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Issue no. 69 Winter 2010/11

Magazine for the Association of Christian Counsellors

accord Lessons Learned from the Good Shepherd Diane Langberg Sex Therapy David Hall Working at Home Barbra Depledge

Plus Regulation Update


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South East: Syd Platt Tel: 084 5123 5189 email: southeast@acc-uk.org

South West: Wendy Haslam Tel: 084 5123 5242 email: southwest@acc-uk.org

ACC News (incl Regulation Update) 11-15

Sex Therapy - David Hall 16-17

Working at Home - Barbra Depledge 18-19

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Lessons Learned from the Good Shepherd – Diane Langberg 4-9

Mental Health and the Friendly Church- Rob Waller, Steve Seedall and Tim Wood 22-24

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It seems we have an early start to what may prove to be a long hard winter. The preparation for this edition is happening just as there are many areas of the country snow-bound. I understand that some supermarkets have had few deliveries and combined with panic buying, provisions are very low! Let’s all be mindful of how we may reach out to others that may need some help during the difficulties of inclement weather. The book of Ecclesiastes talks of “a time to gain and a time to lose.” (Ecc 3:6 NKJV) We encounter many losses in life. Often when people talk of loss, they think of only death and bereavement. But within the counselling world, there is a recognition that there are all kinds of losses which can have adverse effects upon our wellbeing and mental health. Loss will incur a period of grief, mourning and sadness but then often there are new opportunities that open up and with opportunity comes growth. New opportunities is a theme within ACC at the moment. As you are aware, John Nightingale and myself had the opportunity to address the Professional Liaison Group (PLG) in London a few weeks ago. We had very positive feedback from the PLG members that the content of our presentation helped them to understand the position of ACC members and others in the voluntary sector. There was much discussion about the entry level to the national register and intensive workshops and discussions are still underway. Please remember to pray for John in particular as he is ACC representative at all of the meetings. He continues to make good working relationships and has had some significant input particularly this last year. ACC have you, the members, at the forefront of all we do. We have recently appointed someone to edit our website following a successful announcement in ‘e news.’ Peter has been a member of ACC for a number of years so is familiar with the work and, of course, counselling. He will be researching articles and relevant items of news, expanding the members’ section with useful documents and papers, and also editing the content of the site. Do keep visiting the

site to see as the new developments take place in the coming year. There is another brand new opportunity that is advertised in this edition. As CEO I will be changing my role and another person will be appointed to be based purely in Head Office (Coventry). The Director of Operations will take on day to day administration and staff management and will be the point of contact for members wishing to speak to a senior person within the office. Apart from the obvious requirement for management and administrative skills, it should be a person with some counselling knowledge and also some marketing knowledge and experience would be helpful. This suitable applicant will also deputise for the CEO on occasions. If you wish to apply or know of someone who would be suitable, please contact the office or look at the website for further details. The CEO will retain the strategic element of the work but will also be taking ACC out to as many organisations and churches as possible. This is also an opportunity for you as members of ACC to help me in my new role. Would your church minister/leader be open to the possibility of me coming to speak to him/her about ACC and how we can help and support in the pastoral work and life of the church? Please speak to them and contact me with their details if I can meet with them. We have pastoral resources and organisations we can link churches with in order to help further their work and support congregations effectively. The conference is again very popular and bookings are coming in. Don’t forget to go on-line to book in and ensure you have a place. Conference is a good opportunity to network, as well as the great CPD that is delivered. The board and executive look forward to seeing you. Please do approach staff and trustees on any issue or just for a chat. Look forward to the new opportunities that come your way in 2012. Keep warm!


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The Challenge of Following n By Diane Langberg

Humility The first lesson I want to share is underscored in Philippians 2:5-8: “Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus: who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant.... He humbled himself and became obedient to death— even death on a cross!” The Lamb of God identified with and served those who were cursed. I suspect that you are like me in that you prefer to be with attractive, like-minded people, those with whom you have a natural affinity. When you are in a group you want to be aligned with those who are clean, bright, healthy, and relationally adept. Jesus, on the other hand, identified with those whose personalities or abnormalities isolated them from others. He identified with the demon-possessed, the blind, the diseased, and even the dead. It is not our nature to do this. We see the afflicted and back away. We are repulsed by crime and disease and social ineptness. We have an aversion to the tormented, the odd, or the unacceptable. I remember many years ago when I first began to see those who had been chronically sexually abused as children. I have never been abused.

I enjoy what I now know is the phenomenal privilege of having a mind completely free of any memories of any kind of abuse. I never have to worry that such memories might float to the surface or be triggered by certain circumstances, for they simply do not exist. But one of the women I saw in the early years of my counselling work had been repeatedly and sadistically abused by many others. As I began to ease myself down into those memories, I found myself experiencing nightmares and crying in my sleep. I did not like the nightmares and clearly remember wrestling with whether I could go forward in my counselling work. I don’t have memories like this. Why would I want this in my head? I don’t want to picture these things. I don’t want them disturbing my sleep. I don’t have to do this. Only the reminder of the Good Shepherd’s humble sacrifice could help me resolve that dilemma: “Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.” A while ago another client asked me an astute question: “After all these years, does your head ever get mixed up about where your memories stop and others’ memories begin?” Well, after thirty-five years in the counselling profession the answer is yes, sometimes my head gets mixed up. Sometimes I think or feel things that arise from my identification with survivors rather than from my own life experience. It is only through the power of the Holy Spirit that you and I can humble ourselves and identify with those whose nature or experience is contrary to our own. And it is only the Holy Spirit who saves us from being overwhelmed by the secondary or vicarious trauma that has become a significant issue for many therapists. But if we are to follow the example of the Good Shepherd, we must indeed humble ourselves and wade into the muck and mire of our clients’ lives in order to help and nurture them, for that is the kind of shepherding Jesus did. He so identified with the objects of his redemptive work that he became the Lamb and bore the punishment for our sin.

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to do. Also, if God had gifted me for counselling work, why would he ask me to lay down that which he had given? Nevertheless I obeyed. I kept the practice open to a minimal degree and sent most of my referrals else where while I played with LEGO and Matchbox cars. During those precious years I learned something of what it means to set aside a good thing—something rightfully mine—for the sake of others. God had indeed called me to do some exceptional things, but he had also called me to be exceptional in the ordinary—to be holy in small places, loving with little people, unrecognized, and unapplauded.

Lessons Learned from the Good Shepherd Over the years I have had the privilege of learning many lessons from our Good Shepherd; I would like to share some of these lessons with you. These are not the lessons from University or internship, though certainly the knowledge and training of those years are essential to our calling. Instead, the lessons of the Good Shepherd can actually infuse our knowledge, training, and experience with the life of Christ for the good of our clients and to the glory of God.

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Choosing Lesser Things The second powerful lesson I have learned is similar to that of humility. It has to do with choosing lesser things. The Good Shepherd emptied himself of those things that elevated him. He demanded no recognition. He did not complain that Nazareth was too limited a sphere for his great gifts. He did not seek to dominate those under him. When the disciples started to squabble over who would be greatest in God’s kingdom, Jesus got down on his hands and knees and washed their dirty feet. Unfortunately, in recent decades, the Christian community has been infiltrated with the beliefs that bigger is better, that more means more important, and that status, money, and power are worthy of worship. Now I am not foolish enough to say that bigger is always worse or that more is always bad or that status, money and power are inherently evil. But what I do believe with all my heart is that such things are of this earth and are transient, not worthy of our devotion. I remember an inner struggle I experienced during the years when my two sons were quite small. Our sons were born shortly after I finished my doctorate and got my license. I had been in private practice for a short while, and it was clear that the practice was about to take off. However, I distinctly sensed God directing me to devote myself to mothering my young children. (I realize that he does not lead every young mother to do this.) I loved my work, so setting it aside to be a mom was not an easy thing

It is a lesson I have had to learn again and again, and not just with little people but also with slow, mean, difficult, and resistant people. To follow the Good Shepherd, we must learn that greatness resides not in what we have or what we do. Rather, greatness is the freedom to set aside what we have and what we do in order to love the sheep God has entrusted to us. Restraint Restraint is a voluntary limitation of oneself for the benefit of someone else. The grocery store where I usually shop has a policy of hiring several employees who are intellectually limited. One particular man has been there about ten years; his job is to help people put their groceries in their cars. He is hard of hearing and lacks social skills. The first time I had him put my groceries in my car, he was slow and he threw the bags (eggs and all) into the trunk in disarray. I decided that from then on I would load the groceries myself. On future shopping trips this man would offer help, and I would politely say, “No, thank you.” One day after I declined his help, he asked, “Are you sure, ma’am?” There was almost a pleading tone to his voice, and I realized that he was being rejected by one customer after another. I felt the tug of God’s Spirit. I was, of course, in a hurry. It was raining—hard. But the tug came again, so I said yes. I stood in the rain, carefully made a couple of suggestions, and together we put the bags in the car. When we finished, the man asked, “Did I do a good job?” “Yes, you did a good job,” I assured him. He seemed relieved. “Lots of ladies get mad at me because I don’t do so good. I drove home weeping, asking God to teach me what that


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lesson was about. This man suffers. He suffers in ways I have never experienced. He is treated with anger, disregard, annoyance, and frustration. God called me that day to restrain myself—to restrain my quickness, my skill, my independence, my powers in order to bestow dignity, value, and esteem on one who was suffering. As I pull into my garage, I sensed God saying to me, Is that not a picture of my incarnation? Is that nor a tiny taste of what I did for you? God of the universe, a baby. Infinite wisdom, a little boy. Creator of the worlds, a carpenter. Master of the seas, in a boat. Eternal life, dead and buried. And I didn’t want to restrain myself for retarded man! Jesus, the Good Shepherd, says to us, “Why do you call me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?” (Luke 6:46). I say that I love Christ, that I am a Christian psychologist—but then I am impatient or intolerant or frustrated with a darkened, confused, or frightened person. I will not be able to wait for a trauma survivor articulate the unspeakable unless I learn the lesson of restraint. I will be intolerant of the repeated failings of an addict unless I learn the lesson of restraint. I will throw in the towel with an Axis II personality disorder unless I learn the lesson restraint. I will refuse to walk through the valley of the shadow of death with someone who is terminally ill unless I have learned the lesson of restraint. The work of shepherding requires that we limit our words, because people who suffer cannot absorb a barrage of words or understand the language of high intellect. We will have to restrain the number of our syllables, the loudness of our voices, the suddenness of our movements, and the intensity of our emotions if are to provide a safe place for the scared, the suffering, the traumatized, silenced. Restraint allows as to connect with others, to be a blessing, and to blessed ourselves. It also means willingly stepping down into the muck and mire of tragedy and suffering so that we may extend help and hope. Often, when we are faced with the need to restrain some aspect of ourselves. or to alter our agenda, we say, “That’s just not me.” I am not sure where we get the idea that we should do only that which comes naturally or easily. I have quick mind and a quick mouth. I have a high energy level. They make

jokes in the office about my going through the halls on Rollerblades. But my Shepherd is teaching me that I cannot shepherd his suffering sheep simply by doing what comes naturally. That which is immeasurable came to us in a very tiny package. If we would follow him, we too must learn the lesson of restraint in order to bring light and life to his sheep.

