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A woman with a heart of gold Hi there! Welcome to another edition of W Tambari Extra. This week, we’ve Tam compiled a fine array of topics from com natural ways to treat flaky scalp with natu the current humid climate on the beauty page and treating athlete’s beau foot on the healthy living page. We are also running an interview we had with Winnie Mandela in Nov.


2010. May her ssoul rest in peace. 2010 On the cover this week, we have Antonia Ally, the COO and MD of the HOW Foundation. She shares her story. Read on to find out all she had to say. Wishing you a splendid week ahead. – Amina Alhassan Contact: 08187703733 or Email us at:


Chicken vegetable sandwich by RAHMA L ADAMU Chicken vegetable sandwiches are famous staple around the world, and for a good reason. It’s a quick and easy on-the-go meal that will keep you fueled. What is not to love about that. Our recipe is assured to leave you asking for more. INGREDIENTS * 1 boneless chicken breast * 4 tablespoons of garlic mayonnaise * Salt to taste. * Vegetables of your choice (kale, cabbage, lettuce, tomato, cucumber, bell peppers and avocado) * Bread * Half diced scotch bonnet pepper * Extra virgin olive or coconut oil

* Diced fresh parsley leaf PREPARATION Preheat oven to 425 degrees. Place chicken breast(s) on a baking sheet and drizzle with little oil. Sprinkle salt, pepper, thyme or oregano. Bake for 30 minutes or until the meat is white all the way through. To make sandwiches, slice the chicken. In a separate bowl put your garlic mayonnaise and salt, scotch bonnet and diced parsley and mix until the ingredients come together with salt to taste. Spread your garlic mayonnaise

mix on your bread, lay the chicken slices on top and then add vegetables of your choice to enjoy. NOTE: Mash garlic in mayonnaise to make garlic mayonnaise. Remove scotch bonnet if you don’t like it spicy.

Berry hibiscus drink This refresher is the perfect kick for any kind of day you are having.

INGREDIENTS Berry syrup 3 cups of fresh berries of your choice 4cm piece of fresh ginger, sliced 1 tablespoon of lemon juice 1 cup of water PREPARATION Add berries, lemon juice, ginger and water to a medium sauce pan over medium heat and stir occa-

sionally. Let it boil for about three minutes. Remove from heat and allow to cool before serving.

HIBISCUS DRINK Ingredients * 2 cups of dried hibiscus flower * 3 cups of granulated sugar * 4 cups of water * Pour water, hibiscus flowers and sugar in a large saucepan over medium heat for 30 minutes. Once sugar has dissolved, bring to boil and then immediately turn off heat.

Cover for 20 to 30 minutes. Strain through filter to take out flowers. Combine the berry syrup and the hibiscus drink and voila! Your berry hibiscus drink is ready. NOTE: Make the berry syrup a day before you want to use it. Half required for this drink. The other half can be stored in the fridge for up to a week. You can substitute sugar with honey or agave syrup or coconut palm sugar (will give it a darker colour).


Enjoy the humid climate with hammock chairs by HALIMA ABDULRAZAK


he best way to enjoy the present soothing weather is with hammock chairs. So take advantage of the weather while outdoors by resting on the chairs. If you love doing outdoor activities all day, you should get hammock swinging chairs. They are lightweight and easy to carry. Hammocks are durable and comfortable to use; they will make you very comfortable and also beautify your home. Hammock is a type of sling which is made up of fabrics and netting rope which is suspended from one stationary hook for swinging and resting. These chairs look great in a contemporary style room or home, and are a great addition to the bedroom or living room. They are useful where you need some extra sitting arrangement. Care must be taken when handling them to avoid tangling and suspension strings. When the outdoor gets too cold, you can bring them indoors and use in the bedroom or living room. There are different types and colours to choose from. You can choose a colour that compliments your room from the cotton hammock, polyester hammock, and macramé hammock, etc. Once you try hammock chairs, you will find it hard to leave them because of their comfort.



