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clergy unite to affirm Vander Plaats’ Folly Iowa same-gender marriage political commentary by Arthur Breur By stating his staunch opposition to the Iowa Supreme Court’s 2009 decision on same-sex marriage, Bob Vander Plaats has positioned himself as the hard social conservative among the remaining three Republican candidates for Iowa Governor. The Iowa Family Policy Center (“IFPC”) exclusively endorsed Vander Plaats in a rally on the steps of the state capitol in early January. The IFPC even went so far as to declare that they would not support the leading candidate, Terry Branstad, should he win the nomination. Analysts across the political spectrum have pointed out that this threatens to divide votes for the eventual Republican candidate in November, but the IFPC seems more concerned with a strict anti-equality stance in their candidates than likelihood for actual election. (Anybody familiar with the phrase “Does not play well with others” will probably agree that this is a good description for the Iowa Family Policy Center.) Now remember that political caucuses can be influenced by the most motivated elements in their party, and social conservatives today are somewhere between outraged and rabid. However, recent polls have clearly shown that most Iowans are not concerned about same-sex marriage. Furthermore, in a late-February Rasmussen poll, Vander Plaats only had a 6% lead over Governor Culver—not an

insurmountable difference for Culver. Therefore, if social conservatives do manage to position Vander Plaats as Iowa’s Republican gubernatorial candidate, he will have to work to distance himself from his hard-right base, at least in appearances. In fact, he has already started to do this, both with changes to his stump speeches and on his campaign marketing materials. For example, his web site now lists the following items on its “Issues” page: Energy and the Environment; Health Care & Tort Reform; Leadership; Education; Economic Growth & Development; Iowa’s Economy. So what happened to “day one signing an executive order” against same-sex marriage? No, it has not been removed from his platform. Instead, it is hidden under “Leadership.” It is even worded now so as not to be so extreme sounding as to declare outright that he will sign an “executive order” but instead says, “On his first day in office, Bob Vander Plaats will issue the Foundation Proclamation affirming Iowa’s commitment to traditional marriage and moving to restore the appropriate separation of powers between the judicial, executive and legislative branches of state government.” Yes, Bob Vander Plaats wants Iowa’s Executive Branch to have veto power over decisions by its Judiciary Branch—a trait more common to dictatorships than democracies.

“To a degree unimaginable as recently as 2004—when Karl Rove and George W. Bush ran a national campaign exploiting fear of gay people—there is now little political advantage to spewing homophobia. Indeed, anti-gay animus is far more likely to repel voters than attract them.” — New York Times columnist Frank Rich, Feb. 6. US News Page 6

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Just steps away from the former chamber of the Iowa Supreme Court, in the majestic State Capitol rotunda, Rev. Matt Mardis-LeCroy, minister for spiritual growth at Plymouth Congregational Church, Des Moines, emphatically proclaimed his affirmation of the State High Court’s decision, rendered nearly a year ago. “I do not support marriage equality in spite of my Christian faith,” Mardis-LeCroy said. “I support marriage equality because of my Christian faith.” Organized by Interfaith Alliance of Iowa, the press event, held on Feb. 16, was initiated with the goal of delivering one key message to Iowa legislators. Flanked by a diverse coalition of fellow clergy who gathered to express publicly their support of same-gender marriage, Mardis-LeCroy eloquently articulated their united position on the issue. “We stand here today—Christian, Jewish, Unitarian Universalist—faith leaders from all across our state, to deliver one simple message,” Mardis-LeCroy said. “There is more than one religious perspective on marriage. Our traditions and practices as religious entities should never be used to deny equal protection from anyone. If you honor the religious diversity of our state, you must also support civil marriage equality.” A failed attempt, initiated by religious lobbying interests who oppose the Supreme Court decision, to force a debate in the Iowa legislative chambers on the merits of samegender marriage equality, appears to have delayed until perhaps 2014 any possible general election referendum to overturn the Supreme Court ruling. But Brad Clark,

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campaign director with Des Moines-based ONEIOWA—a leading advocacy and constituency organization representing issues affecting gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered citizens, and whose efforts were instrumental in helping educate members of the Supreme Court on the legal merits of same gender marriage—cautioned against becoming complacent. “The opposition is well-organized and firmly committed to achieving their goal of overturning the Supreme Court’s decision through the only means available to them,” Clark said. “Opponents of equality will work hard, spreading lies and misinformation, to defeat fair-minded legislators in November in order to push through a divisive constitutional amendment to take away the freedom to marry. ONEIOWA remains committed to preserving the unanimous decision of Iowa’s highest court.” Interfaith Alliance of Iowa, a nonpartisan organization established in 1996 to protect both faith and freedom in Iowa, provided legislators with a letter reiterating the views held by more than 160 Iowa clergy—representing a broad spectrum of theological beliefs· in support of civil marriage equality for same-gender couples. The letter also expressed opposition to any future legislation that would diminish the marriage rights provided by the Iowa Supreme Court. “As clergy, we stand together in support of civil marriage equality for all families,” the letter states. “We ask for your support of civil marriage equality and that you oppose any resolution or attempt to diminish these rights.”

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Section 1: News & Politics the Supreme Court got it right in this case, that this is an issue of free choice, limited government and providing fairness and dignity to our neighbors. For the complete interview go to:

Representative Abdul-Samad stood with the majority of Iowa legislators earlier this month and opposed procedural attempts to bring a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage the house floor. He also supported adding protections for sexual orientation and gender identity to the Iowa code and supported the Iowa Safe Schools Bill.

Two state reps try to pull LGBT protection from anti-bullying law, Probably because gay marriage doesn’t lead to by Arthur Breur State Representatives Jason Schultz fatal auto accidents… Michael Denklau is running for U.S. Representative in Iowa’s 5th District

Steve King challenger speaks up in favor of marriage equality by Justin Uebelhor, One Iowa Mike Denklau, candidate for U.S. Representative in Iowa’s 5th District, recently spoke with Blog for Iowa and discussed the issue of marriage equality in Iowa. Unlike the current occupant of the seat (rabidly anti-gay Congressman Steve King), challenger Denklau supports the Iowa Supreme Court’s decision. From Blog for Iowa, February 25, 2010: BFIA: [Last] year, the Iowa Supreme Court ruled in Varnum vs. Brian, upholding the lower court’s ruling that struck down the state’s Defense of Marriage Act. Iowa became the third state in the union, at that time, to allow same-sex marriage. My partner of more than fifteen years and I were married in June. But, while we have legal protections in our home state, we both work in Nebraska, where we have no legal protections. One, do you support the court’s decision and two, what will you do in Congress to protect the rights of gays and lesbians in general and same-sex couples in particular? Denklau: I think it’s very important that we think about what all of this means. This is really a free choice and individual rights issue. And also about limited government. I feel very strongly that we should keep the government out of our personal lives, whenever possible. I mean, what could be a more personal decision than who you marry, when you marry, or even if you marry. And who is to tell you how you should make that decision? The fact of this matter is, that without that ability, there is a whole litany of rights that are being denied. BFIA: Over eleven hundred. Denklau: Right. So what we’re getting to is an issue of fairness and dignity. We need to make sure that we’re taking care of all people. If two consenting adults don’t have the right to enter into a legal contract, that opens the door to many other rights, basic rights such as pensions, health insurance and protecting your children. That is a serious issue. I think

(R-Schleswig) and Matt Windschitl (R-Missouri Valley), submitted a bill to remove LGBT students from the protection of 2007’s antibullying law. House file 2291, introduced on February 8, simply stated the following: This bill strikes sexual orientation and gender identity from the definition of the term “trait or characteristic of the student” used for purposes of protecting students in public and nonpublic schools from harassment and bullying. Schultz claimed that the anti-bullying law was superfluous, because “schools are already doing this,” and his purpose for submitting the bill had nothing to do with children being bullied at all, but was instead to combat the Iowa Supreme Court’s ruling striking down the ban on same-sex marriages. According to, “Rep. Schultz admits the bill won’t go anywhere, but that’s not the point. He hopes it will renew the efforts to make same sex-marriage illegal here in Iowa, and start a debate on the house floor sometime this session.”

Third annual One Iowa Lobby Day a success by Jennifer Merriman, One Iowa

More than 100 One Iowa supporters gathered early Wednesday, February 10 for a training, before heading up to the Capitol to tell legislators why marriage equality is important to them. Joining One Iowa were Unitarian Universalists participating in the Sharing on the Side of Love campaign. Supporters of equality spoke with almost 60 legislators throughout the day, delivering more than 300 personal stories from constituents.

Anti-gay Democrat launches primary challenge against Ako Abdul-Samad by Justin Uebelhor, One Iowa

The Des Moines Register’s Jason Clayworth reported [February 21] on anti-gay Democrat Claire Rudison Jr.’s primary challenge to Representative Ako Abdul-Samad. Abdul-Samad is the incumbent Democrat in House District 66, an urban Des Moines district. Rudison is an ordained Baptist minister who describes himself as “pro-family, pro-life, and pro-marriage.” According to Clayworth, Rudison Jr. is a former resident of Texas who is married and has 10 children.

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On February 8, a day before Republicans in the Iowa Legislature failed to force a vote on a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage, the Des Moines Register released the results of a poll that showed that of six issues currently in front of the Iowa Legislature, texting while driving deserved the most immediate attention, while gay marriage deserved the least.

Rants leaves governor’s race, 3 anti-equality candidates remain by Arthur Breur

State Representative Christopher Rants, R-Sioux City (House District 54), ended his bid to be Iowa’s next governor. As a campaign point, Rants had claimed that he would veto all legislation sent to him until the Iowa Legislature voted on a marriage amendment. Rants said that his decision not to run for governor will not change his decision not to seek another term as state representative. There are now only three Republican candidates for governor, all against marriage equality: Sioux City businessman, Bob Vander Plaats; former governor, Terry Branstad; State Representative Rod Roberts (R-Carroll). Bob Vander Plaats has said that on “day one” as governor he would issue an executive order for all county recorders to cease issuing marriage licenses to same sex couples, even if that action led to his impeachment. Terry Branstad in February said that

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those opposed to same-sex marriage should be patient and that the only legal way to undo the Iowa Supreme Court’s decision is through a constitutional amendment. According to the Des Moines Register, Branstad said, “If a governor tries to do an executive order, he’s going to be sued. He may even be found in contempt of court,” Rod Roberts’ website includes the following statement: “I believe marriage should be between one man and one woman. As a State Representative, I have already fought to retain the traditional definition of marriage. The Iowa Supreme Court erred when it changed this definition earlier this year. As Governor, I will make sure Iowans have the final say on how marriage is defined.”

“In her Feb. 7 letter (‘Gay Marriage Ruling Does Impact Religion’), state Rep. Betty De Boef opines that ‘the culture shift that comes from rulings such as Iowa’s April 3, 2009, ruling ... are in total violation of the rights of parents to protect their children from being taught ideas contrary to their religious views.’ “The solution to that is simple: Those parents may send their children to a private, religious school that teaches the curriculum of their choosing. “I, however, as a parent of students enrolled in public school, expect that in public school, my children will be taught tolerance and respect. — Janine Plettner-Glodt of Des Moines, on

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US NEWS news analysis by Rex Wockner Maryland recognizes gay marriages from elsewhere

Maryland Attorney General Douglas Gansler said Feb. 24 that the state recognizes the marriages of gay couples who got married in states and countries where it is legal. Gansler, Gov. Martin O’Malley and gay advocates said they expect state agencies to comply with the determination, which O’Malley suggested has the force of law. Historically, Maryland has recognized marriages legally entered into elsewhere even if they would not have been possible in Maryland. “It’s not that foreign of a concept,” Gansler told reporters. “I mean, it’s just people. ... However a heterosexual couple is treated that was validly married in Maryland or elsewhere, (a gay couple) will be treated like that here in Maryland.” Some Republican and black legislators and three Roman Catholic bishops blasted Gansler’s move, and House of Delegates member Donald H. Dwyer Jr. threatened to try to impeach Gansler for allegedly undermining a state law that defines marriage as between a man and a woman. Gay groups praised Gansler’s action. “This opinion should bring some peace of mind to married same-sex couples and their families in Maryland as this state aligns itself with New York in making clear that there is no gay exception to long-standing marriage-recognition law,” said Lambda Legal’s director of constitutional litigation, Susan Sommer. “Under well-settled law, a marriage valid where entered is valid in Maryland, even if the couple could not have married in Maryland.” State Sen. Richard Madaleno, D-Montgomery Co., had requested a formal opinion from Gansler 10 months ago. “The attorney general’s opinion simply states that Maryland law recognizes marriages of couples who married out of state, pursuant to Maryland comity law,” Madaleno said Feb. 24. “We expect and look forward to state agencies acting in accord with the opinion and the law, and reviewing their practices and regulations to see what changes may be necessary to comply.”

Gay marriages start March 9 in D.C.

Barring any unexpected success by militant anti-gay activists, same-sex marriages will begin taking place in Washington, D.C., on March 9. Gay couples can pick up licenses starting March 3 but all couples must wait three business days between obtaining a license and getting married. The D.C. Council legalized same-sex marriage in an 11-2 vote Dec. 15 and Mayor Adrian Fenty signed the bill Dec. 18. The measure then moved to Congress for a review period of 30 “legislative” days. It did not encounter any opposition there. Human Rights Campaign President Joe Solmonese called the legalization of gay marriage in the District of Columbia “a huge victory (that) means a great deal coming after marriage-equality losses in New York

Had the measure made it to the ballot, a two-thirds vote would have been needed for passage. Memo to the National Organization for Marriage: Same-sex marriage is safe in New Hampshire. Rep. John Cebrowski, R-Bedford, isn’t happy about that. “The vast majority of adults out there know marriage is between man and woman,” he told fellow legislators, according to the Union Leader. “To engage in this flight of imagination... with adults is downright cruel... a cruel joke.” Maryland Attorney General Douglas Gansler and Maine.” D.C. already has a law that recognizes the marriages of same-sex couples who got married elsewhere in the world. Same-sex marriage also is legal in Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont. It also is legal in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, Norway, South Africa, Spain and Sweden—and in Argentina’s Tierra del Fuego province. Same-sex marriage will become legal this month or next in Mexico City, Portugal and, probably, Buenos Aires. New York state recognizes same-sex marriages from other jurisdictions but does not allow them itself. Same-sex couples were able to marry in California for 4 1/2 months in 2008 until voters amended the state constitution to put a stop to it. Maine legalized same-sex marriage in 2009 but voters repealed the new law before it took effect.

W. Va. constitutionalamendment effort blocked

Democrats in West Virginia’s House of Delegates on Feb. 23 stopped Republicans from advancing a resolution supporting the idea of a voter referendum to amend the state constitution to ban same-sex marriage. Republicans were attempting to force the measure out of committee and onto the House floor for a vote. West Virginia already prohibits same-sex marriage and blocks recognition of same-sex marriages from other states or countries. State Republicans, however, would like to see the ban inserted into the state constitution so it would be harder to overturn.

Gays picket Chicago’s Holy Name Cathedral

Around 100 gays and lesbians picketed Chicago’s Holy Name Cathedral on Valentine’s Day. Members of the Gay Liberation Network protested the Roman Catholic Church’s opposition to same-sex marriage and its hostility to LGBT people in general. They chanted, “Holy Name, holy shame!” “Most present-day gay leaders ... have taken a pass on highlighting and demonstrating against religious leaders’ opposition to our equality,” said GLN’s Andy Thayer. “In doing so, they ignore the lessons of how we have won LGBT victories in the past, and why we suffered critical defeats like California’s Proposition 8 and Maine’s Question 1.” Thayer said past LGBT wins against people such as Anita Bryant and Dr. Laura Schlessinger involved “relentlessly pounding them for their anti-gay bigotry, quoting their hateful statements, labeling them as vile bigots, and thus ‘peeling off’ their soft supporters.” “In contrast,” he said, “when anti-gay campaigners, including Catholic leaders, successfully promoted Proposition 8 and Question 1, they took the battle to us, relentlessly labeling us as child molesters in a manner very reminiscent of Anita Bryant. And we remained punching bags. Our ‘leaders’ didn’t strike back, labeling the anti-gay leaders as bigots and haters. And we lost.” The Catholic Church teaches its members that gay sex is a mortal sin. A spokeswoman for the archdiocese said Chicago churchgoers have no ability to alter Vatican teaching.

Gays arrested at NYC marriage license bureau

Fresno gays protest at county clerk’s office

Same-sex couples protested at the county clerk’s office in Fresno, Calif., on Valentine’s Day, requesting marriage licenses, which were denied. Same-sex marriage was legal in California for 4 1/2 months in 2008 until voters amended the state constitution to re-ban it. “We’re very much in love and we would like to make it legal for everybody to know,” Jason Garrigus, who applied to marry David Zandt, told County Clerk Victor Salazar. Salazar explained the constitutional amendment, Proposition 8, to the couple and said, “We are not able to assist you.” Dozens of opposite-sex couples got married on Valentine’s Day at the Fresno office.

NYC gays march in Chinatown parade

Attempt to repeal NH marriage law fails

An attempt in the New Hampshire House of Representatives to repeal the state’s samesex marriage law failed 109-210 on Feb. 17. The House also overwhelmingly rejected an effort to amend the state constitution to re-ban gay marriage. The vote was 135 to 201. The proposed amendment would have appeared on the November ballot if 60 percent of House and Senate members supported it.

Elzie and Gabriel Yuri Bollag sought equal marriage rights for same-sex couples. Dozens of gay marriage supporters cheered them on. Twenty same-sex couples went inside and tried to obtain marriage licenses. They were rebuffed. A gay man and a lesbian then presented themselves as a faux couple, asked for a license and were given one. “New York City is home to the Stonewall Riots and in that tradition we are here to say that equality doesn’t arrive through the ballot box,” said Queer Rising spokesperson Spring Super. “The bankrupt strategy of putting all efforts into electing so-called friendly officials has failed,” Super said. “We must shift to building a grassroots, national movement that demands full equality by any means necessary.” The four activists were charged with obstructing government administration and disorderly conduct. On Feb. 20, they agreed to “adjournment contemplating dismissal,” which will occur in six months if they are not arrested again before then. “As long as the state of New York maintains a policy which codifies that the love between two men or two women is inferior to the love between a man and a woman, these actions will continue,” said the activists’ lawyer, Ted Bohn. “This was only the beginning,” he said. “We are grateful, however, to (New York County District Attorney) Cy Vance for recognizing that those arrested in furtherance of civil rights should not be treated like criminals.”

Four members of a new ACT UP-like group known as Queer Rising were arrested in Manhattan on Feb. 12 after chaining themselves to the entrance of the New York City Marriage Bureau. Alan Bounville, Jake Goodman, Justin

Some 300 gays and lesbians marched in the Lunar New Year parade in Manhattan’s Chinatown on Feb. 21. The contingent was joined by Irish and South Asian LGBTs, who have been banned from the city’s St. Patrick’s Day and India Day parades. Steven Tin, head of the Better Chinatown Society, which organizes the new-year parade, told the New York Daily News he didn’t see any reason to exclude gay marchers. Assistance: Bill Kelley

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World News by Rex Wockner Ugandan president feels the heat

Ugandan President Yoweri Museveni is feeling the heat over a bill pending in the nation’s Parliament that would jail gays for life and punish some with the death penalty. “The prime minister of Canada came to see me, and what was he talking about? Gays,” Museveni told The New York Times on Feb. 12. “Prime Minister Gordon Brown came to see me, and what was he talking about? Gays. Mrs. Clinton rang me. What was she talking about? Gays.” The “Anti-Homosexuality Bill 2009” would imprison for life anyone convicted of “the offense of homosexuality,” punish “aggravated homosexuality”—including repeat offenders and anyone who is HIVpositive and has gay sex—with the death penalty, forbid “promotion of homosexuality” and incarcerate gay-rights defenders, and jail individuals for up to three years if they fail to report within 24 hours the existence of all LGBT people and LGBT sympathizers they know of. Remarkably, given the situation, more than 200 LGBT people gathered Feb. 14 in the capital city, Kampala, at a conference organized by the International Day Against Homophobia (IDAHO) Committee. The gathering, “Standing on the Side of Love: Reimagining St. Valentine’s Day,” featured keynote addresses by retired Anglican Bishop Christopher Senyonjo of Uganda’s West Buganda diocese, IDAHO Committee President Louis-Georges Tin, and U.S. Unitarian ministers Patricia Ackerman and Marlin Lavanhar. “This strong focus on religions during the meeting was aimed to show that religious arguments, so often used by homophobic people against LGBT citizens, can be defeated, including by religious arguments,” organizers said.