• What is it like to serve naked people? Naked people want to hide from you. They feel exposed. They do not want to be seen. To not humiliate them requires great tact and care. They do not want you close. They want you to go away. Their ambivalence is overwhelming. But you cannot cover their nakedness unless you move in close.

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• What is it like to serve sick people? Sick people focus on their pain. It is all they can think about, and their interest in you extends only to what you can do to help them feel better. Sick people live in small worlds. Sick people talk about what hurts. Sick people are needy and often messy. Sick people require constant care and oversight.

Another key lesson the Shepherd has taught me is that of service. Certainly the things we are trained to do are avenues of service: We counsel, we teach, we supervise, we write, we consult, we pastor. However, I believe that the service to which the Good Shepherd calls us to goes far deeper than the skills we have been trained to utilize. In Matthew 25 Jesus speaks of returning in all his glory and separating the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. When he speaks to the sheep, he describes why he recognizes them as belonging to him: “For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me’ (verses 35-36). Jesus is talking about acts of merciful service to particular kinds of people. I fear we often read such passages and either romanticize them or fail to really consider what our Shepherd is saying to us. Think about it with me. • What is it like to serve someone who is really hungry arid thirsty? I do not mean someone who has skipped lunch. I mean someone who is starving. Hungry, thirsty people are in great need. They may be demanding. They do not care about you. They do not think clearly. They want only to have their needs met. They are desperate, clamouring, grabbing. • What is it like to serve strangers? They may make no sense to you. Their ways are foreign. They seem odd. You do not know why they do what they do. You cannot serve strangers effectively until you take the time to understand them. If you do not, it is only too easy to serve them in a manner that is frightening, inappropriate, or offensive to them.

• What is it like to serve prisoners? You cannot serve prisoners unless you go to prison. You must enter a place of locked doors and little light. You must enter a place of restricted movement. You must enter a place where you are watched and where trust is rare. Clearly, Jesus’ redemptive work demanded identification at the deepest level with the most shocking varieties of human suffering. After going through this list, Jesus makes the amazing statement that his sheep are those who do all these things for him: “Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me” (verse 40). You see, the lesson I have learned about service is not that I am simply called to serve

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people, but rather that, in serving those who suffer, I am in some mysterious way directly serving the One I follow. At the close of each year, I try to invest some time before God asking him to show me a Scripture to truly learn to live out in the coming year. One year I was led to Colossians 1:24: “Now I rejoice in what was suffered for you, and I fill up in my flesh what is still lacking in regard to Christ’s afflictions, for the sake of his body, which is the church.” I believe this verse means we are called to be sensitive to the presence of the sufferings of Christ in all sufferers. Every time I encounter grief, I am encountering a grief that he bore. Every time I encounter the sufferings of a stranger or a prisoner, I am encountering burdens he endured. The lesson of service means this: You and I live in solemn trust to the afflicted to mediate to them all that is to be obtained through the life and death of Christ. In so doing we serve the Lord Christ. Leadership When Jesus speaks of himself as the Good Shepherd, he says he “calls his own sheep by name and leads them out.... He goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice” (John 10:3-4). In order to be a fit shepherd, I must willingly go where I would take the sheep I tend. One of my clients shared with me that a psychology professor had told her class that, if they ever decided to go into therapy, they should be very careful whom they chose as mentors. The reason? If they spent any significant amount of time in therapy, the professor explained, they would leave looking to some degree like their therapists. As the shepherd goes, so the sheep go. Only those who are faithful disciples of Jesus will be fit shepherds for the sheep. Remember, the Good Shepherd himself became a lamb. To lead effectively we must perpetually “behold the Lamb” in our own lives. Take time to consider these questions: • Do I really think I can lead someone out of a life of deceit if I live with ongoing, hidden sin in my own life?


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• Do I really think I can lead someone away from bitterness and revenge toward his or her spouse if I harbour such feelings in my own heart? • Do I really think I can lead someone out of captivity to an addiction if I continue be live enslaved to something in my own life? • Do I really think I can lead someone with grace and love when I do not deal graciously and lovingly with the people in my world? Recently, I was working with a woman who had made the commitment to learn how to love what we might call a difficult man. Her husband is fearful, selfish, and controlling. The promise of reward in this marriage is not at all great, but the wife has chosen to learn to love rather than leave. One day, while we were talking about what that love might look like, she stopped me in my tracks with a question: “I just want to know one thing before we go on: Do you work to love your husband like this?” It was a heart-searching question, one I knew was not just from her but also from God. My husband is an easy man to love; the rewards in our nearly three decades of marriage have been great. My circumstances were a piece of cake next to hers. But the challenge still stands: If I am going to teach this woman to be Christ-like, to love her husband as Christ loves us, then I must be the kind of shepherd who goes before her sheep. I need to love my husband in the same way that I am calling her to learn to love her husband. The lesson of leadership is that shepherding is not about imparting knowledge or information. Rather, shepherding is about going before someone in order to impart life. And isn’t that exactly what the Good Shepherd has done for us? There is absolutely nothing Jesus asks of us that he himself has not exemplified. He who calls us to truth is Truth. He who calls us to love one another loved us unto death. He who calls us to carry the burdens of others was broken by our burdens. He who calls us to enter the muck and mire of others’ lives endured our filth. He who calls us to weep with those who weep, wept over us. The Good Shepherd goes before. Those who would lead sheep are called to go before the sheep. That is true leadership.

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As the Master goes, so goes the Servant I have heard that a shepherd uses his pet lambs to gather lost sheep. These lambs are so fond of being near the shepherd that, when he calls out to them, they instantly follow him, bringing the lost sheep with them. Likewise, our Shepherd asks us to be so attached to him that, no matter where he places us, others will be induced to follow him because we have gone before them and have followed him ourselves. As we draw nearer to our Shepherd, we bring those lost sheep with us. The redemptive work of Christ demanded that he identified at the deepest level with all the most shocking varieties of human suffering. As the Master was, so must his servants be. He who dealt with the enemy’s occupation of the human heart has called us to do the same. As we follow him, we will learn lessons similar to those I have mentioned—and many more. Each of those lessons calls us to behold the Lamb and repent. As we are taught the lesson of restraint, we see the Lamb who is God in the flesh. As we are taught the lesson of humility; we see Eternal Glory setting aside rank and honour. As we are taught the lesson of service, we see the Sovereign Over All washing feet and touching the untouchable. As we are taught the lesson of leadership, we see Jesus going before, being and doing what he calls us to be and do. To follow the Lamb is to enter into the fellowship of his sufferings. It means that, like him, we will get down in the filth of life in this world. The more we are willing to follow him into the dual mysteries of iniquity and suffering, the more of his beauty we will see. The threads of sacrifice that we discovered at the entrance of God into time will lead us directly to the throne of God where. we will see his glory, not just in the heavens or in the flesh this time but in its fullness. Revelation 5:2-14 tells us that we will hear a mighty angel proclaiming in a loud voice, “Who is worthy to break the seals and open the scroll?” And the answer will be, “See, the Lion.... He is able.” Then we will see a Lamb, looking as if it had been slain, standing in the centre of the throne. And we will bear the voices of many angels, numbering ten thousand times ten thousand. They will encircle the throne and sing. “Worthy is the Lamb, who was slain, to receive power and wealth and wisdom and

strength and honour and glory and praise!” Then you and I who have followed this Lamb will join with them, singing: “To him who sits on the throne and to the Lamb be praise and honour and glory and power, for ever and ever!” Amen.

Dr. Diane Langberg, who is the key note speaker at the ACC Conference in January, is a practicing psychologist whose clinical expertise includes 35 years of working with trauma survivors and clergy. She speaks internationally on topics related to women, trauma, ministry and the Christian life.

She is the director of Diane Langberg, Ph.D. & Associates, a group practice in suburban Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, staffed by Christian psychologists, social workers and counsellors. Dr. Langberg is Chair of the Executive Board of the American Association of Christian Counselors, serves on the boards of GRACE (Godly Response to Abuse in a Christian Environment), the Society of Christian Psychology, and World Reformed Fellowship. She is also founder of The Place of Refuge, an inner-city, non-profit trauma and training centre. She is married and has two sons.

