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Iowa wins a trifecta of honors

…and Iowa City is the focus of two out of the three In January, Iowa received three surprise honors. Just as many people outside of the state were surprised that Iowa could end marriage discrimination for its same-sex couples, many people—even inside Iowa, this time—were surprised that the state would win nationwide kudos three times in one month. First, Oprah put Iowa into her “100 Things that are Getting Better.” One third of the way down the list is this:

32. Iowa - Legalizing gay marriage in 2009 + producing artisanal charcuterie (try La Quercia’s organic prosciutto) + University of Iowa football landing among the top 25 college teams for the fifth time this decade + ranking second on MainStreet.com’s Happiness Index = one seriously happening Hawkeye State. Second, in the February issue of Men’s Health, Dr Sanjay Gupta himself declared Iowa City the “Healthiest Town in the United States.” Being in Iowa certainly helped the city

win this honor, as low pollution, local farms, and green spaces were included as factors in determining a city’s score. Third and last, using “unscientific but accurate” statistics, “intrepid amateur sociologist” Mike Albo examined such data as rentals of gay movies from NetFlix, whether the state has marriage or domestic partnership rights, and “out” public officials (congratulations, Janelle Rettig!), and determined that Iowa City is the “#3 Gayest City in the United States.”

On Sunday, January 24, The Des Moines Register published an opinion piece by the Iowa Family Policy Center’s public relations director, Bryan English. Of course English is entitled to his opinion, even if he thinks the Supreme Court decision flies in the face of “all human history and the universally understood meaning of the word marriage” (he’s even decided what marriage means on other planets). “All of human history,” claims English, “tells us that marriage is an institution designed to promote the union of one man and one woman”—a ridiculous statement to even the most casual reader of the Bible, and startlingly ignorant of our history and global neighbors. Among the many arguments for discrimination, English says every society that ever recognized same-sex couples “perished shortly thereafter.” Surely we should be warning Sweden, England, France, Canada, Mexico and many other countries,

some of which have been recognizing samesex couples for years. Even Republicans won’t touch the IFPC with a 10-foot pole these days, so having the Register package English’s bizarrely illogical rant on the Sunday opinion page like it was a piece of fine art, worthy of anyone’s time and consideration, illustrates just how important it is for us to keep our positive conversation going, and at the top of our considerable voices. We hear from people all the time who think the fight for marriage equality is won, but the IFPC will never stop spreading their negative message, we can’t afford to become complacent. Remind your friends and neighbors that all families need our support and protection. Write your letter to the editor today! One Iowa has made the process easy by helping you to find contact information for your local paper at this link: http://bit.ly/bP1Kuf

IFPC editorial illustrates Peacefully need for letters to the editor by Jennifer Merriman, One Iowa CounterProtesting

“Another argument, vaguer and even less persuasive, is that gay marriage somehow does harm to heterosexual marriage. I have yet to meet anyone who can explain to me what this means. In what way would allowing same-sex partners to marry diminish the marriages of heterosexual couples? Tellingly, when the judge in our case asked our opponent to identify the ways in which same-sex marriage would harm heterosexual marriage, to his credit he answered honestly: he could not think of any.” — Federal Prop 8 case lawyer Ted Olson writing in Newsweek, Jan. 9. The trial in the lawsuit arguing that Prop 8 violates the U.S. Constitution began Jan. 11 in San Francisco.

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Anti-gay hate group fails to show, but on January 15, 2010, 600 Iowans rallied to support play about Matthew Shepard What happens when an anti-gay hate group threatens to picket a performance of “The Laramie Project” in Iowa? Well, on January 15, what happened was an excited yet peaceful counter protest with a crowd of approximately six hundred people. Even with freezing temperatures— and having to stand on a snowbank on the side of 1st Avenue—the crowd cheered when cars honked in greeting as they passed. John Chaimov of Cedar Rapids, pictured here holding the “IOWANS DON’T HATE” sign, has now attended three such counterprotests. As is often the case in such situations, the original anti-gay protesters did not show up—this time.

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US NEWS news analysis by Rex Wockner Obama promises DADT repeal in SOTU address, activists unimpressed

During the State of the Union address Jan. 27, President Barack Obama suggested the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” military gay ban could be repealed this year. “This year, I will work with Congress and our military to finally repeal the law that denies gay Americans the right to serve the country they love because of who they are. It’s the right thing to do,” he said. In general, gay activists and commentators were unimpressed with the two sentences because Obama didn’t give himself a deadline for ending DADT and he again ignored the fact that he could issue an executive order today suspending the ban’s enforcement while he waits for Congress to act. “No real specifics. We better get some soon,” said prominent gay blogger Andy Towle of Towleroad.com. “Obama just seemed to repeat the status quo.” National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Executive Director Rea Carey said: “While we know the State of the Union speech aims to present broad visions, the next time President Obama speaks to or about our community, he must provide a concrete blueprint for his leadership and action moving forward -- this includes his willingness to stop the discharges happening on his watch until Congress can fulfill its responsibility to overturn the law. The time for broad statements is over.” At least one prominent gay blogger, however, liked what he heard. “I think it was good,” said AMERICAblog’s John Aravosis, who has unrelentingly criticized Obama for failure to deliver on his big campaign promises to LGBT people. “The President said ‘this year,’” Aravosis wrote. “That’s a timeline, baby. The president said he would work with Congress and the military. He didn’t call on Congress to act, putting the burden on them, which many of us feared he might. He took responsibility for working with Congress and the military. That’s good. He said ‘repeal.’ He didn’t say ‘change,’ which he and his people have been saying a lot lately, especially in front of straight audiences. ... He added the ‘it’s the right thing to do’ remark. That wasn’t in his prepared statements. It’s subtle, but it means he knows this specific promise matters. ... Now he’s on the clock.” The Log Cabin Republicans, meanwhile, were wholly unimpressed with the president’s speech.

“President Obama is more concerned about protecting the rights of terrorists than he is about the rights of gay and lesbian Americans who are putting their lives on the line every day fighting to preserve peace and democracy in Iraq and Afghanistan,” said spokesman Charles Moran. Writer Joe Jervis of the Joe. My. God. blog said Moran’s rhetoric was out of line. “We’re all unhappy with the whole DADT thing,” Jervis wrote. “But we’re not trolling Free f---ing Republic for our talking points. SRSLY. I’m thinking those GOProud guys totally made the right call by ditching your tired ass. And f--- you for making me say something nice about GOProud. SRSLY.” GOProud is a conservative national LGBT Republican organization that broke off from the purportedly less conservative Log Cabin Republicans. FreeRepublic.com is an “online gathering place for independent, grass-roots conservatism on the web,” the site says. The Family Research Council responded to the State of the Union address by warning that allowing gays to be out in the military will lead to an increase in sex crimes. “Forcing soldiers to cohabit with people who view them as sexual objects would inevitably lead to increased sexual tension, sexual harassment, and even sexual assault,” the group said in an action alert.

Hawaii House kills civil-union bill that passed Senate

Hawaii’s House of Representatives killed a civil-union bill in an unrecorded voice vote Jan. 29. The measure, which extends all statelevel rights and obligations of marriage to gay and straight civil-union couples, had passed the Senate 18-7 on Jan. 22. Last year, the House had passed the bill 33-17, but Senate tinkering with the measure’s language made it necessary for the House to vote again. Reports said legislators may have been reluctant to deal with the issue in an election year. Republican Gov. Linda Lingle had not taken a position on the bill, but the Senate vote on it was veto-proof. The House needs 34 votes to override a veto. Last year, when 33 legislators voted for the measure, one member who favors the bill was absent. The bill states, in part, “A party to a civil union shall be included in any definition or use of the terms ‘spouse’, ‘family’, ‘immediate family’, ‘dependent’, ‘next of kin’ and other terms that denote the spousal relationship, as those terms are used throughout the law.”

Lawyers Ted Olson, left, and David Boies outside the Prop 8 trial. Photo by Rex Wockner The measure could be reconsidered in the House this year, but only if two-thirds of legislators vote to reopen the matter.

Federal Prop 8 trial pauses

The trial in the federal case against Proposition 8 paused Jan. 27 after the final witness testified at U.S. District Court in San Francisco. Judge Vaughn Walker plans to review the evidence, then call the attorneys back for closing arguments, likely in March. Gay lawyers, activists and others who followed the trial predicted, nearly unanimously, that gays won the case in a landslide. “What stands out the most after having seen all the witnesses on both sides is how overwhelmingly one-sided the evidence in this case turned out to be,” said Shannon Minter, legal director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, who covered the trial for the Pam’s House Blend blog. “The plaintiffs, represented by some of the most skilled attorneys in the country, laid out a well-crafted, meticulous case, backed by the testimony of half a dozen of the most respected historians, psychologists, economists, and political scientists who study marriage, sexual orientation, and child development.” Minter said. “Using the Prop 8 proponents’ own outrageous and inflammatory words, ads, and emails, the plaintiffs powerfully demonstrated that Prop 8 was a direct product of hostility, fear-mongering, and demonization of lesbians and gay men. And through the deeply moving testimony of the plaintiffs and other members of our community, they proved beyond question

“We do not expect to win at the trial level, but with God’s help, at least five members of the current (U.S.) Supreme Court will have the courage to defend our Constitution from this grave attack.” — National Organization for Marriage Executive Director Brian Brown in a Jan. 8 letter to supporters about the ongoing federal trial in San Francisco over Proposition 8. The case, featuring superstar attorneys Ted Olson and David Boies, could lead to legalization of same-sex marriage nationwide.

that denying same-sex couples the right to marry causes great harm to LGBT people and their children.” The lawyers defending Prop 8, on the other hand, failed miserably, Minter and many others said. “Stacked up against this mountain of facts, scholarship, and science, the Prop 8 proponents -- though represented by fine attorneys -- were not able to come forward with a case of their own,” Minter said. “Before trial, they dropped nearly every witness they had planned to present and relied entirely on two poorly qualified, ill-prepared expert witnesses, neither of whom was able to establish that banning same-sex couples from getting married has any rational or legitimate purpose relating to procreation, child rearing, tradition, or any of the other justifications that have been offered in the past in support of anti-gay discrimination.” The gay side is represented by famous lawyers Ted Olson and David Boies, who argued that Prop 8 violates the U.S. Constitution’s guarantees of due process and equal protection under the law. To buttress their case, they attempted to demonstrate a number of things that intersect with precise legal considerations or constructs: that there’s no coherent reason for the government to ban same-sex marriage, that Prop 8 passed primarily because California voters are prejudiced, that gays and lesbians need government help to fight the discrimination and persecution that continue to harm them, that being gay is usually not a choice and sexual orientation is usually immutable, that gay couples’ children fare as well as straight couples’ children, and that so-called traditional marriage has undergone transformations throughout history. Passed by voters in November 2008, Prop 8 amended the California Constitution to re-ban same-sex marriage just 4 1/2 months after the state Supreme Court legalized it. Olson and Boies’ lawsuit is ultimately aimed at the U.S. Supreme Court, where it could end up as soon as a year from now, after a stop at the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals. If successful, the lawsuit could bring about the legalization of same-sex marriage nationwide, which would be the mother of all gay rights victories. If unsuccessful, the lawsuit could have

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World News by Rex Wockner Mayor Luzhkov lashes out at gays again

Moscow Pride events routinely end in chaos because Mayor Yuri Luzhkov bans them and then sends riot police to arrest people who ignore the bans. 2009 photo by an activist who does not want to be named. Homophobic Moscow Mayor Yuri Luzhkov is at it again. “For several years, Moscow has experienced unprecedented pressure to conduct a gay pride parade, which cannot be called anything but a Satanic act,” he said during a public appearance Jan. 25. “We have banned such parades and will ban them in future as well,” the mayor continued. “Everyone must accept this not as a theorem but as an axiom.” “It is high time to crack down with all the power and justice of the law rather than messing around with talk of human rights,” Luzhkov said. “We need a social whip or something like that.” Luzhkov has banned gay pride events in each of the past four years and has sent riot police to violently arrest small groups of activists who ignored the bans. Moscow Pride organizers have sued over the bans in a series of cases that have been merged into one at the European Court of Human Rights. On Jan. 19, the court approved a request from the Russian government to postpone the deadline for its response in the matter until Feb. 20. Moscow’s fifth pride events will take place in late May, and another march will be attempted on May 29. It is unlikely there will be a Euro Court ruling before that time.

Mariela Castro accuses Cuban government of discrimination

Mariela Castro, Cuban President Raúl Castro’s daughter, said Jan. 19 that the Communist Party discriminates against gay people by unofficially denying them party membership. She said she will send a complaint over the “absurd” practice to her uncle, party head Fidel Castro. Mariela Castro heads Cenesex, Cuba’s National Sex Education Center. She has a long history of advocating for LGBT people.

Latin American, Caribbean LGBTs gather in Brazil

Some 400 LGBT leaders from 35 countries attended the fifth Latin America and Caribbean regional ILGA conference Jan. 26-31 in Curitiba, Brazil.

Now known as the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association, ILGA is composed of some 670 organizations from 110 nations. It was founded in 1978. Brazilian President Luiz Inácio Lula da Silva sent a message to the delegates saying “the fight against intolerance and discrimination, and the consequent efforts to respect human nature, including sexual orientation, have guided our government since its first mandate.” He also expressed support for the government’s 3rd National Human Rights Plan, which favors a national civil-union law. Delegates heard that 11 nations in the region still criminalize gay sex—Antigua and Barbuda, Barbados, Belize, Dominica, Grenada, Guyana, Jamaica, Saint Lucia, Saint Kitts and Nevis, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines, and Trinidad and Tobago. Gay activists from eight of those nations were in attendance. A number of “pre-conferences” dealt with matters such as HIV, homophobia in schools, lesbian and bisexual women’s issues, transgender issues, youth issues, racism, health matters, art and culture, the media, and the United Nations. The opening ceremonies of the main event were attended by several public officials, including Paul Vannuchi, Lula’s secretary for human rights. Conference support came from the United Nations, the Pan American Health Organization, the Global Fund for Women, the Brazilian Ministry of Health, the Paraná state government, the Curitiba city government, and Brazilian governmental secretariats concerned with women, human rights and racial equality.

Manila gay bar raided

Manila police raided the gay bar Men’s Court Club on Jan. 22 and arrested some 20 people, including 14 strippers, five comedians, two waiters and a cashier, the Manila Bulletin reported. Police said the club lacked certain permits and was offering lewd shows. Officers acted after being given a clandestine video recording by a TV news crew that secretly visited the club earlier the same evening. The recording reportedly showed nude performances and gay sex acts.

Euro Assembly plan to pass pro-gay measures thwarted

Anti-gay MPs delayed a plan at the Parliamentary Assembly of the Council of Europe (PACE) to pass two important proLGBT measures Jan. 27. One measure contains recommendations to the 47 member nations of the Council of Europe on combating discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. The other would submit LGBT-related proposals to the CoE’s Committee of Ministers, which represents the governments of the 47 countries. It was only the third time PACE had tackled LGBT issues and the first time in

10 years. But the effort fell apart when opponents introduced some 70 hostile amendments. “There was not time to consider these fully in the Legal Affairs and Human Rights Committee before the debate in the full assembly,” said Nigel Warner of the European Region of the International Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Intersex Association. “So it was decided to hold the main debate as planned, but postpone the voting to the April session of the assembly.” The measure that is aimed at CoE member countries contains 15 proposals for pro-LGBT action in areas such as freedom of expression and assembly, legal remedies for victims, hate speech, anti-discrimination legislation, the human rights of transgender persons, legal recognition of same-sex partnerships, and joint parental responsibility in same-sex families. The other measure recommends that the Council of Europe itself increase efforts to combat sexual-orientation and gender-identity discrimination in numerous arenas. The hostile amendments, which were introduced mainly by Russian MPs and by Italian MPs linked to the Vatican: • prioritize freedom of religion over the rights to private life and nondiscrimination; • challenge wording that could be construed as limiting the freedom of individuals and religious bodies to speak against LGBT people;

“Killing them might not be helpful.” — Part of the statement by Uganda’s Minister of Ethics and Integrity, James Nsaba Buturo, in regard to removing the death penalty from Uganda’s AntiHomosexuality Bill. • demand a place for moral judgment in human rights issues relating to LGBT people; • remove language supporting legal recognition of same-sex partnerships, gay adoption and same-sex family rights; • eliminate some references to gender identity and to transgender medical care and family life; • and protect the right to discriminate based on sexual orientation and gender identity in employment, education and the provision of services. Despite the postponement of voting, the debate went “very well,” ILGA’s Warner said. “Spokespersons for all the main political groups (were) supportive and (there were)

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Creep of the Week by D’Anne Witkowski Karl Rove

How long does a marriage have to last before it’s considered “traditional” to Karl Rove? Well, three years if you’re talking about his first marriage. Twenty-four if you’re talking about his second. Karl “ban-gay-marriage-for-politicalgain” Rove and his second wife have called it quits via the no-fault divorce laws of Texas. I know, it’s hard to believe, isn’t it? Not that Rove is a hypocrite when it comes to the “sanctity of marriage,” but that he was ever married at all. Who would do that to themselves? But as my dad used to say, “It takes all kinds.” And as long as those “all kinds” are heterosexual, they’re allowed to get married. And unmarried. And then married again. Rinse and repeat. Mind you, the majority of gays in this country can’t even get married once. Rove is, in part, to blame for that. Remember that rash of anti-gay marriage ballot initiatives in 2004? Rove’s seal of approval was all over that. Had to get those Jesus loving gay-hating folks to the polls to vote for Bush, after all. So why not bait the trap with gay folks? Rove is, of course, the man who argued that letting gays marry would be throwing away “5,000 years” of tradition. As Dan Savage commented, “Traditional marriage is for life. Which means Karl ... shouldn’t have been allowed to get out of [his marriage] alive, right?” Of course, I shouldn’t even be writing about Rove’s divorce, traditional or not. It’s

disrespectful. According to spokeswoman Dana Perino, “[Karl Rove and his wife, Darby] came to the decision mutually and amicably, and they maintain a close relationship and a strong friendship. There will be no further comment, and the family requests that its privacy be respected.” Of course, in order to respect someone’s privacy, you kinda have to respect them, and respect isn’t a word I associate with Karl Rove. “Revulsion,” is closer, tied with “resentment.” Don’t get me wrong. I understand Rove wanting privacy at this time. I mean, divorce is a sad and difficult thing. I hardly expect Rove to be holding press conferences or doing media junkets right now. But what I can’t do is respect his privacy. Because he has no respect for mine. As Joel Mathis wrote Dec. 29 on his Philadelphia Weekly blog, “Rove made a concerted effort to push the marriage status of hundreds of thousands of Americans to the center stage of the political process. He treated the issue like a political plaything. Which is easier to do when it’s an abstract notion. Only problem is: For each one of those couples, it’s not at all an abstract issue.” Indeed. And by using gays as a political football in order to get George W. Bush reelected, America was protected from what, exactly? What did America gain by denying so many gays and lesbians the right to marry—enshrining homophobia into state constitutions, no less? What, besides the

shittiest president we’ve ever had who left messes we’re all going to be cleaning up for decades if not lifetimes to come? Bush’s nickname for Rove, Turd Blossom, is more apt than he realizes.

Lisa Miller

When Lisa Miller left her partner Janet Jenkins and took their daughter Isabella with her, it was the Christian thing to do. Quite literally, since Miller denounced her former lesbianism and became a Christian—in Jerry Falwell’s church, no less. Miller doesn’t want anything to do with Jenkins and doesn’t want their daughter to have anything to do with Jenkins, either. And so Jenkins sued. And things got ugly and have been ugly for years as things so often are in custody battles. Except that this is no ordinary custody battle. Lisa Miller is, in many ways, a dream come true for the anti-gay right. She’s a fairly attractive ex-lesbian fighting in order to save her daughter from the evil forces of homosexuality. Needless to say, she has received a lot of high-publicity help from the anti-gay legal ranks, such as the Liberty Council. The case is complicated on so many levels. Miller and Jenkins did, after all, enter into a civil union in Vermont before they had Isabella. But when Miller left with Isabella, she went to Virginia, a state that does not recognize same-sex unions. There has been a court ordered custody agreement, but Miller has always defied it. She doesn’t want Isabella around Jenkins because Jenkins is gay and that is, after all, horrible and disgusting and evil and wrong and how can she teach these values to her daughter if Jenkins is in the picture? Tired of fucking around, a Vermont judge ruled in favor of Jenkins and ordered custody be relinquished by Miller on New Year’s Day. So on New Year’s Day, Miller showed up on Jenkins’s doorstep with Isabella and the two women hugged and said, “No hard feelings” and Isabella stood between them and smiled. Actually, Miller and Isabella never showed up. And nobody seems to know where they are. Her lawyers at the Liberty Council are mum. In fact, there was even a report that they were on vacation and couldn’t comment. Because, you know, a client skipping out on a court order and potentially fleeing with the child is no big thing. The saga has brought out the best and the brightest of the anti-gay brigade. National Organization for Marriage President Maggie Gallagher had particularly clarion insight on the matter. “Let this act as a warning call: Don’t enter civil unions with people if you do not want to give them legal rights over your children,” Gallagher said. Oh, OK. Got it. It’s much better to have children outside of pesky legal commitments like civil unions. But why stop there? Marriage, an institution open to everyone except gays, is an even bigger problem. Because having kids with someone you’re married to also creates a lot of legal headaches. And if you never get married, you don’t ever have to get divorced! Thanks, Maggie! As I’ve always said, a nation of bastard children is a nation of happy children.

Seriously, though. If Jenkins and Miller were a heterosexual couple, Miller wouldn’t have been able to just elbow Jenkins out of the picture so easily. Unless Jenkins was a danger to her child (she isn’t), she’d be allowed visitation if she were a dude and nobody would even be talking about this because it happens all the time. Ex-wives and ex-husbands do ugly things to each other and, far too often, kids are trapped in the middle of it all. Allowing gay and lesbian couples to legally marry helps protect the kids that exist in many of these relationships, which is something Miller and the anti-gay horde she has supporting her would acknowledge if they really wanted to “protect” marriage.