The church’s Pensions Board and commissioners must assess the affordability of the policy change and approve it before it can take effect. It’s OK for Anglican priests to be openly gay and enter into legal civil partnerships, but they are not supposed to have sex. United Kingdom civil partnerships carry the same rights and obligations as marriages.

bans have been violently attacked by riot police and anti-gay thugs.

Officials of Sydney’s LGBT Mardi Gras extravaganza banned Tourism Tasmania from Mardi Gras’ Fair Day because it planned to promote Tasmania as a gay-friendly holiday destination. Tasmanian Gay and Lesbian Rights Group activist Rodney Croome said Mardi Gras “interpreted its sponsorship contract with Events NSW (New South Wales) to preclude the promotion of any other state as a tourist destination at any Mardi Gras event.” “Whether a ban is motivated by hate or, in the case of the Mardi Gras, by money, censorship is censorship and should be resisted,” Croome said. “Mardi Gras seems blind to the fact that the cost of exclusive contracts in terms of community ill-will far outweighs whatever short-term financial benefit they may have.” Gay-owned Tasmanian travel operators, who usually promote themselves from Tourism Tasmania’s stall, reportedly were given refuge by other stallholders but still were prohibited from distributing material promoting Tasmania as a state. Fair Day, held Feb. 21 this year, is a huge festival of exhibits, information, food, booze, entertainment, contests, music, dancing and other merrymaking.

Members of Peru’s Lima LGBTI Student Bloc staged a public kiss-in on Valentine’s Day.

Sydney Mardi Gras bans Tasmanian gay vacation material

St. Petersburg refuses Kenyan police report- to fund anti-homophoedly stop gay ‘wedding’ bia campaign Police reportedly stopped a gay “wedding” in Mtwapa, Kenya, on Feb. 12 after a large mob formed and threatened to stone the couple and set them on fire. At least six supposed gay people were arrested in connection with the incident and police said they would conduct medical tests purportedly to learn if the arrestees had violated the ban on gay sex. A district police spokesman said it was appropriate for citizens to alert police to gay goings-on because homosexuality is “repugnant.” Gay sex is punished with up to 14 years in prison.

Anglicans OK gay pensions

The General Synod of the Church of England voted Feb. 11 to give pensions to the same-sex widows and widowers of clergy members. Speakers at the synod session said it was a matter of fairness and justice.

Latin American LGBTs protest on Valentine’s Day

Officials in St. Petersburg, Russia, have refused to include funding to fight homophobia in the city’s Program for Tolerance. A funding request for posters, a film festival and other actions had been submitted by the LGBT group Equality. The chairman of the city’s Committee on Culture, Anton Gubankov, agreed that homophobia is a problem but said that “publishing and distributing (material) about LGBT people can be negatively perceived by the majority as the promotion to the public of sexual and gender minorities.” Equality spokeswoman Maria Efremenkova called the rejection un-European. “St. Petersburg, which aims to show itself as the most European city in Russia, acts in contradiction to most European cities, which sponsor large-scale campaigns against homophobia and transphobia,” she said. Efremenkova’s group is planning the city’s first gay pride parade on June 26. Attempts to stage pride parades in Moscow over the past four years have been banned by that city’s mayor, Yuri Luzhkov. Small groups of activists who ignored the

LGBT people in several Latin American nations staged public actions on Valentine’s Day. In Peru, members of the Lima LGBTI Student Bloc held a kiss-in outside the Plaza San Miguel mall after being thwarted by security officers from doing it inside. In a separate action, in Lima’s Love Park, members of the Peruvian TTLGB Network staged five symbolic weddings between same-sex couples. Spokeswoman Susel Paredes said the group demands equal “civil rights.” In Chile, members of the United Movement of Sexual Minorities gathered in

Santiago’s Army Plaza to insist on marriage equality. Spokesman Fernando Muñoz said Chile lacks any formal recognition of same-sex partnerships. In Guadalajara, Mexico, gay student groups staged a march for equal partnership rights. Some 350 people set off from the University of Guadalajara and proceeded to downtown’s Guadalajara Plaza in front of the Roman Catholic cathedral, where they held a kiss-in and 11 symbolic weddings. Mexico City recently legalized samesex marriage. The law will take effect in March.

Costa Rica may see same-sex-marriage referendum

Ten Costa Ricans have turned in more than 130,000 signatures of registered voters requesting a popular referendum on a bill introduced in the Legislative Assembly to legalize same-sex marriage. The Supreme Tribunal of Elections will determine if a minimum of 130,751 signatures, representing 5 percent of registered voters, are valid. If they are, the referendum could appear on the ballot in December’s mayoral elections. Assistance: Bill Kelley, Andrés Duque

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Action Reaction: Pride and Glory by Brett Edward Stout For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction; this rule is something by which we are all bound regardless of our knowledge or perception of it. The purpose of this column is to explore the actions and reactions we have to the decisions and questions raised in our ever-adapting world. The reactions here are intended to stimulate debate in the hope that through it, we can better see what unites us in the face of our differences. On January 27th, 2010 President Obama called for the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (“DADT”) by the end of the year. Following this, numerous high ranking officials and officers, including the Chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, the Secretary of Defense, and the Commanding General of US forces in Iraq, have come out in opposition of the policy. How should we react to this issue becoming a priority in the face of so many problems our nation is facing and why is it still controversial to repeal a policy that even its architects like Gen Powell now oppose? Furthermore, to say that openly gay men have not served in the military is inaccurate. In January of 1993, Justin Elzie outed himself to Peter Jennings and continued to serve openly until his honorable discharge in 1997. Yet in the 17 years since DADT was passed, more than 13,000 men and women have been voluntarily or forcibly discharged. This number includes decelerated pilots like LtCol Fehrenbach, war heroes like Eric Alva, human intelligence collectors like Alex Nicholson, and linguists like Lt Dan Choi. There are those like RADM Steinman who, for the 25 years until he retired, suffered silently, and those like Joseph Rocha whose careers and pride were silenced by those the policy empowered to humiliate and degrade them. Make no mistake, even today gay servicemen fill every billet, are in every branch, and occupy every rank. As Senator McCaskill put it, “the issue isn’t whether or not gay and lesbian Americans are serving in the military; it’s whether or not we talk about it.” Our military stands as our official symbol of pride and patriotism, the penultimate example of what it means to be American. By refusing gays the right to serve openly, the government is directly saying that gays and lesbians cannot be courageous, cannot be honorable, and cannot be committed. For

this reason, the repeal of DADT is perhaps more important than the pursuit of marriage equality, though this is not to say a choice should be made between one or the other. How can the gay community presume to have its relationships recognized if the government responsible for them considers gays incapable of being good citizens? To deepen the insult, the methods used to implement the policy equate homosexuality with other dischargeable offenses such as disorderly conduct, desertion, insubordination, or murder. The rhetorical foil often asserted is that gays serving openly in the military will harm moral, unit cohesion, and good order and discipline. These words paint in broad stokes a fearful picture that, for the most part, no one has bothered to challenge with the simple question, “how exactly?” The reason you have not heard specific details is because they are ridiculous. The fear is that gays, if allowed to serve openly, will rape their bunkmates if not kept in segregated barracks, will force their brothers in arms to become homosexual, and that the world will destabilize and an openly gay military will throw down their weapons in surrender. The best argument against the repeal is that it would put “undue stress” on a military already at war, but when it comes down to it, “not right now” isn’t good enough. Those who oppose equality have provided inadequate justification as to why homosexuals should be denied the pride, the glory, or the privilege of military service. The suggestion is made that further study of how gays and lesbians will affect the military is needed. As a Marine veteran, I’m insulted by the insinuation that scientific evidence is needed to prove that I will not harm the country I devoted five years of my life to defending. However, the delay caused by further study may be an effort to

“Speaking for myself and myself only, it is my personal and professional belief that allowing homosexuals to serve openly would be the right thing to do. No matter how I look at the issue, I cannot escape being troubled by the fact that we have in place a policy which forces young men and women to lie about who they are in order to defend their fellow citizens. For me, it comes down to integrity—theirs as individuals and ours as an institution. I also believe the great young men and women of our military can and would accommodate such a change. I never underestimate their ability to adapt. That there will be some disruption in the force I cannot deny. That there will be legal, social and perhaps even infrastructure changes to be made certainly seems plausible. We would all like to have a better handle on these types of concerns. And that is what our review will offer.” — Joint Chiefs of Staff Chairman Adm. Mike Mullen to the Senate Armed Services Committee, Feb. 2.

gain a political advantage: to make the 2010 election a battle of the party of human rights vs. the party of bigotry. Gays may have found themselves unlikely pawns being moved forward in a game to control the center. This being said, the administration’s intentions may be less about championing gay rights and more about cornering the Party of No into debating an issue that would expose Writer, filmmaker, and photographer Brett Edward Stout them as out of touch with is a Cedar Rapids native and recent graduate of the University of contemporary America. Iowa. He spent five years in the US Marine Corps as a Russian linguist. In the end, what His first novel Sugar-baby Bridge was published in 2008. He is is best for morale, unit currently working on his second novel, entitled The Lives Between. cohesion, good order, and discipline comes down to leadership, where we poison our pool of military leaders and therein lays the folly of DADT. The policy by favoring voices of oppression over voices mandates subordinates and commanders to of openness. We can ill afford a system that keep secrets from one another, secrets serious perpetuates forcing voices into silence, espeenough to be punishable by separation. DADT cially when war has already stressed that is a policy that fundamentally compromises system. The military machine needs not only the relationship of trust between service repairs to its worn and war-battered parts, members and their leaders, while robbing but also the principles that fuel it. them of any untainted recourse to defend In the nation that epitomizes freedom themselves from prejudice and accusation. and equality, when the call to duty is sounded, Every day the policy stands, is another day all voices should be free to proudly answer.

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Creep of the Week by D’Anne Witkowski Ryan Sorba

You know you’re a creep when you get booed off the stage at the Conservative Political Action Conference for being too anti-gay. But that’s exactly what happened to Ryan Sorba, a member of California Young Americans for Freedom, when he got up during a panel discussion and, apropos of nothing, launched into an anti-gay tirade regarding the inclusion of GOPRIDE, a conservative gay group, as part of the conference. This made some people upset. Sorba is obviously one of those people. “I’d like to condemn CPAC for bringing GOPRIDE to this event,” Sorba says. Immediately the crowd begins to boo. This only emboldens Sorba. “Bring it, bring it,” he says. “I love it.” “Guess what?” he continues. “Civil rights are grounded in natural rights. Natural rights are grounded in human nature. Human nature is a rational substance in relationship.” I don’t know what he’s talking about or what this has to do with gay Republicans. But hey, he’s got the mic. “The intelligible end of the reproductive act is reproduction” he says, clearly exasperated. “Do you understand that?” Whoa, Sorba. Enough with the sexy talk. The reproductive act, eh? Is that what you Young Americans for Freedom are calling it these days? Undeterred by the continuous booing, Sorba begins to say, “Civil rights, when they conflict with natural rights are contrary...”

but gets cut off by people shouting at him from the audience. “No, you sit down,” Sorba, the King of the Comeback, says. I totally expected him to say, “I know you are, but what am I?” But then he goes for the real burn: “The lesbians at Smith College protest better than you do.” And then he says it again for emphasis. Sorba is referring to an event two years ago when the Smith College Republican Club brought him to campus to give a speech about his book, “The Born Gay Hoax.” A group of largely lesbian activists literally stormed the podium and forced him to leave. So Sorba is clearly used to less than warm receptions. But this is CPAC, man. Not exactly a bastion of gay pride and acceptance. The booing is clearly getting to Sorba and he’s losing his cool. “Yeah?” he says, again addressing the audience’s heckles and boos. “Bring it.” He then points to someone named Jeff in the audience and tells him “You’ve just made an enemy out of me.” Lucky Jeff. I wouldn’t be surprised to hear that Sorba later beat him up in the parking lot. Lee Doran of How the World Works talked to Sorba after his tirade and put the interview up on YouTube. “I interviewed Sorba to listen to him talk for as long as possible. I’m happy GOPROUD was at CPAC, and think Ryan made a fool of himself,” Lee writes. “I’m just trying to tell the truth,” Sorba tells Lee. “Homosexuality, first of all, is

intrinsically immoral. It’s intrinsically evil. It’s a deficiency of being.” He also, of course, says, “I don’t hate anybody.” He just wants to condemn anyone who would even consider associating with homos, even conservative ones. Hey, I’m just trying to tell the truth. D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister.

Nancy Elliott Whoa there, State Rep. Nancy Elliott (R-New Hampshire). Relax. No one is trying to anal sex you. Though this is something you apparently think about a lot. So much, in fact, that you must not have realized you were talking out loud and into a microphone during that legislative session about repealing your state’s marriage equality law. Like when you said, “We’re talking about taking the penis of one man and putting it in the rectum of another man and wriggling it around in excrement. And you have to think, ‘I’m not sure, would I allow that to be done to me?’ All of us, that could happen to you. Would you let that happen to you? Is that normal?” Yikes. First of all Nancy, what you put or don’t put in your butt is your business. But thanks for announcing to the world that you and your husband don’t do anal. That is a very important thing for your constituency to know (that is not a very important thing for your constituency to know). Second of all, what does this have to do with same-sex marriage? Is there some kind of clause in New Hampshire that mandates anal sex for married gays? You know that some gay dudes don’t even have anal sex, right? It’s “off the menu,” so to speak. And do you know that some straight dudes have anal sex on both the giving and receiving end? Because you don’t seem to be freaked out about them getting married. I’m also concerned about this claim you made at the session: “I heard yesterday from a mother that in the fifth grade in Nashua they were given as part of their classroom instruction, naked pictures of two men showing a presentation of anal sex. ... They are showing our fifth graders how they can actually perform this kind of sex and they are condoning, saying this is something normal. They are saying this is something that you ... as a fifth grader, may want to try.” Wow, really? And just one parent complained about that? Because I agree with you, giving fifth graders naked pictures of ass sex, straight or gay, is not appropriate. So you’d think more parents would have complained. Unless, of course, it didn’t happen. “The comments have Nashua school officials at a loss. Nothing resembling what Elliott said is being taught in any of Nashua’s schools, officials say,” reported the Nashua Telegraph. “Superintendent Mark Conrad said school officials have asked all elementary school principals about the claim. Conrad said there is no evidence to substantiate Elliott’s comment and no parents have called to complain.” Huh. That’s funny. No parents called the school to complain. Just one mystery mother and she called you, someone who

talks publicly about her visions of penises wriggling around in poo. Must be a districtwide cover-up, eh? What would New Hampshire be without you? I urge you not to quit, Nancy. Keep speaking the truth. Don’t let the haters get you down. Don’t let them censor your message. In fact, at your next meeting, bring in two live gays as guests to have anal sex so you can really hit your point home. Do it, Nancy. Do it for the children.

Rob Schenck

From the reaction of the religious right to President Obama calling for repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” you’d have thought he had issued a call for assless chaps and ballgags instead of body armor for soldiers. Rob Schenck, president of Faith and Action, a Christian lobbying group, says repealing DADT is a sinister part of the homosexual agenda. “The question really is whether it is appropriate for the military to be used to validate a dubious sexual practice,” he wrote in a Jan. 31 blog post. “This is about validation of a lifestyle that has, as its defining feature, a sexual attraction and even a set of sexual acts.” By “sexual acts” Schenck is talking about anal sex. Guys like him are always talking about anal sex because to them gays are nothing more. Schenck believes that gays are hot to make the military into a uniformed gay pride parade as if only by allowing gay men and women to openly serve will homosexuality become sanctioned nationwide. And let’s be clear that by “openly serve,” I mean not forced by official military policy to pretend they’re straight. It does not mean fondle and have sexy time with everyone of your same sex in your platoon. Schenck is missing an important part of the equation: the actual men and women serving this country who risk, every day, being “found out” and losing their careers. For Schenck, it’s a matter of religious freedom to discriminate. He says chaplains of every religion would flee rather than minister to homos. “You don’t have to have a Harvard degree ... to know there will be conflict between what these chaplains are charged to teach and preach, and the President’s proposed policy change,” Schenck writes. “It’s a huge—read that, HUGE—problem for morale and good order.” Last I checked, military chaplains weren’t “charged to teach and preach” about the evils of homosexuality. In fact, the mission statement of the U.S. Army Chaplaincy is to provide “religious support to America’s Army while assisting commanders in ensuring the right of free exercise of religion for all soldiers. In short, we nurture the living, care for the wounded, and honor the fallen.” It doesn’t say “except for queers.” Another problem: showers. Anti-gay folks always seem to think of wet, naked bodies whenever the subject of gays in the military comes up. “Come on, let’s be grownups. There’s a reason the military doesn’t have men and women showering together,” Schenck writes. “The fact is you don’t generally want people

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ACCESSline Page 9 Section 1: News & Politics One Iowa EXTREME RIGHT WATCH: Why should Jan Mickelson have to sacrifice? by Jennifer Merriman, One Iowa March 2010

At a recent Iowa Family Policy Center function, anti-gay, WHO radio host Jan Mickelson rallied the crowd with cheap shots at a group of Iowa clergy. These fair-minded pastors and ministers recently joined with Interfaith Alliance to write a letter supporting marriage equality to the Iowa legislature. Because there is no defense for Mickelson’s hateful speech, he chose to make a joke of others’ religious beliefs, making their desire for an open dialogue and the freedom to practice their religion into a completely ridiculous argument of semantics, complete with childish “gotcha” moments where he traps a supposed radio caller in a convoluted web of “tolerance” and “acceptance” definitions. The speech is something akin to when you first discover double negatives in grade school and spend an afternoon trapping your friends in ultra-clever wordplay. If only Mickelson would turn his attention to ferreting out the difference between the definitions of “civil” and “religious”, there might be the beginnings of a real conversation. “Personally, I think two guys pretending to be sexual mates are making a mistake,” Mickelson said in his speech. “More than that, they are violating the design of their bodies. More than that, they are sinning against their maker. More than

that, they are likely to shorten their lives in this world and impair their destinies in the next.” You said it, Jan: “Personally.” Personally you believe all of this. Unfortunately for you and the IFPC, your personal religious beliefs, no matter how many people share them—no matter if the majority of people share them—have no place in our constitution, state or federal. It might be fun to debate the “intent” or religion of our Founding Fathers, but the one thing they made absolute—not open to interpretation—was a freedom of religion and a mandate that church and state remain separate. The memory of their own religious persecution was fresh, and they did not want the same discrimination in the new country they were forming. The quote also alludes to Mickelson’s invocation of some tired, ridiculous “scientific studies” done by the Family Research Institute supposedly showing evidence of notions like gay men live an average of 20 years fewer than straight men. Although Mickelson and his followers love to quote these propaganda pieces, they never mistaken for science outside this narrow community. In fact, the lifespan study was called “absolutely worthless” because it was conducted by reading obituaries in gay newspapers.

