PARENTING 101 BY AARON NAZARETH STM17
KIDS ARE LIKE A MIRROR, WHAT THEY SEE AND HEAR THEY DO, Be a good reflection for them. (K. Heath)
TO WHAT YOUR KIDS HAVE TO SAY
DISTRACTING THOUGHTS. THEN MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO BE AT THE FOREFRONT OF WHAT YOUR CHILDREN ARE HOPEFUL FOR, WHAT THEY'RE SCARED OF, AND WHAT THEY
MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU'VE BEEN DISMISSED. WHEN YOU SHOW YOU CARE YOU SHOW THEM, LOVE.
Active listening means you focus on what is being said without thinking about how you're going to respond. It's about watching body language and picking up on cues.
YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR LISTENING ABILITY WHEN YOU KNEEL DOWN, IF NEEDED, TO GET DOWN TO MATCH THEIR HEIGHT. GIVE THEM YOUR COMPLETE ATTENTION AND MAKE GOOD EYE CONTACT. WHEN THEY FEEL HEARD THEY'LL FEEL THE LOVE.
SHOW GOOD JUDGEMENT
AND STICK TO YOUR RULES THIS IS YOUR PARENT'S RESPONSIBILITY TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN RIGHT AND WRONG. NOT ONLY DO YOU NEED TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN THESE LESSONS, YOU DO NEED TO OBEY THESE RULES. IT MEANS THAT YOU WILL NOT ALWAYS BE RIGHT, SO YOU WILL NEED TO FESS UP. THERE WILL BE OCCASIONS WHEN YOU SAY NO TO YOUR CHILDREN, AND YOU MEAN IT. THEN THERE WILL BE OTHER TIMES
STRAIGHTFORWARD ABOUT IT, "I WAS WRONG." AND WHY DID YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND. WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES HERE.
Rules must be enforced after they are made. And whatever rules are set in your house you need to follow them as well, unless you have a really good reason why you're excluded.
SO WHEN THE PUNISHMENT SUITS THE OFFENSE, YOU HAVE TO STICK TO YOUR WEAPONS. CHILDREN WILL EASILY PICK OUT A HYPOCRITE.
BE A GOOD ROLE MODEL AND GOOD PERSON
DON'T DO SOMETHING THAT YOU DON'T WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO DO. IF YOU FIND YOURSELF DISPLAYING ACTIONS THAT YOU DON'T WANT YOUR CHILD TO IMITATE, THEN
Your children watch you go to work every day. It's crucial that they see you do all this to the best of your abilities. You're not trying to reach perfection, you're showing them hard work, integrity and, most of all, love.
"MONKEY SEE MONKEY DO"
STAY IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
WHEN YOU LOSE YOUR COOLNESS IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN, THEY MIGHT BE SCARED OF YOU. WHETHER YOU'RE TALKING TO A BILL COLLECTOR ON THE PHONE OR YOU'RE HAVING A SPAT WITH YOUR PARTNER, DON'T EXHIBIT AN ANGRY CONDUCT IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR CHILDREN. WHENEVER YOU LOSE CONTROL AND YELL OR FIGHT
THINGS GET ROUGH.
If you do lose your cool, be sure to apologize and take responsibility for your anger. That is another way to model healthy behavior.
INSTEAD, EXHIBIT GOOD PARENTING SKILLS BY ILLUSTRATING HOW YOU CAN KEEP YOUR COOL AND RESOLVE THE PROBLEM AT HAND IN A CALM MANNER. SHOW THEM WHAT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IS ALL ABOUT.
SHOW LOTS OF LOVE DURING QUALITY TIME
YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN, DON'T YOU? YEAH, YOU SAY, "I LOVE YOU," BUT HOW ARE YOU GOING TO SHOW THEM? USING THE LANGUAGE OF LOVE TO DEMONSTRATE HOW MUCH YOU LOVE YOUR CHILDREN. SHOWER THEM WITH YOUR KISSES AND HUGS AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. THE CHILD'S EMBRACE WILL MAKE THEM FEEL PROTECTED AND SECURE. THE ONLY THING YOU NEED IS LOVE.
Many parents spend a lot of time with their children, but they don't really interact with them. It is particularly important for working parents, because we frequently have children with babysitters or in daycare while we are at work.
SHOW STRONG PARENTING SKILLS BY BEGINNING FUN ACTIVITIES, SUCH AS PLAYING OLDFASHIONED BOARD GAMES, ENJOYING OUTDOOR SPORTS, OR SIMPLY TALKING TO YOUR CHILDREN TO MAKE THE MOST OF YOUR TIME TOGETHER.
this is a guide for those parents who is still practicing the traditional "palo-pwet" way of discipline