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Director of Operations Exciting new post within the Association of Christian Counsellors. Working closely with the Chief Executive, the Director of Operations will manage the day to day administration and workings of the organisation. Based in the Head Office in Coventry, this is a full-time post – salary £25,000 to £28,000 according to experience and qualifications. Further details on ACC website www.acc-uk.org or phone 0845 124 9569 Closing date for applications 14 January 2011 Interviews 3 February 2011

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*The cost of the insurance includes insurance premium tax at the current rate of 5%

Regulation Update - John Nightingale writes: Following the October Professional Liaison Group (PLG) meeting when Greta Randle and myself were invited to do a presentation to the group, a couple of things were agreed. There was a general consensus that there should be different entry levels for counsellors and psychotherapists. Level 5 should be the threshold entry point for counsellors. There was also a suggestion that there should be acknowledgement of an entry point for counsellors at Level 7. Level 5 is one level higher that most current diplomas but having checked our current curricula, there would not need to be many adjustments. The Manna House diploma, for example, would be at about level 4½. The second agreement was that the official November PLG meeting would be cancelled to allow counsellors and psychotherapists to work on the potential standards of proficiency at the various levels. Therefore two meetings were arranged for the 15th November at University College London one for those with a particular interest in counselling and one for the psychotherapists. I was invited to attend the counselling meeting. Discussions at the meeting were, to say the least, lively. It was agreed that there were several important factors to keep in mind during the day’s discussion, not in any particular order of priority. 1. It is vital to prove that if there are to be different entry levels (5 and 7) that they do they have a clear public safety basis. 2. There are two levels of psychological presentation that clients make – “mild to moderate” and “severe”. Other buzz words would be complex, recurring and enduring. 3. A major distinctive would be around the issues of research and its application and understand. 4. Vital to remembered that, at whatever level of entry, the practitioner must be safe to work autonomously. The debate over words, phrases, descriptors etc was intense as we tried to agree the standards that should be required for registration at Level 5 and Level 7. Since the meeting various further drafts have be circulated for comment and it is planned to have a further meeting a couple of days before the December PLG to try to finalise a common position. Nothing is yet finally decided! These days are very demanding but we are achieving our aim (which we have been pursuing since 2001!) of having the voice of ACC heard in the debate over Regulation.

Surveys Thank you to everyone who has taken part in recent surveys that we have been conducting. To all members, affiliated organisations, training agencies and others who have been involved in sending information to us we are very grateful. There will be full details of the survey results on the website and in the next edition of accord we will publish a summary of the information we received. It is useful to have the information that you have submitted. It help in decision making, finding out what it is our members need and also gives opportunity for people to make suggestions. Again, many thanks and keep an eye out for further details. Training Standards Committee The board have taken a decision that the TSC will not be operating in the foreseeable future but may be reconvened as and when the regulation requirements for training become more clear. If agencies have courses for assessment we still have a number of assessors available for course recognition and approval. UK Directory of Christian Counselling and Pastoral Care Thank you to all who have opted to go into the next edition of the UK Directory. There will be additional pages within the directory and it will be an expanded version on previous editions. As well as individual counsellors and counselling centres, there will also be a section of other caring organisations. These will be useful for reference and maybe clients who may need the support of other agencies. The new developments have meant there has been a small delay in publishing the directory but we are currently continuing work with our partners, Premier Radio, to go to print as soon as possible. PR Consultant Over a number of years ACC have worked with a PR consultant, Debbie Hyde. This contract with Debbie will cease at the end of the year but we would like to record our thanks for the way she has found opportunities for ACC especially in radio work and for supporting the ACC representatives across the UK. The work of ACC Over recent months there has been intense discussion about the work of ACC and the way forward. When the Board met in September they identified the need to develop several new strategies over the next year or two. There will be an emphasis over the coming year to get ACC more widely known and on the map. The chair of ACC, Tony Ruddle will be speaking more about the Board’s decisions at the conference in January.


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Diary Dates Please make a note in your diary that the Training, Information and AGM day will be on 7th MAY 2011. This will constitute 5 hours of CPD and will be held in a venue in Coventry. This is also an opportunity to network, meet the board of ACC, and raise issues that

affect your counselling work. Also:- Organisations who are affiliated to ACC are invited to network and share information on 22nd June 2011. We will contact you in the spring with a programme and details of the venue. Lunch will be included within a very reasonable charge for the day.

ACC FEES FOR 2011 UK FEE

Membership Category

UK Quarterly payment option Overseas Fees Payable by Four Quarterly Instalments of:

Counsellor Joining Fee (per person)

£6.50

to be paid with first instalment

£6.50

Counsellor Membership (One Year)

£71.00

£20.50

£85.00

Counsellor Membership (Three Years)

£192.00

£230.00

Counsellor Membership (Five Years)

£300.00

£365.00

Dual Counsellor Membership (One year)

£128.00

£155.00

Dual Counsellor Membership (Three years)

£360.00

Dual Counsellor Membership (Five years)

£580.00

£700.00

Student Transfer or on Diploma (1 Year)

£54.00

£75.00

Student Transfer or on Diploma (2 Years)

£103.00

£143.00

Student Reduced Rate to Certificate Level if on Non-ACC courses

£435.00

£32.00

Pastoral Care Membership (One Year)

£36.00

Pastoral Care Membership (Three Years)

£97.00

Pastoral Care Membership (Five Years)

£37.00

£42.00 £12.00

£115.00

£155.00

£185.00

Pastoral Care Student transfer to Membership

£31.00

£41.00

Dual Pastoral Care Membership (One year)

£65.00

£76.00

Dual Pastoral Care Membership (Three years)

£185.00

Dual Pastoral Care Membership (Five years)

£295.00

£350.00

Accord Subscription (One year)

£28.00

£36.00

Accord Subscription (Three years)

£80.00

Accord Subscription (Five years)

£19.00

£9.00

£220.00

£103.00

£126.00

£162.00

Accreditation Fee

£93.00

£93.00

Emeritus Accreditation Fee

£46.00

£46.00

Affiliation Fee Turnover of over £10,000

£179.00

£52.00

Special Affiliation Fee for Organisations with Turnover <£10,000

£133.00

£39.00

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Category A incl. 3 Pastoral Care Memberships

£97.00

£28.00

£115.00

Category B incl. 5 Pastoral care Memberships

£153.00

£44.00

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Category C incl. 7 Pastoral care Memberships

£202.00

£58.00

£235.00

Category D incl. 10 Pastoral Care Memberships

£275.00

£80.00

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Church Affiliation:-

Fees that are fair: last year ACC did not increase fees in response to the economic difficulties. This year we have had to increase some of our fees by about 2% - 3% so that to some extent inflation increases on costs have can be covered. ACC greatly appreciates the loyalty of it’s members and their long-term committment . To refelect this all multiple year fees (i.e. membership for 3-5 years) hav e been reduced, some by as much as 10%. Savings over annual renewals are in

All embracing - Reflections on the Network Forum Syd Platt writes:- ACC has always valued every single member and valued any comments, suggestions and constructive criticisms to improve the way we operate. Wording and structure can often provide a perceived barrier between groups of people within an organisation. To demonstrate ACC’s all embracing outlook, we have made some changes in our structure. ACC UK now has a Network of representatives - one for each of Northern Ireland and the nations of Wales and Scotland and five for England (North East, North West, Midlands & East Anglia, South East and South West.) A meeting of the new Network Forum was held on 5th and 6th October at the Elim Conference centre, Malvern from where the view towards the Welsh hills was quite amazing.

some cases up to 15%. Therefore , if you are renewing your membership this year, we hope that you will consider taking advantage of this and renewing for 3 or 5 years, if you can afford to do so. Please also make sure that if you are a UK Tax Payer you complete the necessary paperwork to allow us to claim Gift Aid on your subscription. Thank you very much for your support and committment to ACC

View from Conference Centre

To further demonstrate inclusivity this was a combined event incorporating the pastoral care representatives away day, a pattern which will continue for future gatherings. As well as offering a time of sharing experiences and being informed of exciting opportunities being looked at by the Board of ACC, it was also a time exercise the little grey cells as we broke into groups to answer such questions as: Who are we serving? How do we do this? How can we assess how effective we are? What help and resources do we require? For some this meant some deep introspection. There was some great responses which will be feed back to the Board and have an impact on the future planning in ACC. The whole of the two days reinforced the message behind ACC’s new strap line: “Representing Christians who provide counselling and pastoral care”. Greta Randle, CEO of ACC, was present for the two days and seized upon an opportunity to talk about ACC to representatives of Elim church.

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Some of those attending

It appeared that each person who attended came away encouraged and further equipped to promote ACC and serve the membership with a new vitality. ACC Conferences in Northern Ireland ACC Northern Ireland’s Autumn 2010 flagship activity was a ‘tale of two cities’, with an evening seminar aimed at counsellors and psychotherapists entitled “Personality Disorders” presented at two venues to allow as many ACC members and other interested parties as possible to attend. On 14 October the seminar was held in Belfast. A week later the banks of the Lagan were exchanged for the banks of the River Foyle, with the seminar being presented in the walled city of Londonderry in the north. This was virgin territory for an ACC Northern Ireland event, but proved fruitful, with a good numbers attending, including several people coming from over the border in Donegal. We were very pleased to welcome as speaker Dr Andrew Collins, a consultant psychiatrist who is also involved in the field of Christian counselling. Andrew expertly guided his audiences through the different categories of personality disorder; what causes it to happen; presentation; management and referral. Speaking on how Christian counsellors deal with their clients, he commented that: “Our personalities are under renovation, Dr Andrew Collins which gives us great hope despite great difficulties”. There was positive feedback for the seminars, not least from the variety of people who attended, including counsellors, psychotherapists, students and staff from local further and higher education colleges and universities, doctors, nurses and pastoral carers. Indeed the large majority of attendees at the Londonderry seminar had never previously, resulting in ACC having made many new contacts, especially in the north of the province.


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ACC South West conference On 16 October 2010 40 people gathered at Locking Castle Church in Weston Super Mare for this training day and conference for counsellors, pastoral carers and all who care for people who are hurting. ACC SW was delighted to report that every area of the South West region was represented bar the Channel Islands, who sent their good wishes, and that more non-ACC members attended than at any previous AC SW event, with one person deciding to join ACC as a result. This made the day an excellent one for networking and raising ACC SW’s profile. The keynote workshop of the day was “A Journey into Hidden Pain: Exploring Inner Hurt, Pain and Therapeutic Techniques, led by ACC SW representative Wendy Haslam, and based on her book “The Void: A Journey into Hidden Pain”. The workshop explored different areas of loss that we experience in life that may leave a ‘void’ that causes discomfort or more. It covered areas that may leave that loss within us including health issues, criminal actions e.g. rape and domestic violence, premature death, relationship issues and our roots. Positive evaluation form feedback and comments from attendees endorsed the workshop as helpful and revealing. ACC SW was also delighted to welcome ACC founder member David Walker as an attendee, and to hear his words of support for their activities.