[Editor’s note: for a critique of the “lifespan study” visit this link: ] As John Karon of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention pointed out: “You’re only getting the ages of those who die.” The only way this method would be accurate is if every man died, presumably leaving behind [someone] who cared to submit an obit listing his age. Another of Mickelson’s interesting, but still contradictory, arguments for denouncing same-sex couples is how much he would have to sacrifice to “tolerate their lifestyle”. The people who support marriage equality aren’t sacrificing their core beliefs when they see two gay people together, says Mickelson, so why should he have to give something up? You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to notice what gay and lesbian couples have been sacrificing for years while people like Mickelson, hateful and odious as he is, benefits greatly from societal recognition. For the first time ever in our state, gay and lesbian individuals are allowed to participate fully in civil society too. We tolerate people like Mickelson every day, and mostly we ignore him because we know him for the thoughtless, ignorant, hateful person he is. We know he and his cronies at the IFPC are only interested in stirring the pot and riling people up, any

“It’s only love. What’s everyone so scared of?” — The character Steven Carter, from Simon Shore’s 1998 movie, Get Real. pot and any people will do. If it’s not gay marriage, it’s the “myth” of global warming, or welfare mothers or, in a new one to me, “fake dollars” used to destroy our economy— all of which Mickelson blames on liberals in his speech. In his own words: “I like ruckuses.” Mickelson spews the most idiotic “arguments” and his audience laps it up because it’s what they want to hear. They want an “other” to blame and hate, and Mickelson is there to start a ruckus, preying on their fear of uncertain times ahead. Probably the most upsetting part for Mickelson is we’re not giving him a ruckus. Gay and lesbian couples just want to be left to their marriages, their jobs, their families, their children—just like we leave people like Mickelson to their lives every single day. How’s that for tolerance and sacrifice?

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Invitation to Cedar Rapids Pride Week June 1-6, 2010 This year marks the first PrideFest celebration in Cedar Rapids since the flood of 2008. Since that time, much has changed in our state, most importantly the Iowa Supreme Court decision declaring the ban against same-sex marriage unconstitutional. We are ready to celebrate in 2010 with a full Pride week. Our theme for this year is “Celebrating Diversity with One World, One Heart, One Pride”. Cedar Rapids Pride Week will run June 1-6 and will include: • PrideFest, our signature event at Greene Square Park • Movie night, Collins Road Theatres • Theater night, Hamburger Mary’s • Talent show, Club Basix • Pride Prom, Hamburger Mary’s • Brunch, Cedar Rapids Piano Lounge, catered by Zin’s. PrideFest will include free entertainment, a children’s area, vendor booths, a beer tent, and a chance to recognize diversity in our community. With your help, we can make this the most successful Pride celebration the Cedar Rapids area has ever held. We have five major sponsorship levels to choose from and can customize the amenities of any level to suit your needs. Of course, we welcome and appreciate donors of any size—large or small—and will recognize all donors. Many of our sponsorship levels include advertising space in the annual Pride Guide and booth space at PrideFest. We are also seeking your advertisement for a business or organization in the Pride Program. In addition, we are accepting applications for

SScontinued from page 8 vendor booths at PrideFest. Please contact me for more information on either booths or advertising. On a personal note, I am thankful to live in Cedar Rapids, and extremely proud to call myself an Iowan. Pride 2010 is shaping up to be a fantastic celebration of our community’s diversity, and I hope that we can count on you to help support our efforts to promote the diversity, awareness and inclusiveness of GLBT persons in our community. Please don’t hesitate to contact me with any questions. Anthony Brown President Cedar Rapids Gay & Lesbian Resource Center 319-366-2055

“Twenty years ago the military were the strong advocates of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell when I was secretary of defense. I think things have changed significantly since then. I see that Mike Mullen, the chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, has indicated his belief that we ought to support a change in the policy. So, I think my guess is the policy will be changed. I think that society has moved on. I think it’s partly a generational question. I’m reluctant to second-guess the military in this regard because they’re the ones that have got to make the judgment about how these policies affect the military capability of our units, and that first requirement that you have to look at all the time is whether they’re still capable of achieving their mission, and does the policy change—i.e., putting gays in the force—affect their ability to perform their mission. When the (Joint) Chiefs come forward and say, ‘We think we can do it,’ then it strikes me that it’s time to reconsider the policy, and I think Adm. Mullen said that.” — Former U.S. Vice President Dick Cheney on the ABC-TV show This Week, Feb. 14.

CREEPS around you in a shower that are erotically stimulated by your naked body.” True. Much better to be surrounded by people who are repulsed by you. Pretty sure that’s in the grown-up version of the Bible. “Now, I may be betraying my naïve ignorance here about how gay people get excited,” he continues. “(But the) site [sic] of an attractive nude body probably does for gays what it does for straights. (Unless, of course, you are gifted with a disinterest in sex, period. That’s another matter.)” Um, yeah. What a gift. Think of all the cross-stitching and Sudoku you could get done. Complete disinterest in sex is, after all, what everyone strives for, gay or straight. No wonder Schenck sees being a homosexual as unbefitting a soldier. It’s strange that Schenck seems to trust men and women in uniform to fight wars, but doesn’t trust them to know the difference between a battalion and a bathhouse. Support our troops, indeed.

Oliver North

If we let gays into the military, the terrorists have won. Or so thinks Oliver “Iran–Contra Affair” North, who wrote last week that by repealing “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” President Obama was putting the “nation’s security at risk (in order) to carry out a radical social experiment.” Regarding the Pentagon’s pledge to “selectively enforce” DADT, North wrote, “So much for our national security.” Indeed. If we’re not kicking gay service members out left and right, then we might as well start waving a giant flag made of hot pants from the annual Palm Springs White Party. North’s concept of gays in the military seems, well, a little paranoid: “If Congress changes the law and allows overtly practicing homosexuals in the ranks, should NAMBLA members be allowed to serve? Will those who advocate abolishing ‘age of consent’ laws be allowed to don uniforms? Will the military have to acknowledge same-sex marriages? If so, will military chaplains be required to perform such rituals? Will same-sex couples be entitled to military housing? Will these couples be allowed to serve in the same unit or aboard the same ship?” Whoa there, North. Take your heart

meds and your Viagra. Everything’ll be OK once DADT is repealed and all of America’s troops are rightfully gay-married to NAMBLA members by military chaplains at sea. Totally rational, normal train of thought. Thanks so much for sharing. North also appeared last week on “Hannity’s America” on Fox News, where he called the repeal of DADT a “stunning assault on the all-volunteer military” and again predicted the wild influx of NAMBLA members as a result. As Igor Volsky wrote for Think Progress, “The irony of a convicted felon who lied about diverting proceeds from arms sales to a rebel group in Nicaragua supporting a policy that forces gay and lesbian servicemen to lie about their sexual orientation was lost on both Hannity and North.” It’s really no surprise when you consider North’s thoughts about this very issue. Responding to the Joint Chiefs chairman’s statement during the congressional hearing that, “We have in place a policy which forces young men and women to lie about who they are in order to defend their fellow citizens,” North wrote, “How that can be the case in a ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ era seems to have eluded the good senators.” North is either stunningly ignorant about how DADT works or he’s playing to an audience that is itself stunningly ignorant. Either way, the fact remains that DADT has resulted in an alarming number of discharges during what North calls “an unprecedented ninth year of war and nonstop high-stress deployments.” You know, like the Arabic translators kicked out a few of years ago just because they were gay? Also lost on North is the fact that gays are human beings, not walking, talking sex acts. North dismissed Obama’s State of the Union pledge “to finally repeal the law that denies gay Americans the right to serve the country they love because of who they are” as “disingenuous rhetoric.” “It’s not about ‘who they are’; it’s really about ‘what they do,’” North wrote. So when North wrote that “those presently wearing America’s uniforms are the brightest, best-educated, best-trained and most combat-experienced military the world ever has seen,” he meant, you know, except the gay ones. D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister.

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Deep Inside Hollywood by Romeo San Vicente A Gleeful boyfriend for Kurt

2/26-3/20, Theatre Cedar Rapids, Downtown It’s one thing for there to be young gay romance on daytime soaps or on cable Cedar Rapids: The Producers shows like Degrassi: The Next Generation, where viewership is, in general, smaller. 3/6, Civic Center of Greater Des Moines: It’s quite another for a teenage boy on TV’s biggest recent primetime breakout Judy Garland in Concert hit to be gifted with a boyfriend. But that’s coming soon to the all-singing, 3/10-3/14, US Cellular Center, Cedar Rapids: what’s all-dancing Fox juggernaut Glee. Current reports are that in season two of the Cirque du Soleil Alegria (see ad, page 2) already beloved series, Kurt (Chris Colfer) will find out that he’s not the only gay 3/13, Orpheum, Sioux City: Sioux City student at school (although he still may be the only who can dance to “Single Ladies” Symphony with Dame Kiri Te Kanawa in a leotard with quite the same grace) and that he might enjoy prom night after all. 3/13, 7:30pm, Unitarian Church, Davenport: Casting is underway for this groundbreaking storyline—quick, name another time Dancing for Diversity this has happened on a big hit show—and the Gleeks are probably already taking bets Chris Colfer - Photo: Fox 3/20, Orpheum, Sioux City: Disney’s Beauty on when they’ll get to kiss. and the Beast – Broadway at the Orpheum A Single Man’s Hoult gets Torchwood’s Barrowman his Mad on 3/21, St. John Auditorium, Ottumwa: Southeast takes a Desperate turn Whether you remember him as the John Barrowman is the favorite gay boy of the title in the Hugh Grant-starring Iowa Symphony Orchestra Spring Program actor of an extremely enthusiastic cult of dramedy About a Boy, or simply know him Torchwood and Dr. Who addicts thanks to as the now-grown-up-and-still-boyish3/23, Stephens Auditorium, Ames: Avenue Q cable network BBC America. And though but-extremely-flirtatious student who he has yet to earn household name status woos Colin Firth in Tom Ford’s A Single 3/26-3/28, US Cellular Center, Cedar in the U.S., the 42-year-old sci-fi heart- Man, you’re going to see Nicholas Hoult’s throb known to his fans as Captain Jack face in far more wide-reaching multiplex Rapids: Avenue Q (see ad, page 13) Harkness is about to take one step closer offerings soon. Hoult—who’s also featured sort of recognition with his latest in the upcoming Clash of The Titans—just 3/26-4/3, Waterloo Community Playhouse: tojob:thattormenting the ladies of Wisteria signed on for a role in Fury Road, which Lane. Barrowman will shoot a multi- stars Charlize Theron and Tom Hardy Tuesdays with Morrie (see ad, page 14) episode storyline of Desperate Housewives (Bronson) and picks up where Mad Max in March that will air later this spring, one Beyond Thunderdome left off. And no, 3/27, Planet X Fun Center, Cedar Rapids: that will see him turn from sci-fi good guy he’s not Max. to suburban villain. Housewives creator He plays someone named Nux, which Gay Day at Planet X (see ad, back page) Marc Cherry won’t divulge a single word of sounds just like “Max” if you’re not paying information about what sort of evil deeds enough attention. The film shoots in 3/31-4/2, Gallagher Bluedorn, Cedar Falls: Barrowman’s character will perpetrate. Australia this summer for a 2011 release. For now all that’s known is that he’s going And filmmakers, if you’re listening, please Avenue Q


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7/7-7/25, Civic Center of Greater Des Moines: Jersey Boys

to be up to no good, with all the sexy friction that sort of role entails. Good enough for Romeo.

Nate Berkus to cute up NBC

Nate Berkus, Oprah’s adorable go-to gay interior designer, may be the most sexually harassed man on television. (Just watch an episode of his boss’s show when he makes an appearance, and listen to the female audience squeal over the pleasure of the unattainable.) And he’s about to jump out of the frying pan and into the fire, as his own daytime talk show has just been sold to NBC/Universal. No word on the content of the series, although Berkus’s role on Oprah has recently expanded from home makeovers to entire life interventions, which may be a sign of things to come. Whatever happens between commercial breaks on the finished product, it’s kind of a no-brainer to expect the tasteful man with that warm smile and luxurious hair to charm the entire country this fall.

understand that while eye-candy like Hoult is great, we also want you to bring back Tina Turner. Romeo San Vicente doesn’t need another hero; he just wants a guy who can cook. He can be reached care of this publication or at DeepInsideHollywood@

“I didn’t want to be gay. ... I wanted an easy life. And you know what? I am gay and I still have an easy life.” — Actress Jane Lynch, who plays coach Sue Sylvester on Glee, to London’s Sunday Mirror, Jan. 31.

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March 2010

The Outfield by Dan Woog It Took a Team

Since its inception four years ago, The OutField has chronicled – and lauded – the work of It Takes a Team. We’ve covered the small organization’s large work in areas as diverse as anti-gay recruiting by college coaches, the preparation of an educational kit on LGBT issues in sport, and the rise of transgender athletes. But this is our last column about It Takes a Team. In December, its sponsor – the Women’s Sports Foundation – announced the end of funding for the project. Budget woes in a soft economy doomed the decadeold program. It Takes a Team began auspiciously. Concerned about homophobia in sport, tennis great Martina Navratilova raised funds to combat stereotypes and educate participants. Though what was then called The Project to Eliminate Homophobia in Sport became part of the Women’s Sports Foundation, Navratilova insisted it address male issues as well as female. From the start, the Women’s Sports foundation had a hard time getting other LGBT or athletic organizations to support the project. Its first directors were paid very little and administrative aid from the WSF was minimal, limiting its impact and visibility. A key moment occurred when Pat Griffin – a professor of social justice and former coach at the University of Massachusetts – joined with Mount Holyoke College athletic director Laurie Priest, former Massachusetts Department of Education Safe Schools Program director Jeff Perrotti and former Oberlin College athletic director Michael Muska to develop educational materials. The result: a 15-minute video, curriculum materials and action guides, “Safe Space” stickers, posters, and a list of resources addressing LGBT issues in sport – provided help to athletes, coaches and administrators. It came at a crucial time, when student-athletes began coming out of the closet and a new generation of coaches moved into positions of power. In 2004, director Lisa Thompson left It Takes a Team. Griffin – who had just retired from UMass – was hired at a higher salary.

She worked from her home in Massachusetts, but was given administrative assistance at WSF’s Long Island headquarters. In 2005, the program’s name was changed to It Takes a Team. Griffin took her job seriously. She traveled widely, speaking to athletes, coaches and administrators, and at PFLAG and athletic conferences. She developed strong relationships with the National Collegiate Athletic Association and National Center for Lesbian Rights. Eighteen national advocacy organizations – from the Association for Applied Sport Psychology and Anti-Defamation League to OutSports .com and the Transgender Law Center – endorsed It Takes a Team and linked to its Web site. A monthly e-newsletter reached over 3,000 subscribers. Griffin answered countless questions, and offered advice on ways to make sports teams safe and welcoming for LGBT athletes. “Coaches and administrators really relied on us,” Griffin says. “They knew to come to us with questions like ‘What’s a fair transgender policy?’ or ‘How do I address negative recruiting by coaches in our conference?’ We came a long way.” The organization had its most success at the college level, perhaps because of the older age of participants. “There’s much more work to be done in high school,” Griffin notes. Her greatest satisfaction came from advising student-athletes about their legal rights, then following up to hear that progress was made. She was especially heartened when parents supported their LGBT sons and daughters. For five years, It Takes a Team raised money through grants and donations. In 2009, as funds dried up for non-profits across the country, the WSF decided to end the program. The wealth of resources will remain on the WSF’s Web site ( Homophobia.aspx). However, there will be no more research, conferences or educational materials. Griffin vows to continue her own work – including her blog ( “I’m not done,” she says firmly.

“I have such a passion for this. I’m looking for my next venue, figuring out how to keep going. I want to stay in the game.” She adds: “My goal was always to put myself out of business. It hasn’t happened yet. I hear too many stories and get too many calls about negative recruiting, anti-gay locker room environments and comments made by coaches and athletes. “Our work is not done. We’ve got a foothold in the world of sport. I’m sad to see It Takes a Team end now.” Griffin is heartened that her group was alone in working on LGBT issues in sport. The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation has a sports media desk. NCLR, the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, the student-led Our Group, and individuals on campus around the country “won’t go away,” Griffin says. “We’re no longer a lonely voice in the wilderness. We’ve got lots of company now.”

Out in the NFL?

Did you hear all that buzz last month about National Football League player Ovie Mughelli? Probably not. What started as a post on an Atlanta black entertainment blog,— about the Atlanta Falcons fullback having a sexual relationship with another man— soon blossomed into a he said/he said story. The site published a video of Francois Sloan, 36, a New Jersey hair stylist who described a six-year relationship with Mughelli. Sloan said the men met in 2001, when the football star was at Wake Forest University. (The Web site said the relationship began when Mughelli was “heartbroken” after breaking up with a girlfriend.) Sloan said he provided “financial stability” to Mughelli in college, but the relationship ended suddenly in 2007 after Mughelli signed a six-year, $18-million contract with the Falcons. Before that time, while Mughelli was playing with another NFL team, Sloan said the financial aspect of the relationship changed. The football star paid for Sloan’s hotel rooms and car rentals to drive to games; he left tickets for Sloan at stadium will-call windows. Sloan claimed that Mughelli said he wanted a monogamous relationship with him. However, Sloan also said that he believed the football player was seeing women at the same time. published photos allegedly taken by Sloan, of Mughelli showing off his well-developed body in a hotel room, and car rental receipts. Queerty said that Mughelli’s attorney offered Sloan “an envelope” to keep quiet about the relationship—which Sloan said he never opened—when the football player worried about the impact on his career. Mughelli reacted like—well, like his manhood was being attacked. His attorney, Phaedra Parks, fired off cease-and-desist letters to Web sites that published Sloan’s story. Calling the statements “defamatory,” she threatened to sue for “false light.” Parks demanded that the Web sites remove “each and every reference, posting, comment and statement related to any allegation(s) that Mr. Mughelli is a homosexual or has or was involved in

a homosexual relationship.” Parks also asked for retractions on blogs, “emphasizing the removal of this information from your site.” Mughelli’s publicist called the allegations “a malicious attack on my client.” Sloan noted on that he never called Mughelli “gay, bisexual or on the DL.” However, a professional football player is a public figure. The threshold for defamation is higher than for private citizens. Furthermore, calling someone “gay” is not defamatory, said Cynthia Counts— an Atlanta First Amendment lawyer who represents, a gay sports Web site that reported on the controversy. “Today, the law and society are changing, and I do not believe that the mere label that someone is a ‘homosexual’ continues to be presumptively defamatory,” she explained. “Although it would be naïve to suggest that no prejudice exists against gays, Georgia courts have made clear that ‘it is not libelous to charge a person with the doing of a thing which he may legally and properly do.’ Because the Supreme Court has definitely held that homosexuality is not illegal, an assertion that someone is gay should not be defamatory.” Reaction on the blogosphere ranged widely. The incident involved an interesting intersection of social issues: sexuality, race, celebrity, outing and the law among them. “Being gay may not be a crime, but no straight person wants that tag,” wrote a poster on Outsports. “It’s offensive to the majority—like it or not—and damaging to someone who gets endorsement deals.” One writer compared Mughelli to President Obama, who is sometimes called a Muslim. “That’s not a crime either, but no one with sense running for office wants that stigma.” One poster decried the “black gay agenda.” Another countered, “If there is any black gay agenda, it’s silence, invisibility and shame. I know singers, professional athletes, politicians, comedians, rappers and actors who have been sleeping with men for years, and not a word.” One man claimed, “a real man doesn’t care what other people have to say about him.” That was followed by “deep down inside we all care about some of the things people say about us. Rumors can destroy careers and people.” There was also this: “I think what’s important is how the NFL and the mainstream media react to the outing of a bisexual man. Let’s follow this closely—we have a lot to gain from a mature and accepting approach to Mughelli.” But, getting back to the first line of this column, the mainstream reaction was what? Ignoring it, because it’s grubby and gay? Or for fear of a lawsuit? Perhaps a huge yawn, because a possibly gay NFL athlete is now a non-story? One thing is for sure: Despite the lawyer’s demands, the posts stayed up on every Web site. Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer coach, gay activist, and author of the “Jocks” series of books on gay male athletes. Visit his Web site at He can be reached care of this publication or at

