanton 7:00pm - 8:30pm www.pleasantondowntown.net

Emerald Glen Park Dublin 5:00pm – 7:00pm www.ci.dublin.ca.us

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Zucchini Festival

Kennedy Park Hayward 10:00am – 8:00pm www.ci.hayward.ca.us

August 19 – 23 Color Bundles Summer Camp Session Alamo 10:00am – 1:00pm or 2:00pm – 5:00pm www.colorbundles.com

August 23 Tri-Valley Memorial Charity Golf Tournament Valley Care Poppy Ridge Golf Course Livermore Starts at 11:00am www.TriValleyMemorial.org

Goodguys Rod & Custom Assoc. Alameda County Fairgrounds Pleasanton Multiple Hours www.alamedacountyfair.com

Magic Moments

Lions Wayside Park Pleasanton 7:00pm - 8:30pm www.pleasantondowntown.net

August 24 & 25 Puppet Fair Weekend! Fairyland Oakland Normal Business Hours www.fairyland.org

August 26 - 30 LAST WEEK of Summer Camp Habitot Berkeley 9:00am – 1:00pm or 1:00pm – 2:00pm www.habitot.org

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August 30 Public Eye

Music in the Park - Spinout

Lions Wayside Park Pleasanton 7:00pm - 8:30pm www.pleasantondowntown.net

Contra Costa County: August 1 Sol Horizon

Towne Green – 420 Front St. Danville 6:00pm – 8:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

August 3 & 4 “Grease” Weekend

Playland-Not-At-The-Beach Normal Business Hours www.playland-not-at-the-beach.org

August 3, 10, 17, 24 & 31 Farmers’ Market

Music & Market Series Concord 6:30pm – 8:00pm www.ci.concord.ca.us

Downtown Clayton 8:00am – 12:00pm www.ci.clayton.ca.us

Trapped in a Rumor Improv Comedy Show

Farmers’ Market

Village Theater Danville 7:30pm – 9:30pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

Railroad Ave Downtown Danville 9:00am – 1:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

Broadway Plaza Summer Concert August 4 Featuring Tainted Love Cars & Coffee 6:30 – 8:00pm www.broadwayplaza.com

August 2 Preschool Performance Series – Illusionist Brian Scott Village Theater Danville 10:00am – 11:00am www.ci.danville.ca.us

Rockin’ The Plaza

Concert in The Grove Downtown Clayton 6:00pm – 8:30pm www.ci.clayton.ca.us

Argentine Tango & Milonga Rotunda – Blackhawk Plaza 2:00 – 8:00pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

August 4, 11, 18 & 25 Lafayette Farmers’ Market

Zydeco Flames Blackhawk Plaza 7:00pm – 8:30pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

August 3 Live By The Groove

Blackhawk Plaza Parking lot 8:00am www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

Bart Parking Lot off Happy Valley Rd 9:00am – 1:00pm www.ci.lafayette.ca.us

August 5, 14, 19 & 28 Free Guest Day City Beach Fremont Normal Bus. Hours www.citybeach.com

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August 6 National Night Out

August 9 Sensory Garden Moonlight Movies – The Avengers Gardens at Heather Farm

August 6 & 8 Magic Camp Jr.

Rockin’ The Plaza

Todos Santos Plaza Concord 6:30pm www.cityofconcord.org

Town Green 0 400 Front St. Danville 6:30pm – 10:30pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

Playland-Not-At-The-Beach Normal Business Hours www.playland-not-at-the-beach.org

Pride & Joy Blackhawk Plaza 7:00pm – 8:30pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

August 6, 13, 20 & 27 August 10 Farmers’ Market Films Through The Years: Todos Santos Plaza Duck Soup & Rebel Without Concord a Cause 10:00am – 2:00pm www.ci.concord.ca.us

August 7, 14, 21 & 28 Camp Blackhawk Plaza Summer Camp for Kids 10:30am – 12:00pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

August 8 The Fundamentals Music & Market Series

Danville 2:00pm – 6:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

Blackhawk Kids Club

10:30am – 12:00pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

Ice Cream Social

Forest Home Farms San Ramon 10:00am – 2:00pm www.sanramon.ca.gov

Concord 6:30pm – 8:00pm www.ci.concord.ca.us

Thursday Night St. Festival

Downtown Danville – Hartz Ave 6:00pm – 9:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

August 13 Playland After Dark

Playland-Not-At-The-Beach 6:00pm – 10:00pm www.playland-not-at-the-beach.org

Walnut Creek 10:00am – 10:45am www.gardenshf.org

August 15 Petty Theft Music & Market Series Concord 6:30pm – 8:00pm www.ci.concord.ca.us

Hot Summer Nights Car Show Downtown Danville 4:00pm – 9:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

Lamorinda Community Picnic Moraga Commons 4:00pm – 7:30pm www.lafayettechamber.org

August 16 Rockin’ The Plaza

The House Rockers Blackhawk Plaza 7:00pm – 8:30pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

August 17 Flash Backs

Concert in The Grove Downtown Clayton 6:00pm – 8:30pm www.ci.clayton.ca.us

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Music in the Park – West Grand Blvd

Oak Hill Park Danville 6:00pm – 8:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

August 23 Rockin’ The Plaza

Playland After Dark

Elton: The Early Years Blackhawk Plaza 7:00pm – 8:30pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

Oakley’s Annual Kids Fishing Derby

August 24 Pleasant Hill Farmers’ Market

Kid’s Activity Cart

August 24 – 25 Brentwood Art, Wine & Jazz Festival

Bridgehead Road Oakley Antioch Pier 9:00am – 11:00am www.ci.oakley.ca.us

Ruth Bancroft Garden Walnut Creek 1:00pm – 3:00pm www.ruthbancroftgarden.org

August 18 Sunset by the Lake Summer Concert Series Pleasant Hill City Hall Lawn Begins at Dusk www.ci.pleasant-hill.ca.us