ACC founder member David Walker with Linda van Peborgh

Responses to the article “The Third Wave of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy - Mindfulness” in the Autumn issue of accord. Dear accord, I wonder if I might make a comment on the last ACC journal article on Mindfulness and meditation? The article was written with obvious care and concern about what is clearly a key topic for counselling these days. (I write as a member of BACP also). I happen to have come to Christ out of a New Age background with quite intensive experience of

meditation in non-Christian spiritual settings. The area that did not seem to me to be covered in the article was just that of meditation itself: what is it when spoken of as Christian? There did not seem to be any reference to Christian writing on the topic, so may I jump right in with the suggestion that Campbell McAlpine’s detailed study THE PRACTICE OF BIBLICAL MEDITATION might be a useful starting point for a possible later article that would begin to define the exercise in specifically Christian terms. If I may comment on the basis of my own many years of experience, I am quite clear that meditation outside of Christ is not in any way the same as meditation in either secular or non- Christian religious terms. The key is the focus, as indeed it is in all other aspects of our lives but particularly so in this form of spiritual communication--which is the opposite of passive, despite its popular image. (Name withheld at author’s request) Dear accord You may want to put my comments in about the ‘Third Wave’ article in the last issue. I found the article very helpful as I have suffered with a lot of anxiety and tried to deal with it by the traditional CBT way but I found it did not work. I had learnt a bit about mindfulness and tried just accepting my feelings of anxiety rather than trying to get rid of them or change my thought process. So I would just rest back and let them come and this I found very helpful. It was very good to read a Christian article about the third way and it confirmed what I was already finding worked for me. It was very encouraging. (Name withheld at author’s request) Dear accord I read with great interest the article by Sarah Plum on the arrival on Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), the ‘third wave’ of CBT. Two issues are raised, the clinical application of MBCT, and concerns that some but not all Christians may have with the theory and practise of Mindfulness. Concerning the clinical aspect of MBCT, I have found that techniques from MBCT fit in very well with my own practise of Focusing and Experiential Psychotherapy. I tend to use Focusing inside the counselling room and encourage clients to use MBCT outside of the therapy room. MBCT encourages clients to notice in their body, the different thoughts, feelings, emotions, and impulses to behave in a particular way, without either over-

identifying with them, giving in to them or actually disputing or challenging them. Often clients will alternate between concentrating on their breath, or a grounding exercise through noticing the floor beneath their feet and the disturbing or depressive feelings that they are experiencing. In my own counselling practise I have adapted MBCT techniques, for use with a range of issues, including depression, (which it was originally designed for), anger management issues, addiction issues, panic attacks etc, and this list is not exhaustive. My clients have informed me that the combination of Focusing in the counselling room and MBCT outside of the therapy room has considerably helped them in their recovery, across a range of issues, including depression, panic attacks, and addiction issues, In the interests of honesty, I would also point out that some clients can do MBCT, but not Focusing, and other clients are not in place to do either. I therefore adapt my therapeutic practise to the needs of the individual clients. A Brief example of how MBCT this would work is as follows. I encourage clients with addictions to practise a whole body awareness noticing and acknowledging exercise. The more aware they are of their body, the greater the chance of them noticing the addictive craving in its earlier stages. Also there is evidence that people with addictions tend to have low body awareness. When the client notices the addictive craving, he/she would be encouraged to notice where they can feel it in their body. This act puts them ‘in relationship’ with that addictive craving, rather than acting on it, or disputing or repressing it. They may (for example) then grab a piece of fruit, and start the ‘raisin’ (or any other fruit or food) exercise. They deliberately put all their awareness into the mouth, noticing the flavours, sounds, and texture of the fruit. They would alternate this with acknowledging the automatic addictive craving, just observing the thoughts, feelings, emotions, sensations, and urges and blocked energy tied up in that craving. . The cravings normally last for about 5 minutes, will peak in intensity, before dying away. If they can survive this craving, they have had relapse prevented! The feedback from clients, who have tried this technique, is that after practising and succeeding with it, the addictive cravings themselves begin to lessen in their intensity. This is true of other uses including use for anger management, and panic attacks. Of course clients do not always succeed in using it and sometimes the client is not in a place to use these techniques at all, as mentioned above I also use Focusing in the counselling room. Focusing like MBCT, starts off with body awareness, and noticing

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and acknowledging how issues feel in the body. Focusing goes a step further however, in encouraging the client to ‘listen to’ (without necessarily agreeing with), with addictive urge, suicidal impulse, panicky feeling or whatever the issue is. As the clients treat whatever comes with gentle non judgmental curiosity, the issues begin to unfold, change, and feel different in the body. Both MBCT and Focusing encourage clients to process their issues on a pre-articulate and bodily felt sense level. We clearly need more research on the application of MBCT and Focusing and, as stated, not all clients are in a position to use these methods. Regarding the religious objections to MBCT, in my own research, I have found that there are many positive scriptures concerning the body. In Genesis we find that God made Man from the dust of the ground and breathed into him, so he became a living being. He is also made in the image of God. The psalmist states of his body, that he is ‘fearfully and wonderfully made’, God has put eternity into the hearts of mankind. The Jews, unlike the nations around them, believed in the Resurrection of the body. I understand that a literal translation of one of the Psalms, states that God gives us counsel through the kidneys. On writing this letter I cannot find the references right now, they are from memory. But I am in good company; the author of Hebrews at one point says the same thing! Human beings in the OT are seen as a unity, rather than a ‘spirit’ dwelling in a body. The New Testament records the incarnation, ‘word became flesh’ has numerous examples of physical healings, and insists on the physical resurrection of Jesus, It was the Gnostics and not the early Christians who were hostile to the body. This hostility to the body can probably be traced back to influence of the ancient Greeks, rather than to the Bible itself. My own journey into healing really started when I abandoned hostility to my body and viewed it instead as fearfully and wonderfully made, with eternity in my heart, and a place in which God operates and dwells. Making friends with our God given body, is in my view the first step to deep-seated emotional healing. I am also inspired by what Paul wrote, that we are to ‘work out our own salvation in fear and trembling, for it is God working within us’. All quotes from memory! Yours sincerely John L Threadgold MA ( Focusing and Experiential Psychotherapy)


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The Christian difference in Christian Sex Therapy n Dr David Hall Many subscribers to accord will remember David Hall as the energetic family therapist who spoke so freely and profoundly at the 2009 ACC conference ‘A better Offering’. David and others from the Institute for Sexual Wholeness are keen to bring Christian Sex Therapy Training to the UK & Europe. Below David offers his thoughts about why a Christian approach to Sex Therapy is unique and vital. The field of sex therapy has interested me for a long time. In brief, sex therapy is the treatment of sexual dysfunction, such as difficulty with arousal, issues with sexual desire, or problematic sexual compulsions. In order to practice competently, counsellors and other health professionals need to have specific training in sex therapy. It is becoming more common for couples or individuals to seek counselling due to sexual problems and many counsellors are gravitating toward the field of sex therapy in order to better help their clients or to attract more clients through specialist qualifications. In both the United States and the United Kingdom, there are established secular organizations to provide training in sex therapy. With training already available, is there a need for a Christian training approach to sexual counselling? As a Christian Counsellor, I believe that my faith in Christ and His transforming presence within me and others changes the dynamics in how I counsel clients through their emotional and relational difficulties. I sought to be trained as a counsellor in a setting that integrated Christian theology with counselling practice because I believe that how I work with people is going to be affected by my faith. The view of the Christian counsellor and the view of the secular counsellor may be most different in the

area of sexuality. It is not that we believe different things about anatomy or physiology or physical sexual response. But a Christian counsellor’s moral outlook regarding sexuality may be quite different from a secular counsellor’s views. Classic Christian orthodoxy—those beliefs which are consistent with Scripture and have been held by the Church for most of its history—include beliefs which are contrary to our modern culture. Some examples include the belief that sexual intercourse is to be reserved for marriage only, that erotic thoughts need to be disciplined and expressed appropriately, that our bodies are not our own to do with as we please but must be submitted to God’s will. As Christians we do not see these as God’s arbitrary rules, but as instructions towards sexual health and guidelines for how sex will work best in our lives. Because I am a Christian, my view of sex and sexuality differs widely at times from the views of my non-Christian colleagues. It is not because my non-Christian colleagues are not skilled clinicians; many are. It is that the whole paradigm for approaching sexual health is skewed without God. The general belief of the secular paradigm is that all sexual behaviour is permissible as long as it “does not hurt anybody.” As a Christian, I have a much deeper understanding of the word “hurt.” A husband may not be “hurting” anyone in an obvious way by constantly looking at pornography; many secular counsellors see this as benign, and some see it as possibly helpful. But a Christian believes that the husband is poisoning his mind by fixating on unrealistic and unhealthy desires, that pornography use breaks covenant with his wife that ultimately he is deviating from the blueprint God has given for his sexual well-being. A secular counsellor might be doing excellent work with a couple to help the wife become orgasmic, but could lead the couple astray if the goal is only orgasm as the ultimate experience. Also, to help the wife reach orgasm the counsellor may suggest practices that direct the couple away from God’s blueprint, such as using pornography together in order to

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heighten arousal. The wife may become orgasmic, but the couple’s vision of God’s desire for their sexual health is further distorted and deeper heartaches will likely follow. By having God’s guidance, the Christian counsellor has the freedom to see not just the orgasm, but also the spiritual health of the couple’s relationship, how their journey to become orgasmic can bring them closer to each other and to God, and how, when achieved, orgasm can be an amazing illustration of God’s love for them.

there are other elements of the couple’s relationship to explore, including spiritual and emotional levels and how that impacts their relational and sexual expectations and practices. When getting beyond the mechanics of sex, one has to have a moral context to be able to explain the emotional and spiritual parts. It is true that non-Christian Counsellors must practice within an ethical perspective, yet usually this elevates sexuality above much else and misses the profound weight of our faith and how death is overcome with resurrection.