Hak-Shing William Tam

You know what? If Gay marriage is just a ploy to get child rape legalized then to hell with it. Can I get an Amen? No? OK, how about a WTF? This is one of the lunacy-based claims made by Hak-Shing William Tam, a defendant in the Proposition 8 lawsuit going on in California (the trial you’ve all been busy watching on television, right? Just kidding!). In a letter to Chinese-American church groups in California during the 2008 campaign, Tam wrote that once you let gay people marry each other, they’re going to go after kids next. “On their agenda list is: legalize having sex with children,” he wrote. In a January 14 blog post responding to Tan’s claims, Dan Savage wrote, “Because, you see, once same-sex marriage is legal then, um, good people everywhere who oppose the rape of children ... will be too busy 1. reeling from the shock (good straight people) and 2. planning their bachelor/bachelorette parties and registering at Macy’s (good gay people) to stop those all powerful radical gay child rape advocates from forcing the Legalize Child Rape Patriot Act through both houses of Congress.” Tan came to his bizarre conclusion after reading online about a gay rights meeting from 1972 where gays supposedly set their radical agenda for world gay domination in motion. Anti-gay folks love to hold it up as “proof.” Granted, the majority of gays and lesbians have probably never read this document, but the contents of it are hard wired in the gay brain at birth. Or something. I don’t know, I’m not a geneticist. Personal experience also shaped Tan’s views. In his deposition he said, “My daughter told me her classmates chose to become lesbians and experiment with it after they noticed that same-sex marriage, they think it is a cool thing.” Right. Nothing is cooler in junior high and high school than lesbianism. That’s why all the girls are dyking it out in an effort to become head cheerleader and homecoming queen. It’s just so easy to be gay in school. I feel sorry for all the straight girls who have to pretend, hanging posters of Melissa Etheridge in their lockers instead of Taylor Lautner. But that’s not all. He goes on to say, “They have some problem getting dates with boys, so same-sex marriage, since it is in the air, they think, ‘Oh, why not try girls.’”

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Action Reaction: Buying the Bullets by Brett Edward Stout For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction; this rule is something by which we are all bound regardless of our knowledge or perception of it. The purpose of this column is to explore the actions and reactions we have to the decisions and questions raised in our ever-adapting world. The reactions here are intended to stimulate debate in the hope that through it, we can better see what unites us in the face of our differences. On December 16th, 2009 Rwanda’s legislative body announced that they were considering legislation similar to what was proposed by David Bahati, a member of Uganda’s parliament. The proposed Bill 18 in Uganda would make homosexuality—which is already illegal in Uganda—punishable by life imprisonment or death by hanging. The proposed law criminalizes attempted gay acts, requires the immediate reporting of suspected homosexuals, and would censor or fine any Ugandan agency that publicly supported gay rights. The reach of the proposed law also extends beyond Africa by demanding the extradition of homosexual Ugandans living abroad. So, how should we react when we hear laws like these being considered and how should we feel about the proliferation of similar laws? The history of anti-gay laws is long and cruel, and such laws range from the severe to the benign. In the 1930s, Paragraph 175 of the Nazi Criminal Code sent 15,000 gays to die in death camps. In Saudi Arabia, under Sharia law, homosexuality is still punishable by death to this day. Benign anti-gay laws have included those like the New York antidrinking law that was overturned as a result of the Stonewall Riots of 1969. To many, Uganda seems far removed from Main Street USA—but the church on the corner is precisely what is funding the hateful efforts in Africa, both spiritually and financially. The Washington D.C.-based organization known as “The Family”, which hosts the National Prayer Breakfast, counts both Bahati and Uganda’s President amongst its most important members. Senator Inhofe has stated that it was The Family that directed him toward political involvement in Uganda. The Family is also thought to have used Senator Brownback and Representative Joe Pitts to funnel millions of dollars into Ugandan abstinence-only programs. These programs have resulted in condom burnings and are faulted for a doubling in the HIV instance rate in Uganda. Furthermore, inspiration for the newest anti-gay law is credited to American anti-gay activists, Don Schmierer, Caleb Lee Brundidge, and Scott Lively, who gave a seminar in Uganda months before Bill 18 was first proposed. But we cannot point an accusing finger only at extremists. These cruel and murderous laws are the fault of every politician and citizen in America who votes No on gay

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CREEPS Whoa, there. First of all, girls aren’t a dish at a tapas bar, and same-sex marriage isn’t H1N1. That’s just not how love, sex and relationships work. But, you know, thanks for playing. Tam also wrote in his letter that if gays could marry in California, “other states would fall into Satan’s hands.” Look, something tells me Satan doesn’t exactly have a state-by-state strategy here. He isn’t Karl Rove (or is he?). But Tam apparently wants to give a whole new meaning to

marriage or gay adoption, who votes No on repealing “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”, or who decides that No, their gay son or daughter can no longer live in their home. To the shocked I respond, what did you expect would happen? This is the result of open compliance, partial agreement, and profound indifference to the hateful words being spun by pundits and preachers, both Republicans and Democrats. What did you expect when you looked away or said nothing in the face of the Phelps Family’s “God Hates Fags” signs that are displayed at Iraq War veteran’s funerals, citing homosexuality as the cause of the war? What did you expect when you shrugged and put your donation in the basket the day a guest speaker at your church suggested that AIDS was divine intervention. Make no mistake that groups who make these claims are, at best, hate groups, and at worst, terrorists. If every one of you who experiences these promoters of hate does not openly condemn them, then you are compliant. A silent voice in the face of hideous spite is a voice of agreement. The silence of faith leaders—who have publicly declined to condemn Bill 18—is a deafening one. Eulogized leaders like Jerry Falwell preached statements saying, “AIDS is not just God’s punishment for homosexuals; it is God’s punishment for the society that tolerates homosexuals.” Yet, the response by millions of Americans to words like these continues to be “Amen.” The religious frenzy in the world’s wealthiest nation is being led astray, first by a minority of leaders who let piety usurp righteousness, and second by a majority of them to sit silently compliant. We live in a time and place where countless people actually believe that homosexuality caused 9/11 and Hurricane Katrina and that there is an official “Gay Agenda”. Efforts to escape oppression are not an agenda, they are acts of liberation. It is time that these leaders stop blaming the “gotcha media” for the hateful statements falling from their own mouths. It’s time for us all to take responsibility for the things that we say, the meanings we convey, and the eventuality to which they lead. All contingencies of Moral Majority’s war on the LGBT community lead to one place: that place was Paragraph 175 in the early 20th century; it is Uganda in the early 21st. So, it is time we all take good notice of the morbid glee with which purveyors of hate the term “red state.” What’s most galling about Tam is that he’s trying to get out of the lawsuit, saying he wants to be dropped as a plaintiff because he doesn’t want his personal views to become publicized. Hmm. Something tells me he should have thought of that before sending that letter. D’Anne Witkowski has been gay for pay since 2003. She’s a freelance writer and poet (believe it!). When she’s not taking on the creeps of the world she reviews rock and roll shows in Detroit with her twin sister and teaches writing at the University of Michigan

pursue homosexuals. We need to ask ourselves why we ignore the utter joy they get from funding cruelty, ask ourselves why anyone should be allowed to feel warm, fuzzy, or holy knowing a portion of their tithe has bought the bullet used to murder a homosexual— whether in Uganda or just down the street. And ultimately, we need to force those people to look at their smiling Writer, filmmaker, and photographer Brett Edward Stout faces in the mirror and is a Cedar Rapids native and recent graduate of the University of ask themselves: “If this Iowa. He spent five years in the US Marine Corps as a Russian linguist. is righteousness, what His first novel Sugar-baby Bridge was published in 2008. He is currently working on his second novel, entitled The Lives Between. then is sin?” NOTES: Rwanda: Minister of Justice Tharcisse Karugarama stated on December 19th that “The government I serve and speak for on certain issues cannot and will not in any way criminalize homosexuality; sexual orientation is a private matter and each individual has his or her own orientation—this is not a State matter at all Uganda: Despite worldwide outcry—

including the threat of losing international financial aid—as of the date of this publication, Member of Parliament (MP) David Bahati has refused to withdraw the bill from consideration. Uganda’s Minister of Ethics and Integrity, James Nsaba Buturo, has indicated that the death penalty provision would be changed to life imprisonment: “…it gives room for offenders to be rehabilitated. Killing them might not be helpful.”


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US NEWS the effect of stopping the movement for samesex marriage, which now is legal in five states, dead in its tracks for possibly a generation. The lawsuit is without doubt a highstakes gamble, so much so that the gay rights legal establishment opposed it and was, as a result, blocked by Olson and Boies from later jumping on the bandwagon once it became clear the case was going to happen and was going to be a very big deal.

Cindy McCain joins NOH8 Campaign

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Section 1: News & Politics over her mouth and a “NOH8” tattoo on her cheek. “In the year since we’ve started the NOH8 Campaign, we’ve often been surprised at some of the different individuals who have approached us showing their support,” the group said. “Few, though, have surprised us more than Cindy McCain. ... The McCains are one of the most well-known Republican families in recent history, and for Mrs. McCain to have reached out to us to offer her support truly means a lot. Although we had worked with Meghan McCain before and were aware of her own position, we’d never really thought the cause might be something her mother would get behind. We have a huge amount of respect for both of these women for being brave enough to make it known they support equal marriage rights for all Americans.” Sen. McCain issued a statement saying he disagrees with his wife. “The sanctity of marriage is only defined as between one man and one woman,” he said. The NOH8 Campaign is a photo project and silent protest created by celebrity photographer Adam Bouska and partner Jeff Parshley.

Lambda sues feds over spousal benefits Cindy McCain, wife of the former presidential candidate, U.S. Sen. John McCain, has joined the NOH8 Campaign against California’s Proposition 8. She posed for photos with duct tape

Lambda Legal sued the federal government in U.S. District Court in San Francisco Jan. 20, seeking to force the U.S. Office of Personnel Management to obey rulings by Judge Alex Kozinski of the 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals that awarded spousal health-

insurance benefits to a 9th Circuit employee, lawyer Karen Golinski. Last January, Kozinski ruled that denying Golinski spousal health insurance for her wife, Amy Cunninghis, was illegal discrimination. He ordered the Administrative Office of the U.S. Courts to submit Golinski’s healthbenefits election form to her insurer, Blue Cross/Blue Shield. OPM then instructed Blue Cross not to comply. “It’s a bit shocking that we’ve reached this point with the Obama administration,” said Lambda attorney Jennifer Pizer. “Where is our ‘fierce advocate’ for LGBT rights?” Kozinski issued another ruling in November asserting that he has authority -under the 9th Circuit’s Employment Dispute Resolution Plan and the U.S. Constitution’s separation-of-powers doctrine -- to interpret laws governing the rights of judicial employees. He gave OPM 30 days to comply with, or appeal, his original order. OPM did neither and instead issued a press release saying Kozinski’s order was not binding and that the U.S. Department of Justice had advised OPM not to comply with it because of the Defense of Marriage Act, a Clinton-era federal law that bars the U.S. government from recognizing gay marriages. Kozinski then declared that his rulings against OPM were conclusive and binding. The lawsuit asks the federal district court to order OPM to rescind its instruction to Blue Cross/Blue Shield not to enroll Cunninghis in Golinski’s family health insurance plan. Assistance: Bill Kelley

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“The proponents of Prop. 8 seek to hide and obfuscate. They did not want their own ad played in court. They did not want documents from their own strategists to become public because the documents show clearly that their entire campaign was built on the decades of prejudice and fear that we heard about in detail yesterday from Prof. Chauncey. As Ted Olson keeps saying, their arguments do not hold up in public or in court. They only win when they can manipulate the media and the public, using scare tactics.” — Courage Campaign Chair Rick Jacobs live-blogging the federal Prop 8 trial, Jan. 13.


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You Can’t Have My Grief Editorial by Rachel Eliason At a party in October of 2002, Gwen Araujo was “outed” as transgender. Discovering this young woman was not biologically female, three men tied her up, beat her repeatedly, strangled her and dumped the body miles away. In August of 1995 a car accident turned fatal for Tyra Hunter. Discovering that she had male genitalia, EMTs stopped caring for her and made crude jokes while she bled to death. Robert Eads wouldn’t have turned any heads if he walked down the street. He was a man like any other, except that Robert had been born a girl. He still had ovaries, and in 1996 he developed ovarian cancer. Over twenty doctors refused to treat his cancer because they did not want a transgender patient. Early last year a good friend of mine decided that he had suffered one too many slights and assaults from a world that felt “she” should not be allowed to live “her” life as “she” truly was—a man. He was found hanging in his basement by his loving wife. His passing was devastating to all who knew him. It is stories like this, and there are way too many to mention, that led Gwendolyn Ann Smith to found the first Transgender Day of Remembrance. The day memorializes all those who have died as a result of outright hatred, or simple callous disregard. This fall the Des Moines LGBT commu-

nity celebrated the day of remembrance at the state capitol for the first time. We gathered, we spoke our minds, and our hearts. The governor, Chet Culver issued a proclamation recognizing the day. It was a simple act, motivated I would like to think, by human compassion. For this he is now being attacked by conservatives. Chuck Hurley of the Iowa Family Policy Center has accused Culver of promoting “sexual confusion and deviant behavior”. They want to paint the governor as evil because he acknowledged to suffering of one small minority. As a member of the transgender community I am outraged. Apparently it is not enough to prevent my community from having full civil rights. These people spend millions preventing gays from being able to marry. They lobby in Washington to keep words like sexual orientation and gender identity out of the ENDA (Employment Non-Discrimination Act) so they can fire us for who we are. Now they want our sorrow. To them I say: You can’t have it. You have no right to it. You have 364 days to paint us as “deviants” and call us nasty names. We have one. One day where we remember these people, not as you see them, but as we see them. One day when Gwen and Tyra were not “trannies” but beautiful young women who had their whole lives ahead of them. One day where Robert wasn’t a “freak”

but a kind man and a loving husband. One day where my friend did not have to die, because nobody hated him without even knowing him. Chuck Hurley, if you don’t want us to have a “special day” then stop hating us. Stop telling people it’s okay to hate us because we are different. Stop calling us deviants. Because when you tell people that it’s okay to hate us, some of those people are going to get it into their heads that this means it is also okay to kill us. And that is what has created the need for a Transgender Day of Remembrance in the first place.

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“After Amanda Simpson became the first transgender presidential appointee ... talk show host David Letterman announced Simpson’s appointment on his show and aired a photo of her. The show’s announcer, Alan Kalter, then reacted to the news with disgust and mock horror, saying: ‘What? Amanda used to be a dude? My God!’ He hurried off stage to laughter from the audience, apparently to go collect himself after the shock of this discovery. ... By promoting unfair and cruel reactions to transgender people, the David Letterman Show is feeding an epidemic of discrimination and violence that currently faces transgender Americans.” — The Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation, Jan. 6.


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WORLD NEWS only two hostile speakers,” he said. “But one of these was applauded loudly. So it seems there is still plenty of opposition, even if not publicly expressed in the assembly.” It is unclear what will happen next. In one scenario, the measures would be sent back to the Legal Affairs and Human Rights Committee and amended before returning to the full assembly in April. PACE is a consultative body, so its resolutions and recommendations are advisory only. But they are seen as an important indication of Europe-wide opinion. The Council of Europe is Europe’s main intergovernmental organization with a human-rights focus and is the seat of the European Court of Human Rights. There is strong opposition to LGBT rights in some CoE member nations, much more so in parts of Central and Eastern Europe than in Western Europe. Two anti-gay MPs from Azerbaijan, Gultekin Hajibeyli and Sabir Hajiyev, went so far as to boycott the assembly session. “I think it wrong to raise this issue in PACE,” Hajiyev told news.az. Religious bodies in Ukraine also expressed disapproval of the assembly’s even considering LGBT rights issues.

Mr. Gay China contest blocked by police

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Section 1: News & Politics canceled by police an hour before it was to begin Jan. 15. Gayographic, a public-relations and event-management company that organized the contest at the posh Lan Club, told reporters that police claimed the competition lacked proper permits. The pageant, with ticket prices ranging from $15 to $22, had sold out in advance and attracted heavy attention from international media. A day later, police also canceled anniversary events of the Aizhixing Institute of Health Education, an HIV/AIDS organization. “We are saddened that Mr. Gay China pageant has been canceled,” said a Jan. 18 posting on Gayographic’s English Web pages. “Please accept our sincere apologies for the inconvenience that has caused you and your friends. ... For those who bought tickets, please come to Mesh or Lantung this Thursday. We will give you the full refund. Our weekly Gayographic event at Lan Club is postponed indefinitely.”

Russian marriage case headed to Euro Court

The Moscow City Court on Jan. 21 upheld a lower-court decision supporting the city’s refusal to give a marriage license to a lesbian couple. Irina Fedotova-Fet and Irina Shipitko, who later traveled to Canada and got married, said they now will appeal the case to the European Court of Human Rights.

The couple also plan to demand that Russia recognize their Canadian marriage as soon as they receive their marriage certificate from Toronto.

Portuguese support same-sex marriage, by a smidge

Fifty-two percent of Portuguese support legalization of same-sex marriage, according to a new Eurosondagem poll for Rádio Renascença, SIC TV and the Expresso newspaper. Parliament voted 125-92 to legalize same-sex marriage on Jan. 8. Barring unexpected complications, the first gay weddings will take place in April or shortly thereafter. The bill that legalized same-sex marriage specifically excluded access to adoption for married same-sex couples. The Eurosondagem poll quizzed 1,010 people by telephone from Jan. 7 to 12. Fortythree percent said they oppose same-sex marriage. Same-sex marriage also is legal in Belgium, Canada, the Netherlands, Norway, South Africa, Spain and Sweden; in Argentina’s Tierra del Fuego province; and in the U.S. states of Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire and Vermont. It will become legal in March in Washington, D.C., and Mexico City.

Belarus gay picketers lose appeal

Belarus’ Minsk City Court on Jan. 19 dismissed the appeal of two gay activists who were fined for picketing the Iranian Embassy to protest Iran’s treatment of gay people. Sergey Androsenko and Sergey Pravdin said they will appeal the latest ruling to the UN Human Rights Committee in Geneva. “The decision which found me guilty of organizing an unsanctioned event violates my right to freedom of expression and peaceful assembly guaranteed by the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights, which Belarus ratified,” Androsenko said. He added that his fine—$307—was unusually harsh for nations of the former Soviet Union, equaling one month’s worth of his salary. Androsenko said he and two others staged the December picket because “the

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world can’t hear the voice of Iranian gays, who are being executed.” “We, activists of LGBT movement, have to become this voice,” he said.

Malawi unfazed by int’l criticism of gay arrests

Malawi’s Information Ministry said Jan. 18 that international pressure will not dissuade the nation from prosecuting a gay couple for having a public engagement ceremony. Steven Monjeza, 26, and Tiwonge Chimbalanga, 20, were charged with “unnatural offenses” and “indecent practices between males” after holding the event in Blantyre on Dec. 26. They face 14 years in prison. The couple remain jailed pending resumption of their trial, which began Jan. 15 but was quickly adjourned after Chimbalanga, who reportedly has malaria, vomited and collapsed. He was later forced to get a mop and bucket and clean up the mess. Information Minister Leckford Mwanza dismissed international criticism of the case, saying the gay lovers clearly are lawbreakers and suggesting that Malawi does not want unsolicited advice on handling its internal affairs. Meanwhile, on Jan. 6, Chimbalanga was subjected to a forced medical exam to prove he’s had gay sex. The following day, both men were forced to undergo psychiatric testing. “Prosecuting two adults just because they affirm their love is a terrible injustice,” said Dipika Nath of Human Rights Watch’s LGBT rights program. “To subject individuals to spurious medical examinations against their will shows grave disregard for their fundamental human rights as well as for the public welfare.” Assistance: Bill Kelley

"Not only am I a single mother who's pregnant, but I'm also a lesbian mother who is pregnant and having a baby for two gay men. That might be startling to some." — Utah state Rep. Christine Johnson, D-Salt Lake City, to the Salt Lake Tribune Jan. 8 on being impregnated by a gay-male couple she is close friends with.


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Our Picks for February 2/6, Orpheum, Sioux City: Rockestra – Chicks Who Rock 2/10, Englert, Iowa City: An evening with Rosanne Cash 2/11, Five Flags Arena, Dubuque: Andrew Lloyd Webber’s CATS 2/13, 2/14, Five Flags Theater, Dubuque: Dubuque Sympony Orchestra, Tchaikovsky, Violin Concerto 2/13, 2/14, Capitol Theatre, Davenport: Ballet Quad Cities, “Love Stories” 2/13, Orpheum, Sioux City: Sioux City Symphony – Quartetto Gelato 2/20, Civic Center of Greater Des Moines: A Year with Frog and Toad 2/21, The Mill Restaurant, Iowa City: The Awful Purdies (Benefit for Pat’s Learning Adventure) 2/23, Capitol Theatre, Davenport: A solo performance by Bryan Adams 2/23-2/28, Civic Center of Greater Des Moines: Steppenwolf’s August: Osage County 2/25, CSPS/Legion Arts, Cedar Rapids: Catie Curtis 2/26, GRAND REOPENING OF THE IOWA THEATER BUILDING, CEDAR RAPIDS: THE PRODUCERS

... and March

3/6, Civic Center of Greater Des Moines: Judy Garland in Concert 3/10-3/14, US Cellular Center, Cedar Rapids: Cirque du Soleil ALEGRIA 3/13, Orpheum, Sioux City: Sioux City Symphony with Dame Kiri Te Kanawa

Deep Inside Hollywood by Romeo San Vicente

Kristin Chenoweth

Kerry and Kristin sittin’ in a tree… In the ongoing development saga of the slow-to-boil Dusty Springfield movie, the original question seems to have been definitively answered—and after a protracted period of “she is” and then “oh wait, no she isn’t,” the starring role has gone (finally!) to Romeo’s favorite Pushing Daisies alum Kristin Chenoweth. That’s the good news, since we can’t think of anyone who doesn’t love her. And the hopefully even better news is the possible addition of Kerry Washington, who’s now circling the role of Springfield’s love interest. It’s all negotiations and talks right now, but the Ray co-star has already appeared in the lesbian-themed She Hate Me and played a lesbian in the indie film The Dead Girl, opposite the late Brittany Murphy. Furthermore, she’s beautiful, she’s talented, she’d be great in the role and, frankly, four out of five lesbians surveyed agree that it would be really hot to see her making out with Chenoweth.

