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Magazine for the Association of Christian Counsellors

accord Walking the Narrow Ridge Richard Worsley Cross-Cultural Counselling Samson Gandhi Sexuality and Sexual Expression of Children and Young People Gary McFarlane Plus - Regulation Update


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Issue 71 Summer 2011

Walking the Narrow Ridge - Richard Worsley

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ACC News (incl Regulation Update)

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Cross Cultural Counselling - Samson Gandhi

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Sexuality and Sexual Expression of Children and Young People - Gary McFarlane 16-19

Can my Church help abuse victims? - Carolyn Bramhall

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Diary UK

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In Touch 28-31

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I have been in reflective mode and used a significant amount of my time on holiday last week to contemplate several issues. On reading “The Good and Beautiful God” I was challenged to ‘count my blessings’. Being a regular visitor to India, my husband and I often compare our lives with those of our Indian friends and we know that we are truly blest. However, I was taking my thoughts much wider and realising that every single thing we have, all of us, is God’s gift! What a beneficent, magnanimous, bountiful and generous God we serve. And then I went further and thought about not only the people and things around me that are gifts but also the word from Galatians 5 that we have been set free and that freedom is one of the most marvellous gifts. God has given us spiritual freedom, emotional freedom and for some, physical freedom from sickness and other circumstances too. One of those ‘other’ circumstances is a situation that very few of us will ever find ourselves in. I was listening to Terry Waite speaking at an event this week. He was speaking about some of his experiences in solitary confinement where he was held by captors for four and a half years. He was chained for twenty-three hours and fifty minutes each day in a room with no natural light, no sanitary arrangements, no bed and nothing at all except his thoughts for company! The grace of God sustained him, and eventually freedom was granted. What a joy, but also a shock to the system. What a family reunion but also how difficult to be with so many people again! But closer to home – each of you are involved, by God’s grace, in the business of bringing freedom to those who are hurting. ACC is here to support you in doing your work. accord brings you information and a breadth of articles to develop your knowledge. The national conference gives opportunity to not only train and develop but also have Christian fellowship and networking. The network of regions and nations also give those same opportunities but much more often. Some insurance companies will give preferential rates to ACC members. People

often phone with a need for advice and usually there are ways that we can get information on a range of issues. We also offer a robust accreditation system so you have evidence of your experience and practice to satisfy both clients and potential employees. ACC represents you at high levels; for example we have always been participants around the ‘regulation table’. There is an ethical framework to guide you in your work. All this at a fee much less than some other professional bodies! Be our champions. Spread the word and invite a colleague to join ACC! Enjoy yet another informative and interesting magazine.

ACC Summer School 18 – 22 June 2012

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High Leigh Conference Centre, Hoddesdon, Hertfordshire Already booked: Helena Wilkinson - Eating disorders Tony Horsfall - Self Care Awaiting confirmation: David Hall (USA) - Sexual therapy Adrian Plass - Evening entertainment Emmanuel Apostolic Choir Evening entertainment Still exploring: Healing Timeline Focussing Therapy Supervision Part I And others! As you can see some things are still in preparation at this early stage, however DO BOOK THIS EVENT INTO YOUR DIARY. Booking form in next accord. There will be times for worship, entertainment and relaxation, in addition to the formal teaching of 20 hours CPD.


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Walking the Narrow Ridge n By Richard Worsley Like many therapists, I have a love of the richness of metaphor. Perhaps one of my favourites is from Martin Buber, the Jewish philosopher and theologian. He writes: I have occasionally described my standpoint to my friends as the “narrow ridge”. I wanted by this to express that I did not rest on the broad upland of a system that includes a series of sure statements about the absolute, but on a narrow rocky ridge between the gulfs where there is no sureness of expressible knowledge but the certainty of meeting what remains undisclosed. Martin Buber Between Man and Man p.184. London, Kegan Paul, 1947. It is particularly easy for religious people to inhabit the broad and sunny uplands of false certainty. Indeed, it is an understandable temptation in an age of doubt. Yet, Buber is right. We are called by God to the narrow ridge. If we render God into the language of certainty we do major damage to his mystery, his hiddenness. So, daring to walk the narrow ridge, I want to think about the way faith and therapy might fit together in a secular setting. I work as a counsellor in the University of Warwick counselling service. I have as part of my job the task of keeping some sort of focus on the spirituality of counselling. So far, I think I am doing a very mediocre job of this. I am interested as to why. The workplace is where I express my ministry before anywhere else. I begin with the question: How does faith fit into the world? I mean, of course, the secular, European world of the twenty-first century. One answer might be that it is paraded across others’ awareness in the name of “witness”. This is by and large not effective witness. It is often aimed at making the speaker feel good rather than the listener shift her position. Crass witness alienates others. We must do more than verbal ritual. We have to relate. But to what end? If my faith is credible in a secular setting, if I can

command the respect of those who do not share my faith in speaking of spirituality, then I need to find a way of translating faith so that it becomes part of other languages too, not least the language of therapy. Part of this translating might be expressed in Buber’s words as helping each other to “meet what remains undisclosed”. In other words since I cannot demand of others that they take on board my theology, or my faith, then I have to find some form of it that is inclusive of many if not all, regardless of personal faith. This is the narrow ridge. I have to translate without obliterating faith, but also without rendering unwarrantedly explicit that which is yet to be disclosed. I have to find a language that all can live with. I notice that the language of spirituality is convenient, in that it is both popular these days and annoyingly imprecise. (Some see it as secular religion, for instance, but fail to notice how much writers like Ken Wilbur require one to believe. It is new age but it is not very secular.) My inner starting point is not the language of spirituality - although I will return to it - but rather the language of genuine agnosticism. I mean something like this. Let “God exists” stand for my Christian faith, a particular sort of belief in a particular version of the divine. Then, if God exists, this fact should be visible in the world, even to those who do not see or name God as I do. But if God does not exist, as no doubt some of my colleagues believe, the echo or rumour of God is a vital and living part of human experience, still. (There are a number of the New Atheists who see this point, and to counter it decree that religion is all evil. They confound the varieties of religion with a single phenomenon, and God with religion.) Therefore, the content of my faith is one version of something that is deeply human and deeply important to all. I need to find out how to express this. For my colleagues, this question can take the form of another question. What sorts of spiritual perspectives might matter to all of our clients, whatever they or we believe? This question

is important because it governs how I might challenge a client to think existentially about life. The following brief case I took to supervision with colleagues. I think I expected one of two responses. The first might have been: so, yes, that is a spiritual dilemma! Another might have been: Richard, you have crossed a boundary and that is not legitimate therapy. I got neither. Rather I got a sense that my colleagues were glad that it was me who had met this client. There might be some ducking in this. I will pick it up with them. Jessica is a young woman in her early thirties. She presents as very personable. My first impression was that I liked her and would enjoy working with her. She is completing a doctorate in philosophy and literature. She presented as depressed. Her mother’s aunt had recently died. They were not that close, but the bereavement had affected her more than she cared to admit. Jessica is a secular Jew. Neither she nor her parents have ever belonged to a synagogue, nor does she believe in God. However, that is not what came to strike me. Jessica was a Marxist, and really rather fierce about her political thinking. Since I would identify myself as a Christian socialist, Jessica’s Marxism would not be wholly alien to me. It was the force of its rigidity which struck me. It had a definite function in Jessica’s life. Jessica was depressed in such a way that she struggled to function, to meet life. I was struck by how this paralysed version of her was verbally at war with the political version of her. The first stayed in bed while the second erected the barricades in the streets, as you might say. In this short space, I will not do justice to the passion and sophistication of her argument. I argued with her, seduced, and then wondered why. I wanted to overcome her

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political commitment, but on behalf of what? We discovered that we both used the word Weltanschauung. It means world-view in German. It has a very particular ring to it, especially for a Jew! Finally I said to her, rather taken aback by my directness: it’s your world-view. It won’t do for you somehow. It’s not that I disagree with your politics. That doesn’t matter one way or the other. It’s certainly not that you are plain wrong. But the way you put the world together needs to shift. It’s not working for you. She smiled quietly and agreed. Neither of us knows where this might lead us. Is it the aunt’s death, the PhD, or is there much more? How can I - or my colleagues - conceive of what is going on? I note that I have no intention of disclosing my own world-view. Why would I want to do that? Nor do I harbour a concealed-evenfrom-me intention of making her Christian. That is not ethical. Yet, there is some mismatch between healthy living and the mode of her world view. How might counsellors think about this, whatever their own religious or spiritual views? I want to point to a parallel here. In a recent Lent group, we were thinking about Jesus and the wealthy young man (Mark 10, 17-25). We wrestled for a long while about what might be meant by “the Kingdom of God”. There was much said that was useful, but it was mainly trapped into too “religious” a version of the Kingdom. I wanted to stretch it out. Can the Kingdom break through in wholly secular settings? If not, then God is too small. But if it can, as I believe, then faith is a major part of the story, but it is heretical to see the faith as the story itself. God goes on ahead of us, loving that which is yet to recognise him. Christian ministry is one of acknowledgement of what God does, and not of recruitment.