August 20 Geology Fossil Dig

Gardens at Heather Farm 10:00am – 10:45am www.gardenshf.org

August 22 Zepparella

Music & Market Series Concord 6:30pm – 8:00pm www.ci.concord.ca.us

Art & Wine Stroll

Danville Livery, Downtown Danville and the Rose Garden 6:00pm – 9:00pm www.shopblackhawkplaza.com

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Downtown Plaza Pleasant Hill 9:00am – 1:00pm www.ci.pleasant-hill.ca.us

Playland-Not-At-The-Beach 6:00pm – 10:00pm www.playland-not-at-the-beach.org

August 30 Bloom’ Belly Flow – Prenatal Yoga

Bloom Retreat Walnut Creek 10:15am – 11:15am www.bloomretreat.com

August 31 Mixed Nuts

The Streets of Brentwood www.shopstreetsofbrentwood.com

Concert in The Grove Downtown Clayton 6:00pm – 8:30pm www.ci.clayton.ca.us

August 26 Bloom’ Belly Flow – Prenatal Yoga

Films Through The Years: American Graffiti & Forrest Gump

Bloom Retreat Walnut Creek 10:15am – 11:15am www.bloomretreat.com

August 27 Treasure Hunt

Gardens at Heather Farm 10:00am – 10:45am www.gardenshf.org

August 29 California Symphony Pop in the Plaza Concert Todos Santos Plaza Concord 6:30pm www.cityofconcord.org

Music of Laurent Fourgo and His Ensemble

Village Theater Danville 2:00pm – 6:00pm www.ci.danville.ca.us

Out of Area: August 13 Mommy & Me Kid’s Club Just Dance Santana Row 10:00am – 12:00pm www.santanarow.com

August 28 The Beer Walk

Santana Row San Jose 6:00pm - 9:00pm www.santanarow.com

Village Theater Danville 10:00am – 11:00am www.ci.danville.ca.us

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BEACH GUIDE A lameda Robert Crown Memorial State Beach Eighth Street & Otis Drive, Alameda, CA 94501 Hours: Sunrise-Sunset Cost: $5/vehicle, $4/trailer; $2/dogPhone: 510.521.6887 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/crown_beach Del Valle East & West Beach 7000 Del Valle Road, Livermore, CA 94550 Hours: May - Labor Day: 6:00 a.m. - 9:00 p.m; After Labor Day - Sept. 30: 6:00 a.m. - 8:00 p.m. Cost: $6/vehicle, $4/trailered vehicle, $3/vehicle at Arroyo staging; $2/dog. Phone: 888.327.2757 opt. 3, ext. 4524 Website: www.ebparks.org/Page115.aspx Quarry Lakes Regional Recreation Area 2100 Isherwood Way, Fremont, CA 94536 Hours: 11:00 a.m. to 6:00pm Cost: $5/vehicle; $2/dog Phone: 888.327.2757 opt. 3, ext 4552 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/quarry_lakes Don Castro Regional Recreation Area - Lake 22400 Woodroe Ave, Hayward, CA 94541 Hours for swimming: 11:00 am to 6:00 pm Cost: $5/vehicle; $2/dog Phone: 510.544.3073 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/don_castro

Shadow Cliffs Regional Recreation Area - Beach 2500 Stanley Blvd, Pleasanton, CA 94566 Hours: May - Labor Day: 6 a.m. - 9 p.m &September 6 a.m. - 8 p.m. Cost: $6/vehicle; $5/trailered vehicle; $2/dog Phone: 925.846.3000 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/shadow_cliffs

Contra Costa Cou nty Contra Loma Regional Park - Lake 1200 Frederickson Lane, Antioch, CA 94509 Hours: Open daily Sunrise to Sunset from June 2- Aug 26 Cost: $5/vehicle; $2/dog Phone: 888.327.2757, ext. 4518 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/contra_loma#hours

Marin Heart’s Desire Beach 1208 Pierce Point Road, Inverness, CA 94937 Hours: 8:00 a.m. to Sunset Cost: $8/parking; $3/dogs Phone: 415.669.1140 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=470

Lake Temescal 6500 Broadway Terrace, Oakland, CA 94618 Hours: 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m. Cost: $5/vehicle; $2/dog Phone: 510.652.1155 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/temescal Lake Anza 2501 Grizzly Peak Blvd, Berkeley, CA 94708 Hours: 11:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Cost: 1 yr. & under – free; 1-15 yrs. - $2.50; 16-61 years - $3.50;62 & older - $2.50 Phone: 510.843.2137 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/tilden

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Drakes Beach 1 Drake Beach Rd, Inverness, CA 94937 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: None Phone: 415.669.1140 Website: www.nps.gov/pore/planyourvisit/beaches.htm

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BEACH GUIDE Muir Beach Highway 1, Mill Valley, CA 94965 Hours: 8 a.m. to dusk Cost: Admission for adults $2 Phone: 415.388.2595 Website: www.pointreyes.org/muir_beach_marin_county.html Stinson Beach 1 Calle Del Sierra, Stinson Beach, CA 949701 Hours: 9:00 a.m. to Depends (closing different depending on the season) Phone: 415.868.0734 Cost: Free Website: www.nps.gov/goga/stbe.htm

Monterey Point Reyes National Seashore - Ocean 1 Bear Valley Road, Point Reyes Station, CA 94956 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: None Phone: 415.464.5100 Website: www.parksconservancy.org/visit/park-sites/pointreyes-national-seashore.html Andrew Molera – Beach Big Sur Station #1 Big Sur, CA 93920Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: Free Phone: 831.667.2315 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=582 Asilomar State Beach 1950 Sunset Dr Pacific Grove, CA 93950Hours: None Cost: Free Phone: 831.646.6440 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=566 Carmel River State Beach Carmelo Street, Carmel, CA 93921 Hours: Call the park Cost: Free Phone: 831.649.2836 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=567