CASE STUDY:

For these reasons I believe there is a need to teach a specifically Christian approach to sex counselling. A secular approach is incomplete. Sexuality is far more complicated and precious than most of our secular colleagues believe it to be. Christians are often accused of being negative about sex, yet the larger culture trivializes sex, treating it as superficial and meaningless, not looking deeper than orgasms and sexual highs. In reality, sexuality offers all of us the opportunity to experience more complex realms of emotion and spirituality.

As an example, George and Alice, a couple in their late 20s, married for three years, come to counselling. They began dating in university but did not engage in any sexual activity with each other until they were married. However, George reports that he looked at pornography regularly during this time. He states that he felt guilty about it, but he saw the pornography and masturbation as a way for him to stay sexually abstinent with Alice. The couple report that after they were married for a few months, George began to experience difficulty ejaculating during intercourse, needing a long period of thrusting in order to orgasm. This has become increasingly uncomfortable, even painful for Alice and is causing emotional problems in their relationship. George sees his problem ejaculating as a challenge to his masculinity and Alice wonders if George finds her attractive. In trying to address the problem, George found that he could ejaculate more quickly if they used pornography as part of their lovemaking. What does a trained Christian Counsellor in this situation have to offer over a secular sex counsellor? A secular counsellor will likely have narrower a view of the situation. What will he or she see as success in working with this couple? The secular counsellor might see the pornography as a helpful tool in addressing the problem and if the only point of treatment is to decrease time to ejaculation, he might be right. But the Christian Counsellor who is trained in this area will have tools to guide George and Alice to go deeper. Beyond the established medical and behavioural protocols for working with male orgasmic disorder,

Although Christian sexual beliefs are disputed by our culture, if we believe them to be true they have dramatic implications for how we work with people. Believing that God has given us His model for healthy sexual functioning and that when we operate within this model we are the happiest and most content sexually, it would be heartless if we did not desire to share this truth about God’s design with sexually hurting people around us. David Hall is a licensed counsellor and family psychotherapist in practice in Knoxville, Tennessee, in the United States. He is a member of the American Board of Christian Sex Therapists and a trainer for the Institute for Sexual Wholeness. For more information, go to www.davidhallmft.com For more information about training opportunities see the advertisement in the In Touch section of this accord.


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Reflections on working at home

Working at home is clearly only a possibility if you have the support and understanding of other members of your household. Chance encounters between clients and members of your family need to be avoided. But there are also implications if you have friends or neighbours who like to drop in without prior arrangement. People ringing the doorbell repeatedly and calling “Cooee – I know you’re there” through the letterbox are not helpful!!! Careful thought needs to be given to the location of the room you will use as a counselling room. If you have a large house you may be able to devote one room for this sole purpose. Others of us are not so fortunate. I do however use a room that is right next to the front door. If you are using a room that will necessitate clients traipsing through other rooms, you will need to consider how this will feel for you, your family and the client. I like the fact that clients do not need to see or pass more “personal” areas of the house. Access for those with limited mobility is another issue to consider.

All these are practical considerations, but above and beyond these, any practitioner considering working at home will need to think through carefully how they will cope emotionally and psychologically with having clients in their home. I am perhaps fortunate that, after 40 years in social work and counselling, I have learnt extensive skills in cutting off from work and maintaining boundaries. If you are prone to worry about clients outside of session times, then having them in your home may only enhance this and therefore not be for you.

It is clearly important that the room used does not contain personal items such as family or other photos and I feel it is preferable for there to be a minimum of “clutter” or other potentially distracting material. I explain to clients that I am not able to offer waiting facilities – both because I cannot be interrupted to let them in if I am with my previous client – and because I do not want them in other areas of the house unsupervised. Therefore my clients know they need to wait in their cars until their appointment time. Where I have clients who come by bus, I try to time their appointments to coincide with the bus timetable! Access to toilet facilities will also have to be considered. I try to ensure the bathroom is clutterfree and it is clear which towel they can use. I personally do not feel that a few “noises off ” from other parts of the house are too much of a problem – providing these are minimal and not intrusive. In few settings is it possible to avoid the distant sound of doors opening and closing, traffic outside the building etc. These can in some circumstances even be construed as helpful in reminding the client that we are not alone in the building and there is a world out there. The potential for being alone in the house with a client is clearly one that has to be given serious consideration. Counsellors who work in agencies where “Work Alone” policies have been agonised over, are often horrified that private practitioners are regularly alone in their homes with clients. But this is the reality. You may have a member of the family able to guarantee to be at home at the relevant times or a friend who is willing to be present as a chaperone elsewhere in the property. Otherwise you need to think through appropriate safeguards. These might include making it a rule that you will only see new clients for the first time when someone else is present in the house, having a panic alarm in your

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n By Barbra Depledge Counsellors setting up in private practice are often faced with the choice as to whether to use a room in their home or whether to rent premises elsewhere – with the commitment and cost that involves. The following are some personal thoughts and reflections on issues to consider with regard to working at home.

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pocket etc. Thought may also need to be given to where and how you advertise your services. Advertising on, for example, yell.com opens up a broader spectrum of clients than advertising on, for example, the ACC website (although the notion that all Christians are “safe” would of course be a fallacy!). I only give my address to new clients after I have spoken to them on the phone and carried out (an admittedly fairly subjective) risk assessment in that way. I have a separate mobile phone for my business, and clients do not have my landline number, which is ex-directory. The risks of working alone are clearly not just for the counsellor. If a client has a health crisis, the lone practitioner is handicapped in the struggle to attend to their needs at the same time as summoning assistance. I have had a couple of clients who suffer uncontrolled epilepsy and ensuring my risk assessment includes clarification of the action they require in the event of a fit has been important. Having a therapeutic will in place (as so well described by Helen Avery in the Spring 2010 edition of Accord) is particularly important for counsellors working at home in order to protect both their relatives and their clients in the event of death or sudden incapacity. Clearly having adequate Professional Liability Insurance is vital for any practitioner. Those working at home also need to ensure their home and contents insurers are aware that they see clients in their

I personally enjoy working at home – although I also have work which involves travelling elsewhere, so I am not stuck in the house all day every day. It is not for everyone but I have tried to suggest some of the issues to be considered. Others may like to contribute to this magazine with other concerns they have encountered or consider should be highlighted?

About the author Following a career in Social Work spanning some 15 years, Barbra moved into full-time counselling in 1986. For 21 years she was involved in helping to run a local Christian Counselling service which offers a professional counselling service to the whole community. In 2007 Barbra moved to concentrate on her private practice. A major part of her work is supervision of other counsellors but she also maintains a significant counselling caseload.


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Overcoming Social Barriers

cannot be over emphasized for serious intervention to persons with SNE

n by Peterson Githinji, of ACC Kenya

A counsellor and supervisor, I found myself at crossroad when I wanted to maintain total confidentiality, yet I needed an interpreter as go -between. As my readers, do you see the essence of basic sign language and Braille to all curriculums used in training counsellors?

The bright side of Kenya

A spectacular wedding ceremony was witnessed on 14th April 2010 at Suburb P.C.E.A church in Nakuru Kenya between two persons with hearing impairment. Cecilia and Wilson beat the challenge of discrimination upon persons with hearing impairment by the society by proving it can happen and be as good, if not better than, everyone does it!

sending the crowd into a frenzy of hand clapping and ululation. As they slipped the finger-rings and exchanged vows, the congregation was enjoined to the process through an interpreter. The crowd was treated to an entertaining moment by Ngala School for the Deaf, responding with a standing ovation to the sign language performance.

The couple, who met in a Christian youth seminar at Emanuel Church for the Deaf in Nairobi, benefited from pre-marital counselling with us. In a full packed church it was unusual as they said ‘I do’ with very little or no sound, as outstretched arms waved in ululations from the congregation. The muted gesture reigned because the majority of the congregation were deaf, gathered from all over the country to celebrate with their own hero and heroine. Indeed, the ululations were done with sprayed fingers waving in the air with jaw to jaw smiles and joyful faces. The silent jubilation did not take away the obvious ecstasy displayed in joyful faces of the friends and relatives of the couple who celebrated their union at the Presbyterian church of East Africa (PCEA) in Nakuru. “Never before has this church witnessed such a special marriage of two deaf people,” said Rev. Gichinga. “I hope that there will be more similar weddings,” said elder Reuben Gitonga. That the day was a special one for Cecilia could not have been more evident. She was radiant, both from the smile on her face and her obvious inner joy. She blew kisses and waved, to friends, family and total strangers at intervals during the occasion and was inarguably the star of the moments. A touch of happy tears covered her at the pulpit as she knelt. Rev. Gitonga finally declared the couple husband and wife. Wilson, the bridegroom, who is a printer in Nairobi, was beside himself with joy as he kissed his bride,

needs is enormous. The number of Special Needs Educational institutions increased by 20.7% from 1,215 in 2003 to 1467 in 2007. Enrolment increased from 91,769 in 2003 to 207,761 in 2007, with the government disbursing a total of Kenyan Shilling 491,394,000 ( about £3.8m) for SNE between 2005/06 to 2007/08 fiscal year. In my opinion, professional counselling training

I managed to mobilize the media, of course with the couples permission, to sensitize the community about the whole process, from pre-wedding until the wedding day, and it was front cover story in several dailies and TV stations. My cutting edge is that as counsellors we can do much more than sitting in the office… in order to reduce discrimination and supporting persons with special needs in education through available opportunities. Peterson Githinji - Is a member of ACC, ACC-K and Executive director of friends of Rift Valley community (FORIVACOM), Kamaugip@gmail.com

His Bloodline n Essentially, this was a great proving of the fact that even persons with disabilities can maintain their Christian values and uphold their dignity to completion. In the past we have experienced disrespect and emotional abuse from the communities, leading persons with special needs in education (SNE) to feel vulnerable. With counselling and empowerment programs, it is evident that those with special needs can realize their full potential. This leaves a great challenge to the counselling profession, to adapt the theories and therapies to be all inclusive. Cecilia complained that deaf people are on many occasions judged harshly by public, “when someone greets you and you cannot speak to him or her, the person tends to think we are arrogant, which is wrong.

by Jennifer Allong-Bratt I had a fairly recent encounter with someone whose previous experience with counselling was not a good one due to the adverse reaction which she received on her first and only visit. This left her with negative feelings towards the profession and had me thinking about how we are sometimes perceived as therapists.