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So to return to the question of therapy and spirituality, I am working with the idea that the latter can be defined as the living out of three terms: 1. Values. When we accord ethical value to the Other, then and only then do we render the Other a Thou (to use Buber’s term) and in so doing we render ourselves more fully human. We are made for dialogue and responsibility.

Jessica can be thought about under each one of these terms. However, the challenge it seems to me that faces counsellors both religious and secular is to give a coherent account, for example, of how their own life meanings can legitimately impact upon their clients.

2. Meaning. We are meaning-generating animals. To think spiritually is to ask where Jessica’s meaning-set fails her or is conflicted.

The most basic form in which the counsellor must allow her meanings to impact upon a client is when the client threatens suicide. At a deep level, the counsellor can be asked: Why do you still want to live? If you were in your client’s shoes would it be the same?

3. Transcendence. This can be either secular or deeply religious, but the term both points to our need as humans to “move beyond” and to our need to open out life by allowing the idea of transcendence to disrupt the neatness and comfort of the sunny uplands of life.

Richard Worsley is a person-centred counsellor, trainer and supervisor working at the University of Warwick. He is an Anglican priest. He has interests in spirituality, group work, process work, integration and philosophical theology. He has worked for many years also in parish work.

DEPRESSION by Mike Wood There was I Jonahing off into the dizzy distance When this whale of a depression Gulped me whole! It took a while to try to digest me,

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ACC News Regulation Update As recently stated, I attended the Health Professions Council ( HPC) meeting on 12th May 2011 in London and the meeting went pretty much as expected. There were two agenda items of interest to us which were, unfortunately, the last two items on the public agenda; one on voluntary registration and the other on the psychotherapists and counsellors Professional Liaison Group (PLG). Both items had been marked ‘to be noted’ rather than ‘for discussion and/or decision’; this certainly gave the impression that the importance/significance of the two items had been down-graded – this indeed proved to be the case. The most significant statement was a quote, in response to a letter from the HPC, from Anne Milton, Parliamentary Under Secretary of State for Health. She confirmed that it was not currently the Government’s intention to proceed with the statutory regulation of psychotherapists and counsellors but that the Government would ‘keep this under review in light of the experience of assured voluntary registration’. It is generally thought that the next significant information would come via the CHRE website in preparation for their next Council meeting scheduled for Wednesday 13th July 2011and also a meeting of the Regulation Group (representatives from all the main professional bodies) has been called for Tuesday 21st June 2011. ACC will keep you up to date with progress. If anything significant comes to light we will post an update on the website.

But odd bubbles of hope sustained me Until I was spat out On to a different shore Quieted Divested of a few layers of skin More sensitive, More vulnerable, But more whole. Going a different way. Syd Platt

Network Director retires The UK Network Director on the executive committee of ACC, Syd Platt, has retired. Syd has served ACC for many years in his capacity on the executive and also as the representative for the South East (SE) part of the ACC network. He will also be standing down from that position later in the year. Syd has been a very committed

member of the executive and chair of the SE committee and in more recent years, the network forum. Prior to that (and the re-structuring of ACC), Syd served as the Regional Representative on the Board. He has often injected humour into discussions but also has had considerable input into decision making and contributed to drafting policies relevant to the network. Syd has also often reminded us of helpful words of scripture during committee meetings His work with the network forum has been of particular encouragement to all of the representatives who meet twice a year. Syd has prepared interesting and varied programmes and has usually included some time together for the reps to be refreshed spiritually, share needs, take communion and receive prayer. Last year this forum included the pastoral care co-ordinators from the network committees and the combination of these two different groups of people has worked very well under the guidance of Syd and Steve Seedall. Syd will be greatly missed, having been with ACC for such a long time in a very visible capacity. However he remains a member of ACC and he will be taking up more activities within his church whilst enjoying retirement with his wife Marilyn. At recent meetings of the network forum and the executive, thanks were expressed to Syd for his vast contribution to ACC. The board will also be thanking Syd and presenting a gift at the meeting on 8 June (just prior to publication of this issue). New Network Director appointed ACC are pleased to welcome Sean Charlesworth to the Executive as Network Director. Sean has experience of membership and knowledge of ACC over a number of years, but in addition has also served as a network representative in the North West. In his ‘day job’ Sean is a minister at the large Elim church in Coventry, developing the pastoral and Sean Charlesworth counselling work. Sean will bring many skills, knowledge and ideas


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to the executive committee in a very enthusiastic and inimitable way. He will also ensure that the committee retains an element of humour as he succeeds Syd Platt in this role. ACCREDITATION ANNOUNCEMENT Over the last few months the board of ACC has been exploring the possibility of acknowledging the accredited status of members from other organisations. After careful consideration and much work, a decision has been taken to give credit for certain elements of work submitted by people who have gained BACP or COSCA accreditation. This is to save needless repetition of work that has already been produced, scutinised and approved. Therefore a person can now become accredited with ACC by presenting their relevant accreditation certificate and by meeting two extra but very important criteria which we believe will help maintain the distinctive of being part of ACC. Such applicants will be required to: • Send in a copy of their BACP or COSCA accreditation certificate • If their training is not ACC recognised, they will have to submit a 2000-3000 word essay entitled “How my Christian faith informs my counselling practice” • Submit a character reference from their church leader At present this arrangement only covers those accredited with BACP and COSCA because their accreditation systems are very similar to that of ACC. If you, or people you know, would be interested in exploring this possibility then please contact the Accreditation Office on 0845 124 9572. The Board are offering this facility at a reduced cost of only £40 until Easter 2012 and then after that date at £45. There may be people you know who are not yet members of ACC, are accredited with either BACP or COSCA, and may wish to gain accreditation with ACC using the above process, if so we would appreciate you passing on the news of this decision to them. We trust that this decision will enable more people to join ACC and therefore enjoy the benefit from the Christian support, fellowship and networking, the accord magazine, access to CPD, plus the other benefits of belonging to ACC. John Nightingale – Director of Professional Standards

Recognition by BACP In June 2010 it was brought to the attention of ACC that some members who are tutors of counselling students had been prohibited from sponsoring their students to become members of BACP. ACC immediately began contact with senior personnel in BACP which initially received little response. Later in the year, another member raised the same issue as he too had been unable to sponsor a supervisee. ACC took the matter further and have eventually received notification from the CEO of BACP that ACC would be listed on their documentation as a cognate organisation. This means that our members will be able to sponsor people wishing to join BACP. Is ACC in your will? At the recent budget the chancellor George Osborne gave an incentive to people to give to charity. If you give 10% or more of the value of your estate to charity, inheritance tax is charged at 36% rather than 40%. This is designed to encourage giving to charities that could potentially benefit enormously. Whilst there are many who may not have an excess of funds to give away, some people may still be able to leave a small legacy to ACC. Whatever the amount, it helps towards supporting the work of ACC and providing membership services. Director of Operations Following our brief announcement in the last edition of accord we are pleased to confirm that Ruth Nelson started work at the beginning of April as Director of Operations. Her induction is well underway and she has been getting to know people and processes within ACC. accord asked Ruth to introduce herself:-

Ruth Nelson

“Hello, my name is Ruth Nelson and I started as Director of Operations at the beginning of April 2011. I grew up on a farm in Northern Ireland and lived there until I moved to Preston to go to university. After that I worked in Market Research in Belfast for a year, before moving back to England to do a number of management and planning type jobs with small and medium sized businesses based in a number of places all with a national distribution network. In

November 1999 I moved to Coventry and worked for the NHS as a Commissioning & Information Manager which included managing counselling, primary care and secondary care contracts. I was then Assistant Manager at Coventry NHS Walk in Centre and moved to being Quality of Life Theme Manager at Coventry NDC – which was in a highly deprived area of the city. This meant that I was commissioning & developing a range of projects in health, social care, financial inclusion, leisure and community safety into the area and working with residents and public, private and voluntary sector partners to do this. For the past 4 years I have worked in Policy & Performance at Coventry City Council. I became a Christian when I was 19 and my faith in God is the most important thing in my life. In 1991 I married Tony, who became a Christian Youth Worker and was employed by a number of Christian trusts around the country. In 2004, Tony died suddenly and I began a very different journey in my life to what I was expecting. The journey of grief can be long and at times lonely, but I have a deeper faith in God today because of that. One of the organisations that helped me was Care for the Family, and today I am now a befriender and speaker at CfF “ A Different Journey “ events for those who have lost a partner at a younger age. I have also done a university course on grief and loss and have recently completed a Cruse bereavement course as well. I am excited to be part of ACC as one of my great passions is to see people walk from brokenness into wholeness. I am also passionate that we help the helpers to provide the best service that they can and that you feel valued and are equipped to do a great job well in Jesus’ name.” Graduation of first cohort of sex addiction treatment specialists The treatment of sex addiction has been given a boost by the graduation of nine students from what is the first comprehensive eight months training course in sex addiction. The course is the brainchild of Dr Thaddeus Birchard, Chairperson of the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: www.sexaddictionandcompulsivity. com. He is also the Clinical Director of the Marylebone Centre in central London where he has pioneered a treatment programme for men and women over the last 10 years. Dr Birchard said of the students, “They have demonstrated an exceptionally high level of