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Fort Ord Dunes State Park – Beach Beach Range Road Marina, CA 93933Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: Free Phone: 831.649.2836 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=580 Monterey State Beach Del Monte Ave at Park Ave, Monterey, CA 93940Hours: Call the park Cost: Free Phone: 831.649.2836 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=576 Salinas River State Beach Moss Landing, CA 95039 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: Free Phone: 831.649.2836 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=573

San Francisco Cou nty Baker Beach 1504 Perishing Drive, San Francisco, CA 94129 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: None Phone: 415.561.4323 Website: www.parksconservancy.org/visit/park-sites/ stinson-beach.html China Beach 490 Sea Cliff Ave (at El Camino Del Mar) San Francisco, CA 94121 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: None Phone: 415.561.4323 Website: www.parksconservancy.org/visit/park-sites/ china-beach.html Crissy Field – Ocean 1199 E Beach Presidio, San Francisco, CA 94129 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: None Phone: 415.561.7690 Website: www.parksconservancy.org/visit/park-sites/ crissy-field.html

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BEACH GUIDE San Mateo

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Natural Bridges State Beach 2531 West Cliff Drive, Santa Cruz, CA 94060 Hours: 8:00 a.m. to Sunset Cost: Free Phone: 831.425.4609 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=541 Seacliff State Beach State Park Dr. Aptos, CA 95001 Hours: 8:00 am to Sunset Cost: Free Phone: 831.685.6442 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=543 Seascape Beach Resort 1 Seascape Resort Drive, Aptos, CA 95003 Hours: Varies Cost: Varies Phone: 831.688.6800 Website: www.seascaperesort.com/

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Nurturing Intimacy with Your Kids by Dr. Laura Markham Intimacy is the glue that holds families together. It’s what connects us over the years, and across the miles. It’s what gets us through the hard times. It’s the grease that smooths the rough interactions of everyday life, and the honey that makes it all worth it. Intimacy is hard to define, but we all know when we’re feeling it. Whether it’s crying on your best friend’s shoulder after a tragedy or snuggling in companionable silence with your spouse in front of the fire, intimacy is when we feel connected. How we humans build connections with each other, how we deepen them, and how we repair them when they fray is both as simple as a warm smile and as mysterious as the way the ground lurches when we see a picture of someone we have loved and lost. John Gottman, one of my favorite researchers, has distilled the creating of intimate relationships down to their practical essence. It turns out that the building blocks of connection are the small overtures we make to each other every day, and the way our loved ones respond. Gottman calls these bids, as in “bids for attention.” We could also call them overtures, as in opening movements. In happy relationships, whether between spouses, parents and children, friends, or coworkers, bids are made and responded to warmly. It almost doesn’t matter what the bid is about; the process of reaching out and receiving a response builds the relationship. It also increases the trust level so that we are more likely to reach out to that person again, and the content of the bids deepens. If we begin with “What a beautiful morning!” and receive an enthusiastic agreement, we may go further and ask our spouse for help in solving a problem that’s bothering us. If, on the other hand, our comment is ignored, or greeted with sarcasm,we are unlikely to make ourselves vulnerable in any way, and the relationship loses a chance to deepen. The same process is enacted with our children in hundreds of daily interactions. If we ask our middle schooler about the upcoming school dance and receive an engaged response, we might venture further and ask whether she’s nervous. If, on the other hand, our comment is ignored, or her response is surly, most of us will back off.

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So how can you create a more intimate family? 1. Start by paying attention to the “bids” that go on. What is the tone in your family? Responsive and warm? Distracted and ignoring? Hostile and sarcastic? Does anyone get ignored? Does anyone usually ignore others? 2. Focus on responding positively to your family’s bids to you. It takes real selfdiscipline to tear yourself away from the newspaper to answer a child’s question, but how you respond to her overture is crucial in building closeness. More important than what you initiate with her later, when you try to get her to tell you about what happened at school today. 3. If you don’t get the response you want to your overtures to your kids, step back and watch how you initiate. Are you inviting a positive response? 4. If you make an overture and are greeted with something hurtful -- disdain, sarcasm, or blankness -- try not to respond with anger. Instead, show your vulnerability and hurt. Say “Ouch!” and turn away (before you give in to the temptation to lash out.) Your son or daughter (or spouse!) will almost certainly feel badly about having hurt you, especially since you haven’t aroused their ire by attacking back. Later, when you aren’t hurt and angry, you can tell them how it made you feel to get that response. Try to talk only about your feelings, not about them being wrong. Intimacy is a dance. It deepens or is eroded by every interaction we have. The good news is that every interaction you have is a chance to shift onto a positive track and deepen your connection to your loved ones. Dr. Laura Markham is the author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University and has worked as a parenting coach with countless parents across the English-speaking world, both in person and via phone. You can find Dr. Laura online at AhaParenting.com, the website of Aha! Moments for parents of kids from birth through the teen years, where she offers a free daily inspiration email to parents.

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Camping Guide Alameda County

Calaveras

7867 Redwood Rd, Oakland, CA 94618 Cost: $5/ vehicle; $2/dogs; Campsites vary /trailered; campsites vary Hours: 8:00 AM to 8:00 PM A hidden redwood forest whose peaceful groves give little evidence of its bustling past lies on Redwood Road just a few miles over the ridge from downtown Oakland. Phone: 888.327.2757 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/redwood

1170 E Hwy 4, Arnold, CA 95223 Cost: $20.00-$35.00/night Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Calaveras became a State Park in 1931 to preserve the North Grove of giant sequoias. This grove includes the “Discovery Tree”, also known as the “Big Stump”, the first Sierra redwood noted by Augustus T. Dowd in 1852. This area has been a major tourist attraction ever since, and is considered the longest continuously operated tourist facility in California. Phone: 209.795.2335 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=551