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ACCESSline’s New STATEWIDE Recurring Events List ACCESSline is proud to announce its new statewide recurring events list. Special thanks to IowaLisa, for providing the majority of these events. Note that every event now includes a set of letters indicating the groups who will be most interested in each event. The list is simple: L:Lesbian, G:Gay, B:Bisexual, T:Transgender, M:General Men’s Interest, W:General Women’s Interest, A:General Interest/ Straight Allies, K:Kids/Family Friendly, D:Drag. Next month we will be including “+” for events related to HIV topics. If you have an event you would like included in this list, please email it to Third Sunday of the Month, IOWA CITY PRIDE PLANNING COMMITTEE, 3-4 PM, at Iowa City Public Library, Meeting Room E. Come help plan the 2010 Iowa City Pride Festival (to be held Saturday, June 19, 2010). For more info, contact Bridget at [ L G B T M W A ] Third Sunday of the Month, IOWA CITY PRIDE PLANNING MEETINGS, 3PM, Meetings to plan the 2010 Iowa City Pride

Festival. Everyone welcome to attend. [ L G B T K ] Every Sunday, GLBT AA, 5-6 PM, at First Baptist Church at 500 N. Clinton St., Iowa City. For more info about Intergroup and Alcoholics Anonymous call the 24-Hour Answering Service at 319-338-9111 or visit the AA-IC website: [LGBTMWA] Every Sunday, L WORD LIVES: L NIGHT, 7PM, at the Firewater Saloon, 347 South Gilbert St., Iowa City, 319-321-5895. The night will start with Season 1, Episode 1 of the L Word... because a good thing should never die. FoLLowing the L Word wiLL be a Drag King show at 9:30 p.m. No cover. Tel, 319-3215895. [ L B T W D ] Every Sunday, THE QUIRE: EASTERN IOWA’S GLBT CHORUS REHEARSALS, 6-8:30 PM, at Zion Lutheran Church, 310 N. Johnson St., Iowa City. Membership is open to all GLBT folks, as well as allies who support the community. There are no auditions; you only need to be willing to attend rehearsals regularly and learn your music. The Quire prepares two full concerts each

year in the winter and spring, and occasionally performs shorter programs at events in the Iowa City/Cedar Rapids area. The Quire is a member of Gay and Lesbian Association of Choruses (GALA), and has developed a reputation for excellence and variety in its concert programs. For more info, visit http://www. [ L G B T M W A ] Every Sunday, QUEER GUERRILLA BRUNCH, Location in Iowa City to be announced each week. LGBTQIs & Allies gather for Sunday brunch to celebrate queer visibility & community. Sign up for future brunches on Facebook at [ L B G T M W A ] First and Third Sunday of the Month, TANGO LESSONS AT CSPS, 3-6 PM, at 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. Cost is $5. Everyone welcome; no partner or experience necessary. For more info, call Elie at 319-363-1818 or e-mail [LGBTMWA] Every Sunday, RAINBOW AND ALLIED YOUTH, 8:00pm11:00pm, Social group for Queer youth 25 years and under [ LGBT] Every day except Sunday, HAMBURGER MARY’S WEEKLY HAPPENINGS, See Description, at 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, Cedar Rapids, off of 1st Ave. Mondays – Charity Bingo at 8 p.m. with a special guest hostess; Tuesdays – Kid’s Night; Wednesdays – Game Night; Thursdays – Mary-oke with Nic from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m.; Fridays – Drag Show at 9 p.m. (all ages) and 11 p.m. (21 and over); Saturdays – Open Mic Night followed by Drag Show at 9 p.m. (all ages) and 11 p.m. (21 and over). For more info, e-mail or visit [ L G B T M W A K D ] First Monday of  the  Month, IOWA PFLAG QUAD CITIES CHAPTER MEETING, 6:30 PM, at Eldridge United Methodist Church, 604 S. 2nd St., Eldridge. For more info, call 563-2854173. [ L G B T M W A K ] Third Monday of  the  Month, PFLAG OF CEDAR RAPIDS METRO AREA, 6 PM (social time) 6:30 PM (meeting time), in the Middle Room of Faith United Methodist Church, 1000 30th St, NE, Cedar Rapids. Meeting held in the Middle Room of Faith United Methodist Church. Coffee and refreshments will be served before the meeting, beginning at 6 p.m. Everyone is welcome; confidentiality is required. PFLAG promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through: support, to cope with an adverse society; education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights. Call 515-537-3126 for more details. [ L G B T M W A K ] Fourth Monday of  the  Month, IOWA PFLAG WAUKON/ NORTHEAST CHAPTER MEETING, 7 PM, at St. Benedict’s Catholic Church, 309 W. Main St., in the Parish Center, Decorah. For more info, call 563-535-7680. [ L G B T M W A ] First Second Monday of  the Month, IOWA PFLAG NORTH IOWA CHAPTER MEETING, 7 PM, at First Presbyterian Church, 100 S. Pierce St., Mason City. Meetings are held the First and Second Monday (alternating) of the month. For more info, call 641-583-2848. [ L G B T M W A K ] Every Monday Wednesday Thursday Saturday, GLBT ONLY AA MEETINGS IN DES MOINES, 6 PM - SAT 5 PM, at 945 19th St. (east side of building, south door). [ L G B T M W A ] Second Tuesday of the Month, SPIRITUAL SEEKERS, 7-8:30 PM, at Trinity Episcopal Church, 320 E. College St, Iowa City. Spiritual Seekers is a group for people of all faiths, or of little faith, who wish to make deeper connections between their sexual identities and the spiritual dimension in their lives. Meetings include discussion of specialized topics, telling of pieces of our faith journeys, and occasional prayer and meditation. (On the 4th Tuesday of each month, the group gathers at a local restaurant for food and fellowship.) For more info, contact Tom Stevenson: or 319.354.1784. [ L GBTMWA] Second Tuesday of  the  Month, GLRC OF CEDAR RAPIDS BOARD MEETING, 6:30-8 PM, at 6300 Rockwell Dr, Cedar Rapids. Meetings are open to the general public. For more info, call 319-366-2055 or visit: [ L G B T MWA] Second Tuesday of the Month, WOMEN FOR PEACE KNITTERS, 9:30 AM, at Prairiewoods, 120 E. Boyson Rd., Hiawatha. For more info, call 319-377-3252 or go to All ages and levels of needlework skills welcome. Come knit for charities. [ L W ] Second Tuesday of the Month, IOWA PFLAG AMES CHAPTER MEETING, 7 PM, For more info, call 515-291-3607. [ L G B T MWAK] Every Tuesday, ACE INCLUSIVE BALLROOM, 7-8:30 PM, All skill levels are welcome. American social dance, Latin, a mix of dance from the last 100 years. For more info, contact Mark McCusker at, 319-621-8530 or Nora


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Hear Me Out by Chris Azzopardi

a celebration of fatherhood, or an ode to the other kind of “daddy.” She’s mostly impermeable to new-millennium trends that ruled in her absence (though couldn’t you see M.I.A. doing a bang-up job on the lead single?), quenching antsy ears who’ve waited so long just to have their heartache calmed, their strength restored—or a few new reasons for some sexy time. If music this stellar requires a wait-period of 10 years, then Sade, see ya in another decade. Grade: B+

less as it climbs into a swollen plea. Most of Moorer’s seventh studio album is stocked with heartbreak, memories and loss—like the back-to-back punch of tearjerkers “The Stars and I (Mama’s Song)” and “Easy in the Summertime,” both sparsely executed and lovely. Less is, indeed, Moorer.

Valentine’s Day Sade, Soldier of Love Sade doesn’t come around very often, so to think she’d completely finagle her first album in a decade around the edgy martial beat of its namesake single was wishful thinking. The song’s that good—twisting the band’s trademark sound into a pulsating survivor tune that’s ominously ablaze with aggressive drums and electric guitar thrashing. It seemed eager to reestablish the calming British-Nigerian songstress as more than a bath-time brand. But nope— she’s still the Smooth Operator, whipping up wind-down rhythms suited for meditation, like on the lulling “Long Hard Road” and the album’s quiet closer. That sophisticated voice of hers still sounds a lot like honeyed tea tastes, taking its sweet ol’ time as it drifts over the sensual “Be That Easy”—and its quasicountry lining (for real!)—and the reggaefeel of “Babyfather,” which could ostensibly be

To compliment its bloated-with-bignames flick, the accompanying soundtrack squeezes in as many genres as the movie does Hollywood elite—indie darlings, neosoul stars, worldly beats and Taylor Swift. If all of it feels gimmicky, it is. Even Swift, who gets two songs here (because she’s better than everyone else), helps capitalize on her own über-success with “Today was a Fairy Tale,” a whimsical pop-country song that sounds like she tossed her latest behemoth of an album in a blender, drank it and then threw it up all over our ears. Among the other universal-pandering inclusions: sex crooner Robin Thicke on Leighton Meester’s dance-y “Somebody to Love,” a crap Amy Winehouse-doing-Sam Cooke cover and a Bollywood-seasoned “Signed, Sealed, Delivered I’m Yours.” Maroon 5 parts their sig-pop sound to gracefully record the Fred Astaire standard “The Way You Look Tonight.” The Bird and the Bee contribute an adorable, whistle-happy “I’m into Something Good” in

their token folk-pop tone. Even a new Jewel song, as vanilla and sweetly saccharine as it is, strikes a melodic richness in its catchy chorus that the folkie hasn’t in quite some time. Still, the soundtrack is too scattershot, too reliant on quantity over quality. There’s a lot of love, but not much to love. Grade: C

Also Out

Allison Moorer, Crows Country artist, what? Often pigeonholed as such, the contralto crooner almost altogether ditches the traditional twang that gassed her career into gear over a decade ago. Moorer latches onto a far more wandering Americana sound, light-as-afeather melodies that move with the same intimate elegance of the disc’s artwork. Her sultry voice grips the hell out of the lounge-y “Should I Be Concerned?,” sounding weight-

The Watson Twins, Talking to You, Talking to Me Whatever “talking” goes on during The Watson Twins’ second album, it’s likely to go in one ear and out the other. The duo, Leigh and Chandra—most known for the harmonies they sang on Jenny Lewis’ Rabbit Fur Coat—weave vocal baskets that, too often here, are almost empty. The airiness of the lethargic disc needs more than dead weight. Most of it begs for better, more motley production, but the measured sparseness of “Snow Canyons” is endearing. And though there’s some charm to the retro-soul catchiness of “Tell Me Why,” it’s like The Supremes … half-asleep. Reach Chris Azzopardi at

“I’m not a poster child for gay rights by any means, but I have so many gay and lesbian friends and they’re just so pure and so true. That’s not politics to me. That’s human rights.” — Dolly Parton to London’s Times, Jan. 22.

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Featuring International Superstar Wayne G New York, NY (February 10, 2010) – THE OUT CLUB is thrilled to announce the launch of the new dance series Remixxer™, which will feature an International lineup of DJ/producers showcasing their original productions and remixes. UK based Wayne G has been selected to kick off the new series, on the eve of his return to Australia for Sydney Mardi Gras where he will be featured at the annual Harbour Party. “Remixxer™ - Wayne G” features twelve continuously mixed tracks that have been produced and/or remixed by Wayne, and the album will be available in stores beginning March 2, including an exclusive preview on iTunes Worldwide beginning February 23. Wayne made his DJing debut at London’s infamous Red Heart party in April 1996, performing alongside Grace Jones to a dancefloor of 3,000. His apparent overnight success saw him joining ranks with legendary DJs working London’s non-stop nightlife. Warriors at Turnmills (home of Trade) made him a resident. However, it was his residence at London’s world’s famous Heaven nightclub that made Wayne a household name. Averse to categorization in any one particular musical style, Wayne takes crowd on a musical journey starting with house, anthemic vocal house and the sound he created for Heaven’s dance floor, bringing the energy, percussive beats and

the uplifting infection riffs seamlessly together to create a melodic high energy journey. Wayne has gone on to play huge parties all over the world including Sydney Mardi Gras and Harbour Party, Berlin Love Parade, World Pride, the Adventjah Festival, Folsom Street Fair, White Party Palm Springs, Winter Party Miami and the prestigious Fire Island Pines Party. As a producer Wayne has built up an impressive resume with remixes of Cher, Madonna, Kylie Minouge, Christina Aguliera, Celine Dion, Deborah Cox, Whitney Houston and Olive, to name a few. Over the last few years his travels have taken him from Mexico City to New Mexico, from Sydney to Shanghai and from Johannesburg to Juneau. Wayne is also a resident DJ on the Atlantis gay cruises. The twelve track continuous mix “Remixxer™ - Wayne G” features some of the biggest names in dance including #1 artists Erasure, Darren Hayes (Savage Garden), Simone Denny, Barry Harris and Peyton. Not only has Wayne created exclusive mixes to each song on the album, but he has also included some of his own original productions which are making their world premiere, including “Jus Cum”, “I Promised Myself” and his remakes of the classic gems “When Does Cry”, “Love Hangover” and “RESPECT”. Wayne has also included new songs from dance diva Debby

Holiday and Broadway bound Levi Kreis (“Million Dollar Quartet”) as well as his signature remix of the anthemic “I Just Wanna Dance”, from the West End smash hit “Jerry Springer The Opera”. “Remixxer™ – Wayne G” will be available in stores nationwide on March 02 and on iTunes worldwide beginning February 23. The album can also be purchased at and www.centaurmusic. com, where you can sample each song as well as choose between a CD or a digital download of the album.


THE OUT CLUB is a distributor representing GLBT artists from all over the world including artists like Ari Gold, Levi Kreis, Jason & deMarco, Brian Kent, and DJ Bill Bennett, as well as soundtracks from GLBT films and renowned GLBT record labels like Centaur Music. THE OUT CLUB was the first and is still the only aggregator of gay content approved by iTunes and was instrumental in working with iTunes to launch the first Gay Pride section on iTunes in June 2009. THE OUT CLUB artists and albums are regularly featured on iTunes.  THE OUT CLUB also operates, the first and largest website catering to GLBT artists that lets the consumer choose between buying a CD or a digital download. In addition, features titles that have been specially selected by gay music aficionados as being of special interest to the GLBT community.  THE OUT CLUB … you’re born a member!

REMIXXER™ - WAYNE G 1. Wayne G v Darren Hayes – Love

Hangover (Original Mix) 2. Wayne G feat Shauna Jensen – RESPECT (Original Mix) 3. Jason Dottley & Debby Holiday – Party Round The World (Wayne G & Andy Allder XXL London Mix) 4. Pagano & Wayne G feat. Peyton – Trapped (Wayne G Betty&Ford Mix) 5. Wayne G – Jus Cum (Wayne G & Andy Allder Original Mix) 6. Wayne G feat. Michael Wheatley – When Doves Cry (Wayne G & Andy Allder Afterhours Mix) 7. Levi Kreis – Gonna Be Alright (Wayne G & Andy Allder Atlantis Anthem Mix) 8. Erasure – A Little Respect (Wayne G & Andy Allder Afterhours Dub)

9. Simone Denny + Barry Harris – Drama Queen (Texting U) (Wayne G & Andy Allder Atlantis Anthem Mix) 10. Therese – Time (Wayne G & Andy Allder XXL Club Mix) 11. Wayne G feat. Jonathan Hellyer – I Promised Myself (Wayne G Classic Mix) 12. Richard Thomas feat. Alison Jier - I Just Wanna Dance (Wayne G Lady Botox Anthem)

“I’d always choose someone younger. I wanted to smother them with love. I’d take them around the world, try to educate them. One after another they got a Cartier watch, a Versace outfit, maybe a sports car. They didn’t have jobs. They were reliant on me. I did this repeatedly. In six months they were bored and hated my guts because I’d taken their lives and self-worth away.” — Elton John to Parade magazine, Feb. 17.

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The Gay Wedding Planner: Where to get married in and around Des Moines by Beau Fodor Mandolin Inn 199 Loras Blvd Dubuque, Iowa 52001 (563) 556-0069

The expansive wrap-around veranda at Dubuque’s historic Mandolin Inn In traveling throughout our great state during the presidential caucuses in the late 90s with then Vice President Al Gore, as his chef and personal steward, I met so many wonderful and hospitable people. Ten years later, I’m still meeting wonderful and truly hospitable folks all over Iowa as I plan Gay Weddings with PANACHE now for out-of-state couples from around the world. (Two young grooms from Japan will marry this summer here in Iowa! Follow their journey at!!!) I still feel we have as much true hospitality to offer as the East Coast —if not more—as far as gay wedding venues go (minus that little ocean issue). Last month’s Gay Wedding Planner column carried the “best of the best” gay wedding venues for Central Iowa. This month I’m headed North and East to delightful Dubuque.

The Mandolin Inn Is a jewel in the crown of Dubuque! A turn-of-the-century Edwardian mansion, the eight-bedroom “home” features sitting parlors, private dining areas, a music room, and panoramic views of the Mississippi. Amy Boynton, manager of the Inn, could not be more accommodating to your personal needs! Also, a daily morning gourmet breakfast is served on the Inns’ wrap-around veranda. And the famous “Field of Dreams” is just down the road!

The Mansion

175 West 17th Street Dubuque, Iowa 52001 (563) 495-5322 The Mansion is another extremely wonderful venue and is part of a collection of gay wedding service-providers at www.

The Dubuque Arboretum 3800 Arboretum Drive Dubuque, Iowa 52001 (563) 556-2100

International Women’s Day Events, Ames and Des Moines March 7 – International Women’s Day (Ames) At the Public Library, 515 Douglas Ave, from 2:00–4:00 pm. Join members of Iowa United Nations Association to celebrate the economic, political and social achievements of women. Contact Suzanne Hull at

March 8 – Women’s Appreciation Day Reception (Des Moines)

Five Democratic women will be honored at the Grand Piano Bistro, 506 E Grand Ave from 6:00–8:00 pm. They are Andrea Jansa, Rachael Grimes, Clara Oleson, Peggy Huppert and Amanda Ragan. Guest speaker will be Christie Vilsack. Advance tickets are $20, or two for $35. Contact

March 8 - International Women’s Day Haiti Benefit (Des Moines)

Presented by the Iowa United Nations Association, from 6:00–8:00 pm at First Unitarian Church, 1800 Bell Ave. Contact Suzanne Hull at

“Kelli and I are still close. Like many gay families that I know, gay women especially who have children together, we remain friends. Not that heterosexual people don’t or can’t do it, but every gay woman I know is friends with her exes, and they’re involved with their lives in some capacity. Kelli is a big part of what made this family so amazing and what continues to.” — Rosie O’Donnell to the Los Angeles Times, Jan. 31.

Beau Fodor Whether the Lagen Gazebo, or the Packard Amphitheater, this fairy-tale like venue is perfect for a Garden-style wedding. Accommodating up to 100 guests, and offering the Garden Room for the wedding party, this is a picture-perfect venue!