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competency and professionalism, which is an endorsement of their existing practices in the field of Relationship & Sex therapy”. accord contributor Gary McFarlane from Bristol is one of those graduates who treats clients face to face and via Skype throughout the country. Gary McFarlane He endorses the course and says that “it is hard to believe that we are the first cohort in the country to have undergone such comprehensive training in the cutting edge thoughts and practice of sex addiction treatment and we benefitted from the USA experience and from some highly committed, competent and specialist trainers such as Paula Hall and Joy Rosendale. They ensure that we develop treatment regimes which also provide support for partners of addicts”. Speaking of the partners of addicts, Gary explains that they are mostly women and can be easily ignored and all attention focuses on the addict. He plans to develop a partner’s support group in Bristol. European Developments Croatia is the latest country in Europe to explore the possibility of setting up an Association of Christian Counsellors. Following communications by various means with Natalija Hadjuk, the instigator of the exploration, David Depledge travelled to Croatia in May for meetings with a group of people who had expressed interest. The talks covered Natalija Hadjuk understanding the situation in Croatia, understanding some of what has been done in other countries, understanding what different people meant by “Christian Counselling” and deciding if they wanted to proceed further. Croatia is a long thin country with many islands also which presents some challenges in working together. The majority of the 5 million population are, at least nominally, Catholic with the Protestant churches members numbering only a few thousand. There is a Christian Theological Seminary at Osijek which has Christian Counselling courses. The group which met decided to arrange a wider


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dealing with mental health issues which, if nothing else, will help counsellors understand the way GPs are being guided. Not surprisingly there is a fairly heavy emphasis on CBT. Issues covered include:• Assessment • Cultural, ethnic and religious considerations • Risk assessment and monitoring The full document runs to 384 pages plus 176 pages of Appendices. There is also a booklet to explain mental health issues to patients which may be useful in whole or part for counsellors to use.

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meeting in the autumn to take the idea forward. It is planned that ACC-UK will again provide support for that meeting. Guidelines on common mental health disorders Late in May NICE (National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence) published new guidelines aimed at helping GPs and others recognise common mental health disorders. See www.nice.org.uk/guidance/CG123 Apart from guidance for commissioners which will not be relevant to most accord readers, the documents present a “Stepped care” model of

An Invitation from Soul Survivor Many of you will have heard about Soul Survivor and in particular their summer festivals for young people. ACC have been approached by Zara Elliott from Soul Survivor as they wish to populate their Welfare Teams with counsellors from our membership. This is voluntary work but if you are able to support young people in this way, then please contact Zara by emailing teams@soulsurvivor.com This is a wonderful opportunity for ACC to be involved with Soul Survivor and Zara will be pleased to inform you of the fine details.

CCT (New Forest) offer a professional counselling service in the New Forest area and are looking for more counsellors to join the team as the service is expanding. The service is a charity and affiliated to ACC. We operate from various churches in the New Forest area, though counsellors can come from outside of this area.

In association with LEAF Local Evangelical Alliance in the Forest Placement: The applicant needs to be attending a Diploma course, preferably recognised by ACC and Registered Charity No. 1108406

ideally in the “adapted CWR/Crabb model” or similar.

COUNSELLOR PLACEMENT OFFER and EXPERIENCED COUNSELLORS NEEDED

Experienced Counsellors: Accredited with ACC or BACP and able to utilize a Christian Counselling Model. For this position a financial package could be negotiated. Support systems include regular team meetings and occasional socials, retreats and training. Telephone CCT(NF) Administration on 01425-618108 Website www.churchescounsellingtogether.co.uk

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Christian Counselling in a Cross-cultural Setting n By Samson Gandhi Counselling in a cross cultural setting is a challenging task. As the world becomes more and more of a global village, counsellors will find themselves working more and more in cross cultural settings. There would be situations where the counselees would be from diverse backgrounds or a counsellor would perhaps move and settle in another entirely different culture. It helps to know the culture of the people we are counselling for then we will be able to bring cultural sensitivity to a professional service. Take for example the two major groups of people – Indian and Chinese – that now live on the continents on either side of the Atlantic – Europe and America. How can counsellors from these regions help Indians and Chinese in their unique set of emotional and psychological problems that are purely a result of getting caught in a clash of cultures? It is also not uncommon when a western counsellor relocates and works in an eastern context that there will be a cultural gap. It is helpful to pick up the cultural nuances for effective counselling. If religion, caste, colour and language are essential parts of culture, then counselling is strongly influenced by culture in India. Where you live, what job you do, what streets you can walk on, which wells you draw your water from is very much determined by your religion and caste. Sometimes, religion and caste, social status and personal value are all visible in the clothes and accessories one would wear, and the way one would wear their hair, the holy thread that someone would wear across their body and in the way you would apply vermillion or white paste on their forehead. This is still true in rural and semi-urban India which is more than sixty percent of the population. These external, visible symbols of inner belief systems may not be seen in the rest of the

forty percent of the Indian urban population. Nevertheless, these belief systems are strongly embedded in the Indian psyche. However, literacy, scientific thought and urban migration is challenging the age-old values prescribed by the prevailing culture. A change is sweeping the Indian sub-continent but it is far from achieving a sense of equilibrium. India is in a flux, with many changes taking place at the same time with little time to rest and reflect. As a Christian counsellor wades through this swamp, she has to be wary of the Damocles sword ever hanging over her. Christians in general are accused of forced conversions. Christian Counsellors too face the risk of such accusations. Even when Christian counselling is offered in a noncoercive, non-manipulative manner, a counsellor runs the risk of being accused of indulging in manipulative conversions. Certain states in India are particularly strident about this issue. A Christian counsellor does well to be aware of such pitfalls. Much of Christian counselling in India is taking place in this kind of a setting. A typical counselee is caught in the cross-fire of clashing cultures. Their belief systems stem from a rural and semiurban upbringing but they must make meaning in a potpourri of cultures in an urban setting often influenced by western life-styles. Indians are one of the largest diaspora in the world. Most of them have probably travelled out of India for the first time. Uprooted from their own culture they have to make meaning of their settings, build relationships, and all the time deal with the pressure to perform academically and afterwards in their careers. Sometimes, they are able to find and make friends with other Indian students or Indian families. In places where there are many Indians, they try to congregate on regional, language, religious and caste lines. In most other cases this is difficult making their lives very lonely and disconnected. They are going through a huge cultural upheaval. Where they cannot find people of their own country and language, they try to


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integrate into the local country culture, but with little success. Whether a counsellor is working with the Indian diaspora in the West or in the East, one has an exciting but a challenging task of entering this cultural chaos, make meaning for one-self and empathize with the pain of emotional disconnect and disappointment, sometimes resulting in disillusionment for a counselee. The following two cases illustrate the necessity of knowing the cultural values of the counselee and the challenges of counselling in a cross-cultural setting. Case study 1: Kumar (28) and Sheila (27) have grown up together in the same village. They went to the same village school and later to different colleges in a nearby town. They kept in touch during their four years of study at college. Upon graduating, they started to work for the same software development company in a large city in India. Kumar is not as brilliant as Sheila at work. She helps him out with any technical glitches. They begin to hang out together with other friends during weekends. Slowly, from being ‘just friends’ they take their relationship to the ‘next level’ of expressing love. Soon they make a commitment and look forward to getting married.

perfectly. As Sheila waits for the company to announce the date, she notices a change in his attitude. He has not been taking her calls and conversations were becoming one-sided. She was unable to understand why he was becoming aloof. One day she gets a call from Kumar that shatters her life. Kumar informs her that his parents had looked for a girl for him and have finalized that marriage proposal. In the meanwhile, the company informs her that she will have to go to US as soon as possible. She is very confident that she can go there and convince him and make him change his mind. The more she is trying to do this the more he tries to shut her off. Sheila is emotionally distraught. She is unable to sleep or eat or concentrate on her work. The more she thinks about it the more she feels that she can convince him if only he could wait till she reaches US. But he has made up his mind and let her know so. Sheila sounds suicidal. She informs the counsellor that the only reason he calls her is to check if she is doing alright and has not taken any extreme step to end her life. Through her company website she makes an appointment with a counselling agency in her city of work.

Sheila comes from a backward caste and Kumar is a Chowdhary belonging to a higher caste. Both of them were aware that Kumar’s parents would never agree to their marriage. However, Sheila believed that they would be able to convince his parents and get married. Sheila’s parents do not know of her relationship with Kumar.

Discussion starters:

Sheila gives up an opportunity to go to Europe on a project in order to be with Kumar. However, when the company proposes to send Kumar to US on a project, he readily accepts and relocates himself to US. Sheila does not take offense as she feels that a man should grow in his career. Moreover, she is very confident of her skills and therefore feels it will not be long before she is offered a placement in US.