Redwood Regional Park

Anthony Chabot Family Campground

9999 Redwood Rd, Castro Valley, CA 94546 Cost: $2/dogs; Campsites vary Hours:8:00 AM to 8:00 PM Overlooking Lake Chabot is Chabot Family Campground, year-round getaway only minutes from the city (camping fee). The camp has 75 trailer, tent, or walk-in campsites, hot showers, Naturalist-led campfire programs, an amphitheater, and hiking/fishing access to Lake Chabot. Phone:888.327.2757, option 3, ext. 4502 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/anthony_chabot

Del Valle Regional Park

7000 Del Valle Rd, Livermore, CA 94550 Hours: 6:00 AM to 8:00 PM Cost:$6/ vehicle; $4/trailered; $2/dogs; Campsites vary Deep in a valley framed by oak-covered hills, with sailboats and sailboards skimming over its waters, Del Valle is like a lakeside resort only 10 miles south of Livermore. Phone: 888.327.2757, option 3, ext. 4524 Website: www.ebparks.org/Page115.aspx

Butte

Lake Oroville State Recreation Area

Cost: $45.00/night 400 Glen Drive, Oroville, CA 95966 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Near the City of Oroville this man-made lake was formed by the tallest earth-filled dam (770 feet above the stream bed of the Feather River) in the country. The lake offers a wide variety of outdoor activities including camping, picnicking, horseback riding, hiking, sail and power boating, waterskiing, fishing, swimming, boat-in camping, floating campsites and horse camping. Lake Oroville Visitor Center has a museum, exhibits, videos and a store. The view from the 47-foot tower, with two high-powered telescopes, is a spectacular panoramic view of the lake, Sierra Nevada’s, valley, foothills, and the Sutter Buttes mountain range (smallest in the world). Phone: 530.538.2200 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=462

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Calaveras Big Trees State Park

Colusa

Colusa-Sacramento River State Recreation Area

Levee Street & 10th Street, Colusa, CA Cost:$15.00-$25.00/night Hours: Sunrise to Sunset This area offers visitors campsites, picnic sites, and a launch ramp for small boats. Riverbank cottonwoods and willows shelter one of the finest fishing stretches in California, with king salmon, steelhead, rainbow trout and striped bass some of the catches. The river is on a major migratory route for birds of the Pacific flyway and provides home to an amazing number of species.The River Patwin Indian tribe once lived nearby the area and in 1872 John Muir camped near what is now the park. Phone: 530.458.4927 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=461

Contra Costa

Morgan Territory Regional Preserve

9401 Morgan Territory Rd, Antioch, CA 94509 Cost: Campsites vary Hours: 8:00 AM to 8:00 PM Sandstone hills within the park’s 4,708 acres are adorned in spring with more than 90 species of wildflowers, including the Diablo sunflower which grows only in the foothills of Mount Diablo. Phone: 510.544.3060 Website: www.ebparks.org/parks/morgan

Mount Diablo State Park

North Gate Road, Walnut Creek, CA 94596 Cost: $30.00-$165.00/night; $6 parking fee. Hours:8:00 AM to Sunset Mount Diablo offers hiking, biking, and horseback riding. With this beautiful ‘ecological treasure’ of the San Francisco

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Camping Guide Bay Area, your family is sure to have wonderful time. Phone: 925. 837.2525 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=517

Del Norte

Del Norte Coast Redwood State Park

1111 2nd Street, Crescent City, CA 95531 Cost: $35.00/night Hours: Sunrise to Sunset The park, established in 1927, has approximately 50% old growth coast redwood and eight miles of wild coastline. The topography is fairly steep with elevations from sea level to 1277’. The predominant mountain range is oriented in a north-south direction with steep cliffs adjacent to the Pacific Ocean, making the bulk of the rocky sea coast generally inaccessible except by Damnation Trail and Footsteps Rock Trail. Phone: 707.465.2146 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=414

El Dorado

Ed Z’berg Sugar Pine Point State Park

Sugar Pine Point State Park, El Dorado, CA Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $35.00/night The beautiful grounds of the Hellman-Ehrman Mansion are available for special events such as weddings, school or family reunions, and corporate dinners. The grounds have spectacular views of Lake Tahoe with the 12,000 square foot mansion serving as an elegant backdrop. Phone: 530.525.3345 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=510

Camp Concord

Hours: 6:30 AM to 8:30 PM Sly Park is a wonderful place to bring the whole family for an unforgettable camping experience. The park features 8 family campgrounds that contain a total of 191 individual sites, each with a picnic table, fire ring, and barbecue. Vault toilets and water faucets are nearby. Reservations for family campsites are accepted all year long and up to 14 months in advance. Every year, EID’s Sly Park Recreation Area and the District’s other recreation sites rank among the most popular destinations for campers, hikers, boaters, anglers, equestrians, photographers, and all-around nature lovers. Visitors can enjoy Sly Park as well as the other EID facilities at Silver Lake, Caples Lake, and Forebay Reservoir. Phone: 530.295.6824 Website: http://168.143.6.148/recreation/recreation.htm

Lake

Clear Lake State Park

5300 Soda Bay Road, Kelseyville, California 95451 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $30.00-$75.00/night Clear Lake State Park is on the shores of California’s largest freshwater lake. The area is popular for all kinds of water recreation, including swimming, fishing, boating and water-skiing. Anglers can catch largemouth bass, crappie, bluegill and channel catfish. The park is the nesting place for waterfowl. Hikers enjoy the Indian Nature Trail, a selfguided trail that shows how the Pomo people, who lived in the area for centuries, utilized the area’s resources. The trail passes through the site of what was once a Pomo village. Phone: 707.279.2267 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=473

1000 Mt. Tallac Rd, South Lake Tahoe, CA 96150 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $33.00-$99.00 Family Camp at Camp Concord is a great opportunity for parents and kids to unplug and experience nature together. Truly a vacation for everyone - families can participate in our organized camp activities, or strike out on their own. With age appropriate kids hours, parents get time to relax knowing their children are experiencing new adventures under the guidance of a highly-trained counseling staff. Phone: 530.541.1203 Website: www.cityofconcord.org/recreation/camp