Park Farm Winery

15159 Thielen Road Bankston, Iowa 52039 (563) 557-3727 Whether for your wedding, your reception, or both at the same time, you will be hard pressed to find a more picturesque location than Park Farm Winery. A chateau styled winery surrounded by rolling hills blanketed with rows of grapevines.

Also, I need to mention the “kindness of strangers” and the guys and gals at . I found the site extremely helpful for the “Gay Weddings in Dubuque” scene and all of the many diverse vendors were top notch, in my book! Plus, those kids know how to show an old queen a VERY good time!!!

Dubuque has been a vibrant river city since the early 1800s. Situated along the Mississippi River, Dubuque is distinctive because of its steep hills and river bluffs—geographic features that many people don’t expect to find in Iowa. Historically known for button making, boat building, and logging, now Dubuque is known for its riverboat excursions, tourism, gambling, and recreation. — From the web site of Dubuque’s Chamber of Commerce

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Hawaii’s Garden Isle: Kauai by Andrew Collins In terms of scenery, the one Hawaiian island that comes closest to living up to the expectations of many first-time visitors is Kauai, a comparatively small but magnificently lush isle of rain forests, towering seaside cliffs and secluded beaches. Hikers flock to the Na Pali Coast, which is on the remote northwestern tip of the island, just beyond the picturesque village of Hanalei (which has been the setting for such films as South Pacific, Indiana Jones, and Jurassic Park). The eastern side is dominated by the waterfalls of the Wailua River Valley, southern side by Poipu’s stunning beaches and upscale resorts, and the western side by gargantuan Waimea Canyon - there’s unparalleled beauty wherever you look. Kauai remains largely unspoiled and slow-paced, an ideal spot for devotees of the outdoors - loyal admirers often vacation here exclusively and skip the other islands. There’s just an incredible amount to do on this island (although nobody will look oddly at you if you choose simply to laze around the beach all day). More energetic types will want to drive the main highway encircling much of the island, from south to north, and hop out at various points of interest to hike and explore. The one section you can’t reach by car, the famed Na Pali Coast with its sheer 4,000-foot cliffs, you can access in other interesting ways. Perhaps take a catamaran cruise up the west coast of Kauai - the five-hour tours offered by Capt Andy’s Sailing Adventures are great fun and include an opportunity to snorkel right off the boat. Outfitters Kauai offers rigorous but highly rewarding kayak tours around the Na Pali Coast as well as a wide range of both extreme and easygoing adventures - easy kayak trips up the placid Hule’ia River, bike rides into spectacular Waimea Canyon and Ziplining treks in several different areas. If you’re in good shape and game for an independent adventure, you can always hike into the Na Pali highlands via the famed 11-mile Kalalau Trail - access the trail from Ha’ena State Park (itself home to a lovely beach), at the end of Kuhio Hawaii on the north shore. Easier options for sightseeing include driving the viewpoints at Waimea Canyon State Park - they don’t call this the “Grand Canyon of Hawaii” for nothing. The 10-mile-long canyon is 3,000 feet deep and is one of Hawaii’s best photo ops. You’ll find beautiful beaches all around the island, including a few with gay followings. The easiest to reach is Lydgate State Park, just south of Kapaa off the Kuhio Highway - walk south from the parking area for the gay-popular section. Donkey Beach, off Kuhio HIghway a bit north of Kapaa, is enjoyable both for sunbathing or swimming and it draws a mix of gays and straights. Just keep in mind that the surf can be intense, so exercise caution. You’ll see the parked cars on the side of the road as you head north out of Kapaa, between mileposts 11 and 12. From here just follow the trail down to the water. Nudity is permitted at this beach. Kauai has always excelled when it comes to super-fresh produce and seafood, but in recent years many more sophisticated, urbane restaurants have opened, making the island a genuine hotspot among gourmands. One of the best examples of this transformation is the Beach House, which

The Little Black Book -- Aston Islander and Aston Kauai Beach

-- Beach House

-- Capt Andy’s Sailing Adventures

-- Grand Hyatt Kauai

-- Hanalei Colony Resort

-- Hanalei Gourmet -- Javakai

-- Kalalau Trail

-- Kauai Visitors Bureau

Kauai’s famed Na Pali Coast, with its 4,000-foot cliffs rising high above the sea. Photo: Andrew Collins serves exceptional contemporary HawaiianAsian fare (wasabi-crusted snapper with lilikoi-lemongrass beurre blanc) from a dining room with stunning view of the ocean - it’s one of the top special occasion restaurants on the island. The Grand Hyatt Kauai has several good restaurants on-site, including romantic Tidepools steak and seafood eatery, the most elegant of the bunch. This resort is also a good option for experiencing a traditional luau these feasts are held on Sundays evenings and are open to nonguests (reservations are recommended). In the early evening, the Hyatt’s Seaview Terrace is a breezy and relaxing spot to sip wine or cocktails and sample some terrific pupu (appetizers), and clubby Stevenson’s Library - thought known primarily as a cocktail bar - also serves a full menu of super-fresh sushi from Friday through Monday evenings. Other Poipu culinary notables include the Kauai outposts of two restaurant brands that have become legendary among foodies in Hawaii: Merriman’s, which opened recently and features farm-fresh, healthful regional cuisine and Roy’s Hawaiian Fusion Cuisine, a longtime favorite in the area. Up on the north shore, charmingly laid-back Hanalei is a cluster of restaurants, some of them quite good. For lunch, Hanalei Gourmet is hard to beat for fresh salads, coconut-shrimp and sandwiches from the gourmet deli. A few doors down, Javakai serves some of the best coffee on the island. And romantic Postcards Cafe is a good bet for sophisticated seafood and modern Hawaiian fare. Kauai has no shortage spots specializing in tasty short-order fare and tempting snacks, including the rich yet relatively low-cal gelato and sorbetto served at Papalani Gelato, the first-rate premium ice cream served at the statewide chain Lappert’s (there are three branches on Kauai), and the decadently sweet and uniquely Hawaiian frozen treats doled out at Jo Jo’s Anuenue Original Shave Ice in Waimea. On the savory side, and also in Waimea, do not miss Shrimp Station, which serves super-fresh, deliciously seasoned shrimp platters - a favorite being the spicy Thai shrimp. Poipu’s Puka Dog has been

featured on television’s No Reservations with Anthony Bourdain and is renowned for piquant-sweet hot dogs topped with tropical mustards and sauces. Just north of Poipu, the Koloa Fish Market prepares super-fresh plate lunches and bento boxes to go (try the ahi poke bento) - they’re perfect for a picnic. And if you’re headed north of Kapaa toward the north shore and craving a snack, be sure to check out Duane’s OnoChar Burger in Anahola. Kauai has no gay nightlife per se, although the entire island is so welcoming that you’re liable to bump into “family” at just about any bar on the island. One spot that many local gays and lesbian do frequent, especially during the “gay nights” held the first Saturday of each month, is Nawiliwili Tavern, near the Kauai Marriott and the airport in Lihue. Kauai has a nice range of accommodations in all prices ranges, from posh resorts to gay-friendly B&Bs. Poipu, on the south shore, has the greatest concentration of distinguished lodgings, including the fairly new Koa Kea Hotel, a hip and stylish boutique property whose rooms surround a pool that overlooks the ocean. The hotel’s Red Salt restaurant is stellar. The aforementioned Grand Hyatt Kauai ranks among Hawaii’s most sumptuous full-service resorts - rooms have smart, contemporary furnishings and such cushy amenities as iHome stereos and beverage chillers. The Hyatt is also home to the superb Anara Spa - set amid lush gardens and waterfalls - as well as a top-notch golf course. With an enviable perch overlooking the ocean, Whaler’s Cove has developed a loyal following over the years for providing upscale suites and amenities at fair prices - the one- and two-bedroom units are beautifully appointed, quite huge, and directly facing the ocean. Gay-owned Poipu Plantation Resort comprises an atmospheric 1938 B&B as well as nine individual rentals - it’s steps from the beaches, is run by friendly and helpful innkeepers, and has warmly furnished, reasonably prices rooms (with full breakfast included in the B&B rooms). It’s steps from the beach and several restaurants. Other nice lodgings around the island include Outrigger at Lae Nani, which is run

-- Koa Kea Hotel

-- Lappert’s

-- Merriman’s

-- Nawiliwili Tavern

-- Outfitters Kauai -- Outrigger at Lae Nani -- Papalani Gelato

-- Parrish Collection

-- Poipu Beach Resort Association

-- Postcards Cafe

-- Puka Dog

-- Roy’s Hawaiian Fusion Cuisine

-- St. Regis Princeville

-- Shrimp Station

-- Whaler’s Cove

by one of Hawaii’s most gay-friendly hotel brands, and the similarly GLBT-welcoming Aston Islander and Aston Kauai Beach hotels. On the north shore, both the elegant Hanalei Colony Resort and ultra-swanky St. Regis Princeville are well recommended. Another option, especially worth considering if you’re staying for more than a few days or traveling with a group of buddies, is renting a vacation house or condo. With properties all around the island, the Parrish Collection is a reliable, reputable and gay-friendly vacation rental agency, and it manages a wide variety of lodging options, from simple one-bedroom condos starting around $115 per night to over-the-topluxurious homes with multiple bedrooms and designer kitchens. Andrew Collins covers gay travel for the New York Times-owned website and is the author of Fodor’s Gay Guide to the USA. He can be reached care of this publication or at

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MCC QC announces its annual Chili QCAD sponsoring modern dance Cookoff/Auction Fundraiser to be held performance, Dance for Diversity, at Connections, March 14 at 5pm at Unitarian Church, Davenport, IOWA/ILLINOIS QUAD CITIES — Metropolitan Community Church of the Quad Cities (“MCC QC”) is a small but growing church with a big heart for missions. “This church is heavily involved in feeding the hungry through providing a hot meal once a month, supporting the many works of Churches United of the Quad Cities, and promoting the wonderful community work of agencies such as AIDS Project Quad Cities and Quad Cities Affirming Diversity,” says its Pastor, Rev. Rich Hendricks. Chili Cook-Off organizer, Linda Thompson, reports: “The Church is coming up on its 30th Anniversary of welcoming all who seek a relationship with God, and we are hoping for an outpouring of community support with this, our biggest annual fundraiser. All the more so this year since we are hoping to purchase new handicap-accessible facilities that can also be used as a community center.” There is a large for sale sign in front of the current Church building and facing on the heavily-trafficked Harrison Street in Davenport. Hendricks reports, “We had so many people express concerns that we might

be going out of business when they saw the for sale sign that we have put up a bright yellow banner with the invitation: ‘Open & Growing – Come & See!’” The annual Chili Cook-Off will be held on Sunday, March 14th beginning at 5 p.m. at Connections Nightclub, 822 W. 2nd Street, Davenport. This year’s event includes winning chili cash prizes of $100 for first place, $25 for second place and $15 for third place. The chili judging takes place promptly at 5:30 p.m., followed by a time of feasting and fellowship during which people can bid on silent auction items. At the close of the silent auction will be a live auction, featuring several special items. Following the auction there will be some comedy and a drag show. Tickets are $5 for all the chili, fixings and dessert you can eat and are available at the door on the day of the event. If you would like to donate items for the auction or for more information, please call the Church office at 563.324.8281. MCC QC: tearing down walls & building up hope!

MTM Chicago to host ‘OUT at Wrigley’ Event, July 18, 2010 Event scheduled for Sunday, July 18th at Wrigley Field as the Chicago Cubs take on the Philadelphia Phillies (5:05pm game time)

(CHICAGO) – MTM Chicago is excited to announce their largest LGBT event to date, ‘OUT At Wrigley’, to be held on Sunday, July 18th, 2010 at Wrigley Field. Five-hundred (500) seats inside Wrigley Field and two-hundred and fifty (250) rooftop seats have been reserved for this event. Bill Gubrud, co-founder and managing partner of MTM Chicago states, “I have been a die-hard Cubs fan my whole life - having the opportunity to join my two biggest passions, marketing and the Cubs, is a dream come true. We (MTM Chicago) have formed a small, yet agile and extremely talented committee of individuals from the LGBT community who will help ensure this event is a huge success.” To date MTM Chicago has already confirmed nine LGBT venues who will work exclusively with

MTM to help promote this event.” Gubrud is known for having brought Chicago Cubs’ advertising dollars to his former employer’s newspaper and for starting the first ‘gay day’ at Wrigley, both occurring back in 2001 (see’s complete article detailing each here: He was also quoted in a 2004 Chicago Pride online article as stating, “Chicago’s ‘Out at the Ballgame’ was the first organized effort in the country to get lesbian and gay fans to attend a professional sports game in masse.” Event details, including ticket pricing and availability, pre-event party dates and venues as well as participating sponsors will be posted as they become available at the event website: www.outatwrigley. com. MTM Chicago is an LGBT owned and operated marketing, promotions and event planning company co-owned and maanaged by Bill Gubrud and Tim Hite. The accompanying website ( features news, original content and more focused towards Chicago’s active and diverse LGBT community.

“(Sarah Palin) is capable of generating a personality cult—much, much more so than Obama, because she can harness Christianism to her divine destiny. The power of this kind of appeal—of a charismatic, beautiful woman, an icon of the pro-life cause, persecuted by the evil elites, demonized by libruls, and commanding the biggest military on earth—should not in my view be under-estimated. Know fear.” — Gay writer Andrew Sullivan on his blog, Feb. 6.

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Quad Citians Affirming Diversity (QCAD) is sponsoring an evening of modern dance. Assembled by QC native Lynn Bowman, the concert will feature eight dancers performing a variety of solos and duets, showcasing original contemporary dance choreography by professional artists from Iowa, Minnesota, Illinois and Alabama. The evening’s concert will be sure to delight the senses with a diversity of dances that are performed in a unique and intimate

setting. Pianist Brad Moran will be playing during intermission were you can enjoy light refreshments. A donation of $15 is requested. Time: Date: Where:

7:30pm March 13, 2010

Unitarian Church 3707 Eastern Avenue Davenport, IA

“I’ve lived with the same man for 23 years, and much of the film (A Single Man) is taken from my own life. I will have someone still say to me ‘your lifestyle.’ And I say: ‘My lifestyle? What is that?’ I live with somebody I love. We make dinner at home together. We lie around and read books and watch television and walk our dogs and go on vacation and argue occasionally—that’s a lifestyle? ... That’s what I wanted to depict—just a very straightforward love story.” — Director Tom Ford to the Pittsburgh gay newspaper Out, February issue.

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Inside Out: Reflections on 100 Dates by Ellen Krug

Across 1 Part of a Stein line 4 Comes out on the beach 8 Mauresmo of the courts 14 Women’s patriotic org. 15 Come quickly 16 Study of pansies, e.g. 17 Prayer to the Queen of Heaven 19 With 41-Across, character of this puzzle’s theme 20 With 39-Across, TV show of this puzzle’s theme 22 Possible result of love with no glove 23 Hershiser of baseball 24 Like Lord Byron, e.g. 26 Dressed, so to speak 29 Barrel bottom bits 33 José’s huzzah 36 Dances with dips 38 Sailor’s saint 39 See 20-Across 41 See 19-Across 43 One on Boulanger’s staff? 44 Went on and on 48 Colony resident 49 Hayes formerly of South Park 51 Home for Heidi 53 Foot in the Iliad 55 Bear of the night 59 Von Trapp’s rank 62 With 65-Across,’s Gay Man of the Decade 65 See 62-Across 67 ___ Menace (Radicalesbian phrase)

Since coming out as transgendered, one of the things people say to me goes like this: “Oh, you must feel like a teenager again, starting all over with a new life.” I have to admit that some of this is true: I do feel like a teenager again (even to the point of taking acne medicine), but this is not necessarily a good thing. One of the negatives is that I’m learning things all over. Like dating. Like being alone. Like wondering if I’m cute enough to attract someone other than the guy left after last call. I’ve probably gone on 100 dates of one sort or another since 2004. And just to be sure that all of my bases are covered, I have dated both men and women. One would think that this “doubles my chances” for a happy relationship. In reality, it just means more chances for me to meet people who absolutely will not provide me with a happy relationship. I can report that I’ve not disappointed myself in that regard. I had never thought finding a quality, durable relationship would be so difficult. Of course, maybe it’s just me, Princess Ellen. So as a 53 year old teenager, let me report on some lessons learned on the 21st century dating front. My first post-marriage date was with a bisexual woman who posted an attractive picture on She was extremely witty in her on-line profile and it made me think, “I’ve got to meet this person.” We set up a meeting at a restaurant. I walked into

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the place and the host pointed to a woman sitting at a table. I replied, “Oh, no, that could not be her, she looks nothing like the woman online.” (And she didn’t!) As I said this, the woman rose and waved to me. It was too late for me to run out the door. Lesson No. 1: Never reveal yourself until you check out the date. And always make sure you have an escape route. Then there was the man I met last Thanksgiving at a very fancy restaurant in Minneapolis. Now, this guy had sent a picture of him on a beach, with the camera some distance away. By this time, I had learned from Lesson No. 1, so it did not surprise me that in real life, this guy (whom we will call Charlie) was not of Richard TTINSIDE OUT continued page 25

7 Kind of power 8 Former American Idol judge Paula 9 Tied up at the marina 10 War zone, in brief 11 Gets behind 12 Still competitive 13 Ogled a hottie in a bar, e.g. 18 Salsa rating 21 Guy that goes either way? 25 Barrymore of Boys on the Side 27 Summer along the Seine 28 Grant in the cinematic field 30 Poet Gidlow 31 They were under Hoover 32 Put into piles 33 Prefix with potent 34 Elton’s johns 35 Kett of the comics 37 Author/illustrator Silverstein 40 All that’s seen of the Wizard of Oz, at first 42 Verse on a vase 45 Broadway opening? 46 The Mary Tyler Moore Show spinoff 47 Examine by touching 50 Like a real bitch 52 Change color 54 The Gay Caballero star Romero 56 Dykes on Bikes member, e.g. 57 Public spectacle 58 “Rubber Capital of the World” 59 Bit of chocolate 60 Web site unit 61 Answer with a 50-50 chance 63 Bard’s river 64 Keep an eye on 66 Genre for Eminem • SOLUTION ON PAGE 27

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INSIDE OUT Gere quality. Prior to meeting, Charlie had told me that he had divorced his wife in California and had recently relocated for a new job and fresh start. That was important since I do not date married people nor do I date people in long-term relationships. After ordering drinks, I asked Charlie how long he had been divorced. With a sheepish smile he said, “We’re technically not divorced, just separated.” I then asked for how long. He replied, “Two weeks, only she doesn’t know it yet.” I spent the rest of the meal wondering how I could order a couple bottles of wine to go since he was picking up the tab. Lesson No. 2: The word “married” is just an adjective for some people. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some promising dates with some very decent people. There was the first man I dated. What a class act; he brought flowers every time he met one of my female friends. When I broke it off, he told me, “You will never find another man as good as me.” He was right. Lesson No. 3: Sometimes the good ones get away through Ellen’s fault all her own. One day, I ran into a woman visiting from Minneapolis. She described herself as being straight as a teen; then a lesbian in her 20s; she then married a man and became mother to two children in her 30s; later she returned to being a lesbian in her 40s. By the time I met her at almost 50, she seemed open to dating transgenders. Throw in that she was a therapist, and I figured that both of us had a real chance at happiness. I mean really, if it couldn’t work with this woman, what hope did I have? We dated for seven months until my skirt wearing became a deal breaker. Lesson No. 4: Just because someone has a history that’s as screwed up as your own, it does not mean the two of you are perfect for each other. I came across only one person whom I would call just plain mean. He stood me up on the first date. After sitting in my lobby waiting with no call from him, I said “the hell with you.” Five days later, he emailed with an excuse that sounded marginally plausible. Over the course of the next six months, he regularly emailed saying how he regretted his mistake. Finally, I gave in and agreed to meet for a drink. On the day of the date, he called three times to say how TTINSIDE OUT continued page 26

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INSIDE OUT much he looked forward to finally meeting. I got to the bar early and received his text, “I’m on my way.” You guessed it; he never showed. After forty-five minutes of waiting, I left him a voicemail, “You are an asshole. You really need to get some therapy.” Lesson No. 5: God, Ellen, you can be so stupid sometimes. If you haven’t figured it out by now, I’m a bit of a slow teenage learner and I’m having trouble getting down some of the current rules of dating. I’ve only recently understood that the phrase, “For sure,” as in, “For sure I want to see you again,” really means, “Maybe, and only if something better doesn’t come along.” And one thing I may never get is this texting stuff from potential dates. I mean, really, why don’t you just call? Or email? Doesn’t it take more brain power just to come up with those damned abbreviations? For the moment, I’ve called a time out to dating. I need to get all of my body on the same female page. I’m probably going to be off the dating rolls for a year. But, when I come back, watch out. With what I’ve learned about how men and women date, I’ll be ready for anything… or if need be, more lessons. And another 100 dates. (Or so I think!)