Gregg Araki goes “Kaboom”

When your most recent film, a goofy stoner-comedy called Happy Face, gets unjustly ignored and barely released, what’s your next move as a director? Go back to your roots and make a hot, young teenage

sci-fi comedy thriller about sexual awakenings, that’s what. Gregg Araki’s latest film, Kaboom, stars Kelly Lynch (The L Word) and Araki mainstay James Duval alongside sexy young stars Thomas Dekker (Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles), Juno Temple (Atonement) and Haley Bennett (The Haunting of Molly Hartley). The plot involves a Twin Peaks-style small town mystery, some hallucinogenic cookies and a lot of boundary-blurring sexual connections. Translation: it’s what you already know and –presumably – love about Araki’s weirdly cool worldview. Be on the lookout later this year for an explosion of old-school New Queer Cinema in a theater that shows that sort of thing near you.

“Cummings Farm” hosts an orgy

After the low-key success of 2009’s indie film Humpday, the one about the two straight men playing a game of Gay Chicken by planning to make a video of themselves having sex, it’s no surprise to see other scruffy, alt-comedies about nervous heterosexuals experimenting with naughty action coming down the pipeline. So welcome to Cummings Farm (pun almost certainly intended), about three straight couples deciding that it’s time to try group sex for the first time. And while it’s almost a certainty that they will all come to some TTHOLLYWOOD continued page 16

“As a straight man I really have nothing to gain by standing up for equal rights for Gays, Lesbians, Bisexual, and/or my Transgender friends. Except for the fact that I have many friends who are still subjected to hurtful comments by a society that hasn’t yet embraced fully the nature of... nature. Supporting a limiting system of rules for specific people to follow is prejudice. It’s the Antithesis of Christ Consciousness and (like smoking) it’s Soooo last century. Allowing love to freely flourish will only enhance the life experience—For All.” — Top-10 pop singer Jason Mraz on his blog, Dec. 31.


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The Outfield by Dan Woog

A new decade for GLBT sports

As one decade ends and another begins, The OutField pauses to survey the GLBT sports world. We’ve come a long way, baby, from the days when the term “gay athlete” was regarded as an oxymoron at best, repulsive at worst. Life is still not peachy-keen, of course. Players and coaches remain closeted. Antigay rhetoric still flows. But a tipping point seems nearer than ever. Take this story—one of several reported by Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation intern Emily Witko in a roundup titled “Media Paying Attention to LGBT Sport Issues.” When Outsports.com reported that Dallas Mavericks basketball player Drew Gooden referred to two Los Angeles Clippers fans as “faggots,” one of the men e-mailed Mavs’ coach Mark Cuban from his BlackBerry. Cuban quickly responded: “I appreciate you telling me. I will deal w Drew.” Similarly, when Kansas City Chiefs running back Larry Johnson used anti-gay slurs, the football team docked him a week’s pay—about $315,000—and suspended him for a game. His agent said, “Larry apologized. He learned from it, and hopefully other people learned from it. My hope is that people learn that something positive can come out of this, and that there are words that should not be used because they demean people.” Homophobic slurs are not confined to the U.S. Witko reports that Danish soccer team FC Midtjylland fired star goalkeeper Arek Onyszko for writing in his book, Fucking Polak: “I hate gays, I really do. I think it’s fucking disgusting to hear them talk to each other as if they are girls. I can’t be in the same room as someone who’s gay. Look at them kissing each other—it’s sickening.” Onyszko is no stranger to controversy. In 2008 he was fired from another squad, after a conviction of assault on his ex-wife. He served three months in prison. Back in the U.S., Major League Baseball welcomed its first openly gay owner in October. Laura Ricketts—who serves on the board of Lambda Legal—joined her family in purchasing the Chicago Cubs, for $845 million. The earth did not stop revolving—

Justin Bourne and the Cubs, a non-World Series contender since 1908, did not immediately become competitive—but Ricketts’ ascension to the highest level of the baseball world may be significant simply because no one cared. The gay sports world heard a voice for equality from a straight source, too, when former pro Justin Bourne wrote a column in USA Today headlined: “It’s Time to End the Use of Gay Slurs in Hockey.” Bourne—who, Witko says, used antigay slurs “many times himself” during his career—recognized that the atmosphere in homophobic locker rooms may keep talented gay players out of the game. “It’s time to acknowledge we’ve been unfair to the gay community,” Bourne said. “The culture of our sport can be misogynistic, homophobic and cruel. More important, it’s time to make a stand that we want it to change.” One hockey player who may benefit from Bourne’s stand—if it is heeded, and adopted, by the sport—is a 17-year-old named “Mikey.” He lives in a suburb of Minneapolis, is captain of his high school team, and blogs regularly Writing in blog-speak, Mikey says: “im gay and not out and spend my whole life with jocks who are mostly anti gay. it usually

sucks, but its cool i get to play hockey.” He writes about the usual: practices and games, shoveling snow and worrying about waking up in a hotel on a road trip where teammates sleep two to a bed, spooning with a teammate and—well, this is a family column. Check out http://hockeykidmn.blogspot.com for a look into what it’s like to be a gay high school athlete these days—and, in many ways, just a normal teenager. Finally, a shout out to an entire hockey team. This one is the girls squad from Woodstock, New Brunswick. The Lady Thunder team won a Canadian provincial human rights award for standing up for two teammates who came out. According to CBC News, Alyssa McLean and Sierra Paul were supported by Lady Thunder players—but taunted by rivals. The opposing team refused to shake the two girls’ hands. The same girls were then treated rudely at a fast-food restaurant. Their Woodstock teammates devised a plan. They created rainbow-colored buttons, with the word “homophobia” crossed out. The girls wore the buttons to games. A team in Edmundston, Canada asked what the buttons were about. The Woodstock players gave them some—and their opponents immediately put them on. The Woodstock girls were “a model for the promotion of human rights among youth,” said New Brunswick Human Rights Commission chair Gordon Porter, in making the award. Happily, they are not the only ones speaking out—and standing up—for GLBT athletes everywhere.

Sweet turnaround for Peggy Beck

Stereotypes have long held that there are no gay male athletes—but most female athletes are lesbians. However, ever since The Front Runner, authors have tackled the theme of gay male athletes far more often than females. Sweet Turnaround J changes all that. The second novel by Peggy Beck, it explores the life of 16-year-old Janey Holmes after her old school closes, and she joins a team that has not won a game in three years. Along the way she confronts her own temper, and falls in love with another girl. Like Janey, Beck was a sports fanatic. Her father encouraged her love of athletics; her mother, concerned about raising a tomboy, was less enthusiastic. Growing up in Minnesota in the 1950s and ’60s, Beck played every game imaginable –including football. But as she grew older, social strictures made coed play impossible. With no real sports available, she went through “bad emotional stuff,” Beck says. Recognizing her attraction to women made life even tougher. She gravitated to politics and folk singing. At Sarah Lawrence College, she wrote but did not show her work to anyone. “My whole life was secret,” she says. After earning a Ph.D. in the history of consciousness, she wrote fiction, poetry, articles and essays covering mythology, folklore and history. In middle age she recalled that she once wanted to be the best female basketball player in the world and decided

Peggy Beck to revisit that dream. “I wanted to write about a girl obsessed with basketball,” Beck says. “But I realized I didn’t know anything about it anymore.” She spent a year watching every practice of a team in New Mexico, where she lived. She went to the Amateur Athletic Union 15-yearold Nationals where she interviewed coaches. She attended other tournaments, and then became an assistant high school coach and a seventh grade girls’ coach. She studied videos, read coaching books and interviewed plenty of players. “I wanted to get it right,” Beck says. She got it so right the first draft of her novel was 1,000 pages. The lesbian element is important. Janey falls in love with her new best friend. The chapter where they kiss and make love is implied. Over the next two chapters, the reader agonizes as the girls can’t deal with what is going on. Janey goes through hell when Alejo won’t talk to her. During her long research, Beck had watched girls trying to figure out their feelings for other girls. She’d also heard the anti-gay remarks so typical on teams and in high schools. Because Beck had felt and heard the same things, her writing is strong and real. But it did not become truly powerful until Beck changed the narrative from third person to first. Sweet Turnaround J is not, however, only about lesbians. “It always comes back to basketball,” Beck says. “The gym is like the theater— every day is a rehearsal for a play.” The novel includes alcohol abuse, parental issues, coaching issues—all the things teenagers of every sexual orientation deal with regularly. But sexuality is often part of high school sports, and Beck does not shy from it. When Janey finally talks with a teammate, the other girl asks, “How did you know you were gay?” “I always was,” Janey says. The coach encourages Janey and Alejo to follow their feelings. That doesn’t always happen, Beck knows, but through her research into coaches and coaching styles, she realizes that the best coaches are TTSWEET continued page 13


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IowaLisa’s List Howdy folks! This is a list of Iowa’s live music, arts, social events and culture for, by, featuring, and of interest to women, GLBT folks, and friends for February. To submit events and announcements, or to sign up a friend to receive this list by e-mail, e-mail iowalisa@juno.com. Visit me on Facebook at www.facebook.com/iowalisa or on MySpace at www.myspace.com/iowalisa. I’m on Twitter too (@iowalisa)!

NEW ANNOUNCEMENTS:­­

WOMEN’S PICK-UP BASKETBALL: Women in the Iowa City area who are interested in getting pick-up basketball games going, please contact Sara at sara-shreve@uiowa.edu. TRET FURE HOUSE CONCERT: Tret Fure will be appearing in an intimate house concert in Cedar Rapids on Friday, April 9. She’s got great new music and wants to share it with her biggest fans. The show is limited to 30 people. Register in advance by e-mailing Lisa at iowalisa@juno. com. $20 donation to Tret is STRONGLY encouraged. She uses the money to continue to tour and produce new music. SHOES THAT FIT: OnMedia and Mediacom are sponsoring a program called Shoes that Fit.  This program teams up with individuals and businesses throughout the metro area to provide shoes for school children in critical need.  Over 380 shoe requests for shoes/boots from various Cedar Rapids Community School District elementary school students were submitted to OnMedia/Mediacom this November, 2009.  During the past two months only 40 students out of these 380 requests for shoes have received shoes or boots from this program.  We still

have many students who are need of shoes or boots.  To help, call Travis Lange at 319.395.9674 or tlange@onmediaadsales.com for a list of shoes/boots that are needed and the process for donating them. MIDWEST EQUALITY ACROSS AMERICA Equality Across America is organizing a Midwest conference in Chicago for Mar 12-14. They are encouraging all Midwestern LGBT groups to join the planning process.  The Google Event page with all the links and info is here: http://groups. google.com/group/jointheimpactchicago/ browse_thread/thread/33f 7fece4ccae941 (Lauren Fleer is the JTIChicago contact for that page: lfleer@yahoo.com) The Faceboook event page for the EAA Conference is here: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=231780844861 Equality Across America’s website: http://equalityacrossamerica.org/ Join the Impact Chicago’s website: http:// w w w. j o i n t h e i m p a c t c h i c a g o . c o m / Join the Impact’s national website: http:// jointheimpact.com/

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AWFUL PURDIES NEW CD! The muchawaited Awful Purdies CD is now in stores. It’s available online at: http://www.cdbaby.com/ cd/AwfulPurdies or in local stores at The Record Collector, Iowa City; The Iowa Artisans Gallery, Iowa City; Real Records, Iowa City; and Moon Dog Records, Dubuque. CEDAR RAPIDS CITY MARKET looking at Wholesale Distribution Channel for Goods - Help Needed: Many restaurants and food service organizations, including hospitals and schools,

would like to “buy locally” but are held back by the lack of a centralized wholesale distribution channel for locally grown and produced food. One of the ideas being explored by the Cedar Rapids City Market is starting a wholesale distribution channel for our grower/producers -- in essence retailing to the public out of the front, and wholesaling to resellers from the back. We need help in exploring this concept. Are you in wholesale food distribution or do you know someone who is? Would your organization like to buy more locally produced food products? If you have any expertise in this regard, the Cedar Rapids City Market Board would like to hear from you. Please email saraho@stolbas.com. Your help will be much appreciated. CALLING ALL ARTISTS: Harvester is a new artist-centric website “for artists on the outside.” Go to www.HarvesterCR.com for complete submission details. THE SHOP NEXT DOOR: Coming Soon! The Shop Next Door is a new venture by Cedar Rapids’ own Brewed Awakening’s Coffeehouse. The new store will be located on 13th Street in Cedar Rapids, directly behind Brewed’s flagship store. The Shop Next Door specializes in handmade art in all forms – essentially an Artisan Collective. They are looking for artisans to fill the shop. They hope to cater to the young adult crowd. Contact Heather Younker for more info: 319-363-4333 or heather@brewedawakeningscr.com. CONNECTIONS, the Iowa City organization that provides social, educational and networking opportunities for GLBT folks and friends with a range of interests, is in full swing. Connections

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SWEET supportive of all their athletes, whatever their personal feelings may be. Like many young adult novels, Sweet Turnaround J is making its way slowly into libraries and onto suggested reading lists. Bloggers who discuss homophobia in women’s basketball have been positive and helpful. One reviewer said that the author’s “depiction of relationships is often missing in the male sports books, which focus more on narrative action. Beck’s portrayal of a multicultural team with all the signifiers suggests an observant eye and much research … . (We) discover the important lessons and human strength that basketball or any sport can teach in the drive toward winning games and learning life’s lessons.” “I live in a complete fantasy world,

offers small groups (a nature group, a spiritual group, a motorcycle club, a reading group, just to name a few), and what it doesn’t offer can be arranged! Check out the Connections website at www.queerconnections.org. For more info, e-mail queerconnections@yahoo.com. COMMUNITY CALENDAR: Find GLBT events of interest at www.queerconnections. com/calendar. U. OF IOWA WOMEN’S BASKETBALL: Iowa women’s basketball games are great fun to watch! Come on out to Carver-Hawkeye Arena on the following February dates: 7, 14, 18, 25. For more info and game times, visit www. hawkeyesports.com. SONGWRITERS NEEDED FOR IDOL CONTEST: Daniel Arthur’s Acoustic Idol is held on Tuesdays in downtown Cedar Rapids. If you want to be a part of this event as a competing performer, e-mail Kimberli Maloy at flyingmonkeyscr@aol.com. CEDAR RAPIDS PRIDE IS BACK IN 2010: If you want to get involved in the planning process, contact Anthony Brown at Anthony.Browna04@ Gmail.com or via Facebook. CR Pride Week will be held June 1-6, 2010, with the main event on June 5. IWMF ON TWITTER: Iowa Women’s Music Festival is on Twitter. Follow us @iwmfest. IMPACTCR FOR YOUNG PROFESSIONALS: Found out more at www.impactcr.org. This organization was formerly Access Iowa. LGBT SOCIAL CIRCLE ONGOING AT THE SENIOR CENTER: Gather at the Senior Center

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where everyone will want to read it,” Beck admits. While she has heard nothing negative so far, she understands that a gay protagonist may cause some young readers to steer clear. Beck hopes that does not happen. “I’ll feel really badly if it gets pigeonholed. I think girls who aren’t lesbian can find a lot in the book to enjoy and learn from,” she says. “There are no sports books for girls, gay or straight,” Beck says. “They’re the lowest of the low on the totem pole. Hundreds of thousands of girls play sports. They need to read about their world.” Visit www.sweetturnaroundj.com for more information, including ordering information and links to basketball websites. Dan Woog is a journalist, educator, soccer coach, gay activist, and author of the “Jocks” series of books on gay male athletes. Visit his Web site at www.danwoog.com. He can be reached care of this publication or at OutField@qsyndicate.com.


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The Epic of Gil and His Pal, Ethan by Joshua Dagon Studying classic literature, I’ve discovered that before Dorian Grey and Basil Hallward, before David and Jonathan, before Alexander and Hephaestion, before Achilles and Patroclus, even before Adam and Steve, uh... Eve, whatever... there was—drum roll please—Gilgamesh and Enkido. Gilgamesh and Enkido both appear in an ancient epic recorded on stone tablets—finding reams of paper was very difficult when one lived in ancient Sumer, although there were several Starbucks, pawn and smoke shops in every mini-mall. The story on the tablets was in Cuneiform script, an old form of writing developed when the Stick Figure font fell out of common use. The principal characters in the epic—in case you happen to be particularly thick and haven’t been able to guess—were both dudes! Really! Apparently, the author(s) of the epic thought the only heterosexual relationship that was worth mentioning was one between Enkido and a “harlot” named—and this is translated from ancient Cuneiform—“Britney.” These ancient Sumerian heroes, Gilgamesh and Enkido—translated into contemporary American English as “Gil” and “Ethan”—have been immortalized for all time in the world’s very first novel ever. Seriously! Yes, I am not messin’ with ya! You see, the world’s very first story ever written ever also happens to be, if you can believe it—which you should ‘cause it’s totally true—the absolutely first instance of gay and lesbian literature—any literature, actually! Ha ha! Take that, Fred Phelps, ya putz! The story of Gil and his chum Ethan was written down literally thousands of years before the Book of Genesis ever became more than a verbal tradition—a

means of disseminating information, commonly known today as ‘gossip.’ You see, the story of Genesis, most scholars now believe, wasn’t actually written down until the Israelites had already been exiled to Babylon sometime in the sixth century B.C.E.1 The mass market paperback, too, was not made available until considerable time had passed, since the printing press was invented by Johannes Gutenberg—who was made famous by the widely distributed printed version of sacred literature named for him, the Johannes Bible. The Epic of Gil and his pal Ethan begins with Gil, who is the king of a place called Eruk, although he was much more popular in West Eruk, where he had a nice condominium with a view of the Pacific Design Center. However, Gil was a notorious tramp in West Eruk, so his neighbors got together and appealed to a drag queen named Anu, better known in the clubs as Auntie Diluvian. Auntie Diluvian decided that Gil needed a boyfriend. So, she made a few phone calls. Eventually, Auntie Diluvian was referred to a friend of a friend who knew of a guy named Ethan, whom everyone thought would be perfect for Gil. First, though, they all had to convince Ethan to get a haircut and a full body waxing. Strangely, Gil actually had a dream in which he foresaw Ethan entering his life. “Mother,” he said one day to his mother, Ninsun—translated as “Fran”—I dreamed about a guy that I rather liked a lot.” Fran then said, “Of course you did, you big ‘mo.” After a lot of Cuneiform text that basically says a lot of considerably boring stuff, Gil and Ethan finally meet and “were drawn as though to a woman.”2 Then Gil and Ethan, as was very popular among many ancient homosexuals and most prominently docu-

Hear Me Out by Chris Azzopardi

Katharine McPhee, “Unbroken” Now a blonde, you wouldn’t recognize the former Idol frontrunner on the cover of her second album. That’s probably the point. After an awful, R&B-leaned 2007 debut bombed and struggled to artistically define the singer-turned-actress (causing her then-label RCA Records to drop her), the former broad’s going the Mandy Moore route—right down adult-contemporary road. Songs like the first couple pop confections—mid-tempos  “It’s Not Right” and “Had It All,” the irresistible

mented in Brokeback Mountain, decided to go camping together. Before they went to the forest, however, Gil and Ethan did a lot of shopping. They purchased swords, shields, armor, and stuff, which, I’m assuming, was evidently quite vogue at the time. Their outfits actually turned out to be fairly handy, though, when they encountered a really tall homophobic guy named Humbaba— translated as “Francis.” Gil and Ethan then gave Francis a really vicious antediluvian reading, “You are, like, way too tall, dude. Are those pants you’re wearing or a used car lot balloon?” After Francis ran home, his mascara smeared all the way down to his neck, Gil and Ethan encountered some chic named Ishtar—that was her real name; she was kind of a skank. Ishtar told Gil that she thought he was, like, totally hot and wanted to schtup him. Gil and Ethan laughed so hard they, like, nearly peed in their armor. Then they threw some snow cones at Ishtar. Ishtar then complained to Auntie Diluvian, who was kind of miffed about the whole snow cone thing—“That was, like, totally uncool,” she was heard to say—and so she sicked her dog Taurus on Ethan. Ethan was bitten and then died of rabies which was, like, really sad. “You were a glorious robe, my fairest ornament!” Gil lamented in anguish— ancient folks often “lamented” stuff, such as their driver’s licenses. “An evil fate has robbed me!”3 Then he recited a really, really long poem, which was later set to music by Andrew Lloyd Webber. Once Ethan was dead, Gil decided that he didn’t want to die, as death seemed to suck. So, he went on an epic quest for really good moisturizing products and an effec-

Major guts make good on the adventurous debut of the out Colorado native—formerly a Mouseketeer, now a songwriter for the stars. One being Justin Timberlake, who signed Morris to his Tennman label (and serves as co-producer of his first CD)—a move that further mirrors the pop force’s strong musical sense. Morris has a gorgeous, tenor-tofalsetto fluidity to his malleable voice, and on “Let It Go” it flowers into Rufus

tive diet plan. First, he met an esthetician named Siduri, whom everyone just called Sid. Sid told Gil that, if he sought immortality, he needed to make an appointment with Utnapishtim—translated as “Paul Mitchell.” He is still waiting for an appointment. The end. McKee, John Kimball. Hebrews: For the Practical Messianic. © 2006 TNN Press http://www.outreachisrael.net/products/ books/Hebrews_for_ the_Practical_Messianic_excerpts.pdf [Unless this citation is total bull, in which case it’s probably not safe to quote me.] 2 N. K. Sanders translation, 1982 3 N. K. Sanders translation, 1982. A bit questionable here, but waddayagonna do? 1

Mary J. Blige, “Stronger withEach Tear”

first single—fit McPhee better than the shoes she ridiculously sang about on her predecessor, partly because the focus wisely shifts to her fine, cloudless voice. It’s an alluring instrument that works marvelously on “Say Goodbye,” a piano-led lament vulnerably conveyed in a haunting cadence. Unfortunately, it’s often also stylistically vanilla – and a heap of bland ballads rounding out the album aren’t particularly wooing. But at least she’s moving her Manolos in the right direction. Grade: B-

Matt Morris, “When Everything Breaks Open”

Novelist Joshua Dagon is the author of Into the Mouth of the Wolf, The Fallen, and Demon Tears. For more information, please go to www.joshuadagon.com. To contact Mr. Dagon, please e-mail him at jd@joshuadagon.com.