Marin

4771 Sly Park Road, Pollock Pines, CA 95720 Cost:$10/vehicle/day; $30.00-45.00/night/campsite; $5/pet

801 Panoramic Highway, Mill Valley, CA 94941 Hours: 7:00 AM to Sunset Cost: Ranging from $75.00/night to $115.00/night

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Samuel P. Taylor State Park

8889 Sir Francis Drake Blvd, Lagunitas, CA 94938 Hours: 8:00 AM to Sunset Cost:$8/parking; $35.00/night The park offers a network of hiking trails and fire roads, making it easy to hike to the top of Mount Barnabe. Or, for a less strenuous visit, many visitors consider Azalea Picnic Area the best place in the park for a picnic or a place to relax. Phone:415.488.9897 Website: http://www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=469

Steep Ravine Cabins & Campsites

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Camping Guide Just north of San Francisco’s Golden Gate is Mount Tamalpais. It has redwood groves and oak woodlands with a spectacular view from the 2,571-foot peak. On a clear day, visitors can see the Farallon Islands 25 miles out to sea, the Marin County hills, San Francisco and the bay, hills and cities of the East Bay, and Mount Diablo. On rare occasions, the Sierra Nevada’s snow-covered mountains can be seen 150 miles away. Phone: 415.388.2070 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=471

Lawson’s Landing

137 Marine View Drive, Dillon Beach, CA 94929 Hours: Mon, Tues, Thurs 7:00 AM to 9:00 PM; Wed 8:00 AM to 9:00 PM; Friday 6:00 AM to 11:00 PM; Sat 6:00 AM to 10:00 pm; Sun 6:00 AM to 9:00 PM Cost: $30.00/night Lawson’s Landing is a fishing and boating resort and campground, situated at the mouth of Tomales Bay, California— known for generations of families as a place to escape the heat and to rest along the shores of the Pacific Ocean. You can find Lawson’s Landing located about 50 miles North of San Francisco and 20 miles West of Petaluma at Dillon Beach. The Landing was first established in 1929, and the campground has been running— family-owned and operated— since 1957. Phone: 707.878.2443 Website: www.lawsonslanding.com

Olema Ranch

Point Reyes Station, CA 94596 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $40.00-$63.00/night Olema RV Resort and Campground nestled in the stunningly beautiful wilderness surrounded by Point Reyes National Seashore just north of San Francisco, is the ideal place for a respite from the chaos of daily living, or for outdoor adventures along that world-renowned stretch of coastline. Just one hour from San Francisco or the Napa Valley and minutes from one of the most beautiful stretches of coastline anywhere, Olema RV Resort and Campground provides access to sixty-five thousand acres of unspoiled wilderness, from grassy meadows to coastal forests, rife with wildlife and heart-stopping vistas. Phone: 415.663.8106 Website: www.olemarvresort.com

Windsong Cottage

25 McDonald Lane, Point Reyes Station, CA 94956 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $175/night on weekdays; $195/night on weekends The wood burning fire place, the huge, fluffy king size bed, and of course, the hot tub set in the private yard are all wonderful reasons to visit Windsong Cottages. Yurts often

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have a skylight where the beams meet so in the morning, it was a gentle waking up. Though the space is really one big circular room, the bedroom is structured so that there is privacy and the bathroom is also walled off. It is an ingenious design. The space feels so open and the view is great. Perfect for a romantic get-away! Phone: 415.663.9695 Website: www.windsongcottage.com

Mariposa County & Tuolumne County Yosemite National Park

Yosemite National Park Northside Drive, Yosemite National Park, CA 95389 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: Ranges between $5-20 depending upon the campsite. Yosemite National Park, one of the first wilderness parks in the United States, is best known for its waterfalls, but within its nearly 1,200 square miles, you can find deep valleys, grand meadows, ancient giant sequoias, a vast wilderness area, and much more. Phone: 877.444.6777 Website: www.nps.gov/yose/index.htm

Monterey Big Sur

47000 Highway 1, Big Sur, CA 93920 Hours: 8:00 AM to 8:00 PM daily Cost: $47-$390/night depending if you want a cabin, RV, or tent campsite Located among majestic Coastal Redwood trees along the pristine Big Sur River, Big Sur Campground and Cabins offers camping and lodging with the emphasis on Family. Enjoy tent and RV camping on the forest floor as you watch the kid’s inner tube by in the cool water. Or pamper your family in one of several styles of cabins, from rustic tent cabins to fully equipped cabins with kitchens and fireplaces. Phone: 831.667.2322 Website: www.bigsurcamp.com/accomodations.html

TreeBones Resort

71895 Hwy 1, Big Sur, CA 93920 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$85.00-$219.00/night Treebones is the name affectionately coined for this wonderful place back in the ‘60’s by Big Sur locals. This unusual triangular piece of land is surrounded by the Los Padres National Forest and the Pacific Ocean. It was then a crude recycling wood mill. Phone: 877.424.4787 Website: www.treebonesresort.com/index.php

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Camping Guide Limekiln State Park

63025 Highway 1, Big Sur, CA 93920 Hours: 8:00 AM to Sunset Cost: $35.00/night The park features breathtaking views of the Big Sur Coast, the beauty of the redwoods, the rugged coast and the cultural history of limekilns and has 24 campsites. Phone: 831.667.2403 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=577

Napa

Bothe-Napa Valley State Park

Saint Helena Highway, St. Helena, California 94515 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $35.00-$245.00/night Located in the heart of the beautiful Napa Valley wine country, the Park offers camping, picnicking, swimming, and hiking trails that go through stands of coastal redwoods as well as forests of Douglas-fir, tanoak, and madrone. Phone: 707.942.4575 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=477