RAHAB - a prostitute/harlot – an outcast by society (Joshua 2:1-24)

TAMAR - a harlot (Genesis 38:1:30)

TAMAR - (David’s daughter) raped (2 Samuel 13)

In defence of the profession, this is a reminder to us all to be merciful towards those who come to us for help, who sit in the seat opposite to us, pouring their hearts out because of the blows life has dealt them.

DAVID - a murderer and adulterer (2 Samuel 11:1-27)

MARY - a single mother

JOSEPH - adoptive father

JESUS - of lowly birth

In some shape or form, we are all in the same boat.

She was quick to add that deaf people are treated well in places of work, as she is a matron in Ngala school for the deaf, and she has also worked in a textile industry in Nakuru before.

Some members of Jesus’ lineage suffered what we suffer today. I believe that we have deliberately been given their stories throughout the Bible so that we could understand who Christ really is and why He came. In short, I think He wanted us to know that His background was not the perfect one but that there is mercy and redemption for all.

According to a research conducted by ministry of Education in Kenya in 2009, challenges encountered in provision of education to children with special

It is with this aim in mind to help us as therapists and as Christians that I have provided the following, which is by no means comprehensive but food for thought.

RUTH - a seductress (Ruth 1:1-4:22

BATHSHEBA - an adulteress (2 Samuel 11:1-27)

“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. (2 Cor.1:3-5 - NIV) Jennifer Allong-Bratt


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Mental Health and the Friendly Church n Rob Waller, Steve Seedall and Tim Wood Dr Rob Waller is a Consultant Psychiatrist working for the NHS in Scotland and a Director of Mind and Soul [www.mindandsoul.info – a national network exploring Christianity and Mental Health]. Steve Seedall is the Director of Pastoral Care for the Association of Christian Counsellors [www. acc-uk.org] and also works as the director of a community-based Christian Counselling service in Norfolk.

at church when sharing their mood: “These are nice places, thank you, and we don’t want to talk about things like that”… What makes a church a good one to belong to if you are struggling with your mental health? Is it the fact they have a Counsellor on staff or have an annual Depression Awareness Day? Or is it that they are aware enough to care, small enough to notice and moving slowly enough to actually deliver? Imagine if there was a way to describe this possibly mythical beast, and (if it can be described) to get that information to Dave in a way that is helpful, real and up-to-date. Imagine if Dave could narrow his search down to say 10 churches in Doncaster. Would that

Tim Wood is Through the Roof’s Development Manager [www. throughtheroof.org – the Christian Disability Charity] and manages their “Churches inc” programme to resource churches to include disabled people.

Thank goodness many churches are starting to proclaim to their communities that they are places of peace, refuge, support, help, love, community and even healing. But to offer this means you need to be able to deliver it, and the person seeking needs to be able to find these things – otherwise they will become nothing more than cheesy slogans on the church bill-board. The message of the church will be made to sound hollow, empty, damaging and, worst of all, hypocritical – worst because trust is such an important thing for Dave just now… Also, when churches do reach out in this way, they should expect that some who respond will have significant needs. This is not something for the fainthearted church and one of the things we hope this idea of “Mental Health Friendly Churches” will do is get people thinking about the tools they need. ACC has a Pastoral Care Course (www.acc-uk.org/1504) that explores this in more detail. Defining friendliness For churches that are serious about being ‘mental health friendly’, what are the things they should be striving towards, and how can people know that this or that church is on the right track? If you ask people what they want to find were they to go to a church at a time like this, many will reply with something like ‘friendly’. However, we wonder if this is such a vague term that, though laudable, is going to be very difficult to define helpfully. We can also all think of churches who market [if a church can do that…] themselves as friendly yet if you differ one iota from their ‘core target audience’ [it seems they can market…] you will find friendship hard to come by indeed.

Choosing a church Imagine Dave, from Doncaster, who is recovering from depression. Like many people who have been ill, he has been looking into the ‘big questions’ – and would like to find out more. But he doesn’t know where to start. He went to Sunday School when he was a child, but that was in Durham so he knows nothing of the church scene locally. He could of course have a look on the Alpha website (www.alpha.org) to see where an Alpha course is being run, but he hasn’t seen the adverts yet so doesn’t know it exists. He has seen a list of churches in the Yellow Pages, but has a major problem - he has no idea how they will react if he tells someone there that he has been depressed. His search on Google found some fascinating information on a site called Ship of Fools (www.shipoffools.com), but it wasn’t really what he was after! He also saw lots of internet articles about the bad experiences people have had

when you get to know them. But his point was that we need a high definition of friendship in the church – we cannot stop at those we happen to already know, those who have only had easy-tounderstand experiences or those who demand more from friendship than a social ‘how-are-you-I’m-finethanks’.

make him more likely to take that first perilous step of crossing the threshold one Sunday morning to see if the Peace really is shared! Love your neighbour John Stott once said that the Gospel is not about liking your neighbour, but about loving your neighbour. Of course it would be great if you could like them as well, and most people are likable

Taking things to the other extreme, we can probably all list some things that might indicate that a church is interested in being ‘mental health friendly’ such as employing a counsellor, having a sermon on depression or have regular times of healing prayer. Yet we wonder if we ought to be looking more for signs that friendliness is integrated more deeply and centrally into the day-to-day life of the church at all levels.

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Through the Roof have been working for many years on the sort of things that make it easy for a physically disabled person to come to church and you can see these listed on the Find a Church database under the ‘Special Needs’ tab (www.findachurch.co.uk). But, they have found that just because a church has a ramp, lift, hearing aid loop or accessible website doesn’t mean that if a disabled person turns up they will receive a loving welcome. Far from being as easy to define as a tick-list of adaptations, it seems to come down to that ‘friendly’ thing again, and trying to work out what being genuinely friendly is. A possible definition In the interests of keeping it simple, we wonder if the best way forward is for churches to SELF-identify against some kind of statement like the one below. Self-identification is not some thing we would be going round checking up on (we would leave that to Ship of Fools) but at least it says that the leadership are taking this topic seriously – maybe having it as one of their topics for the next vision period, or something like that. The list below is some things we think capture the important points without being too vague to be useful and too ‘tick-box’ to miss the idea of friendship. Key ideas are that the church has thought this through, they are willing to go the extra mile (or two) and that actually we all struggle to some degree with ourselves and external barriers. On this note, we acknowledge that no church is ever perfect (if you find one please don’t start attending…) and that this is best seen as aspirational statement with no intention to induce guilt or make your church feel it is way short of the mark. • People with difficulties feel they ‘belong’ whether or not they are able to take part in or attend meetings (although it is of course a good sign if they do feel able to attend and be part of meetings) • A contact/team is available to consult with who ‘champion’ issues around disability and health and are able to signpost local services • Information is available in alternative formats appropriate for different needs [e.g. large print, audio, electronic] • Physical adjustments are willingly made to help those with different needs and the style of individual services is relatively predictable


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Counselling Training for You • Church activities welcome, accept and are positive environments that are flexible to people’s needs • People give their time sacrificially to listen and respond to pastoral issues, ideally described by a Pastoral Care Policy/ Strategy • The culture/ethos of the church is one of an ongoing journey of valuing all, addressing their needs and enabling them to use their gifts and contribute Would you add or subtract anything from this list? Does this set the bar at the right level, even for smaller churches? Does this make sense? One related idea to this is to have a list within a list – the larger list is of churches added by anyone (for example a local person identifying local churches they think are good), and the smaller, inner list being churches where the leadership have made an explicit desire to be mental health friendly. The larger list would still have some validity as we hope it would offer a better place to start that the Yellow Pages! Can I trust this? In order to be manageable and free, we think this has to be an open-access and lightly-moderated resource, just like the internet itself. In the same way that you can have anything on Google, any church could put themselves on this list or anyone could add a church and we would have no way of checking. This type of resource would be ‘close to the ground’, organic and ‘rich’ in local detail. If we made churches pay a fee it would become all official, be much smaller, be over-populated by larger and more ‘organised’ churches and probably not as much use to Dave and people like him as organisation does not equate with friendliness. However Google relies on two very important concepts. Firstly, good information rises to the

If you have a heart to help others, be equipped with a powerful biblical approach integrated with the best contemporary counselling methods.

top because of the number of visits and links; and we would hope the same would happen here. We could have a ‘rating’ box for each church so visitors could give stars of approval to an entry. Secondly, when bad stuff rises to the top it is clearly marked as such by other Google users. Here we could have a ‘comments’ box for each church so people can say more. We would also ask people to ‘flag’ entries that were not mainstream Christian. A website where some of these things happen is www. tripadvisor.co.uk where you can see if package hotels are good, bad or indifferent.

BA (Hons) in Counselling This dynamic new four/five–year part-time degree programme was launched in November 2010. Each year of the course has it own course leader, accompanied by a team of highly experienced university lecturers. (APL may be possible.) Year 3 of the BA programme commences in January 2011. Contact us for details.

Introduction to Biblical Counselling Mon–Fri 14–18 February 2011 Understand people from a biblical perspective and help them get to the roots of their problems. This course will provide you with an excellent foundation and enable you to test your calling to do further training.

The next steps Firstly we want to hear your views on this. Mind and Soul have dedicated a section of their website to developing these concepts and letting you voice your opinions. Go to www.mindandsoul.info/mhfc and post your comments.. On this web page you will also find some talks to listen to and a copy of this article for you to adapt for your own church magazine. You can also write to this magazine and they will forward comments (accord@acc-uk.org)

Supervision of Christian Counselling Designed for experienced counsellors who have trained to at least DipHE (Level 5). Level 1: Thurs–Fri 9–10 June 2011 Level 2: Thurs–Fri 7–8 July 2011 Levels 3 and 4 will be run in 2012.

Secondly, we need to build the software and we hope this will be done in 2011. We will try to make sure it is in the right place and has the right features. Please do let us know via the website above if there are things it would be good for the website to do and how essential they are.