3. If you were a counsellor with the agency in India and you happened to be the counsellor to meet Sheila, what cultural aspects would you be concerned about?

Distance is no impediment to their love; they call each other every other hour and talk long hours during nights. Within six months of Kumar going to US, Sheila is also offered a project in US. She is over the top and feels that everything is going

Case Study 2: Sanjay Gupta (21) is an aspiring graduate in Management. He is keen to pursue post graduate studies in Management. He could have done his M.B.A. from any decent college here in India. But he sees many of his rich friends going

1. What are the cultural dynamics that influence a relationship moving towards marriage? 2. If you were a counsellor in US and Kumar were to make an appointment with you to sort out his own feelings, what cultural aspects would you keep in mind?

4. What will be your interventions for Kumar and Sheila? 5. Consider meeting an Indian family to find out their cultural values regarding marriage.

abroad to continue their education. Added to this some of his cousins were getting ready to go to US for their under-graduate studies. Sanjay was keen to do an M.B.A. in USA. His research showed that he had to take TOFEL and GMAT exams and get a mark good enough to get a scholarship. However, when he consults an Agency in India, they advise him to go to UK. But he is unable to get an admission into M.B.A. as he does not have any work experience. Nevertheless, he is desperate to go overseas and he compromises to do a one year diploma in Administration hoping to somehow find a job, and settle down in UK. The parents have all along hoped that he would go abroad and earn a lot of money. So they take a bank loan of 15,000 pounds (a very large sum for an average Indian family) and send him to a university in the north east of England. The pressure is very high on Sanjay to make it and become successful. Except for a couple of contacts, Sanjay for all practical purposes was going into the land of the unknown. Everything is new and extreme for Sanjay. The climate is too cold; the friends are not as warm as they were back home as everyone is too busy to take any personal interest in him. The learning environment was totally new and the language skills required to do his work were so high that he had to take English language and writing skills class. Through the course, he found that he could not afford proper travel so he walked long distances. While making plans to go to UK he thought that he could do some odd jobs and earn his pocket money although he knew that it was illegal. But he soon realized that it was not practical to do so. This increased the financial burden on his parents and consequently the pressure to perform. Unable to make the grades, he had to seek

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extension of visa which he gets but falls sick. He is depressed and hardly goes out. He is unable to face his parents. Knowing his situation, his uncle and aunt encourage him to visit India for a short holiday and get back to complete his degree. That gives him hope and returns to India. After his holiday, he gets back with a do or die attitude. Sanjay works on his final project and barely manages to complete it. He tries to get a job but cannot find one. The prospect of getting back to India without a job and a huge loan to repay was too much to bear. He applies for an extension of visa but is denied. He is terribly depressed and comes down with pneumonia and is hospitalized. Soon after he recovers he is deported back to India. Imagine Sanjay was referred to you for counselling while he was in UK. Discussion starters: 1. What cultural aspects of Sanjay’s background would you keep in mind while counselling with him? 2. What interventions would have benefitted Sanjay? 3. In what ways could Sanjay have prepared well to face a new culture? 4. Is there a scope to orient students from other cultures to avert such difficulties? 5. Consider meeting a student from India to explore various cultural aspects surrounding studies and careers overseas. Samson Gandhi is head of the Person to Person Institute of Christian Counselling and Secretary of ACC South Asia accord would welcome other contributions, long or short, on the issues of cross cultural counselling.


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The impact of sex education on the sexuality and sexual expression of children and young people and sex addiction n By Gary McFarlane Introduction Viewing or other exposure of Children & Young People (CYP) to sexual information which is too explicit for the age maturity of the young person can be traumatic. Such early contact with sexual information which is “too much, too soon” can have an emotional impact on their later sexual experience and development. That may contribute to sexual dysfunctions and problems with their lifelong spouse. Sex education is often the first such exposure to material which is explicit. That is fast changing with the increasing use of PCs at an earlier age and the websites that are recommended and get a viewing - under the radar of parental monitoring. Such explicit material can vandalise what we call the love map. (That is the sexual terrain which all of us have to journey through before and as a part of adolescence.) Sexually explicit material (and here I am referring to material that is “too much too soon” – rather than very explicit on its own) can cause trauma. That trauma can be at work in a subtle and unconscious way but, in time, set the CYP on a path towards increased vulnerability to sexual compulsive and addictive disorders. That sexual map is defining a sexual template of sexual preferences which manifest later on. Even if sexual dysfunction does not manifest in later life, other relational issues may have an increased prevalence and potential. The visual imprint which is carving out the sexual template has a long exposure time in the brain, leaving an impression that may be activated adversely in the future when a precipitant is present. It also may have normalised thinking about what the image depicted. In December 2010 the government announced an independent review into whether retailers and broadcasters should be subject to new restrictions preventing them from selling sexualised products aimed at CYP. There is acknowledgment by the

government that CYP are being pushed into grownup territory well before their time. That follows on the heels of an earlier and fifth report on the same subject by Dr Linda Papadopoulos, commissioned in February 2010. She acknowledges that while digital literacy and the internet now brings unprecedented opportunities for CYP to learn, develop and enjoy, it also brings risks. Sex education needs to be included in the debate in terms about the sexually explicit nature of some of the resources deemed age appropriate for viewing by CYP. If sex education is made compulsory in primary schools then we already have a wealth of publications that will almost certainly be used and endorsed. Many of those NHS and Department for Education endorsed literature and website material can, I believe, reasonably be classed as “too much, too soon” and risk predisposing many CYP’s to future sexual dysfunctions, including sexual addiction. School’s responsibility Sex and relationship education in schools arises out of the Personal, Social and Health Education (PSHE) framework and the Social Exclusion Unit report on teenage pregnancy. Guidance provided certainty about what is sex education and how it should be taught (DfEE, 2000). It identifies the objective of sex and relationship education as help and support to young people through their physical, emotional and moral development. “It is a lifelong learning about physical, moral and emotional development…about the understanding of the importance of marriage for family life, stable and loving relationships, respect, love and care…about the teaching of sex, sexuality, and sexual health…not about the promotion of sexual orientation or sexual activity – this would be inappropriate teaching.” (DfEE, 2000, p5) The school’s governing body should consult with parents to develop policies which reflect parents’ wishes and the community. The Guidance also advises on how pupils can be protected from inappropriate teaching materials. Inappropriate images should not be used, nor explicit

material not directly related to explanation and schools should ensure pupils are protected from such materials having regard to age and cultural background. Schools will also want to ensure that children are protected from accessing unsuitable materials on the internet. Primary schools do not have to teach sex education or PSHE and do have considerable freedom. They should have a sex and relationship education programme tailored to age, physical and emotional maturity. That requires a graduated, age-appropriate programme of sex and relationship education. Teaching methods need to take account of developmental differences. They should consult with parents before the transition into secondary school about the detailed content of what will be taught. The government is under much pressure to introduce a national curriculum which would remove discretion from primary schools and control would be centralised. The flood gate could be further opened to the plethora of material readily available, much of which challenges the boundaries of age appropriateness. There are those who are quite against such a national curriculum and have alternative resources they deem more age appropriate. They include Lovewise (www.lovewise. org.uk) and CARE’s Evaluate programme of teaching (www.evaluate.org.uk ) There are those who ask whether some current sex education material is so graphic as to be hazardous to a child’s health and pose a question asking “You’re teaching my child what?”. Dr Miriam Grossman is one such person and that question is the title of her book in 2009. She and others challenge the premise that CYP are completely capable of making responsible sexual decisions and can think through complex issues, plan ahead and consider consequences; referring to their restricted brain development which affects decision making. They point to lack of judgment, not lack of information.

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Age appropriate or pornography? First exposure to sexually explicit material (even in the guise of sex education) if it is age inappropriate or age indigestible is a link to future sex addiction. Normalising and desensitisation to explicit material takes place too soon which sets up CYP for future relational sexual dysfunctions and mental health issues. Larry & Wendy Maltz (2008, p.25) say that: “If you have issues with porn today, chances are they can be traced back to your early encounters with pornography. Childhood is a formative and vulnerable period in a person’s life, a time when our attitudes are shaped and many of our behaviours take root.” Sexual templates are unconsciously created from youth and will contribute to possible sexual dysfunctions, including addiction. We know that CYP see their first porn by aged 9-11 and the single largest porn group users are aged 12-17. 60-90% of under 16’s have viewed online porn and teens are spending on average 1 hr 40mins per week viewing online porn. The primary focus is masturbation. Addictive and excessive masturbation then sets them up for continued false intimacy, rather than sex in relationships with real people. Instead Cybersex sex is preferred by many. Child development Education sits alongside social, emotional, moral and cognitive development. Children develop at different rates. Growth spurts and plateaus, heredity and environmental factors all have substantial contributions. Sex education has to be considered in the context of child developmental patterns – a time of potential greatest impact and influence. Pre-disposing factors are experiences in life which make us vulnerable to repeating the negative impact behaviour. Explicit early exposure can have serious repercussion on the developing brain and cause unconscious associations and pairing. The way sex education is dealt with or not dealt with is a factor. Parents’ attitude to sex and willingness to engage