Wainwright-like wonder. But he’s also unafraid of making bold moves: His style-hopping work—atmospheric rock (“Just Before the Morning”), rhythmic Jason Mraz-styled soul (“Love”) and baiting pop (radio-ready “Live Forever”)—is full of instrumental nuances. The classic underbelly of “The Un-American,” a circusy song with a biting social commentary, epitomizes that. It only ruins him when it deprecates his voice, buzzing with percussion like “You Do It For Me” does. Otherwise, it’s worth breaking open. Grade: B

If ever an artist could sell a cliché, it’d be Mary J. Blige. So much raw conviction is served alongside her inimitable powerhouse voice that even self-empowerment platitudes, like those on the canned MJB upper-anthem “Each Tear” off her ninth studio album, go down easier than they should. But even a bona fide soul queen like Blige can’t redeem something as abominable as “Kitchen,” cooking up atrocious rhymes and silly appliance metaphors like a parody. Meat’s missing in the hollow shells of “I Love U (Yes I Du)” and “I Feel Good,” and a few cookie-cutter club songs—produced by trendy hip-hop hot shots—dilute Blige’s trademark stamp, but still do their job. She gets into her groove on “I Am” with its classic-ballad throwback vibe. But it’s the prized closing paean, “I Can See in Color”—a sparse, bluesy song of joy, redemption and self-love—that makes bold boasts like “I’m the best” more believable. Grade: C+


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LISA’S LIST in Iowa City on Wednesday afternoons with other gay, lesbian, bi-sexual and transgender seniors. This is your opportunity to meet new people in a welcoming environment. Activities are determined based on the interests of participants. For more information call Thomas at 319-354-1784. CONNECTIONS WELCOME WAGON: Ever been the new kid in school? It can be lonely and scary. Connections is looking for volunteers to meet and greet GLBT people who move to Iowa City and are looking for information about the community. We are looking for friendly people who have lived in the area for a few years who could have a cup of coffee with a new Iowa Citian and answer their questions. Not a huge time commitment. We are hoping to have a big enough pool that we could match up like-minded people. Contact Bridget if you are interested in helping at malone.bridget@gmail.com or 319-338-0512. JANE AND JANE MAGAZINE: You can read the entire issue of Jane and Jane Magazine on-line absolutely free by going to http://www. janeandjane.net/. ART FEED: A new website that promotes local Corridor artists is on-line at www.TheArtFeed.com. The Art Feed is part online gallery and part promotional tool for artists. Artists can upload images of their art for a low annual membership. The public can come and browse as well as find out about art-related businesses and events. CEDAR RAPIDS CIVIL RIGHTS COMMISSION IS RETOOLING: The Cedar Rapids Civil Rights Commission has two articles concerning important GLBT news.  Also, they are at the climax of a long process of a total retooling of our civil rights code which will serve as an example of  how-to for communities nationally. Visit http://cedar-rapids.org/civilrights/, http://cedar-rapids.org/civilrights/newsletter/Civil%20Rights%20Newsletter%20-%20 May%20200 9.pdf, and http://cedar-rapids. org/civilrights/documents/2007-2008%20 Annual%20Report.pdf. FAMILY POTLUCK IN DES MOINES: A group in Des Moines holds casual family potlucks. People interested in joining the group should e-mail mfender@lambdalegal.org or call Matt Fender at 515-288-4019 ext 202. FEMINIST, POLITICAL, SMART, ESSENTIALLY ESTROGEN! Check out www.essentialesstrogen.com for blogs by and concerning women. The link www.essentialestrogen.com/ blogroll.html has a list of Iowa blogs of all different sorts by women of all different sorts. For feminist blogs, go to www.esssentialestrogen. com/essential-feminists.html. Check it out! OUTHISTORY REQUESTS HISTORIES OF LGBT EMPLOYEE AND OTHER GROUPS: Knowledgeable members of the public can create on-site histories of LGBT corporate employee groups, unions, and professional groups. Any logged-in users can contribute to the site. The entries can be accessed on OutHistory through their group titles: LGBT Employee Groups: A History; LGBT Union Groups: A History; and LGBT Professional Groups: A History. OutHistory. org is a freely accessible, nonprofit, educational website produced by the Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies. For more info, e-mail Jonathan Ned Katz at outhistory@gc.cuny.edu. GLBT EVENTS LIST: Bridget Malone sends a comprehensive monthly (and sometimes more often) listing of GLBT events in the Cedar Rapids and Iowa City area. To get on her list, e-mail malone.bridget@gmail.com. Bridget’s list comes

the fun guide out twice per month, around the 1st and the 15th. If you hear of GLBT related events, please send them to her at malone.bridget@gmail.com. QUAD CITIES GROUPS: The Lesbian Book Club is reading books by or about lesbians. Nonlesbians are welcome to attend. All meetings are held at the Unitarian Universalist Church, 3707 Eastern Ave., Davenport, and meet the 4th Saturday of each month from 7-8:30 p.m. OUT (Our United Truth): A GLBT Support Group meets every Tuesday evening from 7-8:30 p.m., also at the Unitarian Universalist Church (address above). For more info, call 563-359-0816. CEDAR RAPIDS GLBT SPIRITUAL GROUP: The GLBT Spiritual Group meets to socialize, discuss topics, share stories, hang out and have fun! The current plan is to meet alternating months for dinner and get together to do a fun activity other months. To be included on future e-mails and invitations, contact Susan at liddelles@aol.com. Or sign up for the new Google Group cedar-rapids-glbta-interfaith-group@ googlegroups.com. ONE IOWA, the state’s largest LGBT advocacy organization, is dedicated to supporting full equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender individuals living in Iowa through grassroots education and advocacy. Check out their website, donate, volunteer, and become involved: http:// www.oneiowa.org/web/. OLD CAPITOL CITY ROLLER GIRLS: Iowa City’s roller derby team is up and rolling! For more info or if you want to join, contact: Sarah Carter (Huzzie Lecher #FU), Coach, Asst. Team Manager at 515-201-0161 or kaylola3@aol. com; or Amanda Sergent (Kila Kaylola #H8), Team Manager, Asst. Coach at 515-201-4743 or kaylola3@aol.com. Visit the Old Capitol City Roller Girls at http://www.myspace.com/ oldcapitolcityrollergirls or e-mail occrgirls@ yahoo.com. NEW WOMEN IN MUSIC CDs! Visit www. ladyslipper.org for the best of women in music! DO YOU GET LC? Lesbian Connection is the free worldwide forum of news, ideas, and information for, by, and about lesbians, with info on festivals, travel, conferences, retirement communities, books, health issues, relationships, politics, and much more.  Ambitious Amazons have been publishing since 1974, and they mail issues out every other month in plain brown envelopes. If you’d like to start receiving LC for free, all you need to do is email elsiepub@aol. com with your full name and mailing address.  LC’s official name and address is Elsie Publishing Institute (EPI), PO Box 811, East Lansing, MI 48826, ph 517-371-5257, fax 517-371-5200. EPI is a tax-deductible 501(c)3 nonprofit charity. WEBSITE FOR MIDWESTERN EVENTS: If you want to know what’s going on in neighboring states for women, check out Kai Phillipi’s website www.lambdabuzz.com. BETA SIGMA PHI is an international women’s friendship network. It provides educational programs to its members and opportunities for service to others. It includes women of all ages, interests, and educational and economic backgrounds. It’s the largest organization of its kind in the world. For more info, contact Mackenzie Hootman at mmh52204@hotmail.com or call 319-721-2105. IOWA PRIDE NETWORK: If you are interested in getting more involved and active in Iowa’s GLBTQ community, focusing on safe schools and LGBT student leadership and development, check out the Iowa Pride Network’s new website http://www.iowapridenetwork.org. Register at http://www.iowapridenetwork.org/jointhenetwork.htm to join this LGBT and Allied network of students and supporters. WOMEN’S CULTURAL COLLECTIVE:

Check out the happenings in Des Moines and the surrounding areas that are sponsored or supported by the Women’s Cultural Collective (WCC) at www.iowawcc.org. IOWA COMMISSION ON THE STATUS OF WOMEN: Visit www.women.iowa.gov to find resources and tools for women, ICSW initiatives, and information for girls. PRAIRIEWOODS: Check out all the events for women and friends at Prairiewoods Franciscan Spirituality Center in Hiawatha. If you’ve never been there, you don’t know what you’re missing. Visit www.prairiewoods.org for more info and a long list of events.

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Monday, February 1, 7-9 p.m., CONNECTIONS ANNUAL MEMBERSHIP MEETING, 2nd Floor Plaza Room hotelVetro, downtown Iowa City. For more info, e-mail malone.bridget@ gmail.com. Tuesday, February 2, 6:30 p.m., WHAT IS THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION? Teleclass facilitated by Prairiewoods Franciscan Center. This teleclass will review the evolving field of mind-body teamwork and will include learning methods for dialoguing with one’s body, regulating and reducing the experience of pain and sending loving, healing energies to yourself and others. This and future teleclasses will be led by enlightenment coach Theresa O’Connor, who  will facilitate the retreat, Your Life, Your Light: Enlightenment, July 4-10 at Prairiewoods. Cost for the teleclasses: $20 per session or $85/package of 5 sessions. More teleclasses of various topics for March-June are listed at www. prairiewoods.org. You may participate in any one or more of the classes. Register at www. prairiewoods.org. Tuesday, February 9, 7 p.m., BOOK READING AT PRAIRIE LIGHTS, 15 South Dubuque St., Iowa City. Reception and Book Signing: 7 p.m. Program: 7:30–8:30 p.m. The UI Alumni Association presents the third installment of the Modern Love Series: Negotiating Legitimacy and Recognition for Same-Sex Couples. How do members of same-sex marriages negotiate legitimacy and recognition for their families? How do women and men make sense of the multiple identities they can face in same-sex relationships? What are the cultural realities of gender roles in samesex relationships?   Join us as Dr. Ellen Lewin discusses these issues and research exploring community and morality in same-sex commitment ceremonies. Copies of Dr. Lewin’s books, Gay Fatherhood and Recognizing Ourselves, will be available for purchase at the event. Wednesday, February 10, 7:30 p.m., AN EVENING WITH ROSANNE CASH, at The Englert Theatre, Iowa City. For more info, visit www. hancher.uiowa.edu. Wednesday, February 10, 9 a.m.-4 p.m., ONE IOWA LOBBY DAY AT THE CAPITOL, 315 E. 5th St., Des Moines. One of the most effective things you can do this year to demonstrate your support for equality is to meet face-to-face with your state legislators. Meet at The Capitol Room. For more info and to RSVP, visit www.oneiowa.org. Thursday, February 11, 7:30 p.m., CATS at the Five Flags Center, Dubuque. For more info or tix, visit www.ticketmaster.com. Friday, February 12, 5:30-7:30 p.m., VALENTINE WINE TASTING at Vineria Wine Shop, 264 Blairs Ferry Rd. NE, Cedar Rapids. $20 to attend, get $10 back with purchase of wine. Must register in advance by calling 319-373-6141 or by e-mailing vineria@mchsi.com. Includes hors d’oeuvres and chocolates. Saturday, February 13, 6 p.m., OWLS (Older Wiser Lesbians) POTLUCK in Iowa City. For more info and directions, e-mail katharn@

ACCESSline Page 15 xwires.net. Tuesday, February 16, 9 p.m., SYKE CARRASCO and AMI SARAIYA, The Tuesday Night Social Club, at The Mill Restaurant, 120 E. Burlington St., Iowa City. Come indulge your post-St. Vincent comedown with a beautiful night-cap of music featuring the classicallyinfluenced leanings of vocalist / violinist Skye Carrasco. Chicago’s Ami Saraiya plays as well, unfolding her eerie old timey folk songs all over our winter-coated ears. Free! Visit www.icmill. com and http://www.myspace.com/amisaraiya or call 319-351-9529 for more info. Friday, February 19, 8 p.m., CARRIE NEWCOMER at CSPS/Legion Arts, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. For more info, e-mail info@ legionarts.org, visit www.legionarts.org, or call 319-364-1580. Ticket sales are now happening over www.iowatix.com for all CSPS shows. Sunday, February 21, 5 p.m. (EARLY SHOW), THE AWFUL PURDIES in a Benefit for Pat’s Learning Advenure at The Mill Restaurant, 120 E. Burlington St., Iowa City. Iowa City’s top-notch all-female folk outfit Awful Purdies return to the Mill with a brand new record under the arms. A long time in the making, this album promises to feature intimate and assured songwriting as well as some well-plucked acoustic instruments. $7 benefits Pat’s Learning Center. Kids 15 and under get in free. For more info, visit www.icmill.com and http://www.myspace.com/awfulpurdies or call 319-351-9529. Wednesday, February 24, 8-10 p.m., KIMBERLI MALOY at Daniel Arthur’s Six Feet Under Lounge, 821 3rd Ave. SE, Cedar Rapids. Thursday, February 25, 8 p.m., CATIE CURTIS at CSPS/Legion Arts, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. For more info, e-mail info@ legionarts.org, visit www.legionarts.org, or call 319-364-1580. Ticket sales are now happening over www.iowatix.com for all CSPS shows. Friday-Saturday, February 26-27, 8 p.m., MISS MIDWEST INTERNATIONAL AND MISS MIDWEST INTERNATIONAL PLUSS. Come out and support the community at a unique event that brings performers to town from other states throughout the Midwest. This is a preliminary regional event leading up to the Miss International Pageant. Tables can be reserved for $10 by calling 319-550-4275. Tables must be reserved by Feb 15 and paid in full by Feb 20. The pageant starts at 9 p.m. on Friday at Hamburger Mary’s, 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, Cedar Rapids and at 10 p.m. on Saturday at Club Basix, 3916 1st Ave SE, Cedar Rapids, IA 52402—but get there early! February 26-March 14, THE PRODUCERS, presented by Theatre Cedar Rapids, in the re-opened Iowa Theatre Building, 1st Ave and 3rd St. SE, downtown Cedar Rapids. For more info or tix, visit www.theatrecr.org. The Grand Re-opening of the theatre after the flood of 2008 is on Friday, February 26, with special cocktails, hors d’oeuvres, dessert, champagne, and the show for $75 per person. Saturday, February 27, 1-4 p.m., ANTIMICROBIAL ESSENTIAL OILS FOR HEALTH Workshop at Prairiewoods, 120 Boyson Rd., Hiawatha. Prairiewoods staffer Mary Ellen Dunford is teaching this class on how to use essential oils to enhance your health by protecting you from germs and other microorganisms.  Participants will become familiar with 8 highly ranked antimicrobial essential oils. No prior knowledge is required. Cost: $25. Call Prairiewoods to register: 319-395-6700. Saturday, February 27, 6 p.m. (EARLY SHOW), THE VAGINA MONOLOGUES at The Mill Restaurant, 120 E. Burlington St., Iowa City. Ever wonder what it would be like to hear women talk about their down theres on stage

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The Gay Wedding Planner: Where to get married in and around Des Moines by Beau Fodor I would like to mention the “venues” I have worked in and with, this past year of Gay Weddings in Iowa. I think we can offer the diversity of both coasts (minus an ocean or two) in our great state. The venues alone—from all four corners of Iowa—offer unlimited diversity, scenery, and options for the wedding of your dreams. I am starting with Des Moines, and in future articles will cover other areas in our beautiful state. With destination weddings, the venue has always been the most important aspect. Whether a small East Village penthouse wedding for ten, or a wedding for 150 at “Two Saints Winery” in St. Charles, the ceremony and reception venues are the heart of the matter. Rev. Kathy Love, The Wedding Chapel, Clive, Iowa – (515) 277-2847 For the true “Traditional” wedding in Central Iowa (or not-so-much!) “The Wedding Chapel” in Clive, (www.iowasamesexweddings.com) with spiritual guidance from interfaith minister, Rev. Kathy Love— whom I have had the privilege to work with several times—provides couples a fairytalelike chapel and many styles of ceremonies. (And they have been doing same-sex ceremonies for over 10 years now!!!) I can highly recommend her services, even if just for pre-marital counseling! Senior Pastor, Peg Esperanza, The Church of the Holy Spirit, West Des Moines, Iowa – (515) 287-9787 The Church of the Holy Spirit (www. chsrainbowcyberchurch.com/home) in

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HOLLYWOOD sobering realizations about themselves –  guiltless orgies are for canceled TV shows like Swingtown, really – at least one glimmer of comedic hope rests with the presence of comic Laura Silverman (who co-stars as “herself” on her sister’s sitcom The Sarah Silverman Program). With any luck it’ll be more freewheeling than the average PSA for monogamy.

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RuPaul’s Drag Race was only the beginning. The “Supermodel of The World” is turning into quite the media mogul and, it seems, about to turn cable channel Logo into the Drag Network with his new series RuPaul’s Drag U. Stepping into the void left

West Des Moines, offers Moines – (515) 281-5111 traditional and non-traThe State of Iowa’s Historidition wedding ceremocal Center, 515-281-5111, nies. The denomination in Des Moines’ East began in 1968 as a direct Village, offers one of the response to the homophoBEST panoramic roof-top bia found in many tradiviews of the Capitol and tional churches. Pastor Riverfront, and also has Esperanza performed fabulous on-site catering the very first legal Gay as well. Wedding in central Iowa. The Meadows (And she is fabulous, fabuEvents and Conference lous, fabulous!) Center – 1-800-325-9015 The Garden and Galley The Meadows Events and Bed and Breakfast, IndiConference Center (www. anola – (515) 961-7749 prairiemeadows.com) is The Garden and Galley a spot where the sales Bed and Breakfast in Inditeam will pull out all the anola (www.gardenandstops for a “Vegas-style” galley.com) offers an apple wedding. orchard, organic gardens, The “Top of the and magnificent views of Tower” in the Holiday Inn, the rolling hills of the South Downtown Des Moines River Valley. Last summer, The “Top of the Tower” in the former Mayor of Key the Holiday Inn, DownBeau Fodor West, Florida, married his town Des Moines, has longtime companion in a THE BEST 180 degree hot air balloon ceremony on the property! SKYLINE VIEW of any venue in Des Moines. The Des Moines Botanical The possibilities are endless and a great Center, Des Moines – (515) 323-6290 wedding can be more cost-effective than The Des Moines Botanical Center (www. one might think! It was home of the botanicalcenter.com), offers year round first Iowa “Gay Wedding EXPO” that was tropical weddings with thousands of featured on CNN. Its support of the gay blooming plants and fabulous on-site community—along with employing quite a catering. few!—outshines any other hotel property The State of Iowa’s Historical Center, Des in downtown. And it’s recently renovated behind by Queer Eye For The Straight Guy, the premise of RPDU involves drag queens showing up at the front door of unsuspecting citizens and giving life makeovers. What this sort of intrusion will entail is a mystery, but Romeo assumes it won’t involve tucking lessons. Meanwhile, Logo has also given the go-ahead to Kept, a reality show sure to anger a whole bunch of people—hilariously so, by documenting the lives of pretty young kept boys in New York City, their rich, doting sugar daddies and those who aspire to that sort of lifestyle. In other words, it will be totally gross and Romeo is going to watch every minute. Coming soon! Romeo San Vicente has never “kept” anything but a really adorable pug, several dozen pairs of really expensive shoes and a lot of insanely hot men clamoring for more of his attention. He can be reached care of this publication or at DeepInsideHollywood@qsyndicate.com.

“I’ve been in a relationship (with Ryan Spahn) for a while now, and if you just met the two of us together we’d be ‘gay.’ But that somehow means anything that happened before (we met) didn't count—and I don't feel that way. I know that some people feel that way. They were with women, but it always felt wrong. But it didn’t for me. It felt right at the time. It didn’t work out, but it also didn’t work out with other men—many times. That's why ‘gay’ never seemed right.” — Ugly Betty actor Michael Urie, who plays Marc St. James, to The Advocate, February issue.

suites have breathtaking views with the availability for 24 hour room service and amenities. The Sales Department is absolutely fabulous to work with, too. The helped the Gay Wedding Expo sparkle and dazzle and made a dream come true! Spring Hill Suites and the Marriott, West Des Moines – (515) 223-9005 Finally, I’ve worked on several weddings now with Spring Hill Suites and the Marriott, in West Des Moines, working with Lindsay Johnson in Sales and Catering. She couldn’t be more accommodating to special requests—for any and all needs—and in getting the job done. Her attention to detail is awesome. Most of the actual ceremonies have been off-site of the property (in Adel, Madison County, and Napa Valley) but guests at several of the receptions were telling me the accommodations were the best part of the wedding! Plus, Lindsay has always been able to keep track of friends, family, and out-of-town guests of the wedding party when things change. And we all know: plans change! Oh, how we know how the best-laid plans can and probably will change! Also, I need to mention Christopher Diebel’s www.myiowagaywedding.com for some more FABULOUS gay-friendly higherend wedding venues in and around the greater Des Moines metro area. Seriously, some of these venues are to DIE for! Follow my blog for www.iowasgayweddingplanner.com at panachepoints.blogspot. com as this list will continue to grow!!!