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Garda at 319-400-4695, or visit http://iowadancefest.blogspot. com/. [ L G B T M W A ] Every Tuesday, ARGENTINE TANGO, 7:30-9:30 PM, Practice and open dance. A donation of $1-2 per person is requested for use of the Senior Center. For more info, contact Karen Jackson at 319-447-1445 or e-mail [ L G B T MWA] Every Tuesday, OUT (OUR UNITED TRUTH): A GLBT SUPPORT GROUP, 7-8:30 PM, For more info, call 563-359-0816. [ LGBTMWA] Every Tuesday, KARAOKE IDOL, 9 PM, Drink specials and great competition! Visit [ L G B T M W A] First Wednesday of the Month, CEDAR RAPIDS CHARTER CHAPTER OF THE AMERICAN BUSINESS WOMEN’S ASSOCIATION, For more info, visit [ L W ] First Wednesday of the Month, CONNECTIONS’ RAINBOW READING GROUP, 7 PM, For more info, contact Todd at: [ L G B T M W A ] First Wednesday of the Month, WOMEN’S SACRED CIRCLE, 6:30-8 PM, This group is for women who are interested in gathering for spiritual growth. The direction and activities of the group are determined by participants. $5 per session. For more info, visit [ L W ] Second Wednesday of the Month, WOMEN FOR PEACE KNITTERS, 7-9 PM, at Prairiewoods, 120 E. Boyson Rd., Hiawatha. Knitting, crocheting, and discussion. For more info, call 319-3773252 or go to All ages and levels of needlework skills welcome. Come knit for charities. [ L W ] Second Wednesday of the Month, STONEWALL DEMOCRATS, THE GLBT CAUCUS OF THE DEMOCRATIC PARTY, 6:30-8 PM, For more info, contact Harvey Ross at or call 319-389-0093. [ L G B T M W A ] Every Wednesday, U OF I GAY LESBIAN BISEXUAL TRANSGENDER AND ALLIES UNION MEETINGS, 7-9 PM, at the Penn State Room #337 of the Iowa Memorial Union, U. of Iowa campus, Iowa City. For more info, visit http://www.uiowa. edu/~glbtau/ or e-mail These meetings are open to the public. [ L G B T M W A ] Every Wednesday, TRANSFORMATIONS IOWA, 7:00pm-9:00pm, TransformationsIowa is a Transgender support group. It is open to all ranges of the gender spectrum, male to female, female to male, cross dressers, drag queens, gender queer, questioning, as well as friends, significant others and allies. [ T D ] First Third Thursday, EVENINGS FOR SPIRIT, 6:30-8:30 PM, at SpiritHill Retreat, 604 Cedar Valley Road, West Branch. First, third, and fifth Thursdays of each month. Women gather at SpiritHill (or other locations) to share our spiritual experiences, visions and longings. The evenings include time for sharing and time for silence. Laughter, tears and singing are often shared as well. No specific spiritual practice is followed. This event is always open to newcomers. For more info, call 319-643-2613, or e-mail Calling in advance is highly recommended to confirm the location for the specific month of interest. [ L W ] Second Thursday of  the  Month, OPEN MIC WITH MARY MCADAMS, 7-9 PM, at Ritual Café, on 13th St. between Locust and Grand, downtown Des Moines. Visit For more info, e-mail [ L G B T M WA] Second Thursday of  the  Month, IOWA PFLAG OMAHA/ COUNCIL BLUFFS CHAPTER MEETING, 7 PM (6:30 PM social time), at Mead Hall, First United Methodist Church, 7020 Cass St., Omaha. For more info, call 402-291-6781. [ L G B T M W A K ] Third Thursday of the Month, OPEN MIC HOSTED BY KIMBERLI, 7-10 PM, at the Blue Strawberry Coffee Company (now open after the flood), 118 2nd St. SE, Downtown Cedar Rapids. Signup at 6:30 p.m. or by e-mailing the week prior to the open mic. [ L G B T M W A ] Third Thursday of the Month, CONNECTIONS GAME NIGHT, 7-9 PM, at Donnelly’s Pub, 110 E. College St., in downtown Iowa City. [ L G B T M W A ] Third Thursday of  the  Month, IOWA PFLAG DUBUQUE/ TRI-STATE CHAPTER MEETING, 7 PM, at St. John’s Lutheran Church, 1276 White St., Dubuque. For more info, call 563-5829388. [ L G B T M W A K ] Every Fourth Thursday of  the  Month, PROFESSIONAL WOMEN’S NETWORK (PWN), For more info, visit www.pwn. org, e-mail, or call Shelley Woods at 319-9819887. [ L W ] Every Fourth Thursday of the Month, THE GLBT READING GROUP, 7:30 PM, Red Cross Building at 6300 Rockwell Dr. NE, Cedar Rapids. The group is open to new members; contact for further info. [ L G B T M W A ] Every Thursday and Friday, SHANNON JANSSEN, 6-10 PM, Dawn’s Hide and Bead Away, 220 E. Washington St., Iowa City. Shannon performs a variety of music including original songs on

March 2010 the Grand Piano in the hotel’s beautiful atrium. No reservations required. [ L G B T M W A ] First Friday of the Month, FAIRFIELD ART WALK, For more info, visit [ L G B T M W A ] First Friday of the Month, GUERRILLA QUEER BAR MEETUP!, Tired of the same old bars? Crave the idea of bringing your queer and straight friends together in a fun, new environment? We’re descending upon an unsuspecting straight bar and turning it into a gay bar for the night. To join in: join our Facebook group, Google group or Twitter feed. You’ll receive an email the morning of each event with the name of a classically hetero bar and the meeting time. Call your friends, have them call their friends, show up at the bar and watch as it becomes the new “it” gay bar for one night only. Visit group/iowa-city-guerrilla-queer-bar. [ L G B T M W A ] First Friday of the Month, FIRST FRIDAY BREAKFAST CLUB, The First Friday Breakfast Club (FFBC) is an educational, nonprofit corporation for gay men who gather on the first Friday of every month to provide mutual support, to be educated on community affairs, and to further educate community opinion leaders with more positive images of gay men. It is the largest breakfast club in the state of Iowa. Hoyt Sherman Place, 1501 Woodland Avenue, Des Moines, IA 95030. Contact Jonathan Wilson at (515) 288-2500 or email: [ G B ] First Friday of the Month, DAWN’S COFFEE HOUSE, 5-8 PM, Dawn’s Hide and Bead Away, 220 E. Washington St., Iowa City. First Friday of every month between February 6 and December 4. Music and light snacks are provided. Proceeds from the door are split between the non-profit of the month and the store (to cover the cost of snacks). Any other donations received go 100% to the non-profit. $3 cover. For more info, phone 319-338-1566. [LGBTMWA] Every Second and Fourth Friday, DRUMMING CIRCLE, 7 PM, Unity Center of Cedar Rapids, 3791 Blairs Ferry Rd. NE, Cedar Rapids. Every 2nd and 4th Friday of the each month. For more info, call 319-431-7550. [ G M ] Third Friday of the Month, OLD-TIME DANCE FOR ALL, 8 PM, A Barn Dance 12 miles east of Iowa City at Scattergood Friends School. A Barn Dance 12 miles east of Iowa City at Scattergood Friends School. Admission is $5.00 per person. Singles and couples, beginners and veterans welcome. The music is live, and all dances are taught and called (that is, prompted while the music is playing). Note: (1) same-sex couples are common at these dances, (2) they’re no-alcohol, no-smoking events, (3) every dance is taught, so beginners are welcome, and (4) people can attend alone or with a partner. People of a variety of ages show up, and the atmosphere is friendly and inclusive. For more info, phone 319-643-7600 or e-mail [ L G BTMWA] Every Saturday, WOMEN FOR PEACE IOWA, Noon to 1PM, hosting Weekly Street Corner Vigils for peace, rain or shine. Meet at the corner of 1st Ave. and Collins Rd. SE (in front of Granite City Brewery), Cedar Rapids. Show your support for our troops by calling for their return from Iraq. For more info, e-mail khall479@ [ L G B T M W A K D ] Third Saturday of the Month, QUEER SCRIBBLE FEST, 2PM to 5PM, at Old Brick on the corner of Market St. and Dubuque St., Iowa City. Different subjects or motifs highlight each month. All are welcome. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Straight Allies are gathering to scribble, draw, write, talk, or what you will. Bring some music and a snack. It’s FREE but tax-deductible donations are welcome. Donations of papers, pencils, books, and other art materials are also appreciated. For more info, call Mark McCusker at 319-621-8530 or e-mail [LGBTMWAD] Third Saturday of the Month, ACE DANCE PARTY , 9 PM, in the Old Brick Basement, 26 E. Clinton St., Iowa City for St8 Allies, Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Transgenders, Queers, Intersexes and others* as an experiment with arts and cultures. BYO music and drinks. Donations benefit ACE, paying for Old Brick rent and programming. ACE is also raising money for a more suitable, fitting, proper/appropriate floor. [ L G B T M W A D ] Fourth Saturday of the Month, TANGOVIA, 7:30 PM, join area tango dancers at the Wesley Center, 120 N. Dubuque St., Iowa City. Enjoy a candlelit evening of dance, hors d’oeuvres, and conversation in a relaxed atmosphere. Cost is $5. Partner not necessary. Beginners welcome to come at 7 p.m. for an introductory lesson. For more info, call Gail at 319-325-9630, e-mail irelandg@gmail. com, or visit [ L G B T M W A D ] Fourth Saturday of the Month, LESBIAN BOOK CLUB, 7 PM, is reading books by or about lesbians. Non-lesbians are welcome to attend. All meetings are held at the Unitarian Universalist Church, 3707 Eastern Ave., Davenport. For more info, call 563359-0816. [ L ] Every Saturday, BAILE LATINO: SALSA, CHA-CHA, MERENGUE AND BACHATA LESSONS, 3:30 PM to 5:30 PM, taught by Gloria Zmolek, at CSPS, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. No experience or partner necessary. All ages welcome. No sign-up required. $5 per person requested. For more info, contact Gloria at 319-365-9611 or visit [ L G B T M W A K D ]

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First Friday Breakfast Club March meeting speaker: “Ex-gay Industry” survivor Patrick McAlvey his sly humor as he recounted the bizarre details to us over breakfast!) As Richard Schneider Jr. wrote in The Gay & Lesbian Review last fall, describing “another scandal from the septic depths of the “ex-gay” movement:

Our speaker on February 5 was twenty-something-year-old Patrick McAlvey, who described to us his own strange encounter with so-called reparative therapy during his coming-out process in Lansing, Michigan. Patrick, who grew up in a very conservative family in an extremely conservative Christian church, recognized his attraction to males before he was a teenager, but he guiltily repressed it for years. Finally, when he was 19 (and had got himself kicked out of a missionary camp), he called the only person he thought he could be honest with: a self-styled counselor named

Mike Jones, who ran a program called “Corduroy Stone”—an affiliate of the nation’s largest “ex-gay” organization, Exodus International—that promised him some hope in his struggle. Well, dear reader, it didn’t work. Eventually Patrick made contact with Truth Wins Out (truthwinsout. org), whose founder and director, Wayne Besen, last summer arranged for him to make a video-interview describing his time in the care of Mike Jones. You can watch Patrick tell his story on the YouTube video that by now has had tens of thousands of hits: (Though you’ll miss the full fascination of

Iron Chef Cedar Rapids, 4th Annual Iron Chef Competition 3/10/2010 Kirkwood Community College Iron Chef, Cedar Rapids, Local chefs gather once again to show their talents as they compete for the coveted title of “Iron Chef”. Cibo Fusion returns to defend its title and will be competing against Kirkwood College of Culinary Arts Department along with two other local restaurants. Guests are invited to join an exciting culinary challenge in the Mansfield Center at Kirkwood Community College, Cedar Rapids, Wednesday March 10th. Three local restaurants will be competing against a team of Kirkwood Culinary students in an Iron Chef-style event. Guests will be able to ‘get up close and personal’ with the live action while enjoying hors d’oeuvres. Wine and beer tasting included! This is the fourth year of the event and guests are directly involved in voting for the supplier of their favorite hors d’oeuvre item.

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“We had one thing on our agenda: Discuss ways to build a national network of activists to demand full equality now. We believe that it is time to escalate our demands through coordinated nationwide nonviolent direct action, and we hope to build a broad base of organizers to work with all who struggle for justice and dignity in their lives.” — Kip Williams and Robin McGehee reporting Jan. 28 on an invite-only gathering at a Tennessee retreat center where a group of national activists launched a new ACT UP-like movement to push for LGBT equality. For more information, see

This time, a refugee from Exodus International, Patrick McAlvey, has revealed what goes on in the group’s “reparative therapy” sessions, and it’s not a pretty picture. McAlvey disclosed to Wayne Besen of Truth Wins Out the details of his sessions with counselor Mike Jones: “He asked how large my penis was. He asked if I shave my pubic hair. He asked what type of underwear that I wore. He wanted me to describe my sexual fantasies to him and the type of men I’m attracted to. On one occasion, he asked me to take my shirt off and show him how many push-ups I could do, which I did not do.” He would also initiate a technique known as “touch therapy,” which involves lots of caressing and lying in one another’s arms—but no sex! It turns out Mike Jones is himself an Exodus alum who admits on his website that he’s still “sexually attracted to other men.” So this ex-gay thing would seem to be a pretty good gig for Mike, who suddenly finds himself in a power relationship with vulnerable gay youths struggling

with their sexuality. Apparently Exodus is using the AA model of having recovering alcoholics sponsor those entering the program. The trouble is, alcoholics aren’t addicted to each other but to a substance that’s kept far away from the meeting room. Instead, these ex-gay groups are starting to look more like an all-male priesthood or cult with a divine mission and an undercurrent of homoerotic desire and sublimation— all under the guise of exorcising their members’ homosexual urges. Yeah, that’s gonna work. After Patrick (who holds a degree in social work from Michigan State University and who recently ran the successful re-election campaign of Lansing Mayor Virg Bernero) went public with his personal story about what he now calls The Ex-Gay Industry, Exodus International quietly severed its ties with its Lansing affiliate. And now, says Patrick, “There’s no Corduroy Stone, and Mike Jones is just some guy. He’s not a mental health professional. He’s not a pastor. He’s just some guy with made-up theories and outlandish techniques claiming he can help people change their sexual orientation. He is dangerous and I hope people steer clear of this predator.”

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Disability Advocates to Receive Prestigious Leadership Award Don Dew and Lawrence Carter-Long chosen for AAPD’s Paul G. Hearne award


WASHINGTON, DC – February 9, 2010 - The American Association of People with Disabilities (AAPD) is pleased to announce Don Dew and Lawrence Carter-Long have been selected for AAPD’s prestigious 2010 Paul G. Hearne Leadership Award. Dew of Hays, KS, and Carter-Long, of New York City, will be presented with their awards, which are given to emerging leaders in the national cross-disability community, at the 2010 AAPD Leadership Gala on March 10 at the Ronald Reagan Building and International Trade Center in Washington, DC. Dew and Carter-Long were chosen by a national advisory committee to receive $10,000 each to further their work in the disability community. AAPD’s 2010 Paul G. Hearne Leadership Award is supported in part by a grant from the Mitsubishi Electric America Foundation. “In a year when we are celebrating both the 20th anniversary of the Americans with Disabilities Act and the 15th anniversary of AAPD, I am delighted that our National Advisory Committee has selected two individuals with the skills, vision, and track record that can help move our community forward,” said AAPD President and CEO Andrew J. Imparato. “Don Dew and Lawrence Carter-Long are helping bridge communities, educate the public and foster a dialogue that will change

attitudes and improve opportunities for people with disabilities.” Dew works through his organization, ReachOut USA, to ensure full equality for the four million Americans who have a disability and are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT). ReachOut USA works to make LGBT groups more responsive to people who have disabilities and at the same time make disability groups more responsive to the LGBT community. “It is such an incredible honor winning the 2010 Paul G. Hearne Award, especially looking at the past winners and their accomplishments. It is very overwhelming and humbling,” Dew said. “This award has strengthened my determination to continue to represent and serve all people with all disabilities or chronic illnesses and to obtain the goal of outreach and collaboration between the disability and LGBT communities to achieve full independence and inclusion for everyone.” After several years spent working in the animal protection community, Lawrence Carter-Long moved over to the Disabilities Network of NYC, an organization that brings people, organizations, government and industry together to find solutions to the problems faced by New Yorkers with physical, visual and hearing  disabilities, and works for full inclusion of people with disabilities into the vast civic, social and economic life of New York City, and eventually became Executive Director of the organization. “Five years ago when I left my previous ca-

Don Dew reer to focus primarily on disability rights, I was determined to use the skills I’d developed to further access and inclusion for everyone. Winning AAPD’s Hearne award affirms that decision, and holds me accountable to it. I am grateful -- and eager to utilize the opportunities the Hearne award provides to take my advocacy efforts to the next level,” Carter-Long said. For more information about the event, visit The American Association of People with Disabilities (AAPD), the country’s largest crossdisability membership organization, organizes the disability community to be a powerful voice for change – politically, economically, and socially. AAPD was founded in 1995 to help unite the diverse community of people with disabilities, including their family, friends and supporters, and to be a national voice for change in implementing the goals of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA). To learn more, visit the AAPD website:

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“Now that explicit antigay animus is an albatross, those who oppose gay civil rights are driven to invent ever loopier rationales for denying those rights, whether in the military or in marriage. (Sen. Orrin) Hatch, for instance, limply suggested ... that a repeal of ‘don’t ask’ would lead to gay demands for ‘special rights.’ Such arguments, both preposterous and disingenuous, are mere fig leaves to disguise the phobia that can no longer dare speak its name.” — New York Times columnist Frank Rich, Feb. 6.