Placer

Folsom Lake State Recreation Area

7806 Folsom—Auburn Road, Folsom, CA 95630 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$35.00/night Located at the base of the Sierra foothills, the lake and recreation area offers opportunities for hiking, biking, running, camping, picnicking, horseback riding, waterskiing and boating. Fishing offers trout, catfish, big and small mouth bass or perch. Visitors can also see the Folsom Powerhouse (once called “the greatest operative electrical plant on the American continent”), which from 1885 to 1952 produced 11,000 volts of electricity for Sacramento residents. For cyclists, there is a 32-mile long bicycle path that connects Folsom Lake with many Sacramento County parks before reaching Old Sacramento. The park also includes Lake Natoma, downstream from Folsom Lake, which is popular for crew races, sailing, kayaking and other aquatic sports. Phone: 916.988.0205 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=500

Sacramento

Brannan Island State Recreation Area Brannan Island State Recreation Area, Rio Vista, CA Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$30.00-$50.00/night

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Brannan Island State Recreation Area is a maze of waterways through the Sacramento-San Joaquin Delta. This park northeast of San Francisco Bay, has countless islands and marshes with many wildlife habitats and many opportunities for recreation, including boating, windsurfing and swimming. Phone: 916.777.6671 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=487

San Francisco

Angel Island State Park

Angel Island State Park, San Francisco, CA 94920 Hours: 8:00 AM to Sunset Cost: $30.00/night In the middle of San Francisco Bay sits Angel Island State Park, offering spectacular views of the San Francisco skyline, the Marin Headlands and Mount Tamalpais. Phone: 800.444.7275 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=468

Santa Cruz

Big Basin Redwoods State Park

21600 Big Basin Highway, Boulder Creek, CA 95006 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: 435/night; $10/vehicle/night; $8/reservation fee Big Basin Redwoods State Park is California’s oldest State Park, established in 1902. Home to the largest continuous stand of ancient coast redwoods south of San Francisco, the park consists of over 18,000 acres of old growth and recovering redwood forest, with mixed conifer, oaks, chaparral, and riparian habitats. Elevations in the park vary from sea level to over 2,000 feet. The park features family and group camping, tent cabins, backpacking camps, hiking, mountain biking, and equestrian trails. The park is open year round and reservations are encouraged during the summer. Phone: 800.444.7275 or 800.874.8368 (for “Tent Cabin” sites) Website: www.bigbasin.org

New Brighton State Beach

1500 Park Avenue, Capitola, CA Hours: 8:00 AM to Sunset Cost: $35.00/night The beach features picnic areas, swimming, fishing and a nearby forest of Monterey pine and Coastal Live Oak. The camping area is on a bluff overlooking northern Monterey Bay. Phone:831.464.6330 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=542

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Camping Guide Henry Cowell Redwoods State Park

2591 Graham Hill Road, Scotts Valley, CA 95060 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $35.00/night This park features 15 miles of hiking and riding trails through a variety of forested areas including redwoods, mixed evergreens, riparian, ponderosa pine, as well as rare ancient marine deposits called Santa Cruz sand hills. Henry Cowell Redwoods is home to a centuries old Redwood Grove that features a self-guided nature path. It also boasts other old-growth woods such as Douglas fir, mandrone, oak and a stunning stand of Ponderosa pines. Phone: 831.438.2396 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=546

Seascape Beach Resort

One Seascape Resort Drive, Aptos, CA 95003 Hours: 24 hours a day Cost: $495.00-$620.00 depending upon room, how long you stay, and season For a spectacular Santa Cruz vacation, a visit to Seascape Beach Resort in Aptos, California, is like having your own beach home with all the amenities of a four-diamond resort. Seascape Beach Resort offers 285 spacious suites and beach villas with fully equipped kitchens or kitchenettes, fireplaces, and private balconies facing the majestic Monterey Bay. Phone:831.688.6800 Website: www.seascaperesort.com

Castle Rock State Park

1500 Skyline Blvd, Los Gatos, CA 95032 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $15.00/night Along the crest of the Santa Cruz Mountains, Castle Rock State Park embraces coast redwood, Douglas-fir, and madrone forest, most of which has been left in its wild, natural state. Steep canyons are sprinkled with unusual rock formations that are popular with rock climbers. The forest here is lush and mossy, crisscrossed by 32 miles of hiking and horseback riding trails. These trails are part of an even more extensive trail system that links the Santa Clara and San Lorenzo valleys with Castle Rock State Park, Big Basin Redwoods State Park, and the Pacific Coast. Phone: 408.867.2952 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=538

Castle Crags State Park

20022 Castle Creek Rd, Castella, CA 96017 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $15.00-$30.00/night The park offers swimming and fishing in the Sacramento

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River, hiking in the back country, and a view of Mount Shasta. There are 76 developed campsites and six environmental campsites. The park features 28 miles of hiking trails, including a 2.7 mile access trail to Castle Crags Wilderness, part of the Shasta-Trinity National Forest. The Pacific Crest Trail also passes through the park. The park is named for 6,000-feet tall glacier-polished crags. Phone: 530.235.2684 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=454

San Joaquin

Caswell Memorial State Park

Caswell Memorial State Park, San Joaquin, CA Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$30.00/night The park is located along the Stanislaus River near the town of Ripon, California. Caswell is home to several endangered animal species, including the riparian brush rabbit which is not known to occur anywhere else. Phone: 209.599.3810 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=557

San Mateo

Butano State Park

Butano State Park, Pescadero, CA 94060 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $35.00/nightPhone: 650.879.2040 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=536The park features miles of hiking trails, 21 drive-in campsites and 18 walk-in campsites. Restrooms with running water are provided. Drinking water is available at the park in both the campground and the day use areas. Guided nature walks and weekend campfire programs are offered during the summer.