My simple

Beauty Secret

- Winnie Madikizela Mandela

Early childhood I come from a big family of 11 and only a third of us are alive now. My father was a school principal and he was my teacher in primary school. My brief memory of my mother who died when I was nine years old is vague. My father brought us up in an atmosphere where he had turned down a chieftaincy tittle. He was supposed to be a chief in our area but he refused and instead went to train as a teacher. In those ancient days, it was unheard of that a chief would refuse to assume his position and then decide to go and learn to be a teacher. But there was a misunderstanding between him and his father at the time. When we grew up, 11 as we were, we were never alone. I never grew up with only my brothers and sisters. There were always 10 other children. I didn’t know at the time that it was because of his status as a chief. When you are a chief, you are a community leader. So every parent who could not afford to feed their children just sent them to the chief, palace where they could get good food. When we went to school and there were children who could not afford school fees and these children were my friends, they would be sent home. I would take them home to my father. 1 would say to my father, “their parents could not afford to pay school fees, could you please help pay their fees?” In some instances, I was too afraid to tell him. Sometimes, I would come with these children from boarding school and when it was time to return back to school, it was then I would tell him they couldn’t go back to school because their parents couldn’t afford the fees. That was how he paid school fees for children whose parents he never knew. Before his death, he never met the parents of those children and neither did I. When I went into care, I was becoming more and more aware of the social issues. I then understood what I had put my father through. It was he who applied for me to do Social Work because of what 1 had put him through (laughing). It wasn’t because I had any interest in it. I didn’t know anything about social work. Life as a social worker My father understood what I would ultimately be in life. I didn’t study to be a social worker in itself. For me, it was a manifestation and a realisation of what I had been doing and which I knew to be the norm of our society. When I was born, I grew up in my provincial atmosphere. I was not born into my family. I was born into a community and I come from a background where the child is born to the community. I grew up knowing that I could not mess up in front of my neighbour as a child. If my neighbour saw me doing something silly, he had the right to whip me and beat me to a pulp. I would go home with scratches and still bear marks on my legs because I had been beaten up by my neighbours for being naughty as a child. That was how we were brought up. The child was regarded as a community child and not necessarily that of its biological mother and father.

interview by: VANESSA OFFIONG AISHA UMAR YUSUF and ADIE ndela heroine, Winnie Madikizela Ma World-renowned anti-apartheid ue log Dia st en she graced the Annual Tru is a beauty by all standards. Wh and rview Tambari cornered her in an inte as guest speaker early this year, to earth n dow y ver . In this frank and asked what her beauty secret was favourso n ple secret. Nature has bee interview, Winnie told us her sim daughcial beauty regimen. At 73, her able to her that she has no spe Winnie beauty “comes from the inside”. ter Zindzi believes her mother’s of the d chil a was od; when every child also reminisced about her childho ker wor ial her father got her to be a soc community. She also recalled how mates. him go through with her school as “payback” for what she made . icon on rati h the wonderful libe Enjoy this revealing interview wit

Therefore, if I disgraced my family, I disgraced the community. So, when I knew I was going to do something silly, I was disgracing that community to the extent that my parents would be punished by the community. That became me and that is who I am. Belonging to the community That is exactly what we have lost. You then get to this age where I cannot even tell my grandchild, “you are being silly”. When he is naughty, I take a whip and I whip him, his father calls the police to say I am violating his children’s rights. He messes up, takes drugs in front of me and does things that I know the best thing is to whip that child and put some senses into him. In a way, this democratic dispensation can be very undemocratic; I can’t even beat my own children. I remember times when neighbours were beating us, but now, not even your uncle can correct you. Children will ask you, “why you, you are not my parent? They say so. They actually say so. In my society at the time, if for instance my daughter was married and she messes up where she is married, the husband does not even come to report to me. He goes to her uncle who was the most important entity in the family. He took over in the event of the father’s departure. The uncle makes decisions for my daughter. However, that will not happen today. My granddaughter will ask, “who the hell do you think you are? You are not my parent.” This democracy comes with its own frills that are problematic for an African and we should remain as African as I have remained. It is a problem and that is why I chose to remain in Soweto. My childhood dreams I had hoped that I might be a doctor and I thought I would be a paediatrician. But that wasn’t totally lost because I ended up becoming a paediatric social worker. I have satisfied that really. The bold and courageous women in the struggle I must stress that I relied mostly on women who were very, very brave and courageous. If my daughter can be asked or interviewed she can attest to what I am saying. That is Zindzi who was side by side with me in the underground days. That brought a lot of pain and she knows a great deal about what happened during those painful years. We carried the struggle on our shoulders and I used Zindzi to carry out most of the dangerous struggles I n the underground. She will live to tell! that story herself one day, because I cannot speak on her behalf Zindzi was mostly with me. Her sister was either in Swaziland or some other place. She was with me because I was banished along with her. She was about 11 or 12 years when I was banished to Bradford. I put her elder sister in boarding school because it was not safe for me to leave them on their own and I didn’t have to look