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ACCESSline Page 29 Section 3: Community Morals and Values: A Response to Hate, Fear, and Misinformation March 2010

by Reverend Rich Hendricks, Metropolitan Community Church of the Quad Cities This letter is in response to “The Second-Hand Effects of Same-Sex ‘Marriage’: how homosexuality affects everyone in Iowa,” held on Thursday, February 4, 2010 at Thunder Bay Grill in Davenport (see flyer). There are three words I use to respond to the hate, fear and misinformation being spread by groups like the Iowa Family Policy Council: Love, Fairness and Equality. Jesus loves everyone and encourages us to do the same, including loving our enemies. The Iowa Family Policy Council does not seem to embrace that teaching of Jesus. The truth is that no one is required to pass any religious test to get a license from the state to be married. That some religious groups do not approve of samegender marriage is no reason to stop samegender couples from having equal rights under state law, including marriage. I disagree with the flyer’s statement that “homosexuality affects everyone in Iowa.” However, I do agree that gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender (GLBT) persons have an effect on everyone in Iowa. We grow crops, run businesses, pastor churches, teach classes, tune engines, etc. We are your friends, your neighbors, your relatives. Iowa would be a much less vibrant and productive place without us. Who one chooses to love, same-gender or not, must not determine anyone’s civil rights. I disagree with the flyer’s statement that “the homosexual agenda is affecting our children.” My friends and I often wonder about this “agenda,” which we’ve never

been able to locate. The statement is made in ignorance of clinical and historical fact and implies that GLBT persons are somehow harmful to children. The facts are that there are many, many GLBT parents in Iowa and everywhere else providing nurturing, loving environments from which children grow to lead useful and productive lives. Further, it is a well-documented fact that a majority of pedophilia and child rape cases are perpetrated by heterosexuals. I agree with the flyer that there is a “threat to religious liberty.” That threat is greatest when one religious belief system seeks to impose its views on the rest of the population through governmental action. Pastors and churches today can choose to marry or not marry whom they wish in accordance with their beliefs. However, and

Auntie Emm

Answers Your Questions & Gives Advice As Only Your Auntie Can! Dear Auntie Emm: I have questions for you. I want to know how I can find my own Mr. Right in my life. I seem to be having relationships with men who do not want anything to do with me outside of sex. Two examples: I got together with one “supposedly” straight guy; we had sex with each other for more than a year, but obviously no relationship grew from that. The other example is, well, I am having sex with a friend’s boyfriend. I want to know how I can find a man that is available for me and he wants to be with me. I asked several people. I heard “you need to go out more”, “you should stop looking and then you’ll find someone”, “you need to get involved in a social cause”, or “stick with your friend’s boyfriend and wait for him to wake up one day and see you are his Mr. Right”. I tried each of these things. Five years and I continue to remain single. I am confused and I need some guidance if you can help me. Sincerely, Unlucky in Love Dear Unlucky in Love Auntie Emm has sympathy for your plight; sometimes it’s hard to find Mr. or Ms. Right! But, Auntie Emm needs to send

you a little tough love, too. You say that you “seem to be” having relationships with men who only want to have sex with you, like the straight man or the friend’s boyfriend. Those relationships do not suggest to Auntie Emm that you are being respectful enough of yourself and what you want to be good boyfriend material! One time, when Auntie Emm was complaining to a friend about how she didn’t like what was happening in her life, the friend said, “Maybe it’s time to take a look at what you’re doing, instead of what you say you want to be doing. If those are two different things, you either don’t want what you say you want, or you’re unwilling to do what you need to do to get it.” Ouch! But, Auntie Emm passes this advice on to you. Maybe it’s time to think about why you keep having relationships (are they really relationships?) with men who only want to have sex with you. If you really want to have a Mr. Right, you’re going to have to do some things differently. How about developing a relationship with someone before you have sex with him? How about refusing to have sex just to have sex? Auntie Emm knows that this is hopelessly old-fashioned, but it would be something you haven’t tried yet, and maybe it would work.

Auntie Emm

more importantly, pastors and churches must not be allowed to exercise control over who is entitled to civil rights—they must not be allowed to dictate the terms of equality under the law. In all honesty: how is your marriage affected by the unanimous Iowa Supreme Court decision granting same-gender couples the civil right of marriage? If you do consider yourself to be a Christian, ask yourself: would Jesus discriminate? Rev. Rich Hendricks, Pastor Metropolitan Community Church of the Quad Cities

This invitation—to a lovely, conspiratorial luncheon for some stupendously like-minded people—was brought to my attention on Wednesday night. Due to an intense allergy I have to homophobia, I was unable to attend this—I’m sure—quite informative event. A shame, since I’ve heard that the Anita Bryant lecture series of the last century was so rousing. Thus, my curiosity remains unsatisfied, particularly as to one question; “What type of people are always the most terrified and publicly disapproving of “homosexuality” and it’s threatening “agenda”? For whom is it such a deeply felt—dare I say “internalized”—offence and such a close and pressing personal issue? Wish I could have been there, just to see for myself. (I wonder if Andy passed out torches and pitch forks?) — Facebook post by Davenport resident, Kent Douglas, in response to the flyer for ”The Second-Hand Effects of Same-Sex “Marriage”

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ACCESSline Page 31 Section 3: Community The Churches’ Off-putting Struggle with Homosexuality by Jonathan Wilson

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Pay a visit with me back to the First Century. Back in the good old days when the world was flat and would remain so for about 1500 more years. Back when the earth was the center of the created universe, heaven was “up” where it belonged, and hell was “down.” The sun and moon revolved around the earth. Disease was caused by evil spirits and, lo and behold, virgins could get pregnant. A simpler time for sure. Recall also there was slavery, endorsed by the Biblical writers and presumed as an institution in the parables of Jesus. Remember the status of women: common chattel, mere property. A vagina doomed these children of God to having no say at home, in the synagogue, or in government, and no choice about their marital partners or when they did or didn’t have more children. And marriage. Those were arranged as often as not as property transactions, the vestiges of which linger still today. It was always within the same race (interracial marriage wasn’t fully legalized in the United States until 1967—when I was 22 years old). Marriages were also within the same religion and, generally, within the same social class. Multiple wives were a common occurrence, and love… well, love had nothing to do with it. Our detractors today who insist that marriage is a static institution ordained by God Almighty in a single mold are mighty poor students of fairly basic,

undeniable history. And, with the passage of time and growing enlightenment, they are less and less believable liars on the subject. But in this article I want to focus on all of those First Century “givens” against the backdrop of which the Biblical writers, inspired by God no doubt, authored the Holy Scriptures. You know, the inerrant Word of God as we’re told to know it today. And just when you think inerrancy is, and maybe should be, pretty special and reserved to God, heck, on a good day, even the Pope claims inerrancy. Whatever. Now transport yourself back to the present age and imagine, if you will, a modern-day church “conscientiously struggling in ‘Christian’ love” to decide whether or not the Biblical writers were right on all those subjects. Imagine a pastor occasionally preaching on the subject of the role of women in society and suggesting that there are honest, legitimate differences of opinion on the subject among faithful Christians. Imagine that pastor organizing small group discussions on the subject and encouraging men to get together to sort it out in respectful Christian love (the women would be welcome to listen in, of course, but their input would be tainted by obvious self-interest). Imagine tiresome recitations of what the Bible supposedly says on the subject. Or imagine that pastor shepherding his flock through “serious” discussions

on the pros and cons of slavery, as if there were two, legitimate Christian views on the subject between those who believe that every word in the Bible is literally true, on the one hand, and those who hold fancifully to a post-Civil War view on the subject, on the other. Or imagine that pastor sponsoring church forums to debate whether someone—let’s call him Columbus—sailing west, would fall off the face of the earth. Just imagine. Just imagine how long it would be before that pastor was “called” elsewhere. Now imagine a gay child of God being invited to attend a church that is, in Christian love, “working” on the subject of whether or not every human

being is straight, as the First Century Biblical writers undeniably believed, and whether or not same-gender intimacy is therefore always an unnatural abomination. Imagine having to endure a debate in your house of worship over whether you even exist. Imagine having to listen to competing resolutions carefully wordsmithed successively to make incremental progress without offending the diehard First Centurians among the congregants. Struggling with the subject of homosexuality is a necessary, even laudable exercise, I suppose, but it’s time to pick up the pace, go ahead and offend a few First Centurians, marginalize their misguided medieval notions, and get on with more important topics. Until that time, well-intentioned “welcoming” congregations should not be surprised to find few self-respecting gay children of God flocking to their doors. Jonathan Wilson is an attorney at the Davis Brown Law Firm in Des Moines, and chairs the First Friday Breakfast Club (, an educational, nonprofit corporation for gay men in Iowa who gather on the first Friday of every month to provide mutual support, to be educated on community affairs, and to further edaucate community opinion leaders with more positive images of gay men. It is the largest breakfast club in the state of Iowa. He can be contacted at or 515-288-2500.

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PITCH 2010 Wellness Summit April 30-May 2, 2010 PITCH is proud to announce the dates for the 2010 Wellness Summit, “Taking Charge.” The Summit will take place at Camp Wesley Woods near Indianola, IA on April 30 through May 2, 2010. The Wellness Summit is a time when Iowans from across the state come together for educational workshops, outdoor activities, relaxation, and opportunities to form friendships with other Iowans living with HIV/AIDS. Most of the workshops are lead by Iowans living with HIV/AIDS, making this an event by HIV+ for HIV+. Sessions were picked this year to empower attendees, ranging from: medication compliance and dealing with side effects, HIV and Aging, advocacy for self, working with your health care provider, dealing with the HIV stigma, tips when applying for social security disability, and sharing personal stories. Stress reduction workshops range from art therapy, drum circle, and candlelight/campfire ceremonies. We want to share with you a few of the statements we have received from prior

Summit participants: “I liked the way everyone makes you feel welcome and a part of a community. I haven’t felt that in a long time.” “I learned more about HIV/AIDS and I enjoyed being with friends and meeting new friends who have been infected with HIV/AIDS.” When asked what the most important thing/information you are “taking home” with you is, one participant wrote: “Being able to let people back into my life. Not being afraid.” We have secured partial funding for the Summit; however this event would not be possible without financial support from caring friends and businesses. We hope you will consider sponsoring someone to attend the Wellness Summit. Full scholarships are $100, but any and all donations are appreciated. Please make checks payable to: PITCH and mail to: P.O. Box 518, Des Moines, IA 50302. Thank you we truly do appreciate your generosity. Positive Iowans taking charge (PITCH) is an all-volunteer organization dedicated to the caring for and supporting of all HIV Positive Iowans seeking educational, emotional, and social support. Our mission is: HIV positive people can unite and assist other HIV positive people for better Health and Wellness issues.

“Bloggers this week called for the president to take the lead, but also focused their attention on the Human Rights Campaign, the most powerful gay rights group in the world, which has been accused of championing repeal (of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell) publicly, while privately assuring the White House that it can continue to go slow. Some feel that HRC would rather fundraise for several years on the illusion of momentum than actually help to achieve repeal. If HRC wants to disabuse the community of that suspicion, it will need to ensure that its prized access to Washington power is used to have a real impact, rather than to enjoy that access for its own sake. One reasonable option would be to publicly tell the president that it will not endorse him for re-election if he does not secure repeal in his first term, a promise that Press Secretary Robert Gibbs said he believed the president would keep.” — Nathaniel Frank, author of Unfriendly Fire: How the Gay Ban Undermines the Military and Weakens America, writing at the Huffington Post, Feb. 17.


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NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund 1705 De Sales St NW, Ste 500 Washington, DC, 20036 202-VICTORY [842-8679] Human Rights Campaign National political organization, lobbies congress for lesbian & gay issues, political training state and local 1-800-777-HRCF[4723] Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund I I E. Adams, Suite 1008 Chicago, IL 60603-6303 312-663-4413 Fax: 312-663-4307 National Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) 1325 Massachusetts Ave NW, Ste 600, Washington, DC, 20005 / National Organization for Women (NOW) 733 15th ST NW, 2nd Floor Washington, DC 20005 202-628-8669 PFLAG National Offices 1726 M St. NW Suite 400 Washington, DC 20036 202-467-8180

STATE ORGANIZATIONS Equality Iowa P.O. Box 18, Indianola, IA 50125 515-537-3126 Faithful Voices Interfaith Alliance of Iowa’s marriage equality project. Imperial Court of Iowa Non-profit fundraising & social, statewide organization with members from across the State of Iowa. PO Box 1491, Des Moines, IA 50306-1491 Iowa Chapter of the National Organization for Women (NOW) David Steward, President, IA NOW 1010 Charlotte Ave. Davenport, IA 52803 Iowa PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gay) State Council PO Box 18, Indianola, IA 50125 515-537-3126 or 641-583-2024 Iowa pridenetwork 3839 Merle Hay Rd, Ste. 285 Des Moines, IA 50310 515-243-1110 LGBT Youth in Iowa Schools Task Force PO Box 1997, Des Moines, 50306 515-243-1221 One Iowa PO Box 3, Des Moines, IA 50309 Stonewall Democrats of Iowa 5 Creekside Ct Mason City, IA 50401 Contact: Dean Genth 641-583-2024

Ames First United Methodist Church 6th & Kellogg Contemporary worship Sat. 5:30; Sun at 8:30 and 11:00am. 515-232-2750 Living with HIV Program 126 S. Kellogg, Suite 1 Ask for Janelle (Coordinator) 515-956-3312 ext 106 or I -800-890-8230

Section 3: Community ISU LGBTA Alliance GLBT Support, Activism, Social Events, Newsletter East Student Office L, Memorial Union, ISU Ames, IA. 50014 515-294-2104 Lord of Life Lutheran 2126 Gable Lane, Ames 50014 Services Sundays at 9:00a.m.; Wed. 7:00pm. 515-233-2350 PFLAG Ames Youth and Shelter Services Offices 420 Kellogg Ave 1st Floor. 2nd Tuesday, 7pm 515-291-3607 Romantics Pleasure Palace 117 Kellogg Street, Ames, IA 50010-3315 515-232-7717 Stonewall Democrats of Ames, or Terry Lowman, 515-292-3279, or Mary Goodwin 515-292-0352 United Church of Christ-Congregational 6th & Kellogg Ames, 50010 Sunday Continental Breakfast, 9:00am; Sunday School, 9:30am; Worship, 10:45am. 515-232-9323

Community AIDS Assistance Project (CAAP) Funding for special personal needs, community projects, and small grants that are AIDS related. PO Box 36, Waterloo, IA 50704 LGBTA Support Group at Hawkeye Community College Call Carol at 319-296-4014 for time & location of meeting Iowa Legal Aid Free civil legal service available to low income persons who qualify under income/asset guidelines. 607 Sycamore, #708, Waterloo, IA 50703 1-800-772-0039 or 319-235-7008 Kings & Queens Tap 304 W. 4th St, Waterloo, IA www.// 319-232-3001 Romantix Waterloo (Adult Emporium) 1507 La Porte Rd, Waterloo, IA 50702 319-234-9340 Stellas Guesthouse 324 Summit Ave, Waterloo, IA Private B&B, Overnight accommodations for adults only. 319-232-2122 St. Lukes Episcopal Church 2410 Melrose Dr, Cedar Falls, IA 50613 Services: Sunday 8:00 & 10:15, Thurs 11:30 319-277-8520

Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Ames 1015 Hyland Ave. Services: 9am and 11am, Sunday 515-292-5960

Together For Youth 233 Vold Dr, Waterloo, IA 50703 319-274-6768

Unity Church of Ames 226 9th St. Sunday service and Sunday school 10:30am. Wednesday mediation 6:30pm, class 7:15pm. www.websyt/unity/ames Daily dial-a-blessing 515-233-1613

UNI-LGBTA Alliance-Student Organization 244A Bartlet Hall, University of Northern Iowa Cedar Falls 50613 319-222-0003

Arnolds Park, Okoboji, Spencer, Spirit Lake The Royal Wedding Chapel 504 Church Street Royal, IA 51357 712-933-2223 Wilson Resource Center An Iowa Great Lakes area gay-owned nonprofit community based organization. PO Box 486 Arnolds Park IA 51331-0486 712-332-5043

BURLINGTON Arrowhead Motel 2520 Mount Pleasant St Burlington, IA 52601-2118 319-752-6353 - HIV/AIDS Screening @ Des Moines County Health Department in Burlington 522 N 3rd By appointment between 8:00am to 4:30 319-753-8217 Confidential RISQUES IV (adult store) 421 Dry Creek Avenue West Burlington, IA 52601 (319) 753-5455 Sun - Wed 8am-Midnight Thurs - Sat Open 24 Hours Steve’s Place 852 Washington St, Burlington 319-752-9109 Unitarian Universalist Fellowship Services start at 10:30 am 625 N 6th St, Burlington, IA 52601-5032 (319) 753-1895 -

Cedar Falls - Waterloo Black Hawk Co. Health Department Free HIV testing (donations accepted); MW, 1:00pm to 3:00pm; Thurs, 1:00pm to 4:45pm 1407 Independence Ave. (5th fl) Waterloo 50703 319-291 -2413 Cedar AIDS Support System (CASS) Service, support groups & trained volunteers for persons with HIV/AIDS in Waterloo/CF call Elizabeth or Karla, 319-272-AIDS(2437). Cedar Valley Counseling Services Promoting personal growth and development in a strengths-based environment Joan E. Farstad, MA, Director. 319-240-4615 Cedar Valley Episcopal Campus Ministry. In Lutheran Center 2616 College St, Cedar Falls, IA 319-415-5747 All welcome!

United Church of Christ Cedar Falls 9204 University Avenue, Cedar Falls 319-266-9686 Unitarian Universalist Society of Black Hawk County 3912 Cedar Heights Dr, Cedar Falls, IA 319-266-5640

Cedar Rapids/marion Adult Shop 630 66th Ave SW, 319-362-4939 Adult Shop North 5539 Grain Lane, 319-294-5360 Club Basix Open 5pm to 2am M-F, Sat & Sun 3pm to 2am 3916 1st Ave. NE, Cedar Rapids 319-363-3194 Coe Alliance Education, activism & fun for GLBTQ and straight students, staff and people from the community. Coe College 1220 First Ave NE, Cedar Rapids, IA 52402 For information contact: or Erica Geers, faculty advisor at 319-861-6025 CSPS Legion Arts Contemporary Arts Center 1103 3rd St. SE 319-364-1580 Faith UMC 1000 30th Street NE, Cedar Rapids, 52402 Pastor Kathy Moore Sunday services at 11:00am. 319-363-8454 Foundation 2 Crisis Counseling 24-hour telephone crisis counseling. or 1540 2nd Ave. SE Cedar Rapids, IA 319-362-2174 or 800-332-4224 GLRC of Cedar Rapids Support, social activities or, write to P.O. Box 1643 Cedar Rapids 52406-1643 Call and leave a message -- all calls will be returned. 319-366-2055 Hamburger Mary’s 222 Glenbrook Dr., Cedar Rapids, IA 52403 319-378-4627 Krug Law Firm 6 Hawkeye Drive, Suite 103 North Liberty, IA 52317 319-626-2076 Linn County Public Health 501 13th NW Free confidential HIV testing, 319-892-6000

Linn County Stonewall Democrats 2nd Wednesday of every month, 6:30-8 p.m. The LGBT Caucus of the Democratic Party, meets at Hamburger Mary’s, 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, behind 2nd Wind off of 1st Ave SE in Cedar Rapids. For more info, contact linnstonewall@ Rapid AIDS Grant Wood Area Red Cross 3600 Rockwell Dr NE, Cedar Rapids, 52410 319-393-9579. PFLAG Cedar Rapids 3rd Monday, 6:30pm, 6 social Faith United Methodist Church 1000 30th St, NE 515-537-3126 People’s Church Unitarian Universalist A welcoming congregation. 600 Third Avenue SE 11AM Sunday. 319-362-9827 Stonewall Democrats of Linn County Contact Roy Porterfield 319-362-5281 Tri-ess, Iota Kappa Phi Chapter P.O. Box 8605, Cedar Rapids, Iowa 52408 We are a transgendered organization supporting crossdressers, their families, and friends., 319-390-6376 E-mail: Georgia E-mail: Judy

Council Bluffs, Omaha(Ne) AIDS Interfaith Network 100 N. 62nd Omaha, NE Call Br. Wm. Woeger 402-558-3100 Citizens For Equal Protection 1105 Howard St, Suite #2 Omaha, NE 68102 402-398-3027 Council Bluffs NOW Write PO Box 3325 Omaha, NE 68103-0325 DC’s Saloon 610 S. 14th St., Omaha, NE Open everyday 2pm to 1am, western/levi/ leather. 402-344-3103 Diamond Bar 712 S. 16th St., Omaha, NE 10am - 1am, M-Sa, closed Sun 402-342-9595 Front Runners/Front Walkers Walking/jogging club. P.O. Box 4583, Omaha, NE 68104 402-496-3658. Gilligan’s Pub and Grill 1407 Harney Omaha, NE Everyday 4pm-1am. Friday and Sat. After hours 12-4am 402-449-9147 GLBT Rainbow Outreach Omaha Serving GLBT community in eastern Nebraska and western Iowa. Excellent message and info. Also office for Imperial court of Nebraska. 1719 Leavenworth St, Omaha, NE 402-341-0330

ACCESSline Page 33 Romantix Council Bluffs (North) (Adult Emporium) 3216 1st Ave. Council Bluffs, IA  51501-3353 515-955-9756 Tri-ess Chapter, Kappa Phi Lambda Chapter Omaha, NE 68107 We are a transgendered organization supporting crossdressers, their families, and friends., 402-960-9696 E-mail: Judy Romantix Council Bluffs (South) (Romantix After Dark) 50662 189th St, Council Bluffs, Ia 51503 712-366-1764 Youth Support Group for GLBT Youth 13-21, meets twice monthly. Omaha, NE 402-291- 6781.