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Sydney and Mardi Gras by Andrew Collins In North America, January marks the very heart of winter, and for much of the continent, this means chilly weather and dark, gloomy days. This is not the case on the other side of the world, in Sydney, Australia, which might just be the hottest and hippest gay destination in the southern hemisphere. Here, January marks the height of summer. And just a month later (February 19 through March 7 in 2010), it’s the time for Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras. This hugely popular series of cultural events, parties, and parades celebrating gay life in Australia rivals any LGBT festival in the world. Regardless of whether you’re planning to Mardi Gras, summer is a terrific time to visit this visually stunning city. Cultural draws are many in Sydney, beginning with one of the world’s foremost architectural icons, the Sydney Opera House, which apart from possessing a magnificent exterior overlooking Sydney Harbour presents fine operas and other musical and theatrical performances. It’s right beside Circular Quay, from which you can catch water taxis and harbor cruises to some of Sydney’s famous beach communities, such as Manly, Watsons Bay, the Harbour Islands, and also to the fascinating Taronga Zoo (an excellent place to come face to face with the many unusual animals unique to this continent). The harbor is surrounded by The Rocks neighborhood, which fringes Sydney’s modern central business district, a warren of glitzy high-rise office towers. There are several other top sightseeing draws in this fabled city. The outstanding Art Gallery of New South Wales contains one of the world’s most pretigious Asian collections. Just south of the opera house, you can lose yourself for hours strolling the lush grounds of the Royal Botanic Gardens. Grab a ride on Sydney’s sleek monorail to poke around the Darling Harbour neighborhood, home to the shark-infested Sydney Aquarium and impressive Powerhouse Museum, a trove of fascinating science, natural history, and anthropology exhibits. And if it’s a sky-high photo op you’re angling for, take an elevators to the top of 1,060-foot Sydney Tower, where the southern hemisphere’s highest observatory platform offers 360-degree views. If you’re keen on getting in touch with Sydney’s famed natural scenery, consider a stroll along the Bondi Coastal Walk, a simple and easy path along the ocean that takes less than an hour to complete. If there’s a true must-try activity, it’s booking a tour with BridgeClimb Sydney to hike across the very top of the Sydney Harbour Bridge, one of the most beautiful such structures in the world. An excellent, economical way to sightsee is to buy a Sydney Pass—these are available for three, five, or seven days and include unlimited travel on Sydney’s extensive network of ferries, buses (including the Sydney and Bondi Explorer sightseeing buses), and trains as well as discounts to numerous attractions. Sydney’s renowned gay scene is concentrated chiefly along Oxford Street, in the city’s Darlinghurst and Surry sections, but you’ll also find an increasing GLBT presence in such funky neighborhoods as Newtown and Erskineville, which lie about 3 miles southwest of the city center. The Oxford Street neighborhood is most interesting from about the edge of Hyde Park for several blocks east, until a bit beyond Taylor Square. In this area you’ll find several

The Little Black Book -- ARQ

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Photo: Andrew Collins gay bars and clubs, some fun restaurants, numerous fashion boutiques, and quite a few shops selling porn and sex toys. Tops among the watering holes, the Colombian Hotel (note that bars and pubs in Australia often take the name “hotel” even when they don’t offer overnight accommodations) is a trendy, mixed-gender spot with two floors of fun. Nearby, the four-level Exchange Hotel has long been a favorite for dancing and cruising into the wee hours. It’s great fun to watch the crowds gather in the neighborhood’s gay epicenter, Taylor Square, from the balcony at the Kinselas Hotel, which draws a fairly mixed crowd. Near here is Bodyline Sauna, a muchvisited bathhouse; Oxford Hotel has been popular with gay guys for years, especially after a major remodel a few years back. It’s open 24 hours and draws an eclectic bunch of all ages and styles to its several bars. Fans of drag and cabaret shows should make a point of checking out both Slide Bar and Cabaret and the campy Taxi Club. The bilevel Midnight Shift is another highly recommended spot, with a disco upstairs and a more laid-back bar on the ground level. Younger guys tend to favor the loud and festive Stonewall Hotel, which offers dancing downstairs and a lounge on the second floor. Finally, hardcore lesbian and gay disco bunnies cut loose at ARQ, which is open only Thursday through Sunday nights and packs in hundreds of buff dance-aholics. The more eclectic scene in Newtown is focused along King Street, where bars tend to draw a more local bunch. The main queer mecca along here is the Bank Hotel, which contains a very good Thai restaurant, and bars on the terrace and overlooking the garden. A short walk south in Erskineville, serious fans of drag shouldn’t miss the Imperial Hotel, which has both drag-king competitions and very popular shows that inspired the classic movie The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (parts of the movie were filmed here). Sydney is of the world capitals of inventive dining—there are great restaurants all over town. For a truly special occasion, few restaurants in Australia deliver more “wow” factor than Rockpool, a temple of creative modern Australian (aka “Mod Oz”) cuisine, where you might sample such innovate fare as stir-fried squid and King prawns with squid-ink noodles, smoked bacon, and chilies. Around the corner, Wine Odyssey Australia is a restaurant and vino bar with a terrific selec-

tion of wines from every part of the country, plus very good contemporary food to match (including a knock-out cheese plate). For more casual dining and drinking, stop by one of the city’s quintessentially oldschool pubs, such as the warm and festive Lord Nelson Hotel, which serves a nice array of ales and lagers as well as tasty pub food. And for incredibly delicious Thai food, look to Sailors Thai restaurant, an elegant restaurant on one of the Rocks’ busiest streets. In the heart of the main gay district, for inexpensive, home-style food, drop by laidback Betty’s Soup Kitchen, which is known for its huge, meal-size bowls of soup, from lentil to gazpacho, plus simple pastas and homemade desserts. The Grumpy Baker is a cute coffeehouse with delicious baked goods and a typically delicious-looking clientele, too. More upscale options include The Falconer, which specializes in regional—mostly organic— cuisine, such as slow-roasted pork belly with saffron pears and chestnut puree. Just off from Taylor Square, hip Emmilou serves authentic yet contemporary Spanish tapas (goat sausage with red cabbage jam, sardines on toast with sweet-chili salsa) and groovy cocktails. Coco Cubano is a casually elegant coffeehouse and bar serving Latininspired drinks to a sexy, mixed crowd. Wok on Inn is a cheap-and-handy Asian restaurant specializing in noodle bowls. Nearby in trendy Paddington, Toko Sushi on Oxford turns out some of the most inventive sushi in town, in an uber-trendy dining room. A couple of blocks north of Oxford, check out trendy Fishface for exceptional seafood— everything from sushi to fish-and-chips, all prepared with great creative flourish. And nearby Le Petit Crème serves wonderful coffees, breakfast fare, and sandwiches— enjoy them on the lovely terrace. In the up-and-coming Inner West area, the Newtown and Glebe neighborhoods have become popular for funky shopping and ethnic dining. King Street in Newtown is a good bet for food explorers. Here you might try the slightly glam Twelve Restaurant, which prepares modern Italian and Australian cuisine, including very good pizzas, grills, pastas. Hipster-favored Corelli’s Espresso offers great people-watching, plus tasty breakfast fare (try the waffles) and light sandwiches and salads at lunch. Although it’s huge and a tad banquet-y feeling, Thai Pothong serves authentic, deli-

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-- Quest Apartments www.questpottspoint. com.au -- Rockpool

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-- Slide Bar and Cabaret -- Stonewall Hotel

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-- Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras

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-- Sydney Marriott

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sydcc-sydney-marriott-hotel -- Sydney Pass

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-- Taxi Club -- Thai Pothong

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-- Wine Odyssey Australia -- Wok on Inn

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cious food, from barbecue octopus with chili-sour sauce to spicy Thai duck salad. Not far from Newtown, charming Cafe Giulia—set in a remodeled century-old butcher shop— serves some of best breakfasts in town. Try the Tuscan toast topped with grilled mushrooms, avocado, and tomatoes. Sydney has a number of inviting accommodations, most of them downtown, which is either a pleasant 20- to 30-minute walk or a relatively quick cab ride from Oxford Street. Directly facing Sydney Harbour, you’ll find the stunning Park Hyatt, a four-story hotel with unbelievably cushy rooms, round-the-clock butler service, and a loyal celeb following. If you get a chance, eat lunch in the hotel’s open-air dining room overlooking the harbor and opera house. There aren’t too many accommodations right along Oxford Street, but one lovely and relatively affordable option is the Arts Hotel, just east of Darlinghurst in Paddington. This intimate and friendly property has reasonably priced, simple, yet contemporary rooms plus a pool and exercise room. Right on Hyde TTLISA’S LIST continued page 25


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Author, Dorian Gray interview by Eric Arvin This online interview was first published at daventryblue.blogspot. com on December 17, 2009. Well well well…Mr. Dorien Grey. I’ve read on your website that you were in the Navy for a while. Any kinky tales? …just kidding. No, really. Tell me. Can they take away my honorable discharge after all these years? I can assure you being on an aircraft carrier with 3,000 other guys wasn’t easy, and I was terrified of being caught. However, there was one night in a bar in Athens… and another when I helped a drunk buddy get his clothes off and into bed at 3 a.m. … Sigh. But no. No stories. None. You were an editor for many years. What made you decide to pick up the pen, as it were, and start writing fiction? Being an editor and seeing some of the stuff that came across my desk (“The pressed their lips together and enjoyed it very much” is one line I’ll never forget) convinced me I couldn’t possibly do worse. When did you have your first piece of fiction published? My first piece of fiction was published, I think, in high school. The south had just rejoined the Union, and.... Your novel, Aaron’s Wait, has been getting kudos lately, including placement in the Best Overall Novel Category at the Rainbow Awards. What’s this book about? The Elliott Smith Mystery series is all about an ordinary guy who doesn’t believe in ghosts who comes across a ghost who believes in him. In “Aaron’s Wait,” Elliott, who is buys and renovates old apartment buildings, finds he has a tenant who refuses to move, partly because he’s waiting for someone, and partly because he’s dead. How is Elliott Smith, your new protagonist, different from your other hero, Dick Hardesty? Well, Dick is an alternate universe me; the me I would love to be. Elliott is much more practical, more down-toearth, more, again, the kind of regular guy I’ve always admired but could never have been. If a film or television series was adapted from either the Dick Hardesty or Elliott Smith books, who would you like to see star? For Dick, either Jeffrey Donovan of Burn Notice or Colin Ferguson of Eureka. For

Elliott, Matthew Morrison, the teacher in Glee. Ooooh! Hot choices! Your lone nonmystery novel, Calico, a gay western romance, has a nice fan base. Are there plans to do any more non mystery books? To be honest with you, I really should, and may well, but the ideas for Dick and Elliott just keep coming. Several people have asked me about a sequel to “Calico”, but in my mind it’s a stand-alone. Calico and Josh found each other and I want them to live happily ever after without any more interference from me. As a novelist, who inspires you? Whose work did you look up to before you began writing? As a kid, I was a sponge. Ray Bradbury was a tremendous influence on me, but the book I’d most love to have written is Robert Lewis Taylor’s “Adrift in a Boneyard.” I’ve read that book umpteen times and laugh myself sore every time. Great literature it ain’t, but, oh, funny it is! Have you ever received a review that so enraged you that you wanted to rip…I mean, that made you real sad? I’ve really been lucky in not having received a really scathing review. Some have stung a bit, and the little boy in me, who always wants to please and to be loved, truly feels bad when someone doesn’t really like something I’ve written. What’s your favorite mystery film? And screw Sherlock Holmes. Hmmmm. Favorite mystery film. Really hard to choose one among the hundreds and hundreds I’ve seen over the years. So I’ll have to do one of my “Oh! Look over there!!” numbers and steal away without answering while you’re preoccupied. Who’s Harry Kellerman, and why is he saying those terrible things about me? Oh, you’re wrong! Harry speaks VERY highly of you. They just sound terrible. Damn you, Harry! (Shakes fist at sky).... Where can readers find you and your books online? Hmmmmmm? Just type in “Dorien Grey”. You’ll get 10,000 references to Oscar Wilde, but I’m in there, too. Or go to my website (www. doriengrey.com) or to Facebook or Twitter or Author’s Den or in about 43 sites and groups… Or look for the guy standing on the corner with his thumb out and a bunch of books under one arm.

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LISA’S LIST in front of a crowd of strangers? Find out as Medical Students for Choice present the third annual production of the Vagina Monologues. Proceeds go to benefit the Emma Goldman Clinic. $12 with a suggested minimum donation of $5.

Wednesday, March 3, 8 p.m., THE GINN SISTERS with Fred Eaglesmith at CSPS/Legion Arts, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. For more info, e-mail info@legionarts.org, visit www. legionarts.org, or call 319-364-1580. Ticket sales are now happening over www.iowatix.com for all CSPS shows. March 4-13, EURYDICE, by Sara Ruhl, an inventive and visually breathtaking theatrical retelling of the Orpheus myth that examines love, loss, and the mystery of death, presented by University of Iowa Theatre, Iowa City. For more info, visit www.uiowa.edu/~theatre, and for tickets, visit www.hancher.uiowa.edu/tickets. Saturday, March 6, JUDY GARLAND IN CONCERT, at The Civic Center of Greater Des Moines. For tickets, visit www.ticketmaster.com. The legendary voice and performance visuals of Judy Garland accompanied live in perfect synchronization by the Des Moines Symphony create this remarkable concert event. The show features over two dozen of her greatest musical hits, including The Trolley Song, The Man That Got Away, and Over the Rainbow. Using breakthrough technology, this unique entertainment incorporates rare home movies, photographs and the star’s own reminiscences on multiple screens to present the magical and timeless JUDY GARLAND IN CONCERT. Tuesday, March 9, NORAH JONES at The Civic Center of Greater Des Moines. For tickets, visit www.ticketmaster.com. March 10-14, CIRQUE DU SOLEIL ALEGRIA, at the US Cellular Center, downtown Cedar Rapids. For tix or more info, visit www.ticketmaster.com. Thursday-Saturday, March 11-13, 8 p.m., ANGELA KARIOTIS at CSPS/Legion Arts, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. For more info, e-mail info@ legionarts.org, visit www.legionarts.org, or call 319-364-1580. Ticket sales are now happening over www.iowatix.com for all CSPS shows. Monday, March 22, 8-10 p.m., CHARITY BINGO for ACCESSline Iowa at Hamburger Mary’s, 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, Cedar Rapids (behind Taco John’s and 2nd Wind). Buy bingo cards for $5 each and win great prizes. All the funds raised go towards ACCESSline, Iowa’s GLBT Newspaper. For more info about Hamburger Mary’s, visit www.hamburgermaryscr.com and to get the ACCESSline scoop, visit www. accesslineiowa.com. Wednesday, March 23, AVENUE Q, TonyAward winning musical at Stephens Auditorium, on the campus of Iowa State University, Ames. For tix or more info, visit www.ticketmaster.com. Features full puppet nudity! Friday-Sunday, March 26-28, AVENUE Q, Tony-Award winning musical at the US Cellular Center, downtown Cedar Rapids. For more info, visit www.ticketmaster.com. Features full puppet nudity! Monday, March 29, 8-10 p.m., CHARITY BINGO for the Iowa Women’s Music Festival at Hamburger Mary’s, 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, Cedar Rapids (behind Taco John’s and 2nd Wind). Buy bingo cards for $5 each and win great prizes. All the funds raised go towards producing a great 2010 Iowa Women’s Music Festival. For more info about Hamburger Mary’s, visit www. hamburgermaryscr.com and to learn about the festival, visit www.prairievoices.net.

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Every Sunday, 5-6 p.m., GLBT AA, First Baptist Church at 500 N. Clinton St., Iowa City. For more info about Intergroup and Alcoholics Anonymous call the 24-Hour Answering Service at 319-338-9111 or visit the AA-IC website: http://aa-ic.org/. Every Sunday, 7 p.m., L WORD LIVES: L NIGHT at the Firewater Saloon, 347 South Gilbert St., Iowa City, 319-321-5895. The night will start with Season 1, Episode 1 of the L Word... because a good thing should never die. FoLLowing the L Word wiLL be a Drag King show at 9:30 p.m. No cover. Every Sunday, 6-8:30 p.m., THE QUIRE: Eastern Iowa’s GLBT Chorus Rehearsals, at Zion Lutheran Church, 310 N. Johnson St., Iowa City. Membership is open to all GLBT folks, as well as allies who support the community. There are no auditions; you only need to be willing to attend rehearsals regularly and learn your music. The Quire prepares two full concerts each year in the winter and spring, and occasionally performs shorter programs at events in the Iowa City/ Cedar Rapids area. The Quire is a member of Gay and Lesbian Association of Choruses (GALA), and has developed a reputation for excellence and variety in its concert programs. For more info, visit http://www.thequire.org/. EverySunday,QUEERGUERRILLABRUNCH, location in Iowa City to be announced each week. LGBTQIs & Allies gather for Sunday brunch to celebrate queer visibility & community. Sign up for future brunches on Facebook at http://apps. facebook.com/causes/307228/41151079. Every 1st and 3rd Sunday of the month, 3-6 p.m., TANGO LESSONS at CSPS, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. Cost is $5. Everyone welcome; no partner or experience necessary. For more info, call Elie at 319-363-1818 or e-mail epsa@ aol.com. Third Sunday of the month, 3-4 p.m., IOWA CITY PRIDE PLANNING COMMITTEE, Iowa City Public Library, Meeting Room E. Come help plan the 2010 Iowa City Pride Festival (to be held Saturday, June 19, 2010). For more info, contact Bridget at malone.bridget@gmail.com. Third Monday of every month, 6 p.m., PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) of Cedar Rapids Metro Area, 6 p.m. (social time), 6:30 p.m. (meeting time), in the Middle Room of Faith United Methodist Church, 1000 30th St, NE, Cedar Rapids. Call 515-5373126 for more details. Coffee and refreshments will be served before the meeting, beginning at 6 p.m. Everyone is welcome; confidentiality is required. PFLAG promotes the health and wellbeing of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through: support, to cope with an adverse society; education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights. First Monday of the month, 6:30 p.m., Iowa PFLAG Quad Cities Chapter Meeting, at Eldridge United Methodist Church, 604 S. 2nd St., Eldridge. For more info, call 563-285-4173. First/Second Monday (alternating) of the month, 7 p.m., Iowa PFLAG North Iowa Chapter Meeting, at First Presbyterian Church, 100 S. Pierce St., Mason City. For more info, call 641-583-2848. Fourth Monday of the month, 7 p.m., Iowa PFLAG Waukon/Northeast Chapter Meeting, at St. Benedict’s Catholic Church, 309 W. Main St., in the Parish Center, Decorah. For more info, call 563-535-7680. Every Monday, Wednesday, Thursday at 6 p.m., and every Saturday at 5:30 p.m., GLBT ONLY AA MEETINGS IN DES MOINES, at 945 19th St.