after h d was on h l d with h me and d that h was them. But Zindzi holiday when I was banished. That was how she lost those early school years and was forced to go with me. She witnessed all the gruesome things we went through and let’s hope that one day. she will be able to tell all that she went through. We did not have a family life To me, my life is just like a continuation of the childhood life I had. There were so many interruptions in my married life and things that were not within my control. But I left it to time and as it is now; it is still being determined by time. On beauty routine I never had time to think about that. In the morning, I would just wash my face with any soap I can find. She (pointing to her daughter Zindzi) can tell you all about it, Daughter Zindzi (Cuts in): Mummy gets up in the morning, washes her face and puts whatever available cream there is. That’s all. Mummy’s beauty is from the inside. No special creams.... No. no. From the day I came into the world, nature decided to be good to me and I have never had to use anything extra. Favourite perfume Daughter Zindzi: Mummy’s favourite perfume in those days was called Youth Dew, but now she uses any one she finds. On jewelleries Zindzi: She loves wristwatches, no special designer but she can spend a lot on a wristwatch and she has many of them. The saying goes that you are what you eat. What do you eat? I do a lot of gardening and I love to eat the vegetables from my garden, I don’t like to eat frozen chicken, I prefer it live and freshly slaughtered. (Zindzi Cuts in): She Is an amazing gardener, She spends like two hours a day in her garden. No special therapy. She does not go to the gym. She is very active but doesn’t go to the gym. Does she take a stroll around Soweto? Who will allow me? The moment I begin to walk around Soweto, the first person I meet would come and grab my arm and pull me into their homes and ask me to talk to their son who is refusing to go to school or some other problem. Zindzi: She is very active. She is always having one engagement or the other. She is always on the road. About grandchildren (Counting) There are 10 grandchildren and five great grandchildren. Lets talk about the smacking.... Zindzi: (laughing) Mum is a typical African woman. She would wake up at 4am, sweep the house and do chores. She believes in respecting elders and hierarchy which is what she passed on to us. She instilled in us a sense of discipline and a sense of humility. First published 28th November, 2010.




A woman with a heart of gold By Rahma L. Adam Antonia Ally is the Managing Director and Chief Operating Officer (MD/COO) of HOW Foundation. It is a charity organisation founded by Dr. Herbert Onyewumbu Wigwe, the Managing Director and Chief Executive Officer (MD/CEO) of Access Bank. Here, Antonia shares her story with Tambari. Educational background I did my kindergarten in Denmark, primary school at Corona, Ikoyi, secondary at Rainbow College for Girls and then went to study Business and Psychology at Reading College, then Business Management and Marketing in Brunel University, West London. Growing up I was born in Lagos and I was raised by my mother’s mother as I lost both my parents by the time I was 10. My grandmother is originally from Copenhagen Denmark but has lived in Nigeria since she was 18. She is married to a Nigerian. Her husband, my granddad fought in the Biafran war under Obasanjo and died a retired Brigadier General in 1997, so we grew up with a military upbringing. My grandmother is very strict and disciplined. When talking about identity crisis growing up, I think most people from mixed backgrounds can relate. Not just mixed race but also tribes, you have a feeling that where you mentally and emotionally relate to and accept, many times do not accept you back. I am originally from Obudu, Cross River but If I really sit and study my family tree, I can say I have a bit of all races, religions and tribes within my family so we never grew up understanding division. My cousins that I grew up with are mixed Fulani, Cross River and Danis. I also have cousins from my father’s side that are Delta Igbo, British and Scottish as well and my closest family friends are all Northern Muslims. I grew up very non-biased because in my family, we distinguish people by bad and good and not by skin colour, religion or beliefs. So growing up in a society like Nigeria where discrimination is so normal because being different is rare, so it goes unnoticed by the general population, it’s the few of us that stand that understand. I love my Nigeria so much so instead of giving up, it takes time to point out to people when they are causing divisions without realising it. My background made me who I am and I believe we are designed for a purpose. Can you give us a brief history of your foundation and the motivation behind starting it It was founded in 2016 by Dr. Herbert Wigwe. He has always supported children, malaria and prostate cancer projects. He has always wanted to start his own foundation. Two days after our meeting, the organisation was born. Why is your foundation passionate about teenagers We are passionate about young people. We try to reach all demographics around because over half of the Nigerian population consists of young people. So the best way to mould the future is to mould those who would be controlling it. What challenges have you faced in the course of your project The major challenge I have faced is working with women. I am someone that loves supporting women and being supported by women. I love being around women; I think because I was raised by only women. The society we are in has managed to turn us all against each other; competing many times with things that do not exist. Since I moved back to Nigeria, whenever I have