Decorah Decorah Human Rights Commission Contact: City Clerk 400 Clairborne Dr, Decorah 563-382-3651 Meetings: First Tuesdays, 5:30pm Luther College Student Congregation Contact Office for College Ministry 700 College Dr, Decorah, IA 52101 563-387-1040. PFLAG Northeast IA (Waukon/Decorah) First Lutheran Church 604 W Broadway, Decorah, IA Meetings: 4th Mondays, 7pm-9pm Call Jean @ 563-535-7680 PRIDE Luther College Diversity Center, 700 College Dr, Decorah, IA 52101 Contact Chris at 563-387-2145 or Melanie at 563-387-1273 Unitarian Universalist Fellowship Meets alternating Sundays at 10:30am, Decorah Senior Center 806 River St Call Bill at 563-382-3458.

Des Moines AIDS Project of Central Iowa Free HIV testing, prevention supplies, care services, food pantry, information. 711 E. 2nd, Des Moines, IA 50309 515-284-0245 Blazing Saddle 416 E 5th St 515-246-1299 Buddies Corral 418 E 5th St, Des Moines, IA 515-244-7140 The CENTER 1300 Locust; The new LGBT and progressive place to be. Church of the Holy Spirit-MCC Pastor Pat Esperanza Sunday service 10:30am at the 1st Christian Church 2500 University, Des Moines 515-287-9787. Des Moines Gay Men’s Chorus 515-953-1540 PO Box 12269, Des Moines, IA 50312

Heartland Gay Rodeo Association (HGRA) PO Box 3354, Omaha, NE 68103 402-203-4680 HGRA serves both Iowa and Nebraska

Family Practice Center Safe, supportive LGBT health care. 200 Army Post Road, Ste 26 515-953-7560

Imperial Court of Nebraska P.O. Box 3772, Omaha, NE 68103 402-556-9907

First Friday Breakfast Club Educational breakfast club for gay/bisexual men. Meets first Friday of each month. Contact Jonathan Wilson for meeting topic and place. 515-288-2500

L.E.O. (Leather Engineers of Omaha) Educational-social group for Gay Men with interest in Leather Lifestyle. Meets 2nd Saturday at Gilligan’s Pub at 7:00pm. L.E.O. PO Box 8101 Omaha, NE 68108. The Max 1417 Jackson at 15th, Omaha, NE 68102 6 bars in 1 402-346-4110 MCC Omaha 819 South 22nd P.O. Box 3173, Omaha, NE 68103 Sun 9 & 11 am Wednesday “ReCharge” Worship, Wed 7pm 402-345-2563 PFLAG Omaha Mead Hall, First United Methodist Church 7020 Cass St. (Omaha) 2nd Thursday, 7, 6:30 Social time 402-291-6781 River City Mixed Chorus Gay/lesbian chorus PO Box 3267 Omaha, NE 68103 Call Stan Brown, marketing 402-341-7464.

First Unitarian Church 1800 Bell Avenue Services Sundays at 9:30 & 11am 515-244-8603 The Gallery (adult store) 1000 Cherry St Des Moines, IA 50309-4227 (515) 244-2916 Open 24 Hours The Garden 112 SE 4th Des Moines, IA 515-243-3965 Wed-Sun. 8pm-2am Gay & Lesbian AA & AI-Anonymous Mon. 7 pm; Tues. - Thurs. 6 pm; Sat. 5:30 pm at Drake Ministries in Ed. Bldg. 28th & University Gay and Lesbian Issues Committee 4211 Grand Avenue, Level-3 Des Moines, IA 50312 515-277-1117

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Heartland Gay Rodeo Midwest Division of the International Gay Rodeo Association. 402-203-4680

Urbandale UCC An open & affirming congregation. 3530 70th St., Urbandale, IA 50322 515-276-0625.

Iowa Affirmation Lesbian/Gay United Methodist Thoreau Center, 35th & Kingman Blvd. Write Affirmation PO Box 1726, Des Moines, IA 50309

Walnut Hills UMC Join us at 8:30 or 10:30am for Sunday worship. Sunday classes and group studies are at 9:30am. 12321 Hickman Rd. Urbandale, IA 50323 515-270-9226.

Java Joe’s Gay friendly 214 4th St. 515-288-5282 Lavender Victory Fund Financial assistance for women in need for medical emergencies. 700 Rose Ave, Des Moines, IA 50315 Contact Bonnie at 515-244-7946 Le Boi Bar 508 Indianola Rd, Des Moines, IA Liberty Gifts 333 E. Grand Ave., Loft 105, Des Moines, IA Gay owned specialty clothing, jewelry, home decor. 515-508-0825 MINX Show Palace 1510 N.E. Broadway Des Moines, IA 50313 Open 9am - 2am, M-Th; 9am - 4am, F-Sat. 10am -9pm Sun. 515-266-2744 National Association of Social Workers (NOW) (Nat’1 Organization of Women in Des Moines) North Star Gay Rodeo Association of IGRA, Iowa Division of North Star NSGRA@ or 612-82RODEO Rainbow Union, Drake University Contact Sara Graham PFLAG Des Moines 515-537-3126 or write 3520 Grand Ave #51, Des Moines, IA 50312 Plymouth Congregational UCC Church and the Plymouth GLBT Community 4126 Ingersoll Ave. 515-255-3149 Services at 5:30pm Sat, 9am & I lam Sunday. Polk County Health Department Free STD, HIV, and Hepatitis B & C testing. HIV. Rapid testing also offered. 1907 Carpenter, Des Moines, IA 515-286-3798. Raccoon River Resort Accommodations for men, women, or mixed in campgrounds, lodge, Teepees or Treehouses. Reservations: 515-996-2829 or 515-279-7312 Ritual Café On 13th between Grand and Locust. Gay owned great music, awesome food and coffee. 515-288-4872 Romantix North Des Moines Iowa (Bachelor’s Library) 2020 E. Euclid Ave. Des Moines, IA 50317-3668 515-266-7992 Romantix 1401 E. Army Post Rd. Des Moines IA 50320-1809 515-256-1102 SOFFA Iowa (Significant Others Family Friends and Allies of people who fall under the Gender Variant umbrella) Monthly meetings held at The CENTER, 1300 Locust contact Jaye at: (515)779-5185 Spouses of Lesbians & Gays Contact Ruth Schanke, 515-277-3700 St. John’s Lutheran Church 600 6th Ave “A Church for All People.” Services Sat 5pm, Sun 7:45, 8:45 & 11am. See web page for other services. 515-243-7691 TransformationsIOWA Monthly meetings for the female to male, male to female, transgender community, cross dressers, gender queer, questioning, and their significant others. For location and info, email Jayden at or call 515-779-5187 Trinity United Methodist Church 1548 Eighth Street Services Sundays at 10a.m. 515-288-4056

Westminster Presbyterian Church 4114 Allison Ave. Sunday services 8:45 and 11am. Of note is their Gay Lesbian Straight Affirmation small group ministry. 515-274-1534 Word of God Ministries Join us at 3:30 for Sunday Worship at 3120 E. 24th St, Des Moines, IA Mailing address: PO Box 4396, Des Moines IA 50333 515-276-6614 Women’s Culture Collective (WCC) A lesbian social group. Des Moines, IA Zanzibar’s Coffee Adventure Open daily. Gay-friendly 2723 Ingersoll, Des Moines, IA 515-244-7694.

Dubuque Adult Warehouse 975 Jackson St., Dubuque, IA 563-588-9184. The Q 920 Main Street, Dubuque, IA Open Mon - Sun, 7pm to 2am. 563-557-7375 Dubuque Friends Worship Group (Quakers) Tired of being rejected by your church? Tired of following church pronouncements that smack of homophobia? Join us at an unprogrammed meeting on Sunday at 10am. Open and Affirming St. Mark’s Community Center 1201 Locust Street, Dubuque, Iowa 52001 563-556-3685 for info and directions Dubuque Pride Monthly social group, meeting for meal and conversation. Dubuque Regional AIDS Coalition Direct services, education. HIV+/AIDS support group and family/friends support group. Contact Kay Auderer or Connie Sprimont, Mercy Health Center. 563-589-9606. PFLAG Dubuque St. John’s Lutheran Church 1276 White St. 3rd Thursday, 7pm 563-582-9388 Q Bar 920 Main St, Dubuque, IA, 52001 563-557-7375 The only gay owned & operated All Lifestyle Bar and Dance Club in the Tri-State area Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Dubuque 1699 Iowa St., Dubuque, IA “The uncommon denomination.” Adult religious education meets Sunday at 9am before general services at 10am. 563-583-9910

Fort Dodge Romantix Fort Dodge (Mini Cinema) 15 N. 5th St, Fort Dodge, IA 50501-3801

Grinnell Saints Ephrem & Macrina Orthodox Mission. Welcoming worship in the Eastern Christian liturgical tradition. Sunday services at 10am. (Affiliated with the Orthodox-Catholic Church of America.) 1226 Broad Street, Grinnell, IA 641-236-0936 Stonewall Resource Center Open 4:30pm to 11:30pm, Sun through Thurs and by Appointment. Grinnell College 1210 Park Street PO Box B-1, Grinnell, IA, 50112 641-269-3327

INDIANOLA Crossroads United Church of Christ (UCC) An Open & affirming congregation. Services: Sunday 10:30am, Summer worship: June, July, Aug, @ 9:30 am, worshiping in the Lounge at Smith Chapel, Simpson College, corner of Buxton and Clinton. Mailing address: P.O. Box 811, Indianola, IA 50125 515-961-9370.

Iowa City AA (GLBT) Meetings Sundays 5 - 6pm at First Baptist Church, 500 North Clinton Street. For more info, call IC Intergroup Answering Service, 319-338-9111 Congregational Church UCC An Open and Affirming Congregation Sunday Worship 9:15am (July & August) 30 N. Clinton St. (across from Ul Pentacrest) 319-337-4301 - Counseling Clinic Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender sensitive and supportive counseling for individuals, couples, families and groups. Sliding Fee. 505 E Washington St., Iowa City, IA 52240 319-354-6238. Counseling and Health Center Client-centered therapy. Les-Bi-Gay-Trans always welcome. 616 Bloomington St, Iowa City, IA 319-337-6998. Crisis Center 1121 Gilbert Court, Iowa City, 52240 319-351-0140. Emma Goldman Clinic 227 N. Dubuque St, Iowa City, IA 52245 319-337-2111or 1-800-848-7684. Faith United Church of Christ 1609 De Forest Street, Iowa City, IA Services Sundays at 9:30 a.m. 319-338-5238 GLBTAU-U of l Student support system and resource center, info, activism, events, and other community involvements. 203 IMU, University of IA Iowa City, IA 52242-1317 319-335-3251 (voice mail) Hope United Methodist Church Worship Service at 9:30am. 2929 E. Court St., Iowa City, IA Contact Rev. Sherry Lohman. 319-338-9865 ICARE Iowa Center for AIDS Resources & Education Practical and emotional support, youth programs, information, referrals and support groups. 3211 E 1st Iowa City, IA 52240-4703 319-338-2135. Iowa City Free Medical Clinic Free & strictly confidential HIV Testing. 2440 Towncrest Dr Iowa City, Call for appointment 319-337-4459 Iowa City NOW PO Box 2944, Iowa City, IA 52244 for information & meeting times/places Iowa Women’s Music Festival P.O. Box 3411, Iowa City, IA 52244 319-335-1486 Krug Law Firm 6 Hawkeye Drive, Suite 103 North Liberty, IA 52317 319-626-2076 Men Supporting Men HIV prevention program exploring issues that gay/bisexual men deal with on a daily basis. Discussion Groups, Educational Series, Safer Sex Workshops, Book Club. Contact Andy Weigel, email: 319-356-6038, Ext 2 New Song Episcopal Church 912 20th Ave, Coralville, IA Sunday services at 1Oam. Rev. Elizabeth Coulter, Pastor Rev. John Harper, Associate. 319-351-3577 Pride Committee WRAC 130 N. Madison, Iowa City, IA 52242 Bridget Malone 319-338-0512 Charles Howes 319-335-1486. Romantix Iowa City (Pleasure Palace I) 315 Kirkwood Ave, Iowa City, IA 52240-4722 319-351-9444 Studio 13 13 S. Linn St. (in the Alley) Iowa City, IA Open 7pm ‘til 2am, daily 319-338-7145

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Unitarian Universalist Society of Iowa City Inclusive and free religious community nurturing intellectual and spiritual growth and fostering ethical and social responsibility. 10 S. Gilbert, Iowa City, IA Sunday services: 9am & 10:45am. 319-337-3443

Mary’s On 2nd 832 W. 2nd St. Davenport, IA 563-884-8014.

United Action for Youth (UAY) A GLBTQA youth group providing support and counseling for teenagers and young adults processing sexual identity issues. Meets Mondays 7-9pm at UAY 410 Iowa Ave. Iowa City, IA 319-338-7518 or Teen Line, 319-338-0559.

Men’s Coming Out/Being Out Group Meets 2nd & 4th Thursdays, 7pm. 309-786-2580

The Ursine Group Bear Events in the Midwest. P.O. Box 1143, Iowa City, IA 52244-1143 319-338-5810 Vortex Gifts 211 E. Washington, downtown Iowa City 319-337-3434 Women’s Resource Action Center (WRAC) Leads & collaborates on projects that serve Uofl & the greater community, offers social & support services, including LGBT Coming Out Group. University of Iowa 130 N. Madison Iowa City, IA 52242 319-335-1486

Marshalltown Adult Odyssey [Adult Video] 907 Iowa Ave E 641-752-6550 Domestic Violence Alternatives/Sexual Assault Center, Inc. 24 hour Crisis Line: 641-753-3513 or (instate only) 800-779-3512


MCC Quad Cities - Svcs Sat 5pm, Sun 11am Bible study Wed. 7 pm 3019 N. Harrison, Davenport, IA 52803 Call 563-324-8281.

PFLAG Quad Cities Eldridge United Methodist Church 604 S.2nd St., (Eldridge) 1st Monday, 6:30 pm 563-285-4173 Prism (Augustana College) Augustana Gay-Straight Alliance Augustana Library 639 38th St. Rock Island, IL Contact Tom Bengston 309-794-7406. Quad Citians Affirming Diversity (QCAD) Social & support groups for lesbian, bi, and gay teens, adults, friends & families; newsletter. 309-786-2580 Community Center located at 1608 2nd Ave, Rock Island. Quad Cities Pride Chorus. At the MCC Church in D’port, 7pm Wed. Call Don at 563-324-0215 Rainbow Gifts 309-764-0559 T.R. Video Adult books & video 3727 Hickory Grove Rd, Davenport, IA 563-386-7914.

Cerro Gordo County Dept. of Public Health 22 N. Georgia Ave, Ste 300 Mason City –Iowa 50401. Free confidential AIDS testing. 641-421-9306

Venus News (Adult) 902 w. 3rd St, Davenport, IA 563-322-7576

PFLAG North Iowa Chapter 1st Presbyterian Church 100 S. Pierce. 1st/ 2nd Monday (alternating), 7pm 641-583-2848

PFLAG Shenandoah 712-246-2824

Mount Vernon Alliance Cornell College 810 Commons Cir # 2035 contact person: Glynnis 319-895-5874

NEWTON PFLAG Newton UCC Church 308 E 2nd St N 3rd Thursday, 7pm 641-521-7436

Pella Common Ground (Central College) Support group for GLBT students and allies. Contact: Brandyn Woodard, Director of Intercultural Life 641-628-5134

Quad Cities AIDS Project Quad Cities Info, education & support. Ste 360 1351 Central Park West Davenport, IA 52804 563-421-4266. Augie’s Tap 313 20th St, Rock Island (IL) Noon - 3am daily. 309-788-7389 Black Hawk College Unity Alliance Serving GLBT community at Black Hawk College. 6600 34th Ave, Rock Island, IL 309-716-0542. Connections Nightclub 822 W 2nd St, Davenport, IA 52802 Phone: (563) 322-1121 DeLaCerda House Provides housing and supportive services, advocacy and referrals for people living with HIV/AIDS. P.O. Box 4551, Rock Island, Il. 61201 309-786-7386.

Thich Nhat Hanh based “Mindfulness” meditation and study group Iowa City Public Library, Sundays 1 to 2:30pm Usually Room E 319-354-4065

The Hole-In-The-Wall A Private Membership Men’s Club Located 3 miles east of Galesburg, IL just north of I-74 at Exit 51 309-289-2375

U of I Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Staff & Faculty Association c/o WRAC 130 N. Madison, Iowa City, IA 52242 319-335-1486

Holy Spirit Catholic Faith Community Meets one Sunday per month for Mass at 5:30pm at MCC-QC 3019 N. Harrison St., Davenport For more info, call 563-340-7488


Sioux City Am. Business & Professional Guild. Gay Businessmen. Meets last Sat. of the month; ABPG P. O. BOX 72, Sioux City, 51102 Grace United Methodist Church 1735 Morningside Avenue 712-276-3452. Jones Street Station (Bar) 412 Jones St. Nightly 6:00pm to 2:00am. 712-258-6922 Mayflower Congregational Church. 1407 West 18th Street Call 712-258-8278. Morningside College Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual Alliance Contact Professor Gail Dooley, Advisor Morningside College GSA 1501 Morningside Ave. Sioux City, IA 51106-1717 712-274-5208 PFLAG Siouxland PO Box 1311, Sioux City, IA 51102 Romantix Sioux City (Adult Emporium) 511 Pearl St, Sioux City, IA 51101-1217 St. Thomas Episcopal Church Service Sun 10:30am 406 12th St, Waverly, IA Rev Mary Christopher 712-258-0141 Western Iowa Tech. GSA for info.

Waverly Cedar Valley Episcopal Campus Ministry. 717 W. Bremer, (St. Andrew’s Episcopal) Waverly, IA 319-415-5747 Gay, Lesbian Bisexual Student Alliance Wartburg College, Waverly, IA 50677 Contact Susan Vallem 319-352-8250 St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church 717 W. Bremer We welcome all to worship with us on Sunday at 10:30 am. Bible discussion Wed. 6:45pm Rev. Maureen Doherty, Pastor 319-352-1489

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ACCESSline, Iowa's LGBT Newspaper, March 2010 Issue, Volume 24 No 3  

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