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Across 1 Went down on with gusto 6 Counterfeiters’ nemesis 10 Moves the head 14 Whale finder 15 Gore Vidal’s At ___ 16 Role for Ron Howard 17 Start of a quip about why 47-Across is better than sex 20 Silly goose 21 Big beer buy 22 Lubricated 23 More of the quip 26 1985 Kelly McGillis movie 29 Cartoon prince’s son 30 Durango day 33 Mistake by Glenn Burke 34 Making a nothing-but-net sound 36 Reposed 37 More of the quip 39 Hathaway of Brokeback Mountain 40 Workplace for Michelangelo 42 Get in shape 43 Part of a giggle 44 “___ was saying” 45 “Queer,” before the Fab Five 47 It can be better than sex 49 My Own Private ___ 52 Paycheck abbr. 53 Aladdin’s monkey 56 End of the quip 60 It’s sold in bars 61 The life of Riley 62 JFK and LBJ 63 Easy partner

(east side of building, south door). Second Tuesday of each month, 7-8:30 p.m., SPIRITUAL SEEKERS, at Trinity Episcopal Church, 320 E. College St, Iowa City. Spiritual Seekers is a group for people of all faiths, or of little faith, who wish to make deeper connections between their sexual identities and the spiritual dimension in their lives. Meetings include discussion of specialized topics, telling of pieces of our faith journeys, and occasional prayer and meditation. (On the 4th Tuesday of each month, the group gathers at a local restaurant for food and fellowship.) For more info, contact Tom Stevenson: tbstevenson@mchsi.com or 319.354.1784. Second Tuesday of the month, 6:30-8 p.m., GLRC OF CEDAR RAPIDS BOARD MEETING at 6300 Rockwell Dr, Cedar Rapids. Meetings are open to the general public. For more info, call 319-366-2055 or visit: http://www.crglrc.org/. Second Tuesday of every month, WOMEN FOR PEACE KNITTERS meet for knitting, crocheting, and discussion, 9:30 a.m.-Noon at Prairiewoods, 120 E. Boyson Rd., Hiawatha. For more info, call 319-377-3252 or go to www. womenforpeace-iowa.org. All ages and levels of needlework skills welcome. Come knit for charities. Second Tuesday of every month, Iowa PFLAG Ames Chapter Meeting, 7 p.m., at the Youth and Shelter Services Offices, 420 Kellogg Ave., 1st Floor, Ames. For more info, call 515-2913607. Every Tuesday, 7-8:30 p.m., ACE INCLUSIVE BALLROOM at Old Brick 26 E. Market St, Iowa City. An equal opportunity social dance workshop/rehearsal for LGBT people. All skill levels

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64 Parting words 65 Fruit drink Down 1 Nick was his master 2 Pulls behind 3 Grandson of Adam

4 Motor City org. 5 Emily of CSI: Miami 6 Main argument 7 Impressionist Claude 8 HBO alternative 9 Three R’s org. 10 Like a superbly pitched game

February 2010 are welcome. American social dance, Latin, a mix of dance from the last 100 years. For more info, contact Mark McCusker at iowadancefest@ gmail.com, 319-621-8530 or Nora Garda at 319-400-4695, or visit http://iowadancefest. blogspot.com/. Every Tuesday evening, 7:30-9:30 p.m., ARGENTINE TANGO practice and open dance, at the Iowa City Senior Center, 28 S. Linn St, Iowa City. A donation of $1-2 per person is requested for use of the Senior Center. For more info, contact Karen Jackson at 319-447-1445 or e-mail kljedgewood@msn.com. Every Tuesday evening, 7 p.m., OUT (Our United Truth): A GLBT Support Group meets 7-8:30 p.m. at the Unitarian Universalist Church, 3707 Eastern Ave., Davenport. For more info, call 563-359-0816. Every Tuesday at 9 p.m., KARAOKE IDOL at Studio 13, 13 S. Linn St., Iowa City. Drink specials and great competition! Visit www. sthirteen.com. First Wednesday of every month, CEDAR RAPIDS CHARTER CHAPTER OF THE AMERICAN BUSINESS WOMEN’S ASSOCIATION meets. For more info, visit charter-chapter.tripod.com. First Wednesday of the month, 7 p.m., CONNECTIONS’ RAINBOW READING GROUP, Iowa City Public Library Meeting Room B, 123 S. Linn St., Iowa City. For more info, contact Todd at: faunides@yahoo.com. First Wednesday of the month, 6:30-8 p.m., WOMEN’S SACRED CIRCLE at Prairiewoods Franciscan Spirituality Center, 120 E. Boyson Rd., Hiawatha. This group is for women who are interested in gathering for spiritual growth. The direction and activities of the group are determined by participants. $5 per session. For more info, visit www.prairiewoods.org. Second Wednesday of every month, 6:30-8

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11 Lesbian character in She’s Gotta Have It 12 Emulate Greg Louganis 13 Watermelon “ammo” 18 Animal mouths 19 Sentence subjects, often 23 Hole ___ (ace to Sheehan) 24 Goldie of The Banger Sisters 25 Pg. in a photocopier 26 Like the Ladies of Llangollen 27 About to blow 28 Cock-and-bull story 30 Shore of Palm Springs 31 Lint trap? 32 Cut recipient 34 What Tim might call Tyne 35 Novelist Bret 37 Kiss from Kahlo 38 Rocker Clapton 41 Lake site of gay and lesbian ski week 42 Many of its seamen went to the bottom 45 Says “Li’l Abner,” say 46 How quickly one comes 47 Sevigny of Boys Don’t Cry 48 Beneficial 49 Click it to go to AfterEllen.com 50 Limp watch painter 51 Mapa of Desperate Housewives 53 Surrounded by 54 ___ noire 55 Cold War rival of the USA 57 Young lady coming out 58 “A drop of golden sun” 59 Singer DiFranco • SOLUTION ON PAGE 27


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SYDNEY Park, there’s the Sydney Marriott, which has posh room and is steps from gay scene. Just a short walk from Oxford, the boutique-y, gaywelcoming Kirketon Hotel is hip yet moderately priced, its room TVs with DVD and CD players—guests also receive free passes to a nearby gym. If you’re seeking a little extra leg room, try the nearby Vibe Hotel, whose spacious, brightly colored, and relatively affordable studio rooms have kitchenettes. In a similar vein, Quest Apartments is ideal for longer stay. Units at this property near Kings Cross (a 10-minute walk from Oxford Street) have kitchens and beautiful modern furnishings, and the staff is top-notch.

Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras

This massive celebration began in 1978 and takes place over about four weeks and includes a huge launch party, a Mardi Gras Film Festival, several big parties, and the incredibly colorful Mardi Gras Parade. New this 2010, Mardi Gras began holding its massive Mardi Gras tk party a week after the parade (as opposed to directly after it, as it has in the past). More than a half-million observers and tourists have come to watch the parade in past years, and the party can draw another 15,000 revelers. Log on to www.mardigras.org.au for a full description of events as well as tickets.  Andrew Collins covers gay travel for the New York Times-owned website About.com and is the author of Fodor’s Gay Guide to the USA. He can be reached care of this publication or at OutofTown@qsyndicate.com.

“(In) the Naughty Aughties ... even celebrities—who’d long built up a wall of privacy by hiding behind lying publicists—couldn’t help Tweeting their every thought, caught up in the universal need to connect, to emit, to admit, and to bore.” — Gay Village Voice columnist Michael Musto, Dec. 29.

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INSURANCE - IOWA CITY

MASSAGE THERAPIST - QC

Valentine’s Day special from Hayes Massage: Buy two massages and get 10% off!

WINE - CEDAR RAPIDS

“In the car heading to the Golden Globes. Pouring rain. I wonder how it’ll affect all that fancy hair. So glad I didn’t choose an up-do.” — Gay actor Neil Patrick Harris (Doogie Howser) in a Jan. 17 tweet.

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LISA’S LIST p.m., STONEWALL DEMOCRATS, the GLBT Caucus of the Democratic Party, meets at Hamburger Mary’s, 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, behind 2nd Wind off of 1st Ave SE in Cedar Rapids. For more info, contact Harvey Ross at linnstonewall@gmail.com or call 319-389-0093. Second Wednesday of every month, WOMEN FOR PEACE KNITTERS meet for knitting, crocheting, and discussion, 7-9 p.m. at Prairiewoods, 120 E. Boyson Rd., Hiawatha. For more info, call 319-377-3252 or go to www.womenforpeace-iowa. org. All ages and levels of needlework skills welcome. Come knit for charities. Every Wednesday, 7-9 p.m., U OF I GAY LESBIAN BISEXUAL TRANSGENDER AND ALLIES UNION MEETINGS in the Penn State Room #337 of the Iowa Memorial Union, U. of Iowa campus, Iowa City. For more info, visit http://www.uiowa.edu/~glbtau/ or e-mail glbtau@uiowa.edu. These meetings are open to the public. First, third, and fifth Thursdays of each month, 6:30-8:30 p.m., EVENINGS FOR SPIRIT, sponsored by SpiritHill Retreat, 604 Cedar Valley Road, West Branch. Women gather at SpiritHill (or other locations) to share our spiritual experiences, visions and longings. The evenings include time for sharing and time for silence. Laughter, tears and singing are often shared as well. No specific spiritual practice is followed. This event is always open to newcomers. For more info, call 319-643-2613, or e-mail spirithill@earthlink.net. Calling in advance is highly recommended to confirm the location for the specific month of interest. Second Thursday of the month, 7-9 p.m., OPEN MIC WITH MARY MCADAMS at Ritual Café, on 13th St. between Locust and Grand, downtown Des Moines. Visit www.ritualcafe.com. For more info, e-mail mary@marymcadams.com. Second Thursday of the month, 7 p.m. (6:30 p.m. social time), Iowa PFLAG Omaha/Council Bluffs Chapter Meeting, at Mead Hall, First United Methodist Church, 7020 Cass St., Omaha. For more info, call 402-291-6781. Third Thursday of every month, 7-10 p.m., OPEN MIC HOSTED BY KIMBERLI, at the Blue Strawberry Coffee Company (now open after the flood), 118 2nd St. SE, Downtown Cedar Rapids. Signup at 6:30 p.m. or by e-mailing flyingmonkeyscr@aol.com the week prior to the open mic. Third Thursday of every month, 7-9 p.m., CONNECTIONS GAME NIGHT, at Donnelly’s Pub, 110 E. College St., in downtown Iowa City. Third Thursday of every month, 7 p.m., Iowa PFLAG Dubuque/Tri-State Chapter Meeting, at St. John’s Lutheran Church, 1276 White St., Dubuque. For more info, call 563-582-9388. Every 4th Thursday of the month, PROFESSIONAL WOMEN’S NETWORK (PWN) meetings. For more info, visit www.pwn.org, e-mail pwn@pwn.org, or call Shelley Woods at 319-981-9887. Every 4th Thursday of the month, 7:30 p.m., THE GLBT READING GROUP meets in the conference room at Red Cross Building at 6300 Rockwell Dr. NE, Cedar Rapids. The group is open to new members; contact crglbtreadinggroup@yahoo.com for further info. Every Thursday and Friday, 6-10 p.m., SHANNON JANSSEN at The Cedar Grille at the Cedar Rapids Marriott, 1200 Collins Rd. NE, Cedar Rapids. Shannon performs a variety of music including original songs on the Grand Piano in the hotel’s beautiful atrium. No reservations required. First Friday of the month, FAIRFIELD ART WALK. For more info, visit www.FairfieldArtWalk.com. First Friday of every month between February 6 and December 4, 5-8 p.m., DAWN’S COFFEE HOUSE, at Dawn’s Hide and Bead Away, 220 E. Washington St., Iowa City. Music and light snacks are provided. Proceeds from the door are split between the non-profit of the month and the store (to cover the cost of snacks). Any other donations received go 100% to the non-profit. $3 cover. For more info, phone 319-338-1566. First Friday of the month, GUERRILLA QUEER BAR MEETUP! Tired of the same old bars? Crave the idea of bringing your queer and straight friends together in a fun, new environment? We’re descending upon an unsuspecting straight bar and turning it into a gay bar for the night. To join in: join our Facebook group, Google group or Twitter feed. You’ll receive an email the morning of each event with the name of a classically hetero bar and the meeting time. Call your friends, have them call their friends, show up at the bar and watch as it becomes the new “it” gay bar for one night only. Visit http://groups.google.com/group/iowa-

February 2010 city-guerrilla-queer-bar. Every 2nd and 4th Friday of the each month at 7 p.m., a DRUMMING CIRCLE meets at the Unity Center of Cedar Rapids, 3791 Blairs Ferry Rd. NE, Cedar Rapids. For more info, call 319-4317550. Third Friday of every month, 8 p.m., OLD-TIME DANCE FOR ALL, a Barn Dance 12 miles east of Iowa City at Scattergood Friends School. Admission is $5.00 per person. Singles and couples, beginners and veterans welcome. The music is live, and all dances are taught and called (that is, prompted while the music is playing). Note: (1) same-sex couples are common at these dances, (2) they’re no-alcohol, no-smoking events, (3) every dance is taught, so beginners are welcome, and (4) people can attend alone or with a partner. People of a variety of ages show up, and the atmosphere is friendly and inclusive. For more info, phone 319-643-7600 or e-mail treadway@netins.net. Every Saturday, noon to 1 p.m., WOMEN FOR PEACE IOWA host Weekly Street Corner Vigils for peace, rain or shine. Meet at the corner of 1st Ave. and Collins Rd. SE (in front of Granite City Brewery), Cedar Rapids. Show your support for our troops by calling for their return from Iraq. For more info, e-mail khall479@ aol.com. Third Saturday of every month, 2-5 p.m., QUEER SCRIBBLE FEST at Old Brick on the corner of Market St. and Dubuque St., Iowa City. Different subjects or motifs highlight each month.   All are welcome.  Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer and Straight Allies are gathering to scribble, draw, write, talk, or what you will.  Bring some music and a snack.  It’s FREE but taxdeductible donations are welcome. Donations of papers, pencils, books, and other art materials are also appreciated. For more info, call Mark McCusker at 319-621-8530 or e-mail a.c.experiment@ gmail.com.   Third Saturday of every month, 9 p.m., ACE DANCE PARTY in the Old Brick Basement, 26 E. Clinton St., Iowa City for St8 Allies, Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, Transgenders, Queers, Intersexes and others* as an experiment with arts and cultures. BYO music and drinks. Donations benefit ACE, paying for Old Brick rent and programming. ACE is also raising money for a more suitable, fitting, proper/appropriate floor. Fourth Saturday of every month, 7:30 p.m., TANGOVIA, join area tango dancers at the Wesley Center, 120 N. Dubuque St., Iowa City. Enjoy a candlelit evening of dance, hors d’oeuvres, and conversation in a relaxed atmosphere. Cost is $5. Partner not necessary. Beginners welcome to come at 7 p.m. for an introductory lesson. For more info, call Gail at 319-325-9630, e-mail irelandg@gmail. com, or visit www.tangovia.com. Fourth Saturday of every month, 7 p.m., THE LESBIAN BOOK CLUB is reading books by or about lesbians.  Non-lesbians are welcome to attend. All meetings are held at the Unitarian Universalist Church, 3707 Eastern Ave., Davenport. For more info, call 563-359-0816. Every Saturday, 3:30-5:30 p.m., BAILE LATINO: SALSA, CHA-CHA, MERENGUE AND BACHATA LESSONS taught by Gloria Zmolek, at CSPS, 1103 3rd St. SE, Cedar Rapids. No experience or partner necessary. All ages welcome. No sign-up required. $5 per person requested. For more info, contact Gloria at 319-365-9611 or visit www.crsalsa.org. Hamburger Mary’s Weekly Happenings, at 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, Cedar Rapids, off of 1st Ave. Mondays – Charity Bingo at 8 p.m. with a special guest hostess; Tuesdays – Kid’s Night; Wednesdays – Game Night; Thursdays – Mary-oke with Nic from 9 p.m. to 1 a.m.; Fridays – Drag Show at 9 p.m. (all ages) and 11 p.m. (21 and over); Saturdays – Open Mic Night followed by Drag Show at 9 p.m. (all ages) and 11 p.m. (21 and over). For more info, e-mail hamburgermaryscr@mchsi.com or visit www. hamburgermaryscr.com. Thanks for supporting live music, women in the arts, and your community! Lisa - iowalisa@juno.com

“I appreciated getting a personal phone call from the president of the United States (on my election night). Now, it is a little embarrassing that I didn’t actually answer the phone call. But now I have really cool voice mail. And I’m doing my best not to erase it from my cell phone.” — Houston’s new lesbian mayor, Annise Parker, speaking to supporters in Houston on Jan. 3.


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HIV Stigma in the Heartland

Provided by Positive Iowans Taking Charge (PITCH) to use universal precautions. It’s their job to keep themselves safe from getting HIV from a patient. I tell people, because I DO NOT want to risk giving anyone this terrible disease. But I am still worried because 25% of the people who are positive are unaware of their status they can’t tell people because they don’t know their status. I am hoping speaking out, will make people realize they need to use universal precaution with everyone, since you never know who is infected and who isn’t. What could you have done better? Health Care System here in Iowa needs to be educated that HIV/AIDS is here, and they are responsible to keep everyone safe by using universal precautions.

Confidentiality Standard Breached

Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Health Care SysPositive Iowans Taking Charge is dedicated to reducing the stigma of for Iowans living with HIV/AIDS. At the 2009 Wellness Summit, Iowans created puzzle pieces illustrating times when they were or felt they were stigmatized, judged, or discriminated against. When all the pieces were put together showed the state of Iowa. The Wellness Summit is a time when Iowans across the state come together in a safe, non-judgmental environment. Attendees come from across Iowa to renew mind, body, spirit, and to overcome the social isolation that often characterizes life with HIV in a rural state. Here are some of the stories shared by participants.

Not the Only Numbers

Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Health Care System, positive community, family, community Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: As a long-term survivor, I get frustrated when I hear someone say, “Your numbers are so good, you shouldn’t feel bad.” OR “You look so healthy; I can’t believe you don’t feel good.” My life is made up of more than just 2 numbers, my CD4 count and my viral load. Yes, while I am lucky that my numbers are so good, almost 1,500 CD4 count and undetectable viral load, these are not the only 2 numbers in my life, not the only numbers that determine how I feel. I have been positive for 15 years, I am now 40 – and more health issues seem to come with this magical number. I take 15 pills a day, but can take over 20 depending on the secondary infection of the day. I have woke up or gone to bed with a migraine the last 8 of 10 days, I am suppose to take 2 Imitrex in a 24 hour period, but depending on the day, once in a while take 3. My migraines just don’t seem to know they are not supposed to be bad for another 12 hours. I travel over 130 miles to see my doctor, which is supposed to be a 2 ½ hour drive, but since I have to stop 2-3 times to go to the bathroom, and road construc-

tion, it can take over 3. I get my meds from 6 different sources, at 3-4 different times, some monthly, bi-monthly, every 3 or 6 months. I now have to write on my calendar when to call for refills. I don’t mean to complain, because I do appreciate having access t them, it is just another hurdle that has to be jumped. I have insomnia 30 days a month if I don’t take the 4 pills to get me to and keep me asleep, I am up all night. I am very grateful to have made it to 40, 15 years ago, I didn’t think I would still be here, but after taking meds for 15 years, I am exhausted 70% of the time. I now need around 10 hours of sleep each night to be able to function the next day. So, yes, my CD4 count and viral load numbers are VERY good, and I am grateful, but they’re not the only 2 numbers in my life that tell the whole story. My life is full of numbers and together they all tell the story of my life, of my health. What could you have done better? Education, letting people know when I don’t feel good.

Universal Precaution – Your Job NOT Mine

Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Health Care System Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: The decision to tell people about my positive status is sometimes a very hard decision. On one hand, it’s nobody’s business, on the other, I feel compelled to tell others. I have gone to local flu shot clinics to get my annual flu shot. I am still shocked when the nurse heads towards me with a needle in one hand and a cotton swab in the other. Living in rural, small town Iowa, medical personnel seem to think that HIV/AIDS is not here. I have had to tell 2 nurses now that they need to put gloves on, I am HIV positive. It is a reality check to see t hem stop mid-step. One said thank you for telling, the other asked if I usually bled after the shot. This makes me frustrated by their lack of awareness; it is not my responsibility to tell them, it is their job

tem Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: It was the 1st health crisis I faced after moving to Iowa, I had reached a fever of 106 degrees F, which caused me blindness, and loss of ability to stand. An ambulance came to my residence and one of the emergency workers was related to the landlady. Later, after my hospitalization, word spread to some of

the other neighbors that she had a “little black man living there who has AIDS.” It was a distressing time, and within 30 days of my hospital stay I had to move to another city.

Isolated

Stigma: Internal and External Source of Stigma: Self, Community, and Media Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: For the 1st 6 years, I didn’t tell anyone that I was positive. I didn’t participate in any events with my ASO, so I didn’t know anyone else who was positive, I felt very alone/isolated. What could you have done better? Taking a risk, meeting others and having someone to relate to really helped me to feel not as isolated and alone.

Victimized By Gossip

Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Home Environment Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: When approached, a statement was made that neighbors had been discussing my health, and had concluded that I had “AIDS”. I felt angry, and responded with, “I’ve been discussing with myself, and concluded t hat my health was none of their business.” TTSTIGMA continued page 28


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February 2010

Inside Out by Ellen Krug Listen to Yourself; You May Hear Something Important

This is my first column for ACCESSline as Ellen Krug. It has taken me a hell of a long time to get to the point of being able to write those words, Ellen Krug. I had been someone else, a male imposter, for so long that I almost did not get the chance to be Ellen. I’ve learned that do-overs don’t come easily. You see, I’m working on a second chance, a new life. In short, I’m changing my physical sex, adjusting my career of 28 years (well, I am calling it “semi-retiring”), moving 300 miles to a place where I hardly know anyone, and deeming myself a writer even though Ellen Krug has never published a single word. A life turned literally inside out. A lover once said to me, “your life is like an Adirondack chair with a seatbelt.” How appropriate, I thought. Soon enough, at age 53, I will give up my penis for this new life. It’s an entirely different gig for me, where I’ll be moving from the world of alpha male to a brand new neighborhood, Vaginaville, a suburb of Womanhood. Now, mind you, not all of this is entirely new, since in my head, I’ve been a woman for as long as I can remember. I have always been able to talk to women in a way that evokes, “I’m telling you something I’ve never even told my husband.” And, too, I was just three years old when my mother caught me in the tub, legs bloodied from trying to shave with her razor, sans soap or water. It’s just that the outer shell—what everyone else ees—is very belatedly catching up with the inside, where my heart and spirit have always roamed. This has not been particularly easy. No significant or truly important life change ever is. So, how do we know when it is time to make that big change in life, the moment to stop the madness of an existence that is SScontinued from page 27

STIGMA What could you have done better? More willing to disclose, or perhaps information to share with elderly community who may not be as knowledgeable about HIV/AIDS issues.

Don’t Touch the Blood

Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Workplace Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: I told a client/friend I was positive. She took it upon herself to tell another client I had HIV, this client had a 3 year old child. I felt like I was betrayed, because it was not her place to tell. What could you have done better? I could have sat down and talked with her about leaving it up to me to tell my clients, if I decided to. Set Apart Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Town Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: Depressed, Isolated, Rejected, and Ostracized. What could you have done better? Awareness.

not really you? How do you get the courage to do it? And how in the world to do it with the least amount of harm to those we love, including ourselves? For god’s sake, I was a married guy with kids. I had no clue about being a woman. In retrospect, I think it has a lot to do with your gut. My gut showed up with a voice—a damn nagging voice at that— which told me in no uncertain terms I needed to change. “You need to have your own life!” it shouted. At first, this voice showed up on my birthdays in my late 20s and 30s usually when I was shaving, looking in the mirror. For the first couple of birthdays, I waved it off, razor in hand, politely saying, “not this year, the kids are too young, I love my wife way too much.” The voice would retort, with a smirk, “I’ll be back next year you idiot.” I thought life was a process of self sacrifice for others, where I did not matter. “They didn’t sign up for a queer husband or father,” I told myself. By my late 30s, the voice showed up with a dozen suitcases. “Hey Krug, I’m not leaving until you get your own life,” it proclaimed. Stupidly, I ignored it. By all accounts, I was living a charmed life: two beautiful children; a gorgeous and loving wife; a successful law practice; a home in the best neighborhood of Cedar Rapids. I had stature, respect, and clients who loved that I could be an asshole to the other attorney across the table. Being an asshole made me a lot of money too. Only, the voice would not leave me alone. Soon it was there everyday, whining in my ear, letting me know that time was wasting. “You know, you aren’t getting any younger.” I tried everything to shut it up. Finally, I figured therapy would help silence this nag. My first therapist had never treated anyone with a gender identity issue. He had worked a lot with alcoholics, so he gave me a 12-step plan. Step 1: avoid the

Don’t Drink Out of His Glass

Stigma: External Source of Stigma: Family Describe how you felt when you were stigmatized: My family always makes sure that they don’t drink out of my glass, while they will share each other’s glasses. It makes me feel that I haven’t educated them enough, to know it’s okay to drink out of an HIV+ person’s glass. What could you have done better? I don’t talk about it that much anymore, so I need to increase communication with them.