Costanoa Lodge

2001 Rossi Road at Hwy 1, Pescadero, CA 94060 Hours: 24 hours a day Cost: $89/night to $379/night Costanoa offers many different options for accommodations, from our cozy Lodge to our distinctive Tent Bungalows. Most bungalows have a queen bed and comfortably accommodate 1-2 guests. These accommodations combine the best part of camping with creature comforts you will appreciate. From hiking, kayak tours and yoga to Costanoa Kids Camp, there is much fun to be had at Costanoa. Phone: 650.879.1100 Website: www.costanoa.com

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Camping Guide Pigeon Point Lighthouse Hostel

Sugarloaf Ridge

Half Moon Bay State Park

KOA Petaluma

210 Pigeon Point Road, Pescadero, CA 94060 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$25.00-$159.00 Where else can you relax in a hot tub with panoramic ocean views, then fall asleep gazing up at one of the tallest lighthouses in America? Pigeon Point Lighthouse Hostel is also a convenient base for visiting nearby beaches and tide pools, protected wetlands and redwood forests, and the elephant seals at Año Nuevo State Reserve. Phone: 650.879.0633 Website: www.norcalhostels.org/pigeon/features 95 Kelly Avenue, Half Moon Bay, CA 94019 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $35.00-$50.00/night Miles of broad, sandy beaches stretch out to welcome visitors to Half Moon Bay. This picturesque setting is ideal for sunbathing, fishing and picnicking. A campground provides accommodations for those who wish to visit longer. Phone: 650.726.8819 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=531

Shasta

Sugarloaf Resort Cottages

19667 Lakeshore Drive, Lakehead, CA 96051 Hours: 24 hours a day Cost: $1151.00-1587.00/night Sugarloaf Cottages is the perfect location for a romantic weekend getaway, a fishing vacation or a family gathering. Located on the Sacramento arm of Shasta Lake, the resort is only 25 miles from Redding, California and is a sanctuary from the pressures of everyday life. Phone: 530.238.2448 Website: www.shastacabins.com

Sonoma County Casini Ranch

22855 Moscow Road, Duncans Mills, CA 95430 Hours: 8:00 AM to 9:00 PM Daily Cost: $41.00-$48.00/night Casini Ranch campground is nestled among beautiful hills resting on a gentle meander along the Russian River just minutes from the Pacific Ocean in Sonoma County, California. One mile of river runs along this 110 acre part of the ranch offering campers a memorable camping experience. Phone: 800.451.8400 Website: www.casiniranch.com

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2605 Adobe Canyon Rd, Kenwood, CA 95452 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $35.00/night Offers 49 developed family campsites, a group camp, picnic sites, and trails. The mountain terrain of the 4900-acre park has elevations from 600 to 2729 feet. The camp and picnic sites are set in a large valley with a meadow and stream at 1200 feet. Favorite activities include camping, resting, hiking, nature exploration and horseback riding. Phone: 707.833.5712 Website: www.sugarloafpark.org/Sugarloaf_Ridge_State_ Park/Sugarloaf_Camping.html 20 Rainsville Road, Petaluma, CA 94952 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $49.50-$60.00/night This beautiful family camping resort is rated one of the top RV campgrounds in California and the premier campground & RV Park resort in the San Francisco Bay area. With 312 spacious sites on 70 Acres, this KOA offers the best in family, group and big-rig RV camping in a rural atmosphere. Explore San Francisco, then relax in the country, just 34 freeway miles north of the Golden Gate Bridge. Phone: 707.763.1492 Website: http://koa.com/campgrounds/san-francisco

Bodega Dunes Campground

3095 Highway 1, Bodega Bay, CA 94923 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$35.00/night There are 98 campsites with hot showers, flush toilets, and a trailer sanitation dump station. Maximum trailer length is 31’, no hook-ups are available. Campfire and Junior Ranger programs are held in the summer months. The day use area includes a disabled accessible boardwalk out to a classic sandy beach. No dogs and no fires are allowed on the beach as a measure to protect the snowy plovers. Phone: 707.875.3483 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=451

Reef Campground

19005 Coast Highway One, Jenner, CA 95450 Hours: Open Sunrise to Sunset Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays & Holidays Cost: $25.00/night (includes one vehicle); $8.00/extra vehicle Fort Ross was a thriving Russian-American Company settlement from 1812 to 1841. This commercial company chartered by Russia’s tsarist government controlled all Russian exploration, trade and settlement in the North

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Camping Guide Pacific, and established permanent settlements in Alaska and California. Fort Ross was the southernmost settlement in the Russian colonization of the North American continent, and was established as an agricultural base to supply Alaska. It was the site of California’s first windmills and shipbuilding, and Russian scientists were among the first to record California’s cultural and natural history. Phone: 707.847.3286 Website: www.parks.ca.gov/?page_id=449

Doran Regional Park

201 Doran Beach Road, Bodega Bay, CA 94923 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost:$30.00-60.00/night Doran Park has a 2-mile stretch of sandy beach and is a popular place for visitors to picnic, build sand castles, fly kites, surf, fish and stroll. A rock jetty at the harbor mouth provides access for fishing, crabbing and exploring sea life. The boat launch can accommodate up to 20-foot boats. A parking lot is located adjacent to the launch and can handle 30 vehicles with trailers. Phone: 707.875.3540 Website: www.sonoma-county.org/parks/pk_doran.htm

are on-site. The park is near stores and tackle shops. Marine fuel may be purchased at Spud Point Marina. Visit the marina or go for a short drive to Bodega Head. Phone: 707.875.3540 Website: www.sonoma-county.org/parks/pk_wstsd.htm

Tuolumne

Pincrest Campground

16 Pinecrest Ave, Pinecrest, CA 95364 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $21.00/night Pinecrest features a large campground by Pinecrest Lake, just 30 miles east of Sonora. The campground caters to all ages and is within walking distance of the lake, an amphitheater, visitor center, swimming beach and spectacular hiking trails. Phone: 209.965.3116 Website: www.recreation.gov/camping/Pinecrest/r/ campgroundDetails.do?contractCode=NRSO&parkId=70541