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in conversation, first sight of explicit material and memory implant, all have a potential impact on the CYP sexual template. Precipitating factors are events and experiences associated and connected with the dysfunction. Each time a particular association arises it triggers the dysfunction. Brain development Since the mid 1990’s we have had very concrete and persuasive scientific evidence that the teen brain is immature and functions differently from an adult. Their brain does not reach full maturity until the third decade of life. The pre-frontal cortex (PFC) is the last area to develop and is the brain’s centre for reasoning, judgment, self evaluation and planning. It suppresses impulses and makes decisions rationally, weighing up the pros and cons, alongside consequences. Since that part of the brain is not fully mature until mid-twenties, the CYP is susceptible to the amygdala (a principle structure of the “feeling” brain) which has matured. The amygdala is more short-sighted, emotion driven and thus susceptible to coercion and peer pressure. These two networks of the brain eventually integrate and work in parallel as the PFC evolves. Until then, under intense, novel and highly stimulating conditions the feeling brain can take over, resulting in poor choices – even at a time when the CYP know and understand the dangers. Judgment cannot be fully reasoned and that fact must challenge the assumptions of sex education - that CYP can think through complex issues, plan ahead and consider consequences. Consequences of “too much, too soon” A key issue is when does legitimate sex education stop and porn begin. That was the subject of controversy surrounding a Channel 4 show “The joy of teen sex”, which was recently branded as porn by Mediawatch UK in January 2011 (Daily mail, 2011). It was deemed to have crossed the line into prurience, with graphic scenes of sex that can only be described as pornographic, whilst the show claimed to offer sex advice to under 18’s, but airs after the watershed. As part of the White Paper on Education, the Government has announced that Sex and Relationship education will be under review as part of a curriculum overhaul. There is pressure to centralise the curriculum. There are those calling for sex education to stay decentralised so that parents and governors remain and become more involved in being consulted and make informed decisions on

developing a policy in line with the school’s ethos. Jim Dobbin MP tabled that same issue for an Early Day motion debate in Parliament in December 2010. Many parents are abdicating sex education responsibility and leaving it to schools, peers, the internet, library and other mediums as their main (and sometimes only source) of sex education. Misinformation, sexual myths and reluctance to seek third person authoritative input compounds the psychological factors which lead to sexual dysfunction and addictions Conclusion So many sexual dysfunctions arise from the early years’ impact which continues to affect the adult. The past very much lives in the present and affects the future. Looking back at the early years’ sexual development enables many people to make possible links with certain types of exposures from childhood. The predisposing, Precipitating and maintaining factors (which all contribute to the later persistent sexual dysfunction) become a source for the work of the sex therapist. When age inappropriate sexually explicit material is viewed, that exposure may be the first sexual relationship for the CYP. First sexual relationships usually have a powerful, long lasting effect on the psyche and replication is strongly desired. This sexual map is forming the CYP’s sexual template. Sex education should be an integrated process that is developmentally appropriate, truly evidence-based and builds upon itself year by year. A review of the sex education material available to CYP and ensuring age appropriate viewing within the sex education curriculum may now be a process which will have minimal impact unless parents take a more active role. Gary McFarlane BA, LLM Gary is a Relate trained and experienced Relationship counsellor, Mediator and undertakes Sex Therapy & Sex Addiction treatment all of which are undertaken by Skype, telephone and face to face with clients from all parts of the country. He is also a member of BACP and the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity. gary.g.mcfarlane@blueyonder.co.uk www.Garymcfarlane.com Tel: 0786 609 7247

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Can My Church Help Abuse Victims? n By Carolyn Bramhall

How a family photo on a table aggravated a compensation claim You might find it hard to believe, but we once had to defend a claim against a therapist whose client had complained about – among other things – a family photograph in their consulting room. We also had to defend a therapist who casually mentioned a forthcoming holiday at the end of a session, and another whose washing machine could be heard in the background during sessions. These seemingly innocent acts were said to be breaches of professional boundaries, because they exposed details of the therapists’ personal lives. These are the kind of small details that a claimant’s solicitor might look for and try to exploit, to help make a claim against you. If the worst should happen to you, having this kind of detailed knowledge on your side could help you mitigate, or maybe even avoid a claim altogether. Towergate Professional Risks has provided Professional Liability Insurance for nearly 20 years and in our experience, claims don’t always come from obvious, one off actions like an inappropriate disclosure or forming a friendship with a client. In fact, you may already be doing things which could help your clients make a claim against you, without even realising it. As an ACC member you are entitled to special member rates on your professional liability insurance from Towergate Professional Risks which would protect you in the event of a civil claim made against you for compensation. Member rates have been negotiated in recognition of your professionalism as an ACC member. We also offer member student rates.

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Carolyn Bramhall is author of “Am I A Good Girl Yet?” (published by Monarch) in which she recounts her journey into healing from the effects of childhood ritual abuse. A counsellor and pastoral consultant, she now heads up a ministry called Heart for Truth aimed at teaching and equipping local Churches and Christian communities in Britain and Europe to work with those who are deeply wounded. For more information please contact office@heartfortruth.org.uk. or see www. heartfortruth.org.uk. The Great Physician forgives all our sins and heals all our diseases; He lifts us out of the slimy pit, sets our feet upon a rock; he puts the lonely in families, heals the broken hearted and turns mourning into dancing. (Ps 103:3; 40:2; 68:6; 147:3; 30:11) These are not just nice words. This is reality. This is truth. If we really believe that, shouldn’t the Church be seeing large numbers of abuse survivors healed? It is now, unhappily, regarded as inevitable that there will be victims of abuse within most congregations. Can Christians effectively help them to overcome the inevitable emotional baggage which goes with victimisation? Should we always be referring them to specialists to give them effective help? Maybe the local church just provides love and kindness while receiving treatment with trained professionals. Or can we do more? But when Churches do help it appears that huge amounts of precious resources are used to tend and mend. As I look at the world around us I see so very many hurting people looking for time and attention. We need to be bracing ourselves for a vast onslaught of needy people entering our congregations, but we must learn how to manage that without becoming solely hospitals for the broken, and getting burned-out in the process.

Perhaps it is time our local churches became adequately equipped to embrace even the most deeply wounded, lead them into freedom swiftly, effectively and joyfully, and then give them the privilege of developing their God given calling and ministry. We need the testimony of the woundedmade-whole if we are to truly speak to our hurting world. I would like to pose the challenge that the local church, your local church, aims at a much more directive and dynamic approach to abuse victims. I passionately believe that ordinary Christians can and should confidently walk with them from one end of their recovery journey to the other; not just to a place of coping, or managing their emotions, but right into complete healing. It may appear simplistic, if not naive, to suggest that people with no training or experience can lead an extremely damaged person into freedom. Navigating the complex issues involved, dealing with minds burdened by painful memories, confronting the fears and emotions that make up the aftermath of abuse must surely require some really specialist knowledge? I believe that the “specialist knowledge” could come as much from understanding what God has done for us in Christ, as in psychology textbooks, though I would be quick to say that psychology has a role to play. Jesus said that He came to give us life in all its fullness; that the truth will set us free; that we would do even greater works than even He did … None of the New Testament writers said anything about really damaged people needing something other than what Jesus has given us in order to be whole. In fact Peter writes that we have everything we need for life and godliness, and James tells us that it really is possible to live in joy in spite of all the horrific things that can and do happen to us. Paul states boldly that we have every spiritual blessing in Christ, and we can know real peace which transcends understanding. (John 10:10; 8:32; 14:12; 2 Peter 1:3; James 1:2; Eph 1:3; Phil 4:7). People who have been abused have a longing for release from the past, for a sense of belonging,