‘CWR’s training has been awesome. It’s been all that I expected and more. I have been ministered to, equipped

Thirdly, we need you to populate the list and tell your churches about it. You, and people like you, know the local churches. You probably already have a feel for which ones are good and which ones are bad. Well, it will soon be the time to get that information out there so people like Dave can find a church, find a true friend and, most importantly, find Jesus.

and stretched beyond my expectations.’

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Go to www.mindandsoul.info/mhfc to tell us your ideas, see what others are saying and sign up for updates.

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Book Reviews Effective Marriage Counselling

The Quick-reference Guide to Biblical Counselling

ACC Biennial Training Event and Conference

by Dr Willard F. Harley Jr.

by Dr Tim Clinton and Dr Ron Hawkins

ISBN 978-0-8007-1945-6

ISBN 978-0-8010-7225-3 Baker Books

This book was written to explain how counsellors can save marriages by helping couples create and sustain their love for each other. It is an easy to follow book as each chapter deals with what it says. The first four chapters are the theory of the model used and then chapters five to ten are the method followed by a case study in the last three chapters. In this way the reader has a clear idea as to how this type of counselling works and Dr Harley says his model is the most effective and simplest and one that is proven to be successful when it is followed. We particularly enjoyed and appreciated the ‘love bank’ analogy as it is one we ourselves have used a lot in our couple counselling and also in pastoral work. A lot of emphasis is placed on marriage coaching rather than counselling as Dr Harley says that he thinks counselling is associated with a passive, nondirective approach to problem solving whilst coaching on the other hand is assertive and directive. One may agree or disagree about this but the writer’s style of writing is very authoritative and gives the impression he is totally convinced his method is best. The counselling model would appear to be very academic and controlling and the writer does say that he believes a marriage coach should control the therapeutic process. He sees this as very motivating when done the correct way, for e.g. he feels the couple give the coach the right to direct them towards recovery and if they are willing to follow his instructions the couple will see rapid improvement. If the couple fails to follow his instructions he focuses on their failure rather than the marriage problems themselves, until they comply. The case study at the end is interesting reading but it does have a lot of repetition especially when after each session he spells out how his secretary follows up the couple. This is a book worth having on the shelf as there are some good inventories and agreement memorandum that can be copied and used accordingly, however it would probably appeal to a counsellor who prefers to work academically as opposed to relationally. Ken & Anne Fearon

When I first saw this book, the title that stood out to me was Biblical Counseling and I was expecting to start from a biblical perspective and find a modern application. However, the book starts from the ‘problem’ and contains sections on forty topics arranged alphabetically and includes Abortion, Addictions, Adultery, and Aging through to Worry. Each topic is covered over 6 to 8 pages and the book has been produced, by the American Association of Christian Counselors, as ‘quick reference materials’ for a variety of issues facing Pastors and Church Staff, Counsellors and Lay Leaders or Ministers. Once I appreciated the Quick Reference guide part of the title, I found it particularly useful as it starts from a condition and gives appropriate biblical advice for those involved at the sharp end of the caring ministries. As I read through a number of the topics I could think of instances in the past where a book of this nature would have been invaluable. I found the way in which each topic was approached to be most helpful. The first heading, Portraits tells common stories about people struggling with the issue. They set the scene well and draw the reader into the rest of the topic. Definitions and Key Thoughts is a good way of clarifying the condition. This gives an idea of how it harms the people you are trying to help. Assessment gives practical questions that help to establish where the person is. There are some ‘rule-out questions’ that establish whether to refer the person to other help. I particularly liked Wise Counsel. It gives an edge to understanding and working with the person. There are also Action Steps, Biblical Insights, Prayer Starters and Recommended Resources, which are self explanatory. There are some ‘gems’ in the margin like ‘The Christian life is not a playground; its more like a battleground’. The book provides clear and valuable insights into each of the conditions described and I would suggest that there would be something in it for almost everyone involved in helping others. Paul Lucas

27 – 30 January 2011 ‘CROSSING THE CAUSEWAY’ The Hayes Conference Centre, Swanwick, Derbyshire DE55 1AU. Main conference speaker: Dr Diane Langberg. Wide choice of training and workshops. Final booking date 14 January 2011. Book online or contact Head Office. ACC in Northern Ireland 19 & 20 March 2011 Annual Conference We are greatly looking forward to the visit of Andrea Wigglesworth on 19 & 20 March 2011. Andrea has trained over 500 counsellors to Diploma level in Scotland and Ireland and has planted 6 counselling centres in Scotland. She is currently on the staff team of St.Mungo’s Church in Edinburgh where she is Director of Counselling. Saturday 19 March 2011, ‘Be Well’ Day Conference at the Ramada Hotel, Shaw’s Bridge, Belfast – suitable for counsellors and pastoral carers. Andrea will be presenting a holistic biblical view of Wellness by offering a new Wellness Model which helps integrate pastoral care and prayer ministry with Christian counselling. Sunday 20 March 2011, ‘ Be Brave Now ‘ Speaker: Michael Jacobs Restoration House, Dunmurry – Day Workshop suitable for counsellors and psychotherapists. At this day Andrea will offer training and encouragement to therapists to be strong and courageous as they work at integrating their faith and their spirituality with modern counselling approaches. If you would like to get in touch with us or share any ideas or thoughts around ACC NI, feel free to contact Meriel on: 084 5123 5188 or 028 9042 7214 or nireland@acc-uk.org ACC in South East England The map shows the area that is covered by ACC South East. It is basically made up of London and the adjoining counties with about 45% of ACC members resident within its boundaries. Serving the South East is a committee comprising of the Network representative, treasurer, pastoral care co-ordinator, area co-ordinators, administrator and training advisor. The South East has in the past had some very successful conferences and training days but recently things have been very quiet. We as a committee want to see the region thrive again and to that end we are

planning on a re-launch campaign. This will involve members of the committee coming out to meet you as close to where you live as possible, discovering what your specific needs are locally, facilitating starting local network groups and setting up Regulation and Pastoral Care workshops. This will all happen in the first half of 2011 with a regional training day in the autumn. To enable all this to take place we need your help. We need some members in or around where the blue marks are on the map to host a meeting in your locality. This simply means arranging a venue (could be your house or a room in your church, or indeed the organisation you work for) and letting our administrator know. We will then do the rest. We are also looking for more permanent people who are prepared look after a patch / county and serve on the committee. Once we have decided on the venues we will contact you by email to let you know further details. Our committee has changed over the years with the latest change taking place last month. Lucia Hall and Steven Hall have stepped down and Kay Choudary, already the minutes secretary/ administrator, has volunteered to look after the Berkshire area. We would offer our thanks to Lucia and Steven for their input over the years. Syd Platt Administrator contact details: Kay Choudary, email: kay.choudary@yahoo.co.uk Tel 078 7826 6076


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We seek to help and support those who are suffering emotional and personal issues helping them find a way forward through their difficulties.Particularly in the following areas: Bereavement * Trauma * Loss * Physical/ Mental/ Sexual Abuse Depression* Relationships * Stress* Drug/Alcohol Abuse* Gender * Sexuality *Anxiety Loneliness * Marriage Counselling is carried out by professionally trained counsellors using a range of recognised models of counselling.

For more information Tel: 07817 106295 Or write to: PO Box 2018, Rayleigh Essex SS6 7FD E-Mail enquiries@olivetreecentre.org.uk Registered Charity No 1075617

COUNSELLOR PLACEMENT OFFER and EXPERIENCED COUNSELLORS NEEDED CCT (New Forest) offer a professional counselling service in the New Forest area and are looking for more counsellors to join the team as the service is expanding. The service is a charity and affiliated to ACC. We operate from various churches in the New Forest area, though counsellors can come from outside of this area. Placement: The applicant needs to be attending a Diploma course, preferably recognised by ACC and ideally in the “adapted CWR/Crabb model” or similar. Experienced Counsellors: Accredited with ACC or BACP and able to utilize a Christian Counselling Model. For this position a financial package could be negotiated. Team meetings, socials, retreats and training etc are arranged from time-to time. Telephone CCT(NF) Administration on 01425-618108

“Healing The Broken Hearted” with Peter Horrobin (Founder & International Director of Ellel Ministries) Saturday 5th March 2011 at Queens Road Baptist Church, Coventry, 11am – 5pm. Cost £15 including lunch. (2nd National Conference of Christian Helplines Association). Specialist 20 hr Telephone Listening Course (ACC Accredited) providing core Training for Christian Telephone/Helpline work. Courses can be provided for a minimum of 8 people. Opportunity to apply to be listeners on Crossline on completion. Further information: John Pither Crossline Coventry 02476 615931 or crossline@covcitymission.org.uk

London School of Theology Theology & Counselling Certificate - Diploma – BA - MA

Director for Lowestoft The 4Cs Counselling Centre is a small charity providing an affordable counselling service in the Lowestoft area. We have been in existence for over 10 years. We seek a new Director to lead the charity in the next phase of its work from Spring 2011.

LST has a vision to see Christian counsellors who are both theologically articulate and professionally trained. This need is met through our integrated theology and counselling programme, run in partnership with CWR. On the Certificate course you receive a basic grounding in biblical studies and Christian theology, as well as in counselling theory and skills, and in integrative theory and practice. Diploma level includes more in-depth courses in Bible, theology, counselling theory and practice, and sharpens the integrative focus as students begin client work. The Degree adds major courses in biblical theology, spirituality, CBT and families, as well as continuing clinical practice supported by individual and group supervision.

The successful applicant for this part-time post will be a qualified and experienced Counsellor with a committed Christian faith.

Our MA in Integrative Psychotherapy is designed for Christian counsellors who want to take their training further exploring how their Christian faith, and a Christian worldview and theology, bear upon their work.