a project at hand, it has always been my first instinct to think of the nearest woman I know that can work on the project with me. The major challenge I faced working with women was that they found me too direct; probably expecting me to beg them into doing work that we were being paid for. So, many times it was not working. Therefore, I promised myself that instead of declaring that I would not work with women, I would rather learn what the issue was. I then became better at noticing the type of women that could work well with other women and the type that could not. Women that are goal-focused work well together; they are not focused on the competition or the money, but on the value they can bring to making the project a pure success. What impact has your foundation made We started in 2016, and since then we have impacted over 200,000 children and families through our malaria outreach, prostate cancer awareness campaigns, youth seminars and national and international partnerships. What have you learned from failure I just have a flood of memories running through my head of all the times I tried to achieve something and failed. It seems like for every 20 attempts I made I recorded 19 failures. I have learnt that failure makes you humble. When I was younger I never understood how you could meet Mrs. Alakija or Mrs. Sola David-Borha; they were so humble. As time went on, I understood failures are just lessons in humility. Life lessons Speak less and listen more. Most rewarding part of my foundation The most rewarding part is when we have parents and teachers that understand we are doing this from a good place and they support us. Aspirations growing up I aspired to be like my grandmother; independent and hardworking. I always wanted to break the gender, race and tribal stereotypes. Most cherished gift and who was it from This is hard. I am not really someone that gets attached to things, so I cannot really say; it’s very difficult to say, but I cherish people, living things, moments and experiences. I cherish this opportunity to run this organisation and the other opportunities it has exposed me to making impact on those around me. Favourite kind of music on replay Soul music; I love Diana King and Erykah Badu. First app you check in the morning/bedtime I wish I could say the Bible app, but it is Instagram. This is bad; I have to change. Flats or heels Flats. What I wouldn’t be caught wearing Christian Louboutins Best travel destination Obudu Cattle Ranch; because it is a perfect holiday destination with international standards, coupled with our local hospitality. Favourite quote or saying “Walala wasala”, it means you snooze, you lose in Zulu.

Definition of style Being comfortable and confident. Favourite fashion designer Stella McCarthy. Favourite perfume, designer bag and shoes Dolce and Gabanna Velvet Exotic Leather for perfume. I like Stella McCarthy bags, and locally made bags also. Mum’s advice that has stuck with me over the years “The less said; the sooner mended.” Favourite colour, weather Oxblood, and I’m a summer baby. Beauty routine I shower with black soap, bio oil, drink lots of water and I try to sleep early. Role model(s) Dr. Herbert Wigwe. He is one of the most simplest and most straight-forward of humans anyone would ever have the privilege of meeting. He only has one goal in life, “progress” in other words; advancement, progression, growth and improvement. This is really something I believe younger ones should work to emulate. From studying him I have come to realise when your focus is progress. It is the best focus one can have as a human. Dr. Herbert is constantly working on all forms of progress, be it personal, work or social, his question is always “How can we make it better”, “how can we take this to the next level”, always when that level is achieved, he is already working on moving on to the next. When ones focus is progress, everything else would fall to place be it money, success in business, personal life, anything, always thinking of ways to improve and make things better. I want to give an example so people might be able to take something from this. Take for example, as a leader one must be able to handle minor or major conflicts and misunderstandings within the work environment, let’s be honest, if there is no conflicts, there is no passion. When Dr Herbert is handling these issues brought to him, his focus is on the shared goal, the task at hand and how this conflict might affect the progress of the said mission, that focus becomes contagious, so you as the ones having conflict would also put your differences aside to achieve progress, another example, I have come to notice, everyone Dr Herbert has around him share that same goal in life, his friends of many years all share the same focus, they all focus on progress this over time has made me seriously restructure my life and my friends, If I knew 5 years ago I wouldn’t be talking to the people I knew then and called brothers and sisters, I wouldn’t believe it, I do not have that many friends now, but all my friends are all focused on growth and progress, this makes them reliable and focused, I have realised when you share that in common, the relationships are stronger, they survive all forms of internal or external conflicts. I think more people should make an effort to be like this, I do not know If he was born this way or he learned it, but I am learning it and I believe everyone should learn to do what they need to do to make progress a goal. This is why he is my role model. Looking back, what I would tell a younger me “Trust your instincts.”




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