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of security, of having a role and a place … and the Bible teaches that God can meet the most damaged individuals and give them all the peace, joy, release that they need. The question is: can churches lead survivors into that place? Did God really intend that the only people who can possibly know His freedom and emotional healing are those fortunate enough to have access to good therapy? Perhaps all the promises we spoke of earlier really aren’t meant to be taken literally? Understanding what abuse does to us may help to place this in context, because in order to reverse the effects of abuse we have to counteract the negativism that is deeply embedded in a survivor’s mindset. We know that everything we experience, from birth onwards, is stored somewhere in our brains. Everything we see, feel, hear, smell, touch and taste is logged; nothing is really forgotten – and those experiences and data makes up much of the bank of wisdom that determines our everyday choices – what we think and say, how we act and react. If we have stored away in our brains a particularly strong and nasty piece of knowledge, perhaps of an event from early childhood, it will have made such an impact that we may have had to hide that information in a separate part of our brain to ensure that it didn’t overwhelm other working parts of our minds or unbalance our thought processes. That experience data – that trauma – would be locked away all through our growing up years, unconsciously influencing our choices and preferences, though we would not be aware that it was there; feeding our minds with strong inclinations to prevent us from encountering any similar situations. We would have been warned off by these silent forces from walking into any situation that might echo the traumatic ones. Therefore we might say: “I wouldn’t go near a boy with ginger hair” if an abusive uncle had had ginger hair or “I couldn’t live in that house because it has a cupboard under the stairs” if you were shut in one as punishment when you were a child. These “memories” (that sometimes don’t feel like memories) intrude when least expected. They will colour dreams and nightmares, relationships, food, church, leisure – just about everything. An abuse

survivor’s life is not “free”; they are unable to move around their world freely because of inner “can’ts” and “dare-nots”. These can be both restrictive and irrational. In order to lead them into freedom we have to put these hidden, stored-away memories into words and images, look at these in the cold light of day, as an adult with freedom to choose, and “reframe” them in such a way that the issues can be resolved in the light of God’s love and wisdom. Bringing bad memories to light can often be an extremely fraught and lengthy process, soaking up precious pastoral time – if remembering is all we do. It can take years to unearth all the heavy details of a traumatic childhood, and the survivor is often completely and painfully self-absorbed. But if the survivor is immediately offered a new way of thinking that powerfully engulfs the trauma, smothering it in the love and presence of God, the time spent remembering is vastly reduced, because it no longer becomes necessary for every event to be unearthed. That is because the real damage from early trauma is not so much the bad event or events, as the message it left behind. Abuse and neglect gives a child the clear message that she is bad and deserves punishment, or useless and of no value; these are such painful pieces of information to carry 24/7. It is those beliefs that drive a person to desperate measures as they look for something that will fill the void, or crowd out the intolerably dark feelings. Although churches and fellowships may not be able to offer in-depth psychotherapy, we very definitely can help the survivor to replace painful, damaging beliefs with hope-giving, world-expanding, lifetransforming truth. We can provide the environment within which she can feel safe enough to remember, feel, take risks and start the process of “renewing the mind”. We can offer teaching which will encourage that process of replacing harmful, negative thoughts with the knowledge that she is forever a forgiven, chosen child of God. Although this takes time, it is best done, not just once a week in a therapist’s room, but as she lives out her daily life, in the small decisions as

well as the big ones, amongst those with whom she shares her days. That is where Church really comes into her own – walking together as equal children of a Father who is greater than their bad memories. Being together when things go pearshaped, but not with a “them and us” attitude, (because although you are hurting today, I may hurt tomorrow and then I will need you). So if a church friend told me she was abused as a child. What should I do? How would I begin? Not everyone who has an abusive past wants you or anyone else to actually do anything about it. Just telling you may have been a big enough milestone for her, don’t assume she wants to take it any further at this point. If she does (and you won’t know unless you ask her – guessing is a dangerous game to play) then she will need people with whom she feels safe enough to talk to about such things. But if she wants to go further it would be helpful for you both to find a few people who could surround her with support and friendship. I am not talking about counselling, that is something else which she may or may not want or need. Nor am I talking about her home group or Bible study group. I mean good, old-fashioned, guileless friendship, with no hidden agendas. If a journey of recovery is about to begin she will need companions of all kinds to accompany her on the way: pastors, teachers, encouragers, prophets …. She will need church in microcosm. Then comes the process of both sharing in her life with all its small traumas and delights, but in doing that all the while teaching her who she really is as far as God is concerned. It helps to have

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some teaching tools, but not essential. It is when a safe environment is coupled with a safe way of thinking, and then offered to God for His in-filling, that lasting healing occurs. I have seen incredible healing taking place as Christians around the country dare to believe that God is big enough to use even them as, in the context of a local congregation, they face the past together. Miracles of courage, of unity, and of faith occur daily as we learn how to walk with the wounded. I have personal experience of being led, by a group of Christian people from a tiny church who didn’t know me, right into freedom from my abusive past. They were not trained in helping the wounded, they didn’t understand the full implications of my pretty extreme condition (I came out of satanic ritual abuse, and had severe DID), but they did believe that God could heal even the most damaged individual who is prepared to take Him at his word. That confidence rubbed off on me: I watched them stand firm in their belief that because God can do anything He could touch someone as broken me. I had to face my demons myself, they kept reminding me, whether real or imagined. They couldn’t do that for me. But what I faced I did so with my new friends by my side. I now have the privilege of seeing ordinary Christians up and down the country, in otherwise unremarkable churches, lead very wounded individuals into freedom from the effects of an abusive past. But we do need to be armed with some vital pieces of information which I will offer in the next issue, a steady supply of Biblical teaching, and a belief in a God for whom nothing is impossible.

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Person-Centred Counselling for People with Dementia (Making sense of Self ) Danuta Lipinska, 2009, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, ISBN 978 -1 – 8430 -978 -5 Ms Lipinska’s book will be a delight to those devoted to person centred counselling and who have a heart for people with dementia. It is a compact book, with an introduction, eight chapters and an epilogue, and an Appendix of counselling organisations that, interestingly, fails to include the Association of Christian Counsellors. Dementia is an umbrella term used to describe the symptoms that result from what is disease-causing damage to the brain. There are many different causes, the most common being Alzheimer’s Disease, followed by Vascular dementia, Lewy Body, and alcoholism (Korsakoff’s). Though each person is different, the average life span from diagnosis to death is 10 years. There is graduation degeneration over time but in the early and middle stages various psychological interventions can have good results. Perhaps the most grievous aspect of dementia is loneliness. Often it’s caused by the isolating, cognitive effects of the disease, but as cognitive ability declines emotions are sharpened and dementia sufferers often feel judged by what they see as critical response to their ‘defectiveness’. But it can be a genuine, physical isolation because few people know how to ‘be’ with them. And here, with its non-judgemental, unconditional personal regard and empathy, counselling can be hugely beneficial. The most vital communication for Christians with dementia bypasses the mind and is spirit to spirit. Ms Lipinska looks at this in the chapter ‘Essential SpiritCore Relating’, but its lack of Scriptural insight might disappoint many believers. My research, including the experiences of my charity that cares for elderly Christians with dementia, shows that Christ-focused spirituality is essential for their well-being, reinforcing and validating their core beliefs. It’s best described by someone with dementia herself. Author Christine Bryden has dementia and has spoken at conferences. She said, ‘As I lose an identity in the world around me, which is so anxious to define me

by what I do and say, rather than who I am, I can seek an identity by simply being me, a person created in the image of God. My spiritual self is reflected in the divine and given meaning as a transcendent being. As I travel toward the dissolution of myself, my personality, my very ‘essence’, my relationship with God needs increasing support from you, my other in the body of Christ. Don’t abandon me at any stage, for the Holy Spirit connects us. I need you to minister to me, to sing with me, pray with me, to be my memory for me. You play a vital role in relating to the soul within me, connecting at this eternal level.’ There is a growing body of published research describing the effects of counselling people with dementia, examining the outcome of different approaches, including person centred, psychodynamic and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). Ms Lipinska’s book is an encouragement to Christian counsellors who are called to be involved in this way. Louise Morse Louise Morse is a Cognitive Behavioural Therapist and Communications Manager for the Pilgrims’ Friend Society incorporating Pilgrim Homes, a Christian charity with 204 years experience in caring for elderly Christians. She is also author of Could it be dementia, Losing your mind doesn’t mean losing your soul; Dementia, Frank & Linda’s story – new understanding, new approaches, new hope, and editor of Worshipping with Dementia. She is currently working on a dissertation for an MA on the benefits of CBT for dementia caregivers. “Introduction to Counselling Survivors of Interpersonal Trauma” by Louise Weston Christiane Sanderson Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2010, 319 pages ISBN: 978 1 84310 962 4 So what exactly is “interpersonal trauma”? The author distinguishes between single event trauma, and trauma that is the result of prolonged and repeated exposure to chronic, multiple, and repeated abuse within a relationship of trust. She begins with a thorough analysis of the nature and long-term effects of interpersonal trauma, leading on to the role of