PITCH will be hosting the 2010 Wellness Summit April 30th, May 1-2, 2010 at Camp Wesley Woods, located near Indianola, IA. Participants will be engaged in a series of educational workshops, outdoor exercise, relaxation and opportunities to form friendships with other Iowans living with HIV/AIDS. For more information or to contact PITCH, email: positiveiowanstakingcharge@yahoo.com.

current Victoria’s Secrets catalog. Easier said than done for someone living in a house with three genetic females. After several years, Therapist No. 1 said, “I don’t know who or what you are, but I do know you can’t be married.” The voice said, “Told you so.” I did not give in. I figured I’d go to someone with experience, so I found a gay therapist. Therapist No. 2 really worked to figure out my issues. “I was thinking about you last night while doing the dishes. Let’s talk about your father,” he said early on. And so, he helped me to hate my father a little less. However, it did nothing to shut up the damn voice. Eventually, Therapist No. 2 also told me that I would not be happy until I left my marriage and had my own life. Score two for the voice. Because I was a determined S.O.B. (mind you that today the moniker is simply “bitch”), I just decided to work more, filling up any thinking time with work. I also drank more—hell, it was a way of keeping a lid on things. In the end, it was wasted time. It was time lost fighting myself. Stupidly, I believed that love—of my wife and children—could defeat the female demon inside me. What I did not understand is that really, there is no way to defeat your spirit, your true SELF. Certainly, time does not defeat it. Losing time only means you have less life to live in the end. The tipping point for me was September 11. Two of the planes were early morning cross country flights out of Boston. When I lived in Boston long ago, I had taken early morning flights across country. So, on the night of September 11, I sat in a church and prayed for those who had died and I prayed for our country. An interesting thing then happened: I started praying for me, for the first time in my life. I could not get out of my head the image that I was on one of those planes, and that yes, I was going to die. In my imagination,

that meant dying without ever being ME, the woman I had been avoiding for all my life. I started to cry, the taps were finally opened. At that moment, I knew I had to leave my wife, my family, and the life that I had lived—as a fraud—for so long. I never heard from the voice again after that. In the end, for me, there was no question about needing to dramatically change my life. I was lucky in that regard-----a big stick hit me on the side of the head in a way that I could not ignore. Not everyone is that fortunate. For many others, the idea of dramatically changing is beaten down by the fear of being alone or guilt over the thought of hurting others. So we don’t change and we end up just existing with our guts gnawing away at our souls. Until we die. But, as I now understand, life is something to be LIVED. You can’t begin to live until you are true to yourself, first and foremost, regardless of where the chips fall. It is a lesson not easily learned. My advice: listen to your own voice, and listen quickly. In my case, it took me until mid-life to understand this simple truth. I only hope I learn the rules of women’s fashion a little more quickly.

“As the trial on the federal lawsuit challenging Proposition 8 is set to begin ... we are reminded of the devastation Prop 8 has inflicted upon same-sex couples and their families. Anti-gay extremists targeted a minority group, stripped away a precious freedom and relegated lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender Americans to second-class status with a divisive agenda built on fear-mongering and a blatant disregard for the truth. ... Once again, we call on the Obama administration to join Equality California and others in urging the federal courts to strike down this grossly unjust law. (Visit) http://www.eqca.org/Obama.” — Equality California Executive Director Geoff Kors, Jan. 7.


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Democratic Party leaders sign on Recognize merits of change, to One Iowa’s RED BLUE PURPLE protect the rights of others by Interfaith Alliance of Iowa Executive Director, Connie Ryan Terrell coalition by Jennifer Merriman DES MOINES, IA—65 Democratic County Leaders have signed on to One Iowa’s EQUALITY: RED BLUE PURPLE coalition, standing against a constitutional amendment banning gay marriage. “We commend these county leaders for taking a stand in their communities. We are heartened that people across the political spectrum and across the state are speaking out for equality,” said One Iowa Executive Director Carolyn Jenison. The group joins bi-partisan co-chairs and more than 70 Iowa organizations with a combined membership of more than 150,000 Iowans.

Republican Co-Chairs

Joy Corning, Former Lt. Governor Christine Hensley, Des Moines City Councilmember Matt Walsh, Council Bluffs City Councilmember Mike Simonson, Republican Activist Ted Coppock, Republican Activist

Democratic Co-Chairs

Christie Vilsack, Former First Lady of Iowa Sally Pederson, Former Lt. Governor of Iowa Mike Gronstal, Iowa Senate Majority Leader Pat Murphy, Speaker of the Iowa House Marcia Nichols, AFSCME Political Director

Democratic County Leaders Kevin Shilling, Adair Karen Pratte, Allamakee Rosemary Schwartz, Benton Rebecca Lyon, Boone Georgia Robertson, Boone Walter C. Bouzard, Bremer Rodney Drenkow, Bremer Lynette Mahacek, Bremer Emily Pawlak, Bremer Michael Pawlak, Bremer Gary Wipperman, Bremer Maurine Jaquis, Butler Margaret Blaskovich, Calhoun Lynne Gentry, Calhoun Sherry Toelle, Cass John Stone, Cerro Gordo Charles Clark, Cherokee Robert Whittenburg, Clay Becky Olafsen, Clayton Peter Olafsen, Clayton Jean Pardee, Clinton Dale Creech, Dallas Andrea McGahuey, Decatur Cathy Gordon, Des Moines Robert Koepp, Dickinson Sara Koepp, Dickinson Terryl Stewart, Dubuque John Nelson, Emmet Stewart Dalton, Floyd Larry Olk, Franklin Nicole Schilling, Greene Ginnie Padden, Guthrie Jon Heitland, Hardin

Cathy Helman, Henry David Helman, Henry Terry Kocher, Humboldt Thaddeus Cosgrove, Ida Joe Brock, Jasper Barbara Drish, Jefferson Dennis Roseman, Johnson Christine Louscher, Kossuth Diane Hoffmann, Linn Berkeley Greenwood, Mills Jeanette Armstrong, Mitchell Steven Pratt, Monona Betty McMahon, Muscatine Don Paulson, Muscatine Joseph Sikora, O’Brien Dennis Cole, Page Jonathan Neunaber, Plymouth Lois Jirgens, Pocahontas Emily Lett, Pottawattamie Beverly Rens, Poweshiek Susan Frembgen, Scott David Gaul, Shelby Julia Theulen, Shelby Jan Bauer, Story Monica McCarthy, Union Paula Martinez, Warren Donald Ruby, Warren Gladys Frakes, Washington Harold Frakes, Washington John Ralls, Winnebago John Franzen, Winneshiek David Somsky, Woodbury

“Today every gay or lesbian person in the country is on trial. The testimony brings up all of that ‘stuff’ that I keep pretending I’ve left behind. I grew up near Knoxville knowing I was gay, but never wanting to be. I dated girls, just like (plaintiff) Jeff did. I hid from myself. I became an Orthodox Jew in LA and almost got married because I did not want to be gay. When (lawyer David) Boies asked Jeff if he’d be in a more loving, stable relationship if he married a woman, it was not a throw-away. That’s what the NOM folks want you to believe. They want you to believe that if Jeff or me or so many others of us who were born homosexual would just marry a woman, the world would be a better place.” — Courage Campaign Chair Rick Jacobs live-blogging the federal Prop 8 trial, Jan. 11.

This editorial appeared in Jan. 31 in The Des Moines Register. In any public conversation, that which defines us is the manner in which we debate. Do we do so with integrity and civility, or not? The Jan. 24 guest essay in the Register by Bryan English argued that Iowans have a right to vote to allow or to ban same-sex marriage. However, English’s article distorted important facts. Regardless of the religious right’s attempts to rewrite history, marriage has always been an organic, ever-changing institution. Even Biblical literalists must acknowledge that marriage has changed throughout history as humanity and our critical-thinking skills evolved. What marriage looked like in Old Testament times is a far cry from marriage today. One cannot honestly argue that “traditional marriage” is the only form of marriage ever to exist. Historically, women were, and in some countries still are, treated as property with no rights. In our country, interracial marriage was forbidden only a few short decades ago. The institution of marriage changed due to the pressure from those who understood a more progressive future. The government then interrupted the socially accepted norms by changing the laws. Thankfully, our society understands the value of change. What role should religion play in this discussion? Let’s be clear. The public debate on same-sex marriage is about civil marriage, not sacred marriage. Those who argue against civil marriage equality do so solely from their particular religious perspective. They have a right to their religious belief, they just cannot write it into our civil law. Thankfully, the U.S. and Iowa Constitutions are very clear on this point. History proves that differences in civil law and religious beliefs can cohabitate. For example, there are faith traditions that disagree with civil laws that sanction divorce. Our state and U.S. Constitutions protect the rights of religious institutions to handle divorce according to their beliefs. However, civil law stands as the law of the

land. Religious liberty is our most precious freedom. If we can agree on nothing else, let us at least agree to protect faith and freedom in our state and country. Those who publicly rally against samesex marriage most often speak from their faith, usually as Christians. They typically assert that their faith speaks with one voice on the subject, and those who disagree are not true believers. It is an arrogant assertion. People of faith span the full spectrum of beliefs on this and many other social issues. Whether Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Unitarian Universalist, Sikh, or any other, there is no unanimous understanding in any faith. We see things through the lenses of our life’s experience and we interpret from that. Regardless, the differences between people of faith are secondary in the discussion on civil marriage. This is a societal conversation about access to civil rights and responsibilities. Do we as a society believe all people have equal protection under the law? Or, do we as a society believe in an institutionalized class system defining the haves and the have-nots? Years ago, the Iowa Legislature passed a marriage law that clearly disregarded the Iowa Constitution’s equal protection clause. The Iowa Supreme Court used its rightful powers to dismantle that unconstitutional law. The religious right disingenuously asserts the Supreme Court overstepped its authority. Their current tactic is to contend that elected officials are blocking the public’s right to vote. Since when has Iowa ever placed the rights of others on the public chopping block? When have we ever dissolved the rights of a group of people by adding discrimination to our Constitution? As the public discussion continues on civil marriage equality, let us do so with integrity and civility. Scare tactics, distorting history and perpetuating myths never serve the public’s best interest. This can only be ensured when the rights of all are equally protected by our government and by each of us.


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Section 3: Community Catie Curtis and Gregory Douglass to appear at CSPS

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Acclaimed LGBT musical artists Catie Curtis and Gregory Douglass will appear at CSPS, 1103 Third St. SE, Cedar Rapids, on Thursday, Feb. 25 at 8 p.m. “I’ve always been out,” Curtis said in a recent interview. “On my debut album on EMI I had a song called “Radical” that was pretty out. It’s never made sense to me not to be out.” Catie has developed a dedicated local following through her CSPS appearances. Her reputation as one of the best singer-songwriters in the country has followed her through nine critically acclaimed recordings. With her tenth project, Hello Stranger, released this August, she rewards loyal fans and draws in new listeners with a record that puts a fresh spin on some of her best-loved songs, as well as a few handpicked classics. With the help of her Nashville-based record label, Compass Records, Catie selected some of Nashville’s best musicians to feature on fiddle, mandolin, banjo and acoustic guitar. From the first time Catie picked up a guitar—an instrument given to her gratis by a neighbor whose only request was that she learn how to play—the native of rural southern Maine has used music as a sort of sonic superglue to bring people together. She brought that to the fore on her 1995 debut Truth From Lies, a disc on

which she tangled with heartache. She ramped it up further on her 1997 followup, which was named Album of the Year at the Gay and Lesbian American Music Awards. OUT Magazine raved that opener Gregory Douglass has “Rufus Wainwright’s opulent musicality and Justin Timberlake’s accessible soulfulness… Welcome to your new favorite singersongwriter.” With seven critically acclaimed, independent CDs under his belt, the 27year old Vermont native is a master of

grassroots promotion, slowly building his reputation through intimate house concerts and direct fan support. Will Ackerman, Grammy winner and founder of Windham Hill Records, said Gregory “is simply the most remarkable new talent I’ve heard in a decade. A brilliant, intelligent songwriter with an expressive and versatile voice...” Tickets for the show are $17 in advance and $21 at the door. For more info: 319-364-1580 or www.legionarts.org. Advance tickets: www.iowatix.com.

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“There are too many (gay people) in the world who don’t worry about referendum battles, they worry about their lives. They worry about being murdered on the streets or murdered officially in the prisons, with or without judicial sanction. There are too many people in the world who don’t have the privileges that we have, and if by my election and the media coverage and the dialogue around that, we can change one person’s life in one of those countries, it would make everything worth it.” — Houston’s new lesbian mayor, Annise Parker, speaking to supporters in Houston on Jan. 3.

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NATIONAL ORGANIZATIONS Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund 1705 De Sales St NW, Ste 500 Washington, DC, 20036 www.victoryfund.org. 202-VICTORY [842-8679] Human Rights Campaign National political organization, lobbies congress for lesbian & gay issues, political training state and local www.hrc.org 1-800-777-HRCF[4723] Lambda Legal Defense & Education Fund I I E. Adams, Suite 1008 Chicago, IL 60603-6303 www.lambdalegal.org 312-663-4413 Fax: 312-663-4307 National Gay & Lesbian Task Force (NGLTF) 1325 Massachusetts Ave NW, Ste 600, Washington, DC, 20005 www.ngltf.org / taskforce.org National Organization for Women (NOW) 733 15th ST NW, 2nd Floor Washington, DC 20005 www.now.org 202-628-8669 PFLAG National Offices 1726 M St. NW Suite 400 Washington, DC 20036 info@pflag.org www.pflag.org 202-467-8180

STATE ORGANIZATIONS Equality Iowa P.O. Box 18 Indianola, IA 50125 www.equalityiowa.org 515-537-3126 Faithful Voices Interfaith Alliance of Iowa’s marriage equality project. www.faithfulvoices.org Imperial Court of Iowa Non-profit fundraising & social, statewide organization with members from across the State of Iowa. PO Box 1491, Des Moines, IA 50306-1491 www.imperialcourtofiowa.org Iowa Chapter of the National Organization for Women (NOW) David Steward, President, IA NOW 1010 Charlotte Ave. Davenport, IA 52803 Iowa PFLAG (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gay) State Council PO Box 18, Indianola, IA 50125 www.equalityiowa.org/PFLAG 515-537-3126 or 641-583-2024 Iowa pridenetwork 3839 Merle Hay Rd, Ste. 285 Des Moines, IA 50310 www.iowapridenetwork.org 515-243-1110 LGBT Youth in Iowa Schools Task Force PO Box 1997, Des Moines, 50306 515-243-1221 One Iowa PO Box 3, Des Moines, IA 50309 Stonewall Democrats of Iowa 5 Creekside Ct Mason City, IA 50401 Contact: Dean Genth figfinesse@yahho.com 641-583-2024

Ames First United Methodist Church 6th & Kellogg Contemporary worship Sat. 5:30; Sun at 8:30 and 11:00am. www.fumcames.org. 515-232-2750 Living with HIV Program 126 S. Kellogg, Suite 1 Ask for Janelle (Coordinator) 515-956-3312 ext 106 or I -800-890-8230

Section 3: Community ISU LGBTA Alliance GLBT Support, Activism, Social Events, Newsletter East Student Office L, Memorial Union, ISU Ames, IA. 50014 alliance@iastate.edu http://www.alliance.stuorg.iastate.edu 515-294-2104 Lord of Life Lutheran 2126 Gable Lane, Ames 50014 Services Sundays at 9:00a.m.; Wed. 7:00pm. 515-233-2350 PFLAG Ames Youth and Shelter Services Offices 420 Kellogg Ave 1st Floor. 2nd Tuesday, 7pm www.pflagames.org 515-291-3607 Romantics Pleasure Palace 117 Kellogg Street Ames, IA 50010-3315 http://www.romantixonline.com 515-232-7717 Stonewall Democrats of Ames tlloman@aol.com goodwinm@istate.edu, or Terry Lowman, 515-292-3279, or Mary Goodwin 515-292-0352 United Church of Christ-Congregational 6th & Kellogg Ames, 50010 Sunday Continental Breakfast, 9:00am; Sunday School, 9:30am; Worship, 10:45am. uccames@midiowa.net. 515-232-9323 Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Ames 1015 Hyland Ave. Services: 9am and 11am, Sunday uufa@aol.com 515-292-5960 Unity Church of Ames 226 9th St. Sunday service and Sunday school 10:30am. Wednesday mediation 6:30pm, class 7:15pm. www.websyt/unity/ames Daily dial-a-blessing 515-233-1613

Arnolds Park, Okoboji, Spencer, Spirit Lake The Royal Wedding Chapel 504 Church Street Royal, IA 51357 712-933-2223 www.TheRoyalWeddingChapel.com Wilson Resource Center An Iowa Great Lakes area gay-owned nonprofit community based organization. PO Box 486 Arnolds Park IA 51331-0486 F.JosephWilson@aol.com. 712-332-5043

BURLINGTON Arrowhead Motel 2520 Mount Pleasant St Burlington, IA 52601-2118 319-752-6353 - www.arrowheadia.com HIV/AIDS Screening @ Des Moines County Health Department in Burlington 522 N 3rd By appointment between 8:00am to 4:30 319-753-8217 Confidential RISQUES IV (adult store) 421 Dry Creek Avenue West Burlington, IA 52601 (319) 753-5455 Sun - Wed 8am-Midnight Thurs - Sat Open 24 Hours www.LoversPlayground.com Steve’s Place 852 Washington St, Burlington 319-752-9109 Unitarian Universalist Fellowship Services start at 10:30 am 625 N 6th St, Burlington, IA 52601-5032 (319) 753-1895 - www.uuburlington.org

Cedar Falls - Waterloo Black Hawk Co. Health Department Free HIV testing (donations accepted); MW, 1:00pm to 3:00pm; Thurs, 1:00pm to 4:45pm 1407 Independence Ave. (5th fl) Waterloo 50703 319-291 -2413 Cedar AIDS Support System (CASS) Service, support groups & trained volunteers for persons with HIV/AIDS in Waterloo/CF call Elizabeth or Karla, 319-272-AIDS(2437). cvhospice@forbin.net Cedar Valley Counseling Services Promoting personal growth and development in a strengths-based environment Joan E. Farstad, MA, Director. 319-240-4615 www.cvcounseling.com farstd@cvcounseling.com. Cedar Valley Episcopal Campus Ministry. In Lutheran Center 2616 College St, Cedar Falls, IA 319-415-5747 mcdinoiwa@aol.com www.episcopalcampus.org All welcome!