Further information available at www.4cscounselling.org.uk

Theology & Counselling Department, London School of Theology, Green Lane, Northwood, Middlesex HA6 2UW

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Gower’s Christian Conference and Retreat Centre set in a stunning location in South Wales Prayer Ministry Retreats in February, March, May & June. Beauty from Ashes in March Overcoming Eating Disorders in February, April & June Holiday Events in July & August Send for 2011 brochure or see website for other events Self-catering studio apartment for personal retreats (prayer/counselling available if booked in advance)

We offer a wide range of dynamic, interactive, well-illustrated CPD COURSES for 2011 including 9 March: Working with Dreams (Russ Parker) 15 March: Extreme Reactions (Suicide/Self-Harm) 16 March: When Church Hurts 4 May: Living with Depression (Adrian & Bridget Plass) 5 May: The Problem with Food 13-15 May: Deep Release Ministry Weekend (clients)

On-site bookshop

Plus our own Deep Release training programme Principles/Practice of Deep Release Levels I-4

Nicholaston House Penmaen, Gower, Swansea, SA3 2HL Tel: 01792 371317 Email: managers@nicholastonhouse.org www.nicholastonhouse.org www.helenawilkinson.co.uk

For full details and a brochure please contact us: Dr Chris & Pauline Andrew 01277 226121 info@deeprelease.org.uk www.deeprelease.org.uk

Benefit from our 30+ years of experience in counselling training. Introduction to Biblical Counselling Mon-Fri 14-18 February 2011 BA (Hons) in Counselling Year 3 commences in January 2011 Certificate, Diploma, and BA (Hons) in Theology & Counselling MA in Integrative Psychotherapy All start in September 2011 at London School of Theology For further information email registry@cwr.org.uk or call 01252 784731.

The Consultancy team offers a wide range of Personal & Professional Services ‘helping people get on in life and work’ A team of experienced, professional Christian counsellors Counselling for adults, irrespective of faith - Subsidies available Person-centred/ integrative approach Supervision offered CREATIVE EXPLORATION FOR COUNSELLORS CPD Training Day facilitated by Mary Buckwell Saturday, 26th March 2011 in Lewes, East Sussex £60 (£55 if booked by 19th February), including lunch and all materials The focus of the day will be to encourage practitioners to use creative methods by enabling each individual to experience a wide range of materials. No artistic talent of any sort is required, simply willingness to experiment in order to gain confidence in working creatively with clients. For more details contact 07852221449 mail@southovercounselling.org.uk www.southover counselling.org.uk Address: Church End, 1 Cockshut Road, Lewes, East Sussex. BN7 1JH

FREE (Funded by Skills Funding Agency & ESF) Information & Advice career, learning & work related services under its ‘Next Step’ service contract for Adults over age 19 SE Region (incl Hants, Berks and Isle of Wight) • See Website for more information ‘matrix’ accredited • MARY BARKER (Managing Consultant & Director of Counselling Services) Tel/Fax: 01256 477 225 or 01983 292 588; Mobile: 078 23 77 53 54 Email: BridgeUK@aol.com Web: www.thebridgeconsultancy.co.uk

We are pleased to announce that Barnabas Training International is UNDER NEW MANAGEMENT. We offer high quality training acrossthe UK in Integrative Counselling to Certificate and Diploma level plus Level 5 Intermediate Diploma in Counselling Supervision beginning January 2011 Contact us for full information: jallday@barnabastraining.com or phone 01243 554462 Visit our Stand at the ACC Conference!

INTRODUCTION to CHRISTIAN COUNSELLING Course Level TWO Accredited by Open College Network Recognised by Association of Christian Counsellors Commencing January 2011 we are running two courses in two different venues: TIMES: Friday evening and all day Saturday, once a month for four months. VENUE 1: United Churches Healing Ministry, HUDDERSFIELD Course Dates: 14/15 Jan, 11/12 Feb, 11/12 March, 8/9 April 2011 VENUE 2: St. Mark’s Church, NOTTINGHAM Course Dates: 14/15 Jan, 11/12 Feb, 18/19 March, 8/9 April 2011 For more information and details of other courses and CPD days coming up, telephone UCHM on 01484 461 098, visit our website www.uchm.org Email: uchm@uchm.org or write to UCHM, The Elms, 78 New St, Milnsbridge, Huddersfield, HD3 4LD


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❖ A counselling service for adults in emotional crisis or distress

❖ Based in Chippenham, North Wiltshire

❖ Staffed by a team of professional and experienced Christian counsellors

❖ Person-centred and integrative approaches Tel: 01249 443810 Email: olivebranch89@tiscali.co.uk www.olivebranchcounselling.org.uk

In Touch Image’s 60-hour course in Christian Pregnancy Counselling Skills - a specialist course in pregnancy, abortion, post-abortion and teenage sex ACC and OCN recognised In Manchester and London 5 Saturdays Jan-May, 2011 Suitable for men and women Information and application forms from imagenet.org.uk Manchester contact: image, 1st Floor, 110 Oldham Road, Ancoats, Manchester M4 6AG Tel: 0161 273 8090 E-mail: office@imagenet.org.uk London contact: Marcia Jones, c/o Raleigh Park Baptist Church, Arodene Road, Brixton Hill, London SW2 3BH Tel: 07753 784573 E-mail: image.london@yahoo.co.uk

Looking for a listening ear? Open House is a free counselling service for young people, and part of Guildford YMCA. Meeting with a qualified counsellor can help to get concerns into perspective and even deal with them.

As well as counselling sessions, the Centre for Relational Care also offers a unique “24-Hour-Care” for couples in crisis or a “3-Day Care” for couples who want to enhance their marriage relationship. CRC also helps equip counsellors and pastoral carers in Intimacy Therapy, a relational Christian counselling model.

Introduction to Christian Sex Therapy Offered by David Hall, Debra Taylor and other therapists from the Institute for Sexual Wholeness (USA). CPD training ideal for Christian counsellors who work with couples experiencing sexual difficulties and those who wish to enhance their intimate relationship. It is also relevant for counsellors working with individuals seeking to overcome sexual addictions. It is anticipated the curriculum will have ACC (UK) recognition and be offered in modular format in the UK from Summer 2011. To register your interest & for further information go to www.eccp-ywam.org.uk/training_ sextherapy.htm or contact: training@eccp-ywam.org.uk Phone 0208 769 7290 or 0207 471 7030

Equipping the Church to restore the wounded We believe that absolutely nobody is so hurting and damaged that Jesus Christ cannot bring them to a place of complete freedom and fruitfulness. We are committed to equipping and supporting Churches working with wounded people. We provide: • Regional training events. • Tailor made events to equip a church or group • One-to-one sessions with leaders and carers • Occasional events for hurting people and their carers. • Quiet Days to facilitate restoration and direction for leaders and carers. Tel: 01635 42348 Email: info@heartfortruth.org.uk www.heartfortruth.org.uk

CCTS teaches a high quality, professional, Christ centred biblical model of counselling. Introduction to Christian Counselling. Ideal for anyone involved in pastoral care, social community work, or those wishing to explore counselling itself. Southampton: 3 weekends , 6–8 May, 10-12 June, 8-10 July 201. Closing date: 26 April (Early bird – 18 April)

Open House is open to any young person up to the age of 30. It is open to all, regardless of gender, religious conviction, cultural background or sexual orientation.

Dates for next 3-Day Care for Marriage 2010: Nov 26th – 28th

Counsellors will arrange to meet you at one of the YMCA locations in Guildford.

Dates for 24 Hour Care for Marriage: Contact centre for individual couple requirements.

Certificate in Christian Counselling. NOCN Level 3 - Edinburgh: Spring 2011, dates to be confirmed.

For more information contact: Heather Howell on: 01926 430901 Or email: heather@relationalcare.co.uk www.relationaltraining.co.uk www.relationalcare.co.uk

Central Counselling & Training Service, Central Hall, St Mary Street, Southampton, SO14 1NF Tel: 02380 385247 e-mail: counselling@ccts-southampton.org Website: www.ccts-southampton.org

For anyone seeking counselling or who may wish to refer someone, please call 07932 047778 Do leave a message. A counsellor will respond within 24 hours to take brief details.

The Willows Counselling Service Youth With A Mission.

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Level 2 Introduction to Pastoral Counselling which runs for ten evenings plus two Saturdays. The next course is planned for Spring 2011 Level 3 One Year Certificate Course in Integrative Counselling which runs from September to July. CPCAB Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling This is a two year course running one day a week. Saturday Training Days: 13th November 2010 – “Creative Approaches to Therapy” Elspeth Schwenk 12th February 2011 – “When Therapy goes wrong” Anne Kearns 12th March 2011 – “Gaining CBT clinical skills in treating panic attacks and panic disorders” Paul Hebblethwaite 7th May 2011 – “Life at the edge – an exploration in borderline personality disorder” Anita Stokes 21st May 2011 – “Myers Briggs Type Indicator” Mike Fisher For further details of the above courses, please contact: Avril Fray at The Willows Counselling Service, The Willows Centre, 11 Prospect Place, Old Town, Swindon SN1 3LQ Tel 01793 426650 E-mail training@willowscounselling.org.uk Charity Registration No.1037677

Edinburgh: February –March 2011, Closing date 17 December 2010

Restoration Week - Rediscovering Identity 12-19 January Healing for Women 4-6 February Ellel Glyndley Manor, E. Sussex (01323 440440) Ministry to Marriage 28-30 January Steps to Freedom from Fear 4-6 February Ellel Grange, Lancaster (01524 751651) MicroNETS5-13 February Getting to the Root of the Problem 25-27 February Ellel Pierrepont, Farnham (01252 794060) Free Teaching Day 5 March God’s Tape Measure 11-13 March Ellel Scotland, Huntly (01466 799102) Why we ALL need healing! 26 February Red Hill Christian Centre, Stratford-uponAvon (01789 731427) Tel 01252 797381 for 2011 list of courses or visit us at ellelministries.org

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Director of Operations Exciting new post within the Association of Christian Counsellors. Working closely with the Chief Executive, the Director of Operations will manage the day to day administration and workings of the organisation. Based in the Head Office in Coventry, this is a full-time post – salary £25,000 to £28,000 according to experience and qualifications. Further details on ACC website www. acc-uk.org or phone 0845 124 9569 Closing date for applications 14 January 2011 Interviews 3 February 2011

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