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the counsellor in therapy and the importance of establishing a safe and secure base for the survivor to work through their trauma and regain contact with reality. Different chapters deal with various types of abuse, ranging from child abuse and rape, through to elder abuse, institutional, and professional abuse. The author, a University lecturer in Psychology, shows a high level of scholarly research into her subject as well as evidence of having worked closely with survivors on a personal level. The book is full of up-to-date statistics that are relevant and compelling. Each chapter closes with a helpful summary, and several case vignettes are included to illustrate each particular type of abuse. There is a sensitive exploration of the possible effects on the clinician engaged in such therapy and perceptive advice offered for ongoing self-care. I must admit I found the book at times stark and harrowing, particularly the chapter on sexual exploitation and human trafficking, yet also tremendously empowering as the dynamics of abuse were explained, and I learnt that in this “knowing” the overall message is one of hope to the survivor. Presented in such a way that therapists can “dip into” it to refresh or reacquaint themselves with specific features of interpersonal trauma, the book will probably be of more help to those actively engaged in counselling survivors, or in training others. I personally found it immensely helpful in confirming and clarifying some aspects of therapy with present clients of my own as well as inviting further study. This book is intense and thoroughly documented, but not impossible or unreachable. This accessibility in dealing with such a relevant subject makes it immensely readable and a valuable addition to the “frequent flyers” in any counsellor’s library. Philip Shepherd The Strongest Tree by Jenny Rose Publisher: FastPrint ISBN 1844269353 If you enjoy autobiographical books and are interested in people’s lives, relationships and their journey (and what counsellor and pastoral carer isn’t!) then this will grip you. The initial pages did not hook

me immediately but I was not far into the book when I was gripped. The writer does not give detail about her early life experiences and the scant reference to them made me curious. I would have liked to know more about her so that I could fully understand the impact from childhood upon the journey that she undertook with Steve her husband. Steve’s development and story was fascinating, as was their life together. It shows the power of addiction and how destructive it can be, but also Jenny’s overwhelming desire to support Steve and see him walk free from these powerful influences. This book gives insight to the day to day life of addicts and their struggles. The story of how this did not play out as we would all wish is very moving. Greta Randle Nine Seahorses A Plea for Sanity in Three Parts by Seahorse Sam (Dr Martin Nieland) Publisher: Seahorse Press Ltd ISBN 095671420X The title and author’s nomde- plume will give the reader an idea of how unusual this book is. The print is unusual, the glossy pages are not what we have come to expect in a book, the photos are quirky, added to which it is also a weighty tome - literally. This is a serious read in terms of content, but the style has much in the way of humour. It is a coming together of experiential and theoretical psychology which is not for the faint hearted. It also draws together some Transactional Analysis, spirituality, counselling and many other elements. But, there is a surprise in part III of the book where the author develops his thoughts into a modern parable about a seahorse, bringing a lighter conclusion although it has a deep message. All in all, the language is not easy and the very long sentences and many parentheses make it difficult to keep the sense of the sentence. Beware, you will need some time and space to get to grips with this book! Anyone want to have my copy? Greta Randle

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Regional Representative Vacancy Following the recent move of Revd. Sean Charlesworth to the Midlands, the post of Regional Representative for the North West Region is once again vacant. If you wish to nominate someone suitable to fill this vacancy please contact Richard Champness Administrator ACC NW (email - rsc858@ btinternet.com) in the first instance.

AUTUMN EVENT: Belfast, Carnmoney Presbyterian Church, Tuesday 6 & 13 October, Topic: Addiction, Speaker: Alex Bradley

Saturday 24 September 2011: Training Day & AGM Venue: Dalmeny Hotel St. Anne’s-on-Sea FY8 1LX. Dr. Sharon Johnson speaking on “Family Therapy” providing an overview of family therapy, giving special focus to serving the setting as well as the individual members through understanding family functions and development and practical approaches to helping. £40 inc. 3 course lunch discounted by £5 for ACC members. Further details from Administrator ACC NW on 01524-824862 or via email rsc858@ btinternet.com Short AGM during lunch hour to appoint Regional Committee etc. Friday 3 to Sunday 5 February 2012 – Biennial Conference The Dalmeny Hotel, St. Anne’s-on-Sea FY8 1LX. Theme – “Therapeutic Relationships” preceded on Friday 3 February by a Training Day incorporating workshops by Maureen Davies (Shame series) & Teresa Onions (adapted ACC Pastoral Care Foundation Course) . Conference Keynote Speakers: Dr. Chris & Pauline Andrew who will also lead workshops on creativity and toxicity in relationships. Other Conference Workshop Leaders: Maureen Davies (Shame series) Teresa Onions (Pastoral Care Course) & John Mayhew (Relational Properties). Conference brochure, Training Day flyer etc available from Conference Administrator Michael James (Tel: 01619692962) via accconferencereg@yahoo.com. Also downloadable from Conference webpage: www. northwesttraining.info. Discounted fees for ACC members and by early booking.

Derry/ Northwest, 2 dates TBC, Topic: Addiction, Speaker: Alex Bradley SPRING EVENT For your diaries, the Spring Event has as Speaker, Russ Parker, Director of Acorn Healing Trust. A Workshop will be held on Friday 2 March 2012 and the conference on Saturday 3 March. Venue (TBC). ACC in the South West October 1 Deep Release – Attachment November 18 – 20th Principles and Practice of Deep Release Part 2 November 26 Couple Counselling or Eating Disorders All of these days will be held at Shipham Village Hall, a very comfortable venue. Shipham is just off the A38, a short distance from J22 on the M5. Information and booking for the Deep Release days please contact Julie Timm on timmjulie@yahoo.co.uk. ACC in the South East Vacancy South East Region Syd Platt will be retiring from being Network Representative for London and the South East this year. There will be an election held at the South East AGM 29th October for the post of Network Representative South East. If you wish to nominate someone for this position a nomination form together with a job description can be obtained from Chris Thacker, Deputy Chair (Contact details on website). Before asking for an application form please ensure that the person is willing to stand and that you have a seconder. The ballot held at the AGM will include all those nominated. Job description details can be downloaded from the ACC website. Date for Diary - October 29th Training day with Chris & Pauline Andrew plus South East AGM. Further details to follow on website and next edition of accord. See the website, www.acc-uk.org for up to the minute news of ACC events throughout the UK.


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In Touch

In Touch Equipping the Church to restore the wounded We seek to support and train Churches and Christian communities to help those who have been traumatised, abused or wounded emotionally or spiritually, offering: • Local or regional teaching events for leaders and pastoral workers • 1-2-1 sessions for leaders and pastoral workers • Tailor-made events to equip a church or group to walk with the wounded • 1-2-1 sessions with a hurting person in conjunction with leaders’ training We believe that absolutely nobody is so damaged that Jesus cannot bring them to a place of freedom and fruitfulness. We want to help you to experience that truth in your own fellowship. For more information: Tel: +44 (0)1635 42348 website: www.heartfortruth.org.uk email: office@heartfortruth.org.uk

Benefit from our 30+ years of experience in counselling training. BA (Hons) in Counselling Leads to awards of Roehampton University Years 1 & 3 start October 2011 Years 2 & 4 start August 2011 Certificate of Christian Counselling Starts October 2011 INSIGHT DAY SEMINARS Insight into Dementia Thurs 8 Sept 2011 Insight into Anger Tues 18 October 2011 Insight into Addictions Mon 14 Novr 2011 Held at Waverley Abbey House, Surrey.

www.cwr.org.uk/counselling For further information email registry@cwr.org.uk or call 01252 784731.

We wish to expand our team of qualified volunteer counsellors who work with a range of professional counselling models, counselling as Christians rather than offering Christian counselling. Regular training sessions and opportunities for prayer and fellowship. For more information contact Julie Jarman Phone 01684 563456 Or well@thejarmans.net Registered Charity No 1001139 is affiliated to the ACC.

We offer a wide range of dynamic, interactive, well-illustrated CPD COURSES including

The Olive Tree Centre Counselling Services Transactions in the sand: 2-day experiential workshop Counsellors can experience for themselves sand tray, known as the ‘silent therapy’, and discover its usefulness with their clients. The workshop combines the effectiveness of sand tray for adults with theory based on transactional analysis, plus a biblical perspective. Through this workshop you will learn the basics of directive sand tray therapy. Come prepared to learn about yourself as well as about the techniques.

Venue: The Olive Tree Centre, Eastwood, Leigh-on-Sea, Essex. Dates: Fri 12 & Sat 13 Aug 2011 Cost: £60 inclusive Contact: Carol Westerman Tel: 07817106295

enquiries@olivetreecentre.org.uk www.olivetreecentre.org.uk

Based in Lewes, East Sussex A team of experienced, professional Christian counsellors Counselling for adults, irrespective of faith Subsidies available Person-centred/ integrative approach Telephone: 078 5222 1449 E-mail: mail@ southovercounselling.org.uk

Address: Church End, 1 Cockshut Road, Lewes, East Sussex. BN7 1JH www.southovercounselling.org.uk

BARNABAS COUNSELLING TRAINING

Qualified Counsellors Needed The Well Counselling Service is part of The Lyttelton Well, a Christian charity created and supported by local churches to reach out to the local community.

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New Listeners always needed Ashby de la Zouch and Loughborough Reg charity no.1082850 Professional, confidential, short and long term counselling and therapy for a wide range of issues. Placements for counsellors on degree or post grad diploma courses. Supervision for other professionals/ organizations. CPD Opportunities for 2011 Babette Rothschild Making Trauma Therapy Safer 15 -16 October 2011. £210 if booked before July 31st For more information contact 01530 560921 thehavencounselling@btconnect.com www.thehavenashby.org.uk

Specialist 20 hr Telephone Listening Course (ACC Accredited) Providing core Training for Christian Telephone/Helpline work. Courses can be provided for a minimum of 8 people anywhere in country. Opportunity to apply to be listeners on Crossline on completion. Further information: John Pither Crossline Coventry Tel:02476 615931 or crossline@covcitymission.org.uk

Level 2 Certificate in Counselling Brentwood, Exeter, Ipswich, Littlehampton Level 3 Certificate in Counselling Studies Chelmsford, Ipswich, South Woodford Level 4 Diploma in Counselling Crawley Level 5 Intermediate Diploma in Counselling Supervision Brentwood, Hemel Hempstead, Southampton, Ipswich Pastoral Care Course For more information and details of courses near you contact Julie Allday 01243 554462 info@barnabastraining.com

Mental Health Issues (9 July) Personality Disorders (10 July) Gestalt (18 July) Childhood Sexual Abuse (13 Sept) DID (14 Sept) Attachment - Inner Child Trauma & Dissociation Creative Counselling Body Work Plus our own Deep Release training programme Principles/Practice of Deep Release Levels I-4 For full details and a brochure please contact us: Dr Chris & Pauline Andrew 01277 226121 info@deeprelease.org.uk www.deeprelease.org.uk The Consultancy team offers a wide range of Personal & Professional Services

UNITED CHURCHES HEALING MINISTRY ADVANCED COUNSELLING SKILLS COURSE Exploring Counselling Skills and Theory from a Christian Perspective ACC Recognised and Accredited by Open College Network at Education Level 3 Commencing SEPTEMBER 2011. This 15 month, part-time course is for anyone who has a heart for people, is involved in pastoral care and/or is interested in becoming a Christian counsellor. For information pack and details of other training events Tel 01484 461 098, visit our website www.uchm.org Email: uchm@uchm.org or write to UCHM, The Elms, 78 New St, Milnsbridge, Huddersfield, HD3 4LD

The Willows Counselling Service

‘helping people get on in life and work’, Including FREE (Funded by Skills Funding Agency & ESF) Information & Advice career, learning & work related services under its ‘Next Step’ service contract for Adults over age 19 SE Region (incl Hants, Berks and Isle of Wight) • See Website for more information ‘matrix’ accredited • MARY BARKER (Managing Consultant & Director of Counselling Services) Tel/Fax: 01256 477 225 or 01983 292 588; Mobile: 078 23 77 53 54 Email: BridgeUK@aol.com Web: www.thebridgeconsultancy.co.uk

Level 2 Introduction to Pastoral Counselling Counselling - next course starts 4th October 2011. Level 3 One Year Certificate Course in Integrative Counselling – next course starts 7th September 2011. Saturday Training Days: 9th July– “Spiritual dimension in person centred counselling” Canon Stuart Taylor 12th November “When therapy goes wrong” Anne Kearns For further details, please contact: Avril Fray 01793 426650 training@willowscounselling.org.uk Christian Caring in the Community

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In Touch COUNSELLING – TEACHING – EQUIPPING CHRISTIAN MINISTRY: COUNSELLING

CHRISTIAN MINISTRY:

Beulah Counselling Service seeks to alleviate emotional suffering by providing affordable counselling support to all sections of the community. We provide a listening ear in a safe environment where difficult feelings can be aired, shared and explored, creating the opportunity for positive change and growth. Beulah is based in Edgware, NW London. Contact us on 0208 906 8664 or email beulahcounselling316@ googlemail.com

Healing For Abused People 19-21 August Ellel Glyndley Manor, E. Sussex Tel: 01323 440440 Healing For Victims of Accident & Trauma 12-14 August Ellel Grange, Lancaster Tel: 01524 751651 MicroNETS - Summer 30 July - 7 August Ellel Pierrepont, Farnham 01252 794060 Wild At Heart 12-14 August Ellel Scotland, Huntly Tel: 01466 799102 Overcoming Rejection 20 August Red Hill Christian Centre, Stratford-upon-Avon Tel: 01789 731427 The Truth about Sex and Sexuality 8-10 July Ellel Northern Ireland, Ballyclare Tel: 02893 344401 For more information contact the Centre as above. To receive our 2011 Handbook listing all our UK courses please call 01252 797381 or visit us at www.ellelministries.org

Counselling Together (Formerly Churches Counselling Together) offers a professional counselling service in the New Forest area and are looking for more counsellors to join the team as the service is expanding. The service is a charity and affiliated to ACC. We operate from various churches in the New Forest area, though counsellors can come from outside of this area. Placement: The applicant needs to be attending a Diploma course, preferably recognised by ACC and ideally in the “adapted CWR/Crabb model” or similar.

ECCP Training Earls Court Community Project (ECCP) Christian Counselling Training Courses, London An integrative approach to Christian counselling • Introduction to Community Counselling Sept 2011 • Certificate in Community Counselling Feb 2012 • Diploma in Community Counselling Sept 2012

Experienced Counsellors: Accredited with ACC or BACP and able to utilise a Christian Counselling Model. For this position a financial package could be negotiated.

For further information please visit:

Team meetings, socials, retreats and training etc are arranged from time-to time.

Email: training@eccp-ywam.org.uk

Telephone CCT(NF) Administration on 01425 618 108 www.churchescounsellingtogether.co.uk

Gower’s Christian Conference and Retreat Centre set in a stunning location in South Wales Prayer Ministry Retreats in June & September Walking with Jesus in July Individually Guided Silent Retreat in September Overcoming Eating Disorders in September & October Send for 2011 brochure or see website for other events Self-catering studio apartment for personal retreats (prayer/counselling available if booked in advance) On-site bookshop Nicholaston House Penmaen, Gower, Swansea, SA3 2HL Tel: 01792 371317 Email: managers@nicholastonhouse.org www.nicholastonhouse.org www.helenawilkinson.co.uk

Web: www.eccp-ywam.org.uk Phone: 0207 471 7030 Earls Court Community Project (ECCP) c/o St. Barnabas Church, 23 Addison Road, London, W14 8LH

CCTS teaches a high quality, professional, Christ centred biblical model of counselling. Introduction to Christian Counselling. NOCN Level 2 We are running this popular course again .It is ideal for anyone involved in pastoral care, social action/ community work, or of course those wishing to explore counselling itself. Southampton: May – July 2012 Edinburgh: October - December 2011 Bournemouth: Sept - Dec 2011 Certificate in Christian Counselling. NOCN Level 3 Southampton: Jan 2012 – Dec 2012 Edinburgh: March 2012 - August 2013 For details please contact: Central Counselling & Training Service, Central Hall, St Mary Street, Southampton, SO14 1NF Tel: 02380 385247 e-mail: counselling@ccts-southampton.org Website: www.ccts-southampton.org

At New Dawn we provide a friendly, professional and confidential counselling service for all ages, within the safe setting of a dedicated centre. We have a number of counselling rooms, one of which is suited and well equipped for working with children and young people. Our diverse team of counsellors are skilled and experienced across a range of areas including: loss & bereavement, anxiety, stress, all forms of abuse, trauma, self-harm, low self-esteem, phobias, eating disorders and marriage & relationship difficulties. We also have a training room and counselling rooms for hire at competitive rates. For more info contact our reception at: New Dawn Counselling Centre, 158 High Road, Beeston, Nottingham NG9 2LN Telephone: 0115 917 0500 Email: info@newdawncounselling.org.uk or visit our website at www.newdawncounselling.org.uk Reg. Community Interest Co. No. 6036539

Counselling and Training Counselling Training starting in September Level 2 – Counselling Skills Level 3 – Counselling Studies CPD Events Counselling Young People 3rd September - £70 A Pastoral Response to Sex Addiction and Pornography 3rd November - £40 For more details Tel: 01473 217694 or contact@inspireipswich.org.uk

Director of Counselling We want to appoint a qualified counsellor to run the All Souls counselling service. As part of the ministry team they will also help maintain the pastoral care structures at the church. Parttime salaried role based at St Paul’s, Robert Adam Street. Full job description and application form available at www.allsouls.org, or contact us at: recruitment@allsouls.org

TEACHING - EQUIPPING Times of Refreshing ministries Northern Ireland Pastoral Ministry Training Course (Inner Healing and Deliverance) A 12 week course Commencing 7th Sept ‘11 ACC Accredited – 54 Hours • Counselling Skills • Power of the spoken word • Occultism • Ministry of Deliverance ….. • and much much more

Directors: Brian Patton & Lorraine Waddell  +44 (0)28 9045 8472

Times of Refreshing Ministries 265 Woodstock Road Belfast N. Ireland BT6 6PT

Reg. Charity No: XR11651 email: info@trmbelfast.org

Closing date for applications: 22nd July 2011

For more information please contact us.

All Souls Church, 2 All Souls Place, London, W1B 3DA

Tel: 028 9045 8472

The Centre for Relational Care offer counselling sessions to the local community in the South Warwickshire area. In addition, CRC offers couple therapy to a much wider catchment area in the form of residential 24 hour or 3 day care for couples who want to enhance their marriage relationship or are experiencing difficulty in it. Events offered as follows: 3 Day Care for Marriage 2011 Sep 9th – 11th Nov 25th – 27th To book a 24-Hour or for more information contact: Heather Howell on: 01926 430901 Or email: heather@relationalcare.co.uk www.relationaltraining.co.uk www.relationalcare.co.uk

Email: info@TRMBelfast.org www.trmbelfast.


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