Westside Regional Park

2400 Westshore Road, Bodega Bay, CA 94923 Hours: Sunrise to Sunset Cost: $30.00-$60.00/night The park is ideal for fishing, with its boat ramp and fish-cleaning station. A large vehicle and boat parking lot is located adjacent to the launch. Picnic tables and restrooms

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Top 15 things you

MUST do before the End of Summer:

1. Explore the Monterey Bay Aquarium – Otters have returned to the aquarium! Your children will have a blast exploring the life of amphibians, birds, fishes, invertebrates and more! For tickets and hours visit: www.montereybayaquarium.org 2. Create your own Family Garden – Have everyone in your family choose their favorite vegetable. Then find spots in the backyard to plant them and give your children the responsibility of caring for them and watching them grow. When you are finally able to eat them for dinner, your kids will feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. 3. Go Camping – Choose your favorite spot for the kids to hike, ride their bikes, swim, get dirty, and eat s’mores. Nothing prepares them for going back to school like a nice weekend camping with their family. Check out our Camp Guide for a list of amazing camp grounds in the area! 4. Aqua Adventure Waterpark – This is a perfect place for families to cool off from the summer heat. If you don’t feel like traveling down to the beach, Aqua Adventure Waterpark is the best alternative for you and your family. Visit their website for more information: www.goaquaadventure.com 5. S.F Fire Engine Tour – You may have visited San Francisco as a family before; however, have you been over the Golden Gate Bridge on the Big Red Shiny Mack Fire Engine? You start at Fisherman’s Wharf, then venture over to Presidio, Crissy Field, Sausalito, Fort Baker, and then back over the bridge to Union Street. Finally, your journey ends at the Cannery. Visit their website for more information: www.fireenginetours.com 6. Host a Family Picnic – As summer is winding down and you want to spend precious moments with your family, before the hectic school year begins, go on a nice family picnic. Whether it’s in your backyard, Heather Farms Park in Walnut Creek, or your local park down the street, nothing says family time like a nice picnic where you eat sandwiches, play in the sun, and relax in the shade.

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7. Explore Pixieland Amusement Park – This amusement park is geared towards family fun. Come here to enjoy Tea Cup rides, the Dragon Rollercoaster, or the Pixieland Express Train. They also have a “Kids Café” so your little ones can fill up after a long, hard day. Visit their website for more information: www.pixieland.com 8. Create a Family Movie Night – Choose a night of the week where one member of the family selects a movie to watch and rotate every week so everyone gets a chance to pick their favorite movie. You can also have rotating snack pickers. When one child gets to pick the movie, the other child picks what snack to eat. 9. Go to Africa – Okay, so we know that Africa is a little unrealistic when you have young children, so instead, how about a safari adventure in Santa Rosa? Safari West is home to over eighty species of animals, including zebras, cheetahs, and giraffes! Visit their website for more information: www.safariwest.com 10. Roaring Camp Railroads – Choose between the Santa Cruz Beach Train or the Redwood Forest Steam Train, either way your family is sure to have a fun journey. Visit their website for more information: www.roaringcamp.com 11. Attend a Chabot Space “After Dark” adventure – Chabot Space center is full of educational and entertaining events. Why not let your kids stay up past their bed time to learn something new and have fun! Visit their website for more information: www.chabotspace.org 12. Visit the new and improved Exploratorium – School may be out but there are plenty of resources in the Bay to continue education for your kids throughout the summer break. The Exploratorium recently relocated to its cool new spot on Pier 15 which hosts various exhibits during the summer. Visit their website for more information: www.exploratorium.edu 13. Visit the Jelly Belly Factory – Make a day trip out to an area you would never expect to venture too. The Jelly Belly Factory is full of yummy treats for your kiddies! Did you know it takes 7 to 21 days to make a single Jelly Belly jelly bean? Visit their website for more information: www.jellybelly.com 14. Create a BIG scavenger hunt – A fun way to prepare your children for back to school is creating a big scavenger hunt in the backyard for them to find their back to school items. First, they are going to find their brand new “cool” backpacks. Second, they are going to find their new pack of crayons, etc. You can hide their school supplies all around the yard and by the time they are done, their backpacks will be packed and ready to go for the first day of school! 15.Children’s Fairyland – This is a great place to go to enjoy the story time sets, kid rides, animals, and acres of luscious gardens. Your family is sure to have a blast! Visit their website for more information: www.fairyland.org

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Preschool

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Open House Please join us for an Ice Cream Social and Campus Tour

Saturday, August 17 from 1 to 4 pm RSVP today at www.QuarryLane.org/Preschool.

PLEASANTON WEST CAMPUS Preschool and Pre-Kindergarten 4444B Black Ave., Pleasanton, CA

925.462.6300 PLEASANTON EAST CAMPUS Infant through Pre-Kindergarten 3750 Boulder St., Pleasanton, CA

925.846.9400 CA Licenses: 013411303, 013411304, 013411305, 013417681

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Va l l e yC a re Medi C al Foundation

Obstetrics and Gynecology

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he providers at ValleyCare Medical Foundation are dedicated to giving compassionate and comprehensive obstetric and gynecologic care to all women from adolescence through child-bearing years, menopause and beyond. Our board-certified physicians and women’s health nurse practitioner work together to provide personalized care that blends the best in science with the art of medicine. Choose your ValleyCare provider today.

OB/GYNs Scott D. Eaton, MD William Phillips, MD Jennifer Salata, MD Sonia Santana, DO Gabrielle Schaefer, MD Laura Silverstein, MD Nicole Jeffrey-Starr, MD Rebecca Stone, MD Arlene Melville, NP

Call (925) 416-5450 or visit myvcmf.com

Office Locations in Livermore and Pleasanton


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