Community AIDS Assistance Project (CAAP) Funding for special personal needs, community projects, and small grants that are AIDS related. PO Box 36, Waterloo, IA 50704 LGBTA Support Group at Hawkeye Community College Call Carol at 319-296-4014 for time & location of meeting chedberg@hawkeyecollege.edu Iowa Legal Aid Free civil legal service available to low income persons who qualify under income/asset guidelines. 607 Sycamore, #708, Waterloo, IA 50703 1-800-772-0039 or 319-235-7008 Kings & Queens Tap 304 W. 4th St, Waterloo, IA www.//myspace.com/kingsandqueensspace 319-232-3001 Romantix Waterloo (Adult Emporium) 1507 La Porte Rd, Waterloo, IA 50702 319-234-9340 http://www.romantixonline.com/ Stellas Guesthouse 324 Summit Ave, Waterloo, IA Private B&B, Overnight accommodations for adults only. 319-232-2122 St. Lukes Episcopal Church 2410 Melrose Dr, Cedar Falls, IA 50613 www.st-lukes-episcopal.org Services: Sunday 8:00 & 10:15, Thurs 11:30 319-277-8520

Linn County Public Health 501 13th NW Free confidential HIV testing, 319-892-6000 Linn County Stonewall Democrats 2nd Wednesday of every month, 6:30-8 p.m. The LGBT Caucus of the Democratic Party, meets at Hamburger Mary’s, 222 Glenbrook Dr. SE, behind 2nd Wind off of 1st Ave SE in Cedar Rapids. For more info, contact linnstonewall@ gmail.com Rapid AIDS Grant Wood Area Red Cross 3600 Rockwell Dr NE Cedar Rapids, 52410 319-393-9579. PFLAG Cedar Rapids 3rd Monday, 6:30pm, 6 social Faith United Methodist Church 1000 30th St, NE 515-537-3126 People’s Church Unitarian Universalist A welcoming congregation. 600 Third Avenue SE 11AM Sunday. 319-362-9827 Stonewall Democrats of Linn County Contact Roy Porterfield royboycr@mchsi.com 319-362-5281

Council Bluffs, Omaha(Ne)

Together For Youth 233 Vold Dr, Waterloo, IA 50703 www.TogetherForYouth.net 319-274-6768

AIDS Interfaith Network 100 N. 62nd Omaha, NE Call Br. Wm. Woeger 402-558-3100

UNI-LGBTA Alliance-Student Organization 244A Bartlet Hall, University of Northern Iowa Cedar Falls 50613 lgbta@uni.edu 319-222-0003

Citizens For Equal Protection 1105 Howard St, Suite #2 Omaha, NE 68102 www.cfep-ne.org info@cfep-ne.org 402-398-3027

United Church of Christ Cedar Falls 9204 University Avenue, Cedar Falls 319-266-9686

Council Bluffs NOW Write PO Box 3325 Omaha, NE 68103-0325

Unitarian Universalist Society of Black Hawk County 3912 Cedar Heights Dr, Cedar Falls, IA 319-266-5640

DC’s Saloon 610 S. 14th St. Omaha, NE Open everyday 2pm to 1am, western/levi/ leather. 402-344-3103

Cedar Rapids/marion Adult Shop 630 66th Ave SW, 319-362-4939 Adult Shop North 5539 Grain Lane, 319-294-5360 Club Basix Open 5pm to 2am M-F, Sat & Sun 3pm to 2am 3916 1st Ave. NE, Cedar Rapids www.clubbasix.com 319-363-3194 Coe Alliance Education, activism & fun for GLBTQ and straight students, staff and people from the community. Coe College 1220 First Ave NE, Cedar Rapids, IA 52402 For information contact: coealliance@coe.edu or Erica Geers, faculty advisor at 319-861-6025 CSPS Legion Arts Contemporary Arts Center 1103 3rd St. SE info@legionarts.org 319-364-1580 Faith UMC 1000 30th Street NE, Cedar Rapids, 52402 Pastor Kathy Moore Sunday services at 11:00am. www.crfaithumc.org 319-363-8454 Foundation 2 Crisis Counseling 24-hour telephone crisis counseling. f2crisis@aol.com or www.f2online.org 1540 2nd Ave. SE Cedar Rapids, IA 319-362-2174 or 800-332-4224 GLRC of Cedar Rapids Support, social activities lnfo@crglrc.org www.crglrc.org or, write to P.O. Box 1643 Cedar Rapids 52406-1643 Call and leave a message -- all calls will be returned. 319-366-2055 Hamburger Mary’s 222 Glenbrook Dr. Cedar Rapids, IA 52403 319-378-4627 www.hamburgermaryscr.com www.myspace.com/hamburgermaryscr Krug Law Firm 6 Hawkeye Drive, Suite 103 North Liberty, IA 52317 319-626-2076

Diamond Bar 712 S. 16th St. Omaha, NE 10am - 1am, M-Sa, closed Sun 402-342-9595 Front Runners/Front Walkers Walking/jogging club. P.O. Box 4583 Omaha, NE 68104 402-496-3658. Gilligan’s Pub and Grill 1407 Harney Omaha, NE Everyday 4pm-1am. Friday and Sat. After hours 12-4am 402-449-9147 GLBT Rainbow Outreach Omaha Serving GLBT community in eastern Nebraska and western Iowa. Excellent message and info. Also office for Imperial court of Nebraska. 1719 Leavenworth St Omaha, NE www.rocc.org 402-341-0330 Heartland Gay Rodeo Association (HGRA) PO Box 3354, Omaha, NE 68103 www.hgra.net 402-203-4680 HGRA serves both Iowa and Nebraska Imperial Court of Nebraska P.O. Box 3772, Omaha, NE 68103 402-556-9907 L.E.O. (Leather Engineers of Omaha) Educational-social group for Gay Men with interest in Leather Lifestyle. Meets 2nd Saturday at Gilligan’s Pub at 7:00pm. L.E.O. PO Box 8101 Omaha, NE 68108. The Max 1417 Jackson at 15th, Omaha, NE 68102 6 bars in 1 402-346-4110 MCC Omaha 819 South 22nd P.O. Box 3173, Omaha, NE 68103 Sun 9 & 11 am Wednesday “ReCharge” Worship, Wed 7pm 402-345-2563 PFLAG Omaha Mead Hall, First United Methodist Church 7020 Cass St. (Omaha) 2nd Thursday, 7, 6:30 Social time 402-291-6781

ACCESSline Page 33 River City Mixed Chorus Gay/lesbian chorus PO Box 3267 Omaha, NE 68103 Call Stan Brown, marketing 402-341-7464. Romantix Council Bluffs (North) (Adult Emporium) 3216 1st Ave. Council Bluffs, IA   51501-3353 http://www.romantixonline.com 515-955-9756 Romantix Council Bluffs (South) (Romantix After Dark) 50662 189th St, Council Bluffs, Ia 51503 http://www.romantixonline.com 712-366-1764 Youth Support Group for GLBT Youth 13-21, meets twice monthly. Omaha, NE 402-291- 6781.

Decorah Decorah Human Rights Commission Contact: City Clerk 400 Clairborne Dr, Decorah 563-382-3651 Meetings: First Tuesdays, 5:30pm Luther College Student Congregation Contact Office for College Ministry 700 College Dr, Decorah, IA 52101 563-387-1040. PFLAG Northeast IA (Waukon/Decorah) First Lutheran Church 604 W Broadway, Decorah, IA Meetings: 4th Mondays, 7pm-9pm Call Jean @ 563-535-7680 PRIDE Luther College Diversity Center, 700 College Dr, Decorah, IA 52101 Contact Chris at 563-387-2145 or Melanie at 563-387-1273 Unitarian Universalist Fellowship Meets alternating Sundays at 10:30am, Decorah Senior Center 806 River St Call Bill at 563-382-3458.

Des Moines AIDS Project of Central Iowa Free HIV testing, prevention supplies, care services, food pantry, information. 711 E. 2nd, Des Moines, IA 50309 515-284-0245 Blazing Saddle 416 E 5th St www.theblazingsaddle.com 515-246-1299 Buddies Corral 418 E 5th St, Des Moines, IA 515-244-7140 The CENTER 1300 Locust; The new LGBT and progressive place to be. thecenterdm@gmail.com Church of the Holy Spirit-MCC Pastor Pat Esperanza Sunday service 10:30am at the 1st Christian Church 2500 University, Des Moines chsmccdmia@aol.com 515-287-9787. Des Moines Gay Men’s Chorus 515-953-1540 PO Box 12269, Des Moines, IA 50312 dmgmc@mchsi.com www.dmgmc.org. Family Practice Center Safe, supportive LGBT health care. 200 Army Post Road, Ste 26 www.ppgi.org 515-953-7560 First Friday Breakfast Club Educational breakfast club for gay/bisexual men. Meets first Friday of each month. Contact Jonathan Wilson for meeting topic and place. Jonathanwilson@davisbrownlaw.com 515288-2500 First Unitarian Church 1800 Bell Avenue Services Sundays at 9:30 & 11am 515-244-8603 The Gallery (adult store) 1000 Cherry St Des Moines, IA 50309-4227 (515) 244-2916 Open 24 Hours www.LoversPlayground.com The Garden 112 SE 4th Des Moines, IA 515-243-3965 Wed-Sun. 8pm-2am www.grdn.com Gay & Lesbian AA & AI-Anonymous Mon. 7 pm; Tues. - Thurs. 6 pm; Sat. 5:30 pm at Drake Ministries in Ed. Bldg. 28th & University Gay and Lesbian Issues Committee 4211 Grand Avenue, Level-3 Des Moines, IA 50312 515-277-1117


ACCESSline Page 34 Heartland Gay Rodeo Midwest Division of the International Gay Rodeo Association. 402-203-4680 Iowa Affirmation Lesbian/Gay United Methodist Thoreau Center, 35th & Kingman Blvd. Write Affirmation PO Box 1726, Des Moines, IA 50309 Java Joe’s Gay friendly 214 4th St. 515-288-5282 Lavender Victory Fund Financial assistance for women in need for medical emergencies. 700 Rose Ave, Des Moines, IA 50315 Contact Bonnie at 515-244-7946 Liberty Gifts 333 E. Grand Ave., Loft 105 Des Moines, IA Gay owned specialty clothing, jewelry, home decor. Libertygiftsonline.com 515-508-0825 MINX Show Palace 1510 N.E. Broadway Des Moines, IA 50313 Open 9am - 2am, M-Th; 9am - 4am, F-Sat. 10am -9pm Sun. 515-266-2744 National Association of Social Workers (NOW) (Nat’1 Organization of Women in Des Moines) http://www.meetup.com/locale/us/ia/desmoines North Star Gay Rodeo Association of IGRA, Iowa Division of North Star NSGRA@ NSGRA.org or 612-82RODEO Rainbow Union, Drake University Contact Sara Graham ru@drake.edu PFLAG Des Moines 515-537-3126 or write 3520 Grand Ave #51, Des Moines, IA 50312 Plymouth Congregational UCC Church and the Plymouth GLBT Community 4126 Ingersoll Ave. 515-255-3149 Services at 5:30pm Sat, 9am & I lam Sunday. www.PlymouthGLBT.com Polk County Health Department Free STD, HIV, and Hepatitis B & C testing. HIV. Rapid testing also offered. 1907 Carpenter, Des Moines, IA 515-286-3798. Raccoon River Resort Accommodations for men, women, or mixed in campgrounds, lodge, Teepees or Treehouses. Reservations: 515-996-2829 or 515-279-7312 Ritual Café On 13th between Grand and Locust. ritualcafe@aol.com Gay owned great music, awesome food and coffee. 515-288-4872 Romantix North Des Moines Iowa (Bachelor’s Library) 2020 E. Euclid Ave. www.romantixonline.com Des Moines, IA 50317-3668 515-266-7992 Romantix 1401 E. Army Post Rd. Des Moines IA 50320-1809 http://www.romantixonline.com/ 515-256-1102 SOFFA Iowa (Significant Others Family Friends and Allies of people who fall under the Gender Variant umbrella) Monthly meetings held at The CENTER, 1300 Locust contact Jaye at: (515)779-5185 thecentersoffaiowa@gmail.com Spouses of Lesbians & Gays Contact Ruth Schanke, 515-277-3700 St. John’s Lutheran Church 600 6th Ave “A Church for All People.” Services Sat 5pm, Sun 7:45, 8:45 & 11am. See web page for other services. 515-243-7691 www.stjohnsdsm.org TransformationsIOWA Monthly meetings for the female to male, male to female, transgender community, cross dressers, gender queer, questioning, and their significant others. For location and info, email Jayden at thecenterdmtrans@gmail.com or call 515-779-5187 Trinity United Methodist Church 1548 Eighth Street Services Sundays at 10a.m. 515-288-4056

Section 3: Community Urbandale UCC An open & affirming congregation. 3530 70th St. Urbandale, IA 50322 515-276-0625. Walnut Hills UMC Join us at 8:30 or 10:30am for Sunday worship. Sunday classes and group studies are at 9:30am. 12321 Hickman Rd. Urbandale, IA 50323 515-270-9226. Westminster Presbyterian Church 4114 Allison Ave. www.westpres.org Sunday services 8:45 and 11am. Of note is their Gay Lesbian Straight Affirmation small group ministry. 515-274-1534 Word of God Ministries Join us at 3:30 for Sunday Worship at 3120 E. 24th St, Des Moines, IA Mailing address: PO Box 4396, Des Moines IA 50333 515-276-6614 Women’s Culture Collective (WCC) A lesbian social group. Des Moines, IA www.iowawcc.org Zanzibar’s Coffee Adventure Open daily. Gay-friendly 2723 Ingersoll, Des Moines, IA 515-244-7694.

Dubuque Adult Warehouse 975 Jackson St., Dubuque, IA 563-588-9184.

Congregational Church UCC An Open and Affirming Congregation Sunday Worship 9:15am (July & August) 30 N. Clinton St. (across from Ul Pentacrest) 319-337-4301 - www.uiccic.org Counseling Clinic Lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender sensitive and supportive counseling for individuals, couples, families and groups. Sliding Fee. 505 E Washington St. Iowa City, IA 52240 319-354-6238. Counseling and Health Center Client-centered therapy. Les-Bi-Gay-Trans always welcome. 616 Bloomington St, Iowa City, IA 319-337-6998. Crisis Center 1121 Gilbert Court, Iowa City, 52240 319-351-0140. Emma Goldman Clinic 227 N. Dubuque St, Iowa City, IA 52245 319-337-2111or 1-800-848-7684. Faith United Church of Christ 1609 De Forest Street, Iowa City, IA Services Sundays at 9:30 a.m. 319-338-5238 GLBTAU-U of l Student support system and resource center, info, activism, events, and other community involvements. 203 IMU, University of IA Iowa City, IA 52242-1317 glbtau@uiowa.edu 319-335-3251 (voice mail)

The Q 920 Main Street, Dubuque, IA Open Mon - Sun, 7pm to 2am. www.myspace.com/qbar_dbq 563-557-7375

Hope United Methodist Church Worship Service at 9:30am. 2929 E. Court St., Iowa City, IA Contact Rev. Sherry Lohman. 319-338-9865

Dubuque Friends Worship Group (Quakers) Tired of being rejected by your church? Tired of following church pronouncements that smack of homophobia? Join us at an unprogrammed meeting on Sunday at 10am. Open and Affirming St. Mark’s Community Center 1201 Locust Street, Dubuque, Iowa 52001 563-556-3685 for info and directions

ICARE Iowa Center for AIDS Resources & Education Practical and emotional support, youth programs, information, referrals and support groups. 3211 E 1st Iowa City, IA 52240-4703 319-338-2135.

Dubuque Pride Monthly social group, meeting for meal and conversation. www.dubuquepride.org Dubuque Regional AIDS Coalition Direct services, education. HIV+/AIDS support group and family/friends support group. Contact Kay Auderer or Connie Sprimont, Mercy Health Center. 563-589-9606. PFLAG Dubuque St. John’s Lutheran Church 1276 White St. 3rd Thursday, 7pm 563-582-9388 Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of Dubuque 1699 Iowa St. Dubuque, IA “The uncommon denomination.” Adult religious education meets Sunday at 9am before general services at 10am. www.uuf-dbq.org. 563-583-9910

Fort Dodge Romantix Fort Dodge (Mini Cinema) 15 N. 5th St, Fort Dodge, IA 50501-3801 http://www.romantixonline.com

Grinnell Saints Ephrem & Macrina Orthodox Mission. Welcoming worship in the Eastern Christian liturgical tradition. Sunday services at 10am. (Affiliated with the Orthodox-Catholic Church of America.) 1226 Broad Street, Grinnell, IA 641-236-0936 Stonewall Resource Center Open 4:30pm to 11:30pm, Sun through Thurs and by Appointment. Grinnell College 1210 Park Street PO Box B-1, Grinnell, IA, 50112 srcenter@grinnell.edu 641-269-3327

INDIANOLA Crossroads United Church of Christ (UCC) An Open & affirming congregation. Services: Sunday 10:30am, Summer worship: June, July, Aug, @ 9:30 am, worshiping in the Lounge at Smith Chapel, Simpson College, corner of Buxton and Clinton. Mailing address: P.O. Box 811, Indianola, IA 50125 515-961-9370.

Iowa City AA (GLBT) Meetings Sundays 5 - 6pm at First Baptist Church, 500 North Clinton Street. For more info, call IC Intergroup Answering Service, 319-338-9111

Iowa City Free Medical Clinic Free & strictly confidential HIV Testing. 2440 Towncrest Dr Iowa City, Call for appointment 319-337-4459 Iowa City NOW PO Box 2944, Iowa City, IA 52244 for information & meeting times/places Iowa Women’s Music Festival P.O. Box 3411, Iowa City, IA 52244 319-335-1486 Krug Law Firm 6 Hawkeye Drive, Suite 103 North Liberty, IA 52317 319-626-2076 Men Supporting Men HIV prevention program exploring issues that gay/bisexual men deal with on a daily basis. Discussion Groups, Educational Series, Safer Sex Workshops, Book Club. Contact Andy Weigel, email: aweigel@co.johnson.ia.us 319-356-6038, Ext 2 New Song Episcopal Church 912 20th Ave Coralville, IA Sunday services at 1Oam. Rev. Elizabeth Coulter, Pastor Rev. John Harper, Associate. 319-351-3577 Pride Committee WRAC 130 N. Madison, Iowa City, IA 52242 Bridget Malone 319-338-0512 Charles Howes 319-335-1486. Romantix Iowa City (Pleasure Palace I) 315 Kirkwood Ave, Iowa City, IA 52240-4722 http://www.romantixonline.com 319-351-9444 Studio 13 13 S. Linn St. (in the Alley) Iowa City, IA Open 7pm ‘til 2am, daily 319-338-7145 Thich Nhat Hanh based “Mindfulness” meditation and study group Iowa City Public Library, Sundays 1 to 2:30pm Usually Room E 319-354-4065 U of I Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Staff & Faculty Association c/o WRAC 130 N. Madison, Iowa City, IA 52242 319-335-1486

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Unitarian Universalist Society of Iowa City Inclusive and free religious community nurturing intellectual and spiritual growth and fostering ethical and social responsibility. 10 S. Gilbert, Iowa City, IA Sunday services: 9am & 10:45am. www.uusic.org 319-337-3443

Mary’s On 2nd 832 W. 2nd St. Davenport, IA 563-884-8014.

United Action for Youth (UAY) A GLBTQA youth group providing support and counseling for teenagers and young adults processing sexual identity issues. Meets Mondays 7-9pm at UAY 410 Iowa Ave. Iowa City, IA 319-338-7518 or Teen Line, 319-338-0559.

Men’s Coming Out/Being Out Group Meets 2nd & 4th Thursdays, 7pm. QCAD.OutForGood@GMail.com 309-786-2580

The Ursine Group Bear Events in the Midwest. P.O. Box 1143, Iowa City, IA 52244-1143 319-338-5810 Vortex Gifts 211 E. Washington, downtown Iowa City 319-337-3434 Women’s Resource Action Center (WRAC) Leads & collaborates on projects that serve Uofl & the greater community, offers social & support services, including LGBT Coming Out Group. University of Iowa 130 N. Madison Iowa City, IA 52242 319-335-1486

Marshalltown Adult Odyssey [Adult Video] 907 Iowa Ave E 641-752-6550 Domestic Violence Alternatives/Sexual Assault Center, Inc. 24 hour Crisis Line: 641-753-3513 or (instate only) 800-779-3512

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MCC Quad Cities - Svcs Sat 5pm, Sun 11am Bible study Wed. 7 pm 3019 N. Harrison, Davenport, IA 52803 Call 563-324-8281.

PFLAG Quad Cities Eldridge United Methodist Church 604 S.2nd St., (Eldridge) 1st Monday, 6:30 pm 563-285-4173 Prism (Augustana College) Augustana Gay-Straight Alliance Augustana Library 639 38th St. Rock Island, IL Contact Tom Bengston 309-794-7406. Quad Citians Affirming Diversity (QCAD) Social & support groups for lesbian, bi, and gay teens, adults, friends & families; newsletter. 309-786-2580 Community Center located at 1608 2nd Ave, Rock Island. Quad Cities Pride Chorus. At the MCC Church in D’port, 7pm Wed. qcswede64@aol.com Call Don at 563-324-0215 Rainbow Gifts www.rainbowgifts.net 309-764-0559 T.R. Video Adult books & video 3727 Hickory Grove Rd, Davenport, IA 563-386-7914.

Cerro Gordo County Dept. of Public Health 22 N. Georgia Ave, Ste 300 Mason City –Iowa 50401. Free confidential AIDS testing. 641-421-9306

Venus News (Adult) 902 w. 3rd St, Davenport, IA 563-322-7576

PFLAG North Iowa Chapter 1st Presbyterian Church 100 S. Pierce. 1st/ 2nd Monday (alternating), 7pm 641-583-2848

PFLAG Shenandoah 712-246-2824

Mount Vernon Alliance Cornell College 810 Commons Cir # 2035 alliance@cornellcollege.edu www.cornellcollege.edu/alliance contact person: Glynnis 319-895-5874

NEWTON PFLAG Newton UCC Church 308 E 2nd St N 3rd Thursday, 7pm 641-521-7436

Pella Common Ground (Central College) Support group for GLBT students and allies. Contact: Brandyn Woodard, Director of Intercultural Life woodard@central.edu 641-628-5134

Quad Cities AIDS Project Quad Cities Info, education & support. Ste 360 1351 Central Park West Davenport, IA 52804 563-421-4266. Augie’s Tap 313 20th St, Rock Island (IL) Noon - 3am daily. 309-788-7389 Black Hawk College Unity Alliance Serving GLBT community at Black Hawk College. 6600 34th Ave, Rock Island, IL 309-716-0542. Connections Nightclub 822 W 2nd St, Davenport, IA 52802 Phone: (563) 322-1121 DeLaCerda House Provides housing and supportive services, advocacy and referrals for people living with HIV/AIDS. P.O. Box 4551, Rock Island, Il. 61201 309-786-7386. The Hole-In-The-Wall A Private Membership Men’s Club Located 3 miles east of Galesburg, IL just north of I-74 at Exit 51 309-289-2375 www.HoleInTheWallMensClub.org Holy Spirit Catholic Faith Community Meets one Sunday per month for Mass at 5:30pm at MCC-QC 3019 N. Harrison St., Davenport For more info, call 563-340-7488

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Sioux City Am. Business & Professional Guild. Gay Businessmen. Meets last Sat. of the month; ABPG P. O. BOX 72, Sioux City, 51102 abpguild@yahoo.com Grace United Methodist Church 1735 Morningside Avenue 712-276-3452. Jones Street Station (Bar) 412 Jones St. Nightly 6:00pm to 2:00am. 712-258-6922 Mayflower Congregational Church. 1407 West 18th Street Call 712-258-8278. Morningside College Lesbian/Gay/Bisexual Alliance Contact Professor Gail Dooley, Advisor Morningside College GSA 1501 Morningside Ave. Sioux City, IA 51106-1717 dooley@morningside.edu 712-274-5208 PFLAG Siouxland PO Box 1311, Sioux City, IA 51102 siouxlandPFLAG@aol.com Romantix Sioux City (Adult Emporium) 511 Pearl St, Sioux City, IA 51101-1217 St. Thomas Episcopal Church Service Sun 10:30am 406 12th St, Waverly, IA Rev Mary Christopher 712-258-0141 Western Iowa Tech. GSA widemal@juno.com for info.

Waverly Cedar Valley Episcopal Campus Ministry. 717 W. Bremer, (St. Andrew’s Episcopal) Waverly, IA www.episcoplcampus.org 319-415-5747 Gay, Lesbian Bisexual Student Alliance Wartburg College, Waverly, IA 50677 Contact Susan Vallem 319-352-8250 St. Andrew’s Episcopal Church 717 W. Bremer We welcome all to worship with us on Sunday at 10:30 am. Bible discussion Wed. 6:45pm Rev. Maureen Doherty, Pastor 319-